Why Married Men Approach You?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 พ.ย. 2024
- Why do married men approach you? Why do men approach you? There’s only two reasons men approach women, and they are two sides of the same coin. I share those reasons in this video.
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Can’t help who approaches you but you can help who you choose to entertain🤷🏾♀️
Truth
EXACTLY!
Definitely
Period!!
I always say this. I tell women that it's only their fault when they choose the bum, deadbeat, married man, con-artist and criminal. Those guys can't get anywhere without welcoming. Make it as difficult for the worst men as the best men are experiencing.
Whether married men or single men approach you with ill intentions, at the end of the day its up to you to choose whether or not you accept the offer regardless of what attracted them to you. Your choices of men say alot about your standards, How you value yourself, your insecurities, etc. Women, You deserve so much better! Wait on the ONE!!
blessedspelmanite I feel like the less trash you accept the last trash you’ll attract. They pick up on what you’re used to accepting.
You said a mouth full! 💯
You have to look them up on white pages to see if they are married a lot will lie and tell you they are single
True
Very true
Had a man messaged me a week after his wedding 😂😂smh they really are so lost it’s sad
That's horrible! And it's so sad many of these women think that they're living in this perfect fantasy world with their "husband". That's why I don't envy anybody's relationship!
So sad...but they say we the problems...
Kat Doll wow 😮
Dikéle it really is, I wish I could find her social media to message her and give her proof but he took all his photos with her down and unfollowed her smh
Cher H lol I really did 😂we went out to eat once while we went to the same school but did but click at all. Years later he messages me after his wedding, a damn shame
My adopted father just told me this and I’m like damn. All this time I’m worried about being cute for attention from men when they don’t care after 5 mins. It’s about your self worth and confidence!!! Work on you, and do what makes you happy. Live your life. Go take that job, buy your house, start your business!!! Don’t wait around. Keep thriving sis... It’s ok to be alone. Sheesh!!!!. I’m just now getting it at 34! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Bee Davis same lol
Read You loud and clear....Its ok to be alone. And learn about yourself.
Same here, you're not alone💁🏾♀️
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You're not alone
Ladies be humble and dont let your ability to attract married or taken men go to your head and feed your ego. Pay attention to Tony he speaking facts. allowing yourself to knowingly be entertained by a man already committed to someone else says alot about you....which is precisely why these men chose you in the 1st place. Be wise and protect yourself
Exactly. There are no type of benefits to dealing with a married dude. Total waste of time.
Exactly
I completely agree. I'm never flattered when a man tries to pursue me already having a woman. If anything it's a turn off and shows his disloyalty
Sonya Brown it may show his disloyalty but what is the cause for disloyalty. Ijs, married women start letting themselves go or stop doing what they did in the beginning to capture that man
Lark Ford Annnnd what do you think he will do once he gets you?
Either way ladies he's using you! Stay away from married men! He either want your body or he wants the bag🤨
Nicely said
U hurt
@@taylorashley4807 no, I'm good! But you should definitely take his advice! Sleeping around with men that would never marry you, bozo! Get a life and stop sleeping around with another Women's men!
True
I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation.
When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car.
Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol.
The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣
DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
They take advantage of the fact that many woman are single and longing for a partner. They seek out the insecurities within woman that long for companionship, and appear to be that special man for her without telling her that he's already married.
I agree in what you said but he must they don't realize that they take care of 2 or 3 women at one time because somebody is going to get seriously hurt and nine times out of ten it always be the wife.
EXACTLY THEY PRAY ON THAT LONELINESS DEMON!!!
That's so true
GOD BLESS YOU ABUNDANTLY!! THE STATE OF MICHIGAN IS VERY. VERY NOTORIOUS FOR THIS!!!!!! AND I HEARD THAT TENNESSEE IS JUST AS BAD.
It's emotional abuse and torture to mislead a person like that. Only manipulators do this imo.
I seem to attract married men a lot!!! Even married men in my own immediate family have tried it. I fell for one eventually, his marriage ended in divorce shortly after. Having relations with a married man has the worst karmic repercussions! I know from experience.
I. YA_NIKE Im glad you’re keeping it real with yourself. I hope you’re young (less than 30) because we all had to live and learn. Either way you have that experience to push forward and hopefully help another woman avoid that type of short coming in the future
Because those married men know they can get u
bianca lee williams thanks for responding so kindly. I appreciate you. I’m in my late 30s now but this is definitely one of the most impactful lessons from my youth.
I now understand the power that I hold as a woman & am extra careful with the way I wield it.
I saw married men as the ultimate prize & would torment them into breaking their vows, as I knew they never would. I revelled in the game & tease of it all. It made me feel dominant over all women to know that a man would risk his entire life as he knows it to lay with me.
But when I stumbled across the fateful husband that eventually yielded to my advances, the games got too deep to back out & we fell into a whirlwind. I had no idea he was married in the beginning, but when I did find out we were already in too deep, with nothing but a few conversations under our belt. Our talks were enough to move him to risk it all.
Regina Y. Favors took me years to forgive my self girl, but I have arrived in these 2019 streets!! 😅
Blueend End absolutely. Remember we are in an energetic space governed by universal laws. I’m not a Christian (although I have been), but the bible verse that says what God put together let no man put asunder is extremely valid in universal terms also. So too is “what is bound on earth is bound in heaven”.
The principle of being penalised when violating a contract comes from the universal realms. The ramifications are the same in the universe when humans break or violate contracts between each other.
The universe is all about balance & reciprocal energy, so when I played part in the violation of a contract between two people & caused his wife a tremendous & life altering amount of hurt, pain & trauma, those same feelings had to be felt by me so the universe (on my end) would be brought back into balance. This is the law of cause & effect, or karma in sanskrit.
And boy did I go through hurt, pain & trauma. I went through a period of illness that almost killed me. I had to fight for my life. It took me many dark & lonely years to understand why life had become so cruel to me, but the most amazing realisation was that I was led to commit an atrocious karmic offence so that the universe could “punish” me into becoming a better person.
This is why demons are allowed on this planet. They encourage you to act in ungodly ways, however this is the only way to extract the ungodliness out of you.
A married man I dealt with before and after he got married asked me what he could do to make me happy and show me he wanted to be with me, I simply said honor your vows I’m single you not haven’t heard from him since.
haha excellant
Am proud of u!!
You talked to him after he tried to holla at you while married?
Dante Long no we don’t communicate at all
Married men approach you because they are Dawgs!!!!!!
Yeah that too
Very simple and true.
Yep pretty much
yeah for real they're trying to get easy free sex on the side, and they think you're someone they can steal on, this guy has good intentions but he is out of touch here
Married men (the cheaters) are the worst! This is coming from a woman who was married. They always want to approach me because they are bored in their lives and not happy with the way their wives look. Oh well! They act like they be out here looking like a prize themselves. They are the worst on social media. “I love how you dress and your confidence” are the messages in my DM. I’d probably look a mess if I was married to them as well!! I don’t play those games; my affluent ex husband cheated and he got LEFT! Not sure why these dusty married men think I’d give them the time of day. Keep your self respect up ladies ✊🏾
You may be surprised that their wives look way better than you, money, beauty, class etc, and their wives are not even boring at all. It could be they're insecure and prey on you because they perceive you as weak and you'll be their walk over, because again, they may be refusing to grow up or mature in their marriages. They may be small boys in grown up bodies. Ive seen this, believe me
@@cynthiadickerson5403 😆
Yess. I just recently got off a long relationship with my high school sweetheart. And when I tell u only married men come my way.. Baby I tell them im not the one, karma is a muthafucka ... if you not happily married get a divorced. Simple.. Don’t come mess up my journey to find my husband when you already taken... it’s somebody for everybody
I’m never getting married if this is the case. Your damned if you marry and damned if you don’t.
Do not get married unless your sure. Do not allow lust to cloud your mind bc its not true love. Its a short feeling that will run its course.
I think Married men should all get a face tattoo that reads the following "I'M MARRIED" Married Men be doing the most especially here in Los Angeles
And a woman will still sleep with him. Obviously alot men are taken. It takes 2 to tangle.
It happens world wide, & until a woman finds her self & can aknowledge her self worth they will settle for less and block her own blessings... Been there & done that, thank god for opening up my eyes 🙏💙
Jessie Jay 🤣😂
Jessie Jay lol
@ its good to know. We all made silly choices we had to learn from.
After fasting today meditating the universe brought me here so this is the first step of my healing process...
At a point I had a lot of married men attacked to me and that was because I looked very innocent. Some thought they could use me and others thought I was safe for them to play with. Most men are just randy. And I don't think it's a woman's fault that trash men are attracted to her. Her only fault will be entertaining those men. Lots of circumstances make certain women desperate or make certain wen rationalize bizarre situations. If u have not met a wan at a vulnerable point in her life, u should not be so harsh to judge..
Married men want to experience some variety outside of what they already have.
They just want to play with a new toy, the toy they already have has lost some of its spark, they'll get back to it.
I agree a lot of the want a new toy every so often. But it would be great if some of these men would develop a level of maturity and self control that would allow them to see the damage that it not only does to the "Toy" but the family and children they leave behind and they ones that have been created. When children become aware of their father's infidelity, it changes how they see him. Sometimes it can change how they see relationships between men and women. Families are crumbling and not just the wives and girlfriends are pissed, the children are too. All that for a new toy. Sometimes new is not always better.
@@moniquewatson6231
I totally agree that's why I don't understand why these people get married if you know in the back of your mind you may want to wander, the need to still "test the waters" to see If you still "got it".
Its like a slap in the face of The Word / you vows, why claim til death do you part if you feel somewhere in your core you may (and will) stray.
Not all the time The toy "their wife" could be very skilled in bed and know how to please him thoroughly. But it has nothing to do with that and everything to do with the man's mindset! These men are usually immature, insecure, greedy and completely selfish and do not respect themselves so they're sure not gn respect the heart of someone else!
I Love how it's NEVER EVER the man's fault 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you.
Exactly🙄
It is though, they are just unable to control themselves and have to ruin our damn life
There is always explanation for men behaviour 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Men and women are different, women naturally should Know better, many married men have looked my way, but my energy says GTF out of my Face…And they leave.
They have many issues in that area.
We’re supposed to honor other women, yet we can know this man is in trouble spiritually and still have sex with them with zero regard for his wife and kids…So Yes It’s the Woman’s fault Every Time!
Get close to God, Not Married Men
I can't lie i talked to a married man years ago. I didn't know he was married. But when I found out I told his wife. 🤷 He offered me money not to tell but I told anyway. His ass shouldn't have been cheating🤷🤷🤷🤷
Did he has children ? If he did im so sorry for the children. 😥
@@esthermartinez9544 yeah he has kids with her. But they are still togather. She act like it was normal🤷. He had two phones.. One she didn't know about that he talked to me on. And two bank accounts that he took money out of for me that she didnt know about. Men just lie 🤷🤷🤷 married or not
@@aferg76 why not? I was hurt just like she was hurt.
I wish you the best im sure your a good person, hope the right one person will come ur way, men at this time there just honest too happy holidays 💝🎇
@Beth’s Blog i did 😆 i still told on him though
Be careful ladies, a lot of men are looking for a come up like Tony said. Please don’t share how much you make with these men or all your assets. I’ve had to block a few myself because they want a piece of what I have or what they think I have.
Sadly this is true...
Gurrrl!! You know they ain't men. Any of'um will approach, whether you have self together or not. Men just who they are MEN.
Robin D. You are a lost cause. There are many men with great credit, businesses and multiple houses and cars you know? Or is that not what you have so that’s not what you attract?
Preach girl
When I did meet men it was hard for me to hide what I did let alone had they see I don't go to work they always ask "what do you do? How do you have all of this stuff and you never go to work? I just try to change the subject as fast as I can some assume because I have children that I must be getting hella child support which I receive zero I met this dude and unbeknownst to me he had a girlfriend two months later a male friend of mines who always collects my rent payments was not available as he had an emergency therefore I had to get the rent money from this renter I called her and told her I'll be on my way within an hour long story short he was at the house with her when I collected the rent 😬 he didn't say anything to me acted as if he never knew me until I left and he rung my phone off the hook begging me to let him explain he left one message saying he was trying to leave her but didn't know how I had to end up changing my number I've learned to get an app number for every last one of my renter's 🙅 no personal numbers now if I meet men I gave them app numbers in case it don't go so well so I don't have to worry about changing my number as well but the way I am now hell I run from men I'm just too damn scared now It's only one dude I'm feeling deeply though but y'all know how them true men of God are you have to have patience and let God handle that 😍 🙏
I am offended when a married man approach me because i feel like he approached me because he is thinking i would be down for the foolery so I immediately give him a cold look and they back off
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Ladies!!!!!! Can we all agree that Tony is the MAN... if we listen 2 him we all will do so much better when it comes 2 our love life!! Tony, thank u so much for what u do this is exactly what we need! 🙏🙏🙏
V P yep!..exactly wt happens when u hear frm and have wisdom frm God.
Yes yes
Wow!!!! This makes total sense based on my experiences. My run and block game is strong! It’s so disrespectful to treat me as if I don’t deserve my own man.
Preach! Why should I settle for being a side chick and although you're cheating, you thought enough of your wife to make it official. The nerve 😒.
@@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect He didn't think enough of the wife either if he is cheating. I would feel sorry for her.
Sex. That's all
Yep this could have been a 10 sec video for all that mess he explained
@@LisaLisaCJ 💁
@@christinewarren8134 ikr!
EXACTLY THANK YOU@Christine Warren
EXACTLY @Diamond Refined
It only happen one time to me a married man approached me he tolded me he want to pay for what ever i need and want he want to take care of me. I didn't respond i ignored him. I will never entertain married men and if they are in a relationship no way leave me alone. Thats not cool with me no way. Its not worth it ladies if a married men approach you 🏃 run keep ignoring him don't respond if you entertain that mess its a trap call karma, headache, heart break, stress, depression, negative attitude, angry, and soul ties its not worth it. God bless everyone. Great message tony thank you God and tony. 👏👏✌
My legs are closed & so is my wallet lol bye Craig lol
Exactly!
I absolutely love this statement!
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Same here😂😂
This is true when I was dating my confidence was at an all time high & I attracted good men. While my friends attracted bums, they thought it was because I was beautiful I told them its because i don't care to have a man, im having fun, traveling, being a hair dresser one moment, dipping in to business then real-estate, make-up artist then a big sister mentor the next. Men would be like pudding in my hands just to have my number & see me for 5 mins. But I had no insecurities & was full of myself.
Did you eventually find the one because of your high self-esteem?
@@11940ful was never looking. So Yes I did But not according to how women think, feel and seek out their men.
lol...sounds like a plan Lola G! I have a great job, making good money and have been thinking about going to hair school as a side hustle. Girlfriends think I have this "natural attractor" but I just come out looking and feeling good and smile at the men when their eyes meet mine. And if I found out they have somebody or are married...they can't smile in my face again. And I go home.
Our ways didn't work ladies. So stick with TGs advice. Get the bag(s)💰💸 and work on yourself. Your King will come. In Jesus name it's already done! 💫💖 Dear husband I love you 💋 😊
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Claim it! 💯🙏
@@terrybrown7510 🙂💯❤
In most cases it has everything to do with them and not with us.
How about as a woman you have a personal moral standard and DON’T DEAL WITH MARRIED MEN! Stop measuring your WORTH through some mans approval. Once you get there you will get everywhere and wont need to ask stupid questions like this. LOVE YOURSELF GIRL!
I agree with you however the question was why are married men approaching you? There are some of us who are constantly being approached by married men. Speaking from experience from my twenty’s until even now this has been me. I don’t leave out my house saying let me see what married man I can attract? Nor do I entertain their shenanigans? I have never measured my worth through any man. I can remember one instance where I had moved back to my home state and this older married man saw me a few times. He sent a message saying he would basically be my sugar daddy if I would be his special friend. (Uggghhh) over the years and down through the years the married ones keep approaching me. I don’t have daddy issues, I am confident, and definitely ain’t needy or insecure. I’m not the issue they are. 😊
I get constantly chased by married men and it really annoys me I'm busy and they want constant attention and won't focus on their wives. This really helped!
Yah they just want the experience. I noticed that and I turn them down. Married or not.
Sometimes it is because he is unhappy with relationship at home. His wife has stopped making him feel wanted and important because she is tired from work and kids. She may not want sex. Then at work a woman maybe knowing or unknowingly gives him compliments that feed his ego. Affairs can start with something small. The same can happen with an unappreciated wife.This is no excuse to cheat, but it happens.
Aye!! Glad I heard this!! Never been approached by married men... and when I do go on dates, men always want to be exclusive after a few dates and buy me nice gifts and court me. Loving myself and having high standards and Being celibate is where it’s at!! I’m thankful that I have a father and grandmother who gave me awesome life skills!
I heard that sis 🙏🌹
Can you please share more about this with us? ❤️
Then why are you on this video? To brag? lol
This is the story of my life. One married man after the other. I’m confident Mr Right will be coming real soon!!!!!!!
You really have to leave the married men alone. They only want to use you then they go back home to their wife. Nothing good in it for a single woman at all including the intimacy. Not worth your time with a married man or even if the man is single. Live right and ask the Lord to come into your heart, then it will shift for the better for you! God sends his best when we are serving him!
Thank you Rosetta but I’m saved, Holy Ghost filled with the evidence of tongues.... but I’m not entertaining these married men I just CONSTANTLY CONSTANTLY get approached by them. I’ve been saving myself for 5 years for my future husband. Hopefully I won’t have to wait another 5 but I will if I have to. Naaaaah friend I WANT MY OWN!!!!
@@trisjk1 Excellent! So glad you are saved and that you are waiting for the Lord to send you Mr. Right. And of course who God has for you will be the best one for you and you for him. He will not be a married man since God doesnt operate like that. The Lord has the right timing for you and I wish you nothing but happiness with your future husband!!
Rosetta Jones ♥️♥️♥️
@@trisjk1 yes ma'am...4 yrs and im gonna wait on God to send him to me👍👍👍🙏🙏🙏
My husband of 21 years would pay me endless compliments, but never make me a priority. I caught him cheating before Xmas and found out he'd done it most of out marriage. I will never fall for flattery again
I'm so sorry to hear this.
just reading this. so sorry. they claim is because they are unhappy in the marriage.
Nasty person
This makes so much sense! This is why men get offended and pissed off when you start going to the gym, doing your hair etc. Because even they know they linked up with you because they read your insecurity and that's their secret hold on you! The woman just hasn't recognized it and will stop all those activities to prevent upsetting him! Come on thru Mr. Gaskins...I think I need coaching!
God answers prayers because I wanted to know what men saw in me. Sometimes you think you can hide but you can not... I’ve always hated married men because I thought they were predators. Apparently they are! Thanks for really letting us know what to look for in men and what to change about ourselves. This was meant for me!!! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Being approached by a married man is offensive and not anything to be proud of. What made him look at a woman and think she isn’t worthy of having an emotionally available, drama free, single man ?
@@Tiffany-un3hw exactly. They are disgusting.
The last married man that approached me thought I was younger than my age. I gathered from his conversation that he thought I'd be silly enough to ask zero questions and and accept gifts in exchange for physicality.
Nope
Right here girl!!! I didn't even correct his dumb ass😂😂😂
I really thank Father God for you! There is no other man of God that I’ve come across that speaks what you’re speaking. I can tell God has given you the wisdom you have. I’ve only been subscribed to your channel for a few months and God has allowed you to speak into my life.
I have to say, I thank your wife as well for leaving you the two times she did. It may have been hurtful for you at that time, however, it helped you become the man you are today.
You’re such a blessing to so many women! Thank you! 🙏🏾❤️
Stacey Blount thank you so much for your appreciation!!
All they want from you is sex and fun. They are craving your attention because they don't get it in their marriage anymore. Marriage kills romance and passion. Most likely he won't leave his wife because it will cost him fortune. I don't think that a married person is always full of crap if they trying to date someone. Married people are not just parents. They still have their romantic needs which often aren't met because of everyday family chores and work. People tend to stay with their married spause because of kids and financial responsibilities like mortgage.
I agree 💯
I know because I am married and he is married too, and only we know! We are not having a relationship for obvious reasons, but he would love to, He said it never happened to him before.
The ones that trip me out are the married men with a pregnant wife at home or she just had a baby. This actually happened to me. After I found out, I rolled out. He was calling talking about he didn't love her. Didn't want a baby. Resented the baby and her, etc. I blocked and deleted his ass. I am sure he is still doing the side piece thing. I feel for her but she married him.
Every since working on myself and finding myself worth I swear it’s been repellent for grown boys. I have had less BSers walk up to me than before and I’m glad
I am so glad that you are addressing this. It lets me know that I am close to my blessing.
Stacey Crutcher yes for sure me too ! Blessing on the way .🙏
Theres a married guy at work whos madly in love with me 🤯 but no single guy who in love with me 😞
Smh 🤦🏾♀️
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Ive asked guys about this and they all said, “ if you ask, someone is willing”! Ladies your confidence can be high or low these dudes will try anyone because they have nothing to lose. Yes there are ladies out there that are enablers too.
It's my beauty, confidence, financial independence and my T Bird. I am married but it doesn't seem to stop them from trying.
He went all around the bush to avoid calling out the real societal issues and victim shame ...in the most stereotypical misogynistic way.
Married men approach you because they are bored
..and they are bored because they are boring, little to do with their wife
I'm a man and I completely agree with you. This Gaskins dude is full of shit on this one. If married men are approaching women its because they have a character flaw and don't value their wife or vows. It has nothing to do with a vibe a woman is giving off.
I definitely think it is both!
I agree with this sis.. they may be natural predators.. we have tons of issues in the black community that they need to go PREY on. Stop preying on women and go do something worth while with your life.
Start a group and go take young boys fishing or hunting, hiking.. be a Big Big brother. Prey on making this world a better place for the NEXT generation., Do That..🥳
Pfft, no. They're bored because there's no meaningful connection with their wives. So they start looking for it elsewhere. This is not exclusively a male problem. It works both ways.
@@Goodpatron Meaningful connections are built and not automatic and only boring people get bored
Ooowwwwiiieeeee.... The truth.... Owwwiiieeeee. Finally confronting my insecurities. I'm completely alone. Absolutely no male interaction for 3 months now. It feels like 10 years and at times my heart just bleeds. My God is renewing me💗
I love your videos and listen to and agree with them all for the most part. However, my take on why married men chase women outside their marriage differs slightly from yours. They are attracted to women that are nothing like their wives. They pursue women that are very attractive or dress attractively and have a certain aura that lures them in. 80% of the men that approach me are usually married or in a long term relationship. In my opinion they approach me because they are bored at home and programmed to think their wife should still look snd behave the same way she did when they got married. They are just grown up boys that want to play and don't have the maturity to appreciate what they already have at home. I send them on their way by telling them "If your wife can't trust you, I don't either."
I totally agree with you 💯❤️.
Girl same ❤
Thank you so much! I've always felt that I've attracted the wrong ones to the point that everyone who ever approached me were categorized in the same box in my mind. Now that I did inner work and gained more confidence this past year, I'm less approached and never been more grateful in my ENTIRE life!!!
Yessss
Wow, Tony just spelled it all out ladies. Take heed!
I totally get what you've shared. I've been approached by several married men, but always turned them down. One guy I went to school with approached me 5 yrs ago and I shot him down because I thought he was married at the time but they were not yet. He approached me again 6 months ago...he married in 2017 and was not happy...did it because they were together for 10 yrs and it was familiar. I was going through a toxic experience w a guy and decided to hang out w him. He told me why he was attracted to me and always had been. He loved my confidence, my skintone, my ability to be open about any and every thing we discussed. We hung out for 6 months and in that timeframe he told me he was falling for me. He was w me everyday. He had lunch, shared dinner, he cooked for me, I for him. The whole nine. Wife never lifted a finger to call or text. She eventually figured out what was going on and told him she wanted to work on her marriage and contemplated suicide. She even contacted me about the matter. They are currently trying to work things out. Even though that line should not have been crossed...he showed me that what I want(consistency and to be made a priority)isnt farfetched...I just couldn't have it w him.
Damn, I am going through the same exact experience as that guy you described and wish I could meet sometime like you to go through it with. 😒
I can relate to this a bit. I was also approached by a married man( who liked me years ago when he was single but I had a bf and then when I became single he had a gf,who he later on married) I never wanted to be involved and maintained my boundaries for a long time. Last month, he was giving me wayyyyyy too much attention and affection and I got caught up and we ended up dirty texting and phonesex as it’s a long distance(he and his wife also long distance)
Anyway before and after the few days of dirty texting, phone sex, he was always kind, sweet,caring,respectful,loving,polite.. I could feel he had a strong desire for me and it was more than just physical. He mentioned the past and how he wanted to propose to me and that he feels he made a mistake but now is just gonna live with it.
I don’t want him to leave his wife or anything (and I’m sure he doesn’t want to either). He wanted to stay friends and I said no. He wanted to stay in contact and I said no. He said he cares about me and wouldn’t ever do anything to hurt me. I told him that if that’s the case then for my well-being,he should maintain distance and not contact me. It’s been almost 2 weeks. I feel alright. I knew he wasn’t my man.. from the first place itself.. I am not an insecure girl. I used to(and still) go to the gym, I’m confident about my face/body/shape.. I’m quite happy with my job/passion/hobbies.I’m even comfortable with my beauty. And I am bold in my desires that I want a man who can love me to the core… this man showed me that what I want..in terms of behavior and energy is there. It’s not him ofc but I can have what I want.
I was so happy with myself. Happy. Self-sufficient.. And I attract a married man. It's a problem I wasn't prepared for. I won't be with him unless he's single. That's my boundary.
You're giving me the help my therapist either never thought of, or doesn't have the courage to say.
Men and relationships are deep
Married men from their late 20’s and up approach me all the time 😩, I’m old enough to be their mama. They act like they’re single when they approach but have a wife and school age children at home. I’ve learned to ask the right questions.
Yeah same here.
I've learned the trick is to just get them talking and just listen for the signs. Most of the time it doesn't take them long to spill.
Questions are important… I learned the hard way🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Man, where were you 20 years ago?? I have been wondering why I attract losers. Now I know. My self confidence needs work. Let me work on that and flourish in 2020!
Not at all what I expected you to say. Much Better than my expectations! This is how I know "You're the Real Deal, Tony." You are truly in our (women) corner. Thank you for this vid.
Hi Tony and fellow commentators regarding this content, I had to think twice before playing this video when it came on my timeline. The reason being is because I'm a married (soon to be divorced) woman whose husband was caught having drinks with a woman from his job. I knew it was not an innocent scene because I talked to him minutes before he was caught and he said he was having a drink with friends (he named each friend and left her name out of it). Yet he was caught with just her. So, after raising hell, he came out and said he was helping her with her relationship with her baby daddy. Meaning, she was vulnerable af. So you are on the money with your points. I been through it. I believe he was playing that girl to get her to trust him so eventually he can have her in all the ways you explained. It is so sad to be in my situation right now, but you are so right. Ladies, please love yourself more. Don't ever love a man more than yourself. It would be like asking someone to perform heart surgery on you yet they never set foot in medical school. I'm not saying don't ever trust a man and that all men ain't worth shit. No. That's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying love yourself more. Use your instincts and set your boundaries. Trust me, they'll do the same with you. Be blessed. And much love to all the good men out there and the good women who have them. Y'all make the world go round.
To me the lies they tell to hide.the mess is just unbelievable smh
A LOT OF THEM ARE BROKEN AND WAS NEVER TAUGHT DIFFERENTLY!!! I REAAALLYY HAD A GUY WHO WAS MY CHILDREN'S BARBER, WHO KEPT APPROACHING ME AND TELLING ME WHAT HE COULD DO FOR ME AND I ASKED HIM WAS HE WITH SOMEONE AND HE SAID NO THE FIRST TIME BUT I FOUND OUT HE WAS MARRIED AND MIND YOU, I NEVER TOOK HIS ADVANCES BUT I TOLD HIM TO GO HOME TO HIS WIFE, AND THIS IS EXACTLY HOW IT WENT...GO HOME TO YOUR WIFE, THE LAST TIME I TOLD HIM THAT HE TOOK ME TO HIS WIFE AND SAID THIS IS THE ONLY WOMAN THAT EVER TOLD ME GO HOME TO MY WIFE, SHE HAD SO MUCH RESPECT AND IT WAS AMAZING! HE DIED A LITTLE WHILE AFTER THAT TO THE STREETS.....MY GOD, HELP LORD, AND I CAN SAY HE TRULY WAS A GOOD DUDE, JUST LEARNED DIFFERENTLY IS ALL!
Because married men are typically bored with the every day conundrum of life and kids and obligations and responsibilities. So instead of divorcing and being single and on his own. He seeks out single women as a release for his reality at home. He’ll move on to the next if you leave him be. It’s how they all are. I know that all too well. 🧐
A release for his reality at home....😂😂😂😂...so true.
Live life To the fullest that’s not “all” men; that’s just the ones you know of.... there are men who love and are committed to their wife....
@it's just me but if the man cheated on his wife then she has right to be divorced from him! It breaks that marriage and lies! From that point this marriage isn't really a marriage before god... In name only and his wife does the best to be divorced!
@it's just me so you are judging on me not being led by God's Spirit just because I told that those men who are cheating on their wifes are inhuman as they're using other women just to seek out a little extra not having in their own life? Maybe I was right about them that they're shit and don't deserve a good woman who is the Spirit of God.
He won't divorce his wife because she'll take him for all he's worth if he does, even though he doesn't love her anymore and is really interested in you. Blame the legal system for that imbalance. I have to admit, I'm married and feel the same way nearly all the time. I'd give so much to date a woman on the side. Sorry, I'm just being honest. 🤦
This was right on time. I just had a married man try me. I've been knowing him as a maintenance man in my apt complex he's never been disrespectful he was so nice he told me to keep his # for my house that I bought. So I used it for him to mount my alarm system I paid him and we were good from there. But he started texting saying him and his wife are at odds and he needs some Love......omg this came out of left field. He's not a bad looking guy but damn I'm single doing me and he thinks I'm going to be a side piece....wow! I was disgusted I'll never use his # again I don't need his handy services at all.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾. Stay away from him
Generally speaking (in my experience, at least) a man approaches something he finds attractive, whatever the reason. I think the vibe thing he mentioned seems more like the reason the married man would stay around. I've attracted married men. They never stayed around because they realized I meant it when I said I didn't tolerate mess. But, hey... 🤷🏾♀️
relationships are so scary these days, i hope my man wont change after the baby
He won’t unless you overlooked red flags. The core of a man’s character doesn’t change cause a kid comes if anything he’ll be a better man-if he actually is one.
What happened?
@@isabellalora6533 So far so good, he loves being a Dad 🥰
@@vturner god bless you both 🤍
@@isabellalora6533 Amen 🙏🏾
I thought i was cursed at some point 😅because i kept attracting a lot of married men. You made me understand it so well and you're right. I have some insecurities that have contributed to every all those situations.Thank you Tony😢
You are the best!
51 year old woman here who experienced all.
You are the best!
That's seems to be the only type of men that come my way. To me it seems that the grass probably looks greener. MY POINT IS ...IF THEY ARE NOT HAPPY LEAVE THE MARRIAGE!! I DID AND I DIDN'T NEED TO FIND ANOTHER MAN....I LEFT BECAUSE I GOT TIRED OF HIM BEING MARRIED(TO ME) AND TALKING TO OTHER WOMEN!
Because they're naturally selfish opportunists that want to have their cake and eat it too. They want the benefits of every women regardless of how it leaves these women in the end.
Thank you for this Video because I just can’t understand why some men will waste your time! But the True colors come out Quick that’s why I take things slow going into 2020
Tony...you always come through! Thanks for this teaching.
It makes complete sense. It’s all completely true. You explained it very well. And I should listen and watch this video every morning before I start my day. The people that are on here saying oh it’s never the man’s fault are missing the point. Thank you very so much for this video.
Seems like to me, if you're attractive and outgoing perhaps you'll attract all types of men. Or if you are totally different than his wife, very seductive or sexual pulls them in as well.
Jo Anne Hall honestly, a man will go wherever he’s wanted. A lot of times the wife will start being inconsistent or slacking with her actions and cause him to leave after so long. Just like men, women also have to continue doing what they did in the beginning to capture that man
@@larkford4460 Truth that I know Women REALLY have to do what pulled the man in or he strays faster....seeks like Men should have to continue on their efforts. Same as the beginning...but I often do not see that. Women have to be on point tho....
It has nothing to do with the woman looking any kind of way etc...Jay Z cheated on Beyonce, Offset on Cardi B etc....a cheater is a cheater. He probably just wants try something new. He doesn't leave the woman meaning he doesn't think the new is better it's just new.
TeWanda Joven yes but did she get lazy at home. Also cardi doesn’t count because she takes care of her man financially just the type of woman he speaks of in the video. She gets taken advantage of because he needs her
TeWanda Joven and yes nee is better because think about how comfortable people let themselves get in marriages. Come home to wives in a bonet.
Yes my ex husband was married when he pursued me, he didn't care if he was married, he wanted me, he acted like he was single and didn't have a wife, but long story short, he did the same thing to me that he did to his first wife...he wasn't even separated from his first wife a month, before he tried to pursue me....
I'm really happy to hear this! I used question myself like, "dang these guys are just starring at me, and won't say anything" …..My brother told me a while ago, I have a "BOY I AINT PLAYING WITH YOU" look when I'm out in public" hahahaha. Also, Tony I wanted let you know, listening to your videos have made me SUPER SOLID! I'm in a healthy, beautiful, committed relationship...HEADED DOWN THE AISLE! yAY!
Exactly why I subscribed to you! Thanks for being honest and keeping it real!
LaVette Ervin thank you for your appreciation!
Hi bro thankyou I have got married men approached me before but I got people saying I have does qualities as wife material I don't want to see it as curse
THIS WAS GOLD! I totally get it. Thank you so much for all you do. I’m so grateful! Sending to all the ladies in my family!!!
You are absolutely right. I was in that situation due to my unfulfilling everyday life. I am facing this situation again, but I will stand strong despite me not liking my current job, house, walk, shape, and each heart beat of mine.
This is where I am right now. And I just became too close to letting that married man in. I'm so glad to have come across this video. Have just called him to cancel the date we had planned. I told him I have nothing to offer him as I am currently unfulfilled in my lwn life right now and I won't have sex with him so really have nothing for him. Offcourse he lied and said he doesn't want sex from me but I can see he'll want to help me with things I'm unhappy about and that will create a false sense of intimacy and hopefully for him, open my legs for him. This video just saved me
For weeks, while racking my weights, this ONE man would assist me while striking up conversation--no big deal. But then he moved the conversation into the "flirt-zone." I pointed to his finger and asked him this one simple question. . . . ."Do I look like I would destroy a family----just to enjoy sin?" He stood there, completely frozen as I wiped down the equipment not needing an answer from him. Needless to say, he avoids any area of the gym I'm in. GOOD!!!
Basically, they're scamming bottomfeeders. lol smh
thanks , straight to point.
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What did you say? Who’s the bottom feeder: the man or the woman?
@@sunshinesunflowerz1647 men.
Shut out to anyone who support that this man is damn fine...☝️
Wow! I think you hit it. At least for me. I attract those trash men. I am doing the work. My problem is they ghost me. Although I do have insecurities that I probably wear I don’t deal with bs or men that try to use me or side chic me. Then they all say I’m not how they thought I’d be and my response is (to myself) stupid? They never stay around relationship me and I’ve been trying to figure what I’m doing wrong and why I keep attracting these same type of men. I’ve been told that I give off“ take advantage of me” vibes but didn’t understand bc I’m not the take advantage of type! I refuse. I feel I know my worth but I know I don’t wear it. I’m not sure if I’m making sense but this makes a lot of sense to me so in short I still need to work on projecting more confidence so I don’t attract men that think I will go for anything! Thank you for being so candid.
This is me, you just described me, I know my worth and I don't allow people to take advantage of me but I do not project that in the way I carry myself. This has caused a lot of people to have misconceptions about me and many get surprised about how "I'm not what they thought I was" when they get closer to me. Sometimes I might play the fool and give some "Take advantage of me" vibes, not intentionally tho, but it is what it is lol.
I had to stop @when u said women fighting in parking lots lmao . I work here at the post office and my supervisor messes with this no good guy in here (whose not even in her level position wise as a matter of fact she supervises him ) and he messes with all the young women here and she knows it cause a girl came up to her and told her what her bedroom looked like and all . She even was fighting a girl in the parking lot over him (how she kept her job idk) . But anywho they were station at another post office and he was doing the same thing . Messing with the girls there . It’s just so sad and pathetic to see .
Girl yea men at work run thru all the girls. I would never trust or date a guy at work. He will make you look like a fool.
October3074 yes!!! I dated a man here and he always smells like alcohol and I just couldn’t do it .
Christine Warren yup sure will !!!
She got very low self asteem she don't even love her self that let you know that dude don't want her she is allowing him too do what he do to her and if she keep allowing it after while she is going to be through ain't nobody is going to want her i would have kick his stanking butt to the curb along time ago maybe she feel like she can't do better yea its sad and then she beat up the girl she should have been busting his but instead of beating up the girl is she that stupid that she can't see something is wrong with ole girl she needs help she don't even know herself worth she don't .
Oh thats Lauren
She sounds like she’s desperate.
That's why we need to find out what these bastards want when they approach us. Men don't approach us for nothing, it's something they want. Our job is to find out what they want no matter how long it takes before getting emotionally involved.
There's only one thing girl... and you know what it is. Emotional connection with sex. That's it. I need that too. 🤔
I deeply appreciate your words I totally understand the why? Thank you! All over the First description keeping things together praying for the best outcome💓
I'm so glad we gotta wear mask
Selfish very selfish of men like this.
What if im happy, nice body, pretty, good job, attract all men married and not ,but only the married men will try to persue me? I found out after the fact that he is married after several months of nice dates and money spent.
I'm grateful I don't get married men approaching me, I had a few say if u wasn't married or scare almost everyday but not actually shoot their shot. I've done a lot of work towards healing after a divorce and I'm glad to say most men who see me know I'm not with the games but I'm still smiling and friendly
"Looks challenged" 😂😂 I'm done and dead 🤣😭 Messing with these men that don't have anything worth fighting over. Glad I've NEVER done that. Whew Chile, the ghetto.
Wow! I never knew this. I believe this and now I know. I never understood why I always was treated like a side chick. Now, I know because of my insecurities.
Funny this came up. I was on vacation and a few married men tried approach me. I had on more clothes than the majority due to being at the beach. The women that I was with noticed the attention. (I’m not the one to knowingly entertain involved men, I don’t even see their approach as flattering) So one in particular blamed me and tried to pick me apart then had the nerve to try and prophesy to me after drinking wine. I was done! It seemed as if she was envious. I’m not in my thirties yet but I know that usually girls want attention but I prefer respect!
Jade W I love that ! Respect over mere attraction!!!
A man told me it doesn’t matter what u look like all men from different walks of life will approach you .but there is some truth to your video .
He lied to you. lol.
He didn't lie to you. I'm a man telling you different men WILL approach you no matter what you look like to try you. Mr. Gaskins been in the streets so he know its true.
Hi Mr Gaskins. I appreciate your videos. I haven't watched part two of this topic yet. Perhaps you address this idea there. I have a couple of friends who are attractive, confident, and highly successful. They exude confidence. And they constantly attract married men. I've always assumed that the men that approach them can tell that these women are so successful they really "don't need a man" for material things. So, these men feel comfortable approaching them, because they believe these women won't demand anything from them--especially marriage or exclusivity. Do you think there's any truth to my theory? Thanks for the time you put into your channel.
Sooooooooo Grateful Mr. Gaskins🙏🏾 I wish I had this when I was stepping into womanhood 😌Thank you
Thank you Tony, just what I needed to hear.🤔
Girl, that’s bullshit. Yes, your self esteem plays into how someone treats you, but how are you responsible for someone else’s intentions?
I see his true core.. Who he can be and how many he can lead.. If only he could do the right next thing..
Married guys are always chasing me . I hate it. I want a loyal single dude .
Married men be approaching me . I be so sad. Like wow do I seem like the type of woman who doesn’t deserve commitment?
Yep, same thing happened to me. I drive a new Lexus, own my own home, good job, etc. He approached me and immediately started asking if I had an office, said he kept meeting gold diggers. Said he wasn’t married and was never married. I went to our county records, found his marriage license. After I realized he was only texting. When he called it was during the day and some other signs like saying he just wanted to get to know me, take it slow, never actually asked me out. Just testing me and wasting my time. I deleted his #. A few months later he texts me again, I’m blocking him.
You should have sent him a pic of his marriage license.
Lol! That’s a goo one, but I don’t want him to I think I care enough to go thru the trouble!
@@MyCrownstar It's about due diligence and checking these clowns background. You probably would have never heard from his lying ass again had you showed him the license lol. They know we do a lot more background checks these days.
@dnw75... Yep. I’m checking court records, sexual offender registries, etc...These men out here crazy, we have to take of ourselves.
You know I’ve learned the best thing is just to block and move on. I don’t need to tip my hand and let someone know what I know. We are living in dangerous times and you don’t know if you dealing with a real psycho. I’m not trying to be on a news program as missing! These crazy men are just not worth my time and energy.