I am a 16 year old boy who grew up mostly without a father. Seeing this makes me very happy and I can’t wait to be a father. God bless you and your family.
Make sure the woman is right! Getting kids is a huge responsibility, and a lot of people aren't ready for the sacrifices that have to be made, it would be wise to share that responsibility with a woman who you KNOW is going to do right by you. Overall just don't rush it, these things come with time and wisdom.
You can tell these two really have been married for 30+ years. They tell stories together, and finish each other’s sentences. They are in tune. From a guy who’s been happily married for 52 years.
Yep only a guy who is brave and has the courage to make a good it's a multitasking position and it's not for the spoiled hearted man it is not for selfish guy. Being a good wife is not for a spoiled girl... It's a mutual admiration society.. willing to carry each other's water..!?
Wow, that’s awesome! I hope someday to be able to say the last part of your sentence. It gets harder and harder as time moves on, but I’m trying to find that woman!
@13:26 "Women weren't created to do everything a man can do, women were created to everything a man can't do" That is really powerful, thank you for that perspective.
My uncle called his wife gramma after their grandkids came along. She called him grampa. I could tell stories for days, but it was so wonderful to see the respect they showed each other, and the love.
My wife and I met on an Arizona guest ranch. I was a wrangler, she was a waitress. Our first date was Christmas Eve to midnight mass. We’ve been married 39 years, have two kids and three grandkids. Best wishes for continued health and happiness.
Old fashioned man here, married to an old fashioned woman for just over 40 years, nine wonderful children. Everything you both said is true. So, you celebrated 100k subscribers just one year ago, and now I see that has grown to 880k. Congratulations! I think it is because people seek real wisdom, no games.
As a Man in his 30s that comes from a Mexican American background and grew up mostly around gangs and farm workers in Northern California. To listen to this conversation and completely agree with everything is refreshing. A Man is a Man. Regardless of cultural differences. Protector, provider and stands firm in the pursuit of whats good.
@DYNASTY E.N.T. Explain what a man is that encompasses all men. It is completely cultural. People 200 years ago had a completely different view of what a man was compared to today. This idea that men have always had a certain role to play as well as women is a form of white-washing that doesn’t hold up with reality.
@@msr1116 I'm sorry to say this but your experience with 7 or 8 Latinas can hardly stand as a stereotype for latin Men or relationships. Thats like me saying because most of the white people who live in olivehurst California are meth addicts, that means white people have a problem with drugs. I know first hand that the vast majority of true healthy latino especially Mexican homes have a beautiful marriage with the same morals as any true Christian home. Of any race. Your comment was offensive and ignorant. But I don't hold any ill will. God bless.
I can't still believe, how young and beautiful your wife looks like having raised 7 children. I'm 26 with no girlfriend, I stumbled upon your channel by chance. Maybe, someday, I will experience the blessing of meeting such a cooperative partner. Thank you for the wisdom and knowledge.
My jaw dropped. She is stunning. That jawline! 7 kids and she looks like that. As a 45-year-old woman, my hat is off to her. Just goes to show that being married to the right person and being happy keeps you young.
There are far better pursuits to spend your time, money and energy on my man. These olden day forever marriages are a thing of the past. The women of today are not his wife, your mother or your grandmother. They have been lied to, mislead, distorted and corrupted beyond marriage material. The values, morals, principles and scruples of yesteryear and the sanctity of marriage are dissolved unfortunately. Marriage is a joke these days and you a target in the sights of modern feemales my friend. They're out for blood and playing for keeps now.
In old fashion tradition, when things break, we were taught to fix them. Today, when things break, we are taught to replace them. We’re seeing this pattern of behavior embed itself into how we handle our friendships and relationships. I discovered Dry Creek on accident, but boy am I glad I did. Honored to be part of the first 100k subscribers and will surely be here to celebrate the next 100k. You are wonderful Dwayne, and Mama too! Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
@@ez-g3090 No, it was the middle class that caused our problems. Very selfish people. Regardless, pretty sure wanting your own bank account is not what's causing our problems.
Recently my ex left me because our relationship was no longer desirable. I wanted to patch it up and she switched me with another guy. You’re not wrong with the assessment that the replacement mentality is all too common now.
@@hankhill3417 Being a lady does by no way mean you don't get a voice, a woman is entitled to any opinion or contribution she may have on a conflict or idea particularly in a relationship. In which case find who is best at what, finances, work or raising kids and communicate which action is best if a woman in a relationship is better at say raising the kids yet is too agreeable then the decision by the man may not be the optimal one. Personally I would suggest being kind and communicative to a your spouse and recognise their strengths and show them yours I hope I don't come off as rude, i have no intention to be, please have a wonderful day :)
❤️ I'm a 25 year old girl, getting married to a man who is as described in the video. When I decided I wanted to get married, I couldn't help but look internally and think, "I need to be the woman who my ideal man would find attractive and who would want to marry me." I have a long way to go, but thinking of my ideal man lit a fire under me that made me choose to be a better person and to be more lady-like and have self-respect. A real man wants a girl who respects herself. My fiancé and I met organically, thank God, in college. We were friends for 7 years before either of us thought romantically of the other. We decided to give it a shot, 3 months later, we decided we would get married. I can't wait to be his wife, make his meals, make a comfy home, be the mother to his children. He makes me want to be a better person, I trust him with my life. He is a good man, and he says what he means and means what he says. We are very different people, but our values and morals are in line. I have so much peace in my heart in the decision to marry him that I know this is the right thing. I am clear-headed, and my future looks sunny. Sorrow will come, but I know he and I can weather storms. We have already done so separately and together. Thanks for the video.
Good luck, you'll need it. Best to have your own goals and achievements to strive for, not depends on and derive your sense of self worth from another person. Then again, some women truly are happy just being slippers. Just like some people are happy discussing horse manure and the Bible, while other go into Hegelian dialectics etc.
Oh my goodness!! I’m 6 years older than my wife! I was head chef and manager of a restaurant and hired my future wife. It WAS love at first sight for me. Now, 40 years later, still love at every sight!
"Love at every sight"....!! Incredible!! I envy you dude!! thanks for reaffirming real love still exists!!..ps...you should be writing!...just saying...
@@thejamnasium6447 That is an insane exaggeration. In the US alone there is over 20 million girls from ages 15 to 24. To make a statement about millions of people when you've only witnessed the behavior of thousands is extremely ignorant.
@@justinofboulder if I see someone in need of help I will usually offer, if they turn down my assistance then I bid they good luck and I go on my way. Now normally I don't get rejected for my assistance but I live in the deep southeast of Louisiana and although crazy radicalism is present here it's very much in the minority....
@@thatkajunguy8029 I learned how to change tires myself. You know why? There's a lot of crazy people out there. Women are more likely to be the victims of violence than men. Sometimes for your own safety, you need to learn to take care of things yourself.
Marriage is hard, very hard. My husband and I are coming up on 25 years married (28 together) and we’ve been through sickness, infertility (that thankfully was resolved) many job changes, moving, family issues, and so much more. Divorced has crossed our lips but we worked through it. It took looking inward at ourselves when things were bad. Love, respect, patience, forgiveness, and introspection, and communication is so important to a good marriage. He once told me that even if we divorced he’d continue to take of me (and the kids of course). He’s a good man and deep down I’ve always known it.
Wow your story is very similar to ours. We have hurt each other in many ways, thought about walking out. Still working through some resentments but decided nothing was worth throwing away 26 years.
I am a stay at home Momma of a 9 month old and a wife to a husband with a heart of gold and hard working hands- he works his tail off for me to stay home with our babe and eventually homeschool - I’m eternally grateful to him. Our values reflect yours identically. The traditional life is a dying concept and stumbling across your page, especially this video, has revived my faith in knowing there are others out there like us! Something about this chat just calmed my soul in this chaotic world. Thank you🙏🏼
I'm seeing this one year later and you already have 8 TIMES more subscribers!!! Your channel has obviously exploded, which means there's a great hunger for this kind of content. Congrats, and thanks for all you do.
My husband and I were married when I was 70 and he was 76. We had a few glitches but when I determined to accept the way HE showed love, and stopped judging the marriage by the lack of what seemed like the ideal Husband should be, it became wonderful .And what was great, he in turn started more what I liked. Has he couldn't drive and had to slow down somewhat, I always tried to make him feel needed and wanted. He was a real man, in my eyes, and I emphasized that as much as I could. He just passed over a few months ago and I miss him so much!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you miss him so much, but remember those great times together. I was divorced at 29 & have never met the right person, but I raised my son & was happy. I'm 58 now & still alone. I have excepted the way it is & I'm happy & content with my fur babies. So I'm not really alone , I have my pets. God bless you, always.
@@janegreen191 I wish I could. All I can do is offer a little advice. Be the person you would want to attract. Get out and get involved in a cause. try to enjoy your life and let God do the rest. Help others. Fill your life with service so that your life has meaning besides sitting around hoping.
Greetings from Turkey.💗 As a foreign living in a very distant geography, what the western media told us about traditional American people like you was generally conveyed as redneck, racist, bigot, belligerent, enemy of civilization and America's biggest problem. I watched a few of your videos and realized that it was mistranslated to the rest of the world, and my respect for people like you has grown even more. My view is that you are a peaceful person who is fully committed to his family and values, but you are brave and fearless individuals who will never hesitate to defend themselves against attacks on you, your family and your values like a cowboy. I guess the prejudice of the Westerners stems from your brave, strong and seated personality. Also, despite the fact that your wife has given birth to 7 children and raised them successfully, she looks very young, healthy and strong. There is a proverb in the Turks "Working iron does not rust." you and your wife are like living proof of this proverb.😄
I fully approve your comment despite I am a Hungarian living on land that your nation had occupied for more than 150 years. Crazy right? People need to invest some effort to learn about the other. Cool man!
Feminism was heavily supported by Rockefellers, why ? Because they couldnt tax women when they stayed home. Also it meant that children were now raised by the Government, and more workforce means more competition so thats better for corporations. The most important thing is to raise your children because thats the society of tomorrow. Control children (singers and actors also play a part as false idols to children and society), control society. I dont really want to get into it but just quick, we are ruled by the occult and the occult worships God as a woman like in the Roman-Catholic church which is behind the NWO (to be precise the female part of the devil. Lucifer can be male, female or both - Trans worship (Ying/Yang, male/female combined into one)) If interested because I dont want to write pages here look up Spencer Smith and the 3 part series "The Third Adam" or at least the 3rd part "Rise of the divine feminine" and it will explain alot. watch?v=_f8fotz5GUo God bless.
I have been married for 33 years and raised a boy and a girl with my loving wife. It is the most important job in my book. I did not want my kids in daycare and I was able to provide enough money so we did not have to. The tough part for me though was when they grew up and left the home.
A good man, good husband and father will appreciate a traditional good mother. They understand that without a great woman, a house can't be called a home.
As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in couples counseling, I agree with you 💯. Respect is the foundation of love for another, and you both modeled that in this video. Thank you for showing how it's done. God bless you.
Being in my mid-20's, it is refreshing to hear your story. I have thoroughly enjoyed this channel for some time, and I thank the both of you for all you have taught me, even if it is just a reminder. A lot you have shared is similar to what my Dad has taught me. I think a lot of people also rush into relationships (long term) without knowing what they are looking for.
So true. Makes you think about how so many young people have never even seen a long lasting marriage like this. It's a sad thing to look around and see the majority of teens/early 20s are interested in nothing but casual sex and wouldn't even know how to find a long lasting relationship.
@@MrFredstt wow that's some very one dimensional young ppl you've encountered. I personally think it's a lot on which circle or bubble you are in and there are plenty of young people that do no think like that about dating. R u from a big city? I imagine it gets hard there
A good marriage is much like two work horses hitched together. Pulling together, in the same direction, helping each other to achieve a shared goal. This has been my experience for 42 years now. I appreciate your conversation here.
My ex wife was raised to believe that I'm the work horse or rather the actual plow. And didn't have to do anything. 25 years wasted. I tried to make what your talking about happen, but she wouldn't. I should have left a long time ago, but I made a vow. She left for a guy half our age and left me to raise the children. Thank you feminists. Thanks alot.
I'm not a wrangler, just a broken down, ol' mountain man, living in a rural area in the Western Cascades. I try as much as possible to live in the old ways of the West, where I was born and raised. At nearly 70, I still tend my one acre, garden, hunt, fish, and cut my own wood to feed my 'iron monster' in the fall, winter, and early spring. I appreciate the good old fashioned common sense that I have heard on your channel, so I decided to become a subscriber. As far as men and women goes, I have had much younger women describe me as a " man's man", but I prefer the bachelor's life, to marriage. Tried it, and widowed.
Wise man. You are comfortable with yourself, that means you're good company so no one else required.👍🏻 Women only complicate and distort a free spirited man's life in my experience.
You have my respect sir. I'm a city boy born and raised but I'm working to earn some old fashioned self-sufficiency. It was years before I ever even chopped firewood, but when I did I realized I was missing a very important skill and outlook on life.
You're a lucky man. I am a 35 year old guy who thought he had found such a keeper himself three times already, and whenever times got a little tougher those women hit the road. I can't even find words to describe the pain these situations caused, especially in one case where said woman left me just because I experienced a period of grief: Some time ago I had to bury somebody really dear to me and naturally that threw me off the rails for a couple of months. Now picture spending half a decade with a woman you think is different to those thousands of shallow girls lacking commitment and dedication just to see her leave when you needed her the most. All just because to her, the grass she was on had a bunch of brown blades - so better go see if the grass might be greener elsewhere, right? Sometimes I think that my generation is the first generation that lost sight of what truly matters in life: Sticking with the ones you claim to love. I envy people like you two, you strike me as the type of folks who make it work because you truly want to. And I respect you for that, cause that trait makes great people. Thanks for all you shared on here & blessings to you!
@@ShinyFlakesShinyFlakes I’m 68 years old. I think that we were heading in this direction before the internet was a thing. The internet just sped it up IMO. Anything can be used for good or evil. A knife can save a life or take a life.
Women don't leave out of the blue just because times get tough for a little, that was already in her heart to do so but she wasn't sure. As time went on, she felt more and more that she wanted to leave, and unfortunately that time landed around the time your loved one passed. She left during that because she didn't want to deepen your connection and break your heart even longer by waiting until you felt a little better. It's better to tear the bandaid off quick. Think about it, would it have been better if she waited to break up with you? Of course, I could be wrong, as I don't know her lol not saying I'm right either though
Hit the nail on the head. Loneliness will be one of the biggest causes of death because of how we are treating each other and leaving families and not having babies. These generations are just soft, weak and little pussies. Next twenty years are gonna be a rollercoaster.
This channel is golden. If you’re intentions are too help young people, you are spot on. I’ve been married for 30 years too, and as a veteran, I’ve put my wife through hell moving her all over the country and disappearing for many months at a time. I met her at work and it was love at first site. She didn’t take crap and stood on her own. Like riding a green horse, we’ve both changed to become a team. You’re words are true, if you can’t respect each other, you’re not worth a hill of beans.
My wife and I married at 21 and were 36 now with 4 kids. My wife stays home with the kids and homeschools. We strive to hold on to the same principles and values you guys do. Thank you for your content. You’re an inspiration to many. Much needed in today’s world.
I’m a grown man, but had to stop at 2:20 to have a cry. That intro with you both was so genuine, the look on her face during those compliments could melt any cold heart. Sending much love from the farm in upstate New York. ❤️🇺🇸
I have always said if a hubby just gave a wife a pat on the head everyday, small or large, notice a new hairdo, good dinner, notices a new blouse she will shine and pay back ten foil. Hubby and I were best friends and married for 65 years and he wouldn't pass until we had our 65th. Ann., then he passed 3 years ago and my life has changed without my love and best friend.
This by far was one of the most beautiful COUPLE advice... . Hearing you both speak on your masculinity and femininity is so grounding and feels safe in knowing that in each gender there is strength and beauty; and from that can blossom mutual respect. I love the "we completed each other" line. God bless you both.
I am a 32 year old man, married for 12 years, we have 7 children, I just know that listening too these old timers, is always an inspiration, because they have already it all, so it’s just so encouraging. Thank you for your teaching, it makes me miss my grandpa😊
These two are the epitome of the traditional parents and Grandparents full of experience and life wisdom who freely share them with those who will listen and learn. I’m 68 years old and these two fill my heart with joy. God bless them both and their family.
I’m a 27 year old man. It feels so good hearing y’all talk and knowing there’s some levelheadedness and wisdom in this upside down world. Y’all’s page is a good and comfortable place for me where I learn a lot and I really appreciate y’all. 👏🏽
It’s was so nice to see you guys today. And am so happy for you. My husband and I were married for 31 years. He passed 2 years ago, this year. We were best friends. It got us through difficult times. He really was a amazing man. He taught me so much. A kid at heart. Everyday I thank God that He gave me Dan. And now when I think of him. I see him fishing with his dad and brother in heaven. Given each other crap - big smiles on their faces. It fills my heart with happiness for him.
I am a 33 years old syrian, who migrated to Europe at a young age because of war. After being away from my family for very long time, watching all your videos and especially this one, I feel I still belong. Family is the source of the society and you people are a wonderful example to look up to.
My wife and I have been together for 13 years. She had a rough upbringing and me in the Navy Seabees, I had my way of things. Watching this video is like my wife and I. The Navy Chaplin said even if your mad with each other, always sleep in the same bed. When we get up in the morning we say I Love You and we'll talk later. It has helped us immensely. Great Video!
As someone who's 26, this is a far cry from how young people meet anymore. Not even by choice, dating apps and social media just has such a stranglehold over dating now.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 not behind a phone screen, that’s for sure. You have to go outside, go to places, be engaged in the activity in the place you’re at, and go from there. You decide that. Your life is yours and only yours to live.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 So, when I was young I dated a girl who straight up could not read. The next girl I dated was not interested in history, truth, or anything deeper than whatever was happening in the pop culture. I determined then and there that I would only meet women at bookstores, libraries, or other vetted spaces. I would then subtly test them to see what they were about. I have been married for close to 20 years to a beautiful, intelligent, and stimulating woman. We met in the Army. The first date we had was to sit together and read old Chinese poetry. She was all about it. I invited her to play pool at a bar and she was just as comfortable. I wasn't wasting time trying to meet someone and then see if we had things in common. All that to say this, get out into the real world and enjoy the things you enjoy. When you have the chance to meet someone there, take it.
lLove how you talked it out prior to getting married. I wanted to be a wife & mother as well. There was so much pressure from outside forces for me to want to get a job. I felt blessed to be able to enjoy every second of my childrens' childhood. Even then, there were still family members that wanted me to get a 'real' job when I was already doing a job that would mean more to me than anything else I had done in my life. When my children were almost grown, my father became sick with dementia. I had the priviledge of caring for my Dad for 6 yrs. We lived together for 9 yrs. Family members who had not seen my Dad in years were quick to offer their opinion noting that I should get a 'real' job and my Dad should be put in an 'oldfolks' home. I have made many mistakes in my life, but caring for my children & my father are decisions I am proud of & choices I very much wanted to make. I have never doubted my decisions in this regard. I have often felt isolated & minimized for making these choices. I am so happy to see a woman who wanted what I wanted, & still want.
I did the same for my father after receiving a phone talking to my parents and my Dad telling me that he had congestive heart Failure. I told my parents to move back to Hawaii , and I would have them live with me , built a full on addition to my home at the time. So they had a nice comfortable place. I looked after them until they both passed away 7--8 years ago. And I was the Black sheep of the family and I was the one that ended up taking care of Mom & Dad. But I was lucky they were both good loving parents. I miss them both greatly.
Being different from your spouse is a benefit. Your strengths complement their weaknesses, and vice versa. My wife and I have been married 21 years today, and we are both as different as day and night. It has helped us raise our two sons (17 & 14) into growing men. Thank you for this wholesome content.
My husband and I also discussed how we saw a marriage relationship, how we each saw our roles and goals. What our ideas were as far as money and budgets. Most importantly, how we saw our roles, responsibilities and disciplining as parents. 31 years later, ups and downs, still 100 percent committed. It brings a tear to my eye at all the folks gathered "around your fire". I am seeing a huge shift in just the last year. I feel such Hope for our collective futures. Thank you for your contributions❣️
When I clicked on your notification and saw you both sitting there together, I thought this lady was someone other than Mama, and the real Mama was where she she normally was, behind the camera. And she is not only a lovely lady, but you’re right, Duane, she sure does look young enough to be your daughter.
Ever since I was pregnant with our first son my husband has called me "mom" or "mama" and I've called him "dad" or "daddy" and we still call each other that 21 years later. Although we still use our names from time to time, too.
Marriage isn't 50/50 it's 100/100. Great video and hope to see more of momma. Looking forward to hearing more about your stories. Thanks for what you guys do.
At 72 it is hard to believe I have never heard it put like that and I KNOW that you are 100% right. I see no way a marriage could fail if a couple love each other enough to marry and both put 100% in to it.
My husband and I recently celebrated 34 years of marriage. You both are correct, it's a marathon - not a sprint! We've stayed together through thick and thin because we love each other and we took a vow. Plus, we're just too darn stubborn!
‘Just wanted to drop this thought. I’m 64, & find your content very uplifting. Many of our young folks need your advice &knowledge. They need to understand that life isn’t a rut to stay in. When the trail gets too deep, climb to higher ground. Always look for the life that keeps you on the bubble. If one isn’t level, life will always be a struggle. Congratulations to you & Momma for making it through the hard times. Though my days of youth are past, I find that my degree of happiness is in my own hands. In my younger days, we raised Quarter Horses & Appaloosas. The lifestyle was so good, & the stress reliever wasn’t picked up at the local pharmacy, it was called horseback riding.. Keep bringing the words of wisdom to the world. Though I can’t go out, saddle up & ride now, I find comfort in watching your channel. I get my coffee & a good cigar, only to take a a ride & never leave the farm. Bottom line is; We have very similar mindsets. Your delivery calms me, to affirm that helping others may be one of the most important thing we can do in life. Many thanks, Dan
“It’s a journey. And you’ll never get to the end of the journey, if you quit the journey when the journey gets hard.” Good stuff. Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
Always a pleasure to see a video from you Dewayne, but also, congratulations on 100,000 subscribers! Very nice to see your wife on video, you guys are great
Fellas We must listen close to what he said starting at 07:17 “This is a girl who can hang” “This is a girl that could keep up with me” This type of women is what we need. She’s strong, faithful, respectful, beautiful, charming, and you can tell she absolutely loves this guy. Yeah I’m sure they’ve had tough times but the amount of ‘trust’ she displayed on the first date with him is all a man needs to make a crucial executive decision ‘She’s the one’ And ladies listen to what she said at 09:04 “He has the qualities that I NEEDED” -that’s the sauce, this dude wasn’t rich, wasn’t the tallest man on earth but she adored his energy and cherished his energy thus that was her specific missing puzzle piece Dude I am a loyal subscriber now. I can learn a lot from you my internet mentor 🙏🏾 -central FL
My mom (1942) are dad (1927) were 15 years apart. It was the best thing for me, learning from two different generations. I thank God everyday for this blessing.
Sitting down watching this with my fiancé. We love you two and thank you for all the wisdom & stories. Very glad your channel is reaching and helping so many people.
If at any point you loved each other enough to get married, then you have the capacity to love each other enough to stay married. My wife and I have had our ups and downs, but never once has the thought of divorce crossed my mind. There have been days when I just couldn’t stand her because of something she did, but more often than not that is the fault in my own character, not hers. It’s something I need to fix, and our arguments are things we need to fix together. And we do; every single time. Marriage is a perfect union, even if the people are imperfect.
I know I'm late to the comments, but I wanted to thank both of you for this video. Coming from a family where my mother was abusive and my parents had a disastrous marriage, it's a comfort to see a couple this committed, that has traditional values, and where the woman actually wanted to be a mother and love her children from the get go. It gives me hope that maybe not everything is lost and there are still good people out there.
I grew up the same way as you. It took me a while to recover my femininity because my mother made me think it was an awful thing to be a wife & mother. What a shame and how wrong she was. With God's help I've (mostly) healed and I'm a wife & mother now with a great life and a family where I belong and have support. I pray that you find healing ❤ and find that special someone to build your family with ❤
This makes me so happy… it takes a lot of hard work to keep it going… my wife and I are going on 5 years and we almost hide our happiness because none of our friends have a traditional marriage and anytime we bring up how happy we are they try poke holes in our marriage strategy even though there’s is obviously not working for them
It's so refreshing to hear common sense in a time of uncommon sense. Thanks for sharing the campfire - maybe that's a new venture? Have people out to talk philosophy an mentor the young. With every positive story, it's just as insightful to share the events that taught the tough lessons. I am really happy I found DCWS.
I’m so glad I stumbled across y’all. My husband and I have had these conversations for a long time, before we were married. Neither of us wanted to walk behind, nor ahead of the other. Always next to each other. Sometimes one is leaning on the other, but we’re always side by side. Subscribed for sure.
Having been married to my best friend for 26 years I'd say you completely nailed the success factor. Talk to each other as equals and live up to your oath to protect, provide, support and defend each other, until death do you part.
Amen to that whole conversation. Too many people these days think that Love is a feeling or an emotion. It starts that way but then becomes a choice. Staying married is hard. It takes 2 people with the same goals that are pulling in the same direction. My parents made it about 60 years before my dad passed. It wasn’t always easy for them but they made the commitment and made it work. Bless you both.
The start I got was with a Mom & Dad that worked together raising their 5 boys. It takes commitment, respect, and learning to live and grow with each other. I'm number 5 son married 35 years this September. Thanks to you both for sharing your life lessons with us.
Been married 41 years with of course ups and downs. The one thing all need to know is to treat your loved ones with extra kindness and to go the extra mile for them and you’ll be rewarded 10 fold.
It was such a pleasure spending a week with you guys for class. From the home cooked meals to the lessons on horsemanship, and life in general. Thank you for treating me like part of your family and for sharing so much of your knowledge and wisdom. Excellent job, keep up the good work D n D. -TS
As a 36 year old man who's been single most of his life, let me tell you: There is 100% a loving partner out there who is made for you. But as a man, you have to go get her. For the longest time I thought I would never find me a girl worth keeping. I'd had many relationships with wonderful women but I never once, truly, fell in love with any of them. After being single the last 6 years and getting to know myself better, I developed a confidence in the man I am. There's many things I don't like about myself, but I worked at finding peace and comfort in my own skin. That gave me the confidence to message a girl I've always admired. A girl who wasn't just attractive, she also made me laugh and she was so easy to be around. I told her that I truly believe I'm the man that is destined for her. She responded in disbelief. The entire time we'd known each other, she'd always thought of me too. From that moment on, we've never once found ourselves being anything but our truest, most genuine selves around each other. It is passionate love in its truest form. Gents, never underestimate the power of boldly and confidently telling a woman that you have passionate, loving feelings for them. You must be a gentleman about it, but still, say it boldly and say it with confidence. She's out there.
Thank you for sharing yourselves, and your sucscriber count. I am happy to be part of this channel. I will never have "my horse", but I appreciate what you share of your lives.
My wife and I have been married 35 years this March. We dated for 5 years before we got married, so we've been together for quite awhile! Marriage is a partnership. It takes common values, first and foremost. Communication is the main skill to master that will allow you to go through life together and learn as you go. You figure it out together. There is mutual respect and honor for each others experience. Over time both of us developed solid emotional intelligence which allowed us to make it for decades. Save the drama for the stage. We keep it polite and use our manners everyday. We are kind and loving. Marriage is fantastic with the right person!
Such a pleasure seeing you both! ( Ever since my daughter was born I've been calling my wife mama ever since as well.) Thank you for sharing yall's story and insight on having a balanced and positive marriage. Being a team and working through it together while never giving up, what a positive impact. Hello from Virginia.
First of all, congrats on the 100k....and over. Secondly, I'd like to say thank you to all the people who have commented on this video. Absolutely wholesome comment section, no bickering, no fighting, no one-upmanship, just all pure feeling and insights. This is one hell of a channel!
I met my wife of all ways through the groveling and begging of a girl I worked with to go out with her friend on a blind date. It took 5 months of her doing so before I agreed. She was what I needed. A sweet, kind, caring, loving woman. Something I didn't think existed anymore. It hardly does. She's not just that. She's now a wonderful mother, one of the best problem solvers I know, and my very best friend on earth. It has not always been easy, but we worked through all of our issues and got stronger because of it.
Just watched this even though it is over a year old. Great video. And a perfect example of why you two have been together for 31 plus years. Marriage is about communication. It is about compromise. It is about growing and changing together. It is hard work. Sometimes stressful. It is never perfect. But it takes two people committed to making it work. Committed to always making it better. Helping each other to be better. You certainly found yourself a beautiful bride, and absolutely a keeper! Thank you for sharing! Both of you! :)
The way she looks at you when you speak is a look of respect and admiration and you can see she's actually interested in your opinions. In my view, that's such an important indicator of a good woman, and a very rare quality these days. You found yourself a gooden. Many blessings to you two and yours.
I have to agree, It has to be difficult to not follow and admire a man like him. He seems to have true leadership, he doesn’t try hard like many men do nowadays. It comes easily!
I think it's a reflection of a good man. Woman don't just just respect and admire men who have not earned it. So many men these days are entitled, or are not experienced enough or grown up enough yet, and are looking for validation from a woman only his mother should have given him when he was a child.
We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. I love being the woman, Mommy and wife. He holds the door for me, compliments me, my sons hold the door (always have and do so for all women & elderly). I appreciate my hubby and sons helping Mom lift, carry and move things. They spoil me. I am a head strong, educated woman and was the family disciplinarian. Now we are grandparents and our roles are still the same. I’m still a Grizzly Bear when it comes to my cubs but a teddy bear otherwise.
This couple is somewhat rare these days, and they approached their marriage with great maturity and level-headedness. One of the important ones was clarifying each other's roles before marriage, including assessing each other's gifts and talents as well as discussing child rearing. Again, all of it BEFORE marriage. If more couples worked out their differences, roles and expectations before getting married, there would likely not have been as many divorces as we've seen here in the U.S. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposal, but one that is 100/100. It requires all of the person, and it is servant in nature too. Thus, when both persons love, serve and are committed to each other, their marriage will be a glorious one. Granted, there will still be problems at times, differences, and arguments, but the likelihood of divorce is minimal at best. And yet it's astonishing how in probably the most important decision couples will ever make - namely, marriage - there is little preparation, discussion, and planning among most couples as to their roles, expectations, and of first ironing out any religious, political, and philosophical differences before walking down the aisle.
This is literally some of the best Content out here. Those were a few life lessons that you can't just find sometimes. Even growing up with one or both Parental Units present, you still have no idea how or what sometimes. Thanks for the upload. I literally subscribed to this channel a little over a year ago, because my daughter has two Horses.. I've honestly been taught significantly more than that subject and I'm not even calling Dwane, or his wife my teachers 😅. Take this advice and heed the warnings if any. Trust your gut it rarely tells lies. I was married for 15 years and then in 2019 I left home. Being single now and divorced, I can honestly tell you that I not only know why my marriage failed, I know how it failed. The things I have learned about myself haven't stopped yet. I never was even present or mindful enough to ask any of these questions in the beginning, let alone sit down with my woman and discuss the whole thing. Tells you a lot right there in those last few sentences...✌️
During Covid my wife was laid off work ,maybe had too much time , anyhow she connected with a old boyfriend from College before we met . We had been married for 29 years two Kids. My wife tells me this and she has decided to leave me move back to MT. I was in shock heart broken. My son had moved out. And my daughter was headed off to college. I didn't know how to act. Very depressed. went from a home full of Kids voices and laughter to only me. I am still trying to find purpose and to keep going. after being with someone for 30- years. I don't even know how to play the dating game anymore. Nor do I want to at this point. I feel like I am just living now to help my daughter out and get her through school. I am 58- now , and its like whos going to want to be with this old dude. I know looking back too where I made mistakes. But I always stayed loyal , when I had many ladies coming on to me. But family and raising my kids was all that I wanted or cared about. I hope this feeling of Gloom will not be so over whelming. Never laid a finger on her. Always figured we would grow old together and look after each other. I have couple friends that have been signal a long time. I guess it just takes time to learn to be with just your self. Anyhow I like the way this man talks about the complexities of life and relationships , he really hits the nail on the head in so many areas . anyhow Kind Regards take care
"...communication, you should be friends, you should like each other, not just love each other..." This is absolute truth. You absolutely nailed the roadmap to a long term, quality relationship. "Stop trying to change your spouse, change yourself." Again, so much truth in coming from this conversation. Amazing to hear a couple speaking about deep morals and values.
Dewayne and Deanna, thank you for this wonderful message, my wife and I are married 40 years and we had the same discussion 41 years ago. She worked until we had our 4 boys and went back to work for several years after the boys were out of the house. We also had our ups and downs and persevered over those 40 years. We don't look back and are enjoining retirement on our farm in Iowa. Best years of our life are ahead of us! PS, LFD DOUBLE LIGERO MADURO is right up there with The Liga # 9. You guys are a breath of fresh air every time we listen. Thank you!
The lack of what this couple has, is why this country is in the shape it is. They are a breath of fresh air. A much needed breath of fresh air. Bless you forever.
I see the key to a successful marriage is two people who will work to make that marriage work and NOT keep divorce in the back of their mind. Divorce has gotten so common and easy today. My wife and I have been married for 52 years. We work together to make the marriage work. Nothing said here goes against that. My father died when I was 13, so I did not see a lot of what a father should be. But I did have a grandfather along with a grandmother and my mother as role models. Keep in mind why you get married and why you got married and work for that.
Just stumbled on your vids. Watched like 5 in a row before was spending too much time on device. Thank you so very much for this. Too many of us fatherless men have yearned for this kind of lessons and spoken so well and clear. Again very thankful for what your doing.
I literally just randomly found your channel and I can’t stop watching. I’m a 35 year old man and j can appreciate the wisdom you’ve shared. Excellent video and excellent insight. My take on whats wrong with marriage today: people don’t realize that a marriage is a job, and it’s HARD AND A LOT OF WORK and not everyone is willing to put in the work required. Lastly, like you said, when the fireworks and bubbles wear off they get bored and they wanna run off and start over. If you love someone then you’ll truly be in it for better or worse and you’ll find a way to make it work.
Thanks for your honesty. As a man married to an amazing woman for 25 years, I can relate to the work a marriage requires. I appreciate this conversation which is so foreign to this time and generation!
We’ve been married for 15 years and you both definitely mirror how we feel and approach our marriage. Marriage is about communication, respect, listening, loving and putting God first. Understanding that in a family there are shared responsibilities and roles. Wishing you both and everyone here who’s married continues love, joy, peace and happiness. It is indeed a marathon, not a sprint. It takes work, but what doesn’t? ❤
I am so happy to hear you both talk about what marriage is suppose to be. I’m 70 years old and have 3 divorces behind me. I married hoping that it would work out but I knew deep in my heart because of the men I chose it wasn’t going to work. Looking back now, I see clearly you can’t change people. I was a Christian( still am) and these men were not living with the standards that God put in place for a good life. I just wanted to be married and have a husband to love and them love me. I do not have to many regrets because I have a wonderful son and daughter. And that was my reward for all the trouble I put myself in. God blessed me with two children in spite of me making bad choices. So as I see it I have my happiness now and I am very blessed. People, listen carefully to what these people are saying cause it’s very good advice. Ask the Lord to help and guide you when it comes to marriage. In fact in any situation we are going through. You can’t go wrong that way. ✝️☮️
Lovely video. I'm an old dude wishing that I had seen your videos when I was a young fella. I've just found you guys, subscribed to both channels. I've messaged my son recommending both channels to him and his wife. Keep up the good work! Love what you are doing.
My boyfriend (who is absolutely my life partner) and I speak about roles, this day and age, and our future often, and it always breaks my heart how people treat women, mothers, and wives - especially those who stay at home. I don’t yearn to be an 80 hour a week lawyer or surgeon or CEO (like I used to tell myself I HAD to be). I want to be a mommy and a wife and a homemaker. I take it damn seriously and want to give my 100% focus and attention to my role. It comes very very naturally to me and suits me well and there is zero shame in that. I also work in womens health - I’m a personal trainer and pre/post natal trainer, it is vital the way we treat mamas, babies, and women without shame and doubt for whatever their choices are. Anyway that’s my two scents. Loved this video!
Stay-at-home Momma myself! I had a hard time letting go of the idea of worldly accomplishments at first, even though raising children was something I wanted dearly. I met a wonderful man who was willing to provide the opportunity for me to be home with our kids, so I dropped the fantasy of "making an impact" on the world at large and have since discovered the joy in *being the world* to my family. It certainly is not the ideal that we have been sold, but being here myself, I personally think this IS the ideal for most women - they are just being shamed out of their deepest desires.
All those jobs..let me say they are horsepucky. Here is the thing with Doctor. You will take care of as many evil as good people. You might save a persons life who then goes on to molest 3 kids. Save a lawyer who bankrupts your town. Its all just a job. The money is good but it takes 10 years to pay the stupid loans. Take children though. Their entire life is in YOUR hands. You can have all the power to know down deep you supported them until they became good prosperous people. YOU did that. It could have been some other mother and the children were terrible and immoral but it was YOU so your efforts were never wasted. You might feel even as a Doctor or Nurse some form of meaninglessness. People will never listen to you, always get fatter and more unhealthy, just beg for drugs. With children its ALL soul, its all hopefully a big reward that pays you off later. Like when they are taking care of you in your old age. I think mother is the best job you can do as long as father is not an idiot and supports you to the fullest. I think doctor is very overrated but I mean I dunno CEO/Senator might be worth being childless for the millions of bucks but you'll never know that you'll be one unless you know you're in that Elite of Society Lane. Also it helps having kids when you run for Senate because it makes you look more normal and trustworthy so. Go off Queen :D
Although I understand it might not always come across that way, feminism at its core is about not pressuring women or men to conform to anyone else's idea of what a woman or man should be. If you feel being a homemaker is your calling, then you should be allowed to do that without anyone (alleged feminist or otherwise) telling you it's wrong. Just like the woman who would rather work and not have children should be allowed to do that.
@@woutertron Which wave are you referring to exactly? This potential fourth wave we are seeing? Feminism has really never been about redefining "man" or "woman". It started as an equal rights movement that lost it's way during the sexual revolution and has since devolved into a flat, self-righteous and self-aggrandizing hedonistic ideology of screeching harpies.
God Bless you folks, im 23 & live in Idaho on a family Ranch. I started watching your videos 2 weeks ago, watching your Videos on all the topics you Discuss on your Channel. Not only entertaining but incredibly insightful & motivating to make every decision on being the best Individual one can be. Also not only do I love your viewpoint on Life, I love the Respect/Manners you Have. & your honest experience again God Bless you guys.
I've watched your videos for awhile now and am very glad to finally see "Momma" you're both very lucky and good for each other, it comes through very well in this video. I'm happy for both of you!!
very special watching this and having you humbly share this family wisdom -so thank you so much. I will have my son watch this - this is encouraging and so respectfully offered.
I am a 16 year old boy who grew up mostly without a father. Seeing this makes me very happy and I can’t wait to be a father. God bless you and your family.
Please wait until the time is right.
You are strong my man, I too grew up without a father, he passed away before I was 2.
I'm now a father and it's the best thing.
Make sure the woman is right! Getting kids is a huge responsibility, and a lot of people aren't ready for the sacrifices that have to be made, it would be wise to share that responsibility with a woman who you KNOW is going to do right by you. Overall just don't rush it, these things come with time and wisdom.
Take time and grow into being good at being a man and being a good man. Your wife and children REQUIRE that from you.
You'll never be a father because you are unlovable
“ stop trying to change your spouse , change your self “ powerful
You can tell these two really have been married for 30+ years. They tell stories together, and finish each other’s sentences. They are in tune.
From a guy who’s been happily married for 52 years.
Yep only a guy who is brave and has the courage to make a good it's a multitasking position and it's not for the spoiled hearted man it is not for selfish guy. Being a good wife is not for a spoiled girl... It's a mutual admiration society.. willing to carry each other's water..!?
Wow, that’s awesome! I hope someday to be able to say the last part of your sentence. It gets harder and harder as time moves on, but I’m trying to find that woman!
Weird nickname for someone "who's been happily married for 52 years"
@@earthrider23 - Interesting. Exactly which part is weird to you?
@@dejavu666wampas9 The number of the beast, and the name of a weird "animal"
@13:26 "Women weren't created to do everything a man can do, women were created to everything a man can't do" That is really powerful, thank you for that perspective.
Feminine women attract masculine men. 🩷🩷
I paused at that too. Really good point.
He calls her "Momma" as a sign of respect. That's a real man right there.
I absolutely love this.
Thankyou
She is the mother of our seven children. "Momma"
My uncle called his wife gramma after their grandkids came along. She called him grampa. I could tell stories for days, but it was so wonderful to see the respect they showed each other, and the love.
As fun as it might be for a few times I don't want my wife to call me "daddy".
My wife and I met on an Arizona guest ranch. I was a wrangler, she was a waitress. Our first date was Christmas Eve to midnight mass. We’ve been married 39 years, have two kids and three grandkids. Best wishes for continued health and happiness.
That sounds like a Hallmark Christmas movie ❤
@@Kra-ri6fd kinda does, doesn’t it 😉
now that's the dream
First date is midnights mass! That’s so beautiful ❤
@Hyper Sane, might be! I actually do a bit of writing. It’s been an interesting life and horses have been an integral part of it.
Old fashioned man here, married to an old fashioned woman for just over 40 years, nine wonderful children. Everything you both said is true. So, you celebrated 100k subscribers just one year ago, and now I see that has grown to 880k. Congratulations! I think it is because people seek real wisdom, no games.
As a Man in his 30s that comes from a Mexican American background and grew up mostly around gangs and farm workers in Northern California. To listen to this conversation and completely agree with everything is refreshing. A Man is a Man. Regardless of cultural differences. Protector, provider and stands firm in the pursuit of whats good.
@DYNASTY E.N.T. Explain what a man is that encompasses all men. It is completely cultural. People 200 years ago had a completely different view of what a man was compared to today. This idea that men have always had a certain role to play as well as women is a form of white-washing that doesn’t hold up with reality.
It's another kind of vibe
It reminded mi of my family in Mexico ❤️ I love all countries
@@msr1116 I'm sorry to say this but your experience with 7 or 8 Latinas can hardly stand as a stereotype for latin Men or relationships. Thats like me saying because most of the white people who live in olivehurst California are meth addicts, that means white people have a problem with drugs.
I know first hand that the vast majority of true healthy latino especially Mexican homes have a beautiful marriage with the same morals as any true Christian home. Of any race.
Your comment was offensive and ignorant. But I don't hold any ill will. God bless.
Praise the Lord
@@dynastye.n.t.2095 only someone looking to be offended would be offended by his comment. Relax.
Mama looks GREAT for having 7 kids!
Both of you deserve medals! 👍
She looks great, period. :D
@@amaraci lets not do this
She is quite beautiful.
What do women who have seven children typically look like?
@ladyagnescampbell whales
I see both of you talking about your lives together and I'm like "man, I want to have that." God bless you both.
I can't still believe, how young and beautiful your wife looks like having raised 7 children. I'm 26 with no girlfriend, I stumbled upon your channel by chance. Maybe, someday, I will experience the blessing of meeting such a cooperative partner. Thank you for the wisdom and knowledge.
My jaw dropped. She is stunning. That jawline! 7 kids and she looks like that. As a 45-year-old woman, my hat is off to her. Just goes to show that being married to the right person and being happy keeps you young.
Man work out and all you desire will be yours society bends to beauty
Yep I know the feeling. 32 and in the same boat. 😂
Best of luck fella, hope you find that special someone.
There are far better pursuits to spend your time, money and energy on my man. These olden day forever marriages are a thing of the past. The women of today are not his wife, your mother or your grandmother. They have been lied to, mislead, distorted and corrupted beyond marriage material. The values, morals, principles and scruples of yesteryear and the sanctity of marriage are dissolved unfortunately. Marriage is a joke these days and you a target in the sights of modern feemales my friend. They're out for blood and playing for keeps now.
In old fashion tradition, when things break, we were taught to fix them. Today, when things break, we are taught to replace them. We’re seeing this pattern of behavior embed itself into how we handle our friendships and relationships. I discovered Dry Creek on accident, but boy am I glad I did. Honored to be part of the first 100k subscribers and will surely be here to celebrate the next 100k. You are wonderful Dwayne, and Mama too! Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
That is probably the most spot on explanation I've ever heard!
This is very deep and is one of the very rare words of wisdom
@@ez-g3090 No, it was the middle class that caused our problems. Very selfish people. Regardless, pretty sure wanting your own bank account is not what's causing our problems.
Recently my ex left me because our relationship was no longer desirable. I wanted to patch it up and she switched me with another guy. You’re not wrong with the assessment that the replacement mentality is all too common now.
It's not just in our relationships with people... But also the things we use in our everyday lives.
It’s a choice to get married and a choice to stay married!! Love your truthfulness
We’ve just celebrated 52 years and still going strong💞
Be feminine and agreeable
@@hankhill3417 No, be who you want to be and find someone who agrees.
@@hankhill3417 Being a lady does by no way mean you don't get a voice, a woman is entitled to any opinion or contribution she may have on a conflict or idea particularly in a relationship. In which case find who is best at what, finances, work or raising kids and communicate which action is best if a woman in a relationship is better at say raising the kids yet is too agreeable then the decision by the man may not be the optimal one.
Personally I would suggest being kind and communicative to a your spouse and recognise their strengths and show them yours
I hope I don't come off as rude, i have no intention to be, please have a wonderful day :)
@@Biggoose_ man has the last word in the home
@@hankhill3417 I'm afraid I disagree
❤️ I'm a 25 year old girl, getting married to a man who is as described in the video. When I decided I wanted to get married, I couldn't help but look internally and think, "I need to be the woman who my ideal man would find attractive and who would want to marry me." I have a long way to go, but thinking of my ideal man lit a fire under me that made me choose to be a better person and to be more lady-like and have self-respect. A real man wants a girl who respects herself. My fiancé and I met organically, thank God, in college. We were friends for 7 years before either of us thought romantically of the other. We decided to give it a shot, 3 months later, we decided we would get married. I can't wait to be his wife, make his meals, make a comfy home, be the mother to his children. He makes me want to be a better person, I trust him with my life. He is a good man, and he says what he means and means what he says. We are very different people, but our values and morals are in line. I have so much peace in my heart in the decision to marry him that I know this is the right thing. I am clear-headed, and my future looks sunny. Sorrow will come, but I know he and I can weather storms. We have already done so separately and together.
Thanks for the video.
Best of luck to you and your family
What a beautiful comment God bless :)
Good luck, you'll need it. Best to have your own goals and achievements to strive for, not depends on and derive your sense of self worth from another person. Then again, some women truly are happy just being slippers. Just like some people are happy discussing horse manure and the Bible, while other go into Hegelian dialectics etc.
@@chamade166 what does just being slippers mean?
@@anonanon2369 I noticed that they didn't answer this question
I've never had a father so now I think of you as my TH-cam dad. Thanks Dad.
Oh my goodness!! I’m 6 years older than my wife! I was head chef and manager of a restaurant and hired my future wife. It WAS love at first sight for me. Now, 40 years later, still love at every sight!
and lucky wife
"Love at every sight"....!! Incredible!! I envy you dude!! thanks for reaffirming real love still exists!!..ps...you should be writing!...just saying...
@@studybug2010 Thanks…writing?
@@SammyFender yes as in poetry, memoir, love story fictions or otherwise...to publish. Hopefully you are at least journaling....lol
Many beloved blessings 🙌 to each other.
This is the kind of guy who stops and helps a young girl change her tire and doesn’t even make her feel uncomfortable…love this guy
@@thejamnasium6447 Yeah I realize that. They aren't going to be good wives. Discernment is a big red flag, or lack thereof.
@@thejamnasium6447 That is an insane exaggeration. In the US alone there is over 20 million girls from ages 15 to 24. To make a statement about millions of people when you've only witnessed the behavior of thousands is extremely ignorant.
@@thejamnasium6447 I totally agree, they are living in a social media fantasy world where everything is done with your phone.Everything.
@@justinofboulder if I see someone in need of help I will usually offer, if they turn down my assistance then I bid they good luck and I go on my way.
Now normally I don't get rejected for my assistance but I live in the deep southeast of Louisiana and although crazy radicalism is present here it's very much in the minority....
@@thatkajunguy8029 I learned how to change tires myself. You know why? There's a lot of crazy people out there. Women are more likely to be the victims of violence than men. Sometimes for your own safety, you need to learn to take care of things yourself.
Marriage is hard, very hard. My husband and I are coming up on 25 years married (28 together) and we’ve been through sickness, infertility (that thankfully was resolved) many job changes, moving, family issues, and so much more. Divorced has crossed our lips but we worked through it. It took looking inward at ourselves when things were bad. Love, respect, patience, forgiveness, and introspection, and communication is so important to a good marriage. He once told me that even if we divorced he’d continue to take of me (and the kids of course). He’s a good man and deep down I’ve always known it.
Bless you and your husband
Wow your story is very similar to ours. We have hurt each other in many ways, thought about walking out. Still working through some resentments but decided nothing was worth throwing away 26 years.
Marriage is hard? Try being a libshit singleton.
God Bless you ma'am!! that's the way it should be... unconditional love and work at it every day.. :-)
I am a stay at home Momma of a 9 month old and a wife to a husband with a heart of gold and hard working hands- he works his tail off for me to stay home with our babe and eventually homeschool - I’m eternally grateful to him. Our values reflect yours identically. The traditional life is a dying concept and stumbling across your page, especially this video, has revived my faith in knowing there are others out there like us! Something about this chat just calmed my soul in this chaotic world. Thank you🙏🏼
I'm seeing this one year later and you already have 8 TIMES more subscribers!!! Your channel has obviously exploded, which means there's a great hunger for this kind of content. Congrats, and thanks for all you do.
My husband and I were married when I was 70 and he was 76. We had a few glitches but when I determined to accept the way HE showed
love, and stopped judging the marriage by the lack of what seemed like the ideal Husband should be, it became wonderful .And what was great, he in turn started more what I liked. Has he couldn't drive and had to slow down somewhat, I always tried to make him feel needed and wanted. He was a real man, in my eyes, and I emphasized that as much as I could. He just passed over a few months ago and I miss him so much!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you miss him so much, but remember those great times together.
I was divorced at 29 & have never met the right person, but I raised my son & was happy. I'm 58 now & still alone. I have excepted the way it is & I'm happy & content with my fur babies. So I'm not really alone , I have my pets.
God bless you, always.
U were lucky t hve him as long as u did
Can you help me find someone.
@@janegreen191 I wish I could. All I can do is offer a little advice. Be the person you would want to attract. Get out and get involved in a cause. try to enjoy your life and let God do the rest. Help others. Fill your life with service so that your life has meaning besides sitting around hoping.
@@personalitymanager1580 I don't sit around waiting. You have made many wrong assumptions. You don't even know me, not even a thimbleful.
Greetings from Turkey.💗 As a foreign living in a very distant geography, what the western media told us about traditional American people like you was generally conveyed as redneck, racist, bigot, belligerent, enemy of civilization and America's biggest problem. I watched a few of your videos and realized that it was mistranslated to the rest of the world, and my respect for people like you has grown even more.
My view is that you are a peaceful person who is fully committed to his family and values, but you are brave and fearless individuals who will never hesitate to defend themselves against attacks on you, your family and your values like a cowboy. I guess the prejudice of the Westerners stems from your brave, strong and seated personality.
Also, despite the fact that your wife has given birth to 7 children and raised them successfully, she looks very young, healthy and strong. There is a proverb in the Turks "Working iron does not rust." you and your wife are like living proof of this proverb.😄
Wow this is a really interesting comment thank you for sharing. :) Much Love
Very well said. Thank you for sharing
the liberal left is nuts in this country... that's why you have the impression you do about americans. they are truly satan's aid.
I fully approve your comment despite I am a Hungarian living on land that your nation had occupied for more than 150 years. Crazy right? People need to invest some effort to learn about the other. Cool man!
Thank you for sharing
I was a stay at home mother. It took me years to accept this was my job and it was enough. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
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Feminism was heavily supported by Rockefellers, why ? Because they couldnt tax women when they stayed home. Also it meant that children were now raised by the Government, and more workforce means more competition so thats better for corporations. The most important thing is to raise your children because thats the society of tomorrow. Control children (singers and actors also play a part as false idols to children and society), control society.
I dont really want to get into it but just quick, we are ruled by the occult and the occult worships God as a woman like in the Roman-Catholic church which is behind the NWO (to be precise the female part of the devil. Lucifer can be male, female or both - Trans worship (Ying/Yang, male/female combined into one))
If interested because I dont want to write pages here look up Spencer Smith and the 3 part series "The Third Adam" or at least the 3rd part "Rise of the divine feminine" and it will explain alot.
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God bless.
I have been married for 33 years and raised a boy and a girl with my loving wife. It is the most important job in my book. I did not want my kids in daycare and I was able to provide enough money so we did not have to. The tough part for me though was when they grew up and left the home.
A good man, good husband and father will appreciate a traditional good mother. They understand that without a great woman, a house can't be called a home.
America needs more of this. You have a silky smooth way of tackling tough subjects and delivering common sense. You are an inspiration
As a licensed psychotherapist who specializes in couples counseling, I agree with you 💯. Respect is the foundation of love for another, and you both modeled that in this video. Thank you for showing how it's done. God bless you.
Being in my mid-20's, it is refreshing to hear your story. I have thoroughly enjoyed this channel for some time, and I thank the both of you for all you have taught me, even if it is just a reminder. A lot you have shared is similar to what my Dad has taught me. I think a lot of people also rush into relationships (long term) without knowing what they are looking for.
So true. Makes you think about how so many young people have never even seen a long lasting marriage like this. It's a sad thing to look around and see the majority of teens/early 20s are interested in nothing but casual sex and wouldn't even know how to find a long lasting relationship.
@@MrFredstt wow that's some very one dimensional young ppl you've encountered. I personally think it's a lot on which circle or bubble you are in and there are plenty of young people that do no think like that about dating. R u from a big city? I imagine it gets hard there
@@wawis231 Yeah I'm from a big city so I guess that's the reason. Maybe it's different in more rural areas
A good marriage is much like two work horses hitched together. Pulling together, in the same direction, helping each other to achieve a shared goal. This has been my experience for 42 years now. I appreciate your conversation here.
My ex wife was raised to believe that I'm the work horse or rather the actual plow. And didn't have to do anything. 25 years wasted. I tried to make what your talking about happen, but she wouldn't. I should have left a long time ago, but I made a vow. She left for a guy half our age and left me to raise the children. Thank you feminists. Thanks alot.
I'm not a wrangler, just a broken down, ol' mountain man, living in a rural area in the Western Cascades. I try as much as possible to live in the old ways of the West, where I was born and raised.
At nearly 70, I still tend my one acre, garden, hunt, fish, and cut my own wood to feed my 'iron monster' in the fall, winter, and early spring.
I appreciate the good old fashioned common sense that I have heard on your channel, so I decided to become a subscriber.
As far as men and women goes, I have had much younger women describe me as a " man's man", but I prefer the bachelor's life, to marriage. Tried it, and widowed.
Wise man. You are comfortable with yourself, that means you're good company so no one else required.👍🏻 Women only complicate and distort a free spirited man's life in my experience.
@@phantomshtter Both of you sound like man's men, like, in the sense that maybe a man would be better for you to be with than a woman.
Wow I’m sorry for your loss. You must of loved your wife with all your heart. Thank you for sharing
You have my respect sir. I'm a city boy born and raised but I'm working to earn some old fashioned self-sufficiency. It was years before I ever even chopped firewood, but when I did I realized I was missing a very important skill and outlook on life.
@@scy77a I wasn't talking about for him. Read it again short bus then respect DEEZ NUTS.
You're a lucky man. I am a 35 year old guy who thought he had found such a keeper himself three times already, and whenever times got a little tougher those women hit the road. I can't even find words to describe the pain these situations caused, especially in one case where said woman left me just because I experienced a period of grief: Some time ago I had to bury somebody really dear to me and naturally that threw me off the rails for a couple of months. Now picture spending half a decade with a woman you think is different to those thousands of shallow girls lacking commitment and dedication just to see her leave when you needed her the most. All just because to her, the grass she was on had a bunch of brown blades - so better go see if the grass might be greener elsewhere, right?
Sometimes I think that my generation is the first generation that lost sight of what truly matters in life: Sticking with the ones you claim to love. I envy people like you two, you strike me as the type of folks who make it work because you truly want to. And I respect you for that, cause that trait makes great people.
Thanks for all you shared on here & blessings to you!
In your age and I agree about the generation. Lot of it has to do with the internetb
@@ShinyFlakesShinyFlakes I’m 68 years old. I think that we were heading in this direction before the internet was a thing. The internet just sped it up IMO. Anything can be used for good or evil. A knife can save a life or take a life.
Women don't leave out of the blue just because times get tough for a little, that was already in her heart to do so but she wasn't sure. As time went on, she felt more and more that she wanted to leave, and unfortunately that time landed around the time your loved one passed. She left during that because she didn't want to deepen your connection and break your heart even longer by waiting until you felt a little better. It's better to tear the bandaid off quick. Think about it, would it have been better if she waited to break up with you?
Of course, I could be wrong, as I don't know her lol not saying I'm right either though
@@captainplatipus typical female apologist
Hit the nail on the head. Loneliness will be one of the biggest causes of death because of how we are treating each other and leaving families and not having babies. These generations are just soft, weak and little pussies. Next twenty years are gonna be a rollercoaster.
This channel is golden. If you’re intentions are too help young people, you are spot on. I’ve been married for 30 years too, and as a veteran, I’ve put my wife through hell moving her all over the country and disappearing for many months at a time. I met her at work and it was love at first site. She didn’t take crap and stood on her own. Like riding a green horse, we’ve both changed to become a team. You’re words are true, if you can’t respect each other, you’re not worth a hill of beans.
My wife and I married at 21 and were 36 now with 4 kids. My wife stays home with the kids and homeschools. We strive to hold on to the same principles and values you guys do. Thank you for your content. You’re an inspiration to many. Much needed in today’s world.
I’m a grown man, but had to stop at 2:20 to have a cry. That intro with you both was so genuine, the look on her face during those compliments could melt any cold heart. Sending much love from the farm in upstate New York. ❤️🇺🇸
I have always said if a hubby just gave a wife a pat on the head everyday, small or large, notice a new hairdo, good dinner, notices a new blouse she will shine and pay back ten foil. Hubby and I were best friends and married for 65 years and he wouldn't pass until we had our 65th. Ann., then he passed 3 years ago and my life has changed without my love and best friend.
@@BJFilbinI think you meant 'pay back tin foil'
This by far was one of the most beautiful COUPLE advice... . Hearing you both speak on your masculinity and femininity is so grounding and feels safe in knowing that in each gender there is strength and beauty; and from that can blossom mutual respect. I love the "we completed each other" line. God bless you both.
I am a 32 year old man, married for 12 years, we have 7 children, I just know that listening too these old timers, is always an inspiration, because they have already it all, so it’s just so encouraging. Thank you for your teaching, it makes me miss my grandpa😊
This is a good channel.
These two are the epitome of the traditional parents and Grandparents full of experience and life wisdom who freely share them with those who will listen and learn. I’m 68 years old and these two fill my heart with joy. God bless them both and their family.
this is the kind of conversation two matures persons have done throughout their lives. my respect to both of you.
I’m a 27 year old man. It feels so good hearing y’all talk and knowing there’s some levelheadedness and wisdom in this upside down world. Y’all’s page is a good and comfortable place for me where I learn a lot and I really appreciate y’all. 👏🏽
It’s was so nice to see you guys today. And am so happy for you. My husband and I were married for 31 years. He passed 2 years ago, this year. We were best friends. It got us through difficult times. He really was a amazing man. He taught me so much. A kid at heart. Everyday I thank God that He gave me Dan. And now when I think of him. I see him fishing with his dad and brother in heaven. Given each other crap - big smiles on their faces. It fills my heart with happiness for him.
I am a 33 years old syrian, who migrated to Europe at a young age because of war. After being away from my family for very long time, watching all your videos and especially this one, I feel I still belong. Family is the source of the society and you people are a wonderful example to look up to.
Hugs
Blessings from Bolivia. Peace & love.
@@tatianahawaii13 🤗🌹
I hope we’ve welcomed you, and treated you like family.
I say “we” Europeans as a Brit, who is sad at the state of affairs in the UK.
You are evidence that people are yearning for 'old fashioned' values... keep it up. You're changing the world! Thank you for being around.
Nothing beats oldschool values and mentality. You just got a new subscriber
time beats it. old people die and earth keeps spinning
@@_sarpa but oldschool values that have lasted for several generations have lasted that long for a reason
@@_sarpa Wisdom beats time. Time is an illusion
@@uemi6207 yeah but they are getting phazed out now
@@Septicshites no, they'll come back. Nature only selects the better ideas
My wife and I have been together for 13 years. She had a rough upbringing and me in the Navy Seabees, I had my way of things. Watching this video is like my wife and I. The Navy Chaplin said even if your mad with each other, always sleep in the same bed. When we get up in the morning we say I Love You and we'll talk later. It has helped us immensely. Great Video!
As someone who's 26, this is a far cry from how young people meet anymore. Not even by choice, dating apps and social media just has such a stranglehold over dating now.
Go where the type of women you want to marry would hang out. Talk to them irl, be real and confident and it will work out.
@@vbressner where’s that?
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 not behind a phone screen, that’s for sure. You have to go outside, go to places, be engaged in the activity in the place you’re at, and go from there. You decide that. Your life is yours and only yours to live.
@@mrchihuahuaboy4306 So, when I was young I dated a girl who straight up could not read. The next girl I dated was not interested in history, truth, or anything deeper than whatever was happening in the pop culture. I determined then and there that I would only meet women at bookstores, libraries, or other vetted spaces. I would then subtly test them to see what they were about. I have been married for close to 20 years to a beautiful, intelligent, and stimulating woman. We met in the Army. The first date we had was to sit together and read old Chinese poetry. She was all about it. I invited her to play pool at a bar and she was just as comfortable. I wasn't wasting time trying to meet someone and then see if we had things in common.
All that to say this, get out into the real world and enjoy the things you enjoy. When you have the chance to meet someone there, take it.
@@vbressner i guess I’m just boring
Oh my goodness the way you described her and the term “momma” that brought tears to my eyes!! Awww
lLove how you talked it out prior to getting married. I wanted to be a wife & mother as well. There was so much pressure from outside forces for me to want to get a job. I felt blessed to be able to enjoy every second of my childrens' childhood. Even then, there were still family members that wanted me to get a 'real' job when I was already doing a job that would mean more to me than anything else I had done in my life. When my children were almost grown, my father became sick with dementia. I had the priviledge of caring for my Dad for 6 yrs. We lived together for 9 yrs. Family members who had not seen my Dad in years were quick to offer their opinion noting that I should get a 'real' job and my Dad should be put in an 'oldfolks' home. I have made many mistakes in my life, but caring for my children & my father are decisions I am proud of & choices I very much wanted to make. I have never doubted my decisions in this regard. I have often felt isolated & minimized for making these choices. I am so happy to see a woman who wanted what I wanted, & still want.
I did the same for my father after receiving a phone talking to my parents and my Dad telling me that he had congestive heart Failure. I told my parents to move back to Hawaii , and I would have them live with me , built a full on addition to my home at the time. So they had a nice comfortable place. I looked after them until they both passed away 7--8 years ago. And I was the Black sheep of the family and I was the one that ended up taking care of Mom & Dad. But I was lucky they were both good loving parents. I miss them both greatly.
Being different from your spouse is a benefit. Your strengths complement their weaknesses, and vice versa. My wife and I have been married 21 years today, and we are both as different as day and night. It has helped us raise our two sons (17 & 14) into growing men. Thank you for this wholesome content.
My husband and I also discussed how we saw a marriage relationship, how we each saw our roles and goals. What our ideas were as far as money and budgets. Most importantly, how we saw our roles, responsibilities and disciplining as parents. 31 years later, ups and downs, still 100 percent committed. It brings a tear to my eye at all the folks gathered "around your fire". I am seeing a huge shift in just the last year. I feel such Hope for our collective futures. Thank you for your contributions❣️
When I clicked on your notification and saw you both sitting there together, I thought this lady was someone other than Mama, and the real Mama was where she she normally was, behind the camera. And she is not only a lovely lady, but you’re right, Duane, she sure does look young enough to be your daughter.
Exactly what happened to me
Beautifull lady
From 100,000 to 1.2 million subs in only a year...well done sir 💯
Ever since I was pregnant with our first son my husband has called me "mom" or "mama" and I've called him "dad" or "daddy" and we still call each other that 21 years later. Although we still use our names from time to time, too.
Marriage isn't 50/50 it's 100/100. Great video and hope to see more of momma. Looking forward to hearing more about your stories. Thanks for what you guys do.
At 72 it is hard to believe I have never heard it put like that and I KNOW that you are 100% right. I see no way a marriage could fail if a couple love each other enough to marry and both put 100% in to it.
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My husband and I recently celebrated 34 years of marriage. You both are correct, it's a marathon - not a sprint! We've stayed together through thick and thin because we love each other and we took a vow. Plus, we're just too darn stubborn!
You guys have a great and respectful way of describing marriage without offending anyone with different wants and needs. Thats not easy to do.
‘Just wanted to drop this thought. I’m 64, & find your content very uplifting. Many of our young folks need your advice &knowledge. They need to understand that life isn’t a rut to stay in. When the trail gets too deep, climb to higher ground. Always look for the life that keeps you on the bubble. If one isn’t level, life will always be a struggle.
Congratulations to you & Momma for making it through the hard times.
Though my days of youth are past, I find that my degree of happiness is in my own hands.
In my younger days, we raised Quarter Horses & Appaloosas. The lifestyle was so good, & the stress reliever wasn’t picked up at the local pharmacy, it was called horseback riding..
Keep bringing the words of wisdom to the world. Though I can’t go out, saddle up & ride now, I find comfort in watching your channel.
I get my coffee & a good cigar, only to take a a ride & never leave the farm.
Bottom line is; We have very similar mindsets. Your delivery calms me, to affirm that helping others may be one of the most important thing we can do in life.
Many thanks,
Dan
“It’s a journey. And you’ll never get to the end of the journey, if you quit the journey when the journey gets hard.” Good stuff. Thank you both for sharing your wisdom.
Always a pleasure to see a video from you Dewayne, but also, congratulations on 100,000 subscribers! Very nice to see your wife on video, you guys are great
Fellas
We must listen close to what he said starting at 07:17
“This is a girl who can hang”
“This is a girl that could keep up with me”
This type of women is what we need. She’s strong, faithful, respectful, beautiful, charming, and you can tell she absolutely loves this guy. Yeah I’m sure they’ve had tough times but the amount of ‘trust’ she displayed on the first date with him is all a man needs to make a crucial executive decision
‘She’s the one’
And ladies listen to what she said at 09:04
“He has the qualities that I NEEDED”
-that’s the sauce, this dude wasn’t rich, wasn’t the tallest man on earth but she adored his energy and cherished his energy thus that was her specific missing puzzle piece
Dude I am a loyal subscriber now. I can learn a lot from you my internet mentor 🙏🏾
-central FL
My mom (1942) are dad (1927) were 15 years apart. It was the best thing for me, learning from two different generations. I thank God everyday for this blessing.
Sitting down watching this with my fiancé. We love you two and thank you for all the wisdom & stories.
Very glad your channel is reaching and helping so many people.
Nice to meet Momma, thanks for presenting her, she's lovely; you definitively are a role model, thanks for sharing.
If at any point you loved each other enough to get married, then you have the capacity to love each other enough to stay married. My wife and I have had our ups and downs, but never once has the thought of divorce crossed my mind. There have been days when I just couldn’t stand her because of something she did, but more often than not that is the fault in my own character, not hers. It’s something I need to fix, and our arguments are things we need to fix together. And we do; every single time. Marriage is a perfect union, even if the people are imperfect.
I know I'm late to the comments, but I wanted to thank both of you for this video. Coming from a family where my mother was abusive and my parents had a disastrous marriage, it's a comfort to see a couple this committed, that has traditional values, and where the woman actually wanted to be a mother and love her children from the get go. It gives me hope that maybe not everything is lost and there are still good people out there.
I grew up the same way as you. It took me a while to recover my femininity because my mother made me think it was an awful thing to be a wife & mother. What a shame and how wrong she was. With God's help I've (mostly) healed and I'm a wife & mother now with a great life and a family where I belong and have support. I pray that you find healing ❤ and find that special someone to build your family with ❤
This makes me so happy… it takes a lot of hard work to keep it going… my wife and I are going on 5 years and we almost hide our happiness because none of our friends have a traditional marriage and anytime we bring up how happy we are they try poke holes in our marriage strategy even though there’s is obviously not working for them
I hear you! GUARD YOURSELVES!!!
I feel like that too. I try not to boast about my husband or I start to see criticism.
Just need real friends who are like minded. These people are bitter. Surround yourselves with couples who are happy in their marriages.
The perfect marriage is two imperfect people not giving up on each other.
It's so refreshing to hear common sense in a time of uncommon sense. Thanks for sharing the campfire - maybe that's a new venture? Have people out to talk philosophy an mentor the young. With every positive story, it's just as insightful to share the events that taught the tough lessons. I am really happy I found DCWS.
I’m so glad I stumbled across y’all. My husband and I have had these conversations for a long time, before we were married. Neither of us wanted to walk behind, nor ahead of the other. Always next to each other. Sometimes one is leaning on the other, but we’re always side by side. Subscribed for sure.
Having been married to my best friend for 26 years I'd say you completely nailed the success factor. Talk to each other as equals and live up to your oath to protect, provide, support and defend each other, until death do you part.
Amen to that whole conversation. Too many people these days think that Love is a feeling or an emotion. It starts that way but then becomes a choice. Staying married is hard. It takes 2 people with the same goals that are pulling in the same direction. My parents made it about 60 years before my dad passed. It wasn’t always easy for them but they made the commitment and made it work. Bless you both.
The start I got was with a Mom & Dad that worked together raising their 5 boys.
It takes commitment, respect, and learning to live and grow with each other.
I'm number 5 son married 35 years this September.
Thanks to you both for sharing your life lessons with us.
Been married 41 years with of course ups and downs. The one thing all need to know is to treat your loved ones with extra kindness and to go the extra mile for them and you’ll be rewarded 10 fold.
It was such a pleasure spending a week with you guys for class. From the home cooked meals to the lessons on horsemanship, and life in general. Thank you for treating me like part of your family and for sharing so much of your knowledge and wisdom. Excellent job, keep up the good work D n D.
-TS
It's so refreshing to see normal, sane people in today's messed up culture.
As a 36 year old man who's been single most of his life, let me tell you: There is 100% a loving partner out there who is made for you. But as a man, you have to go get her. For the longest time I thought I would never find me a girl worth keeping. I'd had many relationships with wonderful women but I never once, truly, fell in love with any of them. After being single the last 6 years and getting to know myself better, I developed a confidence in the man I am. There's many things I don't like about myself, but I worked at finding peace and comfort in my own skin. That gave me the confidence to message a girl I've always admired. A girl who wasn't just attractive, she also made me laugh and she was so easy to be around. I told her that I truly believe I'm the man that is destined for her. She responded in disbelief. The entire time we'd known each other, she'd always thought of me too. From that moment on, we've never once found ourselves being anything but our truest, most genuine selves around each other. It is passionate love in its truest form. Gents, never underestimate the power of boldly and confidently telling a woman that you have passionate, loving feelings for them. You must be a gentleman about it, but still, say it boldly and say it with confidence. She's out there.
Wow.
Thank you for sharing yourselves, and your sucscriber count.
I am happy to be part of this channel.
I will never have "my horse", but I appreciate what you share of your lives.
Thank you for showing a glimpse of country life. This is what I believe people travel for, and I love your insights. God bless you You are blessed
My wife and I have been married 35 years this March. We dated for 5 years before we got married, so we've been together for quite awhile! Marriage is a partnership.
It takes common values, first and foremost. Communication is the main skill to master that will allow you to go through life together and learn as you go. You figure it out together. There is mutual respect and honor for each others experience. Over time both of us developed solid emotional intelligence which allowed us to make it for decades. Save the drama for the stage. We keep it polite and use our manners everyday. We are kind and loving.
Marriage is fantastic with the right person!
Such a pleasure seeing you both! ( Ever since my daughter was born I've been calling my wife mama ever since as well.) Thank you for sharing yall's story and insight on having a balanced and positive marriage. Being a team and working through it together while never giving up, what a positive impact. Hello from Virginia.
What an absolute beauty and no doubt a once in a lifetime partner and friend. Here's to many more years together you two.
First of all, congrats on the 100k....and over.
Secondly, I'd like to say thank you to all the people who have commented on this video. Absolutely wholesome comment section, no bickering, no fighting, no one-upmanship, just all pure feeling and insights.
This is one hell of a channel!
I met my wife of all ways through the groveling and begging of a girl I worked with to go out with her friend on a blind date. It took 5 months of her doing so before I agreed. She was what I needed. A sweet, kind, caring, loving woman. Something I didn't think existed anymore. It hardly does. She's not just that. She's now a wonderful mother, one of the best problem solvers I know, and my very best friend on earth. It has not always been easy, but we worked through all of our issues and got stronger because of it.
Just watched this even though it is over a year old. Great video. And a perfect example of why you two have been together for 31 plus years. Marriage is about communication. It is about compromise. It is about growing and changing together. It is hard work. Sometimes stressful. It is never perfect. But it takes two people committed to making it work. Committed to always making it better. Helping each other to be better. You certainly found yourself a beautiful bride, and absolutely a keeper! Thank you for sharing! Both of you! :)
The way she looks at you when you speak is a look of respect and admiration and you can see she's actually interested in your opinions. In my view, that's such an important indicator of a good woman, and a very rare quality these days. You found yourself a gooden. Many blessings to you two and yours.
Agreed. That's respect & love in my book.
I have to agree, It has to be difficult to not follow and admire a man like him. He seems to have true leadership, he doesn’t try hard like many men do nowadays. It comes easily!
I agree- you guys; if you meet an attractive woman who is a poor listener- get the f… away- run! It’s called narcissism. And it will never last
I think it's a reflection of a good man. Woman don't just just respect and admire men who have not earned it. So many men these days are entitled, or are not experienced enough or grown up enough yet, and are looking for validation from a woman only his mother should have given him when he was a child.
Amen
We just celebrated our 37th wedding anniversary. I love being the woman, Mommy and wife. He holds the door for me, compliments me, my sons hold the door (always have and do so for all women & elderly). I appreciate my hubby and sons helping Mom lift, carry and move things. They spoil me. I am a head strong, educated woman and was the family disciplinarian. Now we are grandparents and our roles are still the same. I’m still a Grizzly Bear when it comes to my cubs but a teddy bear otherwise.
This couple is somewhat rare these days, and they approached their marriage with great maturity and level-headedness. One of the important ones was clarifying each other's roles before marriage, including assessing each other's gifts and talents as well as discussing child rearing. Again, all of it BEFORE marriage.
If more couples worked out their differences, roles and expectations before getting married, there would likely not have been as many divorces as we've seen here in the U.S. Marriage is not a 50/50 proposal, but one that is 100/100. It requires all of the person, and it is servant in nature too. Thus, when both persons love, serve and are committed to each other, their marriage will be a glorious one. Granted, there will still be problems at times, differences, and arguments, but the likelihood of divorce is minimal at best.
And yet it's astonishing how in probably the most important decision couples will ever make - namely, marriage - there is little preparation, discussion, and planning among most couples as to their roles, expectations, and of first ironing out any religious, political, and philosophical differences before walking down the aisle.
This is literally some of the best Content out here. Those were a few life lessons that you can't just find sometimes. Even growing up with one or both Parental Units present, you still have no idea how or what sometimes. Thanks for the upload. I literally subscribed to this channel a little over a year ago, because my daughter has two Horses.. I've honestly been taught significantly more than that subject and I'm not even calling Dwane, or his wife my teachers 😅. Take this advice and heed the warnings if any. Trust your gut it rarely tells lies. I was married for 15 years and then in 2019 I left home. Being single now and divorced, I can honestly tell you that I not only know why my marriage failed, I know how it failed. The things I have learned about myself haven't stopped yet. I never was even present or mindful enough to ask any of these questions in the beginning, let alone sit down with my woman and discuss the whole thing. Tells you a lot right there in those last few sentences...✌️
During Covid my wife was laid off work ,maybe had too much time , anyhow she connected with a old boyfriend from College before we met . We had been married for 29 years two Kids. My wife tells me this and she has decided to leave me move back to MT. I was in shock heart broken. My son had moved out. And my daughter was headed off to college. I didn't know how to act. Very depressed. went from a home full of Kids voices and laughter to only me. I am still trying to find purpose and to keep going. after being with someone for 30- years. I don't even know how to play the dating game anymore. Nor do I want to at this point. I feel like I am just living now to help my daughter out and get her through school. I am 58- now , and its like whos going to want to be with this old dude. I know looking back too where I made mistakes. But I always stayed loyal , when I had many ladies coming on to me. But family and raising my kids was all that I wanted or cared about. I hope this feeling of Gloom will not be so over whelming. Never laid a finger on her. Always figured we would grow old together and look after each other. I have couple friends that have been signal a long time. I guess it just takes time to learn to be with just your self. Anyhow I like the way this man talks about the complexities of life and relationships , he really hits the nail on the head in so many areas . anyhow Kind Regards take care
I believe two people need to share empathy, accountability, and a willingness to change. No of us is perfect. Glad to meet ya mom!
"...communication, you should be friends, you should like each other, not just love each other..." This is absolute truth. You absolutely nailed the roadmap to a long term, quality relationship.
"Stop trying to change your spouse, change yourself." Again, so much truth in coming from this conversation. Amazing to hear a couple speaking about deep morals and values.
Dewayne and Deanna, thank you for this wonderful message, my wife and I are married 40 years and we had the same discussion 41 years ago. She worked until we had our 4 boys and went back to work for several years after the boys were out of the house. We also had our ups and downs and persevered over those 40 years. We don't look back and are enjoining retirement on our farm in Iowa. Best years of our life are ahead of us! PS, LFD DOUBLE LIGERO MADURO is right up there with The Liga # 9. You guys are a breath of fresh air every time we listen. Thank you!
The lack of what this couple has, is why this country is in the shape it is.
They are a breath of fresh air. A much needed breath of fresh air. Bless you forever.
I see the key to a successful marriage is two people who will work to make that marriage work and NOT keep divorce in the back of their mind. Divorce has gotten so common and easy today.
My wife and I have been married for 52 years. We work together to make the marriage work.
Nothing said here goes against that. My father died when I was 13, so I did not see a lot of what a father should be. But I did have a grandfather along with a grandmother and my mother as role models.
Keep in mind why you get married and why you got married and work for that.
Just stumbled on your vids. Watched like 5 in a row before was spending too much time on device. Thank you so very much for this. Too many of us fatherless men have yearned for this kind of lessons and spoken so well and clear. Again very thankful for what your doing.
I literally just randomly found your channel and I can’t stop watching. I’m a 35 year old man and j can appreciate the wisdom you’ve shared. Excellent video and excellent insight. My take on whats wrong with marriage today: people don’t realize that a marriage is a job, and it’s HARD AND A LOT OF WORK and not everyone is willing to put in the work required. Lastly, like you said, when the fireworks and bubbles wear off they get bored and they wanna run off and start over. If you love someone then you’ll truly be in it for better or worse and you’ll find a way to make it work.
Thanks for your honesty. As a man married to an amazing woman for 25 years, I can relate to the work a marriage requires. I appreciate this conversation which is so foreign to this time and generation!
We’ve been married for 15 years and you both definitely mirror how we feel and approach our marriage. Marriage is about communication, respect, listening, loving and putting God first. Understanding that in a family there are shared responsibilities and roles. Wishing you both and everyone here who’s married continues love, joy, peace and happiness. It is indeed a marathon, not a sprint. It takes work, but what doesn’t? ❤
I am so happy to hear you both talk about what marriage is suppose to be. I’m 70 years old and have 3 divorces behind me. I married hoping that it would work out but I knew deep in my heart because of the men I chose it wasn’t going to work. Looking back now, I see clearly you can’t change people. I was a Christian( still am) and these men were not living with the standards that God put in place for a good life. I just wanted to be married and have a husband to love and them love me. I do not have to many regrets because I have a wonderful son and daughter. And that was my reward for all the trouble I put myself in. God blessed me with two children in spite of me making bad choices. So as I see it I have my happiness now and I am very blessed. People, listen carefully to what these people are saying cause it’s very good advice. Ask the Lord to help and guide you when it comes to marriage. In fact in any situation we are going through. You can’t go wrong that way. ✝️☮️
Lovely video. I'm an old dude wishing that I had seen your videos when I was a young fella. I've just found you guys, subscribed to both channels. I've messaged my son recommending both channels to him and his wife. Keep up the good work! Love what you are doing.
My boyfriend (who is absolutely my life partner) and I speak about roles, this day and age, and our future often, and it always breaks my heart how people treat women, mothers, and wives - especially those who stay at home. I don’t yearn to be an 80 hour a week lawyer or surgeon or CEO (like I used to tell myself I HAD to be). I want to be a mommy and a wife and a homemaker. I take it damn seriously and want to give my 100% focus and attention to my role. It comes very very naturally to me and suits me well and there is zero shame in that. I also work in womens health - I’m a personal trainer and pre/post natal trainer, it is vital the way we treat mamas, babies, and women without shame and doubt for whatever their choices are. Anyway that’s my two scents. Loved this video!
Stay-at-home Momma myself! I had a hard time letting go of the idea of worldly accomplishments at first, even though raising children was something I wanted dearly. I met a wonderful man who was willing to provide the opportunity for me to be home with our kids, so I dropped the fantasy of "making an impact" on the world at large and have since discovered the joy in *being the world* to my family. It certainly is not the ideal that we have been sold, but being here myself, I personally think this IS the ideal for most women - they are just being shamed out of their deepest desires.
All those jobs..let me say they are horsepucky. Here is the thing with Doctor. You will take care of as many evil as good people. You might save a persons life who then goes on to molest 3 kids. Save a lawyer who bankrupts your town. Its all just a job. The money is good but it takes 10 years to pay the stupid loans.
Take children though. Their entire life is in YOUR hands. You can have all the power to know down deep you supported them until they became good prosperous people. YOU did that. It could have been some other mother and the children were terrible and immoral but it was YOU so your efforts were never wasted.
You might feel even as a Doctor or Nurse some form of meaninglessness. People will never listen to you, always get fatter and more unhealthy, just beg for drugs. With children its ALL soul, its all hopefully a big reward that pays you off later. Like when they are taking care of you in your old age.
I think mother is the best job you can do as long as father is not an idiot and supports you to the fullest. I think doctor is very overrated but I mean I dunno CEO/Senator might be worth being childless for the millions of bucks but you'll never know that you'll be one unless you know you're in that Elite of Society Lane. Also it helps having kids when you run for Senate because it makes you look more normal and trustworthy so.
Go off Queen :D
Although I understand it might not always come across that way, feminism at its core is about not pressuring women or men to conform to anyone else's idea of what a woman or man should be. If you feel being a homemaker is your calling, then you should be allowed to do that without anyone (alleged feminist or otherwise) telling you it's wrong. Just like the woman who would rather work and not have children should be allowed to do that.
@@woutertron Which wave are you referring to exactly? This potential fourth wave we are seeing? Feminism has really never been about redefining "man" or "woman". It started as an equal rights movement that lost it's way during the sexual revolution and has since devolved into a flat, self-righteous and self-aggrandizing hedonistic ideology of screeching harpies.
@@woutertron modern feminism is nothing like classical
God Bless you folks, im 23 & live in Idaho on a family Ranch. I started watching your videos 2 weeks ago, watching your Videos on all the topics you Discuss on your Channel. Not only entertaining but incredibly insightful & motivating to make every decision on being the best Individual one can be. Also not only do I love your viewpoint on Life, I love the Respect/Manners you Have. & your honest experience again God Bless you guys.
very good
I've watched your videos for awhile now and am very glad to finally see "Momma" you're both very lucky and good for each other, it comes through very well in this video. I'm happy for both of you!!
very special watching this and having you humbly share this family wisdom -so thank you so much. I will have my son watch this - this is encouraging and so respectfully offered.
Thank you for sharing your lives with us and insights. May God continue to bless you both.