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- A study shows that about half of #WorkingMoms want to quit while more than half of #StayAtHomeMoms want to work. Why? Working moms deal with overwhelm, insomnia, anxiety and burnout from the 'double shift'. While stay at home moms deal with loss of identity and isolation from being confined to house work. You choose who has it better. Watch.
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Dear Quint: Really appreciate your idea of putting forward this story. However, can the caption be redone because all moms are 'working moms', whether they are working at home or outside. :)
Remove the karan johar ad. Hate him.
bhai grandparent old ho Jaate Hai... Wo kya cooking Karenge wo kya Khyal Rakhenge...
Once upon a time working women were considered ignorant moms, dominating wives and today home makers are considered inefficient, lazy, regressive. Stereotyping is our nature, we will keep on comparing people and make them feel great or useless. The parameters will keep on changing with time.
Wow ur point is so on point!! 👏
Believe it or not most corporate females do dominate relationship and end up getting divorse or bitter relationship.
Females working in Govt institution still carry culture, family, society and human values with them. Much generalizing though, but its true.
Biologically, if a man doesn't feels like he's appreciated or is an alpha, the relationship is gonna die. Few females are mature enough to provide that ego boost to men, so that they can have healthy relationship and they appreciate their men for being "provider"
Yes..bcoz that's the case... Things happen for a reason.
Yes... there were reseach on how home making mothers are raising good children , now there are research on how working mothers raise better children...
Mothers are just fed what others want and we heed like suckers
Truth dosnt change, if it keeps changing; it isnt truth.
Very true .. I'm feeling too low and that's y I am here ... :(
Why don't we consider stay at home mom as a respectable role/responsibility/identity?
Good luck with that
We cannot and we should not.
Our parents brought us up with equal care and expectations as the menfolk.
There is no reason why we should sit at home and grow old doing nothing.
@@malinibanerjee6405 That's good. But that's exactly my point. Don't they deserve respect if they choose to be stay at home mothers? They are not exactly doing nothing are they? Why isn't all the effort they put into their families not considered and respected? Why are they called jobless when they are working day and night? Why should we put our women under this constant undue societal pressure.... Something men never have to deal with?
@@MrHyderMahmood of course they deserve respect for the work they put into their families.. and I am sure they are very well loved and respected.. in my family there are both working as well as non-working women.. and both are respected.. I am sure it must be same in most Indian families too.. consider your grandmothers.. I am sure most of their generation are non working.. and they are so well respected and loved. It's just a different kind of respect.. just like you can't compare the work they do, similarly you shouldn't compare the respect too. Both working as well as non working women have their own sets of problems and insecurities and their own sets of benefits.. there are pros and cons for each..
Of course if you start listening to sadhguru on this topic, he will completely brainwash you that modern women can't be ideal wives like previous generation. And that is completely bullsh**. There is nothing called ideal wife. And these kind of expectations from women are completely baseless and patriarchal. Just like there is nothing like ideal husband.. all that is needed in a good spousal relationship is understanding and compassion and if that is there, be it working women or non working women, it doesn't make any grain of difference.
Taking care of kids is not a problem but taking care of some else son is the biggest problem. Most of the ladies brought up their sons as lazy potato, god if these men understand and agree to help the wives at least 15 %all the issues will be gone we can be more productive and happy in our life. I'm in canada work from 8.30 to 4.45. My day starts from 4.45 to 1..am day where My husbend works at hospital which is 5 minutes walk .do nothing after coming home but complaining about almost everything. I really think is he blind?deaf,or heart less but this is not only in my home almost 90 % asian houses ladies and children facing .most men think their wives are slaves .but still I'm happy that I'm working at least I can by own food if u are not well.
When do u wake up ? And when do u go to sleep ?
Totally agree 100%
I understand what you are saying. I was adamant about equal responsibilities with my husband. I was lucky that I grew up in a family where men and women were treated as equal and so did my husband. I teach my kids the same. I hope
Women like you is helping perpetuating this “Asian trend” in Canada also
Use head it’s simply your wrong decisions get over victim hood to feel feminine power stop whining
(Should have thought before marriage)
Society is shit head will remain such forever, it exploits the weak (not gender specific).
I feel the same
Working mom or house wife both are equally good, it depends upon people we are living with
I feel having grandparents around to take care of the kids when you are at work is great blessing.
For that too grand parents must be broad minding otherwise its of no use wen they take care of ur child but brag outside bachhe ka to hum sara karte hai isko to iski job ki padi rehti hai...
Yes ! That's amazing. For me personally I had a cute childhood with grandparents after coming from school at 2 pm. Then I used to take a nap till 4 pm and my mom dad would come back home.
It's was so smooth for me with my working parents
Alot of grandparents are working
Nowadays grandparents want to live their life to the max as well 😁
This actually kind of touched my heart because it's very relatable for me in a way. Growing up, I've always had my grandma to take care of me while my mom and dad were away at work. We were busy working hard to provide for me while my grandma provided supervision and cleaned the entire house for me while my mom was gone. I am so thankful that she has been living with us since I was born to help with me because something could have happened to me if there wasn't someone to watch me when I was young. She was like superwoman doing everything when my mom was out working. My mom did an awesome job taking care of me whenever she had to as well so I give her full credit on that, but my grandma was just a blessing for my parents and now I'm more grateful than ever for having her with me all those years. I used to think I wanted to be and stay at home mom not too long ago as I change my plans for the future frequently so I should try not posting too many comments about it until I'm super sure, but now I'm just hoping that my mom and dad will still be around to hopefully help out with my kids if they can. Because it would be such a miracle and lifesaver for me. I don't trust anyone with my kids except family, and only friends that I'm close enough to consider as family. This can't just be any friend. It's hard to understand the type of people that you would only trust to take care of your child for a certain amount of time. I would worry far too much to have a stranger take care of my kids, someone that I really haven't known for too long. But yes this comment is beyond true.
In my generation and country being a stay at home mom isn't as respected as being a working mom. Especially there is a stigma attached to being an university graduate and not working. However being as such I recpect myself and value what I do for my child because it brings me more satisfaction than having a career or earning money. Actually, I feel it is a luxury to be able to do it financially. I feel blessed to be able to do bring up my child myself, and have all the respect for the moms who choose to work willingly or unwillingly.
Exactly.
Are you from India or Pakistan by any chance?
Raising children, doing household works are the responsibility of both husband and wife.
Agree , then the salary disparity that happens in arrange marriages should be removed ...as husband's are forced to become the primary breadwinner due to this...when both earn equally , they can equally share the house responsibilities...
That's why hum North East ke ladkiya jyada khush rehte hain. Na humare yaha dowry hain aur na hi kanya bhrun hatya. Problem aap ki nehi hain, problem upbringing main hi hain jo aishi soch peda karti hain. My father is a retired govt servant, jab job karte the tab bhi ghar aake mummy ko kitchen me help karte the, hume sambhalte the. Abhi bhi subah ka chai deuta(father) banate hain. Unlogo ki arranged marriage thi. Kabhi unhone toh nehi kaha yeh sab jo aapne kaha Mr. That's the difference. Grow up man. India me arranged marriage ke naam par ladki walo ko luta jata hain, phir ghar ki naukrani banaya jata hain, bachche ki responsibility bhi ladki par dala jata hai, woh agar job bhi kare to bhi ghar aake use hi dinner banana hota hain. Change ur mind man. Tum 8 hours job karo aur housewife 12 hours. That's not fair. Aap paisa kamate ho to kya subah ki chai nehi bana sakte? Raat ko uthkar bachche ki diaper nehi badal sakte? 9 month pet pe rakh ke paida karti hain. Humari life ki sabse productive time toh usi me aur bade karne me nikal jati hain. Aur naam baap ka milta hain. 😂
@@dhanashreekalita2530 it is not about the time duration of working...a women can decide not to work after pregnancy if she wants to , because she knows the guy is the primary bread winner in the family and thats the reason he is forced to earn more ..so in these situations , he has to work extra and appease his superiors to sustain his job and pay off emi's and debts ..so even if a gal decide to not work or is earning very less ...it does not matter to him , because according to the guy he is earning for the entire family...I wish all guys had 8 to 5 jobs as u claim , but in most corporates they are overworked and they subject themselves to this treatment just to earn such a high salary and not lose the job . If women truly believed in equality ...they should marry someone with same pay scale and they should also be ready to become primary bread winner if needed when the guy loses the job...that way guys won't have this additional pressure to earn and sustain the family at no cost ..equality starts only when everything is equal not through selectively choosing certain conditions that favor one gender over the other ...
@@prabinprabhakar4687 That's why I give example of my deuta(father). Yeah mutual understanding ki baat hain. Mujhe toh lagta hain saadi hi kyun kare aap? Khud kamao aur khud khao. Waise bhi Indian mardo ki soch nehi badalnewali. Mardo ko primary bread earner bhi patriarchy system ne hi banaya hain. India me itni berozgari barh chuki hain ki bata nehi sakte. Phir ladki hone ka alag sa problem. Mujhe engineering ke baad Delhi jana tha 2014 me but parents ne isiliye nehi jane diya ki me ek ladki hun. Problem ka root cause samjhiye. Lekin baat wohi hain, ghar ka kaam, bachche ko insaan banane ka kaam dono ka hain. Me khud job karti hun, ghar sambhalti hun, ma deuta ki care leti hun kyun ki dono beemar rehte hain. Saadi nehi ki hain but woh sab karti hun jo saadi ke baad aksar ladkiyo ko karna padta hain.
@@dhanashreekalita2530 firstly I don't understand hindi very well, if u can reply in english it would be helpful.see I am not married ...I cook for myself and I go to job ...if I do get married and my wife is earning as much as I am , then I will definitely take equal responsibility in the household chores but if she earning very less and I am forced to become the primary bread winner then I have to work extra hours to keep my job intact so that I can feed my family..do you understand ? Most guys who are living away knows to cook..it's not a big deal...but when u are overworked due to the high salary ,then u can't expect him to equally take part in the household chores...I am talking from the struggles guys face as primary bread winner ...if earning large amount of money is that easy then when you get married , marry someone with less pay and ask him to do all the household chores...if I earn less than my wife I will happily support her , as I don't have the pressure on me ...I am not saying I won't take care of the household or children , the question as u earn more there is a lot of expectations on you perform or u will get fired that's how corporate works..your dad might have 8 to 5 job since he is a govt servant but no private companies allows ppl to leave at 5
It's better to be a single mom than have a husband who never helps.
Atleast then only one family will be tormenting you for being a bad mother.
Correct I saw alot women n men also handle whole house single handedly and partner don't even support at all not even financially
Thts a future approach if men and women don't start to change and share the load equally. Women are wrong too.. they cannt see their son making tea while forcing their daughter to learn to cook
Hhahaha well said lolz
Soo truueeee..
@megadreamer200013 there are many ways to have a child marriage is not the ultimate. You can adopt or go a sperm bank. Also not every women is interested in being a mother.
Coming men helping out if you are one great. But according to OECD indian men spend a mere of 19 minutes in housework whereas women spend 300 minutes that's 5 hours.
And many women who get married and take a divorce dont know wheather their partner will help them out or not before marriage. So stop throwing stupid shit like sex and all.
I too had a very well paying job but after my child was born I didn't want to work so I simply quit,my husband and my parents always supported my decisions. Now I'm happy free from all work related stress and I don't feel I have lost my identity. I'm a proud mother wife sister daughter and most importantly I'm Me.. I think it all depends upon your mindset and of course your situation. So we can't really judge. At the end of the day do wateva makes you happy and content
wow this is the most positive comment i have seen about this topic...well said,we need more positive mothers like you👍...
especially that i am Me part👍
Correct...it all depend on ur mindset... raising a kid is equally important . Why women think they will loose their identity if they don't work . I believe in using my education and knowledge for the better growth of my child and my home and family .
Very well said
Aapka identity card to nahi khoya 😁
@@afsarali-pn6ud are bhai 🤣🤣🤣
If we start seeing home making and taking care of family members as a lovely responsibility rather than a "women's job", both can do this, both should do this, things will be more easier
Agreed 💯
It will also be a lot easier if women start to earn as much as men ...instead of making the man in the household as the primary bread winner as it is "man's job" to earn for the entire family ...so we need to start seeing earning for the family as a equal responsibility instead of seeing it as a man's job
@@prabinprabhakar4687 that's the point na, men or women whoever and whenever has time to earn more and look after the family should do, both the jobs require hardwork. No work should be assigned on the basis of gender.
@@komal1018 👍 correct
@@prabinprabhakar4687 it is one u who is seeing it as a men's job
No mom "stays at home" only.. They work as hard as "working mum". Only difference is that they are unpaid. We really need better articulation for them.
Agree👍
Yesterday , my neighbour who stays above us, told that I am a stupid woman who does nothing as compared to his doctor wife because I complained about the thomping sound coming from their apt even at 11.15pm ..whole day their kids jump n play , but we feel it's normal ,but at least at night we can expect silence..but then they faught saying I am a stupid house wife..
Absolutely right
Why everything stops at money. ... Believe it stays home mom gets more respect and love from there children than working moms. Even at old age. Remember that.
@@009ring Not always true . i have heard several adult men complain about paying mothers expenses in old age and hoping she will die soon .
I believe every mom give their best to the kids. working or stay at home( housewives). One sacrifice her personal choices to raise the kids by staying at home and the other sacrifice all the small moments of happiness of their growing babies or more but both work hard to give better future to their kids
Hey Pretty how are you doing? I pray this message gets to you in a perfect state..
The financial security is a very big question ? Our parents also spend same amount of money for our upbringing, education and marriage, or rather more. The question lies what do we as a daughter repay them in their old days? It's not the responsibility of son only , daughter also.
I am 100% sure your parents do not want your earned money. So take good care of your kids and don't let them feel lonely. Otherwise your whole money will be spend on your mental problems of kids.
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
So sorry to invade into your privacy, i just read your comment and said i should say Hi
I am fine.
@@rumichandra6056 That’s good to hear and i’ll like us to be friends 💙💛❤️ i hope you don’t mind?
In the end she summed it up so beautifully and working or not working mom, everyone has to go through this challenge. My mom was a doctor and yes there were days when we missed her presence more at home but it was never always. Everyday when I was a kid she used to come back from her clinic and used to teach me. Luckily we had help from our relatives and housemaid but still she did most of the work. Her working background had taught her to be more humble and down to earth instead of just enjoying my dad's hard earned money. She had exposure to the real world and as she was a Dr. she understood peoples problems too and hence was able to teach us good moral values. In our culture women are always encouraged to do what ever they want be it higher education or job. There is no discrimination. She has sacrificed a lot for us but our family understood her dreams as well and we supported her.
I need to frame this comment somewhere.. a female respecting both culture and femininity. Thanks to your mom for raising a gem like you. Keep working with optimistic mindset🙂
Superb
I feel sorry for your mother..sorry to say but a man who puts his wife on 24*7 of a house and office work is not MANLY
Girls should always give career and family equal priority. Be practical, maybe today your husband has a well-paid job/business, but life is unpredictable, who knows relationships may turn sour one day and you are a victim of abuse or infidelity, or even if your husband is good but suddenly he passed away due to accident/stroke/heart-attack or anything, then where will you go, anywhere you go you will become a burden !!! Also lets take other examples like your husband has lost his job or suffering losses in business, then some other person has to earn the money otherwise the family will go into poverty, and poverty is one of the main reasons for domestic violence. Money is not everything, but without money you are nothing, so think practically !!!
Golden words for a girl👍
Both men and women, should not prioritize one over another.
@@rahulgupta-vb9wl Judging is fun😂 , isn't it?... I'm aware that it's not Tinder, Anyways I realised that few people have very broad mind set😉
@@rahulgupta-vb9wl of course mate I didn't take it personally.. 🤝🥂
@Aishika Pai
I loved every word u have written so true and v well said n complied content. Hats off to u dear. Even I have the same thinking like yours. Right now I was battling thoughts in my head wheather to quit working or be stay at home mom. But reading ur post really boosted my confidence and morale.
Like u said it always better to work we never know how life wil turn out to be. It's unpredictable especially after corona lockdown it was a lesson for all of us regarding finances and savings.
Anyways I liked wat u said. Cheers
My mom is both a working lady and also handles house ...my father doesnot live with us ..so she also manages that
I am a happy stay at home mom but even feel like having a me time which i hardly get... a huge menu keeps waiting in the kitchen for me ... tht is something tiring
i am a mom of 5 months old baby girl. this video got my eyes teary. I am working full time and there is no working day that goes by when i don’t think of quitting. i also know how important it is for me to work and that i will not quit most likely. i feel i am so confused most of the time. it’s weirdly comforting to know i am not alone.
You can take a break but please never stop working 😃❤.
I wish your kids can grow up and say - "I wanna be like mum. She is an all rounder, in home and outside home".
But still. At the end it's your choice. All the best. You are very strong
@@June_815 That's very sweet of you to reply. She is now 7 months old. Life is getting more and more manageable each day.
@@sonaldubey5604 that's amazing !
Girls generally feel very proud of their mother when they grow up .
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
So sorry to invade into your privacy, i just read your comment and said i should say Hi
Being Non-working and giving your 100% only to your home and kids needs lot of sacrifices and compromises which lead to a happy healthy family. At least our generation can visualize our ancestors (Grand mothers/mothers) and the bond of old families, next generation will be left only with movies to see. I believe these days people are very self centric and hence relationships are not that honest and healthy. Not criticizing working women but I value Non-working ladies more. 🙏 Also these days there is a new trend of house wives turning millionaire as once they see family things are quite settled they direct their hubby saving to right place and work on unconventional startups. I really liked the role of karishma in Biwi no.1👌.
Karishma's character in Biwi no. 2 is completely stupid, she didn't deserve a person like Salman. And Salman Khan ki character ki to baat hi maat Karo 😂😂😂. Also, you may value the work of an housewife which is good 👍 but not everyone does that. That's why my parents always want me to become financially independent no matter what and have taught me to never ever depend on others even on husband for my life choices and expenses. Also , I have seen numerous examples in society where because of lack of financial security, a woman could not decide for herself and leads a bad life with husband. They can't even divorce the person even though the alcoholic husband hits her in front of a lot of people. I have seen such things with my own eyes in my neighborhood. And all the woman are housewives, no one earns and some are uneducated as well. Because of sooo much problems , financial security should the 1st priority of every person. U can earn in many ways , one can also do work from home. Or can earn by her skills. But everyone must earn something.
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India is blessed to have 6 months maternity leave. It was really hard to see my love going back to work just after 45 days after delivery of child that too a c section.
Where are you from?
You seem like an Indian.
@@IronMan-ti1hf maybe he is NRI
I’m an Indian, but working in the Middle East
First we need to break this stereotype. When man is working, on his return back, he gets to relax, watch tv, catch up with his friends or play tennis etc. Elders behave differently too to the working man When women return, we head straight to kitchen, kids homework, prepare n plan for next day.... in most of the cases... N still face the brunt of elders n husband n kids at time. It cud b over simple thing like extra salt in food, or mom my pending assignment, or inlaws say like... its not enough to give birth to a child n call urselves a mother. N may b lots more or different to different person.
You can't make a final conclusion regarding who does it better.
Working moms has to deal with many things apart from just family affairs.. While the home moms handles the family and miscellanoeus things well.
Both are awesome.
Although both put a great deal of work..but in the long run working moms are able to keep them in better shape both physically financially and mentally.
@@thanospower3414 true.. Even I can feel this with my mom. 🙂
@Lakshmi agreed.. You come across different people and vasts your social circle even.. 🙂
But still, girls can decide. Man can't.
TheCommonsense
Yes they can. Stay at home dads are a things.
Lucky are those moms who can afford to quit.
There are many moms who need to work for their children.
I guess moms who don't face any economic crisis is life, feel all sorts of dilemma.
We had balanced work and home very well.
I can understand ....I pray to God ....He will help u ....
90 PERCENT work for their carrier.
These prblm increase in nuclear families.. It's not like only their son nd his wife need freedom bt now a days many grandparents also dnt want to live with their children or grandchildren.. Always bhu ki galti ho zaruri nhi aaj kl in laws bhi koi responsibility nhi lena chate.. Thy want their bhu shuld be working bt can't tolrate it's cons.. Now a days parent are also want freedom.. Time is change now we can't blame always gals for nuclear family. Now a days it's parents choice.. I hd seen many example in my offc where in laws even living in same house bt refuse to tk responsibility of their grand daughter or grandson..
After reading all the comments I can say that am blessed with a great family. My husband, mother in law and my brother in law all work together at home even my father in law also helps in few things
Dear Quint: Really appreciate your idea of putting forward this story. However, can the caption be redone because all moms are 'working moms', whether they are working at home or outside. :)
Its big differ between working mom for money and another mom for nurturing kids and family..
what if (hear me out) WHAT IF - both the parents took equal responsibility for child rearing and household work when both the parents were working outside. just an idea, but
..but that does not even happen in movies, let alone in real life.
@@pratimabhatt5079 true 😂
Even if both parents take responsibility
The in-laws complain for you being an irresponsible mother.
@@itsmepriyanka143 whether u r housewife or working mother, in laws WILL always complain that they didn't get a good bahu
@Ashutosh Singh So you agree that men cannot have a job and lend a hand with the household responsibility?
Also, by "jobless", I hope you mean a man who will look after the house and kids while the wife goes to work.
I think in India most mens' involvement on child development is almost zero. This actually stresses both women and as well as lot of work stress on men as they have to bear full responsibility on family finances. So it is something to do with our culture and we should come out of the traditional mindset that only women are responsible for children nurture! In fact, we both men and men should equally involve without any egos both in work and also on children's nurture.
Ooho.. am ol exceptional .. can’t go for work .. no work at home .. no children.. aah.. full of stress 😬😂
LOSS OF IDENTITY... waah that lawyer feels EXACTLY the way I feel. Her every word I m living it right now...
Seeing the first lady made me realise that we are not doing NOTHING we are raising our kids to be better humans tomorrow... We can't have everything ofcourse but it's better to be home when our children are small
I m.also im the same state..i m a doctor but cant work right now and always in that anxiety of loosing my identity
@@hungryhub2831 Hey! It's alright being a stay at home mom doesn't mean you are going to loose your identity.. Keep some patience and enjoy every moment wid your baby.. Once your baby grows up u can restart your career.. And I know it's not easy.. But you can do it 🤗
@@sudhasharma2106 yah..!!thats true
Yes
Well I am also going through the same guilt feeling every day....I was a physics lecturer before marriage...but after marriage and having two babies I become a full-time mother.....and I really feel I am loosing my identity as a teacher 😢😢😢
I used to work and now I'm stay home mom. And now I feel like 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫... I'm worthless and don't have identity and at the same time I feel guilty for having this feelings cause I love my kids and it sounds like I'm blaming them. And I'm not. 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫 what should I do. I'm totally drowning with guilt, emotions, identity crisis, societies views waah waah 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫 and the worst is, no body knows this is what I've been going through cause I've been pretending to be ok and happy for the sake of my family. But I'm slowly dying inside and I'm changing, I don't recognize myself, I've lost myself. I don't know how to find me 😫😫😫😫😫😫😫. God help please.
@Ashutosh Singh hoti hai. Kyunki ghar me mard log ek ma ko disrespect karte hai. Ye india ki har ghar ki kahani hai,jo obviously tujhko samajh nahi ayegi.
Are you perphaps experiencing postpartum depression? Seek therapy
@@poulomimondal3321 is trah her wo baap chouta hai jo majdoori aur aur idhar udhar .mehnat karta hai
Hey see. Don't be hopeless. You are a person and that's all that matters. You can see a councillor. Or you can also go back to work wherever you like.
Just listen to your heart and everything will be fine. Ylany decision you take, it's fine
I am a stay at home and I can relate to everything... But at the end after being a mom. Everything is challenging.. You feel proud only when they grow up to be better person to themselves as well as to the society..
What if they don't become better person?
@Amandeep Wahi yeah
@Amandeep Wahi lmao
@Amandeep Wahi hey motherhood is difficult in general. Not just being a stay at home mom
@@poulomimondal3321 Atleast they will not become a feminazi like you.
The best thing is adopt one kid and live life single
@end times lol
At the end, being a mom is challenging
And being a dad ? Well its trash right? U don't see anyone appreciating men
Hats off to the makers of this video! You nailed it ..you explained what mothers working or not go through! You just won our hearts.. thank you for making this video! Lots of love 💖😍😍. May God bless your channel.
I can relate being a working mom. Sometime I feel, I should quit when I hear my child crying. Spcl, in this pandemic situation when you have to work from home. When you know , see and feel when your child is distress. When swapping my job , I took 6 month of break, I feel sense of loss of identity and was mentally distress.
Hey, please don't worry. I am raised by a working mom who earns more than my dad. She is the strongest woman I've ever seen. She was emotionally present for me and she used to shower me with materialistic gifts as well. One day when your kid grows up, he/ she will be very proud of you being a working mom trust me. Don't feel like the kid is entirely your responsibility. You partner has responsibility too. I've seen my dad not working half as hard as my mom works everyday for us and her job. Trust me, women have superpowers. There were times when I wanted my mom to quit her job but that was during my childhood cuz everybody's moms would come to pick them up from school but my mom wouldn't. After growing up, I understood how important it is for the mother to be financially strong. Trust me, your kid will have the best mother ever.
@@LPanastasiaI really love your comments and that is exactly how I feel about it. You can have a stay-at-home mom and a person who cannot take care of your emotional health. Materialistic and emotional attachment is something really important. Your kids will not be kids forever. They will need your job and the income you get for their further studies in the future and you’re already setting an example for her. Also, it’s important to always not attach yourself too much. Glad to see someone commenting about this who has a working mom. I aspire to be this. And I hope one day when I have a child they will get to say this the same.
IF YOU CARE ABOUT THE FUTURE OF YOUR FAMILY, COMMUNITY AND COUNTRY.. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN. THERE IS NO DOUBT THAT A BABY / TODDLER NEEDS 24/7 CARE. AND AS A CHILD GROWS, PARENTS OR CAREGIVERS.. PLAY AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN FORMING THE CHILD'S CHARACTER AND IN INFLUENCING THE THINKING PATTERNS & BEHAVIOUR OF THE YOUNGSTER. YOU MUST DECIDE WHETHER YOU WANT YOUR CHILD TO GROW UP WITH YOUR OWN VALUES OR ACCORDING TO WHOEVER IS WITH YOUR CHILD 24/7.
With balance everything can be handled- motherhood is a choice and blessing
Everyone knows parenthood is challenging. The only solution is to be mentally prepared for these challenges and discuss with your partner about your choices and plans before you decide to have a kid.
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@@Tanya-du2cw How are you doing and where are you from?
@@benjamincarlson4707 I am from India.. what about you?
Working women has double work they re paid
house wives struggle at home
Their work is not paid
But both are responsible
They are paid but they r giving all her paid money to husband only.. For home contribution
Where tf are the fathers of the children? Busy partying?
@亜人 I think that's what +Vinquisitive asked: If mothers work and look after the household, what role are the fathers playing?
@亜人 We're talking about working parents here, not just working fathers. If the mothers are also working and still coming home and taking care of the chores AND kids, then why aren't the fathers pitching in?
@@pratimabhatt5079 Better solutions to this problem is not getting married in the first place. Responsibility lies on both person not that only woman has to take care of the freaking child. Also having child is a waste of money which could amount to 3-4 cr for a person having it in 2020 and taking care for that child for next 16-18 year. So my advice of not getting married in first place is best.
Why can't people stay single? Can anybody explain this to me?
I have decided to stay single forever and my parents also appreciate my decision.
Anyway, no one is forced to get married and have kids. But, complaining for your own "choices" is idiotic.
@@Power-rk9oj I agree with you about the mother not being solely responsible when it comes to looking after the household and kids.
Stay at home moms Have Less stress. Simple.
Working moms still do more housework and child care And they answer to a separate job.
If you listen to everyone what they have to say about you then no matter what you do it’s not good or not enough. I worked for 10 years and then stay home 8.5 years have three kids . So I believe staying with kids is what I wanted to do for my kids enjoyed every bit of it now I am working from home. No comparison to any women stay home or working. Do what works best for you. Cheers to all women!😊
When both partners work for everything in their relationships equally, nothing becomes challanging,
Finally someone put it out there. Great work, team Quint
EVERYONE has stress... No exceptions... It doesn't matter if you are single, partnered, married, working, stay-at-home, woman, man, rich, poor, middle class or anything else. The type and level of stress may be different, however everyone has stress. The key is how you deal with it.
Hi dear am from mauritius.... I was a teacher I quit my job when I got my second child knowing how difficult it is to get a job n perhaps I may never work as a teacher again but I accept this biggest challenge in my life n hope my children will b proud of my decision when they grow up
My mom quit her job to teach me because I had shifted from one school board/curriculum to another. Later she started taking home tuitions. When I grew up and realized that she quit her job for me, I told her that I'm very grateful for her sacrifice and she felt proud of it
Why can't people stay single? Can anybody explain this to me?
I have decided to stay single forever and my parents also appreciate my decision.
Anyway, no one is forced to get married and have kids. But, complaining for your own "choices" is idiotic.
Same
I want to travel around the world
@@aloowalia2849 lol
@@trigcat3107 what?
So well put video ...I recently quit job as it was crazy work n work hours .. now it’s a question mark ... time for people and world to be kind with mothers
Its challenging, frustrating and stressing coz men in our society dont like to shoulder equal responsibilities with women.
Pls make a video on why only women should leave their parents and lifestyle..why dont we see a surge in husbands leaving their home and living with their in laws? Only then these creatures will understand how women get pulled between 2 households!
Men hatred is so common among Indian females, they hardly acknowledge how much they sweat for kids and family.. You'd never see girls appreciating thier bros or dads.. NEVER
Yup, I think that's a good idea, marry someone who's poorer than you or willing to move to your place, we'd love to see such marriages happening where husband moves to wife's house and wife is breadwinner and husband does daily chores . You should be an example
That's why I never feel like having kids... I don't know if it's normal but I've never dreamed of having kids...and never wished it too...
That's a good decision.
Motherhood is 24/7 duty . There is no comparison . Every mother is special & does best for her babies 🥰
This is the BS, you feed to women in a patriarchal society. Parenting is for both father and mother. Whenever you say it's a mother's duty, you ignore the father's role into this.
Stop spreading bullshit for god's sake. I've had the best mother ever who earns more than people's fathers in India. She has been emotionally present for me all the time. My dad doesn't earn as much as her and doesn't even spend his time with us. Both me and my brother favour my mom more. Men are gonna ignore their responsibilities but can't take it when the kids love the mom more. Hypocrites! Stop pushing women into being perfect superheroes. They're humans too. Start giving household work to the husband too.
Actually , when a mother is parenting the baby which is to some extent is fine , but when she has to parent a 40 years old child( husband) that is really really exhausting.
lol😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
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Me too from being very committed and a successful career woman with a lot of dreams to a fully dedicated MOTHER!!
As a working mom, i do all what a stay at home does but only after work. So i have not a single minute for me. But it’s my choice to have it all and I assume it. I have the same engineering degree than my husband but with the time, i has the bigger career. Honnestly my husband do only 30% of the house work...i wish he can do half of it.
Why don't you enjoy maids for all the household chores?
Why dont you tell your husband to help you?
I am a housewife and was once a software engineer... Felt connected to this video
Woo-ooh....
Super mom❤
I wish you get back to ur work again
@@behera.samikshya_ what if she is not willing to return?
@@starbusttweety 😀Umm it's upto her.... If she wants to, she definitely should... If she doesn't want to then too fine
You guys missed showing the challenges of “work-from-home” moms like me.
No offense but I genuinely want to know what r your challenges in work from home?
Wfh is even worst than office work.. There is more pressure from office and kids get really frustrated when ur at home and not with them... Its actually more distress for kids also. My kid used to cry outside the door, when i was in meetings...We feel very guilty and also could not focus on the meeting also...
I think that could be worse. Because you work from home, you're expected to do most of the chores and looking after the kids 24/7 while still working :/
My friend jus resigned as she was unable to manage.. Her issue was the same, meetings at odd hours like 10 at night and then at 830 in morning. Cooking cleaning, 2 kids school work.. She got so sick and back pain she had to resign... Thats the prob with wfh.. She used to say at least in office we get 10 min coffee break. 😔
I worked at company as a quantity surveyor... a lot of project... just one quantity surveyor... i couldn't spent enough time with my baby.. i fed up of work... then i quit and spent a lot of time with my girl... now i am starting to miss the old me... i want to go back....
Thank you for the video! Do you have a measuring tool/questionnaire on work satisfaction for homemakers or stay-at-home moms? I'm a novice looking in different places for my research haha.
So happy being childfree 🌞
Me too
Yeah go have one night stands and friends with benefits... that's your job
Yay, many women who made the same decision as yours started raising cats xD
@@johnnybrave7443 nailed it bro...😂😂
I hope you feel the same after a few years. Otherwise you'll regret it
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I am the only child in my family. My mom is the Principal of a Government College. She qualified for the UGC NET exam at the age of 30 after getting married. When she started working for the government, she used her salary to hire a cook, as my dad initially did not agree to it. The cook prepared breakfast, lunch, and dinner on weekdays. When I was 5 years old in 2001, my dad started contributing to the cook's salary. My mom mostly cooked only on weekends. Additionally, my parents also employed a maid for cleaning purposes, and both of them shared the cost of her salary. My mom's experience taught me that if a woman is working and her husband is not cooperating, she should start using her own money for some time. Eventually, her husband will understand and cooperate.
Both the mother and father should work, have a job and take care of the kids. It is not just one person's responsibility to take care of the kids.
bhai grandparent old ho Jaate Hai... Wo kya cooking Karenge wo kya Khyal Rakhenge...
Then why to give birth n make the kid feel alone if no mother or father is there
@@kkkk2569 abbey gadhe when both of them work can't they arrange for servants? I'm myself raised in a household where both of my parents work and my mom earns more but yet she is the best mom ever. I was raised by caretakers when my mom and dad weren't there. Stop putting every responsibility of the child on the mom. Why can't the father cook huh? Both of them should work, both of them should cook. Hypocrisy has a limit.
@@LPanastasiaYour language says it all and also agar bache sambhale nahi jate to paida kyu kiya ? Bachon ka bharan poshan mata pita se acha koi aur nahi karega, common sense ki baat hai khali khana bana dena palna nahi hota. You have to put effort in nurturing as those are not just your children but a whole new generation for this country .
@@LPanastasia not everyone wants caretaker and afford caretakers, some parents are hesitant about that.
My Mumma Is Working Women , but it's her quality to manage everything 😁
She is a Government Teacher
10:30 - 4 : 3p pm
The best part of this debate is nobody talks about men sharing responsibilities to bring up children and help in household chores... Why are only women always lectured about what is good and are supposed to have the largest heart and make all sacrifices alone... As far as kids are concerned they are as much a responsibility of the father as the mother and w.r.t household chores its the man's house as well so why run away from taking care of it
Yes, judiciary should start giving custody to men henceforth!
Lol, it shows how stupid you are, many men will change job before getting baby to earn more ,they also sacrifices many things to provide better life To their wives and kids, so don't blame men just because he doesn't share household work, many women will leave their job after child birth and they will get back after 5 years. Can you please tell me are you earning equal to your husband
@@chandran5270 sick mentality dude. If your wife earns more than you, will your male ego be able to take it? 😂
@@Tanya-du2cw yes, I will and there are many men married to girl who is earning more than him, that's doesn't matter until unless he loves her, go and check statistics men has less preferences compare to women.
Don't tell you are earning less just to make your hubby happy: D
@@chandran5270 I m not married yet.. but my boyfriend doesn't mind me earning more.. 😁 but your comment which automatically assumes that a woman always earns less is stupid.
This is exactly why I don't wanna have kids ever. Society makes it completely the woman's responsibility to raise the child and blame her when something happens to the child. Both of my parents work. My mom earns way more than my dad and is super efficient in anything she does. She's the best cook, the best teacher, the best in anything she does. The way she has compromised and sacrificed for me and my brother is incredible. My father doesn't have half as much as responsibilities as her and yet has the audacity to blame her when anything goes wrong. I've grown up loving my mom more than anyone and hating my dad and brother. They're simply harmful which made me feel more disgust towards men. My brother has choked me several times during my childhood whenever he got angry at my parents and my dad manipulates a lot apart from spreading negativity. It's hard living with men but I'm waiting to get a job and move out with my mom. Ik I can never be as good a human as her. She's seriously some superwoman. I will dedicate my life to my mom and plan on staying single and childless. Love to all the working moms. Your children will ask you to quit their job in their childhood but growing up, they'll understand and thank your financial income. Trust me.
Don't marry pls and ruin a man's life.
Its difficult to manage home and kids. Cooking all the 3 meals, doing household chores, carry pregancy, taking care of kids, serving husbsnd in laws on couch even if they are healthy, being the first one to wakeup and being the last one to sleep is challenging and it becomes far more challenging for women on hectic corporste jobs. Clearly being a working mother is more stressful thsn being a working dad or a housewife. Working women dont get any free pass from cooking, household chores and childcare. Thanks to men and their parents. They want their wives/daughter in laws to earn and support them financially but show no interest in helping her in the kitchen, household chores and childcare. They dont even "allow" helpers for cooking because they dint want an outsiser to cook for them nor they want to help. About household chores there are many household tasks that are to be performed at home which helpers, men and their parents dont do. And childcare is a full time job and still mothers are primary care givers. When it comes to responsibilities Men and their parents behave as if home and kids dont belong to them. And then these RAJA BETAS and their parents troll feminism and label women as papa ki parees after enjoying patriarchy.
Honestly as a new mom , I want to be a full time mom ... but most ppl can’t quit there job and sit at home... I would love to quit now .. and get back to work when my child is 10 or 12 .. but I need money for a better future for my child . I don’t know why women would not prefer to spend time with their babies when they need us the most . We are replaceable at work but we aren’t as moms .. and they won’t be this young and dependent for long .. they will grown older before u know it .. honestly coz of this corona virus I am wfh .. and I thank god I can see my child grow everyday and reach her tiny important mile stones.
Respect zyaada working woman ko hi milti hai.
This is the reason why i dont like to be a mom after years of marriage. I so love my career.
Mother is mother ... Whether she is working or not
Ajakl to working moms + stay at home moms.. dono hi ek hai .. :(
The society should understand this....working moms need empathy ...dey r nt superhumans
No privileges plz for your "choices". No one is forcing you to get married and have kids.
I umderstand it when it comes to choices and hence, I will stay single forever.
@@anewlife5846 it is not about privileges or challenges....it is about a mindset....
We need to treat men n women on equal terms.....
If a women chooses to work n hav children ...that doesn't mean she should be penalized fr that....in terms of opinions
@@richasharma8945 But that also should not make you miserable then. I am not referring to anybody's opinion but the way Amrita is frustrated with her life in this video. Why was she feeling bad when Ambika shared that she just interviewed Virat?
If you cannot be happy with your "own" child, plz don't have it.
And where does the equality concept disappear when fathers don't get to spend even a few hours with their "own" children?
Empathy sympathy they need everything I guess🤯🤯🤯
@@magicallife9299 not sympathy .....
I feel bad for the working mom. They obviously have a harder time. Working double as hard in and out nd still feeling guilty all the time. Where a mom at home atleast only feels guilty inside the house. They have it practically less hard. And less stressed I guess.
Yes, i am mom of 1 child and I feel what I am doing with my wife i have more potential but now I can't leave my baby and go to job so feel stress ,depression
Same here
Society also plays a major role here...
Fathers also should be given a compulsory paternity leave... That will help mothers from taking a long gap or quitting job...
A couple who shares household responsibilities will definitely share parental duties...
Not only mothers should feel sorry but also fathers should feel sorry for coming late home, skipping promises... Children can also call dad in between his work to check with household stuffs...
Don't put motherhood to the peak it comes with lot of expectations.. Father's love is not less than mother's love so fatherhood should also be eqally engaging...
Be it work front or family front, it's always expected more out of women.
A question to all ladies why do we go out for work? Be true to yourselves. Answer yourselves not the world.
Being a working woman in past I feel low number of times, and relate very much to the fact quoted in video such women isolate themselves. I see women around me who are well educated and still a homemaker through their lives and see them well managed, well dressed, well mannered and confident but never found them feeling low for never been a WORKING WOMAN.
I believe this is a kind of injustice to ourselves both physically and mentally. Being able to deliver a new life must be source of happiness not sorrow. Why expect men to take care of our child, God didn't give him potential and uterus to hold and deliver a baby. Why belittle ourselves, we are the source of life for this universe.
For women like me, who all are taking care of home and kids only after quitting work, please take good care of yourselves, develop a friend circle of your own kind, boost up each other, support each other, enjoy this phase, and find people with whom who can do something of your choice that brings you happiness. Trust me this is really the best to do.
We go out for work because we want freedom .we want support family economically we doesn't limit ourselves to only kitchen and after 6 months we can work .why u have problem with working moms and please ask these questions to females doctors,lawyers and female politicians or ask this stupid question to marry kom who play boxing and won medals after pregnancy .we have right to choose many female leave their 6 month child in day care and come back to work and after all it is her decision to work
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Absolutely agreed!! Being a mother is a challenging but the real question is not about the challenging we mother will face but what can we do to make sure we will always be there for our children?
Leave job working for a male boss is more important than raising future boss
Nation should understand working mums...stress...especially when kids are in preschool or going to school.They should be allowed to leave office earlier then male counterparts or office work for 4 days only...🤒🤕😟
If u think than male should also get when their female counterparts works
Mom is a name is always better. No one sacrifice the life and compare to mom.
What about dad
Wht shouldn't the dad sacrifice for their children and love them,most of the dad's don't even spend time to children,some children don't even have a close relation with their father
That right. But, if u grow up child into adult and old age at all time ur bond with Only mom and not dad. Most of the boys always care only mom. She is the only girl to love all the time.
Okay I was taught that in child birth both parents are needed..but when it comes to upbringing of the child ..why mother has to be more responsible?..
If birth can't be asexual than why parenting is?..
Was I taught the wrong theory?..
I am confused
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Welcome to patriarchy sis!
@Angelo Wilson so when ladies are given power they misuse it.. and men's..ooh they are just perfect..they never ruin anything.. they do everything perfectly.. more perfectly than God himself..
grow up bro..it's not about gender it's about efficiency and determination..and that doesn't depend on sex..rather that depends on persons mentality
@Saurabh Singh every person is free to live a life of their wish.. the society made irrelevant norms distinguishing the job of an (so called) ideal man and women
But nowadays women are given choice to persue career and you say equality is given to women...okay I accept it
But still she is believed to be responsible for looking after household chores..why can't the man leave his job to look after their kids..why alwys a woman is believed to do so
The society will say 'its the job of a woman to look after kid as she gave birth'
I say 'man are not responsible enough to take huge responsibilities and they force women to do so saying it's her duty'
I am not a feminist but qstns like this always haunts me..
@Saurabh Singh first .. do you know any man who wants to be a houseman
Secondly ..before blaming woman that they wouldn't accept such man ..just think yourself once will the man's parents thierselves accept their son doing household chores
Moreover I have seen situation when a man listens to his wife n the in-laws says 'ki isne Kala jadu kia hmare bete pr'..do you think the society will leave any chance of insulting a woman
So even if a husband decides to be a househusband ..before his wife the society will oppose it and blame woman to b responsible for manipulating her husband (even if she didn't)
It's genuinely true. I am a single mother of a toddler and face same situations and get irritate easily.
life becomes so massy .
Working women's are best
Yeah corporate slaves
@@yeelanma9165 then everyone is slave
Who works under someone else
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@@yesiamabnormal there is a difference between employee and slaves and those who work for corporate are nothing more than cheap slave labours
@@yeelanma9165 it it is so then why only
Women are slave. It can be
Men's too.
@@yesiamabnormal yes they are and men are forced into it women are not
We have no other option
Just be childfree and just be yourself 💫
Yay, and grow cats xD , like a lot of child free women do
This is so nice and so true.. But wud love to see how to cope up with us.. Sharing experience of moms who have done this successfully
Yes...so answer?
Being a stay at home mom is just like ur working round a clock ...
Facing unexpected challenges.
Where u don't have a single minute for u without guilt...
And always have less time for ur kids...
It's really...a big mystery 🙄
100% correct. But why is that? Why don’t dads go through this same experience?
Simply because Men in majority of the households earn more than a women, more money requires more hardwork and determination , therefore resulting in a lack of time to be involved in house chores
Coz men have to earn way more to get a suitable partner, and that means working longer, more dangerous jobs, fewer vacations, can't afford to get sick and so on
That's why more housework is in women
Stay at home moms have it better in terms of how busy and stressed they are. I am NOT by any means saying SAHM moms are lazy. I just disagree with the ones who say they have it harder, especially once their kids are in school most of the day. The working mom still does all the things a SAHM mom does plus several hours of work in an office each day. You can't compare the two. Even with small kids, if you say well the working mom gets a break from her kids, true. But she doesn't get a break from assignments, bosses, coworkers, customers, clients, emails, faxes, phone calls, training, meetings, etc. Working women do not sit there and relax just because their children aren't around. If you are lucky enough to have kids and be able to stay at home, you should say how lucky you are, not act like you're some kind of slave for life choices you made that a lot of people don't even have.
Besides stay at home moms are simply better at raising kids, period 😂
This is so relevant and true :).
So true. The most dangerous part is when so called " supporting" members of family make it a point to strain it till dead end. You are being told in morning that I am not a maid to take care of your" children by mother in law just when you are about to leave house. When so called educated modern husband tells that you are not a good mother as she goes to office.
Most in laws are gonna nag anyways. And tbh women should sort out stuff with the guy before getting married
Aurat jitni badi chalak aur chatur banti ja rahi wo utni hi apne bune jaal me fasti jati hai jab yahi dailoge jab wo parents sunte hai to wo bhi wahi dailoge marege
I think working moms should set boundaries and reach out to help whenever possible. Ask family members for help too, if they deny take help from outside,hire maid and caretakers
I don't think you need to ask help from family members when you have married a grown up man with whom you share the baby. It's different when they behave like a kid themselves
I would say changes have taken place over the years in both ways - women exploring their identity and workplace respecting family duties. This is for sure in North America. If your kid is sick then not necessarily a mother has to take a day off! Dad can do the same job. Likewise, with world getting more and more competitive in all aspects it’s better to raise kids and training them to be independent and throwing little responsibilities when they turn approximate age like folding clothes and cleaning room etc. I was in the same situation and I decided to quit after my son was born. My mother explained me “ if I could raise you while working in my time then why you can’t? Do you feel that I did not give you enough time?” And that changed my mind. Anyways I was working in India as well so my conclusion is work life family balance is good here in Canada compared to India. But you need your partner’s support any where you go, lucky to have mine supporting all the time.
This exactly how it feels very stressful if u work loss of identity when u don't
Stay at home. That's where I have come and live and work at the end of the day, no matter how much I try to dodge it. So why work outside when I am already overburdened at home? I am not superman. And, and... Identity crisis? Never bothers me at all coz I am Satisfied with my life. I don't need to work for identity coz after all, come on, we don't know all the working women out there. Work sincerely wherever you work.. Be honest, sincere, hard working and excel in your field of work and may be one day, that might become your identity. Kids are great responsibilities, which in turn is a step to build up a good society. And whenever I see a good, nice, well behaved human being, the first thing I think of is "who is his/her mother?". For me, that's identity.
Stay at home mums raise children way better than working moms (better food, better attention and so on)
Stay at home isn't dehumanizing, it's a honourable thing to do 🤗
- a child who grew under a working mom
I’m aiming to work as working wife but looking at this video I cannot be a working mother
Beautifully summed up at the end. Everything is a challenge. But what makes the challenge incredibly tough especially in India is that society is no where prepared for working moms. From family support to work place, nothing is supportive. Hardly 5 percent of work places have day cares closer to working places. Do organizations even know something like a feeding room? We tend to have incredibly long working hours. In case you work for a software firm, you would be there working till 8 or 9 in the night . One least talked issue is the infrastructure, as the lady says she has to travel 4 hours. All these things make it near impossible for women however well they try to manage. Men ofcourse do have to change , but unless the entire society is structured for supporting working moms, nothing is going to change.
You can employ maids for all the household chores including cooking. Also your husband can share responsibilities of kids EQUALLY with you. So what's the problem?
soo true