People want to distract you like how they are distracted. They want to pressure you to rush into things and skip thinking. This goes for personal & professional life.
Men are the most easily tricked on this. As many have no SELF worth they want to prove how successful they are by creating LIFE as a Father and starting a FAMILY. They can barely support themselves and tired as is and now will be a 100 times more. Also you are forcing a newly born child to a future which is mich much worse just as our current situation is 100 times worse than the 1950s with pensions, cheap homes, plenty of jobs, women who were traditional not pretending, good healthcare with 0 co-pays, cheap stocks...etc.
We've lost our communal culture. That combined with hardships, it's become dog eat dog. I never trust anyone, because good people will do bad things if desperate enough.
Unprocessed Trauma & emotional immaturity leads to expensive impulses to cope with life & other faulty decision making. a person who focuses on their mind is gonna save themselves a lot of money
Yep even your blood or so called friends close to you can’t even trust. They can be snakes, want to see you fail, and try to make you look bad. Always trust yourself
You know, I’ve actually figured life out and can spread wisdom through this list: Bad friends-Use left hand Expensive housing-Use Crowbar No Relationship-Use Right Hand No Food-Use Boogers Be self sufficient, live on your own terms. Keep rolling Hun
I remember in my friend group one of my life long friends destroyed our friendship because he tried to steal our friends gf. Even though all three of us had been close friends since childhood. Have friends but dont hesitate to cut them off if they start acting shady. As i get into my mid 20s i really do not care about making more friends. Once my friend group dwindles down im done. I get enough social interaction just by talking to regulars at my local rec center sauna and hot tub.
It's all a one way street anyway. I just had to ditch a mates suprise party. His wife asked me come(yes it's how it sounds). He tries talking down to me constantly I'm sick of it. I'm in my head like. Your missus is pretty much begging me for it who do you think your fooling.
@@retrogamer82*As a Zoomer, the only thing I can ask is have you interacted with generation "alpha"? Talking to them is like talking to a mentally challenged person...*
I just quit vaping too after doing it for almost 10 years. My best friends started quitting after having kids and it motivated me to quit, just do zyn now. Thank god I have great friends that are like my family since I have no family around anymore.
The sooner young people do self reflection and asking more questions about life the better. The more curious you are about learning how to live life better the sooner you can act on the realizations you come to.
I just found your channel yesterday and I've watched multiple of your videos, I can't believe our lives have been so similar. My mother is a narcissist I've been no contact 12yrs and it's sooo validating so watch Your videos and read the comments and see that I'm not alone that other people have experienced the same abuse and trauma, I'm thankful that I have been in therapy and I am doing so much better. My life is so much happier and I'm never looking back 😌 Thank you for sharing your story and your advice !
Yeah, being a good influence for my siblings is why I never let them see me go to shit despite my suffering. Younger ones especially tend to copy you at least a little.
Life right now is just arrogance and blame shifting. Narcissistic behaviors make me absolutely sick, I cannot keep a relationship with anyone without their mask slipping or them exploding on me. Things are fine, sometimes for years, until suddenly they're not. It doesn't pay trying to not be fake or trying to be loyal.
I relate to you 100%. I had people pretend to care about my mental health for no reason. Only to exploit me probably for content or whatever then I had somebody who I knew for two years, turned there backs on me they were blame shifting me as they were too childish to take accountability, to think I felt bad for that guy when he was going through shit only for him and his friend to do the same shit to me hypocrites and then I had another group That i had known for three years be shallow, and be pretentious and act like they're angels when they're not I can't stand people like that but oh if I do anything wrong I'm evil but the second they do something wrong its a pat on the back for them. but yeah, people show me their true colors all the time that's why I don't stay in friendships or friend groups too long because They want me to be the butt end joke of the friendship or friend group and I refuse and then they cut me off or ghost me and I'm like OK bye good riddance.
It’s weird you mention vaping, I gave up a week ago today cold turkey. I was a 250+ puff per day down to nothing, super proud of myself. Told my brother and hasn’t replied for days, Mum thought I was rubbing it in because she refuses to quit smoking.. have to pat your own back cus people don’t wanna do it for you.
Self absorption is disgusting and god is noting who have good hearts and are truly warm to others…Don’t let your family bring you down too much. Many families have a lot of grossness within them and weird competition that is gross. That’s on them not you and you can choose to be love and light and it feels good.
Running out of ideas might very well be stress. I noticed I can't think and talk half as effectively since I started working. Like so much of my energy is used up so it's hard to function. I do ponder how much of relationships are just a cheap transaction.
Don’t apologize about Wednesday videos. Whenever a creator says they missed their posting date. I don’t even know what they’re talking about until they keep talking about it so nobody’s even keeping track and I like your videos.
Don’t really think there are a lot out there, but you are right. For sure 80% of your relationships are 100% not that good, and I personally don’t know you or know the situation you are in but can make that claim easily.
@samirunlu9900 Nope. Actually my relationships with my family & friends is pretty good and I have a lot of support. That's probably your situation, but don't know that because I don't know you personally. I apologize if you've had bad relationships but not everyone is miserable and being sabotaged. Keep your chin up.
@ for example for some people/guys they are in a relationship with an only fan girl. If I say they aren’t, they just say they are 😂. Can’t really help it you love the lie 🤷♂️. And I already said I don’t even know your situation, because it actually doesn’t matter it is around 80%.
@ weird you can see my comments also 😂 but anyway , yeah let’s say you only hang out with two people ( we are speaking about in general “good people” and not just two) then maybe. I was kinda referring to all your interaction in your whole lived from online to a simple cashier from a teacher you had when you where 12 ect. It is always what the observer makes it what it is, so yess these only fan people are then actually in relationship …. And you probably have only good interaction where the are all completely genuine nice with you or just genuine 😂. That’s why some people call others NPCs (they don’t seem genuine, truthfully themselves).
Coming year inflation will go allot higher and life wil become allot more expensive. Prepare for it and stay away from desperate crazies, walk away and stay safe.
Honestly i feel the reverse.I feel like people act like life is a barbie doll house.And that things can’t ever go wrong.And then when showed the fact that it’s not so they either do one of two things pretend that nothing is wrong with the world or they believe that the world needs a challange because that philosophy has never been done before how original. They feel as though the world needs to cover new grounds.Even as they themselfs are flawed and can barely adapt to the world that they themselfs seek.As they burn themselfs out in the process they lose perspective and cause more harm then good
Running out of ideas? and at the end u said u are looking for a second job? Well, you are firmly in the rat race, and that's the absolute death of any dreams you might have, including and especially creative outlets like this channel. RIP. One more soul sucked into the abyss of the Rat Race
It's not like you have a real choice, poverty, hunger and brutal living are life's natural motivators, to do better. Once you get acquainted, you never want to meet them again.
Yeah this is key; I know this and I still struggle with this. What I find most difficult is maintaining those boundaries and aligning myself with my goals, without being overwhelmed by PETTY "FLAWS." All in our heads. Please be safe, keep a journal of de bullshit in your head and don't put too much pressure on yourself to be exact with your planning. You have time, and our lives are rapidly changing (2024 is trying to take us all). Be kind and conscientous. C ✌️
Try to get a van where you can sleep in comfortably, at least than you won't be struggling financially. Stack that rent cash and invest in S&P500 or something with low fees. Are you not going to work with John anymore?
@@BadBoyBobby85 oh projection you mean like what you're doing? When did I say everyone in my life was a Narcissist? Surely you have watched all 128 of my videos right?
@@deconstructingnarcissism3062 if I'm a narcissist then yes it's projection, but I'm not the one venting for attention. If you really wanna break the cycle instead of focusing on the myriad of narcissists you encounter, perhaps point to the ones who were not because eventually some of them had to have rubbed off on you 🤷
People aren’t to be trusted even family. Try to keep to yourself.
People want to distract you like how they are distracted. They want to pressure you to rush into things and skip thinking. This goes for personal & professional life.
Men are the most easily tricked on this. As many have no SELF worth they want to prove how successful they are by creating LIFE as a Father and starting a FAMILY. They can barely support themselves and tired as is and now will be a 100 times more. Also you are forcing a newly born child to a future which is mich much worse just as our current situation is 100 times worse than the 1950s with pensions, cheap homes, plenty of jobs, women who were traditional not pretending, good healthcare with 0 co-pays, cheap stocks...etc.
We've lost our communal culture. That combined with hardships, it's become dog eat dog. I never trust anyone, because good people will do bad things if desperate enough.
@@shaunpearce6846 yes I agree its very much dog eat dog now. No morals, nobody helping anyone out, and every man for themselves.
As if most people have ever done a good deed out of their own good will
@@Anton43218 people don’t realize this 😂
You're not running out of ideas. Lifes just that brutal and boring
This 💯
No you're just depressed. Try to move to a new city or country
@@chillaxer8273Or get a haicut. Right
it's only boring when you don't have any real hobbies or goals.
@chillaxer8273 screw moving. More like find spirituality and do shadow work😂
Unprocessed Trauma & emotional immaturity leads to expensive impulses to cope with life & other faulty decision making.
a person who focuses on their mind is gonna save themselves a lot of money
This is exactly why I skip out on having a social life.
People are horrible in general ... especially if you are above average in looks, they want to delete you, it seems.
There is definitely some truth in that.. especially if you are charismatic and personable on top of that.
@@RubenSolis-u1p
You just got to learn from experience who to keep on your circle.
Yep even your blood or so called friends close to you can’t even trust. They can be snakes, want to see you fail, and try to make you look bad.
Always trust yourself
Oh hey Steve, you did see this video. This was the video I was referring to.
@ ok I’ll react to it
don't apologize broski you'll be aight. hope it gets better. same boat brother
You know, I’ve actually figured life out and can spread wisdom through this list:
Bad friends-Use left hand
Expensive housing-Use Crowbar
No Relationship-Use Right Hand
No Food-Use Boogers
Be self sufficient, live on your own terms. Keep rolling Hun
That’s what’s happen to me right now. Even girls I dated years ago try to sabotage me… 😢
I remember in my friend group one of my life long friends destroyed our friendship because he tried to steal our friends gf. Even though all three of us had been close friends since childhood. Have friends but dont hesitate to cut them off if they start acting shady. As i get into my mid 20s i really do not care about making more friends. Once my friend group dwindles down im done. I get enough social interaction just by talking to regulars at my local rec center sauna and hot tub.
It's all a one way street anyway. I just had to ditch a mates suprise party. His wife asked me come(yes it's how it sounds). He tries talking down to me constantly I'm sick of it. I'm in my head like. Your missus is pretty much begging me for it who do you think your fooling.
Never had any childhood friends cause I wasn't ghetto enough.
It doesnt end in your 40s or 50s either. People make life a consistent musical chairs high school game where everyone ends up alone in the end.
Sorry but gen z are terrible people
@@retrogamer82*As a Zoomer, the only thing I can ask is have you interacted with generation "alpha"? Talking to them is like talking to a mentally challenged person...*
That is why you have to keep to yourself and don't tell anyone when leveling up.
I just quit vaping too after doing it for almost 10 years. My best friends started quitting after having kids and it motivated me to quit, just do zyn now. Thank god I have great friends that are like my family since I have no family around anymore.
The sooner young people do self reflection and asking more questions about life the better. The more curious you are about learning how to live life better the sooner you can act on the realizations you come to.
I just found your channel yesterday and I've watched multiple of your videos, I can't believe our lives have been so similar. My mother is a narcissist I've been no contact 12yrs and it's sooo validating so watch Your videos and read the comments and see that I'm not alone that other people have experienced the same abuse and trauma, I'm thankful that I have been in therapy and I am doing so much better. My life is so much happier and I'm never looking back 😌 Thank you for sharing your story and your advice !
My narcicist father caused me depression accident and more hell suffering
Each of my parents took a turn forcing me into homelessness. Now I'm 34 and life is just done.
@_Arugula_Salad_ am 32 already into hell can't wait to exist this shit life.
@@_Arugula_Salad_ Wow, I am the same age, and in the same boat.
Yeah, being a good influence for my siblings is why I never let them see me go to shit despite my suffering. Younger ones especially tend to copy you at least a little.
Life right now is just arrogance and blame shifting. Narcissistic behaviors make me absolutely sick, I cannot keep a relationship with anyone without their mask slipping or them exploding on me. Things are fine, sometimes for years, until suddenly they're not. It doesn't pay trying to not be fake or trying to be loyal.
I relate to you 100%. I had people pretend to care about my mental health for no reason. Only to exploit me probably for content or whatever then I had somebody who I knew for two years, turned there backs on me they were blame shifting me as they were too childish to take accountability, to think I felt bad for that guy when he was going through shit only for him and his friend to do the same shit to me hypocrites and then I had another group That i had known for three years be shallow, and be pretentious and act like they're angels when they're not I can't stand people like that but oh if I do anything wrong I'm evil but the second they do something wrong its a pat on the back for them. but yeah, people show me their true colors all the time that's why I don't stay in friendships or friend groups too long because They want me to be the butt end joke of the friendship or friend group and I refuse and then they cut me off or ghost me and I'm like OK bye good riddance.
It’s weird you mention vaping, I gave up a week ago today cold turkey. I was a 250+ puff per day down to nothing, super proud of myself. Told my brother and hasn’t replied for days, Mum thought I was rubbing it in because she refuses to quit smoking.. have to pat your own back cus people don’t wanna do it for you.
Self absorption is disgusting and god is noting who have good hearts and are truly warm to others…Don’t let your family bring you down too much. Many families have a lot of grossness within them and weird competition that is gross. That’s on them not you and you can choose to be love and light and it feels good.
🎯
Exactly what's happening to me now & actually been happening for years now
1:58 a “friend” got me to drink 9 shots in a half hour when I was 19. I almost died!!
Running out of ideas might very well be stress. I noticed I can't think and talk half as effectively since I started working. Like so much of my energy is used up so it's hard to function.
I do ponder how much of relationships are just a cheap transaction.
95%
Around 80% but mostly it’s more then that. If it around that you kinda have an okay live seen from a 3 person perspective.
I feel like the car video ranting style format is perfect for people with schizo tendencies. It’s my whole aesthetic and I love it.
Don’t apologize about Wednesday videos. Whenever a creator says they missed their posting date. I don’t even know what they’re talking about until they keep talking about it so nobody’s even keeping track and I like your videos.
True great vidio 🎉🎉
Especially my christian mother and my christian baby mommas😂
Psalms 119:2
“Blessed are they that keep his testimonies, and that seek him with the whole heart.”
King James Version (KJV)
That's not always true, there are some genuinely good people. Not everyone is out to sabotage us. I'm sorry if you have gone through that.
Don’t really think there are a lot out there, but you are right. For sure 80% of your relationships are 100% not that good, and I personally don’t know you or know the situation you are in but can make that claim easily.
@samirunlu9900 Nope. Actually my relationships with my family & friends is pretty good and I have a lot of support. That's probably your situation, but don't know that because I don't know you personally. I apologize if you've had bad relationships but not everyone is miserable and being sabotaged. Keep your chin up.
@@NightmareFuel-vx5xv only seems like it, seen a lot who cope or refuse to see. So yeah even if I don’t know you it will be 80% …
@ for example for some people/guys they are in a relationship with an only fan girl. If I say they aren’t, they just say they are 😂. Can’t really help it you love the lie 🤷♂️. And I already said I don’t even know your situation, because it actually doesn’t matter it is around 80%.
@ weird you can see my comments also 😂 but anyway , yeah let’s say you only hang out with two people ( we are speaking about in general “good people” and not just two) then maybe. I was kinda referring to all your interaction in your whole lived from online to a simple cashier from a teacher you had when you where 12 ect.
It is always what the observer makes it what it is, so yess these only fan people are then actually in relationship …. And you probably have only good interaction where the are all completely genuine nice with you or just genuine 😂. That’s why some people call others NPCs (they don’t seem genuine, truthfully themselves).
Tony is here for a good time not a long time
Coming year inflation will go allot higher and life wil become allot more expensive. Prepare for it and stay away from desperate crazies, walk away and stay safe.
Honestly i feel the reverse.I feel like people act like life is a barbie doll house.And that things can’t ever go wrong.And then when showed the fact that it’s not so they either do one of two things pretend that nothing is wrong with the world or they believe that the world needs a challange because that philosophy has never been done before how original.
They feel as though the world needs to cover new grounds.Even as they themselfs are flawed and can barely adapt to the world that they themselfs seek.As they burn themselfs out in the process they lose perspective and cause more harm then good
Running out of ideas? and at the end u said u are looking for a second job? Well, you are firmly in the rat race, and that's the absolute death of any dreams you might have, including and especially creative outlets like this channel. RIP. One more soul sucked into the abyss of the Rat Race
@@LolitaExpress212 I know a job is the death of any dream. Its simply a stepping stone until I get more money.
It's not like you have a real choice, poverty, hunger and brutal living are life's natural motivators, to do better. Once you get acquainted, you never want to meet them again.
@@deconstructingnarcissism3062yeah yeah, that's what they all say....
Including me
I feel that brother, just consulate and re group your thoughts until something comes up
Yeah this is key; I know this and I still struggle with this. What I find most difficult is maintaining those boundaries and aligning myself with my goals, without being overwhelmed by PETTY "FLAWS." All in our heads. Please be safe, keep a journal of de bullshit in your head and don't put too much pressure on yourself to be exact with your planning. You have time, and our lives are rapidly changing (2024 is trying to take us all). Be kind and conscientous. C ✌️
Try to get a van where you can sleep in comfortably, at least than you won't be struggling financially. Stack that rent cash and invest in S&P500 or something with low fees. Are you not going to work with John anymore?
@@rm847 who is john
It’s fine man.
DN dumb question where does most of your money go to? Rent, food, gas?
@@rm847 all three.
Are you still in the same place as yesterday?
Pizza is a meal for me, not junk food. 😂 But I know I need to change that way of thinking. 😊May God help me to do that. ✝️🙏🕊
128 videos about everyone you know or have ever met is a narcissist? Perhaps read the second chapter of the Dsm on projection? 🤷
Gaslighting. The dude is simply trying to vent.
@@BadBoyBobby85 oh projection you mean like what you're doing? When did I say everyone in my life was a Narcissist? Surely you have watched all 128 of my videos right?
@@Spartan-Of-Truth one is a coincidence, two is a pattern, three is more than a problem
@@deconstructingnarcissism3062 if I'm a narcissist then yes it's projection, but I'm not the one venting for attention. If you really wanna break the cycle instead of focusing on the myriad of narcissists you encounter, perhaps point to the ones who were not because eventually some of them had to have rubbed off on you 🤷
@@BadBoyBobby85 do you hear yourself? What are you even talking about in this comment because I seriously don't know?! Pattern of what?
so everyone except you is a narcissist and their actions are specifically aiming to take you down? ever thought about this?
@@billgrant7262 when did I say that? Sounds like you're projecting. Never did I ever say that every person in my life was Narcissist
Why can’t you keep a job?
@@austingray6885 I have a job.
@@austingray6885 been in it for almost a year but the pay is bad
Dude go to a temp agency, and apply to where they send you
A lot of times companies hire temps 👍🏻