As a former (and forever recovering) porn addict, I can happily say Ive been porn and masturbation free for a couple years now. It definitely wasnt easy for those first few days, weeks, and even months, but eventually the cravings will subside, and your brain will re-wire. In fact, (in my case at least), when I do happen to stumble upon porn, its now sickening. I cant look at porn now without feeling disgusted on many levels, mainly for the thoughts and feelings I remember relating to my addiction and how it ruined my marriage, but also feeling empathy for the "performers" of the scene (we all know how detrimental the adult film industry is, especially to women). I preach a porn free lifestyle to anyone willing to listen, sadly most people dont see it as a problem until its too late (I myself was such an example). Keep up the great work, your videos are excellent!
Hi. Thanks so much for this comment. It’s really powerful. Congratulations! I’m so glad you’re able to experience the benefits of leaving porn behind. Thanks for inspiring others to do so also. Keep rocking it out! 🙌❤️🩹🙅♀️
Benefits from staying away from porn & fapping: 1. Increased cognitive abilities (clearer thinking, better memory, heightened senses, etc.) 2. More focus and strength. Even at 41, I feel my testosterone has increased and I'm utilizing it by weight lifting 3. More attraction from women. I'm a decent looking guy, but lately I've noticed women staring and smiling more. I think the preservation of your seed increases the energy aura around you and attracts others. Gentlemen, let's make a pact and end this habit for good and become the men God desires us to be!!!
There's no God mate. If there is this is not a good God. How about what we need this God needs to be for us. Like come down lay down the laws tell us what you want and give us the consequences and rewards, then there would be harmony and no problems anywhere.
@@TwoWheels_OOSounds like your perceptions of who God is, is mostly just the “God” you created from your own mind, that you can judge God or higher power without getting off your podium as numero uno? Either God is #1, the State/Government, or yourself, which begs the question of which one is for you? Everyone chooses either directly or indirectly by their choices, actions, beliefs, thinking etc.
This compulsive lifestyle killed my relationship and I lost the only person i have ever loved. But it took me losing her just so i could see why she left me, and also what i had to do to become my true self. I am now om day 25 and i will never go back, I strongly encourage everyone to do the same. Bless you Trish, for your work on informing the world!
I’m sorry you lost your love! Yeah I’m married and find myself watching poring maybe twice a week! I feel so guilty! Like crap! How did you stop with yt struggle??
I usually only make it til week 3 or 4 of no masturbation until my genitals start feeling weird.....like throbbing sensations internally, a feeling of having to urinate only I dont have to urinate it just feels like that, intense erections that wake me up out of my sleep sometimes. Its even gotten to the point where as a grown man, I've had "wet" dreams.
@@DrTrishLeigh Hi i have a question is there a correlation between compulsive masturbation and porn addiction in men that are lonely in order to satisfy their sexual needs because they don't have a girlfriend or a wife to have sex with?
@@DrTrishLeigh Hi i have a question is there a correlation between compulsive masturbation and porn addiction in men that are lonely in order to satisfy their sexual needs because they don't have a girlfriend or a wife to have sex with?
Everything this Women is saying is correct. Whoever is Defending Masturbation are too deep gone into that habit. Many of us have Excessive Masturbation that is the main issue its like our brain got hijacked by this addiction.
Well I don't agree entirely. I do think that in the ideal world there would be no need for masturbation and certainly it does cause mental (and sometimes physical) issues but... I don't think a lot of people would choose masturbation over sexual play with another person. As my friend once said "you only live once so why would I not masturbate if the alternative is doing nothing (sexwise) It makes you feel alive at least for a second". I'm not watching porn for a few years now and i rearly masturbate but did that by itself make my life better in anyway ? Maybe it did but i just don't see It. I'm not any less lonely or depressed because of that...
Thanks I needed this. I have been porn-masturbation free since the new year for 31 days now doc. I am so much stronger lifting more weight than before. I recently slipped up the last 2 days going back into the screen for short periods of time with no masturbation at all. I’m going for the entire month of February without going into the screen at all. Trying for month to month goals. Thanks doc I needed this 🦾🔥
Thank you doctor. Your channel really save my life.I am from Hong Kong and people in here are not much talking and caring about the harmfulness of masturbation and pornography.I hope you can keep making these videos and content to save more people like me.Props from HK!
Thank you for the kind words my friend! I do what I do in the hopes of spreading the right information so that future generations do not continue to suffer ❤️🩹
This video is well made, and dives into the issue in detail. It clarifies very well why lust can be such an issue. It's better than some of the videos I've seen that say just 'don't masturbate.' Two thumbs up here!
I first tried prayer and reading the Bible, but since this is a choice and we’re up Against a hijacker., we also need a power group who are going through the same thing. We as men can relate. I’m trying to do this without a personal counselor but I think this is going to be so hard alone. But she has hundreds of videos and I’ve been diving im so committed at this point. A year ago I went two months without being hijacked,but I had a counselor then (so called friend). Be careful who counsels,This Dr Leigh is the best I’ve found. It also has to be a desire to stop that is so strong because you see the failure that surrounds it. Jesus said if your eye or hand causes you to sin pluck or cut it off. But of course this is not literal. Each in their own timing God will create a way of escape. 1 Corinthians 10:13
After a rough separation and forced estrangement from my family , my ex had quietly had an emergency protection order placed on me which came apparent when the police showed up on my doorstep to serve me the paperwork. The allegations were contrived but there was no way I could fight this as she refused to go to court to hear my pleading innocence. This caused me to slide into a profound depression with anxiety and hypertension. My perception of relief was to drown myself in pornography and self pleasure. This eventually led to ED with a partner and DE unless stimulated by porn. 7 years now I’ve been struggling with this hell. I’ve seen urologists and sex therapists but after viewing these videos the light came on. Hopefully I’m on the right track to recovery. This now makes sense that I sought comfort in the wrong place I have now have a plan and see the cure on the horizon
Hi friend. I’m really sorry to hear about your life story. I’m glad you’re here and you are on the right track. If you want to learn how to train your brain join my new program brain training 101. I would love to help you even more. Keep rocking it out. ❤️🩹🙅♀️🙌 drtrishleigh.com/brain-training/
Dr Trish I’m really glad I came across your channel I’m young man who’s 21 tryna improve his life! Thank you so much for these videos I’m tuned in!!! 2024 my year💪🏽🏆
I have to say, that I am moving towards healthier sexual life, but...I am shocked by impact on sleep and mood. I have no problem with drugs or alcohol. I drink 2-3 coffees a day thou. I am simply on a episode with a little sleep depravation and no ability to get bored in peace....Weirdly to say. Yes. I am unable to get bored and then I am looking for "those" sites. I am pretty sure that I have to find some interesting thing to stay busy.
The whole point of this is having a normal romantic relationship with a partner. What happens when the formula does not have a partner in it from the first place? What if I am not ready to have a partner and have a healthy sexual relationship with? What would I do with my urges? I will stop porn. I will stop excessive masturbation. But is it that bad to indulge from time to time? I am am genuinely asking because I used to be all or nothing in NoFap. I did 90+ streaks more than once and I have seen the benefits. But I eventually get sexually frustrated and get thoughts of releasing in a destructive way. Is it really a bad way of release to masturbate (without porn and in regulation)?
If you don't have a partner, that's okay! People don't need to be in a relationship or be having sex to live a happy and fulfilling life. However, when you quit porn and develop a healthier mind and body, you'll be able to attract a partner much easier. As for the urges, they're usually a call for dopamine. An especially strong urge means you need to get dopamine from another source such as hobbies, exercise, or spending time with loved ones. The more on purpose you are in your life, the less urges you'll get
@@DrTrishLeigh first of all thank you for your reply. So what you’re saying is I should aim to eliminate self stimulation (with or without porn) entirely? And that is possible by filling my life with what you’ve mentioned like hobbies and etc? Is that even possible? I mean sexual desire is a desire in the end of the day. It’s like you’re telling me if I’m thirsty I should just distract myself until it goes away. It’s just what I’ve observed over the years because I’ve mentioned I have been on NoFap for a good amount of time. For reference I’m 24, study, work part time and workout a lot. So I’m not ‘purposeless’ so to speak. It’s just having a healthy relationship is not an option right now
Very informative I’m 21 battling with this I feel it’s cuz of my addiction to porn but I am going to stop it because this happened all of a sudden to me after years and years of masturbation but I’ll be good I still think and get hard ons my ocd always pushes me back to watch porn to see if I have a problem or not and at times I get hard and have a wank but I’ve seen it’s not helping and will only make things worse If the mind is not right no pill or supplement will work I’ll put in the work and abstain from all of that
Crazy when u reap the benefits like you said at 7:20 but ther's still an urge to just give that all up for that dopamine hit even though you're aware of it all. Don't fight it cuz you'll get tired but create new habbits and keep busy
Hey there, here in Algeria the gov banned the porn website access but people are finding ways out 😢 .. really pornographic is slowly killing peoples mind
I just want to feel something sometimes, havent been with anyone for a long time (been with a few women in my life) and dont want a relationship. But yes its true, last 2 weeks i havent care and watched P while havent done much if any in the last few months.
I did stop watching porn for a year maybe or so and that is after watching your videos thank you 🙏 but I can't stop masturbation and I'm married for more than 30 years now!!!
What about being in a sex less marriage. So no sex from your spouse or self gratification. What is one to do.? Seek out a affair? Doesn't make sense, even when it's suppose to .
Mike, sex is a big part of a marriage. If your spouse will not go with you to counseling to figure out what is the root cause of the no sex marriage get a divorce because she has already divorced you emotionally.
Hello, I am 22 years old and I'm addicted to porn and masturbation. I have been trying to rid myself of this addiction since I was 11 or 12 years old. I have read a lot of information and articles about porn and masturbation. You have very good knowledge. "When you decide to stop masturbating, you will suffer in the first month, then your brain will improve."(you dont said but i understand this :) ) It's very true.
I did it once in a while when I was younger. I didn't start doing it regularly until after I got married...and ended up in a sexless marriage getting rejected all the time. Solo is pretty much the extent of my sex life. She doesn't want to so I have no other options. It didn't develop in childhood. It developed as a direct result of marriage and forced celibacy.
I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER HUSBAND. She’s saying don’t masterbate and don’t have sex. Having sex is suppose to be the greatest joy in life. If we were still living in nature it would be our biggest joy by far. Thousands of years ago it was all we had to look forward to. Should dolphins stop masterbating too?
Hi dr.Trish...If i am trying to heal from PIED and i go past the 90 days is it okay for me to start mindful masturbation?(of course not every day but when i feel i need it)
If you can go without it, I would recommend holding off, but if you feel it can benefit you on your journey, follow the meditation masturbation rules and continue to be cautious!
@@DrTrishLeighi want to do it cause i read that it can help people with erectile difunction and you can benefit by it in a lot aspects of your sexual life...is it true Dr.Trish?...Also thanks for your answer i appreciate it a lot!
@@DrTrishLeigh also i have one more question Mr.Trish...i am 68 days clean but yesterday i saw a porn scene on my dreams while i was sleeping....does it count as something wrong?
This should be a middle school curriculum mandatory. WOW! The most comprehensive explanation about any human and masturbation. Good,bad or otherwise. This covers it like I’ve never heard before. I totally understand the thought connection that leads to my own experiences. Even more now, lack of knowledge on these processes,especially pre teen, can literally carve the path in life you tread, and not even know it’s happening. Decisions,fears,confidence in the hunter gatherers, all controlled by hidden guilt, religious oppression, chronic masterbation . It can wreck a kid who’s living in constant turmoil,uncertainty,upheaval,flat out daily fear. Great video Doc!!!
Would quitting porn & masturbation help me get a girlfriend? I’ve always considered myself charming and relatively good looking but since my last breakup at 18 I have been single (22 now). I had a bad weed addiction which I kicked almost 2 months ago and I’m 7 days of porn. Any advice ?
Exercise also gives one a release of dopamine. I would like to see a balanced presentation not a one-sided viewpoint that seems assumption based. What are the comparatives for example, between dopamine release during masturbation versus exercise? At what level does a dopamine release become unhealthy? What scientific evidence/research is there to show this? I hear what seems to be opinion here, the idea that people use masturbation "not to feel bad" - but the opposite could also be true, that many people use masturbation to "feel good". Do we have any stats on this or is this merely opinion? If people use masturbation to help them get through the day, is this really any different than people using coffee to get through the day?
I have many other videos that go over these points! However, yourbrainonporn.com is a great resource to check out for those who are looking for research and statistics
@@DrTrishLeigh possibly you do, it would be helpful to link studies in this video that support your position as it's unlikely many people would wish to search for them since time is valuable. Some of the other points made in this video stretch credulity such as rewiring the brain, etc. I only watched this video at the recommendation of a friend, not due to personal interest per se. I would posit having an attractive spouse might do the same to one's brain, and is this unhealthy? Or is it better to have a less attractive spouse?
now i get it, saying to someone that mastubation can be healthy is like saying you can have a glass of wine once in a while, not considering that person could be an alcoholic. It does make sense. Thanks for the support, greetings from Brazil.
This is great Dr. Leigh, my only recommendation is to use an alternative word for “Supra-normal”. I’m assuming that’s what you’re intending to say, but it sounds like “Super Normal”, and even the CC shows “Super Normal”. But when talking about a level 15, on a scale of 0-10, 15 is anything other than super normal 😂
What advice do you have for men that are unable to attract women because they physically unattractive? I would love to develop a normal sex life, but that’s impossible if I can’t attract women. Let’s be real, looks matter and will determine the type of sex life you’ll have. This is something that I have struggled with all throughout life which is why I have a compulsive masturbation addiction.
I'm a bit older, so I have had a lot of real sex to build that highway in the brain, but I was looking at porn for the last several years, thinking it was fine, and porn adjacent, girls on social media like Instagram and all that. I thought I had some incurable sudden onset ED. After 7 days of giving up porn and any sexual stimulus that isn't my wife, we were able to have sex again and I didn't even need a pill. I can only imagine this keeps getting better. I suspect why I am seeing rapid positive results is that I didn't really get into porn until my 20s, and by then I had already had sex. These young guys who discovered high speed internet porn first, I feel bad for them. From now on the only sexual stimulus I get is from my wife. I find it is easier for me to be creative in art and writing by not looking at porn and not masturbating too. All around better.
When I started watching porn In 1992 it was hard to access. They had it in magazine stands and the clerk would yell at us get away from that unless 18. Now it's super easy to access porn.
Some of us are unwanted, we are unloved, we have no chance of having a partner, women don't want us so there is no chance of love or intimacy. A w..k is all that is left
You are always capable of love! You would be surprised at what a healthy mind can attract. I am sorry you feel unwanted, but I'm here for you and I have full faith that amazing relationships are in your future ❤️🩹
I have been having the worst sleep in my life.. it’s porn and masturbation.. I have to cut it out just to see if my sleep irritability and anxiety goes down..
What if masturbation is a product of self love when natural love ceases to exist. Without love all there is is lust. Animals aren’t able to critically think… if we keep going the way we are going we won’t be able to critically think either.
I’am going bro start myself without porn for a whole week! If I can ! Then I’ll push myself to go longer!! It’s not easy because I’am married who doesn’t get that affection
You're my pathfinder for this addiction, I will overcome this with my Second Amendment rights, fun, and my video game fun. Not only am i dealing with this, but I'm also abstinent, so double whammy
Hi Dr Trish, i recently had a break up with my 5 year girlfriend and decided to now work on myself and start no fap, semen retention and quitting porn.. my performance in real intimacy was good (only few times of erectile dysfunction and no premature ejac). However since i started the healing journey i relapsed once after 3 weeks and i ejaculated super quickly in just seconds.. this is scaring me, will i develop PE after the 90 days healing journey or whenever i start a new relationship? Please let me know as i didn't find an answer anywhere! 😢
When going through the recovery journey, your body is going to do all sorts of weird and uncomfortable things. It may be difficult in the moment, but keep going strong and it WILL get better
I think people should be left to do what they like since most people can’t find or accepted by partners and the world is overly sexualized so what can people do. Instead of committing crimes let them do what pleases them and makes them happy. Life is very short.
Hi im not sure if u read comments from a 2 month old video.im finally realizing im having a problem with pied.im a week strong atm but im still reading erotic responsive literature[erotic ai bots] but not masturbating Is this still a no go as my brain is reading unrealistic fantasy events?
I started with one week, now I don't even think about porn, or self pleasure, I know I haven't made it all the way through, but your videos are very useful.
Iam on day 37 of no fab no masterbation I feel more happy I enjoy in doing small thing as seeing trees or birdes or feel the winds ❤ This habit was destroying me , thank you dr Trish for every thing 🙏🏻
Great video Dr. Some good points about what we are doing to our natural bodily functions. What advice would you have about having groin pain after 2 weeks of abstinence?
Try the church and the Bible to put purpose to some of that loneliness. Look at Noah who built an ark by himself and Moses who didn’t have a plan to oppose the Ramsey holding the Jewish people in bondage until he way up in years, look to Joseph who was sold into slavery of his brothers but spent years in prison for a crime he didn’t commit but came back through for telling the dream of the king to save seven years of crops during the abundance so they would have enough during the seven years of drought. He literally became second to the king and perhaps during a period of waiting God has something greater for you.
I did nofap for a year (2016-17) and have never been the same since then. Really difficult to get an erection. I don't know if nofap is what caused it or maybe it was something else, so don't take this as some sort of rule. I know many others have had long streaks and did fine. I'm still trying to figure it out. Probably going to start a new long term streak now, just to see what happens. This time I'm going to avoid basically all screen stimulus, since my use of p*rn and to a much larger degree social media pics/videos has gotten really bad over these years as I need those, combined with physical stimulation, to respond. (prior to having ED I seldom used p*rn) I also have stopped with ASMR, as this is something I started consuming during my nofap streak and often wonder if it messed up my pleasure receptors etc. since it's something I'm very sensitive to.
Probably youre no longer turned on by the screen like me. Have sex. I wonder if nofap lowers testoserone but im doing it anyway. And I think ASMR is fine but then I dont know, I only like Diddly now so don't watch it much
That's because nofap isn't a real solution. You're masking your issues with celibacy and distracting yourself. You're trading one sexual dysfunction with another. Do you think the Romans did nofap? Drop the porn, always use lube and learn to have a healthy relationship with your sexuality.
Me too man when I don’t have a girlfriend or a sexual partner and and I’m only masturbating to porn I feel whenever I stop for a week or two that i don’t have any erection I gotta see a doctor I guess
I've gone 30 days without masturbation several times (I've gone nearly a year without porn) and I have never felt this return to baseline she is talking about. I'll try the 90 days but I'm pretty sure it will just be the same thing.
When your brain heals you feel different. Likely you have experienced some of the unwired, but not rewiring of your brain toward the healthy pattern. What I speak of is real. Give it a try my friend.
I’m trying to undo over 20 years of damage. I’m doing much better these days. I’m predicting this no fap thing will grow exponentially as more and more addicts are created
I'm 48, male tried no fap it 11 months ended up with ED able to ejaculate but everything's gone soft. What do I do now? Im like this years That advice gotten me in a seriously bad situation
As a former (and forever recovering) porn addict, I can happily say Ive been porn and masturbation free for a couple years now. It definitely wasnt easy for those first few days, weeks, and even months, but eventually the cravings will subside, and your brain will re-wire. In fact, (in my case at least), when I do happen to stumble upon porn, its now sickening. I cant look at porn now without feeling disgusted on many levels, mainly for the thoughts and feelings I remember relating to my addiction and how it ruined my marriage, but also feeling empathy for the "performers" of the scene (we all know how detrimental the adult film industry is, especially to women).
I preach a porn free lifestyle to anyone willing to listen, sadly most people dont see it as a problem until its too late (I myself was such an example).
Keep up the great work, your videos are excellent!
Hi. Thanks so much for this comment. It’s really powerful. Congratulations! I’m so glad you’re able to experience the benefits of leaving porn behind. Thanks for inspiring others to do so also. Keep rocking it out! 🙌❤️🩹🙅♀️
Can I play videogames instead of masturbate? Or videogames is an unhealthy activity too?
How to contact you doctor?
*how is your erection now?*
Thank you for your inspiring testament
Benefits from staying away from porn & fapping:
1. Increased cognitive abilities (clearer thinking, better memory, heightened senses, etc.)
2. More focus and strength. Even at 41, I feel my testosterone has increased and I'm utilizing it by weight lifting
3. More attraction from women. I'm a decent looking guy, but lately I've noticed women staring and smiling more. I think the preservation of your seed increases the energy aura around you and attracts others.
Gentlemen, let's make a pact and end this habit for good and become the men God desires us to be!!!
There's no God mate. If there is this is not a good God. How about what we need this God needs to be for us. Like come down lay down the laws tell us what you want and give us the consequences and rewards, then there would be harmony and no problems anywhere.
@@TwoWheels_OOit’s called the Ten Commandments
@@TwoWheels_OO Read the Bible, everything is there. If man followed the Bible, there would be no problems mate.
Hi @@soundcheck2k7
@@TwoWheels_OOSounds like your perceptions of who God is, is mostly just the “God” you created from your own mind, that you can judge God or higher power without getting off your podium as numero uno?
Either God is #1, the State/Government, or yourself, which begs the question of which one is for you? Everyone chooses either directly or indirectly by their choices, actions, beliefs, thinking etc.
Protect this Woman at all costs…
I’m into 70 days of breaking this bad habit of porn and masturbation. So proud of myself. Thanks for making these videos.
This compulsive lifestyle killed my relationship and I lost the only person i have ever loved. But it took me losing her just so i could see why she left me, and also what i had to do to become my true self. I am now om day 25 and i will never go back, I strongly encourage everyone to do the same.
Bless you Trish, for your work on informing the world!
Bro, how can you do that when you"re in a realtionship,?
I thought maybe I do this because I don't have partner.
I was on 103 days PMO free now I relapsed becoz of deep and hard depression
I'm so happy to hear you're in recovery! Thank you for sharing
@@PeBeOI is it really a relapse when it only happens once? Just pick yourself up and keep going
I’m sorry you lost your love! Yeah I’m married and find myself watching poring maybe twice a week! I feel so guilty! Like crap! How did you stop with yt struggle??
I usually only make it til week 3 or 4 of no masturbation until my genitals start feeling weird.....like throbbing sensations internally, a feeling of having to urinate only I dont have to urinate it just feels like that, intense erections that wake me up out of my sleep sometimes. Its even gotten to the point where as a grown man, I've had "wet" dreams.
"Nobody knows how to be bored anymore." This is so true Trish!! Keep spitting those facts!!💯
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@@DrTrishLeigh Hi i have a question is there a correlation between compulsive masturbation and porn addiction in men that are lonely in order to satisfy their sexual needs because they don't have a girlfriend or a wife to have sex with?
@@DrTrishLeigh Hi i have a question is there a correlation between compulsive masturbation and porn addiction in men that are lonely in order to satisfy their sexual needs because they don't have a girlfriend or a wife to have sex with?
Everything this Women is saying is correct. Whoever is Defending Masturbation are too deep gone into that habit. Many of us have Excessive Masturbation that is the main issue its like our brain got hijacked by this addiction.
Well I don't agree entirely. I do think that in the ideal world there would be no need for masturbation and certainly it does cause mental (and sometimes physical) issues but... I don't think a lot of people would choose masturbation over sexual play with another person. As my friend once said "you only live once so why would I not masturbate if the alternative is doing nothing (sexwise) It makes you feel alive at least for a second". I'm not watching porn for a few years now and i rearly masturbate but did that by itself make my life better in anyway ? Maybe it did but i just don't see It. I'm not any less lonely or depressed because of that...
Can you please share how you’re getting through this issue? I’am married! Yea I struggle
You definitely spitting facts, I was hooked!
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Thanks I needed this. I have been porn-masturbation free since the new year for 31 days now doc. I am so much stronger lifting more weight than before. I recently slipped up the last 2 days going back into the screen for short periods of time with no masturbation at all. I’m going for the entire month of February without going into the screen at all. Trying for month to month goals. Thanks doc I needed this 🦾🔥
I’m wit u 2days strong so far
Now there is no need for it. Just guard for days where you feel disappointed or very down.
Its not so automatically connected with pornography as people easily assume.
Doctor what are you afraid of?
I love to hear it! Thank you for sharing
Thank you doctor. Your channel really save my life.I am from Hong Kong and people in here are not much talking and caring about the harmfulness of masturbation and pornography.I hope you can keep making these videos and content to save more people like me.Props from HK!
Thank you for the kind words my friend! I do what I do in the hopes of spreading the right information so that future generations do not continue to suffer ❤️🩹
This video is well made, and dives into the issue in detail. It clarifies very well why lust can be such an issue. It's better than some of the videos I've seen that say just 'don't masturbate.' Two thumbs up here!
Thank you for the feedback! I appreciate it
So its bad to masterbate per the Dr and yourself?? SAD that you don't understand what masterbating can help your all well being!!!!!!
2months free now i pray to be consistent
Can you ply share how your successful with no porn?? I’m struggling
Good luck
@@geno5169 i deleted telegram and TikTok places where i could likely see those rubbish including Facebook at a time
I first tried prayer and reading the Bible, but since this is a choice and we’re up Against a hijacker., we also need a power group who are going through the same thing. We as men can relate. I’m trying to do this without a personal counselor but I think this is going to be so hard alone. But she has hundreds of videos and I’ve been diving im so committed at this point. A year ago I went two months without being hijacked,but I had a counselor then (so called friend). Be careful who counsels,This Dr Leigh is the best I’ve found. It also has to be a desire to stop that is so strong because you see the failure that surrounds it. Jesus said if your eye or hand causes you to sin pluck or cut it off. But of course this is not literal. Each in their own timing God will create a way of escape. 1 Corinthians 10:13
After a rough separation and forced estrangement from my family , my ex had quietly had an emergency protection order placed on me which came apparent when the police showed up on my doorstep to serve me the paperwork. The allegations were contrived but there was no way I could fight this as she refused to go to court to hear my pleading innocence. This caused me to slide into a profound depression with anxiety and hypertension. My perception of relief was to drown myself in pornography and self pleasure. This eventually led to ED with a partner and DE unless stimulated by porn. 7 years now I’ve been struggling with this hell. I’ve seen urologists and sex therapists but after viewing these videos the light came on. Hopefully I’m on the right track to recovery. This now makes sense that I sought comfort in the wrong place I have now have a plan and see the cure on the horizon
Hi friend. I’m really sorry to hear about your life story.
I’m glad you’re here and you are on the right track.
If you want to learn how to train your brain join my new program brain training 101. I would love to help you even more.
Keep rocking it out. ❤️🩹🙅♀️🙌
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Dr Trish I’m really glad I came across your channel I’m young man who’s 21 tryna improve his life! Thank you so much for these videos I’m tuned in!!! 2024 my year💪🏽🏆
I love this! Keep rocking it out my friend! 💪🏼
Sorry, my ED was caused by Meds, Haloperidol injections 25 mg per 28 days over time.
I have to say, that I am moving towards healthier sexual life, but...I am shocked by impact on sleep and mood. I have no problem with drugs or alcohol. I drink 2-3 coffees a day thou.
I am simply on a episode with a little sleep depravation and no ability to get bored in peace....Weirdly to say. Yes. I am unable to get bored and then I am looking for "those" sites. I am pretty sure that I have to find some interesting thing to stay busy.
please tell me how much masturbation is TOO much
The whole point of this is having a normal romantic relationship with a partner. What happens when the formula does not have a partner in it from the first place?
What if I am not ready to have a partner and have a healthy sexual relationship with? What would I do with my urges?
I will stop porn. I will stop excessive masturbation. But is it that bad to indulge from time to time? I am am genuinely asking because I used to be all or nothing in NoFap. I did 90+ streaks more than once and I have seen the benefits.
But I eventually get sexually frustrated and get thoughts of releasing in a destructive way. Is it really a bad way of release to masturbate (without porn and in regulation)?
If you don't have a partner, that's okay! People don't need to be in a relationship or be having sex to live a happy and fulfilling life. However, when you quit porn and develop a healthier mind and body, you'll be able to attract a partner much easier.
As for the urges, they're usually a call for dopamine. An especially strong urge means you need to get dopamine from another source such as hobbies, exercise, or spending time with loved ones. The more on purpose you are in your life, the less urges you'll get
@@DrTrishLeigh first of all thank you for your reply. So what you’re saying is I should aim to eliminate self stimulation (with or without porn) entirely? And that is possible by filling my life with what you’ve mentioned like hobbies and etc?
Is that even possible? I mean sexual desire is a desire in the end of the day. It’s like you’re telling me if I’m thirsty I should just distract myself until it goes away. It’s just what I’ve observed over the years because I’ve mentioned I have been on NoFap for a good amount of time.
For reference I’m 24, study, work part time and workout a lot. So I’m not ‘purposeless’ so to speak. It’s just having a healthy relationship is not an option right now
@@whitewolf2265bro in my opinion u should date multiple women at the same time. and build the rotation.
So how long does it take to rewire the brain? When will I know I'm cured? I don't have a partner, so it's not like I can test it lol!
To late lady. How do I get myself back on course?
Am trying to get back my life as well my guess don’t even look or use the phone much anymore or social media period.
I just began to watch these interesting videos. I am 78 years old and one of them that began doing this when I was ten. Thank you, Doctor Trish.
Very informative I’m 21 battling with this I feel it’s cuz of my addiction to porn but I am going to stop it because this happened all of a sudden to me after years and years of masturbation but I’ll be good I still think and get hard ons my ocd always pushes me back to watch porn to see if I have a problem or not and at times I get hard and have a wank but I’ve seen it’s not helping and will only make things worse
If the mind is not right no pill or supplement will work
I’ll put in the work and abstain from all of that
I really needed this! I appreciate your help! Love your advice!
Crazy when u reap the benefits like you said at 7:20 but ther's still an urge to just give that all up for that dopamine hit even though you're aware of it all. Don't fight it cuz you'll get tired but create new habbits and keep busy
Greetings from Venezuela, South America.
Hey there, here in Algeria the gov banned the porn website access but people are finding ways out 😢 .. really pornographic is slowly killing peoples mind
12 years and counting without sex or masturbation.... Life is amazing..!!! I feel pity for people who are so desperate for sex and masturbation..
I just want to feel something sometimes, havent been with anyone for a long time (been with a few women in my life) and dont want a relationship.
But yes its true, last 2 weeks i havent care and watched P while havent done much if any in the last few months.
Thank you so much Sweetheart this really helped me so much....God Bless you 😘
I can't stop....I'm married!
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Only masturbation is bad but sex is good? Modern days contradictions?
I’m married and stopped watching porn 3 years ago. It boosted my sex drive and caused a 3rd child unexpectedly 😂😂.
I did stop watching porn for a year maybe or so and that is after watching your videos thank you 🙏 but I can't stop masturbation and I'm married for more than 30 years now!!!
You talk a lot about depression too but I heard of depressive people that found porn to be a relief for them.Can you explain that?
What about being in a sex less marriage. So no sex from your spouse or self gratification. What is one to do.? Seek out a affair? Doesn't make sense, even when it's suppose to .
Mike, sex is a big part of a marriage. If your spouse will not go with you to counseling to figure out what is the root cause of the no sex marriage get a divorce because she has already divorced you emotionally.
Thank you very much. What I heard from YOU today is straight from your heart and sank right in
So no porn do I just become a non sexual person
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Hello, I am 22 years old and I'm addicted to porn and masturbation. I have been trying to rid myself of this addiction since I was 11 or 12 years old. I have read a lot of information and articles about porn and masturbation. You have very good knowledge. "When you decide to stop masturbating, you will suffer in the first month, then your brain will improve."(you dont said but i understand this :) ) It's very true.
not mastubating could lead men for unhealthy relationship or rapes ?
This is great biological science based on reality,and so well presented thank-you Trish keep it locked 🔒...
You mean like in chastity locked
I did it once in a while when I was younger. I didn't start doing it regularly until after I got married...and ended up in a sexless marriage getting rejected all the time. Solo is pretty much the extent of my sex life. She doesn't want to so I have no other options. It didn't develop in childhood. It developed as a direct result of marriage and forced celibacy.
Lazy I experienced some similar feelings of married life but I at least have 3 kids. My wife is still at the pedestal of why I have a family still
This should apply for women too.
Great information very practical and by the way you look stunning!!
I FEEL SO BAD FOR HER HUSBAND. She’s saying don’t masterbate and don’t have sex. Having sex is suppose to be the greatest joy in life. If we were still living in nature it would be our biggest joy by far. Thousands of years ago it was all we had to look forward to. Should dolphins stop masterbating too?
Sex is great! Just not when coupled with fantasy or pornography
Great video, good work💯💯😎😎. You're very beautiful and have beautiful eyes💯💯💯😎. Great information.
I had some bullying in school! My self-esteem was so low! I’m married now! But it’s still low! I even tried some things when I was younger! Not drugs
Hi dr.Trish...If i am trying to heal from PIED and i go past the 90 days is it okay for me to start mindful masturbation?(of course not every day but when i feel i need it)
If you can go without it, I would recommend holding off, but if you feel it can benefit you on your journey, follow the meditation masturbation rules and continue to be cautious!
@@DrTrishLeighi want to do it cause i read that it can help people with erectile difunction and you can benefit by it in a lot aspects of your sexual life...is it true Dr.Trish?...Also thanks for your answer i appreciate it a lot!
@@DrTrishLeigh also i have one more question Mr.Trish...i am 68 days clean but yesterday i saw a porn scene on my dreams while i was sleeping....does it count as something wrong?
This should be a middle school curriculum mandatory. WOW! The most comprehensive explanation about any human and masturbation. Good,bad or otherwise. This covers it like I’ve never heard before. I totally understand the thought connection that leads to my own experiences. Even more now, lack of knowledge on these processes,especially pre teen, can literally carve the path in life you tread, and not even know it’s happening. Decisions,fears,confidence in the hunter gatherers, all controlled by hidden guilt, religious oppression, chronic masterbation . It can wreck a kid who’s living in constant turmoil,uncertainty,upheaval,flat out daily fear. Great video Doc!!!
Would quitting porn & masturbation help me get a girlfriend? I’ve always considered myself charming and relatively good looking but since my last breakup at 18 I have been single (22 now). I had a bad weed addiction which I kicked almost 2 months ago and I’m 7 days of porn. Any advice ?
Keep up the great work
Exercise also gives one a release of dopamine. I would like to see a balanced presentation not a one-sided viewpoint that seems assumption based. What are the comparatives for example, between dopamine release during masturbation versus exercise? At what level does a dopamine release become unhealthy? What scientific evidence/research is there to show this? I hear what seems to be opinion here, the idea that people use masturbation "not to feel bad" - but the opposite could also be true, that many people use masturbation to "feel good". Do we have any stats on this or is this merely opinion? If people use masturbation to help them get through the day, is this really any different than people using coffee to get through the day?
Apparently she only replies to the comments that are on her side.
I have many other videos that go over these points! However, yourbrainonporn.com is a great resource to check out for those who are looking for research and statistics
@@DrTrishLeigh possibly you do, it would be helpful to link studies in this video that support your position as it's unlikely many people would wish to search for them since time is valuable. Some of the other points made in this video stretch credulity such as rewiring the brain, etc. I only watched this video at the recommendation of a friend, not due to personal interest per se. I would posit having an attractive spouse might do the same to one's brain, and is this unhealthy? Or is it better to have a less attractive spouse?
now i get it, saying to someone that mastubation can be healthy is like saying you can have a glass of wine once in a while, not considering that person could be an alcoholic. It does make sense. Thanks for the support, greetings from Brazil.
This is like a therapy session for me becoz this habit affect my behaviour with others. Thanku so much ma'am
This is life. Gotta use it before you lose it.
This is great Dr. Leigh, my only recommendation is to use an alternative word for “Supra-normal”. I’m assuming that’s what you’re intending to say, but it sounds like “Super Normal”, and even the CC shows “Super Normal”. But when talking about a level 15, on a scale of 0-10, 15 is anything other than super normal 😂
What advice do you have for men that are unable to attract women because they physically unattractive? I would love to develop a normal sex life, but that’s impossible if I can’t attract women. Let’s be real, looks matter and will determine the type of sex life you’ll have. This is something that I have struggled with all throughout life which is why I have a compulsive masturbation addiction.
I'm a bit older, so I have had a lot of real sex to build that highway in the brain, but I was looking at porn for the last several years, thinking it was fine, and porn adjacent, girls on social media like Instagram and all that. I thought I had some incurable sudden onset ED. After 7 days of giving up porn and any sexual stimulus that isn't my wife, we were able to have sex again and I didn't even need a pill. I can only imagine this keeps getting better. I suspect why I am seeing rapid positive results is that I didn't really get into porn until my 20s, and by then I had already had sex. These young guys who discovered high speed internet porn first, I feel bad for them. From now on the only sexual stimulus I get is from my wife. I find it is easier for me to be creative in art and writing by not looking at porn and not masturbating too. All around better.
When I started watching porn In 1992 it was hard to access. They had it in magazine stands and the clerk would yell at us get away from that unless 18. Now it's super easy to access porn.
Very well said! Thank you for sharing
It's a wonderful insight for mental control. Really helpful. Thank you so much!!
I'm glad I've come across you. Indeed. Good job!
Thanks. I’m trying to help. 💪🏻🧠🙌
Some of us are unwanted, we are unloved, we have no chance of having a partner, women don't want us so there is no chance of love or intimacy. A w..k is all that is left
You are always capable of love! You would be surprised at what a healthy mind can attract. I am sorry you feel unwanted, but I'm here for you and I have full faith that amazing relationships are in your future ❤️🩹
Just watched your podcast, very informative, thank you!!
As a professional porn addict i can confirm the title is true.🗿🗿
I have been having the worst sleep in my life.. it’s porn and masturbation.. I have to cut it out just to see if my sleep irritability and anxiety goes down..
Really admire and love your work ❤❤
Watching this video because I’m bored 😐 after work and love that this topic is being addressed by a female
What a great way to fill your time! This is huge! Keep rocking it out ❤️🩹
Does frequent masturbation reduce vitamin D? Does it increase the hormone prolactin?
What if masturbation is a product of self love when natural love ceases to exist. Without love all there is is lust. Animals aren’t able to critically think… if we keep going the way we are going we won’t be able to critically think either.
Seems like she’s making way too big of a deal about it. I’ve never heard any of this.
A lot of information on this channel can be hard to digest at first!
I’am going bro start myself without porn for a whole week! If I can ! Then I’ll push myself to go longer!! It’s not easy because I’am married who doesn’t get that affection
You're my pathfinder for this addiction, I will overcome this with my Second Amendment rights, fun, and my video game fun. Not only am i dealing with this, but I'm also abstinent, so double whammy
Hi Dr Trish, i recently had a break up with my 5 year girlfriend and decided to now work on myself and start no fap, semen retention and quitting porn.. my performance in real intimacy was good (only few times of erectile dysfunction and no premature ejac). However since i started the healing journey i relapsed once after 3 weeks and i ejaculated super quickly in just seconds.. this is scaring me, will i develop PE after the 90 days healing journey or whenever i start a new relationship? Please let me know as i didn't find an answer anywhere! 😢
When going through the recovery journey, your body is going to do all sorts of weird and uncomfortable things. It may be difficult in the moment, but keep going strong and it WILL get better
I think people should be left to do what they like since most people can’t find or accepted by partners and the world is overly sexualized so what can people do. Instead of committing crimes let them do what pleases them and makes them happy. Life is very short.
Hi im not sure if u read comments from a 2 month old video.im finally realizing im having a problem with pied.im a week strong atm but im still reading erotic responsive literature[erotic ai bots] but not masturbating
Is this still a no go as my brain is reading unrealistic fantasy events?
I started with one week, now I don't even think about porn, or self pleasure, I know I haven't made it all the way through, but your videos are very useful.
This women is doing business. Even sexually healthy guys might think they have a problem after watching her videos!
Thankyou so much Dr Trish. This was needed, a reality check.
Iam on day 37 of no fab
no masterbation I feel more happy I enjoy in doing small thing as seeing trees or birdes or feel the winds ❤
This habit was destroying me , thank you dr Trish for every thing 🙏🏻
Great video Dr. Some good points about what we are doing to our natural bodily functions.
What advice would you have about having groin pain after 2 weeks of abstinence?
I’m 295 days free now stoped cold turkey. But my wife enjoys when we do it together is this ok?
I love your videos trish
i been little by little recovering myself from this trap. May god keep blessing you!
Try the church and the Bible to put purpose to some of that loneliness. Look at Noah who built an ark by himself and Moses who didn’t have a plan to oppose the Ramsey holding the Jewish people in bondage until he way up in years, look to Joseph who was sold into slavery of his brothers but spent years in prison for a crime he didn’t commit but came back through for telling the dream of the king to save seven years of crops during the abundance so they would have enough during the seven years of drought. He literally became second to the king and perhaps during a period of waiting God has something greater for you.
So glad this popped up ... needed this.
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Complete BS!!
Is masturbation a spiritual problem
I have tried to stop this
But keep on seeing myself in to it
Do you do any 1 on 1 coaching I could use your help or a mentor. I’ve been addicted for a long time.
they say masturbation helps prostate cancer.
I did nofap for a year (2016-17) and have never been the same since then. Really difficult to get an erection. I don't know if nofap is what caused it or maybe it was something else, so don't take this as some sort of rule. I know many others have had long streaks and did fine. I'm still trying to figure it out.
Probably going to start a new long term streak now, just to see what happens. This time I'm going to avoid basically all screen stimulus, since my use of p*rn and to a much larger degree social media pics/videos has gotten really bad over these years as I need those, combined with physical stimulation, to respond. (prior to having ED I seldom used p*rn)
I also have stopped with ASMR, as this is something I started consuming during my nofap streak and often wonder if it messed up my pleasure receptors etc. since it's something I'm very sensitive to.
Probably youre no longer turned on by the screen like me. Have sex. I wonder if nofap lowers testoserone but im doing it anyway. And I think ASMR is fine but then I dont know, I only like Diddly now so don't watch it much
That's because nofap isn't a real solution. You're masking your issues with celibacy and distracting yourself. You're trading one sexual dysfunction with another.
Do you think the Romans did nofap? Drop the porn, always use lube and learn to have a healthy relationship with your sexuality.
Me too man when I don’t have a girlfriend or a sexual partner and and I’m only masturbating to porn I feel whenever I stop for a week or two that i don’t have any erection I gotta see a doctor I guess
These are great ideas! Quitting porn often goes beyond not watching explicit content. Eliminate anything that causes you to fantasize 🙅♀️
I've gone 30 days without masturbation several times (I've gone nearly a year without porn) and I have never felt this return to baseline she is talking about. I'll try the 90 days but I'm pretty sure it will just be the same thing.
When your brain heals you feel different. Likely you have experienced some of the unwired, but not rewiring of your brain toward the healthy pattern. What I speak of is real. Give it a try my friend.
Spitting straight facts!! Hahahahaha Subscribed Dr.
I’m trying to undo over 20 years of damage. I’m doing much better these days. I’m predicting this no fap thing will grow exponentially as more and more addicts are created
I agree!
Thank you.
Find JESUS he cns save and you set you free
Religion can definitely be a big help to many people!
can't get blond on a foundation brush thanks again
Hi Dr. Trish, have you heard of HOCD ?
I don’t know how else thank you Doc
Wouldn’t have to if I had you
When you quit porn and masturbation, you'll be surprised how easy it is to attract new partners, socialize, and develop relationships!
Doc, you are a gift from God, thank you
Hi Dr.Trish I need help.
This is working maybe if you have a relationship but if you're single it is more complicated
Love your videos
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13:27 she spittin straight fax 😂😂
You’re mad gorgeous 😌💯
I'm 48, male tried no fap it 11 months ended up with ED able to ejaculate but everything's gone soft. What do I do now? Im like this years
That advice gotten me in a seriously bad situation