......."the difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons" this is the second half of the quote and it really puts it all into perspective and makes it all the more motivating .
This is really true! That is why it is always important on our part, to at least have done something that will not make us have something to regret for in the future. Disciplining ourselves will always be hard in the beginning, but once we have come to get used to it and have turned it into a habit, it's easier to just live with it.
@@Theuncletoeticklingtoddler the comment was 6 months ago, and I've gotten better with discipline recently, a video called 'trial by fire' by Charlie morgan really helped
Me too. I’m morbidly morbidly obese and I want to be thin or at least get down to 260 from the 400+ I am right now. Had some shit happen yesterday and it’s kinda fucked with me. I’m hoping I can be who I want to be and act and look how I want to. Good luck everyone. I hope you all make it, and I hope I do too.
I have never heard anyone say that self discipline is actually self love before and I think it might just be the most useful piece of advice I’ve ever been given
Some key points for this video: 1:01 1. Reframe discipline as a function of self-love. For example, tell yourself, "I don't want you to eat that chocolate because I want the best for your health, because I love you." 2:44 2. Make discipline part of your identity. Think of yourself as a disciplined person. Envision it. 3:52 3. Reflect this new identity in your new environment. Make your environment look like that of a disciplined person (e.g., put away video games, keep your workout mat out). 4:43 4. Internalize the threat of not doing this. Loss aversion is a more powerful motivator than gain. 6:18 5. Have a good system to start things. Starting is harder than sustaining it. Remove any friction between you and starting your work. 8:33 6. Have a good method to sustain things. Create a sustainable daily/weekly/monthly routine. 9:50 7. Just do it. 10:05 Use discomfort training to help with just doing it (7). struthless deserves way more views. :( Not only is this channel informative and useful, it's creative and so artsy.
My favorite mindset hack for discipline: just have a good enough reason to do it. It was hard to come from a place of self-love back when I was depressed, but making enough money to take care of my family? A little more motivating. Find what pushes you and don't be afraid of material or "shallow" desires if that's what you really want right now.
Oh, an overlooked one actually. It worked at the time when I was suicidal. I was like, if I die today I can’t continue this hobby and who’s gonna care for my teddy bear 🧸. Something like this saved my life countless times
@@prapanthebachelorette6803 as someone who was suicidal I can confirm how having hobbies or something that I liked to do has kept me here. I was at the point that I seriously asked myself why I was even living as I didn’t look forward nor wanted any future or anything but then I was like oh well then I won’t have the chance to draw more or learn this language or write so I’ll live longer so I can do those. People have told me I shouldn’t focus on these since there will come a time I might not enjoy them anymore (I highly doubt so. I’m not someone who briefly attaches to things) but I disagree. When you’re a suicidal you have to cling to anything to live
@@prapanthebachelorette6803definitely, it will keep you alive. Unfortunately, for me, that doesn’t build self-discipline/self-love for me it showed me more reason to be mad at the world
I searched through a number of videos and have found that I repeatedly keep listening to this one just so I can drive these ideas into my head. Sat down and wrote each step so I can plan a course of action. Truth is, I'm pretty disciplined in certain aspects of my life but not so much in others. This video gave me key points(some which I've already unconsciously used), that I can focus on in addressing other tasks. This feels like it can work. Thanks for the info.
The "Just do it" method is by far the most powerful one that i've followed. People forget all the time that life is not always about being comfortable and having fun. (Like when most of us were kids). Once you become adult, you have responsibilities and pressure and you need to perform. If you don't, there's an internal system in your brain that fires up, making you feel all kinds of negative ways about yourself, which eventually leads to depression. A lot of people whince at the thought of going to the gym, supermarket for groceries, work, ect. But also most of those people find that once they go, and they're there, doing the thing they need to do, all the anxiety and uncomfortable pesky thoughts associated with it dissapear. It's like jumping in to cold water at the pool. The first few seconds you jump in, you get washed over with this liberating feeling, because the hard part is now done, you're already soaking wet now, so you might as well swim and enjoy it. This applies to just about everything you need to do, but don't want to. Once you initiate the action, it becomes SO MUCH easier and you actually kind of enjoy it too. And that's a positive feedback loop. You'll remember how it went last time, and that it wasn't so bad. So returning to do it again will be a lot easier from the beggining. You'll level up and those tasks will become automated after a long enough time. Hope this helps :)
Reminds of a time I was struggling with anxiety and just not wanting to do stuff, and I thought, "This is so hard!!" Then I thought, "You know, it will be a lot easier after you do it." "Ah, that's right! After I do it, it'll be done! That will make everything so much easier!" Then I immediately jumped up and completed as many tasks as I could as quickly as I could. Wish I could say this always works, but I'm very good at overthinking things, and even switching from thinking to doing is something I often overthink.
Yeah because if we are always being comfortable then it will eventually turn into discomfort because there will be no duality. Therefor doing the uncomfortable things will make the comfort so much more enjoyable.
I love your videos so much. Never thought that I can relate with someone so much. Bless the algorithm. In case anyone wanna note it down ❤ 1. Reframe discipline as a function of self love 2. Make discipline part of your identity 3. Reflect this identity in your environment 4. Internalize the threat of no doing this 5. Have a good system to start things 6. Have a good method to sustain things. 7. At some point the only true path is to just do it.
i pray all of us can see it through to the end of our lives successful in our individual missions. its never going to be completely smooth sailing. good luck to you all.
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you so much for acknowledging those of us with chronic illness. I love self development content and consume it wherever I can get it, and while I take what I can from it and ignore what won't work for me because of my illness it wears on me a bit to feel invisible. It's so refreshing to have someone in that field acknowledge that their advice might not work for everyone 🙂
agreed! even if I'd love to have tips coming from within our community but I don't know of a person on the internet who does that!( if ever u do I'd love to hear abt them)
Thank you so much for re-framing discipline for me. The concept of discipline used to be so toxic and destructive for my mental health that I effectively abandoned it. Now I realize, that wasn't discipline, it was me torturing myself into obedience.
I am awful at procrastination and have been trying to find a method for me. Out of all the "get motivated" "how to be productive" "organize your life" "start a habit" etc. style videos I've seen, this is the ONLY one that resonated with me. All of it.
0:35 For the past couple months I've been working towards doing things like drinking water, getting, sleep, eating right, hygiene, and now that I sort of have those things down, I've been looking for the next step. This video was exactly what I needed.
Hello, your tips work really work for someone like me - someone who procrastinates often, gets bored easily, hates routines - to think that I can tie my IDENTITY into someone who's self-disciplined sounds waaay better forcing ourselves to be someone we're not! also, I love the lose aversion tip as well, since most of my motivation surges when I'm close to the deadline, which means that i fear of NOT submitting the work on time. 😂😂 Thank you Campbell, this motivated me to work on my digital art 😀
Same here I get bored and frustrated easily and procrastinate bad, and it was so hard for me to accept no life can not always be fun and I do need to do this. But it was more of a bitter and angry self talk than one with understanding and love.
@@mrs.quills7061 Ahhh I understand that! As a high schooler whenever I procrastinate, at the end of day near the deadline I'll always think to myself "uGh why didn't I do it earlier" and self-criticize and such 😭 But we should try to turn that self-criticizing to self-love, or else we would feel FORCED to not procrastinate!
Exactly. Reframing one's attitude towards the discipline helps to prevent resistance. I instantly rebel against any forced discipline even though it may be the best thing for me.
I used to party hard, use drugs. I continued that into my early mid 20s. I had to make small changes of course but what really helped me was “playing the whole tape through” to me that meant remembering how I would feel the next day and/or what would follow in the coming weeks. Just remember to “play the whole tape through” in every aspect of your life.
was going to write a long comment on how you've helped me feel more comfortable with who I am and how you've pushed me to become a better version of myself, but I think this will do as well: thank you.
I gotta say, you’re my favorite self help guy i’ve ever found. So many people who have fixed their lives (more or less) and try to give advice try so hard to let the listener know that they started out in the same place, or worse, but youre the first person i’ve felt really sees the viewer as being on the same level of person as them. Idk how else to put it.
🧡for the undisciplined among us🧡(jk) : Discipline definition (noun): doing the things that i said i was gonna do despite resistance 1. Reframe discipline as a function of self love - it's a spiral: self love can give you discipline, but discipline can also give you self love. - buy acting like somebody you respect, you naturally (by definition) respect yourself 2. Make discipline part of your identity - accept that being a disciplined version of yourself is inevitable paint a clear picture of: - who would i look like if i was disciplined - if i did the things i said i would do and also: - what does their day look like - where do they live - what do they eat - what do they wear - what does their week look like - what do they do for work - who are they surrounded by - what do they think and feel - what do they say no to - what do they say yes to - write any other details that you think will help you describe this person mental gymnastics: fully accept that at some point in the future you'll be this person just be open to this possibility. 3. Reflect this new identity in your environment - you want your environment to look as much like what your disciplined self's environment would look like - tangible things that keep you reminded of the future you could have 4. Internalize the threat of not doing this - loss aversion is proven to be a more powerful motivator than gain - you would rather avoid losing a dollar than gaining a dollar - the way we can use this to our advantage to trick our own brains is to make us feel we're losing something if we're not disciplined - make a loss aversion commitment, unless i do this one thing which i said i was gonna do, that money (e.g. €200) is going to a cause that i hate - the theory is that my drive to not lose money is stronger than my drive to skip a week - try and turn one of the habits you want to build into a system where loss aversion can motivate you and then replicate that loss aversion in your life in a healthy way in order to get you going 5. Have a good system to start things two systems: - starting systems -- whatever gets you going -- an author that starts writing what he hates for 5 minutes -- or making starting non-negotiable, like someone who uses a barcode alarm that forces you to get up and scan a barcode somewhere else - eliminating friction -- taking out the steps between you and whatever your toast is -- if it's drawing it's having your book and pencil ready to go before you start work -- if it's running it's having all your gear at one spot 6. Have a good method to sustain things. -- the most sustainable method for one might be the work week -- find a weekly, daily or a monthly routine, then make sure that you are not getting exhausted -- finding what you can do when you're not working that fills you with energy -- for 30 days you can ask yourself, what energized me today? -- then at the end of the month, look for commonalities 7. At some point the only true path is to just do it. - discomfort training (to your advantage) -- how you do anything, is how you do everything -- the way that you act in small situations, will often be the way you act in bigger ones -- doing small things that make you uncomfortable -- if you're someone who gets bored easily, next time if you're in a waiting room or in a queue, don't play your phone -- if something takes less than two minutes do it immediately
Discipline is one of my pillars for this year - I’ve meditated on it (after filling out my Year Compass that you so graciously shared), I’ve written the word down all over my apartment, and NOW you’ve just made a whole video about it making it even easier to digest and implement into my life. So my question is: are u hiding, listening to my thoughts, and if so would you like a coffee?
Like everyone else is saying, this is the exact video I needed to hear! I think I spent most of 2021 frustrated at my lack of discipline - at the dissonance between what I say I'm going to do vs. what I actually do. This has already changed the way I think about things. Thanks for uploading! And congrats on your bébé :)
I consider myself to be a very self aware person. Both of my mental and physical circumstances. But man struthless really makes you realise things, even things you already know, and put such a healthy well rounded perspective on it. I appreciate these wonderful videos and the internal dialogue it incites. Very grateful, thank you friend.
I’ve been following Struthless for a while now and I love this man. Such a bright positive person and really makes a difference in my life listening to him.
To be frank, I've seen your vids in my recommendations for over a year. I always used to think, "Who the hell is this stoner ? God it's so easy to be a self-help guru these days". Fast forward to 2022 and life sucks, big time. I kinda became numb to the advice of the regular guys like Thomas Frank or Matt D' Avella, and one day I thought, why not give the stoner a chance ? That day was three days ago. And I couldn't be more happier. It's good to see people at the pinnacle of productivity, but it's even better to see someone ascend from dark times. It's something (and many more, I guess) can relate to, and aspire to be. You're a very talented youtuber, your humor's on point, the content is gold, and your vids are some of the most emotionally impactful ones I've seen here. You're so good at what you do bro. Idk why I decided to write an essay here, but I just wanted to say thanks and contribute to your growth, however minute it is. You've been very helpful, and I won't forget to etch your name in the Louvre Museum 🙏
Firstly thank you for another great video. Recently was able to get a copy of your book and love it! Re-watching this video and taking notes, just wanted to add a personal note to step 2 for myself and anyone else with chronic illness: when answering the questions about what a disciplined version of you would be like, make sure to include allowances for any illness, because that illness isn't going to magically disappear and let you be a non-chronically ill person. And that doesn't mean you can't accomplish things. I find it helpful to look at examples of other people with similar struggles to mine who are accomplishing something they wanted to(for me specifically that includes chronically ill artists as I would like to start an online art shop). It's refreshing to see how they take their health in to consideration so they don't burnout and exasperate their illness. Sometimes only seeing examples of healthy people can be discouraging because it is all too easy to fall in to the trap of comparison. Be kind to yourself peeps.
I watched your video about 7 things you wish you knew at 20 just minutes ago and now that I'm watching this one I realized that there is a recurring theme. START NOW. I had said I was gonna push aside my laptop and draw something but then i saw this video and clicked since I realized I needed discipline to enact the decision I made after watching the other video. Now I am really going and even start treating my drawing as a way of showing love to myself. Helpful to my twenties self.
I am quite surpirsed by the first advice. Most if the time, I tell myself to be self-disciplined but it losses every soon because there is no reason that keeps me going. But when I tell myself I am the person that I love, you become more protective of yourself becaus eyou treat yourself like a person that you love.
i watched so many videos about discipline ,self improving , procrastination but none of them made me feel ready to act on any of my intentions and limits like your videos....thanks for you been you!
the fact that i started to discipline myself almost a a *week* before, using the *EXACT* same methods you mentioned in this video, is so eerily amazing to me omg lovedd this video!!
I am so lucky that I found this video. It's everything that I needed in this moment. Thank you, your video made me cry. I never thought I'd say this but, I can do it
Dude! You're honestly one of my favourite creators on TH-cam. I love your editing, your candor, and your vulnerability - you bring such a refreshingly honest perspective to this scene and you inspire me to embrace authenticity in my own videos. Thank you for all that you do!
From a shrink / psychoanalyst who understands behaveior therapy this is one of the best expositions of the basic and effective application I have ever seen - man! you do not know how many BORING LECTURES I have had to sit through where they tried to do what you have just done gracefully seriously under 20 mins....Love to see competence in action G
I like the idea about removing friction. I’ve already been trying to do this for a while but I’d been thinking of it more like “making things as easy as possible for myself because I’m lazy” but removing friction is a much more positive way to think of it.
So much truth in this one little video. Two related behaviours that have really being working for me for several months are, 1. Telling myself that I just need to ‘turn up’. I don’t need to do the task to perfection or for a long time, I just need to turn up to the task. Inevitably, the consistency creates impact. 2. Unexpectedly, COLOURING IN while listening to fictional audiobooks relaxes my mind and body better than anything. I believe it has a similar effect to mindfulness meditation but is so much easier to do, and for longer periods of time. I find historical fiction allows me to use this time to be learning something but is relaxing enough that it doesn’t engage high level processing like planning and analysing that non-fiction books tend to do.
Someone wrote this below but I wanted to second the thank you for recognizing the challenge of doing this when you deal with chronic illness or other limitations, or kids, etc. Doing the disciplined actions associated with those challenges zaps your energy sometimes and depletes it over the course of the day. So thank you.
I'm really so glad that you started with Will Smith and self-love. I realized that imperative about a week into classic new years resolution productivity toxicity, which coincided with a school project on the late bell hooks (R.I.P.). Her 40+ books of scholarship particularly on black feminisms and her unique and beautiful Buddhist Christian Love Ethic, developped under all sorts of negative forces trying to keep her down are a testament that a deeply rooted praxis of self-love is a key to true productivity. I stopped worrying about schedules and lists for a few days, being mindful to exercise and eat and talk with friends, but I also churned out 30+ pages of pretty good and creative academic writing, and have been sober since Jan. 5th. It was so awesome to have that validated by this video. There's tons of research out there on why its true, but your aesthetics and take on it, your authentic expression of it, it such an amazing part of the conversation. Thanks for your gifts to the world!
Aye man keep up on making these videos I’m 19 year old came from a hard past like most people but your videos are really helping me look at life, from a better perspective, I’m a complete stoner and want to change my life for the better and your one of the people with words that help people think. So thanks man for the advice haven’t had anyone in my life to tell me these things and open my mind up
omg you have reached half a million....cool. i came across your video while searching for how to open a burger shop...lol...and this channel was only 2.3k....beleive it or not after years of planning, i am open...this channel always brings a smile and a good feel to me
Thank you for laying the groundwork so people like me can learn from your experiences! You’re like the Sparknotes, blueprints, and living beta-test for self-help advice rolled up in one. Much love 💛
I discovered this channel a couple of weeks ago and after watching this video I ordered the book immediately. Every video I have watched so far has been insightful, non-judgemental and potentially very helpful except for that pesky little aspect called self-discipline... Which you addressed beautifully in this video. As an engineering master's student newly diagnosed with ADHD I definitely feel like I'm living life on hard mode (although with the white privileged European setting on) most days, feel tremendous frustration with myself for not achieving more just because I don't have the self-discipline to stick with things. And of course, this is uniquely difficult for people with ADHD, but that doesn't mean it isn't a goal worth pursuing and I now feel more motivated than ever to try and do something about it. Thank you Campbell, what you're doing really makes a difference.
I think starting small and building on consistency is what helps me with discipline. If I imagine myself doing a massive amount of work I freeze up, but if I tell myself I’ll do five minutes bare minimum I’ll often keep going after those first five minutes.
I do a similar thing to the "write about what you hate" advice. I'm in academia and it doesn't matter how much I love the topic I study (which is social insects, btw), I still don't feel like writing much of the time. So I just write it really begrudgingly sometimes. Calling the ants stupid, talking about shitty results, etc. Then I can clean it up later once the words are on paper. Great video!
Re: loss aversion and getting out of bed, I have an old school alarm clock that must be the most agitating thing in the world (it actually sounds like the fire alarms we had in school as a kid). Literally stresses me out when it goes off. So what I do is I set two alarms on my phone several minutes before it's set to go off; the first pulls me from deep sleep into half-sleep 12 minutes ahead, the second reminds me I have four minutes before the electric screech terrorises me awake. I am so averse to that particular noise that I've found it's the most effective wake up pattern, and usually I get out of bed on the second phone alarm even if I've nodded off again. Anyways, been loving your stuff mate, cheers!
in brief: In this video, the speaker shares their transformation story and how they developed discipline. Here's a summary of the key points: 1. Reframe discipline as a function of self-love: Discipline stems from self-love, and by treating ourselves well, we develop more self-respect and discipline. 2. Make discipline part of your identity: Visualize the disciplined version of yourself and make it an inevitable part of your identity. 3. Reflect your new identity in your environment: Create an environment that supports your disciplined self by surrounding yourself with reminders of who you want to become. 4. Internalize the threat of not doing this: Use loss aversion as a motivator, such as putting money on the line if you fail to follow through on a commitment. 5. Have a good system to start things: Develop starting systems and eliminate friction to make it easier to initiate disciplined actions. 6. Have a good method to sustain things: Find a sustainable routine to avoid burnout and maintain your discipline over time. 7. Just do it: Practice discomfort training by doing small things that make you uncomfortable, which helps build discipline and willpower in other areas of your life.
I have a playlist named "this is how", where I add actually useful (as opposed to motivational) content. It has more of your videos than anything else. I don't have a formal diagnose but I experience strong symptoms of ADHD and CPTSD, so all the typical "be successful" content has been pretty much useless to me. Today, thanks to you and my therapist I am closer than ever to living a life I love and making myself proud. Thank you so much! Sending you love and light ❤️
Is it just me or do other people take Campbell's videos and turn them into massive journaling exercises lol. This content is so helpful for thinking through yourself as a person and figuring out what the heck is happening in our lovely brains. ❤
So I do have chronicle illness.... and 5 kids which I homeschool (half of them at least)..... and I'm going to school (only part time though).....😅 not playing easy mode! But structure and self discipline is not a steering suit of mine and that needs to change! I love what you said about self discipline being self love, and about having a 9-5 "job", that is the reframe I think I've been needing, having a job that is literally 24/7 has left me without parameters, but saying I have to get specific things accomplished within set hours gives a framework to follow. Thanks for your videos!!!
Thank you so much for your transparency...you make sure we understand that it is not going to be easy out here. This video helped me so much .I'm going to go steal my Mona Lisa! Congratulations on your sobriety btw....I know that isn't always a perfect journey, but your continual effort and being honest with yourself are definitely steps in the better direction!
I was literally about to search for a video like this... wow. I've been trying to create a study plan for learning two languages this year but had been unmotivated to start. Thanks for this.
As an avid fan of your channel, I am so stoked that you’ll be uploading more often, and I’d like to say to your editor he’s doing a great job, but sometimes less is more 😉
I'm a Stay at home mom and I plan on stop smoking weed to be more productive and I love the way you coralated discipline to self love thank you thank you thank you you've gained a subie
Thank you! This is wonderful. You've given me the missing piece I needed to permanently stick with radical dietary changes due to going with the flow of an illness, that self-discipline is self-love. I was on track, off and on, but couldn't articulate this to myself until now. This is an epiphany for me that I will carry every day of my life. You've changed my life at 71.
Really valuable insights, steps and examples here - thank you! Love the reframing of self discipline to self love and the steps around making your disciplined self key to your identity
The whole idea of playing on easy vs. hard mode just hit me like a piano. I used to get SO much done in my single days . . . but then I married a widower with 5 kids, had a baby, started homeschooling, bought acreage we're turning into a small farm . . . and I've been so frustrated at myself for not being as disciplined as I used to be. Feeling like I could do better at juggling all these balls if i would just pull myself together the way I used to. I never thought of myself as playing on hard mode now, but I love the analogy. It really shifts my perspective.
Love the way you take what could be a DRY topic and weave in your story and other examples to make this not only engaging, but also inspiring - something that is doable. Thanks!! ✨❤️✨
I just want to tell you that you are one of the most unique persons I've ever seen. It was actually some kind of dream of mine to be someone who is completely uncomparable to anyone on earth which I dumped (for now) cause I don't think it's really possible. We are all unique by the fact that the combination of every small detail of us is unique. However, some people have things together that are unusual. And you my friend, you have this combination of wisdom, intelligence and mind full of life hacks (or at the very least the drive to find them) with this carefree, chill and humourous maybe even a bit too dark vibes and it's just so entertaining. I'm really grateful that the youtube algorithm brought me to your channel!
I am so thankful to have come across this video. I took a self pace course online and have been slacking on finally taking the final exam… and It’s been weeks. Lol I wrote so much of what you said down and I’m going to put it next to my calendar and work space. Good luck to you on your own life journey! New sub!
this just cleared my brain fog and helped me regain my fleeting motivation...and now I have ways to rely on self-love for discipline rather than something temporary - like motivation. subscribed!! ty for a succint, inspiring, quality video :)
Being early I just wanna drop by and say I really appreciate how much you go into detail with your tips and how genuine you are with them. As an Autist who totally burned themselves out last year from being too rigorous/overestimating, it's i.e. really helpful and motivating to have that acknowledgement and some concept for a follow-up plan. Alone for the sake of knowing that it's not a one-way road, but possible to find a balance, regardless of individual perspective and grey areas. Thank you!! And congratulations on becoming a father!☺️
I’ve just started watching your videos after a TH-cam recommendation…. I love them! They’re well thought out, informative, helpful, entertaining, fast paced enough without being exhausting they aren’t overwhelming and are totally relatable! Brilliant! Thank-you!
I used to procrastinate in school all the time, then I tried starting a business and I procrastinated on that all the time. These days, while I certainly still procrastinate from time to time, I generally just find myself working without even realising it because I actually enjoy what I do. That thing you're doing in your spare time, maybe should be the main thing instead.
I have read so many books and watched sooo many videos. Like an insane amount. Don't get me wrong I have come a long way and I am so proud of myself but lack in certain spots. Your way of looking at things is perfect in the most imperfect way. I just watched 10 of your videos in a row and have to comment (which I NEVER do) just in hopes you see this and see how much of an impact you are making on someone who has spent years on self improvement. Thank you and keep doing what you are doing.
I baby sat once and I realized that I gave the toddler cut grapes and watered down grape juice and made them home cooked foods that's portioned out. I cared about the baby more than I cared about myself.
i feel like you are happier than usual, you're having so much more fun in this video. it puts a bigger smile on my face as a viewer!!! happiness spreads :)
We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.
Love this! Definitely gonna quote you lol
I’ve heard this before. So true!
......."the difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons" this is the second half of the quote and it really puts it all into perspective and makes it all the more motivating .
This is really true! That is why it is always important on our part, to at least have done something that will not make us have something to regret for in the future. Disciplining ourselves will always be hard in the beginning, but once we have come to get used to it and have turned it into a habit, it's easier to just live with it.
By Jim Rohn. It's my desktop wallpaper 😍
the fact that I voluntarily searched for this video makes myself pleased
Same. Tired of being the procrastinating lazy self I am
@@Theuncletoeticklingtoddler the comment was 6 months ago, and I've gotten better with discipline recently, a video called 'trial by fire' by Charlie morgan really helped
Me too tired of being stuck in a person that I'm not
@@lynnmarie6058 That's such a great way to put it and look at it. I'm not trying to be someone else, I'm trying to become the person I actually am.
Me too. I’m morbidly morbidly obese and I want to be thin or at least get down to 260 from the 400+ I am right now. Had some shit happen yesterday and it’s kinda fucked with me. I’m hoping I can be who I want to be and act and look how I want to. Good luck everyone. I hope you all make it, and I hope I do too.
I have never heard anyone say that self discipline is actually self love before and I think it might just be the most useful piece of advice I’ve ever been given
That statement taught me a thought to to consider
It never worked for me. I can be disciplined im Relation to others but I cant discipline myself and I cannot see myself as someone different.
This was a very healthy and non-toxic look at discipline, well done.
Agree'd! This is such a good take on self-discipline.
Yeah we can't take guys like this for granted
I agree, this is really a great content and I hope a lot of people can start practicing this!
What does a toxic look look like?
is everything just default non-healthy and toxic now? is that how you automatically perceive things until otherwise noted?
Some key points for this video:
1:01 1. Reframe discipline as a function of self-love. For example, tell yourself, "I don't want you to eat that chocolate because I want the best for your health, because I love you."
2:44 2. Make discipline part of your identity. Think of yourself as a disciplined person. Envision it.
3:52 3. Reflect this new identity in your new environment. Make your environment look like that of a disciplined person (e.g., put away video games, keep your workout mat out).
4:43 4. Internalize the threat of not doing this. Loss aversion is a more powerful motivator than gain.
6:18 5. Have a good system to start things. Starting is harder than sustaining it. Remove any friction between you and starting your work.
8:33 6. Have a good method to sustain things. Create a sustainable daily/weekly/monthly routine.
9:50 7. Just do it.
10:05 Use discomfort training to help with just doing it (7).
struthless deserves way more views. :(
Not only is this channel informative and useful, it's creative and so artsy.
Thanks for sharing this 👍
Thanks dear 💖💖💖
Hero
Sweet, copy/pasting this into a note in my phone so I can remember it-thanks!
I got really uncomfortable with the background music volume and couldnt watch it, so thank you for writing it down
My favorite mindset hack for discipline: just have a good enough reason to do it.
It was hard to come from a place of self-love back when I was depressed, but making enough money to take care of my family? A little more motivating. Find what pushes you and don't be afraid of material or "shallow" desires if that's what you really want right now.
Oh, an overlooked one actually. It worked at the time when I was suicidal. I was like, if I die today I can’t continue this hobby and who’s gonna care for my teddy bear 🧸. Something like this saved my life countless times
@@prapanthebachelorette6803 as someone who was suicidal I can confirm how having hobbies or something that I liked to do has kept me here. I was at the point that I seriously asked myself why I was even living as I didn’t look forward nor wanted any future or anything but then I was like oh well then I won’t have the chance to draw more or learn this language or write so I’ll live longer so I can do those. People have told me I shouldn’t focus on these since there will come a time I might not enjoy them anymore (I highly doubt so. I’m not someone who briefly attaches to things) but I disagree. When you’re a suicidal you have to cling to anything to live
Thanks for the reminder not to be afraid of material or shallow things. I forget it's ok as I'm dedicated to my spiritual growth and development.
@@prapanthebachelorette6803definitely, it will keep you alive. Unfortunately, for me, that doesn’t build self-discipline/self-love for me it showed me more reason to be mad at the world
I searched through a number of videos and have found that I repeatedly keep listening to this one just so I can drive these ideas into my head. Sat down and wrote each step so I can plan a course of action. Truth is, I'm pretty disciplined in certain aspects of my life but not so much in others. This video gave me key points(some which I've already unconsciously used), that I can focus on in addressing other tasks. This feels like it can work. Thanks for the info.
Thanks!
The "Just do it" method is by far the most powerful one that i've followed.
People forget all the time that life is not always about being comfortable and having fun. (Like when most of us were kids).
Once you become adult, you have responsibilities and pressure and you need to perform. If you don't, there's an internal system in your brain that fires up, making you feel all kinds of negative ways about yourself, which eventually leads to depression.
A lot of people whince at the thought of going to the gym, supermarket for groceries, work, ect. But also most of those people find that once they go, and they're there, doing the thing they need to do, all the anxiety and uncomfortable pesky thoughts associated with it dissapear.
It's like jumping in to cold water at the pool. The first few seconds you jump in, you get washed over with this liberating feeling, because the hard part is now done, you're already soaking wet now, so you might as well swim and enjoy it.
This applies to just about everything you need to do, but don't want to. Once you initiate the action, it becomes SO MUCH easier and you actually kind of enjoy it too. And that's a positive feedback loop. You'll remember how it went last time, and that it wasn't so bad. So returning to do it again will be a lot easier from the beggining. You'll level up and those tasks will become automated after a long enough time.
Hope this helps :)
Reminds of a time I was struggling with anxiety and just not wanting to do stuff, and I thought, "This is so hard!!" Then I thought, "You know, it will be a lot easier after you do it." "Ah, that's right! After I do it, it'll be done! That will make everything so much easier!" Then I immediately jumped up and completed as many tasks as I could as quickly as I could.
Wish I could say this always works, but I'm very good at overthinking things, and even switching from thinking to doing is something I often overthink.
Yeah because if we are always being comfortable then it will eventually turn into discomfort because there will be no duality. Therefor doing the uncomfortable things will make the comfort so much more enjoyable.
I love your videos so much. Never thought that I can relate with someone so much. Bless the algorithm.
In case anyone wanna note it down ❤
1. Reframe discipline as a function of self love
2. Make discipline part of your identity
3. Reflect this identity in your environment
4. Internalize the threat of no doing this
5. Have a good system to start things
6. Have a good method to sustain things.
7. At some point the only true path is to just do it.
Thanks 😊
@@prapanthebachelorette6803 np 😊
Thanks!
@@lisalamphier1410 you're welcome 💛😁
Thanks!!!
i pray all of us can see it through to the end of our lives successful in our individual missions. its never going to be completely smooth sailing. good luck to you all.
God bless you 🙏
Thank you.
I needed this. I’m a disciplined person but there’s a level I’m stuck at
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
Thank you! I wish you the same!!
thanks bro, all the best to you too
Thank you :,))
Ditto
Thanks. I do have a long life to value its every second.
Thank you so much for acknowledging those of us with chronic illness. I love self development content and consume it wherever I can get it, and while I take what I can from it and ignore what won't work for me because of my illness it wears on me a bit to feel invisible. It's so refreshing to have someone in that field acknowledge that their advice might not work for everyone 🙂
agreed! even if I'd love to have tips coming from within our community but I don't know of a person on the internet who does that!( if ever u do I'd love to hear abt them)
Thank you so much for re-framing discipline for me. The concept of discipline used to be so toxic and destructive for my mental health that I effectively abandoned it. Now I realize, that wasn't discipline, it was me torturing myself into obedience.
Thank you for always recognizing folks with disabilities and health issues in your tips!
This ☝️ 💯 So often we are overlooked, it’s so wonderful not to be.
"who would I look like if I was disciplined? If I did the things I said I was gonna do, who would I be?" well, that fucked me up on a whole new level.
I am awful at procrastination and have been trying to find a method for me. Out of all the "get motivated" "how to be productive" "organize your life" "start a habit" etc. style videos I've seen, this is the ONLY one that resonated with me. All of it.
0:35 For the past couple months I've been working towards doing things like drinking water, getting, sleep, eating right, hygiene, and now that I sort of have those things down, I've been looking for the next step. This video was exactly what I needed.
Hats off to your editor. That shitty screen peel transition right after you said you’ve gotten a new editor was fkn class
Hello, your tips work really work for someone like me - someone who procrastinates often, gets bored easily, hates routines - to think that I can tie my IDENTITY into someone who's self-disciplined sounds waaay better forcing ourselves to be someone we're not! also, I love the lose aversion tip as well, since most of my motivation surges when I'm close to the deadline, which means that i fear of NOT submitting the work on time. 😂😂 Thank you Campbell, this motivated me to work on my digital art 😀
Same here I get bored and frustrated easily and procrastinate bad, and it was so hard for me to accept no life can not always be fun and I do need to do this. But it was more of a bitter and angry self talk than one with understanding and love.
@@mrs.quills7061 Ahhh I understand that! As a high schooler whenever I procrastinate, at the end of day near the deadline I'll always think to myself "uGh why didn't I do it earlier" and self-criticize and such 😭 But we should try to turn that self-criticizing to self-love, or else we would feel FORCED to not procrastinate!
Exactly. Reframing one's attitude towards the discipline helps to prevent resistance. I instantly rebel against any forced discipline even though it may be the best thing for me.
As an addict who's been sober for 5 years. This video is amazing. All of it. Delivery, method, perspective...we need more of this content.
I used to party hard, use drugs. I continued that into my early mid 20s. I had to make small changes of course but what really helped me was “playing the whole tape through” to me that meant remembering how I would feel the next day and/or what would follow in the coming weeks.
Just remember to “play the whole tape through” in every aspect of your life.
was going to write a long comment on how you've helped me feel more comfortable with who I am and how you've pushed me to become a better version of myself, but I think this will do as well: thank you.
I gotta say, you’re my favorite self help guy i’ve ever found. So many people who have fixed their lives (more or less) and try to give advice try so hard to let the listener know that they started out in the same place, or worse, but youre the first person i’ve felt really sees the viewer as being on the same level of person as them. Idk how else to put it.
Love listening to you, Thanks!
🧡for the undisciplined among us🧡(jk) :
Discipline
definition (noun):
doing the things that i said i was gonna do despite resistance
1. Reframe discipline as a function of self love
- it's a spiral: self love can give you discipline, but discipline can also give you self love.
- buy acting like somebody you respect, you naturally (by definition) respect yourself
2. Make discipline part of your identity
- accept that being a disciplined version of yourself is inevitable
paint a clear picture of:
- who would i look like if i was disciplined
- if i did the things i said i would do
and also:
- what does their day look like
- where do they live
- what do they eat
- what do they wear
- what does their week look like
- what do they do for work
- who are they surrounded by
- what do they think and feel
- what do they say no to
- what do they say yes to
- write any other details that you think will help you describe this person
mental gymnastics: fully accept that at some point in the future you'll be this person
just be open to this possibility.
3. Reflect this new identity in your environment
- you want your environment to look as much like what your disciplined self's environment would look like
- tangible things that keep you reminded of the future you could have
4. Internalize the threat of not doing this
- loss aversion is proven to be a more powerful motivator than gain
- you would rather avoid losing a dollar than gaining a dollar
- the way we can use this to our advantage to trick our own brains is to make us feel we're losing something if we're not disciplined
- make a loss aversion commitment, unless i do this one thing which i said i was gonna do, that money (e.g. €200) is going to a cause that i hate
- the theory is that my drive to not lose money is stronger than my drive to skip a week
- try and turn one of the habits you want to build into a system where loss aversion can motivate you and then replicate that loss aversion in your life in a healthy way in order to get you going
5. Have a good system to start things
two systems:
- starting systems
-- whatever gets you going
-- an author that starts writing what he hates for 5 minutes
-- or making starting non-negotiable, like someone who uses a barcode alarm that forces you to get up and scan a barcode somewhere else
- eliminating friction
-- taking out the steps between you and whatever your toast is
-- if it's drawing it's having your book and pencil ready to go before you start work
-- if it's running it's having all your gear at one spot
6. Have a good method to sustain things.
-- the most sustainable method for one might be the work week
-- find a weekly, daily or a monthly routine, then make sure that you are not getting exhausted
-- finding what you can do when you're not working that fills you with energy
-- for 30 days you can ask yourself, what energized me today?
-- then at the end of the month, look for commonalities
7. At some point the only true path is to just do it.
- discomfort training (to your advantage)
-- how you do anything, is how you do everything
-- the way that you act in small situations, will often be the way you act in bigger ones
-- doing small things that make you uncomfortable
-- if you're someone who gets bored easily, next time if you're in a waiting room or in a queue, don't play your phone
-- if something takes less than two minutes do it immediately
Thank you for the summary!!! It helped me a lot ❤️
Thanks, mate. I'll need to rewrite some parts of this and stuff, but this is handy
I adore the thought in effort put into this comment, but starting it AMOGUS I--
@@AngelBirdo grow up, man. it ain't funny anymore
Thank you!
i love how he always acknowledges these things can be hard for people who have chronic illnesses etc
Your videos are clutch & practical. You give real-life experience with dope vibes 🤞🏾🔥
Discipline is one of my pillars for this year - I’ve meditated on it (after filling out my Year Compass that you so graciously shared), I’ve written the word down all over my apartment, and NOW you’ve just made a whole video about it making it even easier to digest and implement into my life.
So my question is: are u hiding, listening to my thoughts, and if so would you like a coffee?
Like everyone else is saying, this is the exact video I needed to hear! I think I spent most of 2021 frustrated at my lack of discipline - at the dissonance between what I say I'm going to do vs. what I actually do. This has already changed the way I think about things. Thanks for uploading! And congrats on your bébé :)
This video was so so helpful. Thank you! Especially those questions at 3:15
I consider myself to be a very self aware person. Both of my mental and physical circumstances. But man struthless really makes you realise things, even things you already know, and put such a healthy well rounded perspective on it. I appreciate these wonderful videos and the internal dialogue it incites. Very grateful, thank you friend.
I’ve been following Struthless for a while now and I love this man. Such a bright positive person and really makes a difference in my life listening to him.
I’m going to watch this every morning for the rest of the year. Thank you, I needed to hear this.
To be frank, I've seen your vids in my recommendations for over a year. I always used to think, "Who the hell is this stoner ? God it's so easy to be a self-help guru these days".
Fast forward to 2022 and life sucks, big time. I kinda became numb to the advice of the regular guys like Thomas Frank or Matt D' Avella, and one day I thought, why not give the stoner a chance ?
That day was three days ago. And I couldn't be more happier.
It's good to see people at the pinnacle of productivity, but it's even better to see someone ascend from dark times. It's something (and many more, I guess) can relate to, and aspire to be. You're a very talented youtuber, your humor's on point, the content is gold, and your vids are some of the most emotionally impactful ones I've seen here. You're so good at what you do bro.
Idk why I decided to write an essay here, but I just wanted to say thanks and contribute to your growth, however minute it is. You've been very helpful, and I won't forget to etch your name in the Louvre Museum 🙏
Firstly thank you for another great video. Recently was able to get a copy of your book and love it!
Re-watching this video and taking notes, just wanted to add a personal note to step 2 for myself and anyone else with chronic illness: when answering the questions about what a disciplined version of you would be like, make sure to include allowances for any illness, because that illness isn't going to magically disappear and let you be a non-chronically ill person. And that doesn't mean you can't accomplish things. I find it helpful to look at examples of other people with similar struggles to mine who are accomplishing something they wanted to(for me specifically that includes chronically ill artists as I would like to start an online art shop). It's refreshing to see how they take their health in to consideration so they don't burnout and exasperate their illness. Sometimes only seeing examples of healthy people can be discouraging because it is all too easy to fall in to the trap of comparison. Be kind to yourself peeps.
I watched your video about 7 things you wish you knew at 20 just minutes ago and now that I'm watching this one I realized that there is a recurring theme. START NOW. I had said I was gonna push aside my laptop and draw something but then i saw this video and clicked since I realized I needed discipline to enact the decision I made after watching the other video. Now I am really going and even start treating my drawing as a way of showing love to myself. Helpful to my twenties self.
"Discipline is an act of self-love". Really love this point of view. Thanks for sharing.
I am quite surpirsed by the first advice. Most if the time, I tell myself to be self-disciplined but it losses every soon because there is no reason that keeps me going. But when I tell myself I am the person that I love, you become more protective of yourself becaus eyou treat yourself like a person that you love.
step 1 to self-discipline: watch this video every morning
Agreed
i watched so many videos about discipline ,self improving , procrastination but none of them made me feel ready to act on any of my intentions and limits like your videos....thanks for you been you!
Giggling away while getting some self improvement in. Love this channel.
love your book~ love your analogy and the graphics~~ and i love how relatable you are~~
Wow. I've read SO many self help books but this is probably going to help me the most. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!!
Gotta say, love the "heads up" at 0:56
the fact that i started to discipline myself almost a a *week* before, using the *EXACT* same methods you mentioned in this video, is so eerily amazing to me omg
lovedd this video!!
I am so lucky that I found this video. It's everything that I needed in this moment. Thank you, your video made me cry. I never thought I'd say this but, I can do it
Dude! You're honestly one of my favourite creators on TH-cam. I love your editing, your candor, and your vulnerability - you bring such a refreshingly honest perspective to this scene and you inspire me to embrace authenticity in my own videos. Thank you for all that you do!
From a shrink / psychoanalyst who understands behaveior therapy this is one of the best expositions of the basic and effective application I have ever seen - man! you do not know how many BORING LECTURES I have had to sit through where they tried to do what you have just done gracefully seriously under 20 mins....Love to see competence in action G
I like the idea about removing friction. I’ve already been trying to do this for a while but I’d been thinking of it more like “making things as easy as possible for myself because I’m lazy” but removing friction is a much more positive way to think of it.
Man living on th Pacific coast in the us I always love waking up to these videos. They make me feel so motivated for my day! TYSM!!!!
Simple, no-nonsense approach to discipline. Plus a delightful surprise moment from the awesome Mitch Hedberg. Thank you!
So much truth in this one little video. Two related behaviours that have really being working for me for several months are, 1. Telling myself that I just need to ‘turn up’. I don’t need to do the task to perfection or for a long time, I just need to turn up to the task. Inevitably, the consistency creates impact. 2. Unexpectedly, COLOURING IN while listening to fictional audiobooks relaxes my mind and body better than anything. I believe it has a similar effect to mindfulness meditation but is so much easier to do, and for longer periods of time. I find historical fiction allows me to use this time to be learning something but is relaxing enough that it doesn’t engage high level processing like planning and analysing that non-fiction books tend to do.
Someone wrote this below but I wanted to second the thank you for recognizing the challenge of doing this when you deal with chronic illness or other limitations, or kids, etc. Doing the disciplined actions associated with those challenges zaps your energy sometimes and depletes it over the course of the day. So thank you.
I'm really so glad that you started with Will Smith and self-love. I realized that imperative about a week into classic new years resolution productivity toxicity, which coincided with a school project on the late bell hooks (R.I.P.). Her 40+ books of scholarship particularly on black feminisms and her unique and beautiful Buddhist Christian Love Ethic, developped under all sorts of negative forces trying to keep her down are a testament that a deeply rooted praxis of self-love is a key to true productivity.
I stopped worrying about schedules and lists for a few days, being mindful to exercise and eat and talk with friends, but I also churned out 30+ pages of pretty good and creative academic writing, and have been sober since Jan. 5th. It was so awesome to have that validated by this video. There's tons of research out there on why its true, but your aesthetics and take on it, your authentic expression of it, it such an amazing part of the conversation.
Thanks for your gifts to the world!
Aye man keep up on making these videos I’m 19 year old came from a hard past like most people but your videos are really helping me look at life, from a better perspective, I’m a complete stoner and want to change my life for the better and your one of the people with words that help people think. So thanks man for the advice haven’t had anyone in my life to tell me these things and open my mind up
Well done bro ,this is far better than other videos ,thank you
you are going to become so successful - the value you’re providing is out of this world amazing
omg you have reached half a million....cool. i came across your video while searching for how to open a burger shop...lol...and this channel was only 2.3k....beleive it or not after years of planning, i am open...this channel always brings a smile and a good feel to me
Thank you for laying the groundwork so people like me can learn from your experiences! You’re like the Sparknotes, blueprints, and living beta-test for self-help advice rolled up in one. Much love 💛
I discovered this channel a couple of weeks ago and after watching this video I ordered the book immediately. Every video I have watched so far has been insightful, non-judgemental and potentially very helpful except for that pesky little aspect called self-discipline... Which you addressed beautifully in this video. As an engineering master's student newly diagnosed with ADHD I definitely feel like I'm living life on hard mode (although with the white privileged European setting on) most days, feel tremendous frustration with myself for not achieving more just because I don't have the self-discipline to stick with things. And of course, this is uniquely difficult for people with ADHD, but that doesn't mean it isn't a goal worth pursuing and I now feel more motivated than ever to try and do something about it.
Thank you Campbell, what you're doing really makes a difference.
I think starting small and building on consistency is what helps me with discipline. If I imagine myself doing a massive amount of work I freeze up, but if I tell myself I’ll do five minutes bare minimum I’ll often keep going after those first five minutes.
I do a similar thing to the "write about what you hate" advice. I'm in academia and it doesn't matter how much I love the topic I study (which is social insects, btw), I still don't feel like writing much of the time. So I just write it really begrudgingly sometimes. Calling the ants stupid, talking about shitty results, etc. Then I can clean it up later once the words are on paper.
Great video!
How the hell do you keep making the exact videos i need at the exact time i need them? --- No but seriously love your work!
Thank you so much so few people who talk about this stuff recognise other people might not be in the same position (medical condition, carer etc)
*I prioritize on the foundation* 🙏❤️
Eat right, sleep tight and exercise alright! 😄
Re: loss aversion and getting out of bed, I have an old school alarm clock that must be the most agitating thing in the world (it actually sounds like the fire alarms we had in school as a kid). Literally stresses me out when it goes off. So what I do is I set two alarms on my phone several minutes before it's set to go off; the first pulls me from deep sleep into half-sleep 12 minutes ahead, the second reminds me I have four minutes before the electric screech terrorises me awake. I am so averse to that particular noise that I've found it's the most effective wake up pattern, and usually I get out of bed on the second phone alarm even if I've nodded off again. Anyways, been loving your stuff mate, cheers!
in brief:
In this video, the speaker shares their transformation story and how they developed discipline. Here's a summary of the key points:
1. Reframe discipline as a function of self-love: Discipline stems from self-love, and by treating ourselves well, we develop more self-respect and discipline.
2. Make discipline part of your identity: Visualize the disciplined version of yourself and make it an inevitable part of your identity.
3. Reflect your new identity in your environment: Create an environment that supports your disciplined self by surrounding yourself with reminders of who you want to become.
4. Internalize the threat of not doing this: Use loss aversion as a motivator, such as putting money on the line if you fail to follow through on a commitment.
5. Have a good system to start things: Develop starting systems and eliminate friction to make it easier to initiate disciplined actions.
6. Have a good method to sustain things: Find a sustainable routine to avoid burnout and maintain your discipline over time.
7. Just do it: Practice discomfort training by doing small things that make you uncomfortable, which helps build discipline and willpower in other areas of your life.
the colors and animations in this one bring me so much peace :) thank you for this video!
*"If there is no struggle, there is no progress." - Frederick Douglass*
I have a playlist named "this is how", where I add actually useful (as opposed to motivational) content. It has more of your videos than anything else. I don't have a formal diagnose but I experience strong symptoms of ADHD and CPTSD, so all the typical "be successful" content has been pretty much useless to me. Today, thanks to you and my therapist I am closer than ever to living a life I love and making myself proud. Thank you so much! Sending you love and light ❤️
Is it just me or do other people take Campbell's videos and turn them into massive journaling exercises lol. This content is so helpful for thinking through yourself as a person and figuring out what the heck is happening in our lovely brains. ❤
I’m doing that exactly lol
Me now lmao
I legitimately JUST did this. I made the "Who is disciplined Me?" a topic with the questions as lead points!
His videos are what helped me to streamline and focus my journaling. It has been wonderful.
So I do have chronicle illness.... and 5 kids which I homeschool (half of them at least)..... and I'm going to school (only part time though).....😅 not playing easy mode! But structure and self discipline is not a steering suit of mine and that needs to change! I love what you said about self discipline being self love, and about having a 9-5 "job", that is the reframe I think I've been needing, having a job that is literally 24/7 has left me without parameters, but saying I have to get specific things accomplished within set hours gives a framework to follow. Thanks for your videos!!!
Thank you so much for your transparency...you make sure we understand that it is not going to be easy out here. This video helped me so much .I'm going to go steal my Mona Lisa! Congratulations on your sobriety btw....I know that isn't always a perfect journey, but your continual effort and being honest with yourself are definitely steps in the better direction!
I was literally about to search for a video like this... wow. I've been trying to create a study plan for learning two languages this year but had been unmotivated to start. Thanks for this.
As an avid fan of your channel, I am so stoked that you’ll be uploading more often, and I’d like to say to your editor he’s doing a great job, but sometimes less is more 😉
I agree the music was loud and distracting in the middle.
I'm a Stay at home mom and I plan on stop smoking weed to be more productive and I love the way you coralated discipline to self love thank you thank you thank you you've gained a subie
Like this comment if this video did not pop up in ur feed but u actually searched for it . 😊
Thank you! This is wonderful. You've given me the missing piece I needed to permanently stick with radical dietary changes due to going with the flow of an illness, that self-discipline is self-love. I was on track, off and on, but couldn't articulate this to myself until now. This is an epiphany for me that I will carry every day of my life. You've changed my life at 71.
Really valuable insights, steps and examples here - thank you! Love the reframing of self discipline to self love and the steps around making your disciplined self key to your identity
The whole idea of playing on easy vs. hard mode just hit me like a piano. I used to get SO much done in my single days . . . but then I married a widower with 5 kids, had a baby, started homeschooling, bought acreage we're turning into a small farm . . . and I've been so frustrated at myself for not being as disciplined as I used to be. Feeling like I could do better at juggling all these balls if i would just pull myself together the way I used to. I never thought of myself as playing on hard mode now, but I love the analogy. It really shifts my perspective.
Love the way you take what could be a DRY topic and weave in your story and other examples to make this not only engaging, but also inspiring - something that is doable. Thanks!! ✨❤️✨
I just want to tell you that you are one of the most unique persons I've ever seen.
It was actually some kind of dream of mine to be someone who is completely uncomparable to anyone on earth which I dumped (for now) cause I don't think it's really possible. We are all unique by the fact that the combination of every small detail of us is unique.
However, some people have things together that are unusual.
And you my friend, you have this combination of wisdom, intelligence and mind full of life hacks (or at the very least the drive to find them) with this carefree, chill and humourous maybe even a bit too dark vibes and it's just so entertaining. I'm really grateful that the youtube algorithm brought me to your channel!
I am so thankful to have come across this video. I took a self pace course online and have been slacking on finally taking the final exam… and It’s been weeks. Lol
I wrote so much of what you said down and I’m going to put it next to my calendar and work space.
Good luck to you on your own life journey! New sub!
this just cleared my brain fog and helped me regain my fleeting motivation...and now I have ways to rely on self-love for discipline rather than something temporary - like motivation. subscribed!! ty for a succint, inspiring, quality video :)
Being early I just wanna drop by and say I really appreciate how much you go into detail with your tips and how genuine you are with them. As an Autist who totally burned themselves out last year from being too rigorous/overestimating, it's i.e. really helpful and motivating to have that acknowledgement and some concept for a follow-up plan. Alone for the sake of knowing that it's not a one-way road, but possible to find a balance, regardless of individual perspective and grey areas. Thank you!! And congratulations on becoming a father!☺️
Thank you for your disclaimers/inclusivity of people with chronic health problems, disabilities, etc. Much appreciated!
God damn, you just don't miss.
I’ve just started watching your videos after a TH-cam recommendation…. I love them!
They’re well thought out, informative, helpful, entertaining, fast paced enough without being exhausting they aren’t overwhelming and are totally relatable!
Brilliant! Thank-you!
i love how you put challenges and exercises in almost each step which makes me more motivated to build my self discipline!
I love this guy. I pretty much exclusively listen to his content because of his authenticity and sense of humor.
*Pain of regret is so much worse than the pain of discipline.*
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Absolutely awesome video, I will try some of these things. Thanks man!
I used to procrastinate in school all the time, then I tried starting a business and I procrastinated on that all the time. These days, while I certainly still procrastinate from time to time, I generally just find myself working without even realising it because I actually enjoy what I do. That thing you're doing in your spare time, maybe should be the main thing instead.
I have read so many books and watched sooo many videos. Like an insane amount. Don't get me wrong I have come a long way and I am so proud of myself but lack in certain spots. Your way of looking at things is perfect in the most imperfect way. I just watched 10 of your videos in a row and have to comment (which I NEVER do) just in hopes you see this and see how much of an impact you are making on someone who has spent years on self improvement. Thank you and keep doing what you are doing.
I'm just lazy as f..... Nevermind it worked
I baby sat once and I realized that I gave the toddler cut grapes and watered down grape juice and made them home cooked foods that's portioned out. I cared about the baby more than I cared about myself.
That how it works. You caremore about others than yourself
1:16 The Will Smith example didn't age well 🤣🤣
I immediately looked at when it was posted
i feel like you are happier than usual, you're having so much more fun in this video. it puts a bigger smile on my face as a viewer!!! happiness spreads :)