How the Fear of Ageing Will Make You Invisible
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I'm 51 and I've just bought myself a skateboard. I'm not trying to be young: I just really fancied one :-D
Love it!!
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Heh I'm 56 and I'm considering buying my first long board!!
😍😍😍😍👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼😍😍😍😍
So rad!!!
In a society that profits from self doubt... loving yourself is an act of rebellion.
♥️
Age is just another weapon used against us...
FUCK YAAASS!!!!!
Damn, I'm gonna print that on a t-shirt.
Powerful quote.
Did you just come up with that ? Or is that a quote from somewhere else? The ..." In a society that profits from self doubt..."
@@sarahthatcher123
no :(
I wish it was mine. I heard it in another video about how women look at themselves thanks to society.
but it is so true that I remember about it.
you can look it up in google and you will see a bunch of images with that quote. Some words change for example: loving for the word liking. etc.
hope I answered your question
have a great day =)
It's really sad that we live in a society where a 30 year old would even be making a video with this title. 30 is so, so very young.
Absolutely ridiculous it is. I think its her personal problem though. Ive never met anyone that thought they were genuinely getting old at that age.
Maybe she's reacting because she looks older
It is? Thanks. I’m 31 and feel ancient and now limited
My niece got upset when I told a receptionist that it was her 24th birthday. She sulked for a full hour. I have an entire family of women who live in fear about their age. I really get angry with the stupidity of it all. What are they upset about ? Being alive?
Privat I thought she was about 25.
I went back to school at 47 and became a registered nurse at 52. I am now 63 and it was the best thing I ever did. It amazed me that some people would ask me "don't you think you are too old to go back to school?" No, you are never to old to follow your dreams. Should I have stayed in a job I hated making low wages? I started a you tube channel at 60 and I am having so much fun. I learned to film, edit and post my own videos. So age means nothing. You are never to old or to young to do the things that challenge you and make you happy. Don't ever let someone else define you. Great video btw! Your mom sounds awesome!
thats awesome, thank you for sharing. Im almost 40 and have been thinking about going back to school for my masters or even phd. your story inspires me
Cool
@@melissamoonchild9216do it Girl❤ It's your life no one is
Thank youuuuu
In my thirties, I moved to another continent for several years. Life begins again quite often. I love getting older.
Yeeeessss :)
I am 32 and just sold everything to move to another country/continent. F*ck it! So much to experience!
Truth sister!
at 29 I moved from UK to USA. Each decade is just a new chapter!
So true! Life begins again quite often. I also love getting older. We just sold everything to move to another country and start a completly different chapter in life. In my thirties I am learning new things (on sooo many subjects) every day! My biggest inspiration is my grandma, she never listened to what society think “old” people should be like. A lot of my friends (when I was a teenager) stopped by her house to chat with her, they all said she was “cool” and that they could not believe a grandma could be like that (=open minded, easy to talk to, funny, modern, ...).
I'm an almost 45 year old digital nomad, and I ignore the ageist haters.
GenerationXit You are awesome. 😊
I'm going to be like you someday :D
David Konevky 🤜🏼🤛🏼
YES!!! You´re a whole inspo !
Yes!! 40's rock big time. Age is just a number. Attitude and mindset! Period! :)
I'm almost 25 and always see men talking about how women's desirability begins to decline quickly at the age of 25. How cruel and sad is it to make such young people, whose brains have just fully developed into its prime, feel like their physicality is on a plummet. We've just grown up and are suddenly less valuable than we were when we were immature. So annoying.
They are just pedos not wanting mature women out of fear they know their worth and won't fall for their BS
Don't worry. What men think of us is of the absolute least importance ever. That's also the cruelty of the internet. In real life, people fall in love at any and all ages. Our value is also so much more than looks and the gift of getting older is that you feel that in your bones and you know your worth and it's the best feeling ever.
@@tracinglines675 this is so funny reading this comment in response to the one I wrote 2 years ago. I’m 27 and love getting older. I feel more secure and stable in my identity and body.
I'm a single, 29 year old woman and I'm crying while watching this. Society can be so cruel. Thank you for sharing this.
Im 29 years old as well, this message is SO important
Sameeeeeee 😩
HI ME TOO!
Society can go please itself. I’m sure y’all are amazing and don’t take any BS
You're so fucking young!
My ex husband held me back from so much because he thought it was “too late” for the goals I had in mind. EX is the key word there 😉
Hahaha preach ex husband makes us better and more confident about life
😘
FREE BABY, FREE
YESSS!!!! He was putting HIS limitations on you. And I pray he will discover that he can break his own limited thinking and live his life full and big too
The only 'too late' thing about that situation was the prospect of ever thinking this man was right for you again! When you ditch these kind of people, they tend to crumble.
Everyone says I’m too old to be an airline pilot at 43 but I am going to prove them wrong as I have just started training
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That's ridiculous. Go for it! (Besides, when strangers see you in your uniform, they will assume you have done a lot of flying and they will feel safe and comforted by that.)
You're not too old. I'm a commercial pilot, I've seen many people over the years start their flying career at 43 and on.
A couple of years ago I decided to quit my job and become a TH-camr. I'm 40. One of the best things about getting older is you get more confidence to just do what you want.
Congratulations! But the thing is that it is a lot easier for men than women. Men are always " relevant " somehow but women starting from their 30s lose their relevance. Even if they share the same knowledge and content men do. It is unfair but what can we do.
@@kimmiasnss This is very true. Gender is a big factor in privilege. Just like it’s a big help that Sorelle is white, able-bodied and cis-gendered. It is unfair, but we can use our platforms responsibly and educate ourselves about our privilege. Progress is slow, but progression always wins.
@@jamiewindsor Indeed. I'm 26. AND growing up I always thought that life starts at 30 and even 40. My parents had me later in life. My dad got his first job at 30. Started lifting weights at 45. Mom started running everyday at 50 and lost a lot of weight. They both never mentioned their age as an obstacle. They used it like a motivation "I have less years to live now. I should start moving and not lose any othet day". Also during my childhood I watched 80s and 70s movies and all the main actresses were in their 30s and 40s and were considered beauties. I really don't know how the world changed so quickly but it wasnt like this forever. People from my parents' era are the proof.
OMG!!! INSPIRING! I'm 39 and have been doing youtube for a year!!
@@kimmiasnss Unfair? You are joking right? Do you know how many young causal men who doesn't have a great job or look avarage have to strungle to get a girlfriend? It's not unfair it's just men turn by aging. You got your chance when you were young. Now you get replaced by young girls. It is what it is. Female great time when young, miserable as they age. Men, miserable time when young, great time when old. Why should men care about old women? They didn't also care when they young by hypergamy... Its time to Date down. A 30+ year women doesn't have the same benefit as a partner as a 20 year old female.
Thank you. I have been scared of aging since the age of 15. someone told me a few weeks ago that I still look very good for being 26. I died inside.
26 is very young!! :)
When your 50, you'll be wishing for a second of when your 26. 💔
Your very young. Enjoy ur life.
You will never appreciate your youth until it fails you.
Life expectancy in most developed nations is like 80 or over but here are people pretending 26 is old or something. People piss me off so much sometimes, if nothing goes wrong you literally still have the majority of your life ahead of you
I'm almost 31 and I've started noticing negative self-talk about my age. I needed this video
I will turn 30 this year and I'm so happy I'm getting older. I'm happier than ever, I have discovered who I am & what I want, I am finally learning to accept and love my body (after hating it for almost 30 years) and I'm just excited to be alive and continue to learn more & grow as a person. It's amazing to experience life as a human!
Same, 30 and genuinely freaking out over here. I desperately needed someone to remind me of this!
Grow up
@@dragonfairy22 how do you discovered who you were and want
Then when I hit my mid 40's and both of my parents were gone it's like well
I now have nobody I can turn to. I was going through a divorce on top of it and
left the US Arrmy after 12 years of service. I entered at an older age I was 33.
So with the problems I had with my wife and our kids were still young we had
in our mid to late 30's so I had a mountain of responsibility, I could not transition into a decent job due to age discrimmination and a tough economy too.
I did transfer into the Army Reserves a Sergeant in order to continue service (now 45 years old) - and have some kind of a career. And my son is autistic low functioning and so
my wife had to deal with it, and also our take care of daughter who was normal thank God.
So my wife had to do a lot while I was working at what was now gig jobs and a Reservist a weekend a month. Our relationship grew more and more distant and I had to
recover from being stabbed in the right arm by her. I had to have surgery in the back of the bicep area when the median artery is, and the nerve had to be checked for damage. So one good thing was I got 90 days of work,
on orders at the Reserves when I asked if I could.
We were separated I did not press charges on her because I was worried about our kids.
A few months later she went to court for an assault charge and was given probation by the court. I remained on my own always supporting them financially and compromising my own life.
The Dept.of The VA awarded me VA Compensation at a decent amount and financially
helping us out greatly. I got the divorce and also finished 20 years of military service through the Reserves, I was 54 when I retired from there in 2018. Today I am in a local rock band as a bassist, I just recently got the gig, chasing a dream I had in the early 1980's when I was still a teen.
Believe in a higher power, I was saying prayers to Jesus all the time over these years
maybe because my mother always believed in Him and told me that prayers can work.
Somehow, try to enjoy the challenges in your life, and work as hard as you can to achieve your dreams.
My parents told me I was too old to start kick boxing. I was 17! Two years later I am kicking asses every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and occasionally on Saturdays.😂
Well done girl 😁 I feel you! I did it at 24 ahah!
I started at age 30 :P
Yeeeees! My mom started taekwondo when she was 50,now she almost has her black belt
AWESOME
Too old at 17?! 😂 good for you for doing it anyway!!!
Love this video. I am constantly told by my viewers that I am too old for shimmer eyeshadow or too old to wear this or that, it drives me crazy!!! I might be almost 50 but inside I am still the same person that I was in my 20s but more experienced, more confident and comfortable in my own skin, I would not want to go back to my teens or 20s. Life is good xoxo
I love this so much. Your still young and youthful just more enlightened and wise.
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Viewers. You mean kids probably. xp
You phrased that PERFECTLY ❤️ love it. We really are the same people regardless of what is on the stat sheet. Age feels like that last piece of statistic people seem to feel allowed to use to judge someone and get away with it. I tangented but comment was fire and clearly struck a chord with me! 😜💕
no, society places immense privilege in women for their beauty. Pretty privilege stumps almost all of them. So when you lose it, its obvious how society will treat that. Cant be a loss without the luxury to begin with
I was an idiot in my 20s... don't want to go back and lose all the wisdom I've gained..
I am in my 50's, learning photography, art and i jumped out of a plane and doing other activities...I am trying to complete my bucket list..I don't feel 50 and I don't look 50 ...age is just a number.. You can have many lives...try everything...you only have one death...Enjoy life..don;t let fear stop you...who cares what others say.
Women are beautiful at all ages.
yes! love this!!!
"You can have many lives, but only one death." I think that's inspiring !
Be r I am 52. I reinvented my career and revamped my life after a divorce a few years ago. I currently do a job that is unheard of for someone my age and I’m good at it. And not just good at it “for my age”. Tell your mom 52 is nothing. And have her watch this video. Such an important message and one that isn’t often spoken about. Props to Sorelle for using her platform for positivity and change.
Yes to this!!
@@user-mb9nm7bq5e Omgosh, she is so young! I'm 56 and I feel like the next chapter is starting! I don't feel old; I will probably live into my 80s, and that is a long time. You don't realize how time works until you get older and observe how long 10, 20 years truly is; you can get so much done in that time! I'm so sorry for your loss.
My mom died when she was 49, she was always beautiful and always always proud to say how old she was. She also lived life to the fullest, wrote two memiors along with many children's books and a romance novel, owned a biscotti and bath bomb business, shes my #1 inspiration, I live to make her proud, and I'll never feel too old, because it truly is a privilege to age.
Jillian Price so well said. Your Mom was legendary!
59, feel physically and mentally like a 30-year-old, run 3 - 5 miles a day, active in many business ventures, etc etc etc. I haven't even tired enough to catch a second wind, and I'm just warming up! Death will end the party for each of us soon enough. No need to go home early.
Wow, good for you!
I'm stealing that last quote. Death will end the party fo each of us soon enough. No need to go home early.
I have a 56 yo work colleague and she more youthful in looks and attitude than many 25,30 yo today who whine about being "old" instead of enjoying their youth.
CANT HAVE A BABY AT 59
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I just turned 27 and started freaking out with that “it only gets worse” mindset, thinking I wasted my youth doing nothing. This video felt like a birthday present and something to calm my anxious heart. Thank you ❤️
Then when I hit my mid 40's and both of my parents were gone it's like well
I now have nobody I can turn to. I was going through a divorce on top of it and
left the US Arrmy after 12 years of service. I entered at an older age I was 33.
So with the problems I had with my wife and our kids were still young we had
in our mid to late 30's so I had a mountain of responsibility, I could not transition into a decent job due to age discrimmination and a tough economy too.
I did transfer into the Army Reserves a Sergeant in order to continue service (now 45 years old) - and have some kind of a career. And my son is autistic low functioning and so
my wife had to deal with it, and also our take care of daughter who was normal thank God.
So my wife had to do a lot while I was working at what was now gig jobs and a Reservist a weekend a month. Our relationship grew more and more distant and I had to
recover from being stabbed in the right arm by her. I had to have surgery in the back of the bicep area when the median artery is, and the nerve had to be checked for damage. So one good thing was I got 90 days of work,
on orders at the Reserves when I asked if I could.
We were separated I did not press charges on her because I was worried about our kids.
A few months later she went to court for an assault charge and was given probation by the court. I remained on my own always supporting them financially and compromising my own life.
The Dept.of The VA awarded me VA Compensation at a decent amount and financially
helping us out greatly. I got the divorce and also finished 20 years of military service through the Reserves, I was 54 when I retired from there in 2018. Today I am in a local rock band as a bassist, I just recently got the gig, chasing a dream I had in the early 1980's when I was still a teen.
Believe in a higher power, I was saying prayers to Jesus all the time over these years
maybe because my mother always believed in Him and told me that prayers can work.
Somehow, try to enjoy the challenges in your life, and work as hard as you can to achieve your dreams.
I feel exactly like you, I’m 70!!
the only fact you're on TH-cam makes you already a winner
Beautiful!!!!💞
I’m 23 & I’ve really been struggling a lot in the past years with this “oh I have to figure out my life right now, I gotta make it NOW or never”. This video really helped me to put some things into perspective
same age, yeah this vid could not have come at a better time! I hope you achieve all your goals in life!!
Sending you alllllll the best wishes. "Life is a journey, not a destination." If you got the perfect qualifications, the perfect job, the perfect home, the perfect partner, and the perfect kids by your late 20's, I guarantee that you would still feel like you needed something more. We constantly evolve, and you have your ENTIRE life to do that. Putting that amount of pressure on yourself to get it all done at 23 will just make you super stressed. Breatheeeee. Life is amazing ♡
I totally remember that feeling like it was yesterday!!! Even if it was 20 years ago. Here is the thing remember thinking...i can't because i am too young to have experience so no one will listen to me...then...i'm thirty if i'm not a millionaire i'm nothing...now 40 i just don't care...follow your heart!!! it WILL lead you where you need to go! sending light!
Me too!!!!!
I love it when I read these comments. I'm 48 and honestly still don't know what I want to do when I "grow up". Because fuck growing up! Do whatever you want to do right now... you can change with the seasons,
I love your comments!!!
I’m almost 37 and enjoying being a University student. I just quit my comfortable, safe and well remunerated job (for 2nd time) because it felt wrong. Super excited of exploring photography, learning yoga and of course loving surfing, skateboarding, working out, eating healthy and falling in love with anything that it feels right!
Awesome. I won't detract from that except to say I hope if you meet and fall in love with someone as awesome as you that they are 45 and you talk them up to everybody you know, spreading even more inspiration.
That's great!
Paco Tunez I’m 34 and doing the same. So nice to see there are others like me!
Good luck with school! Earned my psychology degree when I was 40. I think I really appreciated school more with some life experience behind me. Age doesn't matter.
Bruna Fernandes Vegas. You?
31 is fabulous! i got married at 32. had my children at 33 and 35. At 56 i am still amazed by life.
Actually my mom is huge inspiration for me. She was 35 when she had me, around 40 she started completely new career as a yoga instructor, before that she worked as a event manager...then..she divorced my abusive father and raised three children (I have two older brothers) on her own as a self employed person in country, where at that time was some kind of stigma surrounding yoga, selfdevelopment (anything not christian). She had to work hard. Her best years are now when she is in her 60s she is the most happiest, she is healthier than me. Her "life" started around 40.💜 Don't let anybody deceive you. You don't have an expiration date, you do you. 💪
Wow! Thanks for sharing, this is inspiring
Your story gives me hope! I turn 54 next week. Thx for sharing!
I’m 36 and feel as if I’m just getting started. Thanks for sharing ❣️
Thank you for sharing!!! Hope u n ur mom continues to have a blessed life
I love your mom
Considering the average life expectancy here in Australia is 82.50, I find that 31 being considered old is ridiculous. As for me, I'm 41, just completed a Masters degree and just starting out in a brand new career, and also in the throws of starting my new business. I'm also not married, and child-free (both have never been my jam) OMG!!!! and well to anyone who gives me grief it's a decided F#$CK OFF. Also both sides of the family have lived well into their 90s - my paternal Grandma lived to 97, so going on that I haven't even reached middle age yet!!!!! How sad that we live in a society that you reach your peak in your 20s. I feel really sorry for anyone that believes that!
Yeah it’s the kids that consider 30s “old.” I’m 21 and I used to be one of those people but I’m not anymore. 30s isn’t even middle aged yet. Middle aged is around 45-60. Especially with more people living to be above 85 these days.
Also a lot of the 30 somethings I see don’t look or seem that much different than people in their 20s. Times have changed.
Thankk you for your post, I said "am I crazy to think I can go back to school at age 34?" and your words give me courage
Goals!
@@AlicjaM6 you're never to old to keep learning. My education is definitely no where near finished. Looking at going a Grad Certificate in yoga therapy next (I'm also currently doing my initial 200 hour yoga teacher training) don't let society tell you what you can and can't do. Go for it 😀❤❤
I turned 27 this year...and the fear of getting old, not being enough anymore has been creeping into my mind so often lately. "How will I deal with this? How can I hide this? I'm already not the hottest thing out there...imagine what I'll be in 5 years" etc. This video made me cry happy tears. Thank you Sorelle.
27!! You're so young darling. I turn 41 this year and I'd love to be 27 again. I'd go back and do everything differently lol enjoy being in your 20s and remember to look after your skin. Retinol and vitamin c serum now will do wonders in years to come. Much love.
Our experience isn’t the same during our lifespan. I can’t do things I used to do when I was a toddler or a teenager. So much things in our life are beyond our control. If we could make peace with that, we could spend the time we have in this world with less regrets. We here for a limited time after all. Alhamdulillah!
Just deal its reality
I feel you, turned 27 this year and I cried my whole birthday 😭
Nobody gives at about old ass insecure men’s opinions
It's crazy how some of us are afraid of growing old when there are ppl less fortunate who are afraid they might not make it to 25. It is a privilege to grow old.
Yes! I so agree with you!
Aging sucks its a disease. Scientist already reversed aging in mice. Soon we will be able to stay young until our 70-80.
I'm ok to not reach 25. i think it's better.
Why? I know life is hard, probably a lot harder in the foreseeable future. Do you not have anyone that would miss you?
Better to have a shirt good life than a long miserable. Especially since everyone are so convinced there are punishment after life. So a short good life sounds great to me
I'm 23 and it always pains me to hear people in their 20s drag other age groups for being "old" its like hun, do u not realize you're gonna be there in like a decade? we're "old" for much longer than we're deemed "young" so this narrative of your early 20s being the peak benefits almost NO ONE
Completely agree. I'm 26 and I'm already comparing myself to women in their early twenties. They seem so much fresher and radiant. I'm noticing grey hairs already and some forehead wrinkles. But I just have to remind myself I was that age. they will be my age soon and the cycle continues no matter what we feel.
Yes omg. When I was in my early 20s, I made it a point to NEVER say that. I always knew it was bs and I would never want to feel that way when I hit that age! And I don't.
THIS.
Be careful how you judge others, because you end up being judged the same way. So look at folks lovingly and embrace self-love.
@@sorchx so much of it is managing stress and treating ur self with ur overall look at life. im 35ish and been through too much but taught me to love moments which is still a struggle ... bc ppl tend to think in the future but never in the present
Considering the same irritated me at 23, no most won't hence why they going to a ball when they realize.
sorelle: talks about the fear of aging
me a teenager with years ahead of me still watching this video: 👁👄👁
Rania 😂felt thatttt
I know what's on your mind or what will arrive one day. how do I know? I was once your age ;)
lmao same
Enjoy it and be fearless while it last.
Just say fuck and go for it.
I've often heard people say about older women "she must have been really beautiful". I ALWAYS reply, "She's STILL Beautiful!" I'm 61 btw. Love your channel.
I turned 40 this year and I have to admit, it bothered me. BUT, I found my 30's were so much better than my 20's, so I'm determined to make this decade even more awesome than my 30's.
I turned 40 this year as well and I like it. It feels complete. I agree in that my 30's were better than my 20's. I'd love to meet someone who didn't agree lol. 40's will be great for us both! I'm manifesting that :D
@rianshaw3687 For me I'll be 41 in a few months. So far so good. I'm proud. It's still relatively young. It think it gets hard when you start looking old. That doesn't happen for most until the 50's when collagen takes a dive.
@@cassondralynch6342 to me 40s is still young when you take care of yourself stay stress free smile be around positive people ❤️😊
@@tamikasinclair5478 Absolutely :)
i just turned 29 and needed to hear this❤🥺🌈
Happy (belate) birthday!
i’m turning 29 next month. 🙃 so much excite!
I’m 48 and to be honest I just discovered who I really am. I just started my TH-cam channel and feel way more confident now than I did in my 20s! Thank you SO much for this video, and rewriting the story. It does get BETTER!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Im 41 and besides the fact that I wasted my life to drugs and diseases I also have DEPERSONALIZATION which means I cannot feal reality so suicide is best for me
Maria it's u life anyone can told u what do to live u life as you want it take care of you. From an algerian parisian woman👍🌞😁💖❤️
@@tonydimera282 hey bud, you ok now?
no, society places immense privilege in women for their beauty. Pretty privilege stumps almost all of them. So when you lose it, its obvious how society will treat that. Cant be a loss without the luxury to begin with
I’m almost 33 and people think I’m much younger and I’ve been taking it as a compliment but then I started realizing I am perpetuating the idea of 30s looking older than this, so now my plan is to reply to “the compliment” with “no, I look my age, I look 33, this is what 33 looks like”.
I'm 37 and people always tend to think I'm quite a bit younger too. When I was 30 one guy guessed my age at 19 and that was crazy but to be honest you look like what 33 CAN look like and I look like what 37 CAN look like but to be honest everyone I run into that I went to school with looks older than me and one gal I work with looks nearly 50 but she's my age. I know eventually people will stop telling me I look so much younger and I'll have to accept being my age.
@@Opal5674 it’s tough starting to realize how much I love youth now that I’m aging. But I’m sure I’ll change my mind gradually and accept my thirties era.
I think its because no one knows what 30 something looks like. If you look under 45ish but older than college age, people love to say "oh you look not a day over 28" lol 27 or 28 is an age people love to use as a compliment for when no one can tell or even if someone does look older but the person doesnt want to be rude. Ive had people do that to me and like you i tell them my age so this what 30 looks like
I get this too. "You're looking great" like I should be looking like something else
This is when age hits you hard...When you're lonely. If you age with a good friends and family, and hopefully a spouse, then aging will be fun regardless. When you're old and going through it alone then I will admit that gets tough.
I’m 29 now and I remember back when I was 25 my boyfriend at the time said to me:”you got about 5 good years left”... at the time I was like “ouch!” but now I know that was such a stupid thing to say. It’s up to me to decide how many good years I have left. In fact I intend all of my years to come be amazing 💆♀️
Good thing he's an ex
...
THAT GUY WAS A JERK
When you cross 30, age becomes suddenly irrelevant, just my experience.
I'm almost 25, and I've heard that so many times!! Or younger people complaining about getting old 🤦🏻♀️
Please people, don't invade us with your negativity
people, who say that, are usually projecting heir own fears on you in order to control you and pressure into relationship they want, out of fear to be left alone.
My grandmother at age 80 was climbing fences like a rebellious 13 year old. (her plan was to feed the cat on the other side) The only way we knew about it is because she insisted on wearing fancy clothes while doing it. Sometimes she got stuck and firefighters would come to get her from the fence.
So this is how my plans for 80 are. Waiting for sexy firefiters in my fancy dress. When this is the plan for 80, You can just imagine how adventurous 40 or 59 or 71 will be.
I encourage anyone reading. Take this plan. Join me on the fence!
I'm 25 and only expectations I have to live up too are thouse of 80 years old me.
THIS IS AWESOME!!!! Hahahahahah
This sounds like a great plan!
Awesome 😘
Okay, here is my super-long, 3 paragraph response, which I hope might benefit someone somewhere. I'm 38, and I have felt everything described in this video - both the good and the bad. A part of me feels 'embarrassed' by my age, which has led to behaviours that enable my own invisibility; I'm constantly around people who are younger than me and am acutely aware of the way women in their 30s are viewed. I look younger than my age, which makes life 'easier' for me - but the truth is I don't feel my age anyway. I feel wiser, NOT older, and I believe that's the most painful aspect of society's negative attitude towards aging: the older you get, you feel wiser, you feel more at ease within yourself and within the world, you feel calmer, you are less self-focused and therefore capable of greater generosity - AND YET YOU DON'T FEEL OLDER. In my mind, I'm perpetually 27, or 28 - for other women, this could be any age. But the point is that I forget my own age because I no longer think of myself in terms of how many years I've been alive but instead I think of myself in terms of the life I've lived - I feel like I am GROWING, not aging. It's only the mirror and society that say otherwise.
Sometimes I start to feel panicked because I haven't "accomplished enough" for a 38yo. I never married, never had kids. I don't own my own home (yet). I'm not 'settled' in my life. What's more, I'm currently at university earning a Bachelor's degree, aiming for honors and a new career - effectively putting my financial security on hold. But I'm working towards a future filled with MORE financial stability and MORE fun. I used to feel so much pressure to accomplish all of this before I hit 40... that isn't going to happen, but I've realised it doesn't matter. I am growing and learning from this process. What would I be doing otherwise? Working a full-time job I hate? And then hitting 40 and looking back and regretting all that wasted time? I don't want that!
I know I'm lucky to live in a country where I can afford to get an education, and that may not be feasible or desirable for everyone. But my advice to people of ALL AGES is to not second-guess your plans or dreams simply because of your age - you will REGRET any time wasted on doubt and insecurity. If you think you can't do something simply because of your age, you are just defeating yourself! And if you really do hit a wall - for example, if you want a new career, and you're 70, and employers aren't interested in hiring you because of your age - make your own opportunities! Be creative, volunteer, start a TH-cam channel, whatever. Don't just give up because society says x is only appropriate for x age. That's only an opinion, and you don't have to share it. And if you think you will be "too old" to benefit from your goals by the time you reach them, just remember that it doesn't matter how long it takes to achieve goals, because it's the journey towards them makes life more fulfilling and valuable - and "future you" will probably disagree anyway!
Well said, I thank you for your comment!!
Boom!!!
Loved this! Thanks. Greetings from a 35 year old who is also switching careers. 🙌🏻
cope oldie
"In a society that profits from your self doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act"
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Caroline Caldwell
Whenever people say that I'm too old to do something (I'm 47) I just smile and say "watch me".
I don't think you're old at 40 you still have a lot to learn I think.
Great commentary here. People fear aging because society tells them it is disadvantageous to grow older. I agree, it’s about rewriting that and changing your mindset. Aging is beautiful 🙌💯
BEEEAAAUUUTIFUL!!!
Sorelle Amore I like how you say it better 😊👍
Then when I hit my mid 40's and both of my parents were gone it's like well
I now have nobody I can turn to. I was going through a divorce on top of it and
left the US Arrmy after 12 years of service. I entered at an older age I was 33.
So with the problems I had with my wife and our kids were still young we had
in our mid to late 30's so I had a mountain of responsibility, I could not transition into a decent job due to age discrimmination and a tough economy too.
I did transfer into the Army Reserves a Sergeant in order to continue service (now 45 years old) - and have some kind of a career. And my son is autistic low functioning and so
my wife had to deal with it, and also our take care of daughter who was normal thank God.
So my wife had to do a lot while I was working at what was now gig jobs and a Reservist a weekend a month. Our relationship grew more and more distant and I had to
recover from being stabbed in the right arm by her. I had to have surgery in the back of the bicep area when the median artery is, and the nerve had to be checked for damage. So one good thing was I got 90 days of work,
on orders at the Reserves when I asked if I could.
We were separated I did not press charges on her because I was worried about our kids.
A few months later she went to court for an assault charge and was given probation by the court. I remained on my own always supporting them financially and compromising my own life.
The Dept.of The VA awarded me VA Compensation at a decent amount and financially
helping us out greatly. I got the divorce and also finished 20 years of military service through the Reserves, I was 54 when I retired from there in 2018. Today I am in a local rock band as a bassist, I just recently got the gig, chasing a dream I had in the early 1980's when I was still a teen.
Believe in a higher power, I was saying prayers to Jesus all the time over these years
maybe because my mother always believed in Him and told me that prayers can work.
Somehow, try to enjoy the challenges in your life, and work as hard as you can to achieve your dreams.
I just turned 40. I don't have a boyfriend, children, permanent residence or job. But I never been happier in my life then how I feel now!!!! The freedom that comes with getting older is beautiful.
I love your attitude, great video!
I started painting when I was 29, riding when I was 31, photography when I was 33. I completely changed my career when I was 35. Now I am 36 and I am completely aware that we can do just as much as we are interested in trying. I enjoy life a lot more compared to my teens and twenties and I am excited about all the options that I have.
Still, I can`t help but feel anxious about losing my youth and getting wrinkles. Don`t know how to let that go.
Europeans i feel knew this truth for a while, Italians are in there Prime in their 40s and 50s you see them out drinking and dancing and showing way better style than the yougins
Totally agree!! I’m from Milan and here when you’re in your 50s you start living your best life 😂
Yes, we age like fine wine!
haha how beautiful, love that! In Germany this ain't the same though!! ;) But personally I feel this way too, getting older means knowing yourself more, if you do it right, it will show! I'm enjoying my thirties:) ...like fine wine, yes !
So true! That's why I want to live in Europe because being there makes me feel very young cause people of all ages are active and fun while in Africa! It's so the opposite. Women don't have much to do besides getting married and having kids and that's so depressive.
@@whateverbabe come to Europe! You’re welcome here! Woman have so much more potential and it doesn’t have to do anything with getting kids or being married.
I'm 40 in 4 days, & I've been telling myself that I was "too old" for certain things since I was 21. I hope people realise, that it's not your age that's holding you back, but the "opinion" of your capabilities at**insert age** that is holding you back.
"Imagine talking down to an ...old person, one with wisdom, one that has gone through SO much sh*t in life, with an undermining tone.
YOURE GONNA BE THAT OLD PERSON SOMEDAY..." - Sorelle Amore
.....you mean like the trend of "Ok boomers?" YES. It does say a lot about a person, how they treat other people. Thank you for this insight Sorelle!
I’m 23 but I always hated peoples my age ( especially when I was a teenager) making fun of older people. Not every young people are like that, in fact those that think they’re superior for being young, tend to be those that will turn into Karens and Kevins at 45 , and bitch about how things where better In their days bla bla bla, cause they lost their youthfulness but they only kept their bad attitude.
I am now 29 but I can remember being 8 years old turning 9 and worrying about getting old and not wanting to get any older. How messed up is that.
exact same here
I’m so sorry 💔
Woah Wtf
I think A lot of this sort of sentiment is social media driven. I'm 40 so was out of school by the time MySpace hit. I didn't grow up with it and feel so grateful for that. It's not a requirement. Besides TH-cam stay off that crap as much as possible. When I was 9 I wanted to be older. That was normal. Wanting to be grown. I'd even ride in the car sitting on my legs so I looked taller and older. My how that changes lol. I hope you go through your transitions in as much peace as possible. Remember that if you radiate love you'll always be attractive to people. Maybe not to the point of wanting to bed you down but with genuine admiration.
@@cassondralynch6342 thank you for your response. There wasn't social media when I was 9 though (2000) or if there was I didn't touch it until I was about 16 and that was MySpace.
I like the attitude, that “I’m ageless”. I hate it when people call me “cute” as I understand that’s code for stupid. I tell them I know the code. 😏
Joyce Latham 😂😂😂 I love that response.
I used to say people were "stupid cute" meaning their cuteness made me stupid. They knew what I meant, but hopefully no one over hearing misunderstood me. Fun times with cute people.
Cute is a code for stupid ??? what
Cute is code for cute.
When I tell people my age, they almost seem grossed out. It's like they found me to be attractive only when they thought I was under a certain age. I'm also a woman who does things alone that people apparently don't do alone, like to go concerts and traveling. It's very true that we have to exist without apologizing, living by example, and others will follow, or we will at least make them think.
And going to dinner alone....LOL...someone asked me what i wanted to do after covid and I was like go to a spas weekend...alone..lol!!! But i've always liked being with me. I have resigned my self to people sneering, I just started a youtube channel, but i love creating so create i shall! Why do we feel the need to apologize for doing things!!!! maybe that just me!
@You can't leave this empty best of luck finding that special someone!
This! This is exactly what happens to me. They think Im younger because im doing things that are not my age or, on the othr side, i exist in my usual wardrobe while being in positions of relative power like leading a work meeting and projects and stuff so they assume im like over my head because i dont dress in a suit or they think im just lost and finding what to do and you know what career to choose if they see me traveling or going to parties without a group or chaving a piece of hair and when they find out its like I dont make sense to them, like either there´s something wrong with me or, you know, what happened that you havent moved to the senior section and started the serious stuff and thank god you dont look your age cause that would be ridiculous if people found out. I agree with you in everything. We have to exist without apologizing. But it ribs me the wrong way when people act like its ok because they *forgive you*.
Kristen Weick I am 50 and have the same experience
I casually remarked that I was 42 in a group of 23-24 year olds one time and they quite literally gasped. Two of them got really close to my face, inspecting me for the tell tale signs of wrinkles and lines. They all gave me compliments about not "looking my age" but were a lot more distant afterwards. So, now when young people ask me my age, I say "I am ancient...but well preserved."
I'm going to turn 35 in May and I am terrified for some unknown reason. I've never ever cared about ageing before... turning 30 was a blast... but this past couple of months I've been unbearably upset that I'm never going to be in my 20s again. 35 isn't even old but I'm so scared how quickly time is going by and I'm so scared about it all. I'm happily married and love my husband very much so I choose to just spend time with him and feel comfortable knowing that he is ageing with me, we'll both become wrinkly little old people together, haha. Thank you for this video, it's definitely helped make me feel less alone in my worries and made me realise what a silly thing it is to focus on my age!
Thank you for this. I just turned 20 a couple months ago and Ive just been feeling so worthless to be saying goodbye to my teenage years. It seemed like just yesterday I turned 16 and I want to go back to that age because that's when I feel young. But you helped me recognize I was beating myself up because that's what the media is telling me to do. There Is beauty in becoming older and I'm starting to see it :)
grow up kid
@@SheckleRFan715 Jesus, what a rude response lol who pissed in your cereal? 😂😂 also, 20 ain't no kid
When I turned 30 I thought my life was over! I am not kidding. I was so depressed cause as a teenager you always imagine what your life will be like when you are 30 and this was not it. I thought I failed at life. But as I became 32 I realized that my life never has been better than today. ^^
felt that! that is exactly what it was like for me....ugh...I'm 40 now and just DOING the things I want...really no part of me cares what others think...there is literally NOTHING people will approve of! lol...sending you all the vibes sister!!!!
This is comforting because I'm in the boat of not expecting my life to look the way it does at my age. I hope to be on the other side one day. :)
Same! As my 30th bday is coming up, next week to be exact, I've had this weird feeling that I wasted my youth and the goals that I haven't tackled yet will not come to fruition in my thirties. I honestly feel too old and I hate that feeling because I know in my heart that that is not true. So, it's great to see in the comments that people are experiencing the same thing and we are all just working through it.
@Anna Francisca thank you very much!
Wait til you get to 37, 40, 45, 50, ... Never forget to "check in" with yourself during your journey; enjoy and live in the moment, every moment, good and bad. I'm 56, introverted, done a few things, not regretful; I have always appreciated (almost) every moment of every day.
glad you are talking about this.
personally, I am sick and tired of hearing "ACT YOUR AGE" like what does that even mean?!
YES!!!!!
and why aren't most guys told the same thing? guys can have toys like boats and snowmobiles or they can go do whatever they want no matter what age they are. i rarely see criticism for casey neistat riding around on his super 73 electric bike and the criticism he does get isn't about his age.
Exactly!!! The way I see it, age is an arbitrary number and it’s like telling someone to “ACT LIKE A CERTAIN NUMBER!” Lmao when you look it like that you truly realize just how ridiculous it is 😂 I’m 21 and my favorite stores are Forever 21 and Hot Topic and hell yeah I’m gonna keep wearing cute graphic tees with sayings on them like “squad goals” or shirts with tacos all over them, or hell yeah I’m gonna by a shirt from Hot Topic with one of my favorite animes on it! I always, ALWAYS told myself that I would never ever let my age define me, yet because of society and the way other people get judged because of their age I still can’t help but question certain things about myself when I shouldn’t. I literally asked my mom if I’m “too old” for stores like Forever 21 and Hot Topic and my style (ulzzang style, Korean streetwear, baddie, y2k, a hint of egirl) and she literally said “OH GOD NO!” Like she literally said that. She even said when I’ll be 30 I still won’t be too old either. I’m lucky to have parents that are so laid back and open minded. They’re in their early 60s by the way and they certainly don’t act like “old people.” My mom doesn’t dress like an old lady and my dad doesn’t dress like an old man. And they call themselves old but even I don’t think they are. They’re only in their early 60s and my mom especially calls herself old all the time and I always tell her “mom you’re not old!” Usually it would be someone her age telling someone in their 20s or 30s or even 40s to stop calling themselves old, but here I am telling my mom to stop calling herself that! Age is just a number. Some people are already old by 25 and others are still young at 45. It depends on the person. It really does blow my mind that in this day and age, with people living longer and healthier than ever before and there’s more acceptance to be yourself at any age, there’s still judgemental shallow minded people that call anyone over 25-30 “old.” It’s 2020! Times have changed people! Just let people be!
Wow thank you, TH-cam. Video suggestion on point. I'm 27 and being a model/actress in LA, Hollywood has made me feel like this age is very old to say the least. I feel like I'm only wasting my precious youth by worrying about how much time I have left. Training my brain to shift my mindset around this has been a journey. Thank you for sharing!
You a queen 👑
Toxic industry for sure :( I can only imagine. If it makes you feel better I'm much happier as a 40 yr old woman than I was at 27. I think many women would concur with that. It's nice to look and feel young, but getting to know yourself better is even nicer.
Girl, I am 24 and was afraid of getting older since the age of 19. I was telling myself that I never even want to get in my twenties, 19 would be the perfect age. And as I grew older (will turn 25 in September) I developed hate towards the idea of being not young and peachy ;) anymore. I was very hesitant to click on this video and ....girl. You. freaking. nailed. it. I always told myself, once I'll be old, like 70ish, I can do whatever I want. I'll be crazy. I'll dress and say whatever I want because older people gained the right to do that. But, you now what? BEING LOCO STARTS TODAY. I love you for your words. Thank you. I really needed to hear that.
now I am 24 jobless fear of 30
I adore you! I’m 27 and sometimes feel like time is running out. There’s so much left to do. I work with the elderly (70+) and they always call me a baby. We have plenty of time. Just have to enjoy the ride bc we’re just getting started, BAY-BE (
Cynthia V as a fellow 27 year old - I feel the same and thank you!
"enjoy the ride!" YES & lets try to do basic body maintenance = activity, rest, joy, nutrition
Cynthia V You’re just barely getting started. And it’s okay to feel like time is running out because that can motivate you to be sure to savour and enjoy every day and every stage of your life and make sure you focus on things that are important to you. Every day you wake up you get to choose to be happy and you can choose to do something new or different if you’d like to.
I feel the same way 🙏🏽 @27
AH! dear all the 27 year olds commenting here...this was a great age! And I remember the INSAINE pressure I felt to "BE SOMEONE" by that age...honestly in this social media driven life it doesn't go away and I am 40! But I have learned, the hard way, that the only "be someone" I need to be is, the "be someone" I wanna be...and if everyone has a different "be someone" goal then my goal really is not theirs and vice versa... so we are all our own someones and we a the BEST at it...SO fall in love with you! that's how you get success faster...be madly in love with you...and love your faults firsts.
My grandma's my role model in this department... in her retirement she travelled the world (her favourite spot was Turkey, she also rode a donkey up a mountain somewhere, and somewhere else she went parasailing, has won garden of the year award in her town several times over (she doesn't have a front lawn... her entire front yard is a giant garden, as well as the sides of her house and the whole area around the backyard that's not her pool). She also has never used a computer before, not so much as touched it because she was scared of them, and then like 4 years ago she took the plunge and got an iPad and taught herself how to use Facebook so that she can keep up with our family abroad.
This is SO awesome, omg
Débora Teixeira she’s a very cool person haha
This made me tear up because this is something that I’ve been struggling with and has been holding me back in life. I’m 33. Like....nope. This limiting societal belief needs to stop. Now! Thank you SO much for speaking this truth and inspiring me. This is just what I needed. Am now going to put this video on repeat ❤️
Thank yooouuuu😭 I just turned 27 and I'm so scared that I've already missed so many opportunities in terms of self realisation... Your video really helps a lot
I'm only 26 but I tell people all the time how cool I'm gonna be when I'm older xD I love ageless people, you're my role models! Unfortunately, when I try to encourage my parents or most of my coworkers to try new things and change what they hate about their lives, they always tell me "now it's too late". Younger generations must change this mindset by setting a different example!
Generations of All Ages NOW need to change this and go for what we want
they also say " I know it", and then they go on complaining/bitching and not changeing what they hate about the habits they have. . Its impossible to change other people. And hard to change one self. And we dont need to listen to the complaints and entitelment of others. Im 36 now and i see that this kind of toxic mentality is like a virus. If it infects us it is with " negativ self talk". The solution is to stay away from the " unhappy and unlucky". 98% of the worries we have in life we make up in our own mind. And the mind is like a garden that needs to be cept neet and tidy from weeds. Have a great day!
@Bruna Fernandes I'm from Portugal, living in Aveiro, why? What about you?
28 now hehe time moving
When I turned 10 and I had a breakdown and was so sad that my childhood was over. I am 21 now and I just had similar breakdown a few weeks ago. So this message is really important to me!
I am about to turn 22 and I am going through this too. What are some things that are helping you through this ??
@@shuchigupta1222 I don't think that I have fully managed that problem yet. But I do think you have to change your mindset like Sorelle says: There are so many things awaiting us and I don't think anymore that one lifeperiode is the best. Every time has its own best parts :) And a praticle tip is: talk about it with someone you trust, they might have the same fear or offer different perspectives! All the Best for your new and exciting year of life!
@@shuchigupta1222 I'm 23 and I've had the same problem last year. I've figured that having a goal is what saves you. Not a generic goal (what is expected to be a goal), but a goal that means something to YOU. Something that gives your life meaning and what drives you to give your best everyday. Once you find that thing, you won't worry about your age or life (in the existential sence). Hope that helpes a little bit 😊
Found your channel today. This is awesome. I'm 39 and I think it just keeps getting better and better!!
I didn’t think this was going to make me cry AHHH been having an existential crisis since I turned 18 about my age and I’m 23 now. Good for you for spreading such a positive message about something so inevitable that we’re all a little scared of, this made me feel so much comfort
no, society places immense privilege in women for their beauty. Pretty privilege stumps almost all of them. So when you lose it, its obvious how society will treat that. Cant be a loss without the luxury to begin with
@@AC-mp7cx you sound vastly unintelligent, incel
I'm 60: Age is just a number. It's totally irrelevant. No matter how old you are now. You are never too old for going after what you want.
Agree, and I try to live accordingly! If one wants to create new people though (kids), best to aim for 29-35. After that, life continues, life doesn't stop at kids.
I just turned 30 this year and have been kicking and screaming and denying it with every fiber of my being. I literally cried the second I saw midnight on the clock. You have no idea how much I needed this video, and how happy I am to receive it from YOU.
💛
I think I will cry too anyway
The both of you shouldn't cry. Do you know how many people didn't make it to your age?? Embrace it! Think about how much you've learned up until this point? It's not too late to create the life you all want. You're wiser now..keep going!
I love this video! I'm 22 and I've had this fear of growing older and becoming outdated ever since I was 17. I think living however you want regardless of your age is the way to go now 👌
It is nice to see that you are not alone in this BS. I am 31 and lately struggelling with getting older and thinking i didnt do enough or that now is too late, kind of thinking like it is what it is.. depressed feeling and it is BS! I know deep inside i am still young but at the same time i am freaking out!
I’m 51 and I was thrilled that I am able to say I’m OVER half a century old!
thedvsmonkey thats so cool. I am turning 39 and I can’t wait
@thedvsmonkey:- I'm 51 too, I'm amazed I've made it this far! lol
You can’t believe how many times I have stopped posting or doing things because I think I’m too old? Thanks for this...I’m 34 and yes, it’s hard to let go of the “you should be or do this by now, and stop that and doing the other cause you are too old for it” thank you!
I can relate to this.I'm going to be 34 soon. I have this fear. I'm in Russia. Here we have a lot of prejudices around age.
I'm turning 25 soon and had a bit of an existential crisis because I lost a huge portion of my childhood to trauma and got stuck in a crappy work environment. I thought the best years of my life were over, as well as reading some science articles saying that your body "deteriorates" starting at 30 and your brain stops growing and stuff. So this video is super helpful to me.
I keep hearing about how the mind starts to deteriorate at 28, like what does that even mean lol, scares me shitless
same! I'm 25 and I feel like I've lost so much time because of Covi* and also because I've grown up in a toxic environment with my parents... I was so upset, thinking " the best years of my life were so shitty, how is the rest going to be?" But what she said is so true, you are more mature, confident, happy with age. You learn so much with time
Yeah the bosy and brain are going to age, you lose collagen and elastin and i hear as far as joints the knees are the first you notice with age. But like this video says, the key is to not focus on the slow decline of pur mortal body, strive to be happy and live your best life bc one day we'll all be elderly so be alive today and love it
Thank you thank you thank you for this video! I turned 25 this year and have been having existential panic attacks and feeling very much like my life is over. The pandemic didn't help. Your message is so uplifting and gives me a lot of hope for what life will bring. I want to do so much and be so in love with life like you are!
Hell yes - as a 23 year old this is beyond reassuring. I look young for my age and i STILL think about aging and protecting my skin and "maintaining a good body" nearly every day as I go about my routines. this is a breath of fresh air
“Look young for my age.” 23 IS really young. Maybe you mean “younger.”’ It’s only the kids and teens that think anyone above 20 is “old.” I’ll admit though I’m 21 and I’m very crazy about taking care of my skin so I can still look young well into my 30s even though that’s literally nine years away for me. My parents are in their early 60s and anyone in their 20s and even 30s are like kids them.
@@aestaeticedits7998 Oh no, I literally mean people confuse me with being 16 or 17 all the time cause I'm also very short and have a young looking face
There’s always that “you’re too whatever” for anything. And hell yeah! Eastern European women rock!!! 🙌🏻
My mom was the first girl in high school in her small town to get a driver’s license back in Russia. Most people don’t even know what that means, but the amount of stupid comments she heard from her FRIENDS about being a female driver is unbelievable. I’m so proud of having a role model as strong as her in my life.
Limiting beliefs suck! THIS is awesome! ✌🏻😍🙌🏻
Sounds so familiar. Hello from Russia 😍
I guess in post soviet countries it's a huge problem I am from Georgia it's the same here... 20 years ago pastor sent my aunt back at home from church because she arrived on car.
молодец! To your mum and to strong badass russian women who often have to be the man and the woman in order to get some recognition!
Your confidence is intoxicating! Yes sis! Thank you.
I just turned 37 and I feel exactly the same way! I'm proud of my age and yell it proudly. 37 is a number I earned with time, absolutely no shame in owning it!
You’re still a young girl enjoy it
also as "I'm too old for this" is a thing so is "I'm too young to do this" like no! go start that business at 19, travel the world or whatever you want to do! I hate being told I can't do something because "I'm too young" just because older people don't want younger people to be more successful than them.
Yes, I love this. There's no need to feel like only your 20's really matter, but make that part of your life worth! Even in your late 10's, there's a former teen who made a system to recollect all the trash in the ocean, his name is Bboyan Slat. Billie Eilish is also one of the best musicians in the industry rn and she made her first popular song at 13 years old! She's currently 18 and won 6 grammy's in one year bc of her talent.
I REALLY let this get to me when i was young....do all the thing! ALL. THE. Things!!! and post it ALL!!! YES!!!!
Thank you for highlighting such a positive and important message! I just turned 27 and spent the last 5 years fighting cancer. Last year, after almost dying, I was finally declared disease free. Now I just feel so so privileged to still be here and to get to grow old. Ageing is such a profound privilege.
I’m turning 30 in two months and I needed this video, didn’t know I did. I’m telling myself the things you are addressing, but sometimes you need to hear it from someone else. Thank you!
Omg you're awesome!!! I love your spirit so much!! I'm 41 and I agree, life just keeps getting better and better! There are too many amazing things in life to see, to read to experience.. there isn't even enough time here to do all of it!! I am at my most fit and healthiest, mind body and soul and I really do believe that it's all about your mindset and beliefs. If you believe that as you age your body has to fall apart and you will become slow and frail.. then that's what you will experience. With your young spirit and energy, you will always look beautiful and VIBRANT!!! I've met 85 year olds who have this joy and sparkle in their eyes and I always say to myself that I will be that lady one day who gets enriched with her years and wears them as jewels. Like you said, every year is a gift and we need to honor each one by never taking a single moment on this earth for granted. 💜
Another perspective: How are you benefitting from telling yourself you're "too old" to do things? Are you creating hype or restrictions to sabotage yourself or resist following your dreams? 🌷
so true! love this
Nice question!!
Ohhhh cool perspective.
The classic "you look so good for your age" backwards compliment insult. 🤦🏻♀️
I've only just come across your site and find you refreshing and inspiring! I didn't realise till now your an Ozzy gal. I too left Sydney when I was 18yrs old and the trip has been amazing and challenging. I reside in Amsterdam now for over 20yrs and feel its my home. I turn 62 this month and keep telling myself that age is only a number. There are so many things I still want to do ...feeling stuck but everything changes and I know the trip Im on is a positive one if I choose it to be!!!!!
Life 100000% has gotten better every year!! The peace and joy is beautiful. I do struggle w my face aging/ changing but am trying to practice a new narrative in my mind. ❤ thanks for the awesome video you’re beautiful
This really hit hart. I just turned 26 and since the age of 22 I am afraid of aging. And for the last years I have trickled myself into saying, that I am a year older then I am so I don’t break down on my birthday.
I always look older then I am. I have not won the genetic lottery and at age 40 I will look like 60.
Thanks for this video. I think I am going to remove every toxic channel from my list. I am done with the subliminal message that I need some product to feel good.
I'm the same :D I'm 27 and since 26 have told myself I'm basically 30. Now I'm having all sort of thoughts about who I expected to be at 30, and who I actually am. Driving myself insane and I feel like beauty standards keep increasing every year. I'm thinking to remove toxic channels too, after 27 years the media is starting too just feel like noise! A really loud annoying noise :D
Wow how much I relate to your words! I'm 25 I'll be 26 soon and I always have to prepare my mind on saying I'm year older as if to force myself to be confident and okay with it. But look at the bright side, there are people who died so young and didn't get the chance to come this far like we did so it's a true blessing. And like she said the older we get the wiser and more mature we get and that's very good.
I can relate . Few people guess my age ( 26). Usually people think I am in my 30s. Rarely do I get mistaken for being younger than 26. While all my friends didnt change since high school. It is painful to deal with but we gotta live and we gotta overcome this. Also my parents looked older at 20 and 30. But now they are in their 60s and people think they are still in their 40s. This gives me hope. That I will look younger than my peers at 60 hehehe.
I really can relate to this too. I'm 26, soon turning 27 and a few years ago I started to be scared of aging. I was pretty careless before, but somehow - through all the social media and ads, I guess - I realized I had actually wrinkles and no skin routine to prevent them, I had no chosen a right profession yet, I could basically never imagine myself being 30 or more. As a woman raised in such a sexist culture, I used to see women in their 30s as old. Fortunately, maturing makes me look really better than in my early 20s and I honestly feel better about my body and conscious about my womanhood. Since I've always been quite a mature person who wouldn´t understand her peers, all my friends or partners have been waaay older than me, and I´ve been able to enjoy feeling "young" or even childish among them. However, because of that and my genetics, I appear older, and people usually think I am in my 30s, despite my particular hair and fashion style. But probably the worst thing I've experienced due to the fear of aging has been the fact that older I get, the less I know what I want. And I definitely expected something else from myself at this stage than what I am actually experiencing, since we all somehow expect to have certain things sorted out in the 30s - such as career or some basic life goals. Therapy helps me to overcome these feelings and understand that we are not defined by what we have achieved or by our age or what we look like, nor by any similar social standards. To be honest, sometimes the best way of dealing with it is don't giving a sh*t at all. But despite me being that kind of person who does not care much about others' opinions or social standards, I have to admit that the social media pressure has probably affected me too. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself look back and realize how much you have grown up and learned thanks to all your experiences and that feeling is definitely worth aging. I wouldn't exchange my current self for its younger version.
You are so inspiring and my mum has fallen trap to always limiting herself due to her age. It’s really upsetting to see her stop herself from doing the things she loves. I am going to show her this video and coming from you, someone she knows I admire, hopefully she’s listen!!! Thank you again sorelle for you wise words!
Yess! please help her AND you have to break the cycle too. Otherwise if you don't, this way of thinking will continue in your family :(
Sorelle Amore I will make sure I do :)) Thank you again for being my biggest role model x
same with mine, I keep trying to be her... 'champion' so to speak and encourage her and stuff, but there's only so much others can do for you eyh.. sigh
oh Tom, my mom eyes are tearing up! Your vote of confidence will mean so much to her!
33 now and needed to hear this. Am loving my 30s - what a power decade! But seeing the changes in my face is freaking me out - partly because the changes feel so sudden and I started getting nervous that the physical aging of my face is going to be really fast now, and I have been worried about how an aging face will translate to losing cultural capital. Your video was perfect. Thank you.
I think there is sooo much beauty in wrinkles!
Be proud of them! :)
@@catvalentine4317 You're right, of course. Beauty is in confidence and joy. Better to accept myself and get on with it than to mope about the changes. That won't help a bit.
@@GemilyMez GIRL WHAT????? YOU LOOK 24!! You have such a lovely sweet baby face!! I'm about to turn 30 and eventhough I don't really care about the changes in my appearance ,I do really notice pchycological / mental/ mentality changes!! For better of course!! Cheers to the new more confident and productive decade!!
@@erinues7._- Haha, yeah, I do have a bit of a baby face - turned up nose and fleshy cheeks to thank for that. Makes it even weirder to go from baby face, to aging baby face with no grown up face in between XD I can definitely see my age in my face though - my fleshy cheeks are dropping and coming forward, making deeper lines around my mouth, and looking a tad jowly - eep! Haha. But yes - it's is a fair trade, because just as for you, the inner growth and maturing is really hitting its stride! I feel like I know myself so much better than before, and am good with that. And no more feeling too young to be legit. If not now, when? Yeah 30s!
@Mauser 96 I feel like this comment really isn't at all the vibe of this channel. Also, untrue. Also, who cares about "men looking". Certainly not grown women who have learnt how to value themselves. Cheers!
Yes it’s true, I am 26 now and I don’t know why my generation feels scary about aging. Maybe because we start regretting the things we should have done. Or maybe because in 10 years we haven’t changed that much.
Over the age of 40, you just don't care what anyone thinks, full-stop!
40s have been my favorite. There's a switch in your head that stops caring what everyone else thinks ✌️
Bumble Bee just wait til you’re in your 50s!
This topic is something I'm dealing with a lot in last few years. I started college at 25, I'm 27 now and I'm the oldest in my year. Almost everyone is 7 years younger then me, but I look much younger so it was quite a shock for them when they found out 😂 Some people have told me: "No offense, but I can't imagine being so old like you, it's terrifying." It's offensive to me because I look better then most of them, I travel more, even party more, have ton of hobbies and I'm really happy. To most of them college is a burden, I enjoy every aspect of it - from studying to partying, and often I feel younger then them. Actually when I was 20 I felt older then now, I even dressed older. So it really saddens me to see such attitudes in people.
And not just that, when I meet guys my age they call themselves old. It's absurd to me, you grow your whole life! I can't imagine myself being with someone with such narrow mindset.
They’re extremely immature if they think 27 is “old.”’ It’s YOUNG AF. Even 30 is still young. It sucks how our society is so focus on an arbitrary number.
Lol Same! They gasp* “Omg you don’t even look that old”
You dont say ;D
This might be my favourite Sorelle video ever! Thanks for spreading this positive message!!
Exactly the video I could’ve hoped to find when searching ‘how to accept aging’. That is fantastic. You are rad! Thank you💜💜💜
When I turned 25 I was depressed because I was told I was supposed to have my life “figured out” by then. Now, just turned 30, I feel great and am excited to live life 🤩
I turned 25 3 months ago. What advice would you give your 25 yo self?:)
Thank you so much for this video. I needed to hear. I'm 29 and everybody says that I too old to achieve something good in life. That I have to be glad to look like young woman. WTF I hate this. When I was younger the same people tell me that I have to much to grow and became more mature. Now what happens? I feel sad and depressed, crying all the time for simples choices. That's not me. I was so happy and full of ideias, plans and dreams. I liked what you've said, you are an amazing person, love u from Brazil! ❤️
Your videos are so freakin powerful I can’t even express it. Currently I‘m realizing that I have a lot of insecurities and a lot of stuff to work through which is really overwhelming right now. And you just saying the simple sentence of how many securities you had that age and that it only gets better makes me confident that I will be able to get through them and soon be on the other side. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALWAYS LIFTING ME UP, it really feels sometimes like your an older sister who’s passing on her wisdom to me. Thank you so so much♥️
Thank you for this! I feel like this problem has even been growing over the last decade or so. I - who am 43 - now hear women of 24-25 compliment each other with "Oh my God! - You look 18!". - As if looking 24 wasn't good enough or young enough.
I remember the first time I heard a friend, an incredibly awesome and beautiful woman, say, "Yeah, I guess I've noticed that I'm starting to become invisible". I was honestly shocked. But since then I myself have had a few years of being caught up in that line of thinking, and I am TIRED. I'm done with trying to keep up with something that is in fact just keeping me down.
I know right. 26 is already ancient nowadays. We are meant to always look 18-22 :/. Even looking 20 is not that good. When I get mistaken for a senior college student I feel less happy than when I get mistaken for a high school student. It is extremely saddening...
@@kimmiasnss I’m 22 and I get mistaken for a 15 yo but that’s not really a compliment cause I have chubby cheeks and a baby face, yet you see many women going through surgery to get striking cheekbones and a sharp jawlines yet those features makes you look older. I don’t get it? Society tells us women need to have these mature mode like sharp features to be seen as attractive but need to look like kids at the same time???? Wtf?
You radiate beauty inside and out!!
"I'll smack you, shut up" OKAY SORELLE
TELL THEM!!
lol
Loving the 2020 Sorelle! You’re back woman xx
I’m 54 and don’t want to go back even one year.
Thank you. This is the exact message we all needed to hear. Age is just a number. Everyone is precious valuable capable and full of lots of potential ALL their life.