I have a 4 yearold and a 1 yearold. I'm always tired and sad. I want to be happy being at home. I want to feel fulfilled. I just want to get better. This is the hardest job ever.
Make sure you take some time to yourself when you can. Even if it just taking a nice bath and putting on a face mask. I really want to stay at home with my next child. I don’t want to miss out on any moments. If no one has told you, you’re doing an amazing job 🤍. Your children will be thankful.
I’m with you! It’s been a little over a year since leaving my job of almost 15 years to be full time sahm! I went through anxiety and depression but overtime it has gotten better when I started praying and reading my Bible more! Also taking baby steps to doing some of the things I enjoyed doing before marriage and kids. I know things will get better for you! You will find your rhythm. ❤️🙏🏽
When I am feeling down, I put in 1 headphone in and listen to “In Praise Of Stay At Home Moms” by Dr. Laura on Audible. I also find her podcast helpful. You’re doing good. Keep going, we are here with you 🙌
@@audreyestelle687I’m getting depressed staying at work and being on the go all the time , I’m thinking about leaving to be home with the babies (2&4 I feel overwhelmed
As soon as my youngest started school my MIL asked my husband, "So, is she going back to work now?" My husband clapped back IMMEDIATELY with, "She works harder now than she ever has... so what makes you think she is without a job?" It was THE SEXIEST thing he has ever said or done. I just simply felt seen ❤
I usually don't leave comments on videos but I had to say this really touched me. I have been struggling with my mental health lately as a SAHM and I am just so grateful I came across your video. ❤
Same!! I really wish we had a support group here where I live cuz I feel like that would help out so much. To be able to relate with women who are going through the same thing😢 I am also dealing with mental health issues but I know it's going to be ok cuz just like she said we get to see the milestones and we have that awesome opportunity to be able to attend the programs and assembly's and when our kids need to stay home we sont have to ask off to be able to watch them and im so grateful for that because i didn't have that when i was growing up
Finally! Someone, although far away, gets me!😫 Update: I'm watching this for the second time in the same day at bedtime. I still can't believe that there are other women that share my feelings. Thank you for the encouragement! Be encouraged mommas❤
I'm a stay home mom to my 3 boys, doing all the house hold chores, preparing food, n doing the budgeting. I enjoy doing it for more than 33 years n it's fulfilling. Salute to all the stay home mom.
Yes, if SAHM would treat raising their kids with the same diligence and drive as they used to have while building a corporate career before, rejoicing at their successes as if they just got a promotion or raise, treat making their home better as the projects they used to do while in corporate, they’d be SUPER fulfilled. However, most women today are too narcissistic and self centered to feel that way about their children and home as SAHM. They get more thrills from getting a small raise in the corporate, despite the politics, bad bosses, and nonsense.
Thank you so much from one stay at home mama to another. After 3.5 years of infertility and finally getting my dream come true when we got the phone call of a baby girl in need of a good home I’ve felt so much guilt surrounding my selfish thoughts. How tired I am, how the list does not end, how I no longer feel like myself, how I feel guilty that my husband who I used to work beside renovating homes is now trying to do the work of two so I can be at home with our daughter. It’s so hard some days and to know there are others who feel the same way and understand, helps just as much as a simple thank you. 💜 I always try to remember how incredibly lucky I am to have a husband who loves me no matter if my hair is fixed or up in a bun, whether I have make up on or not, and helps me clean up after dinner or even goes to pick up something to eat because this mama is exhausted from the day. 😊
April dont let the haters get you down they dont know how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. You keep doing what you are doing. Your kids come first . we have your back
I was a stay home mom for 35 years. I have to say, it was the most fulfilling/ rewarding job I had. Yes, I say “ job” because like others who work outside the home, us stay home moms work the same and more so. Now that our 3 children are grown and have their own family, I can honestly say “ I made the right choice of being an stay home mom for all those years. And I was so fortunate to be able to do it!” The reward I got is” our children turned out to be wonderful people “ I salute all the stay home moms out there, it’s not an easy job.
Wow, I’m happy to hear good things from a SAHM for that long. For now I am treasuring all these growing up years. I am proud of you po for raising your children. Who they are right now is because you touch their lives in a way only good moms can do. Respect! 🙏
You deff do not more work then a working mom 😂 a working mom has to do both the father and mother roles. You get to sit on your ass and be lazy while a man pays your way through life.
how are you stay at home when you work on TH-cam that's a online job. your so called stay at home wives be lying. it's call an online job this TH-cam blogging thing.
As a single father of 2 boys who also works this is far from the most tiring job I would take staying at home with my kids anyway over a physical 9-5 job
Everything she said is exactly how I feel. I have been a SAHM for 8 years and am grateful for this opportunity, but it feels like the most unrewarding job ever. I left my job to care for my children because of my long work hours and my husband traveled a lot. Someone needed to be home to take care of the children. I know that I’m doing right by them because they are thriving in everything they do. They are very secure level headed happy kids. I see the fruits of my labor, but feel so unappreciated and disrespected by society. It’s also very lonely to be a SAHM. In spite of feeling like this, I thank God for this opportunity and pray that I raised good, responsible, productive children that will make him proud. Amen 🙏🏼
Thank you so much! I needed to here this today! And in tears as I’m watching it 😭. I noticed my depression strikes me hard when my monthly visit is right around the corner.
I feel you April💖..i was a working mom for 21yrs..until the pandemic came..I realize now it's hard to be a full time mom, so I salute the mothers who chose to be mothers to their children💖
Why is it so hard for y’all ? I’m a single dad of 2 boys with a work from home job while going to college online. That was a little stressful but when I graduated college and just had work and kids it was a breeze kids are not as hard as people make them out to be. Stressful sometimes yes but that’s life
This is the best video I’ve seen. Every word you said is true. I’m a stay at home Mom with 5 kiddos. It’s hard and sometimes no one understands and no one appreciates it. This video is very comforting. We are doing a great job as stay at home Moms!!! ❤️😍 Hug to all of us.
This made me cry as a first time mom ... All my love to any other first time moms ❤ YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO FEELS SO INCREDIBLY OVERWHELMED ALL THE TIME.
Love this message. We are not sorry for missing messages, parties, 'opportunities' and more. Being a SAHM is a hard work that requires lots of thinking and hopefully many women get to appreciate what they really have and the precious lives that are in their hands. Moms and Dads are so important for healthy families. THis is teamwork. Hugs. Lets love our family as it... we are so blessed to have it.
As a stay at home mom of 2 preschoolers, the worst thing isn’t childcare itself, or laundry, or never ending cycle of cooking and cleaning after. The WORST aspect is not having anything exciting AND not being able to actually plan anything for yourself, bc you don’t belong to yourself, and your boss is unpredictable. My daughter turned 2 and started going to the kindergarten, but she is still adapting and often gets sick, so as soon as I’m starting to enjoy simple things like cleaning alone, working out and skincare routine, she catches sniffles and I need to cancel my doctor appointments and mani-pedi I haven’t had in years. And though you don’t get salary or any recognition whatsoever, you also never get vacation or even sick days. I admit I kinda let it happen bc I want to be a good mom and make sacrifices. But it’s a bad and intoxicating trait leading to burnout, binge eating and whining instead of enjoying your kids growing. It took me 6 years and one especially big meltdown to realize my husband can actually take sick days to take care of kids when I have fever. Don’t be me girls, stand for yourself. And I’m really grateful my kids, despite having some health issues, are relatively healthy. I can hardly imagine being a mom of a kid who is really sick. I’m not THAT strong. God bless those women.
Hello April, I am grateful for you. For finding time to put this content. I am a first time mum and I am gradually embracing being a Stay at home mum, its not easy. This content is definitely for me. Bless your heart. You're doing amazingly well. Beautiful channel you have.
As a stay at home mom of a 3 year old at days I find it extremely difficult. I literally with my son 24/7. I also work at nights. I clean, cook, prep meals and try to entertain him as well as getting keeping my sanity. My husband works 11-8 so I’m exhausted. We got this mommas ❤ P.S. he definitely helps out as well
I love having my little bub, teaching him showing him the world laughing with him tickling him. I hate sitting on the floor pushing cars around, I hate chasing a toddler around the house and begging him to let me change his nappy, I also hate the bedtime struggles and the stay up lates and wake up earlies. And yet. I love this. Love this job so much.
I have lots of respect for you as a mom raising your kids as a stay home mom. Staying home mom is a job idk why people think it's not a job. I was a stay home mom for two years and it was hard. I didn't trust myself enough to leave my daughter with anyone and I'd rather have her safe with me raising her the best I can Some days are harder than other days we get overstimulated, depressed,tired,all the above. You're an awesome mom!!!!!!
Oh my gosh, this video is spot on! Trading over an entire entity for the word, “mom”. But self care is one of the solutions! And also daily mediations.
Great vlog. You are very appreciated by me!! You are worth your weight in gold. You do so much for your family. I cannot even imagine how lonely and tired you must feel sometimes and maybe even under appreciated but when you see your boys succeed in life....please remember you were their guidance and support emotionally and spiritually. Take pride ! You are an amazing individual and nobody can ever replace you 🎉 Shout out to you 🥰🎊🌹💐
I was a stay at home mom, worked from home at times, and now have two amazing young women to show for it! It's SO important for our children. I can encourage any mom who wants to stay at home that you can do it!
Wow! You are truly amazing. You are worthy of respect and dignity for all that you do. Don"t ever forget that!!! You are NOT useless. I hope those that put you down are reading this. You are AMAZING.
There's no wrong for stay home mom if a father ıs a good provider and responsible for his family....ı really appreciate you. You're a real model mother.
Thank you for this video. I can relate. I appreciate the uplifting ending. I feel hope and light at the end of the tunnel thanks to your wonderful and optimistic outlook. Again, thank you! 😊 🙏
I'm thankful that vids like this have been coming out. Because I have been bullied by other woman for choosing to stay at home with my child. I have been misunderstood and prejudged. It feels horrible and has made me question my decisions. But when I hear other woman talk about how they feel and it's similari t to my experience I am reminded that I made the right choice for my child. My child is kind, confident, secure, smart.. the list goes on.
I couldn’t do this and my husband makes more than enough but I just could not. Being a stay at home mother well when you’re actually doing the role lol is no joke like you will feel depressed, lonely, lose yourself, etc . Salute to all the stay at home mothers and working mothers ❤
My mom was SAH (she didn't want to work either so it was more of staying at home and us kids were parentified, barely cooked us meals and sent us outside or to school) but sure as hell didn't do all the stuff you are doing right now. I chuckled when you mentioned "food preferences adjustments": what was on the table was the meal, full stop.
I remember how I used to be judgemental of staying home moms before I had kids. Now 2 kids after and a 3rd on the way, I only have admiration for these moms. You are the BEST ❤️
I did an experiment a few weeks ago…I asked some of our children about hobbies. They all had answers for themselves and their siblings, when asked what my hobby is they all said “umh cleaning?” It’s a sad truth, but I explained that a hobby is something you do FOR YOU that you enjoy doing. If you don’t understand, be happy. Staying at home is well worth the cons, but there are very big cons, with very big pros
I am a stay at home mom, homeschooling, chronic illness warrior to a kid with autism and health issues. I have been working on a course to help others from my own pain and routines that help me manage my mental and spiritual health. It’s so hard, there is no off switch. Adding a business and eating fresh Whole Foods everyday means I’m busy from the time my eyes open to the time I go to sleep. If I get enough sleep 4-5 hours, I’m surprised by exhaustion before the day starts. It’s so painful and so rewarding. I told my partner today that I sometimes feel like a single mom. His silence felt even worse. I have no choice but to keep going, be as grateful as possible and invest in my wellbeing using self care and meditation among many other things I use. May all mothers that find this know u aren’t alone. Once day our children will be adults who has someone invest into their future❤
April i understand your life but that is the real journey of life, the bittersweet of your success. I also married to a foreigner, but i don't have regrets though we experienced lots of struggle and problems in our marriage, we don't kids, I don't regret it. I am committed and I was happy we found each other, he was a part of me, and he was beyond forgetting.
Maraming good memories pagiging stay at home mom. Nakita mo paglaki ng mga anak mo at kung paano sila naging mabuting tao sa paglaki nila kasi nakita nila kung paano ka bilang isang ina.
Trying to decide whether or not to have kids so I’m here. Some of these things stay at home moms do sound like stuff you have to do even if you’re not a mom (cleaning [less of it, obviously]). However, it’s like husbands assume they don’t have to do any domestic tasks and it’s 100% the mom’s job, which is unfair. That’s my worst nightmare - becoming an unpaid maid for a man. SAHMs work all day. It never stops. Husbands go to work and then they feel like they worked so they don’t have to do chores.
I spent years thinking I didn't want kids and had an abrupt change of heart 3 years ago. I am so, so thankful! Being a mom is truly the best and most fulfilling thing I will ever do. Praying for you in your decision💕
I needed to watch this video today.. all i can say is thank you.. and knowing that we are doing it just like many others out there makes the lonliness a bit bearable.
Oh My Gosh. Here I am feeling so lonely on this new journey, and feeling misunderstood. I became a SAHM at almost forty y.o. while living abroad with my family. No one understands my decision including family. Me a career girl, brave to live South America and live in my own in Europe at twenties. And now… The thing is I never felt so exhausted, besides I’m doing digital marketing some hours while baby is sleeping. Also I never felt so realized as a human being, with a life with purpose, bonded to my child and husband. …accepting that tiredness, lack of energy and loneliness will be a part of my life for a while, is one of the most difficult thing. Also that I can’t control everything, for example last night baby couldn’t sleep for hours, the day today were with me and the house in a mess trying to put together at least food and emotional comfort for my little one. God bless everyone. SAHM keep going your work is Amazing, even if cultural and societal norms don’t acknowledge it. Thank you so much for posting it. I completely relate to you. Xx
I’ve been a stay at home for going on three years now. I never found myself to be happy up until I gave my life to Jesus. And I found so much peace at where I’m at as a stay at home mom. He delivered me and I found so much joy in being a mother of three. ❤
Don’t be a stay at home mom under any circumstances! Don’t sacrifice yourself or your life for anyone NO EVEN FOR YOUR HUSBAND NOT EVEN FOR YOUR CHILDREN! If you do, YOU WILL REGRET IT FOR THE REST IF YOUR LIFE! You will be under appreciated by your husband and your children! When your kids grow up and way to college, your husband will kick you out or tell to go get a job…sure after 20 years? No matter what your husband says about him being able to support you and the kids….DO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID. After a while he will degrade you and call you stupid shit infront if your children and then your children will become their dad. I cook, I clean, i can him two boys, I do their laundries, I take them to their dr appts, I take them to school, I iron his work clothes, I mow the lawn, I washed the car, I take care of them when they are sick, I bought them their clothes, I do the grocery shopping on my own, I fix whatever maybe broken at home… Before marriage, I told him I do not want children and he said that’s fine. After we got married, he said to me that I am not his family until I give him children. So I did. Not one but two boys who does well in school because I educated them, I took care of them made sure they always had breakfast before school, always on time, took them to their sprits practices and games…all the while stressed out while he comes home eats and watch porn got caught and blames and body shamed me …I am 120 lbs. he blames me for his porn watching because my body changed…this is after I gave birth the kids he wanted. Then he slept and paid a prostitute contracted std and then infected me and lied about it. Now he and the kids treat me like I am beneath them. I am have no job I have nothing he holds all the finances. I have nothing. I am constantly regretting and contemplating suicide. I tried to hide the pain but most days I just spent wishing for death to escape this lonely life. So please before you give in to your husband think twice about it because they do change no matter how good and faithful you are and they don’t care if you end up with nothing in the end.
🤗😢🙏💕 on the same path as you... I feel you! Don't do it though! You are strong and you deserve better! I hope you will soon find a way to live for yourself 🥰
@ thank you 🙏🏻. I cry everyday to relieve my pain and I pray for comfort to ease my sorrow. I keep busy with house chores as to not fall into negativity. There must be a purpose for me to still be here. I do live like I am on edge everyday. I feel sad that I wasn’t given a soulmate in this life. I spent most days alone and has become a prisoner and just riding out this life til god decides to take me. Although, I wanted suicide many times, something kept telling me not to that suicide would result in in hell so I am afraid. I know it sounds da rediculous but when I feel as low as I do I am still afraid of some things. I may not be happy at home with a partner who does not value live nor family. I still respect others around me and I would greet and smile to neighbors but that is my only happy moments..the kind interaction with kind people.
@@angelonearth8498 I could have written these exact words myself 🤗🤗 I honestly also started drinking a glass of wine most evenings just to try and numb my feelings a little, and I am ashamed of myself for getting to this as I condone it... For now, it helps a little. I certainly don't recommend it to anyone, just saying what I do, shamefully. I pray things improve for you somehow as I know how much it can hurt... You are not alone 🙏💕🤗
You were a REALLY good Mom who cared deeply for your kids! You're above the rest...and You have seriously been through REALLY tough times. P--- really really kills love, marriage, children, homes and women/men who make p---. It is NOT real, is all fake. I too found out my husband was addicted to p--- after our 4th was born. I foolishly thought he would simply stop. FF to a decade later (and lots of manipulating mental abuse/games) found out he hadn't stopped. Honestly? I was relieved because now I had solid grounds for a quick divorce. But this world is harsh and doesn't see it clear. So...I simply have to become wealthy... easier said than done because only 2% make it... but hell... I've already BEEN through so much s---, I might as well work hard to be 2%er. Dani Johnson, T. Harv Eker, Florence Shinn, Les Brown and especially Louise Hay are a start.... LISTEN TO THEM DAILY. You deserve to live a great life with a REAL gentleman...NOT an adulterer LOSER!! Same with me. Your warning has not been wasted. I'm now quite terrified that my husband might do to me what he did to you. They are LIARS and not to be trusted ever. I know you will be rewarded. Like Job of old...you are in reserve for HUGE blessings after your Job like trial. I wasn't sure why I read the comments section... cuz as all moms know... I've got LOTS of things to do, but I really believe I was supposed to read your story. I'll pray for you with all the might that I have. My life line has been daily prayer, the Bible, the Book of Mormon another testament of Jesus Christ, His gospel His Church, motivational speakers prior to 2000 and kind clerk people at stores lol. I've had to cast out evil spirits many times from within with my faith in Jesus Christ....HE, the ultimate King of us all delivers. I love you. We will rise from the ash heap and turn into blessed creations!!!
You were a REALLY good Mom who cared deeply for your kids! You're above the rest...and You have seriously been through REALLY tough times. P--- really really kills love, marriage, children, homes and women/men who make p---. It is NOT real, is all fake. I too found out my husband was addicted to p--- after our 4th was born. I foolishly thought he would simply stop. FF to a decade later (and lots of manipulating mental abuse/games) found out he hadn't stopped. Honestly? I was relieved because now I had solid grounds for a quick divorce. But this world is harsh and doesn't see it clear. So...I simply have to become wealthy... easier said than done because only 2% make it... but hell... I've already BEEN through so much s---, I might as well work hard to be 2%er. Dani Johnson, T. Harv Eker, Florence Shinn, Les Brown and especially Louise Hay are a start.... LISTEN TO THEM DAILY. You deserve to live a great life with a REAL gentleman...NOT an adulterer LOSER!! Same with me. Your warning has not been wasted. I'm now quite terrified that my husband might do to me what he did to you. They are LIARS and not to be trusted ever. I know you will be rewarded. Like Job of old...you are in reserve for HUGE blessings after your Job like trial. I wasn't sure why I read the comments section... cuz as all moms know... I've got LOTS of things to do, but I really believe I was supposed to read your story. I'll pray for you with all the might that I have. My life line has been daily prayer, the Bible, the Book of Mormon another testament of Jesus Christ, His gospel His Church, motivational speakers prior to 2000 and kind clerk people at stores lol. I've had to cast out evil spirits many times from within with my faith in Jesus Christ....HE, the ultimate King of us all delivers. I love you. We will rise from the ash heap and turn into blessed creations!!!
Thank you for this video. All this needed to be said and was right on. And if people dont think being a stay at home mom is a job, then i wonder what daycare workers do all day? Only they get paid.... and theyre not responsible for everything else, laundry, taking kids to appts, shopping, etc. Etc. Etc. And for the people who say, this is all the stuff you would need to do anyway... usually with stay at home moms, they do EVERYTHING. Since the other parent works and we are home with our kids, we do everything, or most of everything, so the other parent can just focus on work and being with the kids when he gets home. So basically, we are unpaid daycare providers, while we also do everything else for the kids, and everything for the house too. I am happy to say that most people who ive told im a stay at home mom, have given me compliments for doing that, but then there are people who think children shouldnt be raised at home with their mothers and should instead go to daycare. Side note: im NOT bashing moms who choose to put their kids in daycare. Although its ideal to have the kids at home, sometimes daycare is just better for families, depending on the situation. Some moms literally cant handle not having any space away from the kids ever, and its understandable. Plus, financial reasons are sometimes a thing too. With all that being said, i am SO GRATEFUL that I am a stay at home mom and I love being able to be the one who takes care of my kids full time!
I think as moms we try to perfect but we are only human too thanks for this video I'm a stay at home Mom of five and here lately I've been impatient and feeling no sense of self anymore I have these moments like every few months but then I pull myself back together and that's all we can do being a mom and wife is a full Time job and the single Mothers salute to us all we got this
i feel you Ms April how hard it is to stay at home with the children. I stayed home for 4 months after i gave birth of my son, and i felt so sad when i have to go back to work. I have 4 children from teenager to an infant, and it felt like i am always on the go. i could never take a break, because i worry about everything. and when i went back to work,i looked back at the times i stayed home to be with my children, and those are my most happiest moments. how i wish i have that option to stay home and take care of my children,but we just can't afford it financially. just choose your battles. those dishes,laundry, dirt can wait. children grow too fast.
You are right. Everybody have their own challenges. We need to see the brighter side of every situation, working mom or SAHM, we are just doing what is fit and right for our situation ❤️
İ cried 😢 im a stay at home mom also.. needs to give up my work to take care of our first born. But as you have mentioned its the most rewarding job in the world ❤
I can totally relate about those assumptions from outside. They forget what is more important, to participate in the society and economy by paying taxes or to raise a good human being for their future generation. Being a mom is not easy. I am a new mom to a 2 year old, and I know I always forget to take care of myself, but I am not regretting it because I know what is more important for me.
I feel like you just described me. Some days are SO hard. So much guilt and living off my husbands income. When I explain this to other people they think it’s silly because of how much I contribute to the family, toddler and house. But feels different to me. The struggle is real.
Very well said mommy April dto sa pinas mga bata pa nag aasawa na pagkatapos maghihiwalay din hindi nila iniisip na mahirap ang buhay may asawa dapat alam nila sa isat isa ang responsibilities nila pag nag asawa na thanks mommy April totoo po lahat ang sinabi mo sa vlog mo congratulations for you are such a great mom ❤❤❤
And i hope all moms will always remember na kahit minsan mahirap, we’re doing it all for our children ❤️ And yes its so important na ma educate yung mga new generation na getting into parenthood is really a big responsibility.
Just got to a point where my partner can be a stay at home mom after 9 years (two kids, 9 & 4). She was working from home but got laid off around the same time my income was rising. The adjustment is tough, but thankfully I work from home and can quickly engage to help with chores, and I do all the cooking of dinners promptly after work and the grocery shopping at night or weekends. I’m doing my best to make her feel like it’s not all on her, but she’s struggling with our son wanting constant attention. It’s only been a month, so it’s still very early, but I can say it’s definitely not easy. I know she feels like others think “it must be nice”, but they have no idea. Some think they prefer to work, some would rather be home, but no matter your situation, it’s always hard. Work is hard, kids are hard. Just have empathy.
I assume Moms who work even part time and have more than 2 kids have help around the house from family, friends, or hired. Wow! Your house is kept really nice. Your husband and kids are indeed blessed. In Asia, it is typical to have "just" 2 kids. I am American and Crazily enough had 7 kids!! Not recommending this unless u have a big enough house and help / support.
You are right , we are judged no matter what decision we make , I am not a SAHM , but I’m glad for this real video not always glamorizing it and being honest , thank you for that ❤
I was a working mom with my first one I used to work 10h at day 4-5 days at week in an Amazon warehouse. My first daughter used to be in a daycare all day. I thought motherhood was easy because all I used to do was sent my daughter away to be taken care of even when I didn't work. Then the weekends dad was home so I was not only my job. Now I am a stay at home mom to a 4 year old I never felt so dry and exhausted I am grateful but I wouldn't do it again never.
This is what i neded to hear,ive been a stay at home mom all thru this year....honestly i never thought i would wnd up like this😢but having to raise my child and be there for him has been soo rewarding and fulfilling to me❤today i felt abit down but this has shown me am doing a good job,am trying its not easy especially with our economy...i thank God for this season of my life😊😊😊
Omw it's so overwhelming.to take care of home some times I help 3:08 my husband at job I come home do my mom duties and at end make dinnerl at times I need a hug and love .God gives me the strength through the time s that I feel I can't do it .God is my strength and my helper prayer is the helpline.
Thank you! I have never seen any of your videos before but I feel I was supposed to see this. I have been a stay at home mom since the beginning of the pandemic but before that I had been working since I was 15 years old which would be over half my life at this point. I often feel unheard, useless and unfulfilled and wonder if I should go back to work to bring more money in and if it would help me gain back any unfulfillment I am missing. But, my twins have thrived from me being a sahm. One twin has slight learning disabilities and was in need of speech therapy. He would not be where he his now if it were not for the scarcfices I have made. I am thankful for my role and am able to at least make a little money doing customer service calls a few hours a day while the twins are now in kindergarten. Now if i could find another wfh job that would give me the flexibility I need and get me off this phone 😅. These customers are worse than my husband and kids sometimes.
I sold my 7 figure business to be a stay at home mom. I am enjoying this season in my life. I choose to focus on the positive; spending time with my kids, pouring into them. I am going to be creating content about putting life into perspective & cherishing the seeming mundane
Being a SAHM is very difficult, and like any job it takes time to learn and adjust. I have thought most of the things you spoke about. Although my house will never be as clean as yours haha!
I have a 4 yearold and a 1 yearold. I'm always tired and sad. I want to be happy being at home. I want to feel fulfilled. I just want to get better. This is the hardest job ever.
Make sure you take some time to yourself when you can. Even if it just taking a nice bath and putting on a face mask. I really want to stay at home with my next child. I don’t want to miss out on any moments. If no one has told you, you’re doing an amazing job 🤍. Your children will be thankful.
I’m with you! It’s been a little over a year since leaving my job of almost 15 years to be full time sahm! I went through anxiety and depression but overtime it has gotten better when I started praying and reading my Bible more! Also taking baby steps to doing some of the things I enjoyed doing before marriage and kids. I know things will get better for you! You will find your rhythm. ❤️🙏🏽
When I am feeling down, I put in 1 headphone in and listen to “In Praise Of Stay At Home Moms” by Dr. Laura on Audible. I also find her podcast helpful. You’re doing good. Keep going, we are here with you 🙌
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@@audreyestelle687I’m getting depressed staying at work and being on the go all the time , I’m thinking about leaving to be home with the babies (2&4 I feel overwhelmed
As soon as my youngest started school my MIL asked my husband, "So, is she going back to work now?" My husband clapped back IMMEDIATELY with, "She works harder now than she ever has... so what makes you think she is without a job?"
It was THE SEXIEST thing he has ever said or done.
I just simply felt seen ❤
You picked a good one! I am happy for you and to read this! 💛
Wow 🥹
So amazing.
I usually don't leave comments on videos but I had to say this really touched me. I have been struggling with my mental health lately as a SAHM and I am just so grateful I came across your video. ❤
Same here ❤
Same!
Same!! I really wish we had a support group here where I live cuz I feel like that would help out so much. To be able to relate with women who are going through the same thing😢 I am also dealing with mental health issues but I know it's going to be ok cuz just like she said we get to see the milestones and we have that awesome opportunity to be able to attend the programs and assembly's and when our kids need to stay home we sont have to ask off to be able to watch them and im so grateful for that because i didn't have that when i was growing up
Finally! Someone, although far away, gets me!😫
Update: I'm watching this for the second time in the same day at bedtime. I still can't believe that there are other women that share my feelings. Thank you for the encouragement! Be encouraged mommas❤
I'm a stay home mom to my 3 boys, doing all the house hold chores, preparing food, n doing the budgeting. I enjoy doing it for more than 33 years n it's fulfilling. Salute to all the stay home mom.
Its important that we also empower each other. We got this 👌 yes its hard but its the most fulfilling job there is ❤️
@@aprilalgrably it’s hard if you’re husband is traveling most days overnight. Then plays video games or watch a movie.
Yes, if SAHM would treat raising their kids with the same diligence and drive as they used to have while building a corporate career before, rejoicing at their successes as if they just got a promotion or raise, treat making their home better as the projects they used to do while in corporate, they’d be SUPER fulfilled.
However, most women today are too narcissistic and self centered to feel that way about their children and home as SAHM. They get more thrills from getting a small raise in the corporate, despite the politics, bad bosses, and nonsense.
Do you homeschool?
Thank you so much from one stay at home mama to another. After 3.5 years of infertility and finally getting my dream come true when we got the phone call of a baby girl in need of a good home I’ve felt so much guilt surrounding my selfish thoughts. How tired I am, how the list does not end, how I no longer feel like myself, how I feel guilty that my husband who I used to work beside renovating homes is now trying to do the work of two so I can be at home with our daughter. It’s so hard some days and to know there are others who feel the same way and understand, helps just as much as a simple thank you. 💜 I always try to remember how incredibly lucky I am to have a husband who loves me no matter if my hair is fixed or up in a bun, whether I have make up on or not, and helps me clean up after dinner or even goes to pick up something to eat because this mama is exhausted from the day. 😊
April dont let the haters get you down they dont know how hard it is to be a stay at home mom. You keep doing what you are doing. Your kids come first . we have your back
I was a stay home mom for 35 years. I have to say, it was the most fulfilling/ rewarding job I had. Yes, I say “ job” because like others who work outside the home, us stay home moms work the same and more so. Now that our 3 children are grown and have their own family, I can honestly say “ I made the right choice of being an stay home mom for all those years. And I was so fortunate to be able to do it!” The reward I got is” our children turned out to be wonderful people “ I salute all the stay home moms out there, it’s not an easy job.
Wow, I’m happy to hear good things from a SAHM for that long. For now I am treasuring all these growing up years. I am proud of you po for raising your children. Who they are right now is because you touch their lives in a way only good moms can do. Respect! 🙏
You deff do not more work then a working mom 😂 a working mom has to do both the father and mother roles. You get to sit on your ass and be lazy while a man pays your way through life.
You've said it all. This is the most tiring yet fullfilling job. Kudos to both stay at home and working moms.
Yes! Respect to all moms! 👌❤️
All moms and dads! I don’t know what I’d do without my husband to help
how are you stay at home when you work on TH-cam that's a online job. your so called stay at home wives be lying. it's call an online job this TH-cam blogging thing.
Cost Notting to be nice
As a single father of 2 boys who also works this is far from the most tiring job I would take staying at home with my kids anyway over a physical 9-5 job
Everything she said is exactly how I feel. I have been a SAHM for 8 years and am grateful for this opportunity, but it feels like the most unrewarding job ever. I left my job to care for my children because of my long work hours and my husband traveled a lot. Someone needed to be home to take care of the children. I know that I’m doing right by them because they are thriving in everything they do. They are very secure level headed happy kids. I see the fruits of my labor, but feel so unappreciated and disrespected by society. It’s also very lonely to be a SAHM. In spite of feeling like this, I thank God for this opportunity and pray that I raised good, responsible, productive children that will make him proud. Amen 🙏🏼
Thank you so much! I needed to here this today! And in tears as I’m watching it 😭. I noticed my depression strikes me hard when my monthly visit is right around the corner.
@familyfunkanes hello
I feel you April💖..i was a working mom for 21yrs..until the pandemic came..I realize now it's hard to be a full time mom, so I salute the mothers who chose to be mothers to their children💖
Thank you so much. Good luck and you take care mommy ❤️
Why is it so hard for y’all ? I’m a single dad of 2 boys with a work from home job while going to college online. That was a little stressful but when I graduated college and just had work and kids it was a breeze kids are not as hard as people make them out to be. Stressful sometimes yes but that’s life
Stay at home/ full time mom is one of the noblest profession. We are jack of all trades.
I couldn’t agree more 👌
This is the best video I’ve seen. Every word you said is true. I’m a stay at home Mom with 5 kiddos. It’s hard and sometimes no one understands and no one appreciates it. This video is very comforting. We are doing a great job as stay at home Moms!!! ❤️😍 Hug to all of us.
We got this momma! 💪 take care yourself. ❤️
No one appreciates it? Y'all are put on the pedestal all the time!
@@VaporwaveLover2000 run along and go keep playn your video games and being a loser. This encouragement is obviously NOT FOR YOU.
Aww I’m crying my eyes out! This was amazing April I needed to hear this! My son turned one on Sunday and it’s the best job I’ve ever had in my life ❤
Salute to all stay at home moms ❤️.
Thank you 😍❤️
This made me cry as a first time mom ... All my love to any other first time moms ❤ YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO FEELS SO INCREDIBLY OVERWHELMED ALL THE TIME.
I am rarely without words. I'll just say "Thank You" for shining light on the reality of a stay at home mom ✨
I feel Seen and Heard 💯
Love this message. We are not sorry for missing messages, parties, 'opportunities' and more. Being a SAHM is a hard work that requires lots of thinking and hopefully many women get to appreciate what they really have and the precious lives that are in their hands. Moms and Dads are so important for healthy families. THis is teamwork. Hugs. Lets love our family as it... we are so blessed to have it.
As a stay at home mom of 2 preschoolers, the worst thing isn’t childcare itself, or laundry, or never ending cycle of cooking and cleaning after. The WORST aspect is not having anything exciting AND not being able to actually plan anything for yourself, bc you don’t belong to yourself, and your boss is unpredictable. My daughter turned 2 and started going to the kindergarten, but she is still adapting and often gets sick, so as soon as I’m starting to enjoy simple things like cleaning alone, working out and skincare routine, she catches sniffles and I need to cancel my doctor appointments and mani-pedi I haven’t had in years. And though you don’t get salary or any recognition whatsoever, you also never get vacation or even sick days. I admit I kinda let it happen bc I want to be a good mom and make sacrifices. But it’s a bad and intoxicating trait leading to burnout, binge eating and whining instead of enjoying your kids growing. It took me 6 years and one especially big meltdown to realize my husband can actually take sick days to take care of kids when I have fever. Don’t be me girls, stand for yourself.
And I’m really grateful my kids, despite having some health issues, are relatively healthy. I can hardly imagine being a mom of a kid who is really sick. I’m not THAT strong. God bless those women.
Hello April, I am grateful for you. For finding time to put this content. I am a first time mum and I am gradually embracing being a Stay at home mum, its not easy. This content is definitely for me. Bless your heart. You're doing amazingly well. Beautiful channel you have.
Yes I feel this same
As a stay at home mom of a 3 year old at days I find it extremely difficult. I literally with my son 24/7. I also work at nights. I clean, cook, prep meals and try to entertain him as well as getting keeping my sanity. My husband works 11-8 so I’m exhausted. We got this mommas ❤
P.S. he definitely helps out as well
Admired your choice.. looking back I would have made my choice appropriately. Raising your kids is priceless😘
Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you for sharing your heart and being honest. I can relate 100% and agree that I have no regrets choosing to be at home with my children.
I love having my little bub, teaching him showing him the world laughing with him tickling him. I hate sitting on the floor pushing cars around, I hate chasing a toddler around the house and begging him to let me change his nappy, I also hate the bedtime struggles and the stay up lates and wake up earlies. And yet. I love this. Love this job so much.
Just for transparency’s sake I also want to say that today I hate this job so much
I think the part that is hardest is that you don’t get a break from this it’s around the clock non stop atleast at work when your off your off
Being a mom is a tough job there's no day off ❤ I feel you ma'am and I'm so happy doing it
We got this! Carry on momma! 💪
Who else feels seen ?!!
I have lots of respect for you as a mom raising your kids as a stay home mom. Staying home mom is a job idk why people think it's not a job. I was a stay home mom for two years and it was hard. I didn't trust myself enough to leave my daughter with anyone and I'd rather have her safe with me raising her the best I can Some days are harder than other days we get overstimulated, depressed,tired,all the above. You're an awesome mom!!!!!!
Oh my gosh, this video is spot on! Trading over an entire entity for the word, “mom”.
But self care is one of the solutions! And also daily mediations.
I'm sorry happy you made this video❤ it brightened my dark moment as a SAHM. Thank you 🙏🏽
This is so thoughtful and well-rounded. Thank you for sharing.
Congratulations to all stay at home moms.its the best job,taking care of your family round the clock...God blessed us all.❤
Thank you so much ❤️
This made me cry just feeling so understood. Its been such a struggle. Thank you for doing this video 💞
I needed this! Thank you for your encouraging words and wisdom! We have to keep working on our perspectives and processing our emotions. Thank you!
so…..inspiring❤❤❤thank you lord for this blessing …. being a housewife and a mother to my children❤❤❤
Thankful for this reminder. I forgot that im not the only one doing this. Loneliness is normal, and it doesn't have to be something to be saddened by.
Great vlog. You are very appreciated by me!! You are worth your weight in gold. You do so much for your family. I cannot even imagine how lonely and tired you must feel sometimes and maybe even under appreciated but when you see your boys succeed in life....please remember you were their guidance and support emotionally and spiritually.
Take pride ! You are an amazing individual and nobody can ever replace you 🎉 Shout out to you 🥰🎊🌹💐
Thanks you so much for these words. It means a lot to me ❤️❤️🥹
I was a stay at home mom, worked from home at times, and now have two amazing young women to show for it! It's SO important for our children. I can encourage any mom who wants to stay at home that you can do it!
Wow! You are truly amazing. You are worthy of respect and dignity for all that you do. Don"t ever forget that!!! You are NOT useless. I hope those that put you down are reading this. You are AMAZING.
You’re such a great / good mother & wife! You’re loved and inspired doing everything at home for your beautiful family. You are blessed. ❤️🩹✨💫🍀
Thank you so much 🥰
@@aprilalgrably 👍🍀🍀🍀
There's no wrong for stay home mom if a father ıs a good provider and responsible for his family....ı really appreciate you.
You're a real model mother.
Thank you so much ❤️🥰❤️
Thank you for this video. I can relate. I appreciate the uplifting ending. I feel hope and light at the end of the tunnel thanks to your wonderful and optimistic outlook. Again, thank you! 😊 🙏
I tell people all the time SAHM are working towards a greater society.. these little humans eventually grow up to be in that society.
I'm thankful that vids like this have been coming out. Because I have been bullied by other woman for choosing to stay at home with my child. I have been misunderstood and prejudged. It feels horrible and has made me question my decisions. But when I hear other woman talk about how they feel and it's similari t to my experience I am reminded that I made the right choice for my child. My child is kind, confident, secure, smart.. the list goes on.
I couldn’t do this and my husband makes more than enough but I just could not. Being a stay at home mother well when you’re actually doing the role lol is no joke like you will feel depressed, lonely, lose yourself, etc . Salute to all the stay at home mothers and working mothers ❤
My mom was SAH (she didn't want to work either so it was more of staying at home and us kids were parentified, barely cooked us meals and sent us outside or to school) but sure as hell didn't do all the stuff you are doing right now. I chuckled when you mentioned "food preferences adjustments": what was on the table was the meal, full stop.
I remember how I used to be judgemental of staying home moms before I had kids. Now 2 kids after and a 3rd on the way, I only have admiration for these moms.
You are the BEST ❤️
I did an experiment a few weeks ago…I asked some of our children about hobbies. They all had answers for themselves and their siblings, when asked what my hobby is they all said “umh cleaning?” It’s a sad truth, but I explained that a hobby is something you do FOR YOU that you enjoy doing. If you don’t understand, be happy. Staying at home is well worth the cons, but there are very big cons, with very big pros
I am a stay at home mom, homeschooling, chronic illness warrior to a kid with autism and health issues. I have been working on a course to help others from my own pain and routines that help me manage my mental and spiritual health. It’s so hard, there is no off switch. Adding a business and eating fresh Whole Foods everyday means I’m busy from the time my eyes open to the time I go to sleep. If I get enough sleep 4-5 hours, I’m surprised by exhaustion before the day starts. It’s so painful and so rewarding. I told my partner today that I sometimes feel like a single mom. His silence felt even worse. I have no choice but to keep going, be as grateful as possible and invest in my wellbeing using self care and meditation among many other things I use. May all mothers that find this know u aren’t alone. Once day our children will be adults who has someone invest into their future❤
April i understand your life but that is the real journey of life, the bittersweet of your success. I also married to a foreigner, but i don't have regrets though we experienced lots of struggle and problems in our marriage, we don't kids, I don't regret it. I am committed and I was happy we found each other, he was a part of me, and he was beyond forgetting.
Thank you for making this video❤this brought me to tears 😭 It feels good to know that I am not alone. 100 % agree on what you said.
Maraming good memories pagiging stay at home mom. Nakita mo paglaki ng mga anak mo at kung paano sila naging mabuting tao sa paglaki nila kasi nakita nila kung paano ka bilang isang ina.
Tama po. Lahat hindi nagkakaroon nga ganitong chance masubaybayan ang mga anak, so I feel blessed ❤️
Trying to decide whether or not to have kids so I’m here. Some of these things stay at home moms do sound like stuff you have to do even if you’re not a mom (cleaning [less of it, obviously]). However, it’s like husbands assume they don’t have to do any domestic tasks and it’s 100% the mom’s job, which is unfair. That’s my worst nightmare - becoming an unpaid maid for a man. SAHMs work all day. It never stops. Husbands go to work and then they feel like they worked so they don’t have to do chores.
I spent years thinking I didn't want kids and had an abrupt change of heart 3 years ago. I am so, so thankful! Being a mom is truly the best and most fulfilling thing I will ever do. Praying for you in your decision💕
I needed to watch this video today.. all i can say is thank you.. and knowing that we are doing it just like many others out there makes the lonliness a bit bearable.
I’ve no words but wow wee amazing and thank you xxx
Oh My Gosh. Here I am feeling so lonely on this new journey, and feeling misunderstood. I became a SAHM at almost forty y.o. while living abroad with my family. No one understands my decision including family. Me a career girl, brave to live South America and live in my own in Europe at twenties. And now…
The thing is I never felt so exhausted, besides I’m doing digital marketing some hours while baby is sleeping. Also I never felt so realized as a human being, with a life with purpose, bonded to my child and husband. …accepting that tiredness, lack of energy and loneliness will be a part of my life for a while, is one of the most difficult thing. Also that I can’t control everything, for example last night baby couldn’t sleep for hours, the day today were with me and the house in a mess trying to put together at least food and emotional comfort for my little one. God bless everyone. SAHM keep going your work is Amazing, even if cultural and societal norms don’t acknowledge it. Thank you so much for posting it. I completely relate to you. Xx
I’ve been a stay at home for going on three years now. I never found myself to be happy up until I gave my life to Jesus. And I found so much peace at where I’m at as a stay at home mom. He delivered me and I found so much joy in being a mother of three. ❤
Don’t be a stay at home mom under any circumstances!
Don’t sacrifice yourself or your life for anyone NO EVEN FOR YOUR HUSBAND NOT EVEN FOR YOUR CHILDREN!
If you do, YOU WILL REGRET IT FOR THE REST IF YOUR LIFE!
You will be under appreciated by your husband and your children!
When your kids grow up and way to college, your husband will kick you out or tell to go get a job…sure after 20 years?
No matter what your husband says about him being able to support you and the kids….DO NOT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID. After a while he will degrade you and call you stupid shit infront if your children and then your children will become their dad.
I cook, I clean, i can him two boys, I do their laundries, I take them to their dr appts, I take them to school, I iron his work clothes, I mow the lawn, I washed the car, I take care of them when they are sick, I bought them their clothes, I do the grocery shopping on my own, I fix whatever maybe broken at home…
Before marriage, I told him I do not want children and he said that’s fine. After we got married, he said to me that I am not his family until I give him children. So I did. Not one but two boys who does well in school because I educated them, I took care of them made sure they always had breakfast before school, always on time, took them to their sprits practices and games…all the while stressed out while he comes home eats and watch porn got caught and blames and body shamed me …I am 120 lbs. he blames me for his porn watching because my body changed…this is after I gave birth the kids he wanted. Then he slept and paid a prostitute contracted std and then infected me and lied about it. Now he and the kids treat me like I am beneath them. I am have no job I have nothing he holds all the finances. I have nothing. I am constantly regretting and contemplating suicide. I tried to hide the pain but most days I just spent wishing for death to escape this lonely life. So please before you give in to your husband think twice about it because they do change no matter how good and faithful you are and they don’t care if you end up with nothing in the end.
🤗😢🙏💕 on the same path as you... I feel you! Don't do it though! You are strong and you deserve better! I hope you will soon find a way to live for yourself 🥰
@ thank you 🙏🏻. I cry everyday to relieve my pain and I pray for comfort to ease my sorrow. I keep busy with house chores as to not fall into negativity. There must be a purpose for me to still be here. I do live like I am on edge everyday. I feel sad that I wasn’t given a soulmate in this life. I spent most days alone and has become a prisoner and just riding out this life til god decides to take me. Although, I wanted suicide many times, something kept telling me not to that suicide would result in in hell so I am afraid. I know it sounds da rediculous but when I feel as low as I do I am still afraid of some things. I may not be happy at home with a partner who does not value live nor family. I still respect others around me and I would greet and smile to neighbors but that is my only happy moments..the kind interaction with kind people.
@@angelonearth8498 I could have written these exact words myself 🤗🤗 I honestly also started drinking a glass of wine most evenings just to try and numb my feelings a little, and I am ashamed of myself for getting to this as I condone it... For now, it helps a little. I certainly don't recommend it to anyone, just saying what I do, shamefully. I pray things improve for you somehow as I know how much it can hurt... You are not alone 🙏💕🤗
You were a REALLY good Mom who cared deeply for your kids! You're above the rest...and You have seriously been through REALLY tough times. P--- really really kills love, marriage, children, homes and women/men who make p---. It is NOT real, is all fake. I too found out my husband was addicted to p--- after our 4th was born. I foolishly thought he would simply stop. FF to a decade later (and lots of manipulating mental abuse/games) found out he hadn't stopped. Honestly? I was relieved because now I had solid grounds for a quick divorce. But this world is harsh and doesn't see it clear. So...I simply have to become wealthy... easier said than done because only 2% make it... but hell... I've already BEEN through so much s---, I might as well work hard to be 2%er. Dani Johnson, T. Harv Eker, Florence Shinn, Les Brown and especially Louise Hay are a start.... LISTEN TO THEM DAILY. You deserve to live a great life with a REAL gentleman...NOT an adulterer LOSER!! Same with me.
Your warning has not been wasted. I'm now quite terrified that my husband might do to me what he did to you. They are LIARS and not to be trusted ever. I know you will be rewarded. Like Job of old...you are in reserve for HUGE blessings after your Job like trial. I wasn't sure why I read the comments section... cuz as all moms know... I've got LOTS of things to do, but I really believe I was supposed to read your story. I'll pray for you with all the might that I have. My life line has been daily prayer, the Bible, the Book of Mormon another testament of Jesus Christ, His gospel His Church, motivational speakers prior to 2000 and kind clerk people at stores lol. I've had to cast out evil spirits many times from within with my faith in Jesus Christ....HE, the ultimate King of us all delivers. I love you. We will rise from the ash heap and turn into blessed creations!!!
You were a REALLY good Mom who cared deeply for your kids! You're above the rest...and You have seriously been through REALLY tough times. P--- really really kills love, marriage, children, homes and women/men who make p---. It is NOT real, is all fake. I too found out my husband was addicted to p--- after our 4th was born. I foolishly thought he would simply stop. FF to a decade later (and lots of manipulating mental abuse/games) found out he hadn't stopped. Honestly? I was relieved because now I had solid grounds for a quick divorce. But this world is harsh and doesn't see it clear. So...I simply have to become wealthy... easier said than done because only 2% make it... but hell... I've already BEEN through so much s---, I might as well work hard to be 2%er. Dani Johnson, T. Harv Eker, Florence Shinn, Les Brown and especially Louise Hay are a start.... LISTEN TO THEM DAILY. You deserve to live a great life with a REAL gentleman...NOT an adulterer LOSER!! Same with me.
Your warning has not been wasted. I'm now quite terrified that my husband might do to me what he did to you. They are LIARS and not to be trusted ever. I know you will be rewarded. Like Job of old...you are in reserve for HUGE blessings after your Job like trial. I wasn't sure why I read the comments section... cuz as all moms know... I've got LOTS of things to do, but I really believe I was supposed to read your story. I'll pray for you with all the might that I have. My life line has been daily prayer, the Bible, the Book of Mormon another testament of Jesus Christ, His gospel His Church, motivational speakers prior to 2000 and kind clerk people at stores lol. I've had to cast out evil spirits many times from within with my faith in Jesus Christ....HE, the ultimate King of us all delivers. I love you. We will rise from the ash heap and turn into blessed creations!!!
Sahm of 14-month-old twins and pregnant with #3.... thank you so much for making this video.
Thank you for this video. All this needed to be said and was right on. And if people dont think being a stay at home mom is a job, then i wonder what daycare workers do all day? Only they get paid.... and theyre not responsible for everything else, laundry, taking kids to appts, shopping, etc. Etc. Etc. And for the people who say, this is all the stuff you would need to do anyway... usually with stay at home moms, they do EVERYTHING. Since the other parent works and we are home with our kids, we do everything, or most of everything, so the other parent can just focus on work and being with the kids when he gets home. So basically, we are unpaid daycare providers, while we also do everything else for the kids, and everything for the house too. I am happy to say that most people who ive told im a stay at home mom, have given me compliments for doing that, but then there are people who think children shouldnt be raised at home with their mothers and should instead go to daycare.
Side note: im NOT bashing moms who choose to put their kids in daycare. Although its ideal to have the kids at home, sometimes daycare is just better for families, depending on the situation. Some moms literally cant handle not having any space away from the kids ever, and its understandable. Plus, financial reasons are sometimes a thing too.
With all that being said, i am SO GRATEFUL that I am a stay at home mom and I love being able to be the one who takes care of my kids full time!
I think as moms we try to perfect but we are only human too thanks for this video I'm a stay at home
Mom of five and here lately I've been impatient and feeling no sense of self anymore I have these moments like every few months but then I pull myself back together and that's all we can do being a mom and wife is a full
Time job and the single
Mothers salute to us all we got this
Thank you for sharing , really appreciate how honest and touching your message is 😊❤
Thanks you so much ❤️
Very well said april. Salute to all stay at home mom❤
Thank you so much. Take care too ❤️
I truly needed to see this today. Thank you for this video.
i feel you Ms April how hard it is to stay at home with the children. I stayed home for 4 months after i gave birth of my son, and i felt so sad when i have to go back to work. I have 4 children from teenager to an infant, and it felt like i am always on the go. i could never take a break, because i worry about everything. and when i went back to work,i looked back at the times i stayed home to be with my children, and those are my most happiest moments. how i wish i have that option to stay home and take care of my children,but we just can't afford it financially. just choose your battles. those dishes,laundry, dirt can wait. children grow too fast.
You are right. Everybody have their own challenges. We need to see the brighter side of every situation, working mom or SAHM, we are just doing what is fit and right for our situation ❤️
This touched my heart ❤ Thank you! A confirmation that I made the right choice.
I’d rather be a stay-at-home mom over a working mom any day! I don’t care what people would think.. I’m home and that’s all that matters.
İ cried 😢 im a stay at home mom also.. needs to give up my work to take care of our first born. But as you have mentioned its the most rewarding job in the world ❤
Aww, I feel you. Please always remember that you’re doing one of the noblest job in the world ❤️
I feel you ate april..pero blessed padin kayo kasi my complete family po kayo..stay strong po.
just take care and i know God will take care of you being stayed home mother
Thank you 🤗
I can totally relate about those assumptions from outside. They forget what is more important, to participate in the society and economy by paying taxes or to raise a good human being for their future generation. Being a mom is not easy. I am a new mom to a 2 year old, and I know I always forget to take care of myself, but I am not regretting it because I know what is more important for me.
True .... to be a home stay mom is very difficult.
It is hard but we got this 👌
Moms are amazing!!! There is no harder or more important work than bearing and raising a family!!! 💗🎉💗🎉
I feel like you just described me. Some days are SO hard. So much guilt and living off my husbands income. When I explain this to other people they think it’s silly because of how much I contribute to the family, toddler and house. But feels different to me. The struggle is real.
Very well said mommy April dto sa pinas mga bata pa nag aasawa na pagkatapos maghihiwalay din hindi nila iniisip na mahirap ang buhay may asawa dapat alam nila sa isat isa ang responsibilities nila pag nag asawa na thanks mommy April totoo po lahat ang sinabi mo sa vlog mo congratulations for you are such a great mom ❤❤❤
And i hope all moms will always remember na kahit minsan mahirap, we’re doing it all for our children ❤️ And yes its so important na ma educate yung mga new generation na getting into parenthood is really a big responsibility.
So true! Hardest job I've ever done. You said it so well. But wouldn't change it
Kudos to us moms!
Just got to a point where my partner can be a stay at home mom after 9 years (two kids, 9 & 4). She was working from home but got laid off around the same time my income was rising. The adjustment is tough, but thankfully I work from home and can quickly engage to help with chores, and I do all the cooking of dinners promptly after work and the grocery shopping at night or weekends. I’m doing my best to make her feel like it’s not all on her, but she’s struggling with our son wanting constant attention. It’s only been a month, so it’s still very early, but I can say it’s definitely not easy. I know she feels like others think “it must be nice”, but they have no idea. Some think they prefer to work, some would rather be home, but no matter your situation, it’s always hard. Work is hard, kids are hard. Just have empathy.
I assume Moms who work even part time and have more than 2 kids have help around the house from family, friends, or hired. Wow! Your house is kept really nice. Your husband and kids are indeed blessed. In Asia, it is typical to have "just" 2 kids. I am American and Crazily enough had 7 kids!! Not recommending this unless u have a big enough house and help / support.
You are right , we are judged no matter what decision we make , I am not a SAHM , but I’m glad for this real video not always glamorizing it and being honest , thank you for that ❤
I needed to hear this 😢 thank you!❤
Raising children IS contributing to society.
So needed …. Thank you ❤
April! You came in hard with the truth!!! Yes! Yes! Yes momma ❤
I was a working mom with my first one I used to work 10h at day 4-5 days at week in an Amazon warehouse. My first daughter used to be in a daycare all day. I thought motherhood was easy because all I used to do was sent my daughter away to be taken care of even when I didn't work. Then the weekends dad was home so I was not only my job. Now I am a stay at home mom to a 4 year old I never felt so dry and exhausted I am grateful but I wouldn't do it again never.
This is what i neded to hear,ive been a stay at home mom all thru this year....honestly i never thought i would wnd up like this😢but having to raise my child and be there for him has been soo rewarding and fulfilling to me❤today i felt abit down but this has shown me am doing a good job,am trying its not easy especially with our economy...i thank God for this season of my life😊😊😊
I have 3 kids and this couldn’t be more perfect
I so needed this today ❤ thank you ❤
Omw it's so overwhelming.to take care of home some times I help 3:08 my husband at job I come home do my mom duties and at end make dinnerl at times I need a hug and love .God gives me the strength through the time s that I feel I can't do it .God is my strength and my helper prayer is the helpline.
I needed this today, thank you
we work 24/7 and never get paid and have to ask for every tiny thing we need.
So therapeutic, thank you ❤️🙏🏽
I really needed this today!! Thank you!!
Thank you! I have never seen any of your videos before but I feel I was supposed to see this. I have been a stay at home mom since the beginning of the pandemic but before that I had been working since I was 15 years old which would be over half my life at this point. I often feel unheard, useless and unfulfilled and wonder if I should go back to work to bring more money in and if it would help me gain back any unfulfillment I am missing. But, my twins have thrived from me being a sahm. One twin has slight learning disabilities and was in need of speech therapy. He would not be where he his now if it were not for the scarcfices I have made.
I am thankful for my role and am able to at least make a little money doing customer service calls a few hours a day while the twins are now in kindergarten. Now if i could find another wfh job that would give me the flexibility I need and get me off this phone 😅. These customers are worse than my husband and kids sometimes.
I understand ❤️ thank you for this.
I work and take care of two kids, with help of hubby its very hard too I cannot imagine doing this full time lol glad he helps me
You said it so well!
I sold my 7 figure business to be a stay at home mom. I am enjoying this season in my life. I choose to focus on the positive; spending time with my kids, pouring into them. I am going to be creating content about putting life into perspective & cherishing the seeming mundane
Being a SAHM is very difficult, and like any job it takes time to learn and adjust. I have thought most of the things you spoke about. Although my house will never be as clean as yours haha!