Getting rid of clothes that didn't fit me anymore was not only therapeutic but really exciting. There was a time where I couldn't wear adult sizes and a lot of my clothes made me feel like a child as a result. It's an opportunity to recreate your image if you want to or just figure out what styles make you feel good which is the most important thing ❤️
Okay but literally, why do your uploads seem to align perfectly with my life? I’m currently in the midst of buying new clothes/getting rid of ones that no longer fit (recovery things😅) and this is just the video I needed. Lots of love
I love how real this video was. I resonated when you said anorexia in part was wanting a 'flat' body. For me I realise now this was pushing the truth that deep down I'm non binary rather than a woman. It's a mind fuck with recovery...gaining weight has lead me to search for other ways to stay flat- this for me is chest binders, and heck they're expensive, uncomfortable and most days a trigger to the ED. The process of weight gain in recovery in so unique, thank you for sharing yours.
Sorry for all this text but I see myself reflected in you a lot. I hope you heal and overcome your internalized misogyny. I've seen many many women (myself included) suffering from eating disorders and also falling into the whole "I don't want to be a woman/ I don't want to be perceived as a woman/ I'm a boy / I'm non-binary/ I want to chop my boobs off" thing. They are two worlds that overlap a lot. And there's a reason for that. Let me tell you after years of battling, they're both mechanisms of self-harm and self-hatred, especially for women. It took me too long to realize I hated my body because in reality, I hated the pain that comes from inhabiting a female body in this world. That's why I hyperfixated on things like my breasts, since they visibly marked me as a woman, and because I hated how society hypersexualized them, how men ogled at them, how they made me feel like an object, etc. I wanted to be flat, flat as when I was a kid and none of the dangers of womanhood had touched me yet. Flat as a boy, so free. But mutilating your body will never achieve that, you have to learn to love yourself just as you are It took me a lot of reflection to realize that what I truly wanted was freedom from misogyny, that my body was not my enemy (my body is me, I'm my body, we're one and the same), and that falling into the trans identity was just a continuation of my eating disorder
@@aname4700 I'm sorry that has been your experience. However it seems presumptuous to assume non-binary an expression of internalised mysogyny, that's certainly not the case. Society is built on patriarchal structures with deep mysogyny running throughout but no, through years of therapy and healing, I can separate my sex from the ED which is rooted in trauma. The LGBTQ society has far higher rates of developing eating disorders but research can't pinpoint the cause. Our sex - returning to queerness / non-binary is not self-harm, that's self-acceptance AFTER years of self-harm.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I didn’t know anyone else felt like this and you just described perfectly what I’ve been going through. I feel too scared to talk about this stuff with my therapist at the moment but it’s so relieving to know someone else is going through the same. hopefully I’ll have the courage to talk about it soon.
Weight gain in bulimia recovery was so hard. I love the quote about making your clothes fit you. Also, my treatment team set me a bmi target that I’ll never get to because my set point doesn’t lie there when I’m eating and exercising intuitively. I need to stop restricting when I’m experiencing emotions that I deem to be negative though. I remember the moment I felt proud of my weight gain that I did on my own so clearly. My parents haven’t really supported me through recovery so far, because they won’t stop dieting, but go me for choosing recovery anyway.
just started watching and your presence is literally a blessing - you've created such a safe space with this account and no words will ever express how big of an inspiration you are. sending you nothing but love - thank you for reminding me why recovery and its hard parts will be worth it one day
that’s all i wanted to do with this channel, so thank you ✨ recovery is 10000% worth it, i know that’s hard to believe sometimes but i promise it is xxxxx
oh my god, this is one of the biggest struggles i have and i always felt so stupid for caring so much about clothes size, but you talking about it helps with the embarrassment. im so grateful for you and your videos, you have this way of saying things that really gets through to the rational part of my brain and i repeat them to myself when im having a worse day. thank you ro!
im going through weight gain in recovery, and im starting to notice it like so much cos my clothes r fitting differently to how they used to. ive never struggled so much in my life with being so insecure and hating my body so much like i have been recently. this video seriously is what i really needed. THANK U RO!!!!! this video does mean a lot
I’ve always kept my clothes from when I was at my lowest for when I “lose the weight again” but I realized that was the Ed voice in my head. I finally decided to throw them out and get new clothes. instead I’m learning to embrace it and you’ve helped a ton
As my body has been fluctuating with weight, I find thrift stores and specifically online thrift stores a life saver! I've been using the site thredup to by my pants and things and I really like that I can give my unwanted clothes to them and get credit to buy new clothes. Thank you Ro, you're channel is by far the safest place on youtube for me and I'm so happy that I found you
You have been such a big inspiration. Such a positive role model to many. Thank you for sharing your journey and positive affirmations with us all online. Also really appreciate how sensitive and cautious you are with the language you use. You're a fantastic voice and leader. Sooooo proud to see you glowing and living!!!! ❤
can i just say than you SO MUCH for your reassurances on not having thigh gaps! that's always been such a huge fear of mine going into recovery, so I really appreciate you talking about it. I feel like it can be such a weird thing to try and explain to someone who hasn't struggled with their body- like why my thighs touching or not touching holds up so much brainspace, it sounds so trivial when thinking of it like that lol. but hearing you empathize and reassure was really helpful, so thank you❤
Not eating disorder recovery, but post partum depression recovery. I had to get rid of almost all of the clothes and I felt like such a failure for not fitting in them. I have learned to accept that bringing life into the world comes with many sacrifices, including sleep, my body, my space, and my routine. It’s still hard sometimes but other times I get amazingly happy about how phenomenal my work is, and how much I love them.
today i’ve finally decided to free myself from anorexia. i don’t think i would’ve realised how badly i want freedom without your videos. genuinely thank you so much, i can’t wait to get my life back 💜🌻
best of luck on your journey. please know that there will be tough times and things may sometimes feel like they are going backwards, but i promise that this is normal in recovery. you making this statement is a promise you made to yourself, and i believe in you
I've never had an eating disorder but recently I gained weight and have now gone up 2 sizes in trousers, from being a 6 to being a 10. It's been a struggle to come to terms with it (especially getting rid of jeans I LOVE - I have now decided to buy new jeans and add lots of patches of the old jeans on to them so I still get to keep part of them) and this video was great to help me see it positively and come to terms with it
You are so calm and lovely, you bring me a lot of peace. I struggle with some kind of eating disorder and your videos help me a lot, not only because of the eat with me and that stuff, but because I feel really really calm while watching you. Thank you Ro, you are helping a lot of people and I know that you are going to live a really happy life ❤
A few nights ago, I cried to my mom about my favourite jeans no longer fitting. This video came at the perfect time and honestly, you've been such a huge help to me these past 8 months in recovery. You played a sizable role in me learning to shut my mind the hell up and live life. Thank you so much
Clothing exchanges are another great solution, if you have them in your area! I go to one that works on the premise of "bring however much you want, take however much you want" and it's a really simple way to both let go of your old clothes and discover new ones whilst spicing up your style as well :)
You are truly an angel for putting out these videos, i needed this advice. Recently in recovery my body started to change really fast and i wasn’t ready but It has been exciting to get rid of the old clothes, I could only fit in a few things-I never felt confident or pretty because I had so many limits on what fit me and what was too big. But now that I’m finally getting to my healthier weight I can wear clothes that make me feel confident, I can show my personality, wear my style that makes me feel like myself. And honestly, I realized that when I’m able to wear clothes I enjoy and clothes that properly fit me it quiets the voices. It’s hard, of course it is but overtime it becomes so much easier. You just gotta keep pushing through. Thank you for these videos, they truly have helped me in my own journey of recovery.
i love this + i love the positive outlook you have :) it’s fun being able to explore fashion more, and not have the same 3 outfits on rotation because they actually fit haha. proud of you x
I wasn’t expecting this video to have such a big impact on me. I’ve been trying to figure out how to approach recovery and when is the best time to start for about six months now. After watching this video I am mediately got up and went through my closet. The amount of tiny clothing items that I had been trying to force my body to fit for all these years was disturbing. I have clothes from when I was five years younger than I am now, and should not still be forcing myself to fit into. Thanks to you, I have completely cleared out my closet and I’m donating over 2/3 of my clothes. I think this was a big step towards recovery for me. I am so grateful for you and all of the positive messages you give out on this channel. You make me feel so much less alone. ❤️
loved this chatty video Ro and really resonated with holding onto clothes for sentimental reasons and trying to "fit" back into pieces that I used to love that no longer serve me. This video reminded me of what is really important. Thank you 🤍
Thank you, Ro, this video came to me at the right time, Brilliant, your videos are always comforting and safe every one of them, its magnificent how after i watch ur videos i always have a spark of encouragement in me, and fight the voices yk.. it will all pay off one day, Loads of love!
As someone who’s been restricting for 8 years, and finally suffering the heart pains and signs my body’s getting fed up of living with the way I’ve been treating it this past week, this vid was SOOO useful!! Here’s to happy healthier versions of ourselves to everyone who sees this comment xxx we luv you Ro 💗
Yes I was worried about the exact same thing so every time I was recovering and started to gain weight, as soon as I was “average” I would restrict to stay there but restricting always caused a relapse. It’s so good to be reminded that you can trust your body to balance out and you will be a healthy weight if you listen to it. Edit: I feel the same about not wanting curves too I just wanted to be a stick haha and changing from that to having a womanly figure was and still is such a struggle sometimes. I am so glad I found your channel! Very relatable. EDIT AGAIN. I BODY CHECKED FOR THE SAME REASON
I have some clothing items that I, regardless of the sizes, fully associate with some of my most difficult times. Getting rid of them and replacing them with new pieces that I could build new and healthy memories and associations with was so important for me :)
Thank you for being there to console,support and act as an incentive for people in eating disorder recovery to push forward and keep challenging!I 'm so inspired by you and how hardy you took every single bite!(Also your advices always made me feel understood which I'm so thankful to you for.)❤
I recently started watching your videos and to be honest I fell in love with your videos♡ I only watch your videos especially when eating so that I can eat with you which helped me in finishing my food without even me knowing I'm happy that I found your channel and I started my recovery a few weeks ago wish me good luck! Forgive me if there's any mistake in my typing cuz I'm actually not fluent in English
Thank you so much for talking about this topic. For a person recovering from anorexia, It helped me so much with a lot of questions I’ve had. I’m proud of you for letting go to clothes you don’t wear or don’t fit you. That’s a really good thing to be able to do. But in our family, while we do donate most clothes we don’t want, if an article of clothing has sentimental value, maybe has a sweet story around it or a nice memory, we put it in a plastic bag and save it in a box for maybe my future children or just as a keepsake. It’s certainly good to be able to give things away for other people to use, so no judgment here, but it’s also ok to have a nice memories attached to things. So just keep that in mind when getting rid of things. Thank you for all the work you have put into this and all the other videos you’ve posted. You have helped me so much with my recovery. You are literally my favorite person watch because you challenge yourself and you don’t hold back and you show me that it IS possible to be able to intuitively eat someday, even though it seems impossible right now. I have been with you ever since the beginning. Thank you! Keep up the good work! Remember: You are Beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. 💗
needed this- i had a massive breakdown last night because of weight gain and the fact that i’m not allowed to see my weight…..it’s making it near impossible to eat today thanks for the video ro it’s really encouraging
Thank you so much for this. I'm currently going through recovery weight gain and starting to not fit into my sick body clothes. It actually made me tear up a bit to hear from someone who is farther along in the journey telling me it will be okay. Sending love
Every single word you say resonates SO MUCH and you make me feel so understood. Now weight testifies I’m finding clothing fluctuations and memories of smaller clothes from a size I never should have been so difficult (especially as I have nothing heat wave approp as I live in hoodies & joggers 😩) and never felt like someone got it until heating you speak. Thank you Ro as always your vids feel like a big hug ♥️
Im so glad you posted this video! Recently i've been growing out of some clothes that i used to fit perfectly fine two months ago and i've been finding it really hard, but this video made me realize that its not a bad thing to grow out of your clothing, wether youre recovering from an eating disorder or not. Thanks Ro
When I was poorly, being told "you can get new clothes" was TERRIFYING but there were moments where I was like new clothes weee and it got more and more exciting going shopping the more i got better and healthier mind set- actually became one of the best parts about healing x
So glad you kept the green cozy shirt! You’ll love it come cold weather. And it’s so cute. And this is a sign I’m WAY overdue for a good closet clean out! Thank you for always making our Sundays sooo much better. 🫶🫶
Your videos are such an inspiration and I love how you always talk about the bright side of things your videos have really been helpful through my recovery 💗
I hope you know how much of an inspiration you are to so many people. I love how real you are wirh your recovery and I honestly wish you nothing but the best. ❤️🩹
I really needed this video today! I am so grateful to have this video to cheer me on! I love how positive you are about recovery while still being super honest! Love love love!
I’ve been wanting to thank you for a while now. Your videos are helping me a lot lately in my journey trying to accept/not hate myself so much. You are such a lovely person, thanks for spreading so much joy (but not in an unrealistic way) with us ❤️ Love and admiration from Brazil
Just got this video recommended to me. I watched a couple of your videos early last year, but nothing since. You look so well now! Genuinely amazing (: love seeing a successful recovery, even if it's ongoing! Wow 😻
Ro this was so good to hear. Since becoming more weight restored these past couple of months (in light of watching your videos and finding help), seeing clothes fit different can be really challenging. You always know the right thing to say and that makes you such an authentic person. Hope you are well. Stay groovy
Your videos always pop up conveniently when I’m going through rough patches. Lovely video, really sweet and relaxing as always. Thank you Ro, you’re the best. Honestly you make me smile every day X❤️☺️
Hi there! One tip that has really helped me with my jeans is to sow elastic in the waist with a little bit peaking out on the inside seam. This way i can adjust the size depending on what I need that day or if I want a more fitted feeling or a looser fit. If you’ve ever had jeans like this as a little kid they’re super similar and the tailoring is really easy for a beginner!
one thing i’m finding helpful in recovery is buying jeans that are a size or two too large and wearing a belt to keep them on until i’m able to comfortably fit them without a belt needed, although i do like belts as a style choice. it saves me some money to get pants too large. i sort of feel like a kid whose mum is making them buy a size up so it still fits when they grow a bit more. and i like baggy shirts anyway so sizing up with that is fine to me. loose fitting clothes are nice for recovery anyway not just for body image reasons but they’re also so much more comfortable when i bloat as my digestive system gets used to digesting a normal amount of food.
love this video... love hearing you talk about things... i think this has become my new fav (yes i like it more than your what i eat in a days even though those are also amazing) so comforting ro love you so much
i cant wait for autumn to come around, switch out my summer clothes for autumn ones and do a proper clearout. i have a lot of clothes with sentimental value i never wear and stuff that doesnt make me feel nice anymore
I have struggled with anorexia for the past 4 years and have tried sooo many times to gain enough weight to look "normal". I've finally been able to gain and maintain a diet that is healthy. But the only downside is having to get rid of all the clothes that no longer fit! I was able to get a pretty decently big wardrobe of clothes for my smallest size since I was so small for so long. So getting new clothes is kind of daunting, especially jeans since I struggle to find stuff I LOVE. Thanks for sharing your experience because it's pretty much exactly what I'm going through currently!
God Ro, I swear your my guardian angel. I found you like a year ago and you helped me so much, and now that im actually recovering, I find myself asking "would Ro do this?" Like my family literally says to me "Ro would do this," and I know I can do it too. Thank you. I'm really struggling with being weight restored, and you LITERALLY post exactly when I needed it. Thank you Ro, you really help me everyday.
Just what I needed. I’ve been recently outgrowing my clothes because of recovery. It feels miserable but at the same time rewarding. I’m finally enjoying sharing and having fun experiences because I allow myself food. Your videos have been a great part of my journey, thank you 💜
the cardis have those little string loop bits on each side you can cross them over the hanger and your cardi will stay put on the hanger.hopefully this makes sense if not im sure google can help.
Thank you so much for this video! I have some pieces of clothing that I wanted to sell for a long time, I've worn them once or twice for the last two years. But I either was to lazy to take pictures of them to put them on a sale, or thought that "maybe one day I'm gonna wear it". Your video inspired me so much! I'm going to look through all my clothes now and put a copule of thing on sale.
Thanks so much for this video, as much as I recovered a long time ago, I still struggle seeing my 'new body' and shopping for clothes in my natural shape, thanks for normalising this
Can totally relate to the struggle of getting rid of clothes.. I've recently moved house and trying to declutter and get rid of stuff I've had for years. I really get attached to clothes and other possessions ! They often have so many memories attached to them. I've had to make rash decisions and really think about whether it fits, I actually wear it, whether I'm likely to wear it.........😭 Great honest and realistic body image chat and advice. Really helpful 🙏💗 especially the part about how to deal with growing into a womanly body when you don't really want to. Looking at the other positives of weight gain aside from the womanly body is a good tactic. Telling yourself that you're living in in a healthy adult body is much more helpful way of looking at it.💗 Take care sweetie and thank you for another great video. Congratulations for getting rid of all those clothes 👌👏🙌 I've also been procrastinating about going through my clothes for AGES!🤦🏻♀️ Have a great week next week 💗
@@RoMitchell aww bless you thank you. Glad I make you smile ☺️, The move has been a rollercoaster of emotions and a mixture of stress and excitement. However I think/hope in the long run it will definitely be worth it and I'll be happy here 🙏💗 (touch wood) 🤞
if u don't mind me asking what are u studying at the moment? what would u like to do as a career? thank you for your videos. they are such a comfort. struggling w body and face image at the moment but you're a constant reminder to keep going. thanks for existing. (:
When I clean out my closet I always try on the clothes I’m not sure about, it makes a big difference in deciding if I’m going to keep a piece or not. Also with the things that i mark as a “maybe” I make an outfit with it so that I reach for it more easily later on 😊
I sold and donated my old clothes today! I saw this video yesterday and today I made the decision to get rid of the clothes I had when I was smaller and tomorrow I’m going to shop for new clothes.
Can you make another video about finding yourself away from your eating disorder and recovery, that has been something that has been a huge struggle for me right now ❤️❤️
The body checking felt completely relatable. I did an experiment and i checked over 200 times in a day - just to be sure. Any advice to practically enforce this? As there are days i can't feel the strength to resist. Love you ro 😀
You're honestly one of the biggest reasons for me being able to recover. You showed me that recovery is worth it and that my life was waiting for me all along. Thank you so much. I wish you the best with your own therapy and journey!
I have the opposite problem I used to be a big person but I got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and lost a lot of weight I feel heaps better from loosing the weight but most of my clothes now are too big for me
“-couldnt stand the thought of somebody else knowing my weight when i didnt.” I was told the same thing: oh if its triggering just look away - like, thanks but, this whole thing is about not feeling good enough and escaping myself, its not gonna help my idea of others judging me, being the only one in the room not knowing, its just gonna be even more scary. Sorry to anyone Reading this… it just felt so good being recognised - makes it easier to move on, let go, knowing that it was a “normal” reaction from my side ♥️ Thanks Ro
Keep what you love if you don’t like it then give it away. But if you do keep it! Times are hard now so be good to yourself. Your amazing for doing all you do and hope you will be very happy always with your boy friend! 🥰❤️❤️❤️
Im still gaining weight and my thighs don’t completely touch but now when I sit down they smush and they didn’t used to do that and it freaks me out how different they look when I’m standing and sitting. Idk how to cope because they’re still getting bigger
Getting rid of clothes that didn't fit me anymore was not only therapeutic but really exciting. There was a time where I couldn't wear adult sizes and a lot of my clothes made me feel like a child as a result. It's an opportunity to recreate your image if you want to or just figure out what styles make you feel good which is the most important thing ❤️
love love love this
yesss i’m proud of you! and i agree, getting rid of old unfitting clothes opens the possibility of getting new cool stuff 😌
im so proud of you! I relate to clothes making me feel like a child it makes me feel so embarrassed. Its so fun to look for new clothing items 😄
Okay but literally, why do your uploads seem to align perfectly with my life? I’m currently in the midst of buying new clothes/getting rid of ones that no longer fit (recovery things😅) and this is just the video I needed. Lots of love
this makes me so happy !! ✨ all my love x
I love how real this video was. I resonated when you said anorexia in part was wanting a 'flat' body. For me I realise now this was pushing the truth that deep down I'm non binary rather than a woman. It's a mind fuck with recovery...gaining weight has lead me to search for other ways to stay flat- this for me is chest binders, and heck they're expensive, uncomfortable and most days a trigger to the ED. The process of weight gain in recovery in so unique, thank you for sharing yours.
Sorry for all this text but I see myself reflected in you a lot.
I hope you heal and overcome your internalized misogyny. I've seen many many women (myself included) suffering from eating disorders and also falling into the whole "I don't want to be a woman/ I don't want to be perceived as a woman/ I'm a boy / I'm non-binary/ I want to chop my boobs off" thing. They are two worlds that overlap a lot. And there's a reason for that. Let me tell you after years of battling, they're both mechanisms of self-harm and self-hatred, especially for women. It took me too long to realize I hated my body because in reality, I hated the pain that comes from inhabiting a female body in this world. That's why I hyperfixated on things like my breasts, since they visibly marked me as a woman, and because I hated how society hypersexualized them, how men ogled at them, how they made me feel like an object, etc. I wanted to be flat, flat as when I was a kid and none of the dangers of womanhood had touched me yet. Flat as a boy, so free. But mutilating your body will never achieve that, you have to learn to love yourself just as you are
It took me a lot of reflection to realize that what I truly wanted was freedom from misogyny, that my body was not my enemy (my body is me, I'm my body, we're one and the same), and that falling into the trans identity was just a continuation of my eating disorder
@@aname4700 I'm sorry that has been your experience. However it seems presumptuous to assume non-binary an expression of internalised mysogyny, that's certainly not the case. Society is built on patriarchal structures with deep mysogyny running throughout but no, through years of therapy and healing, I can separate my sex from the ED which is rooted in trauma. The LGBTQ society has far higher rates of developing eating disorders but research can't pinpoint the cause. Our sex - returning to queerness / non-binary is not self-harm, that's self-acceptance AFTER years of self-harm.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I didn’t know anyone else felt like this and you just described perfectly what I’ve been going through. I feel too scared to talk about this stuff with my therapist at the moment but it’s so relieving to know someone else is going through the same. hopefully I’ll have the courage to talk about it soon.
Weight gain in bulimia recovery was so hard. I love the quote about making your clothes fit you. Also, my treatment team set me a bmi target that I’ll never get to because my set point doesn’t lie there when I’m eating and exercising intuitively. I need to stop restricting when I’m experiencing emotions that I deem to be negative though. I remember the moment I felt proud of my weight gain that I did on my own so clearly. My parents haven’t really supported me through recovery so far, because they won’t stop dieting, but go me for choosing recovery anyway.
i hope you feel safe and supported on this channel. i’m certainly proud of you and think you’re incredibly strong ❤️
Your channel has bee instrumental in my recovery. You’re incredible.
just started watching and your presence is literally a blessing - you've created such a safe space with this account and no words will ever express how big of an inspiration you are. sending you nothing but love - thank you for reminding me why recovery and its hard parts will be worth it one day
that’s all i wanted to do with this channel, so thank you ✨ recovery is 10000% worth it, i know that’s hard to believe sometimes but i promise it is xxxxx
oh my god, this is one of the biggest struggles i have and i always felt so stupid for caring so much about clothes size, but you talking about it helps with the embarrassment. im so grateful for you and your videos, you have this way of saying things that really gets through to the rational part of my brain and i repeat them to myself when im having a worse day. thank you ro!
im going through weight gain in recovery, and im starting to notice it like so much cos my clothes r fitting differently to how they used to. ive never struggled so much in my life with being so insecure and hating my body so much like i have been recently. this video seriously is what i really needed. THANK U RO!!!!! this video does mean a lot
it gets so much easier, i promise. your body is just doing what it needs to do to keep you alive ❤️
Speaking of losing a thigh gap i was finally able to have my toy poodle sit on my lap without falling through and it's a great positive to gaining!
I’ve always kept my clothes from when I was at my lowest for when I “lose the weight again” but I realized that was the Ed voice in my head. I finally decided to throw them out and get new clothes. instead I’m learning to embrace it and you’ve helped a ton
i’m proud of you 🫶🏻
best quote that i heard first from you 'you are not meant to fit your clothes, your clothes are meant to fit you'
i defo repeated that in this 👀 hehe
This is very true, if your overweight or underweight.x
As my body has been fluctuating with weight, I find thrift stores and specifically online thrift stores a life saver! I've been using the site thredup to by my pants and things and I really like that I can give my unwanted clothes to them and get credit to buy new clothes. Thank you Ro, you're channel is by far the safest place on youtube for me and I'm so happy that I found you
Same!
yep - they’re so helpful! sending love xx
watching this while eating a real breakfast after skipping it for years, and i really needed this ❤ thank u for this video
You have been such a big inspiration. Such a positive role model to many. Thank you for sharing your journey and positive affirmations with us all online. Also really appreciate how sensitive and cautious you are with the language you use. You're a fantastic voice and leader. Sooooo proud to see you glowing and living!!!! ❤
can i just say than you SO MUCH for your reassurances on not having thigh gaps! that's always been such a huge fear of mine going into recovery, so I really appreciate you talking about it. I feel like it can be such a weird thing to try and explain to someone who hasn't struggled with their body- like why my thighs touching or not touching holds up so much brainspace, it sounds so trivial when thinking of it like that lol. but hearing you empathize and reassure was really helpful, so thank you❤
I’m in a big dip right now. Having this video today brought me such comfort knowing maybe I’m not completely alone. 💜
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Not eating disorder recovery, but post partum depression recovery. I had to get rid of almost all of the clothes and I felt like such a failure for not fitting in them. I have learned to accept that bringing life into the world comes with many sacrifices, including sleep, my body, my space, and my routine. It’s still hard sometimes but other times I get amazingly happy about how phenomenal my work is, and how much I love them.
today i’ve finally decided to free myself from anorexia. i don’t think i would’ve realised how badly i want freedom without your videos. genuinely thank you so much, i can’t wait to get my life back 💜🌻
I know I’m just a stranger on the Internet, but I’m so proud of you for making that decision and I know that you got this and I believe in you!
@@margotgrey1006 awh thank you so much :,]]
best of luck on your journey. please know that there will be tough times and things may sometimes feel like they are going backwards, but i promise that this is normal in recovery. you making this statement is a promise you made to yourself, and i believe in you
@@roxxandra thank you so so much :,))
You can do it! You will be so happy with a healthy body! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
I love the way you find positivity and light through the hard emotions you are such and inspiration!! 💞💐⭐
thank you 🫶🏻
I've never had an eating disorder but recently I gained weight and have now gone up 2 sizes in trousers, from being a 6 to being a 10. It's been a struggle to come to terms with it (especially getting rid of jeans I LOVE - I have now decided to buy new jeans and add lots of patches of the old jeans on to them so I still get to keep part of them) and this video was great to help me see it positively and come to terms with it
You are so calm and lovely, you bring me a lot of peace. I struggle with some kind of eating disorder and your videos help me a lot, not only because of the eat with me and that stuff, but because I feel really really calm while watching you. Thank you Ro, you are helping a lot of people and I know that you are going to live a really happy life ❤
thank you 🥰 i’m so glad i can help x
A few nights ago, I cried to my mom about my favourite jeans no longer fitting. This video came at the perfect time and honestly, you've been such a huge help to me these past 8 months in recovery. You played a sizable role in me learning to shut my mind the hell up and live life. Thank you so much
Clothing exchanges are another great solution, if you have them in your area! I go to one that works on the premise of "bring however much you want, take however much you want" and it's a really simple way to both let go of your old clothes and discover new ones whilst spicing up your style as well :)
So calming the way you were going through your closet. Loved the way you said "i know someone will enjoy this"
the question about being proud of gainig weight: i always tell myself that i managed to save my own life. that has helped me a lot!
You are truly an angel for putting out these videos, i needed this advice. Recently in recovery my body started to change really fast and i wasn’t ready but It has been exciting to get rid of the old clothes, I could only fit in a few things-I never felt confident or pretty because I had so many limits on what fit me and what was too big. But now that I’m finally getting to my healthier weight I can wear clothes that make me feel confident, I can show my personality, wear my style that makes me feel like myself. And honestly, I realized that when I’m able to wear clothes I enjoy and clothes that properly fit me it quiets the voices. It’s hard, of course it is but overtime it becomes so much easier. You just gotta keep pushing through. Thank you for these videos, they truly have helped me in my own journey of recovery.
i love this + i love the positive outlook you have :) it’s fun being able to explore fashion more, and not have the same 3 outfits on rotation because they actually fit haha. proud of you x
I wasn’t expecting this video to have such a big impact on me. I’ve been trying to figure out how to approach recovery and when is the best time to start for about six months now. After watching this video I am mediately got up and went through my closet. The amount of tiny clothing items that I had been trying to force my body to fit for all these years was disturbing. I have clothes from when I was five years younger than I am now, and should not still be forcing myself to fit into. Thanks to you, I have completely cleared out my closet and I’m donating over 2/3 of my clothes. I think this was a big step towards recovery for me. I am so grateful for you and all of the positive messages you give out on this channel. You make me feel so much less alone. ❤️
you mentioning that our thighs shouldn't touch and that its natural really helped me change my mindset, thank you for that
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Just when I needed ro, she posts another video. You have no idea how much you’re helping people, you are amazing ❤️
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loved this chatty video Ro and really resonated with holding onto clothes for sentimental reasons and trying to "fit" back into pieces that I used to love that no longer serve me. This video reminded me of what is really important. Thank you 🤍
Thank you, Ro, this video came to me at the right time, Brilliant, your videos are always comforting and safe every one of them, its magnificent how after i watch ur videos i always have a spark of encouragement in me, and fight the voices yk.. it will all pay off one day, Loads of love!
thank you smmm for including the discussion concerning self-worth issues about money
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As someone who’s been restricting for 8 years, and finally suffering the heart pains and signs my body’s getting fed up of living with the way I’ve been treating it this past week, this vid was SOOO useful!! Here’s to happy healthier versions of ourselves to everyone who sees this comment xxx we luv you Ro 💗
you can do this !!! ✨🫶🏻
Yes I was worried about the exact same thing so every time I was recovering and started to gain weight, as soon as I was “average” I would restrict to stay there but restricting always caused a relapse. It’s so good to be reminded that you can trust your body to balance out and you will be a healthy weight if you listen to it. Edit: I feel the same about not wanting curves too I just wanted to be a stick haha and changing from that to having a womanly figure was and still is such a struggle sometimes. I am so glad I found your channel! Very relatable. EDIT AGAIN. I BODY CHECKED FOR THE SAME REASON
I have some clothing items that I, regardless of the sizes, fully associate with some of my most difficult times. Getting rid of them and replacing them with new pieces that I could build new and healthy memories and associations with was so important for me :)
Thank you for being there to console,support and act as an incentive for people in eating disorder recovery to push forward and keep challenging!I 'm so inspired by you and how hardy you took every single bite!(Also your advices always made me feel understood which I'm so thankful to you for.)❤
thanks for this lovely comment! 🫶🏻
I recently started watching your videos and to be honest I fell in love with your videos♡ I only watch your videos especially when eating so that I can eat with you which helped me in finishing my food without even me knowing I'm happy that I found your channel and I started my recovery a few weeks ago wish me good luck! Forgive me if there's any mistake in my typing cuz I'm actually not fluent in English
dude seriously, go you. you look terrific and are BLOOMING
Thank you so much for talking about this topic. For a person recovering from anorexia, It helped me so much with a lot of questions I’ve had. I’m proud of you for letting go to clothes you don’t wear or don’t fit you. That’s a really good thing to be able to do. But in our family, while we do donate most clothes we don’t want, if an article of clothing has sentimental value, maybe has a sweet story around it or a nice memory, we put it in a plastic bag and save it in a box for maybe my future children or just as a keepsake. It’s certainly good to be able to give things away for other people to use, so no judgment here, but it’s also ok to have a nice memories attached to things. So just keep that in mind when getting rid of things. Thank you for all the work you have put into this and all the other videos you’ve posted. You have helped me so much with my recovery. You are literally my favorite person watch because you challenge yourself and you don’t hold back and you show me that it IS possible to be able to intuitively eat someday, even though it seems impossible right now. I have been with you ever since the beginning. Thank you! Keep up the good work! Remember: You are Beautiful. You are worthy. You are enough. 💗
needed this- i had a massive breakdown last night because of weight gain and the fact that i’m not allowed to see my weight…..it’s making it near impossible to eat today
thanks for the video ro it’s really encouraging
Thank you so much for this. I'm currently going through recovery weight gain and starting to not fit into my sick body clothes. It actually made me tear up a bit to hear from someone who is farther along in the journey telling me it will be okay. Sending love
Every single word you say resonates SO MUCH and you make me feel so understood. Now weight testifies I’m finding clothing fluctuations and memories of smaller clothes from a size I never should have been so difficult (especially as I have nothing heat wave approp as I live in hoodies & joggers 😩) and never felt like someone got it until heating you speak. Thank you Ro as always your vids feel like a big hug ♥️
it’s so hard at first but it does get easier - you’re not alone!! hugs xxxxx
Im so glad you posted this video! Recently i've been growing out of some clothes that i used to fit perfectly fine two months ago and i've been finding it really hard, but this video made me realize that its not a bad thing to grow out of your clothing, wether youre recovering from an eating disorder or not. Thanks Ro
When I was poorly, being told "you can get new clothes" was TERRIFYING but there were moments where I was like new clothes weee and it got more and more exciting going shopping the more i got better and healthier mind set- actually became one of the best parts about healing x
So glad you kept the green cozy shirt! You’ll love it come cold weather. And it’s so cute.
And this is a sign I’m WAY overdue for a good closet clean out!
Thank you for always making our Sundays sooo much better. 🫶🫶
Your videos are such an inspiration and I love how you always talk about the bright side of things your videos have really been helpful through my recovery 💗
I hope you know how much of an inspiration you are to so many people. I love how real you are wirh your recovery and I honestly wish you nothing but the best. ❤️🩹
I really needed this video today! I am so grateful to have this video to cheer me on! I love how positive you are about recovery while still being super honest! Love love love!
Really liked this! really like videos where people clear out their closets and especially this one because you answered some good questions!
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I’ve been wanting to thank you for a while now. Your videos are helping me a lot lately in my journey trying to accept/not hate myself so much. You are such a lovely person, thanks for spreading so much joy (but not in an unrealistic way) with us ❤️ Love and admiration from Brazil
thanks for being so lovely. i’m proud of you for being kinder to yourself ❤️
Just got this video recommended to me. I watched a couple of your videos early last year, but nothing since. You look so well now! Genuinely amazing (: love seeing a successful recovery, even if it's ongoing! Wow 😻
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Ro this was so good to hear. Since becoming more weight restored these past couple of months (in light of watching your videos and finding help), seeing clothes fit different can be really challenging. You always know the right thing to say and that makes you such an authentic person. Hope you are well. Stay groovy
Your videos always pop up conveniently when I’m going through rough patches. Lovely video, really sweet and relaxing as always. Thank you Ro, you’re the best. Honestly you make me smile every day X❤️☺️
hope you’re doing okay, sending strength 🥰
Hi there! One tip that has really helped me with my jeans is to sow elastic in the waist with a little bit peaking out on the inside seam. This way i can adjust the size depending on what I need that day or if I want a more fitted feeling or a looser fit. If you’ve ever had jeans like this as a little kid they’re super similar and the tailoring is really easy for a beginner!
This video simply came at just the right time. This time of year is especially hard for many of us but your videos are a big help, thank you ro ❤
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one thing i’m finding helpful in recovery is buying jeans that are a size or two too large and wearing a belt to keep them on until i’m able to comfortably fit them without a belt needed, although i do like belts as a style choice. it saves me some money to get pants too large. i sort of feel like a kid whose mum is making them buy a size up so it still fits when they grow a bit more. and i like baggy shirts anyway so sizing up with that is fine to me. loose fitting clothes are nice for recovery anyway not just for body image reasons but they’re also so much more comfortable when i bloat as my digestive system gets used to digesting a normal amount of food.
love this video... love hearing you talk about things... i think this has become my new fav (yes i like it more than your what i eat in a days even though those are also amazing) so comforting ro love you so much
i cant wait for autumn to come around, switch out my summer clothes for autumn ones and do a proper clearout. i have a lot of clothes with sentimental value i never wear and stuff that doesnt make me feel nice anymore
It’s not cheap but also a great idea to consider having things tailored if you love them but they aren’t fitting correctly. 💕
A beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom.
I'm sad about the little heart sweater vest!! But everything else I think was great. I love your insights as always Ro. 🙂
I have struggled with anorexia for the past 4 years and have tried sooo many times to gain enough weight to look "normal". I've finally been able to gain and maintain a diet that is healthy. But the only downside is having to get rid of all the clothes that no longer fit! I was able to get a pretty decently big wardrobe of clothes for my smallest size since I was so small for so long. So getting new clothes is kind of daunting, especially jeans since I struggle to find stuff I LOVE. Thanks for sharing your experience because it's pretty much exactly what I'm going through currently!
Thank you Ro for helping me in my recovery 💗 Love you ✨
all my love 💘
your such a kind soul
Aaaa it's a long video!! The highlight of my day!! 💗💗💗💗
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Thank you for this -I think I'm going to clear out my clothes today, I need to do this and accept it!! Bring on the weight gain and self love 💜
you can do it ! 🫶🏻
God Ro, I swear your my guardian angel. I found you like a year ago and you helped me so much, and now that im actually recovering, I find myself asking "would Ro do this?" Like my family literally says to me "Ro would do this," and I know I can do it too. Thank you. I'm really struggling with being weight restored, and you LITERALLY post exactly when I needed it. Thank you Ro, you really help me everyday.
this video is just what i needed right now. Especially the weight gain questions, bc that’s what I’m currently struggling with, so thank you!
Just what I needed. I’ve been recently outgrowing my clothes because of recovery. It feels miserable but at the same time rewarding. I’m finally enjoying sharing and having fun experiences because I allow myself food. Your videos have been a great part of my journey, thank you 💜
thanks for doing the best thing for yourself 🫶🏻✨
You help me and others so much, you’re an inspiration and beautiful inside and out ❤️
💖💘💓 thank you
the cardis have those little string loop bits on each side you can cross them over the hanger and your cardi will stay put on the hanger.hopefully this makes sense if not im sure google can help.
Thank you so much for this video! I have some pieces of clothing that I wanted to sell for a long time, I've worn them once or twice for the last two years. But I either was to lazy to take pictures of them to put them on a sale, or thought that "maybe one day I'm gonna wear it". Your video inspired me so much! I'm going to look through all my clothes now and put a copule of thing on sale.
Thanks so much for this video, as much as I recovered a long time ago, I still struggle seeing my 'new body' and shopping for clothes in my natural shape, thanks for normalising this
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Can totally relate to the struggle of getting rid of clothes.. I've recently moved house and trying to declutter and get rid of stuff I've had for years. I really get attached to clothes and other possessions ! They often have so many memories attached to them. I've had to make rash decisions and really think about whether it fits, I actually wear it, whether I'm likely to wear it.........😭
Great honest and realistic body image chat and advice. Really helpful 🙏💗 especially the part about how to deal with growing into a womanly body when you don't really want to. Looking at the other positives of weight gain aside from the womanly body is a good tactic. Telling yourself that you're living in in a healthy adult body is much more helpful way of looking at it.💗
Take care sweetie and thank you for another great video. Congratulations for getting rid of all those clothes 👌👏🙌 I've also been procrastinating about going through my clothes for AGES!🤦🏻♀️
Have a great week next week 💗
thanks for this lovely comment, you always make me smile ! ✨
i’m so glad this video helped you - i hope your move went well 🥰 have a lovely week x
@@RoMitchell aww bless you thank you. Glad I make you smile ☺️,
The move has been a rollercoaster of emotions and a mixture of stress and excitement. However I think/hope in the long run it will definitely be worth it and I'll be happy here 🙏💗 (touch wood) 🤞
Thank you for your endless encouraging words, you're an inspiration xx
if u don't mind me asking what are u studying at the moment? what would u like to do as a career?
thank you for your videos. they are such a comfort. struggling w body and face image at the moment but you're a constant reminder to keep going. thanks for existing. (:
When I clean out my closet I always try on the clothes I’m not sure about, it makes a big difference in deciding if I’m going to keep a piece or not. Also with the things that i mark as a “maybe” I make an outfit with it so that I reach for it more easily later on 😊
I’m one of those people who just wears a few outfits and never branches out lol Ty for being so open :)
you are amazing ro, just what i needed today. thank u for all you do!! sending love xx
sending love right back at you :)✨
this was such an helpful video thank you ro❤️
I sold and donated my old clothes today! I saw this video yesterday and today I made the decision to get rid of the clothes I had when I was smaller and tomorrow I’m going to shop for new clothes.
This is just wut I needed bc last night I tried on a ton of jeans that were loose on me last year and they were soooo much tighter😖😖😖
which is fine !! your body is supposed to change, don’t let your brain bring you down x
Thankyou thankyou THANKYOU for this video. It is exactly what i needed to hear today 🖤
thank you so much, i love you ro ☺️💞🫶🏻
i love you! 🤍
Yay can’t wait to watch this Ro. Your videos always make me smile 🤍
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Thank you for being so candid. I think it's time to get rid of the jeans in my wardrobe that don't fit me.
Can you make another video about finding yourself away from your eating disorder and recovery, that has been something that has been a huge struggle for me right now ❤️❤️
The body checking felt completely relatable. I did an experiment and i checked over 200 times in a day - just to be sure. Any advice to practically enforce this? As there are days i can't feel the strength to resist. Love you ro 😀
get out of the house as much as you can, cover your mirror at all times with paper or a blind, put post it notes all over your mirror 🤍
have you seeked or are seeking professional help?
@@RoMitchell Thankyou. I will try that :)
Love you and always love a longer video
You're honestly one of the biggest reasons for me being able to recover. You showed me that recovery is worth it and that my life was waiting for me all along. Thank you so much. I wish you the best with your own therapy and journey!
I have the opposite problem I used to be a big person but I got diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and lost a lot of weight I feel heaps better from loosing the weight but most of my clothes now are too big for me
“-couldnt stand the thought of somebody else knowing my weight when i didnt.” I was told the same thing: oh if its triggering just look away - like, thanks but, this whole thing is about not feeling good enough and escaping myself, its not gonna help my idea of others judging me, being the only one in the room not knowing, its just gonna be even more scary. Sorry to anyone Reading this… it just felt so good being recognised - makes it easier to move on, let go, knowing that it was a “normal” reaction from my side ♥️ Thanks Ro
literaly thank you so much you have helped me so much
Yay, good morning from Canada!!♥️♥️
Keep what you love if you don’t like it then give it away. But if you do keep it! Times are hard now so be good to yourself. Your amazing for doing all you do and hope you will be very happy always with your boy friend! 🥰❤️❤️❤️
haven’t watch the video yet but i already know it’s going to be a good one ! Thank you so much for everything 🫶🏼🌞
ah 🥺 how sweet
I love a good charity shop bargain and also take unwanted clothes to charity shops. Like the idea of Vinted and Depop too!!
I was literally looking for videos about this exact topic the other day! 😅
This came out at the most perfect time.
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Im still gaining weight and my thighs don’t completely touch but now when I sit down they smush and they didn’t used to do that and it freaks me out how different they look when I’m standing and sitting. Idk how to cope because they’re still getting bigger
i am going to go through this now. buying up a size or two. its awful. hope it feels. better when i buy clothes that just actually fit nice