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@@detrixhogan6078 By focusing on becoming the BEST YOU God intended you to be! Take a Community Ed. Class, Learn a skill, Give some of your time to teach somebody or volunteer. Use your Gifts to Bless other people..... Work on YOU. Love Yourself. (We are to Love others as we LOVE OURSELF) Get a good sense on WHO you are. All My Best. (MOM of 5)
NEVER WANT ANYTHING THAT DON'T WANT YOU......man, woman, parent, child, friend, job, cat, dog, Whatever! Don't put yourself through that kind of torture.
Right!!! I was dating a guy for just 2 weeks and he asked for sex🙅🙅🙅🙅 I told him I wanted to wait and he texted me a day later and said he was thinking about ending things with me and he just didn't feel things were right with me...lol...im like we just meet what feelings are there to have this fast💁💁💁💁
I disagree. Generalizing this makes zero sense. People do actually get approached by shitty people. Seriously what's stopping a shitty person from approaching anyone? And if they are extra shitty and think you seem like you can be taken advantage of....they will try you. Life is not black and white. There is a such thing as people being too nice and giving the wrong people chances. Doesn't mean they aren't quality people. Then there are just DECEITFUL people out there. Who will mirror you, act like they're on the same page, but are really demons. If this was undeniably true, that you attract the same quality person as you then wouldn't you both always be compatible??
@lavidavi yeah I'm not a big fan of that part of his advice. If you want a traditional man, let them approach you. If you want a modern man, approach whoever the hell you want to lol. Just because you do the approaching doesn't mean you have to commit
THIS is so important. Everytime my foot touches outside I'm prepared! Some lady even asked me "do you always dress like this" 🤣 Yes I do ma'am until I find my husband
Aminah A Yes!! I’m in that process now too. Lose the weight. Upgrade the wardrobe. Keep the hair done. Walk with your head held high. Be mindful of resting bxtch face. Be pleasant and inviting. And own your confidence wherever you’re at!! 💛
My dad's famous words, He said to me baby when a man wants to be with you he'll be with YOU. Oh yea I'm from a traditional family my parents were together 48 yrs till my mothers transitioning.
treneé I feel you! But all my friends keep telling be to get on bumble I feel like this is the new way of dating 🤦🏾♀️ no one approaches anymore they just look 👀
treneé it’s crazy because I had this desire to meet this guy lol but I don’t think it was the right time for anyone maybe it can happen I believe W God anything is possible. If it will happen like you dais maybe he it isn’t time or isn’t ready.
I used to say, "One day I'll find the right man", but now I think differently. Now, it's "One day the right man will find ME." I won't be chasing, I'll be caring for myself; he'll be looking for me 😌💕
Amen! I have the mindset "If I don't know what to do with myself I'm not going to know what to do in a relationship or marriage". There are so many married women who don't know WHO THEY ARE and are suffering in silence because of it. Being single is LIT when you're walking in your purpose all while waiting for whoever man/husband the Lord has for you will be an ADDITION to your personal Happiness. 🙏🏽🌹🌹❤️❤️
lol I don't chase, advertise, nor audition for attention from anyone. I love myself. My self worth & confidence is sky high. I happily do me & keep it moving. 💅
I tell the young ladies to just act like a lady is supposed to. The man is the hunter. A real man knows how to shoot for what he wants, he won't need your help.
This is the truth. It's simple, be clean, shampooed, smell good, cute outfit, nothing fancy and walk slower ladies. They will see you. If you pretend you're walking on a pink fluffy cloud while walking slow, ohhhhhh you bet. I had a man look at me like he'd never seen a woman before, and I'm average at best. No man, has ever looked at me like that before. It felt amazing. Be feminine. Thanks for all your videos Tony, they're awesome!
Something you said in your comment I personally have to work on and that's WALKING SLOWER....LOL I have a habit of power walking everywhere I go unless I'm out shopping 🛍️. But yeah, maybe the man God has for me won't mind sprinting to catch up when he sees me lol.
yes , they see me even from other sidewalks , sometimes right into my face if I walk up the stairs. I only wear nice and comfortable clothes like most men. Only hoodies and jeans. but I have an opinion and laugh but its rare as most people dont make me laugh. For some men having an opinion and questioning things are unladylike but I dont know, I dont meet much men howver 90% of them look at me when I walk up and down the streets and in cafe too.
Be sweet...be intelligent...be silently mysterious, while being absolutely gorgeous! That creates seduction....then....ignore the living hell out of him. Don't look at him, act like he doesn't even exist! Thats the secret ladies! But you have to really FEEL it. Cause men can FEEL if you really truly want them! They can tell. You have to almost trick yourself into believing it. And you've got him! He wont be afraid to approach you because you're the "silent type"...and when he does talk to you, he will find you are intelligent. But at the same time he doesn't exist until he comes to you. Drives em nuts!
@@janayewill3883 I hate to break it to you but that man probably don't want you like that. I'm Nigerian so I know. Also . If you've slept with him already this is most likely the chance that he's gotten what he wants already
You are so on point! Thanks I ignored the man who became my husband because I wanted him to be a man and come directly to me. In the meantime I bettered myself through education improved my appearance. I didn’t fully respect him until he had the courage to approach. When he did approach I still didn’t loose myself until he proposed. I wish I knew this as a younger woman would have saved me so much heartache. Thanks again
Your testimony is an encouragement to those of us who are not so young anymore, who have suffered past headache and still waiting on the Lord for our God ordained husband's. Thank you for sharing!
My spirit kept telling me let him go. I didn't get it he was great then I seen it. I can feel the soul tie starting to form. I realized you don't have to have sex for a man to create a soul tie. It's great consistent conversations, him correcting you when you wrong with silence then apologize but then rub it in like "damn I messed up already" knowing he was the real cause. He pulling it all together then got inconsistent short text shorter calls but still every day. He wanna see you but wont set a date but talk about what you wanna do. Then ask you to come out when he out kickin it. RUUUUNNNN!!! His is creating a roller-coaster ride if your not strong enough to jump you gone get stuck. When you don't get caught up in the ideas of him you will pay attention and act accordingly. Alway listen to your spirit i seen the set up and left but only because my spirit said leave more than once I started paying attention. Only 3 weeks in. When I deleted all his calls and text it was scary how much time in 3 weeks we talked.
I’m always attracting emotional unavailable men. I always like guys that doesn’t like me “that much.” If a guy is too in to me it’s a turn off. Ugh. Dating is not for me right now so I’m fully focused on loving my self and aging self worth.
I had a guy I suspected was a ladies man claiming he only wanted me & was single. He told me my suspicions were wrong because he never posted anything with him being with anyone. Like I thought and as you said Tony If you see that a man doesn't post a woman doesn't make him single...Men don't post their woman because they are open to meeting another woman online to replace their current woman or they're looking to cheat. 🙌🏽
I’ve come to learn that a man who has not and did not take the time to heal is a man who can’t be alone. I stay away from men who say they can’t be alone, that’s not healthy.
I agree about social media. The ball is in his court when you dm him . He knows you want him and even if he ain’t interested he will see what you are willing to give .. basically another possible notch in his belt
Be blessed!!! Thank you Tony If he is interested , he will approach you or pursue you when dating. If you were dating for awhile and he doesn’t post a picture of you , claim you on Facebook that means that he’s probably entertaining other women and he doesn’t want them to know about you. This happened to me. If he’s not posting your picture he’s privately playing... you! If a man didn’t want anybody in his business, he wouldn’t have a social media account.
@@sashaprayslay196 not 100% accurate. You guys need to grow a bit. I have a social media account and still only my close circle knows anything I want them to know. I don't post much of anything on social media. Personally I distrust anyone who posts a lot on social media.
AD J Tony only verified what I already knew what was happening but he confirmed this as a man. Believe me... men make women they are dealing with, their Facebook friends... this is why he didn’t want to post a pic with me in my case. Be blessed 😃 I watched his actions not his words..
Thank you, what you said in the last line is absolutely true. If have to guess if a man wants you, then he doesn't. And don't wait for no man, move on with your life, live and embrace the blessings in front of you today.
You know I found that when I'm just caught up in the moment and just focused on what I'm doing, men take notice of that. So ladies just be you, do you and love you. Your natural self is attractive enough for the right guy so we classy not trashy! Thanks Tony I love your videos and I really admire your wife's finer qualities. So yes behind every great man is a great woman. Have a great day!
What he said about shy men is true because I'm a woman and I still get shy from time to time but one of the times I'm not shy is when i want something! Its crazy.....but i get serious at that point and i go for what it is i want(goals, jobs). So that statement holds true for both genders. This was a good video and with very good and simplistic content. Thanks!!
Many men are afraid of rejection from certain woman thats why no approach. Its has nothing with he dont want you. Many men are with a woman he doesnt really want to be with
Be blessed! this was a good one! I was doing it all wrong. Too often I was trying to "Do" something to get a man's attention. Now I know I just have to be seen!
Tonys right!!!! Im always uncomfortable when men continue to look at me or sneak peeks when they’re with their significant others. Sometimes, I’ll even turn the other direction, if I see that happening. Most men don’t attempt to hide it and will even find a reason to follow your a path for a while. 🤦🏾♀️🙄
Tony!!! When I tell you this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! That last 5 minutes was my confirmation. You literally said word for word something I’ve been dealing with and wondering about. God is truly using you to get through
He’s not the one. 😔 I’m not his wife move in with my life...the next to the last single church man in my age group at my church lol I guess God will send him to Home Depot...
Tony.. The LORD keeps me very much hidden... HE wants me to be with my Husband... Saving all for my Husband... Another great Video !!! Thanks so much !!! Be Blessed y'all 💙💙💙
Tony, there are men that post pictures of their woman on FB all hugged up and will inbox other women. Posting pictures of their woman means nothing these days.
One man sent me a friend request today.I checked his profile and he is in a relationship.Another one sent a friend request and I checked he has a wife and kids sitting on the couch.What is happening?
Lol 🤣 I'm taking notes for the Dr I have a crush on at work 😂 😂 😂 I've been making myself seen... Lord knows I have but he never says anything.. He just looks and smiles 😭 Yet another Junior Dr who works in the same vicinity as him came up to me and told me he has a crush on me and asked me out on a date 😭😭 you must be right because colleagues and friends said the same thing, he must be taken and trying to be faithful. 😢
@@saintko8019 I agree. But we don't work in the same department. I work in the lab and I only see him twice a week if I'm lucky 😂 I felt he was my husband in my spirit 😭😭😭🤣
True, he could be taken or he could know his personal life is so messed up he would rather not drag you into it. I hope the best for you, but please background these doctors before you connect with him. So many women like the idea of being with a doctor but have no clue how messy some of them can be. All the best💖💖💖
@@gmsunshine531 lol it's just a innocent crush. I'm not thinking so far ahead. You're right though... But I don't get attracted to people just off the 'idea' of something. Whether he was a Dr or a Porter it wouldn't have mattered... He was just REALLY fine lol! 🤣🤭
Thank you🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 So of course the next topic should be “wanting the ones who don’t want you”... based off how you ended this video! Lol you’re super dope for what you’re doing on this platform! Be Blessed 🙏🏾
This is a topic I've been searching for. I saw a guy & we did lock eyes for about only a minute. There was a window between us. I then realized I had seen him about two weeks earlier. I'm also extremely introverted & very shy. I keep hoping to grow out of it especially at my age. Well When I left the driveway of where I was he was already at his truck. I was too shy & giggly to make eye contact yet I know to not assume anything. Some of my friends said I should have approached him. I didn't feel I should & I'm glad I saw this video. Loved `A woman's Influence.
These behaviors on and off social media are so true. A man seeing a woman he’s interested in is all that has to be done. My old ways I would approach and that has led to disaster every time. Thank you for this knowledge you provide us with that has everlasting truth! BE BLESSED!
Every guy I dated from online said they wouldn’t have approached because they would have thought I had a boyfriend. And many men have told me they never approach - they just go online.
Hi Tony I bought your courses on writing a book and social media growth. Thank you! They are amazing! Working on writing my first book at 22 years old and just started my youtube channel! Be blessed!
All true. I make it a point to GET UP DRESS UP AND SHOW UP FOR WORK , and I wear scrubs. But those extra minutes spent ironing, color coordinating, and primping gets me compliments from males and females at work; patients and staff, ALL RACES!!! But I look my best for me, it just makes me happy to preserve what God gave me. Thanks for sharing. Be blessed!!!!
The only men that friend request me or message me on Facebook are either really old, ugly or crazy looking!!! If those are saltine crackers I don’t want them😫
That is not true there is someone out there for you. Be patient because the right one is coming if you trust God. Plus make sure you are looking nice when you go out even to the store.
Be blessed. 🙏🏾 Tbh I don’t even like a guys photo online unless I personally know them on a platonic level. Some guys mistake a “like” for I like them. 🥴 Also I’m a very friendly person and I’m nice to everyone male and female and they mistake that for liking them. People aren’t used to kind people and it’s annoying.🤷🏾♀️ I can never win so I just mind my business.
ebonie shenece felt this !!! I’m tired of people who aren’t used to kindness making me feel bad about mine. Especially when you’re a single attractive female, people assume your kindness is flirting or something
Yeah ive met a guy that was in a whole relationship, no pics of her on social media and he claimed to be single but chased me for two years, smdh I found out through the grapevine people hide their mess, you have to be really smart and not just trust what people say but trust their actions!!! He needs to grow up and mature...excellent video👏❤ you're speaking nothing but truth
This was right on time! Thank you. He's seen me. He has access to me so if he's interested he will approach. I shall do nothing else at this point. I do think he's shy but if we,'re meant to be God will give him the courage to make a move.
Thank you Tony!!! Your knowledge and tips are always on point! Remember ladies, Tony is a man, once a single man but now a married man, so he knows..... The key takeaway - JUST BE SEEN!!! Continue to keep yourselves up, with your looks, skills and knowledge! Do not chase these men, let them chase YOU!!! ♥️♥️♥️
WOW! This video HIT! I love your analogies lmao! But you spoke nothing but the truth here.. I'm going to take your advice & move on from my crush because obviously I've shown I'm interested and he just smiles and keeps walking sooo.. I truly appreciate your videos, Tony, you the man!!
I don’t understand why a man will flirt and show he is interested, but pursue you? Is he just doing enough to keep you interested with no intentions of dating you?
Awww, that's so sweet how you met your wife. Really lovely approach. The bit about the tiger tattoo though, "You got to have gone thru sum thanygz to get you that tattoo..." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
An OLD Lady once told me: "Instead of LOOKING for the "Right" Person.... BE the Right Person!"
How can you be the right person??
@@detrixhogan6078
Proverbs 31, please read !!!
@@detrixhogan6078 By focusing on becoming the BEST YOU God intended you to be! Take a Community Ed. Class, Learn a skill, Give some of your time to teach somebody or volunteer. Use your Gifts to Bless other people..... Work on YOU. Love Yourself. (We are to Love others as we LOVE OURSELF) Get a good sense on WHO you are. All My Best. (MOM of 5)
@@detrixhogan6078 yes, proverbs 31 and other self help and professional development books.
Detrix Hogan Spend time in with God. Reading the Bible and Allowing God to lead you.
NEVER WANT ANYTHING THAT DON'T WANT YOU......man, woman, parent, child, friend, job, cat, dog, Whatever! Don't put yourself through that kind of torture.
The cat and dog part got me. I had a cat and a dog that didn't love me. Lol. Those animals were so mean.
@@mirandaholley9797 LoL, not the cat and the dog?! DAMN! Neither one had ❤4 u? I'm sorry 😔
Amen, Amen & AMAN 👌🏽
Right!!! I was dating a guy for just 2 weeks and he asked for sex🙅🙅🙅🙅 I told him I wanted to wait and he texted me a day later and said he was thinking about ending things with me and he just didn't feel things were right with me...lol...im like we just meet what feelings are there to have this fast💁💁💁💁
haaaaaaaaaaaaaa lollll facts
When a man don’t approach me, I already know he don’t want me! Period...
That's the truth period
Ina nutshell
Right, it's that simple.🤷♀️🥰
Lynn, right! 💯👍🏾
I’ve learned this & once it’s accepted it’s liberating
My grand pops use to tell me and all my cousins THE QUALITY OF WHO YOU ARE WILL BE THE QUALITY THAT YOU DRAW. SO BE A HIGH QUALITY PERSON
Wow! I agree! So few people want to accept this as reality!!
I disagree. Generalizing this makes zero sense. People do actually get approached by shitty people. Seriously what's stopping a shitty person from approaching anyone? And if they are extra shitty and think you seem like you can be taken advantage of....they will try you. Life is not black and white. There is a such thing as people being too nice and giving the wrong people chances. Doesn't mean they aren't quality people. Then there are just DECEITFUL people out there. Who will mirror you, act like they're on the same page, but are really demons.
If this was undeniably true, that you attract the same quality person as you then wouldn't you both always be compatible??
Your "grand pops" was wrong, because all I keep drawing is gold diggers
Sage advice❤️
Looks like yall just dont want to admit its you. Look in the mirror you're attracting what you're attacting
my husband "SAW" me when I was 17, he said he knew it was something about me, 32yrs later we still going strong 😍 thats my BOO, and HE chased me
That’s beautiful 😌
Love it...
Awe How Inspiring ❤️
You got REALLY lucky. There was no Instagram then
@lavidavi yeah I'm not a big fan of that part of his advice. If you want a traditional man, let them approach you. If you want a modern man, approach whoever the hell you want to lol. Just because you do the approaching doesn't mean you have to commit
And ladies, every time you leave the house, make sure you look like you’re going to run into your husband!! 💅🏾Be SEEN looking like a quality queen 👑
Lick My Cocoa FACTS
THIS is so important. Everytime my foot touches outside I'm prepared! Some lady even asked me "do you always dress like this" 🤣 Yes I do ma'am until I find my husband
@@Bgrace15 and you will continue to dress my queen once you meet him😘
@@sharoncobb2547 I will! Thank you ❤
Aminah A Yes!! I’m in that process now too. Lose the weight. Upgrade the wardrobe. Keep the hair done. Walk with your head held high. Be mindful of resting bxtch face. Be pleasant and inviting. And own your confidence wherever you’re at!! 💛
My dad's famous words, He said to me baby when a man wants to be with you he'll be with YOU. Oh yea I'm from a traditional family my parents were together 48 yrs till my mothers transitioning.
Facts
Absolutely
good advice! what kind of transitioning?
@@acatte1 she passed away
E Volved i’m so sorry 🙏🏼♥️
That’s why I want my soulmate to see me in person. I don’t like this online stuff-makes it easier to be passive.
treneé I feel you! But all my friends keep telling be to get on bumble I feel like this is the new way of dating 🤦🏾♀️ no one approaches anymore they just look 👀
Right
I hate online too sis
treneé it’s crazy because I had this desire to meet this guy lol but I don’t think it was the right time for anyone maybe it can happen I believe W God anything is possible. If it will happen like you dais maybe he it isn’t time or isn’t ready.
Same here
Stop chasing the man Ladies.
Amen
yessss!! had a friend who chased this man down in ANOTHER state, she found out he a WOMAN and a BABY!!
👌🏽
Damn ok 😔
I did 1 chase recently 😞
I used to say, "One day I'll find the right man", but now I think differently. Now, it's "One day the right man will find ME." I won't be chasing, I'll be caring for myself; he'll be looking for me 😌💕
SO RIGHT! YES INDEED!!
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Amen
Amen! I have the mindset "If I don't know what to do with myself I'm not going to know what to do in a relationship or marriage".
There are so many married women who don't know WHO THEY ARE and are suffering in silence because of it. Being single is LIT when you're walking in your purpose all while waiting for whoever man/husband the Lord has for you will be an ADDITION to your personal Happiness. 🙏🏽🌹🌹❤️❤️
Amen ❤ 💯 🙏🏽
You cannot stop who is attracted to you but you can control who you entertain...married but separated and emotionally unavailable...cut them off...
Dtella55 that's the key!!
This right here ☝🏾
Amen
Amen
Oh shit lol.. personal 😂
AND...Even if he approaches you he might not be the one. Be careful
Best comment on here
Learnt that
Facts
Whoever raised you should be proud...you are a well spoken, God fearing man.
Now he is he was a dirty man before he talks about how he used to be that’s why he can give advice about it.
So True. Very inteligent Man
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lol I don't chase, advertise, nor audition for attention from anyone. I love myself. My self worth & confidence is sky high. I happily do me & keep it moving. 💅
Laor Jones 💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽
😉agreed
Yess Queen 🥰💜❤️🖤
Maybe you can help others get where you are ! What’s step one ?
Amen..
You lost me when you say walk at a normal pace. I always look like I’m running from the police 😂😂😂😂
Same 😂
How to get a man interested: Just Be SEEN by him
SO RIGHT! YES INDEED!
I tell the young ladies to just act like a lady is supposed to. The man is the hunter. A real man knows how to shoot for what he wants, he won't need your help.
AMEN! HALLAJUAUH! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED!
If a man is available, and he sees you ! HE IS GOING TO APPROACH YOU! ❤️
And if he doesn't he is not available (married, engaged, in a relationship, or just not where he wants to be in life) to date he will not approach.
@@rickimcfarland2269 or not interested in you
EXACTLY! No need to approach and risk embarrassing oneself infront of a taken man
SO VERY RIGHT! YES INDEED!
And some will still approach while married or in relationships...hard to trust
This is the truth. It's simple, be clean, shampooed, smell good, cute outfit, nothing fancy and walk slower ladies. They will see you. If you pretend you're walking on a pink fluffy cloud while walking slow, ohhhhhh you bet. I had a man look at me like he'd never seen a woman before, and I'm average at best. No man, has ever looked at me like that before. It felt amazing. Be feminine. Thanks for all your videos Tony, they're awesome!
SO VERY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH'S SAID!
Truth, being at peace with God and a pencil skirt dress is my go-to 🙂, be comfortable in being a lady
Something you said in your comment I personally have to work on and that's WALKING SLOWER....LOL I have a habit of power walking everywhere I go unless I'm out shopping 🛍️. But yeah, maybe the man God has for me won't mind sprinting to catch up when he sees me lol.
Wooooow. I’m going to try this. I tend to walk pretty fast. Smh. I’ll come back for the results. 😁
yes , they see me even from other sidewalks , sometimes right into my face if I walk up the stairs. I only wear nice and comfortable clothes like most men. Only hoodies and jeans. but I have an opinion and laugh but its rare as most people dont make me laugh. For some men having an opinion and questioning things are unladylike but I dont know, I dont meet much men howver 90% of them look at me when I walk up and down the streets and in cafe too.
You don’t have to do a cartwheel 🤸♀️ in front of him 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Tony means "TWERKING" in front of him, when he says do a "Cartwheel" in front of him. LMBO!
😂😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂-the visual 🤣😂
Nobody:
Tony Gaskins: Point, Blank, PERIYAAAD.🤣
Kyja Ruth 😂😂😂
😭🗣🗣🗣
Hahaha 😁🤣😂
Lolol. That made me laugh out loud in real life.
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Be sweet...be intelligent...be silently mysterious, while being absolutely gorgeous! That creates seduction....then....ignore the living hell out of him. Don't look at him, act like he doesn't even exist! Thats the secret ladies! But you have to really FEEL it. Cause men can FEEL if you really truly want them! They can tell. You have to almost trick yourself into believing it. And you've got him! He wont be afraid to approach you because you're the "silent type"...and when he does talk to you, he will find you are intelligent. But at the same time he doesn't exist until he comes to you. Drives em nuts!
Thank you
Thanks
Facts!
this is everything❤️
So play manipulative games right?
Ignore them. They just love it when you don't validate them.
Exactly. I do this.
@@Nekole1 Yep, they seem to love and or want you more when you ignore them or are about to walk out the door. Ain't that some shizzle 🤔
Regina Craig I’ve been thirsty smh dealing with a Nigerian who is egotistical he don’t wanna work for me
This is me. I ignore the shit out if them and it's funny that always come to me.
@@janayewill3883 I hate to break it to you but that man probably don't want you like that. I'm Nigerian so I know. Also . If you've slept with him already this is most likely the chance that he's gotten what he wants already
When he say “Listen to me” I’m like let me write this down 😂
Famous423 😂😂😂😂🙌🏾
🤣🤣😭😭ikr suh
Famous423 😁💕
Me too. Lol
😂😂 for real!
You are so on point! Thanks I ignored the man who became my husband because I wanted him to be a man and come directly to me. In the meantime I bettered myself through education improved my appearance. I didn’t fully respect him until he had the courage to approach. When he did approach I still didn’t loose myself until he proposed. I wish I knew this as a younger woman would have saved me so much heartache. Thanks again
Thanks for sharing! I’m in this situation now and I’m going to keep smiling and speaking until he makes his move 😉
Your testimony is an encouragement to those of us who are not so young anymore, who have suffered past headache and still waiting on the Lord for our God ordained husband's. Thank you for sharing!
Be blessed
Be Blessed & Listen to the Spirit
NOT your emotions! Don't trap yourself with someone NOT SENT FROM GOD!
I agree
Agree 100% I'm currently praying hard to know if the one who recently approach me is from God, he is IGNORED until God speaks, Amen....
Absolutely
Joyce Yvankovich Amen to that
My spirit kept telling me let him go. I didn't get it he was great then I seen it.
I can feel the soul tie starting to form. I realized you don't have to have sex for a man to create a soul tie. It's great consistent conversations, him correcting you when you wrong with silence then apologize but then rub it in like "damn I messed up already" knowing he was the real cause. He pulling it all together then got inconsistent short text shorter calls but still every day. He wanna see you but wont set a date but talk about what you wanna do. Then ask you to come out when he out kickin it.
RUUUUNNNN!!!
His is creating a roller-coaster ride if your not strong enough to jump you gone get stuck.
When you don't get caught up in the ideas of him you will pay attention and act accordingly. Alway listen to your spirit i seen the set up and left but only because my spirit said leave more than once I started paying attention. Only 3 weeks in. When I deleted all his calls and text it was scary how much time in 3 weeks we talked.
I don’t like the idea of a guy being in limbo with his x because they might just use you to try to get over their x and go back to their x.
LuluKinyozi Beauty but it’s true
I agree! That's ludacris! I dont trust people who don't take time to heal and learn from thier experiences.
That's why you do not go all in like Tony Gaskins said you talk to them. How can they take advantage.
Emotionally unavailable could also mean damaged and/or in the process of healing.
We're not his nurse tho.
You have a point that most people never think of when you said " in the process of healing."
100%
My grandmother always says "you got to look good too get him and you got to look good too keep him!"😆
Amen! HALLAJUAUH! Yes INDEED! So u RIGHT!
My new words “point blank PERIAAD”
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YAAAASSSSS honey!!!! "Point Blank PeriAAAD!"
Lol love it
Or “You hurrrr me” lol
Motto of the New Year You Not His Wife Move on With Your Life! Be Blessed.
Yes&Amen
High-five Sherita! Have a Happy New Year
FACTS 🙌🏽
“Hot tropics” 😂😂
alicia4010 😂😂😂
"Or one of them other cheap stores" 😂😂😂
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Hehehe, I thought he said it right but I guess I automatically corrected him.
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Lol...that flip phone/sore throat story is priceless😂
I thought that was very cute ☺️
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Lol
Haaa, a guy wrote a note on his phone to me and we started talking the next day. He turned out to be crazy 🙃🤣.
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I’m always attracting emotional unavailable men. I always like guys that doesn’t like me “that much.” If a guy is too in to me it’s a turn off. Ugh. Dating is not for me right now so I’m fully focused on loving my self and aging self worth.
Aww you are so beautiful. It sounds like your attachment style. Maybe find a therapist or look up information on attachment styles.
Dene Yung thank you! I will do that
Good job girl !
That kinda describes me, don't know how to go about it
Sounds like your not into yourself. I use to be like that when my self esteem was low.
😂😂😂😂.."You done had been through sum thangs to get that Tiger on yo thigh"😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 A WHOLE TIGER on Your thigh!!!
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😂😂😂😂Cracked me up
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This video is Hilarious!!! 😂 🤣😂🤣 “She look like she been through some things with that tiger tattoo on her thigh” 🤣😂🤣😂
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 She look like she gon chew you up and spit you out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right, I was on the floor when Tony said that. He is hilarious and keeping it 💯.
Tattoos are never classy
@@saintko8019 I always wanted a tattoo and never gotten one til this day.
Swan
OH YES.... I was screaming laughing so hard at this....Tony know what time it is.
Man, you're like the big brother I never had putting me up on game. 😂 I love it! ❤️
I had a guy I suspected was a ladies man claiming he only wanted me & was single. He told me my suspicions were wrong because he never posted anything with him being with anyone. Like I thought and as you said Tony If you see that a man doesn't post a woman doesn't make him single...Men don't post their woman because they are open to meeting another woman online to replace their current woman or they're looking to cheat. 🙌🏽
Boom✊🏾
And if they thirst trap 😅😅😅😅😅😔😔😔
@@ebonyessence2838 Right. The thirst trap is real. lbs 😄🤷🏽
Factz#1000
Facts 😁
Learning this stuff at 17 years old. Be blessed ♥️
I wish @TonyGaskins saw this baby Girl!❤
Amen. In Jamaica they say, "what ah fi yuh, caa un-fi you."
It means that what is for you cannot be un-yours.
Hell emotionally unavailable he gonna approach even more. Cuz men can’t be alone. So either he will make u a rebound or the next
Yes ma'am 💯💯
Be blessed
The realest advice!! @ Inga04
I’ve come to learn that a man who has not and did not take the time to heal is a man who can’t be alone. I stay away from men who say they can’t be alone, that’s not healthy.
DopeNoLye correct!!!
Be blessed. Thank you Tony. I have said it for years, a man not posting his girlfriend on social media means he is still searching.
True words
I agree about social media. The ball is in his court when you dm him . He knows you want him and even if he ain’t interested he will see what you are willing to give .. basically another possible notch in his belt
Just be yourself if it’s meant to be it’ll come to you ..ladies listen to this man! (Myself included lol)
I feel scared when men approach me...because some act wild and say things that aren't appropriate to say to a lady.
I screamed when you said she had a “tiger on her thigh” 😭🤣🤣🤣
DeeDee Carter YES!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Me too 😂😄🤣
The story on how you approached your wife is one of the sweetest I've ever heard.
Gloria Johnson which video
Is that
Be blessed!!! Thank you Tony
If he is interested , he will approach you or pursue you when dating. If you were dating for awhile and he doesn’t post a picture of you , claim you on Facebook that means that he’s probably entertaining other women and he doesn’t want them to know about you. This happened to me. If he’s not posting your picture he’s privately playing... you! If a man didn’t want anybody in his business, he wouldn’t have a social media account.
PJ Cali Preach!
@@sashaprayslay196 not 100% accurate. You guys need to grow a bit. I have a social media account and still only my close circle knows anything I want them to know. I don't post much of anything on social media. Personally I distrust anyone who posts a lot on social media.
Wooo! The facts!!!
AD J Tony only verified what I already knew what was happening but he confirmed this as a man. Believe me... men make women they are dealing with, their Facebook friends... this is why he didn’t want to post a pic with me in my case. Be blessed 😃 I watched his actions not his words..
Let the church say Amen!!!
Thank you, what you said in the last line is absolutely true. If have to guess if a man wants you, then he doesn't. And don't wait for no man, move on with your life, live and embrace the blessings in front of you today.
You know I found that when I'm just caught up in the moment and just focused on what I'm doing, men take notice of that. So ladies just be you, do you and love you. Your natural self is attractive enough for the right guy so we classy not trashy! Thanks Tony I love your videos and I really admire your wife's finer qualities. So yes behind every great man is a great woman. Have a great day!
💯 truth
AMEN! SO RIGHT! YES INDEED! THATS IT! ENOUGH SAID!
“You look thirsty” ..... CORRECT!!!! 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂 the way he approached the lady in the mall! The way too funny!😂
Ahhhhhh, I just love it! Only 2 reason a man does not approach a woman: he is not interested or he's involved. That's it! Thanks, Sir!
There's a third reason, if a woman looks unapproachable, has a resting bitch face or doesn't take time to look her best, he might not approach.
What he said about shy men is true because I'm a woman and I still get shy from time to time but one of the times I'm not shy is when i want something! Its crazy.....but i get serious at that point and i go for what it is i want(goals, jobs). So that statement holds true for both genders. This was a good video and with very good and simplistic content. Thanks!!
Many men are afraid of rejection from certain woman thats why no approach. Its has nothing with he dont want you. Many men are with a woman he doesnt really want to be with
Preach brother...
It wasn't always that way, he wanted her at some point. Men DON'T approach women they don't want. Period
G-notes Johnson, true
@@mindyourbusiness6906 Right, I don't really recall this video, but what changed would be the best question for this one.
But won't he take the risk?
Be blessed! this was a good one! I was doing it all wrong. Too often I was trying to "Do" something to get a man's attention. Now I know I just have to be seen!
& that’s point, blank, PERIOOAADD!
I screamed when he said that lol
He said dont miss your blessing cause this guy look like an Oreo ready to be dipped in some chocolate milk I was done Tony be having me gone 😂😂😂
I HAVE WATCHED YOUR VIDEO 4TIMES IN A ROW, I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU TAKING TIME TO LET WOMEN KNOW WHAT TIME IT IS.
Tonys right!!!! Im always uncomfortable when men continue to look at me or sneak peeks when they’re with their significant others. Sometimes, I’ll even turn the other direction, if I see that happening. Most men don’t attempt to hide it and will even find a reason to follow your a path for a while. 🤦🏾♀️🙄
Tony!!! When I tell you this is EXACTLY what I needed to hear! That last 5 minutes was my confirmation. You literally said word for word something I’ve been dealing with and wondering about. God is truly using you to get through
He’s not the one. 😔 I’m not his wife move in with my life...the next to the last single church man in my age group at my church lol I guess God will send him to Home Depot...
Tony.. The LORD keeps me very much hidden... HE wants me to be with my Husband... Saving all for my Husband... Another great Video !!! Thanks so much !!! Be Blessed y'all 💙💙💙
Tony, there are men that post pictures of their woman on FB all hugged up and will inbox other women. Posting pictures of their woman means nothing these days.
Preach!!!
One man sent me a friend request today.I checked his profile and he is in a relationship.Another one sent a friend request and I checked he has a wife and kids sitting on the couch.What is happening?
Well what u need to do is stay far from them type of guys, they prove that they're not loyal...
Yessss. I feel sorry for girls like those. Easy to fool n clueless.
Yup! My dad was/is one of these "men". Son of a B****. Thank God my Mom left him.
Sometimes you get that special connection and you just feel the person genuinely like you. It's a wonderful feeling indeed
Hot Tropics, Clairs and Charlie Russe😂😂
Yes its soo unattractive when a woman is LOUD and obnoxious
I have had a special needs man flirt with me so there’s no stopping them lol
Alicia Caver me too. Guy is in a wheelchair asked me out.
I've experienced one trying to hit on me in a wheelchair and homeless guys too. You're right, ain't no stopping them. 😩
Don’t live with one.
Lol! He's still a man!
@LadyD right! Some of the comments are heartbreaking.
Lol 🤣 I'm taking notes for the Dr I have a crush on at work 😂 😂 😂 I've been making myself seen... Lord knows I have but he never says anything.. He just looks and smiles 😭 Yet another Junior Dr who works in the same vicinity as him came up to me and told me he has a crush on me and asked me out on a date 😭😭 you must be right because colleagues and friends said the same thing, he must be taken and trying to be faithful. 😢
I work at the hospital and there's several cute doctors but I always follow the rule "Don't eat where you shxt" meaning NEVER date your colleagues
@@saintko8019 I agree. But we don't work in the same department. I work in the lab and I only see him twice a week if I'm lucky 😂 I felt he was my husband in my spirit 😭😭😭🤣
@@saintko8019 oh I get it. Regarding going on a date. Imma have to reject it. He has playa playa vibes written all over him.
True, he could be taken or he could know his personal life is so messed up he would rather not drag you into it. I hope the best for you, but please background these doctors before you connect with him. So many women like the idea of being with a doctor but have no clue how messy some of them can be. All the best💖💖💖
@@gmsunshine531 lol it's just a innocent crush. I'm not thinking so far ahead. You're right though... But I don't get attracted to people just off the 'idea' of something. Whether he was a Dr or a Porter it wouldn't have mattered... He was just REALLY fine lol! 🤣🤭
Where the heck were u in my 20s??? I needed all this guidance at that time. Be blessed!!!
YOU PREACHN BROTHER 🙏🏿 IT'S PREACHERS WHO DON'T BREAK IT DOWN LIKE YOU DO.
"Hey-Hey, it's Tony Gaskins here..."😂😂 I love it!!!!
I thought we weren’t going to get a video today but you came through.. bless you!
Thank you🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 So of course the next topic should be “wanting the ones who don’t want you”... based off how you ended this video! Lol you’re super dope for what you’re doing on this platform! Be Blessed 🙏🏾
Be Blessed
This is a topic I've been searching for. I saw a guy & we did lock eyes for about only a minute. There was a window between us. I then realized I had seen him about two weeks earlier. I'm also extremely introverted & very shy. I keep hoping to grow out of it especially at my age. Well When I left the driveway of where I was he was already at his truck. I was too shy & giggly to make eye contact yet I know to not assume anything. Some of my friends said I should have approached him. I didn't feel I should & I'm glad I saw this video. Loved `A woman's Influence.
These behaviors on and off social media are so true. A man seeing a woman he’s interested in is all that has to be done. My old ways I would approach and that has led to disaster every time. Thank you for this knowledge you provide us with that has everlasting truth!
BE BLESSED!
Every guy I dated from online said they wouldn’t have approached because they would have thought I had a boyfriend. And many men have told me they never approach - they just go online.
Hi Tony I bought your courses on writing a book and social media growth. Thank you! They are amazing! Working on writing my first book at 22 years old and just started my youtube channel! Be blessed!
All true. I make it a point to GET UP DRESS UP AND SHOW UP FOR WORK , and I wear scrubs. But those extra minutes spent ironing, color coordinating, and primping gets me compliments from males and females at work; patients and staff, ALL RACES!!! But I look my best for me, it just makes me happy to preserve what God gave me. Thanks for sharing. Be blessed!!!!
The only men that friend request me or message me on Facebook are either really old, ugly or crazy looking!!! If those are saltine crackers I don’t want them😫
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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 you got me looking stupid in the gym.
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😢🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 wow
He either taken, not his type, or gay 💅🏾
Gay falls under not his type😂
@@summerdior459 Right!
Or scared.
TONY you killed it on this video (I already feel like a million bucks) BABY 2020 lets get it ladies like the girl in the store shopping own it.
Whew, when he looking like a snack! 😍 I like snacks 😩 the struggle... 😂 be blessed 💫
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 Even then...DO...NOT... APPROACH!!!
Cher H believe you me girl those snacks are always taken🤓
@@viewly390 yep, and yet they want a side dish lol I look tho 👀
Thanks for pumping out the videos Tony. Truly appreciate your words of wisdom. Stay blessed!
Point blank peer-iowd 😂😂😂
lol he said this right when i saw your comment
I guess I'm no one's type. Men never approach me
Duchess Marie 😂😂🤣🤣 don’t say that! I’m mostly approached by dusties! So which one is better? Your senario of course 😂
Oh you two
@@Ela-vw9gv I get approach by dusties a lot. On top of that I have never been in a relationship. The good guys look past me.
That is not true there is someone out there for you. Be patient because the right one is coming if you trust God. Plus make sure you are looking nice when you go out even to the store.
Same here !!!
Mr. Tonyyyy, be bleeeessseedd!! Literally ministering to my spirit 😭😭😭 I needed this for 2020! Thank you and God bless you!!
Be blessed. 🙏🏾
Tbh I don’t even like a guys photo online unless I personally know them on a platonic level. Some guys mistake a “like” for I like them. 🥴
Also I’m a very friendly person and I’m nice to everyone male and female and they mistake that for liking them.
People aren’t used to kind people and it’s annoying.🤷🏾♀️ I can never win so I just mind my business.
ebonie shenece felt this !!! I’m tired of people who aren’t used to kindness making me feel bad about mine. Especially when you’re a single attractive female, people assume your kindness is flirting or something
OHMYGOODNESSS I have NEVER related more to a comment!! 👏👏👏
😂😭💀 the humor in this!! The message was real though 👏🏽
FACTS TONY!!!! IT GETS NO SIMPLER THEN THAT. MAKES ALL THE SENSE IN THE WORLD.
EITHER HES TAKEN OR UR NOT HIS TYPE. KEEP IT MOVING.
Yeah ive met a guy that was in a whole relationship, no pics of her on social media and he claimed to be single but chased me for two years, smdh I found out through the grapevine people hide their mess, you have to be really smart and not just trust what people say but trust their actions!!! He needs to grow up and mature...excellent video👏❤ you're speaking nothing but truth
When there is a will there is always a way 💕💕💕
SO RIGHT! YES INDEED!
This was right on time! Thank you. He's seen me. He has access to me so if he's interested he will approach. I shall do nothing else at this point. I do think he's shy but if we,'re meant to be God will give him the courage to make a move.
SO RIGHT! YES INDEED!
Whew! You’ve said a mouthful! Be blessed Mr. Gaskins!
Be blessed! I heard the next message coming out at the end! “Wanting someone who doesn’t want you.”
Thank you Tony!!! Your knowledge and tips are always on point! Remember ladies, Tony is a man, once a single man but now a married man, so he knows..... The key takeaway - JUST BE SEEN!!! Continue to keep yourselves up, with your looks, skills and knowledge! Do not chase these men, let them chase YOU!!! ♥️♥️♥️
Get someone who likes you no matter what because situations change
I like how he gets into character telling his love story of how he met his wife. Notes taken. “No Thirst Trapping!” Period.
"I know you felt it in your spirit" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I really did 😂 let me let it go 🤭
Gurl he had me weak😂😂😂 I really felt it in my spirit 😂😔
@@destinyuplift 😂😂😂 these feelings really be playing us 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
That was funny...😂😂😂
sad truth 😣
WOW! This video HIT! I love your analogies lmao! But you spoke nothing but the truth here.. I'm going to take your advice & move on from my crush because obviously I've shown I'm interested and he just smiles and keeps walking sooo.. I truly appreciate your videos, Tony, you the man!!
I don’t understand why a man will flirt and show he is interested, but pursue you? Is he just doing enough to keep you interested with no intentions of dating you?
Awww, that's so sweet how you met your wife. Really lovely approach. The bit about the tiger tattoo though, "You got to have gone thru sum thanygz to get you that tattoo..." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣