My 55 years old best friend - Age gap in Friendship and Relationship
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- My 55 years old best friend - Age gap in Friendship and Relationship
My story how I met my best friend who is 55 years old. We built incredible friendship which truly gift to me. One month ago I went on a date with a jerk who said that 6 years of age gap It is a huge deal breaker for him. It inspired me to tell my experience and story time.
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I'm a 76 year old gay man, and I have friends of all ages, from early 20s on up to mid 90s, and none of them are sexual relationships. I'm glad you were able to make this video to express your feelings on the "age-ism" that often exists, especially in the gay community, but also in our society at large. Yes, there are older men who sometimes take advantage of younger people, but there are also young people who take advantage of older people, so it really has little to do with who is older and who is younger, it has to do with who is an exploiter and who they exploit.
Thank you for sharing John it means a lot! I agree with you a hundred percent.
When I was your age Art (I am 62 now), most of my friends were older than me, I found most people of my age were boring and immature. I think I was an early maturer.
Now I like to have friends of all ages. I think that outlook and open-mindedness and a sense of intellectual adventure are what attracts me to most people.
Hah David I can relate so much. I appreciate it. We do need to be more kind...
Another great video. I had an older friend. We were both gay. I was 26 and he was 53. It was strictly platonic and I learned so much from him on so many levels. We could talk about any subject for hours. He was really brilliant and funny. We traveled a lot of places and it was so great that we were just friends. He is no longer with us but I think of him all the time, particularly when I have someone I just need to talk to. This is a long winded way of saying cherish your friends always. You will have many acquaintances in your life but only a few really good trusted friends.
Thank you Tony!
When I first came out in the 1980's...and into the 1990's...every bar in my area had an area at the end of the bar where all the "old queens" sat and talked to.each other...those of us who were younger all said hi to them, gave them hugs and got to.know them...because they had gone through even worse problems and discrimination in the 1940's-1960's than we had...and we respected them for setting the stage for making things better for us. Now, the vast majority of young gays take their freedoms and equality for granted and treat guys 60+ yrs old like they only want to have sex with them. A lot of us are lonely and just want some conversation...talk about our experiences and learn from the young people of how they live. Many of us were married to women and have kids and grandkids...many are military veterans...and all we want is some kindness when we go out. I appreciate that you have found an older person and don't judge him for wanting to have friendship with you. You have a good heart.
Thank you for sharing this. You see I Am very new to Gay world and I am very curious how it was in USA before. because it is one of the most progressive countries for gay people in the world but I am very curious how it was before. Thank u for sharing this is very interesting.
My husband is half my age. Perfect true unconditional love. Soul match. Very happy.
Happy for you guys 😇 thank you for comment!
Thank you so much for the likes. I am truly blessed, and Nicky feels blessed as well. We just wanted you to know, that even if it takes years, do not settle, your one true love is out there. Just don't judge too much, or you may send them away unknowingly. I love you Artem. You're a very special person. You have a heart many like to step on, but many would feel so blessed to have. My friend!
@@artiomboylive I'm right her for you. I love your heart. You need the love I searched for my whole life. Someone that needs it is looking for you.
Congratulations
Age shouldn't be a barrier to any friendship, all my life I've had much older friends without any problems.
Keep up the interesting blogs Art, you make my day with your enthusiasm.
Exactly Paul!
I’m 52 and my boyfriend of 10 years is 35. So he was about your age, Art, when we first met. He has grown a lot since then. Imagine how much better it will be for you too.
I am happy for you guys! Thank u for sharing!!!
@@artiomboylive want to ask you a question if a guy has never been with a guy or girl and he gives his self to a guy is
He still a virgin most people say if you have never slept with a woman you are a virgin stiill, . What do you think???
When I was your age I met and had a brief affair with a wonderful man that was much older. It developed into a lifelong friendship who meant more to me as a mentor. When I reached my 50's I met and formed a partnership with a much younger man and passed on much of what I learnt to him.
It was a great life experience both as a younger man and an older man.
Wow Ian! Thank you for sharing! I am glad!!!
This a good message. I had a teacher in school who turned 55 and was eligible to retire. He was super-cool. I asked him if he was going to retire. He said no. I asked him why not? He said he did not want to lose touch with how young people think, speak, and what was cool. He said he didn't want to turn into an old man sitting on the porch yelling "get off my lawn". Just goes to show that young people have something to offer older people. Sure, there's always going to older creepy people out there - but it isn't always that way.
Thank u Slade for this comment I appreciate it. I agree it is not always the case.
Haha. thanks for recognising us older guys are not always 'creeps'. Please also acknowledge that younger guys can be creeps too and they have the electronic sophistication do be so more effectively. I have never 'slid into; anyone's DM's and would not have the faintest how to do that. Perhaps some wonderfully sweet and fit young guy could slide into mine and show me how!!!???
Art, at 24, you've earned and are blessed with a greater understanding, compassion, care for and feelings of others, and have learned that we all have valuable contributions to share in all of our relationships with one another including love. 💛💛💛
Thank u so much John! I appreciate it a lot!
Love this video and the way you dealt with the topic. I have been with my partner now for 20 years. He is 57, I am 73. This last 20 years have been the happiest of my life but we both had to go through a lot of shit when we first met about who was using whom blah, blah. Any relationship is constrained by a whole range of factors of which age difference is but one. The outcome depends upon how you work together to make things work.
Derek thank you so much! I am very happy for you guys and I am glad you shared this so I know it exists. Thank u!
When it comes to friendships, it doesn't surprise me that you're perfectly comfortable with older people. Guys from Europe are quite often a lot more mature at a younger age, especially ones who grew up in less wealthy countries. You have to grow up a lot faster when you live in a place where life is harder, it makes complete sense. Even more so if you travel a lot, or move far from home and have to take care of yourself. Meanwhile, people who grew up with far less hardship never really had to stand up for themselves. It's easy for them to stay more like kids well into their 20s or even later, so they usually don't have much in common with older people to base a friendship on.
As for relationships though, who knows. People end up together for all kinds of reasons... so if it works, it works. But when there's a big age gap in a relationship, you still have to keep in mind that people go through different changes in life at different ages. A person can change a lot between who they were at 20 and who they become at 30. This can be tricky for both partners. The older partner has to be ready and willing to accept big changes in the younger one's life - a new career, a desire to move somewhere else etc etc. And the younger partner might realise they want something else if they were 20 when they entered the relationship but then at 30 they know themselves better. Of course this can happen in any relationship with any combination of ages. But it's just more likely to come up when the age gap is bigger. :)
Thank you so much for this comment I appreciate your time and opinion! I agree with you!
When I was 55 I had a 20 year old deaf boyfriend arguing was quite a challenge it was quite adventurous
I waited longer, obviously, but he was waiting, looking as well. When we found each other, our souls reconnected. Everything we were looking for on both sides are there. I questioned his needs and age and maturity. We are a mesh. Don't think about anything but a connection.
I am so glad Thomas. Thank u for sharing...
I love how independent your thinking is. Such a Capricorn trait! I like to say I gave up worrying about what people think of me years ago, and it was the most freeing decision ever. Ha ha! It's important to have friends of all ages and in all walks of life, it rounds out our perspectives. And of course, the best situations are when no one comes with their own hidden agenda. Authenticity is the most important aspect of friendships. GREAT video, and I love that I caught it live!
Britton thank u so much! I love what you say about Capricorn haha. Thank u!
@@artiomboylive Dec. 23rd is my birthday, so I'm pretty familiar with the sign. 😉 By the way, look up Fire Rat in Chinese zodiac...that's your sign. You'll find it very interesting!
You are 100% correct! Connection doesn't mean just sexual. Great friends are our chosen family. Family members are of all ages, younger and older. Why not enjoy friends who are older and younger? It can get boring to stay only with people who are the same age with the same background. Diversity makes life much more interesting! It sounds like you have a wonderful friend. Enjoy!!
Exactly! Thank u!
Thank you for taking about the age differences. I'm older and he is younger
Thank you for watching and support 🙏🏻
I am also in my 50's and most of my friends, whether gay or straight are between 24 and 33 and we get on great. They are mature and I feel young so there is no problem at all and we have fun.
Philippe thank u for sharing!
@@artiomboylive no problem, and my young friends are mostly from central/eastern Europe cause I learn languages. You can stay young for a long time :) :)
You might could say he is a great mentor/role model and friend to clear it up for straight people
Eh, I don't really see an issue. You're both adults, so what's the big deal? Surround yourself with positive people, age, gender, race, nationality, that's all just details.
Exactly same.
My partner is younger than I. He is 33 and I am 58. We have been together for 11 years. We met at the University were I worked and he attended. He is now a professor at the University in medical research. I am now retired. We get along very well. He has what I like to call, an old soul. He had many struggles as a child with his family. He had to grow up early to survive. We love travel, music, talking about everything. Sex is just a small part. It is all the other connections that are amazing. I have watched your channel for some time. I find that you possess the same "old soul" mannerism. That is perhaps why you get along with someone who.is much older than you. As you said, you struck out on your own at a very young age. That took guts and strength. You left everything that you knew to have a better life. Being gay in the Ukraine and Poland is difficult. You have learned through experience. This is valuable for your future. By the way, he is of Ukrainian decent. By way of Brazil. LOL!
Luv your attitude about this. I think Euro guys have a more global/worldly view of life 🕵 Stay awesome 👍
Thank uuuuu Glenn I appreciate it a lot!
I’ve only been subscribed to your channel for few months, but I have enjoyed watching your videos, especially this one, which I found both uplifting and saddening at the same time. Let me explain...
You see, about four years ago I begin mentoring a young guy, who was the 7th I had mentored over the span of my adult life. I’m currently 66 years old, and own my own construction business. I knew he was in deep trouble emotionally partly because of an absentee and alcoholic father and no male role models to help steer him onto the right path. His mother was unable to get through to him, and he was starting to drink and get into trouble with the law. He was on the proverbial edge...
I had actually met him at a local grocery store where he worked in various departments; he was 16 when we first noticed each other and started to bond. It was strange, coz after mentoring 6 boys, I had decided I didn’t have the time or energy to involve myself with another, but as the years went by, our casual relationship became a friendly one. He started to seek me out every time I shopped, and tbh, I looked forward to seeing him, coz we just clicked, for whatever reason.
Fast forward six years and he was starting to show up with black eyes, skinned knuckles, and broken wrists. I grew more and more worried as he divulged stories about encounters with drunks and the town police as well. And then I landed a complete house reconstruction job right next door to where I live, and I knew that I could afford to hire an apprentice and that I really NEEDED one as well. Someone with a strong back. It all seemed so... perfect. Like a higher power was at work...
When I asked Bryan, he literally lit up, as tho he had been waiting, and that begun a period of mentoring, and one of the happiest times of my life. I had just lost my mother to old age, and I needed some joy and a new direction away from the caregiving I had provided her.
Three years later, I was running out of work, and Bryan was moving on from home construction to what would be another career in an international pipeline construction company. We were closer than ever, and I thought I had helped him in ways no one else had been able to. I also knew, by that time, that he was gay, or possibly bi, but hadn’t come out to anyone that I knew of. I felt like my role as a mentor at that time was to provide him with a safe space so that he felt comfortable enough to come out, once he built up the courage. Everything seemed to be progressing in the right direction, and then his missing father showed up...
I got a text message that night; a tear filled, almost incoherent message about how much he loved me, and how much I had done for him, but also how much he thought he was unsalvageable , and would never amount to anything. I was shocked and terrified. It wasn’t until later when I spoke to his mother when I learned that he had been with his father that night, at a bar, of all places.
That began a nightmarish few months of trying to talk to him, face to face, to reinforce all of the things we had worked on, but he was too ashamed to face me, and told me so in a text message. And before I could straighten that out, he went off the rails and smashed a bunch of stuff at his mother’s house and then left after the police were called. Everything was unraveling, but I still felt like I could help him. I thought I was probably the only one who could, actually. If only I could find him and we could talk.
Sorry this is so long. I’ll try to condense the rest- He took off for Florida when he found out that the police wanted to “talk” to him, so when I found out, I went to his mother’s house and sat down with her, hoping we could both commiserate and help him before he ended up getting into real trouble. And during that conversation, I decided I had to come out to her. I hadn’t officially done that before, altho I had come out to my family and other friends five years prior.
I knew she would tell her son, but I thought that would be a positive thing- something that might make him feel better about himself and give him that extra space to be honest about his own sexuality.
I was wrong.
His mother told him all right, and even tho she claimed she and her son had both known all along, she made a special trip to Florida to talk with him. I haven’t heard from him since. 😢
And no, we never had a sexual relationship. That was not the reason I got involved. Actually, my childhood had some similarities, and I think that’s part of why we bonded. My father had never accepted me as a son, because I was always just a little bit “different”.
I worry about him every day, even tho I haven’t seen him in almost two years. But I’m pretty sure his mother confronted him after I came out, and probably humiliated him for getting involved with an “older man”. I can picture that happening. She couldn’t be more wrong about her suspicions, but I’ve been fighting the stereotype of a predatory, older gay man for the last thirty years. All of the other boys I mentored are now functional members of society and all are thriving, but Bryan... I just don’t know. And that’s one of the saddest things in my life now. I only wish the rest of the world would stop judging me so ignorantly.
Sorry about the long story/rant, but your post really struck a nerve with me, Art. I’m of Polish descent, and I’ve now experienced the bigoted and evil sentiments of that society. Bryan is Polish too. ‘Nough said. Live joyfully and keep your friends close, no matter how old or young they are. ❤️
Tuncle, keep hope alive about Bryan. We have no idea about what the future holds for him, but we do know that you were a source of happiness, goodness, and joy in his life. I believe you accomplished what you were sent here to do. The force of good is with you, he received it from you, and he will be well. Thanks, man................>Ray
@@okimlistening2u - thanks Ray. ❤️I didn’t really expect a reply, but now I’m amazed a friend found me here. I hope you’re well and livin’ large! Life is too short to spend time dwelling on sadness, especially during a pandemic. My best to you and yours. Love as always, tman.
Tuncle don't apologize. I took my time to read it. First of all THANK U SO SO SO SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS. It is incredible and sad story.. I hope he is okay. You did a lot to him that was your mission and I am sure one day he will understand it even more. He will be fine. Thank u for sharing. Please try to move on. Try to find a peace for yourself and let him go... I know it is hard. But please don't forget you only have yourself and you need take care of yourself as well. Thank u again. Welcome to my channel I appreciate you so so much!
Many young people and young adults should have an older mentor. It often creates a good understanding of reality and is personality-building.This is especially true for those with a slightly bad childhood. I think you should have other words in your headline - you deserve many more followers. Seems to me like you're a smart guy.
I agree. Not everyone lucky to have a mentor!Thank you so much I appreciate it!
its not mentoring, it's prostitution. oh scuse my french. its FWB.
Thank You for sharing Art .
LOVE HAS NO AGE !
Great video Art. You're a good, wise young man.
I am 75 and my partner is 36. Be with the people who make you happy.
I am so happy for you guys!!!
Thank u for sharing!
Well said 👏🏾
I'm so happy for you. Intergenerational friendships are wonderful. You can learn so much from each other. And a lot of us older guys still feel young inside!
Thank you so much!!!
Respect is the best and only way to build a friendship and a relationship.I am so glad to hear that you had the respect towards him to come out to him when you where ready. Even though you knew that he knew already, and I'm sure he respected you enough to wait and let it be on your terms to tell him.
Art, great friendship is amazing. Keep in mind age is just a number. Love is love. If you enjoy being with a older man that's great. Older men are seriously stable. They have lived. Full of wisdom and knowledge. When they fall in love with you it's real love. They are secure and financially stable. Younger guys only want sex and to use you. Toy with your heart and feelings then dump you. Love you art. Take care.
Joseph thank u so much! Love is Love. Thank u!
You truly are a beautiful human being, and wise beyond your years. I predict you'll have a great life.
I think it's wonderful that you found a mentor who is also a good friend.
Awesome! I am 58 and my bf is 26. We fit perfectly. Sounds like you and your friend fit well together too. Enjoy it.
We are friends only but thank you! ;)
@@artiomboylive I get it. Whether or not it develops into anything beyond friendship, it is a wonderful thing. Most people today don't seem to value reaching out to other generations. You and your friend are richer because you crossed beyond your own generational group. By the way, congratulations on getting to America. From my experience of living overseas for many years, I know that coming to America is a dream for many. I also know that few see that dream fulfilled. I am happy for you and hope your new life here is all you want it to be.
@@backatitagain2010 thank you so much for such a warm words 🥺🙏🏻❤️
I'm on the opposite end of the same sort of thing: I'm 50 and have a very close platonic friend who is 21. We were both TH-camrs at the time and discovered each other's channels, started commenting and emailing, and now he truly feels like the younger brother I never had. And yes, a few people have mentioned how "weird" our age difference is. I feel that the age of a young person's close friends can be a reflection of their mental/emotional maturity. You have an excellent attitude about all this, as well as an excellent grasp of the English language! (This is the first video of yourse that I've seen.) Cheers!
Don't listen to anyone please! You can be friends with whoever you want to be. Thank u for nice words!
Ok, This is one of my favorite subjects. Hi, Art, I literally skipped around to comment here.
The big Age Reveal for me is: ( first let me say how I feel ) when I was in my upper 20s. I didn't care for older men, at first, then years later I learned to be more and more open to older men. It was a gradual change. And now, my philosophy is: As you said: Age really does Not Matter! Our Brains are stuck and frozen in time, like when we were 7 years old, 18 years old and finally 21, and life is still educating us. ( Even Now ) Thank you Art for being Kind to us older guys, we crave you and many younger generations only for wonderful friendships! And if you didn't have a BF, I would have loved to Cuddle. ( Pardon the honesty ) I just turned 64 and do not feel old 80% of the time. lol. I Subscribed to this channel and your other one, because you love so many of us. Thanks, Sincerely, Terry Peace!
i admire you that an age gap doesn't dictate your friendships. The more i listen to your stories the more i appreciate you for the person that you are.
Sometimes people just fit. Age doesn’t have always anything to do with now or decades from now.
Agree.. thank u.
Young man, you are wise beyond your years. Good for you and your friend who is 55. He has a wider view of life and you can profit from his experiences, and you are right he will also learn from you.
Great video Art another video that shows you for being you
Thank u Ira for incredible support
I admire that you were open to your friend and did not let the age gap blind your thinking and juts brush him off. Most guys your age would never get past the age difference and they miss out on all of the wisdom that can be gained by someone older that has lived a long life and you can learn from his experiences. The more of your video's that I watch the more that I am amazed by your wonderful personality and open mind. I am sure that your friend has learned things from your friendship. Your kindness and intellect are truly refreshing. I am so glad that I found you on You Tube as I really enjoy all of your video's Art.
Great video Art! I have older friends as well who are a lot of fun to do things with. People get too hung up on age. Just because someone is younger or more attractive etc. doesn’t mean they are fun to be with or can add a lot to the conversation.
Thank you for your story. We do need to stop looking at age so much because they have lived what you are going to live and take the help they have to offer.
Art, age is only a number and for anyone who looks at it differently is truly shallow. I'm in my early 50s and find it amazing how the younger generation looks at us as if we are dead. The thing that they miss is that the experiences we have may help them to not commit the same mistakes. My hat is off to you as you aren't one of those simple minded ones. Дякую за те, що ти сам
Absolutely right with older guys they are not always pervs
Terrific video, well said!
Thank you Daniel!!!
Love has no age limit.
I agree with you 💯 I watch you on you tube and am very impressed by you. Best wishes and much love my friend.
Thank u so much Michael!
YT recommended your channel to me, so I subscribed. I have enjoyed your videos. This one is especially good...it is great to treat others well. Keep up your good work!
Thank you so much for being here on my channel and support I appreciate it a lot! I will!
You are wise beyond your years. Glad you are here.
Thank u so much for these kind words!
This is one of the best streams I have ever watched. The false boundaries that are set by age and generation differences are fictive. Especial thanks for posting this.
Thomas thank u so much for this comment. Thank you welcome on my channel I really appreciate your kindness and glad to bring something good on TH-cam!
This is one of my favorite Videos Art, because even though your friends with your 55yo Friend, it's nice to know young guys have no issues with having an older lover. I have been seeing a guy of 30 and I am 59, we really like each other a lot, and he plans on coming to stay with me here in Florida in about 2 weeks and actually spend a couple weeks here to see if we can get along living together. I have always been attracted to younger guys when I found Charlie, I think he's extremely handsome I think we fell for each other almost immediately. I have high hopes for our relationship and look forward to many happy years together. Thanks for having such an open mind about the age difference. Lov you Art.
Thank you. I enjoy young men they keep me active I hope they enjoy my stability and compassion. You're a good man I'd enjoy being friends with you.
In the context of friendship to me it doesn't matter about age as long as both individuals can have direct communication, be honest and humble. It sadenings me to think as a collective sometimes people like to group people in to a this that or other. John A.
Thank you John I agree with u.
Loved your topic. Both age groups can learn from others.
Thank u Grady. Exactly I agree.
Art, you answered your own question.
You learn from each other's experiences.
I know some 30yr olds that haven't grown-up. And many 40,50,60 + yr old's that are very current and socially active.
Don't limit yourself about age.
My relationship we have a 30 yr age gap, and there's more understanding and communications them I've had with people my own age.
So age has no limits when respect is the foundation.
Enjoy yourself and never limit your own personal choices.
You might be pleasantly surprised.
As my friend tells me he was tired of playing games with immature twits in his own age group and wanted quality..
I understand completely and can relate I'm 58 years old and I only date younger because, I have lots of energy and I like the energy of younger people , I like there creativity and also I like the fact that their active and like to do lots of different things so I date guys usually mid-20s to late 30s tried to date someone in their 40s (but he was very arrogant very demanding and very possessive.).. but that's not a criteria that's just what I'm attracted to and usually the age that's attracted to me... I like to try many different things, I try to be open-minded and non-judgmental; I have lots of energy and lots of stamina so there's usually a mutual attraction and lots of interest that we commonly share... Thank you very much for opening up a dialogue for something that's not usually presented in a positive platform . You are a intelligent person beyond your 24 years and you have lots of life experiences . I see you as a person that does not want to waste your time on people that are indecisive or want to go to the clubs all the time or play mind games .I understand that completely.. or that is my perception of you....? Thanks again for educating the public and sharing your experience and your knowledge you are appreciated...😁☺️🤩 and I'm so very grateful that you made it out of the Ukraine safely and I'm glad your family's safely in Poland💖😁👏
I believe Art is an Ambassador for the next/new generation. I have lived thru so many ism's that it isn't funny...I now have learned that there is a new one called ageism. How sad that young people don't believe that they can learn from their elders and vice versa...What is this world coming to?
I am in my early 50s and regarding the younger generation (millenials) in that they might not think that they can learn from their elders until you are their superior at work and then they will learn from you, their elder. And believe me, they will learn very fast what is really going on. I am in management and my dept. will not hire younger people due to the lack of experience as it just takes way too long to train them when I could just hire someone right now who is older and can get the job done.
@@mjohnson9563 I appreciate you're reply, but I'm really confused by it. the first part of your comment you say that the (millenials) younger people can learn very fast from an older person their elder or in your words "Superior".. which I'm confused about and "what is really going on" ??....so I'm going to take it that the younger generation can learn fast....but then you go on and say you wouldn't hire them because it takes too long to train them and would hire an older person because you don't want to take the time to train the younger person. So tell me being in a management position how is a younger person to get experience if people like you won't give them a chance.?
Thank u Joe so much!
You really hit the nail on the head, when you mentioned that it comes down to compatibility of your emotional and mental maturity. In terms of just friendship, age really should make no difference at all. We can all connect with other people on some level, which is the foundation for a good friendship, as long as there are no creepy ulterior motives.
For romance, there is the reality to face that when there is an age gap, the older person will experience the physical and mental effects of aging sooner, so the younger partner will need to be prepared for it, accept it, and be willing to support their partner as they go through those changes. But other than that, as long they are of legal consenting age, the emotional connection is true, and they are both on the same level of maturity, there is nothing wrong with an age gap between romantic partners.
Alan Dominic Fong. Maturity and Age isn't mutually exclusive with eachother.
You are very wise to appreciate your friendship with this older man. Friendship is at the core of any good relationship. One of our friends was in a lon-term comitted relationship with a man 30 years older. They shared many of the same interests and were very romantic. Unfortunately the older man died several years ago. Keep up your friendship with this man. It will be a source of support and love forever.
Edward thank u for nice words. I am sorry about loss.. thank u again I will..
I am in my early 50s but look more like early 30s. I would go out to the bar with the hopes of striking up a conversation with someone around my age or even a bit older with them not knowing my age. It never worked out. All they were interested in was sex. Sad!!!! There were a few times when an older guy at the bar would try to impose themselves on someone younger and I would intervene telling them that they probably dated guys when they were younger so why do they need to behave this way now towards younger guys as their behavior was very rude. You are correct Art that maturity is with the individual and not age. Additionally older gay guys tend to get very depressive and develop loneliness. All I can advise them to do is focus on other things in life what would help them feel better like helping younger guys in being successful. This is a very good topic. Thank you for posting it.
Thank you for sharing! I agree with you. I hope we can talk about depressive and loneliness soon and how to deal with it getting older.
Excelent.
Wonderful
it is good to have older friends they look out for you
I’m now 58. I had a younger boyfriend recently who was 30. I was so attracted to him but realized he should have a younger man and have the longevity of a love relationship so, I stopped seeing him. I think of him very much. Such a cute man just like you Art.
My first long term boyfriend was 22 years older than me and it was one of the best relationships I’ve had.
Looking cool.
When I was 20 I fell in love with a 55 year old Latin guy I met from my University friends. He could' nt accept that could be true. That was sad for me. I moved on.
Good friends are hard to find never discount people of age for friendship. I never do l have many friends that l trust more that are older always gave me great advice when l was depressed
Comment #5, 7:22 pm, ET, 02-28-2021, Art, you are just very interesting and very impressive. You are able to take things as they come and succeed. You have the talent to make the best out of every situation. I respect that. Your English is much better than most people who were born here. I look forward to and watch EVERY video you post.
Thank u Lewis I appreciate it a lot! Thank uuuu!
Thank you for the video on this topic. I'm 50 and most of my friends are younger than me, straight or gay.
Well, I'm glad you like older people, even if it is for friendship only. By the way, to my surprise, I almost had the pronunciation of your last name right.
Haha David thank u. My last name is hard even for native speakers lol
I am sixty and I have friends of every age. I wouldn't trade any of them for the world
Art love ❤️ is love age is just a number
My boyfriend is 31 years old and I am 59 we've been dating for 4 years and finally making the big move into my house he is! I'm so excited! This is going to be a fun adventure I'm so young at heart I see people my age all white hair and everything like wow I still have my blond hair blue eyes I am 6ft 2 I think I'm a pretty nice looking guy for my age and I like to have some fun I'm not a boring person!
Donald happy for you guys! Very very happy!
Thank you art. Don storm
Good stuff my friend, from Sunny Phoenix Arizona USA, I'm 57
Thank u Justin! Say hi to Arizona from me!
It's Colby
I use justintimemachene@gmail.com
As an acronym, thank you for the return comments😜
Society has conditioned people to be judgemental of relationships where a large age gap exists. I'm older but had a crush last year on a guy who was much younger. I work out 7 days a week and keep myself in shape and look younger than my real age. The interest seemed to be mutual. When we met for an inital date he asked me how old I was. I thought about lying, but decided to tell the truth because I thought that was better. I told him my real age and he just responded by saying "I'm surprised". After that he dropped pretty much out of sight. Note to self, if a similar situation comes up again in the future with someone else I'll just lie about my age. Should have done that to begin with.
I find them as a older dad not sexual daddy but a wiser gay dad that can help what we couldn't get from our parents
Art, in your life you will have friendship and relationship with people of the same age, people who are older than you and finally younger than yourself depending on where your are in your life journey. The question is what do you want to do? Please do not hurt them and love them because you will need them at some point in time in your life journey??
Hey thanks for comment. I didn’t meant to hurt anyone though;)
Age means nothing, I have a very good friend that is 35+ years younger then I am. We have a
great relationship. Just enjoy anyone that you like and enjoy their company. Peace.
Thank u Lucas! I Will!
Agism has definitely become a bigger issue in America than in many other places. It is also why there is a much greater loss of generational wisdom and knowledge. I am in my 50's and work with college campuses, so I have many friends who are your age. Of course, because of this, I have also dated fellas your age, but that is rare as most people are straight and relationships should be based on mutual understanding and respect and not some basic bigotry.
Agree James.
Age is just a number 🥰
age is just a number if there is a connection and mutual respect for each other that's all that matters
My partner is 10 years younger than me and I have a good friend who I met through work who is 23 years younger than me. Age doesn't matter as long as you vibe with someone.
Such a good video when I was 18 my best friend/roommate was 50 we never had sex we just bonded helping each other. We lived together until I turned 25 and I met my husband.
Thank u so much Steve for sharing! That is amazing I need to know it exists!
You are a very attractive young man. Good for you having an older friend
I never thought of normal as something to aspire to
I am almost 73 years old. I have lots of much younger friends, and older friends, but I can’t invite them to the same events because the old ones tend to leer, touch inappropriately, and in general make the young ones uncomfortable. You are fortunate to have an old friend who does not act that way. It’s not just a gay problem. Think governor Cuomo, Bill Clinton, Trump etc. etc.
I also have a friend much younger than I, and it's mostly quite a wonderful friendship; although not so much "age" gap but "generation" gap comes into play.
Thank you for sharing David!
Inside every 60 year old is a 20 year old wondering what happened
That's cute.
Art Do some study on the Adolescent Frontal lobe development. Brains are not developed until after 25 years old or more. The brain is not capable of making decisions due to under development or maturity. This is a huge problem when decisions are critical at a young age. Good for you that you are getting feedback from an adult
Well I definitely not agree with this study;)
As a psychologist, I can confirm that studies do show that the frontal cortex, the part of our brain that controls much of our thinking does remain relatively plastic and continues developing into the mid 20's. The science is correct but your deductions are wrong and absurd. Most young people I know put a lot of thought into their career path, how they view the world, and what sort of other people make them feel good and upon whom they would like to model their further development. Society expects this. Our young people (in the UK) are allowed to marry at 16, and can be sent to fight for their country at 18. Also there is a quite wide range in thinking skills. Contrast the wisdom of the young man who made this video with the middle-aged asinine fools who appear regularly on channels like Fox News. "I'm not wearing a mask, I am a free 'Mercan". I mean come on, there is no fool like an old fool! Are there predatory people of all ages out there? Of course. We all need to help one another at all ages.
the age gape traditionally represented the opportunity for exchange not necessarily of money which serves no purpose but of ideas and experience - ask a young man if he thinks he has free will - and he is immediately intrigued...questions that need to asked and discussed in a harmonious setting affectionately - Socrates was by Greek standards ugly but it was his mind that fascinated the youth - even the notoriously handsome Alcibiades who snuggled into bed with him. Socrates turned him down. Alcibiades was so impressed that ANYONE would turn him down male or female that developed a profound respect for Socrates....
Hi Art😃
Hey you!!! Haha
Art, my dearest friends are older and they are true friends.
My situation: me 59..other is 21..amazing but difficult..trying to live in the moment
Age is just a number. Attitude is more relevant than age.
Well said!
To me age is just a number. If two people love each other. It’s just a number.In the Philippine I have seen gay guys as young as 20 live with a 65 years old. American people think like that the age gap if someone is way young then is partner. They just want to talking trash about it. I don’t think it matters at all. Again age is just a number. Love you Art
Thank you Rick!
Oh darn you have a shirt on
Finally.
"This asshole guy" 🤣🤣
Art, I love your tiktok videos and your Instagram videos. I think you're a beautiful person. Though I am old enough to be your father, I would love to have a guy like you on my side. 🏳️🌈❤🏳️🌈
Bill thank u so much! I appreciate it! You are very welcome here!!!
@@artiomboylive thank you, kind younger man