I have like 6 of these except number 7 and 8, it is kind of wrecking me atm, I can't find much time for myself, I constantly fear she'll leave me, I get extremely paranoid and everything, I basically put all my time into her and do everything for her, and then stupid stuff like her just saying she is going to sleep instead of goodnight, love you, has me triggered. I don't even dare to say I might want a day to myself because I'm scared she'll leave me or meet someone else, I never had this before, it's just so nerve wrecking.
I had all of the above with my ex, and once we broke up and tried to be friends I still had all of thease and I tried to keep her out of my head and not torture me with guilt that I hadn't been enough or I didn't deserve it and I had failed at everything I did for her. Though, she wasn't very caring and didn't help me in the slightest when I needed it but alwayes gave her my support and gave up on trying to talk about my problems. Our ending didn't end so kindly either. We both said horrible things in the heat of anger and honestly she probably hates me as much as I hate her. Now I'm a little better with my current partner, though I'm still scared, I'm trying my best and trying to put BOTH of our feelings first and I want to make sure I do it right this time and not go ahead over heels and not think.
I'm my own worst enemy. I have the man of my dreams but I'm so damn anxious and insecure that I end up causing small fights. It's like I'm so scared of giving in 100% because I think I'll get hurt. I have these fears of not being pretty enough, I'm not successful enough or I'm too shy. He's literally the sweetest, most patient guy.
Ur not alone ... I hope we all have a healthy healing .. I’m so confident when I’m not in a relationship then boom 💥 get in one and loses all my shit smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@tonileolion9702 girl yes ! I learned I have to find that healthy balance for my self and still be selfish and also present . So I won’t lose my shit lol
@@lookthereshope7820 it’s a daily struggle I hate it but I’m trying . I honestly feel bad for the guy I’m dating lol but he’s so patient and kind . I wish I was normal . Covid just made my anxiety 1000 times worse
My texting anxiety plays a part in my relationship anxiety. Those feelings of “I shouldn’t have said that” and “I should have said that differently” are constant.
Texting anxiety... come on! There is no one who has texting anxiety who doesn't have just anxiety. That you notice it more when texting doesn't make it some kind of special anxiety. It's anxiety. Splitting hairs...
1. You’re insecure about your relationships 2: You doubt your partners feelings about you 3. You’re overly dependent of your partner 4. You try to overly please your partner 5. You over analyze your relationship 6. You beat yourself up over everything 7. You’re afraid things will get too serious 8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong
My wife was murdered Feb 8 2021. My life has been destroyed completely. Watching your channel has brought me so far. As I move forward in my life, with pain and suffering, I can go to sleep feeling a little bit better after your videos. For my mental health I say God bless you and everything you do.
I am so, so sorry. I lost my husband of 22 years a year ago very suddenly and unexpectedly to sepsis. I have been dating a guy for the past 3 months, who I've fallen REALLY hard for, and my insecurities and anxieties are really overpowering me, which is ridiculous because this new relationship has been going incredibly well and I should have no reason to feel this way. It's awful. :(
This hits pretty hard when your in a long distance relationship and you always have the thought of them being with someone better on your mind. All these points hit true for me and Ik I have problems. I just don’t want her to have to deal with them all.
@@Psych2go you must take deep breaths and reframe your mindset, find out what you gain and love from and about your relationship. That was what I did. Worked great. She left me the next week.
@@ethangreger4484 well thats sad, but dont let it get you down. After all you cant controll everithing, you can only controll yourself and your actions, so dont be sad about something you couldnt control.
If you're partner has this what would you say is the best say to help them feel okay with not spending all their time with you and not overthink about it
Emma Z I think being able to recognize it, talk through it, and come up with a plan on how to best move forward together would be a good starting point.
These videos are great but can there be a follow up on what to do about any of this because all I've learned is that there's something wrong with me, but not how to fix the problem
I get the feeling that they don't want to because they're maybe not a licensed professional? Because there *are* issues to giving someone advice when you're not qualified to. I do agree though, and wish they would at least give SOME vague tips... But until then, I'll ask google
I was crying through the whole video, Because I relate to all of the signs, I feel like he's just tolerating me so he doesn't wanna hurt my feelings, or he just said yes out of pity because he didn't wanna hurt my feelings, I always feel like I'm just bothering him, I feel like I'm just doing it because I'm bored but I really do love him, but I feel like he deserves someone better
these all hit me so hard now that I'm in a long distance relationship. I feel like there's nothing I can do about it on top of all the issues with anxiety I'm having. Who knows what's going on hundreds of miles away. I freak out for a few hours, I cant focus on anything, then i calm down and realize my relationship is fine. I overthink my problems and I know I'm overthinking and I still end up being the one to hurt myself. It's hard knowing the your S/O loves you but you keep thinking things that mess up your relationship.
Right there with you mate, basically the exact same situation. Worried rn that I may have hurt my partner really badly. I've got OCD and it's a nightmare sometimes but if you're with the right person/someone you love than they're worth fighting for and use it as an opportunity to improve yourself for them and most importantly for yourself. Stay strong 💪
This comment has very accurately reflected my situation. What I want to avoid the most, is being toxic or needy, so I just keep it to myself... But now I see that talking about it may be the best way to deal with this
@@sad-boinguae2852 yeah, we actually broke up a month ago. Reality is, that we tried to have a relationship trough VR, and although it was way closer than most long distance relationships, it still is a long distance relationship at the end. Communication is way more difficult and getting trough you intentions and emotions is way more difficult when your avatar (character) doesn't reflect all of your emotions. Although sad that it ended, I still think it was nice that I got to try such a thing.
im in the same situation like im terrified cuz i definitely have hurt my partner a lot and we broke up at one point and got back together but now idk if shes still with me out of pity or idk I am so lost i feel like I'm needy or if not that toxic and like I'm holding her back in some way been almost a year since iv seen her@@pancakemotors23
It should also be noted that sometimes, especially in the last part of the vid, you may tend to be the one who destroys the relationship because you were so worried about it being destroyed, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy *sigh* I wish this video existed when my relationship was still...there
This. omg I'm in a long distance relationship right now I get anxiety when a conflict arises even if it's something small. This has happened to me so many times. Being scared of the destruction is worse than the destruction itself 💀
Same! I get too protective, too intense in a relationship and that makes them go away... but it's my insecurities that are getting the best of me and I end up destroying the one thing I didn't want to destroy. It sucks to be like that. :(
thank you so much for this, i literally cry everyday at least once because i feel like this. i can't tell you how thankful i am that this video exists, i finally feel heard and understood because i'm not the problem, it's the anxiety omg i love this
I also cried watching this video because I can relate to most of them but what I wanted to know is how to get rid of this because I don't want my partner to get hurt 😭 and end up losing him 😭
I can relate to each of these point. I am always overthinking about my relationship. I am scared to lose him. I always have this thought going on in my mind that he might get someone better and leave me(even when he says that he loves me a lot). I am trying to not focus on these thoughts but then certain things flares my thoughts up like he has a TH-cam channel and he has the videos with his ex girlfriend. She is very pretty and he sometimes says that he is not into beauty anymore and that makes me feel degraded that he is not attracted to me. My head is gonna blast.
umm im not sure abt it ..but i feel like he might just be trying to tell u that he loves you..he just may not know how to express his feelings correctly(ive been there before).. if he wasnt attracted to you he wouldnt be dating you dw ...either way good luck .. i hope you feel better soon
I’m a 31 year old man, I’ve always been strong and well put together. At least on the outside lol I have avoided relationships for several years and I’ve finally found someone I feel deeply for and I’m flooded with anxiety and over analyzing. I keep my composure well but sometimes when I’m alone I tremble and shake. Your video was simple and calming, you’re very talented. I guess I don’t have everything figured out lol I was forced to grow up young. I was abused and abandoned by people I desperately needed when I was 11. I even lived in a children’s home for several years. I became skilled at masking my pain and deep fear of others I love leaving or hurting me. All these years latter I’m harshly reminded of this old open wound. This time I don’t think I can run away, hide or go cold and distant from her like the others. Shout out to all the broken people out here. I pray y’all find healing and the strength to do so.
this video broke me in the best way possible. i need to fix and work on myself so i can give my significant other my best. also, thank you, your channel is the only thing I can watch while being severly depressed. you don’t know how much this means to me. thank you.
After learning about relationship anxiety some weeks ago, I decided it was enough and I had to work on it, Relationship anxiety is primarily caused due to bad past and lack of self love, so I did just that, I took a break of 1 week from my partner and concentrated just on myself, forgave myself for everything wrong I did, tried new hobbies and every time I overanalysed, I kept on repeating to myself I am strong.❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love this! I was very anxious about my relationship for the past two weeks, something bad happened to him and he kind of shut me out. This is my first relationship, so I'm not sure why he's doing this, I thought when you are in love you'll talk about it with your SO, right? and I don't know how to handle the situation, so I ended up freaking out on him, assumed that he didn't want me anymore and told him I'm breaking up with him because I can't handle the emotions anymore and I thought by doing that I'll protect myself and my feelings, but I ended feeling very selfish with my decision afterwards. He didn't say/reply anything to me about that. So, I thought to myself, I guess I was right to assume that he didn't want me anymore. But after some days, I've calmed down and had time to think about the situation, I realised I let my insecurities get the best of me and I didn't even try to see the situation from his perspective. So I ended up messaging him, told him I'm sorry for freaking out and told him I'm not giving him up yet. I'm glad he reciprocated to that, he's not ready to say goodbye either and he told me he just needed some time to figure out his situation. So, right now while he's figuring out his situation, I'm focusing on myself and I'll do what you do because that's what I must do if I want this relationship to work. Thank you for this. We can do this, we are STRONG💚💚💚💚
@@prashanttemalay7918my first serious relationship was the same way eventually I guess you just learn how to communicate your feelings better and build trust slowly over time I am in a much happier relationship now but sometimes I still have those moments where I’m asking them questions that I should already know the answer to
@@robbyhill9850 my best advice is that you sit with them instead of trying to push them away, do not act on them. When I do that eventually things start to feel better and I’ll realize I was overthinking or the problem will become much clearer.
I’m sure everyone has had relationship insecurities at some point (I’ve even had them about my own friendships) I’m also adopted so I know how abandonment can feel (even if I don’t vividly remember it) but it’s ok! To anyone feeling a little anxious/insecure: Know that your relationships, friendships, connections with other people are important and these are the people who want to be around you because they care about you. They do things for you and you do things for them because you have a significant relationship. I often find myself pondering too far ahead in the future, but just know the present, these moments now are most important and the future will figure itself out-I like to believe things happen for a reason! ❤️
I most definently have relationship anxiety and showed most of these signs with my last relationship. The only problem? It was right. My anxiety proved to be right in the end. We loved each other and planned on getting married after college. However, due to getting to involved, we ended up falling out. And she dumped me right around christmas 2019. I used to always doubt the realtionship and validity of her affection. And now that the anxiety was right, it made my depression and anxiety so much worse.
That sounds rough. Honestly that sounds like it was a learning experience on your part. I think it's important to voice your concerns or doubts as soon as you can to avoid a huge falling out, or to discover things aren't going to work out and leave the relationship without a huge argument
I obviously don't know your relationship or anything that happened. BUT it is possible your relationship anxiety was actually acting as self-sabotage, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sometimes, your perspective is everything. And what you ask for from the world is what it gives you. This is the law of attraction. Look it up!! It can be very helpful. Some people claim it's been life-changing for them. I struggle with implementing it. But I do believe there is truth to it. I hope you are able to heal yourself through your anxieties. I know it takes a lot of work and willpower. Don't let your anxiety take over. Only you have control over your mind. Take back the reigns. Good luck ♥️ Check out the School of Life TH-cam channel as well. I believe they have a video on self-sabotage
Marian Phillips This is exactly what I was about to write. Sometimes self-sabotage is extremely hard to be seen and accepted. We don’t know the dynamics but our theory might be right.
I think it was your gut feelings talking to you. Your intuition. I felt this too. I thought It was just anxeity as it was my first relationship. Mine turned out true as well
@@ahoneekesong9004 right sometimes it’s ur gut but ur anxiety hightens all of that and it’s possible that ur gut feeling was exactly what was going on . Smh 🤦🏽♀️ Its hard
I'm experiencing everything you mentioned in this video, I've been in a new loving relationship for about 2 months now and he's been amazing so far and its the first time someone has treated me well. However, I can't help but worry about things like waiting for something to go wrong or over analyse their texts. I don't want to push him away from constantly asking for reassurance from him :(
You're doing the best thing, read read as much as you can, may not realize it but it does help. Be careful too because a lot of anxious personality types get with avoidant personality types. The avoidant will come in hot and heavy and then once intimacy starts picking up the appointment will back away quickly which will leave you confused and then make you more anxious so terrible combination. But it's also a time to grow so we did as much as you can and try to detach some from the relationship so you can be more yourself. It's one of the hardest things some of us can do I wish you the very best of luck my fellow traveler 👍🏻
I definitely was like this when I started going out with my bf but I’ll bring these things up to him and he reassures me every time. I honestly feel so lucky to have him.
I wish this could happen more easily with men. I'm feeling this right now, but I don't want to express it to my gf, because it looks weak, and no gf wants that in a man. she knows I'm prone to anxiety, but I fear that if I let her know that I need reassurance, I'll come across as needy, which will cause her to pull away, I'm certain of it. so for now, I just internalise it all, and be my usual funny confident self around her. I'm good at hiding my anxiety...years of practice.
after noticing these signs, i believe i have this because this is my first relationship. i really want this to last long, i love them and these signs relate to what i think in the back of my mind, now i can be more wary and hopefully have enough courage to speak with them about it and work together on it ^_^
This came exactly when I needed, luckily my boyfriend is really supportive and understanding and I can be open about my anxiety, and work on it. Thank you for this video. 🥰
Literally bawling my eyes watching this. I can’t recall major factors of my childhood that led me to be this way but i nodded my head in tears for all 8 signs. My head is going nuts. I’ve been in the most amazing relationship for 1 1/2 years, to the point that i feel BLESSED. I can see a future so clearly. I’ve been in a previous relationship where i knew the guy wasn’t the one, and i didn’t have this anxiety, i just felt my gut telling me to GET OUTTA THERE after a month. But with my man now, my heart knows what it wants, but every now and then my head starts to play against it saying “what if this happens..” or “what if that happens..” and even ridiculous thoughts like “leave him now before you get married, have 2 kids and he decides he wants a divorce” when im feeling confident in myself and in control of my life, im able to easily shut those thoughts down and know that its just silly. But when i’m feeling a little down, or distant, a simple swipe through instagram and seeing a steong celebrity couple spontaneously breaking up is enough to set me off. Omg, if they didn’t last how are we going to!!?? Or seeing a tiktok where girls are saying “if your bf doesnt do these 10 things girls, dump his ass” like omg my bf doesn’t do this! Is he not the one !??? But i don’t wanna dump him 😭😭 social media definitely plays a big culprit, so do movies, books, tv shows, celebrities, the freakin whole world. And it crushes sensitive souls like me who are trying to find their place in the world, with people pleasing habits who’s biggest trigger is criticism. I just don’t know how to get over this feeling because my poor love is suffering, when he has done nothing but love me undoubtedly, meanwhile i feel that im selfishly letting my head push him away 💔
I’m on the other side of this where the love of my life pushed me very far away. The one who loves you is there and stays there because they want you. They wouldn’t be choosing to fight through it all if they didn’t want to. Just keep that in mind. ❤ I think the more you openly communicate about your fears with them, the more they have the opportunity to reassure you and have an idea of what’s going on rather than being confused. Even if you can’t say you’re feelings to them, when you’re doing the distancing thing just shoot them a text saying “hey it’s hard for me to talk about right now but I’m doing the distancing thing because I got scared. I’ll talk when I feel better.”
She pushed and pushed and pushed me away and it hurt me really deeply, but no matter what there is always this part of me still hear waiting for her. If we love you, we really really love you ❤️
It is not really a partner, it’s my friend. I’m scared and always thinking about if they really care about me, and they seems like have a “life” but I don’t. I want to do the things they are doing, and I consistently thinking about my friend, I feel lonely and sad when I’m not talking to them or knowing they are traveling to another place and won’t be online for a week. I love them as a friend so much, to the point I’m scared of losing them
1. You’re insecure about your relationship 1:05 2. You doubt your partner’s feelings for you 1:35 3. You’re overly dependent on your partner 2:10 4. You want to please your partner too much 2:40 5. You over analyze your relationship 3:20 6. You beat yourself up over everything 3:48 7. You’re afraid that things will get too serious 4:18 8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong 5:00
Psych2Go no problem! I love being able to see bullet points and time stamps to remember and go back and look. I don’t think you missed anything, I enjoyed the video and found it helpful 😊😊😊
What I'm trying to do since I decided that I won't allow this fear of hurts to ruin my relationship any further was to prioritize being present, so I'm more able to enjoy every possible moment and mostly to handle my triggers, by realizing where they come from, how hard and how often they hit me, which is still pretty often. Then what I try to do with the identified trigger is to overpower it by questioning it or by measuring my desire for things to work out as best as possible vs allowing the fear to keep me on submission.. somehow a bit tiring every now and then. Something else I've been trying too is to share with my boyfriend how I feel about some things with a bit of background about it, most times only after I evaluated it's logic by my own devices or with help of my bff so things can go as smooth as possible.
I did the same, it made so much sense when I realized what the core of my trigger was. I realize that i might be struggling with gad. In two weeks I’m going to my first therapy session . I’m ready to work with myself.
Whilst watching this and realising how anxiously attached and insecure I am in all relationships, I was beating myself up for it. I can see how people can pick up on this anxious energy and internal conflict and why I don’t have many meaningful relationships in my life.
5:00 You're waiting for something to go wrong...... always finding excuses to leave even though every things is going well........ Every story end before it starts as always. It will never happen....
A great exercise that I got from another video about having anxious preoccupied attachment Style was to take a notebook and on one side right the thought that my anxiety gave me and then on the other side of the sheet of paper write the reality or the potential reality of the situation
This isn't just limited to romantic relationships. I'm constantly worried that my friends only like an idea of me at first and one day will realize who I am and hate me, or some of them have realized who I am and just stick around because they feel sorry for me because of things that happened in life. I never believe that anyone could like me for me like there's something fundamentally wrong with and I can't change it. I constantly feel like I have to put on this mask in order to have any friends.
I can relate to most of these points…I don’t know what to do…I love her so much and I don’t want to hurt her…I don’t think this is something I could talk to her about…I just want to get rid of this feeling..I wanna love her like I used to
You are so valid for this, i suffer with communication but truely the best thing is to communicate your feelings. I know it is tough to do but it will help you both to know what your thinking and find a way to cope with the feeling with knowing that if she can get through, communicate, and understand what you are feeling then she will stay by your side for a while. The feelings might not ever go away, but these are the true first steps.
@@Psych2go Honesly 1 and 5.... But this video isn't the only one I can relate in some way. I mean for example about this video, even though it's meant to be for relationship with parter, I can relate for the poins even just about my friends. (Since I never had and never will have parter) I also relate to most of your videos about anxiety, and even thought I wasn't diagnosed or anything, it's weird that I can relate to that much things but everyone around me are saying I'm ok.
I learned these the hard way, she leave me because of this traits... oh man, It surely does humble me to the core, I LEARNED. BUT AT THE COST OF SOMETHING
I literally have it so bad and he’s really supportive about it too but it doesn’t make me feel any better about how I could potentially destroy our relationship. We literally have each other social media logins because that’s how much I worry, overthink and all. Like I need proof I’m loved.
I had my heart completely ripped in two last Christmas and am still nowhere near being over it eight months later. Watching this video has made me realise that I’ll probably now have relationship anxiety for the rest of my life.
I went for help. Once I became aware what was happening to me, I did the exact opposite what my first instincts told me to do. Once I learned this, everything I touched improved for the better.
Psych2Go, every time i'm dealing with something in my life, there is always a video about my issue on my feed when i wake up. These videos have helped me so much and i hope you all continue to make insightful videos like these
I’m so glad my counselor told me I might have this, I have experienced every sign and it’s been tough to deal with it and hide the fact that I do have this. Thank you so much for this I video!!! Just want to say I’m not in a relationship but I fall for people easily and this’ll be what I’ll feel most of the time, I’m glad that I took precautions when it comes to love because if I went full throttle a lot it would’ve been bad lmao
i feel like i always have an issue. i finally find someone who i love and who loves me truly and i can’t even navigate through the relationship normally. i’m constantly worried that i’m not enough and i get so insanely jealous over every tiny thing. it’s so annoying. i just want to not think about anything.
i really needed this video. Relationship anxiety has been weighing me down for a few months now, but i didn't know what it was called. Finally, i find some sort of information that i can relate to. I relate to all of these signs. Can you give any tips on how to fix this form of anxiety?
The realization that I’m actually in a very healthy relationship leading to marriage is overwhelming me…that one day we’ll get married and my life won’t be the same…. It’s a “too good to be true “ kind of worry
Ive been in a relationship for almost 2 months now. And I’ve felt all of these. He’s such a good loving boy with hopes of a bright future with me. But even i doubt what he says sometimes. I’ve met people who said they’d be together forever and then shortly after, enemies for life. I’ve seen it happen and im afraid it’ll happen to me. This morning as I woke up next to my boyfriend, he was up already and glanced at me and didnt say good morning. He then proceeded to go upstairs for breakfast, leaving me on the bed not saying a word. I had a enough i thought. If I’m not feeling loved, why am I expecting it. I quickly got dressed, packed my bag, headed out without saying goodbye to anyone, not even his parents. I just thought no one noticed. But my boyfriend did and asked me where I was going as i was already down the street. I felt really bad, it hurt so bad walking away from him because of my own assumptions. He called me later crying, asking why i left without saying anything. Just goes to show, relationship anxiety not only hurts you, but it hurts others around you afterwards. I want this to work, I love him.
I can relate to most of these characteristics... I'm really insecure about my relationships and I have the constant feeling they're about to leave me or it's just a matter of time until they replace me by someone else. I deeply believe it is connected to my father's abandonment during my childhood. Although I have a stepdad has been years, which I consider my real father, the scars from my childhood apparently remain in a strong feeling of abandonment. Now I'm dating someone really nice, that means a lot to me and I don't want my anxiety to be a problem. What I've been doing is: 1- when something upsets me I think if it is really important or if I can let go; if I can't, I tell my partner right away so we can solve it out. 2- try not to overthink things, it's ok they're out of my control; 3- try to think in my partners position and feelings; 4- try to remember that they do love me and there's no reason to think otherwise, we must give people a vote of trust; 5- try to chill and practice my solitude, giving also space to my partner to be on his own; 6- try to remember that everything will be ok. Be honest with your partner about your issues and that will help them to understand your feelings and concerns. Don't forget that they have feelings and fears as well. Don't be afraid to stand up for your beliefs and what you think is right, cause people with relationship anxiety constantly have abusive relations. If you find yourself in one, get out. You will find someone nicer - maybe right now thats you and you should have your own time. And remember: the sun will shine again, it will rain again and as the dire straits song says: why worry now? It will be ok
My girlfriend has a few of these signs 😢 she's a very wonderful person who doesn't seem to know it no matter how much I tell her how wonderful she is and how lucky I am that she chose me to love
I found a great partner, amazing connection, intellectual/physical bound, the full package. Then I found out she got relationship anxiety. She totally related to this video. I thought we could get over this but facing a constant sabotaging is hard, especially at the beginning of a relationship, deprived from honeymoon phase. Add to this cultural differences and some thousand of kilometers and visa issues... Now it's total silence. I had to deal with rejections, she had to deal with constant fear of being betrayed. I miss her terribly. Good luck to everyone concerned by this, in any side of the relationship. Patience and trust are the key words it seems. I wish we had that time...
Honestly, all of these things are relevant to me. I'm stubborn and kinda optimistic though, I'm gonna do all I can despite the fact that everything could fall in the end. It will be worthwhile no matter what. I doubt myself all the time, but I can't deny the evidence, I love that guy 💞
I struggle with 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 8. My relationship with my girlfriend is good right now and I love her. We have been dating for about a year and a half. We are currently long distant, but the distance has made my relationship anxiety worsen. I now fear that my relationship anxiety is sabatoging my relationship. She has dealt with my jealousy, over thinking, codependency, and my insecurities. My father abandoned me as an infant, so that explains my fear of abondonment. I want to stay with her and fix my anxiety, becuase if I don't fix it then I'll always have it no matter who I'm dating. If you're reading this I would seek a professional for help, becuase I don't know where to start when it comes to fixing it.
This hits hard and some of this doesn’t even apply to dating for me. I know I don’t have a crush yet but that’s probably because of what’s described in number 7. It hits hard.
And it's even worse if your significant other isn't as physically affectionate as you are. Man, I'm always thinking that I'm doing something wrong because of that.
This is exactly what happened with me and my Ex-girlfriend. We both had Relationship Anxiety together. Since the break up. I felt like I was never going to be loved again because of how I felt my Autism makes me so different and misunderstood. It's been over 3 Months since the Break up and at this point I think I have started to Isolate myself again.
I have never been in a romantic relationship but, I feel like I will have relationship anxiety (if I ever get into a romantic relationship) because a guy I had crush on (and eventually fell in love with) said “I love you” to me even though he did not mean it romantically
I experienced each one of these when I fell in love with my best friend. I regret being a foolish, selfish, coward. She said that she loved me but I was too stupid and scared to accept it, and I’m sure hurt the feelings of someone who once said she loved and trusted me. Now I just hope the happiness she has now lasts forever, and that maybe I’ll get to see her smile as an old wrinkle lady who lived a life worth living. I just want my friend to be happy and safe, even though it can’t be with me anymore because I’m even weaker than before
This definitely happens and gets blown out of proportion especially if you're in a long distance relationship. I'm in one and often times me and my partner would resolve conflict over text. That usually was bad because sometimes I couldn't tell if I was just having relationship anxiety or something was actually wrong between us. I can't stress this enough: video call or voice call always, come to a resolution for each conflict that arises, even if it feels petty or takes a while to sort through, and REMEMBER your solutions to those conflicts. Seriously write them down, I've done that and finally things are sticking. Also don't wait to tell your partner if you feel something is wrong. Often times the reassurance helps anyways unless you're constantly asking them if something is wrong like 3 times a day (then that sounds like unresolved codependency). I find that so many relationships these days are fragile. Or people enter one and can't tell if their partner is abusive or want to leave it because they recognize that, then when they do, enter another relationship and then anxiety strangles them as they think it will turn out bad like the ones prior. I've found that using self help books is a must.
My relationship anxiety is trying to convince me I am falling out of love with my fiance, and I personally think it is the fear of moving in soon, and also missing him cause Long distance relationship. It's just a little butterflies pain in my chest ;n;
No one could've expressed my thoughts and feelings better than you did. The way you described this is just perfect. This hit hard, and it hurts a lot too. I have always been wondering on if it was my fault that he has changed because of these signs mentioned in the video. Being an overthinker, having attachment issues, the fear of abandonment, the need for your partner to prove their love to you and much more. Made me feel like I was never meant for love, yet I do feel it. Despite relating to every signs given in the video, it made me realize that I'm lucky to have him. He has always been there for me and always supported me, I was too blind to realize it back then. I can't help but thank you, you made me feel understood ❤
im sorry if you're seeing this again, i just really want this to be seen :) psych2go, can you make a video on mirror touch synesthesia? i just found the name for it and i've had it for years. it's when someone feels pain or a touch when they see someone else in pain/being touched. i just want awareness for this condition as it's a bit rare. love your videos :)
I found out how bad my Relationship Anxiety is when I started dating again after 3 years of being single. A lot of the signs in this video hits hard. Also, did you guys know that ROCD (Relationship OCD) exists aswell? I just now found out about it. I've been suspecting having OCD for a while now because of having uncontrollable unwanted thoughts constantly, and HECK knows if it is OCD or not. However, with the chance of me having OCD and experiencing ROCD symptoms, I'm really not surprised at this point.
I 100% agree with you , I believe I have relationship OCD. I have been with my girlfriend for almost half a year now and I have had unwanted thoughts every single day about my relationship starting in the 5th month. It’s been hell.. I love my woman more than anything , and it drives me insane and spikes my anxiety whenever I get into a point of despair about my relationship. I know I am so in love with my partner but my mind does this crazy thing that makes me think otherwise . I just wanna stop going through these moments . I overthink too much naturally too . And I have severe OCD already as is so just like you I wouldn’t be surprised if I have ROCD .
I literally just got off the phone with my boyfriend and he told me there is nothing to worry about and told me to stop apologizing for something I didn’t do. I can relate to everything in this video. After talking to him and watching this video made my day. Though it’s long distance because he’s in the navy im trying my best to not let my anxiety get to me.
What I plan to do is to improve, whenever there’s a mistake you learn from it, in return of my relationship anxiety I’m hurting my best friend so I also plan on helping her to heal so we recover together, yay!
having a crush is the worst, i just try to distance myself as soon as i can and try not to think about them cause i know that it wont work (for many reasons) anyways
@Linda IKR like literally couple weeks ago I thought I was developing a crush (luckily i didnt) and I was terrified cos having a crush is literally the worst for me
@@user-ld1lg4dz2o the only thing i ever did with a crush of mine was help her get together with another friend of me - both of them broke contact to me once they were together..
Have you ever experienced any of these signs mentioned in the video? Comment below!
Gotta say, I think I got almost everything down...ouch
Does this pertain to friendships too?
I have like 6 of these except number 7 and 8, it is kind of wrecking me atm, I can't find much time for myself, I constantly fear she'll leave me, I get extremely paranoid and everything, I basically put all my time into her and do everything for her, and then stupid stuff like her just saying she is going to sleep instead of goodnight, love you, has me triggered. I don't even dare to say I might want a day to myself because I'm scared she'll leave me or meet someone else, I never had this before, it's just so nerve wrecking.
@@valianttruth3745 Yes, why not?
I had all of the above with my ex, and once we broke up and tried to be friends I still had all of thease and I tried to keep her out of my head and not torture me with guilt that I hadn't been enough or I didn't deserve it and I had failed at everything I did for her.
Though, she wasn't very caring and didn't help me in the slightest when I needed it but alwayes gave her my support and gave up on trying to talk about my problems.
Our ending didn't end so kindly either. We both said horrible things in the heat of anger and honestly she probably hates me as much as I hate her.
Now I'm a little better with my current partner, though I'm still scared, I'm trying my best and trying to put BOTH of our feelings first and I want to make sure I do it right this time and not go ahead over heels and not think.
I'm my own worst enemy. I have the man of my dreams but I'm so damn anxious and insecure that I end up causing small fights. It's like I'm so scared of giving in 100% because I think I'll get hurt. I have these fears of not being pretty enough, I'm not successful enough or I'm too shy. He's literally the sweetest, most patient guy.
Same !!!!
Same
Ur not alone ... I hope we all have a healthy healing .. I’m so confident when I’m not in a relationship then boom 💥 get in one and loses all my shit smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@tonileolion9702 girl yes ! I learned I have to find that healthy balance for my self and still be selfish and also present . So I won’t lose my shit lol
@@lookthereshope7820 it’s a daily struggle I hate it but I’m trying . I honestly feel bad for the guy I’m dating lol but he’s so patient and kind . I wish I was normal . Covid just made my anxiety 1000 times worse
Love how I have social anxiety and finally managed to get a partner and then... get welcomed to ‘relationship anxiety’. 😭
😭😭😭
I know your comment is 11 months old, but same, I feel your pain. I hope your relationship is still kicking and you overcame this.
So sad😔
Same
I hope he loves u even more
"Do you relate to any of these signs?" Yeah I was crying the entire video
Me to
Yeah
I am so glad I wasn't the only one
Me too :(((
This video got me more stressed because i really have a problem i relate to 90% of these
I’ve never been called out so many times in only 6 minutes
right
My texting anxiety plays a part in my relationship anxiety. Those feelings of “I shouldn’t have said that” and “I should have said that differently” are constant.
Me too. :(
Same!!!!
I ghosted them I am so scared of myself
me every weekend
Texting anxiety... come on! There is no one who has texting anxiety who doesn't have just anxiety. That you notice it more when texting doesn't make it some kind of special anxiety. It's anxiety. Splitting hairs...
Y’all know you pressed this because you know you have trust issues and are scared of being hurt,,, and same :”((
Same
How did you know
Sweetxsalty because hurt people know the pain man 🥺
Not necessarily, I’m just curious.
I hope you heal in your own time.
Nope, this channel is just interesting.
This channel is where introverts go for relationship advice.
We hope this helps! What other relationship advices would you like to learn from us? :)
Me, a depressed extrovert
Dogski28 true
Yes
true
1. You’re insecure about your relationships
2: You doubt your partners feelings about you
3. You’re overly dependent of your partner
4. You try to overly please your partner
5. You over analyze your relationship
6. You beat yourself up over everything
7. You’re afraid things will get too serious
8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong
5 through 8 ripped me a new one, as they say
Thanks
I'm 5,7,8
Thanks !!💕 I relate to 1, 2, 5 & 6😓
I just want her to leave me so I can get rid of these thoughts. I think I'm better off alone.
My wife was murdered Feb 8 2021. My life has been destroyed completely. Watching your channel has brought me so far. As I move forward in my life, with pain and suffering, I can go to sleep feeling a little bit better after your videos. For my mental health I say God bless you and everything you do.
I am so, so sorry. I lost my husband of 22 years a year ago very suddenly and unexpectedly to sepsis. I have been dating a guy for the past 3 months, who I've fallen REALLY hard for, and my insecurities and anxieties are really overpowering me, which is ridiculous because this new relationship has been going incredibly well and I should have no reason to feel this way. It's awful. :(
There was a guy I was dating a while ago and he accidentally killed himself a couple months ago. I’m so sorry, I’m glad you’re doing better now.
Praying for your healing
I am sorry for your loss, man.
This hits pretty hard when your in a long distance relationship and you always have the thought of them being with someone better on your mind. All these points hit true for me and Ik I have problems. I just don’t want her to have to deal with them all.
Dude i feel exactly the same way
same man its really rough and i'm at a point were i might lose them.
@@cass94er communication is key. If y’all aren’t on the same page, ya gotta work to fix it is all. Keep it up dude
Brotha I feel you
@@ryanperry1561 only issue is I feel like communicating it every single day for that piece of assurance, which obviously isn't the move 🤷🏽♂️
I have anxiety deep inside, but I believe relationship is one of them.
Thanks for sharing! What do you plan to do next to overcome this?
@@Psych2go you must take deep breaths and reframe your mindset, find out what you gain and love from and about your relationship. That was what I did. Worked great. She left me the next week.
@@ethangreger4484 well thats sad, but dont let it get you down. After all you cant controll everithing, you can only controll yourself and your actions, so dont be sad about something you couldnt control.
@@ethangreger4484 I guess you're being sarcastic?
@@firstladyqueen5985 😭😭
Sounds like anxious attachment style. I feel like it’s fairly common and can be worked through with lots of self love + with the right partner 👌🏽
If you're partner has this what would you say is the best say to help them feel okay with not spending all their time with you and not overthink about it
Thank you. I needed to read that
Emma Z I think being able to recognize it, talk through it, and come up with a plan on how to best move forward together would be a good starting point.
Runner3000 happy to help! ❤️
That's true! Did you relate to this video?
These videos are great but can there be a follow up on what to do about any of this because all I've learned is that there's something wrong with me, but not how to fix the problem
Exactly
Thats something thought provoking and great idea to focus my content on.
I get the feeling that they don't want to because they're maybe not a licensed professional? Because there *are* issues to giving someone advice when you're not qualified to. I do agree though, and wish they would at least give SOME vague tips... But until then, I'll ask google
They never tell us how to fix the problem...for any topic really
I mean if u learn that there is a problem u should fix, they often say in their Videos that you should seek professional help.
I was crying through the whole video,
Because I relate to all of the signs, I feel like he's just tolerating me so he doesn't wanna hurt my feelings, or he just said yes out of pity because he didn't wanna hurt my feelings, I always feel like I'm just bothering him, I feel like I'm just doing it because I'm bored but I really do love him, but I feel like he deserves someone better
fr girl :((
these all hit me so hard now that I'm in a long distance relationship. I feel like there's nothing I can do about it on top of all the issues with anxiety I'm having. Who knows what's going on hundreds of miles away. I freak out for a few hours, I cant focus on anything, then i calm down and realize my relationship is fine. I overthink my problems and I know I'm overthinking and I still end up being the one to hurt myself. It's hard knowing the your S/O loves you but you keep thinking things that mess up your relationship.
Right there with you mate, basically the exact same situation. Worried rn that I may have hurt my partner really badly. I've got OCD and it's a nightmare sometimes but if you're with the right person/someone you love than they're worth fighting for and use it as an opportunity to improve yourself for them and most importantly for yourself. Stay strong 💪
This comment has very accurately reflected my situation.
What I want to avoid the most, is being toxic or needy, so I just keep it to myself...
But now I see that talking about it may be the best way to deal with this
@@pancakemotors23 same scenario im needy person and sometimes being needy to your partner can cause variety of problem became a toxic part of it
@@sad-boinguae2852 yeah, we actually broke up a month ago.
Reality is, that we tried to have a relationship trough VR, and although it was way closer than most long distance relationships, it still is a long distance relationship at the end.
Communication is way more difficult and getting trough you intentions and emotions is way more difficult when your avatar (character) doesn't reflect all of your emotions.
Although sad that it ended, I still think it was nice that I got to try such a thing.
im in the same situation like im terrified cuz i definitely have hurt my partner a lot and we broke up at one point and got back together but now idk if shes still with me out of pity or idk I am so lost i feel like I'm needy or if not that toxic and like I'm holding her back in some way been almost a year since iv seen her@@pancakemotors23
8 signs you have relationship anxiety
Me: I think everything is clearly wrong with me....
Me too
That's not it, not everyone is perfect for everyone. It's not that you're terrible, it's that it just didn't work out. Don't overthink it 💙
Me too.. 😔
Who’s watching this cause they’re worried about being in a relationship
Cause I am
Kiki I Hi! Me too!
I certainly am, but I think the bigger question is why I we're worried
Relatable
WHY ARE WE SO WORRIIIIEEEEDDD???
Me
It should also be noted that sometimes, especially in the last part of the vid, you may tend to be the one who destroys the relationship because you were so worried about it being destroyed, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy
*sigh* I wish this video existed when my relationship was still...there
Can confirm about the self-destruction button...
This. omg I'm in a long distance relationship right now I get anxiety when a conflict arises even if it's something small. This has happened to me so many times. Being scared of the destruction is worse than the destruction itself 💀
haha I'm here as well because I already ruined that relationship as well but I'm doing better for myself and have found better people.
Yep, that's exactly what I did
Same! I get too protective, too intense in a relationship and that makes them go away... but it's my insecurities that are getting the best of me and I end up destroying the one thing I didn't want to destroy. It sucks to be like that. :(
thank you so much for this, i literally cry everyday at least once because i feel like this. i can't tell you how thankful i am that this video exists, i finally feel heard and understood because i'm not the problem, it's the anxiety omg i love this
Wtf samee🥲 hardly a day goes by that i don't cry
I also cried watching this video because I can relate to most of them but what I wanted to know is how to get rid of this because I don't want my partner to get hurt 😭 and end up losing him 😭
I can relate to each of these point. I am always overthinking about my relationship. I am scared to lose him. I always have this thought going on in my mind that he might get someone better and leave me(even when he says that he loves me a lot). I am trying to not focus on these thoughts but then certain things flares my thoughts up like he has a TH-cam channel and he has the videos with his ex girlfriend. She is very pretty and he sometimes says that he is not into beauty anymore and that makes me feel degraded that he is not attracted to me. My head is gonna blast.
umm im not sure abt it ..but i feel like he might just be trying to tell u that he loves you..he just may not know how to express his feelings correctly(ive been there before).. if he wasnt attracted to you he wouldnt be dating you dw ...either way good luck .. i hope you feel better soon
I just have all anxiety. like??? I want a break! but *nope.* just always there.
i had them for a long time relax and you are going to be totally fine stay strong ❤️
*Hugs*
same tho
Rxse _ pxtals me too. you’re not alone❤️
Try watching stand up comedy, I do it whenever I get anxious. Works like a charm. After all laughter is the best medicine.
I saw this video pop up and automatically asked myself, “How do they know?!?!”
Can’t get relationship anxiety if nobody loves you!
Extroverts hate this one, simple trick!
If noone loves you just learn to love yourself
@@burner0821 unless, you love to hate yourself, put a little twist on things
@@roythomas3667 like self-loathing?
@@HoV326 yes, but I pretend it's fun. Like a game of constant character building, and who doesn't love games
I’m a 31 year old man, I’ve always been strong and well put together. At least on the outside lol
I have avoided relationships for several years and I’ve finally found someone I feel deeply for and I’m flooded with anxiety and over analyzing. I keep my composure well but sometimes when I’m alone I tremble and shake. Your video was simple and calming, you’re very talented.
I guess I don’t have everything figured out lol
I was forced to grow up young. I was abused and abandoned by people I desperately needed when I was 11. I even lived in a children’s home for several years.
I became skilled at masking my pain and deep fear of others I love leaving or hurting me.
All these years latter I’m harshly reminded of this old open wound. This time I don’t think I can run away, hide or go cold and distant from her like the others.
Shout out to all the broken people out here. I pray y’all find healing and the strength to do so.
Amen,May the good Lord take care of you and seek professional help please. Love from Uganda.
this video broke me in the best way possible. i need to fix and work on myself so i can give my significant other my best. also, thank you, your channel is the only thing I can watch while being severly depressed. you don’t know how much this means to me. thank you.
Please Can U Make A Video About "How To Overcome Relationship Anxiety"...???!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺
This is what I hoped it was 🤕
After learning about relationship anxiety some weeks ago, I decided it was enough and I had to work on it, Relationship anxiety is primarily caused due to bad past and lack of self love, so I did just that, I took a break of 1 week from my partner and concentrated just on myself, forgave myself for everything wrong I did, tried new hobbies and every time I overanalysed, I kept on repeating to myself I am strong.❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love this! I was very anxious about my relationship for the past two weeks, something bad happened to him and he kind of shut me out. This is my first relationship, so I'm not sure why he's doing this, I thought when you are in love you'll talk about it with your SO, right? and I don't know how to handle the situation, so I ended up freaking out on him, assumed that he didn't want me anymore and told him I'm breaking up with him because I can't handle the emotions anymore and I thought by doing that I'll protect myself and my feelings, but I ended feeling very selfish with my decision afterwards. He didn't say/reply anything to me about that. So, I thought to myself, I guess I was right to assume that he didn't want me anymore. But after some days, I've calmed down and had time to think about the situation, I realised I let my insecurities get the best of me and I didn't even try to see the situation from his perspective. So I ended up messaging him, told him I'm sorry for freaking out and told him I'm not giving him up yet. I'm glad he reciprocated to that, he's not ready to say goodbye either and he told me he just needed some time to figure out his situation. So, right now while he's figuring out his situation, I'm focusing on myself and I'll do what you do because that's what I must do if I want this relationship to work. Thank you for this. We can do this, we are STRONG💚💚💚💚
Literally had all these signs in my first serious relationship.
@@prashanttemalay7918my first serious relationship was the same way eventually I guess you just learn how to communicate your feelings better and build trust slowly over time I am in a much happier relationship now but sometimes I still have those moments where I’m asking them questions that I should already know the answer to
but how do i stop these thoughts
@@robbyhill9850 my best advice is that you sit with them instead of trying to push them away, do not act on them. When I do that eventually things start to feel better and I’ll realize I was overthinking or the problem will become much clearer.
This
Whenever anxiety hits me, I will distract myself by doing good deeds such as feedings animals, offering food to someone etc. It makes me feel peace
Damn. That guy with a clover leaf or something has been a LOT THROUGH. He deserves a break from all this.
Omg, you are amazing 🤣
I’m sure everyone has had relationship insecurities at some point (I’ve even had them about my own friendships) I’m also adopted so I know how abandonment can feel (even if I don’t vividly remember it) but it’s ok!
To anyone feeling a little anxious/insecure: Know that your relationships, friendships, connections with other people are important and these are the people who want to be around you because they care about you. They do things for you and you do things for them because you have a significant relationship. I often find myself pondering too far ahead in the future, but just know the present, these moments now are most important and the future will figure itself out-I like to believe things happen for a reason! ❤️
I most definently have relationship anxiety and showed most of these signs with my last relationship. The only problem? It was right. My anxiety proved to be right in the end. We loved each other and planned on getting married after college. However, due to getting to involved, we ended up falling out. And she dumped me right around christmas 2019. I used to always doubt the realtionship and validity of her affection. And now that the anxiety was right, it made my depression and anxiety so much worse.
That sounds rough. Honestly that sounds like it was a learning experience on your part. I think it's important to voice your concerns or doubts as soon as you can to avoid a huge falling out, or to discover things aren't going to work out and leave the relationship without a huge argument
I obviously don't know your relationship or anything that happened. BUT it is possible your relationship anxiety was actually acting as self-sabotage, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sometimes, your perspective is everything. And what you ask for from the world is what it gives you. This is the law of attraction. Look it up!! It can be very helpful. Some people claim it's been life-changing for them. I struggle with implementing it. But I do believe there is truth to it. I hope you are able to heal yourself through your anxieties. I know it takes a lot of work and willpower. Don't let your anxiety take over. Only you have control over your mind. Take back the reigns. Good luck ♥️
Check out the School of Life TH-cam channel as well. I believe they have a video on self-sabotage
Marian Phillips This is exactly what I was about to write. Sometimes self-sabotage is extremely hard to be seen and accepted. We don’t know the dynamics but our theory might be right.
I think it was your gut feelings talking to you. Your intuition. I felt this too. I thought It was just anxeity as it was my first relationship. Mine turned out true as well
@@ahoneekesong9004 right sometimes it’s ur gut but ur anxiety hightens all of that and it’s possible that ur gut feeling was exactly what was going on . Smh 🤦🏽♀️ Its hard
I'm experiencing everything you mentioned in this video, I've been in a new loving relationship for about 2 months now and he's been amazing so far and its the first time someone has treated me well. However, I can't help but worry about things like waiting for something to go wrong or over analyse their texts. I don't want to push him away from constantly asking for reassurance from him :(
You're doing the best thing, read read as much as you can, may not realize it but it does help. Be careful too because a lot of anxious personality types get with avoidant personality types. The avoidant will come in hot and heavy and then once intimacy starts picking up the appointment will back away quickly which will leave you confused and then make you more anxious so terrible combination. But it's also a time to grow so we did as much as you can and try to detach some from the relationship so you can be more yourself. It's one of the hardest things some of us can do I wish you the very best of luck my fellow traveler 👍🏻
yep i feel ya. all most at my 2 month mark too and its long distance and im freaking out because i got clingy and i might lose him.
I was literally crying while watching this because every thing they said is everything that I do
I definitely was like this when I started going out with my bf but I’ll bring these things up to him and he reassures me every time. I honestly feel so lucky to have him.
I wish this could happen more easily with men. I'm feeling this right now, but I don't want to express it to my gf, because it looks weak, and no gf wants that in a man. she knows I'm prone to anxiety, but I fear that if I let her know that I need reassurance, I'll come across as needy, which will cause her to pull away, I'm certain of it. so for now, I just internalise it all, and be my usual funny confident self around her. I'm good at hiding my anxiety...years of practice.
after noticing these signs, i believe i have this because this is my first relationship. i really want this to last long, i love them and these signs relate to what i think in the back of my mind, now i can be more wary and hopefully have enough courage to speak with them about it and work together on it ^_^
are you guys still together? 🥹
This came exactly when I needed, luckily my boyfriend is really supportive and understanding and I can be open about my anxiety, and work on it. Thank you for this video. 🥰
Literally bawling my eyes watching this. I can’t recall major factors of my childhood that led me to be this way but i nodded my head in tears for all 8 signs. My head is going nuts. I’ve been in the most amazing relationship for 1 1/2 years, to the point that i feel BLESSED. I can see a future so clearly. I’ve been in a previous relationship where i knew the guy wasn’t the one, and i didn’t have this anxiety, i just felt my gut telling me to GET OUTTA THERE after a month.
But with my man now, my heart knows what it wants, but every now and then my head starts to play against it saying “what if this happens..” or “what if that happens..” and even ridiculous thoughts like “leave him now before you get married, have 2 kids and he decides he wants a divorce” when im feeling confident in myself and in control of my life, im able to easily shut those thoughts down and know that its just silly. But when i’m feeling a little down, or distant, a simple swipe through instagram and seeing a steong celebrity couple spontaneously breaking up is enough to set me off. Omg, if they didn’t last how are we going to!!?? Or seeing a tiktok where girls are saying “if your bf doesnt do these 10 things girls, dump his ass” like omg my bf doesn’t do this! Is he not the one !??? But i don’t wanna dump him 😭😭 social media definitely plays a big culprit, so do movies, books, tv shows, celebrities, the freakin whole world. And it crushes sensitive souls like me who are trying to find their place in the world, with people pleasing habits who’s biggest trigger is criticism. I just don’t know how to get over this feeling because my poor love is suffering, when he has done nothing but love me undoubtedly, meanwhile i feel that im selfishly letting my head push him away 💔
I’m on the other side of this where the love of my life pushed me very far away. The one who loves you is there and stays there because they want you. They wouldn’t be choosing to fight through it all if they didn’t want to. Just keep that in mind. ❤ I think the more you openly communicate about your fears with them, the more they have the opportunity to reassure you and have an idea of what’s going on rather than being confused. Even if you can’t say you’re feelings to them, when you’re doing the distancing thing just shoot them a text saying “hey it’s hard for me to talk about right now but I’m doing the distancing thing because I got scared. I’ll talk when I feel better.”
She pushed and pushed and pushed me away and it hurt me really deeply, but no matter what there is always this part of me still hear waiting for her. If we love you, we really really love you ❤️
It is not really a partner, it’s my friend. I’m scared and always thinking about if they really care about me, and they seems like have a “life” but I don’t. I want to do the things they are doing, and I consistently thinking about my friend, I feel lonely and sad when I’m not talking to them or knowing they are traveling to another place and won’t be online for a week. I love them as a friend so much, to the point I’m scared of losing them
I'm rather scared of being in a relationship and I'm questioning my own feelings all the time, because I don't wanna hurt someone
Help please...
Me too! I’ve had this for years, it gets better. Psychology helped me heaps. Good luck to you ♥️
@@saskiache4774 Is there something that helped you and could help me too?
Omgggg, i question my feelings all the time!!
Same is something helped uhh @littlemary434
Same is something helped uhh??
1. You’re insecure about your relationship 1:05
2. You doubt your partner’s feelings for you 1:35
3. You’re overly dependent on your partner 2:10
4. You want to please your partner too much 2:40
5. You over analyze your relationship 3:20
6. You beat yourself up over everything 3:48
7. You’re afraid that things will get too serious 4:18
8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong 5:00
Bruh they put work into this.
Thanks for putting this together! Did we miss any?
Psych2Go no problem! I love being able to see bullet points and time stamps to remember and go back and look. I don’t think you missed anything, I enjoyed the video and found it helpful 😊😊😊
Hey annika am larry
We could get to know each other 😂🤣
I love him so much. He makes me so happy. Currently trying to not let my severe anxiety and mental health get in the way of this.
This video made me cry soo much. I relate to everything in this video. I can't take it. I just want to be normal 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Me to I relate to everything
I relate to all these signs actually, I almost cried..
Same bro :/
It's totally normal to cry, crying is not a sign of weakness but a very good way to let emotions out! :)
Sorry to hear :( What do you plan to do next?
What I'm trying to do since I decided that I won't allow this fear of hurts to ruin my relationship any further was to prioritize being present, so I'm more able to enjoy every possible moment and mostly to handle my triggers, by realizing where they come from, how hard and how often they hit me, which is still pretty often. Then what I try to do with the identified trigger is to overpower it by questioning it or by measuring my desire for things to work out as best as possible vs allowing the fear to keep me on submission.. somehow a bit tiring every now and then.
Something else I've been trying too is to share with my boyfriend how I feel about some things with a bit of background about it, most times only after I evaluated it's logic by my own devices or with help of my bff so things can go as smooth as possible.
I did the same, it made so much sense when I realized what the core of my trigger was. I realize that i might be struggling with gad. In two weeks I’m going to my first therapy session . I’m ready to work with myself.
i have relationship anxiety. i’m in a relationship *with* my anxiety, we’re vv happy😆🥳
XDDD GOOD ONE
Whilst watching this and realising how anxiously attached and insecure I am in all relationships, I was beating myself up for it. I can see how people can pick up on this anxious energy and internal conflict and why I don’t have many meaningful relationships in my life.
5:00 You're waiting for something to go wrong...... always finding excuses to leave even though every things is going well........ Every story end before it starts as always. It will never happen....
A great exercise that I got from another video about having anxious preoccupied attachment Style was to take a notebook and on one side right the thought that my anxiety gave me and then on the other side of the sheet of paper write the reality or the potential reality of the situation
"What's up" "Nothing" was 90 percent of my conversation with my ex.. didn't realize I had really pushed him away
This isn't just limited to romantic relationships. I'm constantly worried that my friends only like an idea of me at first and one day will realize who I am and hate me, or some of them have realized who I am and just stick around because they feel sorry for me because of things that happened in life. I never believe that anyone could like me for me like there's something fundamentally wrong with and I can't change it. I constantly feel like I have to put on this mask in order to have any friends.
I can relate to most of these points…I don’t know what to do…I love her so much and I don’t want to hurt her…I don’t think this is something I could talk to her about…I just want to get rid of this feeling..I wanna love her like I used to
You are so valid for this, i suffer with communication but truely the best thing is to communicate your feelings. I know it is tough to do but it will help you both to know what your thinking and find a way to cope with the feeling with knowing that if she can get through, communicate, and understand what you are feeling then she will stay by your side for a while. The feelings might not ever go away, but these are the true first steps.
This anxiety hit me this morning! The big one for me was waiting for something to go wrong. Thank you for this video! 😭
inbox me if you are interested in getting back your ex or any relationship problems
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I get stressed out just thinking about being around people... 😅
Same here
I see! :( How come?
@@Psych2go sorry I never replied! I feel this way from some bad past experiences.
@@Booga04 same here.i feel like pouring out them all to someone.
*Literally 99% won’t see this but, god bless you and stay safe during these hard times read my name btw🦋*
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I honesly have problems with anxiety for a long time.... but nobody believes me I guess
It's... not the fact that they don't believe you. They just don't know how to help you with that.
Wanna talk about it?
I'm now 16 and i know that i am anxious since i was 8 years old, and i got used to it , not having friends , hating to talk
Thanks for sharing! Which sign did you relate to the most?
@@Psych2go Honesly 1 and 5....
But this video isn't the only one I can relate in some way. I mean for example about this video, even though it's meant to be for relationship with parter, I can relate for the poins even just about my friends. (Since I never had and never will have parter)
I also relate to most of your videos about anxiety, and even thought I wasn't diagnosed or anything, it's weird that I can relate to that much things but everyone around me are saying I'm ok.
“… because of this deep seated fear of abandonment.”
Hit it right on the head
I learned these the hard way, she leave me because of this traits...
oh man, It surely does humble me to the core,
I LEARNED. BUT AT THE COST OF SOMETHING
wait i’m sitting here in awe. you guys are some psychics 😭😭
I literally have it so bad and he’s really supportive about it too but it doesn’t make me feel any better about how I could potentially destroy our relationship. We literally have each other social media logins because that’s how much I worry, overthink and all. Like I need proof I’m loved.
I had my heart completely ripped in two last Christmas and am still nowhere near being over it eight months later. Watching this video has made me realise that I’ll probably now have relationship anxiety for the rest of my life.
As a man, I feel ashamed because of how much I can relate to this. Heartbreaking:)
I went for help. Once I became aware what was happening to me, I did the exact opposite what my first instincts told me to do. Once I learned this, everything I touched improved for the better.
Psych2Go, every time i'm dealing with something in my life, there is always a video about my issue on my feed when i wake up. These videos have helped me so much and i hope you all continue to make insightful videos like these
Psych2go: "Will they miss me when I'm gone?"
Much better question: "Will they cry when I die?"
Are you okay?
What really hurts is that I had to stop and think about the answer.
@@revolesto4151 nah what really hurts is being pretty sure the answer is no
You good? 0-o
Probably not
I’m so glad my counselor told me I might have this, I have experienced every sign and it’s been tough to deal with it and hide the fact that I do have this. Thank you so much for this I video!!!
Just want to say I’m not in a relationship but I fall for people easily and this’ll be what I’ll feel most of the time, I’m glad that I took precautions when it comes to love because if I went full throttle a lot it would’ve been bad lmao
Separation anxiety, Relationship anxiety, Social anxiety- this is a good set so far....
i feel like i always have an issue. i finally find someone who i love and who loves me truly and i can’t even navigate through the relationship normally. i’m constantly worried that i’m not enough and i get so insanely jealous over every tiny thing. it’s so annoying. i just want to not think about anything.
i really needed this video. Relationship anxiety has been weighing me down for a few months now, but i didn't know what it was called. Finally, i find some sort of information that i can relate to. I relate to all of these signs. Can you give any tips on how to fix this form of anxiety?
Omg... I've been thinking I was crazy for feeling all these things for so long. It feels good knowing I'm not alone❤
"6 feet apart."
"Why-?"
"We're still in quarantine. Gotta stay safe!"
Hehe
The realization that I’m actually in a very healthy relationship leading to marriage is overwhelming me…that one day we’ll get married and my life won’t be the same…. It’s a “too good to be true “ kind of worry
Ive been in a relationship for almost 2 months now. And I’ve felt all of these.
He’s such a good loving boy with hopes of a bright future with me. But even i doubt what he says sometimes. I’ve met people who said they’d be together forever and then shortly after, enemies for life. I’ve seen it happen and im afraid it’ll happen to me.
This morning as I woke up next to my boyfriend, he was up already and glanced at me and didnt say good morning. He then proceeded to go upstairs for breakfast, leaving me on the bed not saying a word. I had a enough i thought. If I’m not feeling loved, why am I expecting it. I quickly got dressed, packed my bag, headed out without saying goodbye to anyone, not even his parents. I just thought no one noticed. But my boyfriend did and asked me where I was going as i was already down the street. I felt really bad, it hurt so bad walking away from him because of my own assumptions.
He called me later crying, asking why i left without saying anything. Just goes to show, relationship anxiety not only hurts you, but it hurts others around you afterwards.
I want this to work, I love him.
I can relate to most of these characteristics...
I'm really insecure about my relationships and I have the constant feeling they're about to leave me or it's just a matter of time until they replace me by someone else.
I deeply believe it is connected to my father's abandonment during my childhood.
Although I have a stepdad has been years, which I consider my real father, the scars from my childhood apparently remain in a strong feeling of abandonment.
Now I'm dating someone really nice, that means a lot to me and I don't want my anxiety to be a problem.
What I've been doing is:
1- when something upsets me I think if it is really important or if I can let go; if I can't, I tell my partner right away so we can solve it out.
2- try not to overthink things, it's ok they're out of my control;
3- try to think in my partners position and feelings;
4- try to remember that they do love me and there's no reason to think otherwise, we must give people a vote of trust;
5- try to chill and practice my solitude, giving also space to my partner to be on his own;
6- try to remember that everything will be ok.
Be honest with your partner about your issues and that will help them to understand your feelings and concerns. Don't forget that they have feelings and fears as well.
Don't be afraid to stand up for your beliefs and what you think is right, cause people with relationship anxiety constantly have abusive relations. If you find yourself in one, get out.
You will find someone nicer - maybe right now thats you and you should have your own time.
And remember: the sun will shine again, it will rain again and as the dire straits song says: why worry now?
It will be ok
I know all the signs. I feel so broken. I ruin all my relationships this way.
I never been in a relationship, but I show these signs with every friend I had, I don't know what this says about me...
My girlfriend has a few of these signs 😢 she's a very wonderful person who doesn't seem to know it no matter how much I tell her how wonderful she is and how lucky I am that she chose me to love
I found a great partner, amazing connection, intellectual/physical bound, the full package. Then I found out she got relationship anxiety. She totally related to this video. I thought we could get over this but facing a constant sabotaging is hard, especially at the beginning of a relationship, deprived from honeymoon phase. Add to this cultural differences and some thousand of kilometers and visa issues...
Now it's total silence. I had to deal with rejections, she had to deal with constant fear of being betrayed.
I miss her terribly. Good luck to everyone concerned by this, in any side of the relationship. Patience and trust are the key words it seems. I wish we had that time...
Honestly, all of these things are relevant to me.
I'm stubborn and kinda optimistic though, I'm gonna do all I can despite the fact that everything could fall in the end. It will be worthwhile no matter what. I doubt myself all the time, but I can't deny the evidence,
I love that guy 💞
These are all the reasons why my last relationship ended..
Same :(
Which reason did you relate to the most?
@@Psych2go I beat myself up over everything.. I know I'm too hard on myself, but I failed her too much..
same here... it was five years ago
I struggle with 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 8. My relationship with my girlfriend is good right now and I love her. We have been dating for about a year and a half. We are currently long distant, but the distance has made my relationship anxiety worsen. I now fear that my relationship anxiety is sabatoging my relationship. She has dealt with my jealousy, over thinking, codependency, and my insecurities. My father abandoned me as an infant, so that explains my fear of abondonment. I want to stay with her and fix my anxiety, becuase if I don't fix it then I'll always have it no matter who I'm dating. If you're reading this I would seek a professional for help, becuase I don't know where to start when it comes to fixing it.
This hits hard and some of this doesn’t even apply to dating for me. I know I don’t have a crush yet but that’s probably because of what’s described in number 7. It hits hard.
And it's even worse if your significant other isn't as physically affectionate as you are. Man, I'm always thinking that I'm doing something wrong because of that.
I always feel like if I were to mess up, she would just leave me a find someone better, turns out I clearly have this, thanks so much, I needed this
This is exactly what happened with me and my Ex-girlfriend. We both had Relationship Anxiety together. Since the break up. I felt like I was never going to be loved again because of how I felt my Autism makes me so different and misunderstood. It's been over 3 Months since the Break up and at this point I think I have started to Isolate myself again.
I have never been in a romantic relationship but, I feel like I will have relationship anxiety (if I ever get into a romantic relationship) because a guy I had crush on (and eventually fell in love with) said “I love you” to me even though he did not mean it romantically
I experienced each one of these when I fell in love with my best friend. I regret being a foolish, selfish, coward.
She said that she loved me but I was too stupid and scared to accept it, and I’m sure hurt the feelings of someone who once said she loved and trusted me.
Now I just hope the happiness she has now lasts forever, and that maybe I’ll get to see her smile as an old wrinkle lady who lived a life worth living. I just want my friend to be happy and safe, even though it can’t be with me anymore because I’m even weaker than before
i swear sometimes it keeps making me think of the worst in a relationship and makes me wanna die sometimes just so i can stop thinking
This definitely happens and gets blown out of proportion especially if you're in a long distance relationship. I'm in one and often times me and my partner would resolve conflict over text. That usually was bad because sometimes I couldn't tell if I was just having relationship anxiety or something was actually wrong between us. I can't stress this enough: video call or voice call always, come to a resolution for each conflict that arises, even if it feels petty or takes a while to sort through, and REMEMBER your solutions to those conflicts. Seriously write them down, I've done that and finally things are sticking. Also don't wait to tell your partner if you feel something is wrong. Often times the reassurance helps anyways unless you're constantly asking them if something is wrong like 3 times a day (then that sounds like unresolved codependency).
I find that so many relationships these days are fragile. Or people enter one and can't tell if their partner is abusive or want to leave it because they recognize that, then when they do, enter another relationship and then anxiety strangles them as they think it will turn out bad like the ones prior. I've found that using self help books is a must.
this makes me feel human to know there is others out there like me. lol love you all!
My relationship anxiety is trying to convince me I am falling out of love with my fiance, and I personally think it is the fear of moving in soon, and also missing him cause Long distance relationship. It's just a little butterflies pain in my chest ;n;
Every time i talk to people i feel like i need their approval and i feel like every small thing they do means they dont like me
No one could've expressed my thoughts and feelings better than you did. The way you described this is just perfect. This hit hard, and it hurts a lot too. I have always been wondering on if it was my fault that he has changed because of these signs mentioned in the video. Being an overthinker, having attachment issues, the fear of abandonment, the need for your partner to prove their love to you and much more. Made me feel like I was never meant for love, yet I do feel it. Despite relating to every signs given in the video, it made me realize that I'm lucky to have him. He has always been there for me and always supported me, I was too blind to realize it back then. I can't help but thank you, you made me feel understood ❤
Does anybody else fear losing feelings for their partner? But know deep down that you truly love them and would never lose feelings for them.
Yes! I’m struggling with this so badly at the moment. You’re the first person I’ve seen who’s mentioned this. Makes me feel less alone
I know the feeling
im sorry if you're seeing this again, i just really want this to be seen :)
psych2go, can you make a video on mirror touch synesthesia? i just found the name for it and i've had it for years. it's when someone feels pain or a touch when they see someone else in pain/being touched. i just want awareness for this condition as it's a bit rare.
love your videos :)
Omg , that's what i have , when i see , for example , someone that hits his finger toe to the edge of the table i feel the same pain like i hit it
I’ve seen an episode about that on Chicago Med, you should check it out!
I found out how bad my Relationship Anxiety is when I started dating again after 3 years of being single. A lot of the signs in this video hits hard.
Also, did you guys know that ROCD (Relationship OCD) exists aswell? I just now found out about it. I've been suspecting having OCD for a while now because of having uncontrollable unwanted thoughts constantly, and HECK knows if it is OCD or not. However, with the chance of me having OCD and experiencing ROCD symptoms, I'm really not surprised at this point.
I 100% agree with you , I believe I have relationship OCD. I have been with my girlfriend for almost half a year now and I have had unwanted thoughts every single day about my relationship starting in the 5th month. It’s been hell.. I love my woman more than anything , and it drives me insane and spikes my anxiety whenever I get into a point of despair about my relationship. I know I am so in love with my partner but my mind does this crazy thing that makes me think otherwise . I just wanna stop going through these moments . I overthink too much naturally too . And I have severe OCD already as is so just like you I wouldn’t be surprised if I have ROCD .
I literally just got off the phone with my boyfriend and he told me there is nothing to worry about and told me to stop apologizing for something I didn’t do. I can relate to everything in this video. After talking to him and watching this video made my day. Though it’s long distance because he’s in the navy im trying my best to not let my anxiety get to me.
And all this anxiety, overthinking and paranoia is hurting myself and my best friend …
What I plan to do is to improve, whenever there’s a mistake you learn from it, in return of my relationship anxiety I’m hurting my best friend so I also plan on helping her to heal so we recover together, yay!
Me who have a crush but scared to confess: depression noises
having a crush is the worst, i just try to distance myself as soon as i can and try not to think about them cause i know that it wont work (for many reasons) anyways
@@Linda- Me too, good thing i already separated school from my crush. I avoided him by being mad at him, cus he has a girlfriend.
@Linda IKR like literally couple weeks ago I thought I was developing a crush (luckily i didnt) and I was terrified cos having a crush is literally the worst for me
@@user-ld1lg4dz2o the only thing i ever did with a crush of mine was help her get together with another friend of me - both of them broke contact to me once they were together..
@@Linda- Sorry to hear that.