You touch a key point. Kids don't really care much about adults. They're more concerned about having to take care of you physically and financially. And/or losing their inheritance.
When we get older, we get more lonely. And we have less time to live a good life. We are running out of time...you're not going to get happiness. Dating in North America it is very, very difficult. Children have to understand we are getting older and we need to have .. Happiness...😊
7 minutes in and I stop the video to say thank you Rob for making this video! This is what I really wanted to start understanding…as I am getting ready to meet a Filipina in 3 weeks in Cebu and she is 20 and I’m 57 so we have the same age gap as Chrissy and you. I’ve only told a few close friends. Some are very supportive. Others not so much. My only family is my older brother and his daughter is 19, well at least my future wife is older…my kids are 14 and 16 and I don’t think they care at their age…it was their mother who left me…so I got to make lemonade out of lemons and live my best life! On with the rest of the video…
Rob, you continue to prove yourself (forgive me Chrissy, I include you as well) as the foremost “advisor” available on TH-cam in this genre. Always insightful & informative always on point, always a notch above the fray of catchy titles available. This takes hard work and talent. Thank you both for escorting those of us back at home to a better life. -Godspeed my friends
This is something I needed to hear. I still wonder, none of my family show any interest in going to the Philippines. They still talk me out of going. They say this, but they all, except for two family members still visit me. This is my Life, and I AM Living for me now.
Well friend . thank you for sharing your journey. i see you and Chrissy happy , so I am happy for you. i am learning good lessons from your channel. keep up the good reporting . a time for everything under the Sun. a time to search and a time to give up as lost . your time to plant and build too.
Thanks for making this video and I hope you continue to have good relations with your family. I'm 54 and considering relocating to the Philippines or Japan later this year.
Something we have been contemplating. 4 out of her 6 children now live here in America. We have 9 grandchildren 8 in the US and 1 in the Philippines. So we are thinking of living half in the US and half in the Philippines.
Great topic. I have two boys : 15 and 18 and I’m 58. I have 50/50 custody but they barely stick to that. I basically see them 10/90. So I retired and said screw it, I’m going to travel and enjoy myself. I can’t compete with their mom’s cooking and spoiling them. I went to Greece in the fall and now I’m in Asia. I’ll go back to USA in a week and see if my boys wanna hang out but I kinda doubt it as they are always busy busy busy.
Terrific video, for potential expats who already enjoy a functional relationship with their adult kids (like you). My 19-year old son is cool, but busy with his own life and doesn’t really care about mine. My 18-year old daughter and I are, sadly, estranged. No realistic prospect of that changing anytime soon. My youngest daughter is my sweetie, and my life. Glad you’re living your best life, Rob! 👍
I became an expat at 20, moving to the US. So been living away from my family for 35 years. Don't think anyone would be too surprised if I end up somewhere else in retirement. I see kind of a symmetry: grow up in Norway, college and work in the US, retire in X (Philippines high on the list, but not totally eliminated a few other countries in Asia.)
I must say I really like your videos they are very insightful and revealing it's the first time I have heard anybody talk about how thier relatives react when you live overseas. In my case I live in Ecuador and have been living overseas since 2007 , first in Thailand and now here in Ecuador. I like to live and learn living in new cultures is very interesting and educational the differences have been vast and exciting from a buddist culture to a catholic culture with exotic foods and warm caring people. My cost of living in both places was much cheaper but Thailand now I here is real pricey but Ecuador is still a great deal.
Some of us value privacy. I lived and worked overseas for 20 years. Not once did I share what I did or who I was dating with my family. I had a very active social life in each country. I plan to continue that practice in retirement. My family will be shocked, at my death, if they see another name added to the Trust I leave behind.
Golf is a hard game to learn and as long as you can joke about how bad you are starting off and making good friends and memories is all that matters. You get better every time you play. Golfing is my retirement dream.
Rob and Chrissy, another excellent video, i have shared it with my youngest daughter, I appreciate everything you said, I am looking forward to connecting with you after March 23. I am a very outgoing person and look forward to connecting with other expats in your community. I am looking for short term accomodation for 2 and a half months , any suggestions as to where to look is appreciated.
Hi Andre, great to hear from you again and looking forward to meeting you some of the Expat stay at the KL clubhouse Studio runs around 500 you could also negotiate an Airbnb. However, you might want to come and stay short term for a one week before entering into a longer term rental agreement. Check out the Facebook groups for furnished rental homes. They might agree to a ten week short term rental. You might want to take two weeks just to learn the town and find out if you’re a beach guy or you want a breeze up in the hills.
With excellent advice. 👍🏻. Unfortunately, I am not very close to my siblings. My children may come around or they may not. They are living their best lives and now it’s my time. I will be there later this month to meet someone that I have been talking with since December 2. Thanks for all the information that you have provided and I am truly happy for you both.
Once again another great video Rob. You have some very good points . And I don’t blame you for taking Chrissy to the golf course with you this time. Last time you left her alone and she was showing us video of her in a towel fresh from the shower. 🤣 cheers to you both 🥂🥂
Rob can you do a video on that? 18 months for a spousal visa? That would be an immigration visa, but say she just wants to visit the USA first? Can you get a tourist visa easily?
I talked to a lot of people when I'm on vacation and they say if the kids want to come and see me. They have to come here because we live in a tropical island this is our time now
Great points. Thanks so much. I just wonder how much adult kids would be thinking about their inheritance potentially disappearing. I don’t know if you’re at the point where you would be comfortable doing a video about prenuptial agreements, what is fair based on life expectancy, etc.
Hey brother I am moving out there in one year and nine months from now can you tell me where a good place to live in the mountains gated community I’ll be getting 3600 a month or lie and I don’t want to live on the coast I like living up in the mountains with beautiful scenery. Can you help me out thank you much really appreciate you.
Hi William, thanks for watching. I think I can help we could do some consulting but as a general directional advice Valencia outside, Dumi will have nice breezes not quite in the mountains where I am in uptown CDO has nice breezes, Buon and the town where I golf Manolo Fortich you could consider also and Cavite, which is near the volcano, but has high elevation and good mountains breezes in two hours from Manila. You can email me at fly me to the philippines@gmail.com.
I support my wife and our 3 children she in the Philippines and I am back home in England working i send her 56.000 pesos a month and also help her family and i got a few business there and she put alot of the money i send her she put into the bank for our future and our children wen they go to college our business are doing very good she lives in the Philippines near gensan
Rob you not only have the intelligence but the emotional intelligence to create videos that are in an expat category of their own. This video was very informative about the trials of trying to keep friendly ties at home and abroad, and I hope your family does watch your channel. I don't know how they couldn't find a way to move past any reservations they had after seeing this. I have more than an inkling from your videos that Chrissy is the exception to the rule and you can break everyone's advice and go back to the States if you like. She's too smart to have her perspectives changed by modern-day bias - haha - and she clearly knows what she wants (you lucky American.) Just don't be surprised if you find yourself in a cheaper, yet nice house in the province down the road - that coded message has made its way through the video and given me a chuckle. Keep up the fantastic work!
Thank you for these great videos. When I told my teenage and young adult children that I was interested in dating and likely marrying a Filipina they were very negative as well. One of my best friends was out visiting in California and he was quite negative as well. It was my father though who really took it to the extreme. One of my siblings had told my parents about my sweetie. Before I could even sit down on the couch with my folks my dad started on a 25-minute rant. He called my fiancee a dirty F***ing Filipina whore, and called me a failure in ten different ways (I'm an architect who has had his own business for 20 years). My mom tried to restrain him to no avail. I was so sad and disappointed in a man I idolized that he would say such awful things about my fiancee having never met her. Our situation is different than yours in that for us my darling wife was always going to come to the USA. Time changes people's perceptions and feelings, especially if they can see the two of you in person or at least via video, as a couple. All three of my kids were by that time across the continent in Ontario, Canada so none of them had met her before our formal wedding seven months after Mylene had arrived. My family all came and most were happy to meet Mylene. The ones who weren't were at least polite. Advance the calendar eight years and things are great, but it took a lot of work to get there. Within a year or two my mom always told my wife she was her favorite and she meant it. My dad became positive and friendly though I never knew what he really felt inside. Both sadly passed away during the pandemic. My children all have very positive relationships with Mylene. They and everyone else recognize that she is sweet, smart, and hardworking and that we are in love. Sadly though Mylene and I very much wanted children we aren't able to have them. That removes one potential challenge to my children because all three felt like their dear old dad was trying to replace them. They came to recognize that Mylene and I both love children and wanted to share that love. Today my relationships with all three children are very strong and at least two of them feel closer to Mylene than their own mother even though we are 3,000 miles away and she is nearby. Be prepared to stay the course. Our families and friends know only the stereotypes, and there are lots of them out there in reality as well. If you have found a great companion then family will probably come around and may come to love her dearly as mine have. As important as my family loving my wife is my luck in having a great and loving relationship with my wife's family. My mom used to say over and over again "Family is everything." Well maybe it isn't everything, but it is by far the most important thing I hope your life story turns out as successful as mine has been with my Filipina wife.
Wow “Learning “ what an amazing story for you to share in such detail I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you so much for taking the time to share it with my channel.
Not many expats mention this subject but still it´s a problem to many of us. I can say 3/4 of my family here in europe support me in my choise of life style, few of my family sadly stop talking with me but overall they accept my "new" lifestyle in PH with my "new" filipina Gf wich is in her 30.ies and me 60 so the same age gap as you both. Why are they choose not talk about this?
good vid Rob. i am 68 years old. my 3 adult children do NOT want me to go to the Philippines. they think im being a dirty old man😂 im enjoying watching vids about expats in Dumaguette. sounds like all the old white American dudes are corrupting that place😂 i can watch the DramaGuette stuff all day. maybe you and Chrissy can go there and report on all the expat ridiculousness😂
My sister and nephews and neice have blocked me because I am very happy with my wife and children i work in England for 6 month of the year and 6 months in the Philippines
Don’t let family hold you back from living a fulfilling life. Kids will abandon you by moving across the country but then claim you abandoned them when you move too 😂 Life is a 2 way street. If they want to spend time with you they can visit you. And they can spend their own money. Don’t gift them anything. You’ll find out how much they really care.
Funny...all they can talk to you about is "YOUR MONEY" no one mentioned "YOUR HAPPINESS". That's too bad. Do you think their mother had ANYTHING to do with their COLD SHOULDER issue? 🤔 Why don't you bring her to the US and live in the states for a year or two.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment Paul you could be right. That might be the source of the initial distress. My kids are pretty normal. It’s just taking them time to thaw.
Early on, how did you expect encouragement or support ? Your family and friends knew nothing of the Philippines and culture so they could not advise or encourage you ; what if they encouraged you and it turned out bad ? And they could think : what if you marry and trust some young filipina and then become ill and entrust your assets to her and she takes their inheritance ? What if a bad filipina gets you to buy her a house and then dumps you ? There were a lot of unexpected things that could go wrong and your family had no familiarity with the Philippines and could not advise you, but they could advise you on life in the US, so how could they do anything but remain quiet since failure could have huge impact. So you realized that you needed to educate them and it seems you're doing so and you've encountered the practical problem of the time difference. It seems you've found an enlightened woman but can her poor family survive well without your help ? I think you are doing quite well and will handle everything well and Chrissy seems honorable.
Oh the hypocrisy of “friends” and “family” in your home country. You leave your ”home” for more than a short vacation and you are somehow some kind of traitor. You meet a woman who is much younger than you, and you are automatically a dirty old man and she is “ only after your money”, you couldn’t possibly have anything to talk about, you couldn’t possibly have anything in common, it couldn’t possibly work out whereas things go so incredibly well in the land of milk and honey, where people marry their own age, and where the divorce rate is 50%, with probably 25% of the remainder miserable. Where the responsibility for communication and visiting is a one-way street, it’s your responsibility. I lived in Vietnam for over a decade and ran back-and-forth to my home country once a year to visit and placate “family”, I wish I had my time over. Now I’m living happily in the Philippines. The thing is that in my experience friends and family live their lives precisely as they want to, without ever once asking for my permission or approval. The need for permission and approval somehow mysteriously only works in the reverse. Why a grown man would want or need to go to the lengths described in this video to justify his life choices and life decisions to often ungrateful, spoiled, pampered, and truckled to children (and I’m not referring to yours ) is beyond me. Great channel and content. Keep up the good work.
You touch a key point. Kids don't really care much about adults. They're more concerned about having to take care of you physically and financially. And/or losing their inheritance.
Thanks Alex for watching and taking time to comment
I totally agree. Studies show that boys primarily need their father until 14 then their peers, coaches and teachers are their primary influences.
Very clear and insightful. Well done!
Thanks DrJ
When we get older, we get more lonely. And we have less time to live a good life. We are running out of time...you're not going to get happiness. Dating in North America it is very, very difficult. Children have to understand we are getting older and we need to have .. Happiness...😊
When your kids get the same age as you, they will understand the decision that you made..😊 We won't be here to see them say dad you were right😊
7 minutes in and I stop the video to say thank you Rob for making this video! This is what I really wanted to start understanding…as I am getting ready to meet a Filipina in 3 weeks in Cebu and she is 20 and I’m 57 so we have the same age gap as Chrissy and you. I’ve only told a few close friends. Some are very supportive. Others not so much. My only family is my older brother and his daughter is 19, well at least my future wife is older…my kids are 14 and 16 and I don’t think they care at their age…it was their mother who left me…so I got to make lemonade out of lemons and live my best life! On with the rest of the video…
Thanks for watching and sharing. I wish you the best of luck in three weeks.
Rob, you continue to prove yourself (forgive me Chrissy, I include you as well) as the foremost “advisor” available on TH-cam in this genre. Always insightful & informative always on point, always a notch above the fray of catchy titles available.
This takes hard work and talent. Thank you both for escorting those of us back at home to a better life. -Godspeed my friends
God bless you Robert and thanks for your continued support
This is something I needed to hear.
I still wonder, none of my family show any interest in going to the Philippines. They still talk me out of going.
They say this, but they all, except for two family members still visit me.
This is my Life, and I AM Living for me now.
People don't like change
Well friend . thank you for sharing your journey. i see you and Chrissy happy , so I am happy for you.
i am learning good lessons from your channel. keep up the good reporting .
a time for everything under the Sun. a time to search and a time to give up as lost . your time to plant and build too.
Thanks Rory
Excellent topic.
Thanks Jeff
Cool thanks because I plan on flying out there and then possibly living there. I believe I will enjoy life better.
Best of luck, Vernon, I believe you’ll find a better life too
Very informative. Thank You.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks for making this video and I hope you continue to have good relations with your family. I'm 54 and considering relocating to the Philippines or Japan later this year.
Kool thanks for the feedback and I wish you the best in your decision
Something we have been contemplating. 4 out of her 6 children now live here in America. We have 9 grandchildren 8 in the US and 1 in the Philippines. So we are thinking of living half in the US and half in the Philippines.
Good luck, Rex and thanks for sharing
Great topic. I have two boys : 15 and 18 and I’m 58. I have 50/50 custody but they barely stick to that. I basically see them 10/90. So I retired and said screw it, I’m going to travel and enjoy myself. I can’t compete with their mom’s cooking and spoiling them. I went to Greece in the fall and now I’m in Asia. I’ll go back to USA in a week and see if my boys wanna hang out but I kinda doubt it as they are always busy busy busy.
Thanks for watching and sharing. I love Greece
Terrific video, for potential expats who already enjoy a functional relationship with their adult kids (like you).
My 19-year old son is cool, but busy with his own life and doesn’t really care about mine.
My 18-year old daughter and I are, sadly, estranged. No realistic prospect of that changing anytime soon.
My youngest daughter is my sweetie, and my life.
Glad you’re living your best life, Rob! 👍
Thanks for watching and taking the time to share your personal story Trevor
Another excellent video!
Thank you! Cheers! Samuel
I became an expat at 20, moving to the US. So been living away from my family for 35 years. Don't think anyone would be too surprised if I end up somewhere else in retirement. I see kind of a symmetry: grow up in Norway, college and work in the US, retire in X (Philippines high on the list, but not totally eliminated a few other countries in Asia.)
Thanks for sharing
I must say I really like your videos they are very insightful and revealing it's the first time I have heard anybody talk about how thier relatives react when you live overseas. In my case I live in Ecuador and have been living overseas since 2007 , first in Thailand and now here in Ecuador. I like to live and learn living in new cultures is very interesting and educational the differences have been vast and exciting from a buddist culture to a catholic culture with exotic foods and warm caring people. My cost of living in both places was much cheaper but Thailand now I here is real pricey but Ecuador is still a great deal.
Thanks for watching and sharing that Steve
Hey Rob, happy sunrise from Florida. Very important topic that most EXPATS do not discuss. Thank you brother 😎✌🏽
Thanks Michael
Some of us value privacy. I lived and worked overseas for 20 years. Not once did I share what I did or who I was dating with my family. I had a very active social life in each country. I plan to continue that practice in retirement. My family will be shocked, at my death, if they see another name added to the Trust I leave behind.
Thanks, JD for sharing that
Golf is a hard game to learn and as long as you can joke about how bad you are starting off and making good friends and memories is all that matters. You get better every time you play. Golfing is my retirement dream.
Thanks Ken I think you have a good take on it
Rob and Chrissy, another excellent video, i have shared it with my youngest daughter, I appreciate everything you said, I am looking forward to connecting with you after March 23. I am a very outgoing person and look forward to connecting with other expats in your community. I am looking for short term accomodation for 2 and a half months , any suggestions as to where to look is appreciated.
Another snow day here, cannot wait to get there
It's our time to have a smile on our face. In north america , there is no smile😊... enjoy your ride
Hi Andre, great to hear from you again and looking forward to meeting you some of the Expat stay at the KL clubhouse Studio runs around 500 you could also negotiate an Airbnb. However, you might want to come and stay short term for a one week before entering into a longer term rental agreement. Check out the Facebook groups for furnished rental homes. They might agree to a ten week short term rental. You might want to take two weeks just to learn the town and find out if you’re a beach guy or you want a breeze up in the hills.
With excellent advice. 👍🏻. Unfortunately, I am not very close to my siblings. My children may come around or they may not. They are living their best lives and now it’s my time. I will be there later this month to meet someone that I have been talking with since December 2. Thanks for all the information that you have provided and I am truly happy for you both.
Thanks for sharing!
I'm 47, have sold my flat, now single, just beginning to look into moving there, certainly seems a better bet than Spain where I had been looking at.
I do love Spain and the Costa del Sol however, the female companionship and prices are better here
Once again another great video Rob. You have some very good points . And I don’t blame you for taking Chrissy to the golf course with you this time. Last time you left her alone and she was showing us video of her in a towel fresh from the shower. 🤣 cheers to you both 🥂🥂
Thanks Sailing. 😂
Rob can you do a video on that? 18 months for a spousal visa? That would be an immigration visa, but say she just wants to visit the USA first? Can you get a tourist visa easily?
I talked to a lot of people when I'm on vacation and they say if the kids want to come and see me. They have to come here because we live in a tropical island this is our time now
Thanks Doug for watching and taking time to comment
Dont feel bad Elys Mon didn't like me at allot frist either But after 10 yrs being married to her Daughter she is good now
Thanks, joe for the feedback
Family. Wish I had one.
Odd question, but is golfing affordable where you live? It certainly isn’t in Manila or Cebu City area.
$25 for 18 including caddy , $ 40 closer by at Pueblo de Oro
Not bad. Is there a club you can join, or are they public courses?
Not sure about club, public as far as I know
Great points. Thanks so much. I just wonder how much adult kids would be thinking about their inheritance potentially disappearing. I don’t know if you’re at the point where you would be comfortable doing a video about prenuptial agreements, what is fair based on life expectancy, etc.
Thanks Arizona camper for the suggestions and taking the time to comment
Hey brother I am moving out there in one year and nine months from now can you tell me where a good place to live in the mountains gated community I’ll be getting 3600 a month or lie and I don’t want to live on the coast I like living up in the mountains with beautiful scenery. Can you help me out thank you much really appreciate you.
Hi William, thanks for watching. I think I can help we could do some consulting but as a general directional advice Valencia outside, Dumi will have nice breezes not quite in the mountains where I am in uptown CDO has nice breezes, Buon and the town where I golf Manolo Fortich you could consider also and Cavite, which is near the volcano, but has high elevation and good mountains breezes in two hours from Manila. You can email me at fly me to the philippines@gmail.com.
Thank you so much I’m pretty excited about coming out there. Thank you for your help and really enjoy your shows. I learn a lot.
I support my wife and our 3 children she in the Philippines and I am back home in England working i send her 56.000 pesos a month and also help her family and i got a few business there and she put alot of the money i send her she put into the bank for our future and our children wen they go to college our business are doing very good she lives in the Philippines near gensan
Rob you not only have the intelligence but the emotional intelligence to create videos that are in an expat category of their own. This video was very informative about the trials of trying to keep friendly ties at home and abroad, and I hope your family does watch your channel. I don't know how they couldn't find a way to move past any reservations they had after seeing this. I have more than an inkling from your videos that Chrissy is the exception to the rule and you can break everyone's advice and go back to the States if you like. She's too smart to have her perspectives changed by modern-day bias - haha - and she clearly knows what she wants (you lucky American.) Just don't be surprised if you find yourself in a cheaper, yet nice house in the province down the road - that coded message has made its way through the video and given me a chuckle. Keep up the fantastic work!
Thanks for watching Jay and sharing your thoughts, you might be right
Thank you for these great videos.
When I told my teenage and young adult children that I was interested in dating and likely marrying a Filipina they were very negative as well. One of my best friends was out visiting in California and he was quite negative as well. It was my father though who really took it to the extreme. One of my siblings had told my parents about my sweetie. Before I could even sit down on the couch with my folks my dad started on a 25-minute rant. He called my fiancee a dirty F***ing Filipina whore, and called me a failure in ten different ways (I'm an architect who has had his own business for 20 years). My mom tried to restrain him to no avail. I was so sad and disappointed in a man I idolized that he would say such awful things about my fiancee having never met her.
Our situation is different than yours in that for us my darling wife was always going to come to the USA. Time changes people's perceptions and feelings, especially if they can see the two of you in person or at least via video, as a couple.
All three of my kids were by that time across the continent in Ontario, Canada so none of them had met her before our formal wedding seven months after Mylene had arrived. My family all came and most were happy to meet Mylene. The ones who weren't were at least polite.
Advance the calendar eight years and things are great, but it took a lot of work to get there. Within a year or two my mom always told my wife she was her favorite and she meant it. My dad became positive and friendly though I never knew what he really felt inside. Both sadly passed away during the pandemic.
My children all have very positive relationships with Mylene. They and everyone else recognize that she is sweet, smart, and hardworking and that we are in love. Sadly though Mylene and I very much wanted children we aren't able to have them. That removes one potential challenge to my children because all three felt like their dear old dad was trying to replace them. They came to recognize that Mylene and I both love children and wanted to share that love.
Today my relationships with all three children are very strong and at least two of them feel closer to Mylene than their own mother even though we are 3,000 miles away and she is nearby.
Be prepared to stay the course. Our families and friends know only the stereotypes, and there are lots of them out there in reality as well. If you have found a great companion then family will probably come around and may come to love her dearly as mine have. As important as my family loving my wife is my luck in having a great and loving relationship with my wife's family.
My mom used to say over and over again "Family is everything." Well maybe it isn't everything, but it is by far the most important thing
I hope your life story turns out as successful as mine has been with my Filipina wife.
Wow “Learning “ what an amazing story for you to share in such detail I really enjoyed reading it. Thank you so much for taking the time to share it with my channel.
@@FlyMeToThePhilippines Like you, I only hope that my experiences can help others on a similar path.
Not many expats mention this subject but still it´s a problem to many of us. I can say 3/4 of my family here in europe support me in my choise of life style, few of my family sadly stop talking with me but overall they accept my "new" lifestyle in PH with my "new" filipina Gf wich is in her 30.ies and me 60 so the same age gap as you both.
Why are they choose not talk about this?
Not sure Fraz, thanks for sharing
good vid Rob. i am 68 years old. my 3 adult children do NOT want me to go to the Philippines. they think im being a dirty old man😂 im enjoying watching vids about expats in Dumaguette. sounds like all the old white American dudes are corrupting that place😂 i can watch the DramaGuette stuff all day. maybe you and Chrissy can go there and report on all the expat ridiculousness😂
Yes Glenn it’s all over the Tube - no comment 😂. No drama here in CDO. Thanks for the comment
My sister and nephews and neice have blocked me because I am very happy with my wife and children i work in England for 6 month of the year and 6 months in the Philippines
Thanks for sharing Roger
Maybe they will come to see you at your wedding!?
Thanks for watching Eric and taking the time to share
Don’t let family hold you back from living a fulfilling life. Kids will abandon you by moving across the country but then claim you abandoned them when you move too 😂 Life is a 2 way street. If they want to spend time with you they can visit you. And they can spend their own money. Don’t gift them anything. You’ll find out how much they really care.
Thanks for sharing Napoleon
Funny...all they can talk to you about is "YOUR MONEY" no one mentioned "YOUR HAPPINESS". That's too bad.
Do you think their mother had ANYTHING to do with their COLD SHOULDER issue? 🤔
Why don't you bring her to the US and live in the states for a year or two.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment Paul you could be right. That might be the source of the initial distress. My kids are pretty normal. It’s just taking them time to thaw.
Early on, how did you expect encouragement or support ? Your family and friends knew nothing of the Philippines and culture so they could not advise or encourage you ; what if they encouraged you and it turned out bad ? And they could think : what if you marry and trust some young filipina and then become ill and entrust your assets to her and she takes their inheritance ? What if a bad filipina gets you to buy her a house and then dumps you ? There were a lot of unexpected things that could go wrong and your family had no familiarity with the Philippines and could not advise you, but they could advise you on life in the US, so how could they do anything but remain quiet since failure could have huge impact. So you realized that you needed to educate them and it seems you're doing so and you've encountered the practical problem of the time difference. It seems you've found an enlightened woman but can her poor family survive well without your help ? I think you are doing quite well and will handle everything well and Chrissy seems honorable.
Thanks Jim you raise a lot of solid points in your commentary
Can I support me and my wife and 3 children on 57.000 pesos
Thats a bit tight
Oh the hypocrisy of “friends” and “family” in your home country. You leave your ”home” for more than a short vacation and you are somehow some kind of traitor. You meet a woman who is much younger than you, and you are automatically a dirty old man and she is “ only after your money”, you couldn’t possibly have anything to talk about, you couldn’t possibly have anything in common, it couldn’t possibly work out whereas things go so incredibly well in the land of milk and honey, where people marry their own age, and where the divorce rate is 50%, with probably 25% of the remainder miserable. Where the responsibility for communication and visiting is a one-way street, it’s your responsibility. I lived in Vietnam for over a decade and ran back-and-forth to my home country once a year to visit and placate “family”, I wish I had my time over. Now I’m living happily in the Philippines. The thing is that in my experience friends and family live their lives precisely as they want to, without ever once asking for my permission or approval. The need for permission and approval somehow mysteriously only works in the reverse. Why a grown man would want or need to go to the lengths described in this video to justify his life choices and life decisions to often ungrateful, spoiled, pampered, and truckled to children (and I’m not referring to yours ) is beyond me. Great channel and content. Keep up the good work.
Interesting experience Neil thanks for sharing