Ha, I just remembered Renaud I watched this video 3 months ago and commented then. My ENFP lady and I reconciliated only to have several spats and finally broke up, mutually, 2 weeks ago. Too many irreconcilable differences sadly, we had a great connection and lots of fun. Just ordered your book. Cheers
I loved your comment on ENFPs not being about adventure for the sake of adventure. I am a geographer/teacher and love travel - but I’ve always felt this “wanderlust” stereotype of ENFPs is not so correct. I feel that ENFP’s could see every monument, mountain, and museum (with great awe and excitement) BUT what we’d love even more is to share a meal and talk about that persons perspective of life. I don’t need the Eiffel Tower - I need a good croissant and good conversation. Ha! Thank you for your video! Also, I’m an ENFP and am married to an ENTP and it’s a blast! Ha!
Well said. But i want to he sitting under the eiffle tour with the crossiant and my partner. I was late to the bus tour cause we had one hr and i was trying to find the perfect crossiants in aviogn france to share with the group. 🤪
I totally agree...When I am looking for an adventure and that adventure includes a great conversation with a local about their perspective on life that is like finding gold during my adventure. Pictures from my adventure mean nothing if I don’t have something deep or random that I connected with during the adventure
I give you another example. Some people find adventurous going to Thailand or to a foreign resort somewhere on the beach or going on a cruise. I could never, because I know this places are filled with exploitation of locals. It would clearly be in conflict with my values and even if some places look tempting, I would never support such thing. My wanderlust brings me the unexplored path or to the discovery of cities or places with a history. We love stories, don't we?
ENFP here. I stand firm in my personal values and am told by everyone I work with that my optimism and encouragement is contagious and motivating. People ask me how I’m able to stay so optimistic and warm all the time. The truth is, and I’m not certain if this goes for all ENFPs, that there is a lot of pain I carry daily. Sometimes my empathetic nature tortures me and upon self reflection I feel a deep sadness that I’ve carried my entire life. When I slip into my introverted nature I spend that time exploring those painful feelings and investigating my private depression. It can be quite the Pandora’s box of emotion.
I go thru these experiences also. I feel it is because we see the world how it could so easily be and it's not and no one wants to change it for the better. Its depressing.
I am enfp also and I feel like a part of me was just natural and sometimes unrealized by myself. Then there's been another part of me that was completely misunderstood by authority figures and people who I should of been able to look up too as an adolescent. But couldn't because of the feeling of being isolation and rejection they provided for thinking differently then others. My peers and my relationship sometimes felt like the only reason I got through it. So the appreciation is deep and the tolerance for belittling is extremely low. A definite trigger.
I think it comes from the feeling that very few people, if any, actually understand us. Many like us, but sometimes it feels like they like our charm rather than our actual selves.
This comment completely resonated with me. The carrying of deep sadness is something we never truly let go of. That's why we choose the warmer, lighter aspects of life because having experienced both, it's a much nicer place to be in :)
Really I get sick of guys when there not interesting enough.... I feel soo bad about but it is ture!! 💗 Are infj really deep all the time? I NEED THAT I WANT THAT!!
ENFP here - it is true, our emotions run very very deep, especially towards everyone in our lives. All my relationships are meaningful to me, even just my acquaintances.
@@victoriousjoy9338 haha because my best friend is an enfp and we connect so much in everything. Like we love deep connection and conversation, analizing things. We both realize when someone is fake . She is funny, talkative and inspiring in the way she talks. Enfps seem to me authentic people and they want the best for everyone, thats why I love them and I have good relation with them.
Ive only realised in the last couple of hours exactly what an enfp is. And ohh wow I didnt realise how much you like us. To me a good way to describe it is. After every relationship or attraction an infj judges. An enfp. Is literally the first person to show them attractive love. I hope this makes sense.....
I have two confirmed ENFP individuals in my life: One was a best friend in college. He was, shall I say *chaotic neutral* with an *interest* in chaotic evil. I ultimately hit him with the “notorious” INFJ door slam to protect myself from ruin via drug abuse (to be perfectly honest). But we did get along swell, and I dearly miss the companionship and conversation we shared. To this day, I’ve never found anyone else who I could cycle 20 miles with, all the while carrying a deep philosophical and political conversation. The other was a romantic interest 5 years back with whom I’m currently reconnecting. I’m blown away by the staying power of the INFJ/ENFP connection. We remained friends from a distance as life and growth did their thing, but upon reinvestigating the romanticism, we found the embers leap to flame. I mean hello, can you say excitement and passion and synchronization ANY louder than INFJ/ENFP? Really, though. They are such a pleasure to be friends with. They make you laugh, they entice your mind, they impress you with wit, they socialize like champions, and in the quiet conversations they prove themselves bottomless reflection pools. My instinct tells me they only get better with age...as their frivolous fancies fade (e.g., Russell Brand...I do hope my college buddy follows suit, and perhaps that door may also reopen) 😊 three cheers for ENFPs from this INFJ. Thank you for being you, and letting us be us.
I feel same. they are great as platonic friends but immature as partner. luckily enfp also very into platonic friendship. :-) Maybe I did not meet mature one they looks like Peter Pan to me. But I guess the 'e' means codependence. Can a mature person still need external things for comfort? maybe No
Infj is BY FAR THE BEST type for enfp’s. Its like we dont have to oblige them or “win” them over. They just accept the way we are and APPRECIATE and enjoy what we really are. For me, infj/intp are best ppl for me. Intp can be difficult as ppl to understand but personally infj/intp are the ones for me
ENFPs are lightning fast. I have been told this btw but didn't think much of it until recently. ENTPs can do this as well though with ENFPs it is usually deeply connected to the human condition. ENFPs seem to do something else on this level as well, we can see both sides of the coin though this might not come until later life. Some INFPs can do this too, though again as they mature, seems to begin in our mid 30s. Hard to say. I am not close to many people. ENFPs can in some ways chameleon but only if they can go into the world of others. Until this happens they are going to take up hard lines on Fi values that are not going to budge. I think most cannot understand how much effort has gone into an ENFPs system of values. There are some things we will not budge on and on this point it is best for both parties to agree to disagree. ENFPs (well this one) do not really like to argue, we like to explore without antagonism. I would hate debating for instance. I spoke to an ENFP yesterday about a strangeness in us. Many people when they encounter us think we are bubble headed idiots. Not many see the deeper intellectual side because we probably prefer to be bouncy fun and silly. The amount of misperception that goes on here is staggering. And I think it is because most people cannot read the undertones of what the ENFP is really expressing. I thanked an ENFJ recently for laughing in all the right spots because she is one of the few that seems to get me at all. ENFPs will go to incredible lengths, understatement. This comes at a cost when it fails. Devastating heartbreak. I have been told ENFPs have a hard time ending relationships because of this tendency to go to incredible lengths. For very clever people we can be taken advantage of. An ENFP that has lost a friend is about the sadness creature you will ever encounter. I feel our emotional lives are as deep as INFJs as well, though I feel it is strangely invertedly so. I think it is why ENFPs seek out INFJs. I feel if I could ever be understood it would be by an INFJ. Either of the N dominants paired to feeling creates a very intense individual. I would suspect INFJs ENFPs are about as intense of personalities as you are likely to find. One is as still as an ocean with the deepest currents, the other is mercurial and energetic like the storm over that ocean. If you want to really know an ENFP, look for what they aren't showing the world. ENFPs are seeking external validation for what they feel deeply on the inside. This is extremely perplexing as our wide sweep of Ne cannot find what we seek, how can this possibly be ?
@@silentgrove7670 hii, I'm an ENFP and I do feel very misunderstood. The only thing I'd want is for someone to truly understand me and that rarely appens because no one takes the interest/effort to actually observe us and look deep within our eyes where all the answers lie. I feel like INFJs are one of the only ones who'd genuinely want to know the real transparent us. I've lost 5 best friends this year and it's been very hard, but then again there's always something good in everything. Everything happens for a reason and God will not make us go through something if it weren't something that we could learn from. All we need is hope and belief that everything that happens is beneficial in one way or the other.
There are so many inaccurate stereotypes of ENFPs out there, I’m amazed and impressed with your ability to see past them. It’s a beautiful thing to be seen! Thanks for posting these insights 😊~ENFP
This resonated to my core. I was literally feeling a light pang the whole time in my sternum and stomach area (sounds weird, but I don't know how else to describe it). It's not often that I feel like someone recognizes what ENFPs are actually like. And I guess specifically me as I have only known a handful of ENFPs in my life. Sometimes I think that I don't understand my own emotions well, but from an objective standpoint, I take a lot of time to look at and process my feelings. I take time to go over them, understand where they come from so I can not only deal with them now, but hopefully deal with them in the future. I've realized that even when I post things on my channel about ENFPs, I focus more on the ideas and the Ne. I don't spend as much time really telling people what I'm feeling or how my Fi works. However, this video has inspired me to delve further into it and bring it up to the surface.
My ENFP friend is solid in her Fi. She can talk about herself, her values all day long, but it's far more difficult for her to know how to be there the way Fe's are there for others. So much so that, as much as I love her, I've learned that I can't share anything too deep, especially if it involves personal pain. She just doesn't have the agility with Fe to be that present. I have learned to gently remind her of some of my needs and boundaries and when I speak up, she's right there listening, but I know I can only go so far. . But wow, when we talk, my Ni puts roots to her Ne and we have the most amazing conversations. Her Ne flights of possible ways to grow and develop inspre me. I deepen her capacity to see deeper meanings, which allows her to consider different possibilities. We're thinking of setting up a TH-cam channell together. 🙂
I am a male infj and my best friend is a female enfp, we have never dated despite gossip that we have. She keeps my spirit up for the most part. When she is in a good mood her mind is rapid, like fireworks, I have to get on to her for using sentence fragments at times, all in good fun, but when she's down and begins feeling sorry for herself, everything slows down, and it is impossible to cheer her up, which can make me frustrated, she will not accept the FACT that she is an incredibly awesome person. She always bounces back but usually not with my help. I often know the right thing to say in most situations, but not when she's in a sad/bad mood. I'm getting better at being what she needs me to be during those times but I admit it's difficult for me. In the end though we need each other.
@ENFP Perspectives I know she trusts me, I need to work on just listening I guess, I'll be the first to admit that it is difficult for me to not respond when someone I love and admire takes a dump on themselves, but when I respond and she won't budge, it frustrates me and I feel like I'm making things worse, but obviously it's not about me. It's definitely a challenge for my otherwise fairly well developed Fe. Thank you for your comments, if you have any more insights, I'll certainly consider them.
Ahhhh your having a hard time making her feel better?!?! I found that when people point out what I accomplish and how they rely or need me I tend to feel better. I’m that ENFP who thrives on compliments because I want to know that I’m really doing something worth while for others. I’m not sure if she is the same. Since there are more then one type of ENFP you may have to do some research and see what she is. A pat on the back and a kind word usually helps me feel less stressed.
In the words of most ENFPs reading this comment. “Awwwwwwwwwwwww you guys have the sweetest friendship” Also, when she is in her “funk” , being there for her is enough, TRUST ME. For the most part, we just want to be loved with the same intensity we give love. We often get disappointed, BUT WE WILL RETURN WITH QUICK INTENSITY, and a whole new set of possibilities. Keep being a great friend. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I'm an ENFP woman dating an INFJ guy. Love him to death. He does take his time to process things and to show emotions the way I do...but he keeps me calm.
“Trying new experiences in an attempt to keep the internal emotional realm in harmony bc it’s important to them; they’re at peace there. High emotional intelligence.” That’s pretty good. This entire video is on point from an ENFP!
Wow, I'm a ENFP and this is my first time hearing this take, yet I do feel you're right on the money. I'll be the first to admit to being flakey and scatterbrained, but I absolutely will not budge on what I believe is right and just, even if it does puts me on the outs with the social group. Although I'm not completely inflexible (I try to pick battles that are worth it), I can be terribly stubborn and hard in my values even if it would be wiser to give in to the group (and sometimes it is wiser). Great insight. Thanks!
For people who are regarded as authentic and who themselves that way, its funny how not authentic we are haha. Its like every comment from an enfp author i read is secretly written by myself…
Hi, I'm ENFP and i almost cried hearing you talking about us that accurately, I felt like you know us deeper than we can even imagine ... Thanks a lot, I needed that ! You INFJ are incredible at analysing people, I truely admire you !
I’m ENFP dating an INFJ. It’s the best relationship. But also it is very difficult at times. Miscommunication can be huge. It’s either heaven or hell. But I hope it will get better.
I’m an INFJ and my best friend is an ENFP. I feel like this is such an accurate description of ENFPs... this really helped me understand Fi more, because I didn’t really understand how it works. But my ENFP and INFP friends both have an innate sense of morality. They are driven by their moral compass, no doubt.
Yes!! So true!! Thank you for your hard work to understand and communicate who we are! It touches me so deeply that you recognize the huge depth and range of our colorful emotional lives! I find humor often, but I cannot watch cruelty of any kind, not even those commercials to save animals! I cry so easily, but the ecstasy of joy goes high into the stratosphere as well. ENFP here.
one INFJ guy approached me and the whole time we spent time together, damn how bored i was. i finally lose it when he started to get very clingy. I'm sure I'd find better INFJs out there that would interest me. cz INFJs surely sounded perfect for me and my overwhelming personality
Yesssssss. We are not the bouncy people that the net makes us seem. We can be but that’s only when we choose to be. As for emotions....I can hide them If I want to but I like to express myself around people that understand me. As for bending I find it difficult and will put up a argument if need be. When someone wants me to do the opposite of my morals I tend to feel almost attacked so I will stand my ground or keep quiet. My morals are more important to me and that will land me in awkward situations. Thank you for your insight. 😊
Waw renaude you just nailed it, you completely understand us in a a way that most people can't.,it was such a pleasure watching your video and every second I was like *yes yes you got it buddy, please keep going, your words are golden *.. Thank you for all the effort and the deep explanation, you have no idea how much we appreciate this satisfying content.. And please don't be sorry about drinking coffee why are you sorry about doing something crucial for your well being while expressing your ideas, plz don't think it's rude, you're taking care of your self and its something good it's even completely the opposite it makes your viewers unconsciously feel comfortable when they feel like you're being spontaneous while talking to them and discussing ideas..it creates intimacy believe me.. Keep up the good work
Ps wonderful realisations. I liked how you spotted things about us that isn't obvious on the surface. It's similar to how we enfps see the potential in people and bring it to their attentions. The enfp infj mirror effect is quite incredible.
The infj is the one peronality that provokes the same type of feeling for them that that usually is associated with enfp alot. Mysterious.. In a genuinely good way. I cant read them as well and it makes them so interesting. It's like I just want to make them laugh or smile. It's so quick and subtle, but they seem to appreciate the fact it that emotion was provoked. It's more rewarding for us because they are truly comfortable being themselves around us. Just to see it makes it feel like the realest they've been for awhile. Definently a cool combination. It's almost like when the enfp standup for something assertively in front of a bigger group. Because it's so unexpected and rare it makes what we say more powerful then the personality types who always do. Thanks man
I really appreciate this video, and this video came across with a great deal of compassion that I feel. We are very very consistent in our values, but people see us as "changing" and I do not feel that I change at all. My consistent values are rock solid and can be counted on. Anyway, thank you for understanding us and verbalizing it so eloquently and compassionately.
INFJ here. I agree with you on this video. 👌If you know of Linda Berens or C. S. Joseph, the theory gets interesting when it looks at the 4 sides of the mind: Ego, Subconscious, Unconscious, and the Superego. It makes sense that we attract a lot of NFPs because ENFP is also our unconscious type ! So we attract them without realizing it! Thanks for this video!! Chase also teaches how to type others accurately. He's ENTP. :)
Im not sure if i would even want to learn about that😥. But i do want to be prepared and not disappoint the infj😌. But i also REALLY dont wanna watch it😱💔
Renaud are you a psychologist? Your literally amazing from the videos ive seen, Literally everybody says you get everything bang on. Your a good guy. Made me realise im definately infj from the infj video. I thought the full myers briggs was some sort of mind charming trick. Unfortunately. And after seeing a few poor attempts at trying to explain it from other people.. I stumbled upon these beautys ( your vids). As our confidence goes. I promise I never. But I will be hitting on the next enfp I meet. Thanks so much mate !
I am the first always to laugh at jokes when I watch a movie or a comedy show with anyone and I always wondered if people thought I was fake laughing because I can hear the timing is off Everyone joins together in laughter after mine it’s like always the perfect half or 3/4s of a second
As an ENFP, i would love to meet an INFJ, you guys are just so interesting. I would love talking to you guys and i feel like we could just talk and talk about anything. And have deep and meaningful conversations. But its odd, because i always end up attracting other ENFPs as close friends.
Most people don't realize this, (but we've talked about it on PersonalityCafe) and ENxPs have multiple tracks going on at once in our minds at all times. When we think of possibilities we can follow 3 or more possibilities to conclusion at the same time and choose from them. Our Fi is often extremely consistent, but people don't know what to look for, Fi being introverted. I feel like I've been the same girl following the same morals since I was 10. There's hardly any agility there, correct. If you know what to look for I'm completely predictable with morals.
People don't realize that our morals being our sword and shield is what makes us so agile. It essentially acts as our backpacks, we have everything we need with us. Allowing us to metaphorically be able to go anywhere and do anything.
So true!!! The old soul quality is often given to us because of this! It's something I don't have to repent for on the daily. Pretty much know that anything I do negatively in a day only negatively impacts me. The trouble is when people care alot about me.. They get negatively impacted by me negatively impacting myself. If I've ever hurt anyone it's always indirectly and usually a result of me try to offend myself for being different. When I didn't actually know myself at first. So I would make commitments to change things about me that I could not change. So it came across as I didn't care.
I am enfp and I totally agree on your statement about how deep we are and how we hide our emotions. Yes I am inflexible from moving from my values they are just too important to me. So many levels and most I don’t allow to see unless I really trust them. It’s my inner sanctum and you don’t get let in unless you are worth it. Btw I am super quick never realised it was a trait. Thanks good video
I'm an enfp... This definitely resonates. The only distinction I would make, between the emotional life of the infj and enfp, is that in the enfp's case, there is so much intensely felt emotional chaos that it derails them from what they truly want, sometimes. The infj, in my view, does not betray themselves emotionally, but an enfp might, simply due to their emotions ruling them. I think infj is very steadfast in putting their Ni to work for their benefit and even though they seek social harmony, they know themselves on a deeper level and don't let their emotions run amok in deciding things. What do you think?
Yes, travelling for ENFPs is more about exploring I think. It's not about the superficial I've been there, I've seen this like a tourist. We want to learn and expand our inner worlds by discovering the external world, we want to bring things back and share them. Make a beautiful memory with someone, write a story, paint a painting. It's our way of connecting with the world as explorers and whatever our extroverted intuition gathers, feeds into our introverted feeling. It may be an hour's drive away from our home or hundreds of miles away, we want to experience something authentic, a genuine expression of the Universe in an unassuming corner of the world is often enough. No adventure is too small or to big, as long as it's an adventure and in our world, we decide what is and what isn't one 😉
i wanna cry because you know me so well, can i give you a hug, i hope you always have a great day and keep pursuing ur dream and be your best self everyday okay i start to attract by you as how you talk and think lol, i hope one day i can find my infj :""D
As I have gotten older I have learned to make a conscious effort when dealing with people to slow down, I can't tell you how many times I have been told that people can't understand me from talking to fast. Or how frustrating it is to have to stop and go back 10 steps and explain why this is the best way to go with an idea....
I'm an ENFP, this means I have an idea pass through my mind every time my heart beats, filtering the useless / weird ones distract us a lot yet each is as important as all the other ones
I don't know any ENFPs regrettably. Well, aside from TH-cam. Many people I enjoy watching are either ENFP or ENTP. Or INFJ lol. I want to get to know an ENFP though, as I have heard there is a great connection that can be had. I have my suspicions about a previous cowoker being ENFP. I will message him with the MBTI test and see if my suspicions are confirmed. I really truly enjoyed talking with him, he is so warm, genuine, very funny and definitely extroverted. I love my ENTP friend, but she is rather cold at times. She is warm to me and to people she is close to, but that can be turned off in an instant!
The te is there for once we've explored our values and understanding of the world to then go create an affect on the external world and see those values put out there to create the changes we've come to realise the world needs. So in a sense we explore (ne) the ways of the world and our values) and once our fi has become fully developed we then go out and create those changes we want to see in the world through our te. This could come out through actions or speaking and spreading our realisations. I used to be a stereotypical enfp and as my fi developed through exposure to an infp ex partner, it got developed to almost same strength as my ne, and now at 32 years of age, I'm full of convictions and am making things happen and being the change I wanna see and also find myself verbalising my realisations alot. I, like yourself get on infamously with infjs, and have a few of them in my life. I've yet to enter a romantic partnership with one though. Wonder how things would be with both sharing a living space, as well as being intimately exposed to one another. How their inner most needs are tended to.
I am an INFJ, married to an ENFP. I feel totally eclipsed by him. When we go out socially, I disappear, partly due to feeling as though he’s not always reading people correctly and sometimes oversteps boundaries. But I’m ultra sensitive.
I’m very scattered and just can’t focus on things I don’t like . I can’t focus on mundane tasks at all. Never finish. I wonder if I am really INFJ bc of this?
Another great video. I sometimes wonder if the claims that people find Ni mysterious is the same way I have a certain awe for Ne and Ne doms. Increasingly, I believe I regard this cognitive function with an awe that is borne out of a certain familiar strange dynamic.
11:27 Very very well said. And I think that's where the stereotypes often outshine what makes ENFPs "ENFP". That's really the core of what we're all about, and I don't think it ends there. I can't speak for other ENFPs but when we find that which makes our values feel in harmony, it makes us feel like what we do serves our unique purpose. And that is an incredibly self-validating feeling :)
"it's not the novelty for the sake of the novelty... it's an attempt to keep the internal emotional realm in harmony with our core values" You said it well! Thanks!
I can see and take in everyone’s point of view and try to understand the way they see the world. But I will not budge an inch on my core values, it’s what dictates our life, they is no separation of our individual self from our core values. I can respect others differences, but they won’t be in my small circle. I look like the fun party girl on the outside, and I am! But I am the deepest person I know, and often long for others who want to delve into the depths with me, very hard to find. I can care less about traveling to a place where everyone goes just to take a selfie and say I was there. When I imagine wonderlust, it’s all about the way the experience/place/scenery will make me feel...and It has to connect me to nature and happiness. Just my point of view
I'm ENFP and I only know one INFJ type, we worked together and talked a lot. She used to test my resolve alot, like put alot of external pressure on me, which at the time i didn't understand why it made no difference. I felt a bit close minded in those times and wondered why she enjoyed pushing that button so much. Was it some kind of emotional high ground? Now we are still friends even though i don't work with her anymore so i guess she just fascinated.
Hello there. I think that we achieve aventures cause deeply we trust in that intuition that tell us, if you do this, you grow, you learn, you understand some of the whys of the world. We are filantropos id say, so go in adventures for us is like to Connect the red and the blue. Its like that if we could understand or crystalize that why, we given strong to that value. I dont know if ill been clear. But all that you say about our category is amazingly true and give us relief. Cause we think deeply and we feel deply.
I am an enfp and my girlfriend is infj. We ve been together for years and we have fun. I feel that thectoo personalities eventhough they are different match well together
Russel Brand is an ENTP in my opinion, just with very well developed extroverted feeling, what he is quick about is introverted thinking, not introverted feeling, in many of his statements you can see that he is pretty blind in Fi. If you watch some of his older shows it was often about debating with people, he is all about provocation, and controversial statements, and he is usually controversial in a way that he is logically (Ti) questioning or joking about Fi values. People just get confused because he is in entertainment industry, and because he is in last years talking about things related to society (which is not the topic only reserved to feelers), but his way of thinking in my opinion is very ENTP.
I agree...I don't sense any Fi in Russell Brand. He reminds me of my INTP ex who had unusually strong Fe, but Brand is way more Extroverted. They even look so much alike that my ex has had people come up to him thinking he's Russell Brand. Definitely ENTP with developed Fe. Some xNTPs can be heavily focused on the humanities and society, more than science, math, etc. They can be more extreme than NFs, in their ideas, communication style and way of thinking. Fi users rely a lot on subjectivity and are very sensitive emotionally. There is just a feeling I get around another Fi user...I'm blind to Ti so it's hard for me to put it into words. LOL
ENFP here. i tend to only depend on myself. i tend to get disappointed by others for not able to give the same energy i gave to them. sometimes i feel like I'm too difficult for people to handle. my past relationships tend to not last very long. they claimed i was being too clingy and that it frustrates to always have to cheer me up whenever i feel down or angry, due to enfp's extreme emotions. so instead, people tend to see me as being the one disappointing them and that i'm the one that had to calm myself down and take the actions myself whether i wanted to stay or leave. my temporary emotional detachment helps maintaining my mental health. whenever i feel hurt so much from attaching myself to someone, that detachment would come and help me create a distance from that attachment or make the decision to just leave. this usually occurs ONLY whenever i truly get attached to someone and got used spending time with them 24/7 (applies to bff and romantic relationships only) so when they do the things i don't like, my emotions get extreme and told them to not do it again like an obsessive person cz i knew if they continued to hurt me, my detachment might come and tell me to leave. but time and time again, i would get hurt until one day my emotional detachment would come and save me. due to this deep attachment i have, I'm worried that I'd be too much for my future spouse to handle. thus, i believe that nothing is permenant in my life. People continuously told me to stop attaching myself to someone so much. but if i don't, i would feel really lonely and felt like nothing is worth fighting for in life. besides, i can handle myself in hurtful situations and it's rather easy for me to go back up. I'm so used to losing people in my life anyway. my bff once told me that i was being selfish for not wanting to accept her new life, feeling detached when she suddenly moved away and got married at 20. in the end tho, she's too special for me to end our friendship and that detachment helped me create a distance from my attachment to her. fyi, i have way more INFJs in my life than any other types. tho none of them are actually my bff, i naturally feel comfortable and love them dearly. my bffs are ENFJ and INFP.
So relatable 😭 you'll find somebody that can handle you!!! Myers-Briggs helped me a lot understanding that it's not that I'm broken of unworthy or clingy, I just didn't meet the right people yet. I want somebody that loves my clinginess just as much as I love other people's clinginess. You are worthy of love, don't give up. - fellow ENFP
@@octavia88 Exactly! yeah... I'm kinda in between hoping and giving up atm. i know people might say I'm still too young. but honestly, I'm very tired to deal with bullshit. i don't want to go through another relationship if it won't ended up with marriage. i don't want to waste my time and emotions on something uncertain. I've met guys that are really nice, protective of my safety and respectful. it's just sad that i couldn't connect with them emotionally. our compatibility just sucks 😅 yeah, I'm glad i got to know about MBTI. my lil brother introduced it to me. i think i would go through a lot of dilemma and struggle to handle my emotions if i didn't know about MBTI. I've become introverted ever since lockdown. and also since my company have everyone working from home. i feel comfortable tho a little empty inside. I'm not sad nor happy. just very neutral. i don't connect with someone deeply anymore, just been comfortable connecting with my family instead. my love for my mom and big brother has been at ease cz they stopped getting angry at me with explosive temper and start to show me more warmth lovingly. so yeah, i feel at ease right now. tho my extroverted self seriously want to get out of it's shell cz i haven't been connecting with people outside very much. so it's gonna take some time. cz being introverted honestly sets me back from connecting to someone new. and my line of work actually needs me to deal with a lot of people. so i need my extrovertness back 🤣
@@niahelmee6890 I don't think you became more introvert, more like you became the shell of your former self. When I feel comfortable I end up in a ditch of depression and it's hard to get out. Apathy is horrible! I'm concerned for you. ENFPs strive in struggle, mental and phisical movement. If you're anything like me, it would really help you to focus on somebody (or a new passion I guess would help too). Having a crush on somebody and perhaps never even acting on it is a great drive for me and the exploration of my self. It's a great way to focus my extroverted need for connections.
@@niahelmee6890 I am 33 now and I think the same like you, I'm looking for that relationship that will be the ground for the future and I hope that as an ENFP I can manage. Building up a family is so hard and I hope I'm up to the task... But I couldn't do this alone... And if it doesn't work out, at least I tried. I'm done with nonsense...
@@octavia88 oh my.... i think i have become the shell of my former self. i read a post on ENFP sub reddit. it's exactly what I'm experiencing right now. pretty much in a dilemma how i could get out of my shell. I've been trying to go out more, do the things i used to feel very passionate about. but oddly, the feelings were not as strong as it used to. my thought process seems almost empty. i suddenly had zero idea what to say. the friends that i sometimes talk to but not very close thought i was angry at them when really, i honestly don't know what to say to them. i was truly not as talkative as i used to. I'm not as curious. most times I've been trying to force myself to talk. fortunately, i was able to feel and act my trueself when I'm with my lil brother and cousins, and friends that i normally pour my feelings to even if we weren't each other's bff. probably cz they would give me their full attention regardless the situation. as for my bestfriends, they had other priorities. engaged and married very young. i do miss them but i already felt disconnected with the one that got engaged. she almost always turns her attention to her fiancee (well, her fiancee iss her best friend since childhood). while as for the one got married, i really do miss her but she needs to get her life balanced out first. and i can just wait. for the most part, i don't feel like connecting, which I'm well aware is really bad for my personality. which is why I've been trying to go out more. however, my messages has been really2 empty so... 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm working right now but most of my friends are studying. I'm planning on furthering my studies next mid year probably. hopefully it'll help even more. really2 hope
I crossed paths with en ENFP and lived his energy at first nevertheless he was not at his best moment so ended up leaving out of a sudden ...bummer! INFJ here.
@@RensRoom hehe ☺️☺️ you know it is... when u said based on your brother.. I thought he was the one ... your color is more pronounced than his tho,but the features are similar. And your voices are different.. maybe you both are from the same country? If I was told you are his brother,I would believe .. You are handsome,you don’t have to worry... (am not flirting 🙃 I promise)
Russel Brand is a ENFP?...cool... I like him, he's witty, eccentric, intelligent, strong sense of social justice and really chatty 🤔 of course he's a ENFP 😆😆
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Ha, I just remembered Renaud I watched this video 3 months ago and commented then. My ENFP lady and I reconciliated only to have several spats and finally broke up, mutually, 2 weeks ago. Too many irreconcilable differences sadly, we had a great connection and lots of fun. Just ordered your book. Cheers
I loved your comment on ENFPs not being about adventure for the sake of adventure. I am a geographer/teacher and love travel - but I’ve always felt this “wanderlust” stereotype of ENFPs is not so correct. I feel that ENFP’s could see every monument, mountain, and museum (with great awe and excitement) BUT what we’d love even more is to share a meal and talk about that persons perspective of life. I don’t need the Eiffel Tower - I need a good croissant and good conversation. Ha! Thank you for your video! Also, I’m an ENFP and am married to an ENTP and it’s a blast! Ha!
Well said. But i want to he sitting under the eiffle tour with the crossiant and my partner. I was late to the bus tour cause we had one hr and i was trying to find the perfect crossiants in aviogn france to share with the group. 🤪
I totally agree...When I am looking for an adventure and that adventure includes a great conversation with a local about their perspective on life that is like finding gold during my adventure. Pictures from my adventure mean nothing if I don’t have something deep or random that I connected with during the adventure
I give you another example. Some people find adventurous going to Thailand or to a foreign resort somewhere on the beach or going on a cruise. I could never, because I know this places are filled with exploitation of locals. It would clearly be in conflict with my values and even if some places look tempting, I would never support such thing. My wanderlust brings me the unexplored path or to the discovery of cities or places with a history. We love stories, don't we?
ENFP here. I stand firm in my personal values and am told by everyone I work with that my optimism and encouragement is contagious and motivating. People ask me how I’m able to stay so optimistic and warm all the time. The truth is, and I’m not certain if this goes for all ENFPs, that there is a lot of pain I carry daily. Sometimes my empathetic nature tortures me and upon self reflection I feel a deep sadness that I’ve carried my entire life. When I slip into my introverted nature I spend that time exploring those painful feelings and investigating my private depression. It can be quite the Pandora’s box of emotion.
Jake Lea As a fellow ENFP, I feel you 💖
I go thru these experiences also. I feel it is because we see the world how it could so easily be and it's not and no one wants to change it for the better. Its depressing.
I am enfp also and I feel like a part of me was just natural and sometimes unrealized by myself. Then there's been another part of me that was completely misunderstood by authority figures and people who I should of been able to look up too as an adolescent. But couldn't because of the feeling of being isolation and rejection they provided for thinking differently then others. My peers and my relationship sometimes felt like the only reason I got through it. So the appreciation is deep and the tolerance for belittling is extremely low. A definite trigger.
I think it comes from the feeling that very few people, if any, actually understand us. Many like us, but sometimes it feels like they like our charm rather than our actual selves.
This comment completely resonated with me. The carrying of deep sadness is something we never truly let go of. That's why we choose the warmer, lighter aspects of life because having experienced both, it's a much nicer place to be in :)
I think that if I found a healthy INFJ to marry, I would never want for more! They are endlessly deep and interesting! ENFP female here. 😌
Agree - ENFP female here too :D
Really I get sick of guys when there not interesting enough.... I feel soo bad about but it is ture!! 💗 Are infj really deep all the time?
I NEED THAT
I WANT THAT!!
So true
I think she just proposed to you!
I have to agree 😊 I am ENFP in a relationship with an INFJ and I for sure want to get married to him 👰🤵💕
ENFP here - it is true, our emotions run very very deep, especially towards everyone in our lives. All my relationships are meaningful to me, even just my acquaintances.
I love enfps, you are so cute and energic! As an INFJ I admire you so much.
Why, thank you!! 😺
@@victoriousjoy9338 haha because my best friend is an enfp and we connect so much in everything. Like we love deep connection and conversation, analizing things. We both realize when someone is fake . She is funny, talkative and inspiring in the way she talks. Enfps seem to me authentic people and they want the best for everyone, thats why I love them and I have good relation with them.
Ive only realised in the last couple of hours exactly what an enfp is. And ohh wow I didnt realise how much you like us. To me a good way to describe it is. After every relationship or attraction an infj judges. An enfp. Is literally the first person to show them attractive love. I hope this makes sense.....
Cute and energetic.... that comment made me realise. Enfps are definately the one.. or ones for us.
Awwww....thank you human!
I have two confirmed ENFP individuals in my life:
One was a best friend in college. He was, shall I say *chaotic neutral* with an *interest* in chaotic evil. I ultimately hit him with the “notorious” INFJ door slam to protect myself from ruin via drug abuse (to be perfectly honest). But we did get along swell, and I dearly miss the companionship and conversation we shared. To this day, I’ve never found anyone else who I could cycle 20 miles with, all the while carrying a deep philosophical and political conversation.
The other was a romantic interest 5 years back with whom I’m currently reconnecting. I’m blown away by the staying power of the INFJ/ENFP connection. We remained friends from a distance as life and growth did their thing, but upon reinvestigating the romanticism, we found the embers leap to flame. I mean hello, can you say excitement and passion and synchronization ANY louder than INFJ/ENFP? Really, though.
They are such a pleasure to be friends with. They make you laugh, they entice your mind, they impress you with wit, they socialize like champions, and in the quiet conversations they prove themselves bottomless reflection pools. My instinct tells me they only get better with age...as their frivolous fancies fade (e.g., Russell Brand...I do hope my college buddy follows suit, and perhaps that door may also reopen)
😊 three cheers for ENFPs from this INFJ. Thank you for being you, and letting us be us.
I feel same. they are great as platonic friends but immature as partner. luckily enfp also very into platonic friendship. :-)
Maybe I did not meet mature one they looks like Peter Pan to me. But I guess the 'e' means codependence. Can a mature person still need external things for comfort? maybe No
Is that Jordan Peterson in your pfp?
How are you now? 🙃
Luke Meola it is
Badia I’m quite well thank you. 🙏
Infj is BY FAR THE BEST type for enfp’s. Its like we dont have to oblige them or “win” them over. They just accept the way we are and APPRECIATE and enjoy what we really are. For me, infj/intp are best ppl for me. Intp can be difficult as ppl to understand but personally infj/intp are the ones for me
ENFPs are lightning fast. I have been told this btw but didn't think much of it until recently. ENTPs can do this as well though with ENFPs it is usually deeply connected to the human condition. ENFPs seem to do something else on this level as well, we can see both sides of the coin though this might not come until later life. Some INFPs can do this too, though again as they mature, seems to begin in our mid 30s. Hard to say. I am not close to many people.
ENFPs can in some ways chameleon but only if they can go into the world of others. Until this happens they are going to take up hard lines on Fi values that are not going to budge. I think most cannot understand how much effort has gone into an ENFPs system of values. There are some things we will not budge on and on this point it is best for both parties to agree to disagree. ENFPs (well this one) do not really like to argue, we like to explore without antagonism. I would hate debating for instance.
I spoke to an ENFP yesterday about a strangeness in us. Many people when they encounter us think we are bubble headed idiots. Not many see the deeper intellectual side because we probably prefer to be bouncy fun and silly. The amount of misperception that goes on here is staggering. And I think it is because most people cannot read the undertones of what the ENFP is really expressing. I thanked an ENFJ recently for laughing in all the right spots because she is one of the few that seems to get me at all.
ENFPs will go to incredible lengths, understatement. This comes at a cost when it fails. Devastating heartbreak. I have been told ENFPs have a hard time ending relationships because of this tendency to go to incredible lengths. For very clever people we can be taken advantage of. An ENFP that has lost a friend is about the sadness creature you will ever encounter.
I feel our emotional lives are as deep as INFJs as well, though I feel it is strangely invertedly so. I think it is why ENFPs seek out INFJs. I feel if I could ever be understood it would be by an INFJ. Either of the N dominants paired to feeling creates a very intense individual. I would suspect INFJs ENFPs are about as intense of personalities as you are likely to find. One is as still as an ocean with the deepest currents, the other is mercurial and energetic like the storm over that ocean. If you want to really know an ENFP, look for what they aren't showing the world.
ENFPs are seeking external validation for what they feel deeply on the inside. This is extremely perplexing as our wide sweep of Ne cannot find what we seek, how can this possibly be ?
I relate to this so much as an ENFP! Thank you for sharing your insights 👌
@@sophiamirzayee Thanks. I have a question, as an ENFP do you often feel very misunderstood ?
@@silentgrove7670 hii, I'm an ENFP and I do feel very misunderstood. The only thing I'd want is for someone to truly understand me and that rarely appens because no one takes the interest/effort to actually observe us and look deep within our eyes where all the answers lie. I feel like INFJs are one of the only ones who'd genuinely want to know the real transparent us.
I've lost 5 best friends this year and it's been very hard, but then again there's always something good in everything. Everything happens for a reason and God will not make us go through something if it weren't something that we could learn from. All we need is hope and belief that everything that happens is beneficial in one way or the other.
Spot on!!
Wow...you really just describe some of the complexities of being an ENFP. Thank you!
There are so many inaccurate stereotypes of ENFPs out there, I’m amazed and impressed with your ability to see past them. It’s a beautiful thing to be seen! Thanks for posting these insights 😊~ENFP
This resonated to my core. I was literally feeling a light pang the whole time in my sternum and stomach area (sounds weird, but I don't know how else to describe it). It's not often that I feel like someone recognizes what ENFPs are actually like. And I guess specifically me as I have only known a handful of ENFPs in my life.
Sometimes I think that I don't understand my own emotions well, but from an objective standpoint, I take a lot of time to look at and process my feelings. I take time to go over them, understand where they come from so I can not only deal with them now, but hopefully deal with them in the future.
I've realized that even when I post things on my channel about ENFPs, I focus more on the ideas and the Ne. I don't spend as much time really telling people what I'm feeling or how my Fi works. However, this video has inspired me to delve further into it and bring it up to the surface.
I am INFJ married to ENFP and you are bang on in my experience. Thank you for your time to make these videos. I truly enjoy and relate. 💕
My ENFP friend is solid in her Fi. She can talk about herself, her values all day long, but it's far more difficult for her to know how to be there the way Fe's are there for others. So much so that, as much as I love her, I've learned that I can't share anything too deep, especially if it involves personal pain. She just doesn't have the agility with Fe to be that present. I have learned to gently remind her of some of my needs and boundaries and when I speak up, she's right there listening, but I know I can only go so far. .
But wow, when we talk, my Ni puts roots to her Ne and we have the most amazing conversations. Her Ne flights of possible ways to grow and develop inspre me. I deepen her capacity to see deeper meanings, which allows her to consider different possibilities. We're thinking of setting up a TH-cam channell together. 🙂
I am a male infj and my best friend is a female enfp, we have never dated despite gossip that we have. She keeps my spirit up for the most part. When she is in a good mood her mind is rapid, like fireworks, I have to get on to her for using sentence fragments at times, all in good fun, but when she's down and begins feeling sorry for herself, everything slows down, and it is impossible to cheer her up, which can make me frustrated, she will not accept the FACT that she is an incredibly awesome person. She always bounces back but usually not with my help. I often know the right thing to say in most situations, but not when she's in a sad/bad mood. I'm getting better at being what she needs me to be during those times but I admit it's difficult for me. In the end though we need each other.
@ENFP Perspectives I know she trusts me, I need to work on just listening I guess, I'll be the first to admit that it is difficult for me to not respond when someone I love and admire takes a dump on themselves, but when I respond and she won't budge, it frustrates me and I feel like I'm making things worse, but obviously it's not about me. It's definitely a challenge for my otherwise fairly well developed Fe. Thank you for your comments, if you have any more insights, I'll certainly consider them.
Ahhhh your having a hard time making her feel better?!?! I found that when people point out what I accomplish and how they rely or need me I tend to feel better. I’m that ENFP who thrives on compliments because I want to know that I’m really doing something worth while for others. I’m not sure if she is the same. Since there are more then one type of ENFP you may have to do some research and see what she is. A pat on the back and a kind word usually helps me feel less stressed.
In the words of most ENFPs reading this comment. “Awwwwwwwwwwwww you guys have the sweetest friendship” Also, when she is in her “funk” , being there for her is enough, TRUST ME. For the most part, we just want to be loved with the same intensity we give love. We often get disappointed, BUT WE WILL RETURN WITH QUICK INTENSITY, and a whole new set of possibilities. Keep being a great friend. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Seth TeamCap35 aww you are so sweet of doing that, wjust thankyou for being that kind bro,,, enfp female here and i relate so much
Sometimes a hug is all that's needed, and you guys are the "Doctors of Hugs".
I'm an ENFP woman dating an INFJ guy. Love him to death. He does take his time to process things and to show emotions the way I do...but he keeps me calm.
“Trying new experiences in an attempt to keep the internal emotional realm in harmony bc it’s important to them; they’re at peace there. High emotional intelligence.” That’s pretty good. This entire video is on point from an ENFP!
Yay, thanks! :)
Wow, I'm a ENFP and this is my first time hearing this take, yet I do feel you're right on the money. I'll be the first to admit to being flakey and scatterbrained, but I absolutely will not budge on what I believe is right and just, even if it does puts me on the outs with the social group. Although I'm not completely inflexible (I try to pick battles that are worth it), I can be terribly stubborn and hard in my values even if it would be wiser to give in to the group (and sometimes it is wiser). Great insight. Thanks!
For people who are regarded as authentic and who themselves that way, its funny how not authentic we are haha. Its like every comment from an enfp author i read is secretly written by myself…
Totally unrelated topic but your eyes are cosmic and definitely have that introverted Intuition look✳️ great content.
INFJ here. Married to ENFP. You are bang on. Thank you for your videos. I enjoy you. 🌸
Hi, I'm ENFP and i almost cried hearing you talking about us that accurately, I felt like you know us deeper than we can even imagine ... Thanks a lot, I needed that !
You INFJ are incredible at analysing people, I truely admire you !
I’m ENFP dating an INFJ. It’s the best relationship. But also it is very difficult at times. Miscommunication can be huge. It’s either heaven or hell. But I hope it will get better.
In what ways do you both miscommunicate? How do you resolve the miscommunication?
I feel that. Thanks for sharing.
Sometimes they will have to speak up, and sometimes u will have to understand the unspoken. I hope it helps 😊
I’m an INFJ and my best friend is an ENFP. I feel like this is such an accurate description of ENFPs... this really helped me understand Fi more, because I didn’t really understand how it works. But my ENFP and INFP friends both have an innate sense of morality. They are driven by their moral compass, no doubt.
If this isn’t an INFJ stare, I don’t know what is.
Really resonated with this here ENFP. Sent the video to my awesome INFJ sis. Great video!
Yes!! So true!! Thank you for your hard work to understand and communicate who we are! It touches me so deeply that you recognize the huge depth and range of our colorful emotional lives! I find humor often, but I cannot watch cruelty of any kind, not even those commercials to save animals! I cry so easily, but the ecstasy of joy goes high into the stratosphere as well. ENFP here.
It would be nice to find an INFJ to date. Love listening to you describe us.
Side note update: dated one for 7 months. We broke up sat. Well i broke it off. It can be extremely exhausting when they are unhealthy
I found one 🥰 it's amazing!!! 🙏
one INFJ guy approached me and the whole time we spent time together, damn how bored i was. i finally lose it when he started to get very clingy. I'm sure I'd find better INFJs out there that would interest me. cz INFJs surely sounded perfect for me and my overwhelming personality
@@niahelmee6890 was this an infp that got his test wrong perhaps???
ENFP here and you are spot on! Great insight 😊
As an ENFP I relate to allot of what your saying and I really appreciate your authenticity. Thanks for sharing.
INFJ an ex of a ENFP. Really resonates with my experience. Bang on
As an ENFP... YES! This resonates with me very much. You are a keen observer indeed. : )
Yesssssss. We are not the bouncy people that the net makes us seem. We can be but that’s only when we choose to be. As for emotions....I can hide them If I want to but I like to express myself around people that understand me. As for bending I find it difficult and will put up a argument if need be. When someone wants me to do the opposite of my morals I tend to feel almost attacked so I will stand my ground or keep quiet. My morals are more important to me and that will land me in awkward situations. Thank you for your insight. 😊
Thanks for the comment, Tabitha! Glad the video resonated with you :)
Waw renaude you just nailed it, you completely understand us in a a way that most people can't.,it was such a pleasure watching your video and every second I was like *yes yes you got it buddy, please keep going, your words are golden *..
Thank you for all the effort and the deep explanation, you have no idea how much we appreciate this satisfying content..
And please don't be sorry about drinking coffee why are you sorry about doing something crucial for your well being while expressing your ideas, plz don't think it's rude, you're taking care of your self and its something good it's even completely the opposite it makes your viewers unconsciously feel comfortable when they feel like you're being spontaneous while talking to them and discussing ideas..it creates intimacy believe me.. Keep up the good work
Ps wonderful realisations. I liked how you spotted things about us that isn't obvious on the surface. It's similar to how we enfps see the potential in people and bring it to their attentions. The enfp infj mirror effect is quite incredible.
The infj is the one peronality that provokes the same type of feeling for them that that usually is associated with enfp alot. Mysterious.. In a genuinely good way. I cant read them as well and it makes them so interesting. It's like I just want to make them laugh or smile. It's so quick and subtle, but they seem to appreciate the fact it that emotion was provoked. It's more rewarding for us because they are truly comfortable being themselves around us. Just to see it makes it feel like the realest they've been for awhile. Definently a cool combination. It's almost like when the enfp standup for something assertively in front of a bigger group. Because it's so unexpected and rare it makes what we say more powerful then the personality types who always do. Thanks man
Great insights and perspective.
-an ENFP.
I really appreciate this video, and this video came across with a great deal of compassion that I feel. We are very very consistent in our values, but people see us as "changing" and I do not feel that I change at all. My consistent values are rock solid and can be counted on. Anyway, thank you for understanding us and verbalizing it so eloquently and compassionately.
Thank you Alesha, I’m glad that this resonated with you!
INFJ here. I agree with you on this video. 👌If you know of Linda Berens or C. S. Joseph, the theory gets interesting when it looks at the 4 sides of the mind: Ego, Subconscious, Unconscious, and the Superego.
It makes sense that we attract a lot of NFPs because ENFP is also our unconscious type !
So we attract them without realizing it!
Thanks for this video!!
Chase also teaches how to type others accurately. He's ENTP. :)
ENFP here. I have not heard myself / my inner world described and honored so beautifully! Thank you! ❤
I’m in a long-term relationship with an INFJ! Glad I found your channel. 😊
Enfp here, I agree. I wanna hear more about what infj don't like about enfps though...
Im not sure if i would even want to learn about that😥. But i do want to be prepared and not disappoint the infj😌. But i also REALLY dont wanna watch it😱💔
thank you and love to you from West Seattle. As an ENFP I loved this
Renaud are you a psychologist? Your literally amazing from the videos ive seen, Literally everybody says you get everything bang on. Your a good guy. Made me realise im definately infj from the infj video. I thought the full myers briggs was some sort of mind charming trick. Unfortunately. And after seeing a few poor attempts at trying to explain it from other people.. I stumbled upon these beautys ( your vids). As our confidence goes. I promise I never. But I will be hitting on the next enfp I meet. Thanks so much mate !
It really resonates with my experience of a lady enfp. Ex lady unfortunately
I come back to this video every so often. Well done ☺️
5:00 - INFJ apologizing for drinking coffee. I see stuff like this all the time with INFJs
I am the first always to laugh at jokes when I watch a movie or a comedy show with anyone and I always wondered if people thought I was fake laughing because I can hear the timing is off
Everyone joins together in laughter after mine it’s like always the perfect half or 3/4s of a second
As an ENFP, i would love to meet an INFJ, you guys are just so interesting. I would love talking to you guys and i feel like we could just talk and talk about anything. And have deep and meaningful conversations. But its odd, because i always end up attracting other ENFPs as close friends.
Very thoughtfully and well done, renaud! Thank you!!
Thank you! :)
Most people don't realize this, (but we've talked about it on PersonalityCafe) and ENxPs have multiple tracks going on at once in our minds at all times. When we think of possibilities we can follow 3 or more possibilities to conclusion at the same time and choose from them.
Our Fi is often extremely consistent, but people don't know what to look for, Fi being introverted. I feel like I've been the same girl following the same morals since I was 10. There's hardly any agility there, correct. If you know what to look for I'm completely predictable with morals.
People don't realize that our morals being our sword and shield is what makes us so agile. It essentially acts as our backpacks, we have everything we need with us. Allowing us to metaphorically be able to go anywhere and do anything.
@@sirgags2738 this metaphor is awesome!!! 🗡️
So true!!! The old soul quality is often given to us because of this! It's something I don't have to repent for on the daily. Pretty much know that anything I do negatively in a day only negatively impacts me. The trouble is when people care alot about me.. They get negatively impacted by me negatively impacting myself. If I've ever hurt anyone it's always indirectly and usually a result of me try to offend myself for being different. When I didn't actually know myself at first. So I would make commitments to change things about me that I could not change. So it came across as I didn't care.
I am an INFJ with an ENFP son - I certainly related to a lot of what you said here. Thank you for your insights.
Great to know, Debra!
I am enfp and I totally agree on your statement about how deep we are and how we hide our emotions. Yes I am inflexible from moving from my values they are just too important to me. So many levels and most I don’t allow to see unless I really trust them. It’s my inner sanctum and you don’t get let in unless you are worth it. Btw I am super quick never realised it was a trait. Thanks good video
I'm an enfp... This definitely resonates. The only distinction I would make, between the emotional life of the infj and enfp, is that in the enfp's case, there is so much intensely felt emotional chaos that it derails them from what they truly want, sometimes. The infj, in my view, does not betray themselves emotionally, but an enfp might, simply due to their emotions ruling them. I think infj is very steadfast in putting their Ni to work for their benefit and even though they seek social harmony, they know themselves on a deeper level and don't let their emotions run amok in deciding things. What do you think?
ENFP female , single no kids, looking for my INFJ hero to sweep me off my feet. I’ll love you forever!!
Best explanation of us ENFPs yet!!
Yes, travelling for ENFPs is more about exploring I think. It's not about the superficial I've been there, I've seen this like a tourist. We want to learn and expand our inner worlds by discovering the external world, we want to bring things back and share them. Make a beautiful memory with someone, write a story, paint a painting. It's our way of connecting with the world as explorers and whatever our extroverted intuition gathers, feeds into our introverted feeling. It may be an hour's drive away from our home or hundreds of miles away, we want to experience something authentic, a genuine expression of the Universe in an unassuming corner of the world is often enough. No adventure is too small or to big, as long as it's an adventure and in our world, we decide what is and what isn't one 😉
Yes wow
i wanna cry because you know me so well, can i give you a hug, i hope you always have a great day and keep pursuing ur dream and be your best self everyday okay
i start to attract by you as how you talk and think lol, i hope one day i can find my infj :""D
I'm an infj. 99% of people I surround myself with are the green buddies. Mostly infps. I love enfps, too. They usually make me happy...
You hit the nail on the head ~enfp
Exceptional understanding of Fi. Often see a conflict appear between INFJ/ENFP due to Fe/Fi but you nailed it - better than any other ENFP I've seen.
Thank you Thomas, this is very kind :)
As I have gotten older I have learned to make a conscious effort when dealing with people to slow down, I can't tell you how many times I have been told that people can't understand me from talking to fast. Or how frustrating it is to have to stop and go back 10 steps and explain why this is the best way to go with an idea....
I'm an ENFP, this means I have an idea pass through my mind every time my heart beats, filtering the useless / weird ones distract us a lot yet each is as important as all the other ones
I don't know any ENFPs regrettably. Well, aside from TH-cam. Many people I enjoy watching are either ENFP or ENTP. Or INFJ lol. I want to get to know an ENFP though, as I have heard there is a great connection that can be had. I have my suspicions about a previous cowoker being ENFP. I will message him with the MBTI test and see if my suspicions are confirmed. I really truly enjoyed talking with him, he is so warm, genuine, very funny and definitely extroverted. I love my ENTP friend, but she is rather cold at times. She is warm to me and to people she is close to, but that can be turned off in an instant!
This video is spot on. Great work, thank you
The te is there for once we've explored our values and understanding of the world to then go create an affect on the external world and see those values put out there to create the changes we've come to realise the world needs. So in a sense we explore (ne) the ways of the world and our values) and once our fi has become fully developed we then go out and create those changes we want to see in the world through our te. This could come out through actions or speaking and spreading our realisations. I used to be a stereotypical enfp and as my fi developed through exposure to an infp ex partner, it got developed to almost same strength as my ne, and now at 32 years of age, I'm full of convictions and am making things happen and being the change I wanna see and also find myself verbalising my realisations alot. I, like yourself get on infamously with infjs, and have a few of them in my life. I've yet to enter a romantic partnership with one though. Wonder how things would be with both sharing a living space, as well as being intimately exposed to one another. How their inner most needs are tended to.
I am an INFJ, married to an ENFP. I feel totally eclipsed by him. When we go out socially, I disappear, partly due to feeling as though he’s not always reading people correctly and sometimes oversteps boundaries. But I’m ultra sensitive.
I notice the same traits in my ENFP husband. Wanting to dominate in social settings and over power me and not setting boundaries with women.
Sad to hear. Did you try saying this explicitly? (You probably did, im just curious, hope you two find a way) - from an enfp
Maybe an unhealthy ENFP he is@@KC-kr8qe
ENFP here, thanks for this! X
I’m very scattered and just can’t focus on things I don’t like . I can’t focus on mundane tasks at all. Never finish. I wonder if I am really INFJ bc of this?
I’ve never felt so understood in all of my life 😂😂😂😂 If it’s routine, I HATE IT. 🤷🏽♀️
enfp here less focus type than you, have done meditation for 45 days daily 25 min and because of it got discipline ,focus ,peaceful mind
Another great video. I sometimes wonder if the claims that people find Ni mysterious is the same way I have a certain awe for Ne and Ne doms. Increasingly, I believe I regard this cognitive function with an awe that is borne out of a certain familiar strange dynamic.
11:27 Very very well said. And I think that's where the stereotypes often outshine what makes ENFPs "ENFP". That's really the core of what we're all about, and I don't think it ends there. I can't speak for other ENFPs but when we find that which makes our values feel in harmony, it makes us feel like what we do serves our unique purpose. And that is an incredibly self-validating feeling :)
extremely accurate, we are only lighthearted in appearance...
"it's not the novelty for the sake of the novelty... it's an attempt to keep the internal emotional realm in harmony with our core values" You said it well! Thanks!
I adore INFJs, I am ENFP.
I can see and take in everyone’s point of view and try to understand the way they see the world. But I will not budge an inch on my core values, it’s what dictates our life, they is no separation of our individual self from our core values. I can respect others differences, but they won’t be in my small circle. I look like the fun party girl on the outside, and I am! But I am the deepest person I know, and often long for others who want to delve into the depths with me, very hard to find. I can care less about traveling to a place where everyone goes just to take a selfie and say I was there. When I imagine wonderlust, it’s all about the way the experience/place/scenery will make me feel...and It has to connect me to nature and happiness. Just my point of view
Nice video,very intriguing topic of discussion.🖒
I'm ENFP and I only know one INFJ type, we worked together and talked a lot. She used to test my resolve alot, like put alot of external pressure on me, which at the time i didn't understand why it made no difference. I felt a bit close minded in those times and wondered why she enjoyed pushing that button so much. Was it some kind of emotional high ground? Now we are still friends even though i don't work with her anymore so i guess she just fascinated.
Hello there. I think that we achieve aventures cause deeply we trust in that intuition that tell us, if you do this, you grow, you learn, you understand some of the whys of the world. We are filantropos id say, so go in adventures for us is like to Connect the red and the blue. Its like that if we could understand or crystalize that why, we given strong to that value. I dont know if ill been clear. But all that you say about our category is amazingly true and give us relief. Cause we think deeply and we feel deply.
Great video. INFJ here.
I am an enfp and my girlfriend is infj. We ve been together for years and we have fun. I feel that thectoo personalities eventhough they are different match well together
Being an INFJ, I would be deeply fall inlove with an ENFP. However, I rarely go out on my mancave. Honestly, I'm hoping to meet an ENFP online.😉
If you're reading this 1yr from now, I might still be single and waiting for an ENFP. Unless I found the one, I'll delete this comment. IG: mkalariosa
Try “Ur my type” app, even if its only to talk to enfp’s, thank me later ;)
- enfp
I just had a video call with INFJ-man and I was blushing and kept talking i aka babbling away whole hour as ENFPs do. XD
We behave like a bubble headed idiot to make them open up and also we like to be underestimated only to beat them to their game 😊
My best friends are INFJs. Me, an ENFP.
I am an ENFP. I can’t get enough of my infp
Omg - I HAVE to go find myself an INFJ!!!!
Russel Brand is an ENTP in my opinion, just with very well developed extroverted feeling, what he is quick about is introverted thinking, not introverted feeling, in many of his statements you can see that he is pretty blind in Fi. If you watch some of his older shows it was often about debating with people, he is all about provocation, and controversial statements, and he is usually controversial in a way that he is logically (Ti) questioning or joking about Fi values. People just get confused because he is in entertainment industry, and because he is in last years talking about things related to society (which is not the topic only reserved to feelers), but his way of thinking in my opinion is very ENTP.
I agree...I don't sense any Fi in Russell Brand. He reminds me of my INTP ex who had unusually strong Fe, but Brand is way more Extroverted. They even look so much alike that my ex has had people come up to him thinking he's Russell Brand. Definitely ENTP with developed Fe. Some xNTPs can be heavily focused on the humanities and society, more than science, math, etc. They can be more extreme than NFs, in their ideas, communication style and way of thinking. Fi users rely a lot on subjectivity and are very sensitive emotionally. There is just a feeling I get around another Fi user...I'm blind to Ti so it's hard for me to put it into words. LOL
wow..u ahve many enfp frinds- YOU LUCKY HUMANNNN
as he said that we may have trouble focusing on things, I was zoning out and had to rewatch that part...oops
I didn't, but only because I was watching at 1.5 speed 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank u Ren You’ve told me before maybe I’m an EFNP. I’m still on the fence but I seem again to be lean towards ENFP. Can I be on the cusp?
Not really, as ENFP and INFJ use very different functions! I think you are Ne user :) xNFP.
on the mark
Thanks!
ENFP here. i tend to only depend on myself. i tend to get disappointed by others for not able to give the same energy i gave to them. sometimes i feel like I'm too difficult for people to handle. my past relationships tend to not last very long. they claimed i was being too clingy and that it frustrates to always have to cheer me up whenever i feel down or angry, due to enfp's extreme emotions. so instead, people tend to see me as being the one disappointing them and that i'm the one that had to calm myself down and take the actions myself whether i wanted to stay or leave.
my temporary emotional detachment helps maintaining my mental health. whenever i feel hurt so much from attaching myself to someone, that detachment would come and help me create a distance from that attachment or make the decision to just leave. this usually occurs ONLY whenever i truly get attached to someone and got used spending time with them 24/7 (applies to bff and romantic relationships only) so when they do the things i don't like, my emotions get extreme and told them to not do it again like an obsessive person cz i knew if they continued to hurt me, my detachment might come and tell me to leave. but time and time again, i would get hurt until one day my emotional detachment would come and save me.
due to this deep attachment i have, I'm worried that I'd be too much for my future spouse to handle. thus, i believe that nothing is permenant in my life. People continuously told me to stop attaching myself to someone so much. but if i don't, i would feel really lonely and felt like nothing is worth fighting for in life. besides, i can handle myself in hurtful situations and it's rather easy for me to go back up.
I'm so used to losing people in my life anyway. my bff once told me that i was being selfish for not wanting to accept her new life, feeling detached when she suddenly moved away and got married at 20. in the end tho, she's too special for me to end our friendship and that detachment helped me create a distance from my attachment to her.
fyi, i have way more INFJs in my life than any other types. tho none of them are actually my bff, i naturally feel comfortable and love them dearly. my bffs are ENFJ and INFP.
So relatable 😭 you'll find somebody that can handle you!!! Myers-Briggs helped me a lot understanding that it's not that I'm broken of unworthy or clingy, I just didn't meet the right people yet. I want somebody that loves my clinginess just as much as I love other people's clinginess. You are worthy of love, don't give up. - fellow ENFP
@@octavia88 Exactly! yeah... I'm kinda in between hoping and giving up atm. i know people might say I'm still too young. but honestly, I'm very tired to deal with bullshit. i don't want to go through another relationship if it won't ended up with marriage. i don't want to waste my time and emotions on something uncertain.
I've met guys that are really nice, protective of my safety and respectful. it's just sad that i couldn't connect with them emotionally. our compatibility just sucks 😅
yeah, I'm glad i got to know about MBTI. my lil brother introduced it to me. i think i would go through a lot of dilemma and struggle to handle my emotions if i didn't know about MBTI.
I've become introverted ever since lockdown. and also since my company have everyone working from home. i feel comfortable tho a little empty inside. I'm not sad nor happy. just very neutral. i don't connect with someone deeply anymore, just been comfortable connecting with my family instead. my love for my mom and big brother has been at ease cz they stopped getting angry at me with explosive temper and start to show me more warmth lovingly. so yeah, i feel at ease right now.
tho my extroverted self seriously want to get out of it's shell cz i haven't been connecting with people outside very much. so it's gonna take some time. cz being introverted honestly sets me back from connecting to someone new. and my line of work actually needs me to deal with a lot of people. so i need my extrovertness back 🤣
@@niahelmee6890 I don't think you became more introvert, more like you became the shell of your former self. When I feel comfortable I end up in a ditch of depression and it's hard to get out. Apathy is horrible! I'm concerned for you. ENFPs strive in struggle, mental and phisical movement. If you're anything like me, it would really help you to focus on somebody (or a new passion I guess would help too). Having a crush on somebody and perhaps never even acting on it is a great drive for me and the exploration of my self. It's a great way to focus my extroverted need for connections.
@@niahelmee6890 I am 33 now and I think the same like you, I'm looking for that relationship that will be the ground for the future and I hope that as an ENFP I can manage. Building up a family is so hard and I hope I'm up to the task... But I couldn't do this alone... And if it doesn't work out, at least I tried. I'm done with nonsense...
@@octavia88 oh my.... i think i have become the shell of my former self. i read a post on ENFP sub reddit. it's exactly what I'm experiencing right now. pretty much in a dilemma how i could get out of my shell. I've been trying to go out more, do the things i used to feel very passionate about. but oddly, the feelings were not as strong as it used to. my thought process seems almost empty. i suddenly had zero idea what to say. the friends that i sometimes talk to but not very close thought i was angry at them when really, i honestly don't know what to say to them. i was truly not as talkative as i used to. I'm not as curious. most times I've been trying to force myself to talk.
fortunately, i was able to feel and act my trueself when I'm with my lil brother and cousins, and friends that i normally pour my feelings to even if we weren't each other's bff. probably cz they would give me their full attention regardless the situation. as for my bestfriends, they had other priorities. engaged and married very young. i do miss them but i already felt disconnected with the one that got engaged. she almost always turns her attention to her fiancee (well, her fiancee iss her best friend since childhood). while as for the one got married, i really do miss her but she needs to get her life balanced out first. and i can just wait.
for the most part, i don't feel like connecting, which I'm well aware is really bad for my personality. which is why I've been trying to go out more. however, my messages has been really2 empty so... 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm working right now but most of my friends are studying. I'm planning on furthering my studies next mid year probably. hopefully it'll help even more. really2 hope
Spot on
What is the difference between INFP and ENFP?
ENFPs are quite a bit more extroverted usually, ideate quicker/more freely and also more disorganized.
I crossed paths with en ENFP and lived his energy at first nevertheless he was not at his best moment so ended up leaving out of a sudden ...bummer! INFJ here.
So true!
You describe me so well
You look sooooo much like Gabriel Al romaani, A TH-camr.. but Gosh,the resemblance
Haha really?! I’ll have to check him out! I hope it’s a compliment :D
@@RensRoom hehe ☺️☺️ you know it is... when u said based on your brother.. I thought he was the one ... your color is more pronounced than his tho,but the features are similar. And your voices are different.. maybe you both are from the same country?
If I was told you are his brother,I would believe ..
You are handsome,you don’t have to worry... (am not flirting 🙃 I promise)
Russel Brand is a ENFP?...cool... I like him, he's witty, eccentric, intelligent, strong sense of social justice and really chatty 🤔 of course he's a ENFP 😆😆
Imagine having a relationship as an Infj, I cant relate. 😅
I like rent cuz he gave me food and water 😂
So are you half French and half Italian? Just curious
Hey you irish?