Hey guys, I’m 3.5 years without porn. It’s awesome. It saved my marriage and sex life. I’ve lost 20 pounds of fat, I work out six days a week and I’ve figured out how to enjoy my work. Porn was a total waste of time and resources for me. Cutting it out of my life is one of the best things I’ve ever done.
I agree porn is a gigantic waste of time. I recently stopped doing porn and masturbation for 38 days, and during that time I went back to school, bought the electric guitar I always wanted, practiced every day and learned three rock solos, went back to the gym, lost eight pounds...my productivity went off the chart, all from stopping the utterly time-wasting activity of porn obsession.
I went over 120 days w/out PMO. I felt amazing. I stumbled on the 5 March. However i pick myself up and continue. Recovery is a journey where u will fall along the way
Congratulations on your long streak. Be sure to analyze what happened on March 5 and learn from it. Before you know it you won’t be falling anymore. You got this. Keep going! 💪🏽🙅♀️
My longest streak was 29 days ... So do you tell me now that u never ever get horny any more ? If that's the case does that mean u no longer find women attractive any more... its just like looking at another guy etc ?
Dr Trish You have opened the door of my past from boyhood to mature senior citizen. I am in my seventies and I have a great deal of shame for all these years of masturbating and avoiding truly intimate relationships with my previous girlfriends. I was almost married twice, but because of sexual addiction I never thought I would be happy with one woman. How wrong I was to believe that my problems were external and not in my own head. Your approach to this topic of pornography is so simplistic and direct. Your devotion to helping people can clearly be felt through the many videos on TH-cam. I hope one day to meet you personally. You are truly a Godsend. 😃🙏🏻
Not me I have masturbated entire life I'm 60s I'm on my 2nd marriage my wife doesn't care if I masturbate, we still have sex also we watch porn too. I'm not ashamed of it did I watch porn for hours no I don't consider myself addicted to it. IMO masturbation itself is a byproduct of other issues such as low self-esteem. Fix that issue and you won't have a problem finding a woman.
The most informative video I've seen on this topic yet. You are 101% correct ob every point raised. I'm a 49 year old male and currently going through a painful process of trying to rectify this right now. Slow, but sure progress - there has been damage done and its gonna take sone undoing. Guys, Avoid the screen - exercise instead. Avoid the screen - look into how increase nitric oxide levels. Avoid the screen - meditate. Avoid the screen - get proper sleep Avoid the screen - take up proper kegel exercises. Avoid the screen - get out in nature. Seriously, avoid the screen. Thankyou Trish🙂🙌👌
In my early teens, I fell into a deep, deep black hole after investigating whether it was beneficial for you and whether there were any harmful side effects. Every article I read highlighted how "practice makes perfect," how it's "good to know yourself," and "how it enhanced testosterone levels," and I went deeper than singularity later in my mid-teens when I heard from another teen that masturbation reduced sperm count and made it impossible to get someone pregnant. So I went to town, I had a girlfriend at the time. She never got pregnant because she had ovulation problems, and I assumed it was due to my masturbation. Now in my 30s, I'm beginning to crawl out of this black hole that began last year. Everything you've said, Dr. Trish, has been my experience: brain fog, anxiety, and poor memory. Knowing I caused this to myself has been hell.
Because of all of my sexless marriage issues I was so lonely and angry with resentment. Thank you Trish for opening my eyes I'm finally serious about no fap,no porn, no phone. No lust is by far the hardest to stop looking at literally almost every woman I see. Living in my first sexless marriage with the only woman who completely denied me sex has left me so frustrated so your words are what I needed to hear! God bless you Trish. 🙏 God bless you from my heart ❤️
@@enoh2977 I can only speak for myself, but one of hurdles was the fact my wife had self-esteem/ body image issues. along with depression. And that was before we even met. My mistake was thinking it would get better after the marriage. Dont ask me why I thought that. lol
@cornellbenson6363 women will always DRAG YOU DOWN to their level....NEVER play the white knight and try to 'save' them.... they DONT WANT to be SAVED.... they want to mentally FUCK YOU UP....
@@enoh2977many marriages are sexless. Number one cause is your wife losing respect for you. Capitulating to her hen pecking and not being the leader of the relationship. Men are designed to lead in the relationship. Modern women take on masculine traits and will try to lead but if you give in she will lose respect. If she cannot respect you she cannot love you. If she doesn’t respect you leave and find someone who does. Don’t make the same mistakes next time.
Being someone who was addicted to pornography and death grip masturbation for 13 years, ejaculation through sex became impossible,unless through masturbation My solution came when: *I cut out porn and masturbation completely from my life. *started taking cold showers. *Kegel exercise *meditation *Drunk alot if water. Guys, I was able to regain brain/penis sensitivity within two weeks and I'm now able to release through sex with ease. Plz Guys, cut out porn/masturbation from your life bcoz it really damages your brain/body beyond explanations
Thank you so much Dr Leigh, your videos have been very helpful. I've found that consistency is key and as long as you keep moving forward, a few hiccups aren't as big of a deal as we make them out to be. My 19 day streak came to and end today but I'm feeling more motivated then ever. It was my first relapse this month and prior to this streak, I went without PMO for 8 days. From someone who used to pmo 1-2 times per day, 2 relapses over 27 days isn't the worst thing in the world.
The details of neuroplasticity is a huge game changer fact. This needs to be talked about more and more. The world perceives masturbation as a positive thing. But in reality it is so destructive to the brain, your connections, and how it rewires your brain. Thanks for Sharing! Such a game changer
THIS IS AMAZING. I'm 59 years old and have been struggling with this since i was a child. i have lost almost everything in my life. This video has opened my eyes, heart and mind to truths i have never heard before. I am overwhelmed with years and years of loss and failure in so many areas of my life and now with the thoughts of its too late being 59 years old. PLEASE HELP Dr. Trish
I found this channel at divine timing. I’ve always known deep down semen retention was the correct path. The way I actually quit smoking weed a few years back was a 40 day fast from PMO. It’s been a journey beginning from a very traumatic childhood where I used whatever I could to feel love an positive feelings to now being 35 an wanting to stop PMO forever. I’ve been sober 13+ years from drugs but I’ve had to come to the realization that I’m still a slave to the high I get doing PMO at least once a day. Thanks for doing Gods work Dr I’m excited for the new blessings I will obtain from this new, much needed discipline. 🙏🏼
The one who tells people what they want to hear may be liked in the short term, but eventually they'll be despised by everyone they led astray. But the one who speaks the truth, even if it hurts people in the short term... eventually they'll be loved and praised because of everyone who they save by spreading the truth. Thank you 🙏
I appreciate the informative videos you put out on quitting masturbation addiction. Over the past two years now I’ve slowly reduced porn to the point where I no longer needed it and when I saw your videos on exactly what happens to the brain on masturbation it helped me to be educated on the same issues I was going through. What I’m doing now is that some of my friends are religious and follow lent so I decided personally to give up porn for this time as a challenge but since others are giving up something challenging to them it felt like a good thing to do. In this time I’ve found out that I do have strength to move forward and it seems easier doing this as a way to connect better with my own religion/ spirituality. But if your not religious you can do it as a challenge with friends and support each other. However, the thing I’m experiencing is sometimes struggle with motivation but I keep going because I want to be my authentic self instead of being in survival self which happened to my emotional side due to family stresses but found out that eventually I will need to cross this bridge from survival to authentic self eventually and having different support systems such as a therapist or friends that care for you really is a great motivator. And for anyone feeling alone, I’ve realized it is important to give yourself whatever you need and creating some goal that helps you to feel better and overcome a small barrier that has pushed you back from your true self whatever that is for you.
You've inspired me to try again, and I'm feeling better for the time being. I'm about to message another hundred women in search for a partner, knowing that this could take years. Masturbation never made me feel bad... it helped to take away the long-term pain of having a family that never supported me, and being in the present position of having no family. My father would react angrily whenever I asked him for advice about women, ordering me to "stay away from them because they are dangerous distractions, and never bring one home!" So I've had problems with women for the past 47 years, and have been learning and unlearning what I can to help make me a capable partner to share mutual support with a high quality woman. Spring works better for this since it's time to spend more time outside and get in better physical and neurological shape. It's been two years since my past partner left me... and I've rarely had any visitors or even a hug since... long enough, I deserve better!
Thank you so much for posting this video Dr. Leigh. You really did hit the nail straight down. This is exactly what I needed to hear and I have to admit that this is exactly what I wanted to hear as well. The reason for that is because I have been addicted to masturbation for about 30 years now. Back in the day, there was no internet in my house, so I relied on the late night HBO movies on Friday nights that my parents had with cable. I also watched the “Pay-Per-View” channels that my parents never purchased (Playboy and Spice). I would watch the scrambled lines on the screen to see if I can make something out. When my parents first got the internet in the late/mid 90s, that was when it all took a turn for the worst. I looked at porn quite frequently since the late 90s and still have those sex images and videos ingrained into my head. I continued with porn throughout the 2000s when I was in college and the 2010s and still to this day. It’s very tempting because I have porn in my pocket (my iPhone). I never really noticed the damage that the constant cycle of porn and masturbation had until I tried to have sex with my wife (then girlfriend). I could never get any type of erection. At the time she thought that I wasn’t attracted to her and on top of that, she wanted me to feel bad. She even compared me to some former guys she had sex with in her earlier years…..which was a huge slap in the face for me. I was able to get some help from a neurologist to where I started taking cialis. Although it helped me with getting an erection, I couldn’t reach the point of orgasam to where I can ejaculate. My wife and I do have sex, but once in a blue moon. It happens very infrequently. Even though she hasn’t caught me looking at porn or masturbating, she still suspects that something is up because I never take the initiative to have sex with her. It’s also performance anxiety because it goes back to when I couldn’t “get it up” to have sex with her. I have also noticed fog in my brain and a lack of motivation or drive to get things done. I would always resort back to the porn and masturbation. I know it’s tearing me apart. All I hear or read people talk about is how masturbation is completely harmless and actually a healthy thing to do. That’s not what I want to hear because it’s not making me feel good in the long run. I know that I need to go “cold turkey” off if all the stimuli that I am using. Whether it be porn or even sexy photos of women on instagram. I need to abstain from the porn and fantasies that give me the urge to masturbate. I need to get my brain cleared up and I want to see my wife as sufficient for me. Of course I want to have sex, but I want to be able to follow through with it and not resort to fantasy and porn to masturbate when I can be enjoying something that is actually real and more fulfilling. Thank you again for posting this video.
My experience with nofap is that my whole life got more colourful. Music sounded better, conversations were more interesting, I was more motivated, more creative, anxiety went away. I felt more emotions and more alive, even bad ones felt invigorating.
@@Mattamillion-vk2pf Go bang a girl and I guarantee if she orgasmed hard, her friends and coworkers would say the same thing even for a few days later. Same thing with us men. There are post orgasm signs of a good time. They're natural and automatic.... you can't hide it.
@@xmo552…exactly. Masturbation has been proven over and over again to be good for you. Of course anything people do to extreme is harmful, including the worshipping of fake Gods. Seriously…jack off! It’s good for your prostate.
Thank you so much Dr. Trish, this video explains SO much. I've experienced a lot of what you've discussed here. I'm on a NoFap journey to quit but it's not easy. Your videos have helped, bless you! 🙏
thank yourself, dont thank god. lol you just pray and you decided to quit. then you attribute it to some god in a book. there is no god or proof of god in the first place. you just believe in god because your parents told you to believe in it.
@@fatherdamien69 if you think you can quit this on your own, you will see how it is never permanent, but if you pray to god then you'll see you can make long lasting change. We are feeble creatures. If we don't rely on our father then we won't be able to be our best version.
I can say without a hint of doubt that your videos have had the greatest effect on me quitting. If theres ever a time i might waver, i remember to think back to lessons ive ingrained from watching many of your videos.
I want to thank you Dr Leigh for doing what you do. I feel blessed to have found your videos because this is exactly the kind of behavior I'm so deeply wanting to stop, but I can't go more than a few weeks before I go on a binge. I'm signed on to your 90 day course and am very optimistic about a life change. I'm very grateful for this opportunity, you are an amazing person and I'm blown away by your knowledge and approach that I didn't even know existed. Thank you so much for this, you are truly a blessing Dr Leigh 🙏🙂
@@DrTrishLeigh Dr Leigh a little earlier I wrote the letter from the perspective of the little boy who was beaten and all but abandoned by his parents to be passed around relatives, lost, lonely and heartbroken. I can feel so much happening from within right now having responded to myself as a 51 year old man. I am obviously struggling but this is so powerful Dr Leigh, I am so grateful to you for this opportunity, I'm moving forward in small increments but I am feeling levels of hope I have not before. You are truly a blessing Dr Leigh, thank you 🙏🙂
@@josephtorres8965 Hey my friend. Thank you for sharing some of your story. I'm 26. I had a similar experience. I went through foster homes growing up. Porn was a coping mechanism. There is hope brother!
@@shanephillips1996 I really appreciate that my friend, I'm entering week five and feel like some meaningful progress is being made in this journey, God bless you for your support yioung man, and best wishes to you and continued strength in your walk brother🙏
I just started, three days in in fact, but it's much different this time around. Ive found spirituality. Even during all the days of masturbating, spirit has always guided me. Im at the point in my life where i absolutely need to take the plunge into the best version of myself. The choice is easy. I choose spiritual growth and personal development. If youre serious about quitting, you cant do it with willpower alone. There needs to be something that offers more than relapse to the momentary pleasure. What is that for you?. What is your weapon when the urge sneaks up on you.
Dr. Leigh, I just have to chime in because this has been a lifelong problem of mine as long as I can remember. When I abstain from these things I usually find myself more interested in my hobbies like drawing and writing that have kept me occupied in the past for a considerable amount of time. I like your videos, I just started watching a few days ago and I have to say, youve inspired me to turn to my hobbies whenever my hands suddenly feel bored. Thank you so much!
@@DrTrishLeigh I'm in the process of not Masturbating so much and i quit watching porn also. So when i do masturbate i just use my imagination. I lost track of how many times a day/week i do masturbate but i do know i cut back to once or twice a week. Is that good or bad
Thanks for all of your videos, Dr. Trish. Very timely that I stumbled on them this evening. A lot of issues I'm having in my life can be traced to compulsive masturbation and I totally understand the points you are driving home in the videos I've seen thus far. Really important and deeply impactful! I'm going to take it to heart, many thanks again!
Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of the human organism. Dr Trish Leigh I would have thought you would have studied this during your Doctorate.
Doctor I'm very much grateful to you. Though I haven't quit it yet but I'm fighting everyday. And your words are my elements to fight against it. Thank you Doctor! More power to you ❤️
Dr. Trish I just want to say that what you are doing for us makes a difference. You are giving the help that we so much need because you are such an intelligent and dedicated woman. The language that you use helps everyone to understand the dangers and possibilities that this can have on the human brain. I am a different man since I've stopped masturbating and watching porn. My hope will not perish and it is all thanks to you, I truly wish there were more professionals like yourself out there. As behavioral neuroscience major.. you are an inspiration to me. Gracias!!
Dr. Trish needs more than 17 minutes to explain what the implications of masturbation are. At 17:30 she tells us how to quit masturbation and in only one and a half minute she explains that you simply have to stop watching porn. Skip this video and look for others.
My memory has become crap about a lot of stuff, but I’m pretty sure masturbation has played a role in it. I’m really REALLY trying to stop this along with porn. When you’re out of a relationship, you try to make yourself “feel better”. It’s a tough, rough, & vicious cycle. Last night was night one. Step one. One step at a time. I pray to stay on the path. Wish me luck y’all. That & finding the right woman that’ll be the eventual wife stay in sync with.
Wow! Dr you did an AMAZING job breaking it all down to the T! I now understand. Thank you for teaching me what this does to my brain and its negative effects, single or not.
I don't know why masturbation is something to quit. You don't want be addicted to it , but this is a natural thing. Monkeys do it. Even animals without hands do it too.
EVANGELIST MIRANDA, you are enslaved to masturbation in you life you don't understand that this is sin in God's eyes, and also there is great consequences, accountability for your life by performing this horrible act of sin in your life, I can help you, scriptures in the Bible and having conversations with you 0k. EVANGELIST MIRANDA
This is great. They keep saying in the media/news that its good for health and most people are kinda brainwashed to believe so without questioning things and addicts
Dr. Trish, Thank you for these videos. I'm going through hard times because i've lost my girlfriend to this addiction and I feel lost. I quit watching porn but I couldn't stop masturbating and ED stayed. She was patient but I could not get a hold on it. Well it's past tense now. Anyhow you give me hope that I can still rebuild my life.
@@sealarkesmiles9263 Guilt will not make the addiction go away neither will shame (I know this from experience and research into it too). Instead forgive yourself for what you've done. If I think 'oh I'm such a bad person, I might as well watch porn because I'm already a bad person' it won't help very much in my opinion. What about you?
Hi friend. I am sorry to hear this. There is hope. Stay the course in this journey and your brain will heal, the ED will recover. You will meet someone that you can share your life with.
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Ma'am you are such a god to me , there was no one to tell me about this damage , thank you thank you
Thanks for another wonderful clip about breaking the habit of masturbation. What I especially like about it is that you are genuine about your desire to help people be free and healthy, a very honourable motive that shines through your presentation, which makes it so convincing in contrast to the sales techniques of other presenters. You also summarise the science behind it in a way that everyone can understand, which again supports your approach. In addition, you don't moralise the behaviour so that there is no need to feel bad about it, which makes an enormous difference compared to religious teachers. And last but not least, you are a very likeable, beautiful, trustworthy woman who I would tell everything about my private life. Thanks again!!! I'm so glad I found you.
It seems like a reversible process! I have actually tried not touching myself for two weeks but eventually I have returned to the masturbation frequency my body usually desires
@@barryg4927 If you listened to her, this kind of masturbation is not healthy and normal. Not to highly juiced up, unnatural situations and people in porn. It messes up your brain. Did you not watch the video?
Finally… THE TRUTH! Having stumbled across your podcasts, one might say randomly, and after listening to the first 7 this week then watching a couple of your videos it’s very clear to me, FINALLY yes finally there’s a voice out there that actually knows what they are talking about and is not afraid to speak the truth (this is deep what your telling us) and whatever judgement there might be from some, it’s all worth it because YOU my friend are helping men and I’m sure women too understand what’s really going on and why/how/where this happens and that in turn is life changing… your ‘teaching’ so to speak is changing lives, and helping all that are willing to apply what they hear… suffice as to say this is so needed! On a personal level I’m so done with surface words like ‘oh there’s nothing with it’ or ‘what you doing is normal’ NO… that’s the biggest lie I’ve ever heard, it’s about time someone spoke up so that we can get the help we need and live a life that’s fulfilling and addiction free! So happy you are here and doing what you do, this is life changing and many will be impacted. I firmly believe, if one is to be free of this, by that I mean pornography/masturbation we have to ready to get very honest with ourselves and recognise a) we need help b) acknowledge we have an addiction, and c) do whatever we need to do to get free of this… in a word, it’s time to get serious, it’s decision time! 🙌 thank you for being here! May you have a good day and as always say… control your mind or it will control you, that needs to be meme of some kind pretty soon Dr 😊
I absolutely despise what masturbation has done to me and how it’s affected my previously very sturdy morals,I want to change so very much,for myself and to be more present with my family.
My only issue is my wife is impotent so my recovery will have sexless rewards and I know this but hearing all your truth has been Very helpful and necessary for me to hear and apply to my life's goals, regardless of my sexless relationship with my wife.
I can’t be the first to find it ironic that these videos are hosted by an attractive woman-but the best is the best, and these videos, I’ve found-are the best
Lord Jesus please bless Dr. Trish Leigh for preaching to all us men and for telling us the truth about porn and masturbation. God please keep using her and guide not only men but also women into truth and righteousness. Please Lord show them the perversion and the deviancy. Please lord break the chains. Jesus you are the way and im sorry for all the times even i fall short of your glory. Thank you God so much. Blessings and Love to all who reads this. ❤
I was washing the dishes while I put this video on since I'm getting near to two weeks of nofap and Dr Trish was like a hammer hitting on every nail, connecting so many dots and making absolute sense.
You're married, you have children, you had relations, many of the others that you are addressing have no girlfriends or relations. It is the same as someone beautiful telling others how to date. Everyone is different by the way, everyone treats these things differently, that is the problem with psychology, it groups everyone together and fails to realize that everyone is different. Some it is harmful, many others it isn't, it isn't drugs, alcohol or committing crimes.
You know what really baffles me is that Dr. Trish is right. And yet...while I have noticed the detrimental effects of compulsive masturbation, there are STILL guys out there who will hide that fact by inflating (no, BLOATING) their ego out of proportion by bragging about how mighty they feel when they ejaculate. And they pass by unaware of how it's destroying their brain because they are too prideful about the high that they get. And worse, I'm usually looked down upon as a bullshiter for tearing down the veil of delusion. It's so frustrating. When will the WHOLE WORLD wake up? 😩
I remember being teenager back in the days. After renting my porn tape couldn’t wait to get home to watch it. Being with girls was so bored I chose porn over girlfriends because i made me feel sooo good. I quit porn and masturbation and it was hardest thing I have ever done.
I'd like to raise two (2) issues right now: 1.) Regarding masturbation - I've tried abstaining from masturbation and I usually only go about a week, more or less, because it gets harder as I go. What's getting harder isn't resisting the desire to masturbate, but a VERY REAL physical pain that increases over time in the groin area. I think some people call it "blue balls". So what's the solution for this Dr. Trish? (Please don't tell me drugs or medication...so many other issues associated with that which I wont get into here.) The only solution I know for this if you don't have a partner is a quick masturbation session. 2.) Also, I do know that too much masturbation is not good...but are you saying there's no such thing as "healthy" masturbation? If that's the case then 99.9% of the world's population has a problem. Quite frankly, if there is no such thing as "healthy" masturbation, then there's no such thing as healthy sex either. How could there be? If a consenting sexual partner wanted to have sex with me 2 times a day every day I feel that would have all the same trappings of PMO even if there's no PMO involved. Please clarify because your argument, although it has a lot of good information, is choc full of holes too.
No holes here my friend. ☝️ my mentor likes to say that no one ever died from not masturbating. Although blue balls might be uncomfortable the pain will decrease if you do not masturbate while your brain is rewiring itself from compulsive masturbation. Which leads me to ✌️ what we are talking about here is complsive masturbation… Which you are right is part of compulsive sexual behavior disorder… The need to go back to sex for mood regulation. The key to resolving this issue is to develop healthy mood regulation, decrease hyperssexuality, and learn, probably for the first time how to create healthy sexuality.
@@DrTrishLeigh hav been extrme celibacy for 1 year and wear dozen underpants 24/7 but last night felt a spirit wantin me too touch my genitals but ahh backed of. Hav bible sites goin all night near bed on you-tube on t.v.
I agree with you her argument is filled with holes. Interesting how she doesn’t bring up anything about prostate cancer… And keeping the semen moving can be shown to help prevent that. they call it deadly sperm build up for a reason
This is the best Video that you have done by far. You are so good at what you do. Love your Videos on this Sensitive Subject. Thank you for the Inspiration. Please keep these Videos coming. They are very motivating.
All the ridiculous claims in this video by Quack Doctors and religious fanatics have been discredited by the Mental Health profession and scientists. Denial of natural urges leads to severe mental problems and even criminal acts such as rape and sexual assault by men and boys, your bodies were never meant to withhold the pressures that demand release. Masturbation is healthy, harmless and is a part of our sexuality, especially just after puberty when we are exploring the move from childhood to the adult world.
@@Lili-Benovent if so, many guys are benefiting from this, why do you want to ridicule it? The results are in the pudding. If you don’t need this kind of advice, so be it, but it has changed, lives for many, for the better, and if they are happier, I think that is all the validation you need.
@@charlesburger1810 Nobody benefits from living in a state of sexual frustration, guilting young men into not releasing the pressure by not masturbating will lead to more sexual assaults and rapes, also it's detrimental to their mental health, this quack doctor has a lot to answer for.
Thought the video title was a joke. No judging, if it works for others, it works. I Once dared myself to go a month without, and to be honest I don't think I was any better or worse for it after.
Thank you for this video! For years I've used this as a sleep aid I told myself I sleep better and faster if I do this before bed but deep down I've always known it's not right. I wish more smart people talked about this. I'm thankful I came across this video!
I'm on day 15 of abstaining from pornography and it's been hell on earth anxiety has always been a part of my life to make it early 20s when my porn addiction first started. I want a real woman in my life. I had someone I love very much and I lost her also because of the addiction. Because my brain was so wired on Instagram vacation I didn't know how to interact with a woman intimately and my anxiety provoked intrusive thoughts. This. Able to draw them on right now is give me insomnia four nights in a row now and moments of dread, guilt, sadness, and then silence which feels completely scary. The same woman that I loved is still in my life and she is my rock through all of this. I'm going to beat this addiction. my overuse as of late has been because of stressors in my life, such as loss of my aunt and my grandmother, who were very prominent in my upbringing. I know these are all withdrawal symptoms from my brain trying to heal and when I did not get a fix, now that my libido is flatlined, that optio is unavailable so the self doubt comes roaring in through weird dreams, porn flashbacks, twisted memories, and false reactions. Trish, what I want to know is are there any coping strategies that you can suggest?
I was so addicted to it since the age of 7 after my cousins and nanny molested me. 38 years later, I am still struggling to quit. In my youth, I would be aroused just from hearing the word masturbate. Pornography aided it, and nowadays, it is just a cellphone away. It has ruined my sex life with my partner, who has a low sex drive. I lean towards masturbation than have sex with her. I am starting to see signs of ED which makes me avoid my wife even more. I have realized that if I don't do it for a month, I see signs of recovery from ED. Now, I just need to work a little harder to quit and save myself and my marriage. Dr Trish's advice and reading the comments has opened my eyes. It makes me realize how much harm I have done to myself.
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Now it brings me disgust dissatisfaction disappointment and depression I’m on day 2 again but I just came across these videos and it helps to see others out there like me and hear from someone
If I quit masturbation. It means I quit having sex. It has been said that a man who can pleasure himself is very lucky because he don't need a partner to make them feel good. But although there is something to be said about having a partner I simply can't find one. Because we don't have suitable mates here where I live.
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 Ma'am you are such a god to me , there was no one to tell me about this damage , thank you thank you i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi i am from india , Delhi
Stopping pornography is not an easy task, it needs to last for a long time, sometimes progress and sometimes regress are normal, can not be too impatient.
I quit all the drugs and alcohol, but i struggle porn and masturbation. Now i know why. My time is always mornings. I knew it was a dopamine hit, but i had no idea it was the cause of memory, and lack of cincentration issues, not to mention the low T burn out. Now i have the truth i needed to hear and follow it like i do with sobriety. Thank you so much i have been strugglibg to understand myself and why i do it.
Great information Doc. However , I believe PMO is also linked to the current male loneliness epidemic. Statistically speaking people are lonelier than ever which obviously decreases sexual opportunities. So in a lot of ways pmo may be the only way for a lot of men to release. Modern females aren’t really making a case for attraction either. Most of them are addicted to social media. I feel like it’s all connected. What do you think?
Dr. Trish today is my DAY 40! and I am feeling more energetic and confident in my skin. However, this isn't the longest streak I have gone to. Actually, I previously went for 740 days without masturbating and orgasming but it was my conscious decision to masturbate around 16th Jan of this year because I started to have intense cognitive distortion and psychological stress(Also I came really fast within a few strokes). So, though I am continuing on this journey again, I really don't know what should I look for in the future because I don't have a girlfriend yet, and living in a country like India, finding a sexual partner is not an easy-going thing. So I would really appreciate it if you can suggest me something because when I have sexual urges, those are so damn intense which I can control but leads me to the above-mentioned problems.
Keep going my friend it sounds like you’re doing great. Stay away from porn for good and if you need to include a healthy masturbation habit like you’re talking about… Once every month… It will help you as you are finding a partner. Put the energy in to connect to other people and build intimacy. It will pay off.
I am an artist and I sing karaoke ..I build scale models and I can focus on that..I thankyou so much no one not my Eurologist and no Dr. Will help like you have ..my blessings to you..your the Angel I needed to appreciate and follow
For some persons masturbatiion may be the only kind of sex they'll have because they're emotionally self-sufficient. Maybe they live on their own and are happy with it. There's nothing wrong with masturbation for them.
That’s funny. Intimacy happens between people… It’s connection. So even though you may consider yourself emotionally self-sufficient, healthy people long for intimacy.
What wrong with some men? -Getting mad at a woman online for saying masturbation is unhealthy -Asking if you should think about your wife during sex -Blaming your wife for your porn consumption Not sure if pathetic men watch porn or if porn makes men pathetic.
Longest I ever went without masturbation was 100 days earlier this year and my god I have never felt so proud of myself and healthy in all my life. This habit is no joke and I can’t believe how accepted and revered it is by society as I imagine most young people who find masturbation now are coupling it with porn. I strive to get to 100 again but man it’s hard yards. For someone who only 1 and a half years ago used to PMO almost 3/4 times a week I’ve made immense progress and profited in many ways I could have never even imagined when I began this journey, it’s like a restorative domino effect.
Hey guys, I’m 3.5 years without porn. It’s awesome. It saved my marriage and sex life. I’ve lost 20 pounds of fat, I work out six days a week and I’ve figured out how to enjoy my work. Porn was a total waste of time and resources for me. Cutting it out of my life is one of the best things I’ve ever done.
Thank you for sharing.
Like a delicous decadent meal, you are missing out on one of life's great pleasures.
Not only is it a waste of time, but it is also detrimental to your psyche.
I agree porn is a gigantic waste of time. I recently stopped doing porn and masturbation for 38 days, and during that time I went back to school, bought the electric guitar I always wanted, practiced every day and learned three rock solos, went back to the gym, lost eight pounds...my productivity went off the chart, all from stopping the utterly time-wasting activity of porn obsession.
@@donwoodward7944
Dumb. Anybody on here is likely addicted to porn. They've definitely already experienced this so called Life's greatest pleasure.
I can’t come up with words to convey my admiration and respect for this woman’s work. She is absolutely, 100% correct.
I went over 120 days w/out PMO. I felt amazing. I stumbled on the 5 March. However i pick myself up and continue. Recovery is a journey where u will fall along the way
Congratulations on your long streak. Be sure to analyze what happened on March 5 and learn from it. Before you know it you won’t be falling anymore. You got this. Keep going! 💪🏽🙅♀️
Wow that's amazing...you have let us know your secret..wish I can get to that many days. I get to 21 max
My longest streak was 29 days ... So do you tell me now that u never ever get horny any more ? If that's the case does that mean u no longer find women attractive any more... its just like looking at another guy etc ?
*You need to fail to succeed!*
I’m master-baiting right now.
Thank you! One of my hardest addictions next to iced coffee. “Control your brain or it will control you.” Perfect 👍
Iced coffee huh,
K. Not really possible to take that seriously....
@@MultipleGrievance I dont think he knows what addiction is if coffee is the other issue
@rodpaget9796
Caffeine addiction you say??
I'm not saying it isn't real, it's just child's play.
Pop/soda was an easy thing for me to give up for example. Did that in my teen years. This is a different beast.
Dr Trish
You have opened the door of my past from boyhood to mature senior citizen. I am in my seventies and I have a great deal of shame for all these years of masturbating and avoiding truly intimate relationships with my previous girlfriends. I was almost married twice, but because of sexual addiction I never thought I would be happy with one woman. How wrong I was to believe that my problems were external and not in my own head. Your approach to this topic of pornography is so simplistic and direct. Your devotion to helping people can clearly be felt through the many videos on TH-cam. I hope one day to meet you personally. You are truly a Godsend. 😃🙏🏻
I don't have shame for masturbating but I do wish I had a partner. But there are simply none available out in this cruel world.
Not me I have masturbated entire life I'm 60s I'm on my 2nd marriage my wife doesn't care if I masturbate, we still have sex also we watch porn too. I'm not ashamed of it did I watch porn for hours no I don't consider myself addicted to it. IMO masturbation itself is a byproduct of other issues such as low self-esteem. Fix that issue and you won't have a problem finding a woman.
Simplistic is the word.
The most informative video I've seen on this topic yet. You are 101% correct ob every point raised.
I'm a 49 year old male and currently going through a painful process of trying to rectify this right now. Slow, but sure progress - there has been damage done and its gonna take sone undoing.
Guys,
Avoid the screen - exercise instead.
Avoid the screen - look into how increase nitric oxide levels.
Avoid the screen - meditate.
Avoid the screen - get proper sleep
Avoid the screen - take up proper kegel exercises.
Avoid the screen - get out in nature.
Seriously, avoid the screen.
Thankyou Trish🙂🙌👌
Idk about the nitric oxide levels
@@blackpillfitness9136 Explain please?
@@CiaranArmagh I heard people say that when you get older it becomes so much easier to stop....I'm 19 and I believed that but right now not so much
All N/A for me. 😂
@@Jay_0605 it doesnt become easier to stop, it becomes easier to reduce the frequency and ride out more time.
In my early teens, I fell into a deep, deep black hole after investigating whether it was beneficial for you and whether there were any harmful side effects. Every article I read highlighted how "practice makes perfect," how it's "good to know yourself," and "how it enhanced testosterone levels," and I went deeper than singularity later in my mid-teens when I heard from another teen that masturbation reduced sperm count and made it impossible to get someone pregnant. So I went to town, I had a girlfriend at the time. She never got pregnant because she had ovulation problems, and I assumed it was due to my masturbation. Now in my 30s, I'm beginning to crawl out of this black hole that began last year. Everything you've said, Dr. Trish, has been my experience: brain fog, anxiety, and poor memory. Knowing I caused this to myself has been hell.
I’ve been watching your videos on loop. Your channel is nothing short of amazing. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Because of all of my sexless marriage issues I was so lonely and angry with resentment. Thank you Trish for opening my eyes I'm finally serious about no fap,no porn, no phone. No lust is by far the hardest to stop looking at literally almost every woman I see. Living in my first sexless marriage with the only woman who completely denied me sex has left me so frustrated so your words are what I needed to hear! God bless you Trish. 🙏 God bless you from my heart ❤️
I hear you brother. same here
Not to bash you bro but how do sexless marriages occur?
@@enoh2977 I can only speak for myself, but one of hurdles was the fact my wife had self-esteem/ body image issues. along with depression. And that was before we even met. My mistake was thinking it would get better after the marriage. Dont ask me why I thought that. lol
@cornellbenson6363
women will always DRAG YOU DOWN to their level....NEVER play the white knight and try to 'save' them....
they DONT WANT to be SAVED....
they want to mentally FUCK YOU UP....
@@enoh2977many marriages are sexless. Number one cause is your wife losing respect for you. Capitulating to her hen pecking and not being the leader of the relationship. Men are designed to lead in the relationship. Modern women take on masculine traits and will try to lead but if you give in she will lose respect. If she cannot respect you she cannot love you. If she doesn’t respect you leave and find someone who does. Don’t make the same mistakes next time.
Being someone who was addicted to pornography and death grip masturbation for 13 years, ejaculation through sex became impossible,unless through masturbation
My solution came when:
*I cut out porn and masturbation completely from my life.
*started taking cold showers.
*Kegel exercise
*meditation
*Drunk alot if water.
Guys, I was able to regain brain/penis sensitivity within two weeks and I'm now able to release through sex with ease.
Plz Guys, cut out porn/masturbation from your life bcoz it really damages your brain/body beyond explanations
On the road to recovery for 6 days in a row now. God bless.
I love to hear it! 💪💪
Did u crack an egg?
Thank you so much Dr Leigh, your videos have been very helpful. I've found that consistency is key and as long as you keep moving forward, a few hiccups aren't as big of a deal as we make them out to be. My 19 day streak came to and end today but I'm feeling more motivated then ever. It was my first relapse this month and prior to this streak, I went without PMO for 8 days. From someone who used to pmo 1-2 times per day, 2 relapses over 27 days isn't the worst thing in the world.
actually that is an accomplishment
The details of neuroplasticity is a huge game changer fact. This needs to be talked about more and more. The world perceives masturbation as a positive thing. But in reality it is so destructive to the brain, your connections, and how it rewires your brain. Thanks for Sharing! Such a game changer
THIS IS AMAZING. I'm 59 years old and have been struggling with this since i was a child. i have lost almost everything in my life. This video has opened my eyes, heart and mind to truths i have never heard before. I am overwhelmed with years and years of loss and failure in so many areas of my life and now with the thoughts of its too late being 59 years old. PLEASE HELP Dr. Trish
I am 53 James! For me the same🙏
I’m 52 😂
I'm 54
57
Is it too late?
I found this channel at divine timing. I’ve always known deep down semen retention was the correct path. The way I actually quit smoking weed a few years back was a 40 day fast from PMO. It’s been a journey beginning from a very traumatic childhood where I used whatever I could to feel love an positive feelings to now being 35 an wanting to stop PMO forever. I’ve been sober 13+ years from drugs but I’ve had to come to the realization that I’m still a slave to the high I get doing PMO at least once a day. Thanks for doing Gods work Dr I’m excited for the new blessings I will obtain from this new, much needed discipline. 🙏🏼
PMO ?
Porn
Masturbation
Orgasm
@@stephenfiore9960 My thoughts exactly. An acronym I wish one person would spell out
The one who tells people what they want to hear may be liked in the short term, but eventually they'll be despised by everyone they led astray. But the one who speaks the truth, even if it hurts people in the short term... eventually they'll be loved and praised because of everyone who they save by spreading the truth.
Thank you 🙏
I appreciate the informative videos you put out on quitting masturbation addiction. Over the past two years now I’ve slowly reduced porn to the point where I no longer needed it and when I saw your videos on exactly what happens to the brain on masturbation it helped me to be educated on the same issues I was going through.
What I’m doing now is that some of my friends are religious and follow lent so I decided personally to give up porn for this time as a challenge but since others are giving up something challenging to them it felt like a good thing to do. In this time I’ve found out that I do have strength to move forward and it seems easier doing this as a way to connect better with my own religion/ spirituality. But if your not religious you can do it as a challenge with friends and support each other.
However, the thing I’m experiencing is sometimes struggle with motivation but I keep going because I want to be my authentic self instead of being in survival self which happened to my emotional side due to family stresses but found out that eventually I will need to cross this bridge from survival to authentic self eventually and having different support systems such as a therapist or friends that care for you really is a great motivator. And for anyone feeling alone, I’ve realized it is important to give yourself whatever you need and creating some goal that helps you to feel better and overcome a small barrier that has pushed you back from your true self whatever that is for you.
You've inspired me to try again, and I'm feeling better for the time being. I'm about to message another hundred women in search for a partner, knowing that this could take years. Masturbation never made me feel bad... it helped to take away the long-term pain of having a family that never supported me, and being in the present position of having no family. My father would react angrily whenever I asked him for advice about women, ordering me to "stay away from them because they are dangerous distractions, and never bring one home!" So I've had problems with women for the past 47 years, and have been learning and unlearning what I can to help make me a capable partner to share mutual support with a high quality woman. Spring works better for this since it's time to spend more time outside and get in better physical and neurological shape. It's been two years since my past partner left me... and I've rarely had any visitors or even a hug since... long enough, I deserve better!
Thank you for sharing this, Grant.
Same situation as mine. How r u after these 2 years, man?
Thank you so much for posting this video Dr. Leigh. You really did hit the nail straight down. This is exactly what I needed to hear and I have to admit that this is exactly what I wanted to hear as well. The reason for that is because I have been addicted to masturbation for about 30 years now. Back in the day, there was no internet in my house, so I relied on the late night HBO movies on Friday nights that my parents had with cable. I also watched the “Pay-Per-View” channels that my parents never purchased (Playboy and Spice). I would watch the scrambled lines on the screen to see if I can make something out. When my parents first got the internet in the late/mid 90s, that was when it all took a turn for the worst. I looked at porn quite frequently since the late 90s and still have those sex images and videos ingrained into my head. I continued with porn throughout the 2000s when I was in college and the 2010s and still to this day. It’s very tempting because I have porn in my pocket (my iPhone). I never really noticed the damage that the constant cycle of porn and masturbation had until I tried to have sex with my wife (then girlfriend). I could never get any type of erection. At the time she thought that I wasn’t attracted to her and on top of that, she wanted me to feel bad. She even compared me to some former guys she had sex with in her earlier years…..which was a huge slap in the face for me. I was able to get some help from a neurologist to where I started taking cialis. Although it helped me with getting an erection, I couldn’t reach the point of orgasam to where I can ejaculate. My wife and I do have sex, but once in a blue moon. It happens very infrequently. Even though she hasn’t caught me looking at porn or masturbating, she still suspects that something is up because I never take the initiative to have sex with her. It’s also performance anxiety because it goes back to when I couldn’t “get it up” to have sex with her.
I have also noticed fog in my brain and a lack of motivation or drive to get things done. I would always resort back to the porn and masturbation. I know it’s tearing me apart. All I hear or read people talk about is how masturbation is completely harmless and actually a healthy thing to do. That’s not what I want to hear because it’s not making me feel good in the long run.
I know that I need to go “cold turkey” off if all the stimuli that I am using. Whether it be porn or even sexy photos of women on instagram. I need to abstain from the porn and fantasies that give me the urge to masturbate. I need to get my brain cleared up and I want to see my wife as sufficient for me. Of course I want to have sex, but I want to be able to follow through with it and not resort to fantasy and porn to masturbate when I can be enjoying something that is actually real and more fulfilling. Thank you again for posting this video.
My experience with nofap is that my whole life got more colourful. Music sounded better, conversations were more interesting, I was more motivated, more creative, anxiety went away. I felt more emotions and more alive, even bad ones felt invigorating.
Ejaculation makes me feel all that
@@xmo552 😂😂😂
@@Mattamillion-vk2pf
Go bang a girl and I guarantee if she orgasmed hard, her friends and coworkers would say the same thing even for a few days later. Same thing with us men. There are post orgasm signs of a good time. They're natural and automatic.... you can't hide it.
wow....scary....I think I'll have a wank now....
@@xmo552…exactly. Masturbation has been proven over and over again to be good for you. Of course anything people do to extreme is harmful, including the worshipping of fake Gods. Seriously…jack off! It’s good for your prostate.
Thank you so much Dr. Trish, this video explains SO much. I've experienced a lot of what you've discussed here. I'm on a NoFap journey to quit but it's not easy. Your videos have helped, bless you! 🙏
I'm so happy I found this channel
9 months+ without Porn
Thank God
How you start ?.
thank yourself, dont thank god. lol you just pray and you decided to quit. then you attribute it to some god in a book. there is no god or proof of god in the first place. you just believe in god because your parents told you to believe in it.
@@fatherdamien69 👿
@@fatherdamien69 if you think you can quit this on your own, you will see how it is never permanent, but if you pray to god then you'll see you can make long lasting change. We are feeble creatures. If we don't rely on our father then we won't be able to be our best version.
12 days w/o PMO. I definitely feel some change in me. But hard to describe. Self motivation is the key.
Thanks a lot Dr Trish , you pointed out all the miseries that I am facing and not able to accept.
Thank you for these videos. 😢KEEP DOING THESE
Really appreciate Dr Trish, standing for the truth.
I can say without a hint of doubt that your videos have had the greatest effect on me quitting. If theres ever a time i might waver, i remember to think back to lessons ive ingrained from watching many of your videos.
I want to thank you Dr Leigh for doing what you do. I feel blessed to have found your videos because this is exactly the kind of behavior I'm so deeply wanting to stop, but I can't go more than a few weeks before I go on a binge. I'm signed on to your 90 day course and am very optimistic about a life change. I'm very grateful for this opportunity, you are an amazing person and I'm blown away by your knowledge and approach that I didn't even know existed. Thank you so much for this, you are truly a blessing Dr Leigh 🙏🙂
Congratulations 🎉 This is an excellent start to a happier life!
@@DrTrishLeigh Dr Leigh a little earlier I wrote the letter from the perspective of the little boy who was beaten and all but abandoned by his parents to be passed around relatives, lost, lonely and heartbroken. I can feel so much happening from within right now having responded to myself as a 51 year old man. I am obviously struggling but this is so powerful Dr Leigh, I am so grateful to you for this opportunity, I'm moving forward in small increments but I am feeling levels of hope I have not before. You are truly a blessing Dr Leigh, thank you 🙏🙂
@@josephtorres8965 Hey my friend. Thank you for sharing some of your story. I'm 26. I had a similar experience. I went through foster homes growing up. Porn was a coping mechanism. There is hope brother!
@@shanephillips1996 I really appreciate that my friend, I'm entering week five and feel like some meaningful progress is being made in this journey, God bless you for your support yioung man, and best wishes to you and continued strength in your walk brother🙏
I just started, three days in in fact, but it's much different this time around. Ive found spirituality. Even during all the days of masturbating, spirit has always guided me. Im at the point in my life where i absolutely need to take the plunge into the best version of myself. The choice is easy. I choose spiritual growth and personal development.
If youre serious about quitting, you cant do it with willpower alone. There needs to be something that offers more than relapse to the momentary pleasure. What is that for you?. What is your weapon when the urge sneaks up on you.
Dr. Leigh, I just have to chime in because this has been a lifelong problem of mine as long as I can remember. When I abstain from these things I usually find myself more interested in my hobbies like drawing and writing that have kept me occupied in the past for a considerable amount of time. I like your videos, I just started watching a few days ago and I have to say, youve inspired me to turn to my hobbies whenever my hands suddenly feel bored. Thank you so much!
Thanks for chiming in. I’m glad to inspire you. Your brain 🧠 Will thank you and you will have a happier life. Rock it out! 💪🏽🙅♀️
@@DrTrishLeigh I'm in the process of not Masturbating so much and i quit watching porn also. So when i do masturbate i just use my imagination. I lost track of how many times a day/week i do masturbate but i do know i cut back to once or twice a week. Is that good or bad
I draw dick pictures or write penis poetry....
it takes your mind off the old er....
Thanks for all of your videos, Dr. Trish. Very timely that I stumbled on them this evening. A lot of issues I'm having in my life can be traced to compulsive masturbation and I totally understand the points you are driving home in the videos I've seen thus far. Really important and deeply impactful! I'm going to take it to heart, many thanks again!
Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of the human organism. Dr Trish Leigh I would have thought you would have studied this during your Doctorate.
Probably a Calvanist
Spoken like a real wanker!
Stop the bs creepy idot
Doctor I'm very much grateful to you. Though I haven't quit it yet but I'm fighting everyday. And your words are my elements to fight against it. Thank you Doctor! More power to you ❤️
Dr. Trish I just want to say that what you are doing for us makes a difference. You are giving the help that we so much need because you are such an intelligent and dedicated woman. The language that you use helps everyone to understand the dangers and possibilities that this can have on the human brain. I am a different man since I've stopped masturbating and watching porn. My hope will not perish and it is all thanks to you, I truly wish there were more professionals like yourself out there. As behavioral neuroscience major.. you are an inspiration to me.
Gracias!!
Dr. Trish needs more than 17 minutes to explain what the implications of masturbation are. At 17:30 she tells us how to quit masturbation and in only one and a half minute she explains that you simply have to stop watching porn. Skip this video and look for others.
My memory has become crap about a lot of stuff, but I’m pretty sure masturbation has played a role in it. I’m really REALLY trying to stop this along with porn. When you’re out of a relationship, you try to make yourself “feel better”. It’s a tough, rough, & vicious cycle.
Last night was night one. Step one. One step at a time. I pray to stay on the path. Wish me luck y’all. That & finding the right woman that’ll be the eventual wife stay in sync with.
Wow! Dr you did an AMAZING job breaking it all down to the T! I now understand. Thank you for teaching me what this does to my brain and its negative effects, single or not.
I don't know why masturbation is something to quit. You don't want be addicted to it , but this is a natural thing. Monkeys do it. Even animals without hands do it too.
EVANGELIST MIRANDA, you are enslaved to masturbation in you life you don't understand that this is sin in God's eyes, and also there is great consequences, accountability for your life by performing this horrible act of sin in your life, I can help you, scriptures in the Bible and having conversations with you 0k. EVANGELIST MIRANDA
@@frankmiranda5623 stupid, masturbation is normal porn is normal, don't quit She is oh so wrong.
This is great. They keep saying in the media/news that its good for health and most people are kinda brainwashed to believe so without questioning things and addicts
Dr. Trish,
Thank you for these videos. I'm going through hard times because i've lost my girlfriend to this addiction and I feel lost.
I quit watching porn but I couldn't stop masturbating and ED stayed. She was patient but I could not get a hold on it.
Well it's past tense now.
Anyhow you give me hope that I can still rebuild my life.
You don't need a girlfriend to be content. Live free by yourself and work on yourself.
@@mllermusic3979 He should also be consumed with guilt for how he has emotionally damaged his X partner because of his disgusting habits.
@@sealarkesmiles9263 Guilt will not make the addiction go away neither will shame (I know this from experience and research into it too). Instead forgive yourself for what you've done. If I think 'oh I'm such a bad person, I might as well watch porn because I'm already a bad person' it won't help very much in my opinion. What about you?
@@sealarkesmiles9263 he couldn't stop so what are you going to do
Hi friend. I am sorry to hear this. There is hope. Stay the course in this journey and your brain will heal, the ED will recover. You will meet someone that you can share your life with.
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Ma'am you are such a god to me , there was no one to tell me about this damage , thank you thank you
Thanks for another wonderful clip about breaking the habit of masturbation. What I especially like about it is that you are genuine about your desire to help people be free and healthy, a very honourable motive that shines through your presentation, which makes it so convincing in contrast to the sales techniques of other presenters. You also summarise the science behind it in a way that everyone can understand, which again supports your approach. In addition, you don't moralise the behaviour so that there is no need to feel bad about it, which makes an enormous difference compared to religious teachers. And last but not least, you are a very likeable, beautiful, trustworthy woman who I would tell everything about my private life. Thanks again!!! I'm so glad I found you.
It seems like a reversible process! I have actually tried not touching myself for two weeks but eventually I have returned to the masturbation frequency my body usually desires
Exactly because it’s healthy and normal. On a variety of levels. I think if this doctor had her way a person wouldn’t masturbate at all.
@barryg4927
VICIOUS CONTROLLING NARCISSIST WOMEN....
SEX is BAD.... WANKING is BAD.... seeing a HOOKER is BAD.... ALL about CONTROL....
@@barryg4927 If you listened to her, this kind of masturbation is not healthy and normal. Not to highly juiced up, unnatural situations and people in porn. It messes up your brain. Did you not watch the video?
Can’t get STD’s
@@barryg4927 when in human history did people masturbate as a normal thing?
Finally… THE TRUTH! Having stumbled across your podcasts, one might say randomly, and after listening to the first 7 this week then watching a couple of your videos it’s very clear to me, FINALLY yes finally there’s a voice out there that actually knows what they are talking about and is not afraid to speak the truth (this is deep what your telling us) and whatever judgement there might be from some, it’s all worth it because YOU my friend are helping men and I’m sure women too understand what’s really going on and why/how/where this happens and that in turn is life changing… your ‘teaching’ so to speak is changing lives, and helping all that are willing to apply what they hear… suffice as to say this is so needed! On a personal level I’m so done with surface words like ‘oh there’s nothing with it’ or ‘what you doing is normal’ NO… that’s the biggest lie I’ve ever heard, it’s about time someone spoke up so that we can get the help we need and live a life that’s fulfilling and addiction free! So happy you are here and doing what you do, this is life changing and many will be impacted. I firmly believe, if one is to be free of this, by that I mean pornography/masturbation we have to ready to get very honest with ourselves and recognise a) we need help b) acknowledge we have an addiction, and c) do whatever we need to do to get free of this… in a word, it’s time to get serious, it’s decision time! 🙌 thank you for being here! May you have a good day and as always say… control your mind or it will control you, that needs to be meme of some kind pretty soon Dr 😊
Thank you for sharing this! I really appreciate it!
Hi Trish this video is amazing. Very informative and you are a bravado for telling the bitter truth. Love you. Hugsxx
I actually did it watching her talk
Me to
Dr. Trish- you nailed it! Thank God I found your channel. God bless!
I went 2 years without releasing 💪 I relapsed 🥺 I'm back at square one🙏 pray for me 🙏😇
What about now sir??
What are all the changes you have undergone ?
So women don't masturbate? WTH is fap? Why do women drive their partners to masturbate?
I absolutely despise what masturbation has done to me and how it’s affected my previously very sturdy morals,I want to change so very much,for myself and to be more present with my family.
My only issue is my wife is impotent so my recovery will have sexless rewards and I know this but hearing all your truth has been Very helpful and necessary for me to hear and apply to my life's goals, regardless of my sexless relationship with my wife.
I can’t be the first to find it ironic that these videos are hosted by an attractive woman-but the best is the best, and these videos, I’ve found-are the best
It's everybody's favorite hobby!
Lord Jesus please bless Dr. Trish Leigh for preaching to all us men and for telling us the truth about porn and masturbation. God please keep using her and guide not only men but also women into truth and righteousness. Please Lord show them the perversion and the deviancy. Please lord break the chains. Jesus you are the way and im sorry for all the times even i fall short of your glory. Thank you God so much. Blessings and Love to all who reads this. ❤
I was washing the dishes while I put this video on since I'm getting near to two weeks of nofap and Dr Trish was like a hammer hitting on every nail, connecting so many dots and making absolute sense.
Hey how is it going?
You're married, you have children, you had relations, many of the others that you are addressing have no girlfriends or relations. It is the same as someone beautiful telling others how to date. Everyone is different by the way, everyone treats these things differently, that is the problem with psychology, it groups everyone together and fails to realize that everyone is different. Some it is harmful, many others it isn't, it isn't drugs, alcohol or committing crimes.
Bull. It’s the same. I’m married to the 2nd porn addict. It affects EVERYTHING!
This video just saved my life. Thank you
You know what really baffles me is that Dr. Trish is right. And yet...while I have noticed the detrimental effects of compulsive masturbation, there are STILL guys out there who will hide that fact by inflating (no, BLOATING) their ego out of proportion by bragging about how mighty they feel when they ejaculate. And they pass by unaware of how it's destroying their brain because they are too prideful about the high that they get. And worse, I'm usually looked down upon as a bullshiter for tearing down the veil of delusion.
It's so frustrating. When will the WHOLE WORLD wake up? 😩
I remember being teenager back in the days. After renting my porn tape couldn’t wait to get home to watch it. Being with girls was so bored I chose porn over girlfriends because i made me feel sooo good. I quit porn and masturbation and it was hardest thing I have ever done.
I always preferred real stuff.
I'd like to raise two (2) issues right now:
1.) Regarding masturbation - I've tried abstaining from masturbation and I usually only go about a week, more or less, because it gets harder as I go. What's getting harder isn't resisting the desire to masturbate, but a VERY REAL physical pain that increases over time in the groin area. I think some people call it "blue balls". So what's the solution for this Dr. Trish? (Please don't tell me drugs or medication...so many other issues associated with that which I wont get into here.) The only solution I know for this if you don't have a partner is a quick masturbation session.
2.) Also, I do know that too much masturbation is not good...but are you saying there's no such thing as "healthy" masturbation? If that's the case then 99.9% of the world's population has a problem. Quite frankly, if there is no such thing as "healthy" masturbation, then there's no such thing as healthy sex either. How could there be? If a consenting sexual partner wanted to have sex with me 2 times a day every day I feel that would have all the same trappings of PMO even if there's no PMO involved. Please clarify because your argument, although it has a lot of good information, is choc full of holes too.
No holes here my friend.
☝️ my mentor likes to say that no one ever died from not masturbating.
Although blue balls might be uncomfortable the pain will decrease if you do not masturbate while your brain is rewiring itself from compulsive masturbation.
Which leads me to
✌️ what we are talking about here is complsive masturbation… Which you are right is part of compulsive sexual behavior disorder… The need to go back to sex for mood regulation.
The key to resolving this issue is to develop healthy mood regulation, decrease hyperssexuality, and learn, probably for the first time how to create healthy sexuality.
@@DrTrishLeigh hav been extrme celibacy for 1 year and wear dozen underpants 24/7 but last night felt a spirit wantin me too touch my genitals but ahh backed of. Hav bible sites goin all night near bed on you-tube on t.v.
I agree with you her argument is filled with holes. Interesting how she doesn’t bring up anything about prostate cancer… And keeping the semen moving can be shown to help prevent that. they call it deadly sperm build up for a reason
@@barryg4927wet dreams happen for a reason.
This is the best Video that you have done by far. You are so good at what you do. Love your Videos on this Sensitive Subject. Thank you for the Inspiration. Please keep these Videos coming. They are very motivating.
Keep doing what you do Dr.Trish and very soon the people giving you heat will be thanking you.
Thank you. I appreciate this comment. I know the truth and it keeps me going. So does your support ;-) 🙏🏻🙅♀️
@@DrTrishLeigh 👏🤝
Wow! You give the most logical, crystal clear explanations I’ve ever heard. You are a treasure. Thanks for the powerful information.
All the ridiculous claims in this video by Quack Doctors and religious fanatics have been discredited by the Mental Health profession and scientists.
Denial of natural urges leads to severe mental problems and even criminal acts such as rape and sexual assault by men and boys, your bodies were never meant to withhold the pressures that demand release.
Masturbation is healthy, harmless and is a part of our sexuality, especially just after puberty when we are exploring the move from childhood to the adult world.
@@Lili-Benovent if so, many guys are benefiting from this, why do you want to ridicule it? The results are in the pudding. If you don’t need this kind of advice, so be it, but it has changed, lives for many, for the better, and if they are happier, I think that is all the validation you need.
@@charlesburger1810 Nobody benefits from living in a state of sexual frustration, guilting young men into not releasing the pressure by not masturbating will lead to more sexual assaults and rapes, also it's detrimental to their mental health, this quack doctor has a lot to answer for.
You make alot of sense thank you ❤
You are absolutely correct! I am experiencing all of what you said and others saying otherwise is incorrect and lying.
Thought the video title was a joke. No judging, if it works for others, it works. I Once dared myself to go a month without, and to be honest I don't think I was any better or worse for it after.
Never gonna quit. Love it❤️❤️
I love ur teachings, all that you saying, you got all correct, God Bless you
Thank you. I really appreciate it. 🙏🏻🙅♀️
Dr. , You're absolutely fabulous and impressive
Can we all agree that the people saying “what a load of crap” are to afraid to admit there addicted 💀
Great information! All these effects i feel and I'm about dedicate myself to quitting. Keep posting plz
You got this! Don't forget to subscribe so you'll get the notification for every of my new videos :)
@@DrTrishLeigh i will!
It’s crazy how the rush I was looking for in the fantasy world doesn’t compare to when I can see someone believing in me. Thank you Dr. So much.
Hi doctor, I just wanted to say that you are very motherly. ❤
Thank you very much! But I don't want to relinquish such a blissful pleasure for ever !
Dr. Trish, I wanna say thank you so much for your videos. You do not imagine how they are helping to understand my current situation!
I sincerely appreciate you explain this with science and not with morals.
Thank you for this video! For years I've used this as a sleep aid I told myself I sleep better and faster if I do this before bed but deep down I've always known it's not right. I wish more smart people talked about this. I'm thankful I came across this video!
Thanks Dr Trish your brilliant and I only follow you an nobody else. Have a Happy Mother's Day
I'm on day 15 of abstaining from pornography and it's been hell on earth anxiety has always been a part of my life to make it early 20s when my porn addiction first started. I want a real woman in my life. I had someone I love very much and I lost her also because of the addiction. Because my brain was so wired on Instagram vacation I didn't know how to interact with a woman intimately and my anxiety provoked intrusive thoughts. This. Able to draw them on right now is give me insomnia four nights in a row now and moments of dread, guilt, sadness, and then silence which feels completely scary. The same woman that I loved is still in my life and she is my rock through all of this. I'm going to beat this addiction. my overuse as of late has been because of stressors in my life, such as loss of my aunt and my grandmother, who were very prominent in my upbringing. I know these are all withdrawal symptoms from my brain trying to heal and when I did not get a fix, now that my libido is flatlined, that optio is unavailable so the self doubt comes roaring in through weird dreams, porn flashbacks, twisted memories, and false reactions. Trish, what I want to know is are there any coping strategies that you can suggest?
I was so addicted to it since the age of 7 after my cousins and nanny molested me. 38 years later, I am still struggling to quit. In my youth, I would be aroused just from hearing the word masturbate. Pornography aided it, and nowadays, it is just a cellphone away. It has ruined my sex life with my partner, who has a low sex drive. I lean towards masturbation than have sex with her. I am starting to see signs of ED which makes me avoid my wife even more. I have realized that if I don't do it for a month, I see signs of recovery from ED. Now, I just need to work a little harder to quit and save myself and my marriage. Dr Trish's advice and reading the comments has opened my eyes. It makes me realize how much harm I have done to myself.
Love and respect from india 🇮🇳❤️❤️ Allah gives u more knowledge to help people ❤️❤️ insaallah..
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Now it brings me disgust dissatisfaction disappointment and depression I’m on day 2 again but I just came across these videos and it helps to see others out there like me and hear from someone
If I quit masturbation. It means I quit having sex. It has been said that a man who can pleasure himself is very lucky because he don't need a partner to make them feel good. But although there is something to be said about having a partner I simply can't find one. Because we don't have suitable mates here where I live.
"Spitting straight facts" love you so much🤣🤣🤣
thanks a lot ma'am i watch your videos repetitively you are such a mother , i really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart , i was in the visious cycle , but understanding your videos helped me clear my doubts please recommend me other youtube channels as well as yours , i truely need others like you ma'am 😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥😥🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Ma'am you are such a god to me , there was no one to tell me about this damage , thank you thank you
i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi , i am from india , Delhi i am from india , Delhi
For those without a partner, when it comes to libido...you don't believe there is a "use it or lose it" aspect?
Everything needs circulation but you don't need to "use it" as often as that phrase may imply.
I am also suffering from this issue but anyhow I managing to overcome it, ur lecture is really helpful 🙏🙏
Stopping pornography is not an easy task, it needs to last for a long time, sometimes progress and sometimes regress are normal, can not be too impatient.
I quit all the drugs and alcohol, but i struggle porn and masturbation. Now i know why. My time is always mornings. I knew it was a dopamine hit, but i had no idea it was the cause of memory, and lack of cincentration issues, not to mention the low T burn out. Now i have the truth i needed to hear and follow it like i do with sobriety. Thank you so much i have been strugglibg to understand myself and why i do it.
Great information Doc. However , I believe PMO is also linked to the current male loneliness epidemic. Statistically speaking people are lonelier than ever which obviously decreases sexual opportunities. So in a lot of ways pmo may be the only way for a lot of men to release. Modern females aren’t really making a case for attraction either. Most of them are addicted to social media. I feel like it’s all connected. What do you think?
And how conveniently she decides not to answer you
I agree with you on every point.
Great info, appreciate your direct truthfulness about this (somewhat) taboo subject! New sub 👍 God bless you 🙏
Dr. Trish today is my DAY 40! and I am feeling more energetic and confident in my skin. However, this isn't the longest streak I have gone to. Actually, I previously went for 740 days without masturbating and orgasming but it was my conscious decision to masturbate around 16th Jan of this year because I started to have intense cognitive distortion and psychological stress(Also I came really fast within a few strokes). So, though I am continuing on this journey again, I really don't know what should I look for in the future because I don't have a girlfriend yet, and living in a country like India, finding a sexual partner is not an easy-going thing. So I would really appreciate it if you can suggest me something because when I have sexual urges, those are so damn intense which I can control but leads me to the above-mentioned problems.
Keep going my friend it sounds like you’re doing great. Stay away from porn for good and if you need to include a healthy masturbation habit like you’re talking about… Once every month… It will help you as you are finding a partner. Put the energy in to connect to other people and build intimacy. It will pay off.
You don't masturbate but you do have sex right? Is there any different between the 2?
@@benadams954 Yes, there is a difference. Masturbation is ejaculating to sexual stimulus like porn without an actual partner
@@benadams954 No sex
Hmmmmm Dr are you sure? And how do we even know if you are sure of what you are saying.
I am an artist and I sing karaoke ..I build scale models and I can focus on that..I thankyou so much no one not my Eurologist and no Dr. Will help like you have ..my blessings to you..your the Angel I needed to appreciate and follow
For some persons masturbatiion may be the only kind of sex they'll have because they're emotionally self-sufficient. Maybe they live on their own and are happy with it. There's nothing wrong with masturbation for them.
That’s funny. Intimacy happens between people… It’s connection. So even though you may consider yourself emotionally self-sufficient, healthy people long for intimacy.
You are probably right.
It is an escape for me. I am trying and I will overcome it. Thank you
You've got this!
What wrong with some men?
-Getting mad at a woman online for saying masturbation is unhealthy
-Asking if you should think about your wife during sex
-Blaming your wife for your porn consumption
Not sure if pathetic men watch porn or if porn makes men pathetic.
Longest I ever went without masturbation was 100 days earlier this year and my god I have never felt so proud of myself and healthy in all my life. This habit is no joke and I can’t believe how accepted and revered it is by society as I imagine most young people who find masturbation now are coupling it with porn. I strive to get to 100 again but man it’s hard yards. For someone who only 1 and a half years ago used to PMO almost 3/4 times a week I’ve made immense progress and profited in many ways I could have never even imagined when I began this journey, it’s like a restorative domino effect.
Thanks for talking about memory. That's a huge motivator for me.
It is bullshit.