My goodness! Thank you so much. I got so much out of this. I am a sprinter who tries to run marathons to the point where I fall flat on my face. So helpful!
Holy cow Sarah! I'm a sprinter too, have been my entire life. Always starting things and rarely finishing them. I always saw it as a failure on my part (I heard it from family too) so this is so refreshing to hear that my style of living life is one of two "NORMAL" types of people and I can just accept that it's me and relax. Not get on my case over that too. In recovery too, I have found that I will push forward, have to stop, and I come back again. It started to get on my conscience that, here I go again, this won't get finished or followed through either voice. I took away that this is natural, all the parts of me are real and worth listening to. If I stop, that doesn't mean it's all over. This is such a helpful and comforting video. Thank you so much.
Sarah, please accept my heartfelt gratitude for all your talks. Your advice is not at a mundane physical or even psychological level, but a deeper, spiritual level. And this spiritual aspect is so quintessential to all healing processes. You speak with profound wisdom, the kind that is developed through experience and not information alone. And your language and tone is friendly and loving, the kind one would expect when seeking advice from a mature friend, philosopher and guide. I observe (you too must be well aware of it) that your advice on recovery from binge-eating is relevant to a far larger spectrum of self-destructive bad habits like drinking, smoking, porn, negativity etc. And that's what they all are, aren't they? Just bad habits. All self-destructive behaviours appear to follow a common pathway: The initial innocent and reckless, casual, wrong but pleasurable action that gets reinforced every time we repeat it, that finally becomes a deeply entrenched bad habit. In fact, they must follow a common neuro physiological process as well, the development of new circuitry in our brain. Long story short, your fantastic strategies and advice has far reaching potential, to help people get rid of all sorts of self-destructive behaviour. Please keep them coming. Thank you once again.🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for your thoughtful and kind comment. I agree that much of what I talk about applies to other aspects of life. Maybe that’s why I still feel so connected to the subject, I am still working on these themes in other areas of my life. I’m glad you’re here and glad my content speaks to you ❤️❤️
I have problems with overeating. I have given up dieting because it just triggers me when I focus on results. I find your channel helpful and very kind ❤ I don't agree that every part of me is good, but al parts are forgiven through faith in Christ. It helps to know I'm loved just the way I am. No need to run and hide from the more challenging parts. I'm about to set up heath goals for 2024. Expect to start and stop will defenetly be in there. Thank you for a great channel.
A bit of a different take, but we do need some discipline around food because highly palatable foods are harder not to binge on because they bypass our body's natural hunger and satiety cues and it's harder not to binge on them....biologically, we want foods that are high in sugar and fat and it's irresponsible to tell people to eat intutively all the way and it makes some of us feel like failures because we have foods that we cannot just have a little of even after an adjustment period. There are some foods that I can't eat because I will binge on them no matter how hard I try to eat intutively and this is also the real reason why I start doing ok and then I end up binging again. When we don't understand that highly palatable foods make us more likely to binge again, we just feel like failures when we end up over-eating them over and over again....and don't tell me I am restricting mentally or emotionally because I am not...not everything is psychological....and the body can sometimes crave foods because of missing nutrients and this is not the whole story...
Thank you for making the content you do. I was stuck in a restrict binge purge cycle for so long. Dealt with bulimia' anorexia and binge eating disorder{devaloped a binge eating disorder then bulimia and then anorexia with binge and purge) and I have a very complicated relationship with control and trust. Sometimes I find that I punish myself for my rests after my sprints. And my unhealthy behaviours and unrealistic expectations of myself feed into my self hate and the idea that Im undiciplined.
Loving the journaling example. That made it very clear!!! I am like that. loving your advice... start, stop, start, stop... a stop can prepare you to start stronger or sooner. Is that right? Did I understand it, correctly?
now, I get it completely! 👌my lack of english confussed me. I didn't know what "sprinter" means. Now, I get it. Thanks! 🥰. Not a good idea to try to guess the meaning of words in english. The english/spanish dictionary is a lifesafer. 😂
Simply wonderful. Love the analogies you put forth. I relate so much to everything that you spoke about. Thank you so much for bringing some clarity to my stop- start behaviour 💝
Sarah this reminded me of Marc David (the paychooogy of eating) work on the 8 archetypes within us . Talks about the different ‘people ‘ within us .. really helps to understand the inner conflict . Moira xx
I’ve been using apple cider vinegar first thing in the mornings and sometimes between meals. So far it seems to have a big impact for me in terms of cravings or thinking about food.
My dentist told me to stop drinking this! Apparently ACV eroded my teeth. It’s also making my teeth more sensitive, I’m losing my protective coating on my teeth, now it’s left me with the inner layer , the yellow colour. I can’t remember the terminology they used. Hope it’s not happening to u.
I can relate to the sprinter analogy for all other aspects of my life, but when it comes to food, I feel more like a paralysed person longing for running marathons. When my B. Self comes comes in, I find myself in totalitarian regime. All other voices in me have no power. They are just annoying voices. Do you have any video about it? How to tame this monster?
This may sound counter intuitive, but consider the idea of meeting the binge part with kindness and compassion. What are they trying to say? If we push one aspect of ourselves away, sometimes it seems to develop into an entity of it’s own. The binge self could be: protecting you from restricting if you keep trying to/telling yourself to, trying to keep you safe if emotions are feeling unsafe. It could be someone else’s voice (for some it sounds the same as a parent or critical figure in their life), it could be trying to get your attention that something else in your life is not being attended to. Some times I work with someone and the binge is discovered to be the part that struggles with boundaries and saying no, when they start being more truthful and boundaried with people in their life the bingeing abates (this one always astonishes me when I see it happening). Sometimes giving the binge voice a name to separate it from you and dis identify from it. Even a silly character’s name. This can take the power out of it a bit.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks for your answer. All of them, I don t know which one takes the roll from what you listed. So it s difficult to name it, it has different faces. I would have exchanged this compulsion with any other if I could. Why eating? Why do I make my life more miserable by my own and without even wanting it to the very least? It s absurd. I hate this part of me, it destroys my life.
"Progress not perfection". "It is the process that matters"... ❤ Sometimes, you blow my mind S.D. ❤ If I apply what you said only on this video, I will have a very good chance of reaching a process of healthy progress. What could happen if I apply more of your video content in baby steps and enjoying the experience every day whitout selfpressure of reaching success desperately?
hi Sarah! I'm as always so eternally grateful for your videos. I'm so worried my mental hunger and extreme cravings won't go away. is it normal in recovery to experience these annoying food thoughts all the time, and does it ever get better? i'm just so embarassed...maybe this is normal for ED recovery and i need to try and practice acceptance? not sure if you have made videos in the past regarding mental hunger and/or extreme hunger...thank you Sarah!
It very much depends what's causing the mental hunger/extreme cravings. Mental hunger is usually a response to deprivation or anticipation of deprivation. Cravings may signal something more emotional or habit. Without exploring what might underlie these urges they may not dissipate. I am curious about your embarrassment. Sounds like there may be a lot of judgement about having these desires. Are you allowed to desire food and take pleasure in it? Are you enjoying your food at the moment? Are you able to find satisfaction? These are all important pieces of the puzzle
Are you practicing with clients as just a therapist? I do not live close enough to see you in person but I've heard you mention that you run courses etc online. I'd love more information 😊 your videos have helped me immensely btw. Never seen anyone in a smaller body who gets the daily struggle as much as you do. Please keep posting. I've just bought your book "I can't stop eating" 😁👍🏻 # not a stalker just believe in your kind words 😊xx
Yes I am! There are links etc in the description of this video. I don’t currently have space for individual sessions, but I do have a couple of spaces in the groups.
My goodness! Thank you so much. I got so much out of this. I am a sprinter who tries to run marathons to the point where I fall flat on my face.
So helpful!
Me too! 😆
Holy cow Sarah! I'm a sprinter too, have been my entire life. Always starting things and rarely finishing them. I always saw it as a failure on my part (I heard it from family too) so this is so refreshing to hear that my style of living life is one of two "NORMAL" types of people and I can just accept that it's me and relax. Not get on my case over that too. In recovery too, I have found that I will push forward, have to stop, and I come back again. It started to get on my conscience that, here I go again, this won't get finished or followed through either voice. I took away that this is natural, all the parts of me are real and worth listening to. If I stop, that doesn't mean it's all over. This is such a helpful and comforting video. Thank you so much.
You are welcome Lorri! Welcome to the sprint 🏃♂️ club 🤣
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist 🤣
Sarah, please accept my heartfelt gratitude for all your talks. Your advice is not at a mundane physical or even psychological level, but a deeper, spiritual level. And this spiritual aspect is so quintessential to all healing processes.
You speak with profound wisdom, the kind that is developed through experience and not information alone. And your language and tone is friendly and loving, the kind one would expect when seeking advice from a mature friend, philosopher and guide.
I observe (you too must be well aware of it) that your advice on recovery from binge-eating is relevant to a far larger spectrum of self-destructive bad habits like drinking, smoking, porn, negativity etc. And that's what they all are, aren't they? Just bad habits.
All self-destructive behaviours appear to follow a common pathway: The initial innocent and reckless, casual, wrong but pleasurable action that gets reinforced every time we repeat it, that finally becomes a deeply entrenched bad habit.
In fact, they must follow a common neuro physiological process as well, the development of new circuitry in our brain.
Long story short, your fantastic strategies and advice has far reaching potential, to help people get rid of all sorts of self-destructive behaviour.
Please keep them coming. Thank you once again.🙏🏼❤️
Thank you for your thoughtful and kind comment. I agree that much of what I talk about applies to other aspects of life. Maybe that’s why I still feel so connected to the subject, I am still working on these themes in other areas of my life.
I’m glad you’re here and glad my content speaks to you ❤️❤️
I have problems with overeating. I have given up dieting because it just triggers me when I focus on results. I find your channel helpful and very kind ❤ I don't agree that every part of me is good, but al parts are forgiven through faith in Christ. It helps to know I'm loved just the way I am. No need to run and hide from the more challenging parts. I'm about to set up heath goals for 2024. Expect to start and stop will defenetly be in there. Thank you for a great channel.
Can so relate to this. I was described once as a 'lady of fleeting passions', this video sums it up perfectly, thank you😊
‘A lady of fleeting passions?!’ I don’t know how that felt to you at the time but I am enjoying that turn of phrase 😍
A bit of a different take, but we do need some discipline around food because highly palatable foods are harder not to binge on because they bypass our body's natural hunger and satiety cues and it's harder not to binge on them....biologically, we want foods that are high in sugar and fat and it's irresponsible to tell people to eat intutively all the way and it makes some of us feel like failures because we have foods that we cannot just have a little of even after an adjustment period. There are some foods that I can't eat because I will binge on them no matter how hard I try to eat intutively and this is also the real reason why I start doing ok and then I end up binging again. When we don't understand that highly palatable foods make us more likely to binge again, we just feel like failures when we end up over-eating them over and over again....and don't tell me I am restricting mentally or emotionally because I am not...not everything is psychological....and the body can sometimes crave foods because of missing nutrients and this is not the whole story...
Thank you for making the content you do. I was stuck in a restrict binge purge cycle for so long. Dealt with bulimia' anorexia and binge eating disorder{devaloped a binge eating disorder then bulimia and then anorexia with binge and purge) and I have a very complicated relationship with control and trust. Sometimes I find that I punish myself for my rests after my sprints. And my unhealthy behaviours and unrealistic expectations of myself feed into my self hate and the idea that Im undiciplined.
I hope you will find a way to ease off that pressure you’re heaping on yourself ❤️🩹
It’s as if you’re talking about me! I love the “progress not perfection” approach. My new mantra.
Loving the journaling example. That made it very clear!!! I am like that. loving your advice... start, stop, start, stop... a stop can prepare you to start stronger or sooner. Is that right? Did I understand it, correctly?
A stop is just necessary to have a break from striving. If you don’t judge or shame yourself, you’ll regain your motivation faster xx
now, I get it completely! 👌my lack of english confussed me. I didn't know what "sprinter" means. Now, I get it. Thanks! 🥰.
Not a good idea to try to guess the meaning of words in english. The english/spanish dictionary is a lifesafer. 😂
8:59 it does! ❤
Simply wonderful. Love the analogies you put forth. I relate so much to everything that you spoke about. Thank you so much for bringing some clarity to my stop- start behaviour 💝
thank you so much love you
Great Ideas! Thank you lovely SD
So true.
Thank you🥰
Sarah this reminded me of Marc David (the paychooogy of eating) work on the 8 archetypes within us . Talks about the different ‘people ‘ within us .. really helps to understand the inner conflict . Moira xx
Interesting! I like Marc David 😀
I’ve been using apple cider vinegar first thing in the mornings and sometimes between meals. So far it seems to have a big impact for me in terms of cravings or thinking about food.
My dentist told me to stop drinking this! Apparently ACV eroded my teeth. It’s also making my teeth more sensitive, I’m losing my protective coating on my teeth, now it’s left me with the inner layer , the yellow colour. I can’t remember the terminology they used. Hope it’s not happening to u.
@@noonmanji2086 sorry to hear this. How long has you been using it ? Did you have it undiluted ?
Another great video Sarah. 🥰
5:42 "No, shut up, I'm not listening to you, I know this stuff." Stop eavesdropping on me! 😄
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I'm definitely a sprinter. In every way possible. Except for running 😅
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Please talk more about the rebellious part.
I talk about it here: th-cam.com/video/4BE7v_qKFao/w-d-xo.html
And here: th-cam.com/video/kAst_kbehJM/w-d-xo.html
I listened to your audio 😊
I can relate to the sprinter analogy for all other aspects of my life, but when it comes to food, I feel more like a paralysed person longing for running marathons. When my B. Self comes comes in, I find myself in totalitarian regime. All other voices in me have no power. They are just annoying voices. Do you have any video about it? How to tame this monster?
This may sound counter intuitive, but consider the idea of meeting the binge part with kindness and compassion. What are they trying to say? If we push one aspect of ourselves away, sometimes it seems to develop into an entity of it’s own. The binge self could be: protecting you from restricting if you keep trying to/telling yourself to, trying to keep you safe if emotions are feeling unsafe. It could be someone else’s voice (for some it sounds the same as a parent or critical figure in their life), it could be trying to get your attention that something else in your life is not being attended to. Some times I work with someone and the binge is discovered to be the part that struggles with boundaries and saying no, when they start being more truthful and boundaried with people in their life the bingeing abates (this one always astonishes me when I see it happening).
Sometimes giving the binge voice a name to separate it from you and dis identify from it. Even a silly character’s name. This can take the power out of it a bit.
@@TheBingeEatingTherapist thanks for your answer. All of them, I don t know which one takes the roll from what you listed. So it s difficult to name it, it has different faces.
I would have exchanged this compulsion with any other if I could. Why eating? Why do I make my life more miserable by my own and without even wanting it to the very least? It s absurd. I hate this part of me, it destroys my life.
Allow and accept your need to stop, so you don't crash.
"Progress not perfection". "It is the process that matters"... ❤ Sometimes, you blow my mind S.D. ❤ If I apply what you said only on this video, I will have a very good chance of reaching a process of healthy progress. What could happen if I apply more of your video content in baby steps and enjoying the experience every day whitout selfpressure of reaching success desperately?
hi Sarah! I'm as always so eternally grateful for your videos. I'm so worried my mental hunger and extreme cravings won't go away. is it normal in recovery to experience these annoying food thoughts all the time, and does it ever get better? i'm just so embarassed...maybe this is normal for ED recovery and i need to try and practice acceptance? not sure if you have made videos in the past regarding mental hunger and/or extreme hunger...thank you Sarah!
It very much depends what's causing the mental hunger/extreme cravings. Mental hunger is usually a response to deprivation or anticipation of deprivation. Cravings may signal something more emotional or habit.
Without exploring what might underlie these urges they may not dissipate.
I am curious about your embarrassment. Sounds like there may be a lot of judgement about having these desires. Are you allowed to desire food and take pleasure in it? Are you enjoying your food at the moment? Are you able to find satisfaction? These are all important pieces of the puzzle
Are you practicing with clients as just a therapist? I do not live close enough to see you in person but I've heard you mention that you run courses etc online. I'd love more information 😊 your videos have helped me immensely btw. Never seen anyone in a smaller body who gets the daily struggle as much as you do. Please keep posting. I've just bought your book "I can't stop eating" 😁👍🏻 # not a stalker just believe in your kind words 😊xx
Yes I am! There are links etc in the description of this video. I don’t currently have space for individual sessions, but I do have a couple of spaces in the groups.
Thank you❤