That´s my point!!!! then you tell me why most life-coaches says that you should improve all the time and aim higher?? Thanks for watcthing my video by the way 🙂
@@GetThePicture You are looking at this from one side. Is easier to find a good coach or a knowledgeable friend that will serve as an enabler. A good coach teaches how to do the things you mention. Getting started is hard. Simply put we mostly suffer from unworthiness. Where does it stem from and why? Overachievers are constantly seeking approval and disappointed when they don't get the response they expected. So one needs to unravel that stuff. Let's toss some childhood trauma I'm there. You need help discerning the emotional feedback your body is giving. You are however, a talented creator!
@@GetThePicture I think you might have misjudged Tony Robbins here. I do agree that most coaches have no idea what they're talking about, but I have followed Tony closely for years and all I can say is, he's #1 for a reason.. The first and most important lesson he teaches us is gratitude. Gratitude for what we have and where we are now. He teaches that although improving yourself 1% everyday is not only the path to success but can also bring fulfilment, we don't forget to be grateful and satisfied with the now.
People want a shortcut to be succesful. Spoiler Alert !! there is no shortcut ,and you will fail often in life and mayble just maybe you will fail some more. Can you feel that taste ? Me too , that is life , welcome to the real world.
So, I don't like life coaching but I want to point to article at video. Constant never end doesn't mean never stop. Do what to do just 1 min or 1 hour every day but do it EVERY DAY, constantly. You have a lot of time for relax.
I feel like there’s a dark side to everything in life. Religion, politics, healthcare system, criminal justice system, pharmaceutical system... coaching industry etc. There are genuine coaches out there and I appreciate content like this to help with preventing toxic positivity and manipulating people. Definitely enlightening.
Agreed. If you are seeing a coach and also have any kind of MH diagnosis ( stable pref) make sure that perhaps that coach also has training coaching in that area like ADHD. And make sure they are licensed in an area like LiCSW, LPC, etc. Its not that unlicensed people can’t be good coaches, but as a consumer, you have more protection if that coach is also covered by a licensing board in their field. There are many who retire from practice and become specific coaches in certain fields like ADHD or even nutrition issues but those are specialty areas and really need expertise in those areas. Just be good advocates for yourself. Ask about any licensing and there are no “licensing “ boards for coaches, just for their original degrees. And only talking about ADHD Coaching, weekly accountability is really important and if you become unstable in a co-existing MI, they should refer you to safety provider such as an ER for psych assessment and then pause your coaching until you are stable. Never saying you cant get coaching and therapy but need to be stable, period, before you do coaching.
@@JaysonT1 Wow i never heard of that. Well 50 here so not one of those. And many i know of are also not barely out of HS. You have a right to ask them ???? And if they wont answer, theres your answer.
Most thumbs down are from Life coaches! This video makes great points. Granted. Some people are excellent at coaching; however, this trend has become a fad with very little entry barriers. Anyone can claim to be a coach.
Excellent point! Any one can claim to be a coach. Any one can claim their "snake oil" happens to be the very thing you need. It's up to you, the consumer, to make sure you are getting a quality product. Ask your perspective coach what qualifications they have; what certifications and training they have. Interview them before you start shelling out your cash.
I am not a life coach. To be called a life coach you do need a certification just like teaching. Although the institutes are unregulated, JUST LIKE RELIGIOUS LEADERS.
Well, "you can do anything that you want", doesn't mean to load up one self with unrealistic goals and tasks ! Realistic and measurable goals and focus on minimalism for the day is the key! Not denying prevalence of scams, however it's in every industry. In my opinion, life coaching is way better than dull-witted counselling. To each his own though!
Dull-witted counseling? Yeah, I mean who would want to be guided by an educated licensed mental health professional when they can be coached by some "life coach" that just moved out of their mothers basement and flings around a bunch of Law of Attraction buzz words?
How to become a life coach: Step 1: fail at doing anything legitimately useful or productive. Step 2: overpay at unaccredited, for-profit program for a “certification.” Step 3: charge suckers and pretend like you’ve actually done anything worth emulating
Amen! I worked for a life coaching company for more than 4 years before I woke up to the dependence model that's baked in. If you didn't achieve your goals, it's because you "lacked integrity." Such fooey. It's 100% true about moving the "finish" line further away. Get a real friend is great advice. I would add that journaling is helpful too.
Ugh. Me too. 4 years on the dot. Quit about 6 months ago and am still undoing some of the damage it caused even to me. Not that there weren't truly positive things that were helpful to many others, but overall, once you're past the "high" of the first couple years or so of coaching, a real darkness and anxiety can settle in and be perpetuated by the same person(s) who "saved" you initially. I still can't get over my boss who believes every illness and disease is caused by the individual themselves for not having the mindfulness to overcome it and for "allowing" the negativity into their life. Some teachings even went as far as to say anyone who was in an accident that caused paralysis was subconsciously "attracting" that fate because they were tired of life's overwhelming demands. Honestly brings tears to my eyes just thinking about how messed up that is and how many truly and wholeheartedly believe that.
@@EastmanEditing Fortuanetly I never spend a cent on any of that life coaching stuff. I have met a few people that are on that trip that you explain: you attract everything and an accident ist your fault. Imagine if you were raped as a child and that is your fault.. I find it quite preposterous to say it nicely (while I do agree that taking on the victim position is not going to help you moving forward I despise not acknowledging the reality of what happened and that it in fact was not your fault and that accidents do happen). What you really need is time and friends and you will do just fine. Now if you are really sick and require medication then time and friends might not do it anymore. Also if you don't have friend or friends that can help you and don't mind paying money for it then a life coach might be right for you. It might even help you feel better..
@@VictorianMaid99 Great ideas. Praying is not for me/us but I just recently read my journal from 20 years ago and it was very interesting. The key is also to really trust yourself- that will make you more confident, etc. But don't become arrogant :-) I just recently lost a "friend" because he completely took off and is now on his way to becoming a life coach. He inherited millions, never worked a single day in his life (in his 30s now) and is telling people to get out of their comfort zone.
@@fabiancanada8876 I understand. I am a big fan of creating a journal; it relives my stress because I can place on paper what was bothering me and like you mentioned, look at it twenty years later and see how I changed. Or in my case I will read it a few weeks later to see what I have changed in my life. All free!
I am a Life coach and NLP practitioner.. my client's lives have transformed to par excellence. I think it depends on what the life Coach's goals are.. is he/she coaching to earn big money or intend to help people. My passion is to help and that's why my clients never feel cheated. 🙏
NLP is a cult. Richard Bandler is an alcoholic, drug addict and prostitute murderer. Your beliefs are based on a manual he wrote while high. Most of the claims by NLP have been investigated as part of peer reviewed research and found to be nonsense. If you actually want to help people study councilling for 5 years with an accredited university.
@@KimberleyJackshaw Idiots like you are part of the problem constantly blaming the victim because it's easier to do that than admit that life coaches are con-artists.
the purpose of the video is to attack the idea of life coaching. So he does everything possible to bring the worst side of the coaching. He says "your coach takes a look inside of you and finds out nothing ?! so you are in trouble" - really ??? nothing??? everyone meant to be professor, coach, influencer ? what are other jobs for then ? service industry , admin jobs, sales , promotion - a good coach can direct a person to something that he is good at too... i don't believe person is absolutely useless in everything he/she does... anyways, u have your opinion and i have mine
Actually, coaching is about more than that. It's also about helping people to understand and deal with their emotional reactions to their experiences. Why wouldn't anyone want to become more intelligent and self aware? "Friends" - even "good friends" are simply not trained to help you do that.
Yes, but the ironic thing about people who like that sort of thing is that they're usually toxic as all hell. If you don't like life coaching and goal-setting then you are not worth their time, and they love to to pretend that self-help is like real psychology but that is just not true. I talked to so many people who think this way that I'm actually just done with these kind of people. and the total lack of understanding that they are being affected by the Dunning Kruger effect. You have to be smart enough to even realize you're stupid.
Nadnerb The 3rd a therapist helps to deal with the past or with mental or emotional problems. Life coaches help with nutrition, fitness, etc.. more on action and what you can do to better your life
I guess they didn't bother to understand what life coaching is about. Most of us cannot identify with clarity the problems we are in and how to approach and work on them. Life coaches are specially good at getting those results. This is what I came to understand about life coaching. I guess it's totally fine if you don't feel the need of any life coaching.
hmm, with all due respect, this is an over simplification of what life coaching is and not representative of good coaching. Yes, there are a lot of scammers out there. But that is true in any industry, especially one as new as this one. However, it depends on who you work with. I am a coach and a healer myself and here are some things I’d like to mention. Please note that this is based on how I approach coaching and healing. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I do know several coaches and all in my circle have a similar approach. 1. The idea behind coaching is to provide guidance, help and support for people to accomplish goals. To help them get the tools and develop the skills necessary to navigate their life in a way that is better for them. Not perfect, better. The idea that coaching is about realizing your full potential is NOT something I have ever heard. So, not sure where you got that from (Tony Robbins?), but it is not the way most coaches I know approach it. It sounds nice, but it is not realistic and I do not believe it is representative of what coaching is. 2. Coaching is driven by the client’s goals. So, there should not be any situation in which a coach “blames” the client for not improving. Not sure if I misunderstood what you were trying to say. 3. Coaching is not only about constant self-improvement. While I do believe growth is a life-long endeavor, self-reflection and self-awareness are key. You can be content with where you are and know you want to do more. They are not mutually exclusive. Integration, appreciation and enjoyment of where you are is an important part of coaching and any journey. 4. IMHO, a good coach will help you develop the skills and provide you with tools to learn how to self-reflect, regulate and navigate life. Not everyone knows how to or can figure this out on their own. If everyone could, a lot of industries would not exist. 5. Friends are not the same. For one, if you have a complicated situation, most friends will not have the tools, skills or patience to guide you through that. Mine do. I do. But, in my experience, most people do not have those kinds of friendships. Plus, and objective perspective is always important. 6. I agree. We should NOT need coaches, counselors, therapists, etc. But we do. 7. I have a bit of a different approach because I do healing work as well. And, the coaches in my circle tend to do both. But, a lot of us are driven by our desire to help others heal, grow and feel better about themselves and their lives. Mostly because we went through the same. 8. Tony Robbins is not a life coach. He is a motivational speaker. They can go together, but they are different. He may call himself a life coach now, but most coaches I know do not consider him as such. A lot of the points you made seem to be referring specifically to him and his style. Not coaching as a whole. He is very successful and probably a lovely person, but I would never go to him or recommend him to anyone based on what I’ve seen of him. Even, if they could afford it. His brand is pretty much what you described and not what the coaches I know [and myself] practice.
I think life coaching is a scam. However, certified therapists who have studied and then done training are valuable. Life coaching has no real training, its just something anyone can do without any regulation. Regulation is important because it holds you accountable. Life coaching is an expensive scam and anyone who falls for it is unlucky, I would never see anykind of "life coach". They may not realise it is a scam at first but they will eventually, maybe even many years later. As someone who is finishing their masters this year, and as a relatively young male, I aim to stop this scam. I dislike anything that takes advantage of people.At least therapy through a profession can be free (through government subsidies) and the person is well educated and not in it for the money necessarily.. I live in New Zealand and will be moving back home to Australia soon :). Yes we have free healthcare here and therapy is subsidised or free. Thats why I guess we don't need life coaches (or have the life coach problem on the same scale) like America does, I also know that in America university is very expensive (which sucks, you guys should get what we get here). If only education was cheaper or free in America.
I am not sure where you live but therapy is not free in the USA. It is sometimes covered by insurance, but only sometimes and usually not in its entirety. As to life coaching being a scam, you are entitled to your opinion, which you seem to feel pretty strongly about. Have you ever worked with a life coach? I'm curious. I've worked with many therapists in a professional capacity as well as a client. And, in my experience, they can be just as bad and cause as much damage. I've also met several wonderful therapists and coaches. So, I prefer not to use a wide brush to paint everyone within an industry. There was a time that Psychiatrists were considered quacks. Anyway, I would encourage you to keep an open mind since at the end of the day the one thing you and I do have in common is that we want to help people. My approach is based on my own life experience and what helped me. Best of luck to you and to your clients.
Bottom line, life coaching is unregulated and therefore unreliable. Life coaches are DANGEROUS and should not be trusted by means what so ever and should be held to legally responsible for harm done to clients.
@@JaysonT1 You are entitled to your opinion. But, regulation doesn't absolve anyone from scamming or hurting others. Look at the banking industry in the USA. Plus, as someone who used to help run a support group, the damage that I've seen done by licensed doctors and psychologists is pretty scary. I understand that regulation makes some people feel more comfortable. Like you, those people should go to a licensed therapist. But, that is not true for everyone.
Action speaks louder than words. Stop going to seminars. instead, make a plan and get to the business of life. It's not about the law of attraction, it's about doing the right things that get results.
This reminds me of a point made in the book 'the 7 habits of highly effective people' where he talks about needing to have 'the right map'. I strongly think this applies to life coaches and self help in general. it's not a scam, you just have the wrong map! 'Suppose you wanted to arrive at a specific location but you were given the wrong map. You might work on your behavior - you could try harder, be more diligent, double your speed. But your efforts would only succeed in getting you to the wrong place faster. But If you had the right map, then diligence becomes important, and when you encounter frustrating obstacles along the way, then attitude can make a real difference. But the first and most important requirement is the accuracy of the map.' - Steven Covey
Everyone chooses their own truth. There’s no one size fits all for anything. This is a simplistic view of a topic the maker of this video is most likely unfamiliar with and they probably had good intentions. I can tell u from personal experience I’ve been working on myself and have done a lot of self development work and it is a beautiful process, I am becoming the best version of myself and accept all of me. I hope if you’re out there looking for guidance to improve your life in whatever way u want, that this doesn’t deter u from getting the help u deserve. Love and positive energy to u all💗💫⭐️✨🌟
You are 100% right. There is NO one size fits all for anything, but this is what I see... But maybee I hit a nerve since you watched the video and took the time to comment 🙂
Get The Picture? I took the time to reply to hopefully help others who may be looking for help in their own lives. I come from a place of love and understanding so although I have a different viewpoint on the matter than u, I can still try to understand why u may feel the way u do. I watched the video because the title caught my eye since I am 100% proponent for life coaching. So good job on the title of your video, it does draw people in. And just to clarify I’ve been developing myself because I want to, not because someone told me I needed to do anything. We are all fine just the way we are, there’s nothing to be fixed. But if u happen to want more, to be more, to give more, there’s nothing wrong with that either 😀 Bless u love, we are connected in this universe✨ sending u only love, peace and positive, good energy always💗🤗
I agree that we can figure out things on our own, but some people need that additional guidance because it’s so easy to get lost in our head within a fast pace world. Watching videos on TH-cam is general and 1:1 coaching is personalized.
I'm learning to become a life coach and there is no such thing for us as scamming clients, we want our clients to never come back to us! The more often our clients come back to us, the more it tells how we aren't able to help this person (unless the client isn't open for changes nor honest to him/herself), so we need to find a coach that fits the client's need. a REAL coach wants the best for its clients and yes, we know more about the human potential, and how our brain and emotions work than other people do. That's what makes a real life coach a good life coach. We don't claim to be magicians or to give you a magic recipe or whatever, we are here to help you understand your situation and get you to where you want to be in life, and we will NEVER EVER EVER tell people WHAT to do :). We are there to support you only at moments you need it.
Life coach here, Catalyst LLC out here in Reno, NV. You appear to be very negative toward Life Coaches and that's fine. If you've had a bad experience with Tony Robbins or a Life Coach that is so unfortunate and a I feel for you. May I suggest taking the opportunity to re-evaluate what it means to always working on yourself? You can work on yourself and still be happy. You can be busy, and still find time to take breaks. I hope your life is amazing and successful. I'd be happy to give you advice pro bono. Just wanna help people :)
"You can work on yourself and still be happy." I agree. The problem is the coaches that are saying that things can always be better, they just need more time..........And money of course!!
Ah yes... this is true. In that case we coaches need to police ourselves from selling "snake oil". I have a 3 point system and analyze my client first to see if they even need a consultant. My goal is to build people and their wealth. If they are already doing great then I move on to the next. I hope more Coaches follow my path in this. All in all, you are right, I can see that as well
I find it interesting that you don’t find value in something but yet you feel the need to make a video claiming that no one can find value in it either. I have had horrible experiences with doctors, lawyers, mechanics, fast food workers, etc. but would never think of making a video claiming that none of these industries had value for anyone! I have found that religion has no value for me but would never dream of making a video claiming that religion has no value for anyone and they should just find a friend to help them along. Coaching is not for everyone and if someone does not see value in it then they might be better off just getting a dog instead.
If a life coach does what they do they help the client take action by providing them insight into what they are thinking and what they're currently doing or not doing and provide guidance on how to make changes and shift their perspective on taking action.
You can still improve, aim higher and be satisfied and happy. Actually it makes me very happy to know that things will most likely improve when I improve in the long run. Learning and improving itself is a great feeling, too. Actually it's more like a philosophy and a way of life. You're point is totally correct though, it's very important to not stress yourself with making your life better. Which is kind of obvious, but I had to learn this the hard way, too. :D Many motivational gurus (most of which I like) point this out, too. Yes, it's a business, and yes, many of these guys haven't achieved very much besides making a bunch of money with their motivational books and webinars. But you know what, I don't care, because they helped me. They planted a great deal of good ideas into my mind that helped ALOT for around 100 bucks that I spent in their books. I can tell you, this was totally worth it and I'm very happy that they are doing this.
I used a life coach for about 12 sessions at nearly £100 each hour personally it was a waste of money, they start throwing jargon words about the human brain and then pray you start talking about worries so basically they get paid £100 an hour just to hear a client talk about there worries, I have spent thousands and thousands on therapists and so called life coaches and it’s all a load of crap, making life healthy with lots of social interaction is the most reliable therapy for human beings
Well you have to improve for the right reasons, and also learning to be content with where you are right now ....... yes these self help gurus do make people more miserable though
Life Coaches tell everyone that they should only be content if they are living the same lifestyles and have the exact same beliefs as them (the life coach).
It’s all about the mindset you want to cultivate. Saying your developing yourself or working on yourself never ending doesn’t mean there is no time to relax. It just means your mindset isn’t fixed. It means you realize your potential and know you can keep growing, learning, and acquiring new skills no matter at what age, or stage of life you are in.
As a Life Coach, I hear what you're saying, coming from someone who I guess has been burned by a coach somewhere along the line. If you really know coaches you won't be spreading this utter rubbish. When a coach talks about constant self-development it means that you need to pick an area in your life that you would like to develop and work it till you're where you want to be. Full potential? No one will ever reach it because your potential grows as you as a person grows. That is the magic of life, we all grow constantly, your cells regenerate daily, your hair monthly, the only stagnant thing sometimes is your life, due to the myth of balance. Every life area should be in tension with the other areas, this means that whatever you do at that moment must have all your attention and focus. In that manner, you'll never miss out on anything in life. You get exhausted from comparing yourself to others, and trying to be someone else, when you are your authentic self, life becomes a breeze. Your knowledge expands in yourself, the answers are in yourself as no one will know the questions unless you tell them, and even then they won't have the answer that's right for you, the answer you seek. The best answers are gained by asking better questions, clearly, you're asking the wrong questions and knocking an industry which you don't have a clue of. I'm happy for you if you would like to take years to grow, years to find the answers, Life Coaches helps you to fast track the learning curve. Good luck with that.
It's called a Growth Mindset and science backs up its myriad benefits and advantages over a Fixed Mindset. You can't fully be of service to others if you're not whole and complete yourself. This is completely logical.
The ones on you tube most of the time don't even know what they are talking about half the time. They need to be examined because they over step their scope of practice. Nurses, drs, OTs. PTs, chirocpractors operate within their scope of practice.
I agree and disagree with you. On the one hand, to tell people that they "Can do anything they want to do" is clearly false! However, it is correct that a person needs to constantly work to improve. Of course, you need to take time to "chill out", but that is not a contradiction to striving for perfection. Furthermore, in regards to negative feelings, a person has to understand that de Vinci did not paint the Mona Lisa over night. You don't come to perfection in one step. There are many many baby steps to be had to get there and each baby step is a growth and success. Even failures are success if you learn from them. Also, the goal is to strive for perfection, not to attain perfection (which is impossible). Last point. It is true that not everybody needs a Life Coach. Many can reach conclusions just by taking out time to reflect. However, many others do not know how to do so and need someone to walk them through the steps of self contemplation. You mention that you can always turn to a friend. However, that is not always the case. Not everybody is gifted in helping people come to conclusions. Some may even unintentionally steer you in the wrong direction. That is why sometimes you need someone who is trained in the field to guide you along. BTW - just in case you are wondering, I am not a Life Coach. Just an ordinary guy.
Except you don't need to constantly keep hustling. You don't need to constantly strive to improve or strive for perfection (which is unattainable). It's okay to just exist, especially in this current climate.
You must know where you want to go. If you don't have an objective, then you don't have a destination. If you don't take well-thought-out action, then you'll never get there. That much is certain. The result of what you have in the present originated in your past, and what you'll have in the future originates now.
Seeing a lot of blanket statements with no backing, argumentation or specificity motivates me to do a full point-by-point rebuttal of this video, or at least write out a nice blog post. Lots of common misconceptions in there about what constitutes life and what implies what. Many have already been addressed in the comments. Thanks for the ideas.
A 35 year old “life coach” is counseling a 50 year old who thinks that the 50 year old is not doing enough to improve his situation as if the coach has gone through the same thing that the 50 year old has gone through. One can assess the situation of another person and give some idea about it but claiming a title such as “Life Coach” is quite presumptuous. How many lives has the life coach already lived in to say he could coach other people’s life? What about his own life? How is he living it?
It's a myth that a coach needs to go through exactly the same situation as a client has, or that they have to be richer or more successful or happier than any of their clients. It's about skill application and willingness to help, and expanding the perspective the client has on their life.
@@unitynofear7758 I'm afraid you're wrong. When a coach cannot understand a coachee's point of view due to lack of a proper point of reference, then he/she can't help too much. It's not about being the same situation, but the same TYPE of situation. It's as if someone hired me (I'm not a coach btw) because of some business troubles. I have NO IDEA about being a businesswoman. A person of different religion... I have no idea about the reality of the religion. Parents having hardships with children. I have no children. I can't truly help, even if I want. But someone got betrayed by a wife... I can relate, because I got betrayed as a friend. I was in the same type of situation, emotions thoughts. Someone was fired - I can relate. And so on. Also, my coach couldn't help me, because of that precise reason. Being unable to see things from my perspective.
To each his own. You’ve got to get out and take action. Stop reading and attending conferences and learning. Pick a sport or hobby and work on skills. Set goals and follow through.
I agree with the endless development part. But I think a lot of people are afraid to look inside of themselves, especially if they have never done it before and do good with a coach at their side...
Nice video but I disagree with the points. Yes its okay to just be yourself. However that's not a ticket to be lazy either, we only have 1 life and so you owe it to yourself to make the best of it that you can. Life is supposed to be hard and you should prepare yourself for that, to work on yourself, to sharpen your "sword". To contribute to the world and do something meaningful. So yes you should constantly be improving, otherwise, whats the point?
People with mindset like you, really needs a life coach.You are just playing with words here, only telling the half story.All of those insulting life coaching skills should consult a life coach once & only then they should pass any sort of judgement.
Yep, life coaching is bollocks. Most people are fairly unremarkable and it's fine to accept that. As long as you have enough money to afford the essentials, and hopefully a little bit more, that's all you need. Having been dragged to a God awful course for 6 days, all I noticed was a roomful of people desperately trying to be happy and hanging on the word of someone telling them how they can look to change things. Self reflection is of course important, but so is having time to enjoy yourself and making time to appreciate what you have.
It's all about having money. If you have a lot of money, you can go on vacations all of the time. You can have a lot of friends. You can do what you want.
I wholeheartedly feel you , I know life coaches who real life and relationships be in shambles but their charging people $250 for an hour of coaching. Everything a “life coach “ can teach can be learned via books and your own research. And remember folks , life coaches wouldn’t be coaching if there wasn’t money to be made 😅. Churches wouldn’t be open if they weren’t getting tithes, and therapist wouldn’t dare do therapy if there wasn’t a check involved lol those people don’t really care about you , they care about providing for themselves , they just need you to do it . Buy a journal, get a library card and buy a Bible if that’s what your into. We literally pay for the internet and have TH-cam free of charge . Go hang out with your family and friends. Don’t put money in these peoples pockets because they certainly won’t put money in yours 🙃
I'm not a life coach. We all use our talents and opportunities to earn money. The world, for better or worse, needs money. A server is friendly and brings you food not so you can feel cozy and well fed but to earn money. And so on. Think about teachers who have the audacity to want more money when we should all have everything available for free because it should come from their hearts to help the world. Think about how your bills are paid and why that, somehow, is legitimate. Plus, not everyone can just "find what works" or have the time scouring for free resources. Be careful to judge anyone who found a niche that provides a living. I agree you should always be careful and thoughtful in creating your own blueprint for life, but also be careful in tearing the roads down for others who have a different path meant for them.
Then it wasn't a life coach! it was a scammer. I'm learning to become a life coach and there is no such things for us as scamming clients, we want our clients to never come back to us! The more often our clients come back to us, the more it tells how we aren't able to help this person (unless the client isn't ready open for changes and honest to him/herself), so we need to find a coach that fits the client's need. a REAL coach wants the best for its clients and yes, we know more about the human potential, and how our brain and emotions work than other people do. That's what makes a real life coach a good life coach. We don't claim to be magicians or to give you a magic recipe or whatever, we are here to help you understand your situation and get you to where you want to be in life, and we will NEVER EVER EVER tell people WHAT to do :). We are there to support you only at moments you need it.
@@painexotic3757 'Life coaches' don't want to go to school and get the state licensures of real clinical psychologists or licensed social workers. So they do their little 'programs' or sell their 'epiphanies' for top dollar to unsuspecting victims. Melanie Tonia Evans is a scammer life coach like this.
Dude life coaches are the BEST THING TO HAPPEN IN MY LIFE. You are so full of shit. Pay me 10,000 to sign up for my Life Coaching Life Changing Master course. There's only two words to describe people who hate Life coaching. They don't understand. They are LOST and VERY NEGATIVE. Have pity for these LOST SOULS. They are blinded and don't know what they are talking about. The negativity you have spread in your lifetime is not your fault, but these experiences may have burdened you with a lifetime of pain, distrust, and insecurities. At your core, you may be running patterns that keep you stuck in an endless cycle of abuse/mistrust/negativity that permeates all aspects of your life in spite of your best efforts. Traditional counseling or help for negative/lost people typically addresses the historical events and resulting psychological, physical and emotional effects of the negativity. While this can be beneficial, it is limited and often only provides relief at the surface-level while leaving the negativity programming intact. To heal and eradicate abuse/lost/negative/patterns so that you may change how you experience the rest of your life, you must transform at your core level. With the Master Life Coaching Course Series, It created a multi-level, intensive program to help you systematically pinpoint and alter the underlying frequencies of negativity. End the cycle of negativity; change your programming so that you no longer participate in abusive relationships, bad luck, being lost and encountering negative people like the blind idiots above. Heal from the inflicted damage and engage in mutually healthy, loving, respectful interactions with others that honor the truth of our existence.
I think one of the problems with life coaching is that it is an unregulated industry. I don’t think there’s any literature on the efficacy of life coaching interventions. I think you are right in that it can create self focused behaviour/ introspection which are processes that can be problematic for most individuals.
Get The Picture? Thank you for the reply. Please allow me to share my thoughts. I spoke to someone about why I feel skeptical about the life coaching. Most of these life coaching ppl never specify what their specialty in life coaching. My friend said if a guy who is keep getting rejected by women on dating Apps can try the life coaching. Well, it’s really tricky. I know there are lots of socially awkward ppl on dating apps and they may not know how to engage with women. Those guys can be simply introvert and not good at presenting themselves in a good way or not much experience in online dating. Maybe a life coach can help. But honestly any good friends can give good advice to their introvert friends. What makes me skeptical that there are lots of ppl actually have undiagnosed Asperger syndrome and all the other syndromes which preventing them from socializing and engaging with people in good manners. That’s why they get rejected. These people should not just go to a life coach. To be honest, life coaching should be a volunteer work. Because they are not psychiatrist or psychologist. Also healthy normal adults do know what to do and what’s right and wrong. We may feel stuck in our lives sometimes, but time and your effort can resolve it. We just need a confirmation and a little bit of advice from others. Making good friends is the way to go
@@lovelygroovey I completely understand what you’re saying but let me also remind you not everyone has friends to talk to or likes the thought of a therapist. A life coach is supposed to be helping people change their habits by realizing what they are doing wrong in their life that they didn’t notice. I agree friends can help but like I said not everyone has friends or if they do they patronize them or make fun of them. Thank you 😊
I agree with this video!!! A good friend is what we usually need, mostly because they are more subjective (yes, yes, it matters more than being objective in many situations!) . And by the way, it doesn't mean all life coaches are bad! What I disliked as a coachee was: - underestimating the impact of things I cannot control about my situation, things I cannot change; in such moments it's a reasonable thing to tell someone that there's no easy solution because the solution should be external rather than suggest otherwise; - trying to reframe a situation to find something good in it, when I clearly don't see anything good in it or don't want to see anything good in it; - lack of reasonable point of reference and lack of experience (sorry guys, it's delusional to hope you can help a person whose situation you cannot truly understand, even if you have the purest intentions); - being emotionally withdrawn; what I need is someone being my "cheerleader" , emotionally present, not a cold analyst, who can point out some tools or solutions only; - behaving as there are expectations about your progress- being process-oriented, not human-oriented; - trying to solve psychological problems with coaching tools (via reframing); this one can be really harmful and actually it happened in my case; I believe my coach had good intentions, but -talking to a coachee using that whole "artificial" language you're taught to use during the courses; my life is not a "project full of challeneges, which are defined by a priority list". - "asking questions only" doesn't work. Really. "What can you do to.... ? ", "How can you make xyz easier?" , "What other solutions could you try?" - that makes me feel as if I were as student caught in the act; it's not helpful, it's annyoing.
of course - part of working on yourself 24/7 is playing hard, not only working hard, but your play is better and more fulfilling, better relationship with your love ones, and sure it's hard but with time goes on you become better and that's how you get more fulfilled, like wtf, dont get people that don't understand it
What you fight for and make reasons WHY about, you get to keep. In this case, you’re fighting for who you are instead of who you want to be. I am not a life coach and I have never used a life coach btw, just someone who is constantly improving and pushing myself and seeing the results. May God bless you.
It's not about never-ending improvement. It's about improving the things you want, until you find fulfillment. Even Tony Robbins explains this. Self improvement is basically mastering the art of fulfillment. It's a process which can seem never ending because society is constantly bombarded with unfulfilling commercialized propoganda, which makes the whole process convoluted and confusing. Plus most of us have been indoctrinated into a system of control that inhibits fulfillment. Life coaches can be invaluable if they have risen above status quo mentality.
Tony Robbins free TH-cam content helped me with depression, tbh, speak for yourself 😅 trust me, he isn’t my favorite person, but he did shift something in me with his words and the way he presented life to me.
Everything in life is a code! If you perceive everything literally, or if you need everything to be spoonfeed, then, everything is a scam...and yeah the last part got my attention. Make friends with your coach. Coaching is not a scam. What makes it looks like a scam, when someone proclaim himself a coach after getting a coaching certificate. Coaching is an art. Either you have it or you don't. Seek personal conncetion first and you will find your personal coach
Thank you! I've been wondering What in the world is a life coach? I hear a lot of people saying that are life coaches, but I've never met anyone that actually has used a life coach, and by that I mean PAID for a life coach. 😂 For me, Tony Robbins isn't so much a life coach, but a motivational speaker. But I guess if people want to work with him one on one, he becomes a life coach. Cool channel. Glad I found you. You've got a new subscriber in me! 🤘
Despite your very negative view on an lucrative industry that I'm sure most has myself use to take care of they family. I think 🤔 you would make a great life Coach, I hope you find more positive material to promote but your view was appreciated by me
I cannot agree. I have tremendous respect for Tony Robins and all the work he has done - and he does provides value. I have listened many times to the coaches and like on phycology - it’s a matter of having correct perspective on things and yourself. Having right perspective is the most vulnerable thing because it is easily influences by others if we don’t have strong discipline and have our own values grained into our brains. Coaches do just that - like phycologists - try to give advice on how to have a better mind set. Yes, there is a new fad of everyone wanting to be a coach weather they qualify or not for the role.
I can see this was posted three years ago... No wonder understanding is still limited to some on Life Coaches/Coaching!!! This wonderful way of service for others is being called... All sorts of things except helpful to those whom value someone taking the time to LISTEN to what they have to say as a human being having a human experience. Life Coaching comes into play as an overall way to get help for life's challenges. I am not here to try and defend something that speaks for itself. All humans have an option to get service from Therapists or a Life Coach.
I had a life coach who kept trying to tell me her techniques help with trauma. I shared with her that I was trying a few different meds for my trauma and depression as it was getting worse. She fear mongered me about taking meds. She was blind to the fact that life coaching isn’t the right next step for trauma recovery. Thank goodness I fired her, and ketamine therapy has been amazing for my mental health.Another friend recently became a life coach so now I can’t vent to her any more because she ends up trying to sell a program to me. Good bye to that friendship.
I'm not a Life Coach, but how do you propose people better their lives? Talk to friends and family? What if they are toxic? Seems to me, with all the things wrong with the world, Life Coaches are just trying to help others overcome life obstacles. This video proved nothing against them.
The coaching of you have to be rich to be happy and successful. Truth be told the success is being happy with oneself no matter your income, status, or any of the bullshit society says what you need to successful
If most people have the ability to help themselves, to help and guide themselves to achieve whatever goals they may have... I think no one will end up with regrets... Why do most people haven't achieved their goals and ended with regrets... Because not all people have the capacity to help themselves, to figure out what they need to do, and they don't even know what their goal is... I'm not saying having a coach is a guarantee to become successful in life, but at least to be able to help someone figure out what their goal is and at least be able to achieve some of it, I think that makes sense...
I feel that life coaching can be kind of cool if you don't have reliable friends that will keep you accountable to yourself. Like lets say for example you want to do better at something, it can help to have someone who keeps tabs on how you're doing, and has a few ideas on how to improve. Once you have improved you can either work on something else or stop. It doesn't need to be an endless goal of self improvement, it can just be a bit of help to improve some areas of your life. Its when it starts getting into the greedy side of it that it starts going downhill - greedy coaches who will spew any bs to get people hooked, and greedy people who lap it up, expecting to earn millions or be happier just because they follow some guide on how to "harness the power of manifesting" or some other clearly bs cult like program.
I think this video is too generalized, that all life coaches are scammers and that all share the same concepts. You make good valid points, but the concept that never ending self-improvement is the focus of life coaches is not accurate. You decide if you feel that self-improvement is what you need, as individuals not all of us need life coaches, as not all of us need therapy. We choose how we want to better understand our selfs but I do agree that seeing most videos claiming how you could make 6 figures being a life coach when you make a search does not help the image.
I spent every dime I had on becoming a coach and getting coached. People like Brooke Castillo , Stacy Boehman, Amanda Frances, Melissa Lapides, and Melanie Ann Layer ruined my life. I am struggling to eat. It’s a nightmare.
You can have a good coach, and you can have a bad coach. It’s like hiring a consultant, or financial advisor, or therapist. You can get great results, get completely screwed, or just pay for mental mast****tion. Vetting advice is a tough problem nowadays.
Life coaches don’t help you realize your potential. You go to a coach when you have something specific that you want or a specific goal. It’s not for constantly looking to find something. Before you make these videos get your info on what a life coach is
Would you mind if I use the video and translate it into Thai? Lately, we just have life coachibg - a scam - in Thailand but we weren't concerned about that and they sucked money from Thais. So, I want to translate this video to Thai and I want to give Thai people to know about scam and be careful about this. I will give you credit and link your TH-cam. I'll post it on Facebook. Thank you so much 😭🙏🏻
Yes I agree I understand a little Thai but live in New Zealand for over 30years,lately I notice most Thai people saying they are life coaches mentor influencers etc most trying to push AMWAY products,yet no formal credentials whatsoever.
Everyone should always want to grow, and should celebrate as you go along…and enjoy oife as you go along. Dont be lazy and settle for a sub standard life
Now, on every street, you can find a coach. On how to wear Adidas shoes, how to eat apples, how to get divorced, how to die, how to watch TH-cam videos, and how to be born.
This video is irrelevant as we all have our own subjective realities. I’ll agree, life coaching on it’s own may have it’s shortcomings but combined with something as in-depth as NLP it can become a superpower for changework. Another thing I want to mention is that the coaching depends on each individual alone rather than a collective group of people. This video is actually in violation of some of the meta-programs we have in NLP. He claims that “most” people are affected the same way and that “we” as if he can speak for everyone is a generalization and he is limited in his own thinking. There are embedded commands hidden in this video suggesting that coaching is so bad and that it has little to no affect. What he’s missing is intention. Yes it is much more relaxing to just be yourself, but what if you WANT to constantly improve and grow?? What if you want to know how and what to do to improve but don’t know how?? No anount of time is going to do that. Simple deletions are all over this video. Things like “this” and “that”, what exactly does he mean?? He needs to be more specific. All I’m saying is don’t let this guy influence you.. he is using the excact same techniques he’s warning you against. Peace✌🏻
Relevant according to whom?? Relevant in what context? For who?? You see if you have any knowledge whatsoever about NLP you’ll understand that we all create our own subjective realities by the way we think and use the mind. A complete generalized biased experience. We call this “the map is not the territory” and you my friend have run into this wall that so many people end up running into. You are mistaking the map for the territory and in all truth the map will NEVER be the territory. In other words your experience of the world will always be just that.. YOUR experience and you cannot speak for other people. And seriously, if you depend on people’s views on your video to make it relevant I think you should examine the information you put in the video. Peace✌🏻
You are assuming these people never learn that they are just addicted to more, they are never satisfied for long. Striving but never arriving. Some of us know when to stop trying to improve and learn to be happy where we are. I live this way, I am happy and fullfilled. I fear nothing in life, not even death. Check out the teachings of Dr Wayne Dyer, one of the best free Life Coaches I know.
No one wants to deal with constant change or constant development it is exhausting.People just want to live I know because I am one of many. However, there is nothing wrong with being the best version of yourself, if you want to be. However society plays a role in this two, with materialistic expectations and never letting us just be! Without feeling guilt because we do not have the coolest car or boyfriend/ girlfriend, job or did not achieve a higher education. Some of your points are valid, and I am happy that you shared your perspective, but one hat does does not fit all.If it were that easy than why do we need counselors, social workers or psychologists? In short, I did meet a spiritual coach she was very flexible and decently priced she gave me the best advice ever! She told me to read the bible and seek out God. How many coaches are like her not many, but I am blessed to have crossed paths with her 😇. If anyone is going to seek a Life coach please question them for your own protection! God bless everyone 😊!
Possibly, the depression and unhappiness comes from feeling stuck. Possibly, the stuck-ness is a result of clinical depression. Only you can decide which is which; or which one to work on first. Maybe, if you work on one side, the other will resolve itself. A therapist can help you with depression. A coach can help get you un-stuck. The trick is to find a qualified, high-quality provider (which ever kind you choose). Make sure they are well trained. Always ask what license or certification they have. Make sure they are somebody you feel comfortable talking to. Interview them before you start shelling out cash. If you are feeling depressed, please, please, please do find help of one kind or another. Even making a little step forward - in either direction - will begin to ease your difficulties.
I have a friend who sees a therapist, AND a life coach. Because they have different techniques. I would look at having both. A life coach is NOT a licensed therapist BUT if you do your research you may find some psychologists or therapists who are also life coaches. I have friends who are trained psychotherapists and are now getting life coaching certification.
I deal with depression and anxiety too. I started with therapy first. I’ve dealt and talked about past pain with my therapist (I was in an abusive relationship) for a year now. After talking about my pain, I’m now able to focus on improving my self esteem and am motivated to pursue a career. A year of therapy later, I now have a life coach, started a 12 week program about 2 weeks ago. She’s helps me plan out realistic goals for the week and the following week we discuss if I achieved them. If so, we increase the time and if not we decrease the time to make it realistic. We also get down to the nitty gritty of why I didn’t accomplish them (usually due to fear of failing) or get down to the root of the problem which is easy for me because I’ve already discussed it in therapy. I hope this helps. You definitely have to put the work in for a life coach, which is why I started with a therapist because I was in no shape to be motivated or improve in other areas of my life at that point in my life. It was hard to simply take a shower or get out of my bed some days. So I’d hold off on a life coach. Best of luck!
@@GetThePicture So your logic is that since there are scammers in the coaching industry that all life coaches are scammers. That my friend is a logical phallacy.
I suppose that I have always been a contrarian in many things. this topic seems to be no different. help me please. I have been trying so hard to find a way to become a shittier version of myself. I can't find anything on TH-cam or the internet. can someone please, please, please point me in the right direction?
This is his point of view on life coaching. Why be bothered of something that doesn't benefit you. If you're so perfect and dont need help in any area of your life then cool but why hate on someones hussle because you dont want to stay improving on yourself. Never get comfortable with being unteachable.
Yep this is my point of view. Your in title to your opinion and I will tell my point of view on my channel and you can feel free to leave at any time. Thanks for watching it means the world to me😜
Everyone has blind spots that you can Not See Boy yourself Not Even with Time ! Blindspot stays blind! How can a Good Friend with out knowing tecniques showing you the blond Spot ? And Why Should we take Time , sometimes years to Come not even cloth to the results you can have with a coach ? Do we live forever ?
Turn off your tab, turn off your TH-cam and phone internetting for a month and take some vacation and stand on your feet and use your hands for doing things. Talk to people physically however dangerous it is and gain your sanity back. This new world was not meant for human beings. It was meant for servitude and life coaches cry alone with doubt too. Grab a handful of soil, smell it and don’t look at FB or Insta. Just smell that dirt and think about it. Stop playing the game for 15 minutes and just stop measuring your insides by everyone’s outsides. Everyone including yourself is a poseur. Reset and relearn in nature and feel scared and FEEL and sit in it until your phone timer dings and you can get back to the bullshit
Some people don’t have friends that are in a good state to talk to some peoples friends are doing with their own problems and don’t want to deal with you some people don’t have friends
My experience with life coaching is much better than your description. You should find a better life coach. The issue is that life is complicated, so we can't cert a life coach like an AWS engineer. It is hard to find a proper life coach.
I think your concept of self development is distorted. When Tony Robbins speaks about constant development, what you understood is in literal distorted sense , thinking yourself as an artificial being ,while in reality Coaching does help people significantly make profound changes . You cannot achieve personal growth simply by being quite and few silent hours ,you need tools , expertise and professional help . Why would people like Bill Gates hire a Personal Coach ?
It's because they have a lot of money in the first place. Just imagine when Bill Gates was in high school and still didn't succeed in Microsoft, do you still think he would hire a coach? The main point in this video is if you don't have money, don't hire a coach since it wouldn't help those who're just starting out. Unless if you've already rich to throw a lot of money.
Just because you can constantly improve and evolve into a better person, doesn’t mean you can’t be satisfied with where you are now.
That´s my point!!!! then you tell me why most life-coaches says that you should improve all the time and aim higher??
Thanks for watcthing my video by the way
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Very good point
@@GetThePicture You are looking at this from one side. Is easier to find a good coach or a knowledgeable friend that will serve as an enabler.
A good coach teaches how to do the things you mention. Getting started is hard.
Simply put we mostly suffer from unworthiness.
Where does it stem from and why?
Overachievers are constantly seeking approval and disappointed when they don't get the response they expected. So one needs to unravel that stuff.
Let's toss some childhood trauma I'm there. You need help discerning the emotional feedback your body is giving.
You are however, a talented creator!
@@GetThePicture I think you might have misjudged Tony Robbins here. I do agree that most coaches have no idea what they're talking about, but I have followed Tony closely for years and all I can say is, he's #1 for a reason.. The first and most important lesson he teaches us is gratitude. Gratitude for what we have and where we are now. He teaches that although improving yourself 1% everyday is not only the path to success but can also bring fulfilment, we don't forget to be grateful and satisfied with the now.
@@GetThePicture Either these coaches don't know what they're talking about or you are misinterpreting them af. 😅
What I find problematic is this unauthentic talk which is used to sell you a dream to bring you to buy their products
Well put my firend, well put👍
People want a shortcut to be succesful.
Spoiler Alert !! there is no shortcut ,and you will fail often in life and mayble just maybe you will fail some more.
Can you feel that taste ?
Me too , that is life , welcome to the real world.
So, I don't like life coaching but I want to point to article at video. Constant never end doesn't mean never stop. Do what to do just 1 min or 1 hour every day but do it EVERY DAY, constantly. You have a lot of time for relax.
I feel like there’s a dark side to everything in life. Religion, politics, healthcare system, criminal justice system, pharmaceutical system... coaching industry etc. There are genuine coaches out there and I appreciate content like this to help with preventing toxic positivity and manipulating people. Definitely enlightening.
Very well said.
Agreed. If you are seeing a coach and also have any kind of MH diagnosis ( stable pref) make sure that perhaps that coach also has training coaching in that area like ADHD. And make sure they are licensed in an area like LiCSW, LPC, etc. Its not that unlicensed people can’t be good coaches, but as a consumer, you have more protection if that coach is also covered by a licensing board in their field.
There are many who retire from practice and become specific coaches in certain fields like ADHD or even nutrition issues but those are specialty areas and really need expertise in those areas.
Just be good advocates for yourself. Ask about any licensing and there are no “licensing “ boards for coaches, just for their original degrees. And only talking about ADHD Coaching, weekly accountability is really important and if you become unstable in a co-existing MI, they should refer you to safety provider such as an ER for psych assessment and then pause your coaching until you are stable. Never saying you cant get coaching and therapy but need to be stable, period, before you do coaching.
@@brandydinsmore8214 99% of life coaches have nothing as far as training. Most are 2 weeks out of highschool.
@@JaysonT1
Wow i never heard of that.
Well 50 here so not one of those. And many i know of are also not barely out of HS. You have a right to ask them ???? And if they wont answer, theres your answer.
you hit the nail on the head, 💯 true
Most thumbs down are from Life coaches! This video makes great points. Granted. Some people are excellent at coaching; however, this trend has become a fad with very little entry barriers. Anyone can claim to be a coach.
Excellent point! Any one can claim to be a coach. Any one can claim their "snake oil" happens to be the very thing you need. It's up to you, the consumer, to make sure you are getting a quality product. Ask your perspective coach what qualifications they have; what certifications and training they have. Interview them before you start shelling out your cash.
@@KimberleyJackshaw Anyone who calls himself a "coach" is undertrained. Real psychologists are the ones performing those roles appropriately.
I am not a life coach. To be called a life coach you do need a certification just like teaching. Although the institutes are unregulated, JUST LIKE RELIGIOUS LEADERS.
And most, if not all of them, became a life coach because they are train wrecks.
True across all fields!
These con artists are no different from palm readers and mystics, they rely on ambiguity, gullibility and low self esteem.
Exactly. And usually "Life Coaches" are really good maniupulators.
Tony is advertising on your channel hilaroius
I know🙂 Tony and I see eye to eye😜
Well, "you can do anything that you want", doesn't mean to load up one self with unrealistic goals and tasks ! Realistic and measurable goals and focus on minimalism for the day is the key!
Not denying prevalence of scams, however it's in every industry. In my opinion, life coaching is way better than dull-witted counselling.
To each his own though!
Dull-witted counseling? Yeah, I mean who would want to be guided by an educated licensed mental health professional when they can be coached by some "life coach" that just moved out of their mothers basement and flings around a bunch of Law of Attraction buzz words?
@@JaysonT1 mic drop
What does it mean/ What does "you can do whatever you want" mean? You really can't do whatever you want.
How to become a life coach: Step 1: fail at doing anything legitimately useful or productive. Step 2: overpay at unaccredited, for-profit program for a “certification.” Step 3: charge suckers and pretend like you’ve actually done anything worth emulating
-And that´s *the sad truth* Thanks🙂
@@GetThePicture look up Jared Bull on youtube biggest BS artist
This is a fantastic video, is exactly how I feel about this "industry".
Thanks for posting it.
Amen! I worked for a life coaching company for more than 4 years before I woke up to the dependence model that's baked in. If you didn't achieve your goals, it's because you "lacked integrity." Such fooey. It's 100% true about moving the "finish" line further away. Get a real friend is great advice. I would add that journaling is helpful too.
Ugh. Me too. 4 years on the dot. Quit about 6 months ago and am still undoing some of the damage it caused even to me. Not that there weren't truly positive things that were helpful to many others, but overall, once you're past the "high" of the first couple years or so of coaching, a real darkness and anxiety can settle in and be perpetuated by the same person(s) who "saved" you initially. I still can't get over my boss who believes every illness and disease is caused by the individual themselves for not having the mindfulness to overcome it and for "allowing" the negativity into their life. Some teachings even went as far as to say anyone who was in an accident that caused paralysis was subconsciously "attracting" that fate because they were tired of life's overwhelming demands. Honestly brings tears to my eyes just thinking about how messed up that is and how many truly and wholeheartedly believe that.
@@EastmanEditing Fortuanetly I never spend a cent on any of that life coaching stuff. I have met a few people that are on that trip that you explain: you attract everything and an accident ist your fault. Imagine if you were raped as a child and that is your fault.. I find it quite preposterous to say it nicely (while I do agree that taking on the victim position is not going to help you moving forward I despise not acknowledging the reality of what happened and that it in fact was not your fault and that accidents do happen). What you really need is time and friends and you will do just fine. Now if you are really sick and require medication then time and friends might not do it anymore. Also if you don't have friend or friends that can help you and don't mind paying money for it then a life coach might be right for you. It might even help you feel better..
I pray and I journal and it is 100% free.
@@VictorianMaid99 Great ideas. Praying is not for me/us but I just recently read my journal from 20 years ago and it was very interesting. The key is also to really trust yourself- that will make you more confident, etc. But don't become arrogant :-) I just recently lost a "friend" because he completely took off and is now on his way to becoming a life coach. He inherited millions, never worked a single day in his life (in his 30s now) and is telling people to get out of their comfort zone.
@@fabiancanada8876 I understand. I am a big fan of creating a journal; it relives my stress because I can place on paper what was bothering me and like you mentioned, look at it twenty years later and see how I changed. Or in my case I will read it a few weeks later to see what I have changed in my life. All free!
It is WHY YOU WANT IMPROVE that is Important.
If you think your WHY is to impress others around you then dig deeper
I agree 100%. And you dont need to pay a coach to tell you that..
I am a Life coach and NLP practitioner.. my client's lives have transformed to par excellence. I think it depends on what the life Coach's goals are.. is he/she coaching to earn big money or intend to help people. My passion is to help and that's why my clients never feel cheated. 🙏
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾❤️
I feel cheated when I watch a comment like this one. NLP cheated on me so I had to screw her sister. But thanks for sharing your thoughts🙂
NLP is a cult. Richard Bandler is an alcoholic, drug addict and prostitute murderer. Your beliefs are based on a manual he wrote while high. Most of the claims by NLP have been investigated as part of peer reviewed research and found to be nonsense. If you actually want to help people study councilling for 5 years with an accredited university.
NLP is so full shit.
Sounds like you would benefit from some life coaching.
I tried. Made my life worse dude. Thanks for watching and the *LIKE* 🙂
@@GetThePicture then you had the wrong coach or you didn't listen or do the work!
@@KimberleyJackshaw Idiots like you are part of the problem constantly blaming the victim because it's easier to do that than admit that life coaches are con-artists.
@@Mateoski97 how about coaches that coach coaches how to coach? they don't even have a skill
the purpose of the video is to attack the idea of life coaching. So he does everything possible to bring the worst side of the coaching. He says "your coach takes a look inside of you and finds out nothing ?! so you are in trouble" - really ??? nothing??? everyone meant to be professor, coach, influencer ? what are other jobs for then ?
service industry , admin jobs, sales , promotion - a good coach can direct a person to something that he is good at too... i don't believe person is absolutely useless in everything he/she does... anyways, u have your opinion and i have mine
Actually, coaching is about more than that. It's also about helping people to understand and deal with their emotional reactions to their experiences. Why wouldn't anyone want to become more intelligent and self aware? "Friends" - even "good friends" are simply not trained to help you do that.
Yes, but the ironic thing about people who like that sort of thing is that they're usually toxic as all hell. If you don't like life coaching and goal-setting then you are not worth their time, and they love to to pretend that self-help is like real psychology but that is just not true.
I talked to so many people who think this way that I'm actually just done with these kind of people. and the total lack of understanding that they are being affected by the Dunning Kruger effect.
You have to be smart enough to even realize you're stupid.
Nadnerb The 3rd a therapist helps to deal with the past or with mental or emotional problems. Life coaches help with nutrition, fitness, etc.. more on action and what you can do to better your life
I guess they didn't bother to understand what life coaching is about.
Most of us cannot identify with clarity the problems we are in and how to approach and work on them. Life coaches are specially good at getting those results. This is what I came to understand about life coaching.
I guess it's totally fine if you don't feel the need of any life coaching.
It's illegal for a "coach", certified or not, to engage in any kind of mental health treatment whatsoever. Look it up.
hmm, with all due respect, this is an over simplification of what life coaching is and not representative of good coaching. Yes, there are a lot of scammers out there. But that is true in any industry, especially one as new as this one. However, it depends on who you work with. I am a coach and a healer myself and here are some things I’d like to mention. Please note that this is based on how I approach coaching and healing. I cannot speak for anyone else, but I do know several coaches and all in my circle have a similar approach.
1. The idea behind coaching is to provide guidance, help and support for people to accomplish goals. To help them get the tools and develop the skills necessary to navigate their life in a way that is better for them. Not perfect, better. The idea that coaching is about realizing your full potential is NOT something I have ever heard. So, not sure where you got that from (Tony Robbins?), but it is not the way most coaches I know approach it. It sounds nice, but it is not realistic and I do not believe it is representative of what coaching is.
2. Coaching is driven by the client’s goals. So, there should not be any situation in which a coach “blames” the client for not improving. Not sure if I misunderstood what you were trying to say.
3. Coaching is not only about constant self-improvement. While I do believe growth is a life-long endeavor, self-reflection and self-awareness are key. You can be content with where you are and know you want to do more. They are not mutually exclusive. Integration, appreciation and enjoyment of where you are is an important part of coaching and any journey.
4. IMHO, a good coach will help you develop the skills and provide you with tools to learn how to self-reflect, regulate and navigate life. Not everyone knows how to or can figure this out on their own. If everyone could, a lot of industries would not exist.
5. Friends are not the same. For one, if you have a complicated situation, most friends will not have the tools, skills or patience to guide you through that. Mine do. I do. But, in my experience, most people do not have those kinds of friendships. Plus, and objective perspective is always important.
6. I agree. We should NOT need coaches, counselors, therapists, etc. But we do.
7. I have a bit of a different approach because I do healing work as well. And, the coaches in my circle tend to do both. But, a lot of us are driven by our desire to help others heal, grow and feel better about themselves and their lives. Mostly because we went through the same.
8. Tony Robbins is not a life coach. He is a motivational speaker. They can go together, but they are different. He may call himself a life coach now, but most coaches I know do not consider him as such. A lot of the points you made seem to be referring specifically to him and his style. Not coaching as a whole. He is very successful and probably a lovely person, but I would never go to him or recommend him to anyone based on what I’ve seen of him. Even, if they could afford it. His brand is pretty much what you described and not what the coaches I know [and myself] practice.
I think life coaching is a scam. However, certified therapists who have studied and then done training are valuable. Life coaching has no real training, its just something anyone can do without any regulation. Regulation is important because it holds you accountable. Life coaching is an expensive scam and anyone who falls for it is unlucky, I would never see anykind of "life coach". They may not realise it is a scam at first but they will eventually, maybe even many years later. As someone who is finishing their masters this year, and as a relatively young male, I aim to stop this scam. I dislike anything that takes advantage of people.At least therapy through a profession can be free (through government subsidies) and the person is well educated and not in it for the money necessarily.. I live in New Zealand and will be moving back home to Australia soon :). Yes we have free healthcare here and therapy is subsidised or free. Thats why I guess we don't need life coaches (or have the life coach problem on the same scale) like America does, I also know that in America university is very expensive (which sucks, you guys should get what we get here). If only education was cheaper or free in America.
I am not sure where you live but therapy is not free in the USA. It is sometimes covered by insurance, but only sometimes and usually not in its entirety.
As to life coaching being a scam, you are entitled to your opinion, which you seem to feel pretty strongly about. Have you ever worked with a life coach? I'm curious. I've worked with many therapists in a professional capacity as well as a client. And, in my experience, they can be just as bad and cause as much damage. I've also met several wonderful therapists and coaches. So, I prefer not to use a wide brush to paint everyone within an industry. There was a time that Psychiatrists were considered quacks. Anyway, I would encourage you to keep an open mind since at the end of the day the one thing you and I do have in common is that we want to help people. My approach is based on my own life experience and what helped me. Best of luck to you and to your clients.
Thank you so much for this post. I agree their are bad eggs in every bunch and it can be very toxic but that doesn't represent everyone.
Bottom line, life coaching is unregulated and therefore unreliable. Life coaches are DANGEROUS and should not be trusted by means what so ever and should be held to legally responsible for harm done to clients.
@@JaysonT1 You are entitled to your opinion. But, regulation doesn't absolve anyone from scamming or hurting others. Look at the banking industry in the USA. Plus, as someone who used to help run a support group, the damage that I've seen done by licensed doctors and psychologists is pretty scary. I understand that regulation makes some people feel more comfortable. Like you, those people should go to a licensed therapist. But, that is not true for everyone.
Action speaks louder than words. Stop going to seminars. instead, make a plan and get to the business of life. It's not about the law of attraction, it's about doing the right things that get results.
Spot on!! That´s my point. DONT pay people to tell you how to live your life
Most people don't even know what the right thing is.
I totally disagree with this.
You can be happy and grateful and every day become a better version of yourself.
WoW ... sounds like you read the manual all the way through... Well done you 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🤪
Yes, and my point is that you dont need to pay a life coach for that
@@GetThePicture I don't think he gets it lol
This is more of an opinion than a set of facts.
This reminds me of a point made in the book 'the 7 habits of highly effective people' where he talks about needing to have 'the right map'. I strongly think this applies to life coaches and self help in general. it's not a scam, you just have the wrong map!
'Suppose you wanted to arrive at a specific location but you were given the wrong map. You might work on your behavior - you could try harder, be more diligent, double your speed. But your efforts would only succeed in getting you to the wrong place faster. But If you had the right map, then diligence becomes important, and when you encounter frustrating obstacles along the way, then attitude can make a real difference. But the first and most important requirement is the accuracy of the map.' - Steven Covey
7 habits is a hoaks. Trump would call it fake news!!!!
Do you always talk in analogies , or just when you’re talking sh#t ? 🤔
Everyone chooses their own truth. There’s no one size fits all for anything. This is a simplistic view of a topic the maker of this video is most likely unfamiliar with and they probably had good intentions. I can tell u from personal experience I’ve been working on myself and have done a lot of self development work and it is a beautiful process, I am becoming the best version of myself and accept all of me. I hope if you’re out there looking for guidance to improve your life in whatever way u want, that this doesn’t deter u from getting the help u deserve. Love and positive energy to u all💗💫⭐️✨🌟
You are 100% right. There is NO one size fits all for anything, but this is what I see... But maybee I hit a nerve since you watched the video and took the time to comment 🙂
Get The Picture? I took the time to reply to hopefully help others who may be looking for help in their own lives. I come from a place of love and understanding so although I have a different viewpoint on the matter than u, I can still try to understand why u may feel the way u do. I watched the video because the title caught my eye since I am 100% proponent for life coaching. So good job on the title of your video, it does draw people in. And just to clarify I’ve been developing myself because I want to, not because someone told me I needed to do anything. We are all fine just the way we are, there’s nothing to be fixed. But if u happen to want more, to be more, to give more, there’s nothing wrong with that either 😀 Bless u love, we are connected in this universe✨ sending u only love, peace and positive, good energy always💗🤗
@@morokotsok4483 The best version of yourself sounds disingenuous and planned. You can't excel at everything.
I agree that we can figure out things on our own, but some people need that additional guidance because it’s so easy to get lost in our head within a fast pace world. Watching videos on TH-cam is general and 1:1 coaching is personalized.
Saw a Tony Robbins ad at the beginning 😂
Yes i see him too sometimes before my video🙂 I take it he likes the VID😜
Life coaching + a healthy amount of self reflection and the ability to process is amazing.
...said the life coach
Bravo. Well done. F the whole life coaching industry.
I'm learning to become a life coach and there is no such thing for us as scamming clients, we want our clients to never come back to us! The more often our clients come back to us, the more it tells how we aren't able to help this person (unless the client isn't open for changes nor honest to him/herself), so we need to find a coach that fits the client's need.
a REAL coach wants the best for its clients and yes, we know more about the human potential, and how our brain and emotions work than other people do. That's what makes a real life coach a good life coach. We don't claim to be magicians or to give you a magic recipe or whatever, we are here to help you understand your situation and get you to where you want to be in life, and we will NEVER EVER EVER tell people WHAT to do :).
We are there to support you only at moments you need it.
yeah this video is idiotic, and people who agree with this and just too narrow minded and shallow.
Self help is an industry. Therefore it cannot be trusted.
Life coach here, Catalyst LLC out here in Reno, NV. You appear to be very negative toward Life Coaches and that's fine. If you've had a bad experience with Tony Robbins or a Life Coach that is so unfortunate and a I feel for you. May I suggest taking the opportunity to re-evaluate what it means to always working on yourself? You can work on yourself and still be happy. You can be busy, and still find time to take breaks. I hope your life is amazing and successful. I'd be happy to give you advice pro bono. Just wanna help people :)
"You can work on yourself and still be happy." I agree. The problem is the coaches that are saying that things can always be better, they just need more time..........And money of course!!
Ah yes... this is true. In that case we coaches need to police ourselves from selling "snake oil". I have a 3 point system and analyze my client first to see if they even need a consultant. My goal is to build people and their wealth. If they are already doing great then I move on to the next. I hope more Coaches follow my path in this. All in all, you are right, I can see that as well
I find it interesting that you don’t find value in something but yet you feel the need to make a video claiming that no one can find value in it either. I have had horrible experiences with doctors, lawyers, mechanics, fast food workers, etc. but would never think of making a video claiming that none of these industries had value for anyone! I have found that religion has no value for me but would never dream of making a video claiming that religion has no value for anyone and they should just find a friend to help them along. Coaching is not for everyone and if someone does not see value in it then they might be better off just getting a dog instead.
VERY WELL SAID!!!! I love this FEEDBACK!! Greatly appreciated!!
Life coaching is a scam.
Life coaching is for people who are stuck in a perpetual loop needing motivation from people who are swindling they. What’s required is action!
If a life coach does what they do they help the client take action by providing them insight into what they are thinking and what they're currently doing or not doing and provide guidance on how to make changes and shift their perspective on taking action.
You can still improve, aim higher and be satisfied and happy. Actually it makes me very happy to know that things will most likely improve when I improve in the long run. Learning and improving itself is a great feeling, too. Actually it's more like a philosophy and a way of life. You're point is totally correct though, it's very important to not stress yourself with making your life better. Which is kind of obvious, but I had to learn this the hard way, too. :D
Many motivational gurus (most of which I like) point this out, too. Yes, it's a business, and yes, many of these guys haven't achieved very much besides making a bunch of money with their motivational books and webinars. But you know what, I don't care, because they helped me. They planted a great deal of good ideas into my mind that helped ALOT for around 100 bucks that I spent in their books. I can tell you, this was totally worth it and I'm very happy that they are doing this.
Thank you for sharing, well put! 🙏🏾❤️
Coaches teaching coaches 🙂 If machinery would do all of the work and we would all just get paid a nice big basic income that might be an idea!
I used a life coach for about 12 sessions at nearly £100 each hour personally it was a waste of money, they start throwing jargon words about the human brain and then pray you start talking about worries so basically they get paid £100 an hour just to hear a client talk about there worries, I have spent thousands and thousands on therapists and so called life coaches and it’s all a load of crap, making life healthy with lots of social interaction is the most reliable therapy for human beings
Well you have to improve for the right reasons, and also learning to be content with where you are right now ....... yes these self help gurus do make people more miserable though
Life Coaches tell everyone that they should only be content if they are living the same lifestyles and have the exact same beliefs as them (the life coach).
Great comment!
Find a genuine friend who cares about you. Don't feed these vultures who want to prey on your flaws and finances.
It’s all about the mindset you want to cultivate. Saying your developing yourself or working on yourself never ending doesn’t mean there is no time to relax. It just means your mindset isn’t fixed. It means you realize your potential and know you can keep growing, learning, and acquiring new skills no matter at what age, or stage of life you are in.
Hi Chandra. How´s your mom?
@@GetThePicture what?
@@chandrarose2463 Your mom. How is she?
As a Life Coach, I hear what you're saying, coming from someone who I guess has been burned by a coach somewhere along the line. If you really know coaches you won't be spreading this utter rubbish. When a coach talks about constant self-development it means that you need to pick an area in your life that you would like to develop and work it till you're where you want to be. Full potential? No one will ever reach it because your potential grows as you as a person grows. That is the magic of life, we all grow constantly, your cells regenerate daily, your hair monthly, the only stagnant thing sometimes is your life, due to the myth of balance. Every life area should be in tension with the other areas, this means that whatever you do at that moment must have all your attention and focus. In that manner, you'll never miss out on anything in life. You get exhausted from comparing yourself to others, and trying to be someone else, when you are your authentic self, life becomes a breeze. Your knowledge expands in yourself, the answers are in yourself as no one will know the questions unless you tell them, and even then they won't have the answer that's right for you, the answer you seek. The best answers are gained by asking better questions, clearly, you're asking the wrong questions and knocking an industry which you don't have a clue of. I'm happy for you if you would like to take years to grow, years to find the answers, Life Coaches helps you to fast track the learning curve. Good luck with that.
It's all about perception. Life coach can screw you or help you breakthrough! The feeling is the secret!
It's called a Growth Mindset and science backs up its myriad benefits and advantages over a Fixed Mindset. You can't fully be of service to others if you're not whole and complete yourself. This is completely logical.
Life coach....
The ones on you tube most of the time don't even know what they are talking about half the time. They need to be examined because they over step their scope of practice. Nurses, drs, OTs. PTs, chirocpractors operate within their scope of practice.
I agree and disagree with you. On the one hand, to tell people that they "Can do anything they want to do" is clearly false! However, it is correct that a person needs to constantly work to improve. Of course, you need to take time to "chill out", but that is not a contradiction to striving for perfection. Furthermore, in regards to negative feelings, a person has to understand that de Vinci did not paint the Mona Lisa over night. You don't come to perfection in one step. There are many many baby steps to be had to get there and each baby step is a growth and success. Even failures are success if you learn from them. Also, the goal is to strive for perfection, not to attain perfection (which is impossible).
Last point. It is true that not everybody needs a Life Coach. Many can reach conclusions just by taking out time to reflect. However, many others do not know how to do so and need someone to walk them through the steps of self contemplation.
You mention that you can always turn to a friend. However, that is not always the case. Not everybody is gifted in helping people come to conclusions. Some may even unintentionally steer you in the wrong direction. That is why sometimes you need someone who is trained in the field to guide you along.
BTW - just in case you are wondering, I am not a Life Coach. Just an ordinary guy.
Except you don't need to constantly keep hustling. You don't need to constantly strive to improve or strive for perfection (which is unattainable). It's okay to just exist, especially in this current climate.
Most of the life coaches that I know have terrible lives themselves.
Self help books only pertain to the author
True that..............................................................
You must know where you want to go. If you don't have an objective, then you don't have a destination. If you don't take well-thought-out action, then you'll never get there. That much is certain. The result of what you have in the present originated in your past, and what you'll have in the future originates now.
Seeing a lot of blanket statements with no backing, argumentation or specificity motivates me to do a full point-by-point rebuttal of this video, or at least write out a nice blog post. Lots of common misconceptions in there about what constitutes life and what implies what. Many have already been addressed in the comments. Thanks for the ideas.
A 35 year old “life coach” is counseling a 50 year old who thinks that the 50 year old is not doing enough to improve his situation as if the coach has gone through the same thing that the 50 year old has gone through. One can assess the situation of another person and give some idea about it but claiming a title such as “Life Coach” is quite presumptuous. How many lives has the life coach already lived in to say he could coach other people’s life? What about his own life? How is he living it?
It's a myth that a coach needs to go through exactly the same situation as a client has, or that they have to be richer or more successful or happier than any of their clients. It's about skill application and willingness to help, and expanding the perspective the client has on their life.
@@unitynofear7758 if that be the case then counselling is the appropriate term.
@@unitynofear7758 I'm afraid you're wrong. When a coach cannot understand a coachee's point of view due to lack of a proper point of reference, then he/she can't help too much. It's not about being the same situation, but the same TYPE of situation.
It's as if someone hired me (I'm not a coach btw) because of some business troubles. I have NO IDEA about being a businesswoman. A person of different religion... I have no idea about the reality of the religion. Parents having hardships with children. I have no children. I can't truly help, even if I want.
But someone got betrayed by a wife... I can relate, because I got betrayed as a friend. I was in the same type of situation, emotions thoughts. Someone was fired - I can relate. And so on.
Also, my coach couldn't help me, because of that precise reason. Being unable to see things from my perspective.
To each his own. You’ve got to get out and take action. Stop reading and attending conferences and learning. Pick a sport or hobby and work on skills. Set goals and follow through.
That is exactly what I think, namely, one just needs time to think about oneself or a friend to talk to.
You need to keep up with current research on the brain and psychology.
I agree with the endless development part. But I think a lot of people are afraid to look inside of themselves, especially if they have never done it before and do good with a coach at their side...
I Agree but again you dont have to pay a coach to help look inside yourself. A good friend or family member should do🙂
Nice video but I disagree with the points. Yes its okay to just be yourself. However that's not a ticket to be lazy either, we only have 1 life and so you owe it to yourself to make the best of it that you can. Life is supposed to be hard and you should prepare yourself for that, to work on yourself, to sharpen your "sword". To contribute to the world and do something meaningful. So yes you should constantly be improving, otherwise, whats the point?
Theres can be downside to self help but i also disagree with the points in this video and all the anger behind it
People with mindset like you, really needs a life coach.You are just playing with words here, only telling the half story.All of those insulting life coaching skills should consult a life coach once & only then they should pass any sort of judgement.
Really??? Then I guess I have to give Tony a call
Yep, life coaching is bollocks. Most people are fairly unremarkable and it's fine to accept that. As long as you have enough money to afford the essentials, and hopefully a little bit more, that's all you need. Having been dragged to a God awful course for 6 days, all I noticed was a roomful of people desperately trying to be happy and hanging on the word of someone telling them how they can look to change things. Self reflection is of course important, but so is having time to enjoy yourself and making time to appreciate what you have.
It's all about having money. If you have a lot of money, you can go on vacations all of the time. You can have a lot of friends. You can do what you want.
I wholeheartedly feel you , I know life coaches who real life and relationships be in shambles but their charging people $250 for an hour of coaching. Everything a “life coach “ can teach can be learned via books and your own research. And remember folks , life coaches wouldn’t be coaching if there wasn’t money to be made 😅. Churches wouldn’t be open if they weren’t getting tithes, and therapist wouldn’t dare do therapy if there wasn’t a check involved lol those people don’t really care about you , they care about providing for themselves , they just need you to do it . Buy a journal, get a library card and buy a Bible if that’s what your into. We literally pay for the internet and have TH-cam free of charge . Go hang out with your family and friends. Don’t put money in these peoples pockets because they certainly won’t put money in yours 🙃
I'm not a life coach.
We all use our talents and opportunities to earn money. The world, for better or worse, needs money. A server is friendly and brings you food not so you can feel cozy and well fed but to earn money. And so on. Think about teachers who have the audacity to want more money when we should all have everything available for free because it should come from their hearts to help the world. Think about how your bills are paid and why that, somehow, is legitimate.
Plus, not everyone can just "find what works" or have the time scouring for free resources.
Be careful to judge anyone who found a niche that provides a living.
I agree you should always be careful and thoughtful in creating your own blueprint for life, but also be careful in tearing the roads down for others who have a different path meant for them.
I was scammed by one of them. I made a video about it.
Then it wasn't a life coach! it was a scammer. I'm learning to become a life coach and there is no such things for us as scamming clients, we want our clients to never come back to us! The more often our clients come back to us, the more it tells how we aren't able to help this person (unless the client isn't ready open for changes and honest to him/herself), so we need to find a coach that fits the client's need.
a REAL coach wants the best for its clients and yes, we know more about the human potential, and how our brain and emotions work than other people do. That's what makes a real life coach a good life coach. We don't claim to be magicians or to give you a magic recipe or whatever, we are here to help you understand your situation and get you to where you want to be in life, and we will NEVER EVER EVER tell people WHAT to do :).
We are there to support you only at moments you need it.
It's funny seeing the only people defending life coaching are life coaches and not people who took the life coaching. That should tell you something.
@@painexotic3757 'Life coaches' don't want to go to school and get the state licensures of real clinical psychologists or licensed social workers. So they do their little 'programs' or sell their 'epiphanies' for top dollar to unsuspecting victims. Melanie Tonia Evans is a scammer life coach like this.
Dude life coaches are the BEST THING TO HAPPEN IN MY LIFE. You are so full of shit.
Pay me 10,000 to sign up for my Life Coaching Life Changing Master course.
There's only two words to describe people who hate Life coaching.
They don't understand. They are LOST and VERY NEGATIVE.
Have pity for these LOST SOULS. They are blinded and don't know what they are talking about.
The negativity you have spread in your lifetime is not your fault, but these experiences may have burdened you with a lifetime of pain, distrust, and insecurities.
At your core, you may be running patterns that keep you stuck in an endless cycle of abuse/mistrust/negativity that permeates all aspects of your life in spite of your best efforts.
Traditional counseling or help for negative/lost people typically addresses the historical events and resulting psychological, physical and emotional effects of the negativity.
While this can be beneficial, it is limited and often only provides relief at the surface-level while leaving the negativity programming intact.
To heal and eradicate abuse/lost/negative/patterns so that you may change how you experience the rest of your life, you must transform at your core level.
With the Master Life Coaching Course Series, It created a multi-level, intensive program to help you systematically pinpoint and alter the underlying frequencies of negativity.
End the cycle of negativity; change your programming so that you no longer participate in abusive relationships, bad luck, being lost and encountering negative people like the blind idiots above.
Heal from the inflicted damage and engage in mutually healthy, loving, respectful interactions with others that honor the truth of our existence.
I think one of the problems with life coaching is that it is an unregulated industry. I don’t think there’s any literature on the efficacy of life coaching interventions. I think you are right in that it can create self focused behaviour/ introspection which are processes that can be problematic for most individuals.
And i think you are right. Thank you😉
I blame Tony Robbins for everything it just makes life easier!
So in a sense Tony Robbins made your life easier. I love the guy😀👍
Life coach? Makes me laugh. As if those people know “Life” better than others? Life coach is the last thing I’d try.
Spot on dude, spot on🙂
Get The Picture? Thank you for the reply. Please allow me to share my thoughts. I spoke to someone about why I feel skeptical about the life coaching. Most of these life coaching ppl never specify what their specialty in life coaching. My friend said if a guy who is keep getting rejected by women on dating Apps can try the life coaching. Well, it’s really tricky. I know there are lots of socially awkward ppl on dating apps and they may not know how to engage with women. Those guys can be simply introvert and not good at presenting themselves in a good way or not much experience in online dating. Maybe a life coach can help. But honestly any good friends can give good advice to their introvert friends. What makes me skeptical that there are lots of ppl actually have undiagnosed Asperger syndrome and all the other syndromes which preventing them from socializing and engaging with people in good manners. That’s why they get rejected. These people should not just go to a life coach. To be honest, life coaching should be a volunteer work. Because they are not psychiatrist or psychologist. Also healthy normal adults do know what to do and what’s right and wrong. We may feel stuck in our lives sometimes, but time and your effort can resolve it. We just need a confirmation and a little bit of advice from others. Making good friends is the way to go
@@lovelygroovey I completely understand what you’re saying but let me also remind you not everyone has friends to talk to or likes the thought of a therapist. A life coach is supposed to be helping people change their habits by realizing what they are doing wrong in their life that they didn’t notice. I agree friends can help but like I said not everyone has friends or if they do they patronize them or make fun of them. Thank you 😊
Coaching is not something where the coach tells others how to live
I agree with this video!!! A good friend is what we usually need, mostly because they are more subjective (yes, yes, it matters more than being objective in many situations!) . And by the way, it doesn't mean all life coaches are bad! What I disliked as a coachee was:
- underestimating the impact of things I cannot control about my situation, things I cannot change; in such moments it's a reasonable thing to tell someone that there's no easy solution because the solution should be external rather than suggest otherwise;
- trying to reframe a situation to find something good in it, when I clearly don't see anything good in it or don't want to see anything good in it;
- lack of reasonable point of reference and lack of experience (sorry guys, it's delusional to hope you can help a person whose situation you cannot truly understand, even if you have the purest intentions);
- being emotionally withdrawn; what I need is someone being my "cheerleader" , emotionally present, not a cold analyst, who can point out some tools or solutions only;
- behaving as there are expectations about your progress- being process-oriented, not human-oriented;
- trying to solve psychological problems with coaching tools (via reframing); this one can be really harmful and actually it happened in my case; I believe my coach had good intentions, but
-talking to a coachee using that whole "artificial" language you're taught to use during the courses; my life is not a "project full of challeneges, which are defined by a priority list".
- "asking questions only" doesn't work. Really. "What can you do to.... ? ", "How can you make xyz easier?" , "What other solutions could you try?" - that makes me feel as if I were as student caught in the act; it's not helpful, it's annyoing.
God Tony is so creepy in the ad. Why would anyone want to be like him 🤯
of course - part of working on yourself 24/7 is playing hard, not only working hard, but your play is better and more fulfilling, better relationship with your love ones, and sure it's hard but with time goes on you become better and that's how you get more fulfilled, like wtf, dont get people that don't understand it
What you fight for and make reasons WHY about, you get to keep. In this case, you’re fighting for who you are instead of who you want to be. I am not a life coach and I have never used a life coach btw, just someone who is constantly improving and pushing myself and seeing the results. May God bless you.
Nothing wrong in improving, the problem is people taking advantage of it saying the can help........If you pay them!!!! God bless you too😀
It's not about never-ending improvement. It's about improving the things you want, until you find fulfillment. Even Tony Robbins explains this. Self improvement is basically mastering the art of fulfillment. It's a process which can seem never ending because society is constantly bombarded with unfulfilling commercialized propoganda, which makes the whole process convoluted and confusing. Plus most of us have been indoctrinated into a system of control that inhibits fulfillment. Life coaches can be invaluable if they have risen above status quo mentality.
Tony Robbins free TH-cam content helped me with depression, tbh, speak for yourself 😅 trust me, he isn’t my favorite person, but he did shift something in me with his words and the way he presented life to me.
Everything in life is a code!
If you perceive everything literally, or if you need everything to be spoonfeed, then, everything is a scam...and yeah the last part got my attention. Make friends with your coach.
Coaching is not a scam. What makes it looks like a scam, when someone proclaim himself a coach after getting a coaching certificate.
Coaching is an art. Either you have it or you don't.
Seek personal conncetion first and you will find your personal coach
Just because self development is exhausting doesn't mean it's something we shouldn't strive for. I mean we never say this about lifting weights.
Thank you! I've been wondering What in the world is a life coach? I hear a lot of people saying that are life coaches, but I've never met anyone that actually has used a life coach, and by that I mean PAID for a life coach. 😂
For me, Tony Robbins isn't so much a life coach, but a motivational speaker. But I guess if people want to work with him one on one, he becomes a life coach.
Cool channel. Glad I found you. You've got a new subscriber in me! 🤘
They stand on the sidelines and yell rah rah rah
Despite your very negative view on an lucrative industry that I'm sure most has myself use to take care of they family. I think 🤔 you would make a great life Coach, I hope you find more positive material to promote but your view was appreciated by me
I cannot agree. I have tremendous respect for Tony Robins and all the work he has done - and he does provides value.
I have listened many times to the coaches and like on phycology - it’s a matter of having correct perspective on things and yourself.
Having right perspective is the most vulnerable thing because it is easily influences by others if we don’t have strong discipline and have our own values grained into our brains.
Coaches do just that - like phycologists - try to give advice on how to have a better mind set.
Yes, there is a new fad of everyone wanting to be a coach weather they qualify or not for the role.
I can see this was posted three years ago... No wonder understanding is still limited to some on Life Coaches/Coaching!!! This wonderful way of service for others is being called... All sorts of things except helpful to those whom value someone taking the time to LISTEN to what they have to say as a human being having a human experience. Life Coaching comes into play as an overall way to get help for life's challenges. I am not here to try and defend something that speaks for itself. All humans have an option to get service from Therapists or a Life Coach.
I had a life coach who kept trying to tell me her techniques help with trauma. I shared with her that I was trying a few different meds for my trauma and depression as it was getting worse. She fear mongered me about taking meds. She was blind to the fact that life coaching isn’t the right next step for trauma recovery. Thank goodness I fired her, and ketamine therapy has been amazing for my mental health.Another friend recently became a life coach so now I can’t vent to her any more because she ends up trying to sell a program to me. Good bye to that friendship.
I'm not a Life Coach, but how do you propose people better their lives? Talk to friends and family? What if they are toxic?
Seems to me, with all the things wrong with the world, Life Coaches are just trying to help others overcome life obstacles. This video proved nothing against them.
The coaching of you have to be rich to be happy and successful. Truth be told the success is being happy with oneself no matter your income, status, or any of the bullshit society says what you need to successful
If most people have the ability to help themselves, to help and guide themselves to achieve whatever goals they may have... I think no one will end up with regrets...
Why do most people haven't achieved their goals and ended with regrets...
Because not all people have the capacity to help themselves, to figure out what they need to do, and they don't even know what their goal is...
I'm not saying having a coach is a guarantee to become successful in life, but at least to be able to help someone figure out what their goal is and at least be able to achieve some of it,
I think that makes sense...
I feel that life coaching can be kind of cool if you don't have reliable friends that will keep you accountable to yourself. Like lets say for example you want to do better at something, it can help to have someone who keeps tabs on how you're doing, and has a few ideas on how to improve. Once you have improved you can either work on something else or stop. It doesn't need to be an endless goal of self improvement, it can just be a bit of help to improve some areas of your life. Its when it starts getting into the greedy side of it that it starts going downhill - greedy coaches who will spew any bs to get people hooked, and greedy people who lap it up, expecting to earn millions or be happier just because they follow some guide on how to "harness the power of manifesting" or some other clearly bs cult like program.
I think this video is too generalized, that all life coaches are scammers and that all share the same concepts. You make good valid points, but the concept that never ending self-improvement is the focus of life coaches is not accurate. You decide if you feel that self-improvement is what you need, as individuals not all of us need life coaches, as not all of us need therapy. We choose how we want to better understand our selfs but I do agree that seeing most videos claiming how you could make 6 figures being a life coach when you make a search does not help the image.
Yes, my video is *VERY* generalized. I´m pushing it to prove my point. But like I also say, I know a lot of coaches that a really nice people
I spent every dime I had on becoming a coach and getting coached. People like Brooke Castillo , Stacy Boehman, Amanda Frances, Melissa Lapides, and Melanie Ann Layer ruined my life. I am struggling to eat. It’s a nightmare.
You can have a good coach, and you can have a bad coach. It’s like hiring a consultant, or financial advisor, or therapist. You can get great results, get completely screwed, or just pay for mental mast****tion. Vetting advice is a tough problem nowadays.
Life coaches don’t help you realize your potential. You go to a coach when you have something specific that you want or a specific goal. It’s not for constantly looking to find something. Before you make these videos get your info on what a life coach is
Life coach is bullshit
Triggered life coach
This was a topic I used for one my Toastmasters speeches. Thank you for posting this.
If it's self-help, why do I need someone else to help me?
Spot on😀
Would you mind if I use the video and translate it into Thai? Lately, we just have life coachibg - a scam - in Thailand but we weren't concerned about that and they sucked money from Thais. So, I want to translate this video to Thai and I want to give Thai people to know about scam and be careful about this.
I will give you credit and link your TH-cam. I'll post it on Facebook.
Thank you so much 😭🙏🏻
Yes I agree I understand a little Thai but live in New Zealand for over 30years,lately I notice most Thai people saying they are life coaches mentor influencers etc most trying to push AMWAY products,yet no formal credentials whatsoever.
Everyone should always want to grow, and should celebrate as you go along…and enjoy oife as you go along. Dont be lazy and settle for a sub standard life
Life Coaching ? It’s all SH#TE ... now you see, that made me feel so much better 🤪
But then I’m Scottish 🏴
Namaste 🙏 👀
Now, on every street, you can find a coach. On how to wear Adidas shoes, how to eat apples, how to get divorced, how to die, how to watch TH-cam videos, and how to be born.
Stay complacent... got it. Great vid.
This video is irrelevant as we all have our own subjective realities. I’ll agree, life coaching on it’s own may have it’s shortcomings but combined with something as in-depth as NLP it can become a superpower for changework. Another thing I want to mention is that the coaching depends on each individual alone rather than a collective group of people. This video is actually in violation of some of the meta-programs we have in NLP. He claims that “most” people are affected the same way and that “we” as if he can speak for everyone is a generalization and he is limited in his own thinking. There are embedded commands hidden in this video suggesting that coaching is so bad and that it has little to no affect. What he’s missing is intention. Yes it is much more relaxing to just be yourself, but what if you WANT to constantly improve and grow?? What if you want to know how and what to do to improve but don’t know how?? No anount of time is going to do that. Simple deletions are all over this video. Things like “this” and “that”, what exactly does he mean?? He needs to be more specific. All I’m saying is don’t let this guy influence you.. he is using the excact same techniques he’s warning you against. Peace✌🏻
But never the less you spent your time watching an irrelevant video🙂 This tells me my video is rellevant. Thanks for watching bro👍
Relevant according to whom?? Relevant in what context? For who?? You see if you have any knowledge whatsoever about NLP you’ll understand that we all create our own subjective realities by the way we think and use the mind. A complete generalized biased experience. We call this “the map is not the territory” and you my friend have run into this wall that so many people end up running into. You are mistaking the map for the territory and in all truth the map will NEVER be the territory. In other words your experience of the world will always be just that.. YOUR experience and you cannot speak for other people. And seriously, if you depend on people’s views on your video to make it relevant I think you should examine the information you put in the video. Peace✌🏻
@André Smit It is relevant to *YOU* since you put time and effort into watching and commenting. Peace
You are assuming these people never learn that they are just addicted to more, they are never satisfied for long. Striving but never arriving. Some of us know when to stop trying to improve and learn to be happy where we are. I live this way, I am happy and fullfilled. I fear nothing in life, not even death. Check out the teachings of Dr Wayne Dyer, one of the best free Life Coaches I know.
No one wants to deal with constant change or constant development it is exhausting.People just want to live I know because I am one of many. However, there is nothing wrong with being the best version of yourself, if you want to be. However society plays a role in this two, with materialistic expectations and never letting us just be! Without feeling guilt because we do not have the coolest car or boyfriend/ girlfriend, job or did not achieve a higher education. Some of your points are valid, and I am happy that you shared your perspective, but one hat does does not fit all.If it were that easy than why do we need counselors, social workers or psychologists? In short, I did meet a spiritual coach she was very flexible and decently priced she gave me the best advice ever! She told me to read the bible and seek out God. How many coaches are like her not many, but I am blessed to have crossed paths with her 😇. If anyone is going to seek a Life coach please question them for your own protection! God bless everyone 😊!
Most life coaching = QUICK WAY to get TH-cam MONETIZATION while actually producing very little.
I feel depressed, unhappy and stuck in my life. Should I consider visiting a psyclogist/therapist or a life coach?
Possibly, the depression and unhappiness comes from feeling stuck. Possibly, the stuck-ness is a result of clinical depression. Only you can decide which is which; or which one to work on first. Maybe, if you work on one side, the other will resolve itself. A therapist can help you with depression. A coach can help get you un-stuck. The trick is to find a qualified, high-quality provider (which ever kind you choose). Make sure they are well trained. Always ask what license or certification they have. Make sure they are somebody you feel comfortable talking to. Interview them before you start shelling out cash. If you are feeling depressed, please, please, please do find help of one kind or another. Even making a little step forward - in either direction - will begin to ease your difficulties.
hey man contact me i felt where you were literally 2 months ago i managed to get myself inspired and fulfilled again.
@@jesusislord9518 Amen
I have a friend who sees a therapist, AND a life coach. Because they have different techniques.
I would look at having both.
A life coach is NOT a licensed therapist BUT if you do your research you may find some psychologists or therapists who are also life coaches. I have friends who are trained psychotherapists and are now getting life coaching certification.
I deal with depression and anxiety too. I started with therapy first. I’ve dealt and talked about past pain with my therapist (I was in an abusive relationship) for a year now. After talking about my pain, I’m now able to focus on improving my self esteem and am motivated to pursue a career. A year of therapy later, I now have a life coach, started a 12 week program about 2 weeks ago. She’s helps me plan out realistic goals for the week and the following week we discuss if I achieved them. If so, we increase the time and if not we decrease the time to make it realistic. We also get down to the nitty gritty of why I didn’t accomplish them (usually due to fear of failing) or get down to the root of the problem which is easy for me because I’ve already discussed it in therapy. I hope this helps. You definitely have to put the work in for a life coach, which is why I started with a therapist because I was in no shape to be motivated or improve in other areas of my life at that point in my life. It was hard to simply take a shower or get out of my bed some days. So I’d hold off on a life coach. Best of luck!
I've realized for every opportunity there is out there ..there is always someone to come up with reasons why it's a scam ... so annoying now ...🙄🙄
It is simply because there are scammers..... That´s why
@@GetThePicture So your logic is that since there are scammers in the coaching industry that all life coaches are scammers. That my friend is a logical phallacy.
I suppose that I have always been a contrarian in many things. this topic seems to be no different. help me please. I have been trying so hard to find a way to become a shittier version of myself. I can't find anything on TH-cam or the internet. can someone please, please, please point me in the right direction?
This is his point of view on life coaching. Why be bothered of something that doesn't benefit you. If you're so perfect and dont need help in any area of your life then cool but why hate on someones hussle because you dont want to stay improving on yourself. Never get comfortable with being unteachable.
Yep this is my point of view. Your in title to your opinion and I will tell my point of view on my channel and you can feel free to leave at any time. Thanks for watching it means the world to me😜
Everyone has blind spots that you can Not See Boy yourself Not Even with Time ! Blindspot stays blind! How can a Good Friend with out knowing tecniques showing you the blond Spot ? And Why Should we take Time , sometimes years to Come not even cloth to the results you can have with a coach ? Do we live forever ?
Turn off your tab, turn off your TH-cam and phone internetting for a month and take some vacation and stand on your feet and use your hands for doing things. Talk to people physically however dangerous it is and gain your sanity back. This new world was not meant for human beings. It was meant for servitude and life coaches cry alone with doubt too. Grab a handful of soil, smell it and don’t look at FB or Insta. Just smell that dirt and think about it. Stop playing the game for 15 minutes and just stop measuring your insides by everyone’s outsides. Everyone including yourself is a poseur. Reset and relearn in nature and feel scared and FEEL and sit in it until your phone timer dings and you can get back to the bullshit
my problem with life coaches is that they will be like 23 and saying they are a life coach it is laughable!
Some people don’t have friends that are in a good state to talk to some peoples friends are doing with their own problems and don’t want to deal with you some people don’t have friends
Pick the right friends. If your group is 4 losers that means you're the fifth one
My experience with life coaching is much better than your description. You should find a better life coach. The issue is that life is complicated, so we can't cert a life coach like an AWS engineer. It is hard to find a proper life coach.
I think your concept of self development is distorted. When Tony Robbins speaks about constant development, what you understood is in literal distorted sense , thinking yourself as an artificial being ,while in reality Coaching does help people significantly make profound changes . You cannot achieve personal growth simply by being quite and few silent hours ,you need tools , expertise and professional help . Why would people like Bill Gates hire a Personal Coach ?
It's because they have a lot of money in the first place. Just imagine when Bill Gates was in high school and still didn't succeed in Microsoft, do you still think he would hire a coach?
The main point in this video is if you don't have money, don't hire a coach since it wouldn't help those who're just starting out. Unless if you've already rich to throw a lot of money.