How To Let Go of a Coping Mechanism - Teal Swan -
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2016
- Completion Process
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Stress is serious business. A human being cannot thrive in an atmosphere of stress. When a human being goes into a state of distress, wellbeing immediately declines. And so, it is only natural that we should want to make a change to the situation as fast as we possibly can. But often the situation that is causing us distress cannot be eradicated. It is out of our control to eradicate the stressor. So we are forced to manage with it, deal with it and adapt to it. We adapt to distress through coping mechanisms. But those coping mechanisms that save us, also become out prison. In this episode, Teal tells us how to let go of a coping mechanism.
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When your coping mechanism is teaching you about coping mechanisms.
hahaha well said!
Mine is buying and consuming self-help literature about how to triumph over my coping mechanisms
Ahahahah watching spiritual videos is one of my coping mechanisms as well lol
Lol😂
Self awareness acheieved
"Softening instead of tensing when pain arises, ultimate checkmate move" teal swan, you are utterly brilliant. How do you see these things ✔
She really had to fix herself. From the deepest unconscious depths
She has extra sensory abilities and travels out of the body and speaks with beings from different dimensions to get solutions to these problems.
Plus she can quite literally see and hear emotions and thought forms and energy patterns with her eyes Plus, she's smart and has first hand experience.
@@apurvadeshpande2366Would you mind giving a source of that info? (Asking for real)
"Help your past self to escape"
I'm in tears right now, exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
I find that a coping mechanism is usually linked to a rationalization. The ego has a strong desire to emphasize where it is and because of that remains attached to the identity it claims. I've found that letting go of the story is powerful for no longer identifying with the coping mechanism. Great vid Teal.
And how do you let go of the story, Aaron?
bro your life is filled with coping mechanism
@@humanyoda stop repeating the story in your head. Say your I am. Learn to let go because being stuck only makes the pain last and it’s bound to resurface take that as a sign your body is telling you to pray meditate and stay positive and optimistic.
@@theuser4773 yours isnt? mine is
@@humanyoda by choosing to let it go
"A coping mechanism is emotional morphin" just brilliant!!!
This video legitimately changed my life. Thank you Teal Swan.
When the student is ready, the teacher will come.
how's the process going? well done :)
legitimately?
If you find yourself trying to "understand" or "analyze" intellectually her teachings, it's not going to work.
Just have an open mind and listen, and something inside you will move or feel or inspire to do something watching
Teal's teachings. That's the insight you should follow. Bless you everybody!
9:10 I went into fight or flight looking for a wasp that wasn't there!
that was seriously frightening
Very elegantly done Teal. It strikes me that one needs to engage REAL INTELLIGENCE when listening to Teal's messages, and listen to them more than once. If one does not listen to the entire message carefully, thoughtfully and thoroughly, it is possible to misunderstand; and then we see those who have not engaged objective intelligence attack the message and more foolishly the messenger, because they have only half heard the message and consequently misunderstood. Teal's words rarely come sugar coated which is why those who can only cope with sweets reject them. Teal is not for everyone, but those who are blessed through her, treasure her greatly.
Very well put
"Soften into discomfort." She's got something there. And a life that is lived coping is no life at all - that's what I've always felt and experienced.
I legit reached over for cookies next to me and just at that second she said "when you think about binge eating..." fml
"legit reached"? In what language is that?
humanyoda it’s English
Of all Teal Swans' teachings, this one helped me as one of the best. She is absolutely right here. I may well come back and watch this again and again. Thanks Teal!
One of the most ground-breaking, eye-opening, useful, crucial-to-well-being-to-understand videos I've ever seen! THANK YOU, heartfully❤
I've been a victim of this for most of my life, thank you Teal
I absolutely resonate with this! In Theta Healing we use a very similar process we call 'Digging' aka 'Belief Work' , where we tap in to the subconscious, go back to the first memory and lift the trauma, and complete the lessons/benefits from that time, + many other beautiful sprinkles 🥰 This has worked wonders on my addictions and escapism 🤗🥰 yay to growth and accepting our emotions
I've just discovered you Teal Swan, but I already love you. I found this just when I needed it.
Gosh. I finally understand why people (myself included) cut. I hope I can learn more about pain in the future because it really isn't bad. It's just a sign to help us humans to remain healthy. Thank you so much for this video!
I swear every time I have a breakdown, your next video is about that breakdown.
And you were right, about how anything I do will lead me back to looking within. Being aware of it, made me realize how often this happens.
Thank you for all that you do.
Also, I had been trying to do coping mechanisms while being aware, and it does work! Slowly for me, but it works. I heard it from Bentinho first.
i TOTALLY agree.. spiritual bypassing
All coping mechanisms are avoidance of our pain
basically my whole life is a coping mechanism :S
lol
me too!
Yep
exactly what i was thinking when she was naming some exemples 😅
This made me laugh,im coping with this comment
Weirdly enough, obsessively watching spiritual videos and refreshing social media for "answers" or "signs" has become toxic. I presume at some point it was or could feel helpful, but also, I recognize this as the ego's attempt to keep seeking validation and respite - while a larger part of me sees this, and how at times it only serves to propagate a sense of confusion, disorientation and distrust in myself. While often, there may not even BE an issue. It could all be that I am assuming something is wrong... or perhaps my body senses trauma and assumes a threat based on past conditioning, to which my coping mechanism has been to obsess over internet spirituality to seek answers because at times I just do NOT know how to handle the uncertainty or resolve the feeling I am having.
@@menthol1234 It IS the voice of others in the brain, it's habitual thinking! That's why I'd get a revelation, I'd feel trusting, and then a thought would go "but wait, how are we sure?" and then I'd go looking for more confirmation... see, that's why these days it's so important for me to trust myself more and regain trust and the ability to listen to myself when I am lead to something helpful or enriching. Just trust that it's all working out and stop stressing about needing constant confirmation and answers.
Wow I resonate with all of this. Seeking validation from different teachers and practices leading to less self trust. I don’t know what triggered the beginning of my journey, I just knew I wanted to feel happier and in a way the practices I was doing were a bandaid to the pain. I think someone who didn’t experience validation growing up can seek that in numerous ways in adulthood
Still investigating the ROOT of my sleeping through commitments and bing-eating when overwhelmed/ feeling anxiety coping mechanism u__u
Whenever I find myself slipping into denial, I turn on this video. It hurts but I know it is what my awareness and my future self needs. Thank you
Great advice
Yup gotta keep it real
What you resist persists so coping mechanisms are essentially resisting pain. Softening to the pain and figuring out what the cause of that pain is a better way to go through life.
I just bought this book "The Completion Process" on Amazon for $10. Best ten bucks I've ever spent!!!
I am at a loss of words sometimes to the things you talk about. This stuff is so profound yet you make it sound so simple by how good you are at explaining and presenting the information. You are amazing! I very much admire what you do. Thank you. You have no idea how you have helped me change my life. And whats crazy is I didnt have to sit for years talking to a shrink in order to sort it out!! You are great! Thank you again!!
9:11 the mosquito flies next to your left ear, 9:18 he’s dead
*headphones required*
😂😂😂
You are light, you are peace, you are wisdom. Thank you Teal for being you. Namaste.
I'm so loving, how I feel so absolutely understood by you.
I see now how this makes sense - that I don't want a hug, when I fight against the pain- a hug mostly starts making me cry - and that was what I was fighting against as a kid. Like " see you don't causing me pain -whatever you do to me it won't hurt me anymore "
It was in my schooldays, for getting a kindergarten teacher - when I noticed, that there are a lot of people together, having problems to solve, themselves -
I saw you first -when I already began my way to awareness - and hell there where a lot of pain- and you where my useful friend -took me by my hand - and walk with me way
No pain no gain. You need pain to understand there is danger/harm out there. Pain is feedback as she stated, but to me its also like your mind/body hitting the gas and but you have to steer away from something bad or toward something good. Use the energy from pain/fear/etc. to drive you toward positive results. It's gotten me throught the toughest times. Unfortunately I coped also. And this coping lead to a breakdown 5 years ago. A slow process of worry lead to lack of sleep which lead to not eating then basically snapping and "uncorked" my painful memories and made me unable to control my feelings and left me with anxiety, panic,fear and I am constantly triggered by objects, places, thoughts, anything! My feelings are exaggerated. Things that were easy to deal with can cause intense anxiety or panic. I'm afraid to be by myself. I feel so alone. I'm 41yrs old and I was as tough as they come. I believe its PTSD. I have some hope because of a treatment I believe can help me I just hope I can get it and that it works. Great video
My inner child brought me here (:
sunraaa lots of kisses ^_^
Thank You so much Teal. I Love Your mind, I Love Your humor, I Love Your darkness, I Love Your conscious analysis, You help yourself and others to understand life's issues from a (primarily) mental level in these videos... because We Are all in our precious HEADS!! Its an absolutely necessary step for many of us. Those whom criticize Your methods/approach are dealing with low self-worth (arent we all?) and simply 'reciting' You and not getting good results because no one wants to be preached to, they want to be connected with from the heart. They have not embodied the teaching so others cannot receive it. A different issue entirely. Why blame You? If they had truly integrated their minds, they would honor and respect the step of mind and its valid need for innerstanding and cultivation. Let's point our gentle fingers inwards Angels.. Lots of Self-Loving to do around here. You're a badass Teal. And they are just upping Your Love mastery/embodiment and Mine. Hugs and Aloha from Hawaii
Gratitude can be a big coping mechanism. Especially forced gratitude.
This video has literally blown my mind. After watching so many videos from Teal this makes so much sense in me now. I am very grateful I got to see it today and I am shocked in a good way. Thanks a lot, I love you Teal, honestly.
I love it when I pause the video to write down and process what is being said....then the next thing I listen to is what she says next....lol....its funny but it also helps me to trust myself and realize the answers are within. They always have been....one of my coping mechanisms as an adult in relationships is to run far from them when things got painful...i just realized remembered that as a kid i used to run away from home to avoid getting a punishment....it was a way to deal or cope with the physical and emotional abuse I felt.i.e. pain.... in my current relationship while I kept trying to run I finally stopped running and decided to face the pain...i was able to leave not because i was running away from but finally seeing how unhealthy it truly was. making this connection immediately made me breakdown emotionally in tears....i got to see it and release it.
Teal this is so on spot. Thank you so much. I am bringing more and more awareness to all of this and I know this is the beginning of a wild and real healing journey leading to me being who I really am, authentic
absolutely love this! Teal swan is what gets me through the days
While this is the first of your videos that I've viewed, I feel your insights are the most thoughtful, well-rounded, valid and practical that I've come across. Thank you for sharing. I'm very glad I found your channel
This is amazingly enlightening. Thank you Teal for helping me to bring this up to my awareness.
Teal i'm 52 years old and i've been working on myself self growth and spiritual ways of living and i've seen soooo many therapist et healers and technics.... And i was still suffering lost not understanding why and how.... AND THAN i stumbled on one of your videos and FINALLY i see clearly i FEEL my truth. I am connecting now to my self for real and i thank you from all my cells!! Thank you for beeing YOU all of you. When you speak all of me is understanding vibrating in the knowing. I feel seen understood validated and my body feels aloud to be simply be. I have so much self healing to do and i want to reconnect with other humans one day...
as·cet·i·cism
/əˈsedəˌsizəm/
noun
severe self-discipline and avoidance of all forms of indulgence, typically for religious reasons.
I admit, I had to look it up.
What Teal is saying about spiritual practices being coping mechanisms is SO SO SO SO SO very true!!!
Teal's dead on in what she's saying. It's so easy to escape our own lives by hiding out in "some higher secret practice" that's spiritual. I myself HAVE DONE THIS!!!! For many years! I am NOT doing this now, but I have. I used spiritual practices to justify my own irresponsible actions and my not facing anything. I've made messes that I refused to even SEE let alone deal with. And I justified it by saying my practices were more important.
I remember a Roshi in Chicago once being asked about a koan by a student. Roshi simply looked at the student and said something like, "Steve, you have a job you hate, you're alienated from your children, and your wife is on the verge of divorcing you. And yet you want me to give you the answer to this koan?!? YOUR LIFE IS THE KOAN!!!!"
BTW, the Roshi's name was RIchard Langolis.
u know what makes me feel better? Teal's words. Thank you so much for your videos.
pure brilliance Teal - thank you!!!
Been following Teal for a few years now and always find her videos helpful :) exactly the kind of forward thinking ideas the world needs right now. Thank you so much for teaching me how to discover myself, Teal. SO much love coming from me and my family
I googled and found a full list of coping mechanisms and after reading it I really had to soften down, luckily I knew how now. I took again contact with words that do not make part from my daily vocabulary and I commit to analyse and work with each coping mechanism. After all this years of life, I now discover that I'm made of copying mechanisms over 95%. I can't even have an opinion without being judgemental about myself, but I really wish that the idea of knowledge would be more underlined and bolded into children, students mind, adults etc. Good luck to everyone who's working on this now!
Teal,
you saw me
thank you
I love you
i love this too
I love to, and maybe it is you!
Oh wow. I really needed this this week ❤ thank you Teal! I love you! you've saved my life!!
"Pain is not a threat, rather a feedback mechanism *alerting* us to a threat."
Teal- your genius is transformative, eye opening, and awakening. You're awesome and amazing!! 💛
Wow thank you so much. For giving this awareness to all of us. The awareness and truth of why we do that coping mechanism. Great job!
Thank you Teal!
your ideas are blowing my mind every time...i wish you the best!
I'm so grateful to you 💛 🙏
I did get the completion process, I haven't even read it yet... but I have quit smoking 🚬.. just from what I've learned from watching your videos. I cry a lot. I mean.. a lot. Ugh. I have been suppressing my emotions since I was a little kid. I don't want to feel like this anymore 😞 😪
I feel like my life is passing me by and I'm not able to enjoy it fully. I think I need to attend a workshop of yours.. and I would love that.
Thank you, Teal.
Bubble is burst! Thank you! So much to think over.
Anyone else who was brought away from spirituality as a result of this realisation? After I noticed I wasn't as logical as I hoped I was, all of my beliefs went under scrutiny, a rigorous one I must add, and as these illogical (but necessary to survive at the time) beliefs were exposed, I was lost for some time, like my whole world collapsed on its head. It was a terrifying but humbling experience. Now I'm rarely that sure of anything, (maybe this too is a coping mechanism) but this way I'm more open to learning and hearing other perspectives, and I know that it's okay if I'm not perfectly logical (expecting myself to be perfectly logical is an illogical expectation, given that I too am a human).
Thank you for this enlightening video, I wish I had found it sooner.
You are truly an Angel, this is absolutely incredible...so so helpful thank you!!
Direct , authentic, useful!! Thanks a lot
Always right in time... thank you so much
Love this video Teal, thank you so much!!
I Love you Teal Swan. You are such a blessing to my life. 💞
Thank you! Love and light
What an AMAZING video! Thank you, Teal!
You can't take appropriate action while in pain.
Pain itself really is the problem.
This is maybe one of your most important videos! At least for me ☺️ everything becomes clearer in that bigger context. Thank you!! :)
I LOVE your lipstick color and shirt! It makes your skin look so bright!!
Thanks, your videos are gold!
What an emotional wake up call this video is!! It reminds me of the video Teal has the coincides with this video pretty well, the video, Emotional Wake Up Call....After I write here, I'm going back to that video to listen to what she mentions there...for the more you awaken, most likely the more you recognize the coping mechanisms have become a part of life, for a way to avoid/cope with/deal with stress...for I've become recently very aware of a threat going on in my life that has caused a reaction from me to that threat, a reaction I realize that has been nothing but a coping mechanism...until I realize now, that everything I have been doing or attempting to do, has been directly related to being nothing more than a coping mechanism to that very threat.....
Being blackballed by people that I had been close to in my original family environment, had been the most excruciating experience of my life, and I had learned to cope as a child, through coloring, drawing pictures, and trying to make everyone around me happy, and as a way to heal the very blackballing from happening....I took that coping strategy and turned it into a career, where currently I have a degree in interior design, and have been creating harmonious environments through color, placement (space planning) and materials...for over 20 years...
For me, coping turned into a real desire, for the desire to create a harmonious environment is always within me, and comes from a deep, deep desire....
I still have the people in my past blackballing me to this day. They are hell bent on treating me as the 'evil child' they did when I was younger...
The only person on the face of the earth that has provided me with guidance, healing, and a clear path through the emotional pain of that is Teal Swan.
To see or hear people try and blackball Teal Swan, gets a real rise out of me, knowing from personal experience, what that really feels like...
Going around and saying people are 'evil' and trying to blackball them, is a real epidemic in our society...where there seems to be a lack of awareness regarding discernment. Teal mentions this in her video with Ralph Smart....
Anyone told they were an 'evil child' in childhood, or treated as 'difficult' or 'bad' or with any other judgments, read the book titled, 'Childism'-Confronting Prejudice Against Children' by Elisabeth Young-Bruehl. This is a must read for why as a child, you learned to cope with the child prejudice you experienced..
I experienced so much child prejudice as a child, and so much emotional torment and torture, as well as physical abuse, that went along with that...that coping was the only way to survive....
Finding Teal, and receiving her guidance, and from a place of understanding that she has been exactly where I have been, has been a blessing to me in my life...
Thank you especially for this one!
I so much like this video, thank you Teal for explaining everything so clearly. Internally I know this so good but l could never express it in words. You’re an amazing teacher!!! And your videos are precious lessons for me. Wish l’ll meet you one day in person 💝 l am grateful for having you in my life every day. Love you 🌸
Wow. This is amazing. Thank you so much for this video!
This Helps Alot,Thanks Teal
I hear your genuine vibes, thank you
So glad to have found you. Absolutely loving your videos. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
Amazingly clear! Thank you x
i cant help but smile after your videos, you have intense wisdom teal! and I am honestly grateful for finding you (:
I Love you Teal 🍃 That blooper at the end was awesome!
I love all your videos and wise words and advice. keep up the amazing work.
Thank you this video has opened my eyes and mind
exactly what I needed today thank you teal :D
Very powerful and helpful...I now have a lot of good things to reflect on as I move forward. Thanks
I found spirituality after my son passed away...all this makes a lot of sense. Thank you once again, Teal...x
Your videos are exactly what I've been looking for! And Yes, I'm understanding how good you are. Extra footage at end of video. LOL.
I love your videos bcuz you break everything down so ppl can really understand and recognize the behaviours you are talking about, I can always relate. I'm assuming the several videos you posted of ppls stories and how you helped them was a response to the hate videos and I think that is very classy !
Thank you Teal!💖💐
Thank you for this, realla hands on and clear!
thank you for showing me this
Thank you angel, this video comes to me at exactly the right moment 🙏💖🦋
i am so grateful i've discovered you channel, Teal. thank you for your work
thank you ,very helpful.
Awesome. Thank you!
Right on schedule as always, Teal. You're getting a Gold Star.
Wow. You've got it down Teal. Excellent! from someone who has faced and integrated shadow self (selves). It isnt easy to share this knowledge but you have a gift. Brilliant.
Your right about this. I've done this before and I stopped using. Although I dont do yoga and chakra meditation no more. I feel being thankful for my feelings no matter if they are good or bad is a way I use my God given conscience to make my own decisions about how i want to feel.
This is an absolute GEM!!!!!!
So all we have to do is Relax and be ourselves? I nearly cried watching this. I’ve been running from Tension in my Body my whole life and have always used Alcohol to cope. Ran away from A.A because I felt controlled by people in that fellowship.
Thank you so much
When watching Teal Swan videos is your coping mechanism...
Bravo! Amazing video as always!!