1:The truth of the narcissists actions not their lies of the « reason» ( gaslighting) of their actions. 2: the truth of narcissism. And the reality of it’s 98% incureability ( or zero?) 3: The strict « no contact regime» on all sfæres of life ( in person, phone, online, conversations with enablers/servants/ignorants). That is 100% abstinence Is the only 100% sure cure. And road to healing and sanity. Even many therapists don’t understand this, and think they can « handle» the narcissist. They can’t!, and will pay the price for their ignorance ( first then will they learn the true nature and horror of narcissism). Don’t take the bait!. And never look back!
I didn't feel sorry for her cause she my flying monkey tried to get me jailed and she goy me and Mt child's monet stopped. He brings her in my home to triangulate he begged me not to go he stalked me I was miles away I got police
Once again, spot on! I can honestly say that I've never looked at his social media since we broke up in 2019. Being an empath, I guess I'll never understand how narcs can be so vile, fake & deceitful! But what i DO know is i wasted so much time on someone that didn't deserve me! And he will never have the chance to hurt me ever again! I win, his loss!
Definitely!!! I wasted 22 years on mine and he’s been living rent free in my head since he walked out 20 months ago. His new supply, who he left me for, is another Narcissist, she’s already on her 4th husband 🤦🏻♀️. I almost lost my mind towards the end, the psychological abuse was just so evil 😔. You are right, you won and he lost!! ♥️
Definitely!!! I wasted 22 years on mine and he’s been living rent free in my head since he walked out 20 months ago. His new supply, who he left me for, is another Narcissist, she’s already on her 4th husband 🤦🏻♀️. I almost lost my mind towards the end, the psychological abuse was just so evil 😔. You are right, you won and he lost!! ♥️
As an empath you should be able to recognise narcissism as a survival tactic learnt in childhood! Once I understood enough about it I was able to have a neutral feeling about narcissists. I won’t let them in my life but I see them as broken, bottomless pits. Almost like a non human entity.
Everything thry do is personal tonmake.them feel.better about being vpid5 Everyone is object and gets used tortured mentally amd.abuaed..same cycle. Lovevome devalue amd discard
With what I learned in post narc clarity was I was at least a three digit number of a narctriss in her fifties. Literally. They can't juggle that much history well. Once you learn its total disentanglement time.
Non of it is personal every one gets it no one is free of the abuse it goes on every supply the get We are not supply like were told were good people who get used and abused buy narcissists. Hold your heads up high
My ex cheated on me and moved in with her, he even sent me naked photos of her trying to destabilize me. He posted on social media all the time, they were together for a year and I thought they were truly happy. After they broke up, his new supply contacted me and told me he was a complete nightmare and they were both miserable after the first month - it was just a show with them pretending they’re so happy
My ex narc tried to get to me through my family. He was clearly trying to hurt me by sharing info about taking trips after I went no contact. I spent 4yrs hoping he would take me on a vacation, but he never did. The thought of being trapped with him on an adventure sounds like a nightmare to me now. The thought of his new supply being trapped with him on a trip is actually funny. Let her suffer that stress. He's a ball of raging anxiety when he's away from home. Have fun with that 😂
I actually discarded the narcissist. I thought I’d been discarded just before this as he had disappeared for 2 weeks - the longest time ever. He came back with excuses. I lingered a bit longer but I was so lost, so emotionally deflated and i no longer knew who I was or recognised myself. I was in a bad dark place. However 9 months on with a big hoover 3 months ago, I’ve been slowly healing, now gradually growing and elevating. I find myself vibrating back to my higher frequency - where I was right before I met the narcissist. It’s taking time but I’m getting there. He’s still in my head but the cognitive dissonance has mainly faded. Thanks Joe for another great insight into the narcissist.
So happy to hear you got away and are beginning to feel more yourself! Did you manage to stay NC with the Hoover? This is something I’ve fallen for many times. I’m only a week NC as of now.
@@Bleepbloopblarpthank you. Yes I’ve stayed no contact. He blocked me recently so I’m thinking he has new supply. good he can leave me alone now 😊. I’m loving my healing journey having gone from the pits of despair to a sense of elation. I’ve trusted the process and I genuinely wish you all the best in staying no contact.
I have really learned a lot from your channel the last few days. I am in a relationship with a narcissist and now i see all the things that have confused and driven me crazy. You are describing my relationship flawlessly and 100% accurate Thank you Joe i owe you my sanity my friend. I will never forget this lesson🙏
If i only knew then , what i know now i would smack his face after very first time he told me his nasty crap and it would be the end of it, this is my biggest regret 😡😠 Thank you Joe , watching video on full screen , its soooooo gorgeous !!! 😍 14k !!! 🎆🎆🎆
That is a good one 😂 "I've suffered so much during my childhood", "yeah, and that turned you into a horrible person that is going to cause enormous suffering to everyone around you, bye!" End of story in chapter one.
All I ever wanted from my ex Narc husband was for him to appreciate me & even though the discard hurt at first I now realised it was the best thing ever because he has ended up with a downgrade, now I bet he's sitting there remembering all the things I did for him & if he didn't appreciate me when he was with me he sure as hell will appreciate me now when he has no access to me anymore.
Listen to this man, Every video he tells you how and why you shouldn't entertain an ex....Especially a Depressed manipulator that's out to harm you.....These videos are gold dust for these times we live in.....Please keep it up Joe...Respect from sunny England.
Thank Joe! I first followed you on Quora and now here. I have never made a comment but the time has come. I am 3 years no contact with a covert narcissist sister. It had been a 30 year relationship that towards the end was seriously taking me down. I had no idea what was wrong with me….. At the time I ended the bond I did not know what a Narcissist was or anything about the disorder. When I began to explore your work it was like an awakening of profound proportions. I could confidently say that it saved my life and I am incredibly grateful for the work and research you are sharing with the world. For all of you targets out there, this knowledge is how you beat the narcissist. My sister never planned for me to get educated, rise above her abuse and arm others in my family with knowledge. This knowledge has taken her down and it is incredible to watch…..from afar and silently. The world is waking up and the Narcissist is doomed!
I find joy in knowing the new supply she tried to replace me with, didnt turn out to be a supply at all. He rejected her. Oh sweet sweet karma. This happened to be the same guy she pretended to hate, yet started chasing him only to get rejected LOL!
Greetings Joe the new shiny toy lost it's luster that narcissist can stay over where he thought the grass was greener he burned the bridge with me and. I refused to have anything to do with that dusty weirdo he sees me outside tries so hard to get my attention I just go my merry way
Bingo! My husband of 12 years slithered off back in May ,hes been shacked up with his coworker since he discarded me & my daughter...6 months later,im still not divorced....Zero Contact......I deserve goodness in my life not fake people that lie,cheat,betray...
Sister it's three months separated from narc. He moved in with the weaker woman mistress. We have a two year old and he kicked me out while hoovering new supply. Within a month or less he was in a relationship with her. I warned her she knew we were married said was told we were separated awhile it was only a month when I spoke to her and told her it hasn't even been two months. I told her if he can do this to his actual wife n son he will do you worse in a matter of time. She paraded kissing pics and pics with the family all over. He has said he wants nothing to do with our child. Says I am bitter...oh well. After what they have done. They reap what they sow. Wait til God gets her for inserting herself in a covenant and just wait til God gets the narcs because God has warned them to get their acts together for years even before us. I am seeing my worth, loving all of me and I'm moving on to bigger and better. What God says he will do he will. NEVER MESS WITH GOD'S CHILDREN
Even when you expose them to the world they will come back, years later--stronger than ever, depending on the degree to which you've leveled up. They cannot resist a juicy empath, even if you've gone No Contact for years. It is the most tasty delicacy, the combination of empath + codependent + success + social status and marketability to their flying monkey garage. They will always come back, but being with them is always futile.
My narcissist told my daughter while she is with the new supply. That she wants to cuss me out because I wasted 20 years of her life. My daughter told her that if she is happy with the new person. Everything we had in the past is irrelevant 😂
Her new supply knew exactly what he was doing. As soon as I kicked her out she tried to get into his home. He sent her to her mothers. He was a narc too.
Indeed important to see through these dynamics. And mind you, it good take more than a year or so. It sucks when you have children and all you wanted was being a loving family, with the realistic and normal ups and down. This longing can linger. But I keep my mantra. A narcissist is manipulation from A to Z and that will always be. So also the playing nice at some point when they realize the new supply is dull and you are doing well. Its manipulation all the way.
I didn't maintain the distance or silence instead when she invited herself over for a couple hours of TV, pizza & wine we agreed to it. She got to meet the new gf, now my wife, and saw how we had pulled the place together.She provided the entertainment as her clown show became drunk. When she was finally asked to leave I drove her home and never a peep about the past.She asked if I wanted to come up to which I said I don't think so. I find I am no longer inclined to be nice to her. I gave her zero encouragement. Not even a "no thank you". but We never blocked her from torturing herself this way. She finally called two months after we had announced our engagement to break up with me even though we had never been exclusive.
Extremely validating video, Joe!👍💙 Thank you for this🙏 You constantly help me understand so much of their manerisms and personality. Very good job👍 I appreciate You💙💙☺️💙💙
Same here. I've been married 12 years and off he went & shacked up with the secretary from his work. I can sense the demise....Thank God they are out of OUR lives. It's painful but best. They deserve whatever they have coming honestly because she also knows he's supposed to be married
@@ladyvirgo013 those jezebel mistresses do not care until worse happens to them but God says vengeance is mines. Just pray and continue to be the light and God will redeem us and continue to bless us. If it wasn't for God I would have went crazy. God also told me to remove my covering from the narc because he was going to break him down. Narcs are bad actors to the ones that know them but to enablers and new supply they deserve Oscars. They don't even love themselves HOW CAN THEY LOVE THE NEW WEAK SUPPLY? 😂
Mine was love bombing another Narc. She’s definitely worse than my ex Narc though, I hope she breaks him like he broke me and our children (I don’t mean to be so bitter, I’m still dealing with the anger of his betrayal) and has a taste of his own cruelty.
@@Meemo44 sis I'm going through it as well. The lies, betrayal, him walking away from my family but God told me today he is breaking down and I can feel it. He is not happy. I feel sorry for him because I still love him but I know I did everything right it's not me it's him. He admitted months ago before all of this that majority of our problems is because of him. But God will deal with him as fit. We have to eventually forgive them so we can be happy in life and God can continue to bless us. It is hard but we will get there. Everyday a narc lives in their own karma by existing and not living. Living is taking life as it comes, embracing it and doing as much as you can to feel fulfilled. Existing is a long survival. Living is choosing happiness, it's choosing to live. Existing is you being here physically, but doing what you have to do to get through the day. They are existing and damaging others and the worst themselves. They hate themselves
She discarded me , moved her ex husband back in within a month or two. Five months later after moving on dating and not being secret about it she came back. We worked together and I ignored her at work , through co workers she was jealous I was dating. I was hurting inside but didn't let her know . She said , she thought she could go back to ex and found she couldn't , wanted me back . When I said if she became single again I would consider dinner and slowly trying again ( yes still trama bonded ) . Because I set a boundary and said no guarantees, she stayed with him. For a year she led me on she was leaving him , finally 3 months ago I blocked her . Her ex was lazy low supply who knew she cheated on him but moved back in with her because he had nothing . I finally realize she's narcissist and or toxic . As far as I know he's still there , no hoovering. They deserve one another .
The problem is neither of the supplies are problem. The only prob is the narc. I wish these narc gets the worst supply who can let them taste their own medicine ❤
His new supply was his x. I texted him, told him shes a sweetie, be nice to her, im happy for you. He didnt respond, she didnt stick around. She left very quickly after her 2nd visit. I wanted to tell her not to piss him off, i didnt get the chance, she ran!
That new person scenario. 😮😮😮🌧🌧🌧 Put it this way. My Gut was screaming at me. Oh. But i had to take her word for it. She was with her half brother..😅🙃😅🙃
Yeah so since Narky is a FAKE person they don't have morals. They don't have a foundation. Many are bi. They don't care they just care about supply/oxygen...
She discard me, I applied no contact, she hoovered, I snapped, she won't change so I discarded her first, applied no contact for good this time, now she blocked me in all socmeds, feeling great now....
So it looks like in round number 2 that you rejected Narky not discard. And by the way why did you snap Narky got supply by you doing that. You want to really snap? You could of snapped harder by doing NOTHING...
This happened to me!!!! He betrayed me and was with the new person immediately… trust me, I’m not jealous of her at all. Worst part is he’s my neighbor - 300 feet away - I’m working on not looking in his direction .. he drives by my house to go/come home to work. He could go another direction,.. what an asshole
A similar thing happened with me, Karen. I pity the new fool, but that doesn't make what happened easier. They have no shame. Mirror that. They did wrong.. not you. Hold your head up, let them see that you look down on them.
I’m kinda in the same boat.. my ex friend/lover lives 3 floors below me and I’m always running into his demonic looking eyes filled with hate directed at me .. he did find a new supply and tried to rub it in my face the other day .. poor girl I hope she wakes up .
But what about when they have a habit of keeping the new supply hidden/secret? From you, and most likely others too- if you’re so ingrained in their life, as in regularly still spending time with friends and family together and sharing all your future plans and goals with outside parties up until point of discard, and although supply is always #1 their image is bound to be a close second. Like that would honestly just be really dumb/careless if they break up with (discard) someone who’s on that level with years of history and interconnections, to just suddenly pop up with the new toast the following week or even month. No matter how severe they could have gone with any kind of smear campaign leading up to or even following Also that just has to be seen as taking away any chance of hoovering you back in later? If they keep it out of sights they have plausible deniability, look like the “good guy” taking his time and grieving the loss being “respectful” to the previous relationship and person and if they know it’s a true nonnegotiable of the old supply they’ll still do it but they’ll break it off with you right before or soon after it starts, kind of avoiding shame by “doing the right thing” in their own minds even though they basically just broke up with you to cheat lol. But it still works in their favor because if they’re quick enough old supply sees nothing of real substance or that can’t be explained away, they go off and have their fun then come back and lie and lovebomb their asses off telling you it was just the time apart that made them realize their mistake in leaving and it also works in their favor as a break in time they can come back and attribute to “working on themselves” and of course *being better for you* meanwhile only thing they were working on was clapping cheeks smfh Like they’re stupid af no doubt but they’re not THAT stupid 😂 at least my Nex isn’t little does he know I’m fully enlightened to all of his BS this time around and even got the receipts for when he inevitably pulls back up a * cHanGeD mAn *🤦🏾♀️
This is exactly my situation. She left me for him and she still reaches out to me! The discard happened the end of feb and she been reaching out since may. It has been a roller coaster... she comes.. and goes, comes and goes. She even ditch him to spend the days for Thanksgiving and now im ghosted again. She keeps sayin "im trying" to leave him but always ends up back to him and then ghost. 13 days NC again! What should i do? She keeps sayin shes "unhappy" but still with him
Get away from her. Shes not your responsibility. She's a big girl. If she wasnt a narc she'd get help. She left you, she betrayed you, dont give her power. She is making you feel guilty where there should be no guilt. Tell her its over, she left and get some help. Go to therapy, learn to meditate. Process the toxic emotions and be happy without her.
@@aratneerg3699 what is her game? I dont get it. It baffles my mind that she spent 3 days with me on thanksgiving and then i drop her off that friday night, she goes with him and i havent heard from her since. Why she keep doing this? So hurtful and i wish i have the strength to just ignore her but im attached to her kids
She will do this for as long as you put up with it. And her kids are in the middle!! They are not your responsibility, and nor is she. Get as badass as your avatar (love it) and go no contact. You can do this 💪
Well it's a week b4 my Birthday. That discard has begun.. I thought I could take it's happened so many times.. I told myself this is temporary dnt attach.. I'm a dumb ass
What if he was grooming the new supply right in front of me? He would be laying in bed next to me and showing me his phone and then going and stalking her Instagram, sending her memes? Was he trying to make me feel jealous?
@@aratneerg3699 why then is he removing all his likes from her posts and posting videos of him playing guitar with songs about how he remembers everything from our nights together and how he’s a mess. Does he actually feel remorseful? What if it seems like he is cognizant of what he did was wrong?
If you are sure they are a narc: they cannot feel remorse. Like the way a blind person can’t see - they just can’t/aren’t able to. They can act remorseful (lie), but not feel it. Sounds like they’re playing games, ignore and see what happens. Sounds like you deserve better. If you are sure they are an N, they do not actually care about you, your feelings, as a person - just the game and how they feel about themselves/power/reputation and they are using you :( it’s rough I’m sorry This is just based on my experience and internet learnings It gets better. Just ignore them and know your worth. You deserve better bestie Otherwise ask him directly, but your soul mate probably would not treat you like that (that line helped me) (big hug)
@@heartofgoldonfire thank you for responding❤️ you are right, if he actually cared about me, he would have apologized instead of trying to manage his image on social media. Probably to cover up if anyone were to call him out for what he did, he can deny it. Sad times. The abusive cycle becomes so addictive that it really is almost like overcoming withdrawals. Thank you love❤️ I wish you the best in your healing journey
@@jacquiehoot4638How can someone feel remorse if they don't have empathy?? Is that possible?? If you think this person has empathy we're NOT talking about narcissism this is something else...
Always keep in mind how horrible you were treated when you were involved with them, they'll have no chance ever to circle back! ✌️
I'll never forget.😢
@@mostHigh23we'll remind you 🙏
1:The truth of the narcissists actions not their lies of the « reason» ( gaslighting) of their actions.
2: the truth of narcissism. And the reality of it’s 98% incureability ( or zero?)
3: The strict « no contact regime» on all sfæres of life ( in person, phone, online, conversations with enablers/servants/ignorants). That is 100% abstinence
Is the only 100% sure cure. And road to healing and sanity. Even many therapists don’t understand this, and think they can « handle» the narcissist. They can’t!, and will pay the price for their ignorance ( first then will they learn the true nature and horror of narcissism).
Don’t take the bait!. And never look back!
All I could feel is terribly, terribly sorry for the next one.
Exactly 😮😮
I didn't feel sorry for her cause she my flying monkey tried to get me jailed and she goy me and Mt child's monet stopped. He brings her in my home to triangulate he begged me not to go he stalked me I was miles away I got police
Same
That is true but he knew what he was doing. He's got it coming. I am also thankful to him for taking her off my hands.
amen to taking her off my hands.
Once again, spot on! I can honestly say that I've never looked at his social media since we broke up in 2019. Being an empath, I guess I'll never understand how narcs can be so vile, fake & deceitful! But what i DO know is i wasted so much time on someone that didn't deserve me! And he will never have the chance to hurt me ever again! I win, his loss!
Never look blpck them.everywhere!!!
FACTS❤
Definitely!!!
I wasted 22 years on mine and he’s been living rent free in my head since he walked out 20 months ago.
His new supply, who he left me for, is another Narcissist, she’s already on her 4th husband 🤦🏻♀️.
I almost lost my mind towards the end, the psychological abuse was just so evil 😔.
You are right, you won and he lost!! ♥️
Definitely!!!
I wasted 22 years on mine and he’s been living rent free in my head since he walked out 20 months ago.
His new supply, who he left me for, is another Narcissist, she’s already on her 4th husband 🤦🏻♀️.
I almost lost my mind towards the end, the psychological abuse was just so evil 😔.
You are right, you won and he lost!! ♥️
As an empath you should be able to recognise narcissism as a survival tactic learnt in childhood! Once I understood enough about it I was able to have a neutral feeling about narcissists. I won’t let them in my life but I see them as broken, bottomless pits. Almost like a non human entity.
Never forget...
We were once the new supply. What they did to us wasn't personal.
Everything thry do is personal tonmake.them feel.better about being vpid5
Everyone is object and gets used tortured mentally amd.abuaed..same cycle. Lovevome devalue amd discard
With what I learned in post narc clarity was I was at least a three digit number of a narctriss in her fifties. Literally. They can't juggle that much history well. Once you learn its total disentanglement time.
Yeah not the first, not the last.
They have an issue with all, always the victim.
Non of it is personal every one gets it no one is free of the abuse it goes on every supply the get
We are not supply like were told were good people who get used and abused buy narcissists. Hold your heads up high
It sure as hell felt personal to me!
My ex cheated on me and moved in with her, he even sent me naked photos of her trying to destabilize me.
He posted on social media all the time, they were together for a year and I thought they were truly happy.
After they broke up, his new supply contacted me and told me he was a complete nightmare and they were both miserable after the first month - it was just a show with them pretending they’re so happy
My ex narc tried to get to me through my family. He was clearly trying to hurt me by sharing info about taking trips after I went no contact. I spent 4yrs hoping he would take me on a vacation, but he never did. The thought of being trapped with him on an adventure sounds like a nightmare to me now. The thought of his new supply being trapped with him on a trip is actually funny. Let her suffer that stress. He's a ball of raging anxiety when he's away from home. Have fun with that 😂
Great way to look at it!
A very wise woman once told me “Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see”……she must have dealt with a ton of narcissists!
I actually discarded the narcissist. I thought I’d been discarded just before this as he had disappeared for 2 weeks - the longest time ever. He came back with excuses. I lingered a bit longer but I was so lost, so emotionally deflated and i no longer knew who I was or recognised myself. I was in a bad dark place. However 9 months on with a big hoover 3 months ago, I’ve been slowly healing, now gradually growing and elevating. I find myself vibrating back to my higher frequency - where I was right before I met the narcissist. It’s taking time but I’m getting there. He’s still in my head but the cognitive dissonance has mainly faded. Thanks Joe for another great insight into the narcissist.
So happy to hear you got away and are beginning to feel more yourself! Did you manage to stay NC with the Hoover? This is something I’ve fallen for many times. I’m only a week NC as of now.
@@Bleepbloopblarpthank you. Yes I’ve stayed no contact. He blocked me recently so I’m thinking he has new supply. good he can leave me alone now 😊. I’m loving my healing journey having gone from the pits of despair to a sense of elation. I’ve trusted the process and I genuinely wish you all the best in staying no contact.
@louiseelliott6404 He blocked 🚫 you because he wants you 2 think that he has new supply. It's always mind game trying to hurt you...
@@RandallGlatt I’m sure you’re right - it’s all a game whether he has new supply or not and I’m so done and over all the mind games.
as I now say, "better anyone / anything than me!"
I have really learned a lot from your channel the last few days. I am in a relationship with a narcissist and now i see all the things that have confused and driven me crazy.
You are describing my relationship flawlessly and 100% accurate
Thank you Joe i owe you my sanity my friend. I will never forget this lesson🙏
If i only knew then , what i know now i would smack his face after very first time he told me his nasty crap and it would be the end of it, this is my biggest regret 😡😠 Thank you Joe , watching video on full screen , its soooooo gorgeous !!! 😍 14k !!! 🎆🎆🎆
I did slap my ex narcs face. 😂
That is a good one 😂 "I've suffered so much during my childhood", "yeah, and that turned you into a horrible person that is going to cause enormous suffering to everyone around you, bye!" End of story in chapter one.
@@SenSakura-dj6bq This is one of their favorite B.S
Joe, this is so on point. I was discarded and I moved on and now the female narcissistic start talking to me again
I never felt like that. And now I don't care if he falls off the planet. I'm glad I'm over all this. I've moved on.
All I ever wanted from my ex Narc husband was for him to appreciate me & even though the discard hurt at first I now realised it was the best thing ever because he has ended up with a downgrade, now I bet he's sitting there remembering all the things I did for him & if he didn't appreciate me when he was with me he sure as hell will appreciate me now when he has no access to me anymore.
Yeah, they come back so you know its a narc! A covert in my case, so hard to see.
I was hoovered/discarded again.
No more!
Yeah they can't stop the Deval. Even if you were a Hollywood actress he would devalue that person to nothing as well...
Listen to this man,
Every video he tells you how and why you shouldn't entertain an ex....Especially a Depressed manipulator that's out to harm you.....These videos are gold dust for these times we live in.....Please keep it up Joe...Respect from sunny England.
Thank Joe! I first followed you on Quora and now here. I have never made a comment but the time has come. I am 3 years no contact with a covert narcissist sister. It had been a 30 year relationship that towards the end was seriously taking me down. I had no idea what was wrong with me…..
At the time I ended the bond I did not know what a Narcissist was or anything about the disorder. When I began to explore your work it was like an awakening of profound proportions. I could confidently say that it saved my life and I am incredibly grateful for the work and research you are sharing with the world.
For all of you targets out there, this knowledge is how you beat the narcissist. My sister never planned for me to get educated, rise above her abuse and arm others in my family with knowledge. This knowledge has taken her down and it is incredible to watch…..from afar and silently.
The world is waking up and the Narcissist is doomed!
"send the new supply a condolence card" Dr. Ramani.
I find joy in knowing the new supply she tried to replace me with, didnt turn out to be a supply at all. He rejected her. Oh sweet sweet karma. This happened to be the same guy she pretended to hate, yet started chasing him only to get rejected LOL!
Greetings Joe the new shiny toy lost it's luster that narcissist can stay over where he thought the grass was greener he burned the bridge with me and. I refused to have anything to do with that dusty weirdo he sees me outside tries so hard to get my attention I just go my merry way
Good for you shirley. thank god I'm miles away from ex malignant narc husband
Bingo! My husband of 12 years slithered off back in May ,hes been shacked up with his coworker since he discarded me & my daughter...6 months later,im still not divorced....Zero Contact......I deserve goodness in my life not fake people that lie,cheat,betray...
Sister it's three months separated from narc. He moved in with the weaker woman mistress. We have a two year old and he kicked me out while hoovering new supply. Within a month or less he was in a relationship with her. I warned her she knew we were married said was told we were separated awhile it was only a month when I spoke to her and told her it hasn't even been two months. I told her if he can do this to his actual wife n son he will do you worse in a matter of time. She paraded kissing pics and pics with the family all over. He has said he wants nothing to do with our child. Says I am bitter...oh well. After what they have done. They reap what they sow. Wait til God gets her for inserting herself in a covenant and just wait til God gets the narcs because God has warned them to get their acts together for years even before us. I am seeing my worth, loving all of me and I'm moving on to bigger and better. What God says he will do he will. NEVER MESS WITH GOD'S CHILDREN
Even when you expose them to the world they will come back, years later--stronger than ever, depending on the degree to which you've leveled up. They cannot resist a juicy empath, even if you've gone No Contact for years. It is the most tasty delicacy, the combination of empath + codependent + success + social status and marketability to their flying monkey garage. They will always come back, but being with them is always futile.
They always have backup supply. Don’t think they would ever come back. Too much ego to do that
My narcissist told my daughter while she is with the new supply. That she wants to cuss me out because I wasted 20 years of her life. My daughter told her that if she is happy with the new person. Everything we had in the past is irrelevant 😂
Her new supply knew exactly what he was doing. As soon as I kicked her out she tried to get into his home. He sent her to her mothers. He was a narc too.
Spot on, thank you for this
Indeed important to see through these dynamics. And mind you, it good take more than a year or so. It sucks when you have children and all you wanted was being a loving family, with the realistic and normal ups and down. This longing can linger. But I keep my mantra. A narcissist is manipulation from A to Z and that will always be. So also the playing nice at some point when they realize the new supply is dull and you are doing well. Its manipulation all the way.
Thank you for this, LOVE your videos 👋👋👋👋
Thank you for this!!! She moved in this past January … sometimes she’s not there for a week or so. Karma, don’t let me down!
I didn't maintain the distance or silence instead when she invited herself over for a couple hours of TV, pizza & wine we agreed to it.
She got to meet the new gf, now my wife, and saw how we had pulled the place together.She provided the entertainment as her clown show became drunk.
When she was finally asked to leave I drove her home and never a peep about the past.She asked if I wanted to come up to which I said I don't think so.
I find I am no longer inclined to be nice to her. I gave her zero encouragement. Not even a "no thank you". but We never blocked her from torturing herself this way.
She finally called two months after we had announced our engagement to break up with me even though we had never been exclusive.
Extremely validating video, Joe!👍💙 Thank you for this🙏 You constantly help me understand so much of their manerisms and personality. Very good job👍 I appreciate You💙💙☺️💙💙
I have a strong feeling through discernment the honeymoon phase is starting for the narc and twin narc supply 😂
Same here. I've been married 12 years and off he went & shacked up with the secretary from his work. I can sense the demise....Thank God they are out of OUR lives. It's painful but best. They deserve whatever they have coming honestly because she also knows he's supposed to be married
@@ladyvirgo013 those jezebel mistresses do not care until worse happens to them but God says vengeance is mines. Just pray and continue to be the light and God will redeem us and continue to bless us. If it wasn't for God I would have went crazy. God also told me to remove my covering from the narc because he was going to break him down. Narcs are bad actors to the ones that know them but to enablers and new supply they deserve Oscars. They don't even love themselves HOW CAN THEY LOVE THE NEW WEAK SUPPLY? 😂
Mine was love bombing another Narc. She’s definitely worse than my ex Narc though, I hope she breaks him like he broke me and our children (I don’t mean to be so bitter, I’m still dealing with the anger of his betrayal) and has a taste of his own cruelty.
@@Meemo44 sis I'm going through it as well. The lies, betrayal, him walking away from my family but God told me today he is breaking down and I can feel it. He is not happy. I feel sorry for him because I still love him but I know I did everything right it's not me it's him. He admitted months ago before all of this that majority of our problems is because of him. But God will deal with him as fit. We have to eventually forgive them so we can be happy in life and God can continue to bless us. It is hard but we will get there. Everyday a narc lives in their own karma by existing and not living. Living is taking life as it comes, embracing it and doing as much as you can to feel fulfilled. Existing is a long survival. Living is choosing happiness, it's choosing to live. Existing is you being here physically, but doing what you have to do to get through the day. They are existing and damaging others and the worst themselves. They hate themselves
@@Meemo44 I believe my soon ex got himself a Low Vibe Leo Narcissist. Karma. Your hurt is valid
I'm so glad I exposed him😊
Don't do it again 😮..it will back fire on you. Please 🙏 let them be.😊
@@mostHigh23 yes I know, I was tired of being bullied so I had to stand up for myself. Anyway I'm done. NC all the way😊
This is really relatable…
She discarded me , moved her ex husband back in within a month or two. Five months later after moving on dating and not being secret about it she came back. We worked together and I ignored her at work , through co workers she was jealous I was dating. I was hurting inside but didn't let her know . She said , she thought she could go back to ex and found she couldn't , wanted me back . When I said if she became single again I would consider dinner and slowly trying again ( yes still trama bonded ) . Because I set a boundary and said no guarantees, she stayed with him. For a year she led me on she was leaving him , finally 3 months ago I blocked her . Her ex was lazy low supply who knew she cheated on him but moved back in with her because he had nothing . I finally realize she's narcissist and or toxic . As far as I know he's still there , no hoovering. They deserve one another .
The problem is neither of the supplies are problem. The only prob is the narc. I wish these narc gets the worst supply who can let them taste their own medicine ❤
Zero compassion let’s you move on
His new supply was his x. I texted him, told him shes a sweetie, be nice to her, im happy for you. He didnt respond, she didnt stick around. She left very quickly after her 2nd visit. I wanted to tell her not to piss him off, i didnt get the chance, she ran!
It's so childish and low value for a grown up to gather supply, I was over it after a week and moved on
That new person scenario. 😮😮😮🌧🌧🌧 Put it this way. My Gut was screaming at me. Oh. But i had to take her word for it. She was with her half brother..😅🙃😅🙃
Yeah so since Narky is a FAKE person they don't have morals. They don't have a foundation. Many are bi. They don't care they just care about supply/oxygen...
4:20 if youre tryna skip
Thank you.
She discard me, I applied no contact, she hoovered, I snapped, she won't change so I discarded her first, applied no contact for good this time, now she blocked me in all socmeds, feeling great now....
So it looks like in round number 2 that you rejected Narky not discard. And by the way why did you snap Narky got supply by you doing that. You want to really snap? You could of snapped harder by doing NOTHING...
This happened to me!!!! He betrayed me and was with the new person immediately… trust me, I’m not jealous of her at all. Worst part is he’s my neighbor - 300 feet away - I’m working on not looking in his direction .. he drives by my house to go/come home to work. He could go another direction,.. what an asshole
A similar thing happened with me, Karen. I pity the new fool, but that doesn't make what happened easier. They have no shame. Mirror that. They did wrong.. not you. Hold your head up, let them see that you look down on them.
I’m kinda in the same boat.. my ex friend/lover lives 3 floors below me and I’m always running into his demonic looking eyes filled with hate directed at me .. he did find a new supply and tried to rub it in my face the other day .. poor girl I hope she wakes up .
Thank you for this
But what about when they have a habit of keeping the new supply hidden/secret? From you, and most likely others too- if you’re so ingrained in their life, as in regularly still spending time with friends and family together and sharing all your future plans and goals with outside parties up until point of discard, and although supply is always #1 their image is bound to be a close second.
Like that would honestly just be really dumb/careless if they break up with (discard) someone who’s on that level with years of history and interconnections, to just suddenly pop up with the new toast the following week or even month. No matter how severe they could have gone with any kind of smear campaign leading up to or even following
Also that just has to be seen as taking away any chance of hoovering you back in later? If they keep it out of sights they have plausible deniability, look like the “good guy” taking his time and grieving the loss being “respectful” to the previous relationship and person and if they know it’s a true nonnegotiable of the old supply they’ll still do it but they’ll break it off with you right before or soon after it starts, kind of avoiding shame by “doing the right thing” in their own minds even though they basically just broke up with you to cheat lol. But it still works in their favor because if they’re quick enough old supply sees nothing of real substance or that can’t be explained away, they go off and have their fun then come back and lie and lovebomb their asses off telling you it was just the time apart that made them realize their mistake in leaving and it also works in their favor as a break in time they can come back and attribute to “working on themselves” and of course *being better for you*
meanwhile only thing they were working on was clapping cheeks smfh
Like they’re stupid af no doubt but they’re not THAT stupid 😂 at least my Nex isn’t little does he know I’m fully enlightened to all of his BS this time around and even got the receipts for when he inevitably pulls back up a
* cHanGeD mAn *🤦🏾♀️
Why do you have to make it so complicated?? Did you know you were dealing with mental illness???
He would bot sighn divorse papers unless i seen him . I wouldnt see him i had to wait 2 years for dovorse in uk
There jealouse they dont want us to move on get some one deceant they try stop it
This is exactly my situation. She left me for him and she still reaches out to me! The discard happened the end of feb and she been reaching out since may. It has been a roller coaster... she comes.. and goes, comes and goes. She even ditch him to spend the days for Thanksgiving and now im ghosted again. She keeps sayin "im trying" to leave him but always ends up back to him and then ghost. 13 days NC again! What should i do? She keeps sayin shes "unhappy" but still with him
Get away from her. Shes not your responsibility. She's a big girl. If she wasnt a narc she'd get help. She left you, she betrayed you, dont give her power. She is making you feel guilty where there should be no guilt. Tell her its over, she left and get some help. Go to therapy, learn to meditate. Process the toxic emotions and be happy without her.
@@aratneerg3699 what is her game? I dont get it. It baffles my mind that she spent 3 days with me on thanksgiving and then i drop her off that friday night, she goes with him and i havent heard from her since. Why she keep doing this? So hurtful and i wish i have the strength to just ignore her but im attached to her kids
She will do this for as long as you put up with it. And her kids are in the middle!! They are not your responsibility, and nor is she. Get as badass as your avatar (love it) and go no contact. You can do this 💪
@@flat4wankelIt's called "Breadcrumbing"...
@@dagnabbit3513 ah yes i am full aware of it. She been doing it since june. Currently into no contact again 17 days... this fckin hurts
Well it's a week b4 my Birthday. That discard has begun.. I thought I could take it's happened so many times.. I told myself this is temporary dnt attach.. I'm a dumb ass
I think the supply was happy not to warn me and Did not want to keep her .. I am probably 1out of around 100 supplies ago in 3 yr period
Why would he warn you. Why would he want that problem. Plus you wouldn't have believed him cuz you were getting love bombed...
I exposed hom to supply but he still wouldnt let me go i was top supply lol
What is TOP supply I'm curious your answer.
@user-qs5hz4mf3p it's a joke he wouldn't let me go top supply hahalol
48 hours it took her to replace me...married n all to him within 4 months she was :( unbelievable speed..
Why not go to a new third person? Why come back?
Yeah thats puzzling!
Do u do calls ?
What if he was grooming the new supply right in front of me? He would be laying in bed next to me and showing me his phone and then going and stalking her Instagram, sending her memes? Was he trying to make me feel jealous?
Yes absolutely.
@@aratneerg3699 why then is he removing all his likes from her posts and posting videos of him playing guitar with songs about how he remembers everything from our nights together and how he’s a mess. Does he actually feel remorseful? What if it seems like he is cognizant of what he did was wrong?
If you are sure they are a narc:
they cannot feel remorse. Like the way a blind person can’t see - they just can’t/aren’t able to.
They can act remorseful (lie), but not feel it.
Sounds like they’re playing games, ignore and see what happens. Sounds like you deserve better.
If you are sure they are an N, they do not actually care about you, your feelings, as a person - just the game and how they feel about themselves/power/reputation and they are using you :( it’s rough I’m sorry
This is just based on my experience and internet learnings
It gets better. Just ignore them and know your worth. You deserve better bestie
Otherwise ask him directly, but your soul mate probably would not treat you like that (that line helped me)
(big hug)
@@heartofgoldonfire thank you for responding❤️ you are right, if he actually cared about me, he would have apologized instead of trying to manage his image on social media. Probably to cover up if anyone were to call him out for what he did, he can deny it. Sad times. The abusive cycle becomes so addictive that it really is almost like overcoming withdrawals. Thank you love❤️ I wish you the best in your healing journey
@@jacquiehoot4638How can someone feel remorse if they don't have empathy?? Is that possible?? If you think this person has empathy we're NOT talking about narcissism this is something else...
No there not new there upstairs neighbour been with her 2 years i married it . Thet live on phone he had 4 on go in herum babbies wile married
They will never circle the block twice... Bye ✌🏿🫡