Coach, You saved my life literally. My girl broke up with me after 5 years of relationship. I was suicidal. I just want to take my motorcycle and crush and be over with. I was crying, sobbing for days. I probably will be not writing this to you if I didnt find your videos. I watched a lot of your videos day after day after day. You give me peace. Im so appreciate for this. I just started “no contact “ advice from you. Im stronger now and Im working on myself. I eat healthy, I exercise a lot. My heart is broken but I believe now that it will heal over time. I bought your emergency kit in appreciation for all your work. Thank you again. I will never forget what you have done for me.
I am going through NC right now for 21 days but I haven't seen my ex since (April 5th) we were messing around after she broke up with me. Stay strong. It is easier said than done but focus on you now. I am making a life changing move currently so I am excited and nervous about that. She has viewed all of my stories on Instagram and liked one of them (the stories have ranged from playing golf with friends to Grateful messages about my dogs that have passed years ago.) I am fighting myself each day with reminders of us and it hurts. We have to trust the process and just focus on ourselves at this point
Just someone advice me pls . My wife left me 2 months ago and refusing to talk and get back together or trying to make this marriage works . She keep saying that she dont love me anymore , and she will never be with me again at all. She keep repeating that pla stay far from me and my life dont let me hurt you more !! Wtf i must do ???!!!!!
If you’re hurting now and want your ex back and think you 2 can work things out TRUST THIS MAN! He knows what he’s talking about. My ex and I broke up last year and got back together like 6 months later and things are great now
This guy has the patience of a saint. I know how I am when I am going through heartache. It's like all sence leaves me and all I can concentrate is on the heartache. Listen to this guy. He has helped me many times.
Not sure why I’m watching this video as it isn’t relevant to me anymore. Been in NC since May 2021 and I don’t want my ex back at all anymore. I hope he’s found the one for him and is living his best life. Coach Lee was right about NC working. I am a completely different person than the person I was when my ex and I broke up, and I wouldn’t be who I am today without the breakup. I am the happiest I’ve ever been and I am living the life I’ve always wanted. Thank you so much for creating these videos, Coach Lee. They helped to keep me moving forward during the hardest times of my life.
@@louise2528 it's complicated to talk about it but besically we talk with each other time to time. Sometimes there's a spark, sometimes i feel like she is ignoring me and i don't know why so i ended up not reaching out so if she needs me, she's going to text instead of me. We don't know if we want to go back together but at the same we need each other. That's why it's complicated, we don't know what to do and we don't want to rush things cause that would do nothing so right now i wait for the summer break. It feels wonderful when she contacts me so yeah basically we have mini no contacts between messages.
@@vanqz5692 She said she is missing me, she frequently talks to me now, which feels good, we talked about the whole situation and we come to a conclusion that we love each other no matter what but we're affraid to be a couple. It's currently the best outcome since the break up, because I feel like I can talk naturally with her, and don't have to rethink every sentence I say. We did not argue since February, and I feel like she acts really careful not to hurt me any longer which I respect. I told that to her once the inflation ends, I will visit her for a week.
@@Pepsiisgood First of all thank you so much for the reply, I'm currently only on day 14 of NC and it has been a real struggle with constant thoughts of giving up. Your comment has really helped me remain focused and continue to trust in the process. I hope both of you will find what you're looking for and I wish you guys the best!
So funny watching this today. I picked up my phone this morning to a text from my ex after six months of NC. I was strong through all the holidays, his birthday, his kids birthdays, major life successes. I stayed silent. When I saw him publicly, I stayed silent. The reach out wasn’t a grand gesture. I think it was a temp check text but still, I won. I think after a couple of days I’ll text back and tell him I’m happy he’s alive and hopefully doing well and that’s it. If he wants to say more, he can but it’s not my place.
I think you just say “hope you’re well” rather than saying “ im glad you’re alive” because it would seem like you had been waiting and noticing his silence for six months.
Coach Lee, you have been a rock. I've watched your videos. No Contact was painful but it works. After 8 months of No Contact he has reached out with a text. I responded to him. We've had a friendly walk since and he's asked if we walk and have dinner again. Thankyou Coach Lee
Hello dear. Thank you for sharing. It has been 5 months since my ex broke us up. He did reach out after two months of NC. I am wondering how has your ex's journey been since your initial contact after the 8 months of NC.
THANK YOU! ❤️ Ive watched most of your videos, and followed everything you said. And IT WORKED. I got my ex back! There was 3 weeks of no contact. He started contacting me, i kept my cool. Then he started pursuing me again, going on dates, but i kept it casual. Its been 3 months since the breakup, and he is nearly begging to get back with me. I agreed to take things slow. Hes become obsessed with me, and our love is stronger than before. Hes told me im the woman for him and he realized how he never wants to lose me, will do anything not to lose me. There were many hard nights, I mentally moved on, and it worked. Thank you Coach Lee. You have the best coaching advice ❤️
Hey girly can you please help me with advice on Instagram? Did you guys follow each other? And did you post so he could see? I honestly felt so much better when I disabled my account bc I avoided that stomach knotting EVERY TIME I logged on, but advice says to stay friends and online! Help! What advice do you have or what did you do?
Initially he said he needs time to focus on himself and his career and he felt he couldnt give me the attention i needed.also gave a few other reasons after time. I didnt agree with any of it but i just played cool. Then later after getting back together i got the real answer. He told me he felt like i wasn't being as nice to him. He gave me some examples and i agreed. He told me he felt like it wasnt going anywhere and that i didnt really love him that much. So he didnt see a point anymore
@@juliannewilridge3799 Hi girl, can you help me with some advice please? I wrote it right above your most recent response. It's about the social media! Just torn and need someone's advice🌸
I broke up 6 months ago and this is my advice: I would really give you guys the advice of ACCEPTING that it is over. I constantly watched these video’s and focused on my ex. I know she is still attracted to me (we had sex a few weeks ago) after that she still said she isn’t ready to start over again. Since that time i just accepted we aren’t going to work out. Since then i feel really free and I can forget her way better. So stop focussing on them too much and accept that its over. If they really wan’t you back they will tell you. Otherwise stay in No Contact and heal. Wish you all the best
I bought his kit. He’s the best. No contact worked twice. This time we’re going to slow way the f down before this starts going again. Anyway, he’s the best and had the best advice. It works. Just surprising how it actually did work.
@Max Pain Right, same woman. I think we went back to before too fast. I think we needed to start a new relationship, not the same one. It just didn’t work the way it was. So this time, she’s already reached out. The first time, it was about a month. This time it was 4 months and with her phone blocked for 4 months. And it just happens suddenly after no contact. I’m going to take it very slowly this time. Have more fun and date her more, instead of living the husband/wife thing. Less going to her house, more going out with her and doing fun things with her. But if it doesn’t work this time, I’ll have good memories and date someone else. I can’t just keep doing this with her. She’s messed up too, from this. Right now, I’m taking my time replying to her text. And it was complaining a little about me and telling me she found a couple pieces of my clothing at her house. And a promise ring I have her is in the photo she sent with the text. But she’s not asking me to pick it up. She’s just telling me she flung it when she moved to her new house. Why? Why tell me? Answer, she wants to talk and is testing the waters. She made me so mad though, that I’ve been slow to respond. But we’ve been through this before, so I am ignoring her a bit, even though Coach Lee says not to do that. And he’s probably correct, even in this case and circumstances. But I just don’t care. If she’s receptive when I decide to text her, ok, and if not, ok. Because it’s the 2nd time, I just don’t feel the same stresses as last time. But I want this smoothed out the 3rd time we try this. If not, I’m done. I don’t want to make another effort. And I think the first time, we got back together to soon. What I mean is, it would have been better to have been separated with no contact longer. This time, 4 months was good, it gave me enough time to be alone. And hopefully she’s had enough time alone. Hope it helps. Take care
I like the different angle you put on this one! You are by far the best coach on this topic and I listened to you the whole way through my br-up and ignored the obvious lesser experienced YT videos by others. Gladly he did reach out after 43 days and things are going really well, which I hope continue. I will be forever thankful to you Coach Lee!
congrats Bella...hi...could you please share a little how he reached out and how you handled the texts or calls...you know....the transition to where you are now. thanks
@@annerivas1155 Hi Anne, I stayed in complete no silence after the br-up, having sent the short wish you well text just at the start. This meant ignoring birthdays, events we were meant to be at together etc too. He texted out of the blue just a casual one sentence. I replied a couple of hours later saying good to hear from him and hoped he was well. He then immediately suggested meeting. I was surprised by that. I used CL advice of not to give back too soon and said I’d be happy to chat on the phone sometime. I didn’t refer to the meet up suggestion as felt it was a bit quick without anything first. He was then quiet for about 6 days and then asked when we could chat. I had zero intention of contacting him until he did. The call then ended up being several hours on the phone with him explaining in detail the things he’d realised and how much wanted back. ESP WHEN NOT HEARING FROM ME. I gave the phrase of ‘I’m open to that but I need to take it slow.’ This was weeks ago now and I’m still a bit reserved but our flow is almost back but actually in a way better place. He’s been far more attentive and buying me things, taking me new places, which shows he’s chasing. We used to see each other a lot but I’ve kept it a bit less and having my own interests. The split was good as a reset. I really hope you get what you want in your situation. I know I was at a place of being totally uncertain in whether I’d hear from him and had grown to accept that. It was when I was at the point of being okay with it either way that I heard from him. I think it’s maybe important that happens. I’d done daily visualisations of myself being happy and maybe it gave out good vibes if you believe in that😂😂 You’ll be fine whatever happens but I send you hope. Patience is often key and everyone’s timing be different. It may take longer but no contact always your best support.
So I did NC after a breakup that was not too bad, 45 days later meeting her tomorrow. It works, trust the process. She acts like getting back together is going to be easy… it won’t be. Take care
Today is my 100th day of No Contact! If she comes back, awesome. If she doesnt, I am legitimately a whole new person and way more successful than I ever was. Been a long, painful road, and I am content either way now
Wow … that’s a great attitude. I am just still in the confusion stage… he did no contact about a year ago. But I messaged him on email for a long time … probably over 100 times . He blocked me from everything. But when I emailed him , I said things like “ I’m moving forward, and I don’t want to wait and then I would say “ I love him and miss him” I’m sure I confused him a lot . But I was so hurt … now I haven’t done anything….
Great support for those who have found the strength to stay put and let go of someone we really cared for, probably one of the hardest things to do in life. Always BEST advice here, thanks Coach ♥️
Coach Lee is the best. I'm only a few days into no contact. I was having a moment of weakness and felt like crying I opened up TH-cam and saw this new video. I can't tell you how much you've helped me I've watched so many of your videos thank you so much!!!
my ex message me again after nearly a year of breaking up with me, i didnt chase or beg before, never curse or said ill words, i just shut down any communications. Now, she said pls keep you lines open and i want u to know im still breaking... Funny thing was about 3 months ago she was in a relationship with someone. As for me, im into healing process, and realized i have nothing to offer more, that 8 year-relationship with her broke me painfully and i accepted that it will be hard to consider to go back to the person who disrespected me
Isn't that the hardest.., when we are half way healed, and they decide to pop up and test and see if we are okay with them?!? That'll be a hard one to decide, the disrespect pill is the worst to swallow... Good Luck, I hope you figure out the best for yourself and don't get hurt!
Thank you so much for this video Coach Lee ❤️ I’ve been struggling a lot with no contact, so seeing this video now gives me strength and hope to keep going, stay no contact and good things will come my way.
Don’t blow it. I’ve never commented on his stuff. I got the kit and listened to his videos. They helped a lot. Anyway, don’t cheat on no contact. It will get better. And no contact worked twice! But I didn’t make any mistakes once I went into no contact. One day, I saw her walking. I lost my mind for a second. I almost pulled over to talk to her, we live in a big city. But I didn’t. It would have felt good for a moment, but it wouldn’t have went the way I wanted. So I just sucked it up. Don’t blow it, no matter what. Follow what the guy says, and watch his videos. It will get better. I feel for you though. I was there twice!
@Angela García Sure, I’m finished with it. But it’s not fun. So just focus on you, exercise and do whatever you have to do. But do not mess up no contact. If you make a mistake, you’ll have to start all over again. And you’re chances of winning will go down a bit. And though you’re struggling now, later you’ll feel better and you may not even want this guy back. There are lots of other ones. But if you’re dead set on succeeding with this, then don’t screw up no matter what. No sad comments on your socials, don’t ask friends how he’s doing, and don’t make any mistakes. And there will be times when you can feel like you’re going to make a mistake. Watch another Coach Lee video until it goes away. And don’t dwell in it and don’t go by his house or where you might see him. Just avoid. This second time we broke up. She reached out after 120 days! And this second time, I wasn’t having a super hard time like the first time. I kind of thought that I’d never hear from her ever again. And it’ll be when you’re completely over it, or feeling like yourself again before you met this guy, not perfect, but doing pretty well. No anxiety. I’d like wake up sweating because of anxiety, sometimes. Kept waking up every couple of hours. So if nothing else you get from my messages, and as I said, I’ve never ever written these messages before. I never commented on his videos before. But I did, and then I just commented on your message only. But if you get nothing else out of it, do not blow no contact. Sometimes I wanted to go where I might have a chance just to see her Range Rover go by, but I thought ‘this is soooo immature and stupid.’ And so I just said ‘another day’ but not today. Tell yourself things like that when you’re in a down time. Just say, another day but not today. That should see you through. And he’s right, you have time. She actually may have been even in a rebound, just to get through the pain of it. But I don’t know yet. I’m kind of taking my time to contact her because she reached out, but this is the second time. She blocked my phone and her profile and everting disappeared. My last messages were unread for 4 months. Suddenly it was unblocked and she sent a picture of some things I left at her house, and a promise ring I gave her. And she texted a bit about that and complained a little about me. But to go from blocking for 4 months to that, I’m in. I won. And I’ll move on her slowly. And remember what Lee says about that too. Don’t go to fast if the guy contacts you. Play it very very cool. If he’s contacting you it’s going to be going the way you want. If you give in quickly then you’ll F it up in the long term, and you’ll be back in the same place. In my case, I don’t even know if I really want her back. I just like winning, the physiological win. Anyway, you should watch as many videos of his as you can, Coach Lee’s. If you watch enough of them, you’re going to be in the right place, even if this relationship does come back together. But don’t get me wrong, every situation is different, but if you follow what he’s telling you and do no contact correctly, you’ll have your best chance. And if and when it happens, you’ll just be like ‘I can’t believe it worked!’ He had a video about mistakes with no contact. Watch that. They are common sense things. But people do stupid things out of emotion, or just not thinking. It’s funny too! It’ll cheer you up. Anyway, as bad as it seems right now, it will get better. Something I did that he didn’t talk about was I thought to myself ‘Everyone is in play including her. She’s a moving target (he does talk about moving targets, that part was his, but the rest was mine.) but I just kept saying to myself she’s in play along with every other woman and so it’s going to be fine. Anyway, I’m going to go. I typed more than I planned on. I’m not going to help another person out. But I helped you. I did one. So don’t mess up. Remember I took the time. You need to follow what I’m telling you. I felt from what you were saying that you were having a hard time. But like he says the hard times are where it’s really paying off. It’s not paying off during the easy times and when it’s easy. Just keep listening to his videos. Finally, after a lot of them, you feel well rounded and knowledgeable. Then you’ll begin to feel better..Then just when you’re feeling good. And you’ve kind of accepted that nothing has happened, but you’re feeling good, you’ll get a text. It’s shocking when it happens. But stay cool, no matter how excited you are. As he says, no contact is not a game and dealing with the person after no contact isn’t a game. But, when you respond to that first text, you need to be cool. You need to stay cool. And right now, you’re probably nowhere near where you need to be to be cool. You’re emotional and you need to work on you. Even if the guy came back today, you’re not ready to deal with it emotionally and to be successful. After this temporary time alone, you’ll be ready. You’ll see I’m right. So just be cool right now, watch his stuff, there’s a bunch of videos, and don’t blow no contact. It’s so important not to mess up. But no one can do it but you. Ok, I’ll go. This is probably the last you’ll hear from me. But I hope I impacted you enough for you not to screw up. If you screw up, you’re going to feel better maybe for 1 minute, then it’s not going to go the way you wanted and you’ve just decreased your chances and in increased your hell. Ok bye, you’re going to be fine. Watch the videos. Don’t screw up. The worst that will happen is you get him back, or someone even better. His videos are good and he really knows how to talk about it. And you can tell he loves what he does. Stay cool. Don’t mess up. Bye
Hey Coach Lee. I just want you to know that regardless of what happens, I am SO grateful I've discovered your channel. You're helping me through the most difficult and painful time. Hopefully we can talk one-on-one one of these days.
@@YessyCosmox3 A day lol. This is long, I'm sorry. But if you're willing to read, I appreciate it. It's not the first attempt at no contact. I recently blew no contact. He asked me if I wanted to go for a walk and so a couple days ago, we went for a walk. Everything was going well until he said "you're gonna make someone incredibly happy." He's been with his new girlfriend for 6 months. But he got with her so soon after breaking it off with me, like a few weeks. At first we were hanging out still, but then I wanted to take a break from each other and that lasted a month. And since then, we've texted every now and then and we went for a walk a few weeks ago (my first time seeing him in a few months, i was so nervous) It went well. After both walks, I just feel like there's still something there. The way he looks at me and smiles at me, the long tight hugs, and he was even being a little flirty this last time, etc. So we were texting after the walk a couple days ago and I said I just can't settle for friendship and can't hang out. I've been watching a lot of Coach Lee's videos and took his advice and he's right. It's too hard to hang out with an ex as friends. And I texted my ex that I respect him and his relationship but I think he and I are great together, and he's making a big mistake. And if he ever changes his mind, he knows where to find me. I might still be available (I really don't want to move on.) And what makes it better is that we're still on amicable terms. There's no anger, and he understands and respects me too. So now, I'm serious this time. No contact. I start my new job tomorrow and Im going to focus on that for now. I WILL NOT BREAK NO CONTACT.
I am so glad I found this channel. I am now on day 8 of my breakup and day 1 of no contact, would have started yesterday but I had to go to his place to get my belongings bc we shared a home. watching this channel before bed keeps me from crying myself to sleep at night. 🥺
This is excellent stuff, especially the advice not to ignore them if they reach out, but respond casually and politely. I went through a really terrible breakup about a month ago, we both said some very cruel things in a bad emotional fight. My birthday was about a week later, and she texted me that morning with "happy birthday." I responded with "thanks." A few days later I wrote her an email just to own my part in the emotional hurt. I wasn't asking to get back together, there was no begging, pleading or blaming of any kind. I just took accountability for the cruel things I had said without mentioning any of her actions. A couple of days later she wrote back, thanked me for my honesty and courage, and said she doesn't know where that leaves the relationship but "there is no rush to figure that out." Since then we've been in no contact for 12 days. I took her "no rush" message to mean she knows it is up to her to reach out. I'm using no contact to work on myself, get better, let go, and heal the wounds, but I still think about her all the time. Sticking with it though, because I know there is absolutely nothing I could do or say that would be more effective than giving her space and working on me.
Four months into no contact and since he moved away across the globe for three years for a job. Minus the times he kept texting every week and sometimes multiple times a week. I still think of him everyday. I will find someone who actually wants to be with me. Hang in there everyone it does get much better as time passes. Even if it feels like the pain is not going to end it will lighten up and you will continue your daily life. I listen to Coach Lee he knows what he is doing he gives great advice! Forgive but never forget and stay humble. ♥️
I’m Sorry to hear that . I’m in this situation too . My ex boyfriend left for no reason . He was my love , my partner and my best friend. I still love him so much . I pray everyday at least to talk one time more with him . Sometimes I feel like do I want him back if he left he can leave again .
I've been in no contact 114 days, he's in another relationship of almost 2 months now, seems like he's more loved up publicly with her than he ever was with me... It is so hard! Thanks for the video, needed that!
@@mattl1962 True, I guess it's that fear of never speaking again, I'd like to hope we would even on friendly terms, I just don't feel anyone could ever make me feel that loved again, it's so rare.
We really had an incredible connection with this man but due to issues in him I decided to give him a break. 2 weeks I beg, I pleaded but since I saw this videos of coach lee it wakes me up. I tried NCR yesterday and my ex didn't even lasted for 24 hours. In the morning he sent me a picture with a sunset whom I love so much with the message "You are always inside of me". I responded in a cool way just like this coach said and this evening he message me " Good night I'm sorry, I miss you sleep well my girl". I responded late but in a cool way. It's difficult because he doesn't want me back yet but I'm following every steps of what coach lee said. It's hard but the table upside down when I did NC. It works! I'll update!
Awesome Video coach Lee! I am seven weeks into the break up. Only two weeks of no contact. This is my third time of starting over with NC 🤦♂️. Yes I did the normal screw ups. I’m not doing that again. Guys hang in there I have already seen change in her,but I didn’t know what to do at the time. I found coach Lee a few weeks ago,and glad I did. It has turned me around for the better. 👍
Wow I caved and broke NC yesterday after 2 months. I was feeling like a failure for doing it but I see that it just happens sometimes. Here's to our healing and moving on, with or without our exes. It is hard🙏
I can attest to that, broke NC twice ig and I'm currently into a week rn, she's with her ex, but I'm focusing on myself to become better than the version of myself in the first two weeks of the breakup
I am on No contact Rule now , its the 2nd week and it is bad , i mean REALLY BAD , hurts like hell but this guy Coach Lee , he is a master for these things, i am respecting his video advices so I hope it will be what Coach Lee is saying.
I got the Breakup kit, Went on calls and now my ex and I are starting slow. it took 7 months, now im just worried about moving to fast or slow. Thank you Lee and Ken!!
I'll be really happy if she reaches out. Going to adhere to no contact strictly. It's day 9. I sometimes feel so disheartened thinking she deserted me. We were so close. Let's hope for the best. No contact seems the best way to increase the chances of her approaching me and -- if she doesn't -- to help myself by being familiar with her absence.
I reached out to mine after 56 days, the fun zone 😁 thinking she's probably not going to contact me fearing I'll reject her or go on some tirade. She responded immediately and apologized profusely. I just played it cool, polite, happy and no terms of endearment. Didn't ask to meet her, might do that in a fortnight, I'll just let her brood for a bit hehe. So what I'm getting at is they might want to reach out but just plain scared of being ignored. So there's that factor.
I usually don't think men should do the No Contact thing, especially if they're sure the woman would take them back, coz WOMEN EXPECT THE MEN TO PURSUE THEM, usually, to contact them. I'm not sure, but from my experience I'll always wait for the guy to contact me, and if he doesnt, I'm thinking hes not interested. Remember women also making the NO CONTACT. All the best.
@@dragonskulle7283 she dumped me for 2 weeks now , Idk if i should reach to her or she will reach to me , it was a messy breakup with swearing and shouting to eachother . after some hours i said that we both crossed the line and we weren’t ourselves in that situation , i said sorry for all bad words. and she didnt respond anymore , 2 weeks and counting …
@@dragonskulle7283 Thank you for your response. I will consider reaching out to her after I have followed NC for around 2 months, as suggested by Coach Lee and attested by your example. I hope she reaches out before that.
My ex and I had a great short term relationship. I had a trigger response and hastily broke up with him. I felt all the symptoms coach Lee has said. My ex went no contact with me and then when we did speak he broke up with me, I had already knew my decision was wrong. But I as the the one who broke up first instantly did everything coach lee had describe (before I even knew who coach lee was). With that to say now that he broke up with me I have to give him time - we were great together so I hope that he quickly sees that and comes back I feel like our relationship would be even stronger going through this early instead of later.
I'm getting comfort watching all your videos coach Lee. It helps me a lot to move forward. My bf for 2 years ghosted me and blocked me. It's been 3 weeks now. I feel like I'm drowning with a lot of pain and emotions right now. That missing part is more painful than what he did to me. 💔
Two months of No contact, I entered no contact 5 days after the day we broke up, in those days I made the mistake to beg and please because I hadn’t discovered coach lee yet. Now I feel stronger but I still want my ex back. This is my first break up, I hope that this situation will be better in the future
It's been 7 days NC and I don't really know what to feel. Some moments I have so much hope, but others none at all. Our 4 year relationship had its share of almost-breakups when he tried to end things, but through desperation, pursuasion and maybe even guilting him, I held us together. We were best friends, lived together, shared great times and memories, but he never was able to say with confidence that he loved me. I felt I was giving everything I had to build our lives and make him happy. When we broke up, he told me he couldnt see a happy future with me and felt he couldnt grow as a person when I was around, that he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. He asked for more space than I was willing to give while we were together, so I can only hope NC will make him realize my value to him. Maybe it's just a low point right now, but everything is telling me I will not hear from him again...
@@fer08510 still in NC, I don't intend to reach out. Never heard from him again, I don't expect to. He and the life I lost haunt my dreams and even though I've put the pieces of my heart back together, it doesn't work the same.
I can imagine how you feel. 8 days in for me. Please hang in there, don't reach out, and stay in NC to improve chances of him coming back but most important for yourself.
Coach Lee can we Please Please Please get a video of NC when your ex is in a relationship during that phase and what to do. There’s people who have been waiting 2 years plus for long lost loves in NC. I’m sure they have moved on but does your ex even think of you at all during that? There’s people who say they’ve come back after a year and even 2. How do we know for sure they will come back or if it’s all hope lost and also Blocking. What do we do when we’ve been blocked by that person and did absolutely nothing wrong or to provoke. Blocking during no contact and them moving on. I really need a segment on just this alone Coach Lee please!!
After being ghosted for 2 months I finally heard from my ex. I thought he was The One. It was a very casual nice check in, a wellness check. We won't be getting back together but at least it was pleasant exchange. Onward and upward.
Coach Lee can you make a video explaining the signs that your ex is probably not ever going to come back? Or signs you should let go and move on? It’s been almost 6 months since the break up, I’ve made basically every mistake in the book, and I was able to go 2 months of NC, broke NC and it’s been an additional month of NC but I’m blocked on literally every single platform.
Wouldn’t it be so much easier if we could just accept the breakup and be able to move on from the ex? Don’t get me wrong, I still have feelings for an ex and would love for him to realize what we had but having to figure out which rules to follow is too much.
That's the beauty of no contact, it puts you in the position to make that choice. Either way, you will come out stronger from it. The only rule you have to follow is: Do nothing! It's a win-win.
would love an episode on what to do when they suggest going on a break. and also an episode on tips to keep emotional attraction during a relationship.
2 years in june, i still love him & miss him so much but I won't ever make contact unless he contacts me, he discarded me , he,s moved on , i wish him happiness everyday now. I,m in my peace and starting my new career 💜⚔⚔⚔⚔🙏🙏
I was able to ask you over Instagram if I should contact my ex since he reached out, asked me out and then he went missing again... I was tempted to do it so since we haven't talked since February 14th (after 9 months of NC) and your answer was everything I needed: "go back to NC". And I'm glad I didn't fall for that and remained with NC after all. Thank you for making this videos, I'm glad I found you right on time ☺️ Keep being awesome ✨
Hello Coach Lee, I’m only 4:10 into this video and my eyes are filled with tears. I left the relationship because of something I felt was she said was disrespectful enough to warrant leaving. I have been in NC and I ain’t so Sure she’s looking for or thinking of me. I have received literally 100 or so calls from various numbers but I don’t answer calls I am not familiar with. It’s been a while since I’ve heard from her last. I just don’t know. I guess the thing here is patients. Huh, I don’t even know what to say at this point.
Hi Coach Lee, I am your long-term fan, and I watched all of your videos. Even tho my Ex and I broke up 6 years ago, and I believed we will probably never get back together again, but I still watch a lot of your videos, because they encourage me. I like how you focus on giving wise advices that would actually work, rather than just sharing tricks and games, like some other coaches out there. One thing that I would like your help with and see you talk about more in your videos is - What could a Dumper who get rejected do to save the relationship? I broke up with him, but soon tried to reconcile with him. He was not buying it, and he moved on to someone else. Your wise advices, again, would be very much appreciated! Thanks and have a nice day! :)
Dear Coach Lee, you videos help me immensely keeping no contact, and by that keeping dignity. I have a request to you: Could you please make a video of no contact in a on/off relationship?
It’s been about 3 weeks since the break up, 2 weeks of NC and I’m staying off Facebook and Instagram. Some days I feel ok, other days I’m super depressed and crying . He gave me the cliché “it’s not you it’s me “ and said we could be friends. He has a massive pornography addiction and said that he needs counseling and to figure out what he wants in life
Thank you Coach Lee, it’s been almost 6 weeks of NC and I know it’s still early. Regardless, having days of struggle but staying strong moving forward. I have no negative feelings toward him because our last text was pleasant. He didn’t want to hurt me. I understand why. I will know what to do if and when I receive text or phone call or see him at same event. Thanks again. I only have good thoughts for him regardless
Was doing good with 23 days of no contact when he reached out wishing me well and saying he still had some of my things, I took coach Lee’s advice and was pleasant and calm saying that I’d like the items back and i hope he’s doing well too, now he hasn’t replied and gosh I’m confused lol. Just gonna go back to no contact but I want my shirt
Ex left after 5 years she wasn’t willing to work on herself I was trying my hardest putting her first and the relationship but clearly her friends are more worth it than trying to fix a 5 year relationship. Been in no contact for 3 months after I gave in when she hmu and wanted a ego stroke for 3 months. It’s hard but guys you’ll get through it I promise I still love my ex and wish things would still work out in a way and at the same time I don’t but that’s what happens when you have feelings that are strong but they will fade stay strong guys and girls please ! You’ll meet you’re partner that will give you you’re all god is only trying new things for you so you can get stronger💪🏻
You make my days better in No Contact. I trust your advice and experience. It's day 43. I've been seeing signs. She keeps seeing my stories and shares stuff here and there, then changes the narrative. But it's good to know that I have an impact. Without your guidance, I wouldn't know how to navigate through this season of my life. Thank you.
I’ve had no contact for almost 2 years. He’d broken up with me before but we always got back together. This last time he left me in the meanest way. Out and out cruel. A month ago I heard my phone ring a few times. That makes me believe what this video said. He was calling me but was afraid and hung up. He knows how badly he behaved. But was missing me. I still think it’s up to him to find the strength to say he’s sorry or show he wants to mend things. We got along so well I thought he was the love of my life.
My ex broke me because he can't forget his ex he still look on her social media ( they break up about 2 years ) and he said he want to be alone. Our relationship is just 3 months but i miss him very much. This is my second time that i was broken. I still remember I watch your videos when my first boyfriend broke me and today I comeback watching your videos again. Thankyou coach Lee you help me moving forward during the hardest times.
Chronic lying, gaslighting to hide his addiction and withholding legal and financial information! Words and actions need to match! Loyalty and Trustworthiness is essential in a healthy relationship
I have been listening to Coach Lee for a few days now and he has given me the strength to stay away. I’m going to do all I can not to make contact. Thank you for helping me at my darkest time.
What do I do if my husband wants to be friends and wants a divorce? I was the cause of the divorce as I nagged and complained too much. He ended getting anxiety and head aches. I gave changed since our separation but he is just over it. Should I accept his friendship and work myself back in?
was waiting for ur upload:) by watching it helps me to be strong~thank u i already feel like hes in his messed up feelings..i last checked his page hes been in depressed mode partying up with his friends my gut feelings tells me hes just showing to make me weak and reach out but i stayed strong now for months now and im keeping myself busy lol. he told me once all his exes reached out to him.... but i wont be like his exes im different 😊
Question. Me and my ex were in a relationship about 5-6 months and we had ups and downs but we had a great emotional Intimacy , and physical. But all of the sudden well not really all of the sudden , he got promoted, he is a Sergeant and supervisor, he told me he can’t be in a relationship at the moment because he can’t give me what I deserve in a relationship because he needs to give all his attention to work but he want to keep me in his life he loves and …. But I told him I won’t stay unless we are in a relationship, I can’t give all the benefits and not be in a relationship. We talked about a few weeks without being in relationship but finally I wished him good luck. Since he is the one can’t be in a relationship, I guess he is the one he broke up with me?
I've been in no contact for 4mos now. He's in a relationship with someone just 3weeks after our break up. We've been together for 5 years. Right now, I feel like they are still having good times with each other and I recently found out he tweeted about him being truly tired with something. I am sure it is about the relationship we had. Because that's what he said when we broke up, he felt so tired and just gave up. Now I'm confused, why is he still remembering and believing his reasons for breaking up with me. I hope you'd reply coach lee.
My advice to you: Try your absolute BEST not to “stalk” your ex. Dont look him/her up for any reason, it wont do you any good. It will amp up your anxiety and depression. Youre supposed to use your time in NC to work on yourself, become a better version of you! Work on those flaws you think you might have! LOVE YOURSELF !! and when that rebound ends, he/she will start looking back at you to see what youre up too, by then you’ll be new and improved. Take it from me, im 6 months separated with me ex. I used to check their social media’s every single day for 3 months straight and every time it got me lower and lower into misery. Be kind to your heart and give it a rest, it’s now been 2 and a half months since i even been on social media and im in a better place now when im not shaking with anxiety anymore. Out of sight, out of mind! (to help your mental health) you got this ! If all else doesnt go your way, you will eventually find someone BETTER ! Have faith !
There’s a lot of things your ex could be tired about unless he has specifically mentioned being tired about something in relation to you then just assume he could be tired with work, their new partner or money situations you never know. Stay strong! Me and my ex have been split for 3 weeks and 3 months and today was the first day she came to mine to see me, NC does work.
I broke up with her because she would lash out and take out her anger and frustration of what she dealt with at home on me so I left. fast forward 3 months I go to pick up my stuff and she wants me back but i tell her im not ready (i started seeing someone new) but it was a rebound and i messed up now i told her last november of 2021 i'd like to try again and she was open to it, but next thing you know she goes silent and starts to act cold on me. So now I'm going no contact and not going to hold my breath waiting for her to come back.💯🙏🏿
Really difficult to keep interactions positive when they refuse to be accountable for their actions which caused the breakup, kinda feels like the elephant in the room? How do you deal with that and move forward without resentment?
He didn’t truly hear me. The same man who once told me he loved me the most turned his back when I needed him. I was vulnerable-I cried in front of him, I begged, I did everything I could to make him understand. But he remained distant and didn’t respond. Eventually, I told him, ‘You’ll hear from me only when you contact me.’ And even though I didn’t know how I’d manage it, I decided not to reach out. Those first days were unbearable, but then I found Coach Lee’s videos. Every time I cried, I’d watch his advice on repeat. Slowly, it got me through, and here I am, 20 days in, feeling stronger. I truly believe he’ll come back someday. I haven’t reached out, and I never said anything cruel or hurtful-I kept my dignity. I know I’m the prize. I was always loyal, honest, and fully invested. He wanted to marry me, but when things got real, he panicked and broke up, calling me ‘too emotional.’ Looking back, I can see my strength. I remained true to myself, and that’s something he will eventually recognize, even if it takes time. Thanks Coach Lee ❤
Two months later I found out he was hurt that I didn’t reach out and he was actually a bit angry. He thought that because I didn’t, I didn’t care and he thought I would, “stick around”. Honestly this completely confused me. He said he didn’t feel the same about me and I didn’t call anymore. We are now seeing each other again, but he’s still a bit confusing. (As in getting close and pulling away)
No girl leave him. If you allow him to come back he has to earn that place again. Because your relationship is gonna start becoming as on and off if you let it happen. It happened to me he told me the same shit. Because as soon as he saw i could’ve get away from him for so long he got mad, he told me he didn’t want to lose me, he took me on dates, slept with me, called me baby etc etc. And then he started being inconsistent in a few days. Leaving me all confused and with uncertainty. No don’t let him come back they’re gonna play with you at the end telling you they don’t see a future with you.
I’m telling you, I got tired of his inconsistency and I had to break up with him, after he telling me he loved me and wanted to have plans with me in the future he told me the next day, you’re not my girl and I don’t see my future with you.
Today was day 63 (9 weeks) of no contact, I casually reached out to my stubborn ex by sending a text. I got a rather warm reply from him about 2 hours later. He said sorry for not reaching out and that he felt like he didn't deserve to speak to me after the way things ended, which as far as breakups go, was extremely mild (no fighting, no pleading, immediately went into no contact). He said he was grateful that I reached out and asked how I was doing. I responded very politely and casually and ended the convo. We will see if things progress any further!
@@davidocchetti5572 we met up in person the other day to exchange belongings and had a really nice conversation. I kept the convo going by text afterward and suggested we catch up on a hike next week, he said "that would be nice!"
@@krose4601 He said he'd reach out to set up a hike but never did. Got a happy birthday message about two weeks ago but nothing else. His mom messages me often and asked if we could meet up for a walk so I we did. Nothing has really happened. 🤷♀️
I broke NC after the end of January yesterday. Wehad been together 5 years and he blindsided dumpedme January 26.He was driving in front of me in traffic so I caved and called him. He actually answered and we talked for a few minutes then he asked how I'd been. I said it's been difficult,he said I know. I then said I wish we could talk things out and he just stopped me and said "we're not going down this road. I'm going to be alonefor however long that takes. I work a lot to keep me busy and I go to the bar a couple of nights a week." I knew that he was doing that. I asked if he had someone else and he said absolutely not and that's when he told me about the being alone. I'm telling you he is the 2% stubborn ex that can hold out and never contact again. I sent him a final text last night that it was good to talk to him even if it was only for a bit. Of course no response.... I had some hope of maybe us reconnecting at some point but I just don't see it now. Damn this is so hard...😪 and I have been thru divorce that hurt less.
No contact really does work, Coach Lee. After like a year my ex reached out to me, asking me to return her not-so-important stuff but she said she can't be there to take her stuff back, so she instead let her friend, who I also know well, take it from me. I don't know man, if she really wanted and if she's not the one to take the stuff back why reach out to me? She could have just let her friend do that. But anyway, it doesn't matter now or what mind games she was playing cuz I don't wanna go back to that old relationship again. I'm better off
Hey ex, if you read this, just know that I've moved on and I don't want to be with you again. I'm tired of fighting and arguing all the time, tired of trying to fix the relationship over and over again, tired of taking all the blame. I deserve better!
I totally agree. If you ex reaches out answer them if you want them back. Nobody is going to expose themselves with a substantial text. Answer and see what comes. It’s nonsense to say wait for a substantial text. I wouldn’t bare my soul on a text to begin with would you? I’d test the water first to see if they respond and if they do I’d ask to see them Like a mature adult.
Yes, I did the BAD thing and we had an awful argument and I said horrible/hateful things... and I have apologized 1000 times for it. Even went to her church, kneeled down at her churches altar and begged God for forgiveness. She saw the Grand Gesture of me doing that. Also, took her to a weekend vaca, and after that she says, "Well gotta go home now, BTW you're a great kisser..." and when she left I felt used and something to "hey thanks, see ya!" Also, spending money like crazy... that's when I broke it off, no money, no nothing... funny, all of a sudden she stopped coming around, calling or texting me... so i went No Contact... been two months... so i did try after i did the bad thing...
I was the toxic one in the relationship and he left me , we had alot of good times also and he was my best friend he said I was his also , he said he wanted to not be in a relationship anymore , he said it was just too much , I’m giving him space but I want to know if I should try and fix things since I was the toxic one ?? I am doing therapy now and i am a better person
I'm a person who has commented on your videos about 6 months ago btw. Your advice worked, I did two 3 month periods of no contact but all she ever offered was breadcrumbs. I guess it's hard with a kid. She doesn't have any other place to live really and I don't have one for her kid and her to live in either
Day #33: The temptation is real. still hasn’t reached me out. Trying to do my best but cannot move on. She still has our favourite song on her bio(I dont get it). Greetings to the coach. He is the best.
Coach, You saved my life literally. My girl broke up with me after 5 years of relationship. I was suicidal. I just want to take my motorcycle and crush and be over with. I was crying, sobbing for days. I probably will be not writing this to you if I didnt find your videos. I watched a lot of your videos day after day after day. You give me peace. Im so appreciate for this. I just started “no contact “ advice from you. Im stronger now and Im working on myself. I eat healthy, I exercise a lot. My heart is broken but I believe now that it will heal over time. I bought your emergency kit in appreciation for all your work. Thank you again. I will never forget what you have done for me.
I am going through NC right now for 21 days but I haven't seen my ex since (April 5th) we were messing around after she broke up with me. Stay strong. It is easier said than done but focus on you now. I am making a life changing move currently so I am excited and nervous about that.
She has viewed all of my stories on Instagram and liked one of them (the stories have ranged from playing golf with friends to Grateful messages about my dogs that have passed years ago.)
I am fighting myself each day with reminders of us and it hurts. We have to trust the process and just focus on ourselves at this point
I know it’s only been 3 months since you posted this, but I hope you’re doing better. 🙏
Nobody is worth taking your life over.
Just someone advice me pls . My wife left me 2 months ago and refusing to talk and get back together or trying to make this marriage works . She keep saying that she dont love me anymore , and she will never be with me again at all. She keep repeating that pla stay far from me and my life dont let me hurt you more !! Wtf i must do ???!!!!!
I'm going the same thing now after being with her 20 yrs. I understand your pain, I had 2 get on medication just to cope. I feel lost....
If you’re hurting now and want your ex back and think you 2 can work things out TRUST THIS MAN! He knows what he’s talking about. My ex and I broke up last year and got back together like 6 months later and things are great now
For real?
@@jajahMantes for real
@@davidismetal10 but I am hopeless 😭
I wanted him back, he said he lost his feelings.. After 3 months of breakup he blocked me
@@jajahMantes follow the no contact well, block him back however hurting it is and disconnect him from all your socials, trust me it works works
@@gloriandagano1258 whats the reason of your break up?
I really felt hopeless 😢
This guy has the patience of a saint. I know how I am when I am going through heartache. It's like all sence leaves me and all I can concentrate is on the heartache. Listen to this guy. He has helped me many times.
Not sure why I’m watching this video as it isn’t relevant to me anymore. Been in NC since May 2021 and I don’t want my ex back at all anymore. I hope he’s found the one for him and is living his best life. Coach Lee was right about NC working. I am a completely different person than the person I was when my ex and I broke up, and I wouldn’t be who I am today without the breakup. I am the happiest I’ve ever been and I am living the life I’ve always wanted. Thank you so much for creating these videos, Coach Lee. They helped to keep me moving forward during the hardest times of my life.
It's been 50 days of No Contact and she DID reach out. Thank you so much coach for making me stronger each day, not giving up on No Contact. ❤
how did it go?
@@louise2528 it's complicated to talk about it but besically we talk with each other time to time. Sometimes there's a spark, sometimes i feel like she is ignoring me and i don't know why so i ended up not reaching out so if she needs me, she's going to text instead of me. We don't know if we want to go back together but at the same we need each other. That's why it's complicated, we don't know what to do and we don't want to rush things cause that would do nothing so right now i wait for the summer break. It feels wonderful when she contacts me so yeah basically we have mini no contacts between messages.
@@Pepsiisgood How are things now, any updates?
@@vanqz5692 She said she is missing me, she frequently talks to me now, which feels good, we talked about the whole situation and we come to a conclusion that we love each other no matter what but we're affraid to be a couple. It's currently the best outcome since the break up, because I feel like I can talk naturally with her, and don't have to rethink every sentence I say. We did not argue since February, and I feel like she acts really careful not to hurt me any longer which I respect. I told that to her once the inflation ends, I will visit her for a week.
@@Pepsiisgood First of all thank you so much for the reply, I'm currently only on day 14 of NC and it has been a real struggle with constant thoughts of giving up. Your comment has really helped me remain focused and continue to trust in the process. I hope both of you will find what you're looking for and I wish you guys the best!
So funny watching this today. I picked up my phone this morning to a text from my ex after six months of NC. I was strong through all the holidays, his birthday, his kids birthdays, major life successes. I stayed silent. When I saw him publicly, I stayed silent. The reach out wasn’t a grand gesture. I think it was a temp check text but still, I won. I think after a couple of days I’ll text back and tell him I’m happy he’s alive and hopefully doing well and that’s it. If he wants to say more, he can but it’s not my place.
Strength displayed. .. I applaud you
Coach Lee recommends not ignoring them when they reach out IF you want them back… but be guarded.
@@rhondavocht6129 I know. I was just going to say ‘glad you’re alive. Hope you’re doing well’
Happy for you Chrissy. Stay strong though. Care for your feelings, your heart, love yourself a little.
I think you just say “hope you’re well” rather than saying “ im glad you’re alive” because it would seem like you had been waiting and noticing his silence for six months.
21 days NC...going insane...watching your videos for strength and focus...its the hardest thing I have ever done in my life
How’d you do?
Coach Lee, you have been a rock. I've watched your videos. No Contact was painful but it works. After 8 months of No Contact he has reached out with a text. I responded to him. We've had a friendly walk since and he's asked if we walk and have dinner again. Thankyou Coach Lee
I love you so much. Thank you for the positive feedback. Keep us in the loop. God Bless you.
Hello dear. Thank you for sharing. It has been 5 months since my ex broke us up. He did reach out after two months of NC. I am wondering how has your ex's journey been since your initial contact after the 8 months of NC.
THANK YOU! ❤️ Ive watched most of your videos, and followed everything you said. And IT WORKED. I got my ex back! There was 3 weeks of no contact. He started contacting me, i kept my cool. Then he started pursuing me again, going on dates, but i kept it casual. Its been 3 months since the breakup, and he is nearly begging to get back with me. I agreed to take things slow. Hes become obsessed with me, and our love is stronger than before. Hes told me im the woman for him and he realized how he never wants to lose me, will do anything not to lose me. There were many hard nights, I mentally moved on, and it worked. Thank you Coach Lee. You have the best coaching advice ❤️
I love you for this positive feedback. Please pray Heather comes back to me. She's tried indirect contact and I can't except that.
What was the reason he gave for the breakup?
Hey girly can you please help me with advice on Instagram? Did you guys follow each other? And did you post so he could see? I honestly felt so much better when I disabled my account bc I avoided that stomach knotting EVERY TIME I logged on, but advice says to stay friends and online! Help! What advice do you have or what did you do?
Initially he said he needs time to focus on himself and his career and he felt he couldnt give me the attention i needed.also gave a few other reasons after time. I didnt agree with any of it but i just played cool. Then later after getting back together i got the real answer. He told me he felt like i wasn't being as nice to him. He gave me some examples and i agreed. He told me he felt like it wasnt going anywhere and that i didnt really love him that much. So he didnt see a point anymore
@@juliannewilridge3799 Hi girl, can you help me with some advice please? I wrote it right above your most recent response. It's about the social media! Just torn and need someone's advice🌸
I broke up 6 months ago and this is my advice:
I would really give you guys the advice of ACCEPTING that it is over. I constantly watched these video’s and focused on my ex. I know she is still attracted to me (we had sex a few weeks ago) after that she still said she isn’t ready to start over again. Since that time i just accepted we aren’t going to work out. Since then i feel really free and I can forget her way better.
So stop focussing on them too much and accept that its over. If they really wan’t you back they will tell you. Otherwise stay in No Contact and heal.
Wish you all the best
This might be my favorite video from Coach Lee. Very encouraging and good to hear. This man is a saint
I bought his kit. He’s the best. No contact worked twice. This time we’re going to slow way the f down before this starts going again. Anyway, he’s the best and had the best advice. It works. Just surprising how it actually did work.
@Max Pain Right, same woman. I think we went back to before too fast. I think we needed to start a new relationship, not the same one. It just didn’t work the way it was. So this time, she’s already reached out. The first time, it was about a month. This time it was 4 months and with her phone blocked for 4 months. And it just happens suddenly after no contact. I’m going to take it very slowly this time. Have more fun and date her more, instead of living the husband/wife thing. Less going to her house, more going out with her and doing fun things with her.
But if it doesn’t work this time, I’ll have good memories and date someone else. I can’t just keep doing this with her. She’s messed up too, from this. Right now, I’m taking my time replying to her text. And it was complaining a little about me and telling me she found a couple pieces of my clothing at her house. And a promise ring I have her is in the photo she sent with the text. But she’s not asking me to pick it up. She’s just telling me she flung it when she moved to her new house. Why? Why tell me? Answer, she wants to talk and is testing the waters. She made me so mad though, that I’ve been slow to respond. But we’ve been through this before, so I am ignoring her a bit, even though Coach Lee says not to do that. And he’s probably correct, even in this case and circumstances. But I just don’t care. If she’s receptive when I decide to text her, ok, and if not, ok. Because it’s the 2nd time, I just don’t feel the same stresses as last time. But I want this smoothed out the 3rd time we try this. If not, I’m done. I don’t want to make another effort.
And I think the first time, we got back together to soon. What I mean is, it would have been better to have been separated with no contact longer. This time, 4 months was good, it gave me enough time to be alone. And hopefully she’s had enough time alone. Hope it helps. Take care
I like the different angle you put on this one! You are by far the best coach on this topic and I listened to you the whole way through my br-up and ignored the obvious lesser experienced YT videos by others. Gladly he did reach out after 43 days and things are going really well, which I hope continue. I will be forever thankful to you Coach Lee!
congrats Bella...hi...could you please share a little how he reached out and how you handled the texts or calls...you know....the transition to where you are now. thanks
@@annerivas1155 Hi Anne, I stayed in complete no silence after the br-up, having sent the short wish you well text just at the start. This meant ignoring birthdays, events we were meant to be at together etc too. He texted out of the blue just a casual one sentence. I replied a couple of hours later saying good to hear from him and hoped he was well. He then immediately suggested meeting. I was surprised by that.
I used CL advice of not to give back too soon and said I’d be happy to chat on the phone sometime. I didn’t refer to the meet up suggestion as felt it was a bit quick without anything first. He was then quiet for about 6 days and then asked when we could chat. I had zero intention of contacting him until he did. The call then ended up being several hours on the phone with him explaining in detail the things he’d realised and how much wanted back. ESP WHEN NOT HEARING FROM ME. I gave the phrase of ‘I’m open to that but I need to take it slow.’ This was weeks ago now and I’m still a bit reserved but our flow is almost back but actually in a way better place. He’s been far more attentive and buying me things, taking me new places, which shows he’s chasing. We used to see each other a lot but I’ve kept it a bit less and having my own interests. The split was good as a reset.
I really hope you get what you want in your situation. I know I was at a place of being totally uncertain in whether I’d hear from him and had grown to accept that. It was when I was at the point of being okay with it either way that I heard from him. I think it’s maybe important that happens. I’d done daily visualisations of myself being happy and maybe it gave out good vibes if you believe in that😂😂 You’ll be fine whatever happens but I send you hope. Patience is often key and everyone’s timing be different. It may take longer but no contact always your best support.
I am very happy for you, good luck! I am in day 26...
@@bellaleenat6096 How long were you together before the break up?
@@soio9879 1 and half years x
So I did NC after a breakup that was not too bad, 45 days later meeting her tomorrow. It works, trust the process. She acts like getting back together is going to be easy… it won’t be. Take care
Did she break up with you?
Today is my 100th day of No Contact! If she comes back, awesome. If she doesnt, I am legitimately a whole new person and way more successful than I ever was. Been a long, painful road, and I am content either way now
Wow … that’s a great attitude.
I am just still in the confusion stage… he did no contact about a year ago. But I messaged him on email for a long time … probably over 100 times . He blocked me from everything. But when I emailed him , I said things like “ I’m moving forward, and I don’t want to wait and then I would say “ I love him and miss him”
I’m sure I confused him a lot . But I was so hurt … now I haven’t done anything….
Great support for those who have found the strength to stay put and let go of someone we really cared for, probably one of the hardest things to do in life. Always BEST advice here, thanks Coach ♥️
Coach Lee is the best. I'm only a few days into no contact. I was having a moment of weakness and felt like crying I opened up TH-cam and saw this new video. I can't tell you how much you've helped me I've watched so many of your videos thank you so much!!!
my ex message me again after nearly a year of breaking up with me, i didnt chase or beg before, never curse or said ill words, i just shut down any communications. Now, she said pls keep you lines open and i want u to know im still breaking... Funny thing was about 3 months ago she was in a relationship with someone. As for me, im into healing process, and realized i have nothing to offer more, that 8 year-relationship with her broke me painfully and i accepted that it will be hard to consider to go back to the person who disrespected me
Isn't that the hardest.., when we are half way healed, and they decide to pop up and test and see if we are okay with them?!? That'll be a hard one to decide, the disrespect pill is the worst to swallow... Good Luck, I hope you figure out the best for yourself and don't get hurt!
Hi Lee, Great video. I believe in NO CONTACT, and always did. This gives them a chance to think and miss you. STILL THE BEST!
@@zackhudson5172 HI Zack..ha, ha.. No, I'm not a country girl.
Thank you so much for this video Coach Lee ❤️ I’ve been struggling a lot with no contact, so seeing this video now gives me strength and hope to keep going, stay no contact and good things will come my way.
Don’t blow it. I’ve never commented on his stuff. I got the kit and listened to his videos. They helped a lot. Anyway, don’t cheat on no contact. It will get better. And no contact worked twice! But I didn’t make any mistakes once I went into no contact. One day, I saw her walking. I lost my mind for a second. I almost pulled over to talk to her, we live in a big city. But I didn’t. It would have felt good for a moment, but it wouldn’t have went the way I wanted. So I just sucked it up. Don’t blow it, no matter what. Follow what the guy says, and watch his videos. It will get better. I feel for you though. I was there twice!
@@ericparker3432 Thank you so much 🤗 it's really nice to feel like I'm not the only one on this journey
@Angela García Sure, I’m finished with it. But it’s not fun. So just focus on you, exercise and do whatever you have to do. But do not mess up no contact. If you make a mistake, you’ll have to start all over again. And you’re chances of winning will go down a bit. And though you’re struggling now, later you’ll feel better and you may not even want this guy back. There are lots of other ones.
But if you’re dead set on succeeding with this, then don’t screw up no matter what. No sad comments on your socials, don’t ask friends how he’s doing, and don’t make any mistakes. And there will be times when you can feel like you’re going to make a mistake. Watch another Coach Lee video until it goes away. And don’t dwell in it and don’t go by his house or where you might see him. Just avoid. This second time we broke up. She reached out after 120 days!
And this second time, I wasn’t having a super hard time like the first time. I kind of thought that I’d never hear from her ever again. And it’ll be when you’re completely over it, or feeling like yourself again before you met this guy, not perfect, but doing pretty well. No anxiety. I’d like wake up sweating because of anxiety, sometimes. Kept waking up every couple of hours.
So if nothing else you get from my messages, and as I said, I’ve never ever written these messages before. I never commented on his videos before. But I did, and then I just commented on your message only. But if you get nothing else out of it, do not blow no contact. Sometimes I wanted to go where I might have a chance just to see her Range Rover go by, but I thought ‘this is soooo immature and stupid.’ And so I just said ‘another day’ but not today. Tell yourself things like that when you’re in a down time. Just say, another day but not today. That should see you through.
And he’s right, you have time. She actually may have been even in a rebound, just to get through the pain of it. But I don’t know yet. I’m kind of taking my time to contact her because she reached out, but this is the second time.
She blocked my phone and her profile and everting disappeared. My last messages were unread for 4 months.
Suddenly it was unblocked and she sent a picture of some things I left at her house, and a promise ring I gave her. And she texted a bit about that and complained a little about me. But to go from blocking for 4 months to that, I’m in. I won. And I’ll move on her slowly.
And remember what Lee says about that too. Don’t go to fast if the guy contacts you. Play it very very cool. If he’s contacting you it’s going to be going the way you want. If you give in quickly then you’ll F it up in the long term, and you’ll be back in the same place. In my case, I don’t even know if I really want her back. I just like winning, the physiological win.
Anyway, you should watch as many videos of his as you can, Coach Lee’s. If you watch enough of them, you’re going to be in the right place, even if this relationship does come back together. But don’t get me wrong, every situation is different, but if you follow what he’s telling you and do no contact correctly, you’ll have your best chance. And if and when it happens, you’ll just be like ‘I can’t believe it worked!’
He had a video about mistakes with no contact. Watch that. They are common sense things. But people do stupid things out of emotion, or just not thinking. It’s funny too! It’ll cheer you up. Anyway, as bad as it seems right now, it will get better.
Something I did that he didn’t talk about was I thought to myself ‘Everyone is in play including her. She’s a moving target (he does talk about moving targets, that part was his, but the rest was mine.) but I just kept saying to myself she’s in play along with every other woman and so it’s going to be fine.
Anyway, I’m going to go. I typed more than I planned on. I’m not going to help another person out. But I helped you. I did one.
So don’t mess up. Remember I took the time. You need to follow what I’m telling you. I felt from what you were saying that you were having a hard time.
But like he says the hard times are where it’s really paying off. It’s not paying off during the easy times and when it’s easy. Just keep listening to his videos. Finally, after a lot of them, you feel well rounded and knowledgeable. Then you’ll begin to feel better..Then just when you’re feeling good. And you’ve kind of accepted that nothing has happened, but you’re feeling good, you’ll get a text. It’s shocking when it happens. But stay cool, no matter how excited you are. As he says, no contact is not a game and dealing with the person after no contact isn’t a game. But, when you respond to that first text, you need to be cool. You need to stay cool. And right now, you’re probably nowhere near where you need to be to be cool. You’re emotional and you need to work on you. Even if the guy came back today, you’re not ready to deal with it emotionally and to be successful. After this temporary time alone, you’ll be ready. You’ll see I’m right.
So just be cool right now, watch his stuff, there’s a bunch of videos, and don’t blow no contact. It’s so important not to mess up. But no one can do it but you. Ok, I’ll go. This is probably the last you’ll hear from me. But I hope I impacted you enough for you not to screw up. If you screw up, you’re going to feel better maybe for 1 minute, then it’s not going to go the way you wanted and you’ve just decreased your chances and in increased your hell. Ok bye, you’re going to be fine. Watch the videos. Don’t screw up. The worst that will happen is you get him back, or someone even better. His videos are good and he really knows how to talk about it. And you can tell he loves what he does. Stay cool. Don’t mess up. Bye
Hey Coach Lee. I just want you to know that regardless of what happens, I am SO grateful I've discovered your channel. You're helping me through the most difficult and painful time. Hopefully we can talk one-on-one one of these days.
How long have you been in no contact?
@@YessyCosmox3 A day lol. This is long, I'm sorry. But if you're willing to read, I appreciate it. It's not the first attempt at no contact. I recently blew no contact. He asked me if I wanted to go for a walk and so a couple days ago, we went for a walk. Everything was going well until he said "you're gonna make someone incredibly happy." He's been with his new girlfriend for 6 months. But he got with her so soon after breaking it off with me, like a few weeks. At first we were hanging out still, but then I wanted to take a break from each other and that lasted a month. And since then, we've texted every now and then and we went for a walk a few weeks ago (my first time seeing him in a few months, i was so nervous) It went well. After both walks, I just feel like there's still something there. The way he looks at me and smiles at me, the long tight hugs, and he was even being a little flirty this last time, etc. So we were texting after the walk a couple days ago and I said I just can't settle for friendship and can't hang out. I've been watching a lot of Coach Lee's videos and took his advice and he's right. It's too hard to hang out with an ex as friends. And I texted my ex that I respect him and his relationship but I think he and I are great together, and he's making a big mistake. And if he ever changes his mind, he knows where to find me. I might still be available (I really don't want to move on.) And what makes it better is that we're still on amicable terms. There's no anger, and he understands and respects me too. So now, I'm serious this time. No contact. I start my new job tomorrow and Im going to focus on that for now. I WILL NOT BREAK NO CONTACT.
Good luck this time
I am so glad I found this channel. I am now on day 8 of my breakup and day 1 of no contact, would have started yesterday but I had to go to his place to get my belongings bc we shared a home. watching this channel before bed keeps me from crying myself to sleep at night. 🥺
This is excellent stuff, especially the advice not to ignore them if they reach out, but respond casually and politely. I went through a really terrible breakup about a month ago, we both said some very cruel things in a bad emotional fight. My birthday was about a week later, and she texted me that morning with "happy birthday." I responded with "thanks." A few days later I wrote her an email just to own my part in the emotional hurt. I wasn't asking to get back together, there was no begging, pleading or blaming of any kind. I just took accountability for the cruel things I had said without mentioning any of her actions. A couple of days later she wrote back, thanked me for my honesty and courage, and said she doesn't know where that leaves the relationship but "there is no rush to figure that out." Since then we've been in no contact for 12 days. I took her "no rush" message to mean she knows it is up to her to reach out. I'm using no contact to work on myself, get better, let go, and heal the wounds, but I still think about her all the time. Sticking with it though, because I know there is absolutely nothing I could do or say that would be more effective than giving her space and working on me.
How did that go?
@@vorbis4860 We've both moved on. I'm happy with it.
I cant handle the constant pain anymore, i just wait for time to pass and go to sleep and then repeat. I hope things will get better.
Four months into no contact and since he moved away across the globe for three years for a job. Minus the times he kept texting every week and sometimes multiple times a week. I still think of him everyday. I will find someone who actually wants to be with me. Hang in there everyone it does get much better as time passes. Even if it feels like the pain is not going to end it will lighten up and you will continue your daily life. I listen to Coach Lee he knows what he is doing he gives great advice! Forgive but never forget and stay humble. ♥️
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Sorry to hear that . I’m in this situation too . My ex boyfriend left for no reason . He was my love , my partner and my best friend. I still love him so much . I pray everyday at least to talk one time more with him . Sometimes I feel like do I want him back if he left he can leave again .
I've been in no contact 114 days, he's in another relationship of almost 2 months now, seems like he's more loved up publicly with her than he ever was with me... It is so hard! Thanks for the video, needed that!
They’re in another relationship for 2 months so are you willing to go back to them?
I would move on ur beautiful and you literally can have any guy u want!
@@mattl1962 True, I guess it's that fear of never speaking again, I'd like to hope we would even on friendly terms, I just don't feel anyone could ever make me feel that loved again, it's so rare.
@@crystalmorris6853 That's so sweet of you to say, thank you! If only we saw what others see in us
Stay strong emma!
This dude is a master at this stuff man, godbless you brother!!!
We really had an incredible connection with this man but due to issues in him I decided to give him a break. 2 weeks I beg, I pleaded but since I saw this videos of coach lee it wakes me up. I tried NCR yesterday and my ex didn't even lasted for 24 hours. In the morning he sent me a picture with a sunset whom I love so much with the message "You are always inside of me". I responded in a cool way just like this coach said and this evening he message me " Good night I'm sorry, I miss you sleep well my girl". I responded late but in a cool way. It's difficult because he doesn't want me back yet but I'm following every steps of what coach lee said. It's hard but the table upside down when I did NC. It works! I'll update!
Update?
Update?
I love what you said! Their actions have consequences
Awesome Video coach Lee!
I am seven weeks into the break up. Only two weeks of no contact. This is my third time of starting over with NC 🤦♂️. Yes I did the normal screw ups. I’m not doing that again. Guys hang in there I have already seen change in her,but I didn’t know what to do at the time. I found coach Lee a few weeks ago,and glad I did. It has turned me around for the better. 👍
Wow I caved and broke NC yesterday after 2 months. I was feeling like a failure for doing it but I see that it just happens sometimes. Here's to our healing and moving on, with or without our exes. It is hard🙏
I can attest to that, broke NC twice ig and I'm currently into a week rn, she's with her ex, but I'm focusing on myself to become better than the version of myself in the first two weeks of the breakup
This fella knows his stuff. Take it on board.
I am on No contact Rule now , its the 2nd week and it is bad , i mean REALLY BAD , hurts like hell but this guy Coach Lee , he is a master for these things, i am respecting his video advices so I hope it will be what Coach Lee is saying.
I’ve given up completely on my Ex, I just can’t see any future with her, so I’m moving on.
Holy shit my ex just reached out as I got to the end of the video, it was 55 days of NC
Congrats! This gives me hope 🙏🏼 on day 49. How did it go?
@@hm3622how did it go?
I got the Breakup kit, Went on calls and now my ex and I are starting slow. it took 7 months, now im just worried about moving to fast or slow. Thank you Lee and Ken!!
Move slowly , be mysterious. I have been in this situation .
Ken is awesome too!
Are calls with coach lee included in the emergency breakup kit ?
Are coaching calls open? Thanks
@@dehlarose7160 I am wondering too !
I'll be really happy if she reaches out. Going to adhere to no contact strictly. It's day 9. I sometimes feel so disheartened thinking she deserted me. We were so close. Let's hope for the best. No contact seems the best way to increase the chances of her approaching me and -- if she doesn't -- to help myself by being familiar with her absence.
I reached out to mine after 56 days, the fun zone 😁 thinking she's probably not going to contact me fearing I'll reject her or go on some tirade. She responded immediately and apologized profusely. I just played it cool, polite, happy and no terms of endearment. Didn't ask to meet her, might do that in a fortnight, I'll just let her brood for a bit hehe. So what I'm getting at is they might want to reach out but just plain scared of being ignored. So there's that factor.
I usually don't think men should do the No Contact thing, especially if they're sure the woman would take them back, coz WOMEN EXPECT THE MEN TO PURSUE THEM, usually, to contact them. I'm not sure, but from my experience I'll always wait for the guy to contact me, and if he doesnt, I'm thinking hes not interested. Remember women also making the NO CONTACT. All the best.
@@dragonskulle7283 she dumped me for 2 weeks now , Idk if i should reach to her or she will reach to me , it was a messy breakup with swearing and shouting to eachother . after some hours i said that we both crossed the line and we weren’t ourselves in that situation , i said sorry for all bad words. and she didnt respond anymore , 2 weeks and counting …
@@dragonskulle7283 Thank you for your response. I will consider reaching out to her after I have followed NC for around 2 months, as suggested by Coach Lee and attested by your example. I hope she reaches out before that.
same bro
I started watching the videos months ago, guys it still stings but you get better over time.
How you said, you didnt even know we were friends, with a straight face is absolutely astonishing. I laughed my ass off
My ex and I had a great short term relationship. I had a trigger response and hastily broke up with him. I felt all the symptoms coach Lee has said. My ex went no contact with me and then when we did speak he broke up with me, I had already knew my decision was wrong. But I as the the one who broke up first instantly did everything coach lee had describe (before I even knew who coach lee was). With that to say now that he broke up with me I have to give him time - we were great together so I hope that he quickly sees that and comes back I feel like our relationship would be even stronger going through this early instead of later.
Same story ...
Let me know what happend oke? ...
Goodluck❤ hope you 2 find each other again
I'm getting comfort watching all your videos coach Lee. It helps me a lot to move forward. My bf for 2 years ghosted me and blocked me. It's been 3 weeks now. I feel like I'm drowning with a lot of pain and emotions right now. That missing part is more painful than what he did to me. 💔
I am so sorry. I hope you feel better soon! Stay strong
Any update? ❤
@@jiachen8353 thank you ♥️
Two months of No contact, I entered no contact 5 days after the day we broke up, in those days I made the mistake to beg and please because I hadn’t discovered coach lee yet. Now I feel stronger but I still want my ex back. This is my first break up, I hope that this situation will be better in the future
It's been 7 days NC and I don't really know what to feel. Some moments I have so much hope, but others none at all. Our 4 year relationship had its share of almost-breakups when he tried to end things, but through desperation, pursuasion and maybe even guilting him, I held us together. We were best friends, lived together, shared great times and memories, but he never was able to say with confidence that he loved me. I felt I was giving everything I had to build our lives and make him happy. When we broke up, he told me he couldnt see a happy future with me and felt he couldnt grow as a person when I was around, that he wasn't ready for a relationship right now. He asked for more space than I was willing to give while we were together, so I can only hope NC will make him realize my value to him. Maybe it's just a low point right now, but everything is telling me I will not hear from him again...
Hi , its been 6 days since I broke up too. I feel you...
any update ?
@@fer08510 still in NC, I don't intend to reach out. Never heard from him again, I don't expect to. He and the life I lost haunt my dreams and even though I've put the pieces of my heart back together, it doesn't work the same.
I can imagine how you feel. 8 days in for me. Please hang in there, don't reach out, and stay in NC to improve chances of him coming back but most important for yourself.
Thank you for all your time, your message means so much to me and I enjoy the sound of your voice
Coach Lee can we Please Please Please get a video of NC when your ex is in a relationship during that phase and what to do. There’s people who have been waiting 2 years plus for long lost loves in NC. I’m sure they have moved on but does your ex even think of you at all during that? There’s people who say they’ve come back after a year and even 2. How do we know for sure they will come back or if it’s all hope lost and also Blocking. What do we do when we’ve been blocked by that person and did absolutely nothing wrong or to provoke. Blocking during no contact and them moving on. I really need a segment on just this alone Coach Lee please!!
After being ghosted for 2 months I finally heard from my ex. I thought he was The One. It was a very casual nice check in, a wellness check. We won't be getting back together but at least it was pleasant exchange. Onward and upward.
Ghosting is the ultimate disrespect! So cowardly, i would even entertain a person like that what a rat
Please could you do one of these from the dumper perspective but them also going straight into a rebound relationship? Loving the insight.
I would like to hear that one also C-Lee
Coach Lee can you make a video explaining the signs that your ex is probably not ever going to come back? Or signs you should let go and move on? It’s been almost 6 months since the break up, I’ve made basically every mistake in the book, and I was able to go 2 months of NC, broke NC and it’s been an additional month of NC but I’m blocked on literally every single platform.
just passed 6 weeks of NC. No signs at all. the struggle is real.
I’m on 12 weeks with dead silence. It gets easier. Just keep working on yourself!
On day 93 of no contact, followed all of your advice since the beginning, I think i’ve lost all hope.
Wouldn’t it be so much easier if we could just accept the breakup and be able to move on from the ex? Don’t get me wrong, I still have feelings for an ex and would love for him to realize what we had but having to figure out which rules to follow is too much.
That's the beauty of no contact, it puts you in the position to make that choice. Either way, you will come out stronger from it. The only rule you have to follow is: Do nothing! It's a win-win.
would love an episode on what to do when they suggest going on a break. and also an episode on tips to keep emotional attraction during a relationship.
2 years in june, i still love him & miss him so much but I won't ever make contact unless he contacts me, he discarded me , he,s moved on , i wish him happiness everyday now. I,m in my peace and starting my new career 💜⚔⚔⚔⚔🙏🙏
That’s how I want to feel 🙏🙏🙏 I want to feel peace ….I was discarded also …..
I was able to ask you over Instagram if I should contact my ex since he reached out, asked me out and then he went missing again... I was tempted to do it so since we haven't talked since February 14th (after 9 months of NC) and your answer was everything I needed: "go back to NC". And I'm glad I didn't fall for that and remained with NC after all. Thank you for making this videos, I'm glad I found you right on time ☺️
Keep being awesome ✨
You are the best Coach I have ever listened to. Your work is on point! Thank you for what you do!
Hello Coach Lee,
I’m only 4:10 into this video and my eyes are filled with tears. I left the relationship because of something I felt was she said was disrespectful enough to warrant leaving. I have been in NC and I ain’t so Sure she’s looking for or thinking of me. I have received literally 100 or so calls from various numbers but I don’t answer calls I am not familiar with. It’s been a while since I’ve heard from her last. I just don’t know. I guess the thing here is patients. Huh, I don’t even know what to say at this point.
Hi Coach Lee, I am your long-term fan, and I watched all of your videos. Even tho my Ex and I broke up 6 years ago, and I believed we will probably never get back together again, but I still watch a lot of your videos, because they encourage me.
I like how you focus on giving wise advices that would actually work, rather than just sharing tricks and games, like some other coaches out there.
One thing that I would like your help with and see you talk about more in your videos is - What could a Dumper who get rejected do to save the relationship?
I broke up with him, but soon tried to reconcile with him. He was not buying it, and he moved on to someone else.
Your wise advices, again, would be very much appreciated! Thanks and have a nice day! :)
Hi Yolenda may I ask ...why you broke up with him ? and then after how long u decided u want to get back together with him?
Dear Coach Lee, you videos help me immensely keeping no contact, and by that keeping dignity.
I have a request to you: Could you please make a video of no contact in a on/off relationship?
It’s been about 3 weeks since the break up, 2 weeks of NC and I’m staying off Facebook and Instagram. Some days I feel ok, other days I’m super depressed and crying . He gave me the cliché “it’s not you it’s me “ and said we could be friends. He has a massive pornography addiction and said that he needs counseling and to figure out what he wants in life
Lol when I read this title I almost had a mini heart attack..good video as usual.
Wow, the ending was so sweet.
Thank you Coach Lee, it’s been almost 6 weeks of NC and I know it’s still early. Regardless, having days of struggle but staying strong moving forward. I have no negative feelings toward him because our last text was pleasant. He didn’t want to hurt me. I understand why. I will know what to do if and when I receive text or phone call or see him at same event. Thanks again. I only have good thoughts for him regardless
Was doing good with 23 days of no contact when he reached out wishing me well and saying he still had some of my things, I took coach Lee’s advice and was pleasant and calm saying that I’d like the items back and i hope he’s doing well too, now he hasn’t replied and gosh I’m confused lol. Just gonna go back to no contact but I want my shirt
You put this videos so well together man it’s crazy thank you
Wonderfully creative and informative video! Thank you for this Coach Lee
Ex left after 5 years she wasn’t willing to work on herself I was trying my hardest putting her first and the relationship but clearly her friends are more worth it than trying to fix a 5 year relationship. Been in no contact for 3 months after I gave in when she hmu and wanted a ego stroke for 3 months. It’s hard but guys you’ll get through it I promise I still love my ex and wish things would still work out in a way and at the same time I don’t but that’s what happens when you have feelings that are strong but they will fade stay strong guys and girls please ! You’ll meet you’re partner that will give you you’re all god is only trying new things for you so you can get stronger💪🏻
This is a beautiful and very soothing video…. Thank you for that
You make my days better in No Contact. I trust your advice and experience. It's day 43. I've been seeing signs. She keeps seeing my stories and shares stuff here and there, then changes the narrative. But it's good to know that I have an impact. Without your guidance, I wouldn't know how to navigate through this season of my life. Thank you.
I’ve had no contact for almost 2 years. He’d broken up with me before but we always got back together. This last time he left me in the meanest way. Out and out cruel. A month ago I heard my phone ring a few times. That makes me believe what this video said. He was calling me but was afraid and hung up. He knows how badly he behaved. But was missing me. I still think it’s up to him to find the strength to say he’s sorry or show he wants to mend things. We got along so well I thought he was the love of my life.
My ex broke me because he can't forget his ex he still look on her social media ( they break up about 2 years ) and he said he want to be alone. Our relationship is just 3 months but i miss him very much. This is my second time that i was broken. I still remember I watch your videos when my first boyfriend broke me and today I comeback watching your videos again. Thankyou coach Lee you help me moving forward during the hardest times.
Three weeks no contact. Got a first text today, yes I answered casually!✨ Thanks!
“Healing Is A Choice”
Chronic lying, gaslighting to hide his addiction and withholding legal and financial information! Words and actions need to match! Loyalty and Trustworthiness is essential in a healthy relationship
I have been listening to Coach Lee for a few days now and he has given me the strength to stay away. I’m going to do all I can not to make contact. Thank you for helping me at my darkest time.
What do I do if my husband wants to be friends and wants a divorce? I was the cause of the divorce as I nagged and complained too much. He ended getting anxiety and head aches. I gave changed since our separation but he is just over it. Should I accept his friendship and work myself back in?
was waiting for ur upload:) by watching it helps me to be strong~thank u i already feel like hes in his messed up feelings..i last checked his page hes been in depressed mode partying up with his friends my gut feelings tells me hes just showing to make me weak and reach out but i stayed strong now for months now and im keeping myself busy lol. he told me once all his exes reached out to him.... but i wont be like his exes im different 😊
Been in NC for 2 years. It's safe to say we're not getting back together
Thx for yet another great video, keep up the good things bro👍🏾💯❤️
Question. Me and my ex were in a relationship about 5-6 months and we had ups and downs but we had a great emotional Intimacy , and physical. But all of the sudden well not really all of the sudden , he got promoted, he is a Sergeant and supervisor, he told me he can’t be in a relationship at the moment because he can’t give me what I deserve in a relationship because he needs to give all his attention to work but he want to keep me in his life he loves and …. But I told him I won’t stay unless we are in a relationship, I can’t give all the benefits and not be in a relationship. We talked about a few weeks without being in relationship but finally I wished him good luck. Since he is the one can’t be in a relationship, I guess he is the one he broke up with me?
Good one Lee. I know after 2 years now i did the right thing but even now sometimes miss her ( little son 😆🤷♂️ ) …
I've been in no contact for 4mos now. He's in a relationship with someone just 3weeks after our break up. We've been together for 5 years. Right now, I feel like they are still having good times with each other and I recently found out he tweeted about him being truly tired with something. I am sure it is about the relationship we had. Because that's what he said when we broke up, he felt so tired and just gave up. Now I'm confused, why is he still remembering and believing his reasons for breaking up with me. I hope you'd reply coach lee.
:( praying for you. :(
@@keepgrowing9941 thank you dear!
You should watch coach lees other video named the stage your ex go through after break up. And how many days for each. And a rebound relationship
My advice to you:
Try your absolute BEST not to “stalk” your ex. Dont look him/her up for any reason, it wont do you any good. It will amp up your anxiety and depression. Youre supposed to use your time in NC to work on yourself, become a better version of you! Work on those flaws you think you might have! LOVE YOURSELF !!
and when that rebound ends, he/she will start looking back at you to see what youre up too, by then you’ll be new and improved.
Take it from me, im 6 months separated with me ex. I used to check their social media’s every single day for 3 months straight and every time it got me lower and lower into misery. Be kind to your heart and give it a rest, it’s now been 2 and a half months since i even been on social media and im in a better place now when im not shaking with anxiety anymore.
Out of sight, out of mind! (to help your mental health)
you got this ! If all else doesnt go your way, you will eventually find someone BETTER !
Have faith !
There’s a lot of things your ex could be tired about unless he has specifically mentioned being tired about something in relation to you then just assume he could be tired with work, their new partner or money situations you never know. Stay strong! Me and my ex have been split for 3 weeks and 3 months and today was the first day she came to mine to see me, NC does work.
I broke up with her because she would lash out and take out her anger and frustration of what she dealt with at home on me so I left. fast forward 3 months I go to pick up my stuff and she wants me back but i tell her im not ready (i started seeing someone new) but it was a rebound and i messed up now i told her last november of 2021 i'd like to try again and she was open to it, but next thing you know she goes silent and starts to act cold on me. So now I'm going no contact and not going to hold my breath waiting for her to come back.💯🙏🏿
Really difficult to keep interactions positive when they refuse to be accountable for their actions which caused the breakup, kinda feels like the elephant in the room? How do you deal with that and move forward without resentment?
He didn’t truly hear me. The same man who once told me he loved me the most turned his back when I needed him. I was vulnerable-I cried in front of him, I begged, I did everything I could to make him understand. But he remained distant and didn’t respond. Eventually, I told him, ‘You’ll hear from me only when you contact me.’ And even though I didn’t know how I’d manage it, I decided not to reach out.
Those first days were unbearable, but then I found Coach Lee’s videos. Every time I cried, I’d watch his advice on repeat. Slowly, it got me through, and here I am, 20 days in, feeling stronger. I truly believe he’ll come back someday. I haven’t reached out, and I never said anything cruel or hurtful-I kept my dignity. I know I’m the prize. I was always loyal, honest, and fully invested. He wanted to marry me, but when things got real, he panicked and broke up, calling me ‘too emotional.’
Looking back, I can see my strength. I remained true to myself, and that’s something he will eventually recognize, even if it takes time.
Thanks Coach Lee ❤
Coach Lee, what can you say when she left me because I took her love for granted? Will the no-contact work as well??
Hey coach, could you do a video about an ex with depression dumping you and what to do? Thanks
Yung, Coach Lee has a large Library of videos. The one you requested is in there.
Two months later I found out he was hurt that I didn’t reach out and he was actually a bit angry. He thought that because I didn’t, I didn’t care and he thought I would, “stick around”. Honestly this completely confused me. He said he didn’t feel the same about me and I didn’t call anymore. We are now seeing each other again, but he’s still a bit confusing. (As in getting close and pulling away)
That is very confusing, especially if he broke up with you! I hope things work out for you!
No girl leave him. If you allow him to come back he has to earn that place again. Because your relationship is gonna start becoming as on and off if you let it happen. It happened to me he told me the same shit. Because as soon as he saw i could’ve get away from him for so long he got mad, he told me he didn’t want to lose me, he took me on dates, slept with me, called me baby etc etc. And then he started being inconsistent in a few days. Leaving me all confused and with uncertainty. No don’t let him come back they’re gonna play with you at the end telling you they don’t see a future with you.
I’m telling you, I got tired of his inconsistency and I had to break up with him, after he telling me he loved me and wanted to have plans with me in the future he told me the next day, you’re not my girl and I don’t see my future with you.
Girl, he just pulled a whammy on you using manipulation! Straight game!
He is manipulative making you feel guilty
Today was day 63 (9 weeks) of no contact, I casually reached out to my stubborn ex by sending a text. I got a rather warm reply from him about 2 hours later. He said sorry for not reaching out and that he felt like he didn't deserve to speak to me after the way things ended, which as far as breakups go, was extremely mild (no fighting, no pleading, immediately went into no contact). He said he was grateful that I reached out and asked how I was doing. I responded very politely and casually and ended the convo. We will see if things progress any further!
Anything happen yet?
@@davidocchetti5572 we met up in person the other day to exchange belongings and had a really nice conversation. I kept the convo going by text afterward and suggested we catch up on a hike next week, he said "that would be nice!"
@@robinploeg8180 That's good. Wonder what will come of it all. Good luck and keep us posted if ya want!
@@robinploeg8180 update?
@@krose4601 He said he'd reach out to set up a hike but never did. Got a happy birthday message about two weeks ago but nothing else. His mom messages me often and asked if we could meet up for a walk so I we did. Nothing has really happened. 🤷♀️
Awesome video! Your videos helped me a lot over past months, God bless you !
I broke NC after the end of January yesterday. Wehad been together 5 years and he blindsided dumpedme January 26.He was driving in front of me in traffic so I caved and called him. He actually answered and we talked for a few minutes then he asked how I'd been. I said it's been difficult,he said I know. I then said I wish we could talk things out and he just stopped me and said "we're not going down this road. I'm going to be alonefor however long that takes. I work a lot to keep me busy and I go to the bar a couple of nights a week." I knew that he was doing that. I asked if he had someone else and he said absolutely not and that's when he told me about the being alone. I'm telling you he is the 2% stubborn ex that can hold out and never contact again. I sent him a final text last night that it was good to talk to him even if it was only for a bit. Of course no response.... I had some hope of maybe us reconnecting at some point but I just don't see it now. Damn this is so hard...😪 and I have been thru divorce that hurt less.
@@EdenGPrabhudial thank you. You also.
He seems to cold to even be with.
No contact really does work, Coach Lee. After like a year my ex reached out to me, asking me to return her not-so-important stuff but she said she can't be there to take her stuff back, so she instead let her friend, who I also know well, take it from me.
I don't know man, if she really wanted and if she's not the one to take the stuff back why reach out to me? She could have just let her friend do that. But anyway, it doesn't matter now or what mind games she was playing cuz I don't wanna go back to that old relationship again. I'm better off
Hey ex, if you read this, just know that I've moved on and I don't want to be with you again. I'm tired of fighting and arguing all the time, tired of trying to fix the relationship over and over again, tired of taking all the blame. I deserve better!
I totally agree. If you ex reaches out answer them if you want them back. Nobody is going to expose themselves with a substantial text. Answer and see what comes. It’s nonsense to say wait for a substantial text. I wouldn’t bare my soul on a text to begin with would you? I’d test the water first to see if they respond and if they do I’d ask to see them
Like a mature adult.
I love this format, Coach
Yes, I did the BAD thing and we had an awful argument and I said horrible/hateful things... and I have apologized 1000 times for it. Even went to her church, kneeled down at her churches altar and begged God for forgiveness. She saw the Grand Gesture of me doing that. Also, took her to a weekend vaca, and after that she says, "Well gotta go home now, BTW you're a great kisser..." and when she left I felt used and something to "hey thanks, see ya!" Also, spending money like crazy... that's when I broke it off, no money, no nothing... funny, all of a sudden she stopped coming around, calling or texting me... so i went No Contact... been two months... so i did try after i did the bad thing...
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Thanks Coach Lee, such great advice and very much appreciated.🤗
I was the toxic one in the relationship and he left me , we had alot of good times also and he was my best friend he said I was his also , he said he wanted to not be in a relationship anymore , he said it was just too much , I’m giving him space but I want to know if I should try and fix things since I was the toxic one ?? I am doing therapy now and i am a better person
Coach Lee I enjoy this videos very in lighting this is one the best insightful great art work love you did !
I'm a person who has commented on your videos about 6 months ago btw. Your advice worked, I did two 3 month periods of no contact but all she ever offered was breadcrumbs. I guess it's hard with a kid. She doesn't have any other place to live really and I don't have one for her kid and her to live in either
Day #33: The temptation is real. still hasn’t reached me out. Trying to do my best but cannot move on. She still has our favourite song on her bio(I dont get it). Greetings to the coach. He is the best.
Can you make a video about getting your ex back if you're the rebound girl?