Coach Craig Kenneth YES! It's very helpful, Thank you! I will love myself more..pressing forward.... I do believe that time will heal.... and I wish him well.
I have a very bad depression and anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I can't feel happy without him anymore. I don't feel like to do anything and live sometimes
Very helpful. Now that I’ve had a couple weeks since my break up I realize what a nut case and immature Selfish, self centered person my ex-girlfriend was. Your videos really lean perspective insights.Keep up the good work both of you!
If I understand it correctly, the framework for the obsession to stop is this: make your brain realize that a reunion with your ex is definitely possible and nothing is wrong. What you must do now is live your life as if that didn’t matter. It’s a win-win situation: if your ex comes back around, it’s bliss or it’s useless, since you might have realized by now you’re better off without them. If the ex never shows up, you’re already living another life anyway and it doesn’t matter.
Thank you for this I needed this. I’m not waiting for her to come back but it is comforting to feel that there is a chance that at some point I can see her again, even as a friend, and catch up on all the years we spent apart from each other.
I'm in this boat too. I miss him so much, its been nearly 5 weeks and it still really really hurts. Everything I do, I have throwbacks of him and wonder what he's thinking and what he's up to all the time. When people say "It'll get easier, you'll get over him"... but I'm currently in that state where I dont want to get over him/leave him behind cos I still want him back... and he was my best friend. it makes it really hard when I'm sat at my laptop trying to do my uni work.
I am in the exact same boat Ellen. I know it's horrible feeling like this.. all my friends say the same thing ' yeah you will get over them' its just not like that when your soo passionate about someone and you are your best of friends:-( I feel for ya. Hope it all works out.
I put your videos on to calm and soothe myself - especially at night. Sometimes you are the only people who give me hope that I'm not going completely mad. Thank you both for all you do.
I'm in that boat.... It's been 2 months no contact, he tried to contact me indirectly at first 30 days..and I ignored it. He knows what I want, and I won't settle. I'm working on myself and great things are coming my way.... but I still miss him so much...it hurtssssss...
I dont want to let go of the thoughts because i dont want to let my ex go but it's really effecting my life, i dream of them and i see their name every where i go 😣
Time is the only friend I have that will get her out of my head. The only things that get her out of my head is when I watch both movies & tv shows I like, as well as when I'm working. But when I'm not doing one of those 3 things she just keeps finding a way into my head. Not only that I keep wanting to get back with her yet at the same time something in the back of my head is telling me I'm better off w/out her.
It’s been over 4 months since she broke up. I went to no contact almost immediately but I still haven’t heard a word from her and I’m very confused. This is a girl who would call me in the morning if I didn’t text her good morning or get upset if I didn’t go to her place to see her everyday. We had communication problems which caused the break up but I don’t understand how she could just disappear like this.
Same here man. This girl was head over heals for me. Everyone saw it and knew it. I took her for granted a little bit and had issues with my personal life in the background and she just left. almost 2 months and a half and no word from her. I feel like Im dying. How could she just leave like that?
Add me to list of those whose loved ones disappeared in an instant. In my case, she monkey branched me. Ouch! It’s crazy how the night before it was “I love you”, etc. Little did I know I’d read a life changing text the next morning, just days before Valentines Day. I guess she had plans with the new boo. I never saw the cold hearted bitch DNA during the previous four years. I suspect women who walk away do so because their next lover is waiting. I don’t think women, in general, leave to be alone or to work on themselves.
It's been six months since my gf left me for another man totally out of the blue, and I see her walking around the university all the time. She even says hello. But I still find myself crying. I want to feel better and I feel that I want her back.
COACH CAN YOU MAKE A VID EXPLANATION OF "IF MY EX COMES BACK EVEN THOUGH I WANT TO WORK IT OUT BUT I DONT TRUST HER/HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE/HE LEFT ME" PLSSS COACH FOR INSIGHTS GOD BLESS AND THANK YOU
I can’t cope with this easy come / easy go thinking some have about modern relationships .. I’m loyal and want to work things out with a partner - but mine didn’t .. I’m broken and don’t know if I can trust again
Why am I the 1% whose ex got married 2 months later. Its been 8 months and it still consumes my day. I had a parent pass in december and it has just amplified the grief.💔
My ex married the next person... 6 months after he ended our relationship of 5 years... he was a bit too fast, wasn't he?? Deep inside I think this marriage can never work...
You two are keeping me sane - I'm at the exact stage you describe scared of letting go of those memories, will indulge those memories and live the sadness
Thanks for your help. I had a dream that I saw her and I felt terrible. She left me for someone else and I feel awful every day. Today is day 9 of no contact and it is so tough.
Bro she don't deserve you if you contact her ur a dick! You lost a girl wich dumped you for another guy and she lost a guy wich loved her! So st the end of the day she lost not you. You will meet a girl who will love you and won't dumb you for none in the world. The reason im watching this video today is because o was thinking about my ex aswell today and the reason was she texted me after 3 years o.O telling me how stupid she was for braking up etc hahaha she finally realized but its late now. So my advice is don't waste time with her anymore. You will suffer for few months or even years(if you wont find another love) its something normal. Be strong brother
Oh, the dreams... With my previous ex, I dreamed every night that she was cheating on me, or I ran into her with a new guy, stuff like that... I'd wake up all upset and anxious. Then with my latest ex (broke up with me 2 weeks ago), I dreamed last night that she came to me, wanted to make things right and start a relationship again. We hugged and kissed. It felt so real, I was so happy... Then I woke up, realized it was a dream and felt depressed as ****.
One of my favourite videos, thank you! I am so grateful that you talk about this feeling of your life being in danger during a break up. I was not aware of how common this is. I spent the first six weeks of my life in hospital, my parents couldn't be with me more than an hour a day. The feeling of being abandoned and helpless gets triggered in every breakup. I had years of therapy and worked on my attachment issues, but this primal state of panic occurs with every loss. Friends and family can't relate, that makes it hard to talk about it.
yeah so difficult . i wanna hit my head on the wall just to atleast forget him stop thinking of him even just an hour . no matter how tired i am still cant sleep and when i can sleep it is just for few mins and there it goes . tears fell down again just wake up at mid night to cry missing him so much . and it hurts me more knowing i am just the only one that is hurting
Thanks for this video. It's been almost 4 weeks since it ended with what I thought was the woman I would be with forever. Still crying from time to time but not everyday as the first 2 weeks, but tbh I miss her so much it's unbearable some days.
Jimbo Lowe Oh I’m sorry to hear that bro! How long has it been since it ended? I really feel for you. 5 years is a long time, but I sense that you’re dealing with this quite good and being strong about this.
Jimbo Lowe That’s rough man. Let her be and cool off for the time being. Eventually she’ll start to wonder about if her decision was really the right one. You got lots of history together so I think your chances are big. My ex has reached out twice now, but it’s too soon and she won’t let me move on. The latest reachout was some weeks ago, she mailed me she needed my help (but nothing else in the mail) and tried to call me. She forgot she broke up with me and that I don’t want to be just friends. Felt alot like breadcrumbing or as she wanted to make sure I was still her doormat. Anyways, stay in no contact. I know the urge of reaching out first will be overwhelming, but try to do something else when that happens.
Jimbo Lowe Okay, just don’t lose yourself in this process. She needs to feel the loss and sit with her decision. Remember that. Put yourself first now. I really wish you best of luck!
I'm 7 months in NC, off late her thoughts hit me hard, literally consume me at times. My heart still hopes she'll be back and I have no control over it. I want to get better soon.
Adding to my previous comment: I have been experimenting with a visualization because my anxiety and the intrusive thoughts are keeping me agitated at night. I picture having lost my partner which completely wrecked my nervous system as an actual sabre tooth tiger. You and Margaret have used this comparison a lot in your videos to show how much breakups threaten our feeling of basic safety. It might sound silly, but I allow the tiger to follow me during the day, to stay close, but not to attack me. At night I picture it settling on my doorstep and close it's eyes. For some reason it does help a little, it gives this vague feeling of constant panic a concrete form I can work with.
day 7, I tried to make grand gesture every single day, she called cops and was collecting evidence that I am approaching her, I still love her, but I am accepting that she thinks I am a threat and we probably will never see each other, she told me we are getting married 10 days ago, I am a mess, I am helpless, I still don't believe someone that loved me can erase me out of their life so easy, but she's not her and I am not me anymore.
Frank Liu exactly the same thing is happening to me. She hasn’t called the cops and I haven’t made any grand gestures, but she has amputated me like a tumour. That’s the hardest part - how she can go from cuddling in bed one day, to having no love for you the next. It’s cold, it’s harsh and it’s brutal. But it’s life.
@@girijathesaviour9290 She's now sleeping with someone I once considered a 'best friend' and I'm single AF. Hoping next year is kinder. Thank you for asking 🙂
@@girijathesaviour9290 Not really as I had to deal with the friendship betrayal as well as the breakup. It's been awful. You don't want that, believe me.
@@girijathesaviour9290 Really sorry to hear that, too. It takes AGES to recover. I'm still not right 1.5ish years later. I hope we both fare better in the long run. Drop me a message here any time you want to talk. Notifs are on 🙂
@@girijathesaviour9290 You seem set on 'revenge' but whatever that entails isn't worth the emotional stress or the effort, for your sake. It's not up to you to try to control her now. In fact, the only person you can ever have full control over is yourself. Her actions from now are her responsibility. I don't know what she did to you but it's important for you that you go and live your life now, for you. If you take action you may feel guilt and you'll only serve to sabotage yourself. I really hope you put the energy into making your life better, rather than her life worse.
It's been 6 months since me and my ex broke up we just graduated high school back in May I know it was just a high school relationship but we were together for 2 1/2 years. It still bugs me that I'm still hung up about it. She started dating another guy not even a week later. It's even worse because I know that I am doing so much better without her I lost a lot of weight and even bought a new Jeep. It still just sucks I can't forget about her or move on. I don't know what to do anymore I'm on the verge of breaking down.
That’s totally normal. I have a friend who was with someone for a year. It’s been 6 months and she’s not over it. You’re going to be okay. Hang in there.
Day 3 for me and it's so hard, I want to just love myself but can't stop thinking what I need to work on so this never happens next time so keep thinking what did I do wrong. .
4 years later I’m watching this videos and realizing a lot stuff. In less than 3 weeks I lost my grandmother, my work cut my hours and my girlfriend left me with my unborn child. I want her back but what else can happen to me🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
13 weeks today since he broke up with me; and 16 weeks since we last saw each other. I thought I was doing well - I’ve been spending time with friends and family, busying myself with work, getting back into hobbies, eating well, I’ve lost 33 lbs. This week I’m struggling a bit more for some reason. I still miss him every day 😔
Ive been married for 3 yrs in my 4th and best marriage my wife has bi polar 1&2 .We have been thru alot in the 5 yrs we have been together i havent heard from her in 3 wks im scared lonely and distraught ive tried everything i can think of. I dont want my marriage to end she wanted counsling but unfortunately due to my child support obligations we are unable to afford it please help me win the love of my life back. I think about her everyday coincidence time of our anniversary birthdays ect ect. Im so lost everything we have sacrificed for stood for anxiously waited for is at our fingure tips and i feel like i never existed to her
Hey coach your videos are great and give me some real comfort when I watch as I'm going through the toughest stage of my life ever, I was happily in love with my gf and have a baby on the way when suddenly she ended it for no reason and after some digging I found out her ex is now living with her and it's ripped me apart, I'm struggling to just get through one day but your video give me some good insight how to get through this
I randomly called him this morning after 10 days of no contact. He didn't answer the first time and I didn't leave a message. I hung up and wrote up what I wanted to say in a message and called back about 30 min later and he answered. I used what I wrote to start the conversation and we talk for 3.5 hours. I don't know for sure, but we might try to get together on the 31st. We will see.
You guys are great❣️. Had me smiling before it ended. I love how Margaret described the my conversations with my brain 😁. I love how you both cut me slack and tell me not to beat myself up. Thank you both 🙏 so much for your compassion & generous hearts. This was the BEST relief to end self flagellation❣️
Day 61 NC and over Christmas has been truly painful. 8 years together, engaged and got a 2 year old little girl. I'm trying to trust the process but its so hard. Thankfully family facilitate contact with my daughter
I am trying....2 months on still obsessing on my ex...the good memories. Despite the fact he has only contacted me over the last 2 months to tell me how terrible I was. I feel truly unlikable and unlovable now.
Please help! My ex just reached out after 3 weeks, and said she hoped I was ok and if I could send her some money that i owe her. Do you think she just want her money or did she reach out cause she misses me too? Should I ask to meet?
How are things with your ex now? Did you ask to meet? That would have been the wrong move. Always pretend that you're over them. It makes them second guess themselves.
You guys are SO amazing!! You clarified my boyfriend's insane behavior in 2009!! He dumped me hard in 2012. THIS video explained it ALL!! Love you so much!! 🥰
you're vlog is so educational,im learning a lot from your advices,i no longer care if he's coming back or not,i learned to love myself even more.....at the end of the day,i should keep going😇🤗😍he'll always be special for me even if were not meant to be.....🤗
It’s now been a lil over 3 months and it’s hurting more and more i have arranged to meet with someone else but all I can think about is my ex my anxiety is going through the roof and I don’t know what to do at this stage it’s really getting to me
My unsolicited advice: Buy the workbooks from Coach Craig and learn. As you go through the workbook, watch as your anxiety dissolves and you realize you don't need "someone" in order to be yourself. Learning, as we did in school, removes the fear because we now understand the subject and have the needed tools to work with. Knowledge is power, Applied knowledge is even better.
2 years later, I still think of her every day. But yesterday was a step back. A Facebook memory of her came up that I had forgotten, and I clicked on It, which l ed me to see her fb for the FIRST time in 2 years. And her profile pic is her and her partner she met straight after me. I felt so sad, the feeling of being replaced. It's been awful. It must be serious if she has made a profile pic with her boyfriend. She didn't do that with me in 16 months of dating! So I have some more work to do. I will seek a therapist. Being this reactive 2 years later is not healthy.
Shit man I feel for you. A pic of my ex and her rebound showed up 6 weeks after we split. That has been on my mind for 8 months now. Sent me into a depression. I hope you're feeling better now.
I broke up with my ex 3 months I was fine at first then he kept looking for me so we’ve been going back and forth ever since . It’s been a week now that he choose to break up and I’m devastated can’t sleep can’t eat just can’t stop thinking about him 😩
Okay, so I have a slightly different problem. I have had Heart and Soul in my head for the last 6 hours. I'm trying my hardest to think of my ex, but all I can hear in my brain is that fucking song. I can't get rid of it. I've been humming it for half the day. HELP, SEND HELP, give me my obsessive ex thoughts back
Wow I could’ve saved myself a lot of obsession! Now I understand why I spin those reunion fantasies. Do I stop them the same way? I think I have to rewatch the video a few more times. Very insightful!
Suzanne M Ugh, I hate those reunion fantasies. They have music and everything. We had a kid together, and he’s always playing, happily, in the background :(
Hi, I am from India and was same sax relationship,my ex left me 3 months ago and I am in a NC and I got to know she’s talking to someone during the quarantine lockdown,this girl is from our office and had a crush on my ex , I am scared and what should I do ? Please help
Please, Im trying to stop thinking about my ex and keeping myself distracted. And sure for a day I may be successful, but then he pops up in my dreams. In the span of a month, Ive had more dreams abt him compared to the dreams Ive had of my prev 2 loves before him combined 😭
Instead to your videos morning when I'm home and always at night .. When I first going through my brewj up n on bas days I will listen through out the day too .. I put you on my pillow n listen to uou all night as ymfrom say 1 these calm me from my anxiety, also learning . Thinking yes thats what I think or something... Im nearly finished my first knowledge book .. So excited for the second....
The man I love DID have sex with someone else. This was 6 months ago and I haven't seen him since. It still hurts badly when I think about it and I still can't stop obsessing over him😰
I’m thinking about my ex still from when I was 16 right now all I wanna do is just check in make sure she’s okay & happy. I haven’t spoken to her in maybe a year
@@kungfukenny1540 ha! 3 years later…. What had happened? My ex had dumped me then a few weeks later she was showing up to places I frequented, and giving signs that she had missed me. What I had done was set my social media on private and it effectively gave her the message to bugger off. The mistake was that I hadn’t realized I had blocked her in the process. That wasn’t my intention. She in turn, unfriended me and blocked me back. I never heard from her again. Either way, I learned two things. Number 1: if you get dumped, don’t do anything that signals hurt. Number 2: women can be pretty selfish in that they’ll reject you and yet still believe you still owe them something and have no problem taking from you. They don’t operate with much empathy. You don’t owe them anything after they say you’re not good enough. Moving forward, make as much money as you can, have a really good pre-nump if you get married and don’t ever compromise with your happiness. The moment you give your balls away, is the moment you will be miserable in the relationship. If you get dumped for holding your ground, at least she’s not taking your dignity.
Thank you for this video. It helps to know I am not alone. I'm going through a breakup with a coworker. He seems to be doing well. When I started sensing that a breakup was coming, that's when the obsessive thoughts started. I'm trying to do everything but it's unrelenting as I have to see him everyday. It's like I get to experience the breakup everyday.
Very helpful... working on myself has been very helpful. And coming to this video made me realize why i am thinking what I am thinking. A understanding like this [triggers] can be mind blowing. Thank you again Margaret and Craig you two are the best of the best. Hang in there folks.
I think of my ex alot why I try to block him and then I turn the radio station and the song o here make me cry don't know of he live in the town were we lived he told me that he going to lever out town did he
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I get you, he's pretty pricey or else I'd do him too...well not do him...lol...you know what I mean. What I have done is went and searched in his titles everything that I'm going through and just turned it to my situation as much as I could....hope that helps.
What did you guys think of this video? Was it helpful?
Coach Craig Kenneth YES! It's very helpful, Thank you! I will love myself more..pressing forward.... I do believe that time will heal.... and I wish him well.
Both of you are a Great Team
Coach Craig Kenneth my ex texted me yesterday after no contact for three weeks. Um I’m dying for our session Thursday
I have a very bad depression and anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I can't feel happy without him anymore. I don't feel like to do anything and live sometimes
Very helpful. Now that I’ve had a couple weeks since my break up I realize what a nut case and immature Selfish, self centered person my ex-girlfriend was. Your videos really lean perspective insights.Keep up the good work both of you!
If I understand it correctly, the framework for the obsession to stop is this: make your brain realize that a reunion with your ex is definitely possible and nothing is wrong. What you must do now is live your life as if that didn’t matter. It’s a win-win situation: if your ex comes back around, it’s bliss or it’s useless, since you might have realized by now you’re better off without them. If the ex never shows up, you’re already living another life anyway and it doesn’t matter.
Thank you for this I needed this. I’m not waiting for her to come back but it is comforting to feel that there is a chance that at some point I can see her again, even as a friend, and catch up on all the years we spent apart from each other.
@@godcomplex8251 any updates
Every time i am about to give up,you guys give me energy boost and remind me not to give up on myself. Thank you to two amazing persons 😘
I'm in this boat too. I miss him so much, its been nearly 5 weeks and it still really really hurts. Everything I do, I have throwbacks of him and wonder what he's thinking and what he's up to all the time. When people say "It'll get easier, you'll get over him"... but I'm currently in that state where I dont want to get over him/leave him behind cos I still want him back... and he was my best friend.
it makes it really hard when I'm sat at my laptop trying to do my uni work.
I am in the exact same boat Ellen. I know it's horrible feeling like this.. all my friends say the same thing ' yeah you will get over them' its just not like that when your soo passionate about someone and you are your best of friends:-( I feel for ya. Hope it all works out.
yeah it's awful. Been since January 26th but I'm thinking of her so much
How do you feel now Ellen? any updates?
@@harmanjotkaur3451 She's dead
You need to realise that YOU were his best friend or at least tried to be...he was not. Hence he betrayed you. I'm sorry I'm also in the same boat
I put your videos on to calm and soothe myself - especially at night. Sometimes you are the only people who give me hope that I'm not going completely mad. Thank you both for all you do.
Same here
I'm in that boat.... It's been 2 months no contact, he tried to contact me indirectly at first 30 days..and I ignored it. He knows what I want, and I won't settle. I'm working on myself and great things are coming my way.... but I still miss him so much...it hurtssssss...
I'm in the same boat, stay strong sister !
Any updates?
@Mansureh Shahraki ex came back??
Well done, just focus on yourself, never stoop, love ur high energy!!
Update??
I dont want to let go of the thoughts because i dont want to let my ex go but it's really effecting my life, i dream of them and i see their name every where i go 😣
That happens,but as time passes by,things will get easier and you will slowly start to forget her!!
I know exactly what you mean, it's really hard
Your clinical approach takes the air out of anxiety balloons. Thank you!
Time is the only friend I have that will get her out of my head. The only things that get her out of my head is when I watch both movies & tv shows I like, as well as when I'm working. But when I'm not doing one of those 3 things she just keeps finding a way into my head. Not only that I keep wanting to get back with her yet at the same time something in the back of my head is telling me I'm better off w/out her.
Update??
Im crying while listening to your advices, this anxiety is killing me.
It’s been over 4 months since she broke up. I went to no contact almost immediately but I still haven’t heard a word from her and I’m very confused.
This is a girl who would call me in the morning if I didn’t text her good morning or get upset if I didn’t go to her place to see her everyday. We had communication problems which caused the break up but I don’t understand how she could just disappear like this.
Same here man. This girl was head over heals for me. Everyone saw it and knew it. I took her for granted a little bit and had issues with my personal life in the background and she just left. almost 2 months and a half and no word from her. I feel like Im dying. How could she just leave like that?
Add me to list of those whose loved ones disappeared in an instant. In my case, she monkey branched me. Ouch! It’s crazy how the night before it was “I love you”, etc. Little did I know I’d read a life changing text the next morning, just days before Valentines Day. I guess she had plans with the new boo. I never saw the cold hearted bitch DNA during the previous four years. I suspect women who walk away do so because their next lover is waiting. I don’t think women, in general, leave to be alone or to work on themselves.
seeflow if they don’t work on themselves then they won’t have healthy relationships and you’re better off finding someone else
Definitely agree, Spiderclawz.
How are you now bro? Maybe you have an avoidant attachment style?
It's been six months since my gf left me for another man totally out of the blue, and I see her walking around the university all the time. She even says hello. But I still find myself crying. I want to feel better and I feel that I want her back.
COACH CAN YOU MAKE A VID EXPLANATION OF "IF MY EX COMES BACK EVEN THOUGH I WANT TO WORK IT OUT BUT I DONT TRUST HER/HIM ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE/HE LEFT ME" PLSSS COACH FOR INSIGHTS GOD BLESS AND THANK YOU
I can’t cope with this easy come / easy go thinking some have about modern relationships .. I’m loyal and want to work things out with a partner - but mine didn’t .. I’m broken and don’t know if I can trust again
but its feels like ur dying if ur in that process.. it hurts so much
Why am I the 1% whose ex got married 2 months later. Its been 8 months and it still consumes my day. I had a parent pass in december and it has just amplified the grief.💔
How are you now? I am here if you want to
Talk x
I hope your all good pray for your peace ❤
My ex married the next person... 6 months after he ended our relationship of 5 years... he was a bit too fast, wasn't he?? Deep inside I think this marriage can never work...
D D Way to rushed doesn’t even know the person lol
D D Sorry to hear that. I think he just wanted hurting you.
I understand your pain i am suffering from same as well my ex married someone else after 3 year relation its so hard to take
It's so sad when love is only one way, the one left doesn't love you and don't care.
You two are keeping me sane - I'm at the exact stage you describe scared of letting go of those memories, will indulge those memories and live the sadness
Thanks for your help. I had a dream that I saw her and I felt terrible. She left me for someone else and I feel awful every day. Today is day 9 of no contact and it is so tough.
PianoMan4Life1982 day 9 of no contact for me too. About 2.5 weeks breakup. Fresh. These videos are helping.
Bro she don't deserve you if you contact her ur a dick! You lost a girl wich dumped you for another guy and she lost a guy wich loved her! So st the end of the day she lost not you. You will meet a girl who will love you and won't dumb you for none in the world. The reason im watching this video today is because o was thinking about my ex aswell today and the reason was she texted me after 3 years o.O telling me how stupid she was for braking up etc hahaha she finally realized but its late now. So my advice is don't waste time with her anymore. You will suffer for few months or even years(if you wont find another love) its something normal. Be strong brother
I am in no contact for 1 day and I feel like I am going to die. What should do?
Oh, the dreams... With my previous ex, I dreamed every night that she was cheating on me, or I ran into her with a new guy, stuff like that... I'd wake up all upset and anxious. Then with my latest ex (broke up with me 2 weeks ago), I dreamed last night that she came to me, wanted to make things right and start a relationship again. We hugged and kissed. It felt so real, I was so happy... Then I woke up, realized it was a dream and felt depressed as ****.
Wow, every time i lose hope you just lift me right up, thank you!
This was a great episode sending all my love to Margaret in heaven!
One of my favourite videos, thank you! I am so grateful that you talk about this feeling of your life being in danger during a break up. I was not aware of how common this is. I spent the first six weeks of my life in hospital, my parents couldn't be with me more than an hour a day. The feeling of being abandoned and helpless gets triggered in every breakup. I had years of therapy and worked on my attachment issues, but this primal state of panic occurs with every loss. Friends and family can't relate, that makes it hard to talk about it.
After hearing about your grand gesture I regretted not having dated you!
Thanks Elena, you’re a sweetheart
Me too.
yeah so difficult . i wanna hit my head on the wall just to atleast forget him stop thinking of him even just an hour . no matter how tired i am still cant sleep and when i can sleep it is just for few mins and there it goes . tears fell down again just wake up at mid night to cry missing him so much . and it hurts me more knowing i am just the only one that is hurting
Lanie, how are you now? Dxx
Thanks for this video. It's been almost 4 weeks since it ended with what I thought was the woman I would be with forever. Still crying from time to time but not everyday as the first 2 weeks, but tbh I miss her so much it's unbearable some days.
Jimbo Lowe Thank you
Jimbo Lowe None whatsoever
Jimbo Lowe Oh I’m sorry to hear that bro! How long has it been since it ended?
I really feel for you. 5 years is a long time, but I sense that you’re dealing with this quite good and being strong about this.
Jimbo Lowe That’s rough man. Let her be and cool off for the time being. Eventually she’ll start to wonder about if her decision was really the right one. You got lots of history together so I think your chances are big. My ex has reached out twice now, but it’s too soon and she won’t let me move on. The latest reachout was some weeks ago, she mailed me she needed my help (but nothing else in the mail) and tried to call me. She forgot she broke up with me and that I don’t want to be just friends. Felt alot like breadcrumbing or as she wanted to make sure I was still her doormat. Anyways, stay in no contact. I know the urge of reaching out first will be overwhelming, but try to do something else when that happens.
Jimbo Lowe Okay, just don’t lose yourself in this process. She needs to feel the loss and sit with her decision. Remember that. Put yourself first now. I really wish you best of luck!
I'm 7 months in NC, off late her thoughts hit me hard, literally consume me at times. My heart still hopes she'll be back and I have no control over it. I want to get better soon.
Has she met someone? How long were you together?
@@Motiv8Grow We were together for a year. I have no idea if she's met anyone.
It's like scheduling "worry time" (I have GAD) but for a person vs worries. Clever. We miss you Coach Margaret 🌷
Adding to my previous comment: I have been experimenting with a visualization because my anxiety and the intrusive thoughts are keeping me agitated at night. I picture having lost my partner which completely wrecked my nervous system as an actual sabre tooth tiger. You and Margaret have used this comparison a lot in your videos to show how much breakups threaten our feeling of basic safety. It might sound silly, but I allow the tiger to follow me during the day, to stay close, but not to attack me. At night I picture it settling on my doorstep and close it's eyes. For some reason it does help a little, it gives this vague feeling of constant panic a concrete form I can work with.
day 7, I tried to make grand gesture every single day, she called cops and was collecting evidence that I am approaching her, I still love her, but I am accepting that she thinks I am a threat and we probably will never see each other, she told me we are getting married 10 days ago, I am a mess, I am helpless, I still don't believe someone that loved me can erase me out of their life so easy, but she's not her and I am not me anymore.
Frank Liu exactly the same thing is happening to me. She hasn’t called the cops and I haven’t made any grand gestures, but she has amputated me like a tumour. That’s the hardest part - how she can go from cuddling in bed one day, to having no love for you the next. It’s cold, it’s harsh and it’s brutal. But it’s life.
I JUST WANT TO SPEAK TO YOU, ARGH!! This has been a traumatic split for me. I miss her so so much and am so regretful. I can't move on 😔
I feel the exact same way
@@girijathesaviour9290 She's now sleeping with someone I once considered a 'best friend' and I'm single AF. Hoping next year is kinder. Thank you for asking 🙂
@@girijathesaviour9290 Not really as I had to deal with the friendship betrayal as well as the breakup. It's been awful. You don't want that, believe me.
@@girijathesaviour9290 Really sorry to hear that, too. It takes AGES to recover. I'm still not right 1.5ish years later. I hope we both fare better in the long run. Drop me a message here any time you want to talk. Notifs are on 🙂
@@girijathesaviour9290 You seem set on 'revenge' but whatever that entails isn't worth the emotional stress or the effort, for your sake. It's not up to you to try to control her now. In fact, the only person you can ever have full control over is yourself. Her actions from now are her responsibility. I don't know what she did to you but it's important for you that you go and live your life now, for you. If you take action you may feel guilt and you'll only serve to sabotage yourself. I really hope you put the energy into making your life better, rather than her life worse.
This has probably been the most important video to help with my break up… it adds so much logic to how i am feeling
I listen to you two every night. It’s so good for me.
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰
It's been 6 months since me and my ex broke up we just graduated high school back in May I know it was just a high school relationship but we were together for 2 1/2 years. It still bugs me that I'm still hung up about it. She started dating another guy not even a week later. It's even worse because I know that I am doing so much better without her I lost a lot of weight and even bought a new Jeep. It still just sucks I can't forget about her or move on. I don't know what to do anymore I'm on the verge of breaking down.
Christian Quintana give it time, the fact you are progressing means it's positive... just give it time.
That’s totally normal. I have a friend who was with someone for a year. It’s been 6 months and she’s not over it. You’re going to be okay. Hang in there.
Yeah would love to know Christian, how are you now mate?
@@joshuarghhh nah bro he going to love and think about her another 3/4 years! unless he he have found a girl wich will fall in love more.
😳 wow amazing video! im going to try this! for obsessive thoughts i thought i was literally going crazy! 😭 thank you guys!
It's been almost a year and here and there I'll have relapses where I'll start to think about them but keep pushing through the storm
Day 3 for me and it's so hard, I want to just love myself but can't stop thinking what I need to work on so this never happens next time so keep thinking what did I do wrong. .
Update??
4 years later I’m watching this videos and realizing a lot stuff. In less than 3 weeks I lost my grandmother, my work cut my hours and my girlfriend left me with my unborn child. I want her back but what else can happen to me🤦🏽♂️🤦🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
13 weeks today since he broke up with me; and 16 weeks since we last saw each other. I thought I was doing well - I’ve been spending time with friends and family, busying myself with work, getting back into hobbies, eating well, I’ve lost 33 lbs. This week I’m struggling a bit more for some reason. I still miss him every day 😔
It’s almost three years abs it still hurts
Ive been married for 3 yrs in my 4th and best marriage my wife has bi polar 1&2 .We have been thru alot in the 5 yrs we have been together i havent heard from her in 3 wks im scared lonely and distraught ive tried everything i can think of. I dont want my marriage to end she wanted counsling but unfortunately due to my child support obligations we are unable to afford it please help me win the love of my life back. I think about her everyday coincidence time of our anniversary birthdays ect ect. Im so lost everything we have sacrificed for stood for anxiously waited for is at our fingure tips and i feel like i never existed to her
Hey coach your videos are great and give me some real comfort when I watch as I'm going through the toughest stage of my life ever, I was happily in love with my gf and have a baby on the way when suddenly she ended it for no reason and after some digging I found out her ex is now living with her and it's ripped me apart, I'm struggling to just get through one day but your video give me some good insight how to get through this
How's this now for you? Hope you made it to a better place and new relationship
how are things man?
I randomly called him this morning after 10 days of no contact. He didn't answer the first time and I didn't leave a message. I hung up and wrote up what I wanted to say in a message and called back about 30 min later and he answered. I used what I wrote to start the conversation and we talk for 3.5 hours. I don't know for sure, but we might try to get together on the 31st. We will see.
Angela Barber I hope it worked. Wish you the best
What happened with you and you're ex? How are you now?
joshuarghhh update
You guys are great❣️. Had me smiling before it ended. I love how Margaret described the my conversations with my brain 😁. I love how you both cut me slack and tell me not to beat myself up. Thank you both 🙏 so much for your compassion & generous hearts. This was the BEST relief to end self flagellation❣️
I've learned a lot from these videos. I will take the advice and not blame myself for break up.
Thank you Coach Margaret and Craig. You both are AMAZING! This video is a must watch more than a few times. Love you, Cheers, Rob
Day 61 NC and over Christmas has been truly painful. 8 years together, engaged and got a 2 year old little girl. I'm trying to trust the process but its so hard.
Thankfully family facilitate contact with my daughter
Update?
I am trying....2 months on still obsessing on my ex...the good memories. Despite the fact he has only contacted me over the last 2 months to tell me how terrible I was. I feel truly unlikable and unlovable now.
Hang in there
update?
I miss Margaret, she reminded me of the teachers & neighbors I had growing up. Such a good lady to talk to.
Thank you. I am thinking that my ex is with someone else. I just realized I am not a prophet. Thank you.
man... you guys maked me understand in a new way that is possible to get over it! I'm grateful. Greetings from Brazil!
It hurts to much to keep thinking ..I just staying in bed ...not going to work ..
I’m convinced my ex is moving on, 35 days and still no contact, I’m dying 😞😫
@@SNiiFiinPAiiNT nope still nothing, I give up 😆, lol I’m moving on! How about you?
@@fredoliver69 haha nope I’m done, I don’t want him anymore 😆😆
did he contact you?
@@RenskeLogie Hey no.. still no contact 🤨🤷🏽♀️😆 next ... lol kidding gotta laugh!
Please help! My ex just reached out after 3 weeks, and said she hoped I was ok and if I could send her some money that i owe her. Do you think she just want her money or did she reach out cause she misses me too? Should I ask to meet?
NO! She just wants MONEY. Trust me
Give her the money. You owe her. And NO, she doesn't miss you. She just want her money back.
How are things with your ex now? Did you ask to meet? That would have been the wrong move. Always pretend that you're over them. It makes them second guess themselves.
Bro if you owe her money pay her back jeez . Don't be that guy
Also I cant afford to reach out to you, thats why I can't do your coaching, I'm a student and I'm soo poor
If u follow no contact to a tee, watch his other videos and use common sense you should be successful regardless
You guys are SO amazing!! You clarified my boyfriend's insane behavior in 2009!! He dumped me hard in 2012. THIS video explained it ALL!! Love you so much!! 🥰
You guys are two great specialists and thank you very much for your helpful videos
I really love this video, it helped me a lot! And really love your chemistry together haha. Thanks guys!
you're vlog is so educational,im learning a lot from your advices,i no longer care if he's coming back or not,i learned to love myself even more.....at the end of the day,i should keep going😇🤗😍he'll always be special for me even if were not meant to be.....🤗
It’s now been a lil over 3 months and it’s hurting more and more i have arranged to meet with someone else but all I can think about is my ex my anxiety is going through the roof and I don’t know what to do at this stage it’s really getting to me
My unsolicited advice: Buy the workbooks from Coach Craig and learn. As you go through the workbook, watch as your anxiety dissolves and you realize you don't need "someone" in order to be yourself. Learning, as we did in school, removes the fear because we now understand the subject and have the needed tools to work with. Knowledge is power, Applied knowledge is even better.
2 years later, I still think of her every day.
But yesterday was a step back.
A Facebook memory of her came up that I had forgotten, and I clicked on It, which l ed me to see her fb for the FIRST time in 2 years. And her profile pic is her and her partner she met straight after me.
I felt so sad, the feeling of being replaced. It's been awful.
It must be serious if she has made a profile pic with her boyfriend.
She didn't do that with me in 16 months of dating!
So I have some more work to do. I will seek a therapist.
Being this reactive 2 years later is not healthy.
Shit man I feel for you. A pic of my ex and her rebound showed up 6 weeks after we split. That has been on my mind for 8 months now. Sent me into a depression. I hope you're feeling better now.
One of the most helpful videos I've come across. Thank you so much.
I broke up with my ex 3 months I was fine at first then he kept looking for me so we’ve been going back and forth ever since . It’s been a week now that he choose to break up and I’m devastated can’t sleep can’t eat just can’t stop thinking about him 😩
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰
Wonderful advice that I needed to hear! Thank you! The only thing that irks me is when people mix up the words "unconscious" and "subconscious".
Okay, so I have a slightly different problem. I have had Heart and Soul in my head for the last 6 hours. I'm trying my hardest to think of my ex, but all I can hear in my brain is that fucking song. I can't get rid of it. I've been humming it for half the day. HELP, SEND HELP, give me my obsessive ex thoughts back
I never thought of talking to my own brain. I might try that.
Need help struggling with this painfully for past seven months can you help me?
This is why I can't stop thinking about this video is because its so fantastic
Wow I could’ve saved myself a lot of obsession! Now I understand why I spin those reunion fantasies. Do I stop them the same way?
I think I have to rewatch the video a few more times. Very insightful!
Suzanne M Ugh, I hate those reunion fantasies. They have music and everything. We had a kid together, and he’s always playing, happily, in the background :(
Hi, I am from India and was same sax relationship,my ex left me 3 months ago and I am in a NC and I got to know she’s talking to someone during the quarantine lockdown,this girl is from our office and had a crush on my ex , I am scared and what should I do ? Please help
I am even more scare now, i have broken up with Jorge and his daughter is Jorghina...
Yall two brighten my day💛💛💛
Thankyou. It's a relief. I didnt know what I've been experiencing for 3yrs now is an obsessive thoughts. ❤
Please, Im trying to stop thinking about my ex and keeping myself distracted. And sure for a day I may be successful, but then he pops up in my dreams. In the span of a month, Ive had more dreams abt him compared to the dreams Ive had of my prev 2 loves before him combined 😭
Instead to your videos morning when I'm home and always at night ..
When I first going through my brewj up n on bas days I will listen through out the day too ..
I put you on my pillow n listen to uou all night as ymfrom say 1 these calm me from my anxiety, also learning . Thinking yes thats what I think or something...
Im nearly finished my first knowledge book ..
So excited for the second....
I meant first line , I listen to your videos etc
We are okay!
Looks like i can not control it! I can't forget her , she left me for someone else
As i sit here listening I visualize my ex in bed with someone new... UGH
Same that’s the worst
freaking sameee :(
Yep
don't do it. Think of them with someone worse than you and wanting you back :)
The man I love DID have sex with someone else. This was 6 months ago and I haven't seen him since. It still hurts badly when I think about it and I still can't stop obsessing over him😰
Top work guys👍 love ya both, emotionally and spritually💜
I’m thinking about my ex still from when I was 16 right now all I wanna do is just check in make sure she’s okay & happy. I haven’t spoken to her in maybe a year
I know someone who can help you get your ex back
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰
Thanks a lot, Magaret and Craig. You 2 have really helped me
I would love to talk but cant aford
Thank you Craig and Margaret. You're doing god's work.
I ruined my chance to get mine back by accident. I'm so angry at myself
What happened
@@kungfukenny1540 ha! 3 years later…. What had happened? My ex had dumped me then a few weeks later she was showing up to places I frequented, and giving signs that she had missed me. What I had done was set my social media on private and it effectively gave her the message to bugger off. The mistake was that I hadn’t realized I had blocked her in the process. That wasn’t my intention. She in turn, unfriended me and blocked me back. I never heard from her again. Either way, I learned two things. Number 1: if you get dumped, don’t do anything that signals hurt. Number 2: women can be pretty selfish in that they’ll reject you and yet still believe you still owe them something and have no problem taking from you. They don’t operate with much empathy. You don’t owe them anything after they say you’re not good enough. Moving forward, make as much money as you can, have a really good pre-nump if you get married and don’t ever compromise with your happiness. The moment you give your balls away, is the moment you will be miserable in the relationship. If you get dumped for holding your ground, at least she’s not taking your dignity.
“Her broom works just fine ! “ LMAO =) I love these two!!
Thank you for this video. It helps to know I am not alone. I'm going through a breakup with a coworker. He seems to be doing well. When I started sensing that a breakup was coming, that's when the obsessive thoughts started. I'm trying to do everything but it's unrelenting as I have to see him everyday. It's like I get to experience the breakup everyday.
What if I don't want her back but i still think about her. This paradox eats away at my psyche.
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰
Very helpful... working on myself has been very helpful. And coming to this video made me realize why i am thinking what I am thinking. A understanding like this [triggers] can be mind blowing. Thank you again Margaret and Craig you two are the best of the best. Hang in there folks.
I think of my ex alot why I try to block him and then I turn the radio station and the song o here make me cry don't know of he live in the town were we lived he told me that he going to lever out town did he
I tried that ! It worked
My anxiety lessened
Hi Coach Craig & Coach Magaret Good Morning From Singapore! What Would One Do If A Person's Feels Neglected Or IGnores By Their Ex & A Woman's Intend To End The Relationship If A Guy's Or A Man's Not Taking Actions With Their Emotions? Will A Guy's Truly Be Dedicated Or Responssible If A Woman Did Not Want AnyThing With A Man's Who Is Not Trying To Do What Is Right For Them? Than A Woman Has Her Own Family's To Leans On & Heals All Logical Thinking And Never Wants To Returns To That Bad Relationship & The Obsessive Thoughts Or A Woman's Has Done All The Necessary But The Universe Wants To Teach SomeThing's Else? Can Time Apart Will Awakend A Wounded-Soul & When A Guy's Or A Man's Get Blown Away By The Beauty Of A Natural Woman? Is It Easy For A Guy's Or A Man's To Returns To His Ultimate PartNer & Be His One & Only Soul-Tie/Twin-Flame/ Soul-Mate Connection & Reached Out Again After SomeBody's Been Telling The Guy That The One Who He Get Married Did SomeThing's To His 'Secret Rendevous' & He Wants To Ended That Nerve-Wrecking Frustrated Relationship He Choosed To Ended Immediately? What Will A Woman's Get From All The Drama Or Avoid Attachments to The Events That Occurs & Be Heal From All Negativity?
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley 💝
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰
The thing is I do want your help personally, but I am a college student so I can’t really afford it. Anyway you can work with me?
I get you, he's pretty pricey or else I'd do him too...well not do him...lol...you know what I mean. What I have done is went and searched in his titles everything that I'm going through and just turned it to my situation as much as I could....hope that helps.
Diane M Vigil thanks!
Love the video. Great advice👍👍
This video is amazing!
Thank you 🦋 this was so helpful!😘
Awesome. Great advice delivered with love. Thankyou. Xxx
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay
whats wrong with going back to your ex
Great advice. This works!!
i guess its best to move on if you can
lol.. love the story about your grand gesture of the yard.. I heard it before just made me laugh and smile again. I love you two lol
I Know Of a Great Relationship Restorer Who Can Bring Back Your Ex Within 2days Without No Daley
He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay