I’m 61 and have been married to a woman who is 15 years older than myself for 38 brilliant years, yes she looks older than me as I look younger than my age but who cares what anyone thinks and no one has said anything to us about it. When you really love someone what others think and say doesn’t matter.
I have a similar experience, having been married to someone much younger than me. Unfortunately he just passed, even being younger. No one really knows how life will evolve. We never really gave it a thought, and no one ever mentioned it. I think we looked about the same age, but of course as we all age, it might have changed in time. But like you say, who cares? I am also in the NYC area, where relationships are pretty diverse, and it was never an issue. Chemistry, compatibility and love are important, not age.
My husband was12years younger than me. I never had a problem. He recently passed away and we were married for38 years. I think it depends on the person. He was my person and I miss him so much.
I am a 63 year old single retired male. This is not a comment on this video, but your channel in general. Somehow the algorithm sent me one of your videos and I was hooked immediately. Your personality, poise, confidence, articulation and video style ( being slightly back farther from the camera and a lower left aspect) makes you less a talking head (as many channels are) and more a friend over for coffee. Your conversation style feels so natural and honest I want to know what and why you think what you do. I just hit subscribe! Good luck with your channel and I look forward to more from you neighbor!
My neighbor is 82 and her husband is 68. They both look 50 and and no one would know if they didn’t tell everybody 😂. They are energetic and fun to be around! They have been happily married for over 35 years! ❤
I dated a man 19 years younger than me for almost 5 years. I'm childfree, and he doesn’t want kids either. I look about 10 years younger than my age, and I'm very energetic and sporty. Everything was great between us - we shared hobbies and passions, and we loved spending time together. He used to visit almost every weekend, and sometimes even during the week. I never really noticed people staring at us. I look younger and even though he also looks much younger for his age, so we never got any bad looks or comments. I met his family, but I preferred to keep things intimate between us. I didn’t attend holidays like Christmas with his family and was comfortable with our long-distance arrangement. However, I eventually found out that he kept talking to other women online. Although he showed me a lot of affection, bought gifts and flowers, supported me, and was there when I needed him, he couldn't stop connecting with new women. While the conversations weren’t really flirtatious, I just couldn’t accept it. It’s been two months since I ended things, and it’s been really hard. He tried to reach out but never actually apologized. I realize now that he’s 28 and still discovering himself, so I decided to just let him go.
Reading the first half of your comment… I could have predicted the last paragraph. Of course he was speaking to other women , we women can be so naive.
"They either want a nurse or a purse", as the saying goes. The last relationship I was in, he was 14 years younger. He ended up needing two hip replacements and he was in his early fifties! I took great care of him (nurse) and of course was purchasing a lot of food to include in that care (purse). We had discussions on how he might eventually have to care for me someday. He swore up and down he could and would. I got a puppy, and he didn't lift a finger to help out! Therefore, it's not what someone says, it's what they do that speaks volumes!!! Many lessons learned. Thank God I got a puppy, she showed me who he really was before it was too late.
He just wasn't interested in playing pet parent. If he never said he's got all this love to give and needs a fur friend for an outlet, don't be surprised if he's not interested in scrubbing carpets trying to toilet train it or walk it with worn out hips.
I'm 51 and I don't like dating younger men right now because the men always have young kids and ex-wife or baby mama drama. I usually date 10 years older.
I know what you mean. i was always younger looking too. one day my son and I were eating at a restaurant and a woman passed by us and said , look at the cougar! in a derogatory way and I thought I'm not doing anything but having lunch with my son lol. another time my other son had his arm around me while we were walking through the mall and OH MY! the looks we got. I don't know why it's looked at any different than men dating a much younger woman, but of course the old double standard in society is still there.
That woman Sounds like a creep. My divorced colleague moved to a new house, and was out front washing the car and got into a water fight with his teenage daughter. The neighbors were giving him dirty looks. They thought she was his girlfriend.
@@rosamoreno4794 it's not gross, it's not society - it's just biology. You could argue it's different today but what's 30-40 years in thousands of years of human evolution?
@@doncorleone3901 not true! A couple of hundred years ago in Europe it was common to that a younger man married an older widow, took care of her business and when she passed he married a younger woman to have children with and so on. It was a way to to preserve property and make sure older women were taken care of
Im 23 years older than my fiance. We have been together 7 1/2 years and its amazing. We are best friends and feel just as passionate as we did in the beginning. Weve had to navigate around his family issues but not mine. I worry about the agjng, but who’s to say if I was with somebody closer to my own age, that they would stay faithful as I age out? Bottom line is, nobody else that I’ve ever been with has expressed and demonstrated as much love as he does towards me. There are no guarantees in relationships, no matter what the age between the two partners.
I am a 57 year old black female who was recently in a 15 year relationship with a white male who was one year older. It seems the people who had problems with our relationship were middle age and senior white women. I loved it. As a black woman we see on a daily basis white women with black men; so my attitude was to smile and in my mind, I would say “deal with it”.
I have dated women much older than me for many years. I’m 70 and dated several women in their mid eighties and one in their nineties. They really appreciate what I have done for them. And I love their mature beauty.
Good insight! I found that the men who were 10 years younger than me and reached out to date me was because they were immature financially and in other ways. They needed a mom type and leader so it was no deal for me.
My great grandmother was 14-15 years older than her 2nd husband. They stayed together through two world wars and the great depression. It's a situation that has occurred throughout history and all cultures. The relationship is no one's business but the two involved. We are too concerned in this day and age about what others think. Variety is the spice of life. Why wear masks to impress others? Each person's life is their own. As far as children, men can father any time and may have other relationships after an older mate passes away. We try to control so much...if love finds you, just be happy.
Omg. Just the other day you were at 7k subscribers. Wow, just a few days and you’re at 10k?? Congratulations!!! Love watching your videos. I’m a almost 60 year old female. You’re very open and honest. Love your views on it all.
My wife of 32 years passed away two years ago and re-entering the dating world has been amusing - recognizing that I am the root cause of most of the humor. Once you have made 60 trips around the sun, you are pretty set in your ways and in many ways this simplifies determining if you have a good fit with someone. Obviously, no one is going to change at this point in life. I have dated women 12 year older than me and 12 years younger than me. I really do not think that span of years is that big of a deal - but the life experiences certainly are. Relax , if it is meant to be, it will happen. In the mean time, I pray you are happy. Best of Luck, Becoming Me
I think the biggest drawback about being with someone much younger is that they are usually not monogamous. ( They don’t have to be in today’s hookup generation.) A few years ago, I was “love bombed” by a guy 20 years younger. He told me up front he wanted me to be his mistress and travel with him. He also said he liked a variety of women and was not monogamous. I declined his invitation; although, I was very tempted. My husband had died several years earlier, and this guy dragged me out of a state of despair and grief I thought would never end. I never told him this and hope he is doing well and is happy.
I’m 55 and I dated a girl that is 21 but we dated for 3 years , so I met her when she was 18 and I was 52. I’m very healthy and in good shape but it’s clear that I’m much older than her . We got along very well and I think it works because I was able to help her without feeling a lot of stress about it and I got a lot of love and affection from her . The problem was her family and friends of hers . I even helped her family but they still couldn’t accept it . We have separated but she still stays in contact with me . I think it’s possible to be happy with anyone but you have to be strong enough to deal with the people that can’t accept it .
No sir. From other’s perspective it is perverted and sick. Not only are you old enough to be an old father, you are almost old enough to be her grandpa! She doesn’t make you look younger, she makes you look like…..a grandpa! Men do not age slower. Most of you kick the bucket in your 70s. I am 55 and I am totally not attracted to a man that is even in his 60s. No thank you! Do you really think she’s feeling you? Your delusional. She likes the attention and the $$, but she’s going to ditch you for a younger man at some point. CO SHE also has issues. Why would any emotionally healthy woman date a man with that much of an age gap! Ugh!
Why would a young woman with plenty of options want to wake up next to a man much older? Getting predatory vibes from you. I left my first boyfriend because he was older than me and in the end it was just embarrassing because even strangers would make comments about the age gap. I still cringe when I look at old pictures of us, me looking so young and him looking old and wrinkled, in the end I had to force myself to even give him a kiss…. never again, young women want young men.
I saw some Dr Phil episodes where he says to the much older partner (paraphrasing) - you are supposed to be the more mature one. Why would you ruin that young person's life like that? There are realities to having an age gap.
You should point out she's from a poor country. Sexpats should stop taking their noncommittal dating concept to traditional places that expect courtship to be serious
I dated a man 20 years younger for almost 2 years and I definitely would not do that again ..... but i'm DEFINITELY glad I did it once. It opened a whole new universe for BOTH of us.
My gal is 8 years older than me. I met her when she was 60 and she’s now she’s 80. She is still a size 2 and I saw a pic of her when she was about 45 and she literally looked like a movie star. She’s still beautiful to me. I’m lucky she doesn’t know how gorgeous she is or I’d never have had the chance.
I was just recently, less than 2 months ago, in a relationship for 5 years with a man who was 18 years younger than me. People actually kept telling me I looked younger than him and no one ever said a word about us dating. I still love him a lot but my self esteem was suffering because I was always trying to keep the younger side of me going with dress, hair, makeup etc. I am 79 and he is 61. I am content with my life and live a fun adventurous one and I know every day counts. I am not attracted to men my age so I will be single until I go to the other side I think.
I hope not! What if a man could love you the way you are. I know it's hard but if we can love ourselves (also hard) and accept the way we look I know from experience the man in your life will love you. Some men really don't care as much as we think they do
My husband is 5 years younger than me. We've been together for 30 years. His mom, at first said, I was using him for sex. LMAO!!!! I was 27, fit and took great care of myself, still do. He still lived at home with mom and dad while completing college after 4 years in the military. We were friends first because he was fun, kind, driven in his future goals, smart and respectful. Qualities that I desired in a life partner. Couldn't help but fall in love with him.
As a male, I now date around 15 years younger than myself. Being in my late 50's, all of my experiences dating women around my age have been horrible. They view the music "Both of us" grew up on as, "To loud and obnoxious". My EX always kept yelling at me to, "turn down that loud and disgusting music". As a part-time musician and drummer, she would never see me perform because she said, "I don't stay up that late and it's too loud". She always wanted to eat dinner at 4pm with the "Retiree" crowd at our local community restaurant and kick me out of her house around 9 because she was, "to tired and needed to go to sleep". Sorry, I am not 80 and want to live while I have the physical ability. I do strength training 4 days a week and 220 HRS of cardio a week. People often tell me I look like I am in my early 40's and honestly, I feel like I am in my 30's. I would honestly date someone my age, but they all have acted like they are ready for the retirement home.
women have hormonal changes as they get older, this causes lots of problems, sometimes it helps to get some testing done to see where your hormone levels are
@@michaelsix9684 yes, postmenopause things sort of fall off a cliff...and perimenopause is no picnic either....btw...this is why geldings are generally preferred to mares....because mares still have their hormones and can be moody. Hormones are all powerful. Men also lose their hormones as they age...hence the dad bod and viagra being so popular. Fitness is so important as you age.
This was funny 😊 but seriously, there is no point to pretend to be someone we are not. At our 50, 60, 70 we can be self confident enough to be what we are and what we want to be. This is not about the age or the way we look. This is all about how we feel and what we can do. After all we know much more than years ago, we know our limits and our strengths. It’s so good to be mature! Greetings from Poland :-)
@@giorfi-n7v it is, but we get so many chemicals in food etc. this disrupts the normal aging cycles of both sexes I think, and you must adjust your diet as you age, your body can't tolerate more junk being put into ti
RichE-p3v You do 220 hours of cardio per week?? That works out to 31 hours per day. And since we all know, there are only 24 hours in a day. That leaves absolutely zero time for your strength training. Or, dating anyone younger, or older. Or sleeping. Or eating.
Another problem dating 15-20 years younger is the horn dog factor and the mommy issues, ie, they are looking for one. Flakiness is another factor. The problem dating my own age is that the men look terrible. Ironically it is the men who lie about their age stating to be 59 when it’s is obvious they are in their late 70s.
My sugar mama fooled me for a while by getting waxed down below and regularly retouching roots up above. I thought she was just wild and daring saying don't worry about contraception and when there were no monthlies thought we were having a baby.
I dated a younger man once. He was 9 yrs. Younger. He treated me so well! He wined & dined me alot! We Went to Gatlinburg and he rented us a Condo. We had the best time together! I truly cared about him! I ended the relationship because I was 44yrs. old at that time and wasn't planning on anymore kids. I felt like her needed a chance to have kids of his own. I hurt him when I broke it off and it was really hard to stay away! Found out this yr. he died 3yrs. ago. 😢 I will always have fond memories of him. ❤
Did he marry and have children after you broke up? Just curious... I'm 45 years old and in a relationship with a 39 years old. I never had children and don't want to have any. I always give him space and already told him that I understand if he wants to look for a younger woman to have children...
@@kitty1256x They could have agreed to a family relationship. She could have been an aunt to his children, if he married and had children. You never know what life will bring. Look what happened. They may as well have stayed together.
I really appreciate this video. I can totally see you dating men younger than yourself given your appearance and flexible mindset. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. I was curious how long each relationship lasted. I think you were very thoughtful ending it for the reason that you did. You really put a lot of care into the relationship. I feel like you're far ahead of most men your own age and it would make sense why you had two relationships with younger men. In my opinion, the mechanic at the garage made egregious comments that had nothing to do with you. It was some type of projection of his own personal situation that he was attempting to place onto you. I truly wish you all the best.
After their divorce, my mother married a man 16 year younger than her and my father married a woman 14 years younger. They both have been married to their new partners around 30 years and both seem to have made it work.
That’s super weird about the guy working on your car saying that! As far as any of my sons, I’d be fine with them dating much older, as long as she made him happy. I’m 12 years older than my husband of 17 years. He tries to look older, growing a very long gray beard lol I’m not crazy about the age difference.
Yeah, I’m 65. I had been married. She divorced me. I’m single now. I went through a lot of drama with the mama. I now own a truck. I just bought some property and I bought a small John Deere tractor to work that property. I’m on a pension and debt free and can travel the world. Anytime I want is all with the hand of God that led me to this point. I have all the freedom in the world each and every day and night, I realize that relationships can be very difficult. I see it over and over again and I don’t have to go through any narcissist abuse anymore.
The wisest thing I heard was from Martha Stewart- If you want to be happy for one year get married; if you want to be happy for ten years get a dog; if you want to be happy for life be a gardener. So true.
As a 70 year old man who has been single for almost 20 years I really have no answer for you except to tell you how I handle those situations. I lived with a woman who was 3 years older than myself I have dated a woman who was 7 years older and I have also dated a woman who was 9 years younger than me. Personally I don’t care what society or others think or say about my relationships or the age difference. I will say though and you touched on it too if the age difference is significant it’s challenging to relate to each other. I live in the St. Louis area so those situations might be quite different for you but at any rate I sincerely wish you and everyone of your subscribers nothing but the best.
My husband is 6 years older than me. We grew up 500 miles apart. Yet we can reminisce about the same tv shows, music, and popular culture of our youth. The shared memories we have are very important to me.
Even in Europe, age-gap relationships are more widely accepted than in America. In Latin America, the Middle-East, Africa and Asia age-gap relationships are not frowned upon at all.
Great sharing!! *Stella Got Her Groove Back* vibes. Ya know, I wouldn't date a man--even younger than 5 years than me. Their maturity is so whack. I usually date my exact age or older. And yes..I think it could be fun to date a hot, younger man--in the short term. But, as you said, it is a block to the guy finding a younger person to build a whole life with, in my opinion. Love your dating topic vids!! Keep 'em coming!
Much younger men are fun and I had a great deal of fun for 2 years! I never thought of it as a sustainable relationship and we parted with after some time no bad feelings. "society" doesn't interest me maybe because I come from a large city. He was sweet and funny and so cute When I was with him I felt and acted like a teenager. It was just perfect at that time. But I always knew it wasn't a relationship . I was 60 , he was 36. Time well spent from my point of view.
I’m so sorry for the abuse you’ve suffered from awful men. I think you are blessed with beauty, youthfulness, and grace. Thank you for your wonderful videos! I wish you all the best 🙏❤️
The problem with dating younger, especially for those who have a self-image of looking young, is that next to a truly young person the older looking skin etc. is more apparent. Aside from the heads up on the obligatory underage guessing, it always annoys me when seniors announce how young they think they look. For me, it goes from meeting an attractive well-seasoned person to an annoying one. I would have assumed you were in your sixties, and I suspect you know you looked younger when you were whatever age you suppose you look to be. Another problem, which you have mentioned or talked around, is that as soon as there is a health issue, it's a problem. That is because the younger person is looking for someone to take care of them, not the other way around. Obviously, your video just showed up on my feed despite my never searching for anything of the like lol. So, the algorithms are with you, my friend. Congratulations and much success. I do have a thought on dating your own age. What would happen if, instead of bristling with offense at a less than kind remark on your appearance, you would flip the conversation with how attractive you find your date and verbally focusing on his qualities?
@@MitelefonoRoman Perhaps. And, I could say the same about you. Or, perhaps you could explain to me how searching for True Crime, Cooking Shows, Indiana Fever Highlights, Hurricane Helene Relief Efforts, Couponing, Tofu, Ryobi lawn mower repair, Choir Choir Choir, and Coffee Shop Music would kick up this video, that would be amazing. I am happy for her success, but obviously, her video is really being pushed. If we are going to get off the subject matter and start analyzing what lies beneath, that is what I would like to know the answer to as I find it curious.
My last relationship was with someone 14 years younger and I wasn't comfortable for the reasons you discussed. I haven't dated since because he was a toxic nightmare but if I ever do, they won't be more than a few years younger!
I found my soulmate when I was in my early 20s and she was married to someone else. We have been together through thick and thin for 44 years. Being in a shallow relationship, or ending one for superficial reasons is quite alien to me.
The late actress Diane Carroll, in 1975, at age 39, she married 24 years old Robert DeLeon, managing editor of Jet magazine. They relocated to Oakland California, but sadly in 1977 Robert died in a car crash. Diane had 4 marriages. In an interview Carroll said in old age, she had learned to live alone......................from my files on this topic
@shirleygriffin7672 - She had no choice. The men in the entertainment business were not looking for someone their age. A 60 year old television producer, still had the ability to land a 43 year old Hollywood "8"; the same can't be said for a former successful 60 year old actresses or even a show creator.
I just want to know if the guy working on your car has ever said the same thing to a man dating a woman 20 years younger ... or does he specialize in shaming women only? That said, I've never been tempted to date men who were a lot older or a lot younger. A study showed the closer in age a couple is, the less likely they will divorce. Even a one-year age difference had a higher divorce rate than couples who were the same age.
A one year age difference … at the age of … let’s say 56 … would make a difference … that’s ridiculous … The number on an ID says nothing … This lady looks 52 … She should be allowed dating men who look her age … and not over the hill 65+ men … People are brainwashed through Hollywood and Netflix series … where they see old men with much younger actresses … This is done deliberately … by frustrated old male producers and directors … It’s deliberate brainwashing … Add to this the whole red pill , Andrew Tate situation … et voilà … a woman gets shamed by a 80 points IQ guy working on her car … I wish I had the opportunity to have this guy making this remark to me … I think he would regret his remark Edit: 20 plus years difference is maybe a bit extreme … :-) But 10 years younger is perfect (for you - you look amazing )
French president Macron is married to a woman 24 years older. In some cultures, these "stigma-related" associations, societal norms & tut-tutting are much less a thing
My boyfriend of2 yrs is 18 yrs younger, i’m 54. We live together, have a lot of fun, laughs, great intimacy…I think you end up with the soul you were meant to meet and the rest is just superficial stuff… follow your heart!
I dated a man 22 yrs younger than me. Had a great connection, but I agree with you on the generational issues. I guess Cher and Madonna are happy with it 😂, but a big no from me.
The sequence is => compatibility - time together - romance and psychological attraction - appreciation and admiration - physical attraction (no matter how the other person actually looks) - sharing sex as an spiritual complement. That's the right order. A different order would probably fail. The first thing is having a very high match in similar priorities (regarding not only the top of the ranking but also the bottom of the ranking), things both like, things both dislike,... and from there see if you enjoy time together, and time will tell. Kindest regards!
That's always how I imagined it would feel .. I'd be hyper aware of my aging, which at 58, almost 59, I already am. I am happily married but I was just listening and enjoying your experience. Thanks for sharing
I dated a man 17 years younger then me. He was sweet, respectful, and since we were both health care providers, we alway had a lot to talk about. When I ended it he cried but I knew there wasnt a future as he would likely want children some day. He did go on to marry and have children an I am happy for him. I married twice, both men were 12 years younger than me. I've always had a baby face and so we never really had any negative comments. One passed away :( . The other marriage ended for reasons that had nothing due to age. Would i do it again? I dont know. I've had a serious relationship with a man 10 years older than me and that was fine. I honestly dont think age matters. Im currently alone by choice and loving it.
I’ve only dated 3-7 years younger, and most people thought I was younger than the guys. I also don’t think I could do more than 10 years younger because of the generational issues you mention.
It's interesting to hear how it is with the over fifty women, me being sixty now. I have ended relationships with amazing women, over children in the past. They needed a family and I didn't want them to miss out. It is a surprise to me that there are a lot of younger attractive women wanting to date older men. I am not rich. You look great, by the way. I like your video's and appreciate your honesty. :)
Oh this was a great one! I was reluctant to get into a relationship with a man 12 years my junior. I was 40. He persuaded me and we finally got married and had a daughter. He had other children and so did I, this daughter was like a golden child to us. We were married for 20 years, then when I was 60 (on disability) he just walks out. He was controlling of everything and I went along with it to keep the peace and make him happy. Now I’m starting over trying to figure out who I am now….. never do that again, follow your gut
You do you. I recently ticked over 60 and enjoy just being alone. The odds of meeting a woman of any age I might connect with is 7 kabillion to one. Thankfully, I have a cool little house to work on & remodel, seven motorcycles, and other hobbies that keep me busy.
I am a 45 year old woman who has often been mistaken for being much younger. I am naturally attracted to much younger men but my heart sinks when I tell them my age and they run away. It's a horrible feeling. Luckily I have no-one that I fancy lately, so I know I don't have to be hurt again. Luckily I am completely happy without any man in my life. You are beautiful and those judgemental people are trashy for their behaviour towards you.
I’m 72 and have always dated younger men. I’ve been in a relationship for 18 years with a man that’s 58. I wouldn’t care of my son was dating someone way older than him. Having children is not always a be all-end all situation
I haven't dated more than 5 or 6 years younger than I am, and I don't think I'd ever cross the 10 years younger line, but I do like to see women out there doing it if only to show both men and women that its not only something a man can do
You should think a few things before getting involved with a much older person. In a large age gap, are you compatible emotionally and physically with the other person? Do they have the money to retire together and to enjoy their life together, or is the older one going to wait until 88 years old for the other to reach 65 and start their retirement life of activities and travel? Are you willing to become the caregiver to the much older partner later in life? Are you OK if your much older partner passes away and you are left alone to care for yourself?
Also consider the fact that nobody has a crystal ball, and unpredictable things happen in life. The younger person could very well die first due to an accident or disease.
"People responded almost hatefully." I can imagine! FWIW I'm 23 years older than my oldest son. He and I look dissimilar; he takes after his father. Everyone tells me I look young for my age. A few times when I've been out with him in public since he reached adulthood, people have stared, gawked, or laughed at us. At first I was bewildered, until it occurred to me, they might think I'm dating him? We're both just average looking people who don't usually get laughed at. And it's not like our body language suggests we're dating. It's no big deal, public ridicule is what it is, but this goes to show just how eager people are to make assumptions and judge others. We cannot be the only parent/child duo this has happened to. In fact I've definitely wondered about other people out in public, I just don't openly scoff at them without knowing what's what.
I am posting here a part of the letter my great-grandmother received from her sister, dated June 13, 1921 - Dublin: "My Dear Hilda, "Love found me very late, after years of misery in my life I thought I already paid my dues, but I was wrong: He is 37 years old! Onun annesi olabilirdim, how to deal with 21 years of age difference? I am not expecting you to understand my love or my pain, I feel like dying. So, this was the true love and he is the man I wanted and waited for all my life... I could not do it, so I made an arrangement to live in a monastery for the rest of my life. You can't believe how useful a woman at my age can be helping others. Please do not look for me." Nothing has changed in a century!
My hubby was 6 years younger than me, we had a good marriage but he passed away 5 years ago. Now I'm dating a man 5 years younger than me, we get along just wonderfully. I'm Happy again !! 🤗
I am 52 and I want to date men my age. However, problem is, men my age want to date much, much younger women. they don't care that those young women want children and marriage and those older men don't (because they mostly already have adult children and had been married), they don't care about anything but their own desires. That's the main problem. As 52 year old woman who does look somewhat younger or at very least, as I've been told, "quite good looking", I've been approached by younger men more than by men my age. The last one was 32! I mean, we went on one date but I felt like it's too much, he doesn't even have children yet, and he looks so young, people will think I was his aunt or something (or a mother, at worst). The biggest problem however is that he has so much more enegry than him. He wants to go out every day, he is full of energy, and I... just want to stay home, eat cookies and watch tv. He still messages me from time to time, but I think he knows it won't happen. I did date a man 13 years younger but this one looked a bit older and at the time (I was 49) I looked much younger so it wasn't that obvious there is a large age gap. But he was so aware that he wants children and family and younger women at the end, that it ended up with him treating me like utter trash so I would leave him and he doesn't feel like a bad guy. I would appreciate much more if he was honest instead of trying so badly for me to break up with him, and he was soooo selfish in the process. Never again! Never! I quit dating! PS Omg I just saw your other video, you are over 60??!!! I thought you were like my age! No wonder younger men approach you.
I can't believe you have gotten such comments! You are very youthful -look fantastic. And people rarely make such criticisms with all the older men who are with much younger women. But, I agree that there is a generation gap/experience gap between people over 10 years younger. But, at the same time, I dated some guys who were 10 years younger and those men acted older than me.
I don't know about people rarely making comments when it's an older man and younger woman. My husband is 18 and a half years older than me. We've been married 25 years and the looks and comments have never stopped. If anything they've gotten worse because thankfully I have aged well. When his boss met me the first time he just declared, "This is WRONG." lol
When I was 19-20 I dated a woman who was 35 ... she was a terrific lady , funny kind, sensual... I took her home to meet my mom... what a disaster... my mom was so angry and made it abundantly clear.... I was not understanding her anger... Your video sheds some light on that .... its very difficult to date a much older woman, it is fraught with problems and hurdles.
New and subscribing. Well, women do date younger but their relationships don't last long, I have seen across America. However a few older women with younger men do last but only a FEW. I have been reading about this topic for decades now. Being physically fit is very important...............................stay safe out there
I think most relationships don't last long. Not due to age, but incompatibility for hundreds of other reasons. I agree that if someone is healthy at an older age, it is more important than the age on your driver's license.
I'm 74 and my wife and partner is 16 years younger than me. It was an issue with my kids early in our relationship 20 years ago but now she's a welcome part of the family. We are truly soul mates and have loved every minute of being a couple. I might also add that this is my third marriage and her first.
Dating someone younger doesn't make me feel younger either. I prefer men my own age, but they prefer younger women. My first husband was ten years younger and my second was younger too. I don't know what the answer is. The first husband wore me out with his dayt to day energy.
67 here...A gal I was talking with told me she had married a guy 15 years younger than her, and another one 11 years. Those marriages ended in divorce. Shocker, lol. She invited me to come vacation with her, and I politely back stroked away from that. I'll leave the cougars to stalk other prey. That age gap dating behavior is super unappealing to me.
We do not AGE INSIDE. My last partner was 9 years older and it was never an issue. When she died from a brain tumour I was beside myself with grief. A deep love grew over the years. I know I will never replace her, but I never expected to loose her. THAT is the downside of an older person. We had a great life, good sex, High compatibility. Age is irrelevant but grief is unwelcome and overwhelming.
I was asked out by a much younger man, but he dropped the ball & it never happened. A slightly younger man asked me out around the same time, and he also dropped the ball. That's ok. I was a little curious, but I was happy to be in my singlehood when my current boyfriend asked me out. He's 1 year younger, lol.
It is my belief that hearts should win the day. If you have enough in common, if your relationship is mutually respectful and limitations on both sides are understood, why can't it work? If it's a shallow connection, it may not last, no matter your ages. And if there is a great power differential, it also may not work. Couples decide or permanently commit to caring for each other, especially when times are tough. It's akin to parenting each other, so what's the big deal if it looks more so because of an age gap? As long as you're both learning and growing, it's all good. Having children isn't the mandate it once was. It's all about freedom to love and CHOICE. What you see on the outside, physical beauty, youth, and good health, do not assure a joyful or enriched life. I am age 65 and married to a guy who is very close to my age.
Having to change yourself to please another has got to be stressful in itself, life is too short to remake yourself and if you are happy with someone older or younger than yourself, let it be. We are only here for a brief time, and if you meet someone that makes you happy and they know your real self, just go with it and to hell what others think. Congrats' on being monetized
I used to date younger men than me, and my son told me that he was uncomfortable with that so now I only date men closer to my age. I have no intentions of getting married. My freedom and independence are very important to me but I do love having friends. I am happy with my lifestyle and I love that my children are happy too. I have subscribed to your channel. They are refreshing to watch. Thank you for sharing some of your views on life.
I can't understand why you thought that you had to change. In my experience, dating a younger woman gives me more energy, and the woman likes my extra experiences in life, making things more interesting ! At the moment, my partner is 60 and I am 75. She loves the fact that I have more life experiences and have much more knowledge about most things . What clothes we wear or music we like doesn't really come into things ? Its "Vive la difference" and it makes life more interesting ? Just my humble opinion
Glad you went back to your house, so I could see the "Hudson River Valley" style piece over your right shoulder. I am more comfortable listening to others speak and share their experiences. I'm in a completely different situation, but think about what it would be like if it were different
I am 15 years older than my husband.We have been together 21 years and we have 1 son who is 16.No one thinks I’m older than him and most people think he’s older than me. The only people’s opinion I worry about is my family and we’re fine.
I have had a lot of offers from younger men. I'm not into younger men though. Our lives experience and values are not matching. They were looking just for a mom and sex without consequences.
John Moore, 77 years old, a grandfather , & a homesteader, The Liberty Man, based in Missouri, wife died a few years ago. John remarried last year to a younger 30 something woman with no kids 😂. John boasted about having 2 honeymoons in an interview with Doug Hagmann. Whooottt
You could have spent another hour on this. Like, undressing in front of him, where you self conscious of how he perceived your body. I know I was dating a younger woman. Your sex drive compared to his. So much to talk about. Keep up the good work. Oh, just turned 66
I really think if there’s a true soul connection then age doesn’t matter. I’ve been seeing someone for a month now who is 18 years younger than me. I felt an immediate soul connection with him. And he makes me feel more valued than any man has in the past decade. Also with an older man you do still have to try to retain your youthfulness. The last man I dated my age ended up leaving me for a woman 20 years younger than me. He also never told me I was beautiful but my younger man tells me I’m stunning all the time. I think we place too much emphasis on age.
I’m 61 and have been married to a woman who is 15 years older than myself for 38 brilliant years, yes she looks older than me as I look younger than my age but who cares what anyone thinks and no one has said anything to us about it. When you really love someone what others think and say doesn’t matter.
That's awesome. Congratulations on your happy marriage
💯 I myself like women 10 to 15 yrs older than myself
God bless you and your mate😊
I have a similar experience, having been married to someone much younger than me. Unfortunately he just passed, even being younger. No one really knows how life will evolve. We never really gave it a thought, and no one ever mentioned it. I think we looked about the same age, but of course as we all age, it might have changed in time. But like you say, who cares? I am also in the NYC area, where relationships are pretty diverse, and it was never an issue. Chemistry, compatibility and love are important, not age.
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God bless you. Sorry for your loss.
My husband was12years younger than me. I never had a problem. He recently passed away and we were married for38 years. I think it depends on the person. He was my person and I miss him so much.
My husband is 12 years younger too. He’s the sweetest and best man, we’ve been together for 17 years.
So sorry for your loss. I lost mine too. He was only 59 😢
I am a 63 year old single retired male. This is not a comment on this video, but your channel in general. Somehow the algorithm sent me one of your videos and I was hooked immediately. Your personality, poise, confidence, articulation and video style ( being slightly back farther from the camera and a lower left aspect) makes you less a talking head (as many channels are) and more a friend over for coffee. Your conversation style feels so natural and honest I want to know what and why you think what you do. I just hit subscribe! Good luck with your channel and I look forward to more from you neighbor!
I agree, damo! When people get so close you can see their nose hairs, it bugs me. It doesn't hurt that Holly is gorgeous, inside and out.
What a lovely thing to say to someone. You’ll never know the impact this has on a person - so kind of you.
My neighbor is 82 and her husband is 68. They both look 50 and and no one would know if they didn’t tell everybody 😂. They are energetic and fun to be around! They have been happily married for over 35 years! ❤
I love that
There’s 12 years between me and my guy and it’s not noticeable. Also, he’s 6’3” and I’m 4’11. He’s White I’m Black. 😅
@@Angrymobs62 sounds like a beautiful relationship ❤️
I’m also 4’11”! I end up with tall guys too.
An 82 yr old looking 50? C'mon now. Lol
I dated a man 19 years younger than me for almost 5 years. I'm childfree, and he doesn’t want kids either. I look about 10 years younger than my age, and I'm very energetic and sporty. Everything was great between us - we shared hobbies and passions, and we loved spending time together. He used to visit almost every weekend, and sometimes even during the week. I never really noticed people staring at us. I look younger and even though he also looks much younger for his age, so we never got any bad looks or comments.
I met his family, but I preferred to keep things intimate between us. I didn’t attend holidays like Christmas with his family and was comfortable with our long-distance arrangement.
However, I eventually found out that he kept talking to other women online. Although he showed me a lot of affection, bought gifts and flowers, supported me, and was there when I needed him, he couldn't stop connecting with new women. While the conversations weren’t really flirtatious, I just couldn’t accept it. It’s been two months since I ended things, and it’s been really hard. He tried to reach out but never actually apologized. I realize now that he’s 28 and still discovering himself, so I decided to just let him go.
you had fun for five years, but a man under 30 still wants to roam around
Reading the first half of your comment… I could have predicted the last paragraph. Of course he was speaking to other women , we women can be so naive.
"They either want a nurse or a purse", as the saying goes. The last relationship I was in, he was 14 years younger. He ended up needing two hip replacements and he was in his early fifties! I took great care of him (nurse) and of course was purchasing a lot of food to include in that care (purse). We had discussions on how he might eventually have to care for me someday. He swore up and down he could and would. I got a puppy, and he didn't lift a finger to help out! Therefore, it's not what someone says, it's what they do that speaks volumes!!! Many lessons learned. Thank God I got a puppy, she showed me who he really was before it was too late.
I think it is a nurse WITH a purse..lol. Yes, men tend to be selfish on average. Women are the nurturers on average. Kick him to the curb asap.
He just wasn't interested in playing pet parent. If he never said he's got all this love to give and needs a fur friend for an outlet, don't be surprised if he's not interested in scrubbing carpets trying to toilet train it or walk it with worn out hips.
I'm 51 and I don't like dating younger men right now because the men always have young kids and ex-wife or baby mama drama. I usually date 10 years older.
I know what you mean. i was always younger looking too. one day my son and I were eating at a restaurant and a woman passed by us and said , look at the cougar! in a derogatory way and I thought I'm not doing anything but having lunch with my son lol. another time my other son had his arm around me while we were walking through the mall and OH MY! the looks we got. I don't know why it's looked at any different than men dating a much younger woman, but of course the old double standard in society is still there.
Men dating younger women DOES look gross BUT it has been accepted in society ages before we were born. We really can’t do anything about it.
That woman Sounds like a creep. My divorced colleague moved to a new house, and was out front washing the car and got into a water fight with his teenage daughter. The neighbors were giving him dirty looks. They thought she was his girlfriend.
@@rosamoreno4794 it's not gross, it's not society - it's just biology. You could argue it's different today but what's 30-40 years in thousands of years of human evolution?
Same with me and my son, I posted about this before I saw your comment. My son doesn't even put his arm around me, people just hate us anyway. lol
@@doncorleone3901 not true! A couple of hundred years ago in Europe it was common to that a younger man married an older widow, took care of her business and when she passed he married a younger woman to have children with and so on. It was a way to to preserve property and make sure older women were taken care of
Im 23 years older than my fiance. We have been together 7 1/2 years and its amazing. We are best friends and feel just as passionate as we did in the beginning. Weve had to navigate around his family issues but not mine. I worry about the agjng, but who’s to say if I was with somebody closer to my own age, that they would stay faithful as I age out? Bottom line is, nobody else that I’ve ever been with has expressed and demonstrated as much love as he does towards me. There are no guarantees in relationships, no matter what the age between the two partners.
You've been together 7 and 1/2 years - are you just calling him your fiance to make it sound better?
As a 62 year old man,I like women at or around my age..
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I am a 57 year old black female who was recently in a 15 year relationship with a white male who was one year older. It seems the people who had problems with our relationship were middle age and senior white women. I loved it. As a black woman we see on a daily basis white women with black men; so my attitude was to smile and in my mind, I would say “deal with it”.
These women are surely woke liberals and democrat voters - on the surface 😂😂😂
Greetings from Europe!
@@justinaoska5901nope here in the us it’s the replubs.
I see the same a white woman with a black guy. Black women hate it!! We are stealing their men!!🤣🤣🤣
I have dated women much older than me for many years. I’m 70 and dated several women in their mid eighties and one in their nineties. They really appreciate what I have done for them. And I love their mature beauty.
Good insight! I found that the men who were 10 years younger than me and reached out to date me was because they were immature financially and in other ways. They needed a mom type and leader so it was no deal for me.
I can't believe that anybody would dare to give an opinion about your relationship without being asked.
My great grandmother was 14-15 years older than her 2nd husband. They stayed together through two world wars and the great depression. It's a situation that has occurred throughout history and all cultures. The relationship is no one's business but the two involved. We are too concerned in this day and age about what others think. Variety is the spice of life. Why wear masks to impress others? Each person's life is their own. As far as children, men can father any time and may have other relationships after an older mate passes away. We try to control so much...if love finds you, just be happy.
@@TinaRouse-s1y Agree 👍
Good point that they can have kids later. No need to feel bad then😅
Omg. Just the other day you were at 7k subscribers. Wow, just a few days and you’re at 10k?? Congratulations!!! Love watching your videos. I’m a almost 60 year old female. You’re very open and honest. Love your views on it all.
My wife of 32 years passed away two years ago and re-entering the dating world has been amusing - recognizing that I am the root cause of most of the humor. Once you have made 60 trips around the sun, you are pretty set in your ways and in many ways this simplifies determining if you have a good fit with someone. Obviously, no one is going to change at this point in life. I have dated women 12 year older than me and 12 years younger than me. I really do not think that span of years is that big of a deal - but the life experiences certainly are. Relax , if it is meant to be, it will happen. In the mean time, I pray you are happy. Best of Luck, Becoming Me
I think the biggest drawback about being with someone much younger is that they are usually not monogamous. ( They don’t have to be in today’s hookup generation.)
A few years ago, I was “love bombed” by a guy 20 years younger. He told me up front he wanted me to be his mistress and travel with him. He also said he liked a variety of women and was not monogamous. I declined his invitation; although, I was very tempted. My husband had died several years earlier, and this guy dragged me out of a state of despair and grief I thought would never end.
I never told him this and hope he is doing well and is happy.
I’m 55 and I dated a girl that is 21 but we dated for 3 years , so I met her when she was 18 and I was 52. I’m very healthy and in good shape but it’s clear that I’m much older than her . We got along very well and I think it works because I was able to help her without feeling a lot of stress about it and I got a lot of love and affection from her . The problem was her family and friends of hers . I even helped her family but they still couldn’t accept it . We have separated but she still stays in contact with me . I think it’s possible to be happy with anyone but you have to be strong enough to deal with the people that can’t accept it .
You're buying her, and then paying them to pimp their daughter?
Even someone who supports age gap love, and has Lived it, hears the predatory dynamic.
No sir. From other’s perspective it is perverted and sick. Not only are you old enough to be an old father, you are almost old enough to be her grandpa! She doesn’t make you look younger, she makes you look like…..a grandpa! Men do not age slower. Most of you kick the bucket in your 70s. I am 55 and I am totally not attracted to a man that is even in his 60s. No thank you! Do you really think she’s feeling you? Your delusional. She likes the attention and the $$, but she’s going to ditch you for a younger man at some point. CO SHE also has issues. Why would any emotionally healthy woman date a man with that much of an age gap! Ugh!
Why would a young woman with plenty of options want to wake up next to a man much older? Getting predatory vibes from you. I left my first boyfriend because he was older than me and in the end it was just embarrassing because even strangers would make comments about the age gap. I still cringe when I look at old pictures of us, me looking so young and him looking old and wrinkled, in the end I had to force myself to even give him a kiss…. never again, young women want young men.
I saw some Dr Phil episodes where he says to the much older partner (paraphrasing) - you are supposed to be the more mature one. Why would you ruin that young person's life like that? There are realities to having an age gap.
You should point out she's from a poor country. Sexpats should stop taking their noncommittal dating concept to traditional places that expect courtship to be serious
I never fancied young men even when I was young I love a full grown man
I dated a man 20 years younger for almost 2 years and I definitely would not do that again ..... but i'm DEFINITELY glad I did it once. It opened a whole new universe for BOTH of us.
My gal is 8 years older than me. I met her when she was 60 and she’s now she’s 80. She is still a size 2 and I saw a pic of her when she was about 45 and she literally looked like a movie star. She’s still beautiful to me. I’m lucky she doesn’t know how gorgeous she is or I’d never have had the chance.
Not everybody wants children.
Yes! I never wanted them.
And for those who do, there are other ways to bring children into your family.
I was just recently, less than 2 months ago, in a relationship for 5 years with a man who was 18 years younger than me. People actually kept telling me I looked younger than him and no one ever said a word about us dating. I still love him a lot but my self esteem was suffering because I was always trying to keep the younger side of me going with dress, hair, makeup etc. I am 79 and he is 61. I am content with my life and live a fun adventurous one and I know every day counts. I am not attracted to men my age so I will be single until I go to the other side I think.
I hope not! What if a man could love you the way you are. I know it's hard but if we can love ourselves (also hard) and accept the way we look I know from experience the man in your life will love you. Some men really don't care as much as we think they do
My husband is 5 years younger than me. We've been together for 30 years. His mom, at first said, I was using him for sex. LMAO!!!! I was 27, fit and took great care of myself, still do. He still lived at home with mom and dad while completing college after 4 years in the military. We were friends first because he was fun, kind, driven in his future goals, smart and respectful. Qualities that I desired in a life partner. Couldn't help but fall in love with him.
As a male, I now date around 15 years younger than myself. Being in my late 50's, all of my experiences dating women around my age have been horrible. They view the music "Both of us" grew up on as, "To loud and obnoxious". My EX always kept yelling at me to, "turn down that loud and disgusting music". As a part-time musician and drummer, she would never see me perform because she said, "I don't stay up that late and it's too loud". She always wanted to eat dinner at 4pm with the "Retiree" crowd at our local community restaurant and kick me out of her house around 9 because she was, "to tired and needed to go to sleep". Sorry, I am not 80 and want to live while I have the physical ability. I do strength training 4 days a week and 220 HRS of cardio a week. People often tell me I look like I am in my early 40's and honestly, I feel like I am in my 30's. I would honestly date someone my age, but they all have acted like they are ready for the retirement home.
women have hormonal changes as they get older, this causes lots of problems, sometimes it helps to get some testing done to see where your hormone levels are
@@michaelsix9684 yes, postmenopause things sort of fall off a cliff...and perimenopause is no picnic either....btw...this is why geldings are generally preferred to mares....because mares still have their hormones and can be moody. Hormones are all powerful. Men also lose their hormones as they age...hence the dad bod and viagra being so popular. Fitness is so important as you age.
This was funny 😊 but seriously, there is no point to pretend to be someone we are not. At our 50, 60, 70 we can be self confident enough to be what we are and what we want to be. This is not about the age or the way we look. This is all about how we feel and what we can do. After all we know much more than years ago, we know our limits and our strengths. It’s so good to be mature! Greetings from Poland :-)
@@giorfi-n7v it is, but we get so many chemicals in food etc. this disrupts the normal aging cycles of both sexes I think, and you must adjust your diet as you age, your body can't tolerate more junk being put into ti
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You do 220 hours of cardio per week?? That works out to 31 hours per day. And since we all know, there are only 24 hours in a day. That leaves absolutely zero time for your strength training. Or, dating anyone younger, or older. Or sleeping. Or eating.
Another problem dating 15-20 years younger is the horn dog factor and the mommy issues, ie, they are looking for one. Flakiness is another factor. The problem dating my own age is that the men look terrible. Ironically it is the men who lie about their age stating to be 59 when it’s is obvious they are in their late 70s.
All of those issues are in older guys too😂😂
My sugar mama fooled me for a while by getting waxed down below and regularly retouching roots up above. I thought she was just wild and daring saying don't worry about contraception and when there were no monthlies thought we were having a baby.
Just date within 5 years either side of your age. Never liked much older or younger. Never worked for me.
I dated a younger man once. He was 9 yrs. Younger. He treated me so well! He wined & dined me alot! We Went to Gatlinburg and he rented us a Condo. We had the best time together! I truly cared about him! I ended the relationship because I was 44yrs. old at that time and wasn't planning on anymore kids. I felt like her needed a chance to have kids of his own. I hurt him when I broke it off and it was really hard to stay away! Found out this yr. he died 3yrs. ago. 😢 I will always have fond memories of him. ❤
Did he marry and have children after you broke up? Just curious... I'm 45 years old and in a relationship with a 39 years old. I never had children and don't want to have any. I always give him space and already told him that I understand if he wants to look for a younger woman to have children...
You could remain friends probably, didn't need to break up. Ig a person id good, he can be good as a friend too probably.
@@kitty1256x They could have agreed to a family relationship. She could have been an aunt to his children, if he married and had children. You never know what life will bring. Look what happened. They may as well have stayed together.
I really appreciate this video. I can totally see you dating men younger than yourself given your appearance and flexible mindset. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. I was curious how long each relationship lasted. I think you were very thoughtful ending it for the reason that you did. You really put a lot of care into the relationship. I feel like you're far ahead of most men your own age and it would make sense why you had two relationships with younger men. In my opinion, the mechanic at the garage made egregious comments that had nothing to do with you. It was some type of projection of his own personal situation that he was attempting to place onto you. I truly wish you all the best.
After their divorce, my mother married a man 16 year younger than her and my father married a woman 14 years younger. They both have been married to their new partners around 30 years and both seem to have made it work.
For a minute, I thought I was watching the true confessions of Joan Collins.
That’s super weird about the guy working on your car saying that! As far as any of my sons, I’d be fine with them dating much older, as long as she made him happy. I’m 12 years older than my husband of 17 years. He tries to look older, growing a very long gray beard lol I’m not crazy about the age difference.
That guy working in your car should mind his own beeswax
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Yeah, I’m 65. I had been married. She divorced me. I’m single now. I went through a lot of drama with the mama. I now own a truck. I just bought some property and I bought a small John Deere tractor to work that property. I’m on a pension and debt free and can travel the world. Anytime I want is all with the hand of God that led me to this point. I have all the freedom in the world each and every day and night, I realize that relationships can be very difficult. I see it over and over again and I don’t have to go through any narcissist abuse anymore.
The wisest thing I heard was from Martha Stewart- If you want to be happy for one year get married; if you want to be happy for ten years get a dog; if you want to be happy for life be a gardener. So true.
my friend dated a woman 50 years his senior, they were together for 10 years, everyone was cool with it, was a beautiful thing
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open relationship?
As a 70 year old man who has been single for almost 20 years I really have no answer for you except to tell you how I handle those situations. I lived with a woman who was 3 years older than myself I have dated a woman who was 7 years older and I have also dated a woman who was 9 years younger than me. Personally I don’t care what society or others think or say about my relationships or the age difference. I will say though and you touched on it too if the age difference is significant it’s challenging to relate to each other. I live in the St. Louis area so those situations might be quite different for you but at any rate I sincerely wish you and everyone of your subscribers nothing but the best.
My husband is 6 years older than me. We grew up 500 miles apart. Yet we can reminisce about the same tv shows, music, and popular culture of our youth. The shared memories we have are very important to me.
Even in Europe, age-gap relationships are more widely accepted than in America.
In Latin America, the Middle-East, Africa and Asia age-gap relationships are not frowned upon at all.
Great sharing!! *Stella Got Her Groove Back* vibes. Ya know, I wouldn't date a man--even younger than 5 years than me. Their maturity is so whack. I usually date my exact age or older. And yes..I think it could be fun to date a hot, younger man--in the short term. But, as you said, it is a block to the guy finding a younger person to build a whole life with, in my opinion. Love your dating topic vids!! Keep 'em coming!
Much younger men are fun and I had a great deal of fun for 2 years! I never thought of it as a sustainable relationship and we parted with after some time no bad feelings. "society" doesn't interest me maybe because I come from a large city. He was sweet and funny and so cute When I was with him I felt and acted like a teenager. It was just perfect at that time. But I always knew it wasn't a relationship . I was 60 , he was 36. Time well spent from my point of view.
I’m so sorry for the abuse you’ve suffered from awful men. I think you are blessed with beauty, youthfulness, and grace. Thank you for your wonderful videos! I wish you all the best 🙏❤️
Are you also sorry for the abuse wich many men suffer from awful and terrible women?
This happens also.
Stop splitting and dividing
The problem with dating younger, especially for those who have a self-image of looking young, is that next to a truly young person the older looking skin etc. is more apparent. Aside from the heads up on the obligatory underage guessing, it always annoys me when seniors announce how young they think they look. For me, it goes from meeting an attractive well-seasoned person to an annoying one. I would have assumed you were in your sixties, and I suspect you know you looked younger when you were whatever age you suppose you look to be. Another problem, which you have mentioned or talked around, is that as soon as there is a health issue, it's a problem. That is because the younger person is looking for someone to take care of them, not the other way around. Obviously, your video just showed up on my feed despite my never searching for anything of the like lol. So, the algorithms are with you, my friend. Congratulations and much success. I do have a thought on dating your own age. What would happen if, instead of bristling with offense at a less than kind remark on your appearance, you would flip the conversation with how attractive you find your date and verbally focusing on his qualities?
As a Clinical Psychotherapist. You should seek some professional help. Remember comment say more about who you are than what you are commenting about.
@@MitelefonoRoman Perhaps. And, I could say the same about you. Or, perhaps you could explain to me how searching for True Crime, Cooking Shows, Indiana Fever Highlights, Hurricane Helene Relief Efforts, Couponing, Tofu, Ryobi lawn mower repair, Choir Choir Choir, and Coffee Shop Music would kick up this video, that would be amazing. I am happy for her success, but obviously, her video is really being pushed. If we are going to get off the subject matter and start analyzing what lies beneath, that is what I would like to know the answer to as I find it curious.
My last relationship was with someone 14 years younger and I wasn't comfortable for the reasons you discussed. I haven't dated since because he was a toxic nightmare but if I ever do, they won't be more than a few years younger!
I found my soulmate when I was in my early 20s and she was married to someone else. We have been together through thick and thin for 44 years. Being in a shallow relationship, or ending one for superficial reasons is quite alien to me.
The late actress Diane Carroll, in 1975, at age 39, she married 24 years old Robert DeLeon, managing editor of Jet magazine. They relocated to Oakland California, but sadly in 1977 Robert died in a car crash. Diane had 4 marriages. In an interview Carroll said in old age, she had learned to live alone......................from my files on this topic
@shirleygriffin7672 -
She had no choice. The men in the entertainment business were not looking for someone their age. A 60 year old television producer, still had the ability to land a 43 year old Hollywood "8"; the same can't be said for a former successful 60 year old actresses or even a show creator.
I think it depends on the connection between the two parties, not what society thinks. It's your life, not theirs.
I just want to know if the guy working on your car has ever said the same thing to a man dating a woman 20 years younger ... or does he specialize in shaming women only?
That said, I've never been tempted to date men who were a lot older or a lot younger. A study showed the closer in age a couple is, the less likely they will divorce. Even a one-year age difference had a higher divorce rate than couples who were the same age.
A one year age difference … at the age of … let’s say 56 … would make a difference … that’s ridiculous … The number on an ID says nothing … This lady looks 52 … She should be allowed dating men who look her age … and not over the hill 65+ men … People are brainwashed through Hollywood and Netflix series … where they see old men with much younger actresses … This is done deliberately … by frustrated old male producers and directors … It’s deliberate brainwashing … Add to this the whole red pill , Andrew Tate situation … et voilà … a woman gets shamed by a 80 points IQ guy working on her car … I wish I had the opportunity to have this guy making this remark to me … I think he would regret his remark
Edit: 20 plus years difference is maybe a bit extreme … :-) But 10 years younger is perfect (for you - you look amazing )
There's a good chance that the mechanic likes her.
You delete comments (with valid points). How disappointing … Well, it’s your business I guess … I’m unsubscribing. Bonne chance :-)
@@loumonte658 Who knew that insulting a woman was the key to her heart? 😕
@@loumonte658 maybe he liked the young man.
French president Macron is married to a woman 24 years older. In some cultures, these "stigma-related" associations, societal norms & tut-tutting are much less a thing
That’s hot.
My boyfriend of2 yrs is 18 yrs younger, i’m 54. We live together, have a lot of fun, laughs, great intimacy…I think you end up with the soul you were meant to meet and the rest is just superficial stuff… follow your heart!
I dated a man 22 yrs younger than me. Had a great connection, but I agree with you on the generational issues. I guess Cher and Madonna are happy with it 😂, but a big no from me.
The sequence is => compatibility - time together - romance and psychological attraction - appreciation and admiration - physical attraction (no matter how the other person actually looks) - sharing sex as an spiritual complement.
That's the right order. A different order would probably fail. The first thing is having a very high match in similar priorities (regarding not only the top of the ranking but also the bottom of the ranking), things both like, things both dislike,... and from there see if you enjoy time together, and time will tell.
Kindest regards!
Yes!!
I think you are gorgeous and look much younger than your age ❤, I think you should do more dating research videos.
That's always how I imagined it would feel .. I'd be hyper aware of my aging, which at 58, almost 59, I already am. I am happily married but I was just listening and enjoying your experience. Thanks for sharing
If someone comes along,they will have to be special,bc I deserve better and will be picky now
10k! 🎉 you’re ’blowing up’ as the cool kids say 😊
I dated a man 17 years younger then me. He was sweet, respectful, and since we were both health care providers, we alway had a lot to talk about. When I ended it he cried but I knew there wasnt a future as he would likely want children some day. He did go on to marry and have children an I am happy for him.
I married twice, both men were 12 years younger than me. I've always had a baby face and so we never really had any negative comments. One passed away :( . The other marriage ended for reasons that had nothing due to age. Would i do it again? I dont know. I've had a serious relationship with a man 10 years older than me and that was fine. I honestly dont think age matters. Im currently alone by choice and loving it.
I’ve only dated 3-7 years younger, and most people thought I was younger than the guys. I also don’t think I could do more than 10 years younger because of the generational issues you mention.
It's interesting to hear how it is with the over fifty women, me being sixty now. I have ended relationships with amazing women, over children in the past. They needed a family and I didn't want them to miss out. It is a surprise to me that there are a lot of younger attractive women wanting to date older men. I am not rich. You look great, by the way. I like your video's and appreciate your honesty. :)
Oh this was a great one!
I was reluctant to get into a relationship with a man 12 years my junior. I was 40. He persuaded me and we finally got married and had a daughter. He had other children and so did I, this daughter was like a golden child to us. We were married for 20 years, then when I was 60 (on disability) he just walks out. He was controlling of everything and I went along with it to keep the peace and make him happy. Now I’m starting over trying to figure out who I am now….. never do that again, follow your gut
You had a couple younger guys. Poor poor thing i hope you never have to endure these pain again.
Get some therapy
The car employee wanted you and was jealous of the young guy.
You do you.
I recently ticked over 60 and enjoy just being alone. The odds of meeting a woman of any age I might connect with is 7 kabillion to one.
Thankfully, I have a cool little house to work on & remodel, seven motorcycles, and other hobbies that keep me busy.
I am a 45 year old woman who has often been mistaken for being much younger. I am naturally attracted to much younger men but my heart sinks when I tell them my age and they run away. It's a horrible feeling. Luckily I have no-one that I fancy lately, so I know I don't have to be hurt again. Luckily I am completely happy without any man in my life.
You are beautiful and those judgemental people are trashy for their behaviour towards you.
I’m 72 and have always dated younger men. I’ve been in a relationship for 18 years with a man that’s 58. I wouldn’t care of my son was dating someone way older than him. Having children is not always a be all-end all situation
The absolute best partner to have is an archaeologist… Why?… Well, the older you become, the more interest they have in you……
Don't let her people dictate how you should live your life. At the same time, you can't control who you catch feelings for.
I haven't dated more than 5 or 6 years younger than I am, and I don't think I'd ever cross the 10 years younger line, but I do like to see women out there doing it if only to show both men and women that its not only something a man can do
You should think a few things before getting involved with a much older person.
In a large age gap, are you compatible emotionally and physically with the other person?
Do they have the money to retire together and to enjoy their life together, or is the older one going to wait until 88 years old for the other to reach 65 and start their retirement life of activities and travel?
Are you willing to become the caregiver to the much older partner later in life?
Are you OK if your much older partner passes away and you are left alone to care for yourself?
Also consider the fact that nobody has a crystal ball, and unpredictable things happen in life. The younger person could very well die first due to an accident or disease.
Hi. Congratulations on 10K . 👋🏽
"People responded almost hatefully." I can imagine!
FWIW I'm 23 years older than my oldest son. He and I look dissimilar; he takes after his father. Everyone tells me I look young for my age. A few times when I've been out with him in public since he reached adulthood, people have stared, gawked, or laughed at us. At first I was bewildered, until it occurred to me, they might think I'm dating him? We're both just average looking people who don't usually get laughed at. And it's not like our body language suggests we're dating.
It's no big deal, public ridicule is what it is, but this goes to show just how eager people are to make assumptions and judge others. We cannot be the only parent/child duo this has happened to. In fact I've definitely wondered about other people out in public, I just don't openly scoff at them without knowing what's what.
This actually happens to my niece and her son too! Thank you
I am posting here a part of the letter my great-grandmother received from her sister, dated June 13, 1921 - Dublin:
"My Dear Hilda,
"Love found me very late, after years of misery in my life I thought I already paid my dues, but I was wrong: He is 37 years old! Onun annesi olabilirdim, how to deal with 21 years of age difference?
I am not expecting you to understand my love or my pain, I feel like dying. So, this was the true love and he is the man I wanted and waited for all my life... I could not do it, so I made an arrangement to live in a monastery for the rest of my life. You can't believe how useful a woman at my age can be helping others.
Please do not look for me."
Nothing has changed in a century!
Being within five years of each other is definitely more emotionally stimulating.
My hubby was 6 years younger than me, we had a good marriage but he passed away 5 years ago. Now I'm dating a man 5 years younger than me, we get along just wonderfully. I'm Happy again !! 🤗
@@GoldenNugget. That is wonderful. Cheers
Is it?? Depends on the person.
I hope you found a new mechanic because your last one was too old!
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I am 52 and I want to date men my age. However, problem is, men my age want to date much, much younger women. they don't care that those young women want children and marriage and those older men don't (because they mostly already have adult children and had been married), they don't care about anything but their own desires. That's the main problem. As 52 year old woman who does look somewhat younger or at very least, as I've been told, "quite good looking", I've been approached by younger men more than by men my age. The last one was 32! I mean, we went on one date but I felt like it's too much, he doesn't even have children yet, and he looks so young, people will think I was his aunt or something (or a mother, at worst). The biggest problem however is that he has so much more enegry than him. He wants to go out every day, he is full of energy, and I... just want to stay home, eat cookies and watch tv. He still messages me from time to time, but I think he knows it won't happen.
I did date a man 13 years younger but this one looked a bit older and at the time (I was 49) I looked much younger so it wasn't that obvious there is a large age gap. But he was so aware that he wants children and family and younger women at the end, that it ended up with him treating me like utter trash so I would leave him and he doesn't feel like a bad guy. I would appreciate much more if he was honest instead of trying so badly for me to break up with him, and he was soooo selfish in the process. Never again! Never! I quit dating!
PS Omg I just saw your other video, you are over 60??!!! I thought you were like my age! No wonder younger men approach you.
thank you for the compliment and thanks for sharing your story
I can't believe you have gotten such comments! You are very youthful -look fantastic. And people rarely make such criticisms with all the older men who are with much younger women. But, I agree that there is a generation gap/experience gap between people over 10 years younger. But, at the same time, I dated some guys who were 10 years younger and those men acted older than me.
I don't know about people rarely making comments when it's an older man and younger woman. My husband is 18 and a half years older than me. We've been married 25 years and the looks and comments have never stopped. If anything they've gotten worse because thankfully I have aged well. When his boss met me the first time he just declared, "This is WRONG." lol
When I was 19-20 I dated a woman who was 35 ... she was a terrific lady , funny kind, sensual... I took her home to meet my mom... what a disaster... my mom was so angry and made it abundantly clear.... I was not understanding her anger... Your video sheds some light on that .... its very difficult to date a much older woman, it is fraught with problems and hurdles.
New and subscribing. Well, women do date younger but their relationships don't last long, I have seen across America. However a few older women with younger men do last but only a FEW. I have been reading about this topic for decades now. Being physically fit is very important...............................stay safe out there
Well stated
I think most relationships don't last long. Not due to age, but incompatibility for hundreds of other reasons. I agree that if someone is healthy at an older age, it is more important than the age on your driver's license.
I'm 74 and my wife and partner is 16 years younger than me. It was an issue with my kids early in our relationship 20 years ago but now she's a welcome part of the family. We are truly soul mates and have loved every minute of being a couple. I might also add that this is my third marriage and her first.
Age is not important. True love finds a way ❤.
Dating someone younger doesn't make me feel younger either. I prefer men my own age, but they prefer younger women. My first husband was ten years younger and my second was younger too. I don't know what the answer is. The first husband wore me out with his dayt to day energy.
67 here...A gal I was talking with told me she had married a guy 15 years younger than her, and another one 11 years. Those marriages ended in divorce. Shocker, lol. She invited me to come vacation with her, and I politely back stroked away from that. I'll leave the cougars to stalk other prey. That age gap dating behavior is super unappealing to me.
If I dated a much younger man, it would have to be because he pursued me. I won’t pursue any man.
We do not AGE INSIDE. My last partner was 9 years older and it was never an issue. When she died from a brain tumour I was beside myself with grief. A deep love grew over the years. I know I will never replace her, but I never expected to loose her. THAT is the downside of an older person. We had a great life, good sex, High compatibility. Age is irrelevant but grief is unwelcome and overwhelming.
That story about the car mechanic does not ring true. I can't imagine anyone saying that. Sounds apocryphal
for women, men openly comment on women's ages frequently - it's a negging thing.
I was asked out by a much younger man, but he dropped the ball & it never happened. A slightly younger man asked me out around the same time, and he also dropped the ball. That's ok. I was a little curious, but I was happy to be in my singlehood when my current boyfriend asked me out. He's 1 year younger, lol.
Younger women is the way to go, if over 40, and if the guy can manage it. There really isn't anything to debate about it.
But can you provide for younger
@@EbonyYogaFitness I prefer mutual connection over situationship. But who knows... it all depends. Forget Passport Bro.
It is my belief that hearts should win the day. If you have enough in common, if your relationship is mutually respectful and limitations on both sides are understood, why can't it work? If it's a shallow connection, it may not last, no matter your ages. And if there is a great power differential, it also may not work. Couples decide or permanently commit to caring for each other, especially when times are tough. It's akin to parenting each other, so what's the big deal if it looks more so because of an age gap? As long as you're both learning and growing, it's all good. Having children isn't the mandate it once was. It's all about freedom to love and CHOICE. What you see on the outside, physical beauty, youth, and good health, do not assure a joyful or enriched life. I am age 65 and married to a guy who is very close to my age.
3:20 in. I’m a person who never wanted kids, and I like women older than me who have also never had kids. ❤so it’s different for me…
Having to change yourself to please another has got to be stressful in itself, life is too short to remake yourself and if you are happy with someone older or younger than yourself, let it be. We are only here for a brief time, and if you meet someone that makes you happy and they know your real self, just go with it and to hell what others think. Congrats' on being monetized
I used to date younger men than me, and my son told me that he was uncomfortable with that so now I only date men closer to my age. I have no intentions of getting married. My freedom and independence are very important to me but I do love having friends. I am happy with my lifestyle and I love that my children are happy too. I have subscribed to your channel. They are refreshing to watch. Thank you for sharing some of your views on life.
Totally agree. I just love your videos!
i'm a single 42 year old man from Ohio Open minded on dating a Older woman
The mechanic was just jealous. You go girl.
I agree. He probably felt threatened because he would have liked her to go out with him.
I can't understand why you thought that you had to change. In my experience, dating a younger woman gives me more energy, and the woman likes my extra experiences in life, making things more interesting ! At the moment, my partner is 60 and I am 75. She loves the fact that I have more life experiences and have much more knowledge about most things . What clothes we wear or music we like doesn't really come into things ? Its "Vive la difference" and it makes life more interesting ? Just my humble opinion
My husband is younger and it always made sense to me because his Dad died at 52. Who cares what anyone thinks…especially the mechanic!!
It’s really depends on the individuals. If the man is very special and mature, it could work.
Glad you went back to your house, so I could see the "Hudson River Valley" style piece over your right shoulder. I am more comfortable listening to others speak and share their experiences. I'm in a completely different situation, but think about what it would be like if it were different
I am 15 years older than my husband.We have been together 21 years and we have 1 son who is 16.No one thinks I’m older than him and most people think he’s older than me. The only people’s opinion I worry about is my family and we’re fine.
I have had a lot of offers from younger men. I'm not into younger men though. Our lives experience and values are not matching. They were looking just for a mom and sex without consequences.
John Moore, 77 years old, a grandfather , & a homesteader, The Liberty Man, based in Missouri, wife died a few years ago. John remarried last year to a younger 30 something woman with no kids 😂. John boasted about having 2 honeymoons in an interview with Doug Hagmann. Whooottt
You could have spent another hour on this. Like, undressing in front of him, where you self conscious of how he perceived your body. I know I was dating a younger woman. Your sex drive compared to his. So much to talk about. Keep up the good work. Oh, just turned 66
I really think if there’s a true soul connection then age doesn’t matter. I’ve been seeing someone for a month now who is 18 years younger than me. I felt an immediate soul connection with him. And he makes me feel more valued than any man has in the past decade. Also with an older man you do still have to try to retain your youthfulness. The last man I dated my age ended up leaving me for a woman 20 years younger than me. He also never told me I was beautiful but my younger man tells me I’m stunning all the time. I think we place too much emphasis on age.