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- Hi girlies 🦋 GRWM as we chat all things self comparison! Tips on how to stop comparing yourself to other women and how to feel more confident within yourself 🥰
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"you can see the beauty in others, without questioning your own"
period
Something that I do that helps me when I feel jealousy towards another woman is that I immediately force myself to go and make friends with her and give her a compliment. Immediately without much thought and that helps my nervous system so much because it's me telling my brain "it's okay another beautiful woman is not a threat".
So good ❤️
I know it's stupid, but the worst thing is when they don't compliment you back (':
You’re so right and by giving a complement the other person normally replies happy and with a smile which then draws you to them even more :D
Perhaps forcing friendship is a bit too far, because eventually this behavior will slip through and could be harmful to her. I had TWO close friends who would make subtle and not so subtle remarks to put me down to feel elevated. Keeping it at a simple compliment should be enough as you are currently working on undoing this sort of harmful behavior. Seek out friendships only AFTER you've noticed a consistent change in this mindset and behavior so as to not inadvertently cause damage to another woman's inner self as you are working out your own.
It's better to make friends than enemies!
Yes!!!!!!!
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A lot of my insecurities stemmed from getting bullied as a kid. I was mainly bullied by guys. They tore me down to the ground and now I’m trying to pick up the pieces. I am beautiful and I am enough no matter what anybody says ❤ Thank you
You are beautiful girl ! Don’t let any one tear you down ❤️🫂
@@africanqueen5292 thank you! You just don’t understand how much I needed that message
@@itzkaydayz5408 your welcome beautiful! I’ve been there too. I still struggle with my self confidence, but it gets easier girl!! Remember that life is so short. We are all on this earth temporarily. Do not allow any one to live rent free in your head. Free yourself from the negative perceptions of yourself that you’ve internalized!! And it’s okay to just be, we as women do not owe any one “beauty”! We deserve to take up space because we are human beings 🙏😇! Shine on beautiful. Keep the twinkle in your eyes. Don’t allow any one to dim your light !!
Girl I know it’s not just about being beautiful on the outside , but I swear your profile photo here is amazingly beautiful !!!! I hope you feel better !!
omg me too! I pray for our healing!!
I’ve learnt to look at other peoples motivation as a source of motivation for me. Its like if she accomplished it then i can accomplish whatever goal i have too.
I needed this soo much. I just went to a party, and saw one of my friend's friend who was soo beautiful, likee so pretty, even her personality was amazing, I literally felt so inferior to her, I started to compare myself, that I'm not pretty enough, she's so good, and here I can't even match her level
i always tell myself i am my only competition i stay in my own lane knowing the best version of me is my goal not being better than or like another women. I love embracing my uniqueness. ❤
I needed this video. Currently I have decided to stop comparing myself to other women, and it's been a few weeks since I've started. I made a conscious decision to not do so when I see someone who is better dressed, prettier or more affluent. I just say "that's good for her, that doesn't make me less important or anything" and i keep it moving. And it works! But nothing changes overnight, so I am working on this daily. So thank you for this video. ❤
this was very reassuring to hear that I’m going in the right direction when it comes to my confidence. it’s so hard rn having to let go of someone who’s secretly in competition with me. I am aware I’m closed off sometimes, but I’m working on opening up more, it’s just scary.
You got this babe!!!!
I have crazy crazy trust issues. I was raised in the ghettos of Houston where you constantly had to watch your back. None of the men or women in my life truly protected me up until age 15 when I was adopted. I was molested and raped by two family members. Ever since I could remember I never felt worthy. Always feeling like I was lacking. I’ve been heartbroken more times than I can count, and relationships have never seemed to work out for me. I found myself choosing the wrong guys that never truly loved me and the wrong females that ended up betraying me over and over like a broken record. I’m just ready for this madness to stop. Even after “glowing up” i still felt like I had to keep glowing up. I’ve ever considered going under the knife to look better and better. I realize I have mental health issues. These videos help a lot.
Thank you for this, because I can't stop feeling jealous of other women, and it's really affecting my everyday life, I needed this
wow- I needed this really bad. I realized, only within the last 2 weeks, that my anxiety lies in my nervous system. I’m dissociated 24/7, even alone, and incredibly anxious. I feel on edge all day. It’s really severe, but I’ve masked it for like 10 years at least. I abandoned myself. Everything became a threat or somewhere to prove myself. The way I feel toward other women isn’t healthy. I’ve felt the anxiety around other women I deem as better in some way (usually my mind would go to my partner liking them more than me) and it’s so hard. I’m aware of that but I never thought until now to turn to the nervous system to heal. You’re a lovely person and I admire you a lot for making this. Thank you ❤️
11:42 Someone else's beauty isn't the absence of your own
oo i like thatt
What do you struggle with when it comes to self confidence and comparison ? Let me know 🥰
being truly happy for other women's achievements w/o comparison/ wishing i had achieved a similar goal
With self confidence, I truly have it, I am confident. However in social situations I sometimes struggle to embrace my confidence because so much is going on.
Thank you for all the wisdom and unique insight you share Elicia. It's really impacting my life. When it comes to confidence, my main obstacle is perfectionism. I don't want to be seen until I'm at a level I feel comfortable sharing. So, I push away intimacy and vulnerability and I hide until "I'm ready." It's such a flawed premise. I think I need to humanize everyone and accept we're all going through something similar.
@@hannah1989 next video will 1000% be for you then 😍
This has to be one of your best videos. We as women need to stick together and not be our own worst enemy because of societal standards and roles of men in our lives. We have to help each other and lift each other up, and I am glad that you aimed this video at fixing ourselves in order to live in harmony with our fellow sisters. Thank you
anything that truly belongs to you cannot be taken 🧘♀️
This is such a feel good video. I always feel so much better about myself after I listen to you, it really is like talking to one my closest girlfriends! I can't thank you enough. I always look forward to all of your posts and content. Thank you
Awww my heart 🥹❤️ I appreciate you being a part of my circle of the internet 🥰
This is gold ! I wish I knew it between ages 19-26 especially but I’m 28 now and better now than never ! Those were the ages I didn’t have hobbies or stuff I felt connected with / really enjoyed and it made me not feel my best ! Now that I have hobbies and things I enjoy, I don’t feel the need to compare ! And now I feel I appreciate other women’s beauty and try to complement them when I can instead of feeling bad :)
i'm sooo excited for this one, need more sisterhood in my life
Yes babe 😍
The second scenario is definitely me I didnt have a problem with women until I encountered a hidden enemy which stemmed from allowing previous friendships who would betray me, secretly competing with me and having interest in guys I would date. but I would always let it slide, and it did alot of damage that I am now undoing. I was that happy girl that thought everyone was my friend. I feel like I just need to heal and not have friends for a while until I do. Which I’m doing now. It’s definitely a process but I don’t want it to be my reality. I am looking forward to having a true girly in the future though 🥰
I love listening to you and I usually get ready too while I listen. You always touch on topics I think of in my mind that I need advice on. Love you girl!
Aww thank you babe!! Love you 🥰❤️
Perfect timing, thank you love for uploading! 💚💚
Thank you for watching 🥰
this video is the most wholesome healthy video I've ever watched
Omg 🥹 thank you babe ❤️
I love how you’re so open and willing to speak about hard truths and the things that so many of us struggle with. Thank you for your inspiring content ❤ Your videos are always helping me gain new perspectives, as well as helping me to quickly squash any negative mindset or cycle that attempts to consume my thought process.
Ugh my heart! So happy to hear that this is what you’re feeling based off of my content. So blessed ❤️
What a great topic! I love this so much because I always say how much I love women and I love my relationships with women and we need to have more of these conversations! I love your perspective on this💙
I love this so much 😍
I love how your videos come right in time ❤
I’m so glad 🥰
If you put concealer on those dark spots first (2 small layers is what I do) and then follow with the concealer it helps cover it a bit better so you don’t use as much foundation. Just a friendly tip I did make up artistry for a little while and love to help other women get their best look. 💜 I really appreciate this video. It came to me when I needed it thank you ❤
Ahh thank you so much babe I appreciate the tips 🥰
I’m a fairly new subscriber to your channel and I can’t thank you enough for the advice you share! Im in my early twenties and am really trying to focus on self growth & becoming more confident and sure of myself and I love that your content delves into how to do this. I’ve found that alot of the advice around this topic for women is reduced to mantras and circular “believe you’re beautiful because you are” ideas which hasn’t helped in building up genuine confidence in myself lol. I’ve also found a lot of such advice centers around and caters to having a very inflated ego, rather than a balanced and realistic view of yourself. Thank you so much for your inspirational words and videos!!♥️
This is sooo beautiful and I’m so honoured that I’ve embodied this type of advice that you have been looking for on your journey, thank you so much babe ❤️
hey, i dont have time to watch the whole video right now due to my exam coming up buuut i just came to say that i LOVE you!!
Aww I LOVE YOU!! Good luck on exams ☺️
Thank you for being so candid about this issue. Comparison is something I’ve had to navigate myself, especially in today’s social media-driven world. I recently uploaded a video on my own journey with comparison, and I think it might resonate with you! 💫 Keep doing what you’re doing, love. xx
Your videos are always so motivating. I love your content 🥀
I work with someone who, I hate to say it , am prettier than BUT I still lowkey find myself secretly comparing and competing. She’s outgoing and not shy, and she’s not afraid to feel her emotions. Ex: when she gets mad everyone knows, or when she happy , she’s making everyone laugh . and I wish I had those qualities as well. I seem to be nice to her but secretly enjoy when other people tell me why I’m better . What can I do to stop this ? I feel super fake and two faced.
thanks for this conversation ft. nice tutorial 🤪 it's always soo good to listen to you especially when you go deep in your thoughts, love that
Sometimes jealousy just makes you kind of hurt because you think your husband would like them better or maybe you think your friends would.
No one is going to take your people away from you.
Your friends chose you for a reason babes❤
any advice on growing a social media following and getting rid of the fear of failure or being made fun of for starting a media presence?
GIRRLLL this video came up to me in such great timing ,i want to thank you for making this type of content 💕
I have this big problem when I’m in a relationship I always compare with other women and I’m totally the opposite when I’m single it’s easy for me to do whatever you said but when I’m in a relationship it’s hard for me to not see other women as a threat and I hate this
When I would normally say a compliment to a woman that I don’t know when I’m with my boyfriend I will keep it for myself ‘cause I don’t want him to see the same thing and then maybe compare me to her and thinks she’s better than me
so real I have this exact problem too to a tee 😭
Thank you for this video. Really needed this.
You’re so welcome ❤️
i literally do the bart meme to reset my mind “i am so great i am so great” *banging pots and pans*😂
When you respect, accept, have confidence within yourself and love yourself, trust me, you won't find any reason to compare yourself to anybody.
Elicia! Any tips on journaling? I have a journal and new pens but have no idea where to start and I want it to feel genuine & natural all while helping in bettering myself 💕
I have a journal guide linked on my bio which is digital and you can use your journal to write in! But I will be making a journal practice video very soon 😚
@@eliciagoguen thank you so much! ❤️
I love your channel soooo much ❤❤❤
You inspire me a lot
hi, pls i'm battling with anxiety and i need you to make a video even if it's not a video just an advice on how to get rid of it or control it tnxs
The problem with anxiety is that we are actually trying to be in control too hard, she has done a few videos talking about letting go and they’re great. Outside of Elicia I would suggest you to watch Lavendaire, she’s really good too❤️
Kindly, a fellow anxious girl
@@flw1522 thank u soo much
Do you have a podcast? I'd like to listen to you about self-care and growth episodes :) also that was really helpful, thank you! Have an amazing day💗💓
Yup!! It’s linked in the description 🤍
❤️❤️❤️ love this message thank you 🙏🏽 very much ⚡️⚡️⚡️⚡️🎉🎉🎉
can you do some productivity advice for when you're on a healing journey and constantly feel exhausted 💖 I love your videos more than anything 💖
I have lots of those videos on my page babe ❤️❤️
My heart would drop every time i see a woman, especially if she's prettier or has a better body. I spent most of my life being bullied. People would say i look like a man. Because i have broad shoulders and say i have surgery to look like a girl. But im all Woman. i feel so Depressed in my body. Cause i can never enter a room and not be a target. I feel insecure in the presence of other women. Cause i feel i dont amount or fit in with them. 😢 even though im a Woman myself.
I was just talking to my friend that I compare myself a lot to other people, and then saw this video and I couldn't not watch it
I’m working on this right now😢
LOVE THIS!!!!!!!
To be honest i really struggle with this😢 but when it comes to relationship. Like my boyfriend is really good and i love him but like if a girl talks to him or is pretty near him i get very VERy insecure. i know it's a me problem but i just feel nervous bcs i see all the time girls sayin that they got cheated on or replaced 😞
I love your videos 💘
We love you!!
I love you back 😍
I'm here💕💕love you!
I love youuuu 🥰
I lovee your content.
I’ve had people be jealous of me and I’ve never understood why. Yes i would seem pretty and happy and shining but a large part of my life has been a living hell. I wouldn’t wish my pain on anyone, being jealous is a waste of time.
You are gorgeous! 🤎
Thank you 🥹
you're welcome 😁@@eliciagoguen
How do you navigate too many unrealistic compliments?
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Awww you’re so sweet ❤️
Hi so my boyfriend of 9 months cheated on me with his ex girlfriend who is also my neighbor. I really liked her and I always wanted to be beautiful like her. And when I didn't know what happened, my bf suddenly said that “he couldn't fall in love with me” and broke up with me. Right now they are together.He is constantly trying to show me that they have fun with her, that they are dating, he opens his car windows so I can see them singing together and it hurts me so much because what happened was not my fault. And i feel very insecure about this situation. Idk what did she have that I didn't have that he left me and went to her. I feel ugly and “used”. And right now idk how can i heal from this. I’m trying my best but its not working. Can someone please give me advice and some tips? I really need them.
Just do not give a fuck about them. He's doing that just because you would react for it. He thinks that you are not over him. Just prove it wrong!! Move on from that douchebag. Love yourself!! Be happy. You are perfect and beautiful remember he just do not deserve a person like you.
He was a walking red flag but i fell for him idk how😂its so hard to get over him because we live close and i see him all the time, everywhere. But im trying my best to forget him and move on. Thank you for your respond, i hope all your wishes come true and you get the happiness you deserve!
How are you now babe?
^^^
When someone does something to us, it is not our fault. It’s more of a reflection of him, he probably feels insecure and incompetent, so he self sabotages. He might end up cheating on her or breaking up with her to get with you, because narcissists do that frequently. He’s being so obnoxious around you because he thinks about you. He’s gross and obsessed. Thank the lord that the trash took itself out.
Preachhhh I love women hhehhee
Love you more 😍
Hi, maybe consider making a video on making friends? You raised this subject now, I struggle with that a lot, not because I am introverted, but I just don't know where to make them 😢
Next video will be on this ❤️
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i literally needed this rn, thank you so much 😭🫶🫶
Of course babe ❤️
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Because of the fact that only be in my own zone it's just the clicks I don't have time for this is what I do when I'm when I'm at work I'm at I'm at my job I don't have time for nonsense p if I give you a conversation I'm real simple if you want to go in-depth with something else and I correspond with what I'm going to give you the way I feel if you don't want the truth don't ask I don't expect no one to do the same for me understand certain things you do have to what is not what you say is how you say it at the same time so yeah I can be straightforward but it's how I'm saying what I'm saying and a what's the right word either as a direct criticism and or a word of comfort words upon to be chosen wisely but it's going to be straight not to hurt because I try to use I try to use empathy when I talk to people cuz you never know you know how a person with a person is going through you know I have feelings just like the next person has feelings step on the person you no feelings and emotions I don't care whether your man woman and child we all have feelings
you look so cuteee🥰🥰
i get so jealous sometimes i can’t listen to people sing about traits that are attractive that i don’t feel i have, i should get therapy
I dont trust nor do I care about befriending other women.
Ok…??? So this video is not for you then.
@@eliciagoguen Didnt say that. Great video nonetheless. I agree with everything you stated in the video. I just find that with me being older now and having a teenage daughter, going back to school and working full-time. It is ALOT. I dont have the energy to compare myself to anyone nor make friends. Friendships requires committment and consistency. I should of been more specific in my post. It was too much to write.
Hi beautiful
Hello love ❤️
Cope, if the day ever comes you find a good man, make sure your girlfriends dont find out.
This conversation is like a broken record
women hate me and always battle me; take a picture of all my jewelry.
I was never a person who would compare themselves to other people. I developed this because I was surrounding myself with people who would constantly compare themselves to everyone ( including myself). And you immediately get bad vibes from them ( if YK,YK). Thanks for showing me the mirror. I'm gonna cut these people off and find myself new friends. If anyone is reading this and wanna be friends hit me up bestie🫀🌞
In my case is the environment I am in my home country. As much as I try to be friendly and open to other women very rarely do I get the same energy in return and it is funny because when I am in the US visiting my family that problem ceases to exist when I interact with American women 🫠
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