Guys I want to clarify here- i am not currently broke -what I explain in the video is that i will likely be left with nothing if either of the 2 options for settling this divorce move forward. The settlement would result in me having zero dollars plus a huge loan and support and going to trial will cost me likely everything i have. I would have to rent an apartment not buy - when i filmed this house hunting it was prior to the settlement meeting and I didn’t know I wouldn’t be able to buy
Divorce advice for you. Quit your job and delete this channel. Income gone. You’re too depressed by Ryan’s infidelity and have quit your job to recuperate. No income to pay alimony. Assets will have to be split. Divorce is what divorce is. Ryan and Lindsey seem like true love. They should get married asap. Alimony stops when the new spouse gets married, Brittany. If Ryan loves Lindsey so much, he should marry her asap right? He loves her enough to introduce the kids so soon.
Hi, do you realize that if Ryan is watching this video, he can just screenshot your advice and show it to the judge…. Please be cautious when providing her any advice.
Listen, if you "closed" the business and started over from scratch to be more strategic as a business woman or employee, we would overwhelmingly come with you.
unfortunately it wouldn't matter...it's based on the "value" of my channel at time of separation. I'm not even allowed to quit because I owe him so much money
This is absolutely Appalling! Not only for the legal system but how can he do this to the mother of his children?! What a despicable human being! I'm getting ready to start my divorce and this terrifies me! Girl. You have got to believe in karma And things happen for a reason! He will definitely get his someday. But you have to focus on your self and your kids! Hang in there girl. You got all of us!❤
@@vasseurbeautyhi I’m very sad this is happening to you. Don’t give him anything, not the house or the accounts. Let him have the channel. Once the divorce is final then make a new channel. Everyone will follow you. Stay strong don’t let him get anything you need your house ❤.
A man who does not give the mother of his children the home with his children is a person who lives without honor. You have honor and courage always, no one can take that away from you.
Agreed. My dad made sure my mom had everything she needed to raise us. My mom was a stay at home mom and my dad worked and made all the money. He STILL made sure she stayed in the house with us/had enough money for bills, made sure she got the car, and makes sure, to this day, that she has everything she needs. He is re-married. His wife even knows that he will always make sure the mother of his kids is taken care of, and his wife admires that about him. All WITHOUT court. I have learned from him not to expect anything less. Grateful to have an honorable man as my father, and I am sad for Capri to have this example of a man to grow up witnessing. I am so so sorry this is happening to you & I hope you know that no matter what you decide, YOU are the one prioritizing your kids and THAT is honorable and admirable and you will be who they look up to and admire. 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Attorney here as well. That is not an equitable solution. I’ve watched you for probably eight years and have always loved your content. I fully believe you and I genuinely think you need a better lawyer. Don’t get taken to the cleaners. This is your one chance to not get screwed by him anymore. I believe in you! You can do this! You have all of us.
Omg!!!! Heck no!!!! There’s no way!!!!! Yes get another lawyer, talk about changing name and everyone will follow. Start over, you are valuable, sorry not him. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Go to trial!!! Fight this narcissist bastard! He had a “job” before quitting and joining you. Where does that figure in??? This is NOT an equitable dissolution of assets. I’m on Team Brittany.❤
Unfortunately, California is not an "Equitable Distribution" state. It's a community property state, and assets are typically divided 50/50 period. This makes me SO glad I live in an equitable distribution state when I divorced. No way around it - divorce SUCKS. BUT, there is happiness on the other side. I'm more content now (20+ years later) than I was while married. Tough to go through, but as the saying goes, "the only way out is through." Prayers for you, Brittany.
Bottom line is get a new lawyer and hire a business valuation professional. There is NO WAY your business could be valued so high because it is solely contingent on you working it! The proof is the 7M follower account sold for $60k. That is the main financial point to argue here. Unfair, but let him have 50% of everything, buy him out for a reasonable sum for your business and move on. You are at the point of a breakdown, which may not enable you to continue working, and let’s see how much your business would be worth then?
Brittany, I am a lawyer (though not your lawyer, not in California and this is not legal advice). As a long time fan of yours, I need to tell you: if you are considering going to trial, please make sure your next lawyers are VERY experienced in trials. I know it sounds obvious, but many lawyers have never gone to trial because their cases usually settle. You would be surprised about how few lawyers have actually been lead counsel in a trial. Make sure you are asking questions of your next lawyer before hiring them as to how many trials they have been lead counsel on. Good luck!!! Rooting for you 💖💖💖
Someone help this lady with a lawyer.. She definitely deserves it.She's a great woman with a great heart. If there are any great lawyers out there watching this please support her.❤
Any man who tries to take the mother of his kids down and leave her + the kids with nothing is not a man at all. Praying for you! You are so clearly loved and supported❤
I know, and he seemed so nice too... what a creep. I hope his new love interest checks out Brittany's youtube out of curiosity and sees what a creep he truly is !
Give him the TH-cam channel and brand, and you keep the cash and the house. Start a new channel. If it's worth that much, he will happily take it! Sounds like a win/win. Start over, we will all follow you.
He wouldn't cause he knows it isn't worth it without her... but also seems to be using those inflated numbers to his advantage. It seems so disgusting.
Yes! Quit the youtube channel. Now she would make less than him. So he would be the higher earning spouse so he can pay the legal fees and child support. I can't stand men like that. Completely self serving especially getting a girlfriend and trying to put his kids in her life right now. He sucks!
No, I say give him the house and keep the channel. The channel makes money and will continue to make money. She can buy another house. It may be slower but worth it. She shouldn't lose her Business 😢
He is not the crown holder! She is. All he wants is money and power not thinking about how it will affect his kids. I don’t care how long it takes do not settle. Everyone is saying the same. Praying for the absolute best! ❤
The fact that he is fighting for all of that but isn’t thinking about how it’s gonna affect the kids blows my mind, I’m sorry you’re going through all of this stay strong!
Oh hell nah! He was plotting on you the whole time. I’ve heard horror stories about people going through a divorce in California. I would definitely hire a new lawyer and go to trial. Praying for you girl!
Ive been there. He was. You dont see it when youre in love but the little moves they make and claim its for both of you but nope they know better and usentheir knowledge to their benefit
If you are buying that house, I believe there is a HOA Fee you will have to pay every month. If it can go up , I wouldn't buy any house or condo that has a monthly HOA fee. It doesn't sound like 50/50 on your divorce. You are smart getting a new lawyer. Of your two choices, the trial sounds best. But I'm not a lawyer. Will be praying for you.
Attorney here. I don’t practice in California, but I would advise you to interview a few more lawyers for a second, third and fourth opinion. There are ALWAYS loopholes in law. Someone will find one that works for you. Be very sure they have documented evidence of beating narcissists in court.
She needs to make sure the judges are aware of the domestic violence he put her through, if nothing he will get less alimoney!!!!!!!!!! Also if he was obtaining steroids illegally surely that counts towards some form of substance abuse and could contribute to instances of roid rage!!!
Be careful don't share too much that can possibly be used against you and just remember a person will always reap what they so....in the end you will come out on top❤❤
You’ve gotta keep fighting, there’s no other option imo….he’s shown you who he really is…you need to remind him who you really are…strong, resilient, beautiful, loyal, and most importantly, the BEST role model for your kids! They’ll see who both of you really are as they grow up, unfortunately…especially for him.
I am muslim, i will include you in my prayers for the rest of ramadan. Remember you are still smart, gracious, healthy, young, resilient and beautiful inside. Stay strong ❤️
Thank god I’m Muslim, it’s really a fair religion, whatever the reason of the divorce the house is always for the wife to stay in with her children. and if the kids will stay with their mother , the husband is inforced to pay a certain amount depends on his income to his wife for his children. And the husband has no right to have any penny of his wife income or whatever she owns no matter what.
DO NOT SETTLE! This man wants a free ride on your dime. He knew what he was doing. You are going to keep and double what you have. Sending you hugs and know that you have a community of people behind you. ❤ I just can’t believe a man would do this to the mother of his children. 😢
Right?! This update hurts my heart for her. I can't believe someone would make this ludicrous judgment, especially when she's been the main caretaker for her kids their entire lives.
I don’t understand why will she have to pay child support? She is having the kids! How can he be so selfish to take her money, he is very young has a new gf and has moved on! Want the house? Fine keep the house and that’s it. Incredible
He is taking advantage of the fact that you've built this channel, and you're understandably attached to it. The very good news is that unlike any other business, there are no assets but YOU. Give him the damn channel and get a new lawyer to negotiate that you'll give him the "business" with the LLC and all and no house, no alimony but 100% of the "business". Then start a new channel and we ALL will immediately subscribe to your new channel. You are not losing anything valuable here. He is emotionally torturing you. All you built is your credibility that he can't take from you. Be strong we're all here for you.
YES! this is what you need to do...give him the business! we will leave and he can make his own money. Two can play this game... he will totally look worse than you when you have his phone searched. He is the reason this happened... what a low life!
and... the reason you won't make any money on your channel anymore is due to him, you can't get in front of the camera right now to run your "business" properly so, you will not be making money until you fix this eruption to your life and the kids' life, caused by him.
@Brittany Vasseur This is actually a great strategy! Give him your channel/business and you keep the house. Not sure how close that would be to a 50/50 split, but from how you are describing the value of your channel, it may be close in value. If you are no longer generating income, or your income is (temporarily) less than his income after you give him the channel, you will not be obligated to pay him spousal support. And if he becomes the higher earner, he will have to pay you spousal support. Then start a new channel and your subscribers will follow you. But wait to start your new channel to keep your income low until after the divorce is finalized. In the meantime, do not make any changes like moving, until this is all wrapped up. You may end up complicating things further. I assume you can pay your current mortgage and living expenses on your own. I'm sorry Brittany but you will have to make some painful sacrifices. You need to decide if you want to keep the house or the channel. I'd go for the house and start a new channel. Best of luck to you.
I would advise you to not talk about this in your channel. This can be used against you, plus you are giving out your strategy to his lawyers. You need to be very private about this or it will backfire.
I was looking for a comment like this. I totally agree with you. She can shear her story after the final decision if she chooses. I'm surprised her lawyer didn't mention this.
I’m sorry Brittany. Fuck this guy. He’s not just doing this to you, he’s doing it to HIS KIDS too 💔 you are so strong and have support. No matter what you decide, you will make it through this and rebuild!
DO NOT SETTLE !!!! Don’t give up. Find the right lawyers and fight for your life . Even if you spend every dollar you have on legal fees..at least that money doesn’t go to him
@@vasseurbeautyI agree with the comment. Take time to heal, and then come back and show that POS he didn’t break you. You do have it in you. You just need to grieve the current situation and then move on to bigger and better! ❤
I came across you in 2015 at 42, a new wife and pregnant.I am now 51 and all I want to say is “Get rid of this and start another!” I will be the first to subscribe. You have no idea the amount of support and love that is out here for you. Keep smiling beautiful cause you will indeed have the last laugh. 💜
I'm still single so your post gives me hope! I also hope Brittany is able to get a great lawyer so Ryan doesn't screw her over! I really thought he was a normal nice guy....so sad to see he's not even close to that.
That’s what I would do, that’s what he wants, he can have it and you keep everything you worked for, your followers will follow you, your brands will follow you.
Give him the channel or close it, let’s start new with you. Side note: his behavior now and putting you on a cliff when you were his wife for X years and the mother of his tow babies is so narcissistic and sick. He showed you his monstrous nature so you will never doubt yourself or feel any guilt for choosing divorce. Good for the children to grow away from him too Stay strong We love you and pray for you ❤❤
New lawyer, new channel, new life. I’ve had to start over at 57. It’s not easy, and I’m struggling, but it’s worth it. A house is just a house. Your good mental state and your love and stability is what your kids need. You will all get through it, I promise. It may not be what you thought it would be but that’s ok. Slay gurl and show your kids what a true survivor you really are ~ you got this!!!
I was thinking the same as I watched this video. Can’t stand the guy, and don’t even know him. By the end, I thought the same thing… I wish we could help her. Hell, maybe even a go fund me for legal fees.
I obviously don't know him, but the first time I ever saw him in a video, I wondered why this beautiful, talented woman was with such a f*ckboy. That said, I have no doubt what caused this divorce.
@@melissamelissa2672 Ditto and I got off vibes straight away and was unfortunately not at all surprised this happened. When he quit his job and started to appear on this channel my red flags started waving even harder. He has gone as low as they can go and does not care one bit about his his kids or he would not be literally trying to ruin Brittany. I am praying Karma comes back to royally bit him in the a** and that Britanny can fight this and get some sort of justice. She needs to stop being so nice and get a lawyer that even she hates to fight for her.
As a fellow female I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you sharing your story with other females to help share how this situation works and to educate others. You are brilliant and bright and I really hope for the very best for you to figure everything out. Thank you for sharing the hard moments with the world. We love you ❤
My god has the man no pride or self-respect. I have never commented on any youtube channel, but this just infuriates me. He is a golddigger. You are the mother of his children! Please fight this, sending you lots of support 🙏
Most of the this is happening to men. The family court judge did this to her based on the evidence. The reason this happened to her was because of feminism. This wasn't happening to women in the 1950's.
Oh my heart. I remember watching your channel years ago! You are an angel and a wonderful mother. No man should be able to take everything from the mother of his children. I say keep fighting. You are so strong. Don’t give in and settle and let him take everything. Fight for a strong lawyer fight for you and your kids. Praying this ends up in you and your babies best interest. Sending love.
You can't know a person very well by their TH-cam channel. The judge made the decision based on the evidence provided. She could be a drug user and narcissistic child abuser behind the scenes. The reason she's in this situation is because of feminism. The feminist created this family court crap in California and 95% of the its men who are getting hurt.
He should be ashamed, a REAL man would rather be broke than live off of anyone, especially his soon to be ex-wife. I hope we all have some sort of positive impact on your life while you’re going through this craziness. You are a doll, you will come out on top! Lots of love from Louisiana❤
Do not settle! If settling means you have to pay him everything you have and more, then you have nothing to lose at trial. Fight! And also ask about starting a new page with a different name. Everyone I think would definitely migrate to the new channel in support
We would follow to a new channel if this would help! As she already told, this channel is Worth nothing without her in it! Fight, Brittany, do it for the kids! They need a mom who does not settle for something that's not fair!
Thank you for being real even when it’s hard, embarrassing,frustrating,sad and/or overwhelming. Letting go is a struggle but all your blessings are still coming your way. I’m speaking from experience it’ll turn around in time.❤
I agree, although I can’t imagine how difficult it is to live with someone like that. I lasted about 3 weeks after deciding to get divorced before I moved out because he was so intolerable, but we were only renting so it didn’t hurt me in the end.
Go to trial! Don't settle! Get GOOD attorneys! And be glad to be rid of this man-child. He is NO 'man', to be doing this to you and your/his children. Be Strong! You Got This.
I was married 20 years to a narcissist. He broke me down then left me with nothing!! Don't settle fight him tooth and nail. You have the support of your followers all the way!!
I hope Brittany reads this. 1. The other woman in narcissist jargon is called triangulation. The third party is to hurt and make like you’re the one crazy. Don’t go off on him. 2. Flying monkeys -the ones who will go around and see what you’re doing and report back. Gray rock method- become uninteresting and unengaged as possible to avoid giving abusive people a reaction. 3. Don’t let your emotions become the ruler of your choices. Stay strong and cry when you’re alone. He loves to see you weak…
My dear Brittany, I feel your pain and can relate 100%. I am a fellow San Diegan, and attorney. California Community Property Law is punitive towards the higher-income generating spouse. There is no legal precedence for valuating and 50/50ing this specific type of businesses. If you went to trial, you'd be making caselaw for posterity. Of course, not sure if you have the funds or the stomach to endure a trial of this nature. Only you can decide what step to take next. I have some ideas, and know few excellent trial attorneys. I am here for you, as is your community.
I’m Canadian so I don’t know how the law works there but isn’t there any change in legal proceedings if the divorce is directly related to domestic violence? I get “no fault” when it comes to most things but if one spouse is the victim of domestic violence there should be differences, in that instance there is 100% an at fault party. No sane judge would read the messages he sent her and be able to say that it wasn’t emotional abuse
CA Community Property law absolutely doesn't make ANY sense. I get it, and agree. But -- absent a solid prenup- California is a no fault state and splits 100% of the assets 50/50 with the higher income generating spouse paying for support into the future and all legal fees. For domestic violence, that would be a case under tort or criminal law, which could be merged with family law case under certain circumstances. In family law, the court doesn't even bother with what "he said, she said." They just split assets according to the law. @@kristinmccluskey4093
I don’t understand why she has to pay his lawyers. And if she does why does he get amazing ones why can’t she be paying for the worst cheapest lawyers for him?
@@koolpebblethe law is based on precedent, meaning what has been decided in the courts previously. She is saying there hasn’t been precedent (prior cases) to establish how to split a business like this TH-cam channel 50/50 (which is the requirement in California), but if she’s willing to go to trial, it could set new precedent/case law for similar cases in the future. This would be costly, but could benefit her and others in similar situations in the future. No one could really predict if the outcome would be better, unfortunately.
We need to send tweets to all the TH-cam Lawyers and ask for their opinions on this. The more attention we can get for Brittany, the more help she will have to fight through this!
I have been worried about you. I have adopted you as my daughter. I’m in SC so I don’t know but am horrified by your laws. I cannot believe what you are going through. And, please forgive me as your adopted mother, I did not ever like when he jumped into your videos. Go away!! You are a nuisance to this beautiful woman sharing wonderful things with us. So sorry. My heart is with you. But you need to FIGHT for what is right for you. I had one of those creeps who thought the world revolved around his important being. Well I stood up and fought and started over in a studio apartment in the Magnificent Mile in Chicago. It honestly rocked my world but I was eventually finished with the loser who was so important and famous in his own mind. Life became beautiful after the turbulence and the storms and it will for you too. One foot in front of the other. You have beautiful friends in your platform who love you and wrap our arms around you. Stay strong sweetheart. You will win and move on. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@debbieking5680 I’ve adopted her also as my overseas daughter after having all boys, ever since I found her channel years ago, I fell in Love with her way back then and thought to myself, if ever I would of been blessed with a daughter, I’d want her to be just like Brittany, even watching her become a Mum, I adored her children and her parenting skills, so she has two adopted Mums within Us…Breaks My Heart 💔 what she’s going through..🥺🥺😢😢
Do NOT give him this! This is NOT fair in any place in the world. He does not deserve this at all. The fact that he is even doing this is insane. What a little man.
The problem is, with law, fair will never happen. Fairness is what two people get when they can talk about things, maybe discuss, but in the end they will find a fair solution. When you’re bringing in law, and lawyers, and money, it’s not about being fair, it’s about getting the most.and right now he’s in a very cushy seat where he’s trying to get the most on her dime, while also taking that dime away. So it is definitely not fair. But she really needs to strategize, this is not going to be easy.
There's a woman I watch on TH-cam who went through a divorce a couple years ago. She was the breadwinner and she also had a brand. I don't know the details of her divorce but she closed her business and started from scratch and it worked out well for her. If you decided to do this we would support you 100%.
GIRL!!!!!!.... YOU ARE GOING TO TRIAL!!!! THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS!!!! I had that ol' boy pegged the minute I laid eyes on him!!!! ....go get him and WIN WIN WIN....We are here for you!!!!!
I never liked Ryan, I could never pin point but he seemed shady. I have been a OG of Britney's channel , he would always be going to the gym and bailing on her. She should go to trial. I'm pretty sure this dude cheated on her multiple times.
@@janteynor5524absolutely will follow Brittany and Support her with whatever she needs, I’m in shock to think this narcissist is doing this to the mother of his children, I hope as they get older, they’ll understand what he has done to them and they have nothing to do with him once they get older and see the truth…😢😢😢
Trial Trial Trial!! He deserves NOTHING!! Although I have no idea what’s behind this I pick up vibes and beautiful Brittany you deserve to come out on top!! You’ve got this! Stay strong, hold your head high and DO NOT SETTLE!!
I agree, the future will still be bright for Brittany. She is smart and strong. The only dumpster fire is that sorry excuse for a human being ex of hers.
If anyone was in doubt of the guys character before, this tells you all you need to know. Who is shameless and sociopathic enough to feel entitled to this? My heart is pounding with rage. Just know you have an army on your side, you amazing goddess ❤
THIIIS!!! I said the same thing! This is the mother of YOUR children! How can you do this to her?! Even if you somehow have so much ‘hatred’ for whatever reason, think about your children, and how this will affect them. How will they view you when they’re older and develop an understanding of what happened? He needs to stop acting on the present and think logically. Whoever is fuelling him does not have neither his nor his children’s best interest at heart! This level of bitterness never works out in the bitter party’s favour!
My heart goes out to you...stay strong. Go with your instincts...he is weak, that's why he's trying to leach off you. You've always been the strong one.
If you didn’t trust your previous lawyer then it’s likely you were getting a raw deal. I’m an attorney in FL, and I’m SHOCKED at what’s happening to you. It’s so unfortunate. Good for you for trusting your instinct and firing your lawyer. Keep trusting your instincts, and pray about it. I think the house you looked at is lovely and would be great for you and your kiddos. In 5 years, this won’t be your reality. You have worked so hard and I love watching your channel. DON’T GIVE UP!
It’s not that easy to amass another 1.5M subscribers and views. This channel has analytics that has a lot of value for her. It’s how she pays her bills. She needs to try to fight for her channel and her life.
I agree! Give him the channel! She needs to get him to buy her out of the channel at the extortionately high valuation he made! Yes it will absolutely suck for her to say bye to her channel but as her subscribers I’d rather see her keep her other assets and home! Once the divorce is finalised, she can build a new channel and share her journey which would gain a lot of traction and followers! As well as her original lifestyle follows 🙏
👏👏👏GO to Trial! It happened to me and I fought for 10 years!!!And ppl would tell me to quit and settle. I Fired 2 lawyers during the process and finally got justice last year. Felt amazing! He even had to pay in retrospect 50% lawyers fees during my 10 years (bc I was the one paying for the trial- not him). Go to trial, fight for everything you built.
Please if someone out there is a lawyer or knows of one that can help her in her particular situation,please please reach out to her!! Let's all as a community pray for her and her kids for them to have the best outcome, xo❤
Do the trial. Don't give up! DON'T GIVE UP GIRL. I am gooing thru hell for a year. Fear of my job, my house, my sozial life. Bit I don't give up and there is a light now. Finally. DON'T GIVE UP!!!
Or give Him the channel. Everyone would unsubscribe and we would follow you to your new chanel. It would Tage a bit of time to get such a bit following back. Buuut, Everyone Option Tages time. And this is probaböy the cheapest
I would end this channel and start a new one without the LLC. There will still be reruns on this channel but going forward it would all be yours. My daughter went through something similar to you and it nearly destroyed her with PTSD...and all of us, too. Keep sharing on TH-cam and you'll find we'll all be here to support you.
You got this mama!!!! Fight the fight even if you have to start all over again on YOUR OWN because you have your loyal people behind you even if we don’t know you personally.
I’m glad you’re getting a new attorney! Ryan should be ashamed of his lack of testicles. No real man would be able to do this to the mother of his children!
Girl, give him the channel and start a new one. We will follow you and help you grow. This is insane. I am so sorry. Fight him. Do not settle and give him your home. We’ve watched you do this for years and no matter what we got you ❤
Yes! Give him the channel. If they’re saying it’s worth so much then go with it! We’ll follow you! The “channel” isn’t worth your sanity. We follow you on other media. Everyone will find you
He dosnt wannt the channel. He wants what the channel is worth. They want money. I’ve. Been reading some answers/comments and rewatching the video. I just realized that myself.
Keep pushing your life forward beautiful lady, this will eventually be just a horrible memory with many lessons learned. I've been there and now on the other side of the nightmare. Better to know the truth about this person...sooner than later is better. Live your best life! It does get much better!
I just cannot believe this. It’s blowing my mind that he literally gets everything. I’m adding you to my prayer board, Brittany. Don’t settle. I know you feel worn down but that’s what he is counting on.
I agree we all need to pray for her and show her how powerful God is.. I know through my divorce and I was married to a minister who was a wolf in sheep clothing.. I really had to come to Jesus meeting got completely sober and my life has been forever changed 11 years now! Have a relationship with Jesus Christ because of that divorce because I had lost a child because of everything I went through. I would go through all that again just to know Jesus Christ.!
Take him to trial! Even if the money is spent on lawyer fees he won’t get the money. He doesn’t deserve! We only watch this channel for you! Stay strong we will be here to support you! ❤
Hey girl! I really like the new place, I know it is just an option, but it is a fresh start. It is lovely! I live in the same county, so I feel your pain, I have been divorced since 2009 and life can start again. You are a beautiful soul, keep your chin up. You are just beginning to tap into how strong you are.If anything, let that be your online legacy, to show your kids, your viewers how you rebuild , renew, and refine your new life! We support you! Prayers and hugs!
This is your channel. This is your livelihood. This is your life. Absolutely fuck them for trying to ruin your life and therefore impact their own children’s lives. Selfish doesn’t even cover it. We support YOU, Brittany!
Brittany, I never comment but I wanted to tell you - I'm praying for you. I'm praying that true justice will be served!!! And that you will be blessed so much more than you've ever wished for.. And also, as your other viewers have also commented, we're coming with you. We support you!
First of all, we are here for you Brittany! This is just horrendous. How can you take care of you and your family with a settlement like that! No way! I would take his 🍑 to court! Also, shame on him for doing this to you. It's so unfair and not right. I pray for you for strength and peace during this difficult time! Much 💓💓💓
This is not fair!!!! You are going in the right direction: change your team and fight for yourself and your kids, surround yourself with the right people and if anything like this ever happened in TH-cam, maybe some TH-camrs could share some advice and contacts? You got this!
Trial - keep your faith - keep your house it’s for your kids!! Reach out to any TH-camrs who have gone thru divorce and check out their lawyers. Good luck and don’t give up ..
i think she should ditch the house. "He" lived in it. new memories in a new house. And its Britney Vasseur. She can make the next house even more beautiful.
So sorry this happened to you don’t give up.Find yourself a good attorney.Praying for you that everything works out in your favor. God Bless you and your children.
One day, you will look back to this. But it might be while on a PR tour for your bestseller book on narcissist marriage hell. You will help and speak up for so many woman! Your future will be brighter than you can even imagine in your wildest dreams. And your followers will be with you along the way! Love and light! ❤ We believe in you and support you! ❤️
He is actually psycho. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We are here with you to support you through everything! You’re so strong and an amazing mom. One day they will realize the fight you put in for them!
Brittany, you’re one of the strongest woman I have come across TH-cam. You will get through this! With utmost respect I advise you to not reveal your entire strategy of how you’re going to approach this case publicly. Your husband and his attorneys will understand where your mind is at and will go against it with all they can. Even admitting that you don’t have money to go through trial could be harmful. If they think a trial is on the way they might be willing for a compromise. Sharing the details once it’s all done would be the smart thing to do. ❤
Go to trial!!! Don’t give up without more of a fight. I’d rather see you spend all you have to fight this than give him a cent. You got this and we will be here supporting you! 💪
I don't know if you had an atty present with you when the "settlement" was put on the table, but if this was the first offer presented in court, I'm not surprised he's asking for "everything". California is a no-fault community property state, it wouldn't even be legal for your ex to receive everything, and for you to be left with nothing. Definitely take this to trial. The ex & his atty are pushing your buttons, because they are bullies! Try to keep in mind that what you're going through emotionally is a response to the games that are played with douche bag attys & their clients. You are an amazingly strong & beautiful woman...DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF THAT!
Someone mentioned honor and YES! An honorable MAN would do the honorable thing and let his wife keep the house, kids, everything! I am so incredibly sorry that you are going through this nightmare. I thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. May God give you the strength and patience to deal with all of this. I will be praying for you!❤
A different lawyer sounds necessary. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm sure anxiety is high right now. I am sending positive vibes. Do not settle.
I live in CA and went through a divorce 7 years ago. I'm a SAHM and someone else mentioned that a judge does have the other spouse pay as if you are both living the same lifestyle you were while married. It doesn't surprise me that you'd have to pay that in support BUT you need a damn good lawyer to win this. My lawyer is amazing and fought tooth and nail for me but I'm a little farther than San Diego or I'd suggest him. Never settle, I was never handed ove the house, it had to be sold or I buy him out so that's sus to me lol! Go to trial, it'll be worth it I promise. Keep fighting and stay strong girlie!!
@maryw2870 I totally agree about this, lawyer knows lawyer, I introduce my lawyer to my friend who were having a court case with a hospital after her husband died during treatment. my lawyer manage to get her the best fit lawyer for her case, I am so glad I didnt hesitate to just ask my lawyer to give her a helping hand.
Im so sorry that you are having to go through all of this... :( Absolutely disgusting that he feels so entitled, with such complete disregard for your kids and the life that you provided for him....makes me physically ill...my heart breaks for you 😢 Completely agree with the above comment, though...surround yourself with those who can help keep you strong, and get the biggest bulldog of an attorney that you can with trial experience that is wiling to play hardball. I know that the thought of spending that much money on representation is sickening, but they can help you fight to protect your kids and all that you've worked for. Your ex is counting on you not wanting to drag this out more...deal #1 is insane. I can't imagine that any judge would agree to the demands of scenario #1, especially when there are children involved. Sending prayers and hugs from Portland, OR ❤
You’re such a lovely person, a gorgeous Mum and have built a wonderful channel. It’s incomprehensible but the cream always rises as we say in England …and so you will. Trust the right answer will come to you. Prayers and blessings ❤
I sat here tearing wishing there was something that I could say to help you in any way, but all I can say is that I will be praying earnestly for you to find peace & just know “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).
Any lawyers that have a high winning rate please save Brittany!! Girl, fight for you and your kids! Do not settle under any circumstance. Do not give him the satisfaction. I share custody with a narcissist and trust me they do not stop. You still have to co parent with him. I’m telling you from experience do not fall and give into his demands. If you do, he will make it even harder for you down the line. Trust me trust me. Fight and don’t give in. If you win, it’s a win. If you lose at least you fought and have no regrets. I’ve been watching you since you were pregnant with Carter. Your subscribers are here for you Brittany 🙏🏽💐
I totally understand what you're going through. As another woman who was married and divorced in the state of California, very financially responsible and successful, I had the same thing happen to me... it BURNS. especially when you're the primary caregiver for the kids... and he has no responsibility. What I learned? I will never get remarried without a prenup.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this my love!!!! It’s so heart wrenching that a person you thought you loved and trusted with your life has the audacity to stab you in the back like this!! 💔 I’m so sorry. I will be praying for you and I pray you have a good strong supportive and loving circle. It’s easy to say “oh yeah just give him what he wants” to not deal with the prolonged agony and stress of all of it but this was your creation!!! ❤️🩹💔🙏🏻💖
Guys I want to clarify here- i am not currently broke -what I explain in the video is that i will likely be left with nothing if either of the 2 options for settling this divorce move forward. The settlement would result in me having zero dollars plus a huge loan and support and going to trial will cost me likely everything i have. I would have to rent an apartment not buy - when i filmed this house hunting it was prior to the settlement meeting and I didn’t know I wouldn’t be able to buy
Divorce advice for you. Quit your job and delete this channel. Income gone. You’re too depressed by Ryan’s infidelity and have quit your job to recuperate. No income to pay alimony. Assets will have to be split. Divorce is what divorce is.
Ryan and Lindsey seem like true love. They should get married asap. Alimony stops when the new spouse gets married, Brittany.
If Ryan loves Lindsey so much, he should marry her asap right? He loves her enough to introduce the kids so soon.
Hi, do you realize that if Ryan is watching this video, he can just screenshot your advice and show it to the judge…. Please be cautious when providing her any advice.
Agreed. Is there an email we can email you at?
@@lifeinthemo2372 are you out of your mind?
Just give him half of the TH-cam channel and be done with it, if that’s what it takes. You’re wasting money with attorneys.
Listen, if you "closed" the business and started over from scratch to be more strategic as a business woman or employee, we would overwhelmingly come with you.
This this this!
I agree. Get a new lawyer and ask him about this!
Except that would likely be seen as a tactic to avoid paying him which the courts do NOT like.
I was thinkingbthe same thing
Yes!!
Make another channel. I’ll follow you on the new one RIGHT AWAY
unfortunately it wouldn't matter...it's based on the "value" of my channel at time of separation. I'm not even allowed to quit because I owe him so much money
This is absolutely Appalling! Not only for the legal system but how can he do this to the mother of his children?! What a despicable human being! I'm getting ready to start my divorce and this terrifies me! Girl. You have got to believe in karma And things happen for a reason! He will definitely get his someday. But you have to focus on your self and your kids! Hang in there girl. You got all of us!❤
What about the kids?! Shouldn’t they allow you to keep the house for the kids? He’s a jerk for not allowing you to keep the house for HIS kids
@vasseurbeauty if you quit and file bankruptcy, then what?
@@vasseurbeautyhi I’m very sad this is happening to you. Don’t give him anything, not the house or the accounts. Let him have the channel. Once the divorce is final then make a new channel. Everyone will follow you. Stay strong don’t let him get anything you need your house ❤.
A man who does not give the mother of his children the home with his children is a person who lives without honor. You have honor and courage always, no one can take that away from you.
Agree with you wholeheartedly!! Any so called man, who does these actions is scum in my eyes!! It’s all greed!
Agreed. My dad made sure my mom had everything she needed to raise us. My mom was a stay at home mom and my dad worked and made all the money. He STILL made sure she stayed in the house with us/had enough money for bills, made sure she got the car, and makes sure, to this day, that she has everything she needs. He is re-married. His wife even knows that he will always make sure the mother of his kids is taken care of, and his wife admires that about him. All WITHOUT court. I have learned from him not to expect anything less. Grateful to have an honorable man as my father, and I am sad for Capri to have this example of a man to grow up witnessing. I am so so sorry this is happening to you & I hope you know that no matter what you decide, YOU are the one prioritizing your kids and THAT is honorable and admirable and you will be who they look up to and admire. 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Absolutely! Especially after what he did to her. I think it's pretty obvious to us all he cheated multiple times
I think they have 50/50 time with the kids, so it's not like she is with the kids all the time and taking the house (I think?).
He’s not a man
Attorney here as well. That is not an equitable solution. I’ve watched you for probably eight years and have always loved your content. I fully believe you and I genuinely think you need a better lawyer. Don’t get taken to the cleaners. This is your one chance to not get screwed by him anymore. I believe in you! You can do this! You have all of us.
I was thinking the same thing. She needs a better attorney.
I agree! Fight this, take him to the cleaners, lol.
I was thinking the same thing!!! Geez
Omg!!!! Heck no!!!! There’s no way!!!!! Yes get another lawyer, talk about changing name and everyone will follow. Start over, you are valuable, sorry not him. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hang in there mama! Get a better attorney! You got this!!! Sending you strength! ❤
Go to trial!!! Fight this narcissist bastard! He had a “job” before quitting and joining you. Where does that figure in??? This is NOT an equitable dissolution of assets. I’m on Team Brittany.❤
Unfortunately, California is not an "Equitable Distribution" state. It's a community property state, and assets are typically divided 50/50 period. This makes me SO glad I live in an equitable distribution state when I divorced. No way around it - divorce SUCKS. BUT, there is happiness on the other side. I'm more content now (20+ years later) than I was while married. Tough to go through, but as the saying goes, "the only way out is through." Prayers for you, Brittany.
Well sad , us poor people don't have these problems.
What a horrible man. Omg! How could he do this to the mother of his children
Bottom line is get a new lawyer and hire a business valuation professional. There is NO WAY your business could be valued so high because it is solely contingent on you working it! The proof is the 7M follower account sold for $60k.
That is the main financial point to argue here. Unfair, but let him have 50% of everything, buy him out for a reasonable sum for your business and move on.
You are at the point of a breakdown, which may not enable you to continue working, and let’s see how much your business would be worth then?
@@melindasmith3713 very nasty. Because you could be doing what she’s doing if you had some drive in your life
Brittany, I am a lawyer (though not your lawyer, not in California and this is not legal advice). As a long time fan of yours, I need to tell you: if you are considering going to trial, please make sure your next lawyers are VERY experienced in trials. I know it sounds obvious, but many lawyers have never gone to trial because their cases usually settle. You would be surprised about how few lawyers have actually been lead counsel in a trial. Make sure you are asking questions of your next lawyer before hiring them as to how many trials they have been lead counsel on.
Good luck!!! Rooting for you 💖💖💖
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VERY wise advice ❤
Good advice
Great advice!
Was hoping some awesome lawyers out there would chime in! 🙏 ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ we're with you all the way Brittany!
Do NOT settle! Give him the channel! We follow YOU, not the channel. We're with you 🙏🙏
Exactly!
THIS!
Yessss.
Yup!!
Yes, if the channel is so extremely valuable, let him have it.
Someone help this lady with a lawyer.. She definitely deserves it.She's a great woman with a great heart. If there are any great lawyers out there watching this please support her.❤
How do you know that?
@@OlgaSmirnova1Are you related to her husband? smh
Any man who tries to take the mother of his kids down and leave her + the kids with nothing is not a man at all. Praying for you! You are so clearly loved and supported❤
Well said!
Yes if this is what is happening.
Definitely! He is not masculine!
More like a demon
Exactly this!! He is horrible
I can’t imagine someone treating the mother of their children like this. May God protect you and your family.
Narcissistic people have no shame
My thought as well…I’ll pray for you!
A Complete Disgrace!!!!!😢
Yep
I know, and he seemed so nice too... what a creep. I hope his new love interest checks out Brittany's youtube out of curiosity and sees what a creep he truly is !
Give him the TH-cam channel and brand, and you keep the cash and the house. Start a new channel. If it's worth that much, he will happily take it! Sounds like a win/win. Start over, we will all follow you.
He wouldn't cause he knows it isn't worth it without her... but also seems to be using those inflated numbers to his advantage. It seems so disgusting.
Yes! Quit the youtube channel. Now she would make less than him. So he would be the higher earning spouse so he can pay the legal fees and child support. I can't stand men like that. Completely self serving especially getting a girlfriend and trying to put his kids in her life right now. He sucks!
No, I say give him the house and keep the channel. The channel makes money and will continue to make money. She can buy another house. It may be slower but worth it. She shouldn't lose her Business 😢
He is not the crown holder! She is. All he wants is money and power not thinking about how it will affect his kids. I don’t care how long it takes do not settle. Everyone is saying the same. Praying for the absolute best! ❤
Praying the best you you
The fact that he is fighting for all of that but isn’t thinking about how it’s gonna affect the kids blows my mind, I’m sorry you’re going through all of this stay strong!
He is not a father, just a sperm 😊donor!!
Oh hell nah! He was plotting on you the whole time. I’ve heard horror stories about people going through a divorce in California. I would definitely hire a new lawyer and go to trial. Praying for you girl!
Ive been there. He was. You dont see it when youre in love but the little moves they make and claim its for both of you but nope they know better and usentheir knowledge to their benefit
They take the easy option by going after everything you build up by yourself because they CANT do it for themselves.
They are thieves.
😢 i am so sorry my heart breaks for you disgusting someone can do that especially to their own children piece of s t!!!
Here in Norway they would never do this. I`m shocked!! You share equally if you had a contract. Not only one of them get most of it. Its insane!!!
If you are buying that house, I believe there is a HOA Fee you will have to pay every month. If it can go up , I wouldn't buy any house or condo that has a monthly HOA fee. It doesn't sound like 50/50 on your divorce. You are smart getting a new lawyer. Of your two choices, the trial sounds best. But I'm not a lawyer. Will be praying for you.
Attorney here. I don’t practice in California, but I would advise you to interview a few more lawyers for a second, third and fourth opinion. There are ALWAYS loopholes in law. Someone will find one that works for you. Be very sure they have documented evidence of beating narcissists in court.
I was just going to say that she needs better legal representation
I agree she is being taken to the cleaners n then some n the fact her lawyer wasn't even trying for other options sounds off to me
She needs to make sure the judges are aware of the domestic violence he put her through, if nothing he will get less alimoney!!!!!!!!!! Also if he was obtaining steroids illegally surely that counts towards some form of substance abuse and could contribute to instances of roid rage!!!
Be careful don't share too much that can possibly be used against you and just remember a person will always reap what they so....in the end you will come out on top❤❤
THIS!
Do not settle. Period....hire another attorney if you need to. Pray & let God handle the rest. 🙏
I concur
Yes!! This has to be the worst lawyer of all time. She loses everything???
I 100% agree! Get a new attorney immediately!
You’ve gotta keep fighting, there’s no other option imo….he’s shown you who he really is…you need to remind him who you really are…strong, resilient, beautiful, loyal, and most importantly, the BEST role model for your kids! They’ll see who both of you really are as they grow up, unfortunately…especially for him.
God is going to give her double for her trouble. I believe that❤
I am muslim, i will include you in my prayers for the rest of ramadan. Remember you are still smart, gracious, healthy, young, resilient and beautiful inside. Stay strong ❤️
Thank god I’m Muslim, it’s really a fair religion, whatever the reason of the divorce the house is always for the wife to stay in with her children. and if the kids will stay with their mother , the husband is inforced to pay a certain amount depends on his income to his wife for his children. And the husband has no right to have any penny of his wife income or whatever she owns no matter what.
I thank god for being a muslim ❤
@@tarfaabuisha8759My thoughts exactly after I saw her video , Thank God I’m Muslim.
Praying for you.
DO NOT SETTLE! This man wants a free ride on your dime. He knew what he was doing. You are going to keep and double what you have. Sending you hugs and know that you have a community of people behind you. ❤ I just can’t believe a man would do this to the mother of his children. 😢
Exactly that tells you everything you need to know about this man.
Right?! This update hurts my heart for her. I can't believe someone would make this ludicrous judgment, especially when she's been the main caretaker for her kids their entire lives.
And we use the term “man” very loosely!!
I don’t understand why will she have to pay child support? She is having the kids! How can he be so selfish to take her money, he is very young has a new gf and has moved on! Want the house? Fine keep the house and that’s it. Incredible
California is a joke! I think this is so unfair and he’s a complete POS for doing this. Like dude just leave take what’s yours and go
He is taking advantage of the fact that you've built this channel, and you're understandably attached to it. The very good news is that unlike any other business, there are no assets but YOU. Give him the damn channel and get a new lawyer to negotiate that you'll give him the "business" with the LLC and all and no house, no alimony but 100% of the "business". Then start a new channel and we ALL will immediately subscribe to your new channel. You are not losing anything valuable here. He is emotionally torturing you. All you built is your credibility that he can't take from you. Be strong we're all here for you.
This, this, thissssss!!!!!!!!! Yessssss!!!!!!!
YES! this is what you need to do...give him the business! we will leave and he can make his own money. Two can play this game... he will totally look worse than you when you have his phone searched. He is the reason this happened... what a low life!
and... the reason you won't make any money on your channel anymore is due to him, you can't get in front of the camera right now to run your "business" properly so, you will not be making money until you fix this eruption to your life and the kids' life, caused by him.
@Brittany Vasseur This is actually a great strategy! Give him your channel/business and you keep the house. Not sure how close that would be to a 50/50 split, but from how you are describing the value of your channel, it may be close in value. If you are no longer generating income, or your income is (temporarily) less than his income after you give him the channel, you will not be obligated to pay him spousal support. And if he becomes the higher earner, he will have to pay you spousal support. Then start a new channel and your subscribers will follow you. But wait to start your new channel to keep your income low until after the divorce is finalized. In the meantime, do not make any changes like moving, until this is all wrapped up. You may end up complicating things further. I assume you can pay your current mortgage and living expenses on your own. I'm sorry Brittany but you will have to make some painful sacrifices. You need to decide if you want to keep the house or the channel. I'd go for the house and start a new channel. Best of luck to you.
@faithfj YES!
If any good HONEST lawyer watching..PLEASE help this beautiful soul.🙏
LMAO
Yes
Lol what?
😂😂😂. Good, honest lawyer! Is there such a thing? I’ve never met one.
@@123yllib you clearly don’t get out much
I would advise you to not talk about this in your channel. This can be used against you, plus you are giving out your strategy to his lawyers. You need to be very private about this or it will backfire.
I was looking for a comment like this. I totally agree with you. She can shear her story after the final decision if she chooses. I'm surprised her lawyer didn't mention this.
I’m sorry Brittany. Fuck this guy. He’s not just doing this to you, he’s doing it to HIS KIDS too 💔 you are so strong and have support. No matter what you decide, you will make it through this and rebuild!
Exactly doing this to the mother of his children. The kids will see it all once they grow up.
Yes!! Wait til they find out what he did when they are older!!!
exactly, Carter and Capri have some harsh lessons coming where their dad is concerned. unfortunately.
YESSSSSS!!!!!!!
A real scumbag he is.
DO NOT SETTLE !!!! Don’t give up. Find the right lawyers and fight for your life . Even if you spend every dollar you have on legal fees..at least that money doesn’t go to him
this!!!!!
Good point👍
Exactly my thought!
Yeah. This is insanity. If she goes to trial, she will definitely get a fairer deal.
Just remember whatever you lose you will make back x10. Blessings are often given after being broken. You will recover I promise.
I want to believe that but I'm honestly so worn down at this point I don't know if I have the strength to rebuild
@@vasseurbeautyI agree with the comment. Take time to heal, and then come back and show that POS he didn’t break you. You do have it in you. You just need to grieve the current situation and then move on to bigger and better! ❤
@@vasseurbeauty yes you will!!! 🥺 we are here with you, we have been here for YEARS ! And will continue to support you
Brittany, please remember, you have something he will never have, a large tribe of awesome, strong supporters in your corner. 💕
You will find the strength for yourself and your children.
I came across you in 2015 at 42, a new wife and pregnant.I am now 51 and all I want to say is “Get rid of this and start another!” I will be the first to subscribe. You have no idea the amount of support and love that is out here for you. Keep smiling beautiful cause you will indeed have the last laugh. 💜
I'm still single so your post gives me hope! I also hope Brittany is able to get a great lawyer so Ryan doesn't screw her over! I really thought he was a normal nice guy....so sad to see he's not even close to that.
Give him the TH-cam channel. He can make anything out of it. And we are here for you. We will follow you wherever you go!
That’s what I would do, that’s what he wants, he can have it and you keep everything you worked for, your followers will follow you, your brands will follow you.
Yes give it to him set up another one I bet I know which will get more views and subscribers xxx
I was going to write the same thing.. give him the channel and start a new one. I bet most followers will follow the new one. This is so sad 😢
Give him the channel or close it, let’s start new with you.
Side note: his behavior now and putting you on a cliff when you were his wife for X years and the mother of his tow babies is so narcissistic and sick. He showed you his monstrous nature so you will never doubt yourself or feel any guilt for choosing divorce. Good for the children to grow away from him too
Stay strong
We love you and pray for you ❤❤
My thoughts exactly!! Give him the channel and you will have so many of us follow you. Don't let the overwhelm overtake you. ❤
New lawyer, new channel, new life. I’ve had to start over at 57. It’s not easy, and I’m struggling, but it’s worth it. A house is just a house. Your good mental state and your love and stability is what your kids need. You will all get through it, I promise. It may not be what you thought it would be but that’s ok.
Slay gurl and show your kids what a true survivor you really are ~ you got this!!!
THIS! ❤💯
In the next man, she did that and make sure he’s wealthier.
What state are you in
@@rainforestblessed5031 I'm asking KAREN genius 🙄
@@Qandoluk New York
Never hated a stranger so much. Sending all the strength in the world to you, and your babies. Wish there was a way we could help! ❤
I was thinking the same as I watched this video. Can’t stand the guy, and don’t even know him. By the end, I thought the same thing… I wish we could help her. Hell, maybe even a go fund me for legal fees.
Yes how can we help her, I am in tears for her.
this is why I am not getting married. ef that noise
I obviously don't know him, but the first time I ever saw him in a video, I wondered why this beautiful, talented woman was with such a f*ckboy. That said, I have no doubt what caused this divorce.
@@melissamelissa2672 Ditto and I got off vibes straight away and was unfortunately not at all surprised this happened. When he quit his job and started to appear on this channel my red flags started waving even harder. He has gone as low as they can go and does not care one bit about his his kids or he would not be literally trying to ruin Brittany. I am praying Karma comes back to royally bit him in the a** and that Britanny can fight this and get some sort of justice. She needs to stop being so nice and get a lawyer that even she hates to fight for her.
As a fellow female I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you sharing your story with other females to help share how this situation works and to educate others. You are brilliant and bright and I really hope for the very best for you to figure everything out. Thank you for sharing the hard moments with the world. We love you ❤
My god has the man no pride or self-respect. I have never commented on any youtube channel, but this just infuriates me. He is a golddigger. You are the mother of his children! Please fight this, sending you lots of support 🙏
Exactly. Thats why I dont know if we can say “man” if we are talking about this asshole.
Most of the this is happening to men. The family court judge did this to her based on the evidence. The reason this happened to her was because of feminism. This wasn't happening to women in the 1950's.
Give him the channel, so many women have started over and are back better than before. We will follow YOU!
I agree.
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Yeah! Brittany's version!!!!
OMG- could you do that???? If he’s saying that it is worth that much- give it to him. We will follow you….
Keep your beautiful head up
This made me cry 😢! Horrible ! Horrible man !
I would never watch this channel without you in it. I am sure most people feel the same way. We will follow you.
Oh my heart.
I remember watching your channel years ago! You are an angel and a wonderful mother. No man should be able to take everything from the mother of his children.
I say keep fighting. You are so strong. Don’t give in and settle and let him take everything. Fight for a strong lawyer fight for you and your kids. Praying this ends up in you and your babies best interest. Sending love.
You can't know a person very well by their TH-cam channel. The judge made the decision based on the evidence provided. She could be a drug user and narcissistic child abuser behind the scenes. The reason she's in this situation is because of feminism. The feminist created this family court crap in California and 95% of the its men who are getting hurt.
He should be ashamed, a REAL man would rather be broke than live off of anyone, especially his soon to be ex-wife. I hope we all have some sort of positive impact on your life while you’re going through this craziness. You are a doll, you will come out on top! Lots of love from Louisiana❤
I read the text that he sent her when she was pregnant . She should've left him a long time ago.
This is not at all surprising. Ryan was always horning in on her channel and let’s not forget he quit is job. What’s he been doing?
I agree he is a loser, I would fight him, start over your you tube family is with you!!!
@@mileva3723Yikes. He is foul in the worst way.
I’d do to trail that’s messed up how someone tries to take EVERYTHING from you
Do not settle! If settling means you have to pay him everything you have and more, then you have nothing to lose at trial. Fight! And also ask about starting a new page with a different name. Everyone I think would definitely migrate to the new channel in support
I totally would, I agree with this great idea!!
We would follow to a new channel if this would help! As she already told, this channel is Worth nothing without her in it! Fight, Brittany, do it for the kids! They need a mom who does not settle for something that's not fair!
Absolutely!!! 🥺😢
I agree with this!
Sounds like you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by going to trial.
Do NOT settle. They’re hoping that you will be so miserable and overwhelmed that you’ll just agree to settle. You have to fight against this monster
Thank you for being real even when it’s hard, embarrassing,frustrating,sad and/or overwhelming. Letting go is a struggle but all your blessings are still coming your way. I’m speaking from experience it’ll turn around in time.❤
DON'T MOVE! this is exactly what he wants!! Do whatever you have to do to keep your home for your kids!!
I agree, although I can’t imagine how difficult it is to live with someone like that. I lasted about 3 weeks after deciding to get divorced before I moved out because he was so intolerable, but we were only renting so it didn’t hurt me in the end.
I agree, don't move. @@snakerivergirl
Go to trial! Don't settle! Get GOOD attorneys! And be glad to be rid of this man-child. He is NO 'man', to be doing this to you and your/his children. Be Strong! You Got This.
I was married 20 years to a narcissist. He broke me down then left me with nothing!! Don't settle fight him tooth and nail. You have the support of your followers all the way!!
I hope Brittany reads this. 1. The other woman in narcissist jargon is called triangulation. The third party is to hurt and make like you’re the one crazy. Don’t go off on him. 2. Flying monkeys -the ones who will go around and see what you’re doing and report back. Gray rock method- become uninteresting and unengaged as possible to avoid giving abusive people a reaction. 3. Don’t let your emotions become the ruler of your choices. Stay strong and cry when you’re alone. He loves to see you weak…
Me too. Get a good attorney & fight
My dear Brittany, I feel your pain and can relate 100%. I am a fellow San Diegan, and attorney. California Community Property Law is punitive towards the higher-income generating spouse. There is no legal precedence for valuating and 50/50ing this specific type of businesses. If you went to trial, you'd be making caselaw for posterity. Of course, not sure if you have the funds or the stomach to endure a trial of this nature. Only you can decide what step to take next. I have some ideas, and know few excellent trial attorneys. I am here for you, as is your community.
I’m Canadian so I don’t know how the law works there but isn’t there any change in legal proceedings if the divorce is directly related to domestic violence? I get “no fault” when it comes to most things but if one spouse is the victim of domestic violence there should be differences, in that instance there is 100% an at fault party. No sane judge would read the messages he sent her and be able to say that it wasn’t emotional abuse
CA Community Property law absolutely doesn't make ANY sense. I get it, and agree. But -- absent a solid prenup- California is a no fault state and splits 100% of the assets 50/50 with the higher income generating spouse paying for support into the future and all legal fees. For domestic violence, that would be a case under tort or criminal law, which could be merged with family law case under certain circumstances. In family law, the court doesn't even bother with what "he said, she said." They just split assets according to the law. @@kristinmccluskey4093
I don’t understand why she has to pay his lawyers. And if she does why does he get amazing ones why can’t she be paying for the worst cheapest lawyers for him?
Hi! Please put this in layman's terms. I don't understand what you're saying. Could she be helped or is she screwed?
@@koolpebblethe law is based on precedent, meaning what has been decided in the courts previously. She is saying there hasn’t been precedent (prior cases) to establish how to split a business like this TH-cam channel 50/50 (which is the requirement in California), but if she’s willing to go to trial, it could set new precedent/case law for similar cases in the future. This would be costly, but could benefit her and others in similar situations in the future. No one could really predict if the outcome would be better, unfortunately.
We need to send tweets to all the TH-cam Lawyers and ask for their opinions on this. The more attention we can get for Brittany, the more help she will have to fight through this!
Legal eagle!!! I'm not on twitter can someone forward this video to him???
Uncle Pride here on YT is a San Diego based employee lawyer.
I have been worried about you. I have adopted you as my daughter. I’m in SC so I don’t know but am horrified by your laws. I cannot believe what you are going through. And, please forgive me as your adopted mother, I did not ever like when he jumped into your videos. Go away!! You are a nuisance to this beautiful woman sharing wonderful things with us. So sorry. My heart is with you. But you need to FIGHT for what is right for you. I had one of those creeps who thought the world revolved around his important being. Well I stood up and fought and started over in a studio apartment in the Magnificent Mile in Chicago. It honestly rocked my world but I was eventually finished with the loser who was so important and famous in his own mind. Life became beautiful after the turbulence and the storms and it will for you too. One foot in front of the other. You have beautiful friends in your platform who love you and wrap our arms around you. Stay strong sweetheart. You will win and move on. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@@debbieking5680
@@debbieking5680 I’ve adopted her also as my overseas daughter after having all boys, ever since I found her channel years ago, I fell in Love with her way back then and thought to myself, if ever I would of been blessed with a daughter, I’d want her to be just like Brittany, even watching her become a Mum, I adored her children and her parenting skills, so she has two adopted Mums within Us…Breaks My Heart 💔 what she’s going through..🥺🥺😢😢
Do NOT give him this! This is NOT fair in any place in the world. He does not deserve this at all. The fact that he is even doing this is insane. What a little man.
Very, very little.
The problem is, with law, fair will never happen. Fairness is what two people get when they can talk about things, maybe discuss, but in the end they will find a fair solution. When you’re bringing in law, and lawyers, and money, it’s not about being fair, it’s about getting the most.and right now he’s in a very cushy seat where he’s trying to get the most on her dime, while also taking that dime away. So it is definitely not fair. But she really needs to strategize, this is not going to be easy.
I am crying here watching this and I want to assure you you are in my thoughts. Love you so much, dear.
There's a woman I watch on TH-cam who went through a divorce a couple years ago. She was the breadwinner and she also had a brand. I don't know the details of her divorce but she closed her business and started from scratch and it worked out well for her. If you decided to do this we would support you 100%.
I was thinking of a couple of TH-camrs who went through divorces too. Maybe it would be good for her to connect with others in a similar situation.
@@logicalblueberry Yes I agree. It's better not to feel alone and I'm sure these women would have good advice for her.
GIRL!!!!!!.... YOU ARE GOING TO TRIAL!!!! THIS IS OUTRAGEOUS!!!! I had that ol' boy pegged the minute I laid eyes on him!!!! ....go get him and WIN WIN WIN....We are here for you!!!!!
I never liked Ryan, I could never pin point but he seemed shady. I have been a OG of Britney's channel , he would always be going to the gym and bailing on her. She should go to trial. I'm pretty sure this dude cheated on her multiple times.
Same here I quite watching for a good long time cause he was so cringing to watch. Start a new channel and close down everything and start new.
I NEVER EVER LIKED HIM EITHER
@@joannaprevost426yup totally
I used to skip the parts with him in it
The good news is, nobody will abandon you. Those of us who follow you will keep doing so. The fog will lift. It just takes time ❤.
We definitely will not abandon you! We love your channel,Brittney. We have your back! ❤️
@@janteynor5524absolutely will follow Brittany and Support her with whatever she needs, I’m in shock to think this narcissist is doing this to the mother of his children, I hope as they get older, they’ll understand what he has done to them and they have nothing to do with him once they get older and see the truth…😢😢😢
FIGHT HIM BRITTANY!!! DO NOT GIVE UP!!
I second all of this. Do not let him do what he is trying to do.
Get another lawyer’s opinion. I would also consider shutting this website down and start another one. We will follow!!!
Trial Trial Trial!! He deserves NOTHING!! Although I have no idea what’s behind this I pick up vibes and beautiful Brittany you deserve to come out on top!! You’ve got this! Stay strong, hold your head high and DO NOT SETTLE!!
I agree, the future will still be bright for Brittany. She is smart and strong. The only dumpster fire is that sorry excuse for a human being ex of hers.
YESSSSSSSSSSS
There has to be a good lawyer that sees this in your area.Thats willing to help!
If anyone was in doubt of the guys character before, this tells you all you need to know. Who is shameless and sociopathic enough to feel entitled to this? My heart is pounding with rage. Just know you have an army on your side, you amazing goddess ❤
I’m shaking just listening to this shit.
To the mother of his children. How terrible!
The law applies equally to both parties. But the woman was the one who stop working. The man has to pay for her support when they divorce.
@@IVvOOvVI Usually they stop working to take care of the kids and house. He just went to the gym.
@@zenseed75 haha, this
He is so CHEAP!!! MAN THATS YOUR KIDS MAMA… WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?!
😩😩😩 I’m sorry, I’m a child of divorced parents and this topic hits me hard
THIS! And SHE is keeping the kids, too?? FOH
THIIIS!!! I said the same thing! This is the mother of YOUR children! How can you do this to her?! Even if you somehow have so much ‘hatred’ for whatever reason, think about your children, and how this will affect them. How will they view you when they’re older and develop an understanding of what happened? He needs to stop acting on the present and think logically. Whoever is fuelling him does not have neither his nor his children’s best interest at heart! This level of bitterness never works out in the bitter party’s favour!
My heart goes out to you...stay strong. Go with your instincts...he is weak, that's why he's trying to leach off you. You've always been the strong one.
If you didn’t trust your previous lawyer then it’s likely you were getting a raw deal. I’m an attorney in FL, and I’m SHOCKED at what’s happening to you. It’s so unfortunate. Good for you for trusting your instinct and firing your lawyer. Keep trusting your instincts, and pray about it. I think the house you looked at is lovely and would be great for you and your kiddos. In 5 years, this won’t be your reality. You have worked so hard and I love watching your channel. DON’T GIVE UP!
I hope she sees your comment. Thank you for saying all of that! ❤
Give him the channel girl, it will tank, and your new one will SOAR 💕
So true!
Yes!
It’s not that easy to amass another 1.5M subscribers and views. This channel has analytics that has a lot of value for her. It’s how she pays her bills. She needs to try to fight for her channel and her life.
100%
I agree! Give him the channel! She needs to get him to buy her out of the channel at the extortionately high valuation he made!
Yes it will absolutely suck for her to say bye to her channel but as her subscribers I’d rather see her keep her other assets and home!
Once the divorce is finalised, she can build a new channel and share her journey which would gain a lot of traction and followers! As well as her original lifestyle follows 🙏
👏👏👏GO to Trial! It happened to me and I fought for 10 years!!!And ppl would tell me to quit and settle. I Fired 2 lawyers during the process and finally got justice last year. Felt amazing! He even had to pay in retrospect 50% lawyers fees during my 10 years (bc I was the one paying for the trial- not him). Go to trial, fight for everything you built.
Absolutely do not settle. Sending you strength Brittany, we will follow and support you however we can!!!!!!!!!! Straight up evil ♥
Please if someone out there is a lawyer or knows of one that can help her in her particular situation,please please reach out to her!! Let's all as a community pray for her and her kids for them to have the best outcome, xo❤
Do the trial. Don't give up! DON'T GIVE UP GIRL. I am gooing thru hell for a year. Fear of my job, my house, my sozial life. Bit I don't give up and there is a light now. Finally.
DON'T GIVE UP!!!
Or give Him the channel. Everyone would unsubscribe and we would follow you to your new chanel. It would Tage a bit of time to get such a bit following back. Buuut, Everyone Option Tages time. And this is probaböy the cheapest
Wow gold digger all way! I say she should take him to court who cares what they do!! A least she fought it through
I am so sorry that you are also going through this. Stay strong mamas!!!
I would end this channel and start a new one without the LLC. There will still be reruns on this channel but going forward it would all be yours. My daughter went through something similar to you and it nearly destroyed her with PTSD...and all of us, too. Keep sharing on TH-cam and you'll find we'll all be here to support you.
Agreed
@@JH-tv8zgAbsolutely 💯!!
You got this mama!!!! Fight the fight even if you have to start all over again on YOUR OWN because you have your loyal people behind you even if we don’t know you personally.
Someone needs to get a reporter on Brittany’s story to show how unfair some of these situations are and maybe drum up support for a fair trial
I’m glad you’re getting a new attorney! Ryan should be ashamed of his lack of testicles. No real man would be able to do this to the mother of his children!
This, it's heartbreaking. I can't imagine being this ruthless. Brittany is handling this amazingly
Why did i always get this kind of vibe from him. Praying for you girl dont give up.
Yessss! Me too. When he would be in a few videos something about him always seemed sleezy...
I felt the same way about him.
He always gave "cringey fuckboy" vibes
Their personalities definitely did not match at all. She and those kids deserve better.
Yeah I did too. He always seemed shady.
I love your attitude when you are showing the new place. I can see why you are so successful in life.
Brittany. I am speechless. I am sooooo so sorry💔
Girl, give him the channel and start a new one. We will follow you and help you grow. This is insane. I am so sorry. Fight him. Do not settle and give him your home. We’ve watched you do this for years and no matter what we got you ❤
Yes! Give him the channel. If they’re saying it’s worth so much then go with it! We’ll follow you! The “channel” isn’t worth your sanity. We follow you on other media. Everyone will find you
Yes, I agree. Start a new channel, and we will follow and support you ❤
He dosnt wannt the channel. He wants what the channel is worth. They want money. I’ve. Been reading some answers/comments and rewatching the video. I just realized that myself.
She can’t. It’s based on her value so even if she tries. She can’t.
TAKE IT TO TRAIL! DO NOT SETTLE! Sending you love & prayers.
Keep pushing your life forward beautiful lady, this will eventually be just a horrible memory with many lessons learned. I've been there and now on the other side of the nightmare. Better to know the truth about this person...sooner than later is better. Live your best life! It does get much better!
I just cannot believe this. It’s blowing my mind that he literally gets everything.
I’m adding you to my prayer board, Brittany. Don’t settle. I know you feel worn down but that’s what he is counting on.
I agree we all need to pray for her and show her how powerful God is.. I know through my divorce and I was married to a minister who was a wolf in sheep clothing.. I really had to come to Jesus meeting got completely sober and my life has been forever changed 11 years now! Have a relationship with Jesus Christ because of that divorce because I had lost a child because of everything I went through. I would go through all that again just to know Jesus Christ.!
Take him to trial! Even if the money is spent on lawyer fees he won’t get the money. He doesn’t deserve! We only watch this channel for you! Stay strong we will be here to support you! ❤
Go to trial. He doesn’t deserve to take something that’s yours alone.Start over we will go where you go
Hey girl! I really like the new place, I know it is just an option, but it is a fresh start. It is lovely! I live in the same county, so I feel your pain, I have been divorced since 2009 and life can start again. You are a beautiful soul, keep your chin up. You are just beginning to tap into how strong you are.If anything, let that be your online legacy, to show your kids, your viewers how you rebuild , renew, and refine your new life! We support you! Prayers and hugs!
Dont settle!!!! Fight . At this point, it's not about money he just wants to hurt you, so teach him that you're not weak!
This is your channel. This is your livelihood. This is your life. Absolutely fuck them for trying to ruin your life and therefore impact their own children’s lives. Selfish doesn’t even cover it. We support YOU, Brittany!
Brittany,
I never comment but I wanted to tell you - I'm praying for you. I'm praying that true justice will be served!!! And that you will be blessed so much more than you've ever wished for.. And also, as your other viewers have also commented, we're coming with you. We support you!
Same❤🙏❤
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First of all, we are here for you Brittany! This is just horrendous. How can you take care of you and your family with a settlement like that! No way! I would take his 🍑 to court! Also, shame on him for doing this to you. It's so unfair and not right. I pray for you for strength and peace during this difficult time! Much 💓💓💓
This is not fair!!!!
You are going in the right direction: change your team and fight for yourself and your kids, surround yourself with the right people and if anything like this ever happened in TH-cam, maybe some TH-camrs could share some advice and contacts?
You got this!
Just when I start thinking “who the hell did she marry “ you shock me even more 🥹 my heart goes out to you Brittany ❤️
“Tough times never last but tough people do.” -Robert H. Schuller
You will rise from this like the phoenix. ❤
Trial - keep your faith - keep your house it’s for your kids!! Reach out to any TH-camrs who have gone thru divorce and check out their lawyers. Good luck and don’t give up ..
i think she should ditch the house. "He" lived in it. new memories in a new house. And its Britney Vasseur. She can make the next house even more beautiful.
YES! That is great advice- to contact other YTubers who have gone through a divorce!
@@alexwyler4570let him live down the street from her dad as a daily reminder of how big of an asshole he is
Great advice
So sorry this happened to you don’t give up.Find yourself a good attorney.Praying for you that everything works out in your favor. God Bless you and your children.
One day, you will look back to this. But it might be while on a PR tour for your bestseller book on narcissist marriage hell. You will help and speak up for so many woman! Your future will be brighter than you can even imagine in your wildest dreams. And your followers will be with you along the way! Love and light! ❤
We believe in you and support you! ❤️
He is actually psycho. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. We are here with you to support you through everything! You’re so strong and an amazing mom. One day they will realize the fight you put in for them!
Brittany, you’re one of the strongest woman I have come across TH-cam. You will get through this! With utmost respect I advise you to not reveal your entire strategy of how you’re going to approach this case publicly. Your husband and his attorneys will understand where your mind is at and will go against it with all they can. Even admitting that you don’t have money to go through trial could be harmful. If they think a trial is on the way they might be willing for a compromise. Sharing the details once it’s all done would be the smart thing to do. ❤
That’s really good advice
Good advise❤
Exactly!
So sorry you’re going through this 😢 thank you for sharing to raise awareness to others who may be in this situation. Praying for you, keep strong
Go to trial!!! Don’t give up without more of a fight. I’d rather see you spend all you have to fight this than give him a cent. You got this and we will be here supporting you! 💪
I don't know if you had an atty present with you when the "settlement" was put on the table, but if this was the first offer presented in court, I'm not surprised he's asking for "everything". California is a no-fault community property state, it wouldn't even be legal for your ex to receive everything, and for you to be left with nothing. Definitely take this to trial. The ex & his atty are pushing your buttons, because they are bullies! Try to keep in mind that what you're going through emotionally is a response to the games that are played with douche bag attys & their clients. You are an amazingly strong & beautiful woman...DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF THAT!
Someone mentioned honor and YES! An honorable MAN would do the honorable thing and let his wife keep the house, kids, everything! I am so incredibly sorry that you are going through this nightmare. I thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. May God give you the strength and patience to deal with all of this. I will be praying for you!❤
Agree
Amen amen
The channel is nothing without you. He could never make consistent content that your viewers want to watch.
I agree, let him have the business he valued so high, and she keeps everything else😏😁
A different lawyer sounds necessary. I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm sure anxiety is high right now. I am sending positive vibes. Do not settle.
I live in CA and went through a divorce 7 years ago. I'm a SAHM and someone else mentioned that a judge does have the other spouse pay as if you are both living the same lifestyle you were while married. It doesn't surprise me that you'd have to pay that in support BUT you need a damn good lawyer to win this. My lawyer is amazing and fought tooth and nail for me but I'm a little farther than San Diego or I'd suggest him. Never settle, I was never handed ove the house, it had to be sold or I buy him out so that's sus to me lol! Go to trial, it'll be worth it I promise. Keep fighting and stay strong girlie!!
Could your lawyer know of a lawyer where brittany is?
@maryw2870 I totally agree about this, lawyer knows lawyer, I introduce my lawyer to my friend who were having a court case with a hospital after her husband died during treatment. my lawyer manage to get her the best fit lawyer for her case, I am so glad I didnt hesitate to just ask my lawyer to give her a helping hand.
Im so sorry that you are having to go through all of this... :( Absolutely disgusting that he feels so entitled, with such complete disregard for your kids and the life that you provided for him....makes me physically ill...my heart breaks for you 😢
Completely agree with the above comment, though...surround yourself with those who can help keep you strong, and get the biggest bulldog of an attorney that you can with trial experience that is wiling to play hardball. I know that the thought of spending that much money on representation is sickening, but they can help you fight to protect your kids and all that you've worked for. Your ex is counting on you not wanting to drag this out more...deal #1 is insane. I can't imagine that any judge would agree to the demands of scenario #1, especially when there are children involved. Sending prayers and hugs from Portland, OR ❤
Do not settle!!! It is more than just money at this point! It is fighting for what you built! Don’t give up!❤️
You’re such a lovely person, a gorgeous Mum and have built a wonderful channel. It’s incomprehensible but the cream always rises as we say in England …and so you will.
Trust the right answer will come to you. Prayers and blessings ❤
Please don’t settle, go to trial. The house looks nice. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Do not settle. So glad you are looking for a new attorney. Hold your head high and don’t give away your power.
I sat here tearing wishing there was something that I could say to help you in any way, but all I can say is that I will be praying earnestly for you to find peace & just know “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18).
Also praying now
Also in agreement with y’all in prayer for her. No weapon formed against her shall prosper. Also that God is fighting for her. In Yeshua’s Name Amen 🙏
So sorry you are going through this. Love your point, difference between law and justice. Sad but true. This needs to change.
Any lawyers that have a high winning rate please save Brittany!!
Girl, fight for you and your kids! Do not settle under any circumstance. Do not give him the satisfaction.
I share custody with a narcissist and trust me they do not stop. You still have to co parent with him. I’m telling you from experience do not fall and give into his demands. If you do, he will make it even harder for you down the line. Trust me trust me. Fight and don’t give in. If you win, it’s a win. If you lose at least you fought and have no regrets.
I’ve been watching you since you were pregnant with Carter. Your subscribers are here for you Brittany 🙏🏽💐
I totally understand what you're going through. As another woman who was married and divorced in the state of California, very financially responsible and successful, I had the same thing happen to me... it BURNS. especially when you're the primary caregiver for the kids... and he has no responsibility. What I learned? I will never get remarried without a prenup.
Im trying to understand why they’re being so unfair. She didn’t have a prenup?
Pre-nup 100%!!!! I’ve learned this the hard way too
Same!
Girl... This channel is you. You will succeed on anything new. The best for you and family.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this my love!!!! It’s so heart wrenching that a person you thought you loved and trusted with your life has the audacity to stab you in the back like this!! 💔 I’m so sorry. I will be praying for you and I pray you have a good strong supportive and loving circle. It’s easy to say “oh yeah just give him what he wants” to not deal with the prolonged agony and stress of all of it but this was your creation!!! ❤️🩹💔🙏🏻💖