Autism Test: "Do you have a hard time understanding what people really mean?" Paige: *Proceeds to have a hard time understanding what the question really means* Me: *Relates hard*
In order to truly, deeply understand what someone means by what they say, a person would need to be able to experience their brain/thoughts. Because the meanings people translate into words is only that: a translation, and the meanings they have to the words they use is something they learned through experience, an experience specifically unique to them. So, since everyone's human experience is different from one another, while we may be able to 'relate' to eachother through words, we can't ever really know the true extent of the meanings their inner-experience is truly trying to convey. Imagine an apple. The image you think of when you see the word apple is unique to you, and the one I imagine is unique to me, but if we described the image to one another, or pointed to something in reality analogous to what we imagined, we would probably agree that the images we imagined would still both fit under the word apple. But still, the meanings we associate with the word itself will have been proven to differ, even if slightly. Now, imagine we're both looking at a pen, and we both agree it has a red cap, and we both agree its a red pen. How that red even looks, to you, might be completely different than what red looks like to me, even while we both agree its red. I can never know how other people see the world, or if they are even self-conscious in the way I view/operate myself, because no-one can see, validate, or fully understand anyone, let alone the fact there is doubt we will also probably never fully understand ourselves, either.
In that case, it was just because she didn't understand what the word meant, and that's not related to autism. The key word there was "persistently." The question wasn't asking about whether or not she has difficulty being sad (as would be implied by the word "sad") but whether or not those feelings of sadness are frequent, and, when and if they occur, whether or not they are persistent. This is just a case of someone lying about their "gifted" intelligence and hyperlexia.
I hate the tests because I often have much more complex answers than just “yes” or “no.” If it asks “do you often resist making eye contact” well the answer would be no, because I do try to make eye contact, but I dislike doing it and it stresses me out to think about it. But that’s not what the questions asks. Or if it asks “I dislike loud noises” well typically no I actually like louder noises (depending on the circumstance) like loud music, but that doesn’t mean I’m not overly sensitive- I’m EXTREMELY sensitive to touch. Often if it says “I lined up toys in categories rather than playing with them” well no I didn’t make lines of red toys and blue toys or something like that, but I would dress up and and customize my characters then not know what to do with them once I had finished placing them in a scene. So yeah, these tests are hard for me
@@cheep5645 If anything, I feel like since autistic people often misunderstand and overthink instructions, these quizzes may be putting off the very people they’re trying to attract 😂
oh my god, yes, exactly! for real though, im sure all of these quizes are made with very little input from us autistics. most of these are put together loosely based on tiny fragments of data from "studies" and aggregate data from therapist/psychologists and such. such studies have rarely done much beyond nonsense like trying to find a cure, rarely about truly understanding us or trying to help improve the world to be more compatible with all kinds of peoples... all the while, the 'medical professionals', while many are great and decent people, many dont personally care, dont really fight to understand, little more than try to fix or check off some boxes, make some assumptions, and on to next client. my point is, while there is some level of accuracy for the data, it falls suuuuper short of reality and majority of our actual experiences. and also with every one of them being so short, there is no way to fully encompass the vastness of variations we experiences.
I think a big give away that I was autistic before getting diagnosed was the fact that these pre-screening tests are designed to take 5 minutes and I took about 45 minutes because I would overanalyse every question
I had a teacher once who explained how autism doesn`t look the same for every individual in a very easy-to-understand way. She`d say "Imagine you have a big bucket of legos, of all kinds of different shapes, sizes and colors. Every autistic person gets at least, let`s say eight pieces of lego. They don't get to pick the pieces themselves, it's all random. No matter how those pieces are put together, not one other person is going to have the exact same combination as you. They might have some similar pieces, they might even have put them together similarly, that's true, but it's never the exact same. Assuming that just because you all have legos, you all have the exact same ones is just silly, don't you think?" I still think of that, to this day.
@@squiddyft.insecurities3549 in what way does it not make sense? If the individual legos someone gets are symptoms and the construction of them represents an individual presentation of ASD in any given person, the different symptoms will always look different from someone else’s when put together even if they individually look the same (like fidgeting)
yes Paige, I personally look at an actors eyes while watching a movie. My struggles with eye contact come from when I know someone is looking back at me. I can make eye contact with people all day long until they look back at me and then it's instant discomfort. Like me looking at them without them looking back I don't have to worry about them judging me for how long it's been since I've blinked or how intense I'm looking at them.
same. i would often get yelled at by teachers and accused of not listening or taking them seriously because i find looking someone in the eyes physically painful.
MyWorldOfAnimals I think what you're describing isn't "eye contact"- if you're looking at someone whilst they talk, but your eyes and their eyes don't meet, that's not eye contact. If your eyes and their eyes meet for even just like a millisecond, that's eye contact. Otherwise it's just staring at someone. No-one has a problem doing that. :) (i guess..)
@@anikosimon8184 well based on Paige’s reaction to the question of looking at actors eyes in movies and her being like “there are people who look at their eyes?!” Not everyone can or does so yeah. Ok then it fair to say that eye contact makes me uncomfortable unless it’s very specific scenarios or people.
Well for neuro typical people we just associate eye contact to “putting all my attention to what you are saying”. We just learn that from the beginning when we were babies. Our parents look at our eyes when they referred to us so we learn to look people in the eyes. I don’t think neuro typical think: “oh, that person is looking in my eyes so they are judging me now” Someone judging you will happened even if they are not looking into your eyes. We just don’t think people are judging. At least not me. That why is pretty normal for neuro typical to do it.
A tell tale sign that I’m autistic (or at least have some flavor of processing disorder) is that even though I’m pretty smart and have always had a high reading level, I didn’t quite understand a lot of these questions. Idk if that can be an autistic trait, but I’ve always had a problem with it. What makes it more frustrating is when a teacher or my mom says “well, what do you think it means?” Like, if I knew what it meant, I wouldn’t be asking?? 😭 Can any other autistic people relate?
for the "what do you think it means", i think they hope an answer like "I understand that ----- but it can't be what they mean because ----". Or at least something to see why you struggle, because if it's clear to them, they can't guess, you know ?
Same it's SO bad whenever i'm taking these types of tests or even personality tests i have to google the questions to understand what it's asking. I'm always confused about these types of questions idk why 😭😭 I just feel like i can never have a solid answer
@@loikira5841 I sort of understand that. But sometimes when I read stuff, I understand the individual words, but all of them strung together don’t make any sense. Also, I feel like I might sound like an idiot for guessing incorrectly :’) Thank you for that though. I’ll try to step out of my comfort zone next time someone gives me that response!
@@silverplim RIGHT?? I’ve never thought of googling though. I usually just select the neutral response if one is available. If there isn’t? Big brain hurt trying to compute 👁👄👁
i was forced to look at people’s eyes as a child (“why aren’t you looking at me?? look at me when i’m talking to you.”) and now i either look at people unrelentingly or not at all.
Have you ever just looked at a person's mouth while they talk? That's how I get through eye contact. Sunglasses also work well for hiding my eyes, and people are less freaked out by my eye avoidance.
I often have my brother's voice in my head saying: "People will like you more if you look them in the eyes". So i force myself to make eye contact to everyone i want to like me and i don't make any with people i don't care...
this test is the one I gave my preteen to help her figure out if she was on the spectrum. Then I tested really high, then I thought, okay but EVERYONE probably tests high, and then my husband tested really low, aaaaaand that was the beginning of the journey of discovering I was autistic and the common denominator for our three autistic kids haha
Were you ever defensive, mad, sad or negative about it? I sometimes wonder about my wife but she is quite narcissistic and would never dare take this kind of test. We have two teens, both have autism.
@@derrickrr5516 no not at all. My attitude in general is pragmatic, I am always eager to just find the right answers so we can understand and address, but I know a lot of people feel differently.
AH I have ADHD, and it's funny to HEAVILY relate to some of the things you're saying, but also completely disagree with others, haha. Also, I love your singing, it's really nice. I know it was sped up, but I slowed it down to listen because I like hearing people sing, and you're good! It was nice to listen to :D
Lol same. I have adhd, and some questions I would be like yea, and she would be like yea. Then others she would be like what no ppl do that, and I’m like I do that all time, ppl don’t do that?! 😂 😂 😆
@@Kaztronomical I used to be kinda good at looking at people (I think) but as soon as I acknowledged the fact I might be autistic it suddenly got so hard to.. mask came off and now I suck 👍
I love it when people wear really great eye liner because then it looks like i'm looking them in the eye but really i'm just ogling at their beautiful eyeliner the whole time.
Question 32: I had a emotional calendar for a year, and I realized that most days I feel neutral or maybe a bit stressed or tired. I didn't mark any day of the year as happy, but that didn't mean I was sad, just neutral.
That's like me, too. When I to be polite, it comes off as not polite. I also am not stressed about eye contact... I just don't know how much eye contact to have.
I hate when these tests have ambiguous questions or do stuff like “Do you do A or like B?” and don’t tell you to tick the box if any of these apply. Then I am left wondering what I am supposed to do..
It seems like all the diagnostic tools available focus so much on the reaction or behavior of the person rather than the reason behind the behavior. For example, my daughter is sensory seeking with noises and I am sensory avoidant with noise - both of us are autistic. If the question was “do you avoid loud noises?” she would say no and I would say yes. What the question should sound like is “do loud noises cause you intense feelings (of either pleasure or pain)?”
i wish there were more autistic tests made by autistic people for autistic people -- i feel like the questions would be much easier to understand and answer for autistic people and it would probably be a lot more accurate
The "looking into their eyes question" always bugs me, because in every test they suggest that NTs look at each others eyes constantly. But they don't do that at all. I came use eyecontact in moments where i feel something important is being said, be it from the other person or me (and maybe randomly in between) always just a second or two - thats a way to use eyecontact that actually makes sense to me, there is intent - and since then, nobody ever told me i lack eyecontact again, ever. Edit: I just wondered - little Kids do look at you for long periods of time... maybe this whole topic comes from autism research and help being overwhelmingly for kids. But its still bad to force an autistic Kid to give that kind of eyecontact.
Very true. As an NT myself I can confirm that if someone looked at me, or more accurately: stared at me, constantly like that, I, too, would find that very uncomfortable because that kind of constant looking someone in the eyes is actually a threatening gesture^^ I think, once more, the difference between NTs and autistic people is that a neurotypical person doesn't need (or only needs minimal) instruction/conscious effort for decoding appropriate length for eye contact and/or decoding what the eye area is trying to convey in the context of facial expressions. Like, the difference is literally just that these things come (almost exclusively) intuitively to neurotypical people while autistic people need to consciously set out to learn it. The whole "It's painful" aspect might be due to sensory processing issues (I mean... If you can see light flickering and other such minute details in your environment it stands to reason that you also see more happening when you track someone's eyes), though, and only contribute to the process of learning about eye contact being longer because that's an extra obstacle along the way. But anyway. Constantly looking people in the eyes is really not how NT eye contact works at all^^
The looking into the eyes question bugs me as well. As an autistic college student I have learned that cultures also vary with eye contact as being appropriate or respectful based on their countries customs. Autism would basically be in that case opposite of the other cultures norms I would think when it comes to indicators. I heard countries like Japan based on research find eye contact specifically to be potentially disrespectful within the culture. A lot of things might depend on what is the cultures particular norm when it comes to interactions with others from the same culture if not in the same place as other people with autism where that interaction would be normal. Some things that are more specific that deal with interacting with others would have this issue and less specific would not if applied between autism and people who are not autistic but from the same culture.
NT Kids are probably looking a lot more because they're still learning all the social cues (subconsciously of course). Which is why some "professionals" think forcing autistic children to copy this behaviour will make them learn instinctively as well. Lots of people also believe that autistic babies miss out on eye contact because unlike NT babies, they don't pay special attention to faces. That leads to them failing to copy other's behaviour. Which leads to them being bad at NT communication.
@@Meeko4eve39 This is true and extended eye contact can also be an unintentional flirting gesture as well. It's also one of the reasons why many people couldn't tell you someone's eye color unless they found that person particularly attractive in conversation. I've also heard that women naturally make more eye contact in regular day-to-day conversation but I'm not sure if that's true or not.
I'm diagnosed with ADHD but I've often wondered if I'm autistic as well. It's hilarious to watch you think through these questions because I do the SAME THING with online assessments! You sounded exactly like me when you were talking through the party/eye contact questions.
SAME BOAT!!! the ASQ test i get 32-33 on my responses depending on different interpretations of the questions bc IDK if I’m scaling this stuff accurately 😅
Same, I believe they missed my ASD diagnosis when I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. We were poor, bad doctor could have been the issue. I’ve taken a few AQ tests over the past year and a half, scored 40-44 each time. Out of 50.
In a similar boat here! Wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was about 20, and that was only AFTER the other co-morbidities (depression, anxiety) were treated. I don't know about you, but I have a tendency to avoid extreme answers on these sorts of quizzes. Despite that, the ASQ test still gave me a 39. Not sure if there's just an overlap with other mental/neural diagnoses or if we could actually be on the spectrum.
For the “i rarely feel happiness of joy” i interpreted it different as i would put major agree on that, i would say i actually get the feeling inside me of happy like once or twice a week? but i’m not saying it’s because i feel sad all the time it’s more i just“ feel” neutral/no sense of feeling until i feel that happy moment, it’s the same with other feelings like i feel actually sad or angry only like a handful of times a week. realising this about myself confused me more because do other people just constantly feel things throughout the day?? like actually feel the emotion? i can’t imagine living like that dhdhks
I had a counselor once diagnosed me as borderline personality disorder, because I mostly felt neutral. Since being diagnosed with bipolar II and taking meds (which are also for autism) I now feel more joy/happiness throughout the day. I hate feeling every emotion at once. 🤯
there was a study done on this called “emotions in everyday life” and people reported to feel something for at least 90% of the day, with 10% of it being nothing. people don’t constantly feel emotions, which are more intense and temporary, but they often feel like what you described, a sense of feeling, a more subtle, longer lasting “mood,” like feeling neutral. remember as long as it isn’t distressing to you or hurting you, you shouldn’t be worried about it. how people experience emotions varies widely. you should probably only be concerned when its on one of the far ends of the spectrum of emotion (feeling nothing or feeling way to much and not being able to manage it)
@@ninjamissaproductions oh interesting! i did look into BPD for myself but i don’t feel that i identify with the common traits enough to seek an assessment,, i didn’t know that BPD meds could be used for autism too tho!?
@@udonge1043 thank you that is helpful to know! i would say the emotion i do feel is usually pretty extreme, even the happy feeling makes me overwhelmed to the point where i try and avoid my favourite interests if i’m not in the right frame of mind to handle that ‘high’ if that makes sense? but i’ve just had an assessment for adhd which to me would explain the emotional regulation issues i get more than my autism does
I'd say I feel genuine joy as well as other emotions on a daily basis. I consider it to be a pretty dull day if I don't experience some type of actual joy at least once. I wouldn't say I get incredibly excited every single day or anything but it's definitely enough emotion to shift my state of mind and make me feel distinctly different.
I think they should have had many more questions asking the opposite questions to make sure you don't instinctively answer yes forcing the answer towards autism.
At 14:54 when they asked about visualization, that one spoke to me because all through middle and high school I could not follow a book to save my life. My aunt, who is a 5th-grade teacher, once asked me "Don't you get a movie in your head?" and I was like "Am I supposed to?". I never understood why people enjoyed reading because to me it was just reading words that went into my mental garbage bin 5 minutes after I read them. I would forget entire events and sub-plots in books because it wouldn't stick in my head what I had just read
This is how I feel most of the time as well. If I'm really invested in something then I can visualize it but I've never been able to actually read more than a few chapters of a book and maintain interest.
I write and when I do it I can feel the emotions and the sounds, see the lights and feel the cold. But I can’t for the life of me picture it. I have no idea what my characters look like, I never visualize them. So I never write and describe them. I have to force myself to do it. But I feel like I theoretically know what they look like, I just don’t know what they look like.
Idk if I looked into actors’ eyes in movies when I was younger, but I know that I actively do it now because for me, it helps me learn facial expressions. Like, what emotion are they showing, why are they looking like that and what reaction will the other actor make in response to that expression. And a lot the times the actor is expressing themselves verbally so I like to match the tone to the expression. Most likely I’m stimming when I do this because it’s kind of uncomfortable, but at the same time the actors aren’t directly staring back at me so it’s not that bad. Idk if it’s considered “normal” or not.
About question 10: that's not how everyone is, haha (although it would be really cool if it were). The society "norm" is to treat coworkers, figures of authority or anyone you meet in a formal environment with a lot more distance and formality than you would a friend at a party.
@@Dylan-go5iv I’m assumed you don’t know what people of color aren’t diagnosed as much as white people are. It’s the same as females not getting diagnosed as much a males are. Unless you do know that and are just getting defensive for some reason.🤨
@@angelysesantiago6561 I'm not defensive about it at all, it was a genuine question. People of color being underdiagnosed is true and very unfortunate. Can you provide any documentation or studies to suggest that people of color don't present autism in the same way as white people though? I'd argue they're underdiagnosed, not because they're completely different, but because they're *treated* different in an unfair way. So no, I don't understand how race has anything to do with actual traits of autism. I've only seen things to suggest that it's more often ignored or disregarded due to racism. I'm open to learning more about it if you have any info to provide and prove me wrong, sincerely.
@@angelysesantiago6561 Genuine question, neurotypical person here. How'd a person of colour have a different set of symptoms just because of their ethnicity? Can understand that it could be different for different genders, but ethnicity shouldn't make much difference I suppose.
Never thought about if I look at ppl's eyes when watching a movie. I'm mostly paying attention to the plot. Paige's eyes are hard to miss though, u see them without trying
Hey just wondering if you could make a video on the topic of dating? 1.Your personal experiences with it. 2. Things to keep in mind when dating someone on the spectrum.
I get confused easily at the questions even though i know what they mean like the raining cats and dogs question about uhh metaphors i understand those ones probably because of tv so i say im fine with them but thats because i cant think of any metaphors i didnt know.... She's right though doesnt everyone get confused about metaphors they dont know? Sorry if this was confusing btw im working on my grammar and my first explanation is always horrible since its just the rough draft of my thoughts all chaotically put in a paragraph
My whole life I’ve been told I am a “normal person”, with weird attributes and a ton of mental disorders and disabilities... but taking these quizzes and scoring as autistic on every one of them... I am now questioning my entire existence on this Earth... I don’t even know what to say... This was fun, though, so thank you for doing this and thank you for linking the quizzes. It’s now opened up many questions for me, but, if there is an answer to why I am how I am; glad to know it. Oh gosh so many questions now.
Question #10 is a bit interesting here, ‘cause Paige has established that she’s self-employed (as a lash technician, along with her social media activity), so I’m unsure whether that question would apply wording-wise and given what she’s disclosed publicly, unless she employs other people for her lash tech business. If you’re self-employed, whether you would talk to friends and co-workers in the same manner depends on whether you employ other people.
It could also be referring to our tendency to not "get" the social nuances of how situation dependent context influences allistic expectations. They say, "bring your whole self to work," but I've learned the hard way that there are some wildly different rules for how I'm expected to talk at work vs at home or with friends - even in hyper casual Silicone Valley startups.
@@MorgenPeschke That I didn’t think about. I sometimes treat certain phrases and sentences in their literal context, and focused on available information without realizing that it could apply generally to one’s understanding of differences in social nuances.
I’m not looking at your eyes, I’m looking at your eyeliner! I love the way it looks when you look at the camera and back down again and up and then down 😂😂😂
ive always pondered what it would be like if a collective of varying autistic peoples built a like 250+ question one of these. there are sooooooo many totally non-sensical things in alot of these. i also find that for me, difficulty in answering the questions accurately enough, well it takes alot of time, because i never know how to answer most things and i freeze up trying to figure out most 'accurate' response lol. that all on its own is something i havent really seen pop up as a question on any of these silly quizes.
The balloon question is an oddly specific. I actually cant blow up balloons anymore, when I was younger I had no problem then got some reason beginning of high school I got this growing fear they would pop in my face, and one day I still tried while setting up for a baby shower and it did indeed pop in my face. I literally haven't blown up a balloon since then. If I try, my heart actually races.
That's what it was! I just spent 5 mins trying to remember, I think it was in Glee for a bit, damn the nostalgia! Paige's voice is pretty too, I was vibing
7:53 haha i was looking at yours eyes right then… not because “eye contact” but because the color of yours are particularly mesmerizing. like, it’s a really pretty icy/electric blue. :)
Others have told me questions are complete garbage. Others rarely tell me anything, that doesn't mean what they don't tell isn't true, just that people don't tell me that, which isn't the point of the question.
I love your content! I think part of the reason they ask so many behavioral questions and questions implying being unhappy because I think they intend people who suspect they have autism but have not been diagnosed. Without a diagnosis to bring to their family, friends and employers for making room for accomodations would probably cause distress.
Similarly to you, Paige, for a lot of the questions like being invited to parties or--for example, "do you prefer going to a movie theater or a library," I would have to say, it depends, you know? And I love the idea of meeting new people, I ask my parents to bring over guests all the time. But when they actually show up, that's when I panic and don't know how to start a conversation with them and I end up disappointed when they leave because I didn't get a chance to talk to them as I wanted to. I enjoy talking and having people listen to what I say.
I was SO confused, bc I was sure that I saw this a couple of days ago, until I realised that it was Chloe Hayden who did a similar video. I think it's great that autistic creators talk about self-diagnosis after research is valid, how health care is inaccessible and how a formal diagnosis isn't possible for everyone. Keep doing what you are doing! :)
I literally just took this same test the other day and scored a 40. And watching you break some of these questions down is super relatable and now I'm really questioning if I'm on the spectrum now
So this balloon question is so funny to me… when I was 7 my mom had a birthday for me and wanted to do a balloon game where we all got balloons tied to our legs and tried to stomp on each other’s to make them pop. I LOST it. I went to my room and spent my birthday by myself while my friends played
How is that fun..? its so loud and surprising like i can understand bubble wrap now _THAT'S_ FUN! but balloons?? what if the popped remains hits my eye??? i've actually had a balloon pop infront of my face while i was blowing it up it scared me at first and my ears were ringing it also smacked my face so it did hurt a bit just a bit though i do have to admit it wasnt so scary afterwards i actually found it quite funny even though my ears continued to ring for about 2 minutes (idk cant really remember)
I have been struggling a lot this past week, dealing with a lot of stress and...painful things. I've had multiple meltdowns, which are unusual for me. I put this on for background sound while I was working tonight...and I just want to thank you for making my night a little brighter with your song. I love Les Mis and often sing 'On My Own' to myself. Hearing you sing it made me smile for the first time in several days...and I just wanted to thank you for that.
the eyeliner really increases the gorgeousness amounts by 9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999%
I've been watching videos on TH-cam for about a month now from the perspective of people with autism after suspecting that I'm autistic for a while. I took the autism quotient test on the first day and got a 41 out of 50. I talked to my doctor about it and am seeing a psychologist next week. I am actually already on the disability pension for not being able to function psychologically in the world (diagnosed with OCD). I have been talking to my social worker about this and have found her to be a good sounding board for me to verbalise what I've come to realise. I'm trying not to get too wrapped up in the videos here because I don't want to come across as obsessive to my diagnosticians. (I'm 40 years old)
My comfort item was a small white bunny with pink dots I could fit into my hand. I named her Bonita while taking a Spanish test in elementary school. I lost her in 8th grade when going to a Zelda orchestra concert in Chicago, and cried for days. I grieved. I had also been bullied for carrying her around, so when I didn't bring her into class--someone congratulated me on "getting over it". Nah man, I dropped her in a city. Luckily after a few years I was able to recover, and I "replaced" her as the mini stuffed animal comfort item representative with a tiger I named Luna, and that I had gotten when I was 5. Since I got Bonita when I was 5 months old, the number five was very important to me to be consistent with my new comfort item. I don't usually carry her around since I am scared of losing Luna, and don't wanna get bullied in college for it.
anyone else bothered by the order of the "next" and "back" buttons o.O NEXT has the arrow forwards to progress pointing to the right, yet BACK is in ... FRONT of the NEXT button?? and why doesn't he BACK button have an arrow signifying going back?? How does it make sense to press the button that's in FRONT and to the right to go ... BACKWARDS?? For English Western readers who read LEFT-->RIGHT, time is the same direction I.E. past is the LEFT and future is to the RIGHT, it should have the BACK button on the left, and the NEXT button on the RIGHT :)
Autism is often intertwined with OCD, and having a really good picture memory so that’s why it applies for me. But I find a lot of neurodiverse people are skilled at math-which I am not.
My doctor has tried to diagnose me for months now, she still doesn't know if I have autism or not and now my last appointment was cancelled, because she doesn't work at the facility anymore. Guess I'll never know then
I will say that having all of my friends take the quiz at the same time as me and hearing what they had to say about the questions opened my eyes to the idea that "wow, that isn't a universal experience?" and that was important in realizing I was on the spectrum
21:33 omg! One of my all time favorite songs and a bit of a special interest. I’ve listened to every version of that song I’ve been able to find (and I’ve looked for YEARS)
I just realized with a lot of the "What people really mean ect." Questions that I tend to mimic how allistic people interact by saying that I Want to say to by myself amd then re-word it to be less "rude" bc I know my first thoughts always tend to be "rude" :/ Even with my partner but that's more bc of RSD (they have adhd) amd I don't want to upset that
i did the SAME THING when i saw the word "beset"! i paused the video, googled it, then played the video, and saw you say you don't know what it means either
when the question came up about the eyes... i couldnt stop staring at your eyes- idk why i just... could stop. ive never looked at the persons eyes in a video but now i cant look away-
I feel like the experiencing happy and joy question would be a alexithymia thing and not being able to process what your feeling as happiness or joy which I deff struggle with. But also big time with the whole being forced to repress the parts of myself from mt interests and stims that provide me with happiness and joy, which I'm now relearning since I was forced to repress my autism in the home and outside of it.
Well, when I see a balloon, I generally would hope that it doesn't pop, but I'm not worried it will unless there's an immediate reason why it would, like someone is carelessly handling a sharp object near it, or it's been released and is floating toward the ceiling where it looks likely it might hit a chandelier with sharp edges, or a man holding a pocketknife suddenly bursts into the room and yells, "Balloons! I love balloons! Specifically, the thing about balloons that I love is popping them, intentionally!"
I'm not neurotypical, but I am allistic. I don't worry that a balloon is going to pop; however, if I know it's going to pop (or I have to pop it myself) I hate it. A lot. Also, yes, I watch eyes in movies to read their expression, and I am switching between your eyes and the test throughout the video.
Throughout watching the part of this video that was about the IDR Labs quiz thing, I only glanced at Paige's eyes once or twice; I've mostly just been listening to the questions and Paige's answers while looking at her hair and eyelinery things (which look really pretty in my opinion). I hope that it's okay that I'm sharing this thing with the world.
My daughter got declined to be checked for autism yesterday x) They saw signs of adhd at the 1 hour we were there, but not the autism. But I know she has it x))))))) I now I have to find out what to do.... (I live in Sweden)
'I dancing and did all my toe walking there, so everywhere else I did heel walking, because if I walked on my whole foot it would make it uneven.' THIS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE. Like as an adult I can see that if a kid explained this to you, you'd sigh and roll your eyes and have to be like, that's not how it works. But it is faultless logic and there is no real reason why that isn't how it works. Except long term foot pain, which you don't feel in childhood! Regardless, I'm very glad I mostly grew out of my need to unturn every 360 turn I made, my version of being uneven, because it was just an added stress to my day, to make sure you don't inadvertently turn around.
I've always had a fear of balloons popping and I thought everybody experienced this, and that it just wasn't as strong for others than it is for me, guess I was wrong
I Been Diagnosed With ADHD And Asperger's (Autistic) When I Was 21. Didn't Know I Was Diagnosed With Autism Until 3 Years Afterwards. Being Diagnosed With Both Is Stressful, Yet I Do What I Can To Control Myself, And Also Around Others.
Good video. Continue on your road on getting the giant gold play button. I hope I’ll see your silver play button. Hopefully, Chris ULMER of SBSK would love to see you
I all ways get different results (I don’t do it for diagnosis I just like quizzes). I think it’s because although it’s the same question but they always word it differently like I see “are you fascinated with numbers (number plates ect)” and “are you interested in number combinations (number plates ect)” although I believe they want me to answer both the same they are completely different. Like I’m not fascinated with numbers but the number combinations, I always find myself memorising the numbers and repeating them in my head because I think the number combinations are fun to remember.
I love the assumption that people are not friends with their coworkers. Like... the test authors assume that no one makes friends with people they have to spend every day with?
Wow. I've just remembered that I was a heel walker too :') just over a year since diagnosis and I'm still realising/remembering things, what feels like every day.
@paige layle i glad you learned from that because god bless you as always and i admire you for doing this because you're #1 understandable than stupid mark rober right now but you're the best and i respect you and love you to death for the will of the lord anytime and anywhere and anything haha
I’ve taken that test and one of the things it measures is depression bc “autistic ppl are more likely to get depression” which is true but not being depressed doesn’t make u less autistic fluke Paige said)
Oh and on tv I often look at the actors eyes. I find eyes very intriguing. They wey they move, the colour, ... But I would want to look at someones eyes as some kind of observation than really making eyecontact because than I usually look away. xp
I hate looking people in the eyes, but I love eyes. I blush when someone makes me look them in the eyes. I blushed when you stared into the camera asking if we were looking at your eyes lol. I was told by a mental health coordinator that they thought I was on the spectrum, but the VA won't set me up with testing. Oh well.
Autism Test: "Do you have a hard time understanding what people really mean?"
Paige: *Proceeds to have a hard time understanding what the question really means*
Me: *Relates hard*
In order to truly, deeply understand what someone means by what they say, a person would need to be able to experience their brain/thoughts. Because the meanings people translate into words is only that: a translation, and the meanings they have to the words they use is something they learned through experience, an experience specifically unique to them. So, since everyone's human experience is different from one another, while we may be able to 'relate' to eachother through words, we can't ever really know the true extent of the meanings their inner-experience is truly trying to convey.
Imagine an apple. The image you think of when you see the word apple is unique to you, and the one I imagine is unique to me, but if we described the image to one another, or pointed to something in reality analogous to what we imagined, we would probably agree that the images we imagined would still both fit under the word apple. But still, the meanings we associate with the word itself will have been proven to differ, even if slightly.
Now, imagine we're both looking at a pen, and we both agree it has a red cap, and we both agree its a red pen. How that red even looks, to you, might be completely different than what red looks like to me, even while we both agree its red. I can never know how other people see the world, or if they are even self-conscious in the way I view/operate myself, because no-one can see, validate, or fully understand anyone, let alone the fact there is doubt we will also probably never fully understand ourselves, either.
In that case, it was just because she didn't understand what the word meant, and that's not related to autism. The key word there was "persistently." The question wasn't asking about whether or not she has difficulty being sad (as would be implied by the word "sad") but whether or not those feelings of sadness are frequent, and, when and if they occur, whether or not they are persistent. This is just a case of someone lying about their "gifted" intelligence and hyperlexia.
@@leightonshelleyThis is beautiful. So insightful. Thank you.
I do that
@@DarkHearts4huh? misunderstands one word, must be a faker?
I hate the tests because I often have much more complex answers than just “yes” or “no.” If it asks “do you often resist making eye contact” well the answer would be no, because I do try to make eye contact, but I dislike doing it and it stresses me out to think about it. But that’s not what the questions asks. Or if it asks “I dislike loud noises” well typically no I actually like louder noises (depending on the circumstance) like loud music, but that doesn’t mean I’m not overly sensitive- I’m EXTREMELY sensitive to touch. Often if it says “I lined up toys in categories rather than playing with them” well no I didn’t make lines of red toys and blue toys or something like that, but I would dress up and and customize my characters then not know what to do with them once I had finished placing them in a scene. So yeah, these tests are hard for me
Big same. I always have way too nuanced answers, especially when it’s binary choice
@@cheep5645 If anything, I feel like since autistic people often misunderstand and overthink instructions, these quizzes may be putting off the very people they’re trying to attract 😂
@@cheep5645 OMG YES
yes they really need to let autistic ppl write these tests istg
oh my god, yes, exactly! for real though, im sure all of these quizes are made with very little input from us autistics. most of these are put together loosely based on tiny fragments of data from "studies" and aggregate data from therapist/psychologists and such. such studies have rarely done much beyond nonsense like trying to find a cure, rarely about truly understanding us or trying to help improve the world to be more compatible with all kinds of peoples... all the while, the 'medical professionals', while many are great and decent people, many dont personally care, dont really fight to understand, little more than try to fix or check off some boxes, make some assumptions, and on to next client. my point is, while there is some level of accuracy for the data, it falls suuuuper short of reality and majority of our actual experiences. and also with every one of them being so short, there is no way to fully encompass the vastness of variations we experiences.
I think a big give away that I was autistic before getting diagnosed was the fact that these pre-screening tests are designed to take 5 minutes and I took about 45 minutes because I would overanalyse every question
They should factor in the amount of time it takes to do the test in said test!
I would like this, but it's at 69 likes, so...
I so relate to this.
same though, not diagnosed yet though
I keep doing that with every 5 minute test I take lol
I had a teacher once who explained how autism doesn`t look the same for every individual in a very easy-to-understand way.
She`d say "Imagine you have a big bucket of legos, of all kinds of different shapes, sizes and colors. Every autistic person gets at least, let`s say eight pieces of lego. They don't get to pick the pieces themselves, it's all random. No matter how those pieces are put together, not one other person is going to have the exact same combination as you. They might have some similar pieces, they might even have put them together similarly, that's true, but it's never the exact same. Assuming that just because you all have legos, you all have the exact same ones is just silly, don't you think?"
I still think of that, to this day.
I love your teacher.
that analogy makes no sense
@@squiddyft.insecurities3549 It doesn`t make sense to You personally. Okay? Great?
@@squiddyft.insecurities3549 in what way does it not make sense? If the individual legos someone gets are symptoms and the construction of them represents an individual presentation of ASD in any given person, the different symptoms will always look different from someone else’s when put together even if they individually look the same (like fidgeting)
@@KaioruChan no it doesn’t make sense at all
The ‘i look actors in the eye while watching tv’ MAAM I READ THE SUBTITLES 😂😂😂
Omg I have subs on lol I can hear perfectly fine though. I kind of just prefer them
I do both. At least actors don't look like they want to eat my soul. XD
Omfg accurate hhaha
AND SHE LOOKED CLOSER AT THE CAMERA AND I FELT SO FREAKING UNCOMFORTABLE
@@barryscott5756 yea..same..it depends if i’m kinda in the mood for the subtitles or not
yes Paige, I personally look at an actors eyes while watching a movie. My struggles with eye contact come from when I know someone is looking back at me. I can make eye contact with people all day long until they look back at me and then it's instant discomfort. Like me looking at them without them looking back I don't have to worry about them judging me for how long it's been since I've blinked or how intense I'm looking at them.
same. i would often get yelled at by teachers and accused of not listening or taking them seriously because i find looking someone in the eyes physically painful.
MyWorldOfAnimals I think what you're describing isn't "eye contact"- if you're looking at someone whilst they talk, but your eyes and their eyes don't meet, that's not eye contact. If your eyes and their eyes meet for even just like a millisecond, that's eye contact. Otherwise it's just staring at someone. No-one has a problem doing that. :) (i guess..)
@@anikosimon8184 well based on Paige’s reaction to the question of looking at actors eyes in movies and her being like “there are people who look at their eyes?!” Not everyone can or does so yeah. Ok then it fair to say that eye contact makes me uncomfortable unless it’s very specific scenarios or people.
Honestly same. I like people's eyes and i look at them very often, except when they are looking back at me.
Well for neuro typical people we just associate eye contact to “putting all my attention to what you are saying”. We just learn that from the beginning when we were babies. Our parents look at our eyes when they referred to us so we learn to look people in the eyes. I don’t think neuro typical think: “oh, that person is looking in my eyes so they are judging me now”
Someone judging you will happened even if they are not looking into your eyes.
We just don’t think people are judging. At least not me. That why is pretty normal for neuro typical to do it.
A tell tale sign that I’m autistic (or at least have some flavor of processing disorder) is that even though I’m pretty smart and have always had a high reading level, I didn’t quite understand a lot of these questions. Idk if that can be an autistic trait, but I’ve always had a problem with it. What makes it more frustrating is when a teacher or my mom says “well, what do you think it means?” Like, if I knew what it meant, I wouldn’t be asking?? 😭
Can any other autistic people relate?
for the "what do you think it means", i think they hope an answer like "I understand that ----- but it can't be what they mean because ----". Or at least something to see why you struggle, because if it's clear to them, they can't guess, you know ?
Same it's SO bad whenever i'm taking these types of tests or even personality tests i have to google the questions to understand what it's asking. I'm always confused about these types of questions idk why 😭😭 I just feel like i can never have a solid answer
@@loikira5841 I sort of understand that. But sometimes when I read stuff, I understand the individual words, but all of them strung together don’t make any sense. Also, I feel like I might sound like an idiot for guessing incorrectly :’)
Thank you for that though. I’ll try to step out of my comfort zone next time someone gives me that response!
@@silverplim RIGHT?? I’ve never thought of googling though. I usually just select the neutral response if one is available. If there isn’t? Big brain hurt trying to compute 👁👄👁
Heavily agree
i was forced to look at people’s eyes as a child (“why aren’t you looking at me?? look at me when i’m talking to you.”) and now i either look at people unrelentingly or not at all.
Same 😭
Have you ever just looked at a person's mouth while they talk? That's how I get through eye contact.
Sunglasses also work well for hiding my eyes, and people are less freaked out by my eye avoidance.
I often have my brother's voice in my head saying: "People will like you more if you look them in the eyes". So i force myself to make eye contact to everyone i want to like me and i don't make any with people i don't care...
I either don’t look at them at all, or I stare very aggressively into their souls without blinking, like,
“ This is what you wanted? *Right?* “
“Are y’all looking at my eyes now?” …. While I’m admiring her eyeliner
I never once looked at her eyes, I looked at her eyeliner on the same eye the entire video.
i’m doing the same thing
gosh, it looks extremely gorgeous
Ikr i focused on the eyeliner a lot in this video
THE HIGHLIGHTER IS STUNNING
When I see a balloon, I also worry that the balloon might pop. Strange question, indeed.
I honestly thought this was normal
Intrusive thoughts
Balloons popping freak me out.
@@MsLPSFOREVER same
@@Twiti47 those are not intrusive thoughts
this test is the one I gave my preteen to help her figure out if she was on the spectrum. Then I tested really high, then I thought, okay but EVERYONE probably tests high, and then my husband tested really low, aaaaaand that was the beginning of the journey of discovering I was autistic and the common denominator for our three autistic kids haha
Were you ever defensive, mad, sad or negative about it? I sometimes wonder about my wife but she is quite narcissistic and would never dare take this kind of test. We have two teens, both have autism.
@@derrickrr5516 no not at all. My attitude in general is pragmatic, I am always eager to just find the right answers so we can understand and address, but I know a lot of people feel differently.
AH I have ADHD, and it's funny to HEAVILY relate to some of the things you're saying, but also completely disagree with others, haha. Also, I love your singing, it's really nice. I know it was sped up, but I slowed it down to listen because I like hearing people sing, and you're good! It was nice to listen to :D
Same (about the singing). I slowed it down and listened to it over and over, lol.
Lol same. I have adhd, and some questions I would be like yea, and she would be like yea. Then others she would be like what no ppl do that, and I’m like I do that all time, ppl don’t do that?! 😂 😂 😆
Same, but I know there's a lot of overlap between ASD and ADHD.
Paige has ADHD too
Oh God you answered the exact same way as me for some of these. Right down to picking apart the literal meanings of the words they used 🤣🤣
Paige: are you looking at my eyes right now??
Me: everytime you look at the camera, yes.
💖
I’m literally the opposite, every time there’s supposed eye contact I can’t help but look away 😭
Ive trained myself so much to look in peoples eyes that I do even in videos lol
@@Kaztronomical I used to be kinda good at looking at people (I think) but as soon as I acknowledged the fact I might be autistic it suddenly got so hard to.. mask came off and now I suck 👍
Same.
I love it when people wear really great eye liner because then it looks like i'm looking them in the eye but really i'm just ogling at their beautiful eyeliner the whole time.
Question 32: I had a emotional calendar for a year, and I realized that most days I feel neutral or maybe a bit stressed or tired. I didn't mark any day of the year as happy, but that didn't mean I was sad, just neutral.
That's like me, too. When I to be polite, it comes off as not polite. I also am not stressed about eye contact... I just don't know how much eye contact to have.
Parents taking this quiz at 3am to diagnose their kids. “Yes my kid does throw tantrums!” 🤯
Lol
I hate when these tests have ambiguous questions or do stuff like “Do you do A or like B?” and don’t tell you to tick the box if any of these apply. Then I am left wondering what I am supposed to do..
It seems like all the diagnostic tools available focus so much on the reaction or behavior of the person rather than the reason behind the behavior. For example, my daughter is sensory seeking with noises and I am sensory avoidant with noise - both of us are autistic. If the question was “do you avoid loud noises?” she would say no and I would say yes. What the question should sound like is “do loud noises cause you intense feelings (of either pleasure or pain)?”
What about scents? I have extreme loathing for strong scents like perfume and cleaning products.
i wish there were more autistic tests made by autistic people for autistic people -- i feel like the questions would be much easier to understand and answer for autistic people and it would probably be a lot more accurate
Genius. Agree on the rewrites!
The "looking into their eyes question" always bugs me, because in every test they suggest that NTs look at each others eyes constantly. But they don't do that at all. I came use eyecontact in moments where i feel something important is being said, be it from the other person or me (and maybe randomly in between) always just a second or two - thats a way to use eyecontact that actually makes sense to me, there is intent - and since then, nobody ever told me i lack eyecontact again, ever.
Edit: I just wondered - little Kids do look at you for long periods of time... maybe this whole topic comes from autism research and help being overwhelmingly for kids. But its still bad to force an autistic Kid to give that kind of eyecontact.
Very true. As an NT myself I can confirm that if someone looked at me, or more accurately: stared at me, constantly like that, I, too, would find that very uncomfortable because that kind of constant looking someone in the eyes is actually a threatening gesture^^
I think, once more, the difference between NTs and autistic people is that a neurotypical person doesn't need (or only needs minimal) instruction/conscious effort for decoding appropriate length for eye contact and/or decoding what the eye area is trying to convey in the context of facial expressions. Like, the difference is literally just that these things come (almost exclusively) intuitively to neurotypical people while autistic people need to consciously set out to learn it.
The whole "It's painful" aspect might be due to sensory processing issues (I mean... If you can see light flickering and other such minute details in your environment it stands to reason that you also see more happening when you track someone's eyes), though, and only contribute to the process of learning about eye contact being longer because that's an extra obstacle along the way.
But anyway. Constantly looking people in the eyes is really not how NT eye contact works at all^^
True
The looking into the eyes question bugs me as well. As an autistic college student I have learned that cultures also vary with eye contact as being appropriate or respectful based on their countries customs. Autism would basically be in that case opposite of the other cultures norms I would think when it comes to indicators. I heard countries like Japan based on research find eye contact specifically to be potentially disrespectful within the culture. A lot of things might depend on what is the cultures particular norm when it comes to interactions with others from the same culture if not in the same place as other people with autism where that interaction would be normal. Some things that are more specific that deal with interacting with others would have this issue and less specific would not if applied between autism and people who are not autistic but from the same culture.
NT Kids are probably looking a lot more because they're still learning all the social cues (subconsciously of course). Which is why some "professionals" think forcing autistic children to copy this behaviour will make them learn instinctively as well.
Lots of people also believe that autistic babies miss out on eye contact because unlike NT babies, they don't pay special attention to faces. That leads to them failing to copy other's behaviour. Which leads to them being bad at NT communication.
@@Meeko4eve39 This is true and extended eye contact can also be an unintentional flirting gesture as well. It's also one of the reasons why many people couldn't tell you someone's eye color unless they found that person particularly attractive in conversation. I've also heard that women naturally make more eye contact in regular day-to-day conversation but I'm not sure if that's true or not.
I'm diagnosed with ADHD but I've often wondered if I'm autistic as well. It's hilarious to watch you think through these questions because I do the SAME THING with online assessments! You sounded exactly like me when you were talking through the party/eye contact questions.
SAME BOAT!!! the ASQ test i get 32-33 on my responses depending on different interpretations of the questions bc IDK if I’m scaling this stuff accurately 😅
Same, I believe they missed my ASD diagnosis when I was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid. We were poor, bad doctor could have been the issue. I’ve taken a few AQ tests over the past year and a half, scored 40-44 each time. Out of 50.
In a similar boat here! Wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was about 20, and that was only AFTER the other co-morbidities (depression, anxiety) were treated. I don't know about you, but I have a tendency to avoid extreme answers on these sorts of quizzes. Despite that, the ASQ test still gave me a 39. Not sure if there's just an overlap with other mental/neural diagnoses or if we could actually be on the spectrum.
For the “i rarely feel happiness of joy” i interpreted it different as i would put major agree on that, i would say i actually get the feeling inside me of happy like once or twice a week? but i’m not saying it’s because i feel sad all the time it’s more i just“ feel” neutral/no sense of feeling until i feel that happy moment, it’s the same with other feelings like i feel actually sad or angry only like a handful of times a week.
realising this about myself confused me more because do other people just constantly feel things throughout the day?? like actually feel the emotion? i can’t imagine living like that dhdhks
I had a counselor once diagnosed me as borderline personality disorder, because I mostly felt neutral. Since being diagnosed with bipolar II and taking meds (which are also for autism) I now feel more joy/happiness throughout the day. I hate feeling every emotion at once. 🤯
there was a study done on this called “emotions in everyday life” and people reported to feel something for at least 90% of the day, with 10% of it being nothing. people don’t constantly feel emotions, which are more intense and temporary, but they often feel like what you described, a sense of feeling, a more subtle, longer lasting “mood,” like feeling neutral. remember as long as it isn’t distressing to you or hurting you, you shouldn’t be worried about it. how people experience emotions varies widely. you should probably only be concerned when its on one of the far ends of the spectrum of emotion (feeling nothing or feeling way to much and not being able to manage it)
@@ninjamissaproductions oh interesting! i did look into BPD for myself but i don’t feel that i identify with the common traits enough to seek an assessment,, i didn’t know that BPD meds could be used for autism too tho!?
@@udonge1043 thank you that is helpful to know! i would say the emotion i do feel is usually pretty extreme, even the happy feeling makes me overwhelmed to the point where i try and avoid my favourite interests if i’m not in the right frame of mind to handle that ‘high’ if that makes sense? but i’ve just had an assessment for adhd which to me would explain the emotional regulation issues i get more than my autism does
I'd say I feel genuine joy as well as other emotions on a daily basis. I consider it to be a pretty dull day if I don't experience some type of actual joy at least once.
I wouldn't say I get incredibly excited every single day or anything but it's definitely enough emotion to shift my state of mind and make me feel distinctly different.
I think they should have had many more questions asking the opposite questions to make sure you don't instinctively answer yes forcing the answer towards autism.
At 14:54 when they asked about visualization, that one spoke to me because all through middle and high school I could not follow a book to save my life. My aunt, who is a 5th-grade teacher, once asked me "Don't you get a movie in your head?" and I was like "Am I supposed to?". I never understood why people enjoyed reading because to me it was just reading words that went into my mental garbage bin 5 minutes after I read them. I would forget entire events and sub-plots in books because it wouldn't stick in my head what I had just read
This is how I feel most of the time as well. If I'm really invested in something then I can visualize it but I've never been able to actually read more than a few chapters of a book and maintain interest.
I also identify hard.
I write and when I do it I can feel the emotions and the sounds, see the lights and feel the cold. But I can’t for the life of me picture it. I have no idea what my characters look like, I never visualize them. So I never write and describe them. I have to force myself to do it. But I feel like I theoretically know what they look like, I just don’t know what they look like.
There's a word for that btw, "aphantasia" which is the inability to visualise
I was watching one of this videos like 3 days ago and I was like "so strange Paige hasnt made a video like this before" yeahhh welll hahah
BAHAHAH SAME
I think I saw one from Cloe Hayden
Idk if I looked into actors’ eyes in movies when I was younger, but I know that I actively do it now because for me, it helps me learn facial expressions. Like, what emotion are they showing, why are they looking like that and what reaction will the other actor make in response to that expression. And a lot the times the actor is expressing themselves verbally so I like to match the tone to the expression. Most likely I’m stimming when I do this because it’s kind of uncomfortable, but at the same time the actors aren’t directly staring back at me so it’s not that bad. Idk if it’s considered “normal” or not.
About question 10: that's not how everyone is, haha (although it would be really cool if it were). The society "norm" is to treat coworkers, figures of authority or anyone you meet in a formal environment with a lot more distance and formality than you would a friend at a party.
How does one stay employed without picking up on that??
@@cockycookie1 isn't only one third of autistics regularly employed?
@@cockycookie1 it's tough (:
My problem with tests like these, they rely heavily on autistic stereotypes, not only that but white male autistic stereotypes.
And which questions here specifically had anything to do with being white exactly? 🤔
@@Dylan-go5iv I’m assumed you don’t know what people of color aren’t diagnosed as much as white people are. It’s the same as females not getting diagnosed as much a males are. Unless you do know that and are just getting defensive for some reason.🤨
@@Dylan-go5iv I assume you're a white male
@@angelysesantiago6561 I'm not defensive about it at all, it was a genuine question. People of color being underdiagnosed is true and very unfortunate. Can you provide any documentation or studies to suggest that people of color don't present autism in the same way as white people though?
I'd argue they're underdiagnosed, not because they're completely different, but because they're *treated* different in an unfair way.
So no, I don't understand how race has anything to do with actual traits of autism. I've only seen things to suggest that it's more often ignored or disregarded due to racism. I'm open to learning more about it if you have any info to provide and prove me wrong, sincerely.
@@angelysesantiago6561 Genuine question, neurotypical person here. How'd a person of colour have a different set of symptoms just because of their ethnicity? Can understand that it could be different for different genders, but ethnicity shouldn't make much difference I suppose.
Never thought about if I look at ppl's eyes when watching a movie. I'm mostly paying attention to the plot. Paige's eyes are hard to miss though, u see them without trying
Hey just wondering if you could make a video on the topic of dating? 1.Your personal experiences with it. 2. Things to keep in mind when dating someone on the spectrum.
Especially about safety
Your eyes and personality are amazing!
"do you talk to blah blah when you're at a party?"
I like how they can't imagine someone just not ever going to a party
the problem with these tests is that I, as an autistic person, take them too literally lmao
I get confused easily at the questions even though i know what they mean like the raining cats and dogs question about uhh metaphors i understand those ones probably because of tv so i say im fine with them but thats because i cant think of any metaphors i didnt know.... She's right though doesnt everyone get confused about metaphors they dont know? Sorry if this was confusing btw im working on my grammar and my first explanation is always horrible since its just the rough draft of my thoughts all chaotically put in a paragraph
My whole life I’ve been told I am a “normal person”, with weird attributes and a ton of mental disorders and disabilities... but taking these quizzes and scoring as autistic on every one of them... I am now questioning my entire existence on this Earth... I don’t even know what to say...
This was fun, though, so thank you for doing this and thank you for linking the quizzes. It’s now opened up many questions for me, but, if there is an answer to why I am how I am; glad to know it. Oh gosh so many questions now.
False positive.
@Heather Petersen No. The bad tests are giving her a false positive, d*mb@$$
Question #10 is a bit interesting here, ‘cause Paige has established that she’s self-employed (as a lash technician, along with her social media activity), so I’m unsure whether that question would apply wording-wise and given what she’s disclosed publicly, unless she employs other people for her lash tech business. If you’re self-employed, whether you would talk to friends and co-workers in the same manner depends on whether you employ other people.
It could also be referring to our tendency to not "get" the social nuances of how situation dependent context influences allistic expectations.
They say, "bring your whole self to work," but I've learned the hard way that there are some wildly different rules for how I'm expected to talk at work vs at home or with friends - even in hyper casual Silicone Valley startups.
@@MorgenPeschke That I didn’t think about. I sometimes treat certain phrases and sentences in their literal context, and focused on available information without realizing that it could apply generally to one’s understanding of differences in social nuances.
7:19 your stimming was so cute omg the happiness
I got 37 on the AQ test back in March and was officially diagnosed 2 weeks ago .. at age 48 .. it’s a brave new world.
I need to get tested. I've taken the AQ test a couple times over the past 2 years and always I'm in the mid to high 30's.
I feel there should be an online autism test that has like 1000 super specific questions
I’m not looking at your eyes, I’m looking at your eyeliner! I love the way it looks when you look at the camera and back down again and up and then down 😂😂😂
beset by sadness means that you are overcome with it.
ive always pondered what it would be like if a collective of varying autistic peoples built a like 250+ question one of these. there are sooooooo many totally non-sensical things in alot of these. i also find that for me, difficulty in answering the questions accurately enough, well it takes alot of time, because i never know how to answer most things and i freeze up trying to figure out most 'accurate' response lol. that all on its own is something i havent really seen pop up as a question on any of these silly quizes.
The balloon question is an oddly specific. I actually cant blow up balloons anymore, when I was younger I had no problem then got some reason beginning of high school I got this growing fear they would pop in my face, and one day I still tried while setting up for a baby shower and it did indeed pop in my face. I literally haven't blown up a balloon since then. If I try, my heart actually races.
ON MY OWN IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE VOCAL STIMS couldn't help but sing along 💚
SAMMEE!! Plus les mis is a special interest of mine ive read the book at least fifteen times. Eponine has always been my favorite!
That's what it was! I just spent 5 mins trying to remember, I think it was in Glee for a bit, damn the nostalgia! Paige's voice is pretty too, I was vibing
7:53 haha i was looking at yours eyes right then… not because “eye contact” but because the color of yours are particularly mesmerizing. like, it’s a really pretty icy/electric blue. :)
Others have told me questions are complete garbage.
Others rarely tell me anything, that doesn't mean what they don't tell isn't true, just that people don't tell me that, which isn't the point of the question.
I’ve never thought of getting bamboo dishes. That sounds like a great idea!
"bananas... you're on thin ice" idk why that made me laugh lol
Because it's un expected and VERY funny..
I love your content! I think part of the reason they ask so many behavioral questions and questions implying being unhappy because I think they intend people who suspect they have autism but have not been diagnosed. Without a diagnosis to bring to their family, friends and employers for making room for accomodations would probably cause distress.
Similarly to you, Paige, for a lot of the questions like being invited to parties or--for example, "do you prefer going to a movie theater or a library," I would have to say, it depends, you know? And I love the idea of meeting new people, I ask my parents to bring over guests all the time. But when they actually show up, that's when I panic and don't know how to start a conversation with them and I end up disappointed when they leave because I didn't get a chance to talk to them as I wanted to. I enjoy talking and having people listen to what I say.
I was SO confused, bc I was sure that I saw this a couple of days ago, until I realised that it was Chloe Hayden who did a similar video. I think it's great that autistic creators talk about self-diagnosis after research is valid, how health care is inaccessible and how a formal diagnosis isn't possible for everyone. Keep doing what you are doing! :)
I literally just took this same test the other day and scored a 40. And watching you break some of these questions down is super relatable and now I'm really questioning if I'm on the spectrum now
The eyes of somebody is normally what someone looks at when a person is talking.
So this balloon question is so funny to me… when I was 7 my mom had a birthday for me and wanted to do a balloon game where we all got balloons tied to our legs and tried to stomp on each other’s to make them pop. I LOST it. I went to my room and spent my birthday by myself while my friends played
How is that fun..? its so loud and surprising like i can understand bubble wrap now _THAT'S_ FUN! but balloons?? what if the popped remains hits my eye??? i've actually had a balloon pop infront of my face while i was blowing it up it scared me at first and my ears were ringing it also smacked my face so it did hurt a bit just a bit though i do have to admit it wasnt so scary afterwards i actually found it quite funny even though my ears continued to ring for about 2 minutes (idk cant really remember)
I have the same memory from I think my 5th birthday party. Fuck that game.
I have been struggling a lot this past week, dealing with a lot of stress and...painful things. I've had multiple meltdowns, which are unusual for me.
I put this on for background sound while I was working tonight...and I just want to thank you for making my night a little brighter with your song. I love Les Mis and often sing 'On My Own' to myself. Hearing you sing it made me smile for the first time in several days...and I just wanted to thank you for that.
yes paige we are all looking at your eyes. they are gorgeous.
the eyeliner really increases the gorgeousness amounts by 9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999%
Unrelated: I think Paige would look great as a redhead
Oh 1000 percent
she can't help but look gorgeous, it's the face. (:
i think she’d look great as a combination of how she looks in this video and how she looks in her third video
I feel like age is such a significant factor for these questions.
When I see a balloon I worry that I too could simply float off the face of the Earth.
I've been watching videos on TH-cam for about a month now from the perspective of people with autism after suspecting that I'm autistic for a while. I took the autism quotient test on the first day and got a 41 out of 50. I talked to my doctor about it and am seeing a psychologist next week. I am actually already on the disability pension for not being able to function psychologically in the world (diagnosed with OCD). I have been talking to my social worker about this and have found her to be a good sounding board for me to verbalise what I've come to realise. I'm trying not to get too wrapped up in the videos here because I don't want to come across as obsessive to my diagnosticians. (I'm 40 years old)
My comfort item was a small white bunny with pink dots I could fit into my hand. I named her Bonita while taking a Spanish test in elementary school.
I lost her in 8th grade when going to a Zelda orchestra concert in Chicago, and cried for days. I grieved. I had also been bullied for carrying her around, so when I didn't bring her into class--someone congratulated me on "getting over it".
Nah man, I dropped her in a city.
Luckily after a few years I was able to recover, and I "replaced" her as the mini stuffed animal comfort item representative with a tiger I named Luna, and that I had gotten when I was 5. Since I got Bonita when I was 5 months old, the number five was very important to me to be consistent with my new comfort item.
I don't usually carry her around since I am scared of losing Luna, and don't wanna get bullied in college for it.
anyone else bothered by the order of the "next" and "back" buttons o.O
NEXT has the arrow forwards to progress pointing to the right, yet BACK is in ... FRONT of the NEXT button?? and why doesn't he BACK button have an arrow signifying going back?? How does it make sense to press the button that's in FRONT and to the right to go ... BACKWARDS??
For English Western readers who read LEFT-->RIGHT, time is the same direction I.E. past is the LEFT and future is to the RIGHT, it should have the BACK button on the left, and the NEXT button on the RIGHT :)
I love how you explain everything at the end. It's better to talk to someone and explain the answers.
I’m autistic, but I don’t understand this ”fascination” with dates. In what way? Why?
Same i can’t remember any numbers or dates at all and I don’t understand why they would be interesting cause it’s boring to me lol
I am autistic and dyscalculic so everything related to numbers gets a no from me.
@@sarabrenna5525 Yees! Math is literally hell on earth for me
Autism is often intertwined with OCD, and having a really good picture memory so that’s why it applies for me. But I find a lot of neurodiverse people are skilled at math-which I am not.
My doctor has tried to diagnose me for months now, she still doesn't know if I have autism or not and now my last appointment was cancelled, because she doesn't work at the facility anymore. Guess I'll never know then
I will say that having all of my friends take the quiz at the same time as me and hearing what they had to say about the questions opened my eyes to the idea that "wow, that isn't a universal experience?" and that was important in realizing I was on the spectrum
21:33 omg! One of my all time favorite songs and a bit of a special interest. I’ve listened to every version of that song I’ve been able to find (and I’ve looked for YEARS)
You’re bangs look georgeous!!
I'm looking at your eyes *because* the ring light is reflected in them and that's facinating.
I have done so many of these! Literally tested positive on every single one, paid or not paid i scored «high» or «severe» on all of them
Paige your eyeliner is ADORABLE :O
I just realized with a lot of the "What people really mean ect." Questions that I tend to mimic how allistic people interact by saying that I Want to say to by myself amd then re-word it to be less "rude" bc I know my first thoughts always tend to be "rude" :/ Even with my partner but that's more bc of RSD (they have adhd) amd I don't want to upset that
i did the SAME THING when i saw the word "beset"! i paused the video, googled it, then played the video, and saw you say you don't know what it means either
You make my Friday evenings much better!! Thank you 🙏
when the question came up about the eyes... i couldnt stop staring at your eyes- idk why i just... could stop. ive never looked at the persons eyes in a video but now i cant look away-
I feel like the experiencing happy and joy question would be a alexithymia thing and not being able to process what your feeling as happiness or joy which I deff struggle with. But also big time with the whole being forced to repress the parts of myself from mt interests and stims that provide me with happiness and joy, which I'm now relearning since I was forced to repress my autism in the home and outside of it.
your eyeliner its FIRE!!!!
This is super interesting as many people may use these tests as initial indicators for themselves as whether they may have autism! :)
Yes I’m looking at your eyes 😅🤩 they’re gorgeous and ur inner corner highlight is always on point
If you're genuinely wondering, I definitely look at the eyes of actors in films x
Well, when I see a balloon, I generally would hope that it doesn't pop, but I'm not worried it will unless there's an immediate reason why it would, like someone is carelessly handling a sharp object near it, or it's been released and is floating toward the ceiling where it looks likely it might hit a chandelier with sharp edges, or a man holding a pocketknife suddenly bursts into the room and yells, "Balloons! I love balloons! Specifically, the thing about balloons that I love is popping them, intentionally!"
I'm not neurotypical, but I am allistic. I don't worry that a balloon is going to pop; however, if I know it's going to pop (or I have to pop it myself) I hate it. A lot.
Also, yes, I watch eyes in movies to read their expression, and I am switching between your eyes and the test throughout the video.
Throughout watching the part of this video that was about the IDR Labs quiz thing, I only glanced at Paige's eyes once or twice; I've mostly just been listening to the questions and Paige's answers while looking at her hair and eyelinery things (which look really pretty in my opinion).
I hope that it's okay that I'm sharing this thing with the world.
My daughter got declined to be checked for autism yesterday x) They saw signs of adhd at the 1 hour we were there, but not the autism. But I know she has it x))))))) I now I have to find out what to do.... (I live in Sweden)
“Are you guys looking at my eyes?”
I’m looking at your eyeliner😂 idk if that counts but it’s really pretty
I don’t like how the first quiz was only affirmative questions. “Yes” was always “autistic”
not true! One of the questions was “I like parties”
Paige! I really want to hear you sing that song! I played it at .5 speed and i was very impressed!
For the balloon thing I’d say that people are generally scared when it pops but they won’t be scared about the possibility of it popping any time
'I dancing and did all my toe walking there, so everywhere else I did heel walking, because if I walked on my whole foot it would make it uneven.'
THIS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE. Like as an adult I can see that if a kid explained this to you, you'd sigh and roll your eyes and have to be like, that's not how it works. But it is faultless logic and there is no real reason why that isn't how it works. Except long term foot pain, which you don't feel in childhood!
Regardless, I'm very glad I mostly grew out of my need to unturn every 360 turn I made, my version of being uneven, because it was just an added stress to my day, to make sure you don't inadvertently turn around.
As a neurotypical I do not worry about balloons popping
one time a ballon i was holding popped and i started crying
As someone in the process of a diagnose, i don’t either
As an autistic person I never think about that unless someone is making an effort to pop it.
I've always had a fear of balloons popping and I thought everybody experienced this, and that it just wasn't as strong for others than it is for me, guess I was wrong
Update* I am not neurotypical 😂 I got diagnosed as AuDHD about 1 year ago. Joke was on me. Makes sense though.
I Been Diagnosed With ADHD And Asperger's (Autistic) When I Was 21. Didn't Know I Was Diagnosed With Autism Until 3 Years Afterwards. Being Diagnosed With Both Is Stressful, Yet I Do What I Can To Control Myself, And Also Around Others.
Good video. Continue on your road on getting the giant gold play button. I hope I’ll see your silver play button. Hopefully, Chris ULMER of SBSK would love to see you
I all ways get different results (I don’t do it for diagnosis I just like quizzes). I think it’s because although it’s the same question but they always word it differently like I see “are you fascinated with numbers (number plates ect)” and “are you interested in number combinations (number plates ect)” although I believe they want me to answer both the same they are completely different. Like I’m not fascinated with numbers but the number combinations, I always find myself memorising the numbers and repeating them in my head because I think the number combinations are fun to remember.
I love the assumption that people are not friends with their coworkers. Like... the test authors assume that no one makes friends with people they have to spend every day with?
Wow. I've just remembered that I was a heel walker too :') just over a year since diagnosis and I'm still realising/remembering things, what feels like every day.
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congrats!!!
@paige layle i glad you learned from that because god bless you as always and i admire you for doing this because you're #1 understandable than stupid mark rober right now but you're the best and i respect you and love you to death for the will of the lord anytime and anywhere and anything haha
If for nothing else, I love watching your videos bc I get to learn new words
I think that question 32 at about 9:25 is about having alexythymia, a common disorder for autistics (though you don’t have to be autistic to have it)
I’ve taken that test and one of the things it measures is depression bc “autistic ppl are more likely to get depression” which is true but not being depressed doesn’t make u less autistic fluke Paige said)
im livingggg for your makeup in this vid
Oh and on tv I often look at the actors eyes. I find eyes very intriguing. They wey they move, the colour, ... But I would want to look at someones eyes as some kind of observation than really making eyecontact because than I usually look away. xp
I hate looking people in the eyes, but I love eyes. I blush when someone makes me look them in the eyes. I blushed when you stared into the camera asking if we were looking at your eyes lol. I was told by a mental health coordinator that they thought I was on the spectrum, but the VA won't set me up with testing. Oh well.