Harsh Reality: Why Nice and Simple People Struggle in the Corporate World? | Career Talk
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Should the government not takes action against those managers who are frustrated from their childhood and always want to torture someone for no reason to satisfy their ego and frustration,they do harassment,bulley,targetting someone who is nice and kind just to scare rest of the people.why office politics exit bcoz it doesn't help company at all but it just satisfy the ego and frustration of manager,senior managers and rest of employee who are good in licking
WE INDIANS HAVE REALLY MADE I.T. INDUSTRY VERY VERY TOXIC
That's true. They even changed the nice work culture of IBM and HP during after Indian management came into picture
@@sandykuttan True Indian Management make it worst
Should the government not takes action against those managers who are frustrated from their childhood and always want to torture someone for no reason to satisfy their ego and frustration,they do harassment,bulley,targetting someone who is nice and kind just to scare rest of the people.why office politics exit bcoz it doesn't help company at all but it just satisfy the ego and frustration of manager,senior managers and rest of employee who are good in licking
@@hebrew80 How? Can you please explain?
Every other corporate industry too
Remain the nice person you are and ignore all the nasty people.
As much as I like this comment, I know this does not work always if you want to live in this world i.e. sticking to your default nature of being gentle when situation demands you to be assertive and in the real world situations will demand you to be assertive many times. sad!
@@ethansmih520you are so true
My 20 years in IT have taught me that productive outcomes come from finding the right balance between being nice and assertive. Being nice and approachable creates a positive work environment; co-workers and customers want to work with you, creating your brand value. While being assertive with clear communication sets strong boundaries that ensures no one tramples you over or takes unfair advantage of you.
I'm a simple person but talented. I face all these issues. But when I involve and do all these non-sense office politics, I feel I'm acting and cheating people. Not sure which side i should take. I get confused sometimes.
Trust in your instincts, if being nice is in your nature, you don't have to change much, rather you have to identify who's taking advantage of you and make them stop taking it anymore. The world is an ugly place doesn't mean we have to be equally ugly to survive
Same here
Then show your talent 😉
@@rohitnayak9952 by that only I'm surviving so far. 😀
@sathya same here , and there are millions like you. I think you cannot expect a solution because office politics will always remain for centuries n millieaum. If you consider office work as just a work which was present 100000 years ago as well in kings palace n workshop. This work politics gave birth to civilization countries caste creed n religion. So it's not going to go n lines will be drawn which will bring new communities n caste n religion. But being simple or apolitical may harm you physically mentally social however in eyes of the universal creater you will be the winner or I can see sikhandar. You will be the most fortunate in billions to reach or touch your godly soul residing in side u .. because you know the intrinsic interal path to soul which other will take 10 births to figure it out. So in that sense trust me during the time of your death people who been nice simple and sametime workoholic were happy leaving the world. Just keep doing as much you can forward your family, keep saying no atleast once a month if u can.
Nice and simple people are used in every sphere of life,not just corporate.Sad,but this is the reality we have to accept.
Sad. But what you said is right. I'm going through this at home and in office
Nice person are used every where😅. Even by their partners too 😂
Unfortunately, I am still struggling at the age of 42. I am soft punching bag of toxic managers to loose job.
If you know that you've become a punching bag, why can't you take measures to be more assertive?
and still you bought this channel membership
You aren't the only one, rest assured.
@@javabrain8480not easy bro
@@subhodipbanerjee6699Sir can we make spiritual progress in corporate jobs?
Usually hardworking and no nonsense people are given very low ratings and never given their due in office and life
Especially in govt and CPSU services.
@@akn650 true. Even in IT sector, if we question the existing practice, we become enemies
Truly said !
Bosses decide who they want and who they don't. No matter what.
I chose being myself.... universe will take care ...i can't loose myself ❤.... every thing has cost..at what cost you need to build rappo .. with influencer... everyone knows...its not just straight forward.. answer..go and build network..in corporate..its I will use you and you can use me
I am simple and nice but deep inside me, the most dangerous person. I survived many bad work places with dedication and fighter spirit. When it comes to corporate, all around me are temporary. I pick my fights and let go of many unnecessary conflicts. I use sometimes destruction tools to avoid pressure. I study people by monitoring them. I don't hurt anyone if he or she in their own and hard worker. I hate lazy people and who take advantages to climb the ladder easily. There's no mercy for weak people nowadays and its really about surviving. I never step back and ready to go to the extreme if i have to. I am good at my work but hard to control too. I work by my own and i never liked teamwork for many reasons related to work culture and mis-using the meaning of teamwork. I support the kind and simple people and attack indirectly the aggressive ones. Almost 17 years and the years ahead are coming. Respect and peace to all
destruction tools ?
I am 28 and still don't understand how to conduct my self-in office. This video is a blessing. ❤
Same here but I started my career only 3 years back
Sabse dosti rakho dushmani kisise nahi group me na raho koi bhi
Just get a second source of income and get out of corporate. I just dream of this day.
Exactly
Sometimes, it also helps just to write down your pointers and be better prepared before a call or a meeting on a piece of paper. Nice and simple people tend to struggle to put forward their work or thoughts at right time. A piece of paper or notes in your phone would help to build up confidence in initial phases.
Thanks for this great advice.
No place in the world but we dont even need the world but we need to leave it and seek the God. He always welcomes nice and simple people.
In India, it's impossible to get a mentor from Seniors, because, they themselves are trying to save their jobs.
Same thing happened with me.. Due to soft nature I was laid off 😢😢.. World is very cunning. I don't have job its very hard time
Some managers are ass holes
Send your resume brother
I will check my connection
Bro. Ur edu. Qulification
absolutely, they get side-lined, not recognized, taken advantage of
1. Assetiveness Training
2. Showcasing good work
3. Net working
4. Mentorship and Support
5. Office politics
None of these taught in Engineering curriculam -- Instead all of these are very profound in POLITICS. Hence good IT employees should be from Politial background only
I am this person, I am currently 35, unmarried, no friends.... I never have been terminated from any job.Its only me because of my nature pressed by others leads to depression, sadness and left from job and than cry for leaving
I want to get out of this mess but dont know where to start...only those who are smart and clever will survive in this game.
Bro. I am currently passed b. Sc confuse to what i do mca or b.ed kya coperate me high salary milega is good work life balance?
nobody is too smart and clever. And self respect wont help you or anyone to earn or grow. Just learn not to react or sometimes just simply respond you are not comfortable. You are a peaceful soul. That is more important. And nring small change in your lifestyle. like mandir mein jana ya morning walk par. dont let emotions get you carried away. Always remember that you are not alone. Cry when it feels like crying. Be self compassionate. I am also going to be 34 and age is just a number. Dont create blockages in your mind. Be fearless. Have a great day ahead.
God is always with you sir 🙏 Never lose hope 🙏
No u r wrong.only those who are good in licking manager,buttering ass will survive in this job
Shadi kar lo sab sahi ho jayega
The way you collect the words in your mind is amazing. Your choice of words shows how much knowledge you have acquired through reading, listening and thinking. Inspirational.
What you told is really true sir. Simple people are taken for granted. Though they are straight forward, people like only favourism.
Good Insight, and that's why I am opening a momo stall beside the IT park that I used to go. I will be rich.
😂
Sir, Put some light on introvert people and how they can progress in corporate world
Is this shit IT world or a job we do for our eating worth changing ourselves as a person. We are doing job to survive. Sure we can’t rule the world with this stupid IT jobs.
Always love these videos. Thank you
VERY WELL SAID DONTBBREAK YOUR HEAD TO SUIT SOME GREEDY IDIOT ABOVE YOU AS IT WOULD MEAN CHANGING YOUR VALUE SYSTEM SELF ESTEEM YOUR REASONING POWER ETC ETC..ITS TOTAL CRAP...THEY OPERSTE AS MAFIAS AND FEW BENEFIT
Well said!. 100% true, solutions are nicely explained 😊
200% resonate with what I go through. Very useful tips
U r absolutely spot on by sharing this valuable content for corporate employees..information provided by u is totally worth. .keep uploading more content related to this topic in deep..keep acknowledged to human beings. .Thanks from me 🇮🇳 नवी मुंबई
Eye-opener content for me, thanks so much ❤
Very true, most people who succeed are the ones who do not agree with you on anything in a meeting, they will come in and say dont do it this way but not suggest how to do it. If asked they will say you are the expert on on how to get the job done. They are basically people who want to save there own skin. It happens more in India than in US and Europe, I see meaningless emails that have no value added to them. That is the sad reality (20 Years work ex). Also thats why tech people are asy to fire because you can easily blame them.
Wow...This is really a good video...I'm a nice & simple person...I am just learning to state my concerns in an assertive way instead of being aggressive...When I joined IT I was so motivated to learn everything and loved my job, now after being 2 yrs in IT having faced too much office politics I am starting to feel like I don't belong here and I am starting to have doubts about my survival capacity in this field. But as u have said office politics is inevitable.
Time to move on to new opportunities when its comes start exploring... unless and until your current manager has job you will get one too
Maybe do freelancing if you're still passionate about tech
Change the filed and migrate to good first world 🌎 , third world office politics in almost in all fields
@@macdeep8523 That's wat I am really thinking about. But I don't have the guts to take that risk financially
@@macdeep8523no. migrating to first world is like selling oneself for nothing. Be strong and assertive and build your own country the way it deserves. Don't build colonizers' countries.
Try not to be employee anyway. Hope is in your capabilities not in the so-called first world.
Bitter truth, thanks for this informative video.
be nice, be simple. but be very strong mentally and physically so that u can easily fight off big bullies
True talk
I know why this happens..
There are 50 - 70 % people don't work properly or they may not be having the required knowledge even after having many years of experience..
They are always having fear inside that some nice guys may expose them to the management..
So they do all kind of politics to suppress the nice and talented guys..
They want to maintain their fake image at any cost- there comes the politics..
They will push the nice guys to work on unfamiliar area. . So that they can put pressure on nice and talented guys..
They want to get high pay with less work so they will kill anyone who don't know how to handle this kind of things.
This politics is there in every industry and in every companies in India.
Nice and talented guys are the targets for this politics..
IT Experience never teaches how to fix the issue effectively in short time..
It teaches how to extend the 1 day work as 1 week work or one month work.
Some guys makes the simple work a complex one just for their own benefits.
Nice n simple PPL kicked out by office politics..
What to do in this case were nice people should go then
@@rakeshsenapati87out of india
Thanks alot sir I am your big fan and alwys I found your knowledge sharing videos helpful yes I am kind of nice and simple and faced lot of struggles in my corporate journey...
Will definitely try to avoid this to become successful... Please make more such videos that helps us alot thank you sir ❤
Anytime when I am in need... Career Talk comes with the related video😅
Thank you for the update. Mostly apt. If you’re nice and simple, you are looked as someone not taking risks and not a fit for hardcore leadership roles. Just a regular decent guy who can work regular roles but not feasible for any higher team management roles. So limited hikes and nominal performance feedback.
Very nice content. Shared with my son who is all of above
🎯 spot on, your doing great job
Very well explained.. thank you
Very insightful information.
Solutions are really valid... Thank you
Video made my day as i am exactly as described in the video. I was reflecting on this and came across this content. Thanks
Thank you for this....I wish lectures like these were a part of our formal education and upbringing. I wish our engagements with our elders, mentors, teacher, spiritual, career, academic guides, mentors were talking to us about all this. Anyway, here I am and most of what was said was somehow discovered during my struggles in journey called life.
Do share your thoughts in comments below, hit the like button and share this video in your whatsapp network...Thanks a lot for your support. It means a lot to me.
Hi sir I received a tempting offer from Oracle India, but with the current recession and talks of layoffs, I'm torn. I've been in front-end development for 9 years, currently at 20 LPA. The new offer is 35 LPA, but I'm nervous about transitioning to a product company like Oracle and uncertain about my skills fitting in. Any advice or experiences to share? Would love some guidance on whether I should make the . please reply me
Well put
It is not just the corporate...any profession
The Rat Race is not for everyone
Realising that will take a load of people's shoulders
Mentally very strong and straight forward ness you will survive 😊
Over the past 30 years, I have had a variety of work experiences and "Why Nice and Simple People Struggle in the Corporate World" is a true testament to that. Especially when you work for the world's leading companies and a lot of idiots.
You are simply simply amazing Sir... 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Great advice! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Very informative & Good learning from you Sir
💯✅ true
I faced this but it's my nature can't change, don't know what to do
Yes , you have to be vocal , even if you are wrong that's what get you attention
That's reality in INDIA,not everywhere
Thank you very much sir
Sure,we will feel east indian company era very soon
Subscribed with just one video of this.
Thankyou sir for the useful video ❤
Thank you for videos, 💯 its all about me....
Never be too straightforward, Straight trees are cut first...
Yes
You need to be perfect always to get it done, I will not say be cunning
That's the reason why the west invents and we are left to learn what they invent. Identifying talent is a special skill that a leader should possess. All the points you have identified are spot on and it shows the leaders can only judge based on outer behaviour. That's hollow and sad.
First video..here I subscribe you......if you are talented...then nothing to worry
The answer is yes!
Personal branding in corporate is needed. Make sure that you’re real in this.
Right
Everywhere it seems but who will change God only but no human beings
Thank you for your precise info about office politics and survival method....what i suggest is instead change your core character....why not join a work which is "Nice people" required...For example sales rep. or similar line.
Basically, the solution is to either become one of them, or just go homeless. I'm writing a book on these subjects
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well spoken
i understand for introverts like me IT is not a good carrer choice my long term goal is to become a govternment employee i work towards crack ssc cgl
Sir, Thank You For this. Struggles for around 5 Years with this problem.
Nice people - Empathetic,Kind hearted and Co operative.
Simple person - Straight forward,No nonsense, Focused only on work( These people impacted by office politics)
Action steps:
1) Take assertiveness training
2) Start to build ur personal brand so that u get the visibility for the good work you do
3) Seek support, Mentorship, Guidance from seniors etc
4)Right contacts - Right info-Right time -Right opportunities
To summarize the gentleman's suggestion in one word it's "Chamchagiri" which only works in corporate world.
Valid across India
Seeking mentorship and support is a double edged sword ⚔️ it works but it depends on the role you’re at. If you mid level seeking too much help or assistance can be considered as a red flag 🚩 and put you up for a performance review as well. If you’re mid level and have fumbled and not been much serious about your work, then be cautious at the same time don’t push blame get ready to take self accountability 100% if you’re entry level or associate then one can take mentorship and assistance from collegues and seniors at will 😊
I always believe that being nice & simple doesn't necessarily mean that someone can't be simultaneously smart, bold and tactful as well. It's all about balance and knowing when to shift gears in which particular situation.
It's possible your video is more applicable for companies in India. I have worked for 6 years in a small Product development company with 100 employees and then 9 years at American Airlines where I am a retiree and now 3 years at Wells Fargo - all in the USA and all in Perm positions. I have not played any politics. Just did my work and moved on. There were some conflicts at times but these were amicably sorted out. US Airways-American Airlines was the best place to work in my career, very good team/collegial environment and in fact my patience, collegial/amiable attitude, tenacity, were all valued here even though I was not so much technically suave like some of my co-developers.
Nice guy finish last......
Stand up for yourself Guys no one is going to do that for you
Corpororate world is ruthless it acknowledges only who speak and visible rest go unnoticed and can become victim
Many times simple and nice persons are made scapegoats when things go wrong ex. no win for deals, bugs in software, project delay, mistakes in demos and presentation etc etc
When time comes for non perfomance simple and nice people are first to get fired and laid off.
Even if you are doing good and taking initiative your co worker who is working form long will not like and feel insecure due to you. He will point out your mistakes and communicate with your manager for your poor performance and mistakes ot of jelousy and insecurity.
Its very easy to point mistakes and blame rather than take initiative and start project.
This commonly happens in companies like syntel (Atos), Persistent systems as there are people sitting on chair for ages and insecure to proect job
For senior managment its easy to blame them, put them in PIP and then fire.
No problem 😊😊😊😊
Its not just corporate world. Same applies for businessmen
Good info
Nice video 😍
Life is not about climbing corporate ladder or picking name and fame.
Even one can't take his own body 😂😂
But by doing office politics they will for sure take tons of suffering with them.
Those who r on top of corporate have 1 thing in common.
Lick your seniors and kick your juniors or equals.
You never know how much mental suffering you gave to good persons.
Live and let Live😊
Everything is temporary earning name,fame,wealth are all temporary.
Just never harm others for some personal benefit😢
Right
Very true sir..
Nice speech Sir
This video is sufficient to understand Office Politics 😅😊
Truth 💯⚔️🙌
100% right
What I observed is nice and clueless people are often branded as selfish and refusing to take challenges. Its impossible to get along with everyone. One has to set boundaries
Absolutely right
and at the end of your 20yrs loyal service when you are finally made redundant all that really matters is the severance entitlements that your union bargained and negotiated for with management on your behalf.
I'm wondering why do many billionaires prefer to be simple if it has so many drawbacks with it?
Maybe it is because they know how to keep the credits for their work with them. They know how to own their impact and skill that they have.
True sir
good advice sir
Some useful tip please change your font colour different from bold letter it's unreadable on blue colour
Very true
Simple and Nice person with exceptional talent among peers will never face discrimination as he is irreplaceable, but simple and nice person with average skills surely don't have place in corporate world
Yeah, So long as crooks with average technical skills are also forced out; if we cannot achieve that, then I am ok with retaining simple and average skilled person
What a BS toxic positivity based statement !!!!
You can count such people on your fingers in your office building. Heard about bell curve ? Fat tail distribution maybe ???
I can completely relate to it. I worked for 4 companies 2 out of it I got victimized to intense politics, 2 are not that much only good performance was enough.
But unless you really gone through it, you dont know how it is like. You need to either avoid such places or play the politics game.
The politics really gets intense when people dont have much work to do in their job. I have funny quote, "a project can be in development mode or maintenance mode or politics mode"
Exactly said..
Very good video
Nice info
True