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Thank you so much, RanitaGadling! ❤️ It means more than I can say that you watched the video, and that it helped you. All I wanted out of this video was to share my story in hopes that it would reach people, and help others similar to me. I’m grateful to you for watching the video, & I truly appreciate you!🙏🏻 I often feel insecure about people not approaching me as well, and sometimes it makes me feel like I’m not good enough. (And I’m still working through that feeling.) I hope that you go forward knowing that you are enough, and you are a catch, and someone will come along who loves you, and values you for who you are.

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Hey c-rad! Thank you so much for watching the video, and taking the time to share your own experiences with cerebral palsy! ❤️ I’m grateful for you, and I appreciate you! 🙏🏻 I’m sorry that your friend that you had a crush on didn’t understand that you wanted to be alone with her/ go on a date with her. I’ve definitely been there before with multiple female friends, and it’s really hard. But don’t give up! Every date gets you closer to the right person, and you don’t have to date someone who has cerebral palsy! All that matters is that they understand you and your needs.

Don't give up. I have Pudendal Neuralgia & spend most of my day laying down & I have plans of starting dating again, after Easter...that is if a recent health set back doesn't get in my way. I was at the ER the other week, and found out I can no longer taking Advil anymore due to GI Bleeding. I take Advil with my nerve pain medication to bring my pain down to tolerable levels. Now I have to take Tylenol instead, and it's not really cutting the mustard. Hopefully the pain mgmt clinic can do something for me, otherwise I may not be able to have sex. The Pudendal Nerves are in the pelvis.

Thank you so much, my friend!❤ I’m always grateful for you, and your kind words!🙏🏻 (And I’m holding out hope we get to meet in person someday as well! 🙏🏻💯) I think it will get easier for both of us not only with practice, but meeting the right ladies who compliment our lives instead of complicating them.

Thank you so much, Zulekha!❤️ I’m extremely grateful for you, and grateful to you for watching! 🙏🏻 I agree! 💯 The person inside matters so much more than anything on the outside! I’ve met a lot of women who didn’t care about my disability (whether it worked out or not), and have given me a chance based on me. The best thing to do is just be honest about it, and communicate. Eventually, The right person will come into your life, and the wait will be worth it!

@@NickGermainVA1995 your welcome I also live C.P it been an interesting ride to say the least. I recently published by autobiography which is called MyFaith Walk From Blessing To Blessing by Zulekha I Jones .I talk about my life and changes I've faced. You can get on Amazon, Barnes And Nobles and Books A Million. I hope you can check it out. I hope you are doing well.😊

Hey Samuel, Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me!❤️ I’m truly grateful to you for not only taking the time to watch the video, but for your bravery and vulnerability in sharing your story/stories. I’ve had a rough time with dating as well (from age 13 to now). A lot of girls who just viewed me as a friend (WAY too many to count), a girl who left after 20 minutes, my last date ended up being a lesbian- Dating is ROUGH, man.😅 It SUCKS. I’m just NOW (at 27) seeing a nice girl who is mature, intelligent, etc. I met her on Hinge (through some divine miracle), but dating apps are TERRIBLE 99.9% of the time because no one cares about who you are inside. (It’s all vanity and looks) But you can (and will) meet somebody wonderful. The best advice I can give is to give yourself grace, focus on yourself, and what you love, and distance yourself from women who treat you in a way that you don’t deserve/don’t want to be treated. When you are out there dating, Be aware of what vibes a girl sends (does she seem to reciprocate your feelings and actions?), and be open to getting to know new people. You’ll find the right person when you least expect it, and it will be like an Angel has entered your life. I’m not a dating coach, but if you want to reach out via email (just to vent/chat), My email is nicholasjonbassist@gmail.com.

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment, Jeremy!❤ I appreciate you!🙏🏻 It’s always nice for me to meet another person who has cerebral palsy because it helps me to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts and struggles with it. I wish you all the best!

Thank you so much for watching, and for your encouragement & advice, Jeremy!❤️ I truly appreciate you, as well as your kind words! I’m definitely working on myself, and my confidence, and I feel like I’m the most confident and best version of myself that I’ve ever been. I do need need to continue to learn how to read women more effectively, and how to relax a lot more. But I’m hopeful I’ll meet my person if I keep working on myself, and my dating skills. I wish you all the best in love and in life as well! 🙏🏻

Thank you so much, Joel! I’m grateful for you watching the video, & offering such kind words and reassurance! I’m so glad that you were able to relate to the video, & take something away from it. (That’s the whole reason why I make these videos- to find people who can relate to these struggles, & hopefully show them that they’re not alone.) I wish you all the best in your future!

Thank you very much for watching, and for taking the time to comment, Irish Jitz! I’m grateful for your advice, and I’ll take it to heart! I do tend to focus on one girl at a time because dating multiple girls/going on multiple dates tends to overwhelm me (and my wallet). 😅 But I do need to start taking initiative with women more, getting to know more girls, and flirting early on because I don’t get noticed by girls much at the moment. (& I want that to change.) I’ve also thought about working with a dating coach in the near future. As far as where you can chat with me, Feel free to shoot me a message on insta or Twitter @NickGermainVA.

@@NickGermainVA1995 Avoid red and black pill use this guys advice he's basically how i learned to attract girls. Life changing I promise. A lot of dating advice is cringe, but there's 100% useful information as long as you use your judgement and pars it properly. The key is think about your physical issues from CP as separate from the mental anguish/ insecurity and just like you work on getting the most out of your body, work separately on your self image. Think about it like this, say for example you take a -10 penalty to physical attractiveness from limping etc. you can't really control that, but you take another-10 for being insecure about it, and if you disqualify yourself from even "playing the game" then the that which you fear will come to pass. So, work on the insecurity directly and do it by proving yourself wrong. I'd love to chat, It's helpful to get an external perspective. I'm 37 and I wish I had anyone to help me through this in my 20s, I remember being horrified that I'd always be alone. Try this I also have a bunch of audiobooks that have been helpful. Your frame of trying to impress is what's killing you man, you will NEVER attract a girl by trying to impress her. Don't try to convince her with logic, change her feelings by being attractive. Being try hard (which is what you're describing in the video) is generally repulsive to females in my experience. th-cam.com/users/ToddVDating

@@IRISHJITZ Thank you for sharing Todd’s videos! I’ll definitely give them a watch! I do think that trying too hard is what’s causing me not to go anywhere with the ladies when I could just relax.

Thank you so much, Nasecha!❤️ I am grateful to you for taking the time to watch, & offer me such kind words! 🙏🏻 I’d be happy to answer any questions that you have if you Email me at NicholasJonBassist@gmail.com.

Thank you so much for watching, & for your solidarity and kind words, Scot!❤️ I truly appreciate you, & I’m grateful for your support!🙏🏻 I enjoy your videos as well (Being a Kid with Cerebral Palsy, Siblings of us who have Cerebral Palsy, & Living with Cerebral Palsy over 50 being my most recent watches!) I wish you all the best!

Thank you so much not only for watching, but for offering such genuinely kind words, Guillermo! ❤️ I truly appreciate you, & I’m grateful to you! 🙏🏻 Thank you so much for sharing your relationship’s story too! You seem like you’re a loving and considerate partner, and they’re lucky to have you! (I know that I always appreciate whenever someone is considerate of my CP, & how they word things, because certain wording can trigger my depression) I wish you both the best, and if you need any advice- Feel free to comment here, or email me at NicholasJonBassist@gmail.com! I am always happy to offer whatever insight I can!

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my video, & offer me your kind words & support, Alexuci!❤️ It is hard to be vulnerable, but my hope is that by opening up about my experiences- I can reach people who are feeling like I have, & encourage them to keep going! I’m grateful for you, & your kindness, & I wish you all the best in love, & in life! 🙏🏻

I’m so sorry to hear that you have had bad experiences with dating as well, John! You’re right! Some people are shallow & not worth our time anyway because they only care about looks. (In many cases, we actually end up dodging a bullet because we can find someone who is even better for us) I can with certainty though to not give up! I’ve started putting my disability into my dating profile now, & I’ve connected with girls who don’t care that I have one at all. You’d be amazed at what can happen if you take another chance! In any case, I’m grateful for you, & grateful to you for taking the time to watch the video, & I wish you all the best in love, and in life! 🙏🏻❤️

@@NickGermainVA1995 Surely, I always thought be as gentleman as you can be, walk the walk... but no appearances get in the way again... any advice?

I'd rather be with someone who can walk the walk and care than some who is fit but doesn't care at all.

@@johnhills3085 Are you talking about wanting to date someone who also has cerebral palsy, or someone who means what they say/is honest in general? Honesty is absolutely always important any relationship. If you’re talking about dating someone who also has CP, A lot of people without disabilities will be wonderful partners as well even if they can’t relate to it themselves. (& just because they have CP, it doesn’t mean that they’re going to be a good fit) All that should really matter is if they’re empathetic, and have a kind heart. Whoever your partner will be, I hope that they’re absolutely wonderful, & I have faith that they will be!

Honesty is the best policy what they do is ahead of the word they say. Easy to talk to... actually looks are not s big thing Like you said you have a good rapport with the other person you hang out have fun and then ohh I don't like you... They won't say is your CP but they change out of the blue... Get the elephant in the room out of the way on your second third date I'd say.

I am so sorry to hear that, Brig! Was it someone you were dating? I hope that you don't give up because there are good women out there! The right person for you won't leave you for your disability, and they will love you for you! I haven't found my person yet either, but we both will in time! Thank you so much for watching the video! I am grateful to you, and I will be praying for all the best for you in love and in life!

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch & comment, & offer your appreciation, Arrjaie! ❤️ I am grateful for you, & your support, & I’m glad that my video could be of help to you! 🙏🏻 (It was hard to make it, & be vulnerable, but if it helps people, then it’s worth it) I wish you all the best in love, & in life! 😊

Thank you so much for YOUR story, High Flying FL390! You've obviously raised your son well, and both of you have beautiful hearts! Thank you for teaching him to be a gentleman, and to just treat her like he would treat any other person! That is a wonderful quality, and a rare and beautiful quality too! I agree completely that it is all about good communication, and making sure that the person with the disability speaks up about what they need to feel comfortable and treated normally, and also making sure to listen when the person who has a disability is communicating how they feel! Thank you so much for watching the video, and sharing you and your son's experiences! I wish you and your family all the best!

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the video, and offering kind words, Sonia!❤️ I’m grateful to you, and I appreciate you!!🙏🏻 Opening up *is* very hard. I’m struggling through opening up right now, & I’m slowly learning how to be vulnerable with my loved ones about my struggles with my disability. But I am opening up, and I think that the important thing is that we try our best! I hope that you are able to do the same, and I wish you all the best in love and in life!

@@NickGermainVA1995 in the last few years i have tried to carefully open up to more people so that i can optimize my chances of the fullest life possible and that is also in a sense what you have done with this sincere video . it makes your personal experience more universal, which in turn will help many people.

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the video, & offer your advice, thoughts, & kind words, Tamryn! ❤️ I truly appreciate you, & I am grateful for you! 🙏🏻 My primary source of meeting people is dating apps, & I’m on three at the moment. I don’t put my cerebral palsy on my profile because even though it’s a part of my life, it doesn’t define me in any way, & I don’t want a woman to focus on it anymore than I would my friends or family (it’s better if they get to know me for me). I get matches, but they usually ghost me even when they tell me that they’re cool with my CP. My last date said that she was fine with it, & she stood me up. So I’m not too optimistic about dating at the moment, but I’ll always give it my best shot, & put myself out there! Regardless, I’m thankful for you, & your encouragement, & I wish you all the best in love, & in life! ❤️

Thank you so much, Scott!❤️ I said this already, but I truly appreciate you taking the time to listen, & I’m grateful to you!🙏🏻 Casting directors receive a lot of demos, (so it’s hard to get noticed as VA), & when casting directors take the time to listen to my demo it means more to me than I can say!

Thank you so much for taking the time to watch the video, and for your kind words, and support, Abbie! ❤️ I am grateful to you, and I will be sure to check out your channel as well! 🙏🏻 I have some more video ideas about dating with CP/ to raise awareness about CP as soon as I get a chance to flesh them out! I think it’s important to keep a dialogue going about Cerebral Palsy (& even more so after watching Special on Netflix) because there’s a lot of people who still don’t know anything about people with disabilities beyond assumptions and stereotypes! I wish you all the best in love and in life, & I hope that you continue to raise awareness about cerebral palsy as well!

I’ll do it in a heartbeat if I can find a trustworthy (nonvirusy) place to download the manga!😄 I had to take pictures of the panels on my phone for these videos! 😅 But it’s something that I’d love to do too if we can get everyone on board (or find suitable replacements for the ones who are not). 💯

@@NickGermainVA1995 If you DO decide to do a fandub, hmu! I'm always down for a project with you and everyone!

@@ashecorinthos It seems like it's gonna be doable! I'll do some thinking on it, & see if I think I can handle another project!

Thank you so much, Niki! ❤️ I truly appreciate you, & your support, & I am grateful to you! 🙏🏻 Sometimes I feel like there isn’t someone out there for me that will be my best friend in life, and that I’ll fall head over heels in love with. I’ve had a lot of girls (even female friends) walk out of my life without explanation, and that has made it hard to trust in life, and God’s plan at times. But I won’t give up, and I hope that I am fortunate to find a wonderful love like yours that lasts a lifetime like you have! God Bless you as well, and I wish you all the best in love and in life!

@@NickGermainVA1995 thanks. For your. Video

@@cynthiavoss3610 Thank you so much, Cynthia! I am truly grateful to you for watching and enjoying my video! I hope that it helped you in some way, and I wish you the best in love, and in life!

Are u still single

@@cynthiavoss3610 Yes! I am on dating apps (& go on dates sometimes), but I am still single currently.

Thank you so much, Meghan! I am truly grateful for your kind words, & support, & I truly appreciate you! I am so sorry that you went through that, and it truly does help to know that someone went through something similar to what I went through, & came out okay! (Sometimes it can feel like I need to change something about myself in order to find someone because a lot of girls have walked out of my life without an explanation). Thank you for sharing your experience with me, as it truly is a comfort! I wish you and your partner all the best, and many more happy years with one another!

You’re too kind, AJ! Thank you so much for your kind words! ❤️ You are a beautiful person as well (inside and out), & I truly appreciate you taking the time to watch this video! It’s truly humbling that people like yourself are still continuing to watch it, & respond, & I am truly grateful to you! 🙏🏻 I wish you all the best in love, as well as in life! 😊

Thank you so much for this, Gilbert!❤️ I’ve been going through a bit of a rough time with anxiety, & depression, & I’ve felt like crying a lot today, & I can’t express how much your comment means to me! A lot of the time, I can barely look at myself in the mirror, & like myself lately, & I thank you so much for your kind words (I’m beyond grateful to you)! 🙏🏻 Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to watch this video, & make me feel like I’m not completely awful!🥺 I wish you all the best in love, & in life! 😊

@@NickGermainVA1995 Nick I agree with Gilbert you are a good looking young man. I’m sorry you were having a rough time of it when this reply came out. Hopefully things are better for you now. I just came across your Chanel a few minutes ago. I. Hoping that your still making videos. Have a great week.

@@paulabarton9493 Thank you so much for not only watching the video, but for the kind words, & for taking the time to check up on me, & ask how I am doing!❤️ I’m grateful to you beyond words, & I truly appreciate you more than I can say! 🙏🏻 My depression ebbs & flows/varies from day to day. Today, I’m doing okay overall. Just trying to stay positive! As far as my next video like this, I have some ideas, & I’m going to try to flesh out my best video idea soon! Until then, I wish you all the best in love, & in life!

Thank you so much, Maizen!❤️ I’m always humbled, surprised, & grateful for folks like yourself who take the time to watch this video!🙏🏻 I never thought that it would reach people at all, let alone inspire anyone, & I thank you for taking the time to watch it, & offering your kind words! I wish you all the best in love, as well as in life! 😊❤️🙏🏻

Sofia, You have no idea how much I needed to hear this today! 🥺❤️ Thank you so much for taking the time to touch my heart with your kind words! 😭 I appreciate you more than words can ever say, & I am grateful to you! 🙏🏻 I often have trouble seeing my own worth (especially recently), & I’ve felt like I’m not worth loving. So thank you so much for being a bright light in a time of a lot of dark thoughts!

@@NickGermainVA1995 I'm so glad I could help!Keep your head up, these hard times will pass!!

I truly appreciate you watching this video, Pamela! I don’t have a ton of experience with dating and intimacy, but I would love to offer you any advice that I can. You can message me on Twitter @NickGermainVA.

@@NickGermainVA1995 I don't have twitter but you can hit me on my email . Pam.koehn@yahoo.com

Thank you so much for commenting, and sharing your own experience with me! I truly appreciate it, as the goal of this video was to connect with others who have CP, and, (hopefully), give them a story to relate to. It seems to me that people often think that people who have disabilities have trouble with sex (and other intimacy), or they’re worried about what others will think. When in reality, We’re just people, and we can do anything that anyone else can do. Honestly, If people want to miss out because of silly fears and assumptions- They’re not worth it anyway!

My apologies for not getting back to your comment very quickly, Rosilene!😮 (I’ve been crazy busy!😩) I try cannot thank you enough for taking the time to watch the video, and for all of your kind words! ❤️ The goal of this video was solely to have it reach people (with and without a disability), and I truly appreciate you for watching and listening! I want to believe (and choose to believe) that there is someone out there for everyone. I am going to do my best to stay true to myself, and my goals, and hope that I find my person along the way! I wish you all the best in life, and in love! 🙂😇

Chad Skiz Thank you so much, my friend! That means the world to me, and it is extremely encouraging to hear! I truly appreciate your friendship, and I truly appreciate your support! I will keep looking, and see who life brings me. And please know that I am always there for you anytime you need anything at all, my friend! Love you, buddy! ❤️