Your comment exactly Miss Sharice, Point, Blank, periodt! ( also, she said she had vision problems, but she saw that husband across the way good enough to get with him.)
I love all these comments talking about this woman set him up. I got news for all y'all: NOBODY can set up an already willing man. If I am committed to God and my marriage can't no woman come and turn my head. He did what he wanted to do PERIOD. Society is always ready to crucify women but excuse the behavior of men. That's why we get away with so much.
Allen Mack I’m sooo glad someone finally gets it. It’s always the woman that gets labeled as thehome wrecker. I’m not condoning adultery ... however why is the man allowed to escape unscathed?
@@simplykimmy3215 Society is never gonna change even though everybody is always hollering about equality. I watched my father cheat on my mother and the whole time he blamed HER for his cheating. Men don't take responsibility for anything because they don't have to. The only thing I am grateful to my father for is teaching me what kind of man NOT to be.
@@simplykimmy3215 Funny thing is, I have YET to hear anyone demonize a man by labeling him a "homewrecker" even though they mess with married women. There was a dude that even murdered his girlfriend's husband so he could have her and not one person called him a homewrecker. People really are conditioned to blame women for everything, even the deplorable behavior of men. So glad I ain't a woman in this fucked up world.
Allen Mack tell me about it... not saying we don’t play our part however we the only ones that get the scarlet letter branded on our chest. I would never blame the other woman for something my husband did.. she didn’t make the commitment!!! I wish so many women would wake up and hold their significant other more accountable... that woman can’t take a man who wants to be kept
First Name Last Name I have too. He would tell me he could see why men cheat since he met me and stuff like that. I ignored it for that visit and never went back again. I had to remain long distance friends with his wife only and not him.
That must be a Christian cliché because it simply not true. Men marry their side chicks all the time. And mistresses and go on to have wonderful and better lives. Tell your husbands this. They're the ones who took vows not his g/f. Women need to stop believing everything and start realizing most men cheat. The wives that think their husbands don't, just means he's really good at hiding it.
Of all the life coaches, I listen to Tony Gaskins. In my opinion, he is the only one that gives the truth straight and doesn’t just tell people what they want to hear. He provides great advice for both women and men. He is doing such a great thing for people as a whole. He is truly blessed.
Yes sir! In fact, he should have prayed and denied himself 7 days of hamburger, steak, and potatoes (fasted) because his heart wasn't right either if they kissed on the first encounter. THEN and only then after breaking his fast, should he and his wife have kept an appointment * at Starbucks * with that woman.
She's not foolish. She did what she did because she wanted him. Her vision isn't that bad because she could see he's handsome good enough. Great advice.
She ain’t have no question. "Am I foolish for sleeping with a married man?" Girl really? She sounds proud of her actions. I didn’t hear an ounce of remorse in that email.
And I'm so glad he mentioned the "judging" thing and put it in the right perspective. A lot of Christians dont want to be held accountable for what they do.
I've been the woman he's speaking to...I was pursued by him each time that I've allowed it to happen and even though I knew he was married my vulnerability and desperation allowed for me to drop my guards. I have gone to God and asked forgiveness and as well cut off the friendships/situationships with these men. I failed the test before but I plan to pass the next one...just wanted to share that
👸desperation, loneliness enjoying his attention. but cut ✂️it off quick. bc he kept talkn about his wife. thank God 😊we never touched, kissed nor had s-ex🙏. never ever again!
She lined him up. She planned to be with this man. She studied him. Than claims she didnt think nothing of kissing him. She straight lying.... did her mess with him. My guess things didnt go as she planned.
I know, who doesn't think anything of kissing a married man?!!! And she's in the church!!!! I hope she reads all of these comments, she needs a reality check
I had a married personal trainer I developed an attaction to. When he said he was starting to do home training, I stopped using him. Because if that man came to my house there is no way I wouldnt have slept with him. Im trying hard to not be that kind of woman that sleeps with maried men, even tho people tell me I shouldnt care.
Those people who say you shouldn’t care are the people who will help keep you single by encouraging you to be the side chick which will ruin your reputation & self esteem.
She was enticed and draw away by her own lust...she should have immediately rebuked it and continued to rebuke it and stayed away from him no matter what!!...Woman can’t afford to continue to fall victim to this type of stuff, the foolishness has to stop, the man is married for God’s sake!!
Niecy Harvey He May have came to her...but she (knowing that he’s a married man) didn’t have to give in and entertain that. But again, because she was draw away by her own lust she did exactly what she wanted and fell for it...
Good advice Tony. Someone needs to address why an adulterer is allowed to minister. Whom God calls he qualifies. Clearly this man is not qualified to preach the gospel. He needs to be at the alter seeking deliverance from the spirits that's got him bound. Preachers/bishops/pastors, stop calling these sinners into training. God doesn't need your help getting his chosen one qualified for kingdom work. When the church picks the standard of holiness back up then we will be able to win souls for real. Too much lax. Too much backwards movement from the church. Lets get back to the old land mark. The real bible teaching ways of holiness.
Tony was lost for words!!! Lol This is never good for man/woman....lady leave this man alone!!! If this man divorces his wife still leave him alone!!!!
Right, she's talking about his wife knows he's had a history of cheating but thinks he's been delivered. But she's cheating with him, knows he's a cheater, and is saying she will take the wife's sloppy seconds if she don't want him anymore 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️. We gotta use our brains. This didn't make any sense.
Yeah. I'm not interested in competing for a man's attention. I'm a prize to win. I've got more class than to take some other woman's man, because I'm quite sane, compared to these losers who have affairs. One day you're both going to catch an STD. Not my fault.
I'm sorry, but this is too much!!!. God provides us a way to escape in all situations that can lead us in the wrong direction...These people are doing the most! Women know what they are going to do before they leave the house...They always planning!!.. My friends husband called me and asked me to be his prayer partner.. My response was no and if we do, we both should tell our spouses.. I appreciate your advice to her, but will she take it in?
It’s a hot 🥵 corner in hell 😂😂 Tony thank you for this message! There’s this married man who’s been trying to get at me for the longest 🤦🏾♀️ God made sure I saw this 🙌🏾
I went to 2 Pentecostal churches and those women would flirt with my husband. He even pointed it out and couldn't believe it was happening at church. We left. Never looked back . Those women are thirsty a nd r not seeking god but someone else's husband
I hollered with laughter as SOON as you started clearing your throat! I could see you suppressing the urge to say, “Sistah girl, you...what the?! Lord have mercy.”
@@allenmack5589 He is to blame, as Tony stated, they are both wrong. However, he dealt more intensely with the woman since she is the one who wrote the letter.
You are absolutely correct, Kenesha. She called in for help, not the husband (for everyone who is overlooking the obvious🙄). Her responses to the incidents show that she was in position for lust and although he has shunned her, she still wants him?! Lawd, a sista is really lost. I hope she takes TG’s advice.
I got a lot from this, wow: know thyself, set personal boundaries for thyself, look out for others, and Run, Run Forest when He opens a door out for you. Wow, thanks.
"Accountability is painful" PREACH👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I agree with you about women... the real Queens lift their sisters up around them, hold them in a positive light and help eachother with grace. We, as women, need to bring back community and encourage eachother. Future generations depend on this. True empowerment is not letting another woman fall or get hurt when we have the means to help.💗👑♀️
She was correct, her vision problem extends to her spiritual life as well. She has a wound (father,mother), that needs to be dealt with. Now a soul tie to a married man. Lord help her.
Great message!! I had to stop attending a church where I live for the same activity going on within the church!! It’s sad that this goes on beneath our noses.
She has created what we call a soul tie...this is another example of the number of Christian women in the church that are desperate and lonely and sleep with men that are in committed relationships....very sad
She needs help and prayer to figure out the root of why she is indulging in these toxic behaviors, is it low self esteem, abandonment issues? Whatever it is let's prayer for her deliverance! That she will wake up and realize she is worth so much more 🌺
She needs to recollect herself and put her full trust and faith in God. There are so many people who take fornication and Adultery as something light on the scale when it’s an evil act that leads to the Hell fire. May God forgive ,guide, and bless her to become one of the upright...Ameen We must never forget when God tells us that Satan is our avowed enemy. And after he tricks us into committing a wicked act we’re left with (great shame) and (embarrassment). But even after committing such an ugly act God let’s us know that his mercy descends longer than his punishment. God is most gracious most merciful to the sincere hearts of man. ❤️
Just ANOTHER observation...not only is it obvious she set this up just based off the contents of the letter but then if we dive n further she was attending the church which means she was privy to the possible ☕ im sure was being spread abt him cheating on his wife...thts y he told her she knew wht she was doing...duh cuz u knew his M.O...Ima need my sistas to love themselves better so we can stop acting like "oh whoa is me" when u get caught doing foolishness😏
That lady knew exactly what she was doing, she already had her eyes 👀 on him from a far. her intentions were to get him in an intimate setting... Where's the business? What business? I think both of them had an attraction for each other. Leave that lady's husband alone, unless you like being a homewrecker and a mistress 🤷🏽♀️, the sex happened mighty fast. God doesn't want you with another woman's husband, that's why he's another woman's husband 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫
It sounds like she is not being led by the Holy Spirit...both of them sound immature and desperate for attention....she should consider seeking Godly counsel and reporting him to the pastor..
Thank u Brother Tony for keeping it real and honest. I know alot of these Q and A sessions can be embarrassing for the one who sent it. But U teach in a way where u dont try to make someone feel stupid. U teach with empathy but u tell the hard truth. The truth hurts sometimes. But the truth is what sets us free. But this is a prime example of what happens if u give the devil an inch, he will take a mile. If u have a crack, he will burst it open. This is why whatever insecurities we have or struggles were dealing with should get the help we need to avoid potential bigger situations than just our personal problems. God bless u. Im Praying for this woman, our churches, and our nation. Thank u for doing your part!😇🙌
Amen!! Years ago Pastor Jamal Bryant (we all know his issues, no need to re-hash here) did a sermon where he spoke on this. He said if you know your weakness be vigilant and take measures to protect yourself. For him, it's women, so he said he keeps guards and deacons around him to make sure he heads right to his room alone with no visitors or pitstops along the way. Whatever your weakness is, opposite sex, food, porno, shopping, patience, protect yourself to not fall.
Genesis 4:7, "Sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it." She needs prayer. She is actually insecure. Because any woman with enough self control and worth, being attracted to someone doesn't give you permission to do something that you know is wrong. You can be attracted to a guy but just look. Insecurity, is a killer
That is excellent advice, Tony; especially that part about a sister doing it to another sister, we are actually doing a lot of harm to our fellow women in destroying their marriagesby letting ourselves to accept a cheating husband. Awesone teachibg.
This lady is simple.....her email is simple and her thought process is simple. My oh my people are just insistent on being lukewarm. Why not just leave the church?!! You can fool yourself, but you can't fool God. God is not a man He is God, He is sovereign. Lady come on!! Get your life before it's too late!!! You are not foolish, you're simple!
words of wisdom and the straight testimony! she really needed every bit of this, too. but tony was so shook at this one he forgot his manners... "hey, thank you for writing in to the channel..."
People criticise others who say "I don't go anywhere without my spouse" or i don't do things with the opposite sex unless my spouse is present. Although Ayesha curry gets heat for her comments and i feel she's wrong for speaking out in public like that but here's another example of women not respecting the fact a man has a wife when a man is more likely to sidestep a woman with a husband.
I really enjoy your honest and pure advice to all of these situations. It is very rare and very necessary. That being said, I also enjoy your hilarious southern colloquialisms, idioms, and sayings. Your advice videos are my comedy hour!
I was at a church, the worship leader was sending me vibes, we had a couple conversations. I thought I was crazy but I knew what I felt. He was married. I was physically attracted to him. I stopped speaking to him, no eye contact no energy given but I felt eyes! Yikes! Ultimately I left the church 🤷🏾♀️ maybe that was extreme but hey, you gotta keep those boundaries!!
Lord have mercy! What a beautiful, frank, and much needed counsel. Brother Gaskins, you are a blessed, and will be an even more blessed man of God for your honest answers. Yes Sir, I will help you say that you are a minister. God needs you, and we in this world need you. You were careful to tell the truth. You are blessed, your wife is blessed, and the world is blessed just to have you in it. We need to hear this kind of response. Women are lonely, and need the attention of a man, and are not willing to suffer for a while, and trust God to supply their needs. It's somewhat sad, but God is able to deliver anyone in this situation. These situations can be solved by fasting and praying. I thank you..Bro God has you planted for such a time as this that we are living in, and you will continue to be blessed.
That's was alot so many women are desperate for a man it's so sad when they dont have yourself together with so many mental issues and I love how he said by phone not facetime or in person the phoneeee coaching I love that idea best thing ever with these women and spirits
Honestly it sounded like she knew what was up and they were both out of order In my opinion. No desire to have self control.he shouldn't have even been at her house especially alone. Game.
Wowww...she has Baddd spirits..Must be dealing with a whole lot of Insecurities... But let’s not forget it takes to so it’s easy it was for her it was easier for him, He is a Important person in the church in the ministry of God he committed his self to God and his wife stop acting like these men are so damn weak they’re not weak this is what he’s been doing
Ooooo we Tony G. sometimes I just don't know how you conquer and divide half of these emails. But you make it plain. I pray your spirit continues to be lifted and God continues to give you a word for all of the emails. #blessyou #blessyourqueen #blessyourcompany
The man has so much more to lose that he shouldn't be playing these dangerous games especially. His marriage, children, church and his respect. She can just walk away and leave the church without any repercussion. She should have avoided this situation but it seems she may have had a plan. Knowingly kissing a married man is wrong and she didn't thing much of it. I feel uncomfortable with her future marriage being professed because of her current mind/mistake.
Both of them need a REAL RELATIONSHIP with GOD! Drinking, lust , no integrity, infidelity ughhhhhhh🤮 This makes me sick! The fact that she wrote in says she needs help because she ACT like she dont know its wrong?!!!! GOD help both of you all! Get help, BOTH OF THEM! 🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️
I agree with you Mr. Gaskins you told her exactly right! I am like that my myself Mr. Gaskins I set boundaries as a married woman because I know if you open the door just a little to the devil he will it push all the way open and wreak havoc! I am stay at home wife and mother and my husband work outside the home and I will not let no man in our house whether I know him or not when husband is not at home!
BAWAHAHAHA!!!! I JUST HOLLERED @ 6:26! "MY SWAG TURNED UP" .......i love his honesty........ BOUNDARIES!! neither one of them had boundaries. some just don't have them
I wish I was already a certified coach. I’m currently training to become one because I would love to work with her. She really needs help and healing. It doesn’t seem like she has support around her and someone to work through her issues with her.
Eternity With Christ Wow! My response really upset you. That’s ok. It’s just how I choose to handle things & you can continue to do things how you see fit. Hope you & your family are safe and doing well during this difficult time we are in!
WOOOOOOOO... this was spot on ... You are so correct .....we women DO NOT love each other ....the fact that she thought her actions were ok. ...no remorse ...no apologies...this cycle is do disheartening...
What these type of woman dont understand is that God is not going to give you another woman husband. It's crazy to me that people dont value marriage and boundaries.
God will never send you another woman’s husband. Period. Be blessed Tony.
AMEN, Sharice!!!
Your comment exactly Miss Sharice, Point, Blank, periodt! ( also, she said she had vision problems, but she saw that husband across the way good enough to get with him.)
Amen, and these women gotta CHILL and MOVE ALONG and ON with their lives and find ANOTHER SINGLE MAN!!! Not one who is taken and who has a baby!
Exactly. Even if a married man is to approach a woman, its the woman's job to decline and tell him to respect his wife. If he doesn't like it too bad.
@@EdoNational YES GIRL!!! We need to teach these women because apparently they weren't raised the right way!
I love all these comments talking about this woman set him up. I got news for all y'all: NOBODY can set up an already willing man. If I am committed to God and my marriage can't no woman come and turn my head. He did what he wanted to do PERIOD. Society is always ready to crucify women but excuse the behavior of men. That's why we get away with so much.
Allen Mack I’m sooo glad someone finally gets it. It’s always the woman that gets labeled as thehome wrecker. I’m not condoning adultery ... however why is the man allowed to escape unscathed?
@@simplykimmy3215 Society is never gonna change even though everybody is always hollering about equality. I watched my father cheat on my mother and the whole time he blamed HER for his cheating. Men don't take responsibility for anything because they don't have to. The only thing I am grateful to my father for is teaching me what kind of man NOT to be.
Allen Mack Same here ... my father taught me what kind of man not to marry!!
@@simplykimmy3215 Funny thing is, I have YET to hear anyone demonize a man by labeling him a "homewrecker" even though they mess with married women. There was a dude that even murdered his girlfriend's husband so he could have her and not one person called him a homewrecker. People really are conditioned to blame women for everything, even the deplorable behavior of men. So glad I ain't a woman in this fucked up world.
Allen Mack tell me about it... not saying we don’t play our part however we the only ones that get the scarlet letter branded on our chest. I would never blame the other woman for something my husband did.. she didn’t make the commitment!!! I wish so many women would wake up and hold their significant other more accountable... that woman can’t take a man who wants to be kept
Ive had a married man chase me. He got no play, I avoided him. Stay away from them. Give them a inch theyll try to take a mile.
First Name Last Name I have too. He would tell me he could see why men cheat since he met me and stuff like that. I ignored it for that visit and never went back again. I had to remain long distance friends with his wife only and not him.
God will not bless you with someone else's husband period 😕😕
Agree
Amen!
Amen! There are so many who think this.
That must be a Christian cliché because it simply not true.
Men marry their side chicks all the time. And mistresses and go on to have wonderful and better lives. Tell your husbands this. They're the ones who took vows not his g/f. Women need to stop believing everything and start realizing most men cheat. The wives that think their husbands don't, just means he's really good at hiding it.
Amen....these jezebel women going to find out the hard way...
This is why I feel married men have no business making friends with single women. Doesn’t matter whether he’s a minister or not. He’s a man first...
YES!!!
Most men ministers will send a female when a woman is involved. They will bring someone with them.
THANK YOUUUUUUU!! THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING.
Of all the life coaches, I listen to Tony Gaskins. In my opinion, he is the only one that gives the truth straight and doesn’t just tell people what they want to hear. He provides great advice for both women and men. He is doing such a great thing for people as a whole. He is truly blessed.
And he is the only one who lives what he preaches
I agree
@@iishalanae Not the only one.
He should have brought his wife with him for the business deal. They both are wrong.
Yes sir! In fact, he should have prayed and denied himself 7 days of hamburger, steak, and potatoes (fasted) because his heart wasn't right either if they kissed on the first encounter. THEN and only then after breaking his fast, should he and his wife have kept an appointment * at Starbucks * with that woman.
He said both were wrong.
Right I don't even allow men in my space let alone a married man.
She's not foolish. She did what she did because she wanted him. Her vision isn't that bad because she could see he's handsome good enough. Great advice.
Anointed Stilettos 😂😂 “ her vision isn’t that bad because she could see he’s handsome”
Right, everything that looks good isn’t good for you. Foolish and desperate
@@jadew9177 Very desperate.
@@Linamammaas Handsome, tall. She could see it all.
Anointed Stilettos Right! 😂😂
Wow!!! That was so disturbing and wicked on so many levels. I'm GLAD you got on her, man I wouldn't be able to talk about it. Great job TG
She opened the door to this because she was attracted to him.
She ain’t have no question. "Am I foolish for sleeping with a married man?" Girl really? She sounds proud of her actions. I didn’t hear an ounce of remorse in that email.
Right. Like she cannot be serious with that question.
Her vision is not That impaired...she saw everything clearly...smh
Exactly... she's ridiculous 🤷🏾♀️
She is a homewrecker and an idiot
Haha, seriously she knew exactly what she was doing.
Exactly she knew what she was getting herself into. He's a ministering dog!
Right.
Your reaction after you read the email was priceless🤣🤣🤣🤣
L Cornwall Right Lol 😂🤣🤣🤣
L Cornwall : 😂😆
Accountability IS painful! Thank you for posting this video.
And I'm so glad he mentioned the "judging" thing and put it in the right perspective. A lot of Christians dont want to be held accountable for what they do.
@@Silque.Blaque Thank you
That man got what he wanted from her and what she is foolish about, is thinking that he is going to ever leave his wife.
I've been the woman he's speaking to...I was pursued by him each time that I've allowed it to happen and even though I knew he was married my vulnerability and desperation allowed for me to drop my guards. I have gone to God and asked forgiveness and as well cut off the friendships/situationships with these men. I failed the test before but I plan to pass the next one...just wanted to share that
Thank you for sharing. Recently got out of a situation like this.
@@alleenrichards5059 me too
👸desperation, loneliness enjoying his attention. but cut ✂️it off quick. bc he kept talkn about his wife. thank God 😊we never touched, kissed nor had s-ex🙏. never ever again!
She lined him up. She planned to be with this man. She studied him. Than claims she didnt think nothing of kissing him. She straight lying.... did her mess with him. My guess things didnt go as she planned.
I know, who doesn't think anything of kissing a married man?!!! And she's in the church!!!!
I hope she reads all of these comments, she needs a reality check
This too much. She straight played herself
I had a married personal trainer I developed an attaction to. When he said he was starting to do home training, I stopped using him. Because if that man came to my house there is no way I wouldnt have slept with him. Im trying hard to not be that kind of woman that sleeps with maried men, even tho people tell me I shouldnt care.
You should care whatever happens to your mind and body after. U made a good decision.
You need to stop talking to "those people", and get some accountability partners.
Those people who say you shouldn’t care are the people who will help keep you single by encouraging you to be the side chick which will ruin your reputation & self esteem.
She was enticed and draw away by her own lust...she should have immediately rebuked it and continued to rebuke it and stayed away from him no matter what!!...Woman can’t afford to continue to fall victim to this type of stuff, the foolishness has to stop, the man is married for God’s sake!!
It's both of them fault! Smh! He came to her! She gave in. They both did! Smh...
Niecy Harvey He May have came to her...but she (knowing that he’s a married man) didn’t have to give in and entertain that. But again, because she was draw away by her own lust she did exactly what she wanted and fell for it...
@@kenyalove7343 They both were drawn away! It took two. If you're going to quote scripture don't be one sided with it.
" He coming to you. Where y'all at?!!" 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 This video was hilarious! " Sisterrrr!" 😂😂🤣🤣🤣
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Every time he said "Sisterrrr" I hollered 😂😂😭😭💀
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@@beautifulalien2987 😭😭🤣🤣😂😂😂
Tonnnyyyyy you were left speechless for a good 30 seconds😂😂 I was right with you. Whoooooooooo that's some mess right there !!
Kia exactly girl ! I hollered looking at as face
Kia the 👏🏽 tea 👏🏽
Good advice Tony. Someone needs to address why an adulterer is allowed to minister. Whom God calls he qualifies. Clearly this man is not qualified to preach the gospel. He needs to be at the alter seeking deliverance from the spirits that's got him bound. Preachers/bishops/pastors, stop calling these sinners into training. God doesn't need your help getting his chosen one qualified for kingdom work. When the church picks the standard of holiness back up then we will be able to win souls for real. Too much lax. Too much backwards movement from the church. Lets get back to the old land mark. The real bible teaching ways of holiness.
open leg plan..lol
That's it in a NUTSHELL!
Amen, Amen glad to hear some of us see it the Bible way
He said, "I don't know if I'm handsome, but I know I ain't ugly." 😂
He ran game from the start and she knew it but she didn't care now she wanna play the victim...
“Dripping Swagoo” 😂😂😂😂😂 I feel ya though Tony. I’m the same way.
Inga04 Yasssss!! This was the line that made me holler!🤣🤣🤣
Ebony Rivers yesssss! I was hollerin laughin 😂
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That part had me rolling! Lol
Same here. I agree these boundaries are essential.
Tony was lost for words!!! Lol This is never good for man/woman....lady leave this man alone!!! If this man divorces his wife still leave him alone!!!!
Right, she's talking about his wife knows he's had a history of cheating but thinks he's been delivered. But she's cheating with him, knows he's a cheater, and is saying she will take the wife's sloppy seconds if she don't want him anymore 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️. We gotta use our brains. This didn't make any sense.
She has low.standard and no self-worth...why would you sleep with a man that is already married...grow up life is to short
Yeah. I'm not interested in competing for a man's attention. I'm a prize to win. I've got more class than to take some other woman's man, because I'm quite sane, compared to these losers who have affairs. One day you're both going to catch an STD. Not my fault.
I'm sorry, but this is too much!!!. God provides us a way to escape in all situations that can lead us in the wrong direction...These people are doing the most! Women know what they are going to do before they leave the house...They always planning!!..
My friends husband called me and asked me to be his prayer partner.. My response was no and if we do, we both should tell our spouses..
I appreciate your advice to her, but will she take it in?
Thank you for your statement...wise woman
Girl you did right. I had a similar situation. 😍😍
@@tjaspire , i just lookike this! I aint slow for real
It’s a hot 🥵 corner in hell 😂😂 Tony thank you for this message! There’s this married man who’s been trying to get at me for the longest 🤦🏾♀️ God made sure I saw this 🙌🏾
I went to 2 Pentecostal churches and those women would flirt with my husband. He even pointed it out and couldn't believe it was happening at church. We left. Never looked back . Those women are thirsty a nd r not seeking god but someone else's husband
I hollered with laughter as SOON as you started clearing your throat! I could see you suppressing the urge to say, “Sistah girl, you...what the?! Lord have mercy.”
Dripping Swagg-goo!!!! ((Hollering))🤣🤣🤣 I know it’s not supposed to be funny and it’s serious but that part....😂😂
@msrenata80...no, that was pretty funny.
That part had me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 too!
Hahaha. I know right. 😂 Im glad he didnt put himself in that position because he knew what could happen. Wise man. I wish all men were like this.
Amen!!!! So true!!! She knew what she was doing? She just use business as an excuse to get to him. 😂😂😂😂😂😂
So he don't have no blame in this? It's all on HER because she pursued him? Homeboy is married. He didn't have to volunteer to be caught.
@@allenmack5589 He is to blame, as Tony stated, they are both wrong. However, he dealt more intensely with the woman since she is the one who wrote the letter.
Always blaming the women. Smh. So typical!
You are absolutely correct, Kenesha. She called in for help, not the husband (for everyone who is overlooking the obvious🙄). Her responses to the incidents show that she was in position for lust and although he has shunned her, she still wants him?! Lawd, a sista is really lost. I hope she takes TG’s advice.
We all know what "business" really means ;)
I got a lot from this, wow: know thyself, set personal boundaries for thyself, look out for others, and Run, Run Forest when He opens a door out for you. Wow, thanks.
Powerful..run is right..
Yes.
Trust me MANY things happen in the church.
I met my ex in church, still got cheated on🤷🏽♀️
I automatically think of married men like they’re my brother or a family member. Don’t even feel right.
Tony came through with the READ today.
Spirit knows spirit. This is so true. My brother kept it 100.
Her self esteem was on the FLOOR!!!
"Accountability is painful" PREACH👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I agree with you about women... the real Queens lift their sisters up around them, hold them in a positive light and help eachother with grace. We, as women, need to bring back community and encourage eachother. Future generations depend on this. True empowerment is not letting another woman fall or get hurt when we have the means to help.💗👑♀️
She sound like she got a jezebel spirit!
She was correct, her vision problem extends to her spiritual life as well.
She has a wound (father,mother), that needs to be dealt with. Now a soul tie to a married man. Lord help her.
Tammi B, Her vision problem being that she's blind to hurting his wife's feelings.
Yes sir, you said it all in the fact she was lusting after a married man.
That's right! Boundaries must be set within the parameters of marriage. No confusing anything at all, ever.
This is so wrong on so many levels!!!! It’s like what topic do you start with ?!!
Sis-tER 🗣 Listen to big brother!!!!!
Great message!! I had to stop attending a church where I live for the same activity going on within the church!! It’s sad that this goes on beneath our noses.
“Meat slanging” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yep she di$@ thursty!!
Damn
She has created what we call a soul tie...this is another example of the number of Christian women in the church that are desperate and lonely and sleep with men that are in committed relationships....very sad
She needs help and prayer to figure out the root of why she is indulging in these toxic behaviors, is it low self esteem, abandonment issues? Whatever it is let's prayer for her deliverance! That she will wake up and realize she is worth so much more 🌺
Agree
peace&luv : yes agree 🙏she is worth so much more then that guy . God is her deliverer and healer . 💓
She needs to recollect herself and put her full trust and faith in God. There are so many people who take fornication and Adultery as something light on the scale when it’s an evil act that leads to the Hell fire. May God forgive ,guide, and bless her to become one of the upright...Ameen We must never forget when God tells us that Satan is our avowed enemy. And after he tricks us into committing a wicked act we’re left with (great shame) and (embarrassment). But even after committing such an ugly act God let’s us know that his mercy descends longer than his punishment. God is most gracious most merciful to the sincere hearts of man. ❤️
Just ANOTHER observation...not only is it obvious she set this up just based off the contents of the letter but then if we dive n further she was attending the church which means she was privy to the possible ☕ im sure was being spread abt him cheating on his wife...thts y he told her she knew wht she was doing...duh cuz u knew his M.O...Ima need my sistas to love themselves better so we can stop acting like "oh whoa is me" when u get caught doing foolishness😏
"You didn't think much of it"? (Tony) 🤣🤣 You're too funny while giving your advice...
A man has wisdom...do the right thing!
I said the exact same thing in the exact same moment when you read, “I didn’t think much of it.”.
That lady knew exactly what she was doing, she already had her eyes 👀 on him from a far. her intentions were to get him in an intimate setting... Where's the business? What business? I think both of them had an attraction for each other. Leave that lady's husband alone, unless you like being a homewrecker and a mistress 🤷🏽♀️, the sex happened mighty fast. God doesn't want you with another woman's husband, that's why he's another woman's husband 🚫🚫🚫🚫🚫
Elaine White the devil is so strong! 🤦🏽♀️
@@foxyloxy5693 He definitely is 🤦🏽♀️
Dear brother, I’m a practicing Muslim Woman and I totally agree with you. May God bless you and your sweet family...Ameen ❤️🕋
Sorry but he may never convert to Islam. Are you going to chop off his head because he may never convert? He is a proud strong Christian.
@@naffs1069 in every religion there is love, yet love has no religion.. Humble yourself sister. humility and respect will get you further
@@naffs1069 Get over yourself.
It's so refreshing to hear a God fearing man of integrity. Good for you my brother! God Bless You for your voice of wisdom.
Exactly he see in her n took advantage, she really need deliverance. You're very right Tony
It sounds like she is not being led by the Holy Spirit...both of them sound immature and desperate for attention....she should consider seeking Godly counsel and reporting him to the pastor..
Thank u Brother Tony for keeping it real and honest. I know alot of these Q and A sessions can be embarrassing for the one who sent it. But U teach in a way where u dont try to make someone feel stupid. U teach with empathy but u tell the hard truth. The truth hurts sometimes. But the truth is what sets us free. But this is a prime example of what happens if u give the devil an inch, he will take a mile. If u have a crack, he will burst it open. This is why whatever insecurities we have or struggles were dealing with should get the help we need to avoid potential bigger situations than just our personal problems. God bless u. Im Praying for this woman, our churches, and our nation. Thank u for doing your part!😇🙌
Amen!! Years ago Pastor Jamal Bryant (we all know his issues, no need to re-hash here) did a sermon where he spoke on this. He said if you know your weakness be vigilant and take measures to protect yourself. For him, it's women, so he said he keeps guards and deacons around him to make sure he heads right to his room alone with no visitors or pitstops along the way. Whatever your weakness is, opposite sex, food, porno, shopping, patience, protect yourself to not fall.
Oh Wow!!! This is why the church is falling away.
😂😂😂😂😂 it was the pause in between the question & the answer for me. God bless my brother ! 🙏🏽
She knew exactly what she was doing. I hope she takes heed to what you spoke to her. She needs deliverance.
Genesis 4:7, "Sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it."
She needs prayer. She is actually insecure. Because any woman with enough self control and worth, being attracted to someone doesn't give you permission to do something that you know is wrong. You can be attracted to a guy but just look. Insecurity, is a killer
That is excellent advice, Tony; especially that part about a sister doing it to another sister, we are actually doing a lot of harm to our fellow women in destroying their marriagesby letting ourselves to accept a cheating husband. Awesone teachibg.
Bruh ain’t even gonna put himself in a position to get tempted! That’s a real married man!
😂😂😂 messy, they'll get there karma. Disgusting 🤢
This lady is simple.....her email is simple and her thought process is simple. My oh my people are just insistent on being lukewarm. Why not just leave the church?!! You can fool yourself, but you can't fool God. God is not a man He is God, He is sovereign. Lady come on!! Get your life before it's too late!!! You are not foolish, you're simple!
His facial expressions are priceless! 😂 I know this is not meant to be funny, but I screamed! 😂
words of wisdom and the straight testimony! she really needed every bit of this, too. but tony was so shook at this one he forgot his manners... "hey, thank you for writing in to the channel..."
God will never send you another woman's husband but the devil will!
People criticise others who say "I don't go anywhere without my spouse" or i don't do things with the opposite sex unless my spouse is present. Although Ayesha curry gets heat for her comments and i feel she's wrong for speaking out in public like that but here's another example of women not respecting the fact a man has a wife when a man is more likely to sidestep a woman with a husband.
People like to take what Ayesha says out of context. They chop up videos of her to push the narrative they want to push about her.
Dear Tony, what a thorough and well delivered answer ...God bless you sir
I really enjoy your honest and pure advice to all of these situations. It is very rare and very necessary.
That being said, I also enjoy your hilarious southern colloquialisms, idioms, and sayings. Your advice videos are my comedy hour!
I was at a church, the worship leader was sending me vibes, we had a couple conversations. I thought I was crazy but I knew what I felt. He was married. I was physically attracted to him. I stopped speaking to him, no eye contact no energy given but I felt eyes! Yikes! Ultimately I left the church 🤷🏾♀️ maybe that was extreme but hey, you gotta keep those boundaries!!
You are so right
You are so good!! I didn't know bout your coaching credentials...but now I am a believer!!
I love seeing Tony’s reaction 🤣🤣🤣🤣 “you need deliverance”. “ You need a prayer warrior ‼️”🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lord have mercy! What a beautiful, frank, and much needed counsel. Brother Gaskins, you are a blessed, and will be an even more blessed man of God for your honest answers. Yes Sir, I will help you say that you are a minister. God needs you, and we in this world need you. You were careful to tell the truth.
You are blessed, your wife is blessed, and the world is blessed just to have you in it. We need to hear this kind of response.
Women are lonely, and need the attention of a man, and are not willing to suffer for a while, and trust God to supply their needs.
It's somewhat sad, but God is able to deliver anyone in this situation. These situations can be solved by fasting and praying.
I thank you..Bro God has you planted for such a time as this that we are living in, and you will continue to be blessed.
That's was alot so many women are desperate for a man it's so sad when they dont have yourself together with so many mental issues and I love how he said by phone not facetime or in person the phoneeee coaching I love that idea best thing ever with these women and spirits
Honestly it sounded like she knew what was up and they were both out of order In my opinion. No desire to have self control.he shouldn't have even been at her house especially alone. Game.
Wowww...she has Baddd spirits..Must be dealing with a whole lot of Insecurities...
But let’s not forget it takes to so it’s easy it was for her it was easier for him, He is a Important person in the church in the ministry of God he committed his self to God and his wife stop acting like these men are so damn weak they’re not weak this is what he’s been doing
Working on business matters together? Lady you mean sexual intercourse? Okay got it.
Ooooo we Tony G. sometimes I just don't know how you conquer and divide half of these emails. But you make it plain. I pray your spirit continues to be lifted and God continues to give you a word for all of the emails. #blessyou #blessyourqueen #blessyourcompany
Great advice. Very raw. Women need to hear this.
The man has so much more to lose that he shouldn't be playing these dangerous games especially. His marriage, children, church and his respect. She can just walk away and leave the church without any repercussion.
She should have avoided this situation but it seems she may have had a plan. Knowingly kissing a married man is wrong and she didn't thing much of it.
I feel uncomfortable with her future marriage being professed because of her current mind/mistake.
Uberrrr lollll. I died
I’ve listened to this podcast a million times!
I had to listen to this again. Thank you for your words, you touch my soul. We as people need to watch what seeds we sow.
😂 Tony you was pointing your finger, at the screen. You was very, very serious.
Both of them need a REAL RELATIONSHIP with GOD! Drinking, lust , no integrity, infidelity ughhhhhhh🤮 This makes me sick! The fact that she wrote in says she needs help because she ACT like she dont know its wrong?!!!! GOD help both of you all! Get help, BOTH OF THEM! 🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️🙇🏽♀️
I agree with you Mr. Gaskins you told her exactly right! I am like that my myself Mr. Gaskins I set boundaries as a married woman because I know if you open the door just a little to the devil he will it push all the way open and wreak havoc! I am stay at home wife and mother and my husband work outside the home and I will not let no man in our house whether I know him or not when husband is not at home!
BAWAHAHAHA!!!! I JUST HOLLERED @ 6:26! "MY SWAG TURNED UP" .......i love his honesty........ BOUNDARIES!! neither one of them had boundaries. some just don't have them
WOW, she PLANNED IT ALL ALONG!!!!
I wish I was already a certified coach. I’m currently training to become one because I would love to work with her. She really needs help and healing. It doesn’t seem like she has support around her and someone to work through her issues with her.
Lady D’s Chat hello is there a way I can contact you ?
Eternity With Christ Wow! My response really upset you. That’s ok. It’s just how I choose to handle things & you can continue to do things how you see fit. Hope you & your family are safe and doing well during this difficult time we are in!
My God ! You called out the exact spirit I was thinking of when you read the letter. Repent and redeem your self.
WOOOOOOOO... this was spot on ... You are so correct .....we women DO NOT love each other ....the fact that she thought her actions were ok. ...no remorse ...no apologies...this cycle is do disheartening...
What kind of business without his wife?
Snap snap snapping fingers yesssss
Great Advice
What these type of woman dont understand is that God is not going to give you another woman husband. It's crazy to me that people dont value marriage and boundaries.