Wife Who Left Me For 3 Months Now Begging Me To Take Her Back Coz "It Was Just A Mistake"
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ส.ค. 2024
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A messy relationship story where OP is a 28-year-old male and his wife decides to leave OP. The reason she decides to leave doesn't seem good enough to OP. Well just like clockwork she comes back to OP crawling three months later begging for OP to take her back. The thing she doesn't know is that OP has been doing this!!!! His entire family is very upset and it gets even worse as the story unfolds, Welcome to the channel my name is Mr. Reddito I read daily events of some of the most Insane Drama-Filled Stories so let's get right into it.
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If your partner tells you watching your kid makes them angry, that should be your cue to leave
The simple way to say it. You can work with jealousy or sadness, but anger, guy sounds like a wannabe male lion killing the cups when he takes over the pride, send him back to the Savannah, before he goes for the box cutter.
She should have left the instant he was hateful towards her son. She marries that her child will have a miserable life.
If someone shows you their real personality gather your child get your important stuff and go. Leave. It’s over.
So many kids are murdered and abused because they’re left with mom’s deadbeat boyfriend while she’s working to support: him first, then maybe the kids
I feel the exBF needs a little 'operation'
I have a hedgetrimmer somewhere 😆
Exactly he doesn't like your kid it's a wrap get him outta there
Story 2: I know the box cutter is the core of the story, but am I the only one worried about what he said about OP’s son?
Yeah, I honestly do wonder if the wife would have left if not for the box cutter. Plenty of parents have no issue with their children being disrespected and insulted like that. Plus the act of saying untrue things just to hurt others is such a red flag as well.
Nope. That was when I was thinking dump him. The box cutter was just gas on that fire. She should call the cops.
Guy was a maniac and she should send him to jail or have a restraining order. With that being said you realize that in the discussion she use her son as a shield to win the argue and thats why he snaps??
Yeah, I'd have said that comment was enough motivation to end the relationship.
Yes, Red flag
Op you owe her nothing. She is the one that owe you for all your love and patience you gave her. This is on her. Please do not take her back. She need help. Js
The boyfriend is crazy, trying to take her implant out with a box cutter. I'm so glad she got the restraining orders for her and her son, now she can start over and raise her son. Wishing them the best in life. Thank goodness she had her mom
If he had managed to get the implant out, what's the next logical step? Rape!
YOU CHOSE THE WRONG WIFE. LET HER GO. SHE SHOULD HAVE LISTENED TO THAT LAST THERAPIST. SHE HAD WHAT THE AVERAGE WOMAN WANTED. A GOOD MAN IN EVERY CATEGORY!!! GOOD LUCK!!
Something I learned from being in a similar situation, stand by the person who when they have problems like depression, fight to overcome it, NOT the person who makes excuses to stay in it. I learned it’s like trying to climb up a mountain carrying someone who declines to walk. Relationships are meant to be a team, when one person needs you, help carry them until they have the strength to do it themselves, then they do it for you in your darkest hours. But, you cannot climb up this mountain carrying their dead weight alone.
Right. Being their enabler isn't helping them at all in the long run.
God Bless this man and I hope everything works out! If it were ME, NO WAY, NO HOW! I'm wondering why he did not see any of these SIGNS before marrying her?
Right!!
This is a nice analogy. I was once the one who got depression. It's like having broken legs. You would like to walk but you simply can't. This is not a matter of willingness, this is simply you can't. And the worst is that you can't even explain it.
DO NOT TAKE HER BACK, EVEN IF YOU ARE DRUNK OR HIGH AS A KITE... DO NOT TAKE HER BACK. I DO SUFFER FROM MENTAL ILLNESS AND I DO TAKE A PILL FOR IT. THERE ARE GOOD DAYS AND BAD DAYS , THAT IS WHY I MAKE SURE I REST PROPERLY.
A leopard doesn’t lose its spots. Can camouflage but never loses them. Same with people.
Story 1: OP's wife laid out that minefield. She then happily traipsed through it, and ending up setting off her own damn minefield. OP's family is following suit.
OP, take any children you may have, secure your finances, and let them all stew in the pot of their own making.
Story 2: this is worthy of breaking off the wedding this guy has gone past toxic. Until the box cutter I would have been coming from a different prospective.
I married my husband when my son was 5. They both took to each other like fish to water. My husband would fight anyone who said son was not his. Even after hubby's death son still calls him dad and always will. Dude can't wait 8 months to try for a baby, he's coocoo cachoo.
Sure you are the one to decide who as to fathered who. Thats fiance is crazy but using yours childs as shield to win argues is sh1tty
Story 2. OP RUN!!!! NOW!!!
Story 1. So his wife can dump OP if he depresses her, but if OP reciprocates he's at fault. What's good for the goose...
When people constantly blame others for their situation, it usually doesn’t end well. They will never get better if they don’t address their problems. This is why proper counseling is necessary. She needs to find another therapist. Six years, without improvement, is too long.
Welcome to the world. It doesn't matter how a man feels in a relationship as soon as the woman is unhappy it's over and it's his fault
That girl is depressed and needs to work on her self rather than drag her husband down with her. She has. a clear mental health issue
Depression can be a chronic disease. He is a hero for not enabling her anymore and setting new rules and boundaries!
She called him when he was out with friends saying "she wad afraid ", but she didn't call about being afraid when he was at work? When he came, the house was dirty. Why? Neither scenario makes sense. Sounds like she was using him.
Story 2 you need to leave him immediately. He broke you trust and almost could have killed you. Plus he doesn't like your son. RED FLAG ALERT.
OP has done everything for his wife... how can the house become so messy when there's only two of them, and he works? I wonder if his wife is just putting it on... not disparaging those with depression, I suffer myself, but 6 years with no progess sounds dodgy to me
my thoughts too,seems fishy to me,I wonder if her mother told her go back and get money
The second clip illustrates the nature of a narcissist perfectly. He love Bombed her at the beginning and then without any empathy or consideration for the other person was happy to take a razor blade to her arm to perform a surgical operation because he wants her to have his baby…... That is a perfect illustration of the metric that narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths use to measure things by. If it is good for the narcissist it is good if it is bad for the narcissist it is bad. If it’s what a narcissist wants it’s good, if it’s what the narcissist doesn’t want it’s bad. And that’s it - nothing else equates with them.
S1: NTA good for you op. You finally healed and realized that she was no good. Her family is harassing you because THEY are all fed up of her nonsense. Don’t do it, you’ll be back to square 1.
Well... he did it. I’m glad he didn’t open the door for her to move in but instead made his demands. How will he prove that she’s actually doing what she says? Her parents want her out, they will lie. Oh well, hopefully things work out
I hope we hear more updates from the last one.
Story 2: the second he told me he gets angry for how my son looks I would have been out. WTF would you stay with someone who talks that way about your child. Then you have a kid with him and your first child is always going to be second that’s so selfish. To even consider staying is wrong.
S2: OMG you should’ve called the cops. This guy is psychotic. You love him??? Stop. He’s never shown you that side of himself before. If he’s willing to do this to op, he’ll be even more willing to hurt her son. That’s not love, that’s obsessive jealousy which is dangerous.
I know right? If she loved her son she would have thrown him out of the house when she said those things ABOUT her son, saying she needed to get pregnant because he didn't like her son. If I said any of those things to my bf about his son I would be single.
@@twilighteli865 since she’s left him, I’ll chalk it down to shock and disbelief. She does regret her actions weren’t as swift
Story time! So glad I get to tell this one!
So, my sis had the arm implant birth control thing, and had a bad reaction to it. Like, bleeding for a MONTH straight (not exaggerating) and the OB REFUSED to remove it early, even though there was still a YEAR left for her to suffer. So, what happened? Well, one day she's holding her cat, a cute little guy, when suddenly something freaks him TF out and he CLAWS THE SHIT out of her arm. Right where the tip of the implant is. He GOUGED her. She drops the little fur ball, runs to the bathroom and throws up from the sigh of her bleeding arm. She then notices THE TIP OF THE IMPLANT, pulls it out, throws up again, wraps it up and finally heads to her room to lay down.
I made sure it was clean and well cared for once I got home, slathered it in antibiotic and rewrapped it. Luckily, she didn't get sick or infected, BUT seeing that first hand, I know the fiancé from story 2 HAD to have been NUTS to try that shit with a freaking BOX CUTTER.
I was wondering if he hates the kid so much because he looks like his dad, will crazy bf take the box cutter to the boys face?⁉️⁉️
Every time I hear about an OBGN disrepecting a patient's directive concerning her birth control, I scream. Why must the medical field treat women like children? For that matter, why is so much of the US taking aggressive action against women's bodily autonomy? But I digress.
@@kathryngoff7089 so we fight and argue over the bs, instead of banning together. All females banning together scares the male population so much as we could over throw them, and run the world!
There is being depressed and then there is being a Invalaid. Guess what the "wife" is???
Honestly, OP should just file for divorce, cut her out of his life and move on. Six years is enough, time to cut and run.
sorry but she supposedly spends all day in bed with depression so cannot work but who the hell is up and around the house making a mess in all the other parts of the house every day ?? I call BS on her depression she is just an entitled mooch who is costing thousands in therapist bills , why did she switch therapist may be because first one realised that she is malingering ?? She seemed to like the second one because that one accepted all her lies and blaming OP
@@jasbirkaurvillaschi8019 Exactly!!! That's what I am saying.
Plenty of depressed people lead normal lives and learn to cope /get better even own businesses
@@Lili-ey1nd And plenty don't. Or at least don't without meds, professional therapy and someone tough enough to provide structure. Everyone is different.
You can be a combo of both. If she stays the course she's on, she maybe ok. But as the OPS said, last chance.
OP. In story ones update does have a good plan for their relationship, though 6yrs would be too long I personally would have gotten out a lot sooner
STORY 2: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Don't second guess or put the blame on yourself. That explosive temper & his attempt to physically assault OP is his true character behavior when he doesn't get his way.
DO NOT TAKE HER. BACK!
6 years of 0 = 0 with a 0 !!
Lesson learned you are no slave/no fool waiting for more 0 for future abuse!!
Story 1: "clearly your husband is the problem since this started after you married"
Op who does literally _everything_ for her so that she doesn't have to be too stressed while going through whatever she's going through all while she sits around doing nothing but complaining about everything, including him: 👁👄👁
Edit: "You're making a mistake" no, _she_ made the mistake, and now she's facing the the consequences. Maybe she shouldn't have treated him like a servant for 6 years then bailed while blaming him for her depression if she didn't want to be divorced 🤔
Honestly the therapist is not wrong. As long as she has her husband as a crutch she was never going to change. She now has no choice but to get back on her feet.
My question is why didn't THEY go to therapy together? I mean if she was in bed day in and day out, and he was doing everything, why didn't he attend sessions with her? Go to couples therapy? Her depression was negatively impacting both of them, not just her, and often times the depressed person doesn't realize what they are doing to others.
@@Ventura574 he probably didn't have much time, plus after coping with the situation so long he probably didn't realise how much it harmed him until she left him. The therapist is the one who should have encouraged counseling both and was negligent not doing so.
@@mpmansell they tried counseling, they needed couples therapy. Similar but not the same, and she had admitted not being fully truthful to her therapist. OP should have taken things into his own hands long before the 6 year mark. It obvious her therapist wasn't doing either of them any good, and he should have taken the reins, instead of allowing this torture to go on for so long.
@@Ventura574 in an ideal world, OP would have, but any unqualified statement criticising him shows a lack of understanding of the position of loving and compassionate people in his circumstances. OP is not to blame for being a good and loving person and being overwhelmed. Blame does lie, however, in the surrounding family that were happy to offload all the pressure and responsibility to care for her onto him and, honestly, their later pressure on him makes them the only definite abusers in this story. Also, the counselor was negligent in not calling for couples counseling and being too naive/incompetent to realise clients lie. Knowing human nature is pretty fundamental to the job.
I love how he thought HIS obvious option was kicking the wife out while everyone knew he was going to take her back 🤣
And the.. "if she does all this (what regular humans should do) for a few months"... Months!!! It should be a year at least. 🤦🏻♀️ Dormats gonna doormat.
Story 1 if I was op I would tell the family they can be their for her because I wouldn’t be stuck in a life where I have deal with someone does nothing
Good for MOM , as fast as she got the ball rolling she must have been expecting some crazy out of him
Story 2: I'm tired of people that insist on having a biological child in order to connect to a child. 😠😡 He's an idiot!
His selfishness is just... I hope OP leaves and never returns! Glad she got the restraining order and got out of there
Same here! I'm so tired of people who hate their partner's children! If you can't accept that your partner's children are a package deal, then DON'T date single parents!
2nd story- leave him! Any man that feels that way about his significant others child, is not worth being with! He tried to control you by trying to remove implant. This behavior will escalate! Get out now!
OPs story about his depressed wife hits extremely, uncomfortably close to home. Thank you for sharing it. It is an eye opener.
The list of actionable items is very good. And, listening/analysing/realising their positive potential, made me realise they ARE possible to do! Thank you, again!
She failed you and she wanted to leave you stood up for yourself and she said she wanted to come back I wouldn't call that a failure I would call them growing a pair
Touchy subject. Op did the right thing. He's not the idiot. She did right by getting another therapist. Op should have left him right than and there. It seems if her mother didn't help. Where would she be?! She needs therapy to get a back bone. Well damn, ex lost his mind. It's so crazy how there was no red flags. ✌️ good afternoon, Red.
1st story, my heart goes out to OP! She left believing the therapist when he said that her husband was depressing her. She left and now husband is realizing with her gone but he is no longer depressed. That saying? "Don't set yourself on fire just to keep someone else warm". This definitely has advice, a lesson and meaning for OP.
The boyfriend with the box cutter is DANGEROUS. NEVER GO BACK!
My eyes actually got stuck, they had rolled back in my head so far. They say you can’t spank fools, but this old boy needs a whoopin ’.
Story1... I don't blame him either....and honestly she already made a HUGE step and that's 1.admitting fault, 2. being completely rational despite how hard those truths hurt, 3. Apologizing and asking for couples therapy ontop of her new therapist. She clearly understands how badly her depression was... and took the steps to change it just through communication alone...and then backed it up with the actions her husband needed to see from her.
Story 1, OP's wife treated him like a slave that she abused with mental & emotional manipulation for almost 7 years. She deserves to be required to serve OP as a slave with no rights, freedoms nor opportunities to enjoy life for at least half of the time she caused that on him to prove that she understands how badly she treated him and how remorseful she is as a gesture of good faith in hopes for a clean slate and 2nd chance afterwards.
Intractable depression is awful. Therapists are not enough. A psychiatrist can keep prescribing medicine until they can get it right.
She should go on disability and stay out of any relationships until well.
Sounds like she has a lot of people on her side 🤷🏽♂️ she should be able to get the support she needs without op
@@cindybidwellglaze7698 guess what sending her to the streets would cure her quite quickly
He doesn't owe her anything she owes him 6 years
RAN, DO NOT WALK..RUN as far away from that man that just said he hates your son & could never love him like his own!! Way way to many 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Story 2: As soon as I heard the line "He sees my ex in my son" I was like yeah, no, this is not going to go well. If I was her right at the moment, I'd tell the guy his wait for having kid together and the wedding day just got extended by another year as I would not deal with the obvious favoritism that will happen when "his" kid will be born. The fact it got worse when he tried to remove the birth control himself in a very unsanitary and dangerous way just solidified the fact that this relationship should end immediately.
After the Update: I'm glad she got out, has a very supportive family, and her mom is the bad-ass mvp making sure that her daughter does everything necessary to ensure that her daughter and grandson is protected and safe. I hope everything goes well and she doesn't have to deal with her ex ever again. Men like that only deserve to be alone and miserable.
Edit: Oof, the fact her child doesn't know what is fully going on kind of hurts me. I understand he might be too young to understand, but he should be told that her and "papa" had a very bad fight and papa tried to hurt his mom so papa can not be around for awhile, and that will be looking for a new place to live once mom know that they will be safe.
I think the therapist did this dude a solid knowing the story.
Wait, so how was the fiancé gonna lie about OP having an open wound in her arm where her birth control is when she wakes up? Say that a knife fell in there? That r-ship is pretty much dead.
Story 2: So many red flags, you could hold a coronation!! After divorcing I didn’t see anyone for two years, because I had a young child! Single parents, please vet people intensely because you never know WHY someone is around you!!💯🙋🏾♀️✊🏾❤️
I'm the wife who resonates with the above stories. I'm working my way through my journey, but now it's going upwards. Time makes a fool of us all..
Story 2: want some advice OP? Run. Like. Hell. Once your SO gets used to cutting into your skin, who knows where that box cutter goes next. This is the beginning of a horror movie
She is cheating on you she knows what time you leave for work told her her male friends I bet if you left the house and came back 20 minutes later there would be a man in your bed
The moment he said that he did not feel like a father figure to her son, should have let her know she had no business with him.
1st story: Okay, so let me get this straight OP was denied Intimacy from his wife, came home to a dirty home because his wife was depressed, couldn't have friends because his wife kept calling, and then when his wife went to a therapist said the words "All OP wife's problems started after she married OP" and wanted a divorce.
OP after being put through all that BS said okay and give her what she wanted.
OP's wife has a Pikachu face and goes Oh wait this isn't what I wanted? (Reaches out to OP's parents, her parents, and friends to make him reconsider because she figured all the things OP brought to the table she would need to step up for...)
OP's family and Parents telling the OP to reconsider.
The wife says she'll change and OP accepts...
Okay, Am I the only one who thinks OP is making a mistake?
I mean he accepts six years of absolute bullshit of being a more of simping butler instead of what he made his vows for as husband, Wanting a divorce when a therapist said it was his doing for her depression, and just at the last moment while OP is near the end of a nightmare with his eyes finally are open his wife decides they should call off the divorce because she can change.
She gets mad (or scared) when OP says no and decides to cry to everyone who would listen to friends, family, and in-laws who ignored what OP went through to give her another chance because she said she could change and the therapist was wrong and all is forgiven.
Wow, talk about the lack of accountability by OP's wife and those enabling her. because if this divorce went through they figured out that with OP stepping away they would be left with the wife and dealing with the fallout just because he said enough after starting to see the truth he's being used.
In the end, OP is just making a mistake, but this is his choice I just hope for his sake he keeps his eyes open.
Do you know how it feels to have that much depression. No you don’t
@@romonagauthier2611 man i have been in a severe depression, and what he is describing is more of a woman using him as a slave....
@@randomgirl8684 Good morning, and Thank you for showing that I wasn't blind about what I was hearing.
@@romonagauthier2611 As a matter of fact I do, so your narrative is quite invalid my dear.
Plus I know the difference between someone who refuses to take their meds and accept therapy and someone who's just hiding in their room as their husband goes to work and does the cleaning as soon as he gets home.
But let's agree for the sake of discussion that when she did go to a therapist (who only went on what the wife provided) gave that BS analysis of "It's your husband's fault you're depressed since the marriage began." and wanted divorce afterwards but she wasn't expecting him to agree either was she.
However, instead of accepting a non-costed divorce and going their separate ways, OP's wife realized that if he left the lifestyle she grew accustomed to go bye-bye resulting in her moving rather quickly to cry to both OP's and her parents along with their friends to oppose and convince OP's to reconsider his choice about rather suddenly don't you think.
nice talking with you by the way if was the situation was reversed you would be singing a very different tune, wouldn't you?
Not all depression is the same. Some is much worse than others or manifests in different ways (my ex-wife's showed up as agoraphobia, which made grocery shopping a nightmare since it was basically done at race-walking pace). But a very common trait is losing track of when you've last taken your meds, then feeling grumpy about HAVING to take them and that it's everybody else's fault anyway... The key thing that will help these two either make or break their reconciliation is him making sure she takes her meds on time, every day - nothing will work without that (or they could try blister packs where the pharmacist puts the meds into pill trays with the days and dates on them). That, and him not enabling her and giving her some slack with the chores, etc. Otherwise she'll lose momentum in getting back to being someone worth being married to. They might need to see a therapist about sexual dysfunction though - anti-depressants can kill libido even mid-lovemaking, which is depressing all by itself.
I'm surprised he hasn't got PTSD after all this.
People don't choose to have depression but they can choose to try and dig their way out of it with meds, structure in their daily life and discipline to keep at it even when it feels hopeless.
I have dealt with depression as early as 8 yrs old. Didn't get medical help til I was 41 when my husband literally picked me up and taking me to an emergency psychiatrist. He was extremely supportive. We had been married for 16 years. I did the hard part of therapy and the therapy was able to get ne cleaning, cooking, Taking care of our three daughters and working. My husband was the best. We were married 31 years when he passed away. That was 10 years ago. No one could ever be as good as he was.
Story 1:should of gotten therapy. I good doctor for himself only then he realise what he realised when she just left n blamed him so divorce would be answer.
guy in first story needs to file for divorce. that wasnt a marriage it was the 5th level of hell.
1st Story why was the house in a mess if she claimed to be in the bed all day.
He has the right to live and be happy.
Story 2: OP getting your mom involved at the beginning was the best thing ever. It is a good thing there is a setup in place if he finds you at a family location, but what about in public. He sounds nuts. Buy some mace or stun gun and always have it at hand. You can buy the kind on key ring. It's a shame you can never feel safe. Your son may be young, but you need to tell him not to go anywhere with ex or anyone unless they give code word or phrase. Good luck.
So a guy tells you looking at your son makes him angry, he doesn't love him and wants to replace him Asap. And your arguing that yes, but not now...laddie...can't, I can't even.
last story, run don't walk away from this guy. Not only is he willing to put your life at risk, if you should have another child, your son will probably suffer at his hands, perhaps not physically but emotionally.
RUN! RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! He's dangerous
I was there 20 years ago, I didn't jump through the loops to "to show her, her therapist and rest of the goons in her "feel good squad".
The result of all that, they all said divorce him, and she did. Funny thing is that all the issues she blamed me for, all followed right along with her.
Don't give in to her issues just let her drown in her own mess.
Mr. Reddit, the tone and timbre of your voice makes you sound snarky, and skeptical. But it suits the genre. Your presentation has always been excellent. Please don't change. You're always good.
Good afternoon Mr Reddito
Op has to live his life the way it makes him happy Other people shouldn't interfere with something they know nothing about.He would end up depressed himself and waste his life unhappy . It's his life,and he should be finding his happiness and what he needs in his life
As someone who has battled bipolar depression from the day i was born i can tell you that what OPs wife was doing was giving into and feeding her depression and yes as much as he was hoping he was helping he was in fact enabling her to keep feeding it.
I am so glad that he set down a large list of realistic goals she had to meet before they would even talk about staying together. The reality is that living with depression like that and letting it take over your life can be a monumental hole to climb out of. And at least for me it took a life altering event that forced me to have a talk with myself where i had to make the choice to try and get better.
I know i will need medication and help for my entire life. I also know that since i accepted this and chose life that despite the bad days it has gotten better. I had to be the one to choose this though. I hope OPs wife continues to choose life over depression even if they dont get back together.
Story one sounds like the old job I had...smdh
OP1: I'm glad OP gave his wife a 2nd chance after she took responsibility for her own actions (or lack of).
Well, we pledge “ in sickness and health”. I like that they didn’t start living together yet. Keep to your list!
I love him! He gets angry whenever he looks at my son. He tried to do a medical operation on me against my consent, while I'm knocked out. I'm so confused as to what to do...
My wife does the same crap. Instead of adjusting the behavior that's causing the issue she feels guilty and behaves even worse. the answer is as simple as changing your behavior
Depression is a very hard thing to deal with. Most time it’s impossible to show love to your SO when you can’t even show love to yourself because of the depression. Hitting rock bottom like the risk of losing the one you love can help get your butt into gear and start working towards fixing your depression. Smiling, listening to music you love, watching motivating videos, doing hobbies you once used to like doing and many other things helps. Faking it till you make it can help you too. Even if you’re sad smiling releases hormones that trick your body into thinking you’re happy. Depression is a chemical imbalance so even if there isn’t technically anything in your life to cause such depression you can still suffer from it.
do not have her back biggest mistake you will ever make shes using you wake up do not take her back!!!!!
He will never treat your son as his even if you give him his own child.
I've suffered with depression and I told my soon to be husband this n what I struggle with when I am in a state. He's still with me. Depression never really leaves. Its always there. Cleaning was my struggle. He knows if I'm struggling to clean I'm down but do far it's not happened. Having a strong support system is the most important thing. She threw that away. Them keeping a strict schedule is the best way to prevent a downward spiral.
Story 1: I think OP made a loving but realistic decision, set real boundaries, asked her to make significant and lasting changes that would lead to better health. I hope she gets better and they can have a happy life together. But if not, OP will know he did what he could. Story 2: if you aren't ready to commit to life together in marriage, why would you demand to have a child together? She is fortunate she dodged a bullet. He has no respect even for her bodily integrity, much less for her right to make decisions about her life.
Story 1: What a doormat.
Six years of voluntary slavery!?
She was too comfortable in her misery and fine with seeing him suffer.
Story 2: This is why pre-marriage counseling is needed. But the fact she’s even considering taking him back is making me thing she’s in no way the best judge of character. The way he spoke of her son was enough to break up.
Story two op should leave her fiancé. She should have put him out as soon as he told her he didn’t like her son. When someone shows you who they are believe them. You can’t love someone more than your self and your child. Op has a great support system.
I had depression for almost 20 years, and I understand how hard it is doing things. My partner of 4 years are very understanding and helped a lot, he kept our apartment clean and gives me emotional support. But I know I shouldn't depend on anyone, so I got help and work to provide for us and my medications. I love taking him to dinners and vacations to show my appreciation (I still unable to do housework but can afford cleaners). I found out later that the reason I got here is because I had purpose (him) and wanted to be a better and independent person to not burden him. Sometimes we need another person to be a reason to fight harder.
People like her she know how to pick them! Why he stayed so long, GOOD FOR HIM I HOPE HE HAPPY NOW.
Sometimes people who are depressed don't show signs of deep depression until they feel they are in a safer environment. Sometimes things don't work out and it's better to part permanently.
Nobody's taking care of her like OP did so of course she realizes she made a "mistake"
Story 2: git the heck out of that relationship!
He said he didn't like your son !!!!! how can you even think of staying with that jerk
Aaaaaaaaaah what he said about your kid should had been enough to kick him out
I was married for 42 years to someone was at first just made snide remarks. He gained up to 600 lbs. I was miserable, I couldn't even smile or have anything to do with my family. He tried to sale stuff to our children when they came to visit. After a while he left me with no money, house being foreclosed and two very damaged knees, from where he injured me on purpose. I also found out he was married to another woman. He divorced me. I left the state, he came looking for me with a gun. I thank God he didn't find me. He's gone now living with a friend across the country. I am happy living on my own.
So sorry about your experience. I am glad that you are now happy.
No people can only take so much!!!
Sounds like he’s still taking care of her constantly. He’s in charge of her meds. He’ll be keeping her on track. This won’t work. If she’s not changing on on her own they will be back to the lowest low very quickly.
How was he going to explain the blood you’d find in the morning? Not to mention the probable ensuing infection from a non-sterile “procedure”? ?!?!
I hope you file a police report! The Lee’s an old saying: “When someone shows you who they are: believe them!
This is the type of person who would try to manipulate you into giving up your son, taking him without your knowledge to put him up for adoption or even end your child’s existence. He’d be the type to alienate from your family & friends.
I love the way you animate the stories.
1st story, OP if you take her back, then your a fool. Stand up for yourself.
Holy moly!!! 2nd story is like a Lifetime movie!!!
story1.....so true. i dated a woman who became bipolar and had depression and it was hell. if i even hear depression i run the other way. no more mental issues at all. ill tell OP what my mom told me that made me finally walk away. "if u have to ruin your life to save hers, its not worth it to anyone or even fair to anyone".
So glad u made the right decision. God Bless u an watch over U an your Son.
Story 1: I also suffer from depression, and at times, it can be very debilitating, so I understand the wife. I also understand the husband, feeling like an unrewarded slave.
If she sticks to her medication, adjusting doses and types, and they both stick to the plan that husband laid out, then this will work. Kudos to husband for giving her the second chance, and please, make sure that you both stick to what you laid out as the conditions. Good luck to both of you, and Happy New Year.
No chicka needs to stay gone. She should have thought of that when she took her exit. No respect what so ever. No contact , no reciprocating feelings, being a lazy bum. What kind of relationship is that? She didn't appreciate what he gave her .No efforts on her part. She justed wanted a servant..6 years is way too long to not pull it together. That's not how a relationship works it's a two way street it's her own dang fault. Why she suddenly said something after two years of dating? No communication when she left. What was she doing? I bet she seeing another man and that didn't work out because he too got sick of her crap. Now she begging oh hubby back ? Maybe her mom trying to send her packing too? She neglected him. He should go ahead and divorce her silly butt. She made get own bed she needs to lay in it.
A mistake is when you do something wrong but think its right. Cheating takes planning.
Story 1 - Don't take her back. You spent six years on her and that's enough. Story 2 - Don't know what got into your ex. Maybe he always was psycho and just covered it well. You have a great supportive family, you're lucky you have them. Get that restraining order! 😻😁😻
This is how I wish most domestic abuse situations happened - at the first major red flag, she gets out, files for an ex parte and gets somewhere safe. Good on OP and thank the gods for her support network
Why would anyone want to intentionally have children without being married!
Op # 2 needs to run very fast!
Story 1: Op is like many people who marry, for better or worse. However, he had the wherewithal to be realistic in his expectations in the marriage. He gave her a plan that’s workable! And if SHE’S serious, she’ll follow it to the letter. And if she’s feeling overwhelmed, talk to op and let it be known in real time! Because if she doesn’t, it’ll be back to square one!💯🙋🏾♀️
OP was smart. I like the conditions he set, they seemed really healthy. If she can follow all of those, and they can build on that, it seems like they can be happy. At least he will always be able to say he tried.
You go, Amber Heard!!!
Story 1 RUN
Story 2 RUN that is a whole new level of crazy