I've met his family, and his immediate family have openly called me his girlfriend but he has yet to say it. It's been years. I've moved in with him. We share finances. Everything a couple does. When I confronted him on it, he showed me a picture of myself. As if my current physical state was all the validation he needed to show why he won't refer to me as his girlfriend.
Exactly women need to stop sleeping with men so soon and thinking a tittle will pop out. Sorry he's just happy with the casual sex because that's all he really wanted.
I would say this caveat: IF you are looking for a committed monogamous relationship then the advice applies. And this is why you should have that talk - monogamous or not? I am seeing someone consistently for 3 or 4 months now but we had the talk and agreed that we are not exclusive and there is not marriage in our future. Weird... Maybe, but clear - absolutely. So if you are looking for an exclusive long term relationship headed towards marriage it's important to communicate that. I disagree with playing the game (in my opinion) by making him say it first because then that's just a game of who asks the other first and puts them on the spot. It's like you have to make sure to trap him with the question (what is this relationship) before he traps you into "giving away" your feelings on the topic and "influencing him". Either way someone has to answer the question first and if you can't communicate freely but need to manipulate him into sharing his feelings first is that really a healthy relationship?
Dear Marni I love your posts, you are the most wise woman in the world :-) allow me for asking a question I broke up with a guy i've dating for a few month because he had a bad divorced 3 years ago and not sure for start a relationship which is not what i want in my lovelife, i want a commited solid realtionship , i told him we are not in the same page and better go different ways, he asked me to stay friends and hangout sometimes but I didnt contact him since 3 weeks. now i am very confused , I know he likes me but I am afraid of back to the confusing circle, at the same time I want him too. what can I do ?
do you really believe that just because a man says you are his girlfriend, he is not gonna go having sex with another woman if she wants to give it to him? no way. I have a lot of committed men trying to have sex with me. I could have them in a second. so why do you need the label of girlfriend?? it is not something saving you from hurt. we both got cheated on in previous relationships... so? no labels gonna save us from hurt.
Anna, If a woman is my girlfriend etc I ain't looking elsewhere... as rule of thumb if I am talking to a lady romantically I'm only talking to that lady. One woman is all any man needs... I have never cheated or have ever look to cheat on a lady, that to me is being a good man and it seems to me good men are hard to find. That said, I know well enough there are plenty of guys that totally disrespect their ladies by chasing other women for sex then blame their partners when their cheap ass gets caught.The problem with us men 1) We want to prove we have 'still got it' and that's the biggest lie there is 2) Greed, quite simply and I am repeating myself here... if you have one lady, why do you need more?
I've met his family, and his immediate family have openly called me his girlfriend but he has yet to say it. It's been years. I've moved in with him. We share finances. Everything a couple does. When I confronted him on it, he showed me a picture of myself. As if my current physical state was all the validation he needed to show why he won't refer to me as his girlfriend.
I agree with ALL of this! I've become the master at walking away-not a problem for me!
And I was in "relationship" with a man like that for 4 years. What was I thinking?
well my standard is sex after relationship.. save so much trouble to begin with.
Totally agree, I won't have sex with a woman unless there is already a commitment to a relationship.
Exactly women need to stop sleeping with men so soon and thinking a tittle will pop out. Sorry he's just happy with the casual sex because that's all he really wanted.
I totally agree, get to know someone and make sure he or she is committed to the both of you before jumping into bed with them #knowyourworth
"also listen to what he doesn't say." I would like to hear more about that.
thank You so much for all the wisdom its honestly been very helpful. Glad I found Your channel a couple days ago, i been bringing on your shows.
You should definitely make another video!
I would say this caveat: IF you are looking for a committed monogamous relationship then the advice applies. And this is why you should have that talk - monogamous or not? I am seeing someone consistently for 3 or 4 months now but we had the talk and agreed that we are not exclusive and there is not marriage in our future. Weird... Maybe, but clear - absolutely. So if you are looking for an exclusive long term relationship headed towards marriage it's important to communicate that. I disagree with playing the game (in my opinion) by making him say it first because then that's just a game of who asks the other first and puts them on the spot. It's like you have to make sure to trap him with the question (what is this relationship) before he traps you into "giving away" your feelings on the topic and "influencing him". Either way someone has to answer the question first and if you can't communicate freely but need to manipulate him into sharing his feelings first is that really a healthy relationship?
Dear Marni
I love your posts, you are the most wise woman in the world :-) allow me for asking a question
I broke up with a guy i've dating for a few month because he had a bad divorced 3 years ago and not sure for start a relationship which is not what i want in my lovelife, i want a commited solid realtionship , i told him we are not in the same page and better go different ways, he asked me to stay friends and hangout sometimes but I didnt contact him since 3 weeks. now i am very confused , I know he likes me but I am afraid of back to the confusing circle, at the same time I want him too. what can I do ?
do you really believe that just because a man says you are his girlfriend, he is not gonna go having sex with another woman if she wants to give it to him? no way. I have a lot of committed men trying to have sex with me. I could have them in a second. so why do you need the label of girlfriend?? it is not something saving you from hurt. we both got cheated on in previous relationships... so? no labels gonna save us from hurt.
AnnA EFFE the channel is named dating with dignity for a reason...
and dignity is given by a label or by behaviour? ...😡
AnnA EFFE good one! Some "husbands" have hit on me and my friends !!! Even marriage label can't make an idiot a saint
Anna, If a woman is my girlfriend etc I ain't looking elsewhere... as rule of thumb if I am talking to a lady romantically I'm only talking to that lady. One woman is all any man needs... I have never cheated or have ever look to cheat on a lady, that to me is being a good man and it seems to me good men are hard to find. That said, I know well enough there are plenty of guys that totally disrespect their ladies by chasing other women for sex then blame their partners when their cheap ass gets caught.The problem with us men 1) We want to prove we have 'still got it' and that's the biggest lie there is 2) Greed, quite simply and I am repeating myself here... if you have one lady, why do you need more?
@@jamesdavies542 exactly.
Will the outcome be different if we live together ?
Is this about non-ethical monogamy versus ethical non-monogamy?
How about when you ask him the question and he won’t answer you? He’s very evasive, says minimal.
Love you Marni!!!!
6 months is way too long. 3 tops
What’s happened to your channel?
Very scary for women to be very committed too...
Did this channel just fall off the cliff?
I was wondering the same thing
this is taking about men!!!! yea what about women this works both ways and she's 49!!!!!!
6 months is too long!!!! I say 3..
How about #hitchorditch lol.... that's a little shorter :)