How Do You Know If You're Gay?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ค. 2024
- Happy National Coming Out Day! Remember, the first person you have to come out to is yourself.
It's not always easy to figure out your sexuality, so if you've ever wondered "Am I Gay?", this is the video for you.
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00:00 Intro
01:23 How do you know if you're gay?
02:18 Why?
04:05 Physical Attraction
05:27 Romantic Attraction
06:59 Experimenting in the Real World
07:40 Overcoming Fear
08:28 Closing
10:02 Outro
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Fantastic. I waited until I was 28 to come out because of family pressures
etc. When I did, that closet door blew open with a bang. And yes, it will be
Ok. I am 71 now, celebrating a 41st anniversary with my Husband John.
A marvelous adventure!!
Im 50 and still hiding, iv never fitted in in social circles and have low self worth but i met this guy that is gay and he took me to his friend's place, they welcomed me in and i absolutely felt myself and felt like i belonged for the first time in my life, there was no sex just drinks and laughing and smoked weed. Im really considering coming out at 50, hiding this shit has affected me my whole life
This guy helped me in the first 4 minutes of the video and helped me realise that I’m straight. Just wanna say thanks to this guy for helping more than anyone else or anything and to everyone else this video helped, show this guy the respect he deserves. Much love bro
Wow! Thank you! I'm so glad the video helped you!
Same bro, you helped me realize I’m straight
@@ItTakesCourage I was so worried bout being gay, not that it’s bad, but i was stressing on it, I thank you so much bro, really 😊
I also might be straight, it seems I feel more straight then gay/Lesbian, the video helped me not to be so worried about what I am.
@@ogboo14 same I was too, but then I realized i am straight.
I have denied my sexuality for years, telling myself, "I'm not gay". At 75, finally admit I'm gay, after two marriages and cheating bc I needed a male. Most times in sex with a woman, my thoughts were of men. Denial as I learn too late, is a waste of life.
stay away from me creep
Aww sorry this is just so sad I feel u
Dont be too hard on yourself
Treat your life because go on
🩷
Anyone else cry when he said it's going to be ok? No? Just me? Cool-
No I cried
I did
It's ok.. enjoy your life responsibly, safely and openly, May God Bless You. ❤️ 💙 💜 💖 💗 💘
How did you know
Only tears
Because of this video it made me confident to tell my self I’m gay
How
Dont.
lol ur gay
I wish i found this video when i finally realized i was gay. I previously identified as bi because of some female "crushes" i had in my childhood, but when i started puberty, those feeling went away. I was in 9th grade and was suffering of internalized homophobia, i thought i was broken and everytime i asked myself if i was gay, my brain would be like "You're not gay, remember that random girl when you were random age?" and i just couldn't accept the fact that i was exclusively attracted to my same sex. Now i'm semi-out and proud, but it hurt a lot in that moment. I'm glad a lot of people realized they were gay/lesbian because of this video, keep up the good work 👍
ikr same! (it wasnt the exact same though)
same situation with me !
Love that for you 👏🏾
Why is his voice making me emotional… I’m almost in tears for absolutely no reason! Help-
I know I'm bi, but I get into these moments where I'm constantly questioning my sexuality. I'm strongly attracted to men which is why I think I'm gay but I still have feelings for women too. It's just not as much as men.
saaaame! i totally get that
that’s just bi with a preference to men
Same but the other way around
yeah same. but once i online dated with a person that said they were male, (still hate myself for doing it in the first place) but we hopped on a call and she sounded like a female for sure. she kept hiding it but i just told her eventually. that was also the moment when my feelings for her just totally died out. realizing im gay.
Perfectly normal y'all. Don't stress out about it. Take a look at the Kinsey scale and it may help you understand your sexuality a little better. It's more common than you think. Don't be afraid to explore your feelings and attractions. Not everybody will understand but it's okay. Not everybody thinks the same way. Everybody has different tastes. Some like a little pepper, others want a straight pepper diet. It's nobody's business and if they have an opinion about it, the wiser ones will keep it to themselves.
Nice video and very encouraging words. It wasn't until my 40's that I finally admitted to myself that I was gay and after spending my entire life in denial it was such a relief. Nearly twenty years later I am still learning how to navigate this self acceptance journey that I have been on, each day brings a little more confidence and self assurance. This video is an affirmation of where I have been and where I am going.
I'm so glad the video helped you! Best of luck on your journey toward self acceptance!!
Sometimes even when a person knows they’re gay they put up shields due to the expectation & pressures of those around them & feeling admitting it will cause others, many of whom a person likes to exclude them. Outside pressures are hard to ignore. Fear of rejection can indeed hamper self acceptance.
I am gay and well resolved. But you managed to bring me tears by how kindly you approached the subject. I think everybody deserves such kindness when they are struggling with their inner conflicts. 💖
P.S.: from São Paulo, Brazil.
ive been struggling for months and months about my sexuality. I've finally realized that this is who i am. I am gay and my name is koko.
Congrats!!!
@CePlmVreiCoaie exactly 🥰
@@abdulmotin2437What's with the emoji?
@muszkaalexandru8578 i think it's more of a relief and someone being happy about it debbie
@muszkaalexandru8578lmao for real these kids be thinking they got noble prize or some shi 💀
That closing section hit hard, all of your words made tears form in my eyes, thank you.
honestly, this is an awesome and amazing video, your voice, what you say, the comfort you give, all of this video is so great and i wish more people would see it
Thank you so much! Feel free to share it with your friends 🥰
After this i just wanna cry and hug someone but idk who
Sending virtual hugs!!! 🤗🫂
@@ItTakesCourage thanks 🫂
Much deeper and higher quality video than I was expecting. Thank you.
I’m surprised this very well explanation about sexuality and neat visual drawings hasn’t been seen enough. I was thinking about finding sources that help explain this topic and this just so happens to be perfect! I hope more people can see this and understand themselves so there’s less confusion in this world! 💕😊
This is a wonderful presentation. I'm old now and the generations after me are standing on our shoulders to reach out beyond yourselves to do things we never thought possible. With all the hate and homophobia I've encountered in my life, it would be a lie to say it hasn't changed me forever. But every new generation of queer young adults can push the boundaries of self esteem further and further. How do you know your gay(?), the same way heteros know they're straight.
I'm really questioning my sexuality right now. I had sex with a woman a week ago and mid-sex I thought of having sex with a man. It was a brief mental image but it shook me to have had it at all.
My family has been asking me if I am gay lately too. Although I've had sex with about 25 women in my life, I still find myself attracted to men. Maybe even more so than women, but I repress it strongly. The journey for me is to derepress it, look at it and see whats really there.
Plenty of people like having sex with lots of different kinds of people! Just because you like having sex with women doesn't mean you wouldn't enjoy having sex with men. And being attracted to men doesn't make you any less attracted to women! Try not to stress too much about labels while you're figuring things out. Sometimes they can be helpful, but they're not necessary if you don't want to use them. Best of luck!
@@ItTakesCourage your this reply made my mood good.....yes it is totally sexual orientation games..
25????? BRO GIVE US SOME ADVICE
Where you at in your journey?
bro, no one fucking cares about who you had sex with...
Thank you for making me realize i was a lesbian. The only thing that was holding me back from accepting my true identity was religion specifically christianity and internallized homophobia. I accept this new chapter of my life. Also because i was afraid of how my family would perceive me and how they would judge me.
Exactly how I feel now,it's really complicated
As a straight man these are very important questions that everyone should sit and ponder.
Wow the music, your voice, is sooo relaxing and the video is so comforting thank you
I am still confused. My main issue is that I dont know if I like somene as a friend or romanticaly. Currently I think I have a crush on one of my male friends but maybr I just want to be in love and I chose him to be my "crush". When I ask myself if I want to hold hands or kiss him my answer changes depending on my mood. When I first started to take interest in sexuality I looked mainly at men and was not interested in women. I told myself I was doing research by looking at men because I am a man too but looking back I just wanted to look at men lol. But in the past I didnt have any crushes. When I was 11 years old for example no one came to my mind when someone asked what was my crush. This crush I have on a male friend right now could be the first crush I ever had to be honest because I never felt like this before. But I am only 16 years old right now and I have a whole lifetime to figure this out.
Note: English is not my native language, sorry if you had trouble understanding.
this was very inspirational thank you so much!!!!
first i want to give major props to the men, he explained very well and gived good advice.
now that out of the way, i want to share the moment i realise i was gay.
i grew up in a christian family in mexico, in that country is shameful that a boy of 10 years and up doesn't have a gf, for that reason is pushed upon everyone, in all my years of just dating here and there no girl/woman made me feel anything, in fact i felt dead inside devoid of all emotions and zero attraction but due to religion and social construts i could only do that, after moving to the US i started to avoid dating since i didn't felt the preasure i had before, with time i started to meet new people among them was a guy who was gay and handsome, i had a hard time not losing myself while looking at him, for the first time in my life i felt butterflies in my stomach, always happy when we met for a group hangout but guilty for feeling that way, one day a question came up from one of our friend "how did you found out you like men?" that question froze me, the answer send me in a loop of despair and panic, "i feel exited with another men, unlike being with a women" that was when my world failed on me and started to question every emotion and memory i had, my friends, people i passed on the street, actors i saw in movies, every sensation up until that very moment, i spent a month seperated from the group fighting my self, considering it wrong, all my religous belifs fell on me and crashing any happines i had, one day feed up with it all i wanted to prove if i was or not gay, i called my friend and with a simple question, answer and action found out that indeed i am gay, 16 years wasted pretending i liked women, pretending i wanted to be with one, to marry one, all of the chaged and i have to say, i am trully happy now.
find the answer like in the first minutes of the video only you can say if you are not, good luck out there and god is with you all.
I’m happy that you could accept how you feel
This helped me,my therapist told my not to be so sure I’m a lesbian sense I’m still a kid,And that I’ve convinced myself I’m lesbian because I told him I think I was born this way. But know I know I’m a lesbian.
When I saw the thumbnail for this vid my first thought was, "Someone thinks "How do I know I'm gay" can be answered in 10 minutes and some change. Yea, right".
I'm going to save and share this video.
I just want to say this video is the best guide to exploring your sexuality I have found so far. I have not yet come to a conclusion about this and I think I dont really need to. But this video is so nice, calm and crafted with love and care. I just want to compliment it.
HNCOD! Next time I'm asked about my orientation, I'm showing them this video. I know some people who need it drawn out like this. Great job ! 🌈
Thanks so much! Happy to help!
This helped me more then all of the tests I have taken combined! I am just a bi high schooler who just needed to accept himself as bi and stop suppressing his feelings! I wish I could give you a hug
I’m so happy for you! Sending the biggest virtual hugs your way ❤️
This has help me open my eyes to see who I can be. Thank you so much 😊
Thank you just thank you for this video 😊
At 44, I'm just now coming to terms with my sexuality. I have NO problem with me being gay, some other people seem to have a problem with me being gay lol.
"Being gay isn't hard. Straight people make being gay hard" - Trixie Mattel
I’ve been having super weird thoughts ever since I tried pychodelics for the first time. I’m looking at this video and I couldn’t stop thinking of the girl I’m trying to take serious. It’s not necessarily a desire but more of a curiosity of what’s on the other side. Seeing this video allowed me to see I really do love her, yet, I’m never able to settle down. I’m currently struggling with porn addiction and I get bored very easily and want to go onto the next if that makes any sense. I’m questioning not just my sexuality but literally everything that makes me happy. I really do feel like I’m losing my mind. Nothing matters but the line.
That's exactly how I'm feelingi really don't know how to overcome it I'm confused and losing my mind I'm just stuck😭
Also happening with me rn. I am losing my mind and I don't know how to overcome all this
Exceedingly well done! Thanks so much!
thank you this helped me a loooot ❤❤❤
Im confused, in my 21 years i never had a real relationship and by means i prefer not to mention right now, i think maybe im gay, well, more specifically bi, but the gay part is new for me and, well, im kinda afraid and confused because i dont know if its true, if im lying to myself or what, i commited a lot of mistakes throug my life, i dont want fail this one too
What a great video! I am going to need to watch this again. I feel like I am having a conversation with a really trustworthy, wise and emotionally intelligent friend.
Thank you so much!! So happy I could be that friend for you!
Thank you for made me calm down ❤
Thank you so much this video helped me a lot ❤️
Growing up was just a normal guy, I even liked this one girl, but as I got older things changed, I had feelings for guys. So yes you can know that your gay.
Thank you for this! I have now realized that I am in fact a gay man!
I just want to say that rainbow you drew was amazing! you have great art skills.
Edit: This was at time 1:37
This really made me think about everything and everyone I know I feel that my decision will make me happier. It almost makes me feel… free… safe… happier. Thank you, I will save this video when I’m feeling down.
I’m so glad it meant so much to you! I hope it helps you whenever you feel down, too.
Cheers for this video and much love from all the way down in Australia. A most informative video, so many thanks. It certainly has me thinking (and questioning) now in a positive light. Thanks once again... ❤
Thanks so much for helping me!
Very helpful. Thanks for getting me to break out of my shell and admit who i really am.
Yeah I’m gay. And I’m proud :)
really helpful thx!
It's videos like this one that remind me that the world is not that bad and there are good people in it. I love how you talk about how you are the only one who can tell if your are gay or not it took me so long to admit it to myself I was always under the fear of "I can't be gay that's weird!" and I was like that till one day I just broke and said... What if it's okay to be weird? What if it's okay and not werid and just weird to me. I started talking to other gay people and opened up that possibility and bam I just accepted it. It's okay to be gay and it's no more weird than being straight or any other attraction it's just you. And that's okay.
Thank you so much! There are definitely good people in the world, and I'm glad that you were able to find people who help you be yourself. It's ok to be gay!!!
Wow, that was good. Really good, thank you.
2:00... So far I'm thinking that this is state of mind as nothing external can tell you your state of mind... But you know something a state of mind is influenced externally and can change over time... I will continue to watch with an open mind
This helped a lot
THIS HELPED ME SO MUCH THANK YOU
I'm so glad!
@@ItTakesCourage ❤️
THANK YOU❤
I just found out that I'm bi I needed years to accept it but I can't deny something that I enjoyed even though it's a secret you guys should be proud
people who don't understand what bi means: 🤨
@stickmandraw8796 ik
Really excellent video. This is precisely how to go about determining your orientation.
Thank you!!!
I really don’t know my sexuality, but after this video I’ve thought and came to the conclusion gay, bi, straight, or whatever, the thought of marrying a guy doesn’t sound that nice to me. But dating a guy when I’m younger does sound like something that suits me. Would this still make me gay or not?
this has helped me so much. Thanks
I'm so glad!
I finally know
thank you from the depths of my heart thank you
So happy for you!
Thank you❤
Thanks sm for this vid, it really helped me reflect on not just who I like or not but how I like certain individuals. Just stressed out to tell people because I'm worried people will treat me a little differently, for instance in team sports...Plus, It's so hard to find people my type in a school full of either really straight people or really gay/les people. Don't know what to do, should I not tell people so I might have more chances or tell people so I can date who I really like, but at the risk of frequent rejection or not having as many options? :(
You should be honest with yourself. If you feel a specific way that is totally normal and you should express that. If you hide behind a fake version of who you are you will never be truly happy! Yeah, you might not have as many options if you express who you truly are but those options that you do have are going to be more meaningful and special.
Do you want to date people that you truly love and care about? or do you want to date someone who will never see the truth about who you really are because you are afraid that they won’t accept you?
If you want to be happy you have to be honest with yourself.
You shouldn’t feel like you have to hide who you are just because you think nobody will care.
It’s better to find someone who you truly care about and who truly cares about you than find someone who is only seeing the fake parts of you.
There’s always someone out there who fits. But you won’t find them if you don’t show your true self and your true identity.
You said it yourself “tell people so I can date who I really like”
If you truly want to find the right person then you need to show who you really are and what you really want.
Yea, you might get heartbroken or rejected more often but would you rather have a fake relationship with someone you don’t truly love or care about just because it was “easier”? or do you want to push through the rejection and challenge to find the person that you truly connect with and want to spend your life with?
In the end you should listen to what you’re heart desires and accept that if you want to find true happiness you will first have to fight through the pain of rejection, but eventually you will find that one person that is right for you…the true you and not the one that you want others to see.
This calming video really did let me just lay down, and reflect, your calming voice really did help me actually feel relaxed while reflecting, and after a while of reflecting, I have come out, proud to say, I *am* gay 🏳️🌈
Thanks for the amazing video! First of all, love your drawing. Second, this really did help me better understand my sexuality. I'm now realizing that I'm almost definitely gay, and the tips in this video helped and will help me tons.
I’m so glad it helped you! Thanks for the kind words!
What beautiful words abd thoughts. You seem like such a good man. Hugs from Ireland x
Thank you so much! ☺
I hope I'm not the only one watching this already out to everyone I know XD
😂😂😂👌
Nope 😌
I’m a homoromantic (gay) asexual trans man FTM
yh
Same here I know I'm Gay but still wanted to watch thus for...research purposes
Just looking at people in general make me feel empty 🙃
Very true. Looking back, my exploring years were beautiful. Exactly as described. Scary, uncertain, gradually inevitable, not even wanting to avoid anything. And living my dream ever since. Extremely happy. It’s what the word gay means after all. I wish I could grant that feeling of discovery to straight people, but usually they don’t go through years of doubt.
Hey! I’m in love with my best friend, but he has a girlfriend and so do I, but I don’t want to be mean and break up. I don’t know what to do
When your little heart goes pitter patter for your team mate and your little man raises to attention , lol ! Gotta be a clue !
I am still learning about my sexuality but i wish i’d seen this video earlier; there were so many things people assumed or made gestures at me, only you can tell if you are gay or straight or bisexual,and people should respect it as such.
Absolutely. The only person who can tell you what your sexuality is...is you! Best of luck on your journey!
Thank you very much for making and sharing this very positive and gentle video. It's very enlightening and healing.
Thank you! I'm so glad you liked it!
Really means a lot🥺🥺
I am a gay man.
Thank you for helping me with this.
Be Proud🌈🌈🌈🏳🌈🏳🌈🏳🌈
I love girls and boys too,what,am i?
@Cat FF bisexual or I don't know I think panse,ual
@@ninjapuppy2779 actually i am impressed by me🤧i am too handsome
@@teve8414
I think you're non-religion bro? 💜
This helps a lot with Hocd/SOocd and anxiety
proud of you my friend! great video👍
Thank you!
@@ItTakesCourage u are amazing am still wondering as a boy if i like boys
yes very good video i just found out im gay
RZ
insightful!!!!
Thank you so much. This really helped me figure out who I really am!
I didn't help me find my identity but it did give me a better understanding
Im a straight male so im only here to learn and understand better about the human sexual orientation.
You my friend did a fantastic job explaining it through your drawings.
Thank you for helping me understand better about sexual orientations and how we are wired differently.
Love who you love my friend 👍
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm so glad that my video helped you and I appreciate that you're taking the time to learn about people who are different than you. Hopefully we can all get better at that!
honestly I was slowly coming to terms with being gay but this solidified the "maybe, maybe not" feeling I had
Guess I'm not gay. Thank you for making me realize some things that I felt weird hanging out with my guy friends.
Thank you, for everything🌈
I grew up in a time and place where 'gay' included a whole bunch of things and I checked exactly none of the boxes. So I never really thought about it.
Fast forward twenty years and a friend was being a complete wise-ass. I decided to give him a peck on the lips because I wanted to shut him up and I knew he'd never expect me to do something like that. So I gave him a beck on the lips. A half hour later when I unpinned him from the wall I thought I might give this gay stuff a whirl.
Best decision I ever made!
On a tangential note, I love the hairy-arm of the llustrator?
Thank you.
i been wondering about this for a while, gonna experiment to help figure out if I'm stuck in the closet. thanks for this video it really helped work through some stuff. happy pride month guyys
I don’t wanna disappoint my father. I hope in the future they have a cure for people like me
There is no cure because there’s nothing wrong with you. I hope one day you can love yourself for who you are.
this really helped me out i finally accepted how i was and why i am gay like the first time some boy touched my hand and i touched a little tingle in my pants this helped out very much thankyou
Me too
This video helped me accept that i am demi sexual, thanks
The "It's going to be okay" made me tear up slightly even though I don't care if I'm gay, bi, straight or something else. I might be gay but that might be a problem as I am in japan.
I think the "It's going to be okay" got me cuz of my mental issues. or smthn like that
I can relate to it cause I only realized that I am gay
Cause I had lost interest in girls during the pandemic lockdown in 2020 it gave me time to think about my life and my sexuality, after some time I realized that I am more emotionally romantically and sexually attracted to guys cause I feel more comfortable round them than I do towards girls cause I consider girls to be like my sisters and friends.... even though most people won't accept my sexuality..... I am happy and proud of myself for who I am 🥰❤️💯🏳️🌈
I...might be...lesbian...
This video is scarily underrated
Thank you! It's one of my favorites that I've made
I’m nine and this really helped. Thank you
My journey to be myself was a long one for many reasons. Now I am happy to identify as gay.
thank you this helped me figure out my boyfriend is gay and it wasnt just for 20$
I'm a lesbian but I like just listening to others people's journeys because I didn't write mine down and I wish I did
uh oh i think im lesbian. Like to support
Sweet! 😊
I still don't know because if I'm in a room full of men and women, it's kinda hard to see what is turning me on. But I'm still exploring to learn more about myself.