My experience Dating with Cerebral Palsy: The Superman Complex
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- I discuss my experience with dating with cerebral palsy, and how it may make you feel like you have to be perfect all the time.
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Dude. I have CP. I walk (very) funny and I walk with a cane. I'm about to turn 50 on October 2nd. EVERY. SINGLE. THING. you talked about is something I have gone through. I even called it my Superman Complex! LOOK AT MY SHIRT. Watching this was like watching me in a time machine. I want to talk to you. I have good / great news for you. I know your future (because it's the same as my past). I'm glad you posted this.
Thank you so much, Joel!
I’m grateful for you watching the video, & offering such kind words and reassurance!
I’m so glad that you were able to relate to the video, & take something away from it.
(That’s the whole reason why I make these videos- to find people who can relate to these struggles, & hopefully show them that they’re not alone.)
I wish you all the best in your future!
I'm hemiplegic right side, I completely understand. I've had 5 year long relationships and several long term girlfriends, but I still have to deal with the same insecurities you're describing Including the manic part, thinking I'm a monster when i look in the mirror hating myself, whole days and months lost to self pity etc. Try this, battle the insecurity separately, its its own thing and shockingly being with hot girls and having them be attracted to you WILL NOT resolve it. Address the single problem by learning cold approach and learn how to attract girls. You will be completely shocked at how well this goes man. Play the numbers and abandon the " there's a person out there for everybody" mentality. A better way to look at it is attracting girls and being attractive are skills which can be mastered . From what you describe it seems like your putting way to much into one girl at a time. I highly recommend that if you aren't in a relationship, you should be dating at least 2 or 3 girls at a time casually. This will stop you from attaching so much value to the outcome of anyone situation, acting desperate. Also, when girls see that your dating and have options they will be more attracted to you. When I'm looking to get into a relationship, I pay less attention to how much I like a girl and put way more value on how much she likes me. I think I tended to want to chase validation from girls that were lukewarm on me when i was younger and i gotta tell you, that's quite the miserable hell and a huge waste of time. Also, flirt early if you like her. This takes practice, but its important that you establish a man to women premise early. I'd love to chat with you, I literally don't know anyone else with a disability and even watching this gave me a huge sense of belonging and community. Thanks for posting it.
Thank you very much for watching, and for taking the time to comment, Irish Jitz!
I’m grateful for your advice, and I’ll take it to heart!
I do tend to focus on one girl at a time because dating multiple girls/going on multiple dates tends to overwhelm me (and my wallet). 😅
But I do need to start taking initiative with women more, getting to know more girls, and flirting early on because I don’t get noticed by girls much at the moment.
(& I want that to change.)
I’ve also thought about working with a dating coach in the near future.
As far as where you can chat with me,
Feel free to shoot me a message on insta or Twitter @NickGermainVA.
@@NickGermainVA1995 Avoid red and black pill use this guys advice he's basically how i learned to attract girls. Life changing I promise. A lot of dating advice is cringe, but there's 100% useful information as long as you use your judgement and pars it properly. The key is think about your physical issues from CP as separate from the mental anguish/ insecurity and just like you work on getting the most out of your body, work separately on your self image. Think about it like this, say for example you take a -10 penalty to physical attractiveness from limping etc. you can't really control that, but you take another-10 for being insecure about it, and if you disqualify yourself from even "playing the game" then the that which you fear will come to pass. So, work on the insecurity directly and do it by proving yourself wrong. I'd love to chat, It's helpful to get an external perspective. I'm 37 and I wish I had anyone to help me through this in my 20s, I remember being horrified that I'd always be alone. Try this I also have a bunch of audiobooks that have been helpful. Your frame of trying to impress is what's killing you man, you will NEVER attract a girl by trying to impress her. Don't try to convince her with logic, change her feelings by being attractive. Being try hard (which is what you're describing in the video) is generally repulsive to females in my experience.
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@@IRISHJITZ Thank you for sharing Todd’s videos!
I’ll definitely give them a watch!
I do think that trying too hard is what’s causing me not to go anywhere with the ladies when I could just relax.
Nick don't simp be you be the best version of yourself for yourself. You will get past that version of your self . I'm 47 years old learn to be confident in yourself . If they like you they will like you if not move on . Learn how to read women . Learn to be confident and comfortable in your own skin . I feel you and I am older than you but one day it will happen for you and it will happen for me . We will meet our wife one day .just Learn to take it easy .
Thank you so much for watching, and for your encouragement & advice, Jeremy!❤️
I truly appreciate you, as well as your kind words!
I’m definitely working on myself, and my confidence, and I feel like I’m the most confident and best version of myself that I’ve ever been.
I do need need to continue to learn how to read women more effectively, and how to relax a lot more.
But I’m hopeful I’ll meet my person if I keep working on myself, and my dating skills.
I wish you all the best in love and in life as well! 🙏🏻
Hey. Nick,
It's really mentally tough I know your struggle we chat daily and try help each other with incoiragment.. We will both get there.. There was a famous golf player his name is Gary Player who actually is from South Africa.. He has a famous quote it reads practice makes perfect.. It's not 100% accurate as small things still happen.. But it's 98% correct.. If you practice something it can become easier.. But it takes time and sometimes you don't have that time.. So it it is difficult.. We must try focus on positive things always. Our emotions are powerful oh my but we can control them with practice.. And help from family and friends and life coaches on youtube.. But youtube can be tricky as it can be to much.. But it is helpful.
Anyways, Nick I'm thankful to have met you even though it's not in a physical way but it's definitely an emotional one.. I'd love for us to meet in person in future.. Holding thumbs for that buddy.. Chat soon.
Thank you so much, my friend!❤
I’m always grateful for you, and your kind words!🙏🏻
(And I’m holding out hope we get to meet in person someday as well! 🙏🏻💯)
I think it will get easier for both of us not only with practice, but meeting the right ladies who compliment our lives instead of complicating them.
I have cerebral palsy to in my legs .
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment, Jeremy!❤
I appreciate you!🙏🏻
It’s always nice for me to meet another person who has cerebral palsy because it helps me to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts and struggles with it.
I wish you all the best!