10 Ways to Stop Lusting (w/Dr. Trish Leigh)

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  • @UsualCase
    @UsualCase 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    The tendency for this issue is to see it in a negative, shame-inducing light. If you’re able to change your perspective to see it as an opportunity to live life with the dignity and respect that Dr. Trish is talking about, you will dramatically change your results. We all deserve to treat ourselves with respect, and not experience the inner shame and turmoil of addiction.

  • @maurocontreras
    @maurocontreras 3 ปีที่แล้ว +321

    So in summary:
    1st Step (3:05) : Start building self-awareness.
    2nd Step (3:32) : Transition from seeing body parts to a whole person instead.
    3rd Step (5:23) : Establish eye contact.
    4th Step (5:40) : If dopamine flow starts, give yourself ONE LONG breath.
    5th Step (6:32) : Bring yourself down to reality.
    6th Step (7:12) : Stay vigilant on the life that you are creating.
    7th Step (8:29) : Stay OFF the slippery slope (the danger zone).
    8th Step (9:42) : Get into a group (externalise and talk about it).
    9th Step (10:42) : Stay 100% COMMITTED.
    10th Step(11:20) : Get a coach.
    AWESOME video, thank you so MUCH Dr. Trish !!

    • @syedmaaz9337
      @syedmaaz9337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Thanks for the short summary!

    • @mohamedaboujokh370
      @mohamedaboujokh370 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      imagine all this for a thing like this, technology has screwed our lives in many forms, it enriched us with information but it screwed pour psychology, its the age of psychological illness

    • @jetjames420
      @jetjames420 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This human brain really appreciates seeing the info visually mapped like that, so thanks chump!

    • @PhillDrakeEntertainment
      @PhillDrakeEntertainment 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      powerful tips

    • @banglaanimeproject9036
      @banglaanimeproject9036 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for the short summary good human. ☺️ @Mauro pavel

  • @postalservice6517
    @postalservice6517 3 ปีที่แล้ว +151

    1 Corinthians 6:18✝️
    "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body."

    • @grantpenton1850
      @grantpenton1850 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, be a successful monk and avoid women completely, castrating yourself if possible.

    • @fredferd2649
      @fredferd2649 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      religious mumbo jumbo.

    • @fatherdamien69
      @fatherdamien69 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      the bible is trash

  • @TexasLbk
    @TexasLbk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +205

    Your a blessing and have Christ centered beliefs without naming him .. thank you for helping men & woman that have been hijacked by their own carnal nature or demon influences.. ‼️🔥🔥🙏🏽

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

      You’re welcome. I try to stay tapped into spirit if you know what I mean.

    • @Rahul_bishnoi108
      @Rahul_bishnoi108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Not only Christ but all religion preaches morality, discipline as its core
      Love from a Hindu

    • @tofferarvid6589
      @tofferarvid6589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ppl don't understand the demons that we can get unknowingly from our partners.. they could have demons from there old partners or like me I was being cheated on and I'm sure I was getting demon transfer from her and whoever she was cheating with...

    • @tofferarvid6589
      @tofferarvid6589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's not just porn either it's media in general society teaches lust even to children... The jezebel spirit is real and I see these little girls wearing clothes that they most certainly should not be wearing... We are partially accountable for the thoughts we provoke and thoughts are powerful this is one of the biggest issues with society

    • @tofferarvid6589
      @tofferarvid6589 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Lust takes practice so in the same way since you have been practicing for so long it's second nature we can also practice saying no to those thoughts.... Practice makes perfect I was addicted to heroin for many years and went to lust for that same feeling only to find that it was as if not more toxic then the heroin... But like heroin it takes time and trial and error to quite because we are all different and we all need to do things the way we need to do them that suits us

  • @dailydoseofmedicinee
    @dailydoseofmedicinee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Avoid drugs and alcohol

    • @sashasiobud4793
      @sashasiobud4793 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      and other addictions as well !

    • @redjonnyboy00
      @redjonnyboy00 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Except Psychedelics.. those help break addiction

    • @bobcat24
      @bobcat24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@redjonnyboy00 How so?

    • @redjonnyboy00
      @redjonnyboy00 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bobcat24 look it up

    • @thinlaybhutia7493
      @thinlaybhutia7493 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      If you can't avoid those stuffs then you can't quit porn,coz all these addiction are inter related.

  • @Garbs9430
    @Garbs9430 3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    Lusting vs noticing … Billy Graham once said “the first look is not lust; it’s the second look that is lust.”

    • @jasonwilliams8321
      @jasonwilliams8321 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thank heavens for that second look. Otherwise none of us would be here.

    • @tonethetallbaldy5039
      @tonethetallbaldy5039 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's a great way of thinking about it.

    • @azizkash286
      @azizkash286 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jasonwilliams8321 sadly, I hope all humans just stop reproduction

    • @chrismccaffrey8256
      @chrismccaffrey8256 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@jasonwilliams8321 There's a difference between lusting and being genuinely attracted and engaging with them, which leads to being together and having kids. This video is purely about our sexual addiction and lust when we see someone only in a sexual light.

    • @jasonwilliams8321
      @jasonwilliams8321 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@chrismccaffrey8256 I agree with you you. What I take issue with is the stupidity of the statement made by Billy Graham which aims to throw a guilt trip on every one dealing with our natural God given gift of sexual attraction. Historically in its teachings the church has always tried to divorce marriage from the sexual attraction aspect. There are some people who can start out with little to no attraction to someone and develop it over time. To others like myself it is an on or off switch. It’s either there or it’s not. Part of the problem is that the church is never quite clear on just what lust actually constitutes. When Christ said that when a man looks upon a woman lustfully he has already committed adulatory in his heart, taken literally would implicate every man whoever walked the face of the earth in that at some point in our relationships we will be considering them as future sexual partners.

  • @thhanh1003
    @thhanh1003 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I will probably thank you many times again, but you have helped me so much, I can't express how grateful I am to you dr.

  • @saifalikhan1816
    @saifalikhan1816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    thank you Trish! I really appreciate the tough efforts you undertake for the community. My best wishes to you. Keep striving, keep smiling.

    • @abhishekpatra7954
      @abhishekpatra7954 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How's your English so good?

    • @saifalikhan1816
      @saifalikhan1816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@abhishekpatra7954 A little practice and a lot of privilege :)

  • @ellisjackson3355
    @ellisjackson3355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    I've experienced both lusting and just noticing women. And let me tell you. Just noticing them is way better. Way better way to live. You have more control over yourself and they have no control over you.

    • @iJuanGutierrez
      @iJuanGutierrez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Indeed !

    • @tmbrtn7107
      @tmbrtn7107 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Right on bro - I gave away my power to women for so many years, allowed myself to become seduced so many times. I have a wife now and want to use my power to improve our lives instead.

    • @ellisjackson3355
      @ellisjackson3355 ปีที่แล้ว

      @tmbrtn7107 congrats hope the marriage lasts till the wheels fall off

  • @thauso1362
    @thauso1362 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You found how to serve others. You are blissed.

  • @stevenpaulescu3645
    @stevenpaulescu3645 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    A BIG thank you for this video ! Lusting was once a big problem for me for years. Fortunately that is not exactly the case right now. Basically now I'm able to look away, but my mind kinda struggles to do so even after minutes. I hope that these tips help me get over this hurdle and get more in purpose with my life.

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      You’re welcome. I’m very glad to be able to help you. I’m glad that you have had success in overcoming list and are moving forward. The tips will help you. Rock them out.

    • @mikebloodofodin799
      @mikebloodofodin799 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@DrTrishLeighShe said list heeehewwww😂. Me too, I wanna overcome list.. My lust for you babee will never die eawwwwwwwww. Looking all sexy on da internet. You drive me crazy wit Dem purdy lips.. I ain't said nuthin illegal right. I isn't breaking no laws. Just telling yuz how I feel... Bein open an honest... An babee I izz feeliiiinnnn uuuuu❤❤❤😘😘😘

  • @ronniep1376
    @ronniep1376 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Just recently discovered your channel! I’m very grateful I did . I am 61 and have had a problem with lusting since my teenage years ! It’s an addiction I realize now how it has controlled my life. I never acted out on it but mentally it controlled me . As a Christian , the shame sometimes was overwhelming. After listening to a few of your videos , I realized even after all this time , it can be defeated . I have prayed for these chains that bind be broken and allow me to be set free! My Lord has done that and I’m thankful. I just want to thank you for helping me to see how harmful and detrimental it is to a person. It changed me, I wasn’t the person I knew I should be, I wasn’t the person people thought I was . That’s over , It’s still a struggle from time to time , but I want to see women as another human being going thru life just like myself. A persons thought life is very powerful! Thank you so much!

    • @Hugo-zx9hv
      @Hugo-zx9hv 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Tenha a certeza de que Deus o ama muito. Sou cristão, mais propriamente sou Testemunha de Jeová, e sei que Jeová o ama muito. Apenas pelo fato de admitir essa circunstância da sua vida. Deus é muito maior do que os nossos corações e sabe todas as coisas. De certa forma, você, com a sua experiência, fez-me lembrar o que o apóstolo Paulo escreveu e ficou registado na Bíblia para nossa aprendizagem.
      Romanos 7:14-25

    • @ronniep1376
      @ronniep1376 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen!!

  • @jaylinn416
    @jaylinn416 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is one of the most fascinating channel on TH-cam. Thank you for sharing these professional insights!!

  • @allanwalli2935
    @allanwalli2935 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Met a couple some time ago and the situation made it extremely crazy triggering. Did all the first five steps and they worked! Also broke it down with a close friend(#8). Its a huge step to see that you do not automatically have to be victimized by lust, it can be controlled. Staying off that slippery slope aint easy for me though. I can remember some downblouse incidents from years ago, right back to age 13. Scary stuff.
    Great discussion Dr. Trish👍👍💗💗💗

  • @MyNewLife770
    @MyNewLife770 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thank you for this video! I just finished day 8 on my no fap journey but the last few days were horrible with lusting after every woman I saw! I was going to give these tips a try because I have been more of a luster/fantasizer than needing to watch porn but this afternoon I began my flatline. I will definitely keep this video in mind as I want to keep those dopamine levels down at a natural level. I had no idea how badly this lifestyle was keeping me from the lifestyle I want. It's a little depressing that I have wasted 40 years on this but I know I won't be wasting anymore!

  • @FulcrumK
    @FulcrumK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    Day 111. I don't remember what pornography is anymore. 😉

    • @andahtheo4237
      @andahtheo4237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Any tips

    • @humblefrank1085
      @humblefrank1085 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Congratulations

    • @David-sq6ep
      @David-sq6ep 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      wow...!!! You are the man!
      Today Im on Day 89
      WE GOT THIS GUYS!

    • @andahtheo4237
      @andahtheo4237 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@David-sq6ep if I can do 30 days I will be a hero

    • @David-sq6ep
      @David-sq6ep 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@andahtheo4237 YOU CAN MY MAN! I used to relapse every 3 days. After a year. I'm on my way.

  • @dannybenhur6123
    @dannybenhur6123 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

    Lust is indeed primary the cause, where it all started.

  • @ramdhiwakarseetharaman5989
    @ramdhiwakarseetharaman5989 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I really wish I had seen this 5 years back when I was 19... Would have led to to continue to love someone more better

  • @LedByGrace
    @LedByGrace 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Well done. If a person truly wants to stop lusting, these steps are excellent to follow. Helps also to have faith in God. Call on the Holy Spirit for guidance and strength. As a man, it’s hard not to look and I catch myself still wandering but…the steps help to pull you back quickly, I have learned a lot but still not there 100% yet.

  • @tripledotter9520
    @tripledotter9520 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your "matter of fact" approach makes me always return.

  • @raheemallen2003
    @raheemallen2003 3 ปีที่แล้ว +511

    Jesus can give us the strength to overcome lust 💯🙌

    • @Bsalazar9877
      @Bsalazar9877 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Amen

    • @josephbolden2769
      @josephbolden2769 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Old age works too. Lol.

    • @ilustradorel-javi5566
      @ilustradorel-javi5566 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      really, the doctor "liked" this comment? This is a huge red flag for me. Encouraging "Jesus" as a self-awareness and self-control method is fuckt up.

    • @Bsalazar9877
      @Bsalazar9877 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@ilustradorel-javi5566 Jesus is real brotha he died on cross for your sins and he is willing to forgive u and let u live forever if u trust in him and repent 💯🙏if u don’t believe me just seek him your self u will find out he is real he broke my porn addiction and he can do the same for you

    • @ilustradorel-javi5566
      @ilustradorel-javi5566 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Bsalazar9877 I'll seek him if you seek the word of Darwing!

  • @Lordfinessse
    @Lordfinessse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I have some knowledge, but have used a tragedy to allow myself to fall weak when it comes to lust, anger and other negative spiritual states. While I might feel justified, only I lose. Thank you for bringing an energy of love and true desire to guide and see people recover, even if it does not mean more clients for yourself.

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      There is beautiful insight into this comment. I just made a video about this topic that will be out soon today. Look for it… It might help you.

    • @Lordfinessse
      @Lordfinessse 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DrTrishLeigh thank you Dr Trish, in just a few days your videos have helped a lot. I will look out for it.

  • @kmigellano
    @kmigellano 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Thanks for this! I need this very much! I used to relapsed because of lustful thoughts. I can let go porn but lustful thoughts is what I struggle the most. At first, why I keep relapsing until I realized it’s because of the things I’ve been thinking about and how I look at other people. I’ll remember this tips! My journey will continue with a better weapon against this nasty habit.

    • @sololegit
      @sololegit 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I too struggle with this. I'm not really sure how to fill up all the time that I spent thinking of those things. Not really sure what else to think about.

    • @Ot-ej5gi
      @Ot-ej5gi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@sololegit I recommend watching Jordan Peterson's Bible lectures series. Very thought-provoking, life-changing, and therapeutic.

    • @lifelonglearner2285
      @lifelonglearner2285 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @sololegit Remember the whole reason why you took up this journey. Remember we have to make up for all those things that we missed due to PMO. Remember that these habits and thoughts are the things that held you back from your dreams, from being the best version of yourself. And man, there's nothing better than actually connecting with another person, it's far powerful than lust or sex.

  • @rafaelclemente5175
    @rafaelclemente5175 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Hi Trish. I really appreciate your dedication for helping people like me to quit Pornografy from my life. One more time, Thank You so much and God bless all your life long!!!

  • @jwm1893
    @jwm1893 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    One important thing to remember is lust is not love. Lust says make ME happy. Love says I want to make YOU happy.

  • @ngabonzizajonathan9282
    @ngabonzizajonathan9282 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I'm really thankful for your solid counsel

  • @Tezzz223
    @Tezzz223 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Huge Respect for the impact your making in the world. We've been waiting for you.

  • @neilbeech4093
    @neilbeech4093 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for this Dr. Trish!

  • @davidhunter4208
    @davidhunter4208 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thanks Dr Trish. I have struggled with lust and porn for many years and feel the shame as being a Christian. Your videos are helpful. This is my first day of trying to be rid of it

    • @NunyaBizness2k
      @NunyaBizness2k 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bless you brother. The struggle is real, but so is the solution 😀.

  • @heynow7363
    @heynow7363 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Now 70 comments. This video really hit home after work today. With all the comments I think you have found a topic that needs more discussion. Thanks for your work!
    Here is an example of normal noticing you...I can tell you like the color blue and your blouse looks really good. You kind of camouflage into your room, ha. Your hair, the floor, the road in painting, and the ground under the dancing chicken nuggets almost match the tan stripe in blouse, too.
    Hmm, I'm seeing nuggets in paintings, better go eat now.
    Thanks for your videos again. I think you are helping a lot of us.

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Those are trees my friend… But I definitely see how the hungry brain could see chicken nuggets 😜.
      That’s a lot of wonderful noticing. I know, I thought that shirt was cool because it matched my office.
      You are right this topic needs more diving into.

  • @billdoty6438
    @billdoty6438 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Your hitting exactly more my issue than porn. I got rid of any type of porn 20 years ago. This has still been my battle and I know it all stems from being sexually abused all of my teenage years. He rewired my brain from a normal teenager to a sex addict. This is exactly the advice I need to hear and apply and I’m going to. It is a process, one day at a time, even down to one situation at a time. Every time you turn away is a little victory. I live in the north where it’s cold half the year and everyone is wearing more clothes. The tough time is summer. I live just blocks from one of the Great Lakes and like to walk down and try to enjoy it when weather is nice. But that is when women are wearing the least clothing. My goal is to still go there and test myself to see if I pass. If I struggle, then I guess I never go to the beach again. This really sucks, I hate this battle. But at the same time I’m determined to beat it because I do want to be a person of integrity. Thank you so much again Dr. for this life changing video
    😢

    • @lavarball7538
      @lavarball7538 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Good luck brother in Islam we are told to lower our gaze as men, that alone can fix it all

    • @kiril12944
      @kiril12944 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      porn addiction ≠ lust 🤦

    • @kiqueenbees
      @kiqueenbees ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why not say, 'hi sister', and then respect for her is established.

  • @randont
    @randont หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great videos! Thank you Dr. Trish!

  • @guygeorgesvoet4177
    @guygeorgesvoet4177 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The brain lights up, Dr. Trish, as the "one ring (the dopamine circle) to bind them all" of Sauron. Frodo feels anxiety with the ring in his pocket as he goes through the world towards Mordor to get rid of it in Mount Doom. So that is when he looks at it to get consolation and that is when Saurons eye spots him. The ring lights up in his eye, in his brain and in Saurons eye. When i feel a worldly lusttrigger, i go "oh, oh, the ring lights up" in three places at least. I remember the whole symbolic of the ring narrative, and it puts me on the alert, towards my brain/flesh, towards the world that triggers, towards "Sauron" who searches me out now. Most helpful narrative to live in. The ring lights up IN the brain....😂 This was some very helpful real good advice, dear doctor. May deer always greet you.

  • @josephtee8911
    @josephtee8911 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wow! You just described me to a T. Scary. Been this way since I was a kid looking up the kindergarten teachers dress. Was able to kick drug and alcohol addictions but never this. 63 now and still fighting it but never winning for long.

  • @LeviW2892w
    @LeviW2892w 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great tips. Thanks for the reminder!

  • @Xscape128
    @Xscape128 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    This is one of the root problems. Impulse control

    • @mrzombie1780
      @mrzombie1780 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Internet is another root

    • @jepeuxautoworld4769
      @jepeuxautoworld4769 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      True

    • @jepeuxautoworld4769
      @jepeuxautoworld4769 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Am recovering from porn addiction

    • @tomdonald2495
      @tomdonald2495 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes impulse control. But thats it. Control your impulses but there is nothing wrong with getting an impulse.

  • @AlphaCrucis
    @AlphaCrucis 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yeah so,
    1. I am very self aware,
    2. it isn't just body parts but the entire person that gets to me,
    3. eye contact does help if it's someone you must talk to,
    4, 5. breathing and grounding yourself helps if you can also get away from the person,
    6. integrity is easier said than done when it comes to this,
    7. staying off the slippery slope is why I used to walk around college campus with my head down all the time and why I don't go out except to buy things I can't buy online. Eventually I'll have the freedom to live alone out in the middle of nowhere without this danger,
    8. maybe an online text only group could help if I could find one,
    9. meh,
    10. sounds like a bad idea to pay for something I'm not motivated enough to want to fix in the first place, even if I get to use text only. Easier to get nowhere by being depressed on the internet binging "educational" youtube vids and vent with comments that are toxic enough that no one should bother reading them.

  • @TheHanford87
    @TheHanford87 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Thanks for the advice I will definitely put your advice into action cause I struggle with porn addiction

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi friend. It will help. 🙌❤️‍🩹🙅‍♀️

  • @guillermo9896
    @guillermo9896 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really learned a lot about my self with this video. Thank you so very much.
    God bless you.

  • @bryang949
    @bryang949 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are amazing Dr Trish!!! Thank you!! 😍

  • @krisscanlon4051
    @krisscanlon4051 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am posting here randomly so because it looks like a good video. Simply put I hated it and after years of MH treatment I stopped due to my chemical addiction. I now stop also cause I'm older and more mature. Wow this is a good video.

  • @davidstein9129
    @davidstein9129 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great vid.
    Thanks Dr. Trish

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re welcome, my friend. 🙌🙅‍♀️

  • @ravagetime
    @ravagetime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    My fiance and I go to a small box gym instead of the big box gyms that the show-offs go to. This has helped avoid lust.

    • @zeal4god402
      @zeal4god402 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow, amen, wise shift!

    • @Jacobtaylor1775
      @Jacobtaylor1775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Make the even better switch to a home gym! Then it’s just you and your fiancé! I have a home gym and it’s great, I don’t have any(booty) to look at but my wife and she doesn’t get stared at by anyone( but me) lol

    • @ravagetime
      @ravagetime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Jacobtaylor1775 First I need a sufficiently sized home to do that.

    • @zeal4god402
      @zeal4god402 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Jacobtaylor1775 AMEEEEEEEN Jacob. Enjoy each other to the fullest. I pray the best romantic quality marriage for you two 🏋‍♀️👫😁

    • @Jacobtaylor1775
      @Jacobtaylor1775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@zeal4god402 Thanks! I appreciate that! Thank God for His grace!

  • @bradleybutters1511
    @bradleybutters1511 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Only way u can stop lusting and sex addiction by praying and stay in the word of God ask the holy spirit for spiritual strength to overcome this lustful addiction.

  • @TB-fk4qm
    @TB-fk4qm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great Great Video!! ❤️

  • @kingvegeta420
    @kingvegeta420 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, your videos are a huge assistance on this journey

  • @davidrodda7427
    @davidrodda7427 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A great video on lust Dr Trish. I keep away from the beach,as girls bathers are so brief

  • @arnoldlautt
    @arnoldlautt 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very well said thank you

  • @kredofill8051
    @kredofill8051 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I come here to quit porn addiction.
    And what I got?
    An addiction to this channel:)

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes! Welcome to the journey 💪

  • @TB-fk4qm
    @TB-fk4qm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great video! ❤️

  • @gra6799
    @gra6799 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Cultivating self control yields many fruits...

  • @andrewschapel
    @andrewschapel 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video. Thanks

  • @stevetrivago
    @stevetrivago ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Absolutely… Lust vs Freedom.. I chose freedom… I’ll leave guilt, shame and self loathing for stronger men… I’m free… The biggest stumbling block was the one I didn’t want to let go of…. What a revelation this has been… great work Dr. thank you 🙏🏼
    Stay out of strip clubs…. If you hang out at a barbershop 💈 long enough you’re gonna get a haircut…

  • @jong3404
    @jong3404 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish Dr. Trish was my personal coach.

  • @Saberbourn-u6s
    @Saberbourn-u6s 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I've already watched a lot of your videos. And I'd like to say thanks for your support. However, I noticed those funny trees. I don't know why I consider them funny, yet they are for me. I often wonder if those trees have some connection with a porn addiction, lust, masturbation, or brain. Have they?

  • @kenklee4
    @kenklee4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Dr. Leigh. I’m in a 90 day group program with a mentor. Your tips are so profound and new to my world. I am learning so much about myself in my own lust, porn and masturbation addictions.

  • @spikemobile1ify
    @spikemobile1ify ปีที่แล้ว

    Your videos have helped my tremendously.

  • @gregorrob3764
    @gregorrob3764 ปีที่แล้ว

    Whatever you are saying is absolutely true 💯

  • @Valkyrae2__
    @Valkyrae2__ 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    As a Christian I'm gonna quit porn today

  • @_Trakman
    @_Trakman 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    9:43 - i was told by Dr Robert Glover to talk about my shame in a group setting.
    What groups do you guys recommend?

    • @Jacobtaylor1775
      @Jacobtaylor1775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I go to a group called Celebrate Recovery. I got my 4 month no porn chip yesterday. It’s a Christian group and it’s been great.

    • @fredferd2649
      @fredferd2649 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Atheist groups.

    • @martinevans1206
      @martinevans1206 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don’t listen to that muppet!

  • @blaketone_
    @blaketone_ ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you; you have amazing insight! 🎉

  • @Ashepnasty
    @Ashepnasty ปีที่แล้ว +2

    After doing 6+ years in prison… it’s so hard not to lust after an attractive woman, but I strive every day. 😅

  • @Dub_97
    @Dub_97 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is lusting voluntary or involuntary?

  • @MeBaba597
    @MeBaba597 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dr. Trish I just wanted to let you know you’ve really helped me to get out my must destructible behavior that is my porn addiction and I’m in 4 months in semen retention. I’m now learning to overcome lust and this video helps a lot. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

  • @xingYang-lg9bv
    @xingYang-lg9bv 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    我真的很感谢你,让我大彻大悟,让我了解到了色情的危害,thanks

  • @gregoriorobles8961
    @gregoriorobles8961 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi, it is me again. I start watching your channel and you are very professional about it. I guess im looking for a tough talking clergymen who will condemn provocative, individuals who keep sex as part of their arsenal.

  • @J1997-j7x
    @J1997-j7x 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks for doing the good work of sharing these tools with us, in the community of recovering people from these horrible conditions. ❤️‍🩹

  • @rodrigogcoritiba
    @rodrigogcoritiba ปีที่แล้ว +3

    this video is great! Only thing missing is how much lust happens online with tinder, instagram and parasocial relationships with celebrities or influencers

  • @alinawazthaver
    @alinawazthaver ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Thank you so much. Lovely lady.

  • @thecster5196
    @thecster5196 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dr Trish! I have been constantly getting this ad from someone called pinnicalofman. Who has very unrealistic and hard to believe claims about quitting porn threw something called the HCT method. Have you seen him before? Are his claims false?

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I have heard of him and we are going to be speaking soon about exactly what you are talking about here. He has invited me to record a video with him. So stay tuned.
      Unfortunately there is no magic formula to get over this stuff quickly. It takes a plan, discipline, and time to rewire your brain.

  • @pratapsinghrana28
    @pratapsinghrana28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Know what? i failed in Class 10th exams (2006) i went into severe anxiety, SEVERE MIGRAINE, depression, social anxiety, shame, etc etc etc, AND MY PARENTS DIDN'T EVEN THOUGHT TO CONSULT A PSYCHIATRIST, then I started watching PORN which made my mood better (That's what dr trish said, dopamine release to make mood better), resulted in severe anxiety, and OCD, AND INTRUSIVE Thoughts, and guess what STILL PARENTS WERE JUST LIVING THEIR OWN LIVES... MY EDUCATION RUINED,
    MY CAREER RUINED, HEALTH RUINED.... ETC
    Rest i myself fought against PORN addiction, and still fighting (I am winning)
    Thanks Dr trish leigh, your vids motivate us all
    (Guys save yourself from DEMON PORN)

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am sorry about all your struggles. What are you talk about here is family dysfunction. As the mom of lots of kids I know how difficult it can be to help them through their stuff, but at the same time I never stop trying. I’m sorry your parents couldn’t do that for you.
      But… I am so glad that you were able to overcome it and are on your way back to rocking out your best life. Thanks for contributing here. I really appreciate it. I’m glad to be able to help you myself. 🙏🏻

    • @pratapsinghrana28
      @pratapsinghrana28 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DrTrishLeigh thank you so much doctor

  • @Ot-ej5gi
    @Ot-ej5gi 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERIOUS about stopping them. In order to get there, you have to have a realization that this type of reality really hurts you in multiple ways and basically not partially but 100 percent detracts from the life that you want. Any addiction is a self-feeding mechanism, where patterns and even actual neuro connections have been established so without a painful withdrawal, there is no cure. I am talking about sexual addiction here. You have to establish a purpose and goals probably even before quitting; otherwise, it's easy to slide right back into it. Make an effort of developing new interests or stick with the search for interests rather than devolving into bad habits. It's a struggle in the beginning but it should get easier as you slowly change into a different person.

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Love it. You are sooooo right. Thanks for the comment.

    • @tomdonald2495
      @tomdonald2495 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think in order to break those habits, you have to, first of all, get DEAD SERI... No just dead. You can't stop what makes you a man. Or just a human. She should change her name to Chastity Belt.

    • @taeveo9471
      @taeveo9471 ปีที่แล้ว

      People can "change into different people"? Sounds like perception altering reality and social engineering. That's sociopath stuff.

  • @Felix-su3jh
    @Felix-su3jh 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks Dr. Trish!

  • @robertdeanwillea5087
    @robertdeanwillea5087 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I do eye contact and move on. It's great

  • @josh-dayoweekes9424
    @josh-dayoweekes9424 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Dr Trish Leigh

  • @Kevin-tv8cv
    @Kevin-tv8cv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Doc your videos helps a lot..I wish i met u in person when i was a kid...I Had been a completely different person ..Really Thank You so much for making these videos You are really helping me in my journey ...And Good Luck for the NGO program doc you are going to change many lives..Best wishes 😊

  • @cwanylissify
    @cwanylissify 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Incredible as I was just missing this last puzzle of leaving PMO habbit. I didn't know the word, and so I couldn't find any more information if that this behaviour affected me. I see from myself that if, after going out, I'm able to not lust, I feel a lot better like it would affect me in an identical way as watching porn.

    • @Guaxinim26
      @Guaxinim26 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That's exactly what I thought. Lusting induces PMO and vice-versa. So underestmated, but so important.

    • @st_f0lk582
      @st_f0lk582 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same here

  • @edwardthomas6956
    @edwardthomas6956 ปีที่แล้ว

    It can also be sports cars and sports bikes that incite lust... there is a reason why they are often bright red Corvettes and flaming red Ferraris... very difficult to resist coveting after

  • @jefe5507
    @jefe5507 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    How is this video free? Thanks Doc

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I am here to help.

    • @jefe5507
      @jefe5507 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@DrTrishLeigh Love from Trinidad 🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹

  • @shawn1995.
    @shawn1995. 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was shown porn at 10 and have struggled with this ever since thankfully I'm mostly just working on the visual hang time now, please pray for me to stay on the right path.

  • @gabrielrivas1073
    @gabrielrivas1073 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dr Trish, thank you I struggle with pornography and Masturbation. All you say in your videos are really true.I like the way it coincides with what I know about the Bible.Thank you very much keep up the good work❤

  • @fairuzi
    @fairuzi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    1st step is to look away from something that is lustful

  • @studiocreat3740
    @studiocreat3740 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hello
    I hope you are fine dr trish
    So can't I lust after my partner. If I can what are the limits or the rules I have to follow for a healthy sexuallity. If I can't how our sexual attraction is supposed be ?
    Thanks a lot.

  • @PrimsJournal
    @PrimsJournal 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is lusting/fantasizing over someone ure with also a bad thing?

  • @nobodyisprfct
    @nobodyisprfct 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    "Don't go to strip clubs" . That made me laugh.

    • @DarkPa1adin
      @DarkPa1adin ปีที่แล้ว

      as simple as don't go to porn hub too

  • @danmorals9697
    @danmorals9697 ปีที่แล้ว

    These things happened to them as examples and were written down as warnings for us, on whom the fulfillment of the ages has come.
    So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!
    No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
    Therefore, my dear friends, flee from idolatry.
    1 Corinthians 10:1-14

  • @braakojo7751
    @braakojo7751 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Dr. You are totally legit

  • @3lmi__319
    @3lmi__319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You have my admiration for addressing the elephant in the room

  • @chimaegwu5178
    @chimaegwu5178 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello, I'm in Nigeria and I need help, please I'm finding it hard to buy the 90 days program because the card we use in Nigeria doesn't support buying from the internet like that.please I want to connect with you,I help

  • @electricyouare2222
    @electricyouare2222 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is a more deeper emotional issue. Holotropic breathwork done right will take care of that. Lot more effective than Consciouss effort

  • @ryanramkissoon1630
    @ryanramkissoon1630 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is all Brahmacharya and mindfulness

    • @gybx4094
      @gybx4094 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True. Hindu, Buddhist and Orthodox Christians all have a similar teaching about mindfulness.

  • @maurecara6908
    @maurecara6908 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Lust not so much a problem but getting distracted is or even wanting to be distracted is a problem for many men.

    • @DrTrishLeigh
      @DrTrishLeigh  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agreed. Especially in today’s day and age.

    • @maurecara6908
      @maurecara6908 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks Dr Trish, not bragging but I don't believe I have an issue with porn or have had but currently I am in a sexless marriage and listening to a lot of your material is really helping with coping strategies etc, keep it up! Maure cara

  • @mhpreach
    @mhpreach 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How would you relate all of this to what Jesus says in Matt. 5:27-28?

  • @michaeladams2644
    @michaeladams2644 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What you are saying is for me as a disabled man is wrong to lust after something ill never have?

  • @blackninja546
    @blackninja546 ปีที่แล้ว

    It also helps to simply avert your gaze

  • @Shadow-yi5he
    @Shadow-yi5he 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love your content! You're saving lives Dr Trish

  • @robertdeanwillea5087
    @robertdeanwillea5087 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I'm pore. I can't find a group in my area that deals with this. I'm willing to talk about me if I can find a group.

  • @goldfeversalon86
    @goldfeversalon86 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hey doctor. After 15th day i lose control over my mind.

  • @piercingsight7741
    @piercingsight7741 ปีที่แล้ว

    What program will help overcome it completely?

  • @wiisalute
    @wiisalute 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sexual attraction is normal though right? Even if you see them as a whole?