@@DrTrishLeigh honestly for me it's the discipline and good distractions that work for me especially exercising and gaming just keeping busy staying busy. Some days or easier some are harder
@@mfundomzolo4498 Yes, but it's been far from easy. You have to be truly dedicated to not only quitting porn, but also focus on your willpower. Like giving up any other deadly substance/addiction, it takes time to overcome.
@@fedorloginov3150 Yes! It's just as addictive as sticking a needle filled with heroin in your veins. I was addicted to porn throughout most of my 20's and it took me at least 3 years to quit and to practice controlling my sexual energy. It's not just sacrificing a toxic addiction that one needs to focus on, it's also your inner willpower to give up the one thing someone enjoys that's causing them more pain than pleasure.
The fact that porn is available to anyone with an internet connection (to children!) is an absolute outrage and scandal. I discovered porn at 12 years old when my brain was still developing. Trying to rid myself of this poison everyday. Porn is destructive and harms people like a street drug. In a healthy society that cared about peoples' wellbeing it would never be accepted. Evil is everywhere folks. Be strong! We can do it 💪
I saw a video of no fap and the guy said The first time he saw pornography, he was 4 years old because his cousin showed him some. So yep ! No wonder the new generation are fucked up !
Bro I discovers it at like 7 or 6 remember wen porn use to have its own channel on cable tv that’s wat really messed mind up as a person wish I would’ve never accidentally found that channel
It really is outrageous and the worst part is nobody is doing anything agaisnt it, or maybe there are people who are, but it’s not getting enough support. It just shows that our societies are deeply rotten and don’t want to let go of their addiction.
Thank God, God bless you all, it's been 13 months since I quit porn and masturbation after almost 25 years, fortunately no relapses so far, thank you so much Dr. Trish Leigh
Affordable to everyone only costs $799 😂 thank you for posting your free videos doctor, but I think I’ll stick with what I’m doing and continue to develop a spiritual connection with myself through prayer and meditation. This method is free folks
LMAO 😂 I couldn't have said it better myself. I was looking for this comment. And the most funniest part about this whole comment is she won't comment back on it 😂😂😂😂
This is just how business works guys, she prices what people day, once her day is filled she has to up the price, that's the only way to make it manageable. It's because she has a big channel, find a smaller one that's also doing courses
I wish more people knew about this, you spoke extremely eloquently on the matter! There are a couple of approaches I that found extremely useful: 1. Recognizing the root problem. 2. Reading books - or every other action that requires long-term concentration. 3. Stopping the habit loop when recognizing triggers and replacing the habitual action with other actions that introduce similar rewards: going for a run, socializing, eating something. 4. Finding a new hobby, like learning a new language. 5. Avoiding social media, or at least manage its exposure and utilize it for your benefit. 6. Reminding yourself of the negative consequences of it and the reasons for quitting 7. Practicing mindfulness 8. Stop putting it on a pedestal - this is the lowest form of content possible, the "junk food" of the brain, you might even say.
@@DrTrishLeigh😮😮😮 So MEN MEN MEN.... I am so tired of the entertainment media blaming men for everything...... MOVIES TV SITCOMS Even the ones that are SUPPOSEDLY the "MANLY" ones..... They portray men as bumbling neanderthals that only drink beer and watch porn. We eent from Father Knows Best.....TO Married w/Children. We went from.... Leave it to Beaver to The Simpsons. We went from The Andy Griffith Show to RoseAnne. What about women that want their husbands to "perform" like Hollywood male actors,or have the stamina of a porn star or their BOBS (battery operated boyfriends). I'm 65......I have long sinced past being concerned,caring, or wondering about what a female wants,needs or desires.I really do not care what anyone thinks about me. Marriage is nothing but one of two things 1.....Sexless roommates 2.....Roommates with benefits.
Hello i just across your video. Im 32y old single male and i have been clean from pornography and masturbation for over a week now, and I've deleted multiple Instagram accounts from my account to avoid lust and wanting to have the urge to do the deed. I also avoid looking at women while at the gym and at work to avoid such thoughts so i won't plant a seed. Right now I am truly in the process of turning to God for spiritual strength and growth because i feel like that's all i have left to do. I can't seem initiate or keep a conversation with a women for too long because of this addiction for almost 15yrs. I will be watching more of your videos to keep myself more informed, thank you!
Dr. Trish, thank you for this whole explanation of how and why a porn habit takes effect. It makes a lot of sense, because I grew up in a very stressful environment, but the good news is I’m about 3 months porn free and it feels great! It’s gotten to the point now that I don’t even think of porn the way I did when I was constantly using it. Have a great day!
I want to encourage everyone struggling out there that If I could've won this battle, then anyone can. I've started watching regularly around 16 and sunk incredibly low by age 25 where I was doing it for many hours on end. This then escaleted even more when I was trying to quit I was regularly doing atrocious relapses with 8/10/14+ hours of edging. But with the help of this angel and God I managed to fight back from that deep hole. After the last bad relapse I just gave an oath to my mother, father and God that this will be the last time I do this to myself... In my estimation it then took me 6 months of heavy abstinence symptoms almost daily. It was literally hell for me but I survived it. I had a lot of trauma and ongoing family issues, so perhaps not everyone is like that and could be better off. I just wish dr. Leigh was here a couple of years earlier when I was completely unaware of what I was doing to myself while blisfully edging almost daily.
Remember that USA produces and share porn and they themselves pretend to help you to quit from porn..and they want you to pay for both…notice the contrast…!!!
I'm a 60 yr old widower. Been struggling with this since 14. Had 30 good yrs with my wife but struggled with fantasies and emotional attraction the whole way. You were speaking to me exactly here. Since my wife s been gone it was no holds bar battle. Being alone looking for comfort. Wanting to be with someone else, not happening because of unrealistic expectations it created. Thanks for the video
I only recently got my first girlfriend and this is why I’m here. I never realized just how trained my brain was to porn and masturbating. We’ve had sex multiple times and I’ve never finished. I get her off quite easily but for myself? We’ve gone for several hours before and I haven’t felt remotely anything. This is why I’m here. Knowing that my brain is used to not only my hand getting me off, but also getting off to the site of other people having sex is super problematic and I urge people to quit porn IMMEDIATELY
Holy damn. This is the video that really hit me in the right time. I am 58 Days free of Video Porn, but strayed to just audio instead, thinking it was a better option. But this video really has opened my eyes and showed me how underlying this problem is. Thank you for showing this to the world. I will now finally do the step and delete every type of porn i have on any device and get to the big steps.
Thank you for this explanation! It helped a lot! I discovered something else that causes porn addiction, since I know this I don’t want to do porn anymore, even when I’m emotional or stressed out and feel the urges. You are right that you changed your baseline by watching porn and it causes indeed problems with real sexual relationships. And I think most guys turn to porn and masturbation because they are afraid or know how unwanted rejection feels. Most men don’t know how to deal with that. Because guys want to form a relationship with what they think is a beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman (and this girl doesn’t have to be real either! It could be a fantasy or a woman that you don’t know but see every day), but if they get rejected it’s most of the time the woman that does this to him and its “only” because of her feelings. Her feelings are illogical and men don’t know how to deal with that. Because her feelings are illogical, often she can’t explain why she rejects him. It triggers in the guys mind al kinds of emotion like sadness, frustration, anger and stress because they make the mistake by wanting to solve it or thinking they are not good enough. But you can’t solve somebody’s opinion and feelings and her opinion of you doesn’t say anything, trust me I know😊 But the only way and rule for us men is: accept her feelings, respect her thoughts, wish her the best (and you must mean it), let go and move on. Then do introspection (read: journaling, and all activities except for porn and masturbation and chasing her or another woman) and get back to form real relationships in real life!(When you are very young, you don’t have problems with making friends because you don’t have a lot of complex thoughts. It’s the quality and complexity of your thoughts that causes the addiction). Besides that, it’s called porn addiction, but if you deal with this, I think you are addicted to only masturbation because that is the thing that is regulating your mood, not the porn. Porn is harmful because something else. First, masturbation is harmful when you are just using it to regulate and coping with your mood. If you do that all the time you waste your energy (literally) on touching yourself. But the urge of wanting to masturbate is actually the right feeling to have, because you can use that “pain” and “almost uncontrollable energy” to form new connections, to work-out, to read, to do social things without sex. For me I started to have less brainfog and I could find more and better words to speak with and to people. My axienty went away and I remembered more of my day (because I used that energy for all kinds of things during the day that were not Porn or Masturbation). Second, porn is actually not that addictive in my opinion, because I think you can’t like porn if you can’t masturbate to it. Try to watch porn only to see porn. It’s no fun and actually boring. I don’t know if I’m the only one experiencing this. It’s the masturbation that makes it very excited. Porn is harmful (also when you just looking at it without masturbating) because it makes you less aroused when you are having real sex. Real sex is then not that exciting anymore, even when she is just beautiful and very sexual and everything a guy wants in a woman. I found this out when I first had sex with somebody I really liked, I had to force myself to focus on her and our connection. Then it dawned on me that if I hadn’t use porn, I could easily have great and intimate sex with her. I immediately quit porn and masturbation all together, and I told her that I was struggling with this. I asked her to have sex with me when she wants to for a whole year, because I need to reset my baseline. Now I considering myself healthy because I synched with her sexual needs and moments. I’m very grateful for her. ❤
23 M here, Today will be 1 month since i left porn and masturbation, havent feel so happy and free in a long time, i wish anyone struggling with this the best and hope you can do it too
@mattewlefty991 if done in excess yes, i used to masturbate 2-3 times a day when i was a teenager and i had no energy or motivation to do anything after, also my view of womens changed like my relationships with them for better, i can maintain eye contact and follow a conversation without my mind going wild with sexual toughts.
@@mattewlefty991I believe masturbation is also a problem. Your brain gets used to your hand getting you off and your dick no longer gets as satisfied by a vagina. It’s a huge problem
I discovered porn through my cousin who showed me in secret as a 11 or 13 year old toddler with no notion of this horrible addiction that would grasp and grip on my mind and now i still learning to fight it as a 20 year old young man and i hope to get rid of it somehow. Please i beg to someone to humbly pray for me if possible but until then i am going to try hard as much as possible.
I am 28 now and finally beat this addiction. But it saddens me because since i was an young teen I have basically fallen victim to everything you've described. Specifically my brain not operating at its full cognitive functioning. And then what's worse is now I am in the neuro degradation phase. Wish I could have find this channel back then, because my life would be so much different.
Same. I was a slave to this since 9 years old and when I discovered fapping at the age of 13, it all went downhill from there. By God's grace, I'm finally free of this addiction as it has been almost 8 months so far. Just sad of all the potential that was robbed from me due to this disgusting habit. Nearly 30 years of it...
Idk why she said 28. Most of the studies say 25. Anyways Brain degradation is not mandatory. Nothing proves the brain cannot still make new connections, grow its grey matter or develop neurogenesis via behavior or, even substances such as Psilocybin for example. Don’t get discouraged. Just don’t go back to porn.
Hi everyone today i got 4 weeks clean i've been watching these videos i know i can overcome this disease i know i will i'll defeat porn i'm stronger i'll win!
@ start edging? That’s bad advice bro. It’s all good tho, I’m 8 days no PMO. Ngl, I found a lil honey to seduce and that’s enough motivation to not give in. (I still get urges)
I am currently experiencing porn addiction and I’ve tried multiple times to quit but haven’t had any success. I’m gonna keep trying though so today is day one. 🙌
This battle is more than just mental but spiritual. It's the voices that keep whispering in the ears telling you to just do it once more. There is no harm but we know what it does and who can save us. Not everyone can afford getting professional counseling so only Jesus can help.
I already had a masturbation problem years before I started watching Adult Films. It started with fantasy and sex scenes in Hollywood movies. I didn't get consistent access to adult flicks until my late teens.
Yes it is possible cuz I had this addiction for a long time since my teens and I'm 37th and I haven't watched porn for 6 years and been practicing semen retention for 2 years and I been with my wife going on 20y , don't think you can't do , the first thing is to I ament the problem and work on yourself mentally and spiritually and physically , God blessed us forever
U got that ✅️ I've had to attack this thing from multiple angles....... Intellectually; consuming content regarding addiction, recovery and the neuroscience of it all. Emotionally; examining my dispositional shame and working through it best, I can. Relationally; developing genuine intimacy As a replacement And Spiritually; Prayer, meditation, examining scripture & strengthening my relationship with the God of my understanding. Not one of these was enough to give me what I needed to break free.
I can relate..been at it for years now... but we have to keep resisting..you have to fight for it... that's what I came to realize...It's not about stopping a habit it's about becoming someone new entirely...I wish you the best in your recovery.
Hi Dr Leigh. Two years since I quit basically lifelong masturbation habit, and my memory, focus, energy and general attention skills have gone downhill. I'm 46. I often think that my brain still hasn't got used to not getting the huge amounts of dopamine it got before. Maybe now I'm too low on dopamine, and that causes a lot of trouble, quite honestly. Still, I'm happy that I've managed to stay clean for so long, and definitely plan to keep on it as long as I can.
I had the misfortune of finding my older brothers stash of VHS porn tapes when i was 7. It set me on a path of no return. I remember spending hours after school watching that shit for years. Then the internet came and i started viewing all kinds of porn online and would even make up excuses to go to my fathers office to use his computer during the weekend to browse that shit. Completely poisoned my mind, ruined my ability to form healthy relationships and contributed to sexual identity issues. Kids shouldn't be allowed to anywhere near that stuff!!
Make sure you adjust your recovery plan accordingly! Understand what you let fall through to let the slip happen and make sure you have plans put in place to prevent the same thing from happening again!
Wow. I'm watching this as someone on the other side of the industry. I'm starting to question things, and hope to help with healing and integration also.
Women don't owe you their bodies as a cum dump, especially when women have a lot to lose while engaging with men sexually. Practice self control and invest in hobbies instead of putting your problems on women
"Doctor, you mentioned that our brain stops developing at 28. I've been addicted since I was 13, and now I'm 25. Does this mean I only have 2 years left to recover and allow my brain to develop properly? If I quit this addiction now, can my brain still catch up on the development I missed?"
Yes it can. But it requires a lifestyle change. Get into the gym, start eating organic and whole foods and get 8 hours of sleep. Also, take up reading and learn new things. Your brain will recover and become stronger. It's not late!
I'm almost a year porn free and the temptation has been worse than ever this week. Reminding myself all the reasons I've quit and trying to research why it's so difficult right now, like maybe my brain hasn't really yet recovered.
Others things 10lifes wouldn't be enough to acknowledge this world " sciences, knowledge etc..., porn = waste I'd rather not watching it even I am single this ass porn is gay.
There's more to life. The person who is always searching for tranquility will never find it, even if every single thing else is right. The act of searching prevents you from finding it.
God took this from me, begging and begging to be free and one day i truly surrendered to God, Jesus took this from me, the weight the drive the lust. IM FREE HE FREED ME! DO NOT GIVE UP! GO TO A QUIET PLACE AND GET ON YOUR KNEES AND FACE AND BEG, PLEAD, CONFESS YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO HIM AND REALIZE THE FIGHT DOESNT EXIST! ITS WON!!!!
I’m not going to lie. I don’t think there’s a way to recover if you started your addiction at an early age. You just have to trudge forward and endure in life. What I’m starting to realize is that there’s no way to escape accountability for the choices of your past- even if you were too young to grasp the consequences when you were making them.
There absolutely is a way to recover! It may not seem possible right now, but I've helped many people recover with all levels of addiction. Hope is never lost! If you want more help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com
It's even harder now days because it's more difficult than ever to find a decent partner. I don't have trouble in relationships due to porn, I fall back into porn because relationships never last.
I pray for you..stay strong… 💪 USA is the source of porn.. They produce and share porn and they pretend to trying to help you to heal..notice the hypocrisy
i had 18 days on semen retention and i relapsed to pmo.. I bounce back. But i feel like my will power is not enough to conquer this. I will try my very best all the time but i feel forced to relapse..
Hey man I’m on the same page but you always have to stay hopeful and strong that one day you’ll be able to free yourself. Just keep trying new things and never quit. You got this bro today is day 1 for me let’s conquer this!
Doctor I relapsed twice last night due to high sexual tension and thoughts which made me relapse twice and it didn’t make me to be at all ,cause I’m promising and failing myself at the same time ,I just hope I can get this over with cause I’ll take action.
❤TBH I quit porn for 6 years as the only need I had for it was being single for 8 years previously. Since I was clean for 6 years I've gone back to watching it daily as my relationship broke down. If you have a partner, I really don't see the need for porn. I can't understand couples that watch porn together.
Another thing to mention is big players in America don’t want you to be free of this burden because it’s soo profitable for them to keep us all addicted leading to much more and bigger problems for people
I realized that when I would watch porn I’d be more calm during the day, no anxiety, no overthinking, just a quite mind but when I would go two days I’d get horible anxiety and really loud and busy mind.
Please pray for me, I have been going through painful times, for last two years I have been suffering from regular nightall and now I am completely in mental and physical problems. I unable to cure from this. I was mustarbating and watching porn for long time and now I have been suffering from severe nightfall and due to this now I am completely in mental stress, my nerves are also damaged. Please kindly help me with your good suggestions if anyone you have
I’m 32 and I’ve been addicted to pron for the last 18 years, and for video games for almost all my life, specially online gaming in the last 10 since it is a lot more addicting. I feel sad barely wondering if all the damage I’ve caused to myself can be undone and repaired
I want you all to give me your opinion PLEASE... I have had something called Crohn's Disease, (a digestive disorder) since I was 15yo. This disease makes me severely underweight and I have scars from surgery on my abdominal area... my question is...Do you think I have somewhat of an excuse to watch pornography?... being that no matter how hard I work and motivate myself, it's never going to make a lot of "real women" find me attractive because a disease makes you a less viable candidate for love making and reproduction... BUT just because I struggle with "real women" doesn't mean I don't have the desire to see them naked just like any other heterosexual man... your thoughts please 🤷🏾♂️
Hey...In my opinion watching porn makes it worse because behavioral addiction takes a toll on you,you can't even think straight!!I believe everybody is capable of love and to be loved.So brother,as much as you feel undesirable because of your physical defects,there's someone out there for you but porn is not the answer,it will do more damage than good.
Thank you for sharing my friend. I respect your honesty. While it may be more difficult for people struggling with chronic diseases to find a partner, that doesn't mean it's not possible! You'd be surprised by what a healthy mind can attract. However, one that's addicted to porn will find it nearly impossible
I may not qualify as someone who has a pornography addiction, but I do find that I consistently resort to watching pornography and it has actually made most women seem unattractive to me. It is pretty bad at this point. Hoping that with this information, and in conjunction with serious action,I can help my brain recover.
If my wife wanted to have sex as much as normal woman wants, it would not have any problem. I get sex with her only one time or two times in a year. She is never interested in having sex at all. So masturbation has always been the solution for me all my life since I was a teenager, including porn. And now I am an older man. Hope I can recover and get the help I need from you Dr. Trish Leigh.
Rebuilding intimacy with a partner is always possible! Often, your partner will be affected by your porn use too and may withdraw physically and mentally. Therefore, it's crucial to focus on your connection, building trust, and becoming honest. I fyou need help, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com
2x a year is wild man! I'm not married but I've heard most married folks do it multiple times a week. Sounds like you need to have a serious sit down with your spouse. See where's her head is at or because it's a woman, understand her feelings towards you
Please pray for me i need your prayers friends as i am a porn addict struggling with early ejaculation and hentai addiction. Please help I feel dirty asf
All I really wanted to hear was "You can re-sensitize the reward center" Then how to start. Been in this decaying loop for long my baseline is far higher now. How do I outsmart myself?
I work in the fire service, after traumatic experiences and bad calls I have started experiencing decreased arousal or a couple of times complete dysfunction, it does pass after a few days and my wife is very understanding about it. My question is is there anything you recommend that may help. I gave up watching porn over a year ago.
So Dr. what are the steps of a porn addiction recovery? Not watching ok.. should I stop completely masturbating too? Or just having fantasies about porn is the problem?
What challenges do you face when trying to quit habits that affect mental health? Any recovery tips that have worked for you? Share with us!
Is there full course how to recover brain from it?
Fasting speeds up recovery, takes a few weeks to get use to. Dr Eric Berg. Sauna with cold plunges. Running with a 20 second sprint (HIT).
@@charlesh3751 by fasting how extreme you mean ?like 12 hours?
I stop it for a few weeks but I always keep going back to it 😢😢 over again eish I am struggling I want to stop now before it too late
@@DrTrishLeigh honestly for me it's the discipline and good distractions that work for me especially exercising and gaming just keeping busy staying busy. Some days or easier some are harder
Please pray for me to be free of this🙏
no
Can I have your first name so I include you in my prayers?
Prayers going up 🙏🏿
@@alejandrobarquero1347 My name is Joshua.
Praying. Who the Son sets free is free indeed. Get power from the Word my friend. God will help you.
I'm 35 and I conquered this addiction. I just wish I never fell into this crap in my 20's. But I realize it's never too late to rewire your brain.
It's never too late is right!
Wow, you did it, you actually did it. That's inspiring
@@mfundomzolo4498 Yes, but it's been far from easy. You have to be truly dedicated to not only quitting porn, but also focus on your willpower. Like giving up any other deadly substance/addiction, it takes time to overcome.
Maybe you can share your experience? It’s really hard to get rid of it…
@@fedorloginov3150 Yes! It's just as addictive as sticking a needle filled with heroin in your veins. I was addicted to porn throughout most of my 20's and it took me at least 3 years to quit and to practice controlling my sexual energy. It's not just sacrificing a toxic addiction that one needs to focus on, it's also your inner willpower to give up the one thing someone enjoys that's causing them more pain than pleasure.
The fact that porn is available to anyone with an internet connection (to children!) is an absolute outrage and scandal. I discovered porn at 12 years old when my brain was still developing. Trying to rid myself of this poison everyday. Porn is destructive and harms people like a street drug. In a healthy society that cared about peoples' wellbeing it would never be accepted. Evil is everywhere folks. Be strong! We can do it 💪
I saw a video of no fap and the guy said The first time he saw pornography, he was 4 years old because his cousin showed him some. So yep ! No wonder the new generation are fucked up !
But People just don't get who's running all these businesses having a destructive influence on our societies....
Earth is Hell basically 🤷♂️
Bro I discovers it at like 7 or 6 remember wen porn use to have its own channel on cable tv that’s wat really messed mind up as a person wish I would’ve never accidentally found that channel
It really is outrageous and the worst part is nobody is doing anything agaisnt it, or maybe there are people who are, but it’s not getting enough support.
It just shows that our societies are deeply rotten and don’t want to let go of their addiction.
100 days now free from porn
I love to hear it! Keep rocking it out my friend 💪
Congrats. Stay strong and keep posting updates on sites like this bc I feel it inspires people that they too can recover.
Good job bro!
Thank God, God bless you all, it's been 13 months since I quit porn and masturbation after almost 25 years, fortunately no relapses so far, thank you so much Dr. Trish Leigh
Wow, I love this. Thank you for sharing! 🤗Keep rocking it out
What benefits do you observe from this?
@@jordisthegreat4987 what are you doing different
Great work...!
I'm right behind you brother.🎉
You fixed ED?
“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." Matthew 5:8.
Affordable to everyone only costs $799 😂 thank you for posting your free videos doctor, but I think I’ll stick with what I’m doing and continue to develop a spiritual connection with myself through prayer and meditation. This method is free folks
this entire video is just buildup to an ad… p*rn is an easy target for views and a lot of content creators know it
LMAO 😂 I couldn't have said it better myself. I was looking for this comment. And the most funniest part about this whole comment is she won't comment back on it 😂😂😂😂
This is just how business works guys, she prices what people day, once her day is filled she has to up the price, that's the only way to make it manageable. It's because she has a big channel, find a smaller one that's also doing courses
Thanks sir. Just saved me almost 20 minutes.
Yeah, it’s not like she doesn’t have hundreds of videos for free on TH-cam to help the people that can’t afford her program. Fucking clown
I wish more people knew about this, you spoke extremely eloquently on the matter!
There are a couple of approaches I that found extremely useful:
1. Recognizing the root problem.
2. Reading books - or every other action that requires long-term concentration.
3. Stopping the habit loop when recognizing triggers and replacing the habitual action with other actions that introduce similar rewards: going for a run, socializing, eating something.
4. Finding a new hobby, like learning a new language.
5. Avoiding social media, or at least manage its exposure and utilize it for your benefit.
6. Reminding yourself of the negative consequences of it and the reasons for quitting
7. Practicing mindfulness
8. Stop putting it on a pedestal - this is the lowest form of content possible, the "junk food" of the brain, you might even say.
Not enough people talk about these same exact effects on women! This video could help a lot of women as well! It’s not just a men’s issue!
I agree! Women can absolutely be addicted as well, and most of the same things apply
@@DrTrishLeigh😮😮😮
So MEN MEN MEN....
I am so tired of the entertainment media
blaming men for everything......
MOVIES
TV
SITCOMS
Even the ones that are SUPPOSEDLY the "MANLY" ones.....
They portray men as bumbling neanderthals that only drink beer and watch porn.
We eent from Father Knows Best.....TO
Married w/Children.
We went from....
Leave it to Beaver
to The Simpsons.
We went from The Andy Griffith Show
to RoseAnne.
What about women that want their husbands to "perform" like Hollywood male actors,or have the stamina of a porn star or their BOBS
(battery operated boyfriends).
I'm 65......I have long sinced past being concerned,caring, or wondering about what a female wants,needs or desires.I really do not care what anyone thinks about me.
Marriage is nothing but one of two things
1.....Sexless roommates
2.....Roommates with benefits.
Dang all u need too do is stop being flakey and disloyal and we wouldn’t have to ruin our brains in solitary
@@Danipieee madam are you also suffering from these addiction if you overcome it please 🙏 help
hello dani, do you watch porn everyday? in what scenearios, private or public as well? do u feel u prefer it over normal human to human sex?
Hello i just across your video.
Im 32y old single male and i have been clean from pornography and masturbation for over a week now, and I've deleted multiple Instagram accounts from my account to avoid lust and wanting to have the urge to do the deed. I also avoid looking at women while at the gym and at work to avoid such thoughts so i won't plant a seed. Right now I am truly in the process of turning to God for spiritual strength and growth because i feel like that's all i have left to do. I can't seem initiate or keep a conversation with a women for too long because of this addiction for almost 15yrs. I will be watching more of your videos to keep myself more informed, thank you!
This woman is a godsend to men.
I must stop today it all ends for me no more porn send me positive energy guy's. I wana be free of this bullshit
You've got this my friend!💪
How’s it going?
You got it!
How is it going? ❤️
@@tjurostas3704 the struggle is definitely real but I keep pushing day in day out
I was always told it was fine, it was normal, no consequences. Now I understand how bad I did for years. Thank you so much
Dr. Trish, thank you for this whole explanation of how and why a porn habit takes effect. It makes a lot of sense, because I grew up in a very stressful environment, but the good news is I’m about 3 months porn free and it feels great! It’s gotten to the point now that I don’t even think of porn the way I did when I was constantly using it. Have a great day!
How do you even get that far most i can do is a week or so man
I love to hear it! Keep rocking it out my friend
I want to encourage everyone struggling out there that If I could've won this battle, then anyone can. I've started watching regularly around 16 and sunk incredibly low by age 25 where I was doing it for many hours on end. This then escaleted even more when I was trying to quit I was regularly doing atrocious relapses with 8/10/14+ hours of edging. But with the help of this angel and God I managed to fight back from that deep hole. After the last bad relapse I just gave an oath to my mother, father and God that this will be the last time I do this to myself... In my estimation it then took me 6 months of heavy abstinence symptoms almost daily. It was literally hell for me but I survived it. I had a lot of trauma and ongoing family issues, so perhaps not everyone is like that and could be better off. I just wish dr. Leigh was here a couple of years earlier when I was completely unaware of what I was doing to myself while blisfully edging almost daily.
i start to believe god and the church plays a big role in this topic ^^
How old are you when stopped this bad habit ??
Please pray for me to be free from this 🙏, I really need your prayers now
Remember that USA produces and share porn and they themselves pretend to help you to quit from porn..and they want you to pay for both…notice the contrast…!!!
I'm a 60 yr old widower. Been struggling with this since 14. Had 30 good yrs with my wife but struggled with fantasies and emotional attraction the whole way. You were speaking to me exactly here. Since my wife s been gone it was no holds bar battle. Being alone looking for comfort. Wanting to be with someone else, not happening because of unrealistic expectations it created. Thanks for the video
I only recently got my first girlfriend and this is why I’m here. I never realized just how trained my brain was to porn and masturbating. We’ve had sex multiple times and I’ve never finished. I get her off quite easily but for myself? We’ve gone for several hours before and I haven’t felt remotely anything. This is why I’m here. Knowing that my brain is used to not only my hand getting me off, but also getting off to the site of other people having sex is super problematic and I urge people to quit porn IMMEDIATELY
When I was addicted I couldn't get hard or wasn't into it. Now that I don't masturbate or watch porn I enjoy sex more and able to perform better
Holy damn. This is the video that really hit me in the right time. I am 58 Days free of Video Porn, but strayed to just audio instead, thinking it was a better option. But this video really has opened my eyes and showed me how underlying this problem is. Thank you for showing this to the world. I will now finally do the step and delete every type of porn i have on any device and get to the big steps.
Thank you for all that you do & continue to share with us
Thank you for the kind words 🤗
I am doing musterbition from last 8 years now i left it. Can my body and mind can recover @@DrTrishLeigh
Amen❤❤❤❤
Always a blessing to hear you..
Thank you for this explanation! It helped a lot! I discovered something else that causes porn addiction, since I know this I don’t want to do porn anymore, even when I’m emotional or stressed out and feel the urges. You are right that you changed your baseline by watching porn and it causes indeed problems with real sexual relationships. And I think most guys turn to porn and masturbation because they are afraid or know how unwanted rejection feels. Most men don’t know how to deal with that. Because guys want to form a relationship with what they think is a beautiful, sweet and intelligent woman (and this girl doesn’t have to be real either! It could be a fantasy or a woman that you don’t know but see every day), but if they get rejected it’s most of the time the woman that does this to him and its “only” because of her feelings. Her feelings are illogical and men don’t know how to deal with that. Because her feelings are illogical, often she can’t explain why she rejects him. It triggers in the guys mind al kinds of emotion like sadness, frustration, anger and stress because they make the mistake by wanting to solve it or thinking they are not good enough. But you can’t solve somebody’s opinion and feelings and her opinion of you doesn’t say anything, trust me I know😊 But the only way and rule for us men is: accept her feelings, respect her thoughts, wish her the best (and you must mean it), let go and move on. Then do introspection (read: journaling, and all activities except for porn and masturbation and chasing her or another woman) and get back to form real relationships in real life!(When you are very young, you don’t have problems with making friends because you don’t have a lot of complex thoughts. It’s the quality and complexity of your thoughts that causes the addiction).
Besides that, it’s called porn addiction, but if you deal with this, I think you are addicted to only masturbation because that is the thing that is regulating your mood, not the porn. Porn is harmful because something else. First, masturbation is harmful when you are just using it to regulate and coping with your mood. If you do that all the time you waste your energy (literally) on touching yourself. But the urge of wanting to masturbate is actually the right feeling to have, because you can use that “pain” and “almost uncontrollable energy” to form new connections, to work-out, to read, to do social things without sex. For me I started to have less brainfog and I could find more and better words to speak with and to people. My axienty went away and I remembered more of my day (because I used that energy for all kinds of things during the day that were not Porn or Masturbation). Second, porn is actually not that addictive in my opinion, because I think you can’t like porn if you can’t masturbate to it. Try to watch porn only to see porn. It’s no fun and actually boring. I don’t know if I’m the only one experiencing this. It’s the masturbation that makes it very excited. Porn is harmful (also when you just looking at it without masturbating) because it makes you less aroused when you are having real sex. Real sex is then not that exciting anymore, even when she is just beautiful and very sexual and everything a guy wants in a woman. I found this out when I first had sex with somebody I really liked, I had to force myself to focus on her and our connection. Then it dawned on me that if I hadn’t use porn, I could easily have great and intimate sex with her. I immediately quit porn and masturbation all together, and I told her that I was struggling with this. I asked her to have sex with me when she wants to for a whole year, because I need to reset my baseline. Now I considering myself healthy because I synched with her sexual needs and moments. I’m very grateful for her. ❤
You're addicted to both actually. Porn & Masturbation. You're also addicted to your own neurochemicals!
Great to see some new amazing videos Dr Trish Leigh. Started back on using the Muse and getting outside doing jobs while trying to limit phone use.
Glad to hear this!
@@DrTrishLeigh I have a question are there any supplements that aid recovery that you are aware of?
I needed this video today. I have been suffering so so much. Thank you for all you do.
23 M here, Today will be 1 month since i left porn and masturbation, havent feel so happy and free in a long time, i wish anyone struggling with this the best and hope you can do it too
So do you think also masturbation is the problem?
@mattewlefty991 if done in excess yes, i used to masturbate 2-3 times a day when i was a teenager and i had no energy or motivation to do anything after, also my view of womens changed like my relationships with them for better, i can maintain eye contact and follow a conversation without my mind going wild with sexual toughts.
@@mattewlefty991I believe masturbation is also a problem. Your brain gets used to your hand getting you off and your dick no longer gets as satisfied by a vagina. It’s a huge problem
If you feel like it controls you instead of the other way around then yes in my opinion, no expert tho lol.
Listening to this at age 29
I discovered porn through my cousin who showed me in secret as a 11 or 13 year old toddler with no notion of this horrible addiction that would grasp and grip on my mind and now i still learning to fight it as a 20 year old young man and i hope to get rid of it somehow. Please i beg to someone to humbly pray for me if possible but until then i am going to try hard as much as possible.
You were an 11 year old toddler?
I am 23... Thanks for letting me know early... god bless you doctor ❤️
It's my mission to heal brains from explicit matters. I'm glad you're here!
I am 28 now and finally beat this addiction. But it saddens me because since i was an young teen I have basically fallen victim to everything you've described. Specifically my brain not operating at its full cognitive functioning. And then what's worse is now I am in the neuro degradation phase. Wish I could have find this channel back then, because my life would be so much different.
Same. I was a slave to this since 9 years old and when I discovered fapping at the age of 13, it all went downhill from there.
By God's grace, I'm finally free of this addiction as it has been almost 8 months so far. Just sad of all the potential that was robbed from me due to this disgusting habit. Nearly 30 years of it...
Idk why she said 28. Most of the studies say 25. Anyways
Brain degradation is not mandatory. Nothing proves the brain cannot still make new connections, grow its grey matter or develop neurogenesis via behavior or, even substances such as Psilocybin for example. Don’t get discouraged. Just don’t go back to porn.
This is why I do what I do! To prevent future generations from getting sucked into this addiction!
do you think we can fully recover from it? and how do you know you've beat it?
@@Athmos18 When you have no desire to look at porn and fap to it, you will know you've beaten it.
Hi everyone today i got 4 weeks clean i've been watching these videos i know i can overcome this disease i know i will i'll defeat porn i'm stronger i'll win!
This doc is a blessing. We will beat this together.
Thank you for what you do I’m almost 24 and this has been a lifelong struggle,
You are doing God’s work to help men out of this Evil habit. May God bless you✝️❤
I’ve been “trying “ to “quit” for about 5 years now. Ur caption is gold.
Just start edging, you will get rid of your addiction within 2 days.
@ start edging? That’s bad advice bro. It’s all good tho, I’m 8 days no PMO. Ngl, I found a lil honey to seduce and that’s enough motivation to not give in. (I still get urges)
@@TreGC69 ok but edging worked for me, I didn't watch any porn from last 4 months and also use my imagination for edging.
@@Mahinegi-ui9cxdude😂
This is such a great lecture, with mechanisms well explained. Thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
I am currently experiencing porn addiction and I’ve tried multiple times to quit but haven’t had any success. I’m gonna keep trying though so today is day one. 🙌
There's no magic pills just quit it for the sake of your soul
Brother the cure is focusing on your life. Jobs, education, friendships, relationships, health. Dont let shame fuel this.
My god best video I have ever seen about this thank you so much.
This battle is more than just mental but spiritual. It's the voices that keep whispering in the ears telling you to just do it once more. There is no harm but we know what it does and who can save us. Not everyone can afford getting professional counseling so only Jesus can help.
I already had a masturbation problem years before I started watching Adult Films. It started with fantasy and sex scenes in Hollywood movies. I didn't get consistent access to adult flicks until my late teens.
Many people can relate to this unfortunately!
Yes it is possible cuz I had this addiction for a long time since my teens and I'm 37th and I haven't watched porn for 6 years and been practicing semen retention for 2 years and I been with my wife going on 20y , don't think you can't do , the first thing is to I ament the problem and work on yourself mentally and spiritually and physically , God blessed us forever
ive stopped watching Corn since 5 days and its only the beginning, I hope this will be on a long term
Using Binaural Beats activating my theta and delta states for that calm focus help my brain working better again.
I could feel a lot of significant life-changing improvements after quiting this nocive addiction!
Without any exaggeration🥰
I’ve been trying to quit my entire life.
I'm here to help if you need it! drtrishleigh.com
U got that ✅️
I've had to attack this thing from multiple angles.......
Intellectually; consuming content regarding addiction, recovery and the neuroscience of it all.
Emotionally; examining my dispositional shame and working through it best, I can.
Relationally; developing genuine intimacy As a replacement
And Spiritually;
Prayer, meditation, examining scripture & strengthening my relationship with the God of my understanding.
Not one of these was enough to give me what I needed to break free.
I can relate..been at it for years now... but we have to keep resisting..you have to fight for it... that's what I came to realize...It's not about stopping a habit it's about becoming someone new entirely...I wish you the best in your recovery.
A 20-minute promotional broadcast for a USD 1´199 program. Wow, that's a shame!
Someone give this woman an award for actually caring for men and their health. As a man, I can say everything she said is 100% true. Quit porn.
On side note, the band "Porno for Pyros" announced their 2024 farewell tour.
Hi Dr Leigh. Two years since I quit basically lifelong masturbation habit, and my memory, focus, energy and general attention skills have gone downhill. I'm 46. I often think that my brain still hasn't got used to not getting the huge amounts of dopamine it got before. Maybe now I'm too low on dopamine, and that causes a lot of trouble, quite honestly. Still, I'm happy that I've managed to stay clean for so long, and definitely plan to keep on it as long as I can.
Find out more about this: drtrishleigh.com/overcoming-the-struggle-how-to-feel-better-after-quitting-porn/ - Hope this helps!
I had the misfortune of finding my older brothers stash of VHS porn tapes when i was 7. It set me on a path of no return. I remember spending hours after school watching that shit for years. Then the internet came and i started viewing all kinds of porn online and would even make up excuses to go to my fathers office to use his computer during the weekend to browse that shit. Completely poisoned my mind, ruined my ability to form healthy relationships and contributed to sexual identity issues. Kids shouldn't be allowed to anywhere near that stuff!!
I was on day 6 feeling like a true champion I slipped then and the next day. I’m re committed but I’m scared I will slip or worse relapse.
Make sure you adjust your recovery plan accordingly! Understand what you let fall through to let the slip happen and make sure you have plans put in place to prevent the same thing from happening again!
Am 2.4 years, its a decade when i have been attacked by this disastrous enemy. Lord have mercy. Made a choice to quit aint going back 🙏
Wow. I'm watching this as someone on the other side of the industry. I'm starting to question things, and hope to help with healing and integration also.
Wouldn't hurt if modern women didn't take the whole "playing hard to get" thing to a factor of 11 aswell..
I hear ya bro but at the same time we as men should be chasing our purpose and fun hobbies more to the point we don’t even notice them that often
It has nothing to do with females. You can get any female you want. Yet once you are deep in porn. None of these females would ever beat porn.
Women don't owe you their bodies as a cum dump, especially when women have a lot to lose while engaging with men sexually. Practice self control and invest in hobbies instead of putting your problems on women
everything went over my head bcuz i couldn't take my eyes off her eyes
Watch your relationships too. Exposed very young, ended up hooked. Got control and anytime i struggle its trigged by toxic relationships.
"Doctor, you mentioned that our brain stops developing at 28. I've been addicted since I was 13, and now I'm 25. Does this mean I only have 2 years left to recover and allow my brain to develop properly? If I quit this addiction now, can my brain still catch up on the development I missed?"
Yes it can. But it requires a lifestyle change. Get into the gym, start eating organic and whole foods and get 8 hours of sleep. Also, take up reading and learn new things. Your brain will recover and become stronger. It's not late!
Yes, you need to make the right choices daily. You CAN do it!! If you fail, turn around and keep going the right way… keep going!
Yes! But it requires work. I'm here to help if you need it: drtrishleigh.com
It's extremely devastating beside violence & drugs. Sadly that people are exploiting it on others for their gains.
I'm almost a year porn free and the temptation has been worse than ever this week. Reminding myself all the reasons I've quit and trying to research why it's so difficult right now, like maybe my brain hasn't really yet recovered.
90% of men can't get a date. What else is left.
How about be a man and go do the work on yourself 😂😂or be sad and lonely forever….its not that difficult y’all just lazy
Others things 10lifes wouldn't be enough to acknowledge this world " sciences, knowledge etc..., porn = waste I'd rather not watching it even I am single this ass porn is gay.
There's more to life. The person who is always searching for tranquility will never find it, even if every single thing else is right. The act of searching prevents you from finding it.
It's been my entertainment for years.
It doesn't have to be in the future! The real world is so much better. If you need help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
I understand completely, I follow those stars and don't really care for Hollywood actors, it's tough to turn away.
As a dog returns to his own vomit, So a fool repeats his folly. Proverbs 26:11 NKJV
God took this from me, begging and begging to be free and one day i truly surrendered to God, Jesus took this from me, the weight the drive the lust.
IM FREE
HE FREED ME! DO NOT GIVE UP! GO TO A QUIET PLACE AND GET ON YOUR KNEES AND FACE AND BEG, PLEAD, CONFESS YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO HIM AND REALIZE THE FIGHT DOESNT EXIST! ITS WON!!!!
Thanks...for information.... but with God all things are possible and He is help in time of need! #Mind #Healing #Wholeness
Whatever helps on your road to recovery!
I’m not going to lie. I don’t think there’s a way to recover if you started your addiction at an early age. You just have to trudge forward and endure in life. What I’m starting to realize is that there’s no way to escape accountability for the choices of your past- even if you were too young to grasp the consequences when you were making them.
There absolutely is a way to recover! It may not seem possible right now, but I've helped many people recover with all levels of addiction. Hope is never lost! If you want more help, I'm here drtrishleigh.com
why do you think that brother?
Bullshit... I'm 35 now and it's taken 5 years to re wire slowly but my life has changed so much from it
@@danch10 in how did it change??
@@Athmos18 Career took off, personality change, quit gaming, stronger, more attractive
It's definitely a struggle. I'm ready to fight it
I never trust anyone who says it's not your fault, or, you're entitled to this...
Ur a beast at explaining this🔥🔥🔥😍
Thank you my friend!
It's even harder now days because it's more difficult than ever to find a decent partner. I don't have trouble in relationships due to porn, I fall back into porn because relationships never last.
9 yrs of intense porn addiction . My body structure is not changed from age 12 to age 21. Lufe is hell .
Plz pray for me so i can live menrally healhy
My brain is wrecked. If we conquer this we conquer everything else.
You are so clever to explain ......
Thank you!
If a person can’t accept that how/why it was their fault to begin with, they won’t be able to take the responsibility to stop
Please pray for me I wanna stop its lame
I pray for you..stay strong…
💪
USA is the source of porn..
They produce and share porn and they pretend to trying to help you to heal..notice the hypocrisy
You've got this my friend!
God is the ONLY way to deliverance.
i had 18 days on semen retention and i relapsed to pmo.. I bounce back. But i feel like my will power is not enough to conquer this. I will try my very best all the time but i feel forced to relapse..
Hey man I’m on the same page but you always have to stay hopeful and strong that one day you’ll be able to free yourself. Just keep trying new things and never quit. You got this bro today is day 1 for me let’s conquer this!
@@ItsRedFlame ok bro yes u are right im on day 9 now. we can do this we have to leave pmo behind
@@camusik5673 good shit bro keep it up
Just don't do it to porn, it's OK to masturbate every now and then but dont look at porn while doing it
Doctor I relapsed twice last night due to high sexual tension and thoughts which made me relapse twice and it didn’t make me to be at all ,cause I’m promising and failing myself at the same time ,I just hope I can get this over with cause I’ll take action.
❤TBH I quit porn for 6 years as the only need I had for it was being single for 8 years previously. Since I was clean for 6 years I've gone back to watching it daily as my relationship broke down.
If you have a partner, I really don't see the need for porn.
I can't understand couples that watch porn together.
Have missed you Dr. TRISH 😂. I no longer see your videos on my feed, I wonder why😊
Very helpful
Another thing to mention is big players in America don’t want you to be free of this burden because it’s soo profitable for them to keep us all addicted leading to much more and bigger problems for people
I realized that when I would watch porn I’d be more calm during the day, no anxiety, no overthinking, just a quite mind but when I would go two days I’d get horible anxiety and really loud and busy mind.
Please pray for me
That does nothing. Did your parents indoctrinate you to believe it does something?
Best channel on TH-cam regarding this topic. Very educative and informative. Keep up the good work Doctor
Peace and blessings!
Please pray for me, I have been going through painful times, for last two years I have been suffering from regular nightall and now I am completely in mental and physical problems. I unable to cure from this. I was mustarbating and watching porn for long time and now I have been suffering from severe nightfall and due to this now I am completely in mental stress, my nerves are also damaged. Please kindly help me with your good suggestions if anyone you have
I'm sorry to hear you're struggling my friend😓If you need help, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com/get-started/
I’m 32 and I’ve been addicted to pron for the last 18 years, and for video games for almost all my life, specially online gaming in the last 10 since it is a lot more addicting.
I feel sad barely wondering if all the damage I’ve caused to myself can be undone and repaired
Thanks doctor
I will defeat it for sure 😢
Been out for a year, and oh boy. I get hard rock like never in my life 🤤🤤
I want you all to give me your opinion PLEASE... I have had something called Crohn's Disease, (a digestive disorder) since I was 15yo. This disease makes me severely underweight and I have scars from surgery on my abdominal area... my question is...Do you think I have somewhat of an excuse to watch pornography?... being that no matter how hard I work and motivate myself, it's never going to make a lot of "real women" find me attractive because a disease makes you a less viable candidate for love making and reproduction... BUT just because I struggle with "real women" doesn't mean I don't have the desire to see them naked just like any other heterosexual man... your thoughts please 🤷🏾♂️
Hey...In my opinion watching porn makes it worse because behavioral addiction takes a toll on you,you can't even think straight!!I believe everybody is capable of love and to be loved.So brother,as much as you feel undesirable because of your physical defects,there's someone out there for you but porn is not the answer,it will do more damage than good.
Thank you for sharing my friend. I respect your honesty. While it may be more difficult for people struggling with chronic diseases to find a partner, that doesn't mean it's not possible! You'd be surprised by what a healthy mind can attract. However, one that's addicted to porn will find it nearly impossible
@@DrTrishLeigh 😍 Thank You
I may not qualify as someone who has a pornography addiction, but I do find that I consistently resort to watching pornography and it has actually made most women seem unattractive to me. It is pretty bad at this point. Hoping that with this information, and in conjunction with serious action,I can help my brain recover.
If my wife wanted to have sex as much as normal woman wants, it would not have any problem. I get sex with her only one time or two times in a year. She is never interested in having sex at all. So masturbation has always been the solution for me all my life since I was a teenager, including porn. And now I am an older man. Hope I can recover and get the help I need from you Dr. Trish Leigh.
Rebuilding intimacy with a partner is always possible! Often, your partner will be affected by your porn use too and may withdraw physically and mentally. Therefore, it's crucial to focus on your connection, building trust, and becoming honest. I fyou need help, I'm here! drtrishleigh.com
2x a year is wild man! I'm not married but I've heard most married folks do it multiple times a week. Sounds like you need to have a serious sit down with your spouse. See where's her head is at or because it's a woman, understand her feelings towards you
Please pray for me i need your prayers friends as i am a porn addict struggling with early ejaculation and hentai addiction. Please help I feel dirty asf
You've got this my friend!💪
I thought I have porn addiction, but I don't have symptoms she's talking about. Now I'm confused
All I really wanted to hear was
"You can re-sensitize the reward center"
Then how to start.
Been in this decaying loop for long my baseline is far higher now.
How do I outsmart myself?
“Your brain is completely rewired and developed completely wrong. Lucky for you, you can pay me!”
Thanks Doctor ❤
I work in the fire service, after traumatic experiences and bad calls I have started experiencing decreased arousal or a couple of times complete dysfunction, it does pass after a few days and my wife is very understanding about it. My question is is there anything you recommend that may help. I gave up watching porn over a year ago.
So Dr. what are the steps of a porn addiction recovery? Not watching ok.. should I stop completely masturbating too? Or just having fantasies about porn is the problem?