My sister was a selective mute. My previous neighborhood thought she was mute, but then they noticed she'd only talk to me, and assumed she was deaf. She just tolerated me more than most people.
There was this girl in my second grade class that, looking back, probably had selective mutism. She never talked to anyone except for her best friend, however, she used that to her advantage. Those two were always seated together and our teacher never showed any concern towards the girl's lack of communication which makes me think that she had a disorder that the school knew about. However, she still had her way of participating in class, she would just whisper to her best friend when she knew an answer to a question or had an inquiry to make. Her best friend was a very out-going and bold girl which worked really well for the both of them, since she had to vocalize two people. Looking back, the situation was very sweet.
I have a student who never talks (her parents say she talks at home) and the other teachers are always trying to bully or trick her into talking and I just think that's so shit. Instead, I devised ways for her to participate in games and class without having to talk and guess what? She does just fine in all my classes. So many teachers take stuff personally or are driven by their own egos and I just wish they'd figure out that not everything is about them.
Idk man. If a kid is able to talk but doesn't then you need to do shit to make the kid talk if they don't learn how to they'll be a push over for the rest of their life
@@xxamightystormxx 100% agree with this, its surprising that this is the first comment ive seen like this everyone else is angry at the teachers but they never did anything wrong
@Crown Of Thornz they probably did think she was being selectively mute but thought they could get her to "select" talking. Except it doesn't work that way.
That must've been rough. Mental health is a very serious topic, nowadays people have more understanding about it which is very beautiful. But it's a topic that's still not completely understood. I wish you guys both the best ❤
@@IvyIsVeryTired even if it were selective mutism, the school would know through the parents or the girl could have told them with other method of communication
My childhood best friend was kinda selectively mute. She was too shy to talk to my family, didn't like strangers, and was afraid of the rest of the kids because they were dickheads and tormented her. So she would whisper in my ear what she wanted and I'd relay that. I learned her hums and body movement. The tiniest of pitch changes in a quiet hum, or her doing a specific head movement meant something different. I was literally her translator, lol.
@@expired3939 we drifted a bit with time but we're back to where we were. We had a trio with another girl who just started hating her, forced me to have two separate friendships with two people I adored when they both started hating each other, and then just forgot that I existed. Moon and I are happily planning another meet up. She loves over an hour away and works nights, so coordinating is a bit rough.
What’s sucks with selective mutism is that it’s not like you can just “start talking”, in almost all cases nobody just decides to stop talking because it’s convenient. For a lot of people trying to talk will cause panic attacks (like it does for me when I go nonverbal) and I hate that people see those who don’t audibly communicate as being “difficult” and are “fixable”
well selective mutism is fixable it just takes time and professional help. Real mutism is caused when the part of your brain that controls speaking (the broca area) is severely damaged - that cannot be easily fixed. Selective mutism is caused by social experiences, like a troubling home environment, and is fixable, but yeah its not gonna be a dramatic over night change and random people saying stuff probably won't help
@@scarlet7960 Over night? People expect you to get over it INSTANTLY right then and there just because they're getting more and more aggravated with your silence!! Sure it's fixable long term, but people seriously expect instant results just from pressuring you, as if somehow adding more anxiety to the situation will make it better. No empathy or understanding about the pressure and anxiety you're going through, just "Oh come on! Just talk, it's not that hard!" meanwhile I'm sitting here like "fck fck fck, what do I say?? M-maybe this...? ...... AAAHHH I can't get it to come out!!! 😭" Seriously, it's PAINFUL. I even got selective mutism online with someone I used to be good friends with because of some drama going on, like literally even typing out a response online gave me the same kind of anxiety, and he just spung my silence into me being some manipulative monster or something when I just physically couldn't break through the psychological barrier stopping me from answering...
Not a selective mute, but I'm a "quiet kid" as my parents sometimes call me. I definitely sympathize with you. I hate it when my entire family, especially my distant relatives like my jerk cousins and aunts, try to pry and pry at me until I "open up" and "tell them what's wrong" when there's nothing wrong, I just enjoy peace and quiet and that's offensive to them. All they really do is make me feel uncomfortable and unsafe. It must be terrible for you to deal with that on the daily.
I remember knowing a mute girl in kindergarten and the whole class did't care that she didn't talk. We would talk to her and play with her and she was actually one of my best friends. Also I would like to make it clear that she was not complexly mute, If you said a word and asked her to repeat it she would, she just did not know English. We tried to teach her this way, but I don't think she ever learned anything from us.
Hi, I was selectively mute for 5 years and I wanna say thank you for being her friend its not easy to make friends with selective mutism or mute fully, I had friends but some people aren't as lucky.
Thats so sweet from you guys,i have an american friend (english is not my native language) I’ve met him on a game,I only teached one word from my language and seeing he trying to spell it is so fun,he also helps me to talk in english.👍
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I mean, I think she handled this very gracefully. Not namedropping them and just giving them fun nicknames. That's how it should be done. I've heard awful stories of teachers since before my time but my experience with teachers is just this: love them or hate them, they're all just trying to do their jobs with varying degrees of success and enthusiasm. Some of them are outright bad at their jobs but they're still trying to do it right and at the end of the day they're dying to go home just as much as you are. Some of them aren't gonna bother with you more than absolutely necessary and some of them are gonna be busybodies but I think it usually comes from a good and earnest place where they want the best for you.
Imagine being a boy just hitting puberty and being used to your kid voice, and not being able to talk for 3 or 4 years. Then when u finally speak u sound like a grown man like imagine how scary that would be
this is insanely accurate, grades 3-4 i was practically mute, im going into middle school this year with fucked up vocal cords that make me sound like corpse when i dont strain them, waiting for my old friends to hear that-
Coming back to this video after I pass middle school and now in high school got me really nostalgic. like started to choke up and shit. But all things stayed, this still applies to me with the labels and whatnot. But we miss you tabbes and hope you come back ❤❤
It frustrates me that your teachers treated you that way. Your band teacher especially, that was messed up. I used to teach third grade, and one year I had a kid who was selective mute. I had been encouraged to try to communicate with her in other ways but also to try to get her to talk, and I really didn't know any better. Years later I learned from a friend, who was still selective mute as an adult, that it's not always controllable and trying to force someone to speak can exacerbate the problem. Fast forward another few years when I was a swim teacher, I had a kid I swam regularly who didn't speak to me once, and I just adapted to it rather than trying to force him to talk, and it really wasn't difficult. It would be nice if educators were taught more about these sorts of things in our thousands of hours of required meetings and professional development.
I sort of disagree. Helping someone will sometimes require uncomfortable situations. The band teacher was ineffective, but you need to be real with people to try and help them
@@novusregnum To solve a problem you need to know what is causing it first, though. There is no point in taking random medication when you are sick, that could actually have the reverse effect. None of her teachers knew why she didn't talk, and they still tried to solve it by threatening her.
Exactly 😬 the way these teachers treated her makes me think that's probably how they treat autistic children, or children with some other type of difficulties in communication. Its traumatising being on the other end of that. If someone is actually refusing to speak even when prompted by adults then maybe... News flash.. something is actually wrong, and they're not just "shy" or "defiant"? :/
There was a boy in my year at school who was a selective mute. He supposedly talked at home (or so I’d heard) and he actually had a TH-cam channel that most of us found and watched out of curiosity because we’d never heard his voice. He was friends with a friend of mine and every now and then I’d see him whisper something to my friend, but that was it. He’d never talk aside from that. The teachers were so chill with it though. I guess it might be related to the fact that I’m British and participation has nothing to do with grades in British schools (which I know isn’t the case in the US). He was respected and everyone was kind to him. The only issue was that when he started a new class, the teacher didn’t know he didn’t speak. And even that wasn’t an issue because when his name was called in the register and the teacher was confused when he didn’t respond, half the bloody class would explain all at once that he’s a selective mute. After that the teachers would just memorise where he sat and check his seat for registration, rather than call his name. It’s a shame your experience wasn’t similar. It really should have been. He was a pleasant guy. I wonder how he’s doing.
I'm British and unfortunately had the same experience as this video. Teachers threatening my grades, purposely marking down my assignments and tests even though participation didn't count. Just because I didn't talk, they tried to find a way to punish it out of me.
Wish that was the case for me. Everyone acts like I don't exist. I've only heard people talking about me a few times, but from everyone's vibe I know they definitely say a lot of stuff behind my back or just think I'm a jerk. Barely anyone knows I have selective mutism but the people who do are really nice about it. It just sucks how clueless some people are. People used to tease me for being quiet, not so much now but it's so annoying. Like just leave me alone bro.
I used to be a mute too all the way till 3rd grade. No one except my parents and brother knew how i sound. They probably heard me sneeze if they're lucky enough. My classmates thought i had an issue where I physically was not able to speak. I never used the school bathroom(never asked to go) and my teacher was so used to me being a mute that she would ask me if i would like to go to the bathroom 2 times a day. And yeah i had nicknames like tongueless/mute but other than that I was not bullied... I transferred to a new school later and made a friend for the first time in that new school just by writing to eachother on a notebook. I started talking to her in half a year and made a few more friends later on which lasted for a good 10 years. I no longer have friends, back to being a loner who doesn't speak. But i can still respond/talk a bit with people if i need to. Though i still have social anxiety and panic (even during phone calls) When I watched "komi-san can't communicate", I related to her so much that my life flashed before my eyes ngl. Loved the anime
@@honey_bearperls6927 when we chased our own universities and goals we just drifted apart and didn't hangout or even talk as much anymore, maybe ask how eachother's day went once a month or so. Eventually I stopped talking to my 2 other best friends and we all went silent on eachother. While my bestest/first friend just told me one day that she was grateful for spending her childhood with me but she realized we can't be friends anymore and so, we also did not talk since then. It's been about 4 years since we stopped hanging out and 2 since I stopped considering them a friend.
@@honey_bearperls6927 We grew apart after I left and we couldn't hang out.. after a year or two, my best friend just thanked me over text for being a part of her childhood and said we should stop being friends now that we are as good as strangers and we're both busy.. my other 2 friends just went silent soon after. It's not just me, no one from our friend group talks to eachother anymore. We're like strangers with memories.
im an esl teacher in taiwan with a student with selective mutism. the students are mostly graded on their speaking ability. for her we make an exception. i just give her a list of questions that i would normally ask the other students. her written answers are always perfect. best in the class. she may not speak, but she gets english.
Your school would never be able to handle a mute kid that physically couldn’t talk like wow. The teachers would straight up bully the mute kid throughout all their years of school
I feel like if she actually was me at the school would have known and they would have informed the teachers. But because They were aware that she could talk she chose not to because there was nothing to tell them otherwise They were probably like "okay we need to get this child to start speaking because it's not good if they don't. "
Felt the same way with social anxiety and some other thing that may have been slight paranoia. I dont know why but growing up I was in this mindset of if I didn't get the smallest things like a paper do on time , or lost homework that I would just fail and have no future. I had breakdowns were I cried and people thought I was just very sensitive, I mean probably but they made fun of me because it wasn't " average behavior " .Some teachers told me I was to old to cry , and even I couldn't explain why I did, recently I thought about this during quarantine and realize its probably from pressure in general were I would here things like grades matter so much for your future and other random stuff , I mean it does but my mind pushes that to astronomically high levels of stress. Apparently schools cant realize pressuring students so much isn't healthy for mental stability, and when teachers tell you to suck it up that doesn't help In any way and probably hurts that mindset more. I'm just glad I had good friends who could make me laught because it brought me down from my problems that weren't problems and impossibly high standards and made me realize I'm fine , I'm a A student and I should try to focus on these friendships instead of small things that won't really matter in 20 years. I think I'm way luckier than most being able to realize this , and maybe now I can try to calm myself down better in these random situations that my mind pushes into bigger problems even though it isn't that bad and it will get better.
The fact that you weren't been bullied for being mute is surprising yet wholesome, meaning that your classmates had dignity and weren't acting to you like dipshits for whatever gain.
This was back in 11th grade. I had a friends who despite the fact I was friends with him for 5+ years at the time, never once herd him say a word. Till one day in clothing and textiles (like sewing and making Pillows) we had a substitute who didn’t understand that he just didn’t talk and was getting agitated with him. She said “I’ll count to five and if you don’t speak I’ll tell your teacher to fail you for the year” my friend didn’t budge. Teacher: “ok then. 1, 2, 3, 4” my friend: f**k off. Haven’t herd an explosion of laughter since then.
I think Tabbes was a selictive mute. A selictive mute is a person who doesn't talk to people except maybe family or close friends. Its not that the person can't talk because they can but they just get can’t talk at all if that makes sense. Overall though people who are selective mutes are usually very talkative with people like family.
@@meghanmullen8466 really? I never knew that. I just thought it was something you had all your life and it was possible to overcome. I didn’t know it could develop at any time
I was “the quiet kid” for the longest time. It would genuinely shock people if I made a noise. Even after getting into high school I rarely talked, and that followed me to my first job as well. The first time I swore at work was talked about for actual weeks by my coworkers like it was the herald of the apocalypse or something. In truth, I just like to listen and drop some sarcastic comment in when people least expected it.
I remember visiting one of my mom's friends. And when I finally said something everyone gasped and said. “Oh my god! She speaks! I thought she was mute” because I am quiet, the teachers in elementary would have to lip my name in cause I knew the answer but was too anxious that they would be upset if I answered
It is pretty amazing how hostile humans can behave toward someone who merely chooses not to speak. I know from personal experience of being Selectively Mute (autism). My advice to anyone who has this issue (or who wants to be mute for mindfulness, etc) is this: DON'T let other people walk all over you just because you don't speak. It's sadly harder to do this as a child, especially if your parents don't support you. Most humans (especially those with weak egos) find it annoying and even threatening when someone refuses to speak to them. The sad truth is, most humans are complete dumpster-fires when it comes to fairness: they will not treat you well if you don't show them that you can and will defend yourself. Personally, I'd suggest ridding yourself of these types of people, but, for the times when you must deal with them, remember the following: 1. Don't let people walk all over you. There is a huge population of bullies in this world. It sounds like most of the teachers in this video were just bullies who "got older". 2. Most bullies are cowards with poor emotional control. A good tactic is to be more prepared than they are. Inform them that harassing a person with a disability is a crime, and start documenting how they treat you. 3. Find alternative ways to communicate (when necessary). Examples include...: a. Learn Sign Language. Yes, this is challenging, but completely possible. You can at least learn enough to make strangers not harass you. They will assume you are deaf, and treat you better. b. Use pen-and-paper (carry a notepad), text (phone), or some other written form of communication. 4. If you truly do not speak, then I suggest telling people: "I cannot speak," rather than "I don't want to speak." Just remember: almost no one on the Earth is "truly Mute"; most of the people who do not speak are actually Deaf, and while most of them technically 'can' speak, they don't want to (nor should they be pressured to). No fair-minded person would suggest a Deaf individual should be pressured to speak if they don't want to - so why should you be made to feel pressured? Your voice is part of your body, and you decide what to do with your body. Any human being who thinks you "owe them" or "owe society" is, by definition, a childish, closet Authoritarian - too-afraid to let other people live their own lives. 5. Research and Study the ADA: Americans with Disabilities Act. Businesses and Public Entities have a legal requirement to reasonably accommodate you if you have a Speech Issue/Disability. Do not blindly assume you do not have a disability: I spent over 30 years not realizing I am autistic because no one put 2+2 together. If you're not in America, hopefully your country has an equivalent. Find it, and memorize the key points. 6. If you want to do some further extra reading, look up the notions of "Positive" vs "Negative" "Liberty". These ideas deal with the concept of fairness in society. They may help you put feelings into words. For example: your Right to control your own voice is a "Negative Liberty" - which means it is a liberty that ought to be free from interference by other people. --- In regards to this TH-cam video: it seems plausible that the Middle School teacher staged puking in the trash can in order to pressure you to talk. 1. She wouldn't let you leave. 2. She coughed in a trash can and told you to "Get the teacher down the hall." 3. From your description of the teacher down the hall, it seems like she was taking her sweet time trying to get you to speak, rather than rushing to help her friend. 4. Afterward, the puking teacher harassed you about "How far you would go with 'not speaking'". Seems to me like she was referring to the fact that you wouldn't crack - even during her possibly-fake "death" scene. Regardless of whether or not she was faking it, she was still completely out-of-line to harass you the way she did. If she did that to my child (autistic), I'd make sure the only job she could get at a school would be janitorial. I'm sorry your parents were not only unsupportive, but literally part of the problem.
->3. it incrediable that you cant point out that teacher and assume she taking her sweet time instead help . How can she know someone is dying if tabbes not give the information clearly ( dont say if you were that teacher you would start knowing and running right away) 🌚 . :)))) you dont even understant the other person view + conclusion though a simple video part give zezo evidence about that teacher 🌚
@@quanh9331 If you're a teacher, and you're not doing much of anything right now, and a student tells you "come with me" or makes gestures to communicate that and they look distressed, you fucking _go._ You don't waste time. (Unless they're a repeat liar or smth like that, which isn't the case here.
Yeah it's often like that^^ If you get close to shy people they can be the most talky (?) / they really tend to never stop talking people you know. (Like myself) if i talk with a random (and that only happens if this Person talks first to me) than its an extremely short answer But if i talk with my best friend i can talk for 1-2hours straight without letting her say one thing
I can get almost any quiet kid to talk to me and it’s totally not because I force them “god dam it billy🔫u know what happens if u don’t talk to me” wait what who said that
my mom told me that too, that's why I didn't talk to any of my classmates in 2 years. and I just started talking a little tiny bit to my classmate like 2 weeks ago ;w;
I remember back in high school I use to be the mute kid in my algebra 2 class because I found the subject so hard that I refuse to talk to anyone or ask for help out of frustration and now that I look back on it I do not know why I did. It was to the point where I refused to stop paying attention in class and not do my homework
And who exactly controls that? Like yeah sure you and your parents could sue him or shit like that, but then its statement vs statement and nothing happens.
In 5th grade in my school in another class, There was a girl who was a selective mute. The only things she answered were yes or no questions, but some people heard that she talked at home it was cool to know someone like that
Honestly I think it’s so weird how fascinated people are when they find out selective mute people can talk… 2 of my sisters don’t talk at school and if they speak with me in front of their friends the friends are always super shocked. They are also kinda popular??
there was this girl in elementary school who never talked to the point where the teachers accepted it and made her write down, or whisper her answer into the teacher's ear for class participation, Eventually the music teacher broke her down. She doesn't speak loudly but she'll whisper a conversation with you, she's really sweet
"ok, this student seems to have problems. what do we do?" "force them to pretend the problem don't exist?" "excellent. but how do we do that?" "with intimidations, threats and chantage?" "wonderful, you're the best one. That has to make them feel better and snap out of any problem!"
@@0rangeeige199 it worked… in doing the exact opposite thing. Remember that it wasn’t until high school that she started talking. And that was due to her own choice. If anything the school made it worse
“I hated high school. I don’t trust anybody who looks back on the years from 14-18 with any enjoyment. If you liked being a teenager there’s something wrong with you.” -Stephen king
I liked High School actually. Context: Brazilian HS seems to be wildly different from USA's For a instance: _they are nocturnal_ (So, if you want to play hookie, there's more fun in it! also NO TRUANT OFFICERS) While I was the smart kid, I was enough of a social butterfly to not get bullied (Or in the seldom case that I was, riposting trice as hard) People were fun, teachers were cool and I could acess the Library whenever I wanted (Again, being a smart social butterfly made me likeable to teachers and principals alike and they loved me) Even in the first year of HS I skipped many classes to go and flirt, run wild or go to a cybercafé when I had cash, that they raked up as an equivalent of 2 months of classes (Yet, I still was in the top percentile of students )
I know this came out a while ago but I had to make a comment. Teachers forcing kids to speak in class is incredibly ableist. The person could have any number of reasons for not speaking (social anxiety, ASD, etc) and forcing a child to speak is an abelist practice that continues to this day. It's so frustrating to see teachers treat children and youth this way.
They don't realize singling out those students and sending them to guidance counselor is a backlash. It just makes us feel even more out if place and not want to speak even more. The only thing that made me want to talk was when I was with friends that spoke to me despite knowing how quiet I am
...therapy would've helped in my case, at least. I guess it depends on why you were quiet, eheh. I think it could've helped in Tabbes's case, too, since it sounded like abuse. At the same time, she's Korean so talking about it would've gotten her in trouble with her family @.@
Stephanie Merino everybody: i used to be a quiet kid but now I’m not Me: I used to be fuelled by a demonic blood rage and unending hatred for everything happy, but now I’m not
Ngl this reminds me of why the school systems need more education about why people might not speak. Aside from the fact Tabbes possibly DID have an unconscious reason for going silent for that long, there’s tons of other reasons kids might not talk. Nonverbal autism, selective mutism, severe anxiety, the list goes on. Teachers trying to force them and threatening them with bad grades (or a bad LIFE tbh from that one teacher wow) isn’t going to work, it just makes them feel worse.
Exactly! There's honestly so much more I wish teachers were educated on, and I wish the school system was better at handling certain things. Every person on this planet is different, and every child in school is the same. We all have needs but I feel like some teachers only know how to help and deal with neurotypical and non-disabled people, or just kids with what is seen as a "normal" experience (which when you add up all the different experiences someone can have, normal is in the minority). Teachers should take time to learn about each student and different kinds of needs different students might have. Not to mention communicate with them and learn how to listen and accommodate ("listen" used to describe actually taking in information a student conveys, whether it's verbal or non-verbal communication). Honestly I could go on and on but I'll shut up now
On the topic of, I had active puberphonia for three years in middle and high school. I might as well have been mute, as my voice was so frickin useless I talked as little as I could, even around my friends. Looking back on it, some of the things people said about my voice (before and after transitioning to my mature one) are actually really messed up to someone that knows the disorder. They said those things because it's not a well-known disorder, yeah, but they were still mega-traumatizing to hear.
I had this thought that schools end up bringing out the worst in everyone, cuz of how their run & their circumstances Like they're often under-funded, have to value grades over education, have overly long hours, etc, etc, you can fill in the rest
Schools need more guidance counselors. Ones who can actually do their job. Right now, teachers are so incredibly overworked and are held to insane expectations. They have to teach their course materials but also, in many cases, learn how to administer medication, but also are expected teach life skills instead of the parents but also know so much about mental health AND how to handle them. That's way too much, crosses into too many different fields. Let teachers teach and let the other professionals focus on what they need to.
@@AirrackFanReuploads Except, you know, do the baby talk. "Can you say 'Mama?'" "'Say cheese!" That kinda stuff. In a way, a parent does teach a child to speak, it's just that it's not like high school teaching, and babies learn shit at a miraculous rate.
@@AirrackFanReuploads Language is taught emotionally through a child, which is how it becomes a first language. Hard work and studying can also equally pay off, but having an emotional connection to a language is what sets you on the path to knowing words without having to translate it through your head.
I go non-verbal occaisionally when I get overstimulated and there have been so many situations in class where I've been nonverbal and it's just been an awkward moment of about 5 minutes of staring and then the teacher usually comes up to me and I have to show them my communication card that says "I'm nonverbal"
Literally, my brother NEVER talked, to the point where everyone thought he was deaf, and everyone would come to me in the hall, in class, at recess asking if he was mute, deaf, etc. and why he never talked. Yeah no he's just super quite, except when we are home, then he screams his head off. how nice!
My sister used to be mute bc ✨anxiety✨and her vocal chords literally were like not today bitch. So whenever she tried to talk it’d just be” “ Yea teachers did not handle it well
@@chickenanimations8722 yea ur right they get 504 plans and IEPs whichever one they want which is what separates my buddy tabbes here from an actual disability aw sucks she cant brag about it in her next vid :/
@@melodystyron4514 You do know the "stuff happening at home" that she glossed over at the start of the video is *bad* stuff, right? Notice there's no mention of parental involvement in the entire rest of the video? Kids don't do this kind of thing for no reason.
We had a mute kid as well he didn’t speak through out primary and high school, no one knows his voice and not that he was a lonely kid he had a decent amount of friends and wasn’t even bullied he was even known to be shifty at times. We don’t know why he doesn’t speak or if he even has a reason...but we’re family friends so I found out he’s actually REALLY loud at home so me hearing this really shocked me ...but yeah he never speaks
Once my teacher asked me the same thing, "Are you this quiet in your home too? " and I said No. It was kinda annoying because I didn't like my classmates anyways and only spoke when asked (for 2 years). Sometimes they even bullied me for it (ofcourse behind my back but I listened) and called me nickname "Silencer" (I still don't know if that's cool or not). Anyways, it was 2 years ago and now I have great friends in my class!
@@HaloVenom that's cool! In my opinion video games helps introverts like us to experience another world, forget our own surroundings and be a whole other person and I think that's equal to a dream for an introvert.
came back after 3 years to rewatch because this video always resonated with me. younger me would be so proud of the progress ive made (though im still battling with social anxieties, i can still muster up a bit of courage to have conversations when needed)
That's most teachers in public schools, they like to power trip on your kids and threaten/blackmail them. Don't send your kids to public school if you love them.
I LOVE how you constantly hint at your inner rage/violence throughout the video TABBES! I'm a quiet kid because I don't want people knowing that I like annoying...CERTAIN people (I DEFINITELY don't have ANY younger brothers WHATSOEVER...) Also, keep up the good work!
@@christopherjohnston6343 Except, that they can, unlike actual mutes. It might be really hard, and needs a lot of work to become a reality, but still generally people can "choose" to start talking, if not humans would be no better than a pre-programmed robot.
@@williambeldamlkke8054 yeah for sure. Point is the name "Selective Mutism" might give a wrong perception - like that someone isn't talking out of stubbornness. The selective means that the mutism is tied to certain circumstances. Ie) like being fine and talkative with family and close friends but not being able to talk to strangers. I knew a girl with selective mutism who was actual really friendly and social - it's just that she couldn't talk in those group settings she enjoyed just being a part of.
Last year, there was this girl in my class who I think had selective mutism. She didn't speak to anyone, nobody, except for her friend, who she always sat besides. Everybody thought she just had social issues, and she became the face of bullying. She left my school this year because of, I believe, the bullying. I hope that girl is okay now.
There is this girl at my school who is selectively mute and has been for 6 years now, she is a senior in high school and only talks at home, or to trusted friends she’s pretty cool though
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I was a really quite kid. My teacher had to make a goal for me to raise my hand at least once everyday. One time I was staying after school and she went up to another student and said, "I need you to raise your hand more than five times a day, okay?" Then she went up to me and said, "Nice job on raising your hand one time!"
I was a blat belt by 7th grade, but learned karate at one of those "violence is the lastest of last resort" kind of places, so when I'd get bullied, I'd literally just roll with the punches and let them get tired/bored of it. Looking back, I should have kicked them in the temple.
Dear Chukeul Gadrt I know. Threw my bully into (and nearly through) a closed window. Though I was regarded as the "nice kid". So in my case the teachers actually looked into why the "nice kid" throws 'some dude' into glass window. Got detention. Bully got disiplinary penalty. AAAND crap from my parents. Was the right thing to do though. You are GOING to get a stiff breeze in your face if you stand up to being bullied. From the bullies. AND the system. I can attest to that sadly. BUT: You HAVE to stand up to being bullied. Otherwise it ruins you emotionally. You HAVE to show in your behaviour that you are the good guy to all the other people that are NOT your bullies. It is *your* propaganda to proove, that you are in fact the being the victim. Because the bullies usually play the 'victim'-card when you go to the teachers/authority and report them.
Chukeul Gadrt i yeeted a bar stool at my bully once and he got suspended in school for a week, 9 to 5 alone in a sideroom, i got to stay home for a week. ay lmao
I was silent for every single thing and I convinced my teachers that I was mute.... I always got a 100 in presentations cuz I would just give it to the teachers and they just read it
Watching this now that I'm older made me realize that she was probably traumatized as a child and her being mute was a trauma response. Those teachers were TERRIBLE at handling that. Part of being a teacher means they are tested on their psychological understanding on kids, it's literally a part of college curriculum. They did not do their job accordingly.
I had selective mutism as a child and I distinctly remember teachings trying to get me to speak and I remember I wanted to answer, but I physically couldn't. It was so bad the school pressured my parents into taking to see a psychologist and long story short they said I had selective mutism, which the school did not like. The reason they didn't like it was that I was no longer just being a brat, but had a legitimate medical condition (it went away as I aged by the way). The school was also mad because my parents didn't use their recommended psychologist. I remember after the school still tried the same intimidation tactics (which is actually the worst thing you can do with someone with selective mutism) and it feels like my parents were in every week arguing with the school over it. It ended up being so bad that my parents pulled me out of the school and put me in a private school.
@@neighbourino2376 first of all, don't guess my age. It's rude. And I'm not a gachatuber, sence I don't go gacha vids full time. And the edgy vids are rather just backstory videos. You gonna call SleepyKinq out for being edgy because you don't like edgy things? *_That's what trigger warnings are for._*
imagine being someone with a physical disability where you cant speak (autism can cause selective mutism for example) and your teacher says "if i died its ur fault!!!!!)
I'm not mute, but I'm quite shy. I talk in class but quietly because I don't like when people hear me talk. People call me mute, but they're just stupid. I talk to my friends and I talk to nice people, but I have no interest in talking to people who aren't nice to me and they don't seem to understand that :/
There are no rude people, as being offended is your choice. Expecting everyone in your life to be nice to you is just weak. People will be rude, you have to deal with it.
One of my old best friends had selective mutism, she only would talk to my and our other best friend as well as her parents, super super sweet girl, she just eventually grew out of it when she became a teen. I still see her now and then but we aren’t very close now. It’s very funny to see so many others who went through the same thing. Thankfully my class was super nice to her and I would just help talk for her.
Ok but how nice it would be to yes be mute for some years then at the end of the year just whisper “they will never believe you” to a random person smile and walk away
My teacher thinks I’m depressed and is compelled to make me feel happy edit: it’s been two years since i made that comment back in 2019. a lot has changed. i’ve had three therapists since, got diagnosed with depression, anxiety and adhd, moved twice and was near homeless for a year and out of work for a few months, got back in touch with old friends who i should’ve never left (their good people dw), lost half my body weight, came out as bi and gender fluid, stop sh, struggled through addiction, lost a parent and brother and more. i’ve been through lots of other ups and downs since saying that but now i can finally say i’m happy where i am. i’m financially stable, mentally alright, planning to propose and honestly living my best life :) thx mr smith in high school history class for noticing how fucked up i was, couldn’t have made it this far.
This is pretty similar to the book Speak, about a freshman who loses her friends after she calls the police on a party they were at (for reasons that will be explained later) and becomes semi-mute
My teachers in 1st grade legitimately thought there was something wrong with me, because my parents hammered it into my head that you mustn't talk to strangers. So the only time I spoke to anyone, I had to face the wall. Looking back at it I think there was something wrong with me as well
My sister was a selective mute. My previous neighborhood thought she was mute, but then they noticed she'd only talk to me, and assumed she was deaf. She just tolerated me more than most people.
@@Visstnok ew why would you say that. They're siblings
@@Visstnok that is disgusting
@@Visstnok what the actual fuck
@@Visstnok ...Dude...no.
@@Visstnok do you... Do you even know what the comment is about!?
There was this girl in my second grade class that, looking back, probably had selective mutism. She never talked to anyone except for her best friend, however, she used that to her advantage. Those two were always seated together and our teacher never showed any concern towards the girl's lack of communication which makes me think that she had a disorder that the school knew about. However, she still had her way of participating in class, she would just whisper to her best friend when she knew an answer to a question or had an inquiry to make. Her best friend was a very out-going and bold girl which worked really well for the both of them, since she had to vocalize two people. Looking back, the situation was very sweet.
Wait why does that sound like me and my best friend doee lol
@@justkiira9984 i wish i had a friend who could do that for me 😔
i have encountered a very similar situation before as well
Looking back looking back looking back
@@Zzz-dt2dl listen here lmao
I have a student who never talks (her parents say she talks at home) and the other teachers are always trying to bully or trick her into talking and I just think that's so shit. Instead, I devised ways for her to participate in games and class without having to talk and guess what? She does just fine in all my classes. So many teachers take stuff personally or are driven by their own egos and I just wish they'd figure out that not everything is about them.
thank you.
Idk man. If a kid is able to talk but doesn't then you need to do shit to make the kid talk if they don't learn how to they'll be a push over for the rest of their life
@@xxamightystormxx 100% agree with this, its surprising that this is the first comment ive seen like this everyone else is angry at the teachers but they never did anything wrong
@Crown Of Thornz they probably did think she was being selectively mute but thought they could get her to "select" talking. Except it doesn't work that way.
This here is a teacher that actually cares about their students.
I had a classmate who had a medical paper, that he can't talk, because mental issues, and my teacher still FORCED him to try speak out loud...
I hope that kid is having a good life now!
thats messed up.
Did he survive?
That must've been rough. Mental health is a very serious topic, nowadays people have more understanding about it which is very beautiful. But it's a topic that's still not completely understood. I wish you guys both the best ❤
@Axl__untitled that is discussing I’m so sorry that happened
Imagine she is quiet until the last day (at graduation) where she goes up to give a speech and she just says "bye" and everyone goes wild.
Oh my god
O h m y g o d
Is this what inspiration feels like
I can’t wait for the last day of school
@@birdy4696 yes, accept it, let it engulf you.
Nott I will take this idea, I will keep it with me for my whole life, and I will be silent until the day I die, on which I will say “bye” and then die
@@birdy4696 *y e s*
@@birdy4696 lmao , crap
I feel like these teachers handled it very wrong. Some mutes literally just cannot talk, and they handled it horribly.
but if she was literally mute the school would know and handle it in a different way. But the teachers knew she just didn't want to talk.
@@IvyIsVeryTired even if it were selective mutism, the school would know through the parents or the girl could have told them with other method of communication
@@IvyIsVeryTired that's a fair point
それらの教師は話したくない人を扱うことができません。私は選択的なミュートです。
A line of English replies, then 1 single Japanese one
In elementary school: You guys talk to much!
In high school: You get a grade for talking
Gacha Oreo LMAO
Its so true though!
Irk that's so weird
And that’s why I like high school
Elem is the worst
My childhood best friend was kinda selectively mute. She was too shy to talk to my family, didn't like strangers, and was afraid of the rest of the kids because they were dickheads and tormented her. So she would whisper in my ear what she wanted and I'd relay that. I learned her hums and body movement. The tiniest of pitch changes in a quiet hum, or her doing a specific head movement meant something different. I was literally her translator, lol.
🥰
you are a good friend, i was like a mute one too and my best friend was really okay with it.
what happened to you and her?
@@expired3939 we drifted a bit with time but we're back to where we were. We had a trio with another girl who just started hating her, forced me to have two separate friendships with two people I adored when they both started hating each other, and then just forgot that I existed.
Moon and I are happily planning another meet up. She loves over an hour away and works nights, so coordinating is a bit rough.
🤗😊 Dusk ♥️
We could all do with a friend like you
What’s sucks with selective mutism is that it’s not like you can just “start talking”, in almost all cases nobody just decides to stop talking because it’s convenient. For a lot of people trying to talk will cause panic attacks (like it does for me when I go nonverbal) and I hate that people see those who don’t audibly communicate as being “difficult” and are “fixable”
well selective mutism is fixable it just takes time and professional help.
Real mutism is caused when the part of your brain that controls speaking (the broca area) is severely damaged - that cannot be easily fixed. Selective mutism is caused by social experiences, like a troubling home environment, and is fixable, but yeah its not gonna be a dramatic over night change and random people saying stuff probably won't help
nonverbal? are you autistic? out of curiosity lol
@@scarlet7960 Over night? People expect you to get over it INSTANTLY right then and there just because they're getting more and more aggravated with your silence!! Sure it's fixable long term, but people seriously expect instant results just from pressuring you, as if somehow adding more anxiety to the situation will make it better. No empathy or understanding about the pressure and anxiety you're going through, just "Oh come on! Just talk, it's not that hard!" meanwhile I'm sitting here like "fck fck fck, what do I say?? M-maybe this...? ...... AAAHHH I can't get it to come out!!! 😭" Seriously, it's PAINFUL. I even got selective mutism online with someone I used to be good friends with because of some drama going on, like literally even typing out a response online gave me the same kind of anxiety, and he just spung my silence into me being some manipulative monster or something when I just physically couldn't break through the psychological barrier stopping me from answering...
what worked for me was gradual steps. Like, years level gradual. Eventually, I was able to talk. Still not perfect but much better
Not a selective mute, but I'm a "quiet kid" as my parents sometimes call me. I definitely sympathize with you. I hate it when my entire family, especially my distant relatives like my jerk cousins and aunts, try to pry and pry at me until I "open up" and "tell them what's wrong" when there's nothing wrong, I just enjoy peace and quiet and that's offensive to them.
All they really do is make me feel uncomfortable and unsafe. It must be terrible for you to deal with that on the daily.
I remember knowing a mute girl in kindergarten and the whole class did't care that she didn't talk. We would talk to her and play with her and she was actually one of my best friends. Also I would like to make it clear that she was not complexly mute, If you said a word and asked her to repeat it she would, she just did not know English. We tried to teach her this way, but I don't think she ever learned anything from us.
That’s actually really sweet
aww cute i think that boost her english
Hi, I was selectively mute for 5 years and I wanna say thank you for being her friend its not easy to make friends with selective mutism or mute fully, I had friends but some people aren't as lucky.
Why didn’t your school teach her English? And how did she even understand the classes?
Thats so sweet from you guys,i have an american friend (english is not my native language) I’ve met him on a game,I only teached one word from my language and seeing he trying to spell it is so fun,he also helps me to talk in english.👍
"If you're going 80 mph, how long does it take to go 80 miles?"
God that's me.
EDIT: GUYS IT WAS A JOKE, PLEASE
EDIT2: At this point I can't even tell who is joking and who is being genuine, so let me break it down for you guys, gals, and everyone else, in order to go 80 miles at a speed of 80 miles per hour, you need an hour.
One Hour.
80 miles per hour also means an hour per 80 miles.
There is no complicated math here, no unit conversion to bother with, no order of operations to consider, no fractions or decimals or hidden variables.
It's very simple, please think for like 10 seconds before you post a reply in this 120+ comment long thread.
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@xXskyler the wolfyXx i am trying to say one hour lol
8x8 add a zero to that and then boom answer
@@cutiegaming2480 64 + 0 is 64....the answer is 1
@@cutiegaming2480 Pretty sure the answer is not 640 hours, correct me if I'm wrong.
Props to your classmates for being chill and not making fun of you
They were probably just scared of her lol
Mine is "I used to be a loud kid but now I am quiet to the point you don't know I'm here."
Same though
Mine is "If I don't talk to pester me much Dad is dead and my brain makes me shut off my voice."😁😷😭✌🏻
Mine is "I'm weird" 😸
I’m Sean mcloutass
Lol, same
Remember you all: If you become teachers, remember that there is always the chance that some of them become youtubers, and will talk about you.
I wish more people thought of this
I plan on it.
Gotta make it into that *best teachers* vid. 👈😎👈
Something to think about now, sure. Back before youtube was a thing, those teachers are in a for a rude awakening... XD
I mean, I think she handled this very gracefully. Not namedropping them and just giving them fun nicknames. That's how it should be done.
I've heard awful stories of teachers since before my time but my experience with teachers is just this: love them or hate them, they're all just trying to do their jobs with varying degrees of success and enthusiasm. Some of them are outright bad at their jobs but they're still trying to do it right and at the end of the day they're dying to go home just as much as you are. Some of them aren't gonna bother with you more than absolutely necessary and some of them are gonna be busybodies but I think it usually comes from a good and earnest place where they want the best for you.
Yes
Imagine being a boy just hitting puberty and being used to your kid voice, and not being able to talk for 3 or 4 years. Then when u finally speak u sound like a grown man like imagine how scary that would be
It scared me once when I got mad and my voice hopped down a octave or two temporally. I could not imagine the fear from a complete permeant change.
before being mute: hewo
during being mute: …
after being mute: *HÉŁŁŒ* oh-
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YEA
this is insanely accurate, grades 3-4 i was practically mute, im going into middle school this year with fucked up vocal cords that make me sound like corpse when i dont strain them, waiting for my old friends to hear that-
Coming back to this video after I pass middle school and now in high school got me really nostalgic. like started to choke up and shit. But all things stayed, this still applies to me with the labels and whatnot. But we miss you tabbes and hope you come back ❤❤
wish granted, me boy
shes baaaack
my middle school got a shooting threat when i was in the 7th grade
It frustrates me that your teachers treated you that way. Your band teacher especially, that was messed up. I used to teach third grade, and one year I had a kid who was selective mute. I had been encouraged to try to communicate with her in other ways but also to try to get her to talk, and I really didn't know any better. Years later I learned from a friend, who was still selective mute as an adult, that it's not always controllable and trying to force someone to speak can exacerbate the problem. Fast forward another few years when I was a swim teacher, I had a kid I swam regularly who didn't speak to me once, and I just adapted to it rather than trying to force him to talk, and it really wasn't difficult. It would be nice if educators were taught more about these sorts of things in our thousands of hours of required meetings and professional development.
Miss Real was only trying to help and it worked in the end but I think the band teacher handled it all wrong
I sort of disagree. Helping someone will sometimes require uncomfortable situations. The band teacher was ineffective, but you need to be real with people to try and help them
@@novusregnum To solve a problem you need to know what is causing it first, though. There is no point in taking random medication when you are sick, that could actually have the reverse effect.
None of her teachers knew why she didn't talk, and they still tried to solve it by threatening her.
@@blancaah6 Miss Real did but I think she might have went about it a bit wrong, she knew it was because of tab's anxiety
Exactly 😬 the way these teachers treated her makes me think that's probably how they treat autistic children, or children with some other type of difficulties in communication. Its traumatising being on the other end of that. If someone is actually refusing to speak even when prompted by adults then maybe... News flash.. something is actually wrong, and they're not just "shy" or "defiant"? :/
There was a boy in my year at school who was a selective mute. He supposedly talked at home (or so I’d heard) and he actually had a TH-cam channel that most of us found and watched out of curiosity because we’d never heard his voice. He was friends with a friend of mine and every now and then I’d see him whisper something to my friend, but that was it. He’d never talk aside from that.
The teachers were so chill with it though. I guess it might be related to the fact that I’m British and participation has nothing to do with grades in British schools (which I know isn’t the case in the US). He was respected and everyone was kind to him.
The only issue was that when he started a new class, the teacher didn’t know he didn’t speak. And even that wasn’t an issue because when his name was called in the register and the teacher was confused when he didn’t respond, half the bloody class would explain all at once that he’s a selective mute. After that the teachers would just memorise where he sat and check his seat for registration, rather than call his name. It’s a shame your experience wasn’t similar. It really should have been.
He was a pleasant guy. I wonder how he’s doing.
I'm British and unfortunately had the same experience as this video. Teachers threatening my grades, purposely marking down my assignments and tests even though participation didn't count. Just because I didn't talk, they tried to find a way to punish it out of me.
To everyone here, you are loved, things will be ok, never give up, don’t lose hope, keep going in life, you are loved always. ❤
Wish that was the case for me. Everyone acts like I don't exist. I've only heard people talking about me a few times, but from everyone's vibe I know they definitely say a lot of stuff behind my back or just think I'm a jerk. Barely anyone knows I have selective mutism but the people who do are really nice about it. It just sucks how clueless some people are. People used to tease me for being quiet, not so much now but it's so annoying. Like just leave me alone bro.
Everybody gangsta til the mute kid starts talking smack.
YOU?! HOW IN THE HOLY SHI-
Everywhere i go... I see his face...
I’m only subbed to ONE account that is just some guy without a mustache. But, this one, i am subbed to- I see this one everywhere
Dude why are u everywhere????
NOT AGAIN
Damn that teacher is wack cuz what if you were ACTUALLY mute and she’s just like “you need to talk stop being stubborn and talk”
Imagine these teachers with an actual mute.
Melody Styron she said that as a joke. Her personality is mostly sarcastic.
@@melodystyron4514 u really didnt watch the video did u?
spazman12342 i am
spazman12342 XD
She probably could have just put I'm mute on a paper
Adam: I got jaw surgery cannot speak for months
Tabbes: *Not speak for 3 years*
it's FiReTea that was adam
@@wilbysot343 oh god right well, human makes mistakes
By choice 😂
3 years? Those are rookie numbers.
But he cant eat too
"You won't be able to pass highschool!"
*hardly has any communication skills and still manage to pass highschool*
its more harder if your a guy that looks alot like a girl you get bullied and if you get mad youd look like a short girl thats mean to guys
Same. I have no idea how I graduated and my grades were bad.
Speech class
@@thunder-yogan567 want me to eat them up for ya?
@@Cooltink101 same
I used to be a mute too all the way till 3rd grade. No one except my parents and brother knew how i sound. They probably heard me sneeze if they're lucky enough.
My classmates thought i had an issue where I physically was not able to speak. I never used the school bathroom(never asked to go) and my teacher was so used to me being a mute that she would ask me if i would like to go to the bathroom 2 times a day.
And yeah i had nicknames like tongueless/mute but other than that I was not bullied...
I transferred to a new school later and made a friend for the first time in that new school just by writing to eachother on a notebook. I started talking to her in half a year and made a few more friends later on which lasted for a good 10 years.
I no longer have friends, back to being a loner who doesn't speak. But i can still respond/talk a bit with people if i need to. Though i still have social anxiety and panic (even during phone calls)
When I watched "komi-san can't communicate", I related to her so much that my life flashed before my eyes ngl. Loved the anime
why don’t you have friends anymore
@@honey_bearperls6927 when we chased our own universities and goals we just drifted apart and didn't hangout or even talk as much anymore, maybe ask how eachother's day went once a month or so. Eventually I stopped talking to my 2 other best friends and we all went silent on eachother. While my bestest/first friend just told me one day that she was grateful for spending her childhood with me but she realized we can't be friends anymore and so, we also did not talk since then. It's been about 4 years since we stopped hanging out and 2 since I stopped considering them a friend.
@@honey_bearperls6927 quizas entraron a enseñanza superior y por lo tanto perdieron contacto
Ayo Komi!!
@@honey_bearperls6927 We grew apart after I left and we couldn't hang out.. after a year or two, my best friend just thanked me over text for being a part of her childhood and said we should stop being friends now that we are as good as strangers and we're both busy.. my other 2 friends just went silent soon after. It's not just me, no one from our friend group talks to eachother anymore. We're like strangers with memories.
I love how those year book pictures were other TH-camrs.
U dont say
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@@todaytomorrow3303 yesterday
im an esl teacher in taiwan with a student with selective mutism. the students are mostly graded on their speaking ability. for her we make an exception. i just give her a list of questions that i would normally ask the other students. her written answers are always perfect. best in the class. she may not speak, but she gets english.
What is mutism? Did u mean to say autism?
Selective mutism is the inability to speak wen nervous.
@@ImTitan16 mutism is the inability to speak. selective mutism is an anxiety disorder where people can't speak in certain places or situations.
@@serpentax thx for telling me. I had heard of that until now and I thought it was a typo. You seen like a very nice teacher tho. Have a nice day!
@@devss4982 thx for telling me that
Your school would never be able to handle a mute kid that physically couldn’t talk like wow. The teachers would straight up bully the mute kid throughout all their years of school
I feel like if she actually was me at the school would have known and they would have informed the teachers. But because They were aware that she could talk she chose not to because there was nothing to tell them otherwise They were probably like "okay we need to get this child to start speaking because it's not good if they don't. "
Nah the teachers would have that information. Hopefully if it was a physical disability their parents would have contacted the school.
Moreover, what did she gain by doing this?, because watching the video I saw literally no benefits,
@@jvv-r it wasn't anything to benefit from. if you've got issues at home, sometimes it translates into school.
Felt the same way with social anxiety and some other thing that may have been slight paranoia. I dont know why but growing up I was in this mindset of if I didn't get the smallest things like a paper do on time , or lost homework that I would just fail and have no future. I had breakdowns were I cried and people thought I was just very sensitive, I mean probably but they made fun of me because it wasn't " average behavior " .Some teachers told me I was to old to cry , and even I couldn't explain why I did, recently I thought about this during quarantine and realize its probably from pressure in general were I would here things like grades matter so much for your future and other random stuff , I mean it does but my mind pushes that to astronomically high levels of stress. Apparently schools cant realize pressuring students so much isn't healthy for mental stability, and when teachers tell you to suck it up that doesn't help In any way and probably hurts that mindset more. I'm just glad I had good friends who could make me laught because it brought me down from my problems that weren't problems and impossibly high standards and made me realize I'm fine , I'm a A student and I should try to focus on these friendships instead of small things that won't really matter in 20 years. I think I'm way luckier than most being able to realize this , and maybe now I can try to calm myself down better in these random situations that my mind pushes into bigger problems even though it isn't that bad and it will get better.
The fact that you weren't been bullied for being mute is surprising yet wholesome, meaning that your classmates had dignity and weren't acting to you like dipshits for whatever gain.
There's also the fact most people bully for a reaction
somebody who never talks doesn't give a reaction
Will I mean for me there is just that person that is annoying in my class
This was back in 11th grade. I had a friends who despite the fact I was friends with him for 5+ years at the time, never once herd him say a word. Till one day in clothing and textiles (like sewing and making Pillows) we had a substitute who didn’t understand that he just didn’t talk and was getting agitated with him. She said “I’ll count to five and if you don’t speak I’ll tell your teacher to fail you for the year” my friend didn’t budge. Teacher: “ok then. 1, 2, 3, 4” my friend: f**k off. Haven’t herd an explosion of laughter since then.
Lol he did NOT put up with her crap
Oh I wish I was in your class when that happened XD
HAHA
HAHAHAHAHA
Damn, that teacher asked for it, what else would she expected?
I think Tabbes was a selictive mute. A selictive mute is a person who doesn't talk to people except maybe family or close friends. Its not that the person can't talk because they can but they just get can’t talk at all if that makes sense. Overall though people who are selective mutes are usually very talkative with people like family.
I don’t think so, because that’s usually something that’s present from when they’re a small child. This was just for 3 years.
@@ihopeicanchangethisnamelat7108 that is actually untrue. It can affect anyone at any age!
@@meghanmullen8466 really? I never knew that. I just thought it was something you had all your life and it was possible to overcome. I didn’t know it could develop at any time
@@ihopeicanchangethisnamelat7108 Well now you know. Glad to help. :)
@@meghanmullen8466 thanks!!
I was “the quiet kid” for the longest time. It would genuinely shock people if I made a noise. Even after getting into high school I rarely talked, and that followed me to my first job as well.
The first time I swore at work was talked about for actual weeks by my coworkers like it was the herald of the apocalypse or something.
In truth, I just like to listen and drop some sarcastic comment in when people least expected it.
You might be interested in the original 'Saints Row' game then.
@@anatolyantonov9512 "Hope you don't mind hepatitis."
Castle Crashers oc based
Careful man, you might be a beloved character in a TV show. You might be killed off in the next season, so I'd watch my back.
I remember visiting one of my mom's friends. And when I finally said something everyone gasped and said. “Oh my god! She speaks! I thought she was mute” because I am quiet, the teachers in elementary would have to lip my name in cause I knew the answer but was too anxious that they would be upset if I answered
It is pretty amazing how hostile humans can behave toward someone who merely chooses not to speak. I know from personal experience of being Selectively Mute (autism). My advice to anyone who has this issue (or who wants to be mute for mindfulness, etc) is this: DON'T let other people walk all over you just because you don't speak. It's sadly harder to do this as a child, especially if your parents don't support you.
Most humans (especially those with weak egos) find it annoying and even threatening when someone refuses to speak to them. The sad truth is, most humans are complete dumpster-fires when it comes to fairness: they will not treat you well if you don't show them that you can and will defend yourself. Personally, I'd suggest ridding yourself of these types of people, but, for the times when you must deal with them, remember the following:
1. Don't let people walk all over you. There is a huge population of bullies in this world. It sounds like most of the teachers in this video were just bullies who "got older".
2. Most bullies are cowards with poor emotional control. A good tactic is to be more prepared than they are. Inform them that harassing a person with a disability is a crime, and start documenting how they treat you.
3. Find alternative ways to communicate (when necessary). Examples include...:
a. Learn Sign Language. Yes, this is challenging, but completely possible. You can at least learn enough to make strangers not harass you. They will assume you are deaf, and treat you better.
b. Use pen-and-paper (carry a notepad), text (phone), or some other written form of communication.
4. If you truly do not speak, then I suggest telling people: "I cannot speak," rather than "I don't want to speak." Just remember: almost no one on the Earth is "truly Mute"; most of the people who do not speak are actually Deaf, and while most of them technically 'can' speak, they don't want to (nor should they be pressured to). No fair-minded person would suggest a Deaf individual should be pressured to speak if they don't want to - so why should you be made to feel pressured? Your voice is part of your body, and you decide what to do with your body. Any human being who thinks you "owe them" or "owe society" is, by definition, a childish, closet Authoritarian - too-afraid to let other people live their own lives.
5. Research and Study the ADA: Americans with Disabilities Act. Businesses and Public Entities have a legal requirement to reasonably accommodate you if you have a Speech Issue/Disability. Do not blindly assume you do not have a disability: I spent over 30 years not realizing I am autistic because no one put 2+2 together. If you're not in America, hopefully your country has an equivalent. Find it, and memorize the key points.
6. If you want to do some further extra reading, look up the notions of "Positive" vs "Negative" "Liberty". These ideas deal with the concept of fairness in society. They may help you put feelings into words. For example: your Right to control your own voice is a "Negative Liberty" - which means it is a liberty that ought to be free from interference by other people.
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In regards to this TH-cam video: it seems plausible that the Middle School teacher staged puking in the trash can in order to pressure you to talk.
1. She wouldn't let you leave.
2. She coughed in a trash can and told you to "Get the teacher down the hall."
3. From your description of the teacher down the hall, it seems like she was taking her sweet time trying to get you to speak, rather than rushing to help her friend.
4. Afterward, the puking teacher harassed you about "How far you would go with 'not speaking'". Seems to me like she was referring to the fact that you wouldn't crack - even during her possibly-fake "death" scene.
Regardless of whether or not she was faking it, she was still completely out-of-line to harass you the way she did. If she did that to my child (autistic), I'd make sure the only job she could get at a school would be janitorial. I'm sorry your parents were not only unsupportive, but literally part of the problem.
"most humans (especially those with weak egos)"
ok Mr super villain 🤦
->3. it incrediable that you cant point out that teacher and assume she taking her sweet time instead help . How can she know someone is dying if tabbes not give the information clearly ( dont say if you were that teacher you would start knowing and running right away) 🌚 . :)))) you dont even understant the other person view + conclusion though a simple video part give zezo evidence about that teacher 🌚
@@quanh9331 Why not get literally any other student who talks then? The teacher couldn't call the office?
@@quanh9331 If you're a teacher, and you're not doing much of anything right now, and a student tells you "come with me" or makes gestures to communicate that and they look distressed, you fucking _go._ You don't waste time. (Unless they're a repeat liar or smth like that, which isn't the case here.
Why are you just making an entire speech
there was a kid in my Highschool who rarely spoke to people, I was one of the few he spoke to. He was a cool fellow, I felt honored.
You never know, he's probally a famous celebrity right now, or a rich person living in hollywood, you never know the odds.
@@warnyourselffirst he's currently 18 years old
Yeah it's often like that^^
If you get close to shy people they can be the most talky (?) / they really tend to never stop talking people you know. (Like myself) if i talk with a random (and that only happens if this Person talks first to me) than its an extremely short answer
But if i talk with my best friend i can talk for 1-2hours straight without letting her say one thing
I have something like that
I can get almost any quiet kid to talk to me and it’s totally not because I force them “god dam it billy🔫u know what happens if u don’t talk to me” wait what who said that
“Why are you like this?”
Well damn, that’s a pretty bold question there.
*Ask my parents.*
yup
True machó love
Mom:"Why do you care about what people think?"
That's a pretty good question.
*Ask my aunts.*
I just rephrased yours into one for me XD
Wolfichooo TheWolfie smart 😂
LoboDeSombra 861 tank u UwU
I remember when i was mute for 4 years...
My mom told me if I had nothing nice to say don’t say then don’t say anything at all...
Ouch, edgy
my mom told me that too, that's why I didn't talk to any of my classmates in 2 years. and I just started talking a little tiny bit to my classmate like 2 weeks ago ;w;
be careful, don't cut yourself on that edge.
LMAO
Yes not because ur a nervous wreck in any social situation
I remember back in high school I use to be the mute kid in my algebra 2 class because I found the subject so hard that I refuse to talk to anyone or ask for help out of frustration and now that I look back on it I do not know why I did. It was to the point where I refused to stop paying attention in class and not do my homework
"High School are the golden years of your life!" Oh god I hope not.
If these are the golden years idk what are the others!!
@@stargirl3455 elementary cuz it's ez
Yes,bcz u dont care about DA RULEZ anymore.
Don't worry they're not. They are for popular kids who like drama, otherwise your time will be in college.
Hi fellow Hamiltrash!
People: why don’t you talk.
My selective mutism ass brain: Cause I only talk to people who i think are 👌
I have a super extroverted friend that just talks to new people for me so I don’t have to talk to people I don’t trust.
OCHACOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
same and I just moved school’s T^T
@@emmaakasavethechildren6006 Hi!
@@germified9945 glad to see a fellow weeb :)
The music teacher could have been fired for that, he’s not allowed to fail a student over a personal problem
Mine sure as hell did! Sorry Sir if my moms a drug attic and broke my clarinet!
Summer Chandler drug... attic... i had to laff
@@chronicallyg0ne Laff..
@@detectiive r/stopusingr/
And who exactly controls that? Like yeah sure you and your parents could sue him or shit like that, but then its statement vs statement and nothing happens.
In 5th grade in my school in another class,
There was a girl who was a selective mute. The only things she answered were yes or no questions, but some people heard that she talked at home it was cool to know someone like that
Honestly I think it’s so weird how fascinated people are when they find out selective mute people can talk… 2 of my sisters don’t talk at school and if they speak with me in front of their friends the friends are always super shocked. They are also kinda popular??
there was this girl in elementary school who never talked to the point where the teachers accepted it and made her write down, or whisper her answer into the teacher's ear for class participation, Eventually the music teacher broke her down. She doesn't speak loudly but she'll whisper a conversation with you, she's really sweet
Like fluttershy from my little pony
XD
R/quityourbullshit
Yeah I had the same girl but she actually had friends who she would talk to
666th like
UMIunited lmao kid 😂
"ok, this student seems to have problems. what do we do?"
"force them to pretend the problem don't exist?"
"excellent. but how do we do that?"
"with intimidations, threats and chantage?"
"wonderful, you're the best one. That has to make them feel better and snap out of any problem!"
...yes
In what way did that happen
But it worked didn't it?
@@0rangeeige199 I hope that's a joke
@@0rangeeige199 it worked… in doing the exact opposite thing. Remember that it wasn’t until high school that she started talking. And that was due to her own choice. If anything the school made it worse
“I hated high school. I don’t trust anybody who looks back on the years from 14-18 with any enjoyment. If you liked being a teenager there’s something wrong with you.”
-Stephen king
I kinda hate it I almost got fuking grounded today and thetend to be sent to CHS OF SOUIX FALLS SOUTH DAKOTA and I areadey was there for 2 years
I liked High School actually.
Context: Brazilian HS seems to be wildly different from USA's
For a instance: _they are nocturnal_ (So, if you want to play hookie, there's more fun in it! also NO TRUANT OFFICERS)
While I was the smart kid, I was enough of a social butterfly to not get bullied (Or in the seldom case that I was, riposting trice as hard) People were fun, teachers were cool and I could acess the Library whenever I wanted (Again, being a smart social butterfly made me likeable to teachers and principals alike and they loved me) Even in the first year of HS I skipped many classes to go and flirt, run wild or go to a cybercafé when I had cash, that they raked up as an equivalent of 2 months of classes (Yet, I still was in the top percentile of students )
Idk man I’m also from Brazil and I absolutely hated HS
(Ur school seems cool tho, mine like many others was garbage)
I hated that age I hated my life so much then
I know this came out a while ago but I had to make a comment.
Teachers forcing kids to speak in class is incredibly ableist. The person could have any number of reasons for not speaking (social anxiety, ASD, etc) and forcing a child to speak is an abelist practice that continues to this day. It's so frustrating to see teachers treat children and youth this way.
They don't realize singling out those students and sending them to guidance counselor is a backlash. It just makes us feel even more out if place and not want to speak even more. The only thing that made me want to talk was when I was with friends that spoke to me despite knowing how quiet I am
Very true. (At least for me)
...therapy would've helped in my case, at least. I guess it depends on why you were quiet, eheh. I think it could've helped in Tabbes's case, too, since it sounded like abuse. At the same time, she's Korean so talking about it would've gotten her in trouble with her family @.@
good to know you weren't alone at least :)
I love how you put Jaiden and James as the “popular” kids 😂
They are the popular kids
G
XD
@@theA4iQ jaiden is jaiden animations has 8 million subs and james is theodds1out which has more than 10 million
Yeah but they r introverts
everybody: i used to be quiet but now i'm not
me: i used to be friendly but now i'm not
Stephanie Merino everybody: i used to be a quiet kid but now I’m not
Me: I used to be fuelled by a demonic blood rage and unending hatred for everything happy, but now I’m not
I used to play minecraft and be quiet....
Now im depressed
I used to think Earth was flat
but now I don't
EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEH, be quiet and be friendly ;w;
I used to be smart but know I’m not
I'm still in that quiet phase and I plan on it being permanent
I used to be ugly
Not much has changed
14 year old girls
😥
Lol
same
Ditto
how do u know, are u stalking?
Ngl this reminds me of why the school systems need more education about why people might not speak. Aside from the fact Tabbes possibly DID have an unconscious reason for going silent for that long, there’s tons of other reasons kids might not talk. Nonverbal autism, selective mutism, severe anxiety, the list goes on. Teachers trying to force them and threatening them with bad grades (or a bad LIFE tbh from that one teacher wow) isn’t going to work, it just makes them feel worse.
Exactly! There's honestly so much more I wish teachers were educated on, and I wish the school system was better at handling certain things. Every person on this planet is different, and every child in school is the same. We all have needs but I feel like some teachers only know how to help and deal with neurotypical and non-disabled people, or just kids with what is seen as a "normal" experience (which when you add up all the different experiences someone can have, normal is in the minority). Teachers should take time to learn about each student and different kinds of needs different students might have. Not to mention communicate with them and learn how to listen and accommodate ("listen" used to describe actually taking in information a student conveys, whether it's verbal or non-verbal communication). Honestly I could go on and on but I'll shut up now
On the topic of, I had active puberphonia for three years in middle and high school. I might as well have been mute, as my voice was so frickin useless I talked as little as I could, even around my friends. Looking back on it, some of the things people said about my voice (before and after transitioning to my mature one) are actually really messed up to someone that knows the disorder. They said those things because it's not a well-known disorder, yeah, but they were still mega-traumatizing to hear.
I had this thought that schools end up bringing out the worst in everyone, cuz of how their run & their circumstances
Like they're often under-funded, have to value grades over education, have overly long hours, etc, etc, you can fill in the rest
Teachers shouldn't be abusing students by threatening/blackmailing them to do things. When you do that to children it dramatically affects them.
Schools need more guidance counselors. Ones who can actually do their job. Right now, teachers are so incredibly overworked and are held to insane expectations. They have to teach their course materials but also, in many cases, learn how to administer medication, but also are expected teach life skills instead of the parents but also know so much about mental health AND how to handle them. That's way too much, crosses into too many different fields. Let teachers teach and let the other professionals focus on what they need to.
Parents : ~teach you to talk~
You : ~becomes mute~
Parents : Are we a joke to you?
@@AirrackFanReuploads Except, you know, do the baby talk. "Can you say 'Mama?'" "'Say cheese!" That kinda stuff. In a way, a parent does teach a child to speak, it's just that it's not like high school teaching, and babies learn shit at a miraculous rate.
O! Yea! My dads dad always yelled a bad word, so his first word was a bad word XD
yesh you are ;>
@@AirrackFanReuploads Language is taught emotionally through a child, which is how it becomes a first language. Hard work and studying can also equally pay off, but having an emotional connection to a language is what sets you on the path to knowing words without having to translate it through your head.
You: ........
I go non-verbal occaisionally when I get overstimulated and there have been so many situations in class where I've been nonverbal and it's just been an awkward moment of about 5 minutes of staring and then the teacher usually comes up to me and I have to show them my communication card that says "I'm nonverbal"
Literally, my brother NEVER talked, to the point where everyone thought he was deaf, and everyone would come to me in the hall, in class, at recess asking if he was mute, deaf, etc. and why he never talked. Yeah no he's just super quite, except when we are home, then he screams his head off. how nice!
That's because he's comfortable with the people he knows other than complete strangers
He might have selective mutism. Might want to look into that.
quiet*
@ツ Same.
same
“The quiet one” is probably the best nickname I’ve ever heard
Ninjago flashbacks
The choosen one
And The most common
@@arrowskywalkertheweirdo AYYY IKR!?
No, it's overused
I talk to myself more than I talk to anybody else, and I'm comfortable with that.
oh my god same, i thought i am the only one...
I sleep more than everyone
Same
Same
I generally do both, tbh.
Tabbes unknowingly described her TH-cam presence in the title, love it lmfao.
My sister used to be mute bc ✨anxiety✨and her vocal chords literally were like not today bitch. So whenever she tried to talk it’d just be” “
Yea teachers did not handle it well
oof f in comment section for Brianna,s sister
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selective mutisim by any chance?
Shouldn’t the teachers have just assumed that she was just mute
Lil’Blu what i was thinking too
I guess because she didn't have a diagnoses for being selective mute or something i dont think any of the teachers knew how to properly support her
The school would have to know and they would have to tell the teachers
@@chickenanimations8722 yea ur right they get 504 plans and IEPs whichever one they want which is what separates my buddy tabbes here from an actual disability aw sucks she cant brag about it in her next vid :/
@@melodystyron4514
You do know the "stuff happening at home" that she glossed over at the start of the video is *bad* stuff, right? Notice there's no mention of parental involvement in the entire rest of the video? Kids don't do this kind of thing for no reason.
We had a mute kid as well he didn’t speak through out primary and high school, no one knows his voice and not that he was a lonely kid he had a decent amount of friends and wasn’t even bullied he was even known to be shifty at times. We don’t know why he doesn’t speak or if he even has a reason...but we’re family friends so I found out he’s actually REALLY loud at home so me hearing this really shocked me ...but yeah he never speaks
Once my teacher asked me the same thing, "Are you this quiet in your home too? " and I said No. It was kinda annoying because I didn't like my classmates anyways and only spoke when asked (for 2 years). Sometimes they even bullied me for it (ofcourse behind my back but I listened) and called me nickname "Silencer" (I still don't know if that's cool or not). Anyways, it was 2 years ago and now I have great friends in my class!
@@HaloVenom go girl! that douchebag totally deserved it 👏 👏 👏
@@HaloVenom I hope everything will be alright someday :) Also, do you play video games? Just a thought that came to my mind
@@HaloVenom that's cool! In my opinion video games helps introverts like us to experience another world, forget our own surroundings and be a whole other person and I think that's equal to a dream for an introvert.
Thats like 1:1 me.
came back after 3 years to rewatch because this video always resonated with me. younger me would be so proud of the progress ive made (though im still battling with social anxieties, i can still muster up a bit of courage to have conversations when needed)
2:09 now that I’ve watched “insane childhood punishments” I see what you mean
Bro I thought about commenting this but you beat me to it.
Yeet
HOLY SHIT! SO DID I!
Haha yeah same
Yeah lol
Everyone is now gonna put "surviving 2020" on their college application
Phineas and birb YEP
Yo is that Perry the Platypus?
lier! no one will survive 2020!
@@missygold1000 liar*
Pffffft I'm not.
How’d these teachers not think maybe something was going on if you went to such an extent-they’re terribly unprofessional
right??
I had selective mutism for years and nothing was done about it until a teacher cared enough to inform my parents in 10th grade.
That's most teachers in public schools, they like to power trip on your kids and threaten/blackmail them. Don't send your kids to public school if you love them.
@@Gamerad360it really depends on the district. My city's district has a fantastic special needs program
@@CreepersNeedHugs I've been in 4 districts and they all had power tripping teachers.
I LOVE how you constantly hint at your inner rage/violence throughout the video TABBES! I'm a quiet kid because I don't want people knowing that I like annoying...CERTAIN people (I DEFINITELY don't have ANY younger brothers WHATSOEVER...)
Also, keep up the good work!
*Her: being mute for 3 years*
*Me: can’t keep my big mouth shut for a few seconds*
I relate to this on a spiritual level
Me too, but with me it's a sign of adhd. Plus my poor social skills xD
OMG meh too😂
You cracked me up!!!
Just shup up
everyone: “everyone:I used to be a quiet kid but now I’m not”
me:I used to be *normal* but now I’m not.
Its scary how much i can relate.
Very *scary*
Love your profile :>
Same
I used to be alive now I’m dead
me: i used to be abnormal
then i pretended was normal
then i just stop giving a fuck
still abnormal
boom, college essay done
It sounds like selective mutism, it’s a real thing.
And also weirdly not selective. Like generally people with it cant just "choose" to suddenly start talking
N0VA_ _D0S yep most likely
@@christopherjohnston6343 Except, that they can, unlike actual mutes. It might be really hard, and needs a lot of work to become a reality, but still generally people can "choose" to start talking, if not humans would be no better than a pre-programmed robot.
@@williambeldamlkke8054 yeah for sure. Point is the name "Selective Mutism" might give a wrong perception - like that someone isn't talking out of stubbornness. The selective means that the mutism is tied to certain circumstances. Ie) like being fine and talkative with family and close friends but not being able to talk to strangers.
I knew a girl with selective mutism who was actual really friendly and social - it's just that she couldn't talk in those group settings she enjoyed just being a part of.
@@christopherjohnston6343 I can see how it could give off the wrong idea about people.
Last year, there was this girl in my class who I think had selective mutism. She didn't speak to anyone, nobody, except for her friend, who she always sat besides. Everybody thought she just had social issues, and she became the face of bullying. She left my school this year because of, I believe, the bullying. I hope that girl is okay now.
Teachers: jUsT sPeAk Or Im LoWeRiNg YoUr GrAdE
Teachers when they meet a kid with mutism: *Impossible*
True so true
Grade = A for talking.
ah yes, ''MUTISM''
mutism sounds like its for people who hate mutes
racism, mutism, whats the difference
@@sami_irl Ikr but guess what's worse in the old days they called mute people "dumb." just ask the bible.
There is this girl at my school who is selectively mute and has been for 6 years now, she is a senior in high school and only talks at home, or to trusted friends she’s pretty cool though
You mean like "pippe?"
Yay fello mute
R/woooooooooosh
"Nobody cares what you like, Johny."
I've been Johny my entire life.
@Owen Campbell OML HHAHAA
F
Cheers I’ll drink to that bro
Dad: Johnny johnny
Johnny:yes papa
Dad: killing people
Johnny: no nigga
Dad: telling lies
Johnnys head: nigga im about to kill u
Fyi im johnny with a devilish mind
Same tho...
I was a really quite kid. My teacher had to make a goal for me to raise my hand at least once everyday. One time I was staying after school and she went up to another student and said, "I need you to raise your hand more than five times a day, okay?" Then she went up to me and said, "Nice job on raising your hand one time!"
For a while people thought my friend was mute. until one brave soul asked her if she was and she replied "No, are you a moron?"
and then the whole class clapped.
@@supern00bis4 r/nothingneverhappens
R/thathappened
Grim Hood your friend is dumb and a jerk then.
People used to think I was mute but I just said... “nahhhhhh”
“If you think you can get by this year without talking, you’re dead wrong”
Tabbes: My goals are beyond your understanding
Bully: *bullies me*
Teachers: *does nothing*
Me: *defends myself*
Teachers: oy detention for you
Some rules and general behaviour in educational system are really confusing.
that's so true
I was a blat belt by 7th grade, but learned karate at one of those "violence is the lastest of last resort" kind of places, so when I'd get bullied, I'd literally just roll with the punches and let them get tired/bored of it. Looking back, I should have kicked them in the temple.
Dear Chukeul Gadrt
I know. Threw my bully into (and nearly through) a closed window.
Though I was regarded as the "nice kid". So in my case the teachers actually looked into why the "nice kid" throws 'some dude' into glass window.
Got detention. Bully got disiplinary penalty.
AAAND crap from my parents. Was the right thing to do though.
You are GOING to get a stiff breeze in your face if you stand up to being bullied. From the bullies. AND the system. I can attest to that sadly. BUT:
You HAVE to stand up to being bullied. Otherwise it ruins you emotionally.
You HAVE to show in your behaviour that you are the good guy to all the other people that are NOT your bullies. It is *your* propaganda to proove, that you are in fact the being the victim. Because the bullies usually play the 'victim'-card when you go to the teachers/authority and report them.
Chukeul Gadrt i yeeted a bar stool at my bully once and he got suspended in school for a week, 9 to 5 alone in a sideroom, i got to stay home for a week. ay lmao
“Most kids go through a quiet phase”
Me: “blabkablabakbalbalbakvamvablabla!!”
My parents: “So when does this quiet phase happen?”
I was silent for every single thing and I convinced my teachers that I was mute.... I always got a 100 in presentations cuz I would just give it to the teachers and they just read it
I can't imagine being silent and... Tricking people to think I'm mute. I wish I could do that tho.
Death *I’m still mute Owo*
@@k1ttyc0r36 how are you not completely failing? But I assume you're in middle school so it doesn't matter either way
@@happysumo8138 nah, im in high school and I didnt fail cuz they thought I was mute
There's is kid in my school that's like that. I've only heard him talk twice but because the teacher forced him to
0:20 Crip crip crip..
*CRIPPLING DEPRESSION..*
Ahem
*crips vs bloods*
AGAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH THATS SOOOOOOOOOOO FUCKINNGG FUNNNNNNMYY OH MYY FUCCKING GOD HOLY SHITT HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
*marathon gun sounds*
Chlymidia b U R N-
My life
I was a mute till I was 8, gonna be honest I still kinda prefer sign language
can you teach me sign language
Lol
Sign language is pretty fun to learn.
Bruh sign language is everything.
So you learned how to talk, or you just started talking? I’m genuinely curious
Watching this now that I'm older made me realize that she was probably traumatized as a child and her being mute was a trauma response. Those teachers were TERRIBLE at handling that.
Part of being a teacher means they are tested on their psychological understanding on kids, it's literally a part of college curriculum. They did not do their job accordingly.
Exactly what I thought especially hearing about her dad and other things. The dots are quite connected
I had selective mutism as a child and I distinctly remember teachings trying to get me to speak and I remember I wanted to answer, but I physically couldn't. It was so bad the school pressured my parents into taking to see a psychologist and long story short they said I had selective mutism, which the school did not like. The reason they didn't like it was that I was no longer just being a brat, but had a legitimate medical condition (it went away as I aged by the way). The school was also mad because my parents didn't use their recommended psychologist. I remember after the school still tried the same intimidation tactics (which is actually the worst thing you can do with someone with selective mutism) and it feels like my parents were in every week arguing with the school over it. It ended up being so bad that my parents pulled me out of the school and put me in a private school.
yo this video isn't supposed to be sad if u want go write a paragraph for ur english class you guaranteed to get an A!
My sister had selective mutism. It was interesting to read this because I never thought about how she felt with it.
As someone who didn’t talk at school for almost all 12 years, I can relate a lot too this.
To*
What u didn't ever talked in school
@@armyblinkoncemidzyexo-lmom3083 didn't talk* not didn't talked
@@elu9189 grimmer nazi
Grammar
How to join a gang:
- Wear a bandana
- Say a gang name
- Listen to the GTA theme
- Play the Doom pistol sound effect
Can confirm....
🤣😂
You forgot step 5
- say crip crip crip
@@Bundle_Exists "Say a gang name"
Just one word yes.
This is my comfort video :) knowing someone went through the same experience as me
"Nobody cares what you like Jonny."
*HEY THAT'S MEE!*
No your arctic the arctic fox
Eek we’ve got ourselves a gacha-whatever-it’s-called-anime-loving-edgy-9-year-old here
Arctric The Arctric Fox what if she didn’t go to jail and don’t do weed
@Tacocat 3000 editing, and time
@@neighbourino2376 first of all, don't guess my age. It's rude.
And I'm not a gachatuber, sence I don't go gacha vids full time.
And the edgy vids are rather just backstory videos.
You gonna call SleepyKinq out for being edgy because you don't like edgy things?
*_That's what trigger warnings are for._*
*nObOdY cArEs aBoUt wHaT yOu WaNt JoHnNy*
Lol
:T
Thats all I have to say
i got the 420th like!
I got the 540th like
Jonhony the nerd
actually, my principal said, 'It was the worst years of my life and I still have ptsd from it"
At least she was being honest
+abc123754212 maybe wants to improve school for others so they don't suffer like she did?
I can relate to your principal. Spot on summary.
*Can we have the Honest Trailer for that?*
imagine being someone with a physical disability where you cant speak (autism can cause selective mutism for example) and your teacher says "if i died its ur fault!!!!!)
Teacher: If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything
Kid: OK!
-Doesn’t speak for 3 years-
Brandon Munter hehe
nice
Completely forgot I made this comment and had no clue it had 100s of likes
I'm not mute, but I'm quite shy. I talk in class but quietly because I don't like when people hear me talk. People call me mute, but they're just stupid. I talk to my friends and I talk to nice people, but I have no interest in talking to people who aren't nice to me and they don't seem to understand that :/
me too :0
Like my friend, or me sometimes
(Sorry if my english is bad)
I hope i meet you and we talk because thatd be cool
Just realised not on reddit and thats my real name and now i feel stupid but ohwell lol
There are no rude people, as being offended is your choice. Expecting everyone in your life to be nice to you is just weak. People will be rude, you have to deal with it.
Tabbes- Not speaking for three years.
Me- Not making any close friendships in high school till my senior year.
Same!!!
Ouch
why you so loud for
That’s hurtfully true for me.
@Tsukabu'sArtsyThings its exactly what is happening to me right now.
One of my old best friends had selective mutism, she only would talk to my and our other best friend as well as her parents, super super sweet girl, she just eventually grew out of it when she became a teen. I still see her now and then but we aren’t very close now. It’s very funny to see so many others who went through the same thing. Thankfully my class was super nice to her and I would just help talk for her.
That kid:
“Uhh..Tables right?”
*yup it tables.*
I had to take my like away from you because I didn't wanna get rid of the perfect "69" Ya got going on there. 😂
Comment 101
Pls do subscribe to tables
The funny thing is my auto correct read tabbes as table
Ok but how nice it would be to yes be mute for some years then at the end of the year just whisper “they will never believe you” to a random person smile and walk away
If i move im 100% doing this
@@eragonsargent8479 OMG I just moved, I'm gonna do this :D
@@potato_bastard6169 good luck person :D
@@zombifiedlamp4154 Can't wait ^U^
@@potato_bastard6169 yo! What happened? Lmao hahaha did u do it?!
"You probably thought i was wearing a diaper on my face... robbing a bank.."
thats changed now
My teacher thinks I’m depressed and is compelled to make me feel happy
edit: it’s been two years since i made that comment back in 2019. a lot has changed. i’ve had three therapists since, got diagnosed with depression, anxiety and adhd, moved twice and was near homeless for a year and out of work for a few months, got back in touch with old friends who i should’ve never left (their good people dw), lost half my body weight, came out as bi and gender fluid, stop sh, struggled through addiction, lost a parent and brother and more. i’ve been through lots of other ups and downs since saying that but now i can finally say i’m happy where i am. i’m financially stable, mentally alright, planning to propose and honestly living my best life :)
thx mr smith in high school history class for noticing how fucked up i was, couldn’t have made it this far.
Well, are you depressed?
@@c0l4cat never got it diagnosed but from the symptoms I check out on a couple but not all
Shadowo Bunniee, same, the guidance counselor literally won’t leave me alone.
At least they actually notice
At least they care
Teachers: talk or youre getting a 0%
Tabbes: heh, grades dont matter when youre a youtuber
This could legit be a book and I would read it
@The Random Reign of Vanilla thanks I'll have to read it!
Rumbles 101
I got the computer. Let’s do it
the adventure of tabbes
This is pretty similar to the book Speak, about a freshman who loses her friends after she calls the police on a party they were at (for reasons that will be explained later) and becomes semi-mute
There’s a book called All Rights Reserved and it’s about this girl who stops talking in a world where people are charged for talking/gesturing
I feel this video is very relevant and explains alot recently... (rly glad ur bk btw!)
My teachers in 1st grade legitimately thought there was something wrong with me, because my parents hammered it into my head that you mustn't talk to strangers. So the only time I spoke to anyone, I had to face the wall. Looking back at it I think there was something wrong with me as well