I left therapy yesterday. I didn’t feel like any of the goals that I went to therapy for have been resolved. What happened was I learned that I don’t need my therapist to accomplish those goals. My therapist gave me the tools I needed to navigate through my mind. Now I’m happy even when I’m sad. I accept my emotions good or bad and I even dig for the root cause of that emotion. I’ve accepted that it’s okay to be not okay. I can enjoy my life even though my mental issues haven’t all been resolved. I can enjoy the process of resolving them myself. I have how to sail the boat. The open sea is scary without someone else to guide me through the storms but scary as it may be, I know that I can guide myself. I thought that I needed to fix everything in my life to be happy but I’ve learned that I first need to become happy and the fixing my life will follow.
I love this. Thank you for taking the time to comment. A lot of times the goals we have going in aren't really what we are looking for by the time we end therapy. Mostly, we want all the difficult and scary feelings and thoughts to go away, but the truth is we can't always do that. Therapy, as you beautifully said, can give you the tools to take a new perspective or approach to those experiences and learn to respond differently. I hope your journey through the open sea is everything you want it to be.
Even in therapy your guiding yourself. It's useless, just meditate, and love your self for who you are. If you don't attack yourself you wont need therapy.
@@theacttherapistI don’t understand the whole goals thing. I can’t do goals. It’s literally too complex for me. I just know my life is miserable but that’s it. I can’t do goal setting or even know what I’m supposed to want or what would make life better. Life has never been okay. I don’t have a reference point. Every therapist “fires” me after a while because they don’t know how to help. I don’t know what I actually need which is why I showed up in the first place and they ALL act like I’m supposed to know what to do.
Meeting your goals is also a good way to tell if you should stop therapy, even if you just take a break from therapy and go to a new therapist and set another goal if there’s anymore goals you have in mind
I don't want to go back to therapy. I'm being pushed into doing something I cannot do. I've said no many times, yet still I feel pushed and not listened too.
Same. My therapist has made the comment, out of all her clients I'm making very slow progress. I had that all through school, I don't need it as an adult.
I left therapy yesterday. I didn’t feel like any of the goals that I went to therapy for have been resolved. What happened was I learned that I don’t need my therapist to accomplish those goals. My therapist gave me the tools I needed to navigate through my mind. Now I’m happy even when I’m sad. I accept my emotions good or bad and I even dig for the root cause of that emotion. I’ve accepted that it’s okay to be not okay. I can enjoy my life even though my mental issues haven’t all been resolved. I can enjoy the process of resolving them myself. I have how to sail the boat. The open sea is scary without someone else to guide me through the storms but scary as it may be, I know that I can guide myself. I thought that I needed to fix everything in my life to be happy but I’ve learned that I first need to become happy and the fixing my life will follow.
I love this. Thank you for taking the time to comment. A lot of times the goals we have going in aren't really what we are looking for by the time we end therapy. Mostly, we want all the difficult and scary feelings and thoughts to go away, but the truth is we can't always do that. Therapy, as you beautifully said, can give you the tools to take a new perspective or approach to those experiences and learn to respond differently. I hope your journey through the open sea is everything you want it to be.
Even in therapy your guiding yourself. It's useless, just meditate, and love your self for who you are. If you don't attack yourself you wont need therapy.
@@theacttherapistI don’t understand the whole goals thing. I can’t do goals. It’s literally too complex for me. I just know my life is miserable but that’s it. I can’t do goal setting or even know what I’m supposed to want or what would make life better. Life has never been okay. I don’t have a reference point. Every therapist “fires” me after a while because they don’t know how to help. I don’t know what I actually need which is why I showed up in the first place and they ALL act like I’m supposed to know what to do.
Meeting your goals is also a good way to tell if you should stop therapy, even if you just take a break from therapy and go to a new therapist and set another goal if there’s anymore goals you have in mind
You are so comforting for some reason. I feel encouraged Like I feel like I can have this conversation with my therapist.
Oh this is the kindest compliment. Thank you! I hope you are able to navigate this conversation with your therapist. Wishing you all the best!
Thanks so much for covering this - always felt so worried and awkward about this!
So glad it was helpful! And you're not alone! It's a super awkward topic that for some reason rarely gets discussed and needs to.
Thanks, this was helpful as I plan to finish my therapy.
I have an amazing therapist and I’m sure we will have a great conversation when it’s time
It only made me worse so I am quitting. Hope it makes someone else feel better 😃
Thank you ❤ You gave me ideas of how to discuss this with my therapist.
Awesome! Hope the conversation went well!
Your dog looking at the window ❤ how cute
haha yes! He loves checking out what's going on outside
This really help me take a decision, thank you!!
I don't want to go back to therapy. I'm being pushed into doing something I cannot do. I've said no many times, yet still I feel pushed and not listened too.
awesome video, definitively helped me 🤗
Glad to hear it!
Great video, thank you
Thank you so much, such a helpful video! 😊
Thank you so much for taking the time to leave a comment. Means a lot to me. I'm glad to hear the video was helpful!
I think that I'm wasting my time and money. More than 6 months and I feel the same and I can't see any improvement.
Same. My therapist has made the comment, out of all her clients I'm making very slow progress. I had that all through school, I don't need it as an adult.