I never ever did drugs, gambled , drank alcohol and coffee until i got a job! What does that show you...our jobs play a big factor why we develop bad habits and or are depressed and stressed..using that stuff as an outlet from the reality....the cost of living working 9-5 everyday for a crap wage jus to pay bills and own material crap all while long our family and friends grow old get sick and die and an entire world of beautiful scenery we dont aknowledge
That pretty sums it up. There’s no joy now, plus govts continually bombarding us with propaganda, fear mongering, pretend pandemics (wait for the next lockdown soon) and creating wars that we have to pay for while they reap the profits of this big business.
You figured it out man. Corporate is a soul killa. I don’t smoke, drink or anything drugs but I have to meditate, breathe work, gym, just so I don’t rely on substance.
I have had the same experience. I never drank or drugged through college. When I graduated I started drinking as an escape from the prison I was in. I always thought it was a lack of goals that led to my drinking but just seeing the future laid before me may have been the cause. I have been clean for 2 years working part-time barely getting by and things are better.
what a stupid observation.. before you got a job you were probably still a child. You dont have to buy material crap. you can get by (living and eating) with a 20 hour work week. thats only a few hours a day. Everything above that is your choice of being a slave to your senses, for example buying material crap. We were never meant to see the whole world. That's also a new age thing - modern traveling. Find joy in small things.
I worked a corporate job in IT for decades. Made really good money. I got ran over by a car in 2017 and became disabled. I moved to the forest in 2020. I am not rich. In fact one could call me poor financially but I'm so happy. I walk through the forest with my animals every morning. Life is good for me. I still carry the pain of those suffering with me 💜
Large Trees literaly suck Hate emotion out of you. All Prisons could take inmates into a Forest for decongestion. But "symptoms" is how INDUSTRY makes $ & $ comes with its own Blinders & sacrifice for short satisfaction, Aquisition is short lived & toxic. Unless Tools are used for establishing your skills & talents to express Happiness.
So sorry to hear about the accident you mentioned, the trauma and anguish no doubt was a lot yet in the end it changed your life for the better so congratulations to you and your new found happiness 👏. Our stories have some similarities in the I too live in a forest type setting and with some open land as well with happiness, joy and inner peace as my companions. In western culture and city dwelling a person's life is consumed by anxiety, stress, frustration and anger all of which is rewarded a feeling of emptiness ...and those are just the good things eh hahaha! We have the luxury and even the privilege of viewing things from a safe distance, it's clear to me that living in an artificial world and consuming artificial foods can never lead to genuine happiness. Well I've got some fish to catch but go forth and be happy!
People stopped being people, being human, quite some time ago… social media, economic crises, the cost of living sky high, almost to the point basic needs are out of reach, and the crowning blow….the pandemic, which really destroyed society and people’s ability to relate and connect with each other. It will take a very long time to repair any of this, like decades, maybe not in my lifetime, even, as I’m in my late 50s. It’s heartbreaking and I feel the grief 😢
You forgot the culprit of mass advertising, on line sales and the abandonment of Main Street by Wall Street crawling around like a decapitated snake while ignoring it's languishing corpus body, disconnected to all but glutinous greed.
I retired, sold it all, hedged, and bought dirt in 2019. All I can say is you learn alot about who you are as a human, rather as a person idling in society until your end. I do physical labor, tend to my garden and animals. It hurts, it's painful, I cry sweet and tear... but what I found in solitude, was myself.
moving into a van was my ticket to happiness. i get to keep almost all my salary (no rent). If i loose my job i cant be evicted and i can go wherever i want. Its a peace of mind thing, no attachments and no loans.
I want to get an old 70’s/80’s RV and do the same thing (because the modern ones are such Corporatized and Generic looking trash) -BUT-BUT-Seriously where the hell can anyone stay without being gouged so much per night per week per month to park and stay somewhere. The only place I heard of is in Arizona for $170 to stay for 7 months. But that’s only 7 months out of the year. And where would a person traveling all around collect their mail? And how do you make money while nomading around the country like that.
I stay at work parking lot in the winter time and its free including a power outlet.... Shower at the gym or at work.... i work as a bus driver so plenty of work in every city imaginable....for mail of any you can use post office box or some relative if possible.
Well, when you have everybody and anybody trying to convince you that, the world is passing away, all hope is lost, we have no answers to problems, and now we know too much. We can’t relax. I left a big long book about why up top. I definitely see that.
"They" don't want us to be happy.They lose control of us if we are happy..."they" don't like that. "Happiness" is the biggest rebellion these days! Happiness is the new punk! X
Here’s a way to help happiness, don’t worry about problems you can’t control. Too much is outside of our control, so why worry about it? Take care of what you can and forget the rest.
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Leftist compassion is always fake. Neurotic leftists are at war with the reality that their eyes and ears constantly show them. Gabor Mate’s leftist anti semitism is a good demonstration of this cognitive dissonance.
If only this brilliance and compassion would go above spitting worthless facts, maybe that would counterbalance the George Soros of this world... I mention him because according to wikipedia, Gabor Maté and George Soros have about the same journey. Some would say they look quite alike.
@@Stephen64138 There is a notable difference between these two people. Gabor Mate ran from the communist terror as a 12 year old with his parents, while George Soros' openly and virulently anti-semitic parents allowed 14 year old George to assist Nazis assessing and confiscating Jewish properties after their murder in concentration camps. No doubt, George Soros' fortune was raised from the seeds of stolen properties of holocaust victims. In short, Gabor Mate is a classic neurotic Jewish leftie and the other is pure evil personified but without doubt both are anti-semite.
Throughout The History of Man absolutely nothing has been achieved or won through compassion whatsoever. Libraries are full of books documenting Religious Wars, Genocide, Colonization, etc. as a means of gaining power and shaping the world around us. The greatest strength is indifference, amorality and an extremely high pain threshold. You can disagree face down in the mud trampled underfoot.
One of the best ways to contribute to your individual happiness is to watch the news as little as possible. It's all about wars, death, violence, crime, dirty politics, negative economics & celebrities cheating on each other or doing jail time. So depressing. Also, to limit your time on social media. People present their lives as near perfection while the reality is far from it.
That is exactly right! If you want happiness, focus on what you can control. All this news going on and social media, is nothing but doom scrolling. It is depressing and there is not one single thing any one of us can do to change those sad stories. Turn off the news, don’t look at social media and all these crazy sad stories.
I quit watching TV altogether when I was 19. Many years (20+ yrs) later I married a man who watched TV obsessively. I gradually began to watch it sometimes...but I never watched the news. I'm so much happier.
I've also deliberately abstained from watching the news since about 2008 after a psychiatric episode made up of what professionals call "delusions of reference". An example of such a delusions would be watching the news and believing whole heartedly that the news anchor on the screen is knowingly communicating with you in secret coded language, for example, and that they're watching you in real time and modifying their speech based on your actions that they're able to observe. It was terrifying and I was fortunate to come out of it eventually but I was in the paranoid grips of it for several months as a result of my brain chemistry being disrupted suddenly by an overnight removal of the synthetic (US government-engineered, in fact 😉🙄🤔🥺🤫😔🙂!)chemical compound/"medication" called methadone after habing been on it continuously for two years at that point in time. I went from a 30-milligram daily dose to ZERO milligrams literally overnight. I'm surprised that even with the so-called opiate epidemic that's now been acknowledged for several years, we still hear almost nothing about the psychiatric ramifications of being yanked off an opiate
I am 71 years old and a retired surgeon. I have seen many horrible and unjust things. This discussion has led me to a revelation about the phrase "For you have the poor with you always, and whenever you wish you may do them good; but Me you do not have always." It is permission to be happy despite acknowledging the terrible things present around us." I woke up in the middle of the night with this playing. It's strange how these things work. May all of you have a chance to play today.
I play every single day. I always have something to look forward to each day. For those of you who aren’t car enthusiasts…why? Honestly, i look forward to driving my car to work and then can’t wait to drive it home. Sure this is just one example, but I’m sure you get what I mean. You need to have a hobby just to give yourself some sort of fulfillment. I probably have a dozen hobbies that fill the meaningless with meaning. Find it.
About the emotional training of doctors: just yesterday a friend and I talked about that and that in Bali the training of a healer lasts seven years and the first year is devoted to 'learning how to be a good person'....learning about their own emotions and motivations....and how that would impact medical care if in our western universities, the students would focus on their own awareness and growth during the first year!!!
That is so wonderful . I just Wish the western world 🌍 would take that on board . I have. Even lucky but having the Instinct to know that you can’t heal emotional pain or trauma with Meds. Doctors only learned about the body but are not trained in Meds . The pavtmaceitucal companies have a licence to print money & Doctor’s only know about pills etc, when The Pharmaceutical Companies tell them. I went for an eye 👁️ op a few years ago & Surgeon was shocked to see so many bands on my hand (Allergy Intolerance) he went through them & this is what he said 1. Gone off the Market 2. Name changed 3 Gone off the market 4. No longer available 5. Gone off the Market 6. name change 7. No longer available I said to him now you see the pharmaceuticals industry won’t get rich from me 😂 & his reply was do I work for them 😮 I said no . I wouldn’t be a sales person as I would see things I believe in 😊 However I am a half century on & thought WOW girl you are so with it. But even today Doctors 🥼 are treated like Gods, even my own family .. oh the Doc says this @ the Doc says that & I saw what does your Body tell you?? Sit & listen to the WHISPERS before the SHOUTS. Now I believe in My own Medical Team but I believe in myself more & know when they are a help but also wise enough to say is their a holistic road I can go with this pain or discomfort or is their an issue that’s arising I have not dealt with & maybe now is the time to sit quietly & recheck . Blessings & Love to you all. ❤🙏
I went through years of depression anxiety and panic attacks then one day I realized no one could make me happy but me happiness is a choice you can choose to be happy or you can choose to let others control how you feel I choose to be happy and I am
I see very little joy around me, l see very little joy in my own life. How sad is that? What brings me joy is cooking lovely meals and seeing others enjoy them. Is that enough?
Anything that brings you joy is good, don't feel like it needs qualifications in some unwritten log of joys. You could find a way to expand that joy perhaps so more could enjoy your cooking.
You are on a very good path without even knowing it: the first and most ancient form of compassion and "togetherness" was indeed sharing food and having meals together. Tasting good food and sharing an interesting conversation and laughing together is a psychological anchor still to this day. You do it right, enjoy.
That's more than some people experience. If you can cook and bring joy to others, you are 'lucky' , not sure if that's the correct term. But some people go through their whole life experiencing pain, hunger, with little or no joy. Enjoy every single moment of happiness you experience. Life is o so strange
Never built a bank account. Just travelled through life doing whatever made me happy. Retired now , and living on the pension. A bit restricted here in Australia, as we are penalised if we work. So , I'm still enjoying every day , doing whatever makes me happy. And it's surprising how much you can do with little resources.
Good for you. Too bad it's all the young people and children who will never have such a blessing because our elders all took what we will never have. It's past time that the young throw off the yoke of those who destroyed the world with their evil.
They're not monsters. They're broken humans with heavy addictions, especially to power, adoration and conformism. They are like the image of us, the "ruled-ones", except they've accidentally won or inherited and grew their powers. And this is the tragedy. If only they were actual monsters, we would have an explanation or solution. but they are just vanilla humans with no imagination, no creative thinking, fear of judgement, and control freakery. Just like most of us, except much much more. there is no rabbit hole. Just lack of self-introspection, lazy judgements, conformist groupthink. And us, by doing this against each others, enable the few of us who are more ambitious, energetic or lucky to choose power over humanity because they have learned to mistrust the humans justifying everything by lazy conspiracies and absolutist empty words like "people" "freedom" "us" "them".
The only reason I’m alive is that I believe in Jesus and I’m scared to not be forgiven as suicide is seen as a huge sin and I really love Jesus and know he is real. But sometimes I’m scared he doesn’t want me no more or whatever. I’ve had multiple attempts but they never worked. Had 30 police officers, 20 Fire Departement officers and a emergency doc here to keep me from dying one time. That’s when I put it ALL on the line and it still didn’t work. But with no family and no friends, 30 diagnoses it’s hard to keep on going and believing. I’m 30, this shit started in my childhood and the last time I had Christmas with a family that hated me, but still a family was when i was like 13/14. I started all over again a 100 times just to fall right to my face again. There’s just no energy, no sense in starting over again at my age. I’m a musician since I’ve been a kid, put my music out, was at universal until my boss had a psychosis and checked out and I was there at 0 again. If only Jesus could take me, this life is ridiculous
I used to count the days until special events. Now it feels like they're hurtling towards me, and I'm not mentally prepared. I don't look forward to things anymore. I'm exhausted, and anything over and above my regular routine feels like too much. I'm only just getting back into hobbies after a year of doing almost none. I've been in survival mode for at least a year, and I'm only just starting to remember there was more to life than this.
I think I understand what you’re saying. I can’t seem to handle the world anymore. I barely can deal with work and the commute and I have to retreat to home. Church/religion helps revive me, but that is even falling short lately.
This has been how I've been living for the last ~4 years, maybe more. I'm sorry and I wish I could tell you how to find a way out. I haven't found it yet.
Pre pandemic, before the cost of living crisis, I used to try new things because I was interested in them and approach new hobbies and my free time in the spirit of play. Even now, I get the underlying feeling that I'm wasting my time unless I'm actively trying to monetise everything I do in some way. Bringing back the element of playful self-expression is so important, especially in these troublesome times. Our ancestors used to tell stories around the campfire, make toys out of wood & twine and sing with each other. In everything we do, we must remind ourselves that we are alive, we are human and, even if you don't believe in a higher power, there is something very sacred in that.
I was just saying I used to be so outgoing, go for it in the moment... it was about 2020 I lost that need for adventure and happiness. I want it, but seems so much more harder to achieve atm
I met him once at the beginning of my addiction 13 years ago at On-site Rehab on East Hastings. He visited there regularly. I had read his book “In the realm of hungry ghosts”, and was fascinated with his approach to addiction psychology. He was very kind and understanding, and it helped me be kind to myself. 3 years sober now.
Don't make yourself a martyr for the suffering of the world...be a joyful influence on the small circle you have around you and you will have greater chance at attaining peace and fulfilment!
Great comment. Making oneself a martyr is a form of self indulgence and self righteousness often accompanied with a victim complex and virtue complexes. Be a good person, help those that you can, recognize that helping others succeed also requires that they help themselves. You can’t want more from someone than they want it for themselves. The poor are usually part of the bottom distribution of the bell curve. They deserve our empathy and support, they’re also not entitled to robbing us of any our own happiness.
I think at 60yrs old and feeling like I worked my life away before 40, never married and had no children, I went from financial security to blowing it all in search of having time, which I found at the sacrifice of financial stability, I grew tremendously as a human and love that I have been able to meet myself but at 60 starting over from zero feels daunting. However, my curiosity of life and love keeps me excited. I think in America, we either need shorter work days or longer vacations or a 4day work week. Instead of overtime, hire more people and give people the space to heal from their childhood trauma
@@Andy-qo1rbYikes. I came here to write the same thing. 38 never married and realize how empty a life can be alone. 20’s are filled with hope and experiences with friends. You don’t live in NY or VA by chance? 😅
@@Liz-in8lu nope. Down in melbourne. I do enjoy solidity just that I wanted to start spending every single minute matters to myself and not on meaningless works. All the best to you :)
Yes. US working hours are insane and most work after hours as well having to monitor texts and emails. There is no space to connect with self and to play and love.
I'm 60 and I was married and divorced twice, before the age of 30. I became a mother at 18 years old. I think that marriage and kids is overrated. It's not meant for everyone. Funny how, it's all I ever wanted... or was that societal conditioning?
When kids play, they are in a "flow" state. You can find the flow state by creating something. You don't have to be Michelangelo, you can just do a hobby and get into the flow state.
That sounds good and I know how true that is, but recent imprisonment for going to an ER has me shut down... V I O L E N T L Y. They are doing Agenda 21 and 1984 at the same time here... to us Humans. Genocide, poverty and pestilent menacing. I have some work to do... thank you, I bought the wood yesterday. WE owe China and the US corporate Governments a lot of competition, or revolution and war. "They" always pic destruction, and poverty.
My outlet is pottery at the senior center. I get my hands on and in the clay, and the flow comes naturally. Because it’s a physical activity as well as mental.
I worked hard at a young age as a radio announcer, went to college, became a teacher. Years went by and I realized ppl were changing. The world was changing. Ppl did not want me to be happy. They wanted to steal my joy. Eventually, I became sick and disabled. Ironically, In many ways, it was a blessing. I do indeed have the capacity for play.
Social media has become a scourge for us all. The only platform I’m on is You Tube because there are so many beautiful nature videos to watch and quite a few animal ones as well. Animals doing funny, heartwarming and crazy stuff that makes you laugh. I like that a lot.
Ditto.I love to watch the people who buy horses from the kill pen. They rehabilitate them & wow 3 years later what a difference love & TLC does to those magnificent animals.
But remember that healing and human feelings, experience, and suffering are not a one-size fits all model. Mate has wonderful insights, but our lives are our own and we need to figure it out for ourselves - even we get the help we might need, we eventually cure ourselves. You have to walk that long long road yourself. no-one can walk it for you.
There is a book titled The Courage to Heal, written for women who were sexually abused in childhood which says that you don't have to forgive to heal. That took a huge burden off me. There is also a book written by a Catholic priest and a Protestant minister called The Myth of Forgiveness which helped a lot also. You don't have to forgive to heal. You can just let it go.
Attesting The Courage to Heal is an exceptional reliable work, it also has a workbook which I have given countless young women to help them heal, hope and learn to laugh again.
@@donacatangumaI have always understood that forgiveness includes a deeper step. You have to deny your own feelings to "forgive." Simply walking away doesn't demand this sacrifice from you.
The day I found the cure for my mental health, everyone around me began trying to convince me that I’m ill beyond belief. Where was this worry when I was actually sick? The pain, the anguish, the ups and downs, the days and days and days of almost giving everything up. Only to be saved by something beyond comprehension. Time and time again. And from that blossoming the most amazing experience that has led me here, to freedom.
I feel like TIME doesn’t work the same any more. Even on my days off, I feel like I have the time and energy to do one thing. Having 4 free hours feels like 1.
If I had a guru, it would be Pooh Bear! There's so much simple wisdom and gentle humour in those stories. I used to read them to my son (and to myself!), he totally got it and grew up to be a good young man. Everyone who knew him, loved him. I'm speaking in past tense here, he died 3 years ago in a road accident. So I know deep grief. Yet I haven't lost my capacity for joy. I think it's because I don't see myself as a victim. I want to live, even though this terrible thing happened. I'll never be totally ok again and I'm learning to be ok with that. He would not want me to be sad all the time. And when I do feel sad, I know I'm honouring the love between us. And when I feel joy, I'm also honouring that love. Bless
@@yobrojoost9497 My deepest Sympathy on the loss of your Beautiful Son 💔 You have a wonderful way of acknowledging your loss & and great heart & love accepting how you feel rather than be a victim of grief you are learning to accept it which indeed must be difficult , you are acknowledging your feelings & I am sure he is guiding you all the way. Sending you love, prayer & Serenity 🙏in your 💔 ache
Strangely, I was very excited when my daughter said that she does not want to have children. I couldn't imagine my grandchildren living in a world like this that is getting worse over time.
My daughter said the same. Lost her to suicide at 15. Not saying your situation is same with your daughter but I wish I dug into my daughters thoughts on that in hindsight.
@@damageinc.3695Please don’t carry the burden of her choice. Sadness, oh yeah lots of sadness but it’s unlikely there is anything that you could’ve done/said. I have 3 kids I love dearly and they do what I taught them…. Decide for themselves❤
Understandable. The imagination to picture your potential grandchildren trying to merely survive in an emerging technofeudal dystopia with the global climate in transition to a hotter greenhouse Earth and a hypercompetitive global economic system that is eager to replace people with robots, AI or cheaper foreign workers is actually a compassionate concern that is fully justified. Although we cannot know for certain if humanity will continue on this worsening path, for the sake of these future children we probably should desire to protect them from a tsunami of pain & suffering unlike anything we ourselves have experienced in our lifetime. When is The Gift of Life not a nice gift at all, but a selfish reproductive instinct that lacks the most basic consideration for another's well-being? It sure seems like humanity is speeding into a fiery abyss while staring at its smartphones & laptops. If one is honest & realistic, it is increasingly difficult to see across this abyss to a better world worth living in. For this reason, many choose escapism, addictions, entertainments and various forms of denialism to cling to some semblance of momentary happiness. Soon even momentary happiness may be difficult to experience...
I was listening, thinking that the guest was between 60 and 70 y.o. Was shocked when I heard he passed 80 already! He is so keen and sharp and full of vigor.
This just reminded me of something, I completely changed my habits by finding out book called The 23 Former Doctor Truths by Lauren Clark. It has been censored.
I worked a job I hated for 20 years to provide my kids with a chance at a better future than I had. I retired early because I didn't want to devote my healthy years to a job I hated. I do struggle a bit more financially, but I know I made the right decision. I'm unable to be happy because this world is just suffering but I am content and I'm happy with that. If I could change anything I'd make decisions that would allow me to work a career that I loved.
That suffering is meant to turn you from this world, and to the spiritual Father that created us all, God. It's never too late to start your relationship with Him
Maybe the greatest lie ever sold was "sacrifice your life so your children will have it better than you." No, that's eternal generational slavery. Learn to set yourself free and lead by example.
Happiness is a state of mind, it cannot be faked, everyone can see a happy person it is the ora that surrounds them that reflects what is inside, Gabor insists he is happy but he does not reflect that ora, it is not the smile on ones face that matters but the energy that surrounds them that makes them so attractive that makes everyone want to be around them..
I read a book about ten yrs ago called The Medicine Walk, by Richard Wagamese. It's a story that made me cry a thousand tears. A Native son reconnects with his alcoholic father who is dying of liver failure. The father wants to have an authentic native burial. Buried sitting upwards on the top of the mountain. Along the way his father starts to tell why he is the way he is.
If we suffer along with the suffering in the world suffering is increased. To lower suffering in the world find joy and peace and do what you can to heal the suffering of others. Blessings
Peace will not mitigate our problems with the environment that window has closed while Congress denied and Fox lied and the foolish humans ignored the current mass extinction.
Yes! I agree that suffering can be contagious and sometimes people want to suffer because they get attention. Hope, joy, and love are antidotes to the suffering.
I was just talking to a friend about how to deal with people who treat us badly. I want to be forgiving, yet I want to deal with my anger. Then this interview appeared. I have struggled with this dilemma for years. And then I was reminded about the idea of using curiosity to examine and deal with my feelings. Thank you for such a wonderful interview. 💗
Not even just your own feeling but looking outside yourself to be curious about others. Wondering like, what in their life made them this way? How have they dealt with their trauma? And seeing how sometimes their own behavior could be indicative that they are still hurting. People are mirrors. By hurting others, they are hurting themselves. One love 🤍
The happiest I have ever been, or the only true freedom and happiest I have felt deep inside was the poorest I have ever been. However, I was rich with love and got to snowboard everyday with the love of my life (now hubs). When we moved away from our mountain community where we felt truly connected in order to move home so I could pursue a career in nursing I cried like I never cried before hours of crying where I couldn’t breathe. Something deep inside me told me I would never feel this level of complete in my life. Time with my love wouldn’t be the same. Now we have money, but for what? To be so tired on the weekend we don’t get out together. I keep begging to sell home, take the equity and live a simple life near a beach in another country.
I'm seeing an epidemic of poor eating, no exercise and no sleep. I can literally make myself depressed by not doing these fundamental things properly. We were meant to move. We were meant to eat healthy food from the earth. And we were meant to sleep. And don't forget God. :)
Funny... (not literally) I see an epidemic of more people than ever eating organic, weight training, losing tons of weight & traveling. Could it be perspective?
Yes. And I struggle to maintain my attention to the health basics. I noticed our culture pushes us away from maintaining our basic health and well-being, starting with our tech toys like smartphones and video games, toxic food system, social media external focus, and environmental toxicity. So much opportunity for dysregulation.
I've made a lot of progress on getting quality sleep and exercise, but man the healthy eating is hard. Developed a strong aversion to many vegetables and fruits as a child, maybe hypnosis could help.
My brother is in prison for life, accused of abusing the very daughters he loved more than life and fought to protect. That was nine years ago. He met a vet who taught him to meditate and now he is at peace, with 36 years to go. Everything has been taken from him. So i honor his hard work by being joyous myself.
@@VancouverBorn That is so true! The ones that seem the nicest can truly be evil and have everyone that knows them fooled into thinking they are a nice person.
@@VancouverBornYou are right. Children have no hesitation when speaking their minds. If you want to find something, always look for a children testimony.
Complaining is an inappropriate way to deal with suffering. Acceptance is the appropriate way, understanding the whole picture, the polarity of this dimension, joy/pain, hot/cold, sickness/healing, its setup that way. By embracing it all we grow through it, we consciously evolve and that’s why we’re here really! 🙏
Perfectionism itself likely an expression of _not-being-good-enough._ It is a issue of worthiness. This brings up the matter of _the source_ of value itself. An atheist is one left alone to try to create worth for themselves. The Gnostic is _explicitly aware_ of the Source of their value. Each has its own way. The truly helpless place is the sinkhole of indifference between the two. For the first case, one makes _their own_ value. To the latter, their value is given them by God. One of these paths is far more efficient than the other. Adonai
To answer the question yes I feel like I’m living in crazy town. I have to stay ok for my husband and kids…so I run many miles a day and hike a lot. It’s hot as hell right now where I live so I go at dusk and dawn. Try to find joy in the moment not think too much about the future and cling tightly to my faith. Everyone I is feeling something coming. You’re right I can’t be completely happy with the hostage situation in Gaza or the fact that the people are dying in Gaza especially the kids. It kills a little of my soul everyday. This is a fallen sinful world and it’s not easy to be here. All we can do is love people around us and try to make a difference in the lives of others as best we can. Love to all ❤
What I learned fom my ex, who had scoliosis and a spinal cord injury yet was still, pathologically happy..... let go of alll your pain and suffering, think no deeper than a puddle, never engage in conversations about deep and meaningfuls, choose your companion friends wisely, make friends your hobby, and only see the funny, the joy, the playfulness in everything and be sincere in that, love animals with a passion, never judge others or entertain negetive thought and... keep it simple. As a cultural (but not a religious) Jew, she would often say this: " they tried to kill us, we survived, lets eat". ....and dont attempt to analyse that, theres no point. She was the happiest, most playful and least fuckedup person I have ever met. Her truth was: "were here for a good time, not a long time". She also smoked a joint of homegrown marijuana every evening. I think that untimately stopped the body spasams while contributing to her overall happiness and see the humour in everything. Just saying, I think she knew how to do life.
I guess it's not ignorance if your fully aware but choose (due to your knowledge and information) not to engage in life in detrimental ways? Quite the opposite one would think?
During the Pandemic I felt like we’d shifted into an alternate reality, and I’ve never fully recovered from that. What we all lost from that experience is very valid. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way, and I’ve suffered from debilitating panic attacks and anxiety off and on since I was 13. But we can’t let them win, keep on keeping on people!!! And don’t let it happen again. Much love. ❤❤❤
I pay attention to my daughters behavior, usually shes calm, happy, energetic child. Sometimes suddenly she will be acting different, like a baby like out of sorts so I start telling her you are acting different, is something going on, what happened to you did something happened? Whenever you are ready to talk to me about what is happening come and tell me. Like an hour later she will come crying and tell me what happened😢 It makes me feel thankful that I didnt just snap at her Im thankful that I can tell when something is going on in her life. I know she knows I am here.
That’s huge for her. I didn’t have that support and I knew it. It contributed to confusion, anger, shame, frustration, you name it. I never really felt safe being vulnerable with my parents especially my dad. It took a toll but I got through it. Her knowing she can go to you with anything is a gift you’re giving her.
One time in 2nd grade my mother hit me in my knuckles with a pencil for not understanding how to do subtraction after that I never asked her for help again. So I try to react different@@tomd1434
It’s more than people playing less because of chasing success. There’s less play because it takes so much more for a just a roof and a meal. A simple existence has become expensive, with so many working around the clock.
the greed of govnts - putting corporate interests & self dealing first - exponentially widening the gap between the most vulnerable/poor and the top percenters who own most everything - the craven greed of those at the top/resulted in most unable to make a living wage with one job shameful greed abounds
When he spoke about people on death row still finding happiness despite a bleak existence and no future of parole, the terrible suffering in the world and how people still find something good if they focus on connections, gratitude, etc… it’s suddenly at home that no matter how bad the circumstances we can find it. Just seems so impossible sometimes and easy to lose track of the good things
The book "the monk who sold his ferrari " sums it all. You'll be thinking you have it all but be lacking what matters most; happiness,joy, peace, calmness.. the completeness in simplicity.
Went through some pretty severe health issues and it definitely makes you realize you can still be happy even in the face of struggles. Learning to hold two ideas at once is so important.
i have luckily stayed away from addictive substances and alcohol. I dont smoke or gamble. This has led to a much less stressful life. The majority of my stress comes from work and I just see that as a necessity to the job and service to people. Its not pleasant but its essential. So I really dont fret that much about it or about most things. I just do my best. This has produced such a clarity of mind as well as a distinct happiness. I do not feel overwhelmed or upset by most things. I just accept it as the chaos of life.
We are living in an incredibly socially conformist, materialistic society where there is a cost of living crisis as rents are unaffordable to those on a low wage, were seeing record levels of loneliness, especially in young men, many of whom have few friends and many are now involuntarily celibate. There is a reocrd number of women on anti depressants, an increase in obesity and suicide. Constant pressure to feel like your a success, especially in men. This doesnt seem like a society that is particularly connected to me.
And at this point, so much profit is being made off of these things that they are considered innate traits that are cool and fashionable and beyond scrutiny. Forget obesity or mental illness being considered health problems in need of treatment. They're identity traits now and people wear them with pride, no intention of them ever seeing them as a threat to their health and happiness.
When I was fourteen, fifty five years ago, I realized that adults were just children with more skills and intelligence. They knew more than I, but they found ways to achieve power and money by being clever. Morality was rationalized to suit themselves and their pursuits. Nothing has changed, critical thinking is rare, very bad things continue to happen. I learned to enjoy what I can, without hurting others.
*Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing"drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in My Life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today,I received 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas,CA ,and travel a lot .God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams.God kept to his promises to and for me*
it is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer . A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household thank you Jesus
I think there’s no meter to measure happiness, but real deep feelings one gets when he / she make someone pleas, feel good, excited or give ‘m good surprises.
Societal “norms” tell us that we need to set “ childish play” aside, grow up and be responsible. If you spend time playing then you are lazy and not planning for your future. All the joy and wonderment of this life is sucked dry at that point. I sit here at the age of 61 and wonder why I have no interest in things that brought me joy at a younger age. Experts try to explain that away and tell us that our interests change as we grow. I had such an awe of new things and the world around me as a young child… I had so many thoughts and dreams but now I am just in survival mode. In kindergarten in the early 70’s we learned how to go to school and to be away from our home and our mothers for half a day. We learned how to hold fat pencils to write ABC’s and fat crayons to color. We painted with poster paint and used paste to cut out shapes and glue them to a paper… life was slow, life was good back then… so much time was left to have an imagination , to learn, to grow as individuals. Learning to gather our belongings and put our boots and jackets on without assistance and learning how to take turns and wait in line patiently. My grand children had to drink from a sippy cup at 6 months old while at daycare and they were not allowed to drink milk or juice… just water in the sippy cups. In kindergarten, they were expected to know the whole alphabet, numbers 1-20 and spell their name and address, how to do simple math etc. before they started school… if they couldn’t do all of that the school threatened to hold them back for a year and then try again next year… we didn’t do any of those things until 1st or 2nd grade… we rush children to grow up and often saddle them with adult worries and expectations. The world seems to be set on full speed ahead… just bugs the life out of me. I am trying to regain some of my childhood joys and revisit what gave me happiness back then. Life is an open book and we need to take things slower enjoy the simplicity while we have the chance❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Peace to you my friend. As 26 year old from Perth western Australia. Your words have taught more then you know. I hope you find contentment in your old age.
Yes, since the pandemic, everything has changed. I will mention couple things: most public washrooms are now closed due to our homeless problem. They removed benches and chairs from some shopping malls, and people became greedy and rude and in a bad mood bc of grocery prices. I also feel ppl don't care about seniors the way they used to. I've sent emails to various mall managers...NO reply.
No one in the western and industrialized world cared about seniors, period. Even in Norway do we let Seniors die by themselves or send them to old people's homes, to die, because they can no longer work and productive, so we abandon them. It's cruel and inhumane, but it's what Westerners and other "civilized" societies do. There probably was a time pre agriculture where we cared for seniors, but that wasn't pre pandemic or anything like that.
In my totally impossible bucket list, at the top of the list is, Glancing, deeply, and briefly, into Gabor's eyes!!! For u see, in his eyes, I see the sadness of the world but also the sweet little playful boy!!! Those eyes...those eyes...we will never ever see another pair quite like them!!!💞💞🙃💞💞
Being happy happens in moments, and I think many people conflate happiness with disconnect, or lack of empathy. But the truth is that happy moments are the fuel that allows us to continue being connected and being alive in difficult times. They are the reward, they need to be collected and shared, and used as a much needed reset.
We do tend to hold on to our suffering, out of guilt? Habit? Conscience? This video is helpful to me, I was stuck in that place of "how can I be happy when I know that right now others are suffering?" But we MUST be happy, even when we are in pain. On the darkest day, there is still beauty and love in the world. Make it a challenge to the darkness, make it a habit. Let yourself ignore the suffering, or become part of it. Our time is limited. Count your blessings.
Im sorry but it saddens me (@70) when i hear young people declare they wont have children because things are "so bad". We've gone through so much collectively thru history, people forget generations have followed because children went through and thrived through some pretty horrendous events.
I think it's a good thing that some are not having children. Their reasoning is sad, but it is a very wise decision. Seriously, the way things are headed, in some sense it would have been better if more people in the past took on this stance. Look at what has happened. Not exactly something to be proud of really. I try not to sound morbid but look around you. There is still joy and love and laughter yes, within the lives of the people, but the world as a whole is going to shit.
We can’t afford to even live ourselves, let alone children. Bringing up children in a sick world is cruel to the children who never asked to be here. We’re signing them up for a painful life with no future.
@tudyinthesky4967, re you feeling saddened when young people decline to breed so as to save their unborn from the wreck we've left the world, and it only getting worse faster... I also chose to not have children, tho my reason is a selfish one- I didn't want to make the sacrifices necessary to be a minimally coherent and decent parent. At age 30 I decided to spend my life partying like it's 1999 every moment. I'm 59 and have not a regret. Party on, Sheldon!
All human behaviour arises from how financially constrained one is. You shouldn't feel regret from making the best decision you could when economic resources were not to your advantage.
Years of hard work, being a good citizen. Now , lost my job eight months ago and can’t get on my feet. I’m done with this life. It sucks. The harder you work, the more you are punished.
You are so not alone. Myself & other good people I’ve met throughout my life have unfortunately suffered a similar fate & we wonder what the purpose of all our good deeds, sweat & toil was for, only then to be ignored & excluded from it all as a worn-out, grey-haired pieces of useless refuse. Our society, in western civilisation terms, sees no value in the aged & it’s a sad indictment indeed. And, we wonder why so many middle-aged & elderly are feeling vulnerable, depressed, anxious & lonely in a society that no longer wants them around, unless there’s money or assets to be fleeced or scammed from them. Even some family members only view their elderly relatives as a material inheritance ticket. The moral compass of humanity is broken I’m afraid😔
Nate?… lol. No, I hear you though. When you try to do the right things and it still doesn’t seem to work out. Sorry to hear that for you. You aren’t in VA or NY are you? There is always something to help
Our dogs bring us a lot of joy. We are living in tough times. I help others when I can, that gives me joy. Sometimes, a friend just needs a listening ear. Friendship with God is life-saving. Read and study the Bible everyday. Great work to see these Doctors talking about this subject ❤
Follow joy wherever it goes. Happiness is our true natural nature. Drop all expectations other than you expect to wake up in the morning and breathe the air. Act on the next thing that contains the most joy... Doesn't matter what it is just do it
Gabor Mate was and IS an intricate part of my recovery. I’ve read his books and watched a TON of TH-cam videos of his. Priceless and it’s FREE. Sadhguru, Eckhart Tolle, Joe Dispenza, and Jeff Warren (Calm App to learn meditation) saved my life.
its excessive corporatisation in everything , lack of creativity , lack of struggle , lack of human engagament, community , messing about , being so serious driven by the rot of technology dependence . We need imagination , it is the essence to what makes us human. Walked around london today and it just feels like an amusement park with excessive corporatised coffee shops and foods outlets . its all abit boring tbh . random tourists everywhere
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
@@WalterFair130 I feel the same way . I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
The Tao of Pooh, apart from Winnie the Pooh and Now we are Six, is one of the most important books I have read. The wisdom in Pooh is simple and extraordinary, and I can’t help reflect that Christopher Robin and AAMilne both suffered and that the books were AAMilne’s attempts to reach out to his son in the only way he could, but it backfired when the publicity machine took over. Heartbreaking!
Not blaming my parent's just telling the truth now their past. I have no memories from childhood of my parents ever playing around with me or my siblings. Family dynamics put paid to any fun happening in our house.This has a negative effect of future relationships.
Oh I'm definitely watching this video later. The intro lets me think about the impact books and films like The Never Ending Story film had on me as a boy. Now that I'm an old man I long for that innocence.
Yes indeed. We're put into the world to make the world a better place, and happiness does that. (Happiness is of the personality, joy is of the Soul, and Bliss is of the Self.) Wearing the miseries of the world on our sleeve can be a form of self-indulgence.
We all have a right to be happy...regardless of what's happening around us. In fact we have a duty to be happy to allow ourselves to heal so then in turn we heal those around us.
Dr. Rangan Chaterjee, thank you for creating this podcast and being such a positive influence, together with your wise and knowledgeable guests like Gabor Mate. I'm heartened so much by listening to this conversation, as it helps give me a framework for some of the things I'm feeling, which feel almost indescribable but somehow universal.
yes, something changed very much, people are desperate, sad, depressed, anxious and we all feel that more crisis are coming, i feel something much worse is arriving, lies and more lies. good luck everyone.
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I never ever did drugs, gambled , drank alcohol and coffee until i got a job! What does that show you...our jobs play a big factor why we develop bad habits and or are depressed and stressed..using that stuff as an outlet from the reality....the cost of living working 9-5 everyday for a crap wage jus to pay bills and own material crap all while long our family and friends grow old get sick and die and an entire world of beautiful scenery we dont aknowledge
Yep.. that's exactly whats going on. I think so much about how messed up the world is. I just find little little joys here and there to keep living.
That pretty sums it up. There’s no joy now, plus govts continually bombarding us with propaganda, fear mongering, pretend pandemics (wait for the next lockdown soon) and creating wars that we have to pay for while they reap the profits of this big business.
You figured it out man. Corporate is a soul killa. I don’t smoke, drink or anything drugs but I have to meditate, breathe work, gym, just so I don’t rely on substance.
I have had the same experience. I never drank or drugged through college. When I graduated I started drinking as an escape from the prison I was in. I always thought it was a lack of goals that led to my drinking but just seeing the future laid before me may have been the cause. I have been clean for 2 years working part-time barely getting by and things are better.
what a stupid observation.. before you got a job you were probably still a child. You dont have to buy material crap. you can get by (living and eating) with a 20 hour work week. thats only a few hours a day. Everything above that is your choice of being a slave to your senses, for example buying material crap. We were never meant to see the whole world. That's also a new age thing - modern traveling. Find joy in small things.
I worked a corporate job in IT for decades. Made really good money. I got ran over by a car in 2017 and became disabled. I moved to the forest in 2020. I am not rich. In fact one could call me poor financially but I'm so happy. I walk through the forest with my animals every morning. Life is good for me. I still carry the pain of those suffering with me 💜
Large Trees literaly suck Hate emotion out of you. All Prisons could take inmates into a Forest for decongestion. But "symptoms" is how INDUSTRY makes $ & $ comes with its own Blinders & sacrifice for short satisfaction, Aquisition is short lived & toxic. Unless Tools are used for establishing your skills & talents to express Happiness.
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So sorry to hear about the accident you mentioned, the trauma and anguish no doubt was a lot yet in the end it changed your life for the better so congratulations to you and your new found happiness 👏. Our stories have some similarities in the I too live in a forest type setting and with some open land as well with happiness, joy and inner peace as my companions. In western culture and city dwelling a person's life is consumed by anxiety, stress, frustration and anger all of which is rewarded a feeling of emptiness ...and those are just the good things eh hahaha! We have the luxury and even the privilege of viewing things from a safe distance, it's clear to me that living in an artificial world and consuming artificial foods can never lead to genuine happiness. Well I've got some fish to catch but go forth and be happy!
You'll find the creator in the trees........... especially if you smoke some weed.
Good choice, I wish you well
People stopped being people, being human, quite some time ago… social media, economic crises, the cost of living sky high, almost to the point basic needs are out of reach, and the crowning blow….the pandemic, which really destroyed society and people’s ability to relate and connect with each other. It will take a very long time to repair any of this, like decades, maybe not in my lifetime, even, as I’m in my late 50s. It’s heartbreaking and I feel the grief 😢
It's all because of money. You're born so someone can benefit from you in one way or another. People are starting to realize they don't really matter.
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You forgot the culprit of mass advertising, on line sales and the abandonment of Main Street by Wall Street crawling around like a decapitated snake while ignoring it's languishing corpus body, disconnected to all but glutinous greed.
People have stop being human since the dawn of agriculture...
I feel the same and I am over 70 . We live in bad times.
Of all of the things I think nothing erases, humanity, faster, and then working your entire life to still not be able to meet your needs
There's a quote by Alan Watts in regards to this, which I'm paraphrasing, life is musical...someone please copy and paste the full paragraph
I retired, sold it all, hedged, and bought dirt in 2019. All I can say is you learn alot about who you are as a human, rather as a person idling in society until your end.
I do physical labor, tend to my garden and animals. It hurts, it's painful, I cry sweet and tear... but what I found in solitude, was myself.
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I'm pretty sure I'm headed that way too; I just can't square the circle around where we're at and where we're headed!
Beautifully and eloquently stated 🙌😎
@@PANCHOVILLA4U67 Yeah, "buying dirt" -- good one!
Buy dirt, turn it into soil. You'll be healthier and understand where the earth is and headed. Regeneration of soil and society, the new paradigm.
moving into a van was my ticket to happiness. i get to keep almost all my salary (no rent). If i loose my job i cant be evicted and i can go wherever i want. Its a peace of mind thing, no attachments and no loans.
I want to get an old 70’s/80’s RV and do the same thing (because the modern ones are such Corporatized and Generic looking trash) -BUT-BUT-Seriously where the hell can anyone stay without being gouged so much per night per week per month to park and stay somewhere. The only place I heard of is in Arizona for $170 to stay for 7 months. But that’s only 7 months out of the year. And where would a person traveling all around collect their mail? And how do you make money while nomading around the country like that.
What about the Winter?
I stay at work parking lot in the winter time and its free including a power outlet.... Shower at the gym or at work.... i work as a bus driver so plenty of work in every city imaginable....for mail of any you can use post office box or some relative if possible.
@@mattm.5436there are lots of You Tube videos describing this lifestyle - look them up.
I would rather live in a car...tired of paying all the property taxes, etc.
This is why we love being with babies and puppies. Just being present and playing. It seems to fill the tank. Blessings
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Babies and animals are my favourite people to spend time with !!!
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Well, when you have everybody and anybody trying to convince you that, the world is passing away, all hope is lost, we have no answers to problems, and now we know too much. We can’t relax. I left a big long book about why up top. I definitely see that.
@@Timbzz-dq8vn you know damn well what he meant, stop making it weird.
"They" don't want us to be happy.They lose control of us if we are happy..."they" don't like that.
"Happiness" is the biggest rebellion these days!
Happiness is the new punk!
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Here’s a way to help happiness, don’t worry about problems you can’t control. Too much is outside of our control, so why worry about it? Take care of what you can and forget the rest.
@@vincecallagher7636it doesnt really matter who :D its kinda guud advice
Very insightful. I have found very few people who agree with me on this .
As someone who suffers with extreme severe anxiety I can totally relate to her. I would stop eating for days at a time as a punishment. I worry a lot about my life, everyone around me and pleasing everyone. It's absolutely crippling, so glad she got the help she needed, lovely young lady it's so sad that society has 1 in 3 people suffering mental health issues. I hope everyone seeks help
People need to realise that people with anxiety disorders have oversensitised nerves, it's not a simple case of manning up and getting over it.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about how mushrooms and psychedelics treats anxiety, but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, doctor Greg mushroom I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Please, how do I reach doctor Greg?
Is he on the internet?
for myself, I use the internet to feed my inner library full of knowledge about things im curious about, nothing negetive.
Same. But sometimes I fall for clickbaits and thumbnails.
I think that Dr. Gabor Matte is a very brilliant man with immense capacity for human compassion. This is his greatest asset and gift to all of us.
Leftist compassion is always fake. Neurotic leftists are at war with the reality that their eyes and ears constantly show them. Gabor Mate’s leftist anti semitism is a good demonstration of this cognitive dissonance.
If only this brilliance and compassion would go above spitting worthless facts, maybe that would counterbalance the George Soros of this world... I mention him because according to wikipedia, Gabor Maté and George Soros have about the same journey. Some would say they look quite alike.
@@Stephen64138 There is a notable difference between these two people. Gabor Mate ran from the communist terror as a 12 year old with his parents, while George Soros' openly and virulently anti-semitic parents allowed 14 year old George to assist Nazis assessing and confiscating Jewish properties after their murder in concentration camps. No doubt, George Soros' fortune was raised from the seeds of stolen properties of holocaust victims. In short, Gabor Mate is a classic neurotic Jewish leftie and the other is pure evil personified but without doubt both are anti-semite.
Throughout The History of Man absolutely nothing has been achieved or won through compassion whatsoever. Libraries are full of books documenting Religious Wars, Genocide, Colonization, etc. as a means of gaining power and shaping the world around us. The greatest strength is indifference, amorality and an extremely high pain threshold. You can disagree face down in the mud trampled underfoot.
Do your best to be stoic without giving up on yourself and the people in your circle of life.
One of the best ways to contribute to your individual happiness is to watch the news as little as possible. It's all about wars, death, violence, crime, dirty politics, negative economics & celebrities cheating on each other or doing jail time. So depressing.
Also, to limit your time on social media. People present their lives as near perfection while the reality is far from it.
That is exactly right! If you want happiness, focus on what you can control. All this news going on and social media, is nothing but doom scrolling. It is depressing and there is not one single thing any one of us can do to change those sad stories. Turn off the news, don’t look at social media and all these crazy sad stories.
Amen! You are spot on. Thank you for this comment!
The next step after that is starting your relationship with God
I quit watching TV altogether when I was 19. Many years (20+ yrs) later I married a man who watched TV obsessively. I gradually began to watch it sometimes...but I never watched the news.
I'm so much happier.
I've also deliberately abstained from watching the news since about 2008 after a psychiatric episode made up of what professionals call "delusions of reference". An example of such a delusions would be watching the news and believing whole heartedly that the news anchor on the screen is knowingly communicating with you in secret coded language, for example, and that they're watching you in real time and modifying their speech based on your actions that they're able to observe. It was terrifying and I was fortunate to come out of it eventually but I was in the paranoid grips of it for several months as a result of my brain chemistry being disrupted suddenly by an overnight removal of the synthetic (US government-engineered, in fact 😉🙄🤔🥺🤫😔🙂!)chemical compound/"medication" called methadone after habing been on it continuously for two years at that point in time. I went from a 30-milligram daily dose to ZERO milligrams literally overnight. I'm surprised that even with the so-called opiate epidemic that's now been acknowledged for several years, we still hear almost nothing about the psychiatric ramifications of being yanked off an opiate
I am 71 years old and a retired surgeon. I have seen many horrible and unjust things. This discussion has led me to a revelation about the phrase "For you have the poor with you always, and whenever you wish you may do them good; but Me you do not have always."
It is permission to be happy despite acknowledging the terrible things present around us."
I woke up in the middle of the night with this playing. It's strange how these things work. May all of you have a chance to play today.
@@jamespeelecarey too simplistic...
Stop using dru0gs dude😂
I play every single day. I always have something to look forward to each day. For those of you who aren’t car enthusiasts…why? Honestly, i look forward to driving my car to work and then can’t wait to drive it home. Sure this is just one example, but I’m sure you get what I mean. You need to have a hobby just to give yourself some sort of fulfillment. I probably have a dozen hobbies that fill the meaningless with meaning. Find it.
You too. ❤️
@@newfinishautospa in order to find it, energy is required...I'm old and tired.
About the emotional training of doctors: just yesterday a friend and I talked about that and that in Bali the training of a healer lasts seven years and the first year is devoted to 'learning how to be a good person'....learning about their own emotions and motivations....and how that would impact medical care if in our western universities, the students would focus on their own awareness and growth during the first year!!!
There was a headline in the 1980s that said that (American) doctors went into medicine for money and not health.
If only the medical system would treat it own doctors like humans :(
That is so wonderful . I just Wish the western world 🌍 would take that on board . I have. Even lucky but having the Instinct to know that you can’t heal emotional pain or trauma with Meds. Doctors only learned about the body but are not trained in Meds . The pavtmaceitucal companies have a licence to print money & Doctor’s only know about pills etc, when The Pharmaceutical Companies tell them. I went for an eye 👁️ op a few years ago & Surgeon was shocked to see so many bands on my hand (Allergy Intolerance) he went through them & this is what he said
1. Gone off the Market
2. Name changed
3 Gone off the market
4. No longer available
5. Gone off the Market
6. name change
7. No longer available
I said to him now you see the pharmaceuticals industry won’t get rich from me 😂 & his reply was do I work for them 😮 I said no . I wouldn’t be a sales person as I would see things I believe in 😊
However I am a half century on & thought WOW girl you are so with it. But even today Doctors 🥼 are treated like Gods, even my own family .. oh the Doc says this @ the Doc says that & I saw what does your Body tell you?? Sit & listen to the WHISPERS before the SHOUTS. Now I believe in My own Medical Team but I believe in myself more & know when they are a help but also wise enough to say is their a holistic road I can go with this pain or discomfort or is their an issue that’s arising I have not dealt with & maybe now is the time to sit quietly & recheck . Blessings & Love to you all. ❤🙏
And here, they get a business course so they can profit.
Western Civilization were taught to detach, so we don’t get burnt out, as healthcare professionals.
I went through years of depression anxiety and panic attacks then one day I realized no one could make me happy but me happiness is a choice you can choose to be happy or you can choose to let others control how you feel I choose to be happy and I am
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How did you cure your panic attacks ? I have them too.
@@donacatanguma by trust and faith in God I took one day at a time then one day they stopped
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Happiness tends to get interrupted by reality.
I see very little joy around me, l see very little joy in my own life. How sad is that? What brings me joy is cooking lovely meals and seeing others enjoy them. Is that enough?
Anything that brings you joy is good, don't feel like it needs qualifications in some unwritten log of joys. You could find a way to expand that joy perhaps so more could enjoy your cooking.
I bet your cooking is amazing. Yes, that is enough, every speck of Joy is enough in the moment you are experiencing it. Keep going 💜
You are on a very good path without even knowing it: the first and most ancient form of compassion and "togetherness" was indeed sharing food and having meals together. Tasting good food and sharing an interesting conversation and laughing together is a psychological anchor still to this day. You do it right, enjoy.
Yep. That's enough for me. I do like to enjoy one for myself now and then❤
That's more than some people experience. If you can cook and bring joy to others, you are 'lucky' , not sure if that's the correct term. But some people go through their whole life experiencing pain, hunger, with little or no joy.
Enjoy every single moment of happiness you experience. Life is o so strange
Never built a bank account. Just travelled through life doing whatever made me happy. Retired now , and living on the pension. A bit restricted here in Australia, as we are penalised if we work. So , I'm still enjoying every day , doing whatever makes me happy. And it's surprising how much you can do with little resources.
"The person that is not satisfied with little, will not be satisfied with much"
Good for you. Too bad it's all the young people and children who will never have such a blessing because our elders all took what we will never have. It's past time that the young throw off the yoke of those who destroyed the world with their evil.
If people only knew how deep the rabbit hole really goes and what kind of monsters rule over us and tell us we're free .
They're not monsters.
They're broken humans with heavy addictions, especially to power, adoration and conformism.
They are like the image of us, the "ruled-ones", except they've accidentally won or inherited and grew their powers.
And this is the tragedy. If only they were actual monsters, we would have an explanation or solution.
but they are just vanilla humans with no imagination, no creative thinking, fear of judgement, and control freakery. Just like most of us, except much much more.
there is no rabbit hole. Just lack of self-introspection, lazy judgements, conformist groupthink. And us, by doing this against each others, enable the few of us who are more ambitious, energetic or lucky to choose power over humanity because they have learned to mistrust the humans justifying everything by lazy conspiracies and absolutist empty words like "people" "freedom" "us" "them".
It's your mind making up an imaginary world which is really an illusion
The only reason I’m alive is that I believe in Jesus and I’m scared to not be forgiven as suicide is seen as a huge sin and I really love Jesus and know he is real. But sometimes I’m scared he doesn’t want me no more or whatever. I’ve had multiple attempts but they never worked. Had 30 police officers, 20 Fire Departement officers and a emergency doc here to keep me from dying one time. That’s when I put it ALL on the line and it still didn’t work. But with no family and no friends, 30 diagnoses it’s hard to keep on going and believing. I’m 30, this shit started in my childhood and the last time I had Christmas with a family that hated me, but still a family was when i was like 13/14. I started all over again a 100 times just to fall right to my face again. There’s just no energy, no sense in starting over again at my age. I’m a musician since I’ve been a kid, put my music out, was at universal until my boss had a psychosis and checked out and I was there at 0 again. If only Jesus could take me, this life is ridiculous
@@pitchblvkewell isn’t God to blame for all of this?
I used to count the days until special events. Now it feels like they're hurtling towards me, and I'm not mentally prepared. I don't look forward to things anymore. I'm exhausted, and anything over and above my regular routine feels like too much. I'm only just getting back into hobbies after a year of doing almost none. I've been in survival mode for at least a year, and I'm only just starting to remember there was more to life than this.
Same...
Exactly 😢........life has battered me. Gone from being a happy, vibrant person to a practical recluse
I think I understand what you’re saying. I can’t seem to handle the world anymore. I barely can deal with work and the commute and I have to retreat to home. Church/religion helps revive me, but that is even falling short lately.
@noself7889 so sorry to hear you feel the same. I'm not sure we are missing out on too much these days with the state of society. God bless you 🙏.
This has been how I've been living for the last ~4 years, maybe more. I'm sorry and I wish I could tell you how to find a way out. I haven't found it yet.
Pre pandemic, before the cost of living crisis, I used to try new things because I was interested in them and approach new hobbies and my free time in the spirit of play. Even now, I get the underlying feeling that I'm wasting my time unless I'm actively trying to monetise everything I do in some way.
Bringing back the element of playful self-expression is so important, especially in these troublesome times. Our ancestors used to tell stories around the campfire, make toys out of wood & twine and sing with each other. In everything we do, we must remind ourselves that we are alive, we are human and, even if you don't believe in a higher power, there is something very sacred in that.
I was just saying I used to be so outgoing, go for it in the moment... it was about 2020 I lost that need for adventure and happiness. I want it, but seems so much more harder to achieve atm
I met him once at the beginning of my addiction 13 years ago at On-site Rehab on East Hastings. He visited there regularly. I had read his book “In the realm of hungry ghosts”, and was fascinated with his approach to addiction psychology. He was very kind and understanding, and it helped me be kind to myself. 3 years sober now.
congratulations kenny. thats great
Don't make yourself a martyr for the suffering of the world...be a joyful influence on the small circle you have around you and you will have greater chance at attaining peace and fulfilment!
Best comment
Right on.
I'm learning to listen.
Then asking questions.
Then listen some more.
Great comment. Making oneself a martyr is a form of self indulgence and self righteousness often accompanied with a victim complex and virtue complexes. Be a good person, help those that you can, recognize that helping others succeed also requires that they help themselves. You can’t want more from someone than they want it for themselves. The poor are usually part of the bottom distribution of the bell curve. They deserve our empathy and support, they’re also not entitled to robbing us of any our own happiness.
@@pumpkinpie2002 focusing on ourselves and not the collective good is what got us here .....
@@JayTX.I think the context is that some people focus on the world too much and not enough on themselves and it’s adding to the bigger problems
Gabor carries the weight of human suffering on his shoulders. He's such a compassionate soul. ♥️♥️♥️
Empathy is painful 😣
@@BabsKaz It is. Empaths truly feel other people's pain. ♥️😟
I think at 60yrs old and feeling like I worked my life away before 40, never married and had no children, I went from financial security to blowing it all in search of having time, which I found at the sacrifice of financial stability, I grew tremendously as a human and love that I have been able to meet myself but at 60 starting over from zero feels daunting. However, my curiosity of life and love keeps me excited. I think in America, we either need shorter work days or longer vacations or a 4day work week. Instead of overtime, hire more people and give people the space to heal from their childhood trauma
I’m 40 never married too I’m heading the same direction now. It does feel insecure sometimes but deep down I know I need to take this step.
@@Andy-qo1rbYikes. I came here to write the same thing. 38 never married and realize how empty a life can be alone. 20’s are filled with hope and experiences with friends. You don’t live in NY or VA by chance? 😅
@@Liz-in8lu nope. Down in melbourne. I do enjoy solidity just that I wanted to start spending every single minute matters to myself and not on meaningless works. All the best to you :)
Yes. US working hours are insane and most work after hours as well having to monitor texts and emails.
There is no space to connect with self and to play and love.
I'm 60 and I was married and divorced twice, before the age of 30. I became a mother at 18 years old. I think that marriage and kids is overrated. It's not meant for everyone. Funny how, it's all I ever wanted... or was that societal conditioning?
When kids play, they are in a "flow" state.
You can find the flow state by creating something. You don't have to be Michelangelo, you can just do a hobby and get into the flow state.
@@susanmercurio1060 good comment
I'm painting my ruin of a Victorian 50 shades of green; others in the neighborhood are adding bold colors, flow is contagious
That sounds good and I know how true that is, but recent imprisonment for going to an ER has me shut down... V I O L E N T L Y. They are doing Agenda 21 and 1984 at the same time here... to us Humans. Genocide, poverty and pestilent menacing. I have some work to do... thank you, I bought the wood yesterday. WE owe China and the US corporate Governments a lot of competition, or revolution and war. "They" always pic destruction, and poverty.
@@susanmercurio1060 that's true...I do origami and forget my troubles.
My outlet is pottery at the senior center. I get my hands on and in the clay, and the flow comes naturally. Because it’s a physical activity as well as mental.
I worked hard at a young age as a radio announcer, went to college, became a teacher. Years went by and I realized ppl were changing. The world was changing. Ppl did not want me to be happy. They wanted to steal my joy. Eventually, I became sick and disabled. Ironically, In many ways, it was a blessing. I do indeed have the capacity for play.
Social media has become a scourge for us all. The only platform I’m on is You Tube because there are so many beautiful nature videos to watch and quite a few animal ones as well. Animals doing funny, heartwarming and crazy stuff that makes you laugh. I like that a lot.
Ditto.I love to watch the people who buy horses from the kill pen.
They rehabilitate them & wow 3 years later what a difference love & TLC does to those magnificent animals.
Watch Kingdom of the planet of the apes. Nature is very well depicted there. I loved it.
Feelings/emotions are the taste buds of the soul
And the grand canyon between a womans legs....
Nice way of seeing it.
@@yobrojoost9497 Thank you
Social media is stripping us of our humanity
Turn it off and go get a life.
And yet here we are commenting on social media...
Yes it is. People cannot think for themselves anymore. Too much influence over thought…
@@NaughtyGoatFarmtrue
I feel like social media is allowing us to see a vast amount of peoples opinions, personalities & yes there are bot farms.
I always laugh otherwise I couldn't get through life it's the toughest it's ever been...Sending love to everyone who needs it most right now 🙏🏻
And back to you
But remember that healing and human feelings, experience, and suffering are not a one-size fits all model. Mate has wonderful insights, but our lives are our own and we need to figure it out for ourselves - even we get the help we might need, we eventually cure ourselves. You have to walk that long long road yourself. no-one can walk it for you.
Love to you too!
And back to you 1000 fold❤
Hey thanks, back at you. Cheers 🥂
There is a book titled The Courage to Heal, written for women who were sexually abused in childhood which says that you don't have to forgive to heal. That took a huge burden off me.
There is also a book written by a Catholic priest and a Protestant minister called The Myth of Forgiveness which helped a lot also.
You don't have to forgive to heal. You can just let it go.
Attesting The Courage to Heal is an exceptional reliable work, it also has a workbook which I have given countless young women to help them heal, hope and learn to laugh again.
Kind of ironic a catholic priest writing about child abuse. Methinks thou protests too much.
Wow profound😂 Thanxs I also have read the corage to heal
I thought letting it go was the definition of forgiveness???
@@donacatangumaI have always understood that forgiveness includes a deeper step. You have to deny your own feelings to "forgive."
Simply walking away doesn't demand this sacrifice from you.
The day I found the cure for my mental health, everyone around me began trying to convince me that I’m ill beyond belief. Where was this worry when I was actually sick? The pain, the anguish, the ups and downs, the days and days and days of almost giving everything up. Only to be saved by something beyond comprehension. Time and time again. And from that blossoming the most amazing experience that has led me here, to freedom.
I feel like TIME doesn’t work the same any more. Even on my days off, I feel like I have the time and energy to do one thing. Having 4 free hours feels like 1.
If I had a guru, it would be Pooh Bear! There's so much simple wisdom and gentle humour in those stories. I used to read them to my son (and to myself!), he totally got it and grew up to be a good young man. Everyone who knew him, loved him. I'm speaking in past tense here, he died 3 years ago in a road accident. So I know deep grief. Yet I haven't lost my capacity for joy. I think it's because I don't see myself as a victim. I want to live, even though this terrible thing happened. I'll never be totally ok again and I'm learning to be ok with that. He would not want me to be sad all the time. And when I do feel sad, I know I'm honouring the love between us. And when I feel joy, I'm also honouring that love. Bless
I love how Gabor asks the same question but totally changing the meaning of it, just by changing the emphasis on one word. (18.40)
@@yobrojoost9497 My deepest Sympathy on the loss of your Beautiful Son 💔 You have a wonderful way of acknowledging your loss & and great heart & love accepting how you feel rather than be a victim of grief you are learning to accept it which indeed must be difficult , you are acknowledging your feelings & I am sure he is guiding you all the way. Sending you love, prayer & Serenity 🙏in your 💔 ache
wise...
The Tao of Pooh ❤ God bless you and your lovely son
@@El_Nombre-e3x Thank you so much!
This video should be the gift we give every high school student for graduation.
Strangely, I was very excited when my daughter said that she does not want to have children. I couldn't imagine my grandchildren living in a world like this that is getting worse over time.
That's very sad 😢
My daughter said the same. Lost her to suicide at 15. Not saying your situation is same with your daughter but I wish I dug into my daughters thoughts on that in hindsight.
@@damageinc.3695Please don’t carry the burden of her choice. Sadness, oh yeah lots of sadness but it’s unlikely there is anything that you could’ve done/said. I have 3 kids I love dearly and they do what I taught them…. Decide for themselves❤
Understandable. The imagination to picture your potential grandchildren trying to merely survive in an emerging technofeudal dystopia with the global climate in transition to a hotter greenhouse Earth and a hypercompetitive global economic system that is eager to replace people with robots, AI or cheaper foreign workers is actually a compassionate concern that is fully justified. Although we cannot know for certain if humanity will continue on this worsening path, for the sake of these future children we probably should desire to protect them from a tsunami of pain & suffering unlike anything we ourselves have experienced in our lifetime.
When is The Gift of Life not a nice gift at all, but a selfish reproductive instinct that lacks the most basic consideration for another's well-being?
It sure seems like humanity is speeding into a fiery abyss while staring at its smartphones & laptops. If one is honest & realistic, it is increasingly difficult to see across this abyss to a better world worth living in. For this reason, many choose escapism, addictions, entertainments and various forms of denialism to cling to some semblance of momentary happiness. Soon even momentary happiness may be difficult to experience...
Shell feel different at 75 when there's no one to visit in the nursing home.
I was listening, thinking that the guest was between 60 and 70 y.o. Was shocked when I heard he passed 80 already! He is so keen and sharp and full of vigor.
This just reminded me of something, I completely changed my habits by finding out book called The 23 Former Doctor Truths by Lauren Clark. It has been censored.
Dude I was just talking about that book, it was banned on AMAZON, how scary
I will check it out, Im really curious noww
I know that book, it was a blast reading it, I use routines every morning
Can you script us a good piece of this book? I cannot find it anywhere!
oh, so it actually will help
I worked a job I hated for 20 years to provide my kids with a chance at a better future than I had. I retired early because I didn't want to devote my healthy years to a job I hated. I do struggle a bit more financially, but I know I made the right decision. I'm unable to be happy because this world is just suffering but I am content and I'm happy with that. If I could change anything I'd make decisions that would allow me to work a career that I loved.
Life has suffering but I disagree it’s just solely suffering. There exists a balance between suffering and freedom. Reference: the four noble truths 😊
U sound like a very good person my heart is with you ❤
That suffering is meant to turn you from this world, and to the spiritual Father that created us all, God. It's never too late to start your relationship with Him
Maybe the greatest lie ever sold was "sacrifice your life so your children will have it better than you." No, that's eternal generational slavery. Learn to set yourself free and lead by example.
Ck out Michael Singer. He teaches you HOW to be happy.
I feel odd about life in general anymore. Nothing is like it used to be and life is rushing by too quickly on a negative roll
Happiness is a state of mind, it cannot be faked, everyone can see a happy person it is the ora that surrounds them that reflects what is inside, Gabor insists he is happy but he does not reflect that ora, it is not the smile on ones face that matters but the energy that surrounds them that makes them so
attractive that makes everyone want to be around them..
aura, not ora
I read a book about ten yrs ago called The Medicine Walk, by Richard Wagamese. It's a story that made me cry a thousand tears. A Native son reconnects with his alcoholic father who is dying of liver failure. The father wants to have an authentic native burial. Buried sitting upwards on the top of the mountain. Along the way his father starts to tell why he is the way he is.
My mom is a big Richard Wagamese fan! We have that book and a bunch of others
@@KenneyCmusic ....he is a fantastic author. I can understand why your mother likes his books.
If we suffer along with the suffering in the world suffering is increased. To lower suffering in the world find joy and peace and do what you can to heal the suffering of others. Blessings
@@seacaster it takes empathy to help heal the suffering of others, therefore, you suffer, too.
Peace will not mitigate our problems with the environment that window has closed while Congress denied and Fox lied and the foolish humans ignored the current mass extinction.
Yes! I agree that suffering can be contagious and sometimes people want to suffer because they get attention. Hope, joy, and love are antidotes to the suffering.
@@terranhealer I don't agree..no one wants to suffer ... maybe faking to get attention.
Very profound Sir....
I was just talking to a friend about how to deal with people who treat us badly. I want to be forgiving, yet I want to deal with my anger. Then this interview appeared. I have struggled with this dilemma for years. And then I was reminded about the idea of using curiosity to examine and deal with my feelings. Thank you for such a wonderful interview. 💗
Not even just your own feeling but looking outside yourself to be curious about others. Wondering like, what in their life made them this way? How have they dealt with their trauma? And seeing how sometimes their own behavior could be indicative that they are still hurting. People are mirrors. By hurting others, they are hurting themselves.
One love 🤍
The happiest I have ever been, or the only true freedom and happiest I have felt deep inside was the poorest I have ever been. However, I was rich with love and got to snowboard everyday with the love of my life (now hubs).
When we moved away from our mountain community where we felt truly connected in order to move home so I could pursue a career in nursing I cried like I never cried before hours of crying where I couldn’t breathe. Something deep inside me told me I would never feel this level of complete in my life. Time with my love wouldn’t be the same.
Now we have money, but for what? To be so tired on the weekend we don’t get out together. I keep begging to sell home, take the equity and live a simple life near a beach in another country.
I truly hope you get there soon 💜
I'm seeing an epidemic of poor eating, no exercise and no sleep. I can literally make myself depressed by not doing these fundamental things properly. We were meant to move. We were meant to eat healthy food from the earth. And we were meant to sleep. And don't forget God. :)
Funny... (not literally) I see an epidemic of more people than ever eating organic, weight training, losing tons of weight & traveling. Could it be perspective?
I agree to you both. We have a Temple to care for & operate better with the right maintenance. Giving up sugar & carbs though....no Bueno!
@@outsidethebox8406 Maybe they're highly motivated now because they were former fat, depressed, insulin resistant couch potatoes! 🤣
Yes. And I struggle to maintain my attention to the health basics. I noticed our culture pushes us away from maintaining our basic health and well-being, starting with our tech toys like smartphones and video games, toxic food system, social media external focus, and environmental toxicity. So much opportunity for dysregulation.
I've made a lot of progress on getting quality sleep and exercise, but man the healthy eating is hard. Developed a strong aversion to many vegetables and fruits as a child, maybe hypnosis could help.
My brother is in prison for life, accused of abusing the very daughters he loved more than life and fought to protect. That was nine years ago. He met a vet who taught him to meditate and now he is at peace, with 36 years to go. Everything has been taken from him. So i honor his hard work by being joyous myself.
Is a life sentence 45 years??
What did he do to them ?
Did your brother get caught in divorce proceedings ?
@@VancouverBorn That is so true! The ones that seem the nicest can truly be evil and have everyone that knows them fooled into thinking they are a nice person.
@@VancouverBornYou are right. Children have no hesitation when speaking their minds. If you want to find something, always look for a children testimony.
You guys rock! "Don't be so loyal to your suffering." Thank you both so much. Love to share this humanity with you.
Complaining is an inappropriate way to deal with suffering. Acceptance is the appropriate way, understanding the whole picture, the polarity of this dimension, joy/pain, hot/cold, sickness/healing, its setup that way. By embracing it all we grow through it, we consciously evolve and that’s why we’re here really! 🙏
Fun way to spiritually project the dreck of the third dimension elsewhere under the guise of "evolution" or "growth"
There's natural suffering and then there is artificial man made suffering.
100%❤
So many people are out here trying to get there, only to discover that when they finally do get there, there is not really there.
Seeing regret as a kind of perfectionism is a startling insight!
Perfectionism itself likely an expression of _not-being-good-enough._ It is a issue of worthiness.
This brings up the matter of _the source_ of value itself. An atheist is one left alone to try to create worth for themselves. The Gnostic is _explicitly aware_ of the Source of their value. Each has its own way. The truly helpless place is the sinkhole of indifference between the two. For the first case, one makes _their own_ value. To the latter, their value is given them by God. One of these paths is far more efficient than the other.
Adonai
To answer the question yes I feel like I’m living in crazy town. I have to stay ok for my husband and kids…so I run many miles a day and hike a lot. It’s hot as hell right now where I live so I go at dusk and dawn. Try to find joy in the moment not think too much about the future and cling tightly to my faith. Everyone I is feeling something coming. You’re right I can’t be completely happy with the hostage situation in Gaza or the fact that the people are dying in Gaza especially the kids. It kills a little of my soul everyday. This is a fallen sinful world and it’s not easy to be here. All we can do is love people around us and try to make a difference in the lives of others as best we can. Love to all ❤
What I learned fom my ex, who had scoliosis and a spinal cord injury yet was still, pathologically happy.....
let go of alll your pain and suffering, think no deeper than a puddle, never engage in conversations about
deep and meaningfuls, choose your companion friends wisely, make friends your hobby, and only
see the funny, the joy, the playfulness in everything and be sincere in that, love animals with a passion,
never judge others or entertain negetive thought and... keep it simple. As a cultural (but not a religious) Jew,
she would often say this: " they tried to kill us, we survived, lets eat". ....and dont attempt to analyse that, theres no point.
She was the happiest, most playful and least fuckedup person I have ever met. Her truth was: "were here for a good time, not a long time". She also smoked a joint of homegrown marijuana every evening. I think that untimately stopped the body spasams while contributing to her overall happiness and see the humour in everything. Just saying, I think she knew how to do life.
I definitely wish I could live in blissful ignorance because you are absolutely correct about them being much happier individuals.
Ignorance is bliss…
I guess it's not ignorance if your fully aware but choose (due to your knowledge and information) not to engage in life in detrimental ways? Quite the opposite one would think?
@@Indigo.Barclay choosing happiness everytime only makes everything more beautiful, gentle and peaceful
During the Pandemic I felt like we’d shifted into an alternate reality, and I’ve never fully recovered from that. What we all lost from that experience is very valid. I know I’m not the only one who feels this way, and I’ve suffered from debilitating panic attacks and anxiety off and on since I was 13. But we can’t let them win, keep on keeping on people!!! And don’t let it happen again. Much love. ❤❤❤
I pay attention to my daughters behavior, usually shes calm, happy, energetic child. Sometimes suddenly she will be acting different, like a baby like out of sorts so I start telling her you are acting different, is something going on, what happened to you did something happened? Whenever you are ready to talk to me about what is happening come and tell me. Like an hour later she will come crying and tell me what happened😢 It makes me feel thankful that I didnt just snap at her Im thankful that I can tell when something is going on in her life. I know she knows I am here.
You’re an excellent mother. And very self-aware. Your daughter is blessed to have you.❤️❤️❤️
That’s huge for her. I didn’t have that support and I knew it. It contributed to confusion, anger, shame, frustration, you name it. I never really felt safe being vulnerable with my parents especially my dad. It took a toll but I got through it. Her knowing she can go to you with anything is a gift you’re giving her.
One time in 2nd grade my mother hit me in my knuckles with a pencil for not understanding how to do subtraction after that I never asked her for help again. So I try to react different@@tomd1434
It’s more than people playing less because of chasing success. There’s less play because it takes so much more for a just a roof and a meal. A simple existence has become expensive, with so many working around the clock.
People want more than they truly need as well.
the greed of govnts - putting corporate interests & self dealing first - exponentially widening the gap between the most vulnerable/poor and the top percenters who own most everything - the craven greed of those at the top/resulted in most unable to make a living wage with one job shameful greed abounds
@KellyBoettcher-qo9tx alot of people can't handle this truth.
When he spoke about people on death row still finding happiness despite a bleak existence and no future of parole, the terrible suffering in the world and how people still find something good if they focus on connections, gratitude, etc… it’s suddenly at home that no matter how bad the circumstances we can find it. Just seems so impossible sometimes and easy to lose track of the good things
I’ve always taken any opportunity to be playful and all that ever comes from that is judgment about WHY I’m so unserious….
The book "the monk who sold his ferrari " sums it all. You'll be thinking you have it all but be lacking what matters most; happiness,joy, peace, calmness.. the completeness in simplicity.
It’s the media and social media and that device we all hold in our hand
Fun Fact: the prison in which you reside, is the one in your hand, reading this fun fact...
Went through some pretty severe health issues and it definitely makes you realize you can still be happy even in the face of struggles. Learning to hold two ideas at once is so important.
I've been working on the things that cause anxiety and I'm finding fuller happier times. Reconnecting by getting more involved not less with people.
i have luckily stayed away from addictive substances and alcohol. I dont smoke or gamble. This has led to a much less stressful life. The majority of my stress comes from work and I just see that as a necessity to the job and service to people. Its not pleasant but its essential. So I really dont fret that much about it or about most things. I just do my best. This has produced such a clarity of mind as well as a distinct happiness. I do not feel overwhelmed or upset by most things. I just accept it as the chaos of life.
We are living in an incredibly socially conformist, materialistic society where there is a cost of living crisis as rents are unaffordable to those on a low wage, were seeing record levels of loneliness, especially in young men, many of whom have few friends and many are now involuntarily celibate. There is a reocrd number of women on anti depressants, an increase in obesity and suicide. Constant pressure to feel like your a success, especially in men. This doesnt seem like a society that is particularly connected to me.
And at this point, so much profit is being made off of these things that they are considered innate traits that are cool and fashionable and beyond scrutiny. Forget obesity or mental illness being considered health problems in need of treatment. They're identity traits now and people wear them with pride, no intention of them ever seeing them as a threat to their health and happiness.
When I was fourteen, fifty five years ago, I realized that adults were just children with more skills and intelligence. They knew more than I, but they found ways to achieve power and money by being clever. Morality was rationalized to suit themselves and their pursuits. Nothing has changed, critical thinking is rare, very bad things continue to happen. I learned to enjoy what I can, without hurting others.
Go dragoon
*Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing"drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in My Life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today,I received 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas,CA ,and travel a lot .God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams.God kept to his promises to and for me*
There's Wonder working power in following Kingdom principles on giving and tithing.Hallelujah
But then, how do you get all that in that period of time? what is it you do please, mind sharing?
it is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer . A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household thank you Jesus
Big thanks to Ms. Susan Jane Christy ♥️✨💯 May God bless Christy Fiore service,she have changed thousands of lives globally
And thanks to my co-worker (Raphael) who suggested Ms Susan Jane Christy
I think there’s no meter to measure happiness, but real deep feelings one gets when he / she make someone pleas, feel good, excited or give ‘m good surprises.
Societal “norms” tell us that we need to set “ childish play” aside, grow up and be responsible. If you spend time playing then you are lazy and not planning for your future. All the joy and wonderment of this life is sucked dry at that point. I sit here at the age of 61 and wonder why I have no interest in things that brought me joy at a younger age. Experts try to explain that away and tell us that our interests change as we grow. I had such an awe of new things and the world around me as a young child… I had so many thoughts and dreams but now I am just in survival mode. In kindergarten in the early 70’s we learned how to go to school and to be away from our home and our mothers for half a day. We learned how to hold fat pencils to write ABC’s and fat crayons to color. We painted with poster paint and used paste to cut out shapes and glue them to a paper… life was slow, life was good back then… so much time was left to have an imagination , to learn, to grow as individuals. Learning to gather our belongings and put our boots and jackets on without assistance and learning how to take turns and wait in line patiently. My grand children had to drink from a sippy cup at 6 months old while at daycare and they were not allowed to drink milk or juice… just water in the sippy cups. In kindergarten, they were expected to know the whole alphabet, numbers 1-20 and spell their name and address, how to do simple math etc. before they started school… if they couldn’t do all of that the school threatened to hold them back for a year and then try again next year… we didn’t do any of those things until 1st or 2nd grade… we rush children to grow up and often saddle them with adult worries and expectations. The world seems to be set on full speed ahead… just bugs the life out of me. I am trying to regain some of my childhood joys and revisit what gave me happiness back then. Life is an open book and we need to take things slower enjoy the simplicity while we have the chance❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏
Peace to you my friend. As 26 year old from Perth western Australia. Your words have taught more then you know.
I hope you find contentment in your old age.
Yes, since the pandemic, everything has changed. I will mention couple things: most public washrooms are now closed due to our homeless problem. They removed benches and chairs from some shopping malls, and people became greedy and rude and in a bad mood bc of grocery prices. I also feel ppl don't care about seniors the way they used to. I've sent emails to various mall managers...NO reply.
The seniors are rude too, it's bizarre. Didn't used to be like this
No one in the western and industrialized world cared about seniors, period. Even in Norway do we let Seniors die by themselves or send them to old people's homes, to die, because they can no longer work and productive, so we abandon them. It's cruel and inhumane, but it's what Westerners and other "civilized" societies do. There probably was a time pre agriculture where we cared for seniors, but that wasn't pre pandemic or anything like that.
@@alvodin6197 ...but the danes are very kind to their seniors...they created a family environment to age in.
@@alvodin6197 u paint a very hopeless picture...and sometimes family don't care for them, either.
Making things hard for the homeless and poor is called Hostile Design. There is also Hostile Architecture in American society.
In my totally impossible bucket list, at the top of the list is, Glancing, deeply, and briefly, into Gabor's eyes!!! For u see, in his eyes, I see the sadness of the world but also the sweet little playful boy!!! Those eyes...those eyes...we will never ever see another pair quite like them!!!💞💞🙃💞💞
Yes❤
Being happy happens in moments, and I think many people conflate happiness with disconnect, or lack of empathy. But the truth is that happy moments are the fuel that allows us to continue being connected and being alive in difficult times. They are the reward, they need to be collected and shared, and used as a much needed reset.
We do tend to hold on to our suffering, out of guilt? Habit? Conscience?
This video is helpful to me, I was stuck in that place of "how can I be happy when I know that right now others are suffering?" But we MUST be happy, even when we are in pain. On the darkest day, there is still beauty and love in the world.
Make it a challenge to the darkness, make it a habit. Let yourself ignore the suffering, or become part of it. Our time is limited. Count your blessings.
It’s often far easier to forgive damage done to oneself, not so easy when done to one’s child or loved ones.
Everything has changed!
Im sorry but it saddens me (@70) when i hear young people declare they wont have children because things are "so bad". We've gone through so much collectively thru history, people forget generations have followed because children went through and thrived through some pretty horrendous events.
I think it's a good thing that some are not having children. Their reasoning is sad, but it is a very wise decision. Seriously, the way things are headed, in some sense it would have been better if more people in the past took on this stance. Look at what has happened. Not exactly something to be proud of really.
I try not to sound morbid but look around you. There is still joy and love and laughter yes, within the lives of the people, but the world as a whole is going to shit.
We can’t afford to even live ourselves, let alone children. Bringing up children in a sick world is cruel to the children who never asked to be here. We’re signing them up for a painful life with no future.
@tudyinthesky4967, re you feeling saddened when young people decline to breed so as to save their unborn from the wreck we've left the world, and it only getting worse faster... I also chose to not have children, tho my reason is a selfish one- I didn't want to make the sacrifices necessary to be a minimally coherent and decent parent. At age 30 I decided to spend my life partying like it's 1999 every moment. I'm 59 and have not a regret.
Party on, Sheldon!
Why would I want that for my children?
Dr. Gabor always calmly and passionately explains what is wrong and how to fix it. Its a pleasure to just listen and learn
"Living in a world of fools breaking us down," - The Bee Gees - 1977....
I started a joke.......
All human behaviour arises from how financially constrained one is.
You shouldn't feel regret from making the best decision you could when economic resources were not to your advantage.
One shouldn't but you always do,even if it's not always in our control.
Years of hard work, being a good citizen. Now , lost my job eight months ago and can’t get on my feet. I’m done with this life. It sucks. The harder you work, the more you are punished.
Sorry
Try a new path or new job
Sending some prayer your way. I hope you feel better.
You are so not alone. Myself & other good people I’ve met throughout my life have unfortunately suffered a similar fate & we wonder what the purpose of all our good deeds, sweat & toil was for, only then to be ignored & excluded from it all as a worn-out, grey-haired pieces of useless refuse.
Our society, in western civilisation terms, sees no value in the aged & it’s a sad indictment indeed. And, we wonder why so many middle-aged & elderly are feeling vulnerable, depressed, anxious & lonely in a society that no longer wants them around, unless there’s money or assets to be fleeced or scammed from them. Even some family members only view their elderly relatives as a material inheritance ticket. The moral compass of humanity is broken I’m afraid😔
Nate?… lol. No, I hear you though. When you try to do the right things and it still doesn’t seem to work out. Sorry to hear that for you. You aren’t in VA or NY are you? There is always something to help
"We can all keep playing in the enchanted forest"
Good take G.
Our dogs bring us a lot of joy. We are living in tough times. I help others when I can, that gives me joy. Sometimes, a friend just needs a listening ear. Friendship with God is life-saving. Read and study the Bible everyday. Great work to see these Doctors talking about this subject ❤
it never gets better
Follow joy wherever it goes.
Happiness is our true natural nature.
Drop all expectations other than you expect to wake up in the morning and breathe the air.
Act on the next thing that contains the most joy... Doesn't matter what it is just do it
Gabor Mate was and IS an intricate part of my recovery. I’ve read his books and watched a TON of TH-cam videos of his. Priceless and it’s FREE. Sadhguru, Eckhart Tolle, Joe Dispenza, and Jeff Warren (Calm App to learn meditation) saved my life.
staring at a screen isn’t living
its excessive corporatisation in everything , lack of creativity , lack of struggle , lack of human engagament, community , messing about , being so serious driven by the rot of technology dependence . We need imagination , it is the essence to what makes us human. Walked around london today and it just feels like an amusement park with excessive corporatised coffee shops and foods outlets . its all abit boring tbh . random tourists everywhere
Two beautiful souls. Thank you!
Psychedelics definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source out here
I’ve been researching on psychedelics and it’s benefits to individuals dealing with Anxiety, Depression, ADHD and from my findings, they really work and I’ve been eager to get some for a while but its been difficult to get my hands on them.
The Trips I've been having really helped me a lot. I’m now able to meditate and I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I was having this constant, unbearable anxiety due to work stress. Not until I came across a very intelligent mycologist. He saved my life honestly
@@WalterFair130
I feel the same way . I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be a part of this community.
@@JamesFJohnsonDoes he deliver to various locations?
The Tao of Pooh, apart from Winnie the Pooh and Now we are Six, is one of the most important books I have read.
The wisdom in Pooh is simple and extraordinary, and I can’t help reflect that Christopher Robin and AAMilne both suffered and that the books were AAMilne’s attempts to reach out to his son in the only way he could, but it backfired when the publicity machine took over. Heartbreaking!
Greed & power erased play & childhood.
Good title for a book !..............
Gabor Maté is such a beautiful soul. I love him to bits ❤❤❤
Two brilliant, compassionate beings changing the world! Inspired! Thank you ☺️
Not blaming my parent's just telling the truth now their past. I have no memories from childhood of my parents ever playing around with me or my siblings. Family dynamics put paid to any fun happening in our house.This has a negative effect of future relationships.
Oh I'm definitely watching this video later.
The intro lets me think about the impact books and films like The Never Ending Story film had on me as a boy. Now that I'm an old man I long for that innocence.
there is no such thing like' I am a better vision of myself today' you are always your better version of yourself
Yes indeed. We're put into the world to make the world a better place, and happiness does that. (Happiness is of the personality, joy is of the Soul, and Bliss is of the Self.) Wearing the miseries of the world on our sleeve can be a form of self-indulgence.
Gabor you are a beautiful, compassionate human being. Thank you for your insight & love
We all have a right to be happy...regardless of what's happening around us.
In fact we have a duty to be happy to allow ourselves to heal so then in turn we heal those around us.
Because we now recognize the lies we’ve been fed for 350 years and we’re pretty pissed off .
Dr. Rangan Chaterjee, thank you for creating this podcast and being such a positive influence, together with your wise and knowledgeable guests like Gabor Mate. I'm heartened so much by listening to this conversation, as it helps give me a framework for some of the things I'm feeling, which feel almost indescribable but somehow universal.
OMG . Thank god someone is addressing this subject.
yes, something changed very much, people are desperate, sad, depressed, anxious and we all feel that more crisis are coming, i feel something much worse is arriving, lies and more lies. good luck everyone.
Our kids were not meant to go to daycare or sit all day at a desk for 12 to 16 hrs. Inside a school.