Thanks to the ladies who are sharing their stories about their husbands. I am engaged to a man who has a porn addiction. Reading your comments has been such a confirmation that I need to leave this man and run for the hills. Praying that your marriges heal
Then make her your one and only standard of beauty. Help her to see you only have eyes for her. If she desires you and you can show her that she is valued for more than sex and you can show her that you want to be affectionate without expectations, then she will continue to desire you (barring something like depression, life changes, medical issues). Address those and be understanding when they happen. And most of all if she has your child, treat her extra well through pregnancy and show her she is special and loved and still attractive through it all. If my husband had done this even with his porn problem, things would have been way better! Luckily we are healing, but I didn't feel valued for anything other than what I could do for him in the bedroom and never felt good enough.
@@christys.3912wow. As a man who’s been married 24 years , that’s a pile of “ ifs” The conditional love you’re speaking of is a two way street. And it’s hilarious that you can’t see yourself in this as part of the problem. Do you watch fantasy ? As in romantic comedy’s , soap operas, dramas , etc? Doesn’t this skew the relationship ideal same as sexual porn ? Isn’t this lady porn ? You want him to think of you as his one and only. The other side of the street is that you have to BE his one and only. And that can’t be done with the list of perfect scenario conditions you’ve laid out.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, and for being a support to the women who are not given the validation, empathy, safety, affection, and respect they deserve. And as a man, I am so sorry for the pain that the unhealthy sexuality of so many men brings into the lives of the women we care about.
My husband isn’t a believer. We got married in 2021. Been together 7 years. He won’t admit to being addicted but he views is every day and don’t even want anything to do with me. I just started following God last year. I keep praying for him. I know God is good
I’ve never seen a video talking about how hurtful this can be. Thank you for making me realise I am not the only one who feels this way. I now have a very happy marriage but my previous relationship unfortunately was not good in many ways. Even tho it’s been a long time since this has been a problem for me i still can relate to the hurt and feeling like a rock was in my chest and so hurt i couldn’t find words to start with. My ex lied to me many many times while making me think I was the problem and what he was doing was normal. Thank you for talking about this and thank you to your husband for allowing you to share his thoughts too.
I hope I find a happy marriage like you did.. your experience gives me hope.. my previous relationship was traumatic he had a PA and a SA. I hope I find a man who doesnt have this problem since I’ve learned is very common now a days! 🥹
He did it on my laptop and it was the nastiest thing. We were 10 years together. Lost my youth to this man. It's not what broke us up but it was a great source of distress for me.
Why are there hundreds of videos to help the person who Uses porn But barely a trickle of help for the person traumatized with partner betrayal, feelings of pain, broken trust, not feeling safe, and so many other feelings of pain
I just found P on my boyfriend phone yesterday and he kept trying to tell me he didn’t remember. When I had proof. I feel so betrayed and insecure now… and feel sick to my stomach. And having a hard time trust him again and to love him. 😢
I'm a guy who watches porn frequently but I'm single, so I'm not hurting anyone in a relationship, but I've noticed its more often, than normal, I guess it's an addiction, but I've found myself into gay porn most often. Of course I keep it mostly to myself. I don't know what to think.
@@bubba283if you’re a christian you should definitely seek help in a church or with a counselor, even if you’re single you’re hurting yourself and destroying the way your brain is wired
@@SoFetch0 are you casting stones from a glass house ? You never watch fantasy ? No dramas ? No romantic comedy’s ? No soap operas? These are lady porn. They infect a relationship just the same. They make up unrealistic expectations, and you guys try to live them out. Same same.
@bubba283 I am not judging you but what you are doing is hurting you and your future spouse. Your habbits now will be the habbits you will have when you are married. Imagine your future wife saying yes to you on the alter but you have all the women you did sexual stuff online with standing right by your side on your wedding day. It doesn't matter where the location of the women is. Then you say I wish I didn't watch pornagraphy when I was single. She doesn't want you cheating on her before you meet her, she wants you to be working on the man she needs you to be faithful. Be faithful to her when you are single and when you married.
May I ask what the implications are? I’m considering dating someone that struggled/struggles with this severely and it has greatly damaged his view of women. I like him and we are so similar in many ways but this is getting in the way of me wanting to be his girlfriend. He’s sorry, and is trying to change fundamentally, but I’m not sure his brain can be fully rewired and I was SA’d as a child so it’s deeply triggers me. I think it would help if I can know the problems that arise when dating someone that has struggled with this.
@@Pickle2222. Don’t continue your relationship with him. HE has to take the steps to battle his addiction on his own. You can’t fix or change him. After 26 years of marriage I found out that my husband came into our marriage with a porn/sex addiction. I saw signs, questioned him but he was a brilliant liar and excellent at gaslighting. He started therapy, a support group, bible study, volunteering but he will always be an addict. It escalates as time goes on. He was getting more aggressive with sex, going to strip clubs, covering my face while having sex. I’m a strong woman but he broke me. I gave up so much when we married and raised our children. Took care of the house, laundry, cleaning, shopping, holidays, school issues…all while he would be off at the strip club getting lap dances, paying to watch porn. He took money from our family to feed his addiction. We always have cash in the house, I never counted it because I never in a million years would think he was doing this. The cash is mine, I came into the marriage well off. Now, I count the cash every morning and night. None is missing but I also changed the combination on the safe. I don’t know how it affects other women but here’s what it’s done to me, keep in mind I’m not a nagging wife, needy person, controlling in any way, fine on my own sort. I’m retired now (53), was a Lt. Colonel and went into consulting. I’m not one to cry easily or lay down and be a doormat. A year and a half in, after finding out the things my husband has done, I’m not whole. He shattered me. My heart will never trust him again, my brain cannot trust him. He lied for so long about so much that it’s just not possible. I feel betrayed, unattractive, used as a tool to get him off and I’m a complete fool for missing it all. We are separated, still living in the same house. We’re roommates. It works for us as I’m able to be logical and rational enough to separate the situation. The fury I have STILL, is intense at times. I’m a Christian who attends church every Sunday, prays every day and by the Grace of God can get out of bed and face the day, even when I don’t want to. Just last week he came clean about a one night stand he had while I was pregnant with our second child. I told him to run. The rage inside was so terrifying that I knew I could hurt him very badly. He ran, smart move. I’m back to square one of reigning in my anger and betrayal. IT WILL NEVER END! Once an addict, always an addict and while I understand addiction all to well from my family I’m not going to be knocked down again by him. I won’t abandon him but the marriage is over. Why do we remain in the same house, you may ask? Because everything is mine. He loses the roof over his head, has no family to help him. I will love him with all of my being until the day I die but he’ll never touch me again. I will support him through his addiction the best I can as a friend but not as a wife. I’m also not willing to sacrifice Holidays with our children or grandchildren. Nana and Papa’s house will always be here for them. Save yourself the heartache and wretched pain, do not continue with your relationship. Wishing you all the best and praying for you. 🙏💚🍀 much love from Ireland.
@@Pickle2222 I don't know where my first comment went but it was so important that ill write it again. If he is addicted, then it is highly likely that 'regular p' no longer stimulates him and is seeking out extreme p and potentially even illegal. If he is not your husband, I urge you with everything in me, to go in the other direction. Somethings can leave an imprint on your soul for what seems like forever and he will treat you like an object with no remorse. The best you can do is pray for him.
@@YourDestiny1010 After his whole life, he has been clean for months, like cold turkey, 7 months. I’m so proud, and I just wanna update so any other helpless peeps like me at the time can have some hope. Your man has to want to change, that’s the key. Love all
@@cosasconsuelo2639 that’s what mine keeps doing. He’ll go a long time and then relapse. This time we are seeking help from support groups and counseling. He told me he’s been trying to do it on his own and now he sees that he can’t do it without God. It is just hard for me to trust him in truly doing that. I just have to leave it in God’s hands
My husband says he’s not looking at porn, but I see where he has. When I bring it up he calls me insecure for looking at his browsing history, tells me I don’t trust him. Why would I when so many times I’ve begged him to stop watching porn and he says he will stop then again I see he’s watched it. I feel like I must be unattractive to him if he cannot just be satisfied with me. How many times am I supposed to forgive him for watching porn when he obviously continues to watch and doesn’t want to change. He just tries harder to hide it. When do I finally give up and walk away? I feel so worthless knowing he’s watching other naked women and that makes him hard. But 1/3 of the time we have sex he doesn’t finish or goes completely soft. I just want to be enough. 😢
As a man i understand your pain, but i want to explain how we see the matter ( i am not excusing the behavior) : as men, we have high sex drive, our thinking brain is shut off when we have the urge to "do it", so it is very hard to resist it, but it is an addiction : even if we know it is going to hurt you women we keep doing it, i am really really sorry that you take it personal when we watch it, can you ladies find a way to not take it personal as we men get the neccessary help ? Thank you
My ex husband had an issue with p. It shocked me because he was a born again believer. Our marriage ended with him divorcing me. After that, he had p. all over his house- magazines and videos. I thought he had stopped looking at p. He's remarried to a wonderful Godly woman but is only 60 and is in the end stages of Parkinson's disease. She cares for him herself with the help of her children. He can't look at p anymore. It's sad how his life worked out.
That's interesting you bring up Parkinson's. My late beloved father, bless his heart and soul, suffered from Parkinson's disease for over 20 years so I have some experience with this...many of the medications used to treat PD are based on dopamine (for example L-dopa, carbidopa, and etc). Dopamine, as you may know, is closely linked to compulsive behavior and is closely involved in addictive disorders, and in fact one of the side effects of these PD medications is the sudden development of addictions to things like gambling and pornography, even if the person has _never_ exhibited this behavior before. In the late stages of the disease, when my dad was developing dementia secondary to the Parkinson's, I was clearing out the house in preparation to transfer him to a skilled nursing facility and was shocked to find pornography in among some random papers. My dad was the most humble, straight-laced, sober man who never smoked or drank a day in his life. Parkinson's, especially in its later stages, can prompt some incredibly strange, out-of-character behaviors in people.
Sierra... I don't know how I stumbled on your channel, but I do know it was God. I did walk your shoes at one point in my life. PRAISE GOD, you have a husband who KNOWS God/Jesus/Holy Spirit and wants to be the man/husband God wants him to be. I'll keep you both in my prayers!!!♥️❣️
Betrayal trauma is a real thing and the damage it's done to my wife is so intense from my porn addiction. I've been trying to overcome it my whole life and finally found a program that's working. But if I could go back in time I wouldn't have got into any relationship now that I've seen the damage it's caused. I'm absolutely worthless and I pray that somehow death finds me.
I appreciate your kindness, I've been praying, going to church, and dedicating much faith and repentance to God my entire life all to no avail. The only reason I'm finding success now is because I disavow all my shame-programmed view of sexuality that was programmed by religion and society. But the damage has been done to my wife, and I'm just not lucky enough to die in a random car accident at this point. I trust no one when it comes to God because all it has done is perpetuated the problem. No one knows anything. I will decide the parameters on my relationship with deity and will never rely on absolutely anyone but me. Forgiveness is internal, it is not external. I can forgive myself, but in this moment I do not and I often dream of suicide. My existence has brought nothing but pain and I don't deserve to live.
From a wife whose heart has been destroyed by this, I can tell you that you not being on this earth would be a million times more hurtful. Please stay strong and be the best man you can be. Maybe God will use you to help others, I don’t know. But you are important and worthy and I hear how much you are hurting.
@@mariahenschel2557 thank you for your kindness. It's been very difficult finding meaning in my existence or in existence at all. I'm very much over it. It feels deeply overrated, but I drag myself out of bed and I haven't gotten to the point self harm yet, definitely have had plans of suicide though after lots of research.
@@mariahenschel2557 thank you for your words. I'm trying not to hate myself so deeply. I'll try to consider what you're saying. It's very difficult in seeing the value in existing, but I'm trying.
There is also absolutely nothing wrong, as a Christian, with divorcing a spouse over "p." It is sexual immorality and infidelity. For some people, depending on their individual circumstances, the safest and most healing thing they can do is to leave the marriage.
Jesus says that if a man looks at a woman to lust after her, he has commited adultery. He also says that divorce and remarriage is permissible in cases of sexual immorality. (Divorce with no remarriage is only touched on once in the Bible, as far as I know, when Paul says that a woman should remain unmarried if she chooses not to reconcile with her husband. He doesn't give a reason for divorce in that case.) "Tis death do us part" under any circumstances in not in the Bible. There are however many verses telling us to separate ourselves from people practicing sexual immorality and other sins. I have so much more I could say, but this is just a TH-cam comment, so I'm keeping it short. I hope that explains it a little. @@vw908
If the world was to have more women like you, the world would definitely be a better place. You are more like what a woman should be, instead of being afraid of your women, she provides safety for you to be vulnerable and has such big understanding. 👏
I would appreciate prayers from anybody that reads this. I am one of the men that has struggled with this but I love my life more than anything and I would move a mountain to save our marriage. I have been p free for over 3 weeks and I truly believe God has taken the urge away from me. But it might be too late for my marriage. Please pray for me and my wife. I hurt my best friend repeatedly three different times. At this point, the only one who can heal it is God. So if anybody sees fit I would really appreciate prayers.
Watching one of your other videos when you were telling your story and you stated that you were mad at him and then you asked him if there was something else you wanted to say. I could tell that he was keeping something to himself and not being forthright then I come across this video and it made sense. He should of been here by your side when telling this story because he didn’t tell you he relapsed you found out. I pray that you both make it in your marriage because although we are only seeing what is posted it’s not hard to see where there maybe cracks somewhere.
If more people knew that watching porn is intertwined with sex trafficking I would hope that would make more men stop. It’s an addiction, it’s a change in brain chemistry. I’m sorry I’m not religious, it’s hard for me to think that millions deal with this pain and god exists. All I know is that this sucks and thank you for sharing. I hope this can stop for so many men, so many marriages. It’s fake, it’s sick, and I’m struggling with forgiveness and trust.
I guarantee that was not his first relapse. The fact that you discovered it and he didn't tell you shows that. He probably just got better at hiding it since then... hope he finally changed, hope he is getting regular polygraphs
This hits hard for me.. Me and my partner have been dealing with his bad p addiction for years now.. I feel exhausted, and my mind and heart are just getting to the point where I am feeling nearly done.. The lies are the worst part its hard to trust him ever on his word. I am 18 weeks pregnant and had to be put on depression medication due to the stress and anxiety his addiction has caused me through the years.. How does he stop will he ever stop..?
My boyfriend has a porn and lust addiction. We are both Christians and we love each other other dearly. He says he’s not looked at P online but he’s looking at every woman he sees. It’s hurting me so much and I’m having therapy as he is but I feel so alone. I can’t discuss this with my church as there are some rumour mongers out there. Do you provide 1-1 therapy here please? I’m in despair a lot of days over this.
Boyfriend? No not marry him. Women need to realize you get what you get when you get married. Never expect anyone to change or grow just because they get older.
This is an excellent video. I felt God wanted me to share my testimony with this same issue. My only concern is I don't think my husband is comfortable with me sharing this story. Thank you for your courage and obedience. May God bless you and your channel. Godspeed my love Godspeed ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
To any woman, who may fall upon this comment. May Peace and Healing be upon you all. My greatest advice to you, as someone who has dealt with this tediously... would be to focus on yourself. You can not rely on your husband for happiness. I REPEAT, you can NOT rely on your husband for happiness. Your happiness and joy should be rooted in yourself and The Creator ONLY. That way these external influences, (like your husband's p addiction) will not uproot the love you have for yourself and for YOUR LIFE. Learn to not be ATTACHED to anything, including your husband's actions. Learn to be an observer and experiencer but to not attach your spirit to anything your husband does because He WILL hurt you... your husband is only human, and unfortunately humans are susceptible to many flaws and traumas.... Am i telling you to tolerate this perverted behavior? Absolutely not. Once the issue has been brought to light, it is important that you address him in a respectful and loving way. Not in a criticizing and judgemental manner. Your husband needs help, first and foremost. And if you can take the time to get out of your feelings and not make it about YOU, you may end up with a better result. You need to address this from a place of concern, letting your husband know that this addiction as any other addiction will be harmful to his life, his relationships with others, his mental and physical health.. and that this is a serious problem that you really desire for him to overcome... With this point of view, he may be more receptive to what you have to say. Do your research on porn addiction, so when you address him- you can show him studies and articles so that your argument is based upon facts and deep consideration... Lastly ladies, like the sister said... focus on your HEALING. Focus on your happiness.... become one with The SOURCE, our Heavenly Father, and Creator. Eat Healthy, go on walks, pray, meditate, get your hair done, get your nails done, take care of yourself... Much Love & Light to you yall. Do not let the enemy steal days or years of your joy because of someone else's problem... Life is too precious for that. If you need prayer and support, please email me @ honeybeesn214@gmail.com.
I am wondering why I would heal by myself? It is the unfaithful spouse that brought on this unfaithfulness and the lying with it brought a lot of pain. Relapse is a word that seems to make it "OK" to do again and again, just as it has happened for us for 40 years. Why would I trust him when he has said "Sorry" when caught. Never confessed, but when caught. I believe he has to choose to DO the work. Go to God and CLING and he needs to find good help. I am sad for ever trusting him again and again. He sure betrayed me!
Relapse is a lie. It’s sin. It’s willful sin hiding behind a cloak of struggle. It’s not a struggle, it’s selfishness. It’s a decsion. It is not a relapse, you are right
If you think its easy to quit for men. Stop drinking all alcohol, smoking, overeating, watching tv shows , etc or anything you are dependent on to cope with stress and see how you feel. Im 100% against porn but it rarely has anything to do with the partner. It is equivalent to a drug addiction that happens to be tied to the sexual pathway. If you are with a man who doesnt want to quit he will never quit. You cant change him and you wont change him. If you cant handle a partner with this problem the only hope for you is if he works on himself, or accept him for what he is and realize youre simply dealing and living with an addict. Youll have to be prepared to love him through infidelity and lies if you stay with him because he might have to go through that to overcome it. If you cant handle that your only choice is to leave him at that point.
Sadly people don't understand how damaging Out Ms to a otherwise healthy relationship. Even outside of the spiritual application, understanding everyone isn't a "believer", its so damaging to the mind and actual health.
I get you so bad, I am going through the same right now, thanks for sharing, it is so embarassing to share sometimes, I just pray to God for my husband to understand that he is hurting me... He even stopped going to the sunday masses...
The fact that Canyon didn't come clean himself when he relapsed & it took you to find out by chance, tells me he may not let you know if he relapses again. Ultimately if both of you can't get over this *hurdle* which may come up again & again, you may be on the market again for husband #3. If this were to happen, I'm sure breakup will not be nearly as *nasty* as it was with husband #1. Canyon's *P* addiction alone doesn't make him a bad man & he most likely would continue to fulfill his family obligations in event of a breakup. I believe you *naturally* live & aspire to *higher* ideals. So it would only be natural for you to possibly move on without him in the future. Of course this is only my opinion.
Yeah I just found this out the other day. But I’m praying God continues to help him. We aren’t married. We were talking for 5 months and dating for 1. So I just came to the conclusion we need to be friends and make sure he’s really delivered from that. I’m not perfect either , but I was not addicted to p. I did other stuff. So we’re both seeing if we are healed and cleared. But if not then I pray God heals him and me. And that he will have self control when it is his time to be married and same with me.
I've been super sick and house bound for 1.5 years. My husband has been lying and cheating on me with porn for 5 years. Pls pray for me. I'll pray over y'all too
Im sorry your hust getting started. Deal with it when it gets very bad, same sex, watching woman being raped qnd drugged. Im so glad your so strong. I was to in the beginning too doll. I hope you dont have to go through what we been through. You can give him the world it wont be enough!! Hes commited to himself love. Make a video in a few yrs id like to see how it goes for you.
Its time to leave. He's not being faithful. Accept no excuses. And I wouldn't walk through someone with evil. Once he apologized and stopped then yes. Male here btw.
It’s not a good idea to suggest leaving. God doesn’t like divorce. Couples need to stick together through the hard times because they made a vow in front of God and everyone to remain together through those tough times.
@@benskywalker7so you accept if your husband is ogling at porn? I'm a male and even I'd not allow if i were a woman. God isn't just God for one. God understands how horrible, low, undesired a partner feels when their spouse look at those stuff. Also not to mention it opens a whole new Pandora box of sin for wife if she's not satisfied because the husband is busy looking at porn.
I just found out after we were married and i assumed we were pure before we got married. Our son was 2 months older old and he came out about it.out son is now 7 months and it’s been really hard. I don’t know how much longer I can withstand this. I don’t understand why there hasn’t been deliverance. 😭
Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I've been in this exact place. I thought my husband and I were pure before marriage and I discovered a severe addiction when I was 7 months pregnant -- 8 months into marriage. I cannot even explain the absolute devastation that I experienced. I became seriously mentally ill and felt as though I couldn't handle it. I just wanted to run away. Fast forward a year and a half, we are doing so well. My husband has truly been able to build trust and make me feel even more loved, secure, and attractive than I did prior to discovering his addiction. It was one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with, discovering that the person I love most "tricked" me into marrying him. But I can finally say, though I didn't think that I ever would, that I am glad it happened and I am so happy that I am married to the man that I am. He's the best man in the whole world and I trust him and love him dearly. Our marriage is a lot stronger than a lot of people's because we fought for it early on. I wouldn't trade that for the world. It took a lot of work on his part for me to feel safe again but because of his commitment to betterment and his love for me and God he truly gave it his all. You can do this ♥ I believe in you and I believe that God can, in time, bring you the same healing that he brought me. Not only have I found healing regarding his addiction, but through his addiction I have found healing in other areas such as childhood trauma. As hard as it was, it changed my life for the better.
@@TheYoungCatholicsHow were you able to finally trust him? Him going to mass and taking communion? We’re Catholic and not even being in a state of mortal sin has deterred him from relapsing time and time again. He reads and knows the bible, believes in Christ but still falls into temptation. We haven’t gone to mass in weeks. I hate this addiction.
My Ex Husband was a huge addict & never got the help he truly needed, we got divorce over it cause it started with the "P" then went to people in person. It devastated me, cause I never thought I was good enough after that, he never wanted to be honest with our Psychiatrist. He told me out of therapy that while he was overseas in the military that a huge shipment of "P" got dropped off to them. I was so discouraged that the military would even allow that to our Warriors.
My bf and i were set to move in together after being together for a year and a half to close space between our LDR. Then i found out about his addiction after he had been lying to me about it and i feel like i dont even know him anymore.
I don't know why a man needs to look at p when your in a relationship or marriage with some1 like you or the girl in the video. It makes the girl feel really insecure. I just don't understand why men look at it in relationships or marriages
@@masudahmed6029 usually addiction starts before a relationship is cultivated. Addiction begins to fill a void in the addicts life, and most men find themselves wanting to stop, but struggling to, because at some point it it becomes a chemical addiction in your brain that completely rewires their neurotransmitters to be and stay addicted.
Men in relationships should not even think about porn. Like have some self respect .. self control??? Girl leave him now and give thanks you didn’t marry him yet
I can understand how it’s hurtful and if I had a girlfriend or a wife I wouldn’t want her to look at naked men so I wouldnt look at porn but at the same time it’s a little unrealistic that men won’t masturbate most men have been masturbating several times a day since their early teenage years it’s ingrained very difficult habit to break, I do agree porn can be harmful and I am probably a porn addict .
Can you please do a video on what the effects of watching p are? You mention it changes the brain but can you please go more in depth based on your personal experience. Like what it does to their personality and signs to watch out for.
It's hard for me to believe all these women say about leaving their husbands. No one is perfect, women will never understand this battle for men. I am so glad I have a loving wife, who is there for me, good and bad. The person who is my rock, the person who loves me, good and bad. I'm happy that these women who want to leave are so perfect and don't care to help the person they say they love. I am truly blessed to have my partner who loves me and wants to help me and would never abandon me when I slip.
Matthew 5 28-29 "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart". Adultery is a biblical reason for divorce.
So since no one is perfect, would you also give the same grace to your wife if she had an online affair? How about an in person affair? Lusting after another woman is committing adultery. Adultery is CHEATING. I bet you'd be singing a different tune if your wife was having her sexual or emotional needs met by someone else. Stop with your excuses and be a Godly man and husband! Get the professional Christian help you need and stop playing the victim.
@@moderntraditional-f6wreal. Thats why I broke up w my bf. We’re friends now to see where it leads but it’s gonna take time. And God willing the next person if it’s not him I pray they be honey in Jesus name. But I’m not even looking for that rn bc I need some alone time with Jesus.
My spouse says he hasn’t looked at it in a long time, but he is soooo controlling and emotionally inconsistent and dealing with any sort of conflict between us has been impossible
Thank you for the video. I see a lot of comments like “it’s unacceptable! You need to leave him!” etc…don’t get me wrong it is a problem and definitely needs to be addressed in a marriage and worked on especially if a spouse wants to fight it. To give up on your spouse just based on the fact he or she watches p is wrong 😑 there’s a root to it that sometimes involves two to find. The main thing here is the spouse’s will to fight it.
Porn is cheating. I agree that if u love them u should try to stay and work together. But it's cheating, it's adultery. Internet prostitution. So if he keeps doing it. the woman has the right to leave biblically
@@SoFetch0 please do. Jesus did call it adultery but I don’t remember him saying leave your spouse after it 🤷🏻♂️ maybe i don’t remember it well but pretty sure he never said “leave”
@@vladturov3572I believe adultery is the only thing that is allowable in divorce and since looking at woman with lust is adulterous.. I’d say that’s a valid reason to get a divorce
I don't do garbage that will hurt my significant other. This to me sounds like excuses for ahi!!y behaviour. I also like looking at beautiful women but this is ludicrous. And it sounds like gaslighting.
Perry Stone's daughter had a p. addiction It started when she was a teenager. God is reportedly (per Perry) using her to witness about it and help people get free.
Please be clear, its not that its MORE of a issue/problem in "spiritual" Homes. Its that its More RECOGNIZED as a Issue/problem in "spiritual" homes. Unfortunately "secular" homes are affected as much or more but because its seen as "acceptable/normal" behavior, especially for boys and men....it goes addressed and often to their detriment.
My issue is my husband keeps saying it’s my fault he does the dating apps or Facebook messages all his exs. It’s 12 years of marriage now. Had covenant eyes for a few years and then just stopped bc he was finding ways around it.
I was previously in a marriage that ended in divorce for many reasons, but my marriage now is 100% different. They really aren’t comparable. So when going through this, I didn’t compare it or throw in the towel quicker just because of my previous marriage. To answer the question, divorce has never been on the table for my current marriage, even going through this. 🤍
I just hope you think about this: your previous marriage was a level of Hell NOBODY deserves and certainly not YOU. Please don’t let experience let you settle in your current relationship or future ones. It doesn’t have to be literal Hell for you to not deserve it. You deserve better and your daughter and other children will ALWAYS want the BEST for their mom ❤️
Please please stop giving men an excuse to break the vows!!! Its bibilcal!!! Its so bad this is the one thing that jesus allows for divorce. Why because its devastating. Your sweet but your too new at this. Dobt be naive. My husband did the same thing just loves on me like im the only person in the world. Guess what didnt stop him!
Best comment I’ve seen in this… all men or majority are gona do it as well as some women. I personally have no issue with my partner looking at it as I look at it myself because we are physical beings with hormones and sex is a healthy part of life. Even men of “GoD” couldn’t sustain from their desires. Look how many catholic priests acted in the most horrendous way to satisfy themselves. My point being sexual urges are I biological and chemical reactions. If man and wife are to be married and stay faithful to each other forever then it’s unrealistic and has a high chance of failing if looking at strangers using p also isn’t allowed. He is not doing anything with another person he is satisfying an urge which sometimes our partners don’t for us and woman are no different. All women get turned on and have the very same urges themselves as we too have sexual organs so why not talk about that instead of men as the only ones who have sexual desires then call it an addiction because they masturbate! Woman masturbate and it’s healthy. You have more chance of being faithful to each other if you stop lying to yourselves about this and be willing to be open and honest with each other. This comment goes to all women out there 🤷♀️
I'm a guy and i remember when i found out my Girlfriend was watching porn whenever i left for work. I came home unexpectedly one day and she had her web cam set up and a bottle of lube right there on the computer desk. It might not sound like a big deal, but before that, I had NO idea she was doing that. Oh well, that was like 16 yrs. ago. Today, NOTHING surprises me about anything or anyone. Merica!🇺🇸👊🏻😁
Giving to god statement sounds silly.. god gave free will to mankind, no? So what exactly is being given? And if god is all knowing, wouldn’t it make sense to know everything through experience? If god made mankind in his image, and gave pleasure senses to use and enjoy what does this accomplish? He needs time decide his own path for his own reasons and have his own existence. It’s nobody’s job but his to live his life. Changing another person o fit a different narrative is futile. Your last point is very valid in saying he has to want to change. Change comes from within. Each of us are individuals and individually responsible for our thoughts, responses and actions. The whole devil vs god thing is a scapegoat response to not taking accountability for the things only the individual can control. Everything else is outside our control. Pray or don’t pray that’s up to you. Healing will happen either way as long as the individual owns their stuff, controls their controllable things and not worry about the uncontrollable.
It's about men no longer neesing women. And women attempting to claw back what little power they have over a man. I think it's a good thing for men. Men are innovating their way away from women
So let me get this straight your husband takes your severely disabled daughter who is dying, to the hospital overnight. Leaves her in the room alone OR he did it while in her room🫣 if that isn’t theeee sickest thing for anyone to do. How could you possibly rationally support him after the blaitant disrespect for your baby daughter??? Like dear lord, really? Like I am not giving hate I’m truely trying to understand how you could be ok with the circumstance in when he did it? 😫🤢😳🤯
Okay I mean this with the up most respect i truly am trying to understand but why is this a problem? I personally don’t really see it has a relationship issue I don’t care if my partner looks at porn or not. Is is a cheating thing? Do you just not like it? Or..??
For a person with Christian values, morals, and your commitment to EACH OTHER through marriage, it is most definitely wrong and incredibly hurtful. I view it as cheating/infidelity yes, because if you found pictures of another woman on your man’s phone, would you consider it cheating? Probably. Porn is the same thing. Also the deception part of it, the lying.
The issue is trust. And lack of respect. Over time porn warps a man's mental health so even if it doesn't effect his behaviour and attitude in the beginning over time he will become sick and unable to love properly. He was in the hospital with her kid. That is so messed up.
I watch porn, I also produce porn and lemme tell you that before the pornography I could not connect sexually to my body and lemme tell you that I was suffering with depression and I was miserable till I started performing in pornography for the first time I felt good about my body and I cried, I cried tears of joy it was so emotional for me that for the first time in my life I was able to connect to my body sexually and spiritually. Plus I happen to be trans so that was the biggest reason why I just HATED my body so much and I changed what I could and I am happy with myself.
@@babsbunny_ Aww thank you, for me it was life changing because I went through hating my body as a teenager while I was going through male puberty and I did not like wat was happening to my body at all I was getting hairy and bigger and taller so yeah it was not good at all and I didn't know what was wrong with me. So then one day I was at a bar and this man and this other woman that was with him came to me and offered me a chance to perform in one of their scenes and at first I was like pretty iffy but then I said yeah sure so then they went ahead and helped me sign up for it so then I shot my first scene a month later then that's how my career began.
@@sofiabravo1994 how have I been deceived? Plus I make money off of what I'm doing and I was able to buy these 2 new amazing gaming PCs and a Xbox Series X. So explain how I've been "deceived" please. I also don't watch porn never really found watching porn that exciting but doing it omg it's the best and I am NOT ashamed of my own body.
Am I hearing this right? You knew your partner was a porn addict and you let him go visit your disabled daughter overnight in which he relapsed? I'm sorry, extremely poor judgement.
Heck woman watch some”p” with him and you might actually find it brings back some spice that was obviously missing or he wouldn’t have had any desire to view it. It’s not a nasty terrible thing especially if both parties are involved and willing to try something different. My spouse and I would watch maybe 5 minutes and that’s all it took to liven things up a little bit. After you’ve been with the same person for a long time especially if it’s pretty vanilla in the bedroom it becomes boring and that’s when you find your spouse enjoying “p” and a lot of the time these men watch and then enjoy time with their wife. That’s why every woman and man should switch it up from time to time ya know. Even the most Christian of Christian’s have a little naughty time in the bedroom! That’s what keeps marriages together!
Ashley, just because you don't have the self respect to recognize you and your husband aren't being loyal & faithful to each other does not mean others should be alright with it. I think you have a lot of healing to do. Sex is sacred, and p kills love. I pray you and husband get help
Marriage is more than just sex. A person is so much more than just sex. It’s so sad to see how you minimize marriage, what’s meant to be a covenant, and people to how they can perform in the bedroom. Porn has so many nasty side affects. It is not what heals a marriage. You know what does? Communication, humility, and love. Not porn. To anyone reading this who thinks they should just accept their partner’s addiction or tendency to watch porn or to anyone who is accepting their own addiction or tendency, it is NOT the answer! Seek the help you need because it destroys honest relationships. And most importantly, seek Jesus for He is willing and able to heal and restore you and all that you have lost. God bless you❤️
I have been working through this with my husband the last 18 months and it has been a very up and down journey. We are both still receiving professional help both individually and together and we have come a long way but it is a work in progress. It is so incredibly isolating because it is not an addiction that is talked about. That constant inner struggle of “why can’t/won’t he just stop? It’s not a drug, it’s not alcohol, why can’t he just stop looking?” and it seems so incomprehensible that it can be so addictive with urges and triggers and relapses. Thank you for sharing your journey, it is so helpful to not feel like I’m the only one going through this 🤍
Me and my wife are also facing P-addiction, with me being the addict. One thing that my wife has cut out of our relationship is sexting. Not just photos or videos, but we don’t talk about sex at all over texting. This has lead to many arguments and put stress on marriage. She views it as I’m just opting her over porn. My stance is I feel like if I have struggles or urges I can’t go to her for help. Plus, with my work schedule I’m away from home a lot and long for sexual intimacy with her. And Everytime we have this argument I feel like I’m being rejected by her and it’s like I’m married to two separate people. When im with her in person she’s my wife in every way possible but just as soon as I leave she’s someone completely different. Do you have any advice on this? Am I wrong for wanting my wife in that way? Or that when I have urges or struggles I turn to her as my wife instead of porn?
😭😭😭😭 The heart ache is deeper than the ocean…. I’ve become numb and bitter honestly. I try to pretend that it’s not there but actions always speak… What do you do when they deny it or make you feel like the “crazy” one… ❤️🩹 I’m exhausted. 😢
@@mariahenschel2557. That’s Satan’s plan. The goal is to dissociate you, or worse, turn you into a Herculean “overcomer” who joins a Gnostic cult because you are self-righteousness over being the BIGger person. Satan disguises himself as the Angel of light at the end of this tunnel!
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Thanks to the ladies who are sharing their stories about their husbands. I am engaged to a man who has a porn addiction. Reading your comments has been such a confirmation that I need to leave this man and run for the hills. Praying that your marriges heal
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RUN!!!!! if you marry him you or what’s called a beard. A beard is a wife that is actually a cover for his sick behavior in his life.
Lord, I don't want to put my future wife through all of this! It hurts me! 😭😭😭
Then make her your one and only standard of beauty. Help her to see you only have eyes for her. If she desires you and you can show her that she is valued for more than sex and you can show her that you want to be affectionate without expectations, then she will continue to desire you (barring something like depression, life changes, medical issues). Address those and be understanding when they happen. And most of all if she has your child, treat her extra well through pregnancy and show her she is special and loved and still attractive through it all. If my husband had done this even with his porn problem, things would have been way better! Luckily we are healing, but I didn't feel valued for anything other than what I could do for him in the bedroom and never felt good enough.
@@christys.3912wow. As a man who’s been married 24 years , that’s a pile of “ ifs” The conditional love you’re speaking of is a two way street. And it’s hilarious that you can’t see yourself in this as part of the problem. Do you watch fantasy ? As in romantic comedy’s , soap operas, dramas , etc? Doesn’t this skew the relationship ideal same as sexual porn ? Isn’t this lady porn ?
You want him to think of you as his one and only. The other side of the street is that you have to BE his one and only. And that can’t be done with the list of perfect scenario conditions you’ve laid out.
Thank you for being brave enough to share your story, and for being a support to the women who are not given the validation, empathy, safety, affection, and respect they deserve. And as a man, I am so sorry for the pain that the unhealthy sexuality of so many men brings into the lives of the women we care about.
My husband isn’t a believer. We got married in 2021. Been together 7 years. He won’t admit to being addicted but he views is every day and don’t even want anything to do with me. I just started following God last year.
I keep praying for him. I know God is good
Major problem with p addicts is their lack of interest in actual sex . Major issue which men needs to introspect.
They don’t change. Your best bet is to be gone and not believe the lies.
Porn turned you into a widow
@logicalindian9227 What if I'm not in a physical relationship with my partner but I watch it?
At least he's in agreement that it's wrong, is honest with you, and is taking steps to save the marriage.
I’ve never seen a video talking about how hurtful this can be. Thank you for making me realise I am not the only one who feels this way. I now have a very happy marriage but my previous relationship unfortunately was not good in many ways. Even tho it’s been a long time since this has been a problem for me i still can relate to the hurt and feeling like a rock was in my chest and so hurt i couldn’t find words to start with. My ex lied to me many many times while making me think I was the problem and what he was doing was normal.
Thank you for talking about this and thank you to your husband for allowing you to share his thoughts too.
Okej then you should expand ur use of yt
Because porn is a big issue and socieity normalise it. Sickening
thank you for this video!!!! I need help as a wife!!! Are you putting more on your recovery so I can see ???
I hope I find a happy marriage like you did.. your experience gives me hope.. my previous relationship was traumatic he had a PA and a SA. I hope I find a man who doesnt have this problem since I’ve learned is very common now a days! 🥹
He did it on my laptop and it was the nastiest thing. We were 10 years together. Lost my youth to this man. It's not what broke us up but it was a great source of distress for me.
I’m so sorry 💔
I don't understand why you ladies put up with this crap?
That’s horrible I’m so sorry 😮💨
I bet him watching you get fat and feed your face every night was nasty as well
Why are there hundreds of videos to help the person who Uses porn
But barely a trickle of help for the person traumatized with partner betrayal, feelings of pain, broken trust, not feeling safe, and so many other feelings of pain
Search videos on how to manage betrayal trauma, that’s what’s helping me
I just found P on my boyfriend phone yesterday and he kept trying to tell me he didn’t remember. When I had proof. I feel so betrayed and insecure now… and feel sick to my stomach. And having a hard time trust him again and to love him. 😢
I'm a guy who watches porn frequently but I'm single, so I'm not hurting anyone in a relationship, but I've noticed its more often, than normal, I guess it's an addiction, but I've found myself into gay porn most often. Of course I keep it mostly to myself. I don't know what to think.
@@bubba283if you’re a christian you should definitely seek help in a church or with a counselor, even if you’re single you’re hurting yourself and destroying the way your brain is wired
Girl leave him immediately. Immediately. God hates a lying tongue.
@@SoFetch0 are you casting stones from a glass house ? You never watch fantasy ? No dramas ? No romantic comedy’s ? No soap operas? These are lady porn. They infect a relationship just the same. They make up unrealistic expectations, and you guys try to live them out. Same same.
@bubba283
I am not judging you but what you are doing is hurting you and your future spouse. Your habbits now will be the habbits you will have when you are married. Imagine your future wife saying yes to you on the alter but you have all the women you did sexual stuff online with standing right by your side on your wedding day. It doesn't matter where the location of the women is. Then you say I wish I didn't watch pornagraphy when I was single. She doesn't want you cheating on her before you meet her, she wants you to be working on the man she needs you to be faithful. Be faithful to her when you are single and when you married.
I’m still healing. My husband hasn’t looked in along time but it’s still taking a toll on our marriage.
May I ask what the implications are? I’m considering dating someone that struggled/struggles with this severely and it has greatly damaged his view of women. I like him and we are so similar in many ways but this is getting in the way of me wanting to be his girlfriend. He’s sorry, and is trying to change fundamentally, but I’m not sure his brain can be fully rewired and I was SA’d as a child so it’s deeply triggers me. I think it would help if I can know the problems that arise when dating someone that has struggled with this.
@@Pickle2222. Don’t continue your relationship with him. HE has to take the steps to battle his addiction on his own. You can’t fix or change him. After 26 years of marriage I found out that my husband came into our marriage with a porn/sex addiction. I saw signs, questioned him but he was a brilliant liar and excellent at gaslighting. He started therapy, a support group, bible study, volunteering but he will always be an addict. It escalates as time goes on. He was getting more aggressive with sex, going to strip clubs, covering my face while having sex. I’m a strong woman but he broke me. I gave up so much when we married and raised our children. Took care of the house, laundry, cleaning, shopping, holidays, school issues…all while he would be off at the strip club getting lap dances, paying to watch porn. He took money from our family to feed his addiction. We always have cash in the house, I never counted it because I never in a million years would think he was doing this. The cash is mine, I came into the marriage well off. Now, I count the cash every morning and night. None is missing but I also changed the combination on the safe. I don’t know how it affects other women but here’s what it’s done to me, keep in mind I’m not a nagging wife, needy person, controlling in any way, fine on my own sort. I’m retired now (53), was a Lt. Colonel and went into consulting. I’m not one to cry easily or lay down and be a doormat. A year and a half in, after finding out the things my husband has done, I’m not whole. He shattered me. My heart will never trust him again, my brain cannot trust him. He lied for so long about so much that it’s just not possible. I feel betrayed, unattractive, used as a tool to get him off and I’m a complete fool for missing it all. We are separated, still living in the same house. We’re roommates. It works for us as I’m able to be logical and rational enough to separate the situation. The fury I have STILL, is intense at times. I’m a Christian who attends church every Sunday, prays every day and by the Grace of God can get out of bed and face the day, even when I don’t want to. Just last week he came clean about a one night stand he had while I was pregnant with our second child. I told him to run. The rage inside was so terrifying that I knew I could hurt him very badly. He ran, smart move. I’m back to square one of reigning in my anger and betrayal. IT WILL NEVER END! Once an addict, always an addict and while I understand addiction all to well from my family I’m not going to be knocked down again by him. I won’t abandon him but the marriage is over. Why do we remain in the same house, you may ask? Because everything is mine. He loses the roof over his head, has no family to help him. I will love him with all of my being until the day I die but he’ll never touch me again. I will support him through his addiction the best I can as a friend but not as a wife. I’m also not willing to sacrifice Holidays with our children or grandchildren. Nana and Papa’s house will always be here for them. Save yourself the heartache and wretched pain, do not continue with your relationship. Wishing you all the best and praying for you. 🙏💚🍀 much love from Ireland.
@@Pickle2222one word. RUN.
@@Pickle2222 I don't know where my first comment went but it was so important that ill write it again. If he is addicted, then it is highly likely that 'regular p' no longer stimulates him and is seeking out extreme p and potentially even illegal. If he is not your husband, I urge you with everything in me, to go in the other direction. Somethings can leave an imprint on your soul for what seems like forever and he will treat you like an object with no remorse. The best you can do is pray for him.
Honestly, dont waste your time@@Pickle2222
“I don’t have control over what he decided to do” but you CAN set boundaries ❤️
He wants to change but our whole relationship he has yet to. I’m just emotionally unwell now
Same
@@YourDestiny1010 After his whole life, he has been clean for months, like cold turkey, 7 months. I’m so proud, and I just wanna update so any other helpless peeps like me at the time can have some hope. Your man has to want to change, that’s the key. Love all
@@cosasconsuelo2639 that’s what mine keeps doing. He’ll go a long time and then relapse. This time we are seeking help from support groups and counseling. He told me he’s been trying to do it on his own and now he sees that he can’t do it without God. It is just hard for me to trust him in truly doing that. I just have to leave it in God’s hands
My husband says he’s not looking at porn, but I see where he has. When I bring it up he calls me insecure for looking at his browsing history, tells me I don’t trust him. Why would I when so many times I’ve begged him to stop watching porn and he says he will stop then again I see he’s watched it. I feel like I must be unattractive to him if he cannot just be satisfied with me. How many times am I supposed to forgive him for watching porn when he obviously continues to watch and doesn’t want to change. He just tries harder to hide it. When do I finally give up and walk away? I feel so worthless knowing he’s watching other naked women and that makes him hard. But 1/3 of the time we have sex he doesn’t finish or goes completely soft. I just want to be enough. 😢
Yep, get out. Get a divorce
He’s a liar. Tell him you’re going to to look to other men for your sexual needs.
It’s adultery. Leave
As a man i understand your pain, but i want to explain how we see the matter ( i am not excusing the behavior) : as men, we have high sex drive, our thinking brain is shut off when we have the urge to "do it", so it is very hard to resist it, but it is an addiction : even if we know it is going to hurt you women we keep doing it, i am really really sorry that you take it personal when we watch it, can you ladies find a way to not take it personal as we men get the neccessary help ?
Thank you
@@omartrachen6794 no we cannot stop taking it personally that men are selfish and undisciplined. Your logic is actually disgusting.
I'm only a few minutes into the video and your story is already making me emotional because it sounds like you're telling my story
Yes!!
My ex husband had an issue with p. It shocked me because he was a born again believer. Our marriage ended with him divorcing me. After that, he had p. all over his house- magazines and videos. I thought he had stopped looking at p. He's remarried to a wonderful Godly woman but is only 60 and is in the end stages of Parkinson's disease. She cares for him herself with the help of her children. He can't look at p anymore. It's sad how his life worked out.
That's interesting you bring up Parkinson's. My late beloved father, bless his heart and soul, suffered from Parkinson's disease for over 20 years so I have some experience with this...many of the medications used to treat PD are based on dopamine (for example L-dopa, carbidopa, and etc). Dopamine, as you may know, is closely linked to compulsive behavior and is closely involved in addictive disorders, and in fact one of the side effects of these PD medications is the sudden development of addictions to things like gambling and pornography, even if the person has _never_ exhibited this behavior before. In the late stages of the disease, when my dad was developing dementia secondary to the Parkinson's, I was clearing out the house in preparation to transfer him to a skilled nursing facility and was shocked to find pornography in among some random papers. My dad was the most humble, straight-laced, sober man who never smoked or drank a day in his life. Parkinson's, especially in its later stages, can prompt some incredibly strange, out-of-character behaviors in people.
Sierra... I don't know how I stumbled on your channel, but I do know it was God. I did walk your shoes at one point in my life. PRAISE GOD, you have a husband who KNOWS God/Jesus/Holy Spirit and wants to be the man/husband God wants him to be. I'll keep you both in my prayers!!!♥️❣️
Thank you for sharing that and for your prayers 🤍🤍
Betrayal trauma is a real thing and the damage it's done to my wife is so intense from my porn addiction. I've been trying to overcome it my whole life and finally found a program that's working. But if I could go back in time I wouldn't have got into any relationship now that I've seen the damage it's caused. I'm absolutely worthless and I pray that somehow death finds me.
God can restore you. True repentance and alignment with God can deliver you from this. You can get through this with God.
I appreciate your kindness, I've been praying, going to church, and dedicating much faith and repentance to God my entire life all to no avail. The only reason I'm finding success now is because I disavow all my shame-programmed view of sexuality that was programmed by religion and society. But the damage has been done to my wife, and I'm just not lucky enough to die in a random car accident at this point. I trust no one when it comes to God because all it has done is perpetuated the problem. No one knows anything. I will decide the parameters on my relationship with deity and will never rely on absolutely anyone but me. Forgiveness is internal, it is not external. I can forgive myself, but in this moment I do not and I often dream of suicide. My existence has brought nothing but pain and I don't deserve to live.
From a wife whose heart has been destroyed by this, I can tell you that you not being on this earth would be a million times more hurtful. Please stay strong and be the best man you can be. Maybe God will use you to help others, I don’t know. But you are important and worthy and I hear how much you are hurting.
@@mariahenschel2557 thank you for your kindness. It's been very difficult finding meaning in my existence or in existence at all. I'm very much over it. It feels deeply overrated, but I drag myself out of bed and I haven't gotten to the point self harm yet, definitely have had plans of suicide though after lots of research.
@@mariahenschel2557 thank you for your words. I'm trying not to hate myself so deeply. I'll try to consider what you're saying. It's very difficult in seeing the value in existing, but I'm trying.
There is also absolutely nothing wrong, as a Christian, with divorcing a spouse over "p." It is sexual immorality and infidelity. For some people, depending on their individual circumstances, the safest and most healing thing they can do is to leave the marriage.
Please explain your stance on divorce.
Til "DEATH" ...do us part! My Wifes problems are my problems, and my problems are my wifes problems.
Is it till Porn do we part or Death do we part
Jesus says that if a man looks at a woman to lust after her, he has commited adultery. He also says that divorce and remarriage is permissible in cases of sexual immorality.
(Divorce with no remarriage is only touched on once in the Bible, as far as I know, when Paul says that a woman should remain unmarried if she chooses not to reconcile with her husband. He doesn't give a reason for divorce in that case.) "Tis death do us part" under any circumstances in not in the Bible. There are however many verses telling us to separate ourselves from people practicing sexual immorality and other sins. I have so much more I could say, but this is just a TH-cam comment, so I'm keeping it short. I hope that explains it a little. @@vw908
Adultery is biblical grounds for divorce. Adultery is like a spiritual death…
If the world was to have more women like you, the world would definitely be a better place. You are more like what a woman should be, instead of being afraid of your women, she provides safety for you to be vulnerable and has such big understanding. 👏
I sat stop making excuses. Give him an ultimatum. This is unacceptable
The fact that your so involved is pretty incredible
I would appreciate prayers from anybody that reads this. I am one of the men that has struggled with this but I love my life more than anything and I would move a mountain to save our marriage. I have been p free for over 3 weeks and I truly believe God has taken the urge away from me. But it might be too late for my marriage. Please pray for me and my wife. I hurt my best friend repeatedly three different times. At this point, the only one who can heal it is God. So if anybody sees fit I would really appreciate prayers.
Watching one of your other videos when you were telling your story and you stated that you were mad at him and then you asked him if there was something else you wanted to say. I could tell that he was keeping something to himself and not being forthright then I come across this video and it made sense. He should of been here by your side when telling this story because he didn’t tell you he relapsed you found out. I pray that you both make it in your marriage because although we are only seeing what is posted it’s not hard to see where there maybe cracks somewhere.
If more people knew that watching porn is intertwined with sex trafficking I would hope that would make more men stop. It’s an addiction, it’s a change in brain chemistry. I’m sorry I’m not religious, it’s hard for me to think that millions deal with this pain and god exists. All I know is that this sucks and thank you for sharing. I hope this can stop for so many men, so many marriages. It’s fake, it’s sick, and I’m struggling with forgiveness and trust.
I guarantee that was not his first relapse. The fact that you discovered it and he didn't tell you shows that. He probably just got better at hiding it since then... hope he finally changed, hope he is getting regular polygraphs
This hits hard for me.. Me and my partner have been dealing with his bad p addiction for years now.. I feel exhausted, and my mind and heart are just getting to the point where I am feeling nearly done.. The lies are the worst part its hard to trust him ever on his word. I am 18 weeks pregnant and had to be put on depression medication due to the stress and anxiety his addiction has caused me through the years.. How does he stop will he ever stop..?
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When will you upload the second video explain coping mechanisms and healing? I need this 😅
My boyfriend has a porn and lust addiction. We are both Christians and we love each other other dearly. He says he’s not looked at P online but he’s looking at every woman he sees. It’s hurting me so much and I’m having therapy as he is but I feel so alone. I can’t discuss this with my church as there are some rumour mongers out there. Do you provide 1-1 therapy here please? I’m in despair a lot of days over this.
Look for a better man. One who has truly repented and truly wants to seek God not sex. Love in marriage commitment to His Word.
Boyfriend? No not marry him. Women need to realize you get what you get when you get married. Never expect anyone to change or grow just because they get older.
This is an excellent video. I felt God wanted me to share my testimony with this same issue. My only concern is I don't think my husband is comfortable with me sharing this story. Thank you for your courage and obedience. May God bless you and your channel. Godspeed my love Godspeed ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
To any woman, who may fall upon this comment. May Peace and Healing be upon you all. My greatest advice to you, as someone who has dealt with this tediously... would be to focus on yourself. You can not rely on your husband for happiness. I REPEAT, you can NOT rely on your husband for happiness. Your happiness and joy should be rooted in yourself and The Creator ONLY. That way these external influences, (like your husband's p addiction) will not uproot the love you have for yourself and for YOUR LIFE. Learn to not be ATTACHED to anything, including your husband's actions. Learn to be an observer and experiencer but to not attach your spirit to anything your husband does because He WILL hurt you... your husband is only human, and unfortunately humans are susceptible to many flaws and traumas.... Am i telling you to tolerate this perverted behavior? Absolutely not. Once the issue has been brought to light, it is important that you address him in a respectful and loving way. Not in a criticizing and judgemental manner. Your husband needs help, first and foremost. And if you can take the time to get out of your feelings and not make it about YOU, you may end up with a better result. You need to address this from a place of concern, letting your husband know that this addiction as any other addiction will be harmful to his life, his relationships with others, his mental and physical health.. and that this is a serious problem that you really desire for him to overcome... With this point of view, he may be more receptive to what you have to say. Do your research on porn addiction, so when you address him- you can show him studies and articles so that your argument is based upon facts and deep consideration...
Lastly ladies, like the sister said... focus on your HEALING. Focus on your happiness.... become one with The SOURCE, our Heavenly Father, and Creator. Eat Healthy, go on walks, pray, meditate, get your hair done, get your nails done, take care of yourself... Much Love & Light to you yall. Do not let the enemy steal days or years of your joy because of someone else's problem... Life is too precious for that. If you need prayer and support, please email me @ honeybeesn214@gmail.com.
Cheating is cheating. These Christian men need to realize that
I am wondering why I would heal by myself?
It is the unfaithful spouse that brought on this unfaithfulness and the lying with it brought a lot of pain.
Relapse is a word that seems to make it "OK" to do again and again, just as it has happened for us for 40 years.
Why would I trust him when he has said "Sorry" when caught. Never confessed, but when caught. I believe he has to choose to DO the work. Go to God and CLING and he needs to find good help.
I am sad for ever trusting him again and again. He sure betrayed me!
Relapse is a lie. It’s sin. It’s willful sin hiding behind a cloak of struggle. It’s not a struggle, it’s selfishness. It’s a decsion. It is not a relapse, you are right
If you think its easy to quit for men. Stop drinking all alcohol, smoking, overeating, watching tv shows , etc or anything you are dependent on to cope with stress and see how you feel. Im 100% against porn but it rarely has anything to do with the partner. It is equivalent to a drug addiction that happens to be tied to the sexual pathway. If you are with a man who doesnt want to quit he will never quit. You cant change him and you wont change him. If you cant handle a partner with this problem the only hope for you is if he works on himself, or accept him for what he is and realize youre simply dealing and living with an addict. Youll have to be prepared to love him through infidelity and lies if you stay with him because he might have to go through that to overcome it. If you cant handle that your only choice is to leave him at that point.
Sadly people don't understand how damaging Out Ms to a otherwise healthy relationship. Even outside of the spiritual application, understanding everyone isn't a "believer", its so damaging to the mind and actual health.
Thank you so much for making this video and sharing your story! This is so helpful ♥
You're so welcome, I’m glad it was helpful! 🤍
I get you so bad, I am going through the same right now, thanks for sharing, it is so embarassing to share sometimes, I just pray to God for my husband to understand that he is hurting me... He even stopped going to the sunday masses...
The fact that Canyon didn't come clean himself when he relapsed & it took you to find out by chance, tells me he may not let you know if he relapses again. Ultimately if both of you can't get over this *hurdle* which may come up again & again, you may be on the market again for husband #3. If this were to happen, I'm sure breakup will not be nearly as *nasty* as it was with husband #1. Canyon's *P* addiction alone doesn't make him a bad man & he most likely would continue to fulfill his family obligations in event of a breakup. I believe you *naturally* live & aspire to *higher* ideals. So it would only be natural for you to possibly move on without him in the future. Of course this is only my opinion.
Oh stop.
Your right on with your opinion.
Yeah I just found this out the other day. But I’m praying God continues to help him. We aren’t married. We were talking for 5 months and dating for 1. So I just came to the conclusion we need to be friends and make sure he’s really delivered from that. I’m not perfect either , but I was not addicted to p. I did other stuff. So we’re both seeing if we are healed and cleared. But if not then I pray God heals him and me. And that he will have self control when it is his time to be married and same with me.
I've been super sick and house bound for 1.5 years.
My husband has been lying and cheating on me with porn for 5 years.
Pls pray for me. I'll pray over y'all too
It’s adulterous. Leave. The Lord doesn’t call us to be abused and with unfaithful spouses.
Im sorry your hust getting started. Deal with it when it gets very bad, same sex, watching woman being raped qnd drugged. Im so glad your so strong. I was to in the beginning too doll. I hope you dont have to go through what we been through. You can give him the world it wont be enough!! Hes commited to himself love. Make a video in a few yrs id like to see how it goes for you.
Its time to leave. He's not being faithful. Accept no excuses. And I wouldn't walk through someone with evil. Once he apologized and stopped then yes. Male here btw.
It’s not a good idea to suggest leaving. God doesn’t like divorce. Couples need to stick together through the hard times because they made a vow in front of God and everyone to remain together through those tough times.
Yessss I love an honest man. I’m not a man, I agree should leave. After what she’s been through, I know ALL of her children want MORE for their mother
@@benskywalker7so you accept if your husband is ogling at porn? I'm a male and even I'd not allow if i were a woman. God isn't just God for one. God understands how horrible, low, undesired a partner feels when their spouse look at those stuff. Also not to mention it opens a whole new Pandora box of sin for wife if she's not satisfied because the husband is busy looking at porn.
@@benskywalker7He broke the vows though…
I just found out after we were married and i assumed we were pure before we got married. Our son was 2 months older old and he came out about it.out son is now 7 months and it’s been really hard. I don’t know how much longer I can withstand this. I don’t understand why there hasn’t been deliverance. 😭
Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I've been in this exact place. I thought my husband and I were pure before marriage and I discovered a severe addiction when I was 7 months pregnant -- 8 months into marriage. I cannot even explain the absolute devastation that I experienced. I became seriously mentally ill and felt as though I couldn't handle it. I just wanted to run away.
Fast forward a year and a half, we are doing so well. My husband has truly been able to build trust and make me feel even more loved, secure, and attractive than I did prior to discovering his addiction. It was one of the hardest things I have ever dealt with, discovering that the person I love most "tricked" me into marrying him. But I can finally say, though I didn't think that I ever would, that I am glad it happened and I am so happy that I am married to the man that I am. He's the best man in the whole world and I trust him and love him dearly. Our marriage is a lot stronger than a lot of people's because we fought for it early on. I wouldn't trade that for the world.
It took a lot of work on his part for me to feel safe again but because of his commitment to betterment and his love for me and God he truly gave it his all. You can do this ♥ I believe in you and I believe that God can, in time, bring you the same healing that he brought me. Not only have I found healing regarding his addiction, but through his addiction I have found healing in other areas such as childhood trauma. As hard as it was, it changed my life for the better.
@@TheYoungCatholicsHow were you able to finally trust him? Him going to mass and taking communion? We’re Catholic and not even being in a state of mortal sin has deterred him from relapsing time and time again. He reads and knows the bible, believes in Christ but still falls into temptation. We haven’t gone to mass in weeks. I hate this addiction.
My Ex Husband was a huge addict & never got the help he truly needed, we got divorce over it cause it started with the "P" then went to people in person.
It devastated me, cause I never thought I was good enough after that, he never wanted to be honest with our Psychiatrist. He told me out of therapy that while he was overseas in the military that a huge shipment of "P" got dropped off to them. I was so discouraged that the military would even allow that to our Warriors.
Are you serious?
@paulworgan6599 Yeah I was in the military. Every single person I knew in the military, was addicted to porn. And most of them are proud of it.
Is he still struggling with this? What strategies have you used that have been helpful? You didn’t go into much detail about it
My bf and i were set to move in together after being together for a year and a half to close space between our LDR. Then i found out about his addiction after he had been lying to me about it and i feel like i dont even know him anymore.
I don't know why a man needs to look at p when your in a relationship or marriage with some1 like you or the girl in the video. It makes the girl feel really insecure. I just don't understand why men look at it in relationships or marriages
@@masudahmed6029 usually addiction starts before a relationship is cultivated. Addiction begins to fill a void in the addicts life, and most men find themselves wanting to stop, but struggling to, because at some point it it becomes a chemical addiction in your brain that completely rewires their neurotransmitters to be and stay addicted.
You don’t know him. Leave.
Men in relationships should not even think about porn. Like have some self respect .. self control??? Girl leave him now and give thanks you didn’t marry him yet
Peace & Life Everlasting with Jesus ❤️
I am wondering what are the coping mechanisms for the the partner who's not watching p.?
I can understand how it’s hurtful and if I had a girlfriend or a wife I wouldn’t want her to look at naked men so I wouldnt look at porn but at the same time it’s a little unrealistic that men won’t masturbate most men have been masturbating several times a day since their early teenage years it’s ingrained very difficult habit to break, I do agree porn can be harmful and I am probably a porn addict .
Thank you for talking about this, I know it isn't easy.
Can you please do a video on what the effects of watching p are? You mention it changes the brain but can you please go more in depth based on your personal experience. Like what it does to their personality and signs to watch out for.
Google it and studies will pop up! It's hard to cover it and it's not a terrible long read
It's hard for me to believe all these women say about leaving their husbands. No one is perfect, women will never understand this battle for men. I am so glad I have a loving wife, who is there for me, good and bad. The person who is my rock, the person who loves me, good and bad. I'm happy that these women who want to leave are so perfect and don't care to help the person they say they love. I am truly blessed to have my partner who loves me and wants to help me and would never abandon me when I slip.
Matthew 5 28-29 "But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart". Adultery is a biblical reason for divorce.
So since no one is perfect, would you also give the same grace to your wife if she had an online affair? How about an in person affair? Lusting after another woman is committing adultery. Adultery is CHEATING. I bet you'd be singing a different tune if your wife was having her sexual or emotional needs met by someone else. Stop with your excuses and be a Godly man and husband! Get the professional Christian help you need and stop playing the victim.
@@moderntraditional-f6wreal. Thats why I broke up w my bf. We’re friends now to see where it leads but it’s gonna take time. And God willing the next person if it’s not him I pray they be honey in Jesus name. But I’m not even looking for that rn bc I need some alone time with Jesus.
Did he take responsibility for this?
My spouse says he hasn’t looked at it in a long time, but he is soooo controlling and emotionally inconsistent and dealing with any sort of conflict between us has been impossible
Thank you for the video.
I see a lot of comments like “it’s unacceptable! You need to leave him!” etc…don’t get me wrong it is a problem and definitely needs to be addressed in a marriage and worked on especially if a spouse wants to fight it. To give up on your spouse just based on the fact he or she watches p is wrong 😑 there’s a root to it that sometimes involves two to find. The main thing here is the spouse’s will to fight it.
Porn is cheating.
I agree that if u love them u should try to stay and work together. But it's cheating, it's adultery. Internet prostitution. So if he keeps doing it. the woman has the right to leave biblically
You are more wise than Jesus? Jesus calls it adultery. We will listen to Jesus.
@@SoFetch0 please do. Jesus did call it adultery but I don’t remember him saying leave your spouse after it 🤷🏻♂️ maybe i don’t remember it well but pretty sure he never said “leave”
@@vladturov3572I believe adultery is the only thing that is allowable in divorce and since looking at woman with lust is adulterous.. I’d say that’s a valid reason to get a divorce
I don't do garbage that will hurt my significant other. This to me sounds like excuses for ahi!!y behaviour. I also like looking at beautiful women but this is ludicrous. And it sounds like gaslighting.
It's odd that this issue seems to be more of a thing inside religious circles.
What research are you getting that information from?
Respectfully, that's not true.
Perry Stone's daughter had a p. addiction It started when she was a teenager. God is reportedly (per Perry) using her to witness about it and help people get free.
@@Shakenbabymom It's a big issue in a lot of religions. Mormonism has a big issue with this as well.
Please be clear, its not that its MORE of a issue/problem in "spiritual" Homes. Its that its More RECOGNIZED as a Issue/problem in "spiritual" homes. Unfortunately "secular" homes are affected as much or more but because its seen as "acceptable/normal" behavior, especially for boys and men....it goes addressed and often to their detriment.
does it work for a wife too?
What apps did you use?
My issue is my husband keeps saying it’s my fault he does the dating apps or Facebook messages all his exs. It’s 12 years of marriage now. Had covenant eyes for a few years and then just stopped bc he was finding ways around it.
Leave.
Divorce or acceptance is the only way.
Was divorce ever on the table ?? As in you’ve already been through a rough marriage once already!?? Ect
I was previously in a marriage that ended in divorce for many reasons, but my marriage now is 100% different. They really aren’t comparable. So when going through this, I didn’t compare it or throw in the towel quicker just because of my previous marriage.
To answer the question, divorce has never been on the table for my current marriage, even going through this. 🤍
Love is fake and a failed emulation of what we see on TV shows and movies.
I just hope you think about this: your previous marriage was a level of Hell NOBODY deserves and certainly not YOU. Please don’t let experience let you settle in your current relationship or future ones. It doesn’t have to be literal Hell for you to not deserve it. You deserve better and your daughter and other children will ALWAYS want the BEST for their mom ❤️
Please please stop giving men an excuse to break the vows!!! Its bibilcal!!! Its so bad this is the one thing that jesus allows for divorce. Why because its devastating. Your sweet but your too new at this. Dobt be naive. My husband did the same thing just loves on me like im the only person in the world. Guess what didnt stop him!
Best comment I’ve seen in this… all men or majority are gona do it as well as some women. I personally have no issue with my partner looking at it as I look at it myself because we are physical beings with hormones and sex is a healthy part of life. Even men of “GoD” couldn’t sustain from their desires. Look how many catholic priests acted in the most horrendous way to satisfy themselves. My point being sexual urges are I biological and chemical reactions. If man and wife are to be married and stay faithful to each other forever then it’s unrealistic and has a high chance of failing if looking at strangers using p also isn’t allowed. He is not doing anything with another person he is satisfying an urge which sometimes our partners don’t for us and woman are no different. All women get turned on and have the very same urges themselves as we too have sexual organs so why not talk about that instead of men as the only ones who have sexual desires then call it an addiction because they masturbate! Woman masturbate and it’s healthy. You have more chance of being faithful to each other if you stop lying to yourselves about this and be willing to be open and honest with each other. This comment goes to all women out there 🤷♀️
Thank you for the video.
That's Heavenly Tips. Thanks Ma'am.
My wife’s exact words “long as the bills are paid and momma gets laid I don’t care”
I'm a guy and i remember when i found out my Girlfriend was watching porn whenever i left for work. I came home unexpectedly one day and she had her web cam set up and a bottle of lube right there on the computer desk. It might not sound like a big deal, but before that, I had NO idea she was doing that. Oh well, that was like 16 yrs. ago. Today, NOTHING surprises me about anything or anyone. Merica!🇺🇸👊🏻😁
Your links doesn’t work :(
I just flipping LOVE you !!!! That’s all
I found my man’s whole computer of years worth which doesn’t make since we are polyamorous 😢
What has this done to your sex life?
Interesting education. Thx!
Giving to god statement sounds silly.. god gave free will to mankind, no? So what exactly is being given? And if god is all knowing, wouldn’t it make sense to know everything through experience? If god made mankind in his image, and gave pleasure senses to use and enjoy what does this accomplish? He needs time decide his own path for his own reasons and have his own existence. It’s nobody’s job but his to live his life. Changing another person o fit a different narrative is futile.
Your last point is very valid in saying he has to want to change. Change comes from within. Each of us are individuals and individually responsible for our thoughts, responses and actions.
The whole devil vs god thing is a scapegoat response to not taking accountability for the things only the individual can control. Everything else is outside our control. Pray or don’t pray that’s up to you. Healing will happen either way as long as the individual owns their stuff, controls their controllable things and not worry about the uncontrollable.
not to be disrespectful, but it’s about a real addiction or is it about someone masturbating?
It's about men no longer neesing women. And women attempting to claw back what little power they have over a man. I think it's a good thing for men. Men are innovating their way away from women
@@Lacuna1122incel era is over.
So let me get this straight your husband takes your severely disabled daughter who is dying, to the hospital overnight. Leaves her in the room alone OR he did it while in her room🫣 if that isn’t theeee sickest thing for anyone to do. How could you possibly rationally support him after the blaitant disrespect for your baby daughter??? Like dear lord, really? Like I am not giving hate I’m truely trying to understand how you could be ok with the circumstance in when he did it? 😫🤢😳🤯
Please give me the timestamp, it’s so hard to listen to this video lol
You shouldn’t judge her. You don’t know her life. I doubt yours is any better.
It is the definition of WRETCHED, right? I hope that admission for salvation came up in the counseling.
Thank you for sharing. ❤
Okay I mean this with the up most respect i truly am trying to understand but why is this a problem? I personally don’t really see it has a relationship issue I don’t care if my partner looks at porn or not. Is is a cheating thing? Do you just not like it? Or..??
For a person with Christian values, morals, and your commitment to EACH OTHER through marriage, it is most definitely wrong and incredibly hurtful. I view it as cheating/infidelity yes, because if you found pictures of another woman on your man’s phone, would you consider it cheating? Probably. Porn is the same thing. Also the deception part of it, the lying.
The issue is trust. And lack of respect. Over time porn warps a man's mental health so even if it doesn't effect his behaviour and attitude in the beginning over time he will become sick and unable to love properly. He was in the hospital with her kid. That is so messed up.
Please share more ❤
Eww- grounds for divorce
Crikey woman. You do have control. Leave!!!!.
This is what "submit to your spouse" means. Its a full-circle effect. His problems are your problems, and vice versa.
Godly men are red flags 🚩
You won’t get PAID if you say PORN 😜
What? Who shook your baby? You?
Look up
I watch p0rn when I’m h0rny. Are you afraid your husband will cheat if he watches? I don’t get it.
I watch porn, I also produce porn and lemme tell you that before the pornography I could not connect sexually to my body and lemme tell you that I was suffering with depression and I was miserable till I started performing in pornography for the first time I felt good about my body and I cried, I cried tears of joy it was so emotional for me that for the first time in my life I was able to connect to my body sexually and spiritually. Plus I happen to be trans so that was the biggest reason why I just HATED my body so much and I changed what I could and I am happy with myself.
@@Simpy553 I am so happy for you, porn can definitely be therapeutic because it's controlled while you get to explore your body
@@babsbunny_ Aww thank you, for me it was life changing because I went through hating my body as a teenager while I was going through male puberty and I did not like wat was happening to my body at all I was getting hairy and bigger and taller so yeah it was not good at all and I didn't know what was wrong with me. So then one day I was at a bar and this man and this other woman that was with him came to me and offered me a chance to perform in one of their scenes and at first I was like pretty iffy but then I said yeah sure so then they went ahead and helped me sign up for it so then I shot my first scene a month later then that's how my career began.
@@Simpy553that’s not healthy you are deceived
@@sofiabravo1994 how have I been deceived? Plus I make money off of what I'm doing and I was able to buy these 2 new amazing gaming PCs and a Xbox Series X. So explain how I've been "deceived" please. I also don't watch porn never really found watching porn that exciting but doing it omg it's the best and I am NOT ashamed of my own body.
Am I hearing this right? You knew your partner was a porn addict and you let him go visit your disabled daughter overnight in which he relapsed? I'm sorry, extremely poor judgement.
Unfair
They have this issue bc of the way church teaches about sex and it being bad. Organized religion has done this to our men. So sad
Heck woman watch some”p” with him and you might actually find it brings back some spice that was obviously missing or he wouldn’t have had any desire to view it. It’s not a nasty terrible thing especially if both parties are involved and willing to try something different. My spouse and I would watch maybe 5 minutes and that’s all it took to liven things up a little bit. After you’ve been with the same person for a long time especially if it’s pretty vanilla in the bedroom it becomes boring and that’s when you find your spouse enjoying “p” and a lot of the time these men watch and then enjoy time with their wife. That’s why every woman and man should switch it up from time to time ya know. Even the most Christian of Christian’s have a little naughty time in the bedroom! That’s what keeps marriages together!
Very disrespectful when she just explained about her daughter in hospice and having to find that on her husband's phone
Very true. Can just imagine how vanilla this woman is in the bedroom.
Ashley, just because you don't have the self respect to recognize you and your husband aren't being loyal & faithful to each other does not mean others should be alright with it. I think you have a lot of healing to do. Sex is sacred, and p kills love. I pray you and husband get help
Marriage is more than just sex. A person is so much more than just sex. It’s so sad to see how you minimize marriage, what’s meant to be a covenant, and people to how they can perform in the bedroom. Porn has so many nasty side affects. It is not what heals a marriage. You know what does? Communication, humility, and love. Not porn. To anyone reading this who thinks they should just accept their partner’s addiction or tendency to watch porn or to anyone who is accepting their own addiction or tendency, it is NOT the answer! Seek the help you need because it destroys honest relationships. And most importantly, seek Jesus for He is willing and able to heal and restore you and all that you have lost. God bless you❤️
Gross comment. You must have no heart to make that comment. Grotesque.
I have been working through this with my husband the last 18 months and it has been a very up and down journey. We are both still receiving professional help both individually and together and we have come a long way but it is a work in progress. It is so incredibly isolating because it is not an addiction that is talked about. That constant inner struggle of “why can’t/won’t he just stop? It’s not a drug, it’s not alcohol, why can’t he just stop looking?” and it seems so incomprehensible that it can be so addictive with urges and triggers and relapses. Thank you for sharing your journey, it is so helpful to not feel like I’m the only one going through this 🤍
Going through this for 20 years! Divorcing because I’m tired ! And I want to be love and be seeing
🙏💗 Agree with it being so up & down and isolating - Praying for you sister 💗🙏
Do you have Instagram?
Me and my wife are also facing P-addiction, with me being the addict. One thing that my wife has cut out of our relationship is sexting. Not just photos or videos, but we don’t talk about sex at all over texting. This has lead to many arguments and put stress on marriage. She views it as I’m just opting her over porn. My stance is I feel like if I have struggles or urges I can’t go to her for help. Plus, with my work schedule I’m away from home a lot and long for sexual intimacy with her. And Everytime we have this argument I feel like I’m being rejected by her and it’s like I’m married to two separate people. When im with her in person she’s my wife in every way possible but just as soon as I leave she’s someone completely different. Do you have any advice on this? Am I wrong for wanting my wife in that way? Or that when I have urges or struggles I turn to her as my wife instead of porn?
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The heart ache is deeper than the ocean…. I’ve become numb and bitter honestly. I try to pretend that it’s not there but actions always speak…
What do you do when they deny it or make you feel like the “crazy” one… ❤️🩹
I’m exhausted. 😢
🙏💗🙏 I’m so sorry. I can relate to feeling bitter. This is such an evil tool of the enemy.
Praying for you sister. 💗
Me too, the hurt is unbearable.
@@mariahenschel2557. That’s Satan’s plan. The goal is to dissociate you, or worse, turn you into a Herculean “overcomer” who joins a Gnostic cult because you are self-righteousness over being the BIGger person. Satan disguises himself as the Angel of light at the end of this tunnel!