The problem is he left someone to poverty. There's an unwritten moral obligation, just like the video says, to leave someone better off than you found them. Karma has a way to turn the tables no matter your age.
George, what a jerk move. That Lady spent her best years with you. She does not only deserve an explanation, she deserves a good financial help for her future life. Even if there is no legal obligation, she really deserves it.
The problem is he left someone to poverty and returns to a first world country. There's an unwritten moral obligation, just like the video says, to leave someone better off than you found them. Karma has a way to turn the tables no matter your age.
George I am 1 Billion % with you. If you had married a Japanese Lady with some self respect and decency you would Probably Be Feeling like a King and Every last man on this planet including Donald Trump being Highly envious of you. Stick to your gu ns Brother! And expose these Filipina Grab All back st abbers for whom they are. Go anywhere and choose any woman but one of those ra t bag Filipina's. Avoid the Philippines if you value your life.
Good wisdom here. The most manly and masculine and responsible thing you can do in relationships is to treat your women well before during and after any relationship. Be a man and don't be a jerk. Simple as that.
I been with mine 6 years total 4 years dating 2 years married. I'm one of the lucky ones I met mine. Wouldn't trade her for all the money in the world she loves fishing, exploring, doing things not sit around and it doesn't always involve spending money. So I'm blessed with my Asawa/Wife . I will say one thing guys find a Province Lady they are down to earth and simple and easy life
@ajw9377 you got you a good Province lady to right ? You can't beat finding and marrying a Province lady. Something about how they were raised and taught by their mother and Aunts and Lola ( grandma) I love her Lola she turned 96 years old and still riding motorcycle 😆 I told her she's my girlfriend ♥️ 😆 she laughs
Mike is right. This guy needs to grow a set. His lack of maturity is evident by the ghosting aspect. If he had 15 or so good years with her, he should have a least set her up to survive on her own. She did give him her best years. This sounds like sexpat behavior. I'm abit surprised by his actions...one would think at age 70 you would have your sheet together.
I like your term "sexpat" Unfortunately, most of these vlogs cater to that lifestyle, including this one. This video should be titled "How to pump and dump a Filipina." because that is basically what he instructs guys to do. "Leave her some money in the bank." "Give her a scooter." etc How about treating them with respect and not using them for temporary sex? That's what a man does and what a man would say to another.
Hi Mike, this is a story I don’t understand. How can a guy like that? It is worse and cheap react like he did. I mean, he is an older guy but he didn’t learn nothing out of life. It really is worse. So sorry for the Philippina.
Thank you Mike for showing us how to be a human being and act like such ...💐💐💐 I wouldn't like to be treated like that and I shouldn't treat anybody like that. Yes, it can be difficult to end a relationship, but we must show respect and empathy to each other honor the time and feeling that have been in between ...
@@mikesphilippineretirement If the woman is left with only physical material possessions (depreciating assets) she is virtually penniless. She only has items she can covert to short-term cash. But she has no long-term path forward financially. Worse, unless he helped pay into her social security account, she will be unprotected in a workplace culture that disposes of women after the age of 35 or so. She can’t start over in the competition for the good jobs. So yes, I use the term penniless. That man financially destroyed this woman! That’s why she was so desperate to hang on. That’s why she was so emotional. She understood all along she was hanging off a cliff & he was her only safety rope….AND HE CUT THE LINE!🤬🤬🤬
@@PhilCherry3 You are correct, all these old men expats go there...don't allow the girl to work...it ruins their future...if they don't take them to their country so they can get the benefiets....in the PH if you are 30+ you wont get a job...life ruined.
Boy meets girl. Both fall in love. Lot bought. House built. House furnished. True love. Baby born. Retirement plans make new piggy bank. Save save save. Boy gets text. Girl wants independence. Girl takes properties, children and vehicles. Man feels stupid. Girl repeats. Man repeats. Both get scammed by sophisticated actors. The beat goes on. And the beat goes on...
What a bullshit move this was. He is giving every foreign male a bad name in the Philippines. Stuff like this spreads. I missed one relationship because the girl I was engaged to was told not to marry a foreigner, because they kill their wives. She got this stuff from her friends who read it in the Philippine newspapers that a foreigner killed his Filipina wife. They ganged on her until she started to believe it, so she left the relationship. This too will get out and make it more difficult for foreigners to find women in the Philippines.
Many Filipinas do NOT accept breakups and they do live their lives to please their families much more than the Foreigner husband. We are Number 3 here after her kids and parents and often other siblings. ONLY George knows why he could no longer continue and that to remain here would have been extremely unpleasant for him
I refuse to judge others, but I would feel obligated to: 1. Talk in person with her to discuss the situation before leaving. 2. Ensure that she is very well off financially. 3. Maintain open dialog after the breakup. I feel obligated to my pets until their last breath. My heart goes out to the lady for being victimized in that way.
Him being a jerk gives all of us a bad reputation. She will talk to her friends and family and word spreads. Sometimes it only takes one bad banana to spoil the whole bunch.
He has every right in the world to break up with her if he chooses to and she has an obligation to act like an adult when he does.So he’s a jerk because she doesn’t know how to conduct herself I don’t think so 🤷
Doesn't affect my reputation. I'm embarrassed by my countrymen all the time but they have no affect on how my in laws view me. This kind of stuff did make it more difficult in the very beginning with them but that didn't last long at all.
I agree with you Mike, he should have been honest with her and at the very least set her up to be better off than when they met. George is making all of us look bad!
This is terrible. And ghosting your girl after 15 years is just downright cruel. Any man who can't go the distance till the bitter end shouldn't tangle with foreign women.
Good morning sir from Winnipeg Beach Winnipeg Manitoba Canada here listing and watching your videos and it breaks my heart to see the action he took towards his girlfriend for many years, It's men like him make it so much harder fir men like me who are looking for serious and committed relationship, I hape she will recover and meet a man who will give her the love she deserved.
Hear this kind of stuff too much lately...these old expats moving there...getting the young one, not allowing them to work the trade up for a new model when they get tired of them...Once these women hit 30 it is nearly impossible to find a job, basically ruined there life. Hope these young ones get smart and stop letting the one foot in the grave old men ruin their lives.
I think we should treat our women the way we want them to treat us. We don't want to be scammed by a Filipina and then put out with the garbage, so let's not do that to them either! You used the right word, Mike! This is indeed cowardly!
When I get back to Dumaguete permanently, let's sit down and talk. I had a Filipina basically steal nine years of my life and would love to share with you the insight I have from actual experience. Oh one more thing, this is not negative it would just be a heads up for those who are contemplating taking their Filipina back to their home country. Again, as with most things, it's about communication.
Mike i can tell you are a good man because of your reaction to George ghosting his poor GF. You and Old Dog Paul are my favorite Php vloggers because you guys have caring hearts.
Thanks Mike! This was another video with very practical, useful and relevant content supported by your firsthand knowledge of this couple. I'm surprised at how many expats zero in on one lady so quickly, but I understand it if they are located in another country with an LDR. Thanks for respecting Filipina's and sharing their perspective on a breakup.
In my opinion, Ghosting is the coward's way out!!! If it were not for Mikes phone call, this woman would have never known the truth. And without knowing the truth, she would have been emotionally crippled for the rest of her life, always wondering what happened to him. This is one cold hearted man. Great job Mike!!!
Every person has to make the best choice for them, sometimes ghosting is the right answer. Maybe the woman is vindictive, gets violent, tries to make false charges against you. It’s better to ghost in that situation.
@@morlandoemtp Ghosting is never the right answer especially not a woman coming from a religious background. In no way shape or form is that the best idea. Unless she cheats on you or does something deceiving then there's no reason for ghosting. You know damn well he couldn't find a woman back home and wasted 15 years of her life for nothing. He's a loser and a coward.
After all that time together it was disrespectful and wrong to end the relationship that way. As you say Mike quite a cowardly way to finish with Maria. I feel for her too.
@@mikesphilippineretirement Yes, but how many want them? Young expats sure don't, and almost all the expats over 40 want a woman under 30, and usually under 25. Plus, with there being "many"...what are their odds of getting into a serious/permanent relationship?
We never really know what happens behind closed doors... for me, Women are their own worst enemy, whether it's money or issues within the relationship, for a 70yr. Old to walkout, clearly something is not right... if he felt the need to just cut her off, so be it.
You are an excellent storyteller Mike. I want to acknowledge that. It’s a gift. I agree 70 is not old. I’m close and I am more capable and vital than almost anytime, plus the maturity, good judgment, wisdom, insight and humility. I’ve had to break up. It is hard. When I first meet I look for emotional stability. Thats very important. Also in the basic human rights a person has the right to change their mind. It takes years to know someone. Sometimes people don’t reveal important things until years later. I’ve had experiences like that. “To thine own self be true”. Honesty with oneself is critical and honesty with a partner is critical. If someone honestly tries many times to break up civilly, and it’s too dangerous or emotionally fearing, then possibly just detaching physically is necessary. We have only one life. We have to live our own life. I agree George could have sent an email letting her know his decision and possibly send her some money to help her for a while like Reekay suggests. Great video.
George is a terrible person. It’s honestly disgusting. If he was done with her after so many years, he at the very least owed her to be honest and tell her the situation straight.
She sounds like a very controlling and manipulating person .some women are crazy ,Rember poor old George had to run away back to the states to get away from her.
There is no excuse for George not knowing how important a relationship is to a Filipina in the Philippines. His actions was being totally disrespectful and heartless to her. After all you cannot ignore that his girlfriend gave him allot of emotional comfort for all of those years which is priceless! Relationships to a Filipina in the Philippines means everything regardless whether it is a local guy or a foreigner. There is no excuse to cut and run without at least leaving her with something to make her life better. No Filipino guy will touch her so she is left alone without even a child for companionship and or emotional comfort. Life is or can be tough in the Philippines!
sounds like a lot of people in the comments have never been in a relationship with a unstable and immature person.George had to leave the country to get away from this person.
I've been in that exact situation. I believe George did it the right. Otherwise she's just gonna keep going and going and he's not even gonna to be able to get out the door. Let alone try to get to the Airport. She's gonna be right on his coat tail until he steps onto the plane. I know it's not the way you would do it. But I believe George did it right. Even if you don't agree with him. He's 70+ years old and didn't want to deal with all the drama even though he probably feels bad about it. He just wanted out.
Good luck! You're in the right place for advice. From what I've seen so far Mike and many of his fans and expat/passport bro brothers have much wisdom and aren't afraid to share it.
I don't think gem are easy to find maybe he could not take her family financial burden we don't know average Filipina family's will cost you money medical emergency funerals etc
@@garrylafferty100 it could be. It could be his health went to isht and he didn't want to burden her. Maybe she was clingy or controlling or whatever. That's not really the point. Him leaving like he did I could possibly even understand that if I knew all the circumstances. What I can't excuse at all is him not firing off an email. Plus mutual people ignoring blocking etc. Maybe you don't think that's shifty but I do. However... everybody could be lying so there is that. 15 years is a long time so I don't think it's that.
If they weren't married it don't count ? It's her fault as well for prolonging nothing ? You don't no everthing he put up with , stay out of folks business what your witnessing is the normal ! Every relationship dosnt end like you and yours
One of the first filipina women I met she was super clingy and she had a temper, not a me but it was there so at one point I had to finally call it quits and she left. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted.
Hi Mike & Janet, OMG, what a sad & tragic story, 🙏🏼🙏🏼😔😔. It doesn’t make any sense, 🤔🤔??? Guys are forever complaining about getting scammed by a Filipina, & having their hearts broken, 💔. Then there’s guys like Reekay (a really cool guy ), that took 5 years, before finding his soulmate. Your friend won the lottery on his first try, with Maria, and blew it!!! It’s like having the winning lottery ticket, not caring, and throwing it away, 😔😔!!! But thank you for sharing, there’s an invaluable lesson to be learned here. If and when you’re lucky enough to find the right woman, treat her right, hold her tight, and never let her go, 🙏🏼🙏🏼😉😉❤️❤️❤️…
I can understand George. I am in a similar situation. I have not been in a relationship for 15 years. I have been here with my girlfriend for 2 years. I have tried to break up many times. She just doesn't understand. There's so many things that come between us that she just can't understand. Every time I try to talk she just starts her yelling. I can definitely see where George is coming from.
Well I can say after a 23 year marriage that was unhealthy, I had to do what was best for ME. Like George, I’m sure he felt boxed in and didn’t need the female tears and drama, his only way out was to leave. I understand where he is coming from, the only thing that sours me….once in the states he should have sent her a civil email telling her it was over and that she should move on, being kind and civil. Then he can live his life in peace and drama free, him not disclosing where he is in the states was a red flag, he doesn’t want her “hunting” him down. My two cents. 😊
I would never heard another woman like that if I was leaving I would let her know I'm not coming back, what he did was not right, this is what gives expats a bad name I'm a bad reputation
He should just tell her in a email. He is not coming back and it's over. He should be a man a let her know what he is going to do. He can do it in a email
That's one thing about filipinas they're very quick to fall in love with you But when they do... They do it for a lifetime... Then they introduce you to their family and their family falls in love with you too and they're very happy for the Filipina.... The embarrassment and the shame when the Filipina has to move back in with her family is devastating... And you're absolutely right be upfront and honest about your intentions... Just tell her you're in it for fun and games.... Or you want a serious relationship Great video
If the foreginer has no intention of marrying a Filipina within 3 years, it's better for a Filipina to find another partner. He didn't give her an opportunity to see the US and become a greencard holder. What he did, he planned it from day 1. Tell George not to comeback. He is not welcome here anymore.
Bring her on a k-1 ? maybe that what he wanted she did not most don't want to come here high cost of living high tax's she know that pension will go a lot further Philippines .
@@garrylafferty100 At least give her an opportunity to become a US citizen and meet another American/foreigner. He ruined her future. It would be too difficult for most Filipinos to find work past 35 YO unless one has excellent credentials.
'mama may have and papa may have ... but God bless the child that has its own .. that has his/her own' George Gershwin . 'People will hurt you and desert you and even take your soul if you let them' Carole King The guys first wife probably will give you the low down on him
Your friend George is a horrible person. He takes from her the most important years of a young woman's life, he devastates her. What a disgusting person. Coward is the perfect word. He is an embarrassment to all Americans. He owes her, both an explanation AND money and compensation for 15 years. I simply cannot stress this enough, what he did was wrong and a disgusting act and treatment from one human to another.
As a grown man, a matter of fact, a senior man for that matter, George handled the relationship very poorly. After 15 years, a person deserves a face to face conversation regarding the ending of a relationship. It's hard in itself to walk away from a 15 year relationship because of all the emotional investment. On top with the ghosting will have devastating effects. I can't imagine the psychological scaring left upon this poor woman.
Don’t worry about that woman, she got herself a new farang pretty fast, there plane loads of farangs arriving everyday. And they’re fighting for left over women😂
@@humungushumungus213 hahaha farangs? This is the Philippines we are talking about, therefore the term AFAM is used to describe foreigners, but I guess it's same thing lol. 😄
You said he went through a divorce before meeting Maria. That explains it all. Using her until he gets his fill and moves on. My wife was my soulmate and we spent 36 beautiful years together until she passed away during the pandemic. I still can’t get over my loss and never will. If he spent over 15 years with her with no real issues, he truly doesn’t know what he just threw away. I pray for the best and healing for Maria. She gave him the best years of her life.
How cold can a guy be🤬🤬guys like this make it more difficult for us guys that are not like that and get the cold shoulder from filipina's because of guys like this. As for leaving them better than you found them isn't much of a consolation. The girl goes back home in disgrace. You may as well have just left her a $100 on the night stand for her, she gets out of the shower after a night together so you can leave without feeling guilty. Leaving them something before you leave I think would be more of a slap in the face. It just makes her probably feel cheap 🤬🤬✌🏽❤️
Been watching you a while Mike I’m grateful for the practical advice and “real” subjects that you cover , I retire May 31st and move to Philippines September 3rd you information is valuable 🇬🇧
Once he got to the States and decided to stay, he should have been clear with her and let her know. But in his defense, it seems that problems built up over the years, and he had enough. Sometimes things get to a breaking point, and we need to move on.
I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we are not married we have a 7 year old daughter and we are very happy 2gether we got business 2gether and a 5 bedroom house together
Excellent Excellent message! That’s not fair at all and horrible! He should really reconsider and bring her back to the USA even on a visitor visa she could visit him 6 months every year. Give her a chance to change and improve if there was some minor issues…always be honest! Break ups are hard! I hope I never have a break up with my Filipina! I’m just getting started first 2 weeks together and looking forward to planning my next trip!
Mike, your video just popped up on my screen for some reason, but I ended up watching the entire thing. I felt so strongly about the story that I was likely going to comment anyway, but I'm glad that you specifically asked for our honest opinions of that situation. First, hats off to you for giving your honest opinion about your friend/acquaintance since many in your situation would not do so, often just siding with the person because they were also a man and/or a friend. You had the integrity not to do so, and you also seem like you have good integrity and the important trait of empathy for others. You also correctly point out how you normally hear of the reverse kind of situation, where a Filipina takes advantage of a man...and I can ONLY imagine how George would feel and what he would be saying were this situation reversed--with Maria, or if this now happens to him with an American woman now that he's moved back to the states. I have NO doubt that he'd view this completely differently and feel horribly wronged and betrayed. For what I think about George...I think he's a complete POS, and I think that he deserves nothing but the worst and dearly hope that karma is alive and well and that he gets it. What he did was despicable. While I agree with you Mike that 70, particularly nowadays, is not too old--it is, by most people's standards, old (but, clearly, it's just as important--if not more so--one's overall health...and YOU certainly don't look 70 to me), and thus, when he first got involved with her, he was 55, which is--by US standards (and those of most developed nations) already fairly old and certainly--unless you can attract the increasingly greedy, self-serving, typical western female with your high net worth--well above the age range where the vast majority of women up to 45 would be interested...and certainly way the hell outside the age interest range of women under 35. (And, to be clear and fair, there are still some great western women out there; they are just increasingly rare and hard to find.) So, he's newly divorced, lonely, and highly likely had low self-esteem, and he lucks into (apparently) an attractive, sweet, young female at her "peak", by most cultures's standards--as far as attractiveness, child bearing ability, health, etc...and certainly in her native culture...if not a tad above her peak by her home country's standards. But, somehow they hit it off and she patiently puts up with only once-yearly visits from George--who highly likely has at LEAST the occasional date and MORE during the 11 months of the year he's stateside. But, even if he doesn't, he's already well past his dating "peak" by western standards and "attractiveness" (meaning both physical and as a life partner), until after about 9 long years, he moves to the Philippines once he gets SSI...implying that George was never very successful financially. So, he wastes another 6 precious, irretrievable years of Maria's life, moving her past safe childbearing age, when suddenly he decides to end an apparently good relationship for unknown reasons...though I wonder if he was starting to have health issues and knew he would best be served being stateside. But, from your story, I can only speculate as to his real reasons for moving back to the US. But, without warning and without any deserved follow-up, George LIES to Maria and cowardly moves back to the US and ghosts her...which, unless the ghosted person was a jerk, dangerous, or just unusually weird in some serious way, is completely unacceptable. One might think that he, and most individuals, would have KNOWN that she'd be extremely worried--and would have increasing anxiety and think the worst had happened to him since he hadn't contacted her and yet the apparently "parted" on seemingly good terms. BUT, from this story, I honestly don't think that George even considered that, since I truly think--particularly as a previous healthcare provider who also happens to have an additional master's in psych--that George is a high-level narcissist who is ONLY interested in his own thoughts and feelings and doesn't ever consider those of others. And, I mean this not just about Maria or other women he might have been involved with, but his so-called male friends too. I have a huge suspicion--as is typical of narcissists--that if we could hear from males who THOUGHT they were friends of George, that he slighted them many times and showed a general disregard for their feelings and significant preoccupation with himself and his own wants. George apparently gave her nothing, or close to nothing, during all of those 15 years, while SHE gave up--by most people's standards--the KEY/BEST 15 years of her life...time she could have perhaps had an excellent, lasting marriage, children, a college degree--or if she had already earned one by the time she met loser George, then a master's or even doctorate or professional degree. Though I don't know this of course, and also though I doubt that George promised her specifics, I'd bet good money that George always gave Maria the impression and strongly implied that their relationship was permanent. That's a long paragraph, but I just can't tell you how much I hate to see people treated unfairly--particularly those that already have an uphill battle, like most in countries like the Philippines--and George, cowardly, narcissistic, immature, using a__hole that he was, was not only horrible to Maria BUT just makes it harder for ALL men, particularly those who will visit the Philippines at some point in the future, and even more so for older men who will visit the Philippines in hopes of finding a good woman. Though there are many factors responsible for the general worsening of the mindset of western females (and as we hear from numerous channels about the Philippines and other previously good countries for relationships), GEORGE--and others like him--have greatly contributed to the decline. Plus, he specifically makes Americans look bad. I have nothing but utter contempt for George, and I'm hopeful that he dies decrepit, alone, and very lonely and regrets his decision. I also hope that IF he recognizes his mistake at some point in the future and tries to contact Maria again that she will NOT respond to him in any way. As if I haven't said enough...I'll just briefly take issue with owing a Fillipina just "better than you found her". I mean...that could mean perhaps just giving her $50-100. That seems to be a rather crass, transactional view on romantic relationships, and I think it all depends on each party, their financial and other standings, their ages, their specific issues/problems/skills/etc., what they gave up for the relationship (if they gave up anything), what they put into the relationship in all ways and what they did for the other party, and how long they were in the relationship. To think that all George might have owed Maria was an HONEST verbal (or note of) explanation and a used motorbike is ludicrous and insulting to Maria or other nice people in her situation. Again, it's different if they were nuts, lied to you, took advantage (or tried to) of you, or other significantly negative things...or if you were a good partner and THEY broke up with YOU. In those cases, I'd say that they deserve nothing. Otherwise, how do you replace the years Maria lost, and how do you adequately compensate her for missing out potentially on a GOOD relationship, kids, education, and/or a career?! In THIS particular case, I'd say that--since financial compensation is all that's now available and worth anything (since a perfunctory "sorry" from George...not that I'd EVER expect him to say that, and mean it, to ANYONE)--he owes her a sizeable sum...which he's apparently too much of a loser to be able to afford. Since George highly likely can't afford an adequate lump sum payment to her, had I the power to make a judicial ruling, the MINIMUM that I'd award to Maria would be $5,000 immediately--I don't care what George had to sell (his car, his blood, a kidney) or take out debt to be able to pay her--AND $500 EACH month for the next five years. IF George happened to have secreted away $1 million back home, I'd give Maria a one-time lump sum of $200,000. Again, George is a scumbag!
Personally, I think the only issue is not just telling her once he was back in the States that he didn't plan to return. Give her a clean break, and if she persisted and wouldn't accept it, then ghost her. At the least, let her know to move on.
Guys get ghosted 24/7/365 planet wide, whenever the woman sees a better opportunity or wants out for whatever reason. His approach wasn't perfect. Perhaps he should have left some money with a mutual friend [ a few thousand USD] for her and then left. What stands out in your video Mike about the woman is at 10:40 ...:always got so emotional" ...and argumentative" "sitting in the corner crying"..."yelling at him". This sounds very much like the woman using this behaviour to prevent any real discussion about the relationship. If a man did these things to a woman [especially in the west] you would hear how he was abusing her. Men get left / ghosted all the time and all we can do is move on. If a man started contacting all the woman's friends & family, you would hear he was stalking her. Sounds like the guy took the only way out that was being left to him.
He used his financial advantage to hook and hold a young girl and then drop her callously like a hot potato. This was not a relationship on equal footing. He abused his power.
George is the kind of guy that gives us men a bad name. George is a Dickward. You took 15 years from this girl and left her with nothing that’s f”up man. Karma is a bitch though.
Ghosting is not the way to go but it does sound like he tried that many times. Avoiding a emotional, shouting or worse breakup is still a smart thing to avoid, especially if it escalates. Hard situation.
I agree. BUT i did needed to eventually ghost my x-wife because she was a REAL narcissist. It was almost daily narcissistic abusive behaviours after she came to my country. The only way to handle a narcissist is to go "no contact". Anyone who has trauma from a REAL narcissist.. will know whats talking about. Narcissists will also manipulate and create fake narratives to try to get everyone against the victim. But i assume that Maria in this video was nit such type of girl.
Hey Mike, how are you brother? I believe that you can still have a beautiful, committed, loyal, trustworthy, respectful, loving, affectionate relationship, not cohabitating together. You have your own place, and she has her own place. I would be a gentleman and I would assist with her expenses. She spends time at your place. You can spend time at her place. That avoids all the issues if the relationship goes south. Just my opinion. 🐸✌🏽
@@mikesphilippineretirement yes true, that is very good possibility. If I’m lucky enough to find someone local, I guess that makes it big difference. I never say never brother the heart is open.
The issue is that many filipinas in their 20s still live with their parents and siblings, especially if they are still going to school. If they have their own place in a lot of cases it is just a bed in a boarding house or very small room, that you wouldn't be comfortable in. The Philippines is not like the west, most earn and live off of $200- $400 per month.
You are such a good person Mr Mike! You have my respect....so it says it doesn't matter what race a person is- a coward man is a coward man across religion, belief or race
You sure have double standards here , she might of been very nice and kind according to you, but who knows what goes on behind closed doors , so he just left and dissapeared , thats his business ,and when the gloss wears down to the undercoat its time to go, emotional blackmail is one thing , living the life that makes you unhappy is another , and why leave better than you found them , you've done your bit during the relationship, its time to move on for both of them , she can meet another so can he , seems its ok for you all to up and go when your in that states , but do it in the Philippines all hell lets loose , if he's had enough I don't blame him for doing one , so would I , good luck George
He did her a favor...he doesn't deserve her! A quality woman like her will find someone who will appreciate who she is. You should do an interview with her. She'll have a ton of guys contacting her.
There's two sides to every story. She should be held accountable also. !5 years and no marriage or permanent residence. She should've saw this coming. Sure, he could've handled it better. I think he left the relationship a long time ago.
Mike, at least he had the respect for you to communicate with you so that she at least knows where things stand. Really unfortunate for her that it was her prime opportunity years that she put into the relationship.
Mike you are right. When this guy is sitting in an old age home alone, he will realy miss this lady..
yes Ronald I think maybe he will
The problem is he left someone to poverty. There's an unwritten moral obligation, just like the video says, to leave someone better off than you found them. Karma has a way to turn the tables no matter your age.
I doubt that. Residents in assisted-living facilities are typically 75%+ female.
@@sebastianhamilton5892 LOL but most I bet are not desirable in any way
Hopefully karma catches up. Typical of a lot of the "crap" that goes to Asian countries and do this.
George, what a jerk move. That Lady spent her best years with you. She does not only deserve an explanation, she deserves a good financial help for her future life. Even if there is no legal obligation, she really deserves it.
The problem is he left someone to poverty and returns to a first world country. There's an unwritten moral obligation, just like the video says, to leave someone better off than you found them. Karma has a way to turn the tables no matter your age.
George I am 1 Billion % with you. If you had married a Japanese Lady with some self respect and decency you would Probably Be Feeling like a King and Every last man on this planet including Donald Trump being Highly envious of you.
Stick to your gu ns Brother! And expose these Filipina Grab All back st abbers for whom they are.
Go anywhere and choose any woman but one of those ra t bag Filipina's.
Avoid the Philippines if you value your life.
I bought my ex girlfriend a house. She sold it moved to province. Now she owns boarding house, water station, and a eatery.
Perfectly said
Actually... legally speaking by ph laws he may have obligations towards her after living x time togrther.
Good wisdom here. The most manly and masculine and responsible thing you can do in relationships is to treat your women well before during and after any relationship. Be a man and don't be a jerk. Simple as that.
You owe her allowance for a period of time as if you were married 15 years
I did that we are still friends 13 years after and went out for dinner last week
I Had a tear in my eye.The pain,betrayel,and bewilderment this woman must be feeling.
thanks for sharing sounds like you have a good heart
This is the type of guy who would pretend to go to the store to pick up milk and leave his wife and kids. What a coward.
He owes her an explanation, consideration, understanding and a way for her to survive without support after all those years
he does owe her a video chat
@@mikesphilippineretirement more than just that
He owe her allowance for a period of time and a video chat
He owes her financial support and an explanation.
I been with mine 6 years total 4 years dating 2 years married. I'm one of the lucky ones I met mine. Wouldn't trade her for all the money in the world she loves fishing, exploring, doing things not sit around and it doesn't always involve spending money. So I'm blessed with my Asawa/Wife . I will say one thing guys find a Province Lady they are down to earth and simple and easy life
she out does you every time you go fishing
@mikesphilippineretirement 😆 yes that's why I'm keeping her she's the provider 🤣 🤣
@ajw9377 you got you a good Province lady to right ? You can't beat finding and marrying a Province lady. Something about how they were raised and taught by their mother and Aunts and Lola ( grandma) I love her Lola she turned 96 years old and still riding motorcycle 😆 I told her she's my girlfriend ♥️ 😆 she laughs
Mike is right. This guy needs to grow a set. His lack of maturity is evident by the ghosting aspect. If he had 15 or so good years with her, he should have a least set her up to survive on her own. She did give him her best years. This sounds like sexpat behavior. I'm abit surprised by his actions...one would think at age 70 you would have your sheet together.
thanks for sharing
I like your term "sexpat"
Unfortunately, most of these vlogs cater to that lifestyle, including this one.
This video should be titled "How to pump and dump a Filipina." because that is basically what he instructs guys to do. "Leave her some money in the bank." "Give her a scooter." etc
How about treating them with respect and not using them for temporary sex?
That's what a man does and what a man would say to another.
I'm really touched by this story. He took the best years of this young lady and later he left her with nothing.
thanks for watching and your comment
he just selfishly used her for all those years
People have no clue what goes on behind close doors. Even Mike.
As an expat, that boy and I refer to him as a “BOY”, is a coward. Ghosting someone is one of the lowest thing you could do. He is definitely a coward.
not a fan of ghosting
Hi Mike, this is a story I don’t understand. How can a guy like that? It is worse and cheap react like he did. I mean, he is an older guy but he didn’t learn nothing out of life. It really is worse. So sorry for the Philippina.
yes he should have e-mailed her he was not returning
Yeahhh...
Thank you Mike for showing us how to be a human being and act like such ...💐💐💐
I wouldn't like to be treated like that and I shouldn't treat anybody like that. Yes, it can be difficult to end a relationship, but we must show respect and empathy to each other honor the time and feeling that have been in between ...
I'm very sorry that woman myself could never do that i was raised differently to me that's awful
it was and we as men must be reasonable for are actions
Wow, that's a bad case of disposable humans. Bottom line is he took her best years and threw her away. SMH
thanks Brain for your comment
Maybe she changed
It's Brian.@@mikesphilippineretirement
And somebody took all you OLD EXPATS " GOOD YEARS" HERE IN AMERICA ...😂😂😂 AND GOT RID OF YOU.
SHE took HIS best years.
To rob a Filipina woman of her youth & child-bearing years; then abandon her penniless is the most despicable scam of them all!🤬🤬🤬
not penniless
@@mikesphilippineretirement If the woman is left with only physical material possessions (depreciating assets) she is virtually penniless. She only has items she can covert to short-term cash. But she has no long-term path forward financially. Worse, unless he helped pay into her social security account, she will be unprotected in a workplace culture that disposes of women after the age of 35 or so. She can’t start over in the competition for the good jobs. So yes, I use the term penniless. That man financially destroyed this woman! That’s why she was so desperate to hang on. That’s why she was so emotional. She understood all along she was hanging off a cliff & he was her only safety rope….AND HE CUT THE LINE!🤬🤬🤬
Abandon her penniless? Yeah right! I very much doubt that! 😂
100 % correct, he did her wrong in the most despicable way. @@PhilCherry3
@@PhilCherry3 You are correct, all these old men expats go there...don't allow the girl to work...it ruins their future...if they don't take them to their country so they can get the benefiets....in the PH if you are 30+ you wont get a job...life ruined.
Boy meets girl. Both fall in love. Lot bought. House built. House furnished. True love. Baby born. Retirement plans make new piggy bank. Save save save. Boy gets text. Girl wants independence. Girl takes properties, children and vehicles. Man feels stupid. Girl repeats. Man repeats. Both get scammed by sophisticated actors. The beat goes on. And the beat goes on...
sing it Cher
That was terrible doing her that way. What a coward not telling her the right way.
He should have called sooner
Cowards , Rude people, of course.
Do not give people so much credit.
Bad thinking, bad behavior , is fact.
What a bullshit move this was. He is giving every foreign male a bad name in the Philippines. Stuff like this spreads. I missed one relationship because the girl I was engaged to was told not to marry a foreigner, because they kill their wives. She got this stuff from her friends who read it in the Philippine newspapers that a foreigner killed his Filipina wife. They ganged on her until she started to believe it, so she left the relationship. This too will get out and make it more difficult for foreigners to find women in the Philippines.
Does this man have a heart? Does he care about anyone other than himself?
Many Filipinas do NOT accept breakups and they do live their lives to please their families much more than the Foreigner husband. We are Number 3 here after her kids and parents and often other siblings. ONLY George knows why he could no longer continue and that to remain here would have been extremely unpleasant for him
Oo. It's illegal. He could have gone to jail in Philippines, if he stayed.
Totally agree people need to give George a break
I refuse to judge others, but I would feel obligated to:
1. Talk in person with her to discuss the situation before leaving.
2. Ensure that she is very well off financially.
3. Maintain open dialog after the breakup.
I feel obligated to my pets until their last breath. My heart goes out to the lady for being victimized in that way.
thanks for sharing Brett
Him being a jerk gives all of us a bad reputation. She will talk to her friends and family and word spreads. Sometimes it only takes one bad banana to spoil the whole bunch.
totally agree
He has every right in the world to break up with her if he chooses to and she has an obligation to act like an adult when he does.So he’s a jerk because she doesn’t know how to conduct herself I don’t think so 🤷
Doesn't affect my reputation. I'm embarrassed by my countrymen all the time but they have no affect on how my in laws view me. This kind of stuff did make it more difficult in the very beginning with them but that didn't last long at all.
that works both ways a foreign tell how he was screwed by a filipina when he did nothing wrong
I agree with you Mike, he should have been honest with her and at the very least set her up to be better off than when they met.
George is making all of us look bad!
Hey, Mike, I’ve been watching you, since you started your channel. I’m happy for you. Love your content. Keep up the good work. ❤
thank you so much
This is terrible. And ghosting your girl after 15 years is just downright cruel. Any man who can't go the distance till the bitter end shouldn't tangle with foreign women.
I agree
Sorry but after 15 years and nothing permanent, she should have bailed after 2-3 years of wasting her time. Plenty of fish in the sea.😊
She acted like a child when he tried to break it off seems to me he didn’t have a choice 🤷
So you are not allowed to change your mind? Everyone is free and should always have a choice. Staying in a relationship if you are unhappy is stupid
@@AcmeRocket If a loving, loyal woman who has already invested 15 years into you can't make you happy, nobody can. Stay single & in your own country
Good morning sir from Winnipeg Beach Winnipeg Manitoba Canada here listing and watching your videos and it breaks my heart to see the action he took towards his girlfriend for many years,
It's men like him make it so much harder fir men like me who are looking for serious and committed relationship,
I hape she will recover and meet a man who will give her the love she deserved.
Thanks for listening
Hear this kind of stuff too much lately...these old expats moving there...getting the young one, not allowing them to work the trade up for a new model when they get tired of them...Once these women hit 30 it is nearly impossible to find a job, basically ruined there life. Hope these young ones get smart and stop letting the one foot in the grave old men ruin their lives.
I think we should treat our women the way we want them to treat us. We don't want to be scammed by a Filipina and then put out with the garbage, so let's not do that to them either! You used the right word, Mike! This is indeed cowardly!
thanks for sharing Paul
Karma will get him. He will regret doing this that young lady.
thank you for the comment
Very wise advise. Thank you for being a gentleman!
My pleasure!
When I get back to Dumaguete permanently, let's sit down and talk. I had a Filipina basically steal nine years of my life and would love to share with you the insight I have from actual experience. Oh one more thing, this is not negative it would just be a heads up for those who are contemplating taking their Filipina back to their home country. Again, as with most things, it's about communication.
Wow 😮 Dean so sorry that happened to you…. I want to hear your story but I don’t have a channel yet. I’m moving to Dumaguete in June .
@@marcrichard7251Me too...in June!
@@marcrichard7251 Thank you btw...she's still here in the U.S. and even though I probably should, I have no animosity toward her.
@@deantucker1464 Yes you’re right forgiveness is a gift in disguise for yourself.
@@marcrichard7251 For sure!
Mike i can tell you are a good man because of your reaction to George ghosting his poor GF. You and Old Dog Paul are my favorite Php vloggers because you guys have caring hearts.
thank you for saying that..
Thanks Mike! This was another video with very practical, useful and relevant content supported by your firsthand knowledge of this couple. I'm surprised at how many expats zero in on one lady so quickly, but I understand it if they are located in another country with an LDR. Thanks for respecting Filipina's and sharing their perspective on a breakup.
Very welcome!
In my opinion, Ghosting is the coward's way out!!! If it were not for Mikes phone call, this woman would have never known the truth. And without knowing the truth, she would have been emotionally crippled for the rest of her life, always wondering what happened to him. This is one cold hearted man. Great job Mike!!!
thank you
Every person has to make the best choice for them, sometimes ghosting is the right answer. Maybe the woman is vindictive, gets violent, tries to make false charges against you. It’s better to ghost in that situation.
@@morlandoemtp Ghosting is never the right answer especially not a woman coming from a religious background. In no way shape or form is that the best idea. Unless she cheats on you or does something deceiving then there's no reason for ghosting. You know damn well he couldn't find a woman back home and wasted 15 years of her life for nothing. He's a loser and a coward.
@@morlandoemtp we don't know why he left sick of Philippines ? being with a filipina not a walk in park 15 yr who know who was controlling who
@@garrylafferty100 The man said himself that she didn’t do anything wrong. He just punked out like a loser.
Excellent topic Mike...
Thank you kindly
@@mikesphilippineretirementgood interview, the second I seen of this guy and done a good job!
Mike you never shy away from the hard talks, keep it up!
After all that time together it was disrespectful and wrong to end the relationship that way. As you say Mike quite a cowardly way to finish with Maria. I feel for her too.
thanks for sharing your comment KB
I’m surprised how many kind comments are showing up.
Means there are more good people in this world.
She is 40 years old now she may never find any buddy easel .....15 years together is just like being married
many beautiful 40 year old's in the Philippines
@@mikesphilippineretirement Yes, but how many want them? Young expats sure don't, and almost all the expats over 40 want a woman under 30, and usually under 25. Plus, with there being "many"...what are their odds of getting into a serious/permanent relationship?
She gave the most valuable commodity she has....she gave her time and youth. She can't regain any of that.
she is still young and beautiful
@@mikesphilippineretirement seriously?? at 40? She is "post wall."
She gave her time and energy. He gave his time, MONEY and energy. She got to live high on the hog for 15 years. PAID IN FULL.
@@wildbill562Mines 41 and looks so much younger!
This is a reminder to women. Don't shack up.
We never really know what happens behind closed doors... for me, Women are their own worst enemy, whether it's money or issues within the relationship, for a 70yr. Old to walkout, clearly something is not right... if he felt the need to just cut her off, so be it.
Thanks for watching and leaving a comment Kevin
You are an excellent storyteller Mike. I want to acknowledge that. It’s a gift. I agree 70 is not old. I’m close and I am more capable and vital than almost anytime, plus the maturity, good judgment, wisdom, insight and humility.
I’ve had to break up. It is hard. When I first meet I look for emotional stability. Thats very important. Also in the basic human rights a person has the right to change their mind. It takes years to know someone. Sometimes people don’t reveal important things until years later. I’ve had experiences like that. “To thine own self be true”. Honesty with oneself is critical and honesty with a partner is critical. If someone honestly tries many times to break up civilly, and it’s too dangerous or emotionally fearing, then possibly just detaching physically is necessary. We have only one life. We have to live our own life. I agree George could have sent an email letting her know his decision and possibly send her some money to help her for a while like Reekay suggests. Great video.
thanks Koufax
Well said.
George is a terrible person. It’s honestly disgusting. If he was done with her after so many years, he at the very least owed her to be honest and tell her the situation straight.
he should have said something
She sounds like a very controlling and manipulating person .some women are crazy ,Rember poor old George had to run away back to the states to get away from her.
Thanks for your words of wisdom Mike. It has been very inspirational and an eye opener. You are passionate with your feelings. Good to see
There is no excuse for George not knowing how important a relationship is to a Filipina in the Philippines. His actions was being totally disrespectful and heartless to her. After all you cannot ignore that his girlfriend gave him allot of emotional comfort for all of those years which is priceless! Relationships to a Filipina in the Philippines means everything regardless whether it is a local guy or a foreigner. There is no excuse to cut and run without at least leaving her with something to make her life better. No Filipino guy will touch her so she is left alone without even a child for companionship and or emotional comfort. Life is or can be tough in the Philippines!
sounds like a lot of people in the comments have never been in a relationship with a unstable and immature person.George had to leave the country to get away from this person.
I've been in that exact situation. I believe George did it the right. Otherwise she's just gonna keep going and going and he's not even gonna to be able to get out the door. Let alone try to get to the Airport. She's gonna be right on his coat tail until he steps onto the plane. I know it's not the way you would do it. But I believe George did it right. Even if you don't agree with him. He's 70+ years old and didn't want to deal with all the drama even though he probably feels bad about it. He just wanted out.
He doesn't realize just how good a woman she is he had found a gem i hope when I get there I find a woman just like her
so many good ladies here in the Philippines
Good luck! You're in the right place for advice. From what I've seen so far Mike and many of his fans and expat/passport bro brothers have much wisdom and aren't afraid to share it.
Be a filipina dont make her a gem some.time you can only put up with so much of any woman crap
I don't think gem are easy to find maybe he could not take her family financial burden we don't know average Filipina family's will cost you money medical emergency funerals etc
@@garrylafferty100 it could be. It could be his health went to isht and he didn't want to burden her. Maybe she was clingy or controlling or whatever. That's not really the point. Him leaving like he did I could possibly even understand that if I knew all the circumstances. What I can't excuse at all is him not firing off an email. Plus mutual people ignoring blocking etc. Maybe you don't think that's shifty but I do.
However... everybody could be lying so there is that. 15 years is a long time so I don't think it's that.
Mike, you have a good soul. god bless you man !
If they weren't married it don't count ? It's her fault as well for prolonging nothing ? You don't no everthing he put up with , stay out of folks business what your witnessing is the normal ! Every relationship dosnt end like you and yours
Hmmmmm...it's clear that someone missed out of the "Reading is Fundamental" movement.
One of the first filipina women I met she was super clingy and she had a temper, not a me but it was there so at one point I had to finally call it quits and she left. It felt like a huge weight had been lifted.
Hi Mike & Janet,
OMG, what a sad & tragic story, 🙏🏼🙏🏼😔😔. It doesn’t make any sense, 🤔🤔??? Guys are forever complaining about getting scammed by a Filipina, & having their hearts broken, 💔.
Then there’s guys like Reekay (a really cool guy ), that took 5 years, before finding his soulmate.
Your friend won the lottery on his first try, with Maria, and blew it!!! It’s like having the winning lottery ticket, not caring, and throwing it away, 😔😔!!!
But thank you for sharing, there’s an invaluable lesson to be learned here. If and when you’re lucky enough to find the right woman, treat her right, hold her tight, and never let her go, 🙏🏼🙏🏼😉😉❤️❤️❤️…
hi Pete
you are on target with this video. Thanks Mike.
thanks
I can understand George. I am in a similar situation. I have not been in a relationship for 15 years. I have been here with my girlfriend for 2 years. I have tried to break up many times. She just doesn't understand. There's so many things that come between us that she just can't understand. Every time I try to talk she just starts her yelling. I can definitely see where George is coming from.
Thanks for watching and leaving a comment. It was not him leaving it was him not telling her he was not coming back
Well I can say after a 23 year marriage that was unhealthy, I had to do what was best for ME. Like George, I’m sure he felt boxed in and didn’t need the female tears and drama, his only way out was to leave. I understand where he is coming from, the only thing that sours me….once in the states he should have sent her a civil email telling her it was over and that she should move on, being kind and civil. Then he can live his life in peace and drama free, him not disclosing where he is in the states was a red flag, he doesn’t want her “hunting” him down. My two cents. 😊
thanks Robert
I would never heard another woman like that if I was leaving I would let her know I'm not coming back, what he did was not right, this is what gives expats a bad name I'm a bad reputation
I agree Dan
A lot of break-ups happen when THE FAMILY puts too much pressure on the Woman to get MONEY. I know. Fact my Friend!
You’re a nice man, fair and balanced.
I appreciate that!
George is a creep. That is rude.
He should just tell her in a email. He is not coming back and it's over. He should be a man a let her know what he is going to do. He can do it in a email
a simple e-mail would have saved a lot of pain
Treat people how you like to be treated. That guy is heartless.
i agree
You ( mean me) cant judge people from a story. I agree emotion can go high, and jealous can go high also.
yes they can
Ghosting someone, especially after a relationship, is a cowards way out of things especially if it's the way they break up with the other person.
That's one thing about filipinas they're very quick to fall in love with you
But when they do... They do it for a lifetime... Then they introduce you to their family and their family falls in love with you too and they're very happy for the Filipina.... The embarrassment and the shame when the Filipina has to move back in with her family is devastating... And you're absolutely right be upfront and honest about your intentions... Just tell her you're in it for fun and games.... Or you want a serious relationship
Great video
That's one thing about filipinas they're very quick to fall in love with you, because you are a A.T.M machine TO THEM .
just be honest
If the foreginer has no intention of marrying a Filipina within 3 years, it's better for a Filipina to find another partner. He didn't give her an opportunity to see the US and become a greencard holder. What he did, he planned it from day 1. Tell George not to comeback. He is not welcome here anymore.
Not all want a green card, citizenship or even to go to the USA. Many see the west as Babylon.
I do not think he will return
Bring her on a k-1 ? maybe that what he wanted she did not most don't want to come here high cost of living high tax's she know that pension will go a lot further Philippines .
@@garrylafferty100 At least give her an opportunity to become a US citizen and meet another American/foreigner. He ruined her future. It would be too difficult for most Filipinos to find work past 35 YO unless one has excellent credentials.
Why marry??
'mama may have and papa may have ... but God bless the child that has its own .. that has his/her own' George Gershwin .
'People will hurt you and desert you and even take your soul if you let them' Carole King
The guys first wife probably will give you the low down on him
Thanks Mike, great video!
George is a piece of crap. He robbed this girl of her years. Then left her with nothing.
Your friend George is a horrible person. He takes from her the most important years of a young woman's life, he devastates her. What a disgusting person. Coward is the perfect word. He is an embarrassment to all Americans. He owes her, both an explanation AND money and compensation for 15 years. I simply cannot stress this enough, what he did was wrong and a disgusting act and treatment from one human to another.
As a grown man, a matter of fact, a senior man for that matter, George handled the relationship very poorly. After 15 years, a person deserves a face to face conversation regarding the ending of a relationship. It's hard in itself to walk away from a 15 year relationship because of all the emotional investment. On top with the ghosting will have devastating effects. I can't imagine the psychological scaring left upon this poor woman.
Don’t worry about that woman, she got herself a new farang pretty fast, there plane loads of farangs arriving everyday. And they’re fighting for left over women😂
@@humungushumungus213 hahaha farangs? This is the Philippines we are talking about, therefore the term AFAM is used to describe foreigners, but I guess it's same thing lol. 😄
@@lendlalfred7870yep I agree!
You said he went through a divorce before meeting Maria. That explains it all. Using her until he gets his fill and moves on. My wife was my soulmate and we spent 36 beautiful years together until she passed away during the pandemic. I still can’t get over my loss and never will. If he spent over 15 years with her with no real issues, he truly doesn’t know what he just threw away. I pray for the best and healing for Maria. She gave him the best years of her life.
I agree with you Mike!
thank you JBjorl
Righteous video, good job! Best wishes to Maria.❤
Thank you very much!
How cold can a guy be🤬🤬guys like this make it more difficult for us guys that are not like that and get the cold shoulder from filipina's because of guys like this. As for leaving them better than you found them isn't much of a consolation. The girl goes back home in disgrace. You may as well have just left her a $100 on the night stand for her, she gets out of the shower after a night together so you can leave without feeling guilty. Leaving them something before you leave I think would be more of a slap in the face. It just makes her probably feel cheap 🤬🤬✌🏽❤️
Thanks for sharing MrRizzo
Been watching you a while Mike I’m grateful for the practical advice and “real” subjects that you cover , I retire May 31st and move to Philippines September 3rd you information is valuable 🇬🇧
sounds like now his sex drive us gone he lost interest. Shallow man...
maybe good point
Once he got to the States and decided to stay, he should have been clear with her and let her know. But in his defense, it seems that problems built up over the years, and he had enough. Sometimes things get to a breaking point, and we need to move on.
I have been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we are not married we have a 7 year old daughter and we are very happy 2gether we got business 2gether and a 5 bedroom house together
But you don't own the house.
Mike, i enjoyed your awesome video. As the cliché goes: Honesty Is The Best Policy. Always!
Mr. Mike Thanks a lot of sharing I really want your assistant. Kindly Can you please direct me.
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Excellent Excellent message! That’s not fair at all and horrible! He should really reconsider and bring her back to the USA even on a visitor visa she could visit him 6 months every year. Give her a chance to change and improve if there was some minor issues…always be honest! Break ups are hard! I hope I never have a break up with my Filipina! I’m just getting started first 2 weeks together and looking forward to planning my next trip!
He used her , he is a jerk and a coward !
maybe or just so old and sick needed to go home to his family
Mike, your video just popped up on my screen for some reason, but I ended up watching the entire thing. I felt so strongly about the story that I was likely going to comment anyway, but I'm glad that you specifically asked for our honest opinions of that situation. First, hats off to you for giving your honest opinion about your friend/acquaintance since many in your situation would not do so, often just siding with the person because they were also a man and/or a friend. You had the integrity not to do so, and you also seem like you have good integrity and the important trait of empathy for others. You also correctly point out how you normally hear of the reverse kind of situation, where a Filipina takes advantage of a man...and I can ONLY imagine how George would feel and what he would be saying were this situation reversed--with Maria, or if this now happens to him with an American woman now that he's moved back to the states. I have NO doubt that he'd view this completely differently and feel horribly wronged and betrayed.
For what I think about George...I think he's a complete POS, and I think that he deserves nothing but the worst and dearly hope that karma is alive and well and that he gets it. What he did was despicable. While I agree with you Mike that 70, particularly nowadays, is not too old--it is, by most people's standards, old (but, clearly, it's just as important--if not more so--one's overall health...and YOU certainly don't look 70 to me), and thus, when he first got involved with her, he was 55, which is--by US standards (and those of most developed nations) already fairly old and certainly--unless you can attract the increasingly greedy, self-serving, typical western female with your high net worth--well above the age range where the vast majority of women up to 45 would be interested...and certainly way the hell outside the age interest range of women under 35. (And, to be clear and fair, there are still some great western women out there; they are just increasingly rare and hard to find.) So, he's newly divorced, lonely, and highly likely had low self-esteem, and he lucks into (apparently) an attractive, sweet, young female at her "peak", by most cultures's standards--as far as attractiveness, child bearing ability, health, etc...and certainly in her native culture...if not a tad above her peak by her home country's standards. But, somehow they hit it off and she patiently puts up with only once-yearly visits from George--who highly likely has at LEAST the occasional date and MORE during the 11 months of the year he's stateside. But, even if he doesn't, he's already well past his dating "peak" by western standards and "attractiveness" (meaning both physical and as a life partner), until after about 9 long years, he moves to the Philippines once he gets SSI...implying that George was never very successful financially. So, he wastes another 6 precious, irretrievable years of Maria's life, moving her past safe childbearing age, when suddenly he decides to end an apparently good relationship for unknown reasons...though I wonder if he was starting to have health issues and knew he would best be served being stateside. But, from your story, I can only speculate as to his real reasons for moving back to the US. But, without warning and without any deserved follow-up, George LIES to Maria and cowardly moves back to the US and ghosts her...which, unless the ghosted person was a jerk, dangerous, or just unusually weird in some serious way, is completely unacceptable.
One might think that he, and most individuals, would have KNOWN that she'd be extremely worried--and would have increasing anxiety and think the worst had happened to him since he hadn't contacted her and yet the apparently "parted" on seemingly good terms. BUT, from this story, I honestly don't think that George even considered that, since I truly think--particularly as a previous healthcare provider who also happens to have an additional master's in psych--that George is a high-level narcissist who is ONLY interested in his own thoughts and feelings and doesn't ever consider those of others. And, I mean this not just about Maria or other women he might have been involved with, but his so-called male friends too. I have a huge suspicion--as is typical of narcissists--that if we could hear from males who THOUGHT they were friends of George, that he slighted them many times and showed a general disregard for their feelings and significant preoccupation with himself and his own wants. George apparently gave her nothing, or close to nothing, during all of those 15 years, while SHE gave up--by most people's standards--the KEY/BEST 15 years of her life...time she could have perhaps had an excellent, lasting marriage, children, a college degree--or if she had already earned one by the time she met loser George, then a master's or even doctorate or professional degree. Though I don't know this of course, and also though I doubt that George promised her specifics, I'd bet good money that George always gave Maria the impression and strongly implied that their relationship was permanent. That's a long paragraph, but I just can't tell you how much I hate to see people treated unfairly--particularly those that already have an uphill battle, like most in countries like the Philippines--and George, cowardly, narcissistic, immature, using a__hole that he was, was not only horrible to Maria BUT just makes it harder for ALL men, particularly those who will visit the Philippines at some point in the future, and even more so for older men who will visit the Philippines in hopes of finding a good woman. Though there are many factors responsible for the general worsening of the mindset of western females (and as we hear from numerous channels about the Philippines and other previously good countries for relationships), GEORGE--and others like him--have greatly contributed to the decline. Plus, he specifically makes Americans look bad. I have nothing but utter contempt for George, and I'm hopeful that he dies decrepit, alone, and very lonely and regrets his decision. I also hope that IF he recognizes his mistake at some point in the future and tries to contact Maria again that she will NOT respond to him in any way.
As if I haven't said enough...I'll just briefly take issue with owing a Fillipina just "better than you found her". I mean...that could mean perhaps just giving her $50-100. That seems to be a rather crass, transactional view on romantic relationships, and I think it all depends on each party, their financial and other standings, their ages, their specific issues/problems/skills/etc., what they gave up for the relationship (if they gave up anything), what they put into the relationship in all ways and what they did for the other party, and how long they were in the relationship. To think that all George might have owed Maria was an HONEST verbal (or note of) explanation and a used motorbike is ludicrous and insulting to Maria or other nice people in her situation. Again, it's different if they were nuts, lied to you, took advantage (or tried to) of you, or other significantly negative things...or if you were a good partner and THEY broke up with YOU. In those cases, I'd say that they deserve nothing. Otherwise, how do you replace the years Maria lost, and how do you adequately compensate her for missing out potentially on a GOOD relationship, kids, education, and/or a career?! In THIS particular case, I'd say that--since financial compensation is all that's now available and worth anything (since a perfunctory "sorry" from George...not that I'd EVER expect him to say that, and mean it, to ANYONE)--he owes her a sizeable sum...which he's apparently too much of a loser to be able to afford. Since George highly likely can't afford an adequate lump sum payment to her, had I the power to make a judicial ruling, the MINIMUM that I'd award to Maria would be $5,000 immediately--I don't care what George had to sell (his car, his blood, a kidney) or take out debt to be able to pay her--AND $500 EACH month for the next five years. IF George happened to have secreted away $1 million back home, I'd give Maria a one-time lump sum of $200,000. Again, George is a scumbag!
thanks for sharing and watching
What do I think of him? I don't! What he did was cowardly, immature and narssacistic!
He is the norm now. Do what you want and ignore how it hurts the other. The guy was a douche.
@ouibaril58, need more details b4 judging him!
Online chat for 9 years 😂 that’s ridiculous. I once did 18 months before meeting one once, thought that was a long stretch at the time 🤣
yes but it worked out and they lived together
Personally, I think the only issue is not just telling her once he was back in the States that he didn't plan to return. Give her a clean break, and if she persisted and wouldn't accept it, then ghost her. At the least, let her know to move on.
That is the issue not that he was leaving but not telling her once he arrived in the US
If a guy doesn't want to marry you after a year Run Run Run
This is another great topic you’re sharing to expats! Honesty.
Thanks for listening
Guys get ghosted 24/7/365 planet wide, whenever the woman sees a better opportunity or wants out for whatever reason. His approach wasn't perfect. Perhaps he should have left some money with a mutual friend [ a few thousand USD] for her and then left. What stands out in your video Mike about the woman is at 10:40 ...:always got so emotional" ...and argumentative" "sitting in the corner crying"..."yelling at him". This sounds very much like the woman using this behaviour to prevent any real discussion about the relationship. If a man did these things to a woman [especially in the west] you would hear how he was abusing her. Men get left / ghosted all the time and all we can do is move on. If a man started contacting all the woman's friends & family, you would hear he was stalking her. Sounds like the guy took the only way out that was being left to him.
He used his financial advantage to hook and hold a young girl and then drop her callously like a hot potato. This was not a relationship on equal footing.
He abused his power.
There are things they won't tell you, so as a golden rule is better not to judge.
I can judge ghosting someone and letting someone who was with you for 15 years think you may be dead
Just because you can, it doesn't means you should.
George is the kind of guy that gives us men a bad name. George is a Dickward. You took 15 years from this girl and left her with nothing that’s f”up man. Karma is a bitch though.
thanks for sharing
Ghosting is not the way to go but it does sound like he tried that many times. Avoiding a emotional, shouting or worse breakup is still a smart thing to avoid, especially if it escalates. Hard situation.
leaving her not knowing if he was alive or dead
@@mikesphilippineretirement sounds like she had many indications things were bad. Always best to let someone know of course
I agree.
BUT i did needed to eventually ghost my x-wife because she was a REAL narcissist.
It was almost daily narcissistic abusive behaviours after she came to my country.
The only way to handle a narcissist is to go "no contact".
Anyone who has trauma from a REAL narcissist.. will know whats talking about.
Narcissists will also manipulate and create fake narratives to try to get everyone against the victim.
But i assume that Maria in this video was nit such type of girl.
Good Video Mike…, Sad, but good advice I think.
Thanks 👍
Again, good content, thanks.....
Hey Mike, how are you brother?
I believe that you can still have a beautiful, committed, loyal, trustworthy, respectful, loving, affectionate relationship, not cohabitating together.
You have your own place, and she has her own place. I would be a gentleman and I would assist with her expenses. She spends time at your place. You can spend time at her place. That avoids all the issues if the relationship goes south. Just my opinion.
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Michael maybe her place is many miles away. Than what
@@mikesphilippineretirement yes true, that is very good possibility. If I’m lucky enough to find someone local, I guess that makes it big difference. I never say never brother the heart is open.
Pretty rare.
The issue is that many filipinas in their 20s still live with their parents and siblings, especially if they are still going to school. If they have their own place in a lot of cases it is just a bed in a boarding house or very small room, that you wouldn't be comfortable in. The Philippines is not like the west, most earn and live off of $200- $400 per month.
You are such a good person Mr Mike! You have my respect....so it says it doesn't matter what race a person is- a coward man is a coward man across religion, belief or race
You sure have double standards here , she might of been very nice and kind according to you, but who knows what goes on behind closed doors , so he just left and dissapeared , thats his business ,and when the gloss wears down to the undercoat its time to go, emotional blackmail is one thing , living the life that makes you unhappy is another , and why leave better than you found them , you've done your bit during the relationship, its time to move on for both of them , she can meet another so can he , seems its ok for you all to up and go when your in that states , but do it in the Philippines all hell lets loose , if he's had enough I don't blame him for doing one , so would I , good luck George
Absolutely right
I think you are absolutely right, he took the cowards way out.
That's just crazy. You spend 15 years with someone, to just up and leave them without telling them why. Just tell them the truth!
Sounds like a good girl.. I'd like to meet her, sounds like she's a very committed woman
The guy can do whatever he wants that's life . We don't know the true dynamics of their years together. Life changes and we move on . Is what it is 🌴
yes your right he has moved on
You sound like a prize.
He did her a favor...he doesn't deserve her! A quality woman like her will find someone who will appreciate who she is. You should do an interview with her. She'll have a ton of guys contacting her.
Maybe I will start a meet the girl type of interviews
There's two sides to every story. She should be held accountable also. !5 years and no marriage or permanent residence. She should've saw this coming. Sure, he could've handled it better. I think he left the relationship a long time ago.
Mike, at least he had the respect for you to communicate with you so that she at least knows where things stand. Really unfortunate for her that it was her prime opportunity years that she put into the relationship.
we just wanted to know he was alive at the time I sent him at e-mail