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- Set goals for 2024 in our monthly workshop & get a handwritten quests card: patreon.com/erikthor While the INFJ introvert often is attracted to the more extroverted ENFP and ENTP personality types, INFJs often need alone time to recharge. Therefore, setting boundaries is key. How do you manage the balance when you have an extroverted partner?
#infj #enfp #entp
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I think the most important hidden advice here is to not expect your partner to provide all your needs. That's one of the most universal and important things to remember about relationships.
Especially when we are young we tend to think that ones we find that special someone everything will just work out. But no we need more people in our lifes.
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Soory but INFJ is not a good match for ENTP. Im ENTP and the way i see INFJ is as very secretive. Sorry Erik, that is true. You guys are very secretive. Being around a secretive personality really turns off all ENTPs. its the truth. I like the introverted/shy personalities but not INFJ. Honestly the INTJ is a better suitor.
My sister is a infj, even though she finds me(infp) interesting, sometimes she stops me inbetween, Does her works or relaxes, Then says to continue with the conversations. She's a great adviser for me.
Thats awesome, I can tell you INFPs often served advisory roles to me, but most of all, you make me relax and enjoy a good dose of playful daydreaming. :)
Yeah! I give advice too, just now recognised, it's very subtle.Haha!! That's the vibe of infp's. We enjoy a lot in day dreaming. I'm happy that you get it too. ENJOY(actually I don't know what to say)
I feel good. You have a calming vibe,very intellectual.I'm amazed by your intelligence.
My best friend in the whole wide world is an INFJ.
I am a ENFP who 1st approached her at the Cafeteria in 7th grade. She admitted when we met…she was overwhelmed by my crazy amount of energy & how chatty I was! She then told the her views changed when she spent the night at my house for the first time. Her & I had convos that went to true depths… She saw a glimpse of my serious side & that I was attentive to her comfort.
We are now both 32, And I can say we are both hackling hyenas when we’re together & get serious on heavy matters. We both are very receptive with each other’s feelings & honest. Her & I are independent in different ways. Infj likes to stay in & I like to explore out. We have such a good friendship that we don’t need to constantly see each other or talk on the phone excessively to validate our friendship. I feel like that INFJ is one of the most understanding of my ENFP nature…I don’t feel controlled, boxed., held back or have expectations on how a friend ship “should be”. She has taught me to ground myself & I have thought her to fly. She has tough me to be more reserved & I thought her to let her freak flag fly! Feeling so blessed 💜
After reading the title, I immediately thought of the "Why are you running? Why are you running???" meme 😂 I can literally see the infj running away lol. Good work on the video 👍
That Stardew Valley background music though, nice choice.
- INFJ
Yeah my fav soundtrack :)
2 of my best friends ever were an Enfp and an Entp. We all met each other at the same time in Thailand, and had the most incredible 5 months together. I never felt drained from them during that time, but eventually the entp and I had a huge falling out. But overall, those are my two favorite types. I agree very much Erik! I find them fascinating and perfectly stimulating, and they find me fascinating as well.
I'll also likely marry an enfp someday as I am easily the most attracted to them. Have been with a couple in the past, and it was electric to say the least
ENFPs and ENTPs are both some types I could see myself dating, though these days I'm quite picky and I like my own company a lot LOL
@@ErikThor haha yes same. I don't see myself dating for at leeeaast a couple more years
Yes, but the ENFP has to want to marry YOU, and good luck on that one…
@@1stEarlOfSurrey you're projecting!
@@1stEarlOfSurrey I'm an ENFP and have to say that I'm actually surprised that INFJs are as drawn to us as we are to them! I had a best friend who was an INFJ. I'm was just being myself, having fun, sharing experiences and inviting "my INFJ" to join me on my adventures. I was her cheerleader. I didn't think that this was enough to offer because she was so good to me. She anticipated my needs, picked me up when I got knocked down, supported me in everything I did and comforted me when I got my dreams dashed. She anchored me when I was confused and let me lean on her when I was tired. She was the person I looked for as soon as I was out of the spot light. INFJs have SO much to offer ENFPs! She had brilliant insights. I didn't find her boring at all! I found her to be safe. I could have listened to her all day...but honestly, she was more likely to listen to me. I think we are both prone to downplay what we have to offer. I will tell you, INFJs, you are irresistible to ENFPs!
Oh, c'mon, let's face it: actually, INFJs run AFTER ENTPs😃. ENTPs are not clingy personalities. Yes, they like to talk, but they need their own space themselves. INFJs are fascinated by ENTPs. INFJs might end up running away from ENTPs not bcs they need space, but bcs ENTPs show them without mercy that side of them which they don't want to accept and confront. ENTPs are shaking INFJs' confortably status quo, and INFJs fear that.
You hit this on the head.
-ENTP
Idk as an info I feel like I’m constantly trying to escape to entps in my life and I really want to get closer to the enfps I know.
My life has been turned upside down by ENTP.
No, thank you.
Sorry to hear! They can indeed do that. What's your favourite type?
Same here. Go for ENFPs better.
Same here
I agree with the basic premise and some of these points. However, I feel the impact of attachment style is underrated and also too conflated with type here.
I am an ENFP who leans dismissive and the main INFJ I have dated was quite anxiously attached. So he was the one who wasn’t respecting my need for space. I think attachment style ultimately trumps cognitive type in terms of impact on intimate relationships.
I also don’t find INFJ’s hard to follow or understand.
The thing you briefly mentioned, the ENFP saying “how does that work in practice?”, spoke to the biggest hurt/disappointment I experienced in this relationship. Because I have Te (and because of my attachment style) I find actions HIGHLY outweigh words in terms of my love language. I perceived the INFJ as not doing any actionable “work” to improve the relationship. And until I understood Ni’s aversion to new information, I felt so frustrated that I would give, what was in my mind, great information about how I would like to be loved, and he would not take action and when I asked, “well, what did you think of that video I sent about X,Y,Z?” He would say he didn’t watch it, didn’t see the value of it or didn’t remember it.
For me I ended the relationship not because he needed more time alone but because I felt I was doing all “the work”.
Which I will also admit triggered an old, childhood wound in me.
I'm an INFJ, and two things stood out that I might explain: 1. We do tend to get very anxiously attached and wouldn't consider that a flaw. Love is a mix of dark and light. If someone doesn't feel jealousy and anxiety in a relationship, I question the gravity with which they take it. I don't expect that level of seriousness and connectedness in the other person (I will *always* be the more deeply loving one), but I at least expect her to value it and empathize with that position. 2. INFJs love the way cats love. That's how I put it. We are often perfectly content to be in the 'presence' of someone we love without doing any activities. I can sit with the woman I love with both of us just staring out opposite windows and be fine. Hard instinct to overcome! Sometimes we need to be pressed to get our asses moving. That one is a problem. I think your former mate needed to learn how to digest new data quickly, and that comes with maturity. For some of us.
I'm not the jealous type, as I see it as rather pointless and unecessary, irrational stress. However I get worked up and anxious pretty easily in an intimate relationship.
The lack of new information intake seems to stem from Ni-Ti. But as a person matures up, they will dig more often into extroverted intuition, the orientational opposite of their dominant function, something I've recently experienced as my INFJ powers were unlocked. And suddenly, we crave information and become restless about it. We need to explore. We are able to take actions and quit our lethargic, contemplative state, while ENFPs ponder a lot more. People evolve eventually.
Super interesting points! I think people who seek fulfillment in other people too much probably have an anxious attachment style and the ones who feel easily invaded by other people probably have a dismissive avoidant attachment style, which falls into another kind of problem-solving seeking than the MBTI, I'd say. But that's probably taking your point further. Just thinking! Great video!!
Great point! Have you seen Heidi Priebe lately? 😃 She has awesome attachment style vods!
GET BACK HERE, ERIK THOR.
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@@ErikThor What you doing here?!! You gotta run!!
I'm an infj-e clean mostly infj. I need recharge time. I love people and I value everyone. Yet, recharge time is so necessary. I attract entps and intjs mostly. Yet, I think we all need time to rest. Self care is vital.
Lol as an INTJ I do the same lol. When I meet an ENFP I purposely try to hide from them or blend into the wall or duck.... I need time to figure them out and they come on strong.... not sure about ENTP as havent been around many.... but ENFP I avoid for sure lol
STRONG is an understatement more like Yokozuna hefty! 😆 😅
On a base level there is a core of truth but the dynamic can tip as well.
If the INFJ and ENFP were the only 2 in the world this would be quite accurate but ENFPs such as I are REALLY eager to pick up a million projects. I've dated an INFJ who didn't have any social life compared to me always being busy and that can conflict in a fact of the ENFP needing to sacrifise a lot of themselves.
ENFPs in general tend to go the distance for sacrifises as I did myself but it can be quite taxing as it further commits the ENFP into one thing and if they develop an obsessed style of love it can destroy them as they then get into the Dynamic of being too much for the INFJ which will result in a breakup or drama. A commited ENFP is really bad at letting go and will need to learn good coping mechanisms in order not to sink after a breakup
good point. many introverts lack friends and so can have a dependent dynamic
@@ErikThor to me the xNFx paring can make for a really deep connection with the risk to obsession and to lose oneself. For the Ne doms for example pack behavior can occur which will make you feel responsible for someone else's well being. With the NF pairing not having a priority to sensing or thinking escaping a fly trap of "I want to care for them" (Ne) and "I love them" (Fe) both of them could end up creating an imbalance.
Bottom of the line is that all NF types should be careful in love and draw borders.
Sou mulher INFJ e apesar de não ter vida social, eu respeitaria o tempo que um ENFP precisa ter com as pessoas, até porque eu preciso de um tempo só pra mim para recarregar as energias. Acho que não seria controladora com um ENFP, mas gostaria que ele demonstrasse interesse por mim e não me esquecesse só porque viu a primeira coisa que lhe chamasse a atenção ou fosse mais "interessante" no momento.
I find enfps all over the place and me infj the exact opposite. The enfp sometimes seems like a party animal esfp. 😅
Btw, why do you suddenly look so young? 😂😅
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He recharched his energy
@@ErikThor 😂
I just adore the infjs in my life, and thank you for explaining why they dissappear sometimes. -Entp
As an infj i adore both. My father and entp and my bff enfp... i love him but hes like herding cats 😆
@@AKKritter Yes, Entps can't be herded! 😄
I used to think i'm an INFJ (turned out later i'm probably an ISTP) but all the ENFP and ENTP people run away from me. I might be just unsufferable
Who are you at your very best? Do you know your potential?
How did you come to realize you're an istp and not infj? Like what were the things you related to in infjs?
I can be insufferable and I am an infj. I am beginning to think I am an intj to be honest
Who doesnt run away from ENTPs? No offense, just some very vivid memories.very hot though 😁(ESFP here)
ENTPs are great, except the really pretentious ones who are insufferable. ~ESTP
One of my best friends in college was ENFP, he was super interesting and fun to hang with and get into mischief with. Lost contact after he transferred to another school, still kind of bummed about it. ~ESTP
I do run away a lot from my everloud ENFP partner constantly trying to hold/hug/gently attack me with his love and attention. It's incredibly funny to watch an INFJ shrinking into a corner and complaining meekly while the ENFP goes nuts like a happy big dog. Also very appealing 😂😏🔥
What a pair!
İn my mind. Sometimes, entp & enfp don't get about infj own-safe zone. İf u want to return friendship with infj, meaningful things're great choice for infj.
0:55 I feel very connected to ENFPs :))))
ENTP’s are so funny.
Well in my case I am an INFJ (guy) chasing an ENFP girl she showed a lot of interest before but I haven’t seen her in a long time ever since she dropped out of school (I was gonna make a move on her in person but I never saw her again)
i'm ENFP girl, i usually hide from people when i got stress, sometimes people misunderstood me personally because of that, you better give support to that enfp girl
@@irhamnairhamna3442 she left my messages on opened? Idk what to do if anything at this point :(
try to ask her friend or her family, maybe you make a mistake, did she hide only for you or for all people? i think she is in her unhealty mode
Same here. In my case I think she run from her feelings. The harder you push, the farther she run. The only solution: stop pushing and let her dealing with her emotions.
@@jazon85k that’s exactly what I did bro
Mi novio es entp y mi beti es enfp (':
First time I see a video of yours, and I like it.
Do you know how is the dynamic between Infj and infp? Is it possible to share abstract thoughts comfortably with them? (I'm Infj)
First haha 💙
Off topic entirely (and I'm not even an ENFP), but I've been playing Stardew Valley again on and off enough to the point where when the background music started playing I could have sworn I was hallucinating. I kept searching for where the music was coming from since I was positive I had closed the game entirely just a few hours ago. Until I paused the video to check whether I was going insane, I was about ready to take a break from the game again cause when I play it's a grind that lasts for HOURS and I thought this was a result of too much of that.
Although I suppose this wouldn't be the first time I wondered if I was slightly insane as an INFJ.
LOL
Nice video it was really clarifying
Nice info bro
thanks fam
As an ENTP I am an ambivert, whilst I realize that such a trait isn't highly common for ENTP's I won't deny it's not fairly common for ENTP's to be ambiverts and still need their alone time.
The only ENFP I know feels so fake to talk to. And she talks crap about me; not a fan. I actually have a back and forth crush with an ENTP, so I do see how it can work AND be a challenge! #infj
4:25 Iam an ENTP and I can completely relate to this coz I have an INFJ sibling 😅
I agree as an INFJ that an ENFP has energy and makes things fun, but he also likes my energy and how I make things interesting and fun too.
Coz they're tiring/intimidating to be around with 🫠 im an infj myself 😓
Are we really intimidating or are you INFJs are insecure and scared in the face of authenticity?
Runaway? That isn't how I'd characterize it...
ENFP/ENTP are probably more useful to INFJ/INTJ than vice versa. ENFP/ENTPs have lovely insights into life for which their counterparts can add to their repertoire of intuitive understanding. ENFP/ENTPs are terrible listeners (ENFP especially), and INFJ/INTJs are teachers. ENFPs and ENTPs tend to be "all over the place", without granting enough time for INFJ/INTJ to delve into specific topics. I think that is one reason INFJ/INTJ prefers ENFP/ENTP in small doses. To INFJ/INTJ... ENFP/ENTP just seem too ADHD. They lack focus.
@@ianlange8108 very accurate comment.
Lately, I have started to feel that Ni and Ne are fundamentally opposed to one another. As someone with second slot Ne, my interactions with an individual with second slot Ni have been very frustrating. Their worldview seems overly rigid to me, and their thinking seems very black and white. They have difficulty taking context into account when evaluating a situation. They get frustrated with me because I refuse to take a firm stand on anything unless I have all the information. Perhaps it is different for people who are Ne or Ni dominant?
I think it can be a consequence of the interaction between Ni and Ne. Ne can become very annoying for Ni because they need to talk about things that make sense and are meaningful at some point, which isn't always the case with Ne users. They're just sharing, sharing, sharing over and over without always being careful about if what they say is important in some way. And for Ni, it's heavily interested in important and general topics so they talk way less but make each sentence matter a lot and are decisive when talking.
that was very enlightening, thanks
more entp content infps boring
this is not even an infp vod heh but noted!
@@ErikThor YOURE OBSESSED WITH INFPS. but i get it, they are everywhere