Ep. 29 - The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage - a coffee with Andrew Reid

The loneliness that comes from the disconnection from self when we’re gay and in a straight marriage is awful. It’s the loneliness that comes from being disconnected from our authentic selves.
My friend Andrew Reid has courageously shared his story of being gay while married to a woman. It’s a story of wishing his gay away and throwing himself into work and working out to feel seen, heard and that he belonged.
I know that Andrew’s story will help others, for I know it would have helped me when I was in his situation myself.
Let me buy you a coffee and come and join us for a beautiful and real chat.
About Andrew
Andrew is a man making his way through life in a regional city in the Australian state of Victoria. He’s the father of three young humans, owns his own business, loves keeping fit and came out as gay after a 14-year marriage to a woman.
Instagram: @reiddrew
Links
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[@Gholden1972]

Was in one for 19 years. Was beginning to tear me up from inside. The truth finally came out. Going through an awful divorce whereby she alienated the kids from me. Rebuilding. 37 months sober and mentally more fit than ever. Plus I work out almost daily. It’s getting better.

[@humansconnecting]

Thank you for sharing part of your life's journey with us here. It's important to note that it's often uncomfortable and, well, awful for everyone involved, but it does get better.
What's a message you'd share with your earlier self now you're on this side of your divorce?

[@kennethbailey9853]

Been there more than once.

[@lawrenceharris7369]

Here too

[@humansconnecting]

I hope that you're going OK now. Thanks for your comment.

[@ronsmith2241]

I was married to my accepting wife for 51 years before she passed. She had MS for 26 years and I was her carer for almost all that time. She wasn't able to stand or walk for the last 15 years. As she approached the end of her life, I thanked her for accepting me as her gay husband. "She said "Of course, that was easy. Why wouldn't I?" Amazing lady. Both my adult kids are accepting. I was very lonely in that marriage and even more so now I live alone. I was a Baptist Pastor but was told I am not welcome to even attend church because I am gay. I was proven gay during electronic shock therapy as part of 13 years of reparative therapy.
I am not looking for a boyfriend/husband. Too old now. Financially it was a good decision to stay committed to my heterosexual marriage, but it wasn't necessarily the right decision. I love being gay though. All the best to you both.

[@humansconnecting]

Thank you for sharing part of your story here. I hope that you're getting the connection that you need and absolutely deserve and I'm glad that your family is accepting of your sexuality. If only institutions could see a humans' worth and worthiness beyond their perceptions of sexuality. All the best to you, too.

[@gjhartist3685]

Just stumbled across this channel. Do you have any videos about long-distance relationships?
Great video and chat btw. Never had the experience of dating or marriage w/ a woman but I've known some men who have. It always sounds harrowing to deal with for all parties involved.

[@humansconnecting]

No content yet on long-distance relationships. But for now, it’s tough to maintain connection when there’s a physical distance without being purposeful and intentional about it.
And thanks! That was a great chat with Andrew. He offers so much wisdom and insight here.

[@gjhartist3685]

@@humansconnectingThank you for the response!