Workout, stop watching the news as much, don’t use social media as much unless it’s to talk to woman, read more, find some interesting ideas, meditate. Sending strength to you brother may we all make it 🫡 Ps. Look for a new job where you’re more valued. I can tell you’re smart, please realize that the hardest prisons to escape are the ones we build in our minds. You got this bro. Please reach out to someone a mental health professional, a friend, a family member. Please we need more people like you in this world. You’re real man.
i have to agree with i smash ur mom 1123 here. at a MINIMUM, start running. at our age cardio vascular health is super duper important and you NEED to run that system up to 100% frequently or you lose strength in those muscles. use it or lose it bro.
If you speak into the void sometimes it speaks back! Listening to you talk I get the sense that you're really skilled at introspection. Being able to identify the way you're feeling and put a name to it makes you a lot more emotionally skilled than most people who just kind of float through life and react without really thinking about why they feel that way or why they had the reaction they did. The ability to understand your own feelings is the first step in planning on how to improve them, and I think your first step is to find a new job because not being recognized for all the things you do to keep things running feels AWFUL, I know. There's no reason you can't bring your experience to a different company or even a new field where you won't be overlooked, I don't mean to make things sound so simple and I know there's more at play with you, but this might be a little start. I fucking love Dragon Quest (your boxes in the back were the first thing I noticed lol). I only started with the handheld DS one, 9, in the 2000s but played the older ones when they got remade for the 3ds a few years later and they blew my mind. Huge part of my childhood too even though we're about 15 years apart. Unlike you, I did have the internet/constant connection as a kid but even I agree constantly being plugged in is starting to be detrimental. I'll get stuck doom scrolling while I'm like cooking pasta or something and then I can't even enjoy my meal because I'm so worked up over something for no reason. It's like it's impossible to ever relax without constantly having your attention drawn to the next awful thing.
Life is a lot of ups and downs, lately more downs than ups and a general sense of betrayal involving folks I've worked with for some time now. Trained a lot and saved from some proverbial dragons, as recently as this week, sadly. As for DQ games I'm looking forward to DQ3 HD2D on the switch. XI was better than I could have hoped for. I keep hoping 10 gets released as a single player experience in NA.
Hey there, it's okay to feel lonely and melancholy. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Refurbishing an iPod is a cool project! It takes dedication and skill. You're not alone in this.
a small antidote about those who are taken for granted: those who are taken for granted tend to be the people who do good for the right reasons. there are many people out there who make a big show about being virtuous and in return get a lot of praise. they aren't doing good because they desire to make the world better but because they desire praise. it seems to me that you are the kind of person who does good with no expectation of praise because you truly want to do good. even if you think it has gone unnoticed, i know your work has made the world a better place.
im 33 and I got REAL sick a few years ago and ended up losing everything (not gonna get into details) but I couldn't believe how quickly I was forgotten. people will say they're there for you (breaking news: they aint lol) I quickly realized life is just not that serious and pretty fleeting and im kinda thankful I learned that lesson early on. I now wear pajamas to the grocery store pointy sleeping cap and all lol things are just not that serious. enjoy your time.
Interesting take on the iPod. I’ve been feeling a similar way about music, movies and retro gaming. I like having the ability to enjoy the art of it all, but on my own terms. I enjoy putting a record on the platter or a CD on the tray, etc. You have inspired me to create an MP3 library again, and to revisit the iPod.
Been buying a few CDs here and there at thrift stores when I find them for a dollar or two. But I have had far more fun with the 20+ year old tech of the iPod than I thought I would. At least for me it's been a goldilocks device. There's a reddit www.reddit.com/r/ipod/ and dank pods on YT is pretty good. Lots of parts around for refurbing them, rockbox is nice. Have fun.
From Cali, and grew up the same way brother, 37, and feels meaningless, Covid really took a turn on my life, and it hasn't been the same since. And this country, the cost of living, it's all by design, please have faith, and know you are not alone. FIGHT!
I'm a stranger but i hear you. Its rough out there socially, feels like people really weren't ready for life after the internet became pivotal for day to day functioning. Thanks for the video.
Just shows no matter how hard we try we are stuck in an inhuman system where how we feel doesnt matter it’s never been about us but about how useful we can be to the system
I like being alone it sucks sometimes but the positives outweigh the negatives I'm single my last girlfriend moved so I've been single since then it doesn't really bother me much having a girlfriend is like having a backpack with potatos in it the weight is gonna stress you out a relationship is weight I don't wanna carry another person on my back so being single is always a better opinion with it comes to women Just be good to yourself and enjoy this time you have to yourself don't follow society standards
I miss going out with my ex girlfriend sometimes but if I honestly take a hard look at how it really was, she really didn't care about me, it was all about what she wanted to do and how she felt at the time. Our breakup really reflected that, I was devastated by it, when trying to call her and talk things out she had already moved on and got someone else within a week and ghosted me after a year of dating. Last time I talked to her I just got the middle finger; no apologies or accountability. I'm 26, get told often I'm a good looking guy, and my girlfriend was below me in looks and I dated her before she lost a lot of weight and still loved her irregardless. I felt like I was just a stepping stone for her to have someone and get attention before I hit a rough spot and it's time to jump ship
Taking life in “bite sized pieces” to get by just makes life go by faster. Sounds like you’ve been through some watershed moments in the past four or so years. And life sort of moves in four year patches (no coincidence that elections, college, world cups, and Olympics all are 4 year cycles). Figure out how to enjoy your life again, is what I would suggest. Small things at first and then wider and wider to bigger things. Then contemplate how to break those bigger things into smaller things you can do day by day and try to enjoy doing the things that you believe will advance you toward that goal. In the meantime there is no harm in nostalgia and cherishing your past. Just don’t let it detract from your enjoyment of the moments you can savor this very day.
So somewhere along the way your purpose sounds like it switched to just survival mode and now you are realising this is a completely pointless mode of being ~ made painfully clear by your colleagues not even making it apparent you matter that much. I would say keep looking for everything you feel is missing and use that to shape an ideal future. part of it in essence is a better reason to live by the sounds of it. Trust your gut and follow your heart!
Socialize with the right people. They are few and far between so take everything lightly and with a bit of comedy as there are many bitter individuals out there.
when you have the realization you aren't the protagonist of your own story. I think we need to make a change and find a real purpose in life. Not working for a paycheck but doing something for the love of doing it. That is the feeling I want. To create for the joy of creation. Not a paycheck or because I've been told it's the task I have to do. When do I start getting to live life for me?
@@radmageirl so rockbox is basically like iTunes back in the day? I used to use iTunes to store and transfer music onto my iPod. Ill definitely check Rockbox out. And your video about living the same day over and over and over randomly popped up in my TH-cam feed yesterday. That was a great video and it resonated with me. I've had the same thoughts for awhile now 💯💯💯
TY! Sort of, the ipod ios is still there you can boot to it by holding menu button longer i believe, or just go into rockbox. rockbox can be used without having to bother with the itunes app, just drag/drop files in file manager/explorer, more convenient and some more features. there's some skins for rockbox that look just like the normal ios as well, bones is also fairly clean/minimal, i like seeing album art though and use a dark themed skin in rockbox.
hey david! I really empathize with everything you're saying and i've been on similar shoes. I have a question if you don't mind. I will cut to the chase and say that I am working on an app that help men get more matches (and dates) on dating apps and make it easier to meet people and friends on social media apps. If, hypothetically, you could get to meet more women and go on dates more frequently (with way less hurdles and difficulties than how it is for most men, do not think of it as having to pay for dinner for every date, just a simple coffee or walk on the park), do you think this would help you with your loneliness?
More face videos, please. I know what you're feeling and sharing is part cleansing process. I don't know more about you than what you've told here, but it'd be cool if you want to converse some time.
Pray the Rosary. There's nothing wrong with being 44 and single. In Catholicism, we call it a single, chaste life. Focus on growing in grace and holiness, and convert to the Traditional Catholic Faith. Your life is not meaningless; it's a test. And if you fail, the kind of loneliness you feel now will not even remotely compare to the kind of suffering you will for all eternity.
43 here . Completely clueless and feeling lost lately. Hang in there my dude . All of us 40 somethings will get through this game of life and get the happy ending if we stick to it.
I often take walks and try to find out of place things, old ruins of the urban/suburban landscape, if only to summon a sense of deep nostalgia into which I pull out a sense of childhood wonder in the sublties of the now , the immediate around me because it is like welding nostalgia to empower yourself to keep going . Nostalgia becomes the magic of wonder in the now . I think that is what nostalgia is meant for . Oh and anything you thing after midnight, chalk it off as nonsense noise because that is when outside interference messes with the station of the mind so to speak. Loneliness sucks balls man , but we are all rooting for you clearly because we all see ourselves in your video and this video boosts your viewers morale. Hopefully you see the worth in that. I don't even know why the algorithm "knew' to refer your video to me . . But thanks TH-cam .
came here for the ipod, stayed for the deep thoughts... sometimes we feel like that man, but eventually it gets better. DONT GIVE UP BRO!
Yep, this kind of storytimes are always good✌🏻
This whole video felt like having a deep conversation with a friend, i loved every second of it. Hailing from iran.
Workout, stop watching the news as much, don’t use social media as much unless it’s to talk to woman, read more, find some interesting ideas, meditate. Sending strength to you brother may we all make it 🫡
Ps. Look for a new job where you’re more valued. I can tell you’re smart, please realize that the hardest prisons to escape are the ones we build in our minds. You got this bro. Please reach out to someone a mental health professional, a friend, a family member. Please we need more people like you in this world. You’re real man.
i have to agree with i smash ur mom 1123 here. at a MINIMUM, start running. at our age cardio vascular health is super duper important and you NEED to run that system up to 100% frequently or you lose strength in those muscles. use it or lose it bro.
You forgot get a haircut and start wearing cologne.
Im 44. Feel the exact same. Hang in there man. I will too.
If you speak into the void sometimes it speaks back! Listening to you talk I get the sense that you're really skilled at introspection. Being able to identify the way you're feeling and put a name to it makes you a lot more emotionally skilled than most people who just kind of float through life and react without really thinking about why they feel that way or why they had the reaction they did. The ability to understand your own feelings is the first step in planning on how to improve them, and I think your first step is to find a new job because not being recognized for all the things you do to keep things running feels AWFUL, I know. There's no reason you can't bring your experience to a different company or even a new field where you won't be overlooked, I don't mean to make things sound so simple and I know there's more at play with you, but this might be a little start.
I fucking love Dragon Quest (your boxes in the back were the first thing I noticed lol). I only started with the handheld DS one, 9, in the 2000s but played the older ones when they got remade for the 3ds a few years later and they blew my mind. Huge part of my childhood too even though we're about 15 years apart. Unlike you, I did have the internet/constant connection as a kid but even I agree constantly being plugged in is starting to be detrimental. I'll get stuck doom scrolling while I'm like cooking pasta or something and then I can't even enjoy my meal because I'm so worked up over something for no reason. It's like it's impossible to ever relax without constantly having your attention drawn to the next awful thing.
Life is a lot of ups and downs, lately more downs than ups and a general sense of betrayal involving folks I've worked with for some time now. Trained a lot and saved from some proverbial dragons, as recently as this week, sadly.
As for DQ games I'm looking forward to DQ3 HD2D on the switch. XI was better than I could have hoped for.
I keep hoping 10 gets released as a single player experience in NA.
Can’t get stronger without going through what makes people strong.
Hey there, it's okay to feel lonely and melancholy. It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Refurbishing an iPod is a cool project! It takes dedication and skill. You're not alone in this.
a small antidote about those who are taken for granted: those who are taken for granted tend to be the people who do good for the right reasons. there are many people out there who make a big show about being virtuous and in return get a lot of praise. they aren't doing good because they desire to make the world better but because they desire praise. it seems to me that you are the kind of person who does good with no expectation of praise because you truly want to do good. even if you think it has gone unnoticed, i know your work has made the world a better place.
im 33 and I got REAL sick a few years ago and ended up losing everything (not gonna get into details) but I couldn't believe how quickly I was forgotten. people will say they're there for you (breaking news: they aint lol) I quickly realized life is just not that serious and pretty fleeting and im kinda thankful I learned that lesson early on. I now wear pajamas to the grocery store pointy sleeping cap and all lol things are just not that serious. enjoy your time.
I love you man, underrated channel I'm gonna try to spread it to more peple
You have a foundation to build off. Every day is a gift.
big bravo on refurbishing an ipod. dont give in to consumerism. old apple products are made to be repaired and better quality
Interesting take on the iPod. I’ve been feeling a similar way about music, movies and retro gaming. I like having the ability to enjoy the art of it all, but on my own terms. I enjoy putting a record on the platter or a CD on the tray, etc. You have inspired me to create an MP3 library again, and to revisit the iPod.
Been buying a few CDs here and there at thrift stores when I find them for a dollar or two.
But I have had far more fun with the 20+ year old tech of the iPod than I thought I would. At least for me it's been a goldilocks device.
There's a reddit www.reddit.com/r/ipod/ and dank pods on YT is pretty good.
Lots of parts around for refurbing them, rockbox is nice.
Have fun.
From Cali, and grew up the same way brother, 37, and feels meaningless, Covid really took a turn on my life, and it hasn't been the same since. And this country, the cost of living, it's all by design, please have faith, and know you are not alone.
FIGHT!
Area code 209
Stay strong unc people need you and if you ain’t gonna do it who will? 💪
I'm a stranger but i hear you. Its rough out there socially, feels like people really weren't ready for life after the internet became pivotal for day to day functioning. Thanks for the video.
Love ya man. We just gotta keep hanging on, things will get better.
Bless the TH-cam algorithm for finding you. I’m 33, 34 soon.
Blessings unto you Bobby Bobberton
I think you are correct about the current state of things, but nostalgia is a type of poison also
stay in there we all feel this way sometimes, lonely feels worse at the time it gets better
40’s are tough!
Just shows no matter how hard we try we are stuck in an inhuman system where how we feel doesnt matter it’s never been about us but about how useful we can be to the system
I like being alone it sucks sometimes but the positives outweigh the negatives I'm single my last girlfriend moved so I've been single since then it doesn't really bother me much having a girlfriend is like having a backpack with potatos in it the weight is gonna stress you out a relationship is weight I don't wanna carry another person on my back so being single is always a better opinion with it comes to women Just be good to yourself and enjoy this time you have to yourself don't follow society standards
I miss going out with my ex girlfriend sometimes but if I honestly take a hard look at how it really was, she really didn't care about me, it was all about what she wanted to do and how she felt at the time. Our breakup really reflected that, I was devastated by it, when trying to call her and talk things out she had already moved on and got someone else within a week and ghosted me after a year of dating. Last time I talked to her I just got the middle finger; no apologies or accountability. I'm 26, get told often I'm a good looking guy, and my girlfriend was below me in looks and I dated her before she lost a lot of weight and still loved her irregardless. I felt like I was just a stepping stone for her to have someone and get attention before I hit a rough spot and it's time to jump ship
@@kittyhawk-ud3id That's every women mate.
dont accept your life. you can change it. its not impossible but it will take all the work you can give
Taking life in “bite sized pieces” to get by just makes life go by faster. Sounds like you’ve been through some watershed moments in the past four or so years. And life sort of moves in four year patches (no coincidence that elections, college, world cups, and Olympics all are 4 year cycles). Figure out how to enjoy your life again, is what I would suggest. Small things at first and then wider and wider to bigger things. Then contemplate how to break those bigger things into smaller things you can do day by day and try to enjoy doing the things that you believe will advance you toward that goal. In the meantime there is no harm in nostalgia and cherishing your past. Just don’t let it detract from your enjoyment of the moments you can savor this very day.
It sure isn't the life we were taught it would be, huh?
So somewhere along the way your purpose sounds like it switched to just survival mode and now you are realising this is a completely pointless mode of being ~ made painfully clear by your colleagues not even making it apparent you matter that much.
I would say keep looking for everything you feel is missing and use that to shape an ideal future. part of it in essence is a better reason to live by the sounds of it. Trust your gut and follow your heart!
Is that a Doctor who shirt? My favorite show!
Yes! Got it from teefury. Been watching since the 80s, Tom Baker was my first Dr. Like the sense of irreverent fun from the series.
This is how i feel at a couple weeks before my 54th birthday. I often dream of death.
Hang in there man. I believe in you!
Please go out and socialize. You seem like you have a lot to offer others
Socialize with the right people. They are few and far between so take everything lightly and with a bit of comedy as there are many bitter individuals out there.
Yeah those deep meaningful conversations with npc's, can't get enough of em.
when you have the realization you aren't the protagonist of your own story.
I think we need to make a change and find a real purpose in life. Not working for a paycheck but doing something for the love of doing it.
That is the feeling I want. To create for the joy of creation. Not a paycheck or because I've been told it's the task I have to do.
When do I start getting to live life for me?
How do you upload music onto an iPod in modern times? I have an old ipod i want to start back using.
@@sameenergy9414 put rockbox on it, nice ui and easy to copy songs over. Better file naming and tags too.
@@radmageirl so rockbox is basically like iTunes back in the day? I used to use iTunes to store and transfer music onto my iPod. Ill definitely check Rockbox out. And your video about living the same day over and over and over randomly popped up in my TH-cam feed yesterday. That was a great video and it resonated with me. I've had the same thoughts for awhile now 💯💯💯
TY!
Sort of, the ipod ios is still there you can boot to it by holding menu button longer i believe, or just go into rockbox. rockbox can be used without having to bother with the itunes app, just drag/drop files in file manager/explorer, more convenient and some more features. there's some skins for rockbox that look just like the normal ios as well, bones is also fairly clean/minimal, i like seeing album art though and use a dark themed skin in rockbox.
hey david! I really empathize with everything you're saying and i've been on similar shoes. I have a question if you don't mind.
I will cut to the chase and say that I am working on an app that help men get more matches (and dates) on dating apps and make it easier to meet people and friends on social media apps.
If, hypothetically, you could get to meet more women and go on dates more frequently (with way less hurdles and difficulties than how it is for most men, do not think of it as having to pay for dinner for every date, just a simple coffee or walk on the park), do you think this would help you with your loneliness?
Hello Henry Stuart, I have no interest in that myself at all.
Apologies.
@radmageirl no worries, wishing you all the best!
More face videos, please. I know what you're feeling and sharing is part cleansing process. I don't know more about you than what you've told here, but it'd be cool if you want to converse some time.
what did you do to her
I’m not sure how you get online and talk. Scares me. My life also feels meaningless I wish I enjoyed video games
Crash bandicoot isn't bad
Have you tried online dating? There’s seriously someone out there for everyone. Its easier than one would think
I tried it, and it was a complete waste of time
@@danieldaniels7571 maybe comic con or anime con?
Online dating is the worst. Unicorns don't exist.
Pray the Rosary. There's nothing wrong with being 44 and single. In Catholicism, we call it a single, chaste life. Focus on growing in grace and holiness, and convert to the Traditional Catholic Faith. Your life is not meaningless; it's a test. And if you fail, the kind of loneliness you feel now will not even remotely compare to the kind of suffering you will for all eternity.
what you smokin'
43 here . Completely clueless and feeling lost lately. Hang in there my dude . All of us 40 somethings will get through this game of life and get the happy ending if we stick to it.
I often take walks and try to find out of place things, old ruins of the urban/suburban landscape, if only to summon a sense of deep nostalgia into which I pull out a sense of childhood wonder in the sublties of the now , the immediate around me because it is like welding nostalgia to empower yourself to keep going . Nostalgia becomes the magic of wonder in the now . I think that is what nostalgia is meant for . Oh and anything you thing after midnight, chalk it off as nonsense noise because that is when outside interference messes with the station of the mind so to speak. Loneliness sucks balls man , but we are all rooting for you clearly because we all see ourselves in your video and this video boosts your viewers morale. Hopefully you see the worth in that. I don't even know why the algorithm "knew' to refer your video to me . . But thanks TH-cam .
im here if you need a friend man
Look up the word ' Saudade ' its a feeling we all get .