WHEN THE WIFE BECOMES THE BREAD WINNER FT PHETOLA MAKHETHA |
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ก.ย. 2021
- Hey Fam
Thank you once again to our guest Phetola Makhetha
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Thank you so much sis for this wholesome conversation! Thank you for being so gracious! Absolutely loved every minute of our chat! May you continue to do the Lord’s work! You’re amazing🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️♥️
You are such a blessing keep up the good work
You are such a blessing indeed, loved the conversation and the germs you dropped. You are so gracious, loved the way you spoke so respectful about your husband, that's love.
You are such a breath of fresh air ❤️❤️❤️ke go rata ka pelo yaaka kaofela koore go deep deep deep ..O chipi Mma Makhs.
You are an amazing soul and you testimony is powerful, continue being amazing...
Maphoka you are such a gem! I love how you're such a firm believer in your marriage and your husband! You have so much wisdom its incredible 😍😍😍
One thing I love about Phetola, she's honest and am learning everytime I listen to her 🥰😍
I'm not even married mara ditaba tsa manyalo ke di rata!!😭😭😂❤I love you both so much❤
Sis that is me 🤣🤣 Mommy content as well and I'm not a Mom 🙈
Yoooh sooo me 😂😂😂 lenna ke dirata habohloko
We ready,re shorta fela ka di husbands bantase 😂😂
😂😂😂😂 this made me laugh ! Thank you for watching sis ❤️❤️
@@BuliMakhubo ❤❤
Yoh Phetola, this mirrors how my husband and I marriage started. I started following you in social media. This was happening in 2016 to date for us. He provided from our wedding, however from there, no income. This has given me so much peace, because I was the 'weird' one in my circles. My husband was great though in cooking, pick me and dropping me off from work, he would clean. He would do laundry,right now he is pursuing his dream and has started providing financially after almost 6 years. He was great when we had the baby, he was a "stay at home dad" for a whole year which gave me a peace of mind.
Not only does Phethola's years of experience as a young wife make her credible but also her level of authenticity! She really doesn't hold back, and she does it with such grace! I completely enjoyed this topic.
I think it's very important for women to be open to anything happening in the relationship in the financial sphere of things especially! I believe in hypergamy and patriarchy but in the same breath I am aware that the sun won't always shine for men to fulfill their masculine roles specially in such volatile times.
I truly love her transperant side so much. She is so relatable as well🤍
So so true dear, hate to call it 'reality of life' but life can always turn out anyhow and we need grace to still make it through.
Sometime we forget that even if you marry someone with money you can lose it whilst married. Life happens like sickness, lose your job and many other factors.lets just love intentionally
Profound
So deeep 🔥🔥🔥🔥 2020 and beyond has shown us how nothing is certain in this life🥺
So profound hey, I am going through this phase now and at first I was angry and frustrated but am asking the Lord to help me coz no one asks to lose their job
This has been my reality and haven't really had someone to talk to about it because of "controversies" but I'm happy to know that I'm not alone and it is conceivable and doable. Thanks ladies
Couldn't wait for this one DreamTeam we are within 💃💃💃
#dreamTeam
Si la
Phetola’s story sounds like mine. We went through same thing and I thank God for everything
Marriage is definitely for the gracious.... alot of love n maturity and they definitely gorrit. Some of us r definitely not married because God knows we are not ready. Bless the Makhs🌠
Phethola and Lerato are such an authentic couple and brought it to this chat with her , this was so authentic , thank you for Inviting her Buli.
In the era where the idea of hypergamy & the word “High Value Men” (only monetary values considered) being thrown around ; this is such a realistic, much needed & different topic.
Our situations are not the same & sometimes a HVM comes in good morals, hopes & dreams. It’s a very eye opening talk. Thank you ladies for tackling this because there are some women , as myself , who believe in the dreams of our partners & helping them out through tougher times.
I absolutely love Phetola and her perspective… the financial dynamics of relationships are changing as women pursue and realise their dreams. Social media perpetuates a standard of living and “providing” that is not realistic for most SAns. Grateful for this honest platform Buli and The Makhs, for the transparency ❤️
Trust that every session with Mrs Makhetha is a Learning & journaling time ! The world is blessed . Their marriage IS a MINISTRY!
I love Phetola soo much, I personally follow her Channel. She has one of the most wisest Husband. Im not married yet, their channel is premarital counselling for me.
I love these sit downs with the wives , thank you Mrs Makhubo for obeying the holy spirit 🙏🏽
Love Mrs Makhs. She's my friend. She just doesn't know it yet 😁
😂😂😂
Phetola you are truly a great image of how graceful your family is, so much wisdom and grace🥰🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Ous Phetola though🙇♀️..you are such a breath of fresh air, so genuine you just ooze so much of classiness, gracefulness and Christlikeness.
I felt it when Phetola said that she didn't want to have sex during those difficult times and I am currently in that situation where sex is just a no go area for me. Finances can really put a strain on marriages. Thank you so much for this conversation, it was really informative, encouraging and giving hope too.
Joooo, Im going through that situation at the moment 😢😢
Honestly: not being biast or anything. But Lerato selling his car for me was more an act of obedience and Faith that Romans 8:28 will prevail. That was stubborn faith right there!!!
Why does TH-cam even have an unlike button. Who unlikes this kind of video..loved this conversation. You ladies are so full of wisdom
Baze babahle abafazi... Lord I pray that everyone waiting on their husbands from you receive them including myself.. you know what we need Lord and I trust you and your timing is perfect.. in Jesus name I pray. AMEN
Amen 🙏🏾
Amen sis
Amen
Amen
Amen
I’m glad I’m watching this before marriage, so much wisdom . Thanks ladies
Happiness is having your two FAVOURITE women in one room, on one screen 😭🥺😍❤️
Buli is doing such a lovely job with these sessions, thank you Mama Esi 💛
“Take care of the now” & “Look at the character of the man” this is much needed advice ausi Phetho, thank you for sharing with such honesty. The question from you Buli were so relevant and I think you brought out the best out of Phetho.
Thanks ladies
Dream Team si la ✌
16min in and I'm a hot mess!! 😭😭Thank you so much for such raw and authentic conversations especially in today's world where men are put under soo much pressure to provide (however this looks like). Marrying for God, purpose and love is such a beautiful thing, it's definitely not easy but we trust God in the process. He is faithful!!
Tnx buli for teaching the single ladies that marriage is not all about money& material things marriage is about sacrifice&tolerance frm Ayesha in kimberley
I honestly didn’t want this conversation to end . I learnt so much , that character is so imperative; love is not enough 😆. I love it here. Thank you Bhuli and Mrs. Makhs 💛🌻✨
Right!!!!!!😍😍😍
I'm like Pheto with my hubby also in our early 20's and for a long time I worked but he wasn't but he gave me his car to get to work and made sure I had everything I needed. It was no easy for him but we got through it and it made us stronger together. We are so open with our finances
Thoroughly enjoyed this chat. I’m 22 and single but I’ve learned so much.
Thanks to my two faves ♥️
I can relate to this conversation! Thank you so much for this!!! After 3 years of marriage I agree marriage is a ministry 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾!!! Financial issues really to stress a marriage but God is faithful
This conversation was EVERYTHING!!! So much wisdom! ♥️ thank you ladies.
I did all of this before marriage and I’m here sitting with no ring, debt and stress, thanks for great video and insights
Unfortunately certain things should only be done during marriage and not before. When we are girlfriends we must behave as such! 🥰
I hear you and agree with you to an extent, because I'm also of the mindset I would never financially take care of a boyfriend... But then if the relationship progresses to a point of seeing a future with this person, where do ladies like M M here, who find themselves in such situations draw the line of supportive girlfriend but also being careful not to play wife.
@@disemellow I believe in letting the man lead. His actions would have let her know if it’s safe to fully commit. Who brought up the marriage topic? Had they spoken about finances and where they’d live. As women we must normalise vocalising our needs within the relationship from day one. If I want marriage he must know and he must be given a timeline. We let men play with our emotions and efforts, then cry victim. I’ve been where she’s at, that’s why now I state my case, then watch how he responds and treats me, from there I decide on how much I should be invested.
All I can say is Thank you so much for allowing the God to use you for the benefit of people like me. This conversation was speaking to me word for word, as I am currently dealing with this situation, thank you for reminding me that it shall surely pass, and trusting the Lord that one day he will elevate us.
Phetola is so me, we need to see more conversations like this. It's okay to start from the bottom and support your partner
Wow this was a much needed video. It is important to make sure that when your man is down, you are not another cause of his frustration. We as ladies should be a source of peace when he is going through a storm. nice one ladies
Shuuu my heart is soooo full!!! I listened to this with my partner and let me tell you how freeing it felt 🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for a beautiful conversation ladies, so real. Something young wives should understand and the true essence of Proverbs 31, specifically verse 14 - 17.
As a single 24 turning 25 year old, getting into the dating scene as a virgin who is serious about her purity. Listen ladies this is vital conversations that you ladies are ministering to us.
Thank you Ous Buli & my fave laugh and beautiful Ous Phetola.
I love you both bo big sis❤️❤️❤️
May God give you strength in your journey of purity my sister
@JustLu - so proud of you. Please babe keep it that way. If there is something I wish I could regain it would be my virginity. I am new in Christ. But living positively with HIV. Thanks to not keeping myself for my husband. Be that as it me. In my 6 years with HIV. This God has kept me. But I always say to Him "thank You Lord for the Blood of Jesus! Because WOW: I am now a virgin again who saves lives using my lessons.
Stay away from sex before marriage. I will pray for you. Being celibate is so sexy in my eyes. I am also now 💯 percent celibate and so proud. Regardless of my past. God has forgiven me and I have forgiven myself and the perpetrator. So keep the cookie 🍪 locked up babe. Not until God recognises your marriage my love 💯💯💯
You are goals 💞💞💞💪💪💪
@@chosennotforsaken wow you have a great testimony
@@chaks4466 thanks so much hey. Think of Genesis 50:20 - when Joseph said to his brothers: "your intention was to harm me. But God used the pain for my good and His Glory!" That would be my story ☺️☺️☺️ Also: taking accountability for my contribution in all this liberated me. It freed me so much. I so love being Christian. The Holy Spirit teaches me so much daily. Even in my time of feeling lost, pained and forgotten by God. I always remember how far He has brought me.
He is an amazing Father and once we know that. Obeying Him becomes oh so easy 💞💞💞
@@chosennotforsaken that's so powerful having a relationship with Jesus is the best thing one can ever do. Wow your testimony blesses me.
Mrs. Makhs is so wise and beautiful ❤️❤️
Thank you Buli for bringing Phetola to your Channel. I will be watching your videos also. For Phetola, your experiences are so much like ours. There were time I had to hold the fort. But now he is taking care of me. It is such an honor to walk the journey together in love.
Thank u so much for the topic, personally I experienced it and now things are fine. Respecting and end ensuring that the man doesn't loose his dignity is very key.I can relate to most of the things Phetholo said, the likes of sliding the bank card in the shop to makes it looks like its him paying and many more
"the green grass could just be astro turf" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wow Phetola the level of honesty and vulnerability is inspiring. Thank you for sharing the reality that many women face and being authentic. Loved this video ❤️
I have no words, just LOVE for you both ladies. You ladies are doing the Lords work for real.
Phetola is so authentic. I love how you always own your truth despite what anybody would say or think. Your wisdom and maturity leaves me in awe all the time. Your honesty is so refreshing.
“We are blessed to be in the kingdom because we know that it’s a phase. We know that it’s going to pass” - This was so profound.
“To be born into the family that i was born in was a blessing. “
“Nowadays people want the finished product. People don’t know the amount of work that went into that finished product”
“When God withholds something from you, it’s not because he hates you, it’s because the timing is not right.”
Buli when you said “The green grass could just be astro turf” 🔥🔥🔥👌🏾 Hheyi because we are likers of things and checking what’s happening in our neighbours yards instead of removing the wool from our eyes to truly see what’s happening in our own backyards. Laughed so much at fraaishing ama chips 🍟🤪😂
These wife talks are really blessing me..you guys are doing a great job. I do wanna get married one day and these genuine talks are opening up my eyes and shifting my perspectives. Thank you guys.
This is a beautiful conversation. I enjoyed the conversation and just looking at two beautiful ladies teaching and sharing.
Loved every minute of this talk, love you both so much. Good to see such young, married and saved phenomenal women in our generation, God Bless you both so much💛
This was so good! Every marriage has a purpose and a kingdom assignment. 🌸🙏🏽
Mrs Makhubo and Mrs Makhetha siyabonga. May God bless you both and your lovely families.
The Great I AM loves you
Yes its good to get involved in the finances even if you not contribution so that you are aware of where the money goes and what costs what. It also helps to not drain the breadwinner in expectations
I love this so much and I can relate to Phetola’s journey in marriage. Ngathi you can organize a married women’s conference so much wisdom shared🌸
Even for us the single women please... Preparation Preparation and more Preparation @Mpume
Becareful ladies as well... Transparency is everything, know his financial position before you invest in him, because you will use all your resources with a marry go round person... Some men who are "starting up or businessmen" are parasites and users especially in Johannesburg...🌺🌸💐
Love this! much needed talk! Real Relevant issues! Thank you so much ladies for the bravery and wisdom to address it!
I enjoyed this conversation! Thank you ladies for this offering!
Phetola is so matured.... thanks for the nuggets ladies 💞
Argh I love you ladies. 🥺🤲❤
Phetola's transparency 🙌🔥😭
Mrs Makhs you are my fav ❤️and you are with another Of my fav Mrs Makhubo❤️🇬🇧
Absolutely excited for this, I love love Phetola and how wise she is🥰🥰🥰🥰
Really enjoyed this. It was very real, open and honest. As someone who is having their eyes open to the possibility of getting married, I truly appreciate such conversations.
This collab is everything 🥺🔥🔥 so much wisdom from Phetola 🥰🥰
I truly enjoy this videos!! so much you can learn, the transparency and authenticity
Mrs Makhs in the building 😀
The definition of joy is your two favorite youtubers together
I truly enjoyed this conversation. I really loved the authenticity and openness.
Thank you ladies.
This was such a great segment! My husband kept asking who are these wise ladies. You raised great pointers😊😊
Thank you so much for the conversation ladies. Very informative! I wish you could do more of these. You are both amazing ❤
Mara Phetola.... you responded so well shame. God is working through the Makhs. Thank you for this Buli
argh man this is so beautiful, my favs in one space... I LOVE IT
This was such an informative and enlightening conversation♥️
Appreciate the honesty. It's so good when two people who love eachother also put effort to make things work
My two favorite women! Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. The wise and gracious words. ♥️♥️ should look into having part 2
I’ve been waiting. I am so happy. I can’t wait to watch this
Thank you ladies for such an insightful conversation and for being real. I am looking forward to marriage and knowing how realistic you have to be in what you want and what kind vision you want to achieve is so important.
I'm not even done watching but I've already learned so much. Loving this wholesome conversation❤️
Marrying a potential can go either way but I think it was easier for them coz they were young. I don't recommend anyone marrying a potential in their 30s.
Right ! It honestly seems like a gamble. It either goes really well or really bad
At Pfano Mukhodobwa l definately agree with you
Potential that doesn't work towards the end goal....
You 2 KILLED this conversation.So real and informative.Thank you.
Mrs Makhetha😍😍I just loooove her...Thanks for this Buls love you lots
Thank you, Queens!!! I've been waiting for this collab.
What a brilliant conversation 👏 👌 🙌 I loved this can we have more of these ladies talk
This was such a great conversation, Thank you ladies🙂🙂
Thank ladies for sharing your experiences, and am so grateful because am currently going through that and am motivated and I surely know that it will come to pass.
Really loved and enjoyed this topic so much. Thank you ladies for being open and genuine.
Such a real talk.....thanks Ladies for sharing this with us!!
Iam here for the dream team... Beautiful and informative talk ladies. Love you both ❤️
My favorite ladies!!! ❤️ Thank you for this conversation.
Been waiting for this video ❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful ladies 😍😍
DreamTeam I am here for the collabs, keep them coming fav💃💃💃💃💃
Loved everything about this video, you guys touched on very important Points. As a single person I really appreciate these talks.
Thank you sistaz♥️♥️♥️♥️
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So much information, and such an eye opener. Thank you.
i personal love an enjoy conversations where i can gain and grow when i listen to. Thank you Ladies and love you.
Thank you Phetolo for sharing this.. Thoroughly enjoyed it..And it's amazing to see your personal and marriage growth..
Finally ❤
I have been waiting
Yooooo sisters this so profound like I have no words🙌🙌
May the Almighty continue to bless you tlhe ❤❤❤❤
Beautiful conversation Buli, I love how you just gel with your guests. I didn't want it to end, Mrs Makhs is a phenomenal woman. Thanks ladies ❤️
Unconditional love is what this video was all about...I love it
so much wisdom and very educational.....Thanks