Avoiding conflicts in relationships
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.ย. 2024
- Constantly avoiding conflict doesn’t preserve the relationship; it prevents it from reaching its fullest potential.
Whether it's the fear of being rejected, wanting to keep the peace, having unresolved issues from our past, or simply not knowing how to express ourselves... opting out of conflict might seem like the easier and safer option in the moment. But the thing is, consistently evading conflict is hindering our relationships more than helping them. When we avoid these challenging conversations, we’re missing out on invaluable opportunities to deepen our connections and truly understand one another.
Sometimes, it’s in the thick of disagreement and misunderstanding that we have the chance to lay our cards on the table, to share our innermost thoughts and feelings, and in turn, to see and understand our loved ones. And sure, being this vulnerable can be uncomfortable and downright scary sometimes, but it’s in this vulnerability that we’re able to build trust in authentic connections.
So, instead of steering clear from tough conversations, embrace them. View them as a pathway to stronger, more resilient relationships. Because at the end of the day, it's through overcoming such challenges together that we forge connections that are not just deep but are also enduring.
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Great video. These past few months has been an eye opener for me, the one I love, the one i cherish still Left me, I lost alot of friends because of her, she often said they were bad influence on me, and she still left me, i still love her and that is what hurts the most. Love sometimes is unexplainable and cruel
I feel your pain, Believe me I do, i was in a similar position, he left me, but i couldnt just let him go because i knew i was the cause of it, i chose my work over him and the kids, I didnt want to loose him, so i contacted a spiritual counsellor for advice on how to get him back and to my greatest surprise it worked out, she brought him back to me, and its been over a year and half, i have never been this happy
Thank you for this, I know i wasnt alone on this i often sit and think what i will become without her because i have no one else, I think i might just give this a try,how did you get in touch with him/her, if you do not mind me asking.
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
This level of emotional intelligence in a man is incredibly attractive.
I feel you there
Let me feel you
What on earth is this comments section
Lie. I've seen the sorts of guys you girls like
ayyoo take it slowly mister 🤫@@Hhhh22222-w
This needs to go viral
witnessing conflicts as a child put me in a "avoidance" stage in my teens. Now I know when its time to work through a conflict or when to reflect on it and then to work on it.
I realised, i shared a lot on your channel one after another, this channel actually helps when you don't realise you need it and it settles the mind. Thank you.
Super underrated account. I could live without the theatrical music but the way you explain things and your facial expressions.. I’m drawn to your shorts. Not even talking about the content thats hitting right home
This hits too close to home. My 3 year relationship ended because of this. Whenever I used to address an issue, my boyfriend used to get defensive. He used to say things like "Oh yeah, sure, it's all my fault". This made me not wanting to open upto him, which then led me to be emotionally distant. And when that happened, he broke up with me because he felt that I didn't love him the way I used used to.
I hope your video reaches more people to help them understand that conflict is not a blame-game.
Me and my family are like this. Peace above all they say, don’t start any conflicts, even if your sister does something to you don’t retaliate, because then it’s your fault for disrupting the peace.
Yes. Find someone who wants to have this conflict with you.
The real relationship with someone else was become stronger when it face conflict together.
Thanks for the advice, Matt!
Yes, 100% true. I talk with my girl about everything, and after we resolve something i always only love her more. Its the harder way but the right way
Facts! This man speaks truth we all need to hear
So true! The issue is, when you stopped avoiding the conflict because the individual is unable to discuss any such matters, and ends up blame shifting and gaslighting. Then, as a result, resentment builds in addition to the lack of all forms of intimacy.
A very good way to demonstrate the issue of disconnect
I have this problem with my housemate. We only share a little bit of common room, but mostly keep to ourselved and our own rooms. However, I like having things tidy and clean, he doesn't. It affects me a lot but I feel like I'm making too big a deal out of it. I don't talk to him about my feelings on this matter, so I haven't talked to him in weeks, I find it difficult to have any communication at all. I know what you're saying is true and I should fix this, but it's really hard and I keep finding excuses not to do it. It's exhausting me.
"I want problems always"
I never really thought of it that way. My parents fought all the time, so it was normalized to me to just take it and swallow the scream that comes with avoiding the conflict. I appreciate this! Thank you!
Wow …. This makes a ton of sense
Thank you 🙏
This is absolutely true
There's conflict and then there's mastering the delivery during conflict...because we all know that some thing's said can't be unsaid, and then it's too late to take it back !
Your words impact me i'm crying
How does one gain this type of wisdom 🧍♂️
Then follows resentment.
Exactly
Wow 😲 this makes things so clear
I wish I’d found your channel sooner.. hope we can mend things now
I wish my parents understood this, I'm just annoyed by them arguing and never listening to each other, both of them want to force their beliefs on each other and never listen to each other, I'm pissed but I can't do anything for them they have to figure it out themselves but I don't think they ever will.
Epic video !! Post !! 😮👏🏼👏🏼 thank you !!
So glad! You're so welcome!
unrelated but he looks like such a kind person, and an adorable guy
Guy! I just figured out from your vids I’m a people pleaser!! Dammit. How do I vacate!! Also there is this girl at work that uses me at her convenience. I do as she asks because I’m afraid I’m gonna need her help! Fudge. It’s a an cycle.
Amazing explanation, thanks
damm, that hits
You're very emotionally mature than I am at the age of 35.
This literally happened to be a few days ago and have recently sorted it and now I feel a lot better. This checks out.
Glad it got sorted out!
You are brilliant.
Dam MatPat is getting real
Love your videos wish I had a therapist like you. Keep up the good work
how to avoid conflicts in a relationship:
please don't 😶
Wow, I love this guy! His insight is amazing!
This is real good
So glad to hear it!!
When I avoid the conflict it’s because when I bring up my feelings or frustration of my husband looking at other women- and I mean staring- he says I’m crazy. He has no idea of what I’m referring to. He never did anything. I’m trying to force him to lie.
Really love the video he posts all the time
This was the issue with my dad. We got to the point where we only talked about sports or the weather. Sad to say we stopped talking before he died. I held his hand when he was in hospice but by that point there was too much built up and no time left. 😢
Very true.
It's like a pressure cooker. If you avoid conflicts, you're going to explode - eventually.
What if they hurt me, again, and leave me with nothing? You know, it's almost like avoidant people have their reasoning to behave like that
lol 😂😂
YOU are GREAT
hey dude, real question here. i think so deeply about everything. so much of this stuff you say is stuff i think about and really appreciate. how do you get your gameplan for each video? if you don’t mind me asking, like how do you figure out that THIS is the thing im gonna talk about to help people. i got all this stuff floating around my head all day and id love to make videos like this, but i wouldnt know where to start.
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Hi, Matthias!
Big fan.
I have this friend of mine who is very dear to me, but who seems to be avoiding me. I've been abroad for a year and we haven't kept much in contact with each other for that time. Now's been about 7 months since I got back from abroad, but we barely interacted outside of a handful of friend gatherings over tabletop gaming.
I really want to break out the question "Are you avoiding me?" but I don't want to sound accusatory or aggressive about it. Do you have any advice on how I should best approach him regarding this issue?
Many thanks!
Thank you therapist Andrew Garfield!
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Great video!
You should go viral but I need help to know how to move on from abuse
So how do you address the differences without making it seem we are too far apart because of those differences? Example being a neat freak and your partner ADHD messy person?
What happens after this conflict?
I just want out. I don't want a wife or a gf. I just want to be alone. Completely alone
Yeah he left me instead.
What about too much conflict
Should I do this in a friendship?
Petit biscuit is also nice
The analogy used is insanely fitting.
What do i do when the other Person ist so afraid/annoyed of conflict, that i can't Talk about situations that burden our Relationship?
...TH-cam has no business calling me out like this 💀
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Really out of context, but I just realised how well you could play kristoph (with a shaved beard and different hairstyle) in a frozen adaptation.
Don't shave the beard tho ;)
Is it bad to steal my cousin-white? That we should end-up together? But probably he is with her now... I can't accept!
Ooh I’m hesitant about tape analogies…. This isn’t a secret sexual purity ploy is it?😂
For some otherwise known as the break-up and make-up effect 🤔
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Nope. Not avoiding conflict. Allowing forgiveness
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Cowards are unworthy of “intimacy” and a few other aspects of life, too.
Very empathetic.
Everyone is worthy of intimacy, some people just need to work on themselves to have healthy relationships. A coward still wants to be loved, perhaps the lack of love in their life makes it more difficult to confront these feelings and learn/grow. When people like you give up on them when they're in a vulnerable moment of expressing their thoughts and feelings instead of helping them grow, they will feel more strongly about their feelings of loneliness and you will continue to live your life as a bitter, resentful person who lacks empathy.
@@hexoson the happiness from intimacy was unfamiliar to me. That's why it's getting darker for me to precieve the world and see that I'm not belong to anyone else and not worth of anything. It's fine at first, but when I seen it... It's...
Well, it'll be better soon. Hope you guys have a gentle life in future!
Do you know how loud i am.. You cannot get to heaven
Really out of context, but I just realised how well you could play kristoph (with a shaved beard and different hairstyle) in a frozen adaptation.
Don't shave the beard tho ;)