As a woman, admitting I had a problem with pornography was embarrassing. But I cut it off from my life, I stopped reading certain books and watching certain shows to help fight the temptation. Whenever those thoughts enter my mind, I remember what I’ve read in my devotionals, to take hold of my thoughts and change them and direct them towards God. It’s a struggle but it gets easier everyday and my friends are so understanding and supportive. Thanks you guys for letting me know I’m not the only one who struggles with this sin.
Literallly struggled with it the last two days, and fell into temptation, after not struggling with it for a while. This is encouraging & praying for all the ladies!! Run to the Father even if you don’t want to. He’s good and faithful
I've had the same issue, girl! I've found that when I spend more time in the Bible and prayer, and less time on social media (especially when I'm feeling alone), it really helps! A few days ago, I also said a prayer for God to completely take away this struggle from me, and so far, God has been with me through it! There were moments of temptation these past few days, but my interest in those temptations has gone away! :)
@@halfheart02 yes, girl! Social media and tv and other influences have a greater affect than we think. I just deleted my Instagram ( where I spent most of my time). Also, decided to join a women’s group to keep accountability and remind myself I cannot do it alone.
There is something incredibly powerful about Christians who are transparent about past sins. It’s such a testament to the transformative power of Christ.
Many young wives eventually turn-on the porn for their young husbands because they are so tired of trying to take care of him 3,4 or 5 times a day. Women should thank porn for giving them a break!
Most people, men and women on Instagram need to hear this and realise this. Because many people on there are lusting after men and women that they see. Also people need to stop letting people fall into lust, because people Be posing with their bodies, making people Lust. I dislike this part of Instagram
I think for some women (including myself) porn was a school too. Sometimes we watched it because we wanted to know how to be “good enough”, “sexy enough” “desirable enough” and we think we should act more like people do in porn. It’s horrible and if you have dealt with that, you’re not alone and I’m praying for you.
This makes me feel terrible that women feel that way.Thank you for sharing Aidee.From an honest woman s perspective what are some ways you think make women feel super validated that I can do as a future SO or husband
@@ttownsupreme2183 Hi! Yes it’s really sad. I would like to answer your question because I think it can be helpful but I need some time to answer because it is a difficult topic for me. I have CPTSD (childhood trauma) and on the other hand my beautiful husband and I didn’t wait and made many mistakes. I’ll respond as soon as I can, friend ☺️
It just hurts I try everything I did my best to look like those women in porn or act like them and yet my partner just still chooses those girls over me
It doesn’t hurt to try to look like these women and try different fun sexual things. The day today marriage becomes stagnant sexually. Why not spice it up some? Even watching porn with your husband would be a really fun idea!
Say it with me: Women 👏 struggle 👏 with 👏 addiction 👏 too. I'm sorry. I just needed to get that out there. This topic is such a close and personal one, and I wish people would be more aware how much women actually do struggle with sexual addiction. Now more than ever. I've known and talked to so many women who dealt with sexual addiction in one way or another. More so than men. That's not to say there are more women than men struggling, only that the ratio is a lot closer than people report. Okay, that aside, I have a long, detailed story, everything from my discovery of porn, falling into addiction, learning the truth, getting saved, fighting it, and finding freedom. I've told the story so many times, however, that I'm just going to skip to the solution part of my journey. •Confess the sin to God, repent, and give your life to Him. •Tell someone you know and trust completely. •Actively fight against it, avoiding triggers and situations you know cause you to stumble. •Live right and healthy outside of the addiction. Exercise, shower more often, eat healthy foods. When you're feeling good in areas on the outside, you'll want to live healthy and right on the inside. •Fast. From food or technology, whichever you need to if you must. •Porn blockers. There are free ones and even browsers that have blockers already ingrained in the system. •Talk to people who have gone through or are going through the same thing. •We have power to rebuke the devil is Jesus' name. Cast satan out and he and his demons will flee from you. •Pray earnestly for others. It softens your heart to other's and their situations and also brings you closer to God. •Pray all the time, even going about your day, say, "God, help me. Keep me strong. I can't do this without you." •Don't be afraid to ask others to pray for you. Friends, family, or fill out a prayer request form online. •The Bible says that strength is made perfect in weakness. I started noticing the biggest change in my situation when I humbled myself, realized I was weak and couldn't do it on my own. I started saying it in prayers, praying constantly, "God, help me. I can't do this alone. Take it from me." •I stopped promising God that I would never do it again. Instead, I now pray and earnestly ask Him to help me to not do it again. •Stop focusing on your sin and focus on your Savior. •Envision hell. It's a scary thing to focus on, but it snaps you back into reality. •Envision Heaven. We are God's children, the redeemed. Heaven is our home, our final destination. The temptation will weaken when you think upon Heavenly things. •Lastly... Praise God and Worship Him. He saved your life. He's the only one who can free you from what you're going through. He loves you and knows you and wants to help you. Praise casts out every bad thing, lifts God up, and keeps our eyes on Him. So praise Him when everything's fine. Or even when your fighting temptation, praise.
Here‘s my solution: 1. believe in love and that your husband exists and that you‘re gonna meet him soon 2. join NoFap !!! NoFap changes my life I‘m on day 180 of no porn or masturbation right now , by God‘s Grace #join NoFap I mean it!!!
Omgosh THANK YOU for ur vulnerability Katie!!!! Really thank you🙏🏻 & what u shared is SOOO helpful. U wouldn't know how many life's u gave hope & restored I pry that u continue to be a resilient woman through Christ !!!
I think the real damage done by pornography remains a pretty "bold" topic about which to be *personally* open. And I think that holds true in most secular environments also, in a certain way: It requires boldness to admit it's a problem, rather than reflexively normalizing it or relativizing it. Of course, it's correct to state that plenty of secular venues treat pornography as a normal everyday kind of topic, even a throwaway reference for jocular purposes. Discussing porn in THAT way requires no boldness at all. But outside of Reddit's "nofap" or the site YourBrainOnPorn, I think it's still comparatively rare to see non-religious persons engaging in a serious way with the research demonstrating the biochemical harms done by video pornography, OnlyFans, et cetera. Matt Fradd's book/presentation "The Porn Myth" is making good strides -- although, there again, it took a person from a religious background to be willing to write a book that lays out the negatives of pornography use, even in a pure-science non-religious way -- but there's still, I think, a hidebound/knee-jerk tradition of cultural pushback against suggesting "there's anything wrong" with porn use. Such traditions take a while to change (Reddit etc. notwithstanding).
My addiction to porn ruined my past relationship with my ex girlfriend over 4 years ago. It made me so jealous and made me think that she was doing stuff with other guys all the time. Pornography messed me up psychologically and twisted my mind into these weird fantasies that would never happen in real life. Being with a bunch of other dudes that acted perverted all the time and are always talking sexually about women did not help me at all. I really had to pray a lot and talk to some people of my addiction. Today I’m finally free. I pray so much now and I realized that this is a serious problem, especially for Christians.
Thank you for sharing, that's insightfull. I hope you always see yourself like how God sees you! May He bless you with all the blessings that He has in His heart for you
@@white8590 awesome!! Spread the word of #joinNoFap ! I am happy for you!! And you‘re future partner is very lucky. Not a wanker, a real man. Keep Holy Spirit fire in your Temple lit. 🔥🔥🔥🕊For me now, the Holy Spirit literally warms my heart many times and I have so much more compassion for people.
I’m a 16 year old who struggled with Pornography for 9 years (I started when I was 7). It has been an uphill battle; one thing the Lord has shown me that has GREATLY impacted me is the key to overcoming EVERY addiction. The key is to abide with Jesus. In John 15 it talks about abiding with the Vine (Jesus) and bearing fruit according to the Spirit (kind of like how an apple tree bears apples). You don’t walk by an apple tree and hear it grunting and yelling “APPLES!!!!”; the tree just makes apples EFFORTLESSLY. I believe this concept can be directly applied to every bit of warfare in our lives; by abiding with Spirit, you will bear fruit in accordance with the Spirit. Those temptations start to vanish because you start to bear new types of fruit; those desires begin to fade because the Vinedresser (God) prunes the branches (us). I encourage you to read John 15 and see for yourself what abiding with Jesus does
Honey, you are 16!!! You should not feel shame for being curious about human sexuality. This is NORMAL!! I’m a medical professional and I do not understand why the church is so concerned about what people do in their private lives. Purity culture is so damaging and I hope one day you can learn that you don’t need the approval of these “godly” church people.
I just want to encourage you to keep fighting and don’t give up because God is with you through it because I am a 16 yr old girl and it’s so encouraging to know that their are guys out there who care about their future and glorifying God because one day there will be a girl that is so thankful that you were so faithful to this and it will show you care and it will be so worth it because it’s all about giving God glory and you are doing that just by saying no to the devil and his lies
@@alyssasmith997 Has any one of the young people in your church thought about the concept that these pastors are using their own human interpretations preaching the Bible that was written by bronze aged human goat herders, to teach young people how to be a good person, live a good life, etc. ?? I’ll say it again, purity culture is so damaging.
Dang, didn't think I'd resonate with anything they'd say. Then Nate said " Porn is like a school that you're going to. Every time you watch porn just know that you're going to school because you're training yourself. You're teaching yourself to go to one woman after the next." I never thought of it that way and I can see that living a life that way makes it impossible to ever be satisfied with one woman. Man. Thanks Nate & Sutton for your vulnerability.
That & the grape culture on it. They’re disrespecting women on there. Then men will think it’s normal to have sex with their wife in an unsatisfactory way that is painful. No one talks about this as well.
Besides the fact that porn is just really unhealthy for your mind (addiction) and for your relationship, porn industry can be very harmful to those who are in it. By watching it you're not just ruining your relationship with someone else, with yoursel or with God, but you are also "sponsoring" and supporting an industry that objectifies and exploits women. An industry that has proven cases of child abuse (child pornography), aggression and humiliation of both men and women, human trafficking and many other horrible things. Porn isn't good for anyone.
That’s why amateur porn exists - two people who both consent, want to record themselves, and put it out there for people who consent to watch it. It’s fine if it’s not your thing, but I’m js, porn doesn’t have to be unethical.
@Ma M Amateur porn, or any kind of porn, degrades the dignity of the life and soul of the persons being watched. Watching someone humiliate themself by publicly showing their nakidness is actually bringing shame on them. They need Love. True love. They need to know that they are worthy of more than porn.
I was introduced to pornography when I was 5 years old. Since then, it had been a serious problem I dealt with growing up and led me into a dark path of depression and guilt. Once I became a Christian, I let go of that struggle, gave it to God and He renewed me from the inside out. It was a struggle for a while but God strengthened me and my mind and since then I haven't fallen into the temptaion of the enemy. Thank you so much for addressing this issue, because I personally wished someone would've told be earlier as I was growing up about the serious affects it had. Pornography is a huge problem, so thank you for coming out boldly to share the Truth.
@@miriamrutter4573 The enemy was after my innocence and purity, but the Lord was/is more mightier than he! We need to be watchful and vigilant towards our children, pray for them. God has been faithful and He redeemed to me all that was taken away. All honor and glory to God, for rebirthing me into who I am today!
My husband started watching it when he was about 12, I met him at age 24 he's 44 now and I found out 3 weeks ago about his addiction. He's been doing it our entire marriage. Yes I am crushed, yes I almost left him, yes I was angry at him but I am still here and working with him to defeat this. We went to Church and he got prayer and he hasn't had any desire to watch it in those 3 weeks ....it's almost like he see's me again. I didn't see that he had changed and couldn't see me for me but now he's stopped watching he's like a different person. Now we have to rebuild the trust, which I have a feeling will be a very long journey.
I feel you... I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially after knowing your husband for so long. I hope that the world will give you all the love and care you need to heal from this ❤ Prioritize yourself and the people whom you can trust, dear
I admire you for staying and helping him overcome his addiction, most women would just give up easily. However, don't lie to yourself and dont lie to him. You won't trust him the same way as before, and as soon as you distant yourself from him, the relationship is already weakened. You don't seem to understand why men watch porn. Men watch porn because of urges and porn for him, at this point, it has become normalised since he has been watching it since he was a teenager, and porn is not reality. Men do not watch it thinking that they are deliberately cheating. Which is why you shouldn't take it personally, since he has been watching it before he met you. You are just living a fallacy. You might as well divorce him because despite him making progress, you still won't trust him anyway.
Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus Christ. He is able to change your husband for the better. He is still the same God who changed Saul to the Apostle Paul! Peace be upon you and your family
@@christianrowbotham7386 porn is an emotional regulator. Many men (and women!) are addicted to porn because it is a hyper stimulus. a vast majority of young adults discovered porn before masturbation and since young age used it as a massive dopamine hit. Very often from boredom or stress situations. And that behavior pattern carried onto the adult life. Just because he watched it before marriage doesn't mean he can't stop now.
I was always against pornography and it was never an issue for me... however if a movie came on with a sex scene... I wouldn't look away. So even sexual images in movies can be just as bad. Now, I don't watch any of those things in movies and that's helped keep my mind more pure.
Then it just keeps escalating my ex wouldn’t touch me anymore.He was so engulfed in porn that he tried to lie about and called me crazy.Please be true to yourselves and get help
Being a Muslim I can so relate to this and understand whatever you have said. Islam also teaches us similar values and gives us similar strong lessons regarding pornography and it being a sin of multiple parts. When one watches it, one's eyes sin, the ears sin etc. This was such a good video and I hope and pray that more people are able to get over this. Also in our religion, fasting is recommended to keep away from such desires. Fasting in our religion has its own rules, things that break it, maintain it etc so keeping a fast keeps one from breaking it by falling into such temptations. However there is a great deal of specifications involved in fasting and not just prohibiting food and water on oneself. Muslims would know what I am talking about. Talking about a few plans I would say being in good company, not being alone a lot, definitely not with a person from the opposite gender, ignoring and going to your family and sitting with them whenever the temptation arises are just a few things that one can do.
The Bible teaches Christian’s to cut out their own eye if it causes them to sin, of course metaphorically. The person is called to deal with their issue through Grace of course. In Islam Mohammed unfortunately didn’t have much self-control and had several wives yet is supposed to be the standard according to Islam. I am just saying this as Islams values are not the same as Christian ones we do not share the same God either. A good video to see what I am referring to is by David wood: th-cam.com/video/EANsQMcEoDk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=LKXhY4TDngOlMmFz
Thank y'all so much for speaking on this. Pornography and masturbation have been an ongoing issue for me for so many years. I've heard tons of married people say that the habits you have outside of marriage don't just go away when you get married, if anything they get amplified. So something that was helpful to me was to think about how i would feel if my husband had this issue and i realized, i think that i would feel like he was cheating on me, and i'm sure that's one of the worst feeling you could have within a marriage. So now when i'm tempted, i try to think about how i'm kind of cheating on my future husband.
Nah... It's healthy. You don't need to feel guilt constantly about a completely and totally human experience. You're not "cheating on your future husband". Any man who thinks that is not valuing you as an independent and human person.
@@mason305 I totally get that, but honestly that's how i would feel about it too. Also i believe masturbation is unbiblical so i want to honor the Bible as well. :)
Same that thought of hurting my future partner with this, or this being between us for me is the biggest motivation. Also join NoFap. It changed my life!! I‘m on day 180 of no porn or masturbation right now, by GODS GRACE. He also lead me there at just the right time. You can compete in challenges and there a Christian groups and many women too!!!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️✨ absolutely Look at J. Peterson on casual sex and pornography, he explains it psychologically and sociologically... It's really damaging to all of us and in many levels essential to life.
I very respectfully disagree ♡ I watch porn sometimes and both of my relationships have been very healthy and lasted a long time- as well as out sex was very healthy and healing ♡ I am not a Christian however ( I believe in God and love him and thank him- but I dont prescribe to the bible and religion ) so my values will be different.
@@limsun3814 God is real. He is so real. More real than you or I. He healed my heart, mind and my vision. Prayers that you find out. Ask Him to show you that He is real, then listen and watch.
This topic needs to be addressed more and we need to stop normalizing the sex industry, it really hurts everyone in the long run. I personally struggled with pornography for years and still do to this day and it's embarrassing to admit sometimes. But, it's also part of my testimony and I can empathize with so many people now and tell them how many people it actually hurts and how to overcome it. One of the things I started doing was every time I had an urge to look or read anything that put God's gift into an unholy light, I'd pray for a friend that was on my heart. Every time temptation would call I would pause and start praying, taking my mind off the obstacle, and using it to uplift someone else and get in the habit of prayer. I don't always succeed at this but the urges have become few and far between and I still pray for those friends. I also have told others to help keep me accountable. Thank you Nate and Sutton for making this video. ❤️
1. I don’t charge my phone in my room 2 . I’ve removed safari from my phone, and I only use my school computer if I need to research things. 3. I avoid shows/ movies with intimate scenes and suggestive language. As well as people. 4. I have two accountability partners who encourage me to keep moving forward, and he me celebrate each little victory!
I'm always shocked at how intense this is for people... are the urges really that bad? Either way, kudos for you to staying determined and taking such measures.
Battle Plan: (a) confess to God, (b) confess to the right people, (c) remove triggers , (d) get the neccessary help you need, and (e) let God restore/heal. Tfs
Your guys story is almost the exact same as me and my husband's. For any Christian gentleman reading this...I pray for your strength to fight this battle and encourage you to end it before you meet your future spouse. Save your bride from the heartbreak! Thanks for sharing, Sutton and Nate!
Haven't clicked so fast on a video..Yes! Soo many ppl struggle with this & don't deal with this and brush it off cause its an uncomfortable topic, thank you for this!
This is also a problem in schools. I’m 16 and things like this shows up in classrooms. Teachers think that we’re so mature enough and that we’re already ‘adults’ to watch adult movies. These movies flash us with pornography, cursing and all sorts of immorality. If you have a problem with it, you’ll get ridiculed by students because were conditioned that sex should be something that everyone is okay with. (Outside of marriage.) It’s truly disgusting how our society operates.
Wooooow! Really! This is why I’m glad I’m not a kid in todays society where sexual immorality is promoted as normal, and youths are brainwashed to do all kinds is sexual immoral as long as ur doing it “safe”. I’m 25 and things weren’t as bad when I was in high school. I feel sorry for you, my lil sister. But keep strong I will pray for u.❤️🤗
The Holy Spirit is truly working in your already at such a young age. Because a lot of people of your generation don’t even see how brainwashed they are. It’s only through the Holy Spirit that your eyes get opened. I myself was exposed to Porn at a very young age, I wasn’t even a teen yet. And so I know what it is like to be blinded by lust, porn and perversion.
As a teen I got into reading it. When I finally stopped and got help from God and my pastor, it was such a blessing but it came with this huge fear about what my future husband would feel about me. When I finally started in a relationship with someone it was in the back of my mind wondering how I would tell him. Then one night we were talking on the phone and I made the joke saying u don’t even know all my secrets and I expected it to be laughed off but he was like well tell me so we can get past them. The door was opened and I stepped through and told him. It took me a bit to get the story out but at the end he didn’t say nothing for a second then he told me his secret- he had fell into it too. We talked through things and this huge weight I had on my shoulder for years just slid off. When God puts them in your life they won’t judge you they will love you no matter what.
Hey I got the same problem, I got into reading it. However I avoid overly sexualize books. I love reading, is my favorite hobby of all time, and I mostly read YA and NA Romance but it is nearly imposible to avoid the scenes because nowadays is such a “normal thing”. I feel conflicted whether what can I do about it . You don’t read anymore?
@@randomuser9578 it has to be something you decide you’re done with. I still read- one of my favorites is a series called “love inspired” bc it’s a clean Christian romance. But I had to make it up and get accountability with it. I’ll be honest I quite reading anything romance wise for a while till God had helped me overcome it. Now it will be difficult but get someone u trust and have them check up on you. Be honest with them when you mess up tho. The best way to fix it is to not try to hide a slip up. Just remember you can only fix it if you really want to.
Maybe if we imagine our parent catching us watching and how embarrassing it would be. God is our Heavenly Father and he’s always watching us and we constantly hurt him when we hurt ourselves the temple of the Holy Spirit
You realize how toxic that is? You should totally believe in god and if you think porn, etc. is wrong that’s totally okay too. But saying god is someone who is there to make you feel guilt for different things you do is so wrong.
Hi. I have been a Christian for the past 7-8 years. Recently l have been really struggling with this problem. I am asking that you guys keep me in your prayers. I have already committed this problem to God so I know that he will work with me in what I call the ‘tight rope’ path of the Christian life(Matthew 7:14).
"I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me." I was addicted for years, but God put me out of this. It took some time, but you can do anything WITH GOD, alone you will fail.. 🙏🏼God's got you ❤️
This is a great video!! Porn addictions are like eating disorders and thrive on secrecy! The more we talk about it the better and less alone others will feel. Feeling alone and ashamed just continues to feed the addiction.
I was not addicted to pornography, but it was on my television one night. My eyes could not turn away, and I felt I was not in control in that moment. That is the power of lust and sin, and Satan’s schemes, and i was so afraid. I was barely a believer at this time, but called on Jesus’ name three times in that moment. I sincerely believe it was the Lord who helped me pray this, as I didn't know His name had power. That was 13 years ago, and I have never looked at porn again, or ever been caught in such a trap. In addition to these amazing tips from Sutton and Nathan, we can also call upon the name that is above every other name and that has the power to redeem and set the captive free.
I found out my husband had been watching porn, our entire marriage and hiding it because he knew I was 100% against it as a woman and against it as a Christian. He admitted it had been going on the entire time, and thankfully, it was SO heartbreaking and SO devastating, I had to give it to Christ. So did he. Over a year later, I know he isn't doing it anymore, and we are closer to each other and God. So in a way, it turned into a blessing - but it was HARD.
Really great video, thanks for making it. I’m a guy that’s been struggling with a porn addiction for years. I’ve committed myself to conquering my addiction before even dating a girl. There have been some really good stretches and some bad ones. But this is something that, personally, I want far away in the rear-view mirror before dating, let alone marriage. I would like to be married one day, and a family, but this is not an issue that can be carried into marriage, which is why I am dealing with it now, not later.
Yes this is such a great topic because its such a huge issue. The church's really need to talk about this yet for some reason its very hushed and is a very big problem. I love that u both are so real and honest about this. Also very glad you are set free from this.
I will pray for u . Best things is getting an accountability partner that u can trust will hold u accountable. This is not something we can fight alone. God wants to help u. All is not lost dear friend.
Great topic, very bold to address it, and good work. I struggled with porn since I was 10 until 33, it wasn't until I had the courage to confess to my wife that I was finally free and had the power within myself to be strong enough in my vulnerable moments to flee. It really hurt our marriage, my wife is still dealing with it 3 years later. I wish I had never done it in the first place. She is so beautiful inside and out and so much more than I deserve, but the sinful mature in us just tempts us to ruin every good thing we have. We are on a path to building trust again. I am so glad to be clean for the last 3 years now, I function better, love better, see my wife better, better at my job. I can't wait to raise my kids with the understanding and wisdom I have about sexuality, desire, relationships and how much better it is to be strong and wait.
I have not looked at porn in a month, the thing about porn satan tempts me, I watch it and after I feel terrible about it ( our conscious) then satan makes me feel like I’m unworthy because of the sin. Kill steal and destroy that’s all he ever does
This is so true! He’s disgusting and so perverse, I Imagine him like the most unhappy person in the world who wants to ruin everyone because he’s ruined too.. and he only get worse, we must read our bible and pray always!
Yes. I used to struggle with watching it and have found freedom from it now. But I dealt with it growing up, mostly throughout middle/high school. It did warp my view of sex and what it is for and God’s design for it. My husband claims he never watched actual porn, and I believe him. When we got married, 5 and a half years ago, we were 19 and virgins. I had a view and an expectation of “newlyweds”. My husband didn’t have the drive or curiosity or knowledge like I did and tbh it hurt me mentally and emotionally the first half of our marriage. Bc of porn I expected him to want sex all the time or to think about it all the time. But he wasn’t like that. We still did, but I was always let down because it didn’t happen Like I wanted or expected bc I was training my mind to expect a lie.... even though I knew it was a lie. I even fell into self... “time”... which I had to confess to my husband a few times in the beginning of our marriage. We had many arguments and discussions over sex more than any other subject in the beginning of our marriage lol porn creates these unrealistic fantasies in your mind and it’s do unhealthy. Not to mention, God gave sex to married couples to be enjoyed only with each other. It should be your own, not what the world says it should be. You as a couple make it fun by figuring it out together lol We are 25 and have 3 kiddos now and that struggle with porn is completely gone now. I hate it. The whole industry. Then having the knowledge of what happens in that industry, it’s disgusting and sad. I had struggled for so long, feeling like I’d never gain victory over it. I even believed the lie that I was doomed to always struggle with it, so why fight it. I was in high school then lol my parents put up a lot of roadblocks but I found loop holes. My parents tried to lead me biblically through this sin and I wanted to fight it... but I didn’t at the same time. Satan had some pretty convincing arguments. I highly recommend the app EverAccountable. Our whole family has it and it’s on all the devices. It monitors all phone activity and sends reports weekly. Alerts the others who the reports go to (you can choose, my hubby and I see each other’s and our kids, but not the rest of my families) it also takes screenshots. It overall is great. It has some inaccuracies, but it is a great tool if you need help stopping. When you know someone else can see it all, the temptation isn’t so strong. Plus, repenting and asking God for help. He will help you. Place scripture where you can see it. And don’t view things that are triggers to you. Denounce satan when he tries to make you stumble, cuz he will. And when the temptation hits, verbally, out loud, pray and ask God to take the urge away. Let God be your strength. I hope my story helps. As a woman I see so much importance about sharing your dirt... especially with this topic. Not many women tell their struggles with it because they are too ashamed and embarrassed. Much love here! Prayers for all of you who are in this battle!
I am really encouraged by this. I am glad you found freedom and hate the sin so much , and that you saw the negative effects it had on you and your marriage. It gives me hope for other people who struggle. Thank you 💛 God bless you
This is so inspiring! Thank you for your transparency guys! So many people are struggling with this in silence and are unfortunately too ashamed to speak up!
Thank you for sharing this Nate and Sutton. This topic is something that we don’t talk about enough in our culture and especially in the church. People struggle with this addiction and we need to normalize this discussion so people who are struggling will know that they’re not alone. God bless you both!
A major game changer is educating oneself on healthy sexuality. Avoiding porn is not avoiding all things sexual, but recognize the worth and value it is enjoy sex and sexuality in a wholesome context!
Great video, porn happens to be the biggest issue facing our culture that NOBODY likes to mention or talk about. The issue is it gets you when you’re a pre-teen or very young teenager. You don’t know what you’re getting into and getting your mind conditioned for. Once you start the brain connection it’s VERY difficult to unwind it and to heal from it. Thanks for making this video
This is so powerful! People need to hear this! We are living in a time where Satan is using this to try to distract people from Christ and living out their true purpose in Him! This is definitely an encouraging video! No temptation has overtaken you that’s not common to man, God will provide a way of escape.
Thank you for saying Men AND Women. SO many women are isolated because of the extra shame of it being " A Man Issue". They have no where to turn. Also Pornography is a Outward Bi product of an Inner issue. You have to go to the root so you can really be Free. If you just focus on "Not Doing it', you will continue to relapse.
Hey guys! I think it’s awesome that y’all felt led to make this video! I used to really struggle with pornography as well, and it’s an ongoing struggle to remain pure! I even made a video on my channel about how I got out with Jesus help!
Me too girl, I let it go on for more than a year and I finally said enough is enough, so I told him how I felt and now we are on the same page and he agreed to never watch it again or do those actions. Now we are about to be 2 years and happy as ever ✨
i went through it too.. it was the hardest thing my boyfriend ever did, confessing to me that he let in to temptation again, not to mention him being a very godly man. and maybe about the hardest thing i ever had to do was forgive him. it just broke my heart that he had to struggle with this
Thank You so Much for your videos. Im 71 and you two are amazing. I was raised in southern Gospel church and had many struggles . You have open my eyes to a lot of things. Please dont ever quit giving out the message. I would love to communicate with you privately but I know thats not possible. May God bless and keep you forever. Please keep hanging on.
Great video you guys! I also wanted to add that a lot of people stuck in the industry are children and women who are being trafficked. Thank you guys for being bold and sharing this!
Thank you for speaking out about this uncomfortable subject. Just 3 days ago I found out my husband's addiction to porn. We are both Christians and it is very hard for me to understand. I asked him to go stay with a family member and begin counseling. He is doing everything to keep our marriage together. I am at home working healing my own inner self and now my self insecurities because of this. I pray we both can heal. I'm worried I can never trust him again. I'm insecure that I can never measure up to the women he's watched online. I guess we both have healing now. Any prayers are truely a blessing.
This is amazing! Even though I dont struggle with this, it touched me so deeply and I know it will help so many people that are struggling. Thank you for doing what you do. God bless you both
Thanks for being humble and sharing your sin struggles. He who covers their sins will not prosper but he who confesses and forsakes them shall obtain mercy. A commercial I saw on my laptop I had to cover up tonight with my hands until I could skip it. I didn't want to see it and I didn't want my husband being exposed to it as well!
Thank you both for taking on this very important topic. And thank you Nate for sharing your personal experience. It is true that God's power is made perfect in our weakness and so many brothers and sisters in Christ are able to learn from your experience. May God continue to bless you both!
One thing I have learned is it's so important to realize that those are real people on those screens, that's someone's wife, or daughter, or sister. Once I learned to understand that it really helps you not to look on people as objects, but rather as real people who needs God's love.
Hi, my name is Angel Pujols, and I have a problem with porn. I need help. Like A LOT of help. And by watching you guys, Nate and Sutton, I'm starting to slowly have faith. Little by little. You guys are awesome. The work you do inspires so many christian people. Keep it up ya'know.
For anyone who’s struggling with It I was addicted for years . Some people are like what’s the secret ?? And tbh with you all . The Lord helaled me comletely from it it’s now been 7 months . I couldn’t even go a few weeks without doing anything . For me personally it was seeing that sin for what it was and wanting God more than my sin if that makes any sense at all. But only the Lord can truly heal us in that area . I hope this encourages somone . God bless you guys :)
I’m 17 and every guy I’ve talked to about this subject has always struggled with this sin and it really is one of the most addictive sins that today’s society has made “OK” to do. And it’s tearing men down
@@nadinegomez8858 I am waiting til marriage so yes. Me and my gf have made this decision I don’t plan on ever changing. I don’t think you should judge so much on if a man struggles with pornography. However you can and should judge how they deal with the temptation, Is he progressively trying to make himself a better man or does he let porn control his life? I would be surprised if you could find a man that has never been tempted by sexual sin mainly pornography. God bless you and I wish you the best!!
@@mosquitojames5690 yep trust me most men in the church now just say "it's just a sin like all other sin- you have your sin I have my sin, what if I get tempted, God's grace covers" and blah blah blah. I have never actually met one who actively FLEES & RUNS from it, like we are supposed to-- NOT ONE. They just embrace it and keep doing it. No conviction whatsoever. It's a lot harder our here being a Christian woman honestly.
@@nadinegomez8858 Ok you may not see it in other men. I’ve been actively fleeing from temptation even though it is a NATURAL feeling. Imagine trying to fight something that is supposed to be natural to you and this fight is everyday! We don’t get a break. Men are sexual creatures we are made to reproduce and it’s impossible to flip off that switch. Everyone sins and it’s up to you to make the decision to accept that and how much sin you’ll allow. Most men including myself slipped into this addiction at a young age. Good luck finding the “perfect man” that has never had a sexual thought. All I’m saying is to be open minded and try to see from the mans perspective. I’ve taught myself many ways to reduce the chance of temptations and my strategy is not easy.
@@mosquitojames5690 i literally never said “never had a sexual thought” - don’t put words in my mouth to fit your agenda of labelling me a certain way. That is manipulation. We are called to FLEE from sin and not feed the flesh, and to do that everyday. I never said i wanted perfect either. Seems like you’re projecting.
This is such a taboo subject and it shouldn’t be!! This needs to be addressed and spoken about. I think one of the reasons it stays “secret” is because men (or women) don’t even know how to talk about their struggle because no one ever does. Thank you for addressing this topic. It has effected my marriage as well and I’m glad to say that I think it’s under control now. ❤️
Such a desperately needed message! So many people addicted! Thank you both for taking on this difficult topic and for your transparency! You’re a blessing! Sutton, your top is so cute!
God rescued our marriage from pornography also ❤❤ we both struggled with it and also with adultery, and God redeemed us and our marriage is better than ever! Praise God!
Hey guys just want to say thank you for making this video, I know it isn’t easy but I appreciate the sacrifice. It’s tough when it’s something no one ever talks about but almost everyone goes through. I’m still dealing with this battle and hoping to break from the addiction. Just really scared and nervous about how this will affect future relationships. I’m 17 atm btw. I’ve been dealing with this for 6 plus years and I’m ready to stop
That’s amazing that you want to repent and start a new chapter of your life! I can’t imagine how hard it is when this generation has grown up with it. I would highly recommend a Christian counselor to help you through and give you some practical tips. Also an accountability partner 🙏🏽
This video deserves more of a thumbs up THAN ANY VIDEO IVE SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!!! Young guys and men: please, PLEASE listen to Nate!!! He is telling you the ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!! You can save your marriage, your future marriage, your children and grandchildren!!! They follow you and you also can affect their lives greatly, for good or bad!! I am NOT exaggerating!!! Pornography truly DOES affect ALL of these loved ones and people in your life! It is just as deadly to relationships, marriage, families, and children as Alcoholism is!! Don’t find out the hard way by trial and huge error!! Please listen to Nate!!! AND Sutton!!! ...Written with the attitude of loving God and loving your neighbor and doing unto others.
Ive struggled with this, and I just want to remind people that sb that commits this sin isnt disgusting, isnt "impure", or less worthy than anyone else. That is a lie that I believed about myself and had to refute multiple times. It is just another sin, same as pride or rage. Of course sin is serious and im not saying take it lightly. But there is a big stigma (specially for women) around this topic and it can make it really hard to speak up. Ther is a lot of shame and guilt involved here, which can be good if they lead you to flee sin but they can also devastate you. Remenber there is nothing God cant forgive! He loves you no matter what you've done. You are worth it. You can overcome it. Try to forgive yourself as well, we are all fighting the battle, its hard, we are vulnerable, but we have each other and God and its worth it❤️
I’m so happy to see people talking about this. Pornography has always had an impact on my life. When I was younger my biological father was addicted to it, and he even was addicted to child pornography. When I was older, a couple things were done to me and they have left me scarred. Even though he didn’t rape me it was still damaging. Unfortunately I started down the road of a porn problem a few years after that when I was 15. I had buried my stillborn little brother a year prior, due to some messed up family issues, I lost my horse, who I had loved for years, and was just angry, especially with God. I started dealing with lust and it got worse and worse. Until I was looking at pornographic artwork and dealing with terrible lust issues. I also made a discovery during this time, I’m not sure if it’s due to the things that happened with my biological father or not, but I realized that I had been masturbating without even knowing what that was. I was even more angry and continued to do that, knowing that I was doing it. I was also drinking and smoking at the time. Fast forward now, I’m 18. I have since greatly improved my walk with the Lord. It has taken me a few years of work to undo the lust and temptation. I still deal with it. A huge turning point was this past year. I started really praying that God would help with this issue and He truly does work in mysterious ways. Earlier this year I was diagnosed with endometriosis. Due to the masturbation I had suspected it bc of the terrible pain I’d feel during it. When I realized everything that came with endo it helped a lot, even though issues with having children and all the chronic pain and such that comes with this is heartbreaking. It has refocused my mind on God. I’ve been reading my bible more and I’m more motivated than ever to remain pure and push those temptations away. Because if sex is going to hurt, and I’m going to have to fight through my health issues to do it and enjoy it, I should make that fight worth it and make sure that I save myself for someone who truly loves me and should save it for marriage. God works in mysterious ways. I still struggle with this. It’s a horrible thing. But as I continue to grow in Christ, I’m finding more and more ways of dealing with it. I’ve also opened up and talked to people about this. There’s ways of getting help. Don’t be ashamed, get help and cry out to the Lord. He is a sovereign God who loves His people. Cry out to him. Go seek help. You can heal and get through this.
Nate and Sutton, you two are special, awesome, and so transparent, which helps people your age so very much! I love all your life stories and you cover so many topics. You are both wise beyond your years because you apply your knowledge in productive ways, then share those experiences and learning with others. This is a way that you’re serving your community! But, I wanted to share that my marriage actually DID end in DIVORCE, BECAUSE OF pornography! 😢😧😰😥 He was so sneaky about it and I found out by accident when I was at my MOST VULNERABLE, when I was 8 months pregnant!!!!!! 😢😥😩 I felt so, so betrayed!!!! I felt so trapped because I was having my baby with him!!😞 He tried to excuse his behavior by saying it was an addiction, then I asked him why he didn’t tell me about his addiction before we got married, and he actually told me that he knew I would not have married him if he had told me!! That meant that he took my choice away and deceived me!!!! ...it went from bad to worse, because he did not give it up after 3 more years of a TERRIBLE marriage!! I wanted out so badly, but plugged away for our little son and because I came from a broken home, which had caused a lot of pain and anguish in my childhood! He almost completely ignored me sexually, and I had a nice figure, was 110 pounds at 5’3” and worked out aerobically 5 times per week at the gym! I ignored other men and I was way too dedicated, trying to save our marriage! Then, when I had a newborn daughter, he had an affair and abandoned the 3 of us and would not give us so much as a dime!! One time, I didn’t have enough money to buy diapers! Our church leader had told him two years before that, when I said I wanted a divorce because he refused to give up pornography, that if he did not give it up, eventually he’d have an affair! Truthfully, I was relieved he had an affair, as I could now get out of a loveless, sexless, uncaring “marriage” that was so very unfulfilling and broke my heart and eventually the hearts of my fatherless children!! 😥👶😩😥😰 One of my friends put it best when she said, “Aw, Deb, you were married for four years, yet you never had a husband!” So, Nate, you’re so awesome for your honesty toward and love for Sutton above all other women!!! ...In my book, you deserve a medal for putting God, your wife, and your children first! You will be GREATLY rewarded for your integrity and wisdom and excellent choices regarding pornography and transparency and realizing it is one of Satan’s GREATEST TOOLS AGAINST FAMILIES!! 😢😩😥 it sure did tear mine apart! Guys out there, DON’T BE FOOLED!! Pornography addiction before marriage DEFINITELY DOES affect your future marriage!!!! ...Don’t let it!! ...I promise you that the trade-off between pornography and your wife, children, God, and your good name is NOT worth it, and NEVER can be!! Nate and Sutton, please keep right on sharing social issues that affect relationships and spiritual issues that help relationships!! 🥰
Amazing history! Thank you guys for making videos like this. It's so important to talk about it. It's something that it's real and it's hurts a lot of people. I hope that every person who see this video, feel touched with your testimony. Thank you for the honesty respect this subject, it's really appreciated what both of you do. God bless you!
Hi, i have just listen to your testimony. And im very grateful that i come to your channel. I am a christian, 28 years old, and single. Yes, i agree about saving purity or virginity until marraige. But im also one of the victim of pornography. As for me, being single. It is really tempting everyday to read, watch, and im really ashamed about it. Im still struggling on this until now. And hank you for the tips of overcoming it. I know, i heard it many times from my leader. And it is good to hear it more at every time, becuase i really need it. Help me pray as well. Thank you.
The other thing that keeps people from a breakthrough from pornography is keeping it in the dark... Ephesians 5:11-14 “Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret. But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light. For this reason it says, “ Awake, sleeper, And arise from the dead, And Christ will shine on you.” Like they said, find someone or a group of friends (Or church elders) to confess your son's after repenting, so that you can be healed. James 5:16 “Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed.”
Know what times of day you are triggered the most and set boundaries accordingly! If you’re tempted on social media or on your phone, restrict phone usage at those times and spend time in the word or doing something life giving instead
Thank you for sharing! I am 21 and I have struggled with this for 12 years, and I have not been able to beat this addiction yet. I will be free from it for awhile and then I get pulled back into it. I have been meeting with my pastor for 2 months as I am wrestling with my faith and he asked me why I find it terrifying that God is ever present. This is the reason why; he knows what I do and I'm ashamed of that. I have really been wrestling with whether I should share that with him or not. After watching this, I feel as though I should because this video coming out exactly when I am wrestling with this decision, it feels like God's answer that I should share it with my pastor.
Girl, I’m so so SO sorry you’re going through this. You mentioned you’re 21, you called it an addiction (as many sects of Christianity do), you also said you are ashamed and terrified....I find this to be the saddest thing of all. You’ve likely grown up indoctrinated by your church to think that anything sex related is off limits. It’s part of normal, natural human sexuality. You are not shameful. You are not “addicted”. The church works very hard to push purity culture in young people that is so incredibly damaging. This is how Josh Duggar happened. Repress all normal curiosities as a kid and instead of real education, you’re taught to repent, pray, and feel ashamed. Fear and shame is what keeps the churches in business. Explain to me how a pastor, or anyone else’s interpretation of the Bible, has become your playbook for life and understanding of the world? I truly don’t understand how so many people have such a juvenile sense of human sexuality in some Christian churches. I’m just a 43 yr old nurse and mom of 3, but I would just ask that you question why the church cares so much about the private lives of their members.
@@ultimately-sabrina I was shamed by my friend who I told as a child because she thought it was gross, we didn't know about the churches beliefs at the time... last week I shared my struggle with my pastor, and he did not shame me for it. We had a healthy conversation about sex and pleasure and all that goes along with it so I do think that my church has a healthy outlook on sex. He even said that sex is not a dirty thing that we are supposed to avoid, it was made to be enjoyed... that being said, for me, I do believe it is an addiction because it is interfering with my life and I am unable to stop despite a desire to.
@@alyssajoy08 I’m very glad to hear that you weren’t shamed by your pastor. I’m sorry your “friend” said that to you. I’m sorry you see it as an addiction...I mean I see how it could become a problem if it’s interfering in your life. Just a small piece of advice to take or leave, maybe talk to your doctor to make sure your hormones aren’t imbalanced. I wish you well. God Bless!
@@ultimately-sabrina Unfortunately I don't really have access to a doctor for a normal checkup like that because of my families insurance situation, but I am applying for jobs now that I have graduated college so hopefully I will be able to get that looked at once I'm employed full time
@@alyssajoy08 I’m sorry to hear that. If you have a planned parenthood near year, they offer discounted prices for wellness visits, pelvic exams and mammograms. Or a local Dr’s office that may allow you to make payments. I believe a routine physical exam is around $50. But lab work can be pricey. If only we didn’t have healthcare attached to our jobs in this country. But, at any rate I hope that I came across caring in our conversation, because after my initial shock of so many people commenting on this issue that to me shouldn’t ever be a source of shame, I truly wish you the best. Congrats on your college graduation!
I love that you guys have addressed this, I do believe that the church has failed to bring in the Holy Spirit in to the daily battles and daily life. He is the forgotten God. I believe that we have spoken more about behavior modifications, which is do this and remove this, change your thinking, but you cannot do that without the power of the Holy Spirit that God has given us when He sealed us and we placed our faith in Him. If we are only focused on changing things in our life it’s almost like we are living under the law, but the law was fulfilled and in Galatians Paul goes into depth about not doing “good” things but surrendering to God and letting the Holy Spirit convict us, and give us the power, strength we need to overcome any temptation and sin. We CANNOT do this in our own strength by just changing things , or speaking to someone, we NEED the Holy Spirit and through intimacy with God we become more sensitive to His voice, and this also happens through renewing our mind. It’s not about doing the right things, it’s about surrendering, and giving up our own ways or “solutions”.
I love how you guys address the hard and “taboo” subjects!! It’s awesome how both of you are addressing it together and not separately!! Love you guys!!
I've got to say, God bless y'all for making this video (and the other video about porn)! This is definitely a topic that needs to be more openly discussed! So I just found y'all through Mike Winger & decided to check out your videos, then I stumbled on this video, watched it, then went & watched the other video y'all did over the same topic. I found these videos very comforting because my husband & I had the porn discussion several months back & it was EXTREMELY HEARTBREAKING for me! My husband & I started dating in high school (we've been together 7 years now). I knew most guys watched porn, I didn't think too much of it when we were dating. In college, he actually mentioned it to me a bit because he had been talking about it with a church leader & was trying to do better. Sadly, I never really thought to have a discussion with him about it. We got married in March of 2020, during our last semester of college. We moved to a different state at the end of August. We had no friends or family around & we hadn't tried to find a church. My husband is in the Military & he was waiting to start his training & I wasn't really working at the time either. Quite frankly we were in a weird place mentally & emotionally. In November, I discovered that my husband had been watching porn & I was so hurt & so sad for a while. We had many long discussions about porn & lust. I still check up on him about twice a month. If I remember correctly the porn was stopped pretty quickly, if not as soon as we talked about it, but he would still have some hiccups here & there with Instagram. We started going to a church in November & the people are wonderful, but we don't feel comfortable talking about this with people from our church. Mostly because it's an older demographic. I just felt really alone in this, like I needed to hear from other people who could relate with our situation. Y'all's video helps me feel less alone & helps bring some peace of mind. We worked through the toughest parts of it & we've become so much stronger because of it. There is still a little pain I feel & I have to stop myself from overthinking & overanalyzing certain things now. Seriously though, as Christians, we need to have more of these discussions & I thank y'all for stepping out & doing that!
I’m a young adult that wants to get married someday to a fellow Christian, I’m ashamed about my past mistakes. Thank you for making this video, it has really encouraged me!
God is so great I was here strugguling with it and this is the first video that jump on my home screen of youtube. Everything you said is so right! My biggest fears are to never overcome it or that affects my future marriage. But like you guys said we have to make or battle plan. I thank God for your lifes.
I have done it, I did do it, I do it! Wow you are a very transparent young couple ! This is powerful and so helpful for those struggling. My Pastor husband was addicted to it and I never knew for so long. I caught him and it was horrible! He died unexpectedly two years ago. It destroyed our relationship because even after being caught, he was to proud to admit it was a real problem. Keeping u both in my prayers for strength and a continued commitment to God and one another to not look at the death pictures that lead to destruction of your mind.
John 13:34 says, “As I have loved you, love one another.” As hard as it may be, we MUST love each other and our spouses through our struggles because God loved us through ours.
As a woman, admitting I had a problem with pornography was embarrassing. But I cut it off from my life, I stopped reading certain books and watching certain shows to help fight the temptation. Whenever those thoughts enter my mind, I remember what I’ve read in my devotionals, to take hold of my thoughts and change them and direct them towards God. It’s a struggle but it gets easier everyday and my friends are so understanding and supportive. Thanks you guys for letting me know I’m not the only one who struggles with this sin.
Amen! thank you for sharing
Same here Girl!! i will be praying for you
Literallly struggled with it the last two days, and fell into temptation, after not struggling with it for a while. This is encouraging & praying for all the ladies!! Run to the Father even if you don’t want to. He’s good and faithful
I've had the same issue, girl! I've found that when I spend more time in the Bible and prayer, and less time on social media (especially when I'm feeling alone), it really helps! A few days ago, I also said a prayer for God to completely take away this struggle from me, and so far, God has been with me through it! There were moments of temptation these past few days, but my interest in those temptations has gone away! :)
@@halfheart02 yes, girl! Social media and tv and other influences have a greater affect than we think. I just deleted my Instagram ( where I spent most of my time). Also, decided to join a women’s group to keep accountability and remind myself I cannot do it alone.
There is something incredibly powerful about Christians who are transparent about past sins. It’s such a testament to the transformative power of Christ.
amen to that
Agreed! these are transparent topics that are not so accessible to millennials.
Amen! So true
Many young wives eventually turn-on the porn for their young husbands because they are so tired of trying to take care of him 3,4 or 5 times a day. Women should thank porn for giving them a break!
What does “transparent about past sins”mean?
@Stephanie A.
This is bold topic and needs to be addressed because it is really destroying a lot of relationships. I thank God for your relationship.
Honestly tho, amen!
*Facts*
Most people, men and women on Instagram need to hear this and realise this. Because many people on there are lusting after men and women that they see. Also people need to stop letting people fall into lust, because people
Be posing with their bodies, making people
Lust. I dislike this part of Instagram
@@jollygoodgordon5580 omg I agree with you 100%!
@@jollygoodgordon5580 l totally agree, people have lost morals in the name of "likes and followers",its sad
People don’t realize but pornography can ruin relationships without them even realizing it
not eve can, it does!!
It shapes the way a person sees a member of the opposite sex. It dulls the mind and desensitized ones conscience. People don't realize it.
@@goinghome1191 exactlyyyy
Very valid points. It can make you fantasize about unreal expectations.
Most definitely. It definitely makes people not content in their relationships 💔 very sad.
I think for some women (including myself) porn was a school too. Sometimes we watched it because we wanted to know how to be “good enough”, “sexy enough” “desirable enough” and we think we should act more like people do in porn. It’s horrible and if you have dealt with that, you’re not alone and I’m praying for you.
This makes me feel terrible that women feel that way.Thank you for sharing Aidee.From an honest woman s perspective what are some ways you think make women feel super validated that I can do as a future SO or husband
@@ttownsupreme2183 Hi! Yes it’s really sad. I would like to answer your question because I think it can be helpful but I need some time to answer because it is a difficult topic for me. I have CPTSD (childhood trauma) and on the other hand my beautiful husband and I didn’t wait and made many mistakes. I’ll respond as soon as I can, friend ☺️
one year later...
It just hurts I try everything I did my best to look like those women in porn or act like them and yet my partner just still chooses those girls over me
It doesn’t hurt to try to look like these women and try different fun sexual things. The day today marriage becomes stagnant sexually. Why not spice it up some? Even watching porn with your husband would be a really fun idea!
Say it with me: Women 👏 struggle 👏 with 👏 addiction 👏 too.
I'm sorry. I just needed to get that out there. This topic is such a close and personal one, and I wish people would be more aware how much women actually do struggle with sexual addiction. Now more than ever.
I've known and talked to so many women who dealt with sexual addiction in one way or another. More so than men. That's not to say there are more women than men struggling, only that the ratio is a lot closer than people report.
Okay, that aside, I have a long, detailed story, everything from my discovery of porn, falling into addiction, learning the truth, getting saved, fighting it, and finding freedom.
I've told the story so many times, however, that I'm just going to skip to the solution part of my journey.
•Confess the sin to God, repent, and give your life to Him.
•Tell someone you know and trust completely.
•Actively fight against it, avoiding triggers and situations you know cause you to stumble.
•Live right and healthy outside of the addiction. Exercise, shower more often, eat healthy foods. When you're feeling good in areas on the outside, you'll want to live healthy and right on the inside.
•Fast. From food or technology, whichever you need to if you must.
•Porn blockers. There are free ones and even browsers that have blockers already ingrained in the system.
•Talk to people who have gone through or are going through the same thing.
•We have power to rebuke the devil is Jesus' name. Cast satan out and he and his demons will flee from you.
•Pray earnestly for others. It softens your heart to other's and their situations and also brings you closer to God.
•Pray all the time, even going about your day, say, "God, help me. Keep me strong. I can't do this without you."
•Don't be afraid to ask others to pray for you. Friends, family, or fill out a prayer request form online.
•The Bible says that strength is made perfect in weakness. I started noticing the biggest change in my situation when I humbled myself, realized I was weak and couldn't do it on my own. I started saying it in prayers, praying constantly, "God, help me. I can't do this alone. Take it from me."
•I stopped promising God that I would never do it again. Instead, I now pray and earnestly ask Him to help me to not do it again.
•Stop focusing on your sin and focus on your Savior.
•Envision hell. It's a scary thing to focus on, but it snaps you back into reality.
•Envision Heaven. We are God's children, the redeemed. Heaven is our home, our final destination. The temptation will weaken when you think upon Heavenly things.
•Lastly... Praise God and Worship Him. He saved your life. He's the only one who can free you from what you're going through. He loves you and knows you and wants to help you. Praise casts out every bad thing, lifts God up, and keeps our eyes on Him. So praise Him when everything's fine. Or even when your fighting temptation, praise.
Thank you!
Thank you for this. God bless you
Here‘s my solution: 1. believe in love and that your husband exists and that you‘re gonna meet him soon
2. join NoFap !!!
NoFap changes my life I‘m on day 180 of no porn or masturbation right now , by God‘s Grace #join NoFap I mean it!!!
Thank you for this!🤍
Omgosh THANK YOU for ur vulnerability Katie!!!! Really thank you🙏🏻
& what u shared is SOOO helpful. U wouldn't know how many life's u gave hope & restored
I pry that u continue to be a resilient woman through Christ !!!
So many people saying this is a bold topic. Then I realized this is a Christian channel.
Welcome sister
Amen
I think the real damage done by pornography remains a pretty "bold" topic about which to be *personally* open. And I think that holds true in most secular environments also, in a certain way: It requires boldness to admit it's a problem, rather than reflexively normalizing it or relativizing it.
Of course, it's correct to state that plenty of secular venues treat pornography as a normal everyday kind of topic, even a throwaway reference for jocular purposes. Discussing porn in THAT way requires no boldness at all.
But outside of Reddit's "nofap" or the site YourBrainOnPorn, I think it's still comparatively rare to see non-religious persons engaging in a serious way with the research demonstrating the biochemical harms done by video pornography, OnlyFans, et cetera. Matt Fradd's book/presentation "The Porn Myth" is making good strides -- although, there again, it took a person from a religious background to be willing to write a book that lays out the negatives of pornography use, even in a pure-science non-religious way -- but there's still, I think, a hidebound/knee-jerk tradition of cultural pushback against suggesting "there's anything wrong" with porn use. Such traditions take a while to change (Reddit etc. notwithstanding).
My addiction to porn ruined my past relationship with my ex girlfriend over 4 years ago. It made me so jealous and made me think that she was doing stuff with other guys all the time. Pornography messed me up psychologically and twisted my mind into these weird fantasies that would never happen in real life. Being with a bunch of other dudes that acted perverted all the time and are always talking sexually about women did not help me at all. I really had to pray a lot and talk to some people of my addiction. Today I’m finally free. I pray so much now and I realized that this is a serious problem, especially for Christians.
Yayyy!!!!!!!!! Thank you God!
Thank you for sharing, that's insightfull. I hope you always see yourself like how God sees you! May He bless you with all the blessings that He has in His heart for you
Have you joined NoFap ??
@@dandylion2837 Yessir! I haven’t done it in 3 weeks.
@@white8590 awesome!! Spread the word of #joinNoFap !
I am happy for you!! And you‘re future partner is very lucky. Not a wanker, a real man. Keep Holy Spirit fire in your Temple lit. 🔥🔥🔥🕊For me now, the Holy Spirit literally warms my heart many times and I have so much more compassion for people.
I’m a 16 year old who struggled with Pornography for 9 years (I started when I was 7). It has been an uphill battle; one thing the Lord has shown me that has GREATLY impacted me is the key to overcoming EVERY addiction. The key is to abide with Jesus. In John 15 it talks about abiding with the Vine (Jesus) and bearing fruit according to the Spirit (kind of like how an apple tree bears apples). You don’t walk by an apple tree and hear it grunting and yelling “APPLES!!!!”; the tree just makes apples EFFORTLESSLY. I believe this concept can be directly applied to every bit of warfare in our lives; by abiding with Spirit, you will bear fruit in accordance with the Spirit. Those temptations start to vanish because you start to bear new types of fruit; those desires begin to fade because the Vinedresser (God) prunes the branches (us). I encourage you to read John 15 and see for yourself what abiding with Jesus does
Proud of you! God can only change peoples hearts for the better and in gald he changed yours!💖
Honey, you are 16!!! You should not feel shame for being curious about human sexuality. This is NORMAL!! I’m a medical professional and I do not understand why the church is so concerned about what people do in their private lives. Purity culture is so damaging and I hope one day you can learn that you don’t need the approval of these “godly” church people.
I just want to encourage you to keep fighting and don’t give up because God is with you through it because I am a 16 yr old girl and it’s so encouraging to know that their are guys out there who care about their future and glorifying God because one day there will be a girl that is so thankful that you were so faithful to this and it will show you care and it will be so worth it because it’s all about giving God glory and you are doing that just by saying no to the devil and his lies
@@alyssasmith997 Has any one of the young people in your church thought about the concept that these pastors are using their own human interpretations preaching the Bible that was written by bronze aged human goat herders, to teach young people how to be a good person, live a good life, etc. ?? I’ll say it again, purity culture is so damaging.
I am 16 as well and i have been struggling since 7 too.
Dang, didn't think I'd resonate with anything they'd say. Then Nate said " Porn is like a school that you're going to. Every time you watch porn just know that you're going to school because you're training yourself. You're teaching yourself to go to one woman after the next." I never thought of it that way and I can see that living a life that way makes it impossible to ever be satisfied with one woman. Man. Thanks Nate & Sutton for your vulnerability.
That & the grape culture on it. They’re disrespecting women on there. Then men will think it’s normal to have sex with their wife in an unsatisfactory way that is painful. No one talks about this as well.
I pray in Jesus name that this message will spread to many people. That it would destroy these lies
Amen
At one point my husband d and I almost divorced.Pornography kills relationships.Please please be honest with your partner and work together to resolve
this video saved me and my boyfriend. I couldn’t thank you guys enough! all glory to God! thank you for doing Gods will!!
Besides the fact that porn is just really unhealthy for your mind (addiction) and for your relationship, porn industry can be very harmful to those who are in it. By watching it you're not just ruining your relationship with someone else, with yoursel or with God, but you are also "sponsoring" and supporting an industry that objectifies and exploits women. An industry that has proven cases of child abuse (child pornography), aggression and humiliation of both men and women, human trafficking and many other horrible things. Porn isn't good for anyone.
That’s why amateur porn exists - two people who both consent, want to record themselves, and put it out there for people who consent to watch it. It’s fine if it’s not your thing, but I’m js, porn doesn’t have to be unethical.
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@Ma M
Amateur porn, or any kind of porn, degrades the dignity of the life and soul of the persons being watched. Watching someone humiliate themself by publicly showing their nakidness is actually bringing shame on them. They need Love. True love. They need to know that they are worthy of more than porn.
Savannah Bingham You’re allowed to believe that if you want. That is not accurate AT ALL for many people.
@@savannahsharp7542 It is sad that you feel that showing one's nakedness is necessarily shameful.
I was introduced to pornography when I was 5 years old. Since then, it had been a serious problem I dealt with growing up and led me into a dark path of depression and guilt. Once I became a Christian, I let go of that struggle, gave it to God and He renewed me from the inside out. It was a struggle for a while but God strengthened me and my mind and since then I haven't fallen into the temptaion of the enemy. Thank you so much for addressing this issue, because I personally wished someone would've told be earlier as I was growing up about the serious affects it had. Pornography is a huge problem, so thank you for coming out boldly to share the Truth.
thank u for sharing this. jesus and i love u girlie ❤️
@@reesemaya4375 Thank you and love you too sis❤️
I’m so sorry you had to go through that as a young child. That’s breaks my heart. I have an almost five year old. 😢
@@miriamrutter4573 The enemy was after my innocence and purity, but the Lord was/is more mightier than he! We need to be watchful and vigilant towards our children, pray for them. God has been faithful and He redeemed to me all that was taken away. All honor and glory to God, for rebirthing me into who I am today!
wow, this is incredible. praise God!! I'm so happy you got out of that and you turned to Jesus
My husband started watching it when he was about 12, I met him at age 24 he's 44 now and I found out 3 weeks ago about his addiction. He's been doing it our entire marriage. Yes I am crushed, yes I almost left him, yes I was angry at him but I am still here and working with him to defeat this. We went to Church and he got prayer and he hasn't had any desire to watch it in those 3 weeks ....it's almost like he see's me again. I didn't see that he had changed and couldn't see me for me but now he's stopped watching he's like a different person. Now we have to rebuild the trust, which I have a feeling will be a very long journey.
I feel you...
I'm so sorry you had to go through that, especially after knowing your husband for so long. I hope that the world will give you all the love and care you need to heal from this ❤
Prioritize yourself and the people whom you can trust, dear
I admire you for staying and helping him overcome his addiction, most women would just give up easily. However, don't lie to yourself and dont lie to him. You won't trust him the same way as before, and as soon as you distant yourself from him, the relationship is already weakened. You don't seem to understand why men watch porn. Men watch porn because of urges and porn for him, at this point, it has become normalised since he has been watching it since he was a teenager, and porn is not reality. Men do not watch it thinking that they are deliberately cheating. Which is why you shouldn't take it personally, since he has been watching it before he met you. You are just living a fallacy. You might as well divorce him because despite him making progress, you still won't trust him anyway.
Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus Christ.
He is able to change your husband for the better.
He is still the same God who changed Saul to the Apostle Paul!
Peace be upon you and your family
@@christianrowbotham7386 porn is an emotional regulator. Many men (and women!) are addicted to porn because it is a hyper stimulus. a vast majority of young adults discovered porn before masturbation and since young age used it as a massive dopamine hit. Very often from boredom or stress situations. And that behavior pattern carried onto the adult life. Just because he watched it before marriage doesn't mean he can't stop now.
What’s the big deal? If you didn’t find out, would’ve change all the years you’ve been married? If anything, I could see it spicing up your intimacy.
Hey guys, you will never know how much this video means to me. It came just in the right time. God bless you guys. Much love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪
I'm from Kenya too
@@magdalinenjoroge4997 wow, good to know that
Yeah perfect timing this is a struggle for me
@@magdalinenjoroge4997 hey
Upendo mwingi 🙏🏽
I was always against pornography and it was never an issue for me... however if a movie came on with a sex scene... I wouldn't look away. So even sexual images in movies can be just as bad. Now, I don't watch any of those things in movies and that's helped keep my mind more pure.
The things they show on television are so evil, and I’m terrified to even have one raising my son
O yeah it's true
Exactly
So true I've learnt that my eyes are gates. I can't just watch anything.
I hate sex scenes... 99% of them don't even add anything to the story
I’m an older woman and I’m so proud of you for addressing this topic. You guys are going to help so many people. God bless you!!
How are you doing 😊👋☺️☺️
Pornography is progressive it starts with a magazine
Then it just keeps escalating my ex wouldn’t touch me anymore.He was so engulfed in porn that he tried to lie about and called me crazy.Please be true to yourselves and get help
Being a Muslim I can so relate to this and understand whatever you have said. Islam also teaches us similar values and gives us similar strong lessons regarding pornography and it being a sin of multiple parts. When one watches it, one's eyes sin, the ears sin etc. This was such a good video and I hope and pray that more people are able to get over this. Also in our religion, fasting is recommended to keep away from such desires. Fasting in our religion has its own rules, things that break it, maintain it etc so keeping a fast keeps one from breaking it by falling into such temptations. However there is a great deal of specifications involved in fasting and not just prohibiting food and water on oneself. Muslims would know what I am talking about. Talking about a few plans I would say being in good company, not being alone a lot, definitely not with a person from the opposite gender, ignoring and going to your family and sitting with them whenever the temptation arises are just a few things that one can do.
100% true. God bless you
The Bible teaches Christian’s to cut out their own eye if it causes them to sin, of course metaphorically. The person is called to deal with their issue through Grace of course. In Islam Mohammed unfortunately didn’t have much self-control and had several wives yet is supposed to be the standard according to Islam. I am just saying this as Islams values are not the same as Christian ones we do not share the same God either.
A good video to see what I am referring to is by David wood:
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Thank y'all so much for speaking on this. Pornography and masturbation have been an ongoing issue for me for so many years. I've heard tons of married people say that the habits you have outside of marriage don't just go away when you get married, if anything they get amplified. So something that was helpful to me was to think about how i would feel if my husband had this issue and i realized, i think that i would feel like he was cheating on me, and i'm sure that's one of the worst feeling you could have within a marriage. So now when i'm tempted, i try to think about how i'm kind of cheating on my future husband.
Hey, try focussing on pleasing JESUS it's sure Way to overcome. Especially since He is able to set free completely
Nah... It's healthy. You don't need to feel guilt constantly about a completely and totally human experience. You're not "cheating on your future husband". Any man who thinks that is not valuing you as an independent and human person.
@@mason305 I totally get that, but honestly that's how i would feel about it too. Also i believe masturbation is unbiblical so i want to honor the Bible as well. :)
Fix your heart on the word of God instead. That's what really helps!
Same that thought of hurting my future partner with this, or this being between us for me is the biggest motivation. Also join NoFap. It changed my life!! I‘m on day 180 of no porn or masturbation right now, by GODS GRACE. He also lead me there at just the right time. You can compete in challenges and there a Christian groups and many women too!!!
It cheapens love and is one of the reasons our society has degraded so quickly in the last few years.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️✨ absolutely
Look at J. Peterson on casual sex and pornography, he explains it psychologically and sociologically... It's really damaging to all of us and in many levels essential to life.
It also causes unwarranted sexual expectations in marriage which can drive higher the divorce rates. We a similar story.
I very respectfully disagree ♡ I watch porn sometimes and both of my relationships have been very healthy and lasted a long time- as well as out sex was very healthy and healing ♡
I am not a Christian however ( I believe in God and love him and thank him- but I dont prescribe to the bible and
religion ) so my values will be different.
God isn’t real. Your alone
@@limsun3814 God is real. He is so real. More real than you or I. He healed my heart, mind and my vision. Prayers that you find out. Ask Him to show you that He is real, then listen and watch.
The problem with deception is that people don’t know that they are deceived 😥
You can only lie, if you believe in truth.
This topic needs to be addressed more and we need to stop normalizing the sex industry, it really hurts everyone in the long run. I personally struggled with pornography for years and still do to this day and it's embarrassing to admit sometimes. But, it's also part of my testimony and I can empathize with so many people now and tell them how many people it actually hurts and how to overcome it. One of the things I started doing was every time I had an urge to look or read anything that put God's gift into an unholy light, I'd pray for a friend that was on my heart. Every time temptation would call I would pause and start praying, taking my mind off the obstacle, and using it to uplift someone else and get in the habit of prayer. I don't always succeed at this but the urges have become few and far between and I still pray for those friends. I also have told others to help keep me accountable.
Thank you Nate and Sutton for making this video. ❤️
Did you join NoFap too? :)
If not, I think you should.
Helping others out of this is a good deed.
God bless you!
1. I don’t charge my phone in my room
2 . I’ve removed safari from my phone, and I only use my school computer if I need to research things.
3. I avoid shows/ movies with intimate scenes and suggestive language. As well as people.
4. I have two accountability partners who encourage me to keep moving forward, and he me celebrate each little victory!
Join NoFap!!!!!!!
I avoid people too. They disgust me.
I'm always shocked at how intense this is for people... are the urges really that bad? Either way, kudos for you to staying determined and taking such measures.
That's awesome
Who else loves Nate and Sutton?
We all do!
Me!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙋🏻♀️
Glory to God! Love how He is using them to help others. Marriage done His way is such a beautiful thing...A representation of Christ and the church.
@@abigailwee9631 🙋♀️
yessssss
Battle Plan: (a) confess to God, (b) confess to the right people, (c) remove triggers , (d) get the neccessary help you need, and (e) let God restore/heal. Tfs
Your guys story is almost the exact same as me and my husband's. For any Christian gentleman reading this...I pray for your strength to fight this battle and encourage you to end it before you meet your future spouse. Save your bride from the heartbreak! Thanks for sharing, Sutton and Nate!
Haven't clicked so fast on a video..Yes! Soo many ppl struggle with this & don't deal with this and brush it off cause its an uncomfortable topic, thank you for this!
Jesus replied “this kind can not come out by nothing but prayer and fasting”
That’s right!
amen
Verse, please. I need that in context
@@katiedrake76 Mark 9:29
This is also a problem in schools. I’m 16 and things like this shows up in classrooms. Teachers think that we’re so mature enough and that we’re already ‘adults’ to watch adult movies. These movies flash us with pornography, cursing and all sorts of immorality. If you have a problem with it, you’ll get ridiculed by students because were conditioned that sex should be something that everyone is okay with. (Outside of marriage.) It’s truly disgusting how our society operates.
Yes! My daughter had an assignment to watch a certain movie for a college class. I watched some of it in her place to protect her.
April Bentley Glad you did 🙌🏾 it’s crazy out here
Wooooow! Really! This is why I’m glad I’m not a kid in todays society where sexual immorality is promoted as normal, and youths are brainwashed to do all kinds is sexual immoral as long as ur doing it “safe”. I’m 25 and things weren’t as bad when I was in high school. I feel sorry for you, my lil sister. But keep strong I will pray for u.❤️🤗
Ted modda Sokka thank you brother 😊
The Holy Spirit is truly working in your already at such a young age. Because a lot of people of your generation don’t even see how brainwashed they are. It’s only through the Holy Spirit that your eyes get opened. I myself was exposed to
Porn at a very young age, I wasn’t even a teen yet. And so I know what it is like to be blinded by lust, porn and perversion.
As a teen I got into reading it. When I finally stopped and got help from God and my pastor, it was such a blessing but it came with this huge fear about what my future husband would feel about me. When I finally started in a relationship with someone it was in the back of my mind wondering how I would tell him. Then one night we were talking on the phone and I made the joke saying u don’t even know all my secrets and I expected it to be laughed off but he was like well tell me so we can get past them. The door was opened and I stepped through and told him. It took me a bit to get the story out but at the end he didn’t say nothing for a second then he told me his secret- he had fell into it too. We talked through things and this huge weight I had on my shoulder for years just slid off. When God puts them in your life they won’t judge you they will love you no matter what.
Hey I got the same problem, I got into reading it. However I avoid overly sexualize books. I love reading, is my favorite hobby of all time, and I mostly read YA and NA Romance but it is nearly imposible to avoid the scenes because nowadays is such a “normal thing”. I feel conflicted whether what can I do about it . You don’t read anymore?
@@randomuser9578 it has to be something you decide you’re done with. I still read- one of my favorites is a series called “love inspired” bc it’s a clean Christian romance. But I had to make it up and get accountability with it. I’ll be honest I quite reading anything romance wise for a while till God had helped me overcome it. Now it will be difficult but get someone u trust and have them check up on you. Be honest with them when you mess up tho. The best way to fix it is to not try to hide a slip up. Just remember you can only fix it if you really want to.
Maybe if we imagine our parent catching us watching and how embarrassing it would be. God is our Heavenly Father and he’s always watching us and we constantly hurt him when we hurt ourselves the temple of the Holy Spirit
You realize how toxic that is? You should totally believe in god and if you think porn, etc. is wrong that’s totally okay too. But saying god is someone who is there to make you feel guilt for different things you do is so wrong.
Hi. I have been a Christian for the past 7-8 years. Recently l have been really struggling with this problem. I am asking that you guys keep me in your prayers. I have already committed this problem to God so I know that he will work with me in what I call the ‘tight rope’ path of the Christian life(Matthew 7:14).
"I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me." I was addicted for years, but God put me out of this. It took some time, but you can do anything WITH GOD, alone you will fail.. 🙏🏼God's got you ❤️
This is a great video!! Porn addictions are like eating disorders and thrive on secrecy! The more we talk about it the better and less alone others will feel. Feeling alone and ashamed just continues to feed the addiction.
Unique perspective 🙏🏻
Once the sin is exposed it has no where to hide. So much more people really need to talk openly about porn so that is can stop thriving.
I was not addicted to pornography, but it was on my television one night. My eyes could not turn away, and I felt I was not in control in that moment. That is the power of lust and sin, and Satan’s schemes, and i was so afraid. I was barely a believer at this time, but called on Jesus’ name three times in that moment. I sincerely believe it was the Lord who helped me pray this, as I didn't know His name had power. That was 13 years ago, and I have never looked at porn again, or ever been caught in such a trap. In addition to these amazing tips from Sutton and Nathan, we can also call upon the name that is above every other name and that has the power to redeem and set the captive free.
i could see the pain in suttons eyes :'( you can forgive but those scars on your heart when someone breaks it last
It's 100% SOOOOO important for men and women to step up and admit this struggle.
You guys rock! 🎸
I just wanted to say WOW!!! I love how incredibly RAW you both are! You’re a LIGHT!
I found out my husband had been watching porn, our entire marriage and hiding it because he knew I was 100% against it as a woman and against it as a Christian. He admitted it had been going on the entire time, and thankfully, it was SO heartbreaking and SO devastating, I had to give it to Christ. So did he. Over a year later, I know he isn't doing it anymore, and we are closer to each other and God. So in a way, it turned into a blessing - but it was HARD.
Really great video, thanks for making it. I’m a guy that’s been struggling with a porn addiction for years. I’ve committed myself to conquering my addiction before even dating a girl. There have been some really good stretches and some bad ones. But this is something that, personally, I want far away in the rear-view mirror before dating, let alone marriage. I would like to be married one day, and a family, but this is not an issue that can be carried into marriage, which is why I am dealing with it now, not later.
How has it been bro?!
Thank you so much Nate and Sutton for always sowing seeds of truth. God mightily use you for his glory.
This has been helpful and I have been blessed.
Yes this is such a great topic because its such a huge issue. The church's really need to talk about this yet for some reason its very hushed and is a very big problem. I love that u both are so real and honest about this. Also very glad you are set free from this.
I agree Katrina. Churches need to talk about this topic more, so many people silently struggle with this issue.
Pornography is something I struggle with and I'm currently trying to be set free from it. It's really disgusting and I hate seeing it 😔
Praying for you, friend! Jesus saves and I believe He will free you- just keep inviting Him in to that area of your heart!
praying for you too!!
I will pray for u . Best things is getting an accountability partner that u can trust will hold u accountable. This is not something we can fight alone. God wants to help u. All is not lost dear friend.
You can consistently replace it with the word of God, prayer and Christian songs. You’ll find yourself losing interest
I pray that god will set you free
Great topic, very bold to address it, and good work. I struggled with porn since I was 10 until 33, it wasn't until I had the courage to confess to my wife that I was finally free and had the power within myself to be strong enough in my vulnerable moments to flee. It really hurt our marriage, my wife is still dealing with it 3 years later. I wish I had never done it in the first place. She is so beautiful inside and out and so much more than I deserve, but the sinful mature in us just tempts us to ruin every good thing we have. We are on a path to building trust again. I am so glad to be clean for the last 3 years now, I function better, love better, see my wife better, better at my job. I can't wait to raise my kids with the understanding and wisdom I have about sexuality, desire, relationships and how much better it is to be strong and wait.
I have not looked at porn in a month, the thing about porn satan tempts me, I watch it and after I feel terrible about it ( our conscious) then satan makes me feel like I’m unworthy because of the sin. Kill steal and destroy that’s all he ever does
This is so true! He’s disgusting and so perverse, I Imagine him like the most unhappy person in the world who wants to ruin everyone because he’s ruined too.. and he only get worse, we must read our bible and pray always!
Remind Satan who you are. You are a child of God and you are above the temptation. Speak the power of heaven over darkness! ❤
Wow a very powerful topic👏🏽🙏🏽thank you for choosing to talk about this
You did this video at the moment when I try to stop porn.God wanted I saw that. Thank you for this video. 😊✝️
PS:Sorry for my English
From France 🇫🇷
Patiently waited for them to upload. So happy now. 😁 sending love from South Africa 🇿🇦 🤍
I'm from RSA too♡
Same
Yes. I used to struggle with watching it and have found freedom from it now. But I dealt with it growing up, mostly throughout middle/high school. It did warp my view of sex and what it is for and God’s design for it. My husband claims he never watched actual porn, and I believe him. When we got married, 5 and a half years ago, we were 19 and virgins. I had a view and an expectation of “newlyweds”. My husband didn’t have the drive or curiosity or knowledge like I did and tbh it hurt me mentally and emotionally the first half of our marriage. Bc of porn I expected him to want sex all the time or to think about it all the time. But he wasn’t like that. We still did, but I was always let down because it didn’t happen Like I wanted or expected bc I was training my mind to expect a lie.... even though I knew it was a lie. I even fell into self... “time”... which I had to confess to my husband a few times in the beginning of our marriage. We had many arguments and discussions over sex more than any other subject in the beginning of our marriage lol porn creates these unrealistic fantasies in your mind and it’s do unhealthy. Not to mention, God gave sex to married couples to be enjoyed only with each other. It should be your own, not what the world says it should be. You as a couple make it fun by figuring it out together lol We are 25 and have 3 kiddos now and that struggle with porn is completely gone now. I hate it. The whole industry. Then having the knowledge of what happens in that industry, it’s disgusting and sad.
I had struggled for so long, feeling like I’d never gain victory over it. I even believed the lie that I was doomed to always struggle with it, so why fight it. I was in high school then lol my parents put up a lot of roadblocks but I found loop holes. My parents tried to lead me biblically through this sin and I wanted to fight it... but I didn’t at the same time. Satan had some pretty convincing arguments.
I highly recommend the app EverAccountable. Our whole family has it and it’s on all the devices. It monitors all phone activity and sends reports weekly. Alerts the others who the reports go to (you can choose, my hubby and I see each other’s and our kids, but not the rest of my families) it also takes screenshots. It overall is great. It has some inaccuracies, but it is a great tool if you need help stopping. When you know someone else can see it all, the temptation isn’t so strong. Plus, repenting and asking God for help. He will help you. Place scripture where you can see it. And don’t view things that are triggers to you. Denounce satan when he tries to make you stumble, cuz he will. And when the temptation hits, verbally, out loud, pray and ask God to take the urge away. Let God be your strength. I hope my story helps. As a woman I see so much importance about sharing your dirt... especially with this topic. Not many women tell their struggles with it because they are too ashamed and embarrassed. Much love here! Prayers for all of you who are in this battle!
I am really encouraged by this. I am glad you found freedom and hate the sin so much , and that you saw the negative effects it had on you and your marriage. It gives me hope for other people who struggle. Thank you 💛 God bless you
This is so inspiring! Thank you for your transparency guys!
So many people are struggling with this in silence and are unfortunately too ashamed to speak up!
Thank you for sharing this Nate and Sutton. This topic is something that we don’t talk about enough in our culture and especially in the church. People struggle with this addiction and we need to normalize this discussion so people who are struggling will know that they’re not alone. God bless you both!
A major game changer is educating oneself on healthy sexuality. Avoiding porn is not avoiding all things sexual, but recognize the worth and value it is enjoy sex and sexuality in a wholesome context!
What is healthy sexuality? Do you know any good Christian books about it?
Great video, porn happens to be the biggest issue facing our culture that NOBODY likes to mention or talk about. The issue is it gets you when you’re a pre-teen or very young teenager.
You don’t know what you’re getting into and getting your mind conditioned for. Once you start the brain connection it’s VERY difficult to unwind it and to heal from it. Thanks for making this video
This is so powerful! People need to hear this! We are living in a time where Satan is using this to try to distract people from Christ and living out their true purpose in Him! This is definitely an encouraging video! No temptation has overtaken you that’s not common to man, God will provide a way of escape.
Thank you for saying Men AND Women. SO many women are isolated because of the extra shame of it being " A Man Issue". They have no where to turn. Also Pornography is a Outward Bi product of an Inner issue. You have to go to the root so you can really be Free. If you just focus on "Not Doing it', you will continue to relapse.
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@@jasonbryan9056 Fine thanks.
@@nicolejclarke Where are you from if i may ask?
@@jasonbryan9056 Have you not asked me before on other things I have commented on.?
This is so important to talk about and I’m so glad you two have the courage to bring it up.
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Hey guys! I think it’s awesome that y’all felt led to make this video! I used to really struggle with pornography as well, and it’s an ongoing struggle to remain pure! I even made a video on my channel about how I got out with Jesus help!
This happened in my relationship and I had never been more heartbroken. It feels good to know I’m the only one who’s had their heartbroken by this.
Me too girl, I let it go on for more than a year and I finally said enough is enough, so I told him how I felt and now we are on the same page and he agreed to never watch it again or do those actions. Now we are about to be 2 years and happy as ever ✨
@@Selena_lucas I check his phone he doesnt watch porn but contacts women to look at naked photos they send him.
i went through it too.. it was the hardest thing my boyfriend ever did, confessing to me that he let in to temptation again, not to mention him being a very godly man. and maybe about the hardest thing i ever had to do was forgive him. it just broke my heart that he had to struggle with this
Thank You so Much for your videos. Im 71 and you two are amazing. I was raised in southern Gospel church and had many struggles . You have open my eyes to a lot of things. Please dont ever quit giving out the message. I would love to communicate with you privately but I know thats not possible. May God bless and keep you forever. Please keep hanging on.
Wow thank you for your kind words and for following along with us! 💛
Great video you guys! I also wanted to add that a lot of people stuck in the industry are children and women who are being trafficked. Thank you guys for being bold and sharing this!
Thank you for speaking out about this uncomfortable subject. Just 3 days ago I found out my husband's addiction to porn. We are both Christians and it is very hard for me to understand. I asked him to go stay with a family member and begin counseling. He is doing everything to keep our marriage together. I am at home working healing my own inner self and now my self insecurities because of this. I pray we both can heal. I'm worried I can never trust him again. I'm insecure that I can never measure up to the women he's watched online. I guess we both have healing now. Any prayers are truely a blessing.
Praying for you ❤️
This is amazing! Even though I dont struggle with this, it touched me so deeply and I know it will help so many people that are struggling. Thank you for doing what you do. God bless you both
thank God it did not ruin yours in the end
Thank you God
Thanks for being humble and sharing your sin struggles. He who covers their sins will not prosper but he who confesses and forsakes them shall obtain mercy. A commercial I saw on my laptop I had to cover up tonight with my hands until I could skip it. I didn't want to see it and I didn't want my husband being exposed to it as well!
Thank you both for taking on this very important topic. And thank you Nate for sharing your personal experience. It is true that God's power is made perfect in our weakness and so many brothers and sisters in Christ are able to learn from your experience. May God continue to bless you both!
One thing I have learned is it's so important to realize that those are real people on those screens, that's someone's wife, or daughter, or sister. Once I learned to understand that it really helps you not to look on people as objects, but rather as real people who needs God's love.
This is what I tried to address with my husband when he was surfing it's always Somebody's Daughter somebody's wife
Hi, my name is Angel Pujols, and I have a problem with porn. I need help. Like A LOT of help. And by watching you guys, Nate and Sutton, I'm starting to slowly have faith. Little by little. You guys are awesome. The work you do inspires so many christian people. Keep it up ya'know.
For anyone who’s struggling with It I was addicted for years . Some people are like what’s the secret ?? And tbh with you all . The Lord helaled me comletely from it it’s now been 7 months . I couldn’t even go a few weeks without doing anything . For me personally it was seeing that sin for what it was and wanting God more than my sin if that makes any sense at all. But only the Lord can truly heal us in that area . I hope this encourages somone . God bless you guys :)
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so beautiful! Thank you for sharing your testimony ❤️
I’m 17 and every guy I’ve talked to about this subject has always struggled with this sin and it really is one of the most addictive sins that today’s society has made “OK” to do. And it’s tearing men down
Is there even any hope for a Christian woman waiting in purity to find a guy who is also doing the same..? 😪
@@nadinegomez8858 I am waiting til marriage so yes. Me and my gf have made this decision I don’t plan on ever changing. I don’t think you should judge so much on if a man struggles with pornography. However you can and should judge how they deal with the temptation, Is he progressively trying to make himself a better man or does he let porn control his life? I would be surprised if you could find a man that has never been tempted by sexual sin mainly pornography. God bless you and I wish you the best!!
@@mosquitojames5690 yep trust me most men in the church now just say "it's just a sin like all other sin- you have your sin I have my sin, what if I get tempted, God's grace covers" and blah blah blah. I have never actually met one who actively FLEES & RUNS from it, like we are supposed to-- NOT ONE. They just embrace it and keep doing it. No conviction whatsoever. It's a lot harder our here being a Christian woman honestly.
@@nadinegomez8858 Ok you may not see it in other men. I’ve been actively fleeing from temptation even though it is a NATURAL feeling. Imagine trying to fight something that is supposed to be natural to you and this fight is everyday! We don’t get a break. Men are sexual creatures we are made to reproduce and it’s impossible to flip off that switch. Everyone sins and it’s up to you to make the decision to accept that and how much sin you’ll allow. Most men including myself slipped into this addiction at a young age. Good luck finding the “perfect man” that has never had a sexual thought. All I’m saying is to be open minded and try to see from the mans perspective. I’ve taught myself many ways to reduce the chance of temptations and my strategy is not easy.
@@mosquitojames5690 i literally never said “never had a sexual thought” - don’t put words in my mouth to fit your agenda of labelling me a certain way. That is manipulation. We are called to FLEE from sin and not feed the flesh, and to do that everyday. I never said i wanted perfect either. Seems like you’re projecting.
This is such a taboo subject and it shouldn’t be!! This needs to be addressed and spoken about. I think one of the reasons it stays “secret” is because men (or women) don’t even know how to talk about their struggle because no one ever does. Thank you for addressing this topic. It has effected my marriage as well and I’m glad to say that I think it’s under control now. ❤️
Such a desperately needed message! So many people addicted! Thank you both for taking on this difficult topic and for your transparency! You’re a blessing! Sutton, your top is so cute!
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God rescued our marriage from pornography also ❤❤ we both struggled with it and also with adultery, and God redeemed us and our marriage is better than ever! Praise God!
I’m so thankful for this video I’ve been struggling with this and I needed to hear this thank you all I’m so happy I found this channel
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Hey guys just want to say thank you for making this video, I know it isn’t easy but I appreciate the sacrifice. It’s tough when it’s something no one ever talks about but almost everyone goes through. I’m still dealing with this battle and hoping to break from the addiction. Just really scared and nervous about how this will affect future relationships. I’m 17 atm btw. I’ve been dealing with this for 6 plus years and I’m ready to stop
That’s amazing that you want to repent and start a new chapter of your life! I can’t imagine how hard it is when this generation has grown up with it. I would highly recommend a Christian counselor to help you through and give you some practical tips. Also an accountability partner 🙏🏽
@@nateandsutton thank you so much
I'm so thankful for a video like this, I wish I had watched it sooner. Thank God that there are still people out there willing to talk about this!
This video deserves more of a thumbs up THAN ANY VIDEO IVE SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!!!
Young guys and men: please, PLEASE listen to Nate!!! He is telling you the ABSOLUTE TRUTH!!! You can save your marriage, your future marriage, your children and grandchildren!!! They follow you and you also can affect their lives greatly, for good or bad!! I am NOT exaggerating!!! Pornography truly DOES affect ALL of these loved ones and people in your life! It is just as deadly to relationships, marriage, families, and children as Alcoholism is!! Don’t find out the hard way by trial and huge error!! Please listen to Nate!!! AND Sutton!!!
...Written with the attitude of loving God and loving your neighbor and doing unto others.
Ive struggled with this, and I just want to remind people that sb that commits this sin isnt disgusting, isnt "impure", or less worthy than anyone else. That is a lie that I believed about myself and had to refute multiple times. It is just another sin, same as pride or rage. Of course sin is serious and im not saying take it lightly. But there is a big stigma (specially for women) around this topic and it can make it really hard to speak up. Ther is a lot of shame and guilt involved here, which can be good if they lead you to flee sin but they can also devastate you. Remenber there is nothing God cant forgive! He loves you no matter what you've done. You are worth it. You can overcome it. Try to forgive yourself as well, we are all fighting the battle, its hard, we are vulnerable, but we have each other and God and its worth it❤️
Here’s some food for thought- purity doesn’t exist. Neither does thought crime.
I’m so happy to see people talking about this. Pornography has always had an impact on my life. When I was younger my biological father was addicted to it, and he even was addicted to child pornography. When I was older, a couple things were done to me and they have left me scarred. Even though he didn’t rape me it was still damaging. Unfortunately I started down the road of a porn problem a few years after that when I was 15. I had buried my stillborn little brother a year prior, due to some messed up family issues, I lost my horse, who I had loved for years, and was just angry, especially with God. I started dealing with lust and it got worse and worse. Until I was looking at pornographic artwork and dealing with terrible lust issues. I also made a discovery during this time, I’m not sure if it’s due to the things that happened with my biological father or not, but I realized that I had been masturbating without even knowing what that was. I was even more angry and continued to do that, knowing that I was doing it. I was also drinking and smoking at the time. Fast forward now, I’m 18. I have since greatly improved my walk with the Lord. It has taken me a few years of work to undo the lust and temptation. I still deal with it. A huge turning point was this past year. I started really praying that God would help with this issue and He truly does work in mysterious ways. Earlier this year I was diagnosed with endometriosis. Due to the masturbation I had suspected it bc of the terrible pain I’d feel during it. When I realized everything that came with endo it helped a lot, even though issues with having children and all the chronic pain and such that comes with this is heartbreaking. It has refocused my mind on God. I’ve been reading my bible more and I’m more motivated than ever to remain pure and push those temptations away. Because if sex is going to hurt, and I’m going to have to fight through my health issues to do it and enjoy it, I should make that fight worth it and make sure that I save myself for someone who truly loves me and should save it for marriage. God works in mysterious ways. I still struggle with this. It’s a horrible thing. But as I continue to grow in Christ, I’m finding more and more ways of dealing with it. I’ve also opened up and talked to people about this. There’s ways of getting help. Don’t be ashamed, get help and cry out to the Lord. He is a sovereign God who loves His people. Cry out to him. Go seek help. You can heal and get through this.
Nate and Sutton, you two are special, awesome, and so transparent, which helps people your age so very much! I love all your life stories and you cover so many topics. You are both wise beyond your years because you apply your knowledge in productive ways, then share those experiences and learning with others. This is a way that you’re serving your community!
But, I wanted to share that my marriage actually DID end in DIVORCE, BECAUSE OF pornography! 😢😧😰😥 He was so sneaky about it and I found out by accident when I was at my MOST VULNERABLE, when I was 8 months pregnant!!!!!! 😢😥😩 I felt so, so betrayed!!!! I felt so trapped because I was having my baby with him!!😞 He tried to excuse his behavior by saying it was an addiction, then I asked him why he didn’t tell me about his addiction before we got married, and he actually told me that he knew I would not have married him if he had told me!! That meant that he took my choice away and deceived me!!!! ...it went from bad to worse, because he did not give it up after 3 more years of a TERRIBLE marriage!! I wanted out so badly, but plugged away for our little son and because I came from a broken home, which had caused a lot of pain and anguish in my childhood! He almost completely ignored me sexually, and I had a nice figure, was 110 pounds at 5’3” and worked out aerobically 5 times per week at the gym! I ignored other men and I was way too dedicated, trying to save our marriage! Then, when I had a newborn daughter, he had an affair and abandoned the 3 of us and would not give us so much as a dime!! One time, I didn’t have enough money to buy diapers! Our church leader had told him two years before that, when I said I wanted a divorce because he refused to give up pornography, that if he did not give it up, eventually he’d have an affair! Truthfully, I was relieved he had an affair, as I could now get out of a loveless, sexless, uncaring “marriage” that was so very unfulfilling and broke my heart and eventually the hearts of my fatherless children!! 😥👶😩😥😰 One of my friends put it best when she said, “Aw, Deb, you were married for four years, yet you never had a husband!”
So, Nate, you’re so awesome for your honesty toward and love for Sutton above all other women!!! ...In my book, you deserve a medal for putting God, your wife, and your children first! You will be GREATLY rewarded for your integrity and wisdom and excellent choices regarding pornography and transparency and realizing it is one of Satan’s GREATEST TOOLS AGAINST FAMILIES!! 😢😩😥 it sure did tear mine apart!
Guys out there, DON’T BE FOOLED!! Pornography addiction before marriage DEFINITELY DOES affect your future marriage!!!! ...Don’t let it!! ...I promise you that the trade-off between pornography and your wife, children, God, and your good name is NOT worth it, and NEVER can be!!
Nate and Sutton, please keep right on sharing social issues that affect relationships and spiritual issues that help relationships!! 🥰
Amazing history!
Thank you guys for making videos like this. It's so important to talk about it. It's something that it's real and it's hurts a lot of people. I hope that every person who see this video, feel touched with your testimony.
Thank you for the honesty respect this subject, it's really appreciated what both of you do.
God bless you!
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"Don't be stupid, get off the path of destruction" amen
Hi, i have just listen to your testimony. And im very grateful that i come to your channel. I am a christian, 28 years old, and single. Yes, i agree about saving purity or virginity until marraige. But im also one of the victim of pornography. As for me, being single. It is really tempting everyday to read, watch, and im really ashamed about it. Im still struggling on this until now. And hank you for the tips of overcoming it. I know, i heard it many times from my leader. And it is good to hear it more at every time, becuase i really need it. Help me pray as well. Thank you.
I’m Gelai how are you doing? Do you still head that problem ?
Thank you for putting this out there 🙏🏼 much needed topic for a lot of people!
It ended my first marriage back in 2001. I was one of the first Christian wives to deal with a husband addicted to it and no one knew how to help me.
@Kara A It also ended my marriage of 30 years. He just simply remarried and moved on. SO problem solved, right??
Amazing video. Absolutely amazing. Great job guys. Going to help a lot of people! Keep up the great work!
The other thing that keeps people from a breakthrough from pornography is keeping it in the dark...
Ephesians 5:11-14
“Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret. But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light. For this reason it says, “ Awake, sleeper, And arise from the dead, And Christ will shine on you.”
Like they said, find someone or a group of friends (Or church elders) to confess your son's after repenting, so that you can be healed.
James 5:16
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another, and pray for one another so that you may be healed.”
Know what times of day you are triggered the most and set boundaries accordingly! If you’re tempted on social media or on your phone, restrict phone usage at those times and spend time in the word or doing something life giving instead
Thank you for sharing! I am 21 and I have struggled with this for 12 years, and I have not been able to beat this addiction yet. I will be free from it for awhile and then I get pulled back into it.
I have been meeting with my pastor for 2 months as I am wrestling with my faith and he asked me why I find it terrifying that God is ever present. This is the reason why; he knows what I do and I'm ashamed of that. I have really been wrestling with whether I should share that with him or not. After watching this, I feel as though I should because this video coming out exactly when I am wrestling with this decision, it feels like God's answer that I should share it with my pastor.
Girl, I’m so so SO sorry you’re going through this. You mentioned you’re 21, you called it an addiction (as many sects of Christianity do), you also said you are ashamed and terrified....I find this to be the saddest thing of all. You’ve likely grown up indoctrinated by your church to think that anything sex related is off limits. It’s part of normal, natural human sexuality. You are not shameful. You are not “addicted”. The church works very hard to push purity culture in young people that is so incredibly damaging. This is how Josh Duggar happened. Repress all normal curiosities as a kid and instead of real education, you’re taught to repent, pray, and feel ashamed. Fear and shame is what keeps the churches in business. Explain to me how a pastor, or anyone else’s interpretation of the Bible, has become your playbook for life and understanding of the world? I truly don’t understand how so many people have such a juvenile sense of human sexuality in some Christian churches. I’m just a 43 yr old nurse and mom of 3, but I would just ask that you question why the church cares so much about the private lives of their members.
@@ultimately-sabrina I was shamed by my friend who I told as a child because she thought it was gross, we didn't know about the churches beliefs at the time... last week I shared my struggle with my pastor, and he did not shame me for it. We had a healthy conversation about sex and pleasure and all that goes along with it so I do think that my church has a healthy outlook on sex. He even said that sex is not a dirty thing that we are supposed to avoid, it was made to be enjoyed... that being said, for me, I do believe it is an addiction because it is interfering with my life and I am unable to stop despite a desire to.
@@alyssajoy08 I’m very glad to hear that you weren’t shamed by your pastor. I’m sorry your “friend” said that to you. I’m sorry you see it as an addiction...I mean I see how it could become a problem if it’s interfering in your life. Just a small piece of advice to take or leave, maybe talk to your doctor to make sure your hormones aren’t imbalanced. I wish you well. God Bless!
@@ultimately-sabrina Unfortunately I don't really have access to a doctor for a normal checkup like that because of my families insurance situation, but I am applying for jobs now that I have graduated college so hopefully I will be able to get that looked at once I'm employed full time
@@alyssajoy08 I’m sorry to hear that. If you have a planned parenthood near year, they offer discounted prices for wellness visits, pelvic exams and mammograms. Or a local Dr’s office that may allow you to make payments. I believe a routine physical exam is around $50. But lab work can be pricey. If only we didn’t have healthcare attached to our jobs in this country. But, at any rate I hope that I came across caring in our conversation, because after my initial shock of so many people commenting on this issue that to me shouldn’t ever be a source of shame, I truly wish you the best. Congrats on your college graduation!
I love that you guys have addressed this, I do believe that the church has failed to bring in the Holy Spirit in to the daily battles and daily life. He is the forgotten God. I believe that we have spoken more about behavior modifications, which is do this and remove this, change your thinking, but you cannot do that without the power of the Holy Spirit that God has given us when He sealed us and we placed our faith in Him. If we are only focused on changing things in our life it’s almost like we are living under the law, but the law was fulfilled and in Galatians Paul goes into depth about not doing “good” things but surrendering to God and letting the Holy Spirit convict us, and give us the power, strength we need to overcome any temptation and sin. We CANNOT do this in our own strength by just changing things , or speaking to someone, we NEED the Holy Spirit and through intimacy with God we become more sensitive to His voice, and this also happens through renewing our mind. It’s not about doing the right things, it’s about surrendering, and giving up our own ways or “solutions”.
I love how you guys address the hard and “taboo” subjects!! It’s awesome how both of you are addressing it together and not separately!! Love you guys!!
I've got to say, God bless y'all for making this video (and the other video about porn)! This is definitely a topic that needs to be more openly discussed!
So I just found y'all through Mike Winger & decided to check out your videos, then I stumbled on this video, watched it, then went & watched the other video y'all did over the same topic. I found these videos very comforting because my husband & I had the porn discussion several months back & it was EXTREMELY HEARTBREAKING for me!
My husband & I started dating in high school (we've been together 7 years now). I knew most guys watched porn, I didn't think too much of it when we were dating. In college, he actually mentioned it to me a bit because he had been talking about it with a church leader & was trying to do better. Sadly, I never really thought to have a discussion with him about it. We got married in March of 2020, during our last semester of college. We moved to a different state at the end of August. We had no friends or family around & we hadn't tried to find a church. My husband is in the Military & he was waiting to start his training & I wasn't really working at the time either. Quite frankly we were in a weird place mentally & emotionally. In November, I discovered that my husband had been watching porn & I was so hurt & so sad for a while. We had many long discussions about porn & lust. I still check up on him about twice a month. If I remember correctly the porn was stopped pretty quickly, if not as soon as we talked about it, but he would still have some hiccups here & there with Instagram. We started going to a church in November & the people are wonderful, but we don't feel comfortable talking about this with people from our church. Mostly because it's an older demographic. I just felt really alone in this, like I needed to hear from other people who could relate with our situation. Y'all's video helps me feel less alone & helps bring some peace of mind. We worked through the toughest parts of it & we've become so much stronger because of it. There is still a little pain I feel & I have to stop myself from overthinking & overanalyzing certain things now.
Seriously though, as Christians, we need to have more of these discussions & I thank y'all for stepping out & doing that!
I’m a young adult that wants to get married someday to a fellow Christian, I’m ashamed about my past mistakes. Thank you for making this video, it has really encouraged me!
praise the LORD !!
Thank you for being open and sharing your journey ❤ I'm praying for someone
God is so great I was here strugguling with it and this is the first video that jump on my home screen of youtube. Everything you said is so right! My biggest fears are to never overcome it or that affects my future marriage. But like you guys said we have to make or battle plan. I thank God for your lifes.
It is amazing how telling the truth sets people free. Thank you for sharing the truth about this important issue.
I have done it, I did do it, I do it! Wow you are a very transparent young couple ! This is powerful and so helpful for those struggling. My Pastor husband was addicted to it and I never knew for so long. I caught him and it was horrible! He died unexpectedly two years ago. It destroyed our relationship because even after being caught, he was to proud to admit it was a real problem. Keeping u both in my prayers for strength and a continued commitment to God and one another to not look at the death pictures that lead to destruction of your mind.
John 13:34 says, “As I have loved you, love one another.” As hard as it may be, we MUST love each other and our spouses through our struggles because God loved us through ours.
Hi guys I've been struggling with this myself. Not my hubby.Me.I so needed to hear this thanks you guys.
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Thank you for sharing. Pornography is a bondage.
I believe a lot of marriage will be saved when they listen to your testimony. Once again, thank you!