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My mom passed when I was 14 but the main piece of advice I remember her giving me was, “get to know yourself before letting somebody else get to know you” and I’ve never forgotten that. I never got the chance to ask her what she meant but I believe it was about self pleasure and finding yourself in this life in general. Self love is THE most significant and important thing to have for so many reasons. Great talk 💙
my mom and sister always said “love yourself before someone else does, because you can only let other people love you when you can love yourself.” and i think it’s about being able to lose people and be alone in life too and be independent before letting someone else in. maybe that’s also a bit what your moms advice means.
I just opened myself up yesterday. I'm finally allowing myself to Grieve the loss of my mom, I'm also getting back in touch with my love for vintage clothing and music, and I'm working on getting back on track with my Femininity Journey,and creating my dream life despite my circumstances.
Omg. My heart is with you. I’m so damn proud of you and please know that we are all here for you as a SISTERHOOD you are not alone. Sending you so much love babe ❤️
I'm comfortable being out on solo dates but I never bring a book for me to read, it's something that I wanna try doing. This reminds me of the latest Miley Cyrus song "Flowers", I would do those things she mentioned in the chorus. The name writing in the sand is such a bucket list for me lol. Thank you for this loving reminder, Elicia!
I loved this video! I’ve been married for 9 months & moved to a new city so I’ve been feeling way less independent. This year I’ve been making it a priority to go on more solo dates & just do more things alone, so far so good & I’m going to do some of the things you spoke of too 🔥
Thank you for unstigmatizing and encouraging spending time by yourself (and with yourself). It really comes with so many benefits, I know girls who always need a friend around because they’re scared they’re gonna be approached by a guy or something 😄 You’re such 21 century girl. You promote going out and creating value within one’s self😊❤❤❤ I respect girls who spend time enjoying their own company 💛
This came at a good time. My partner broke up with me 4 months ago almost and I told myself that I'm going to date myself before getting into another relationship with someone else.
The stigma is irritating, especially considering how normalized it is for men to indulge in self pleasure. You talked about it in such a classy and organized yet casual and positive way !
In your videos you really speak naked truth. 😯 Sometimes after listenning to you I have so much awareness I must take a step back to analyze, meditate and reflect on my self.💞
i love going on solo dates!! i’ll plan a whole adventure day and have the greatest time. i brought some friends one time and i realized i enjoy going by myself more bc i just get to be more spontaneous lol i ride roller blades and draw so not everyone i know can skate and draw… or be patient. it’s really taught me to be more independent!
I absolutely love your channel! you have influenced me so much to open up! you popped up on my recommend and I haven't stopped watching your videos since.
The bullet was a very first vibrator. I've had it for 2 years now and i still love it. My boyfriend bought me a rabbit vibrator and i still go for my bullet most of the time. 😩
Although I was hoping for a video on internal self-love and not about self pleasure I needed this video. My ex and I broke up January of 2022 so it’s been over a year since I’ve been with a guy. Tried dating but I don’t do hookups. I don’t mind being alone it’s just I’ve been feeling stuck in life and lost in so many areas and never learned how to love myself. I loved your video on validating yourself. But I have noticed I have had trouble masturbating. I don’t feel like I get turned on and I don’t get off. I’ve just been in a funk. And it’s not like I want him back. I just am all over the place and can’t let go and let loose. Feel like I need that breakthrough but I don’t know for what. 😢
what would you do if you’re in a relationship with a lot of love and partnership but you’re just kinda overwhelmed and don’t know how do keep going, you want do be alone and focus on yourself but you don’t wanna lose the love and hurt the other person
I might not know what I’m talking about hence the reason why you don’t have to listen but, if I were in your shoes, I would communicate these feelings with my partner. If you bottle up these emotions, you risk either slowly destroying the relationship on your own or eventually exploding on your partner, both of which are not healthy. Express these emotions, communicate them, and perhaps ask for a break. If you love them, they love you, and you’re meant to be, you will be, though you might not want to hear that. They deserve to know how you feel. Good luck!! I hope everything works out!!❤ P.S. couples therapy might also be something to consider.
thank you all, there’s a lot of love, just need to live other things and maybe be alone for a while. we talk a lot about it, i’m now at a point where i decided to just give up and live life with him, even though i know i’m bottling things up..
Heyy, that's exactly how I feel! So first - it's really ok to feel that way. I have communicated all those feelings to my partner and he really understood (but I had to really explain to him why and how and what I really need..) We live a bit further away, that's why we tried to visit each other evety weekend..and I really thought it just needs to be like that. But I got early on the feeling that I just need time for myself and take care of myself. We text or phone about once or twice a week and we see each other like every two oder three weeks. A break wasn't the right solution for us but that could be also an option. I know it doesn't work like that for everyone but it's just what works for us. It really creates a space to focus on myself and to tell each other about our weeks. So it could be really worth it to communicate honestly and openly with each other and find a solution togerher. If you and your partner still want to try it, you'll make it work. All the best :)
Elicia, thank you a lot for this video. Recently I've been thinking that I'd like to have romantic relationships, lowkey understanding that's weird, and I actually might be missing on relationship with myself, so I should learn to fulfill all my needs myself before looking for a partner. Your monologue is just in the moment, when I need it💓
Hi Elicia! Before I start I want to say that you're doing an excellent job with your TH-cam channel, socials, book, and overall career. Great Job! Elicia, you have always been providing us with information and knowledge from your own experience, research, and personal growth. I now want to do the same for you. There is something that I learned that I want to share with you. I am pretty sure you already knew this but I still wanted to communicate this to you. So do you remember that video (last year I think) where you talked about how a man you were seeing left and how you had a mindset shift where you recognized there was a pattern in your childhood that was manifesting in your adult life? You mentioned that your father (rest in peace), would not attend to your needs and HE would decide when you get to do X,Y, and Z? You realized how your life was repeating itself in a more advanced way and you had the mindset shift to say "No, I won't let others decide when it's my time. I have done the work, done the healing, and I know what I want." When I look at your channel, you are such a healed, intelligent woman. I associate your presence with that of a water goddess, one that sustains life, that nurtures it, but also has the properties of a powerful tsunami. You can either be a flowing river, giving life and love to those around, or a raging tsunami, crushing and washing away anything and ANYONE that does not serve you. What is amazing about your mindset, is that you have the mindset to step into even stronger mindsets. That's your power. You seek constant growth, just like a garden seeks to give life to as many fruits and vegetables as possible. It's simply by it's very own design. As a cis-gendered, hetero man, I praise the feminine and worship it because it's the source of my power. God absolutely is a woman and the most important thing i have (my life), was given to me by the feminine. I am at the peak of my masculinity when I am loving and serving not just the feminine, but all people. Your channel and just women I have learned from and followed have allowed me to step into divine masculinity. I see your value and your feminine presence is overwhelming. It's so rich and abundant. So I always wondered "how could a man see her and just walk away from that?". I realized because you have honestly achieved the status of a divine feminine goddess. You have done the work, you have healed, grown, and you have studied the feminine and the masculine because you know how strong the can be together. The reason I can see all this in you is because I have enough traits to be able to recognize and appreciate them in you. You are far far far far farrrrrr ahead of me in my journey but even I have learned enough to at least be able to see some of it. That means the men in your life that don't want to be with you simply are not the same as you. They don't have your mindset, they aren't at your level, and they make the active choice to go somewhere else more comfortable rather that staying and stepping up and seeing what a privilege it is. You are a divine feminine woman. When you find a divine masculine man, I am pretty sure you are gonna lock him down like an Amazonian and you won't let him go, and he will never ever leave you either. Why? because he has the divine masculine traits and can recognize your traits because its the same kind that he has in his soul as well. "It takes one to know one". In nature, there is an equal and opposite force for everything. What comes up, must come down. For a positive charge, there is a negative, etc. In romance, we are attracted to things that either remind us of ourselves or people that represent what we want to become or the lifestyle we want. In a negative perspective, sometimes we seek people that are a reflection of our own internal trauma when we haven't recognized and healed from them. Elicia, I pray that you find that divine masculine man in your life. Please, continue stepping into your god hood. Continue seeking more, get that 1 million subscribers, write that book, continue to date yourself, because the pain you feel in you heart when you know how much love you are capable of giving and the kind of garden you can grow, is the same pain that the other divine masculine men in this world feel. They are out there waiting for you, they are fighting for you, they are surviving for the day you both can meet. So please stay strong and continue doing what you are doing, because when you find that divine masculine man and he finds you, every single previous relationship, heart ache, times you felt undervalued, etc will stop being memories of pain and serve as the fertilizer for a beautiful divine garden of love between you and him. That will be the ultimate revenge towards all those that have undervalued you, they went somewhere else looking for lesser, but you found the one and you both are creating a life that cannot be mimicked, because it is divine. Otherworldly. Keep up the good work Elicia! We all support you!
You should really be a writer. I actually have no words for this other than how much I appreciate the thoughtfulness you continue to put into your support of me. Wow. You are amazing ❤️
Normally when I’m single I’m kinda have a good relationship with myself, until I’m in a relationship with someone I have a pattern of making them the center of my life and I just don’t know how to get out of that cycle. My ex-partners for some reason left me so easily, and that makes me feel like I’m not attractive or desired. How do I deal with that shame and guilt ? 😞
You have to keep prioritizing yourself and keep your life fun and interesting for you. Visit friends and family, have hobbies, further your education, workout, keep taking care of YOU. A relationship should be a slice of the pie, not the entire pie. Or else, someones bound to puke.
@@sameena713 The thing is I know all of that on paper, but I just can’t shift my focus onto myself. I really have a lot of inner work to do :( Thanks for your advice ❤️
@@TrinhNguyen-qz6rp Setting goals help. Make monthly goals. I use a monthly calendar 🗓 and pretty stickers to track my progress. There’s so much to do/so much you can learn/ expand/grow into etc. Spend time with yourself and let your intuition guide you to new passions and interests. Be the best at something. Then something else. When your life is fulfilling, you’ll radiate on a different level and attract people who admire you and want to be part of your world. The key is to not drop everything for him. Set dates and phone conversations with him around your schedule. Guys appreciate you having a life outside of them. It makes you more interesting and even mysterious when you can’t pick up every phone call.
Mind- reading Elicia slaying it again. I am glad I waited till i had enough time to watch this on my birthday. Cause then I can start off the new chapter with this mindset. It always felt so difficult somehow to have an actual relationship with myself. Very grateful you even added the intimacy aspect to this as well cause its so essential. The funny thing is, most of the summary of all this ive heard before but it feels more reassuring to hear from you. It feels more trusting. Thank you.
Omg happy birthday!!! And wow, your comments truly always amaze me. I’m so grateful for you and love how self aware and committed you are to really understanding yourself. I hope you have the best day 🥰❤️
hey girly! I got a device cause I don’t really like the one I have and I really need to get itimate with myself. I need to journal more again. it’s been only here and there and I love to journal! ( i runway to Pinterest lol and just daydream) I also feel like I have lost a piece of myself since I made my big move to a big city alone. I LOVE dates by myself. I have been looking for a nice cafe to just chill and lounge here without parking fees lol
@@eliciagoguen also, sis!! I have been drinking chlorophyll water every day with slippery elm! I also have been taking Maca root!! GIRL 💦 🙈 lmao it has been a game changer for me! since I am vegetarian now I can tell things have been uhm like a desert but not any more!! it made me very self conscious with myself and men 😭 I made this change for myself and I feel so sexxxy again all around! I wanted to share this on the Internet for anyone else who may need it and if you want to share this with your community I’m sure they would appreciate it! you have really been helping me heal some insecurities I didn’t know how to deal with and been a great friend ♥️ I love you and so proud of your success babe!! almost 160K 🙏🏽😻🎉♥️ you deserve it all. love your glow 💕
Aww I’m so happy you like it! I felt it made more sense since my podcast is titled the glow up secrets podcast and Ive created a channel for it. More separate but still connected 🥰
Gurllll my vibrator died recently and this video sent me straight to Walgreens where I was standing in front of the toys section and a man passed and said “what’s up queen” 😋💁🏻♀️ aaaaaaahhh
Had a baby five months ago literally did not have a minute to myself. Tired af . I roll my eyes 👀 when hubby try me . Plus one might be the right beginning to coming back to the game 😝😎
Hey Elicia! I have a quick question I was hoping to get your input. I’ve been given the opportunity to work with the medicine (microdose) but I’m not sure if going through with it would interfere with the work I’ve put into myself and the feminine energy I strive for. What is your opinion on microdosing? I’d love to hear it. ❤
I don't do that as I want self pleasure to be something that's not "goal orientated" which sometimes I feel the whole "O in order to manifest" thing can get.. but to each their own!! I think it can be helped on a journey of changing your life and manifesting as a whole, but I don't look at it as a practice in that particular way!
The thing with me is i don't look pretty neither am i smart or anything more like disappointment that's why no matter how much i try i can't bring to love myself
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does anyone have a solution for this? I want to become a billionaire and a successful business owner which i am working on right now, but me personally i love self development and i dont want to be within the % of the average, so my parents have a completely different belief system than me, ( I'm not judging people with different beliefs) but i am constantly adsorbing there beliefs into my brain which is affecting my day to day life so much, beacuse i tell myself something that i believe in then i get told the opposite by my parents and its confusing my brain to were i want to go in life and show in life, its causing a lot of a resistant and overwhelmed (making me feel like my opinion isn't important) feeling to the point i am sitting there feeling myself adsorbing the info while also sitting there telling myself different. But as i have only turned 13 and is a whole 5 years away from being able to move i dont know what to do. and i have tried to talk to them, not to change them self but maybe not to throw there beliefs onto me 24/7 as i dont even feel like i can make my own opinion with anything< as im falling into the mindset of a people pleaser. and thats not serving me at all) any help?
In this industry, it's important for creators to get paid for their work. I did my best to do a very aligned brand integration as this video was already planned with the self pleasure aspect in it. why not talk about a brand that has helped me with that ? I also put time stamps if it's "that hard" to watch through the ad portion. It's inventible that it will feel more commercial as I am speaking on a product but I would hope that my subscribers can understand that I put out valuable content regardless if they're interested in the product I'm speaking on. As I've also said, this was something I was going to speak on regardless and in this instance I felt that this brand is extremely aligned to the beliefs I hold around self pleasure!
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My mom passed when I was 14 but the main piece of advice I remember her giving me was, “get to know yourself before letting somebody else get to know you” and I’ve never forgotten that. I never got the chance to ask her what she meant but I believe it was about self pleasure and finding yourself in this life in general. Self love is THE most significant and important thing to have for so many reasons. Great talk 💙
Omg so beautiful 🥺❤️ sending you so much love. Wow ❤️
my mom and sister always said “love yourself before someone else does, because you can only let other people love you when you can love yourself.” and i think it’s about being able to lose people and be alone in life too and be independent before letting someone else in. maybe that’s also a bit what your moms advice means.
I didn’t realize how much I needed those words, girl, I’m 36 and got 3 kids, Thank You! ❤
I just opened myself up yesterday. I'm finally allowing myself to Grieve the loss of my mom, I'm also getting back in touch with my love for vintage clothing and music, and I'm working on getting back on track with my Femininity Journey,and creating my dream life despite my circumstances.
Sorry for your lost. Praying you find the rainbow at the end of your storm. Stay patient but also consistent with yourself. You got this 🫶🏽
Omg. My heart is with you. I’m so damn proud of you and please know that we are all here for you as a SISTERHOOD you are not alone. Sending you so much love babe ❤️
Im beginning in my self love journey and I have found the most comfort in your videos. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom ✨
Aww this makes my heart so happy 🥹
I'm comfortable being out on solo dates but I never bring a book for me to read, it's something that I wanna try doing. This reminds me of the latest Miley Cyrus song "Flowers", I would do those things she mentioned in the chorus. The name writing in the sand is such a bucket list for me lol. Thank you for this loving reminder, Elicia!
Awwww so beautiful 🥹
you are soo emotionally intelligent and your advice never misses. love your channel girl!
Sometimes I avoid your videos on my timeline because they’re so raw, but eventually I circle back bcus it’s what I need to hear ❤
Girl it’s okay I do the same ❤
I loved this video! I’ve been married for 9 months & moved to a new city so I’ve been feeling way less independent. This year I’ve been making it a priority to go on more solo dates & just do more things alone, so far so good & I’m going to do some of the things you spoke of too 🔥
Omg love this for you 😍❤️🥰
Thank you for unstigmatizing and encouraging spending time by yourself (and with yourself). It really comes with so many benefits, I know girls who always need a friend around because they’re scared they’re gonna be approached by a guy or something 😄
You’re such 21 century girl. You promote going out and creating value within one’s self😊❤❤❤
I respect girls who spend time enjoying their own company 💛
This came at a good time. My partner broke up with me 4 months ago almost and I told myself that I'm going to date myself before getting into another relationship with someone else.
Love it! ❤️
I’m 36 and still need to hear this advice! You are very wise and I appreciate you sharing this with us!
Lmao I’m not the only one who enjoys the villain playlist during that moment ❤
YASSSS 😈😈😈
The comments was 111 but also this was like free therapy i loved it so much I appreciate you !!
The stigma is irritating, especially considering how normalized it is for men to indulge in self pleasure. You talked about it in such a classy and organized yet casual and positive way !
Thank you love ❤️
These days I've been binge-watching all of your videos ♥ I love your advice!
Ugh my HEART🥹🥰😈
In your videos you really speak naked truth. 😯 Sometimes after listenning to you I have so much awareness I must take a step back to analyze, meditate and reflect on my self.💞
i love going on solo dates!! i’ll plan a whole adventure day and have the greatest time. i brought some friends one time and i realized i enjoy going by myself more bc i just get to be more spontaneous lol i ride roller blades and draw so not everyone i know can skate and draw… or be patient. it’s really taught me to be more independent!
I am listening to your videos in the bath with some tea and this is so powerful ✨
omg i LOVE THIS 💗
These always pop up when I need them. Bouta get my self and my girl flowers cause why tf not! Thanks for the great insight hun ❤
YESSSS BABE
I absolutely love your channel! you have influenced me so much to open up! you popped up on my recommend and I haven't stopped watching your videos since.
The bullet was a very first vibrator. I've had it for 2 years now and i still love it. My boyfriend bought me a rabbit vibrator and i still go for my bullet most of the time. 😩
this is exactly what i needed!!
I’m so glad thank you lovely!!!
I’m so glad I found your page. I love your videos. Thank you.
You’re so welcome 🥰
Congratulations on the sponsorship, Elicia!! So happy for you 🥰❤🌹
Thank you so much 🥰🥰
You’re such a vibe babe. I found myself eating all the foods I love while watching your videos. I felt so happy in my moments. Thank you ma ❤️
I love youuuu🥰
Although I was hoping for a video on internal self-love and not about self pleasure I needed this video. My ex and I broke up January of 2022 so it’s been over a year since I’ve been with a guy. Tried dating but I don’t do hookups. I don’t mind being alone it’s just I’ve been feeling stuck in life and lost in so many areas and never learned how to love myself. I loved your video on validating yourself. But I have noticed I have had trouble masturbating. I don’t feel like I get turned on and I don’t get off. I’ve just been in a funk. And it’s not like I want him back. I just am all over the place and can’t let go and let loose. Feel like I need that breakthrough but I don’t know for what. 😢
what would you do if you’re in a relationship with a lot of love and partnership but you’re just kinda overwhelmed and don’t know how do keep going, you want do be alone and focus on yourself but you don’t wanna lose the love and hurt the other person
I might not know what I’m talking about hence the reason why you don’t have to listen but, if I were in your shoes, I would communicate these feelings with my partner. If you bottle up these emotions, you risk either slowly destroying the relationship on your own or eventually exploding on your partner, both of which are not healthy. Express these emotions, communicate them, and perhaps ask for a break. If you love them, they love you, and you’re meant to be, you will be, though you might not want to hear that. They deserve to know how you feel. Good luck!! I hope everything works out!!❤ P.S. couples therapy might also be something to consider.
Exactly this!!^^
thank you all, there’s a lot of love, just need to live other things and maybe be alone for a while. we talk a lot about it, i’m now at a point where i decided to just give up and live life with him, even though i know i’m bottling things up..
Heyy, that's exactly how I feel! So first - it's really ok to feel that way. I have communicated all those feelings to my partner and he really understood (but I had to really explain to him why and how and what I really need..) We live a bit further away, that's why we tried to visit each other evety weekend..and I really thought it just needs to be like that. But I got early on the feeling that I just need time for myself and take care of myself. We text or phone about once or twice a week and we see each other like every two oder three weeks. A break wasn't the right solution for us but that could be also an option. I know it doesn't work like that for everyone but it's just what works for us. It really creates a space to focus on myself and to tell each other about our weeks. So it could be really worth it to communicate honestly and openly with each other and find a solution togerher. If you and your partner still want to try it, you'll make it work. All the best :)
I’m glad TH-cam keeps recommending you to me. 💕
You’re meant to be over here 😍
Would love to hear your thoughts on being able to tell when your manic vs actually making progress.
not even 5 seconds into the video but i saw the video title and came running to this video i needed this
Omg ily 🥹
Elicia, thank you a lot for this video. Recently I've been thinking that I'd like to have romantic relationships, lowkey understanding that's weird, and I actually might be missing on relationship with myself, so I should learn to fulfill all my needs myself before looking for a partner. Your monologue is just in the moment, when I need it💓
I'm so proud of you for this and I appreciate you soooo much 🥰
Hi Elicia!
Before I start I want to say that you're doing an excellent job with your TH-cam channel, socials, book, and overall career. Great Job!
Elicia, you have always been providing us with information and knowledge from your own experience, research, and personal growth. I now want to do the same for you. There is something that I learned that I want to share with you. I am pretty sure you already knew this but I still wanted to communicate this to you.
So do you remember that video (last year I think) where you talked about how a man you were seeing left and how you had a mindset shift where you recognized there was a pattern in your childhood that was manifesting in your adult life? You mentioned that your father (rest in peace), would not attend to your needs and HE would decide when you get to do X,Y, and Z? You realized how your life was repeating itself in a more advanced way and you had the mindset shift to say "No, I won't let others decide when it's my time. I have done the work, done the healing, and I know what I want."
When I look at your channel, you are such a healed, intelligent woman. I associate your presence with that of a water goddess, one that sustains life, that nurtures it, but also has the properties of a powerful tsunami. You can either be a flowing river, giving life and love to those around, or a raging tsunami, crushing and washing away anything and ANYONE that does not serve you.
What is amazing about your mindset, is that you have the mindset to step into even stronger mindsets. That's your power. You seek constant growth, just like a garden seeks to give life to as many fruits and vegetables as possible. It's simply by it's very own design. As a cis-gendered, hetero man, I praise the feminine and worship it because it's the source of my power. God absolutely is a woman and the most important thing i have (my life), was given to me by the feminine. I am at the peak of my masculinity when I am loving and serving not just the feminine, but all people. Your channel and just women I have learned from and followed have allowed me to step into divine masculinity.
I see your value and your feminine presence is overwhelming. It's so rich and abundant. So I always wondered "how could a man see her and just walk away from that?". I realized because you have honestly achieved the status of a divine feminine goddess. You have done the work, you have healed, grown, and you have studied the feminine and the masculine because you know how strong the can be together.
The reason I can see all this in you is because I have enough traits to be able to recognize and appreciate them in you. You are far far far far farrrrrr ahead of me in my journey but even I have learned enough to at least be able to see some of it. That means the men in your life that don't want to be with you simply are not the same as you. They don't have your mindset, they aren't at your level, and they make the active choice to go somewhere else more comfortable rather that staying and stepping up and seeing what a privilege it is.
You are a divine feminine woman. When you find a divine masculine man, I am pretty sure you are gonna lock him down like an Amazonian and you won't let him go, and he will never ever leave you either. Why? because he has the divine masculine traits and can recognize your traits because its the same kind that he has in his soul as well. "It takes one to know one".
In nature, there is an equal and opposite force for everything. What comes up, must come down. For a positive charge, there is a negative, etc. In romance, we are attracted to things that either remind us of ourselves or people that represent what we want to become or the lifestyle we want. In a negative perspective, sometimes we seek people that are a reflection of our own internal trauma when we haven't recognized and healed from them.
Elicia, I pray that you find that divine masculine man in your life. Please, continue stepping into your god hood. Continue seeking more, get that 1 million subscribers, write that book, continue to date yourself, because the pain you feel in you heart when you know how much love you are capable of giving and the kind of garden you can grow, is the same pain that the other divine masculine men in this world feel. They are out there waiting for you, they are fighting for you, they are surviving for the day you both can meet. So please stay strong and continue doing what you are doing, because when you find that divine masculine man and he finds you, every single previous relationship, heart ache, times you felt undervalued, etc will stop being memories of pain and serve as the fertilizer for a beautiful divine garden of love between you and him. That will be the ultimate revenge towards all those that have undervalued you, they went somewhere else looking for lesser, but you found the one and you both are creating a life that cannot be mimicked, because it is divine. Otherworldly.
Keep up the good work Elicia! We all support you!
You should really be a writer. I actually have no words for this other than how much I appreciate the thoughtfulness you continue to put into your support of me. Wow. You are amazing ❤️
Love you so much 🤍 thank you for this amazing content and being here 🥰
You’re welcome ☺️
Normally when I’m single I’m kinda have a good relationship with myself, until I’m in a relationship with someone I have a pattern of making them the center of my life and I just don’t know how to get out of that cycle. My ex-partners for some reason left me so easily, and that makes me feel like I’m not attractive or desired. How do I deal with that shame and guilt ? 😞
I’ll be doing a video on this don’t you worry ❤️
You have to keep prioritizing yourself and keep your life fun and interesting for you. Visit friends and family, have hobbies, further your education, workout, keep taking care of YOU. A relationship should be a slice of the pie, not the entire pie. Or else, someones bound to puke.
@@eliciagoguen awww I’m so happy you replied! Waiting for your video girl ❤️
@@sameena713 The thing is I know all of that on paper, but I just can’t shift my focus onto myself. I really have a lot of inner work to do :( Thanks for your advice ❤️
@@TrinhNguyen-qz6rp Setting goals help. Make monthly goals. I use a monthly calendar 🗓 and pretty stickers to track my progress. There’s so much to do/so much you can learn/ expand/grow into etc. Spend time with yourself and let your intuition guide you to new passions and interests. Be the best at something. Then something else. When your life is fulfilling, you’ll radiate on a different level and attract people who admire you and want to be part of your world. The key is to not drop everything for him. Set dates and phone conversations with him around your schedule. Guys appreciate you having a life outside of them. It makes you more interesting and even mysterious when you can’t pick up every phone call.
Mind- reading Elicia slaying it again. I am glad I waited till i had enough time to watch this on my birthday. Cause then I can start off the new chapter with this mindset. It always felt so difficult somehow to have an actual relationship with myself. Very grateful you even added the intimacy aspect to this as well cause its so essential. The funny thing is, most of the summary of all this ive heard before but it feels more reassuring to hear from you. It feels more trusting. Thank you.
Omg happy birthday!!! And wow, your comments truly always amaze me. I’m so grateful for you and love how self aware and committed you are to really understanding yourself. I hope you have the best day 🥰❤️
Love this! What a great self love / care reminder! ❤ new subbie
Excited for your upcoming videos this month! The theme’s all sound very relevant to my journey rn😊
I love this video am starting my journey now thank you so much 🥰❤️
Easily my favorite TH-camr ♥️ my source of motivation i love you girly ❤
I love you 🥰
I’m in a “ relationship “ & I lost myself as a whole can we get that video tonight Sista pleaseeeee
Haha girrrrl it’s coming soon!!! I got you babes❤️
this video is EVERYTHING gurl 💯 yes!!! thank u 🙏
I'm so gald 🥰🥰🥰
ThNk you so much for these videos ❤
Thanks for the video. I Learn to love me and treat me special. 👑
yessss babe!!!
hey girly! I got a device cause I don’t really like the one I have and I really need to get itimate with myself. I need to journal more again. it’s been only here and there and I love to journal! ( i runway to Pinterest lol and just daydream) I also feel like I have lost a piece of myself since I made my big move to a big city alone. I LOVE dates by myself. I have been looking for a nice cafe to just chill and lounge here without parking fees lol
Omg so proud of you!!!! I love this for you 🥹
@@eliciagoguen also, sis!! I have been drinking chlorophyll water every day with slippery elm! I also have been taking Maca root!! GIRL 💦 🙈 lmao it has been a game changer for me! since I am vegetarian now I can tell things have been uhm like a desert but not any more!! it made me very self conscious with myself and men 😭
I made this change for myself and I feel so sexxxy again all around! I wanted to share this on the Internet for anyone else who may need it and if you want to share this with your community I’m sure they would appreciate it!
you have really been helping me heal some insecurities I didn’t know how to deal with and been a great friend ♥️ I love you and so proud of your success babe!! almost 160K 🙏🏽😻🎉♥️ you deserve it all. love your glow 💕
Girl yes needing this today 😂
I’m GLAD💝💝
I love you thank you for this
I love how you changed your youtube name to Elicia Goguen, your name suits your channel so much more:)
Aww I’m so happy you like it! I felt it made more sense since my podcast is titled the glow up secrets podcast and Ive created a channel for it. More separate but still connected 🥰
@@eliciagoguen I love that !🥰
@@eliciagoguen ahhh question, what hair gel do you use? I’m trying to get that sleek hair look but I’m not sure what gel is safe for my hair :(
tysm for this video !! i rlly appreciate it
love youuuu 🥰
Amazing video 👏🏼 thank you!!
You’re so welcome ❤️
Love those tips 🎉
Where I live, it's 08:41 am. I just woke up and immediately watched the video, best way to start the day !! 😍
omg thank you 😍
Yay to cultivating self pleasure❤🔥
I needed this video today ❤
I’m so glad 🥰
Gurllll my vibrator died recently and this video sent me straight to Walgreens where I was standing in front of the toys section and a man passed and said “what’s up queen” 😋💁🏻♀️ aaaaaaahhh
HAHAAHAHAH STOP RIGHT NOW😭🤣😭🤣😭🤣
at this point this is my safe place ♡
you are safe here 💗
Love your videos❤❤❤❤
And your body glows on the outside
Im not the type to be a "fan" of ytbers or shows or anything, but I have been just DEVOURING your content !!
Aww Omg thank YOUUU 🥹
Had a baby five months ago literally did not have a minute to myself.
Tired af .
I roll my eyes 👀 when hubby try me .
Plus one might be the right beginning to coming back to the game 😝😎
GIRL YESSSSSS
Hey Elicia! I have a quick question I was hoping to get your input. I’ve been given the opportunity to work with the medicine (microdose) but I’m not sure if going through with it would interfere with the work I’ve put into myself and the feminine energy I strive for. What is your opinion on microdosing? I’d love to hear it. ❤
i love this, thank you, i love you💕❤🩹
I love youuuuu hunni 🥰
Hey thanks alot!Can i get the link for the music?
its in the description now!
@@eliciagoguen thank you
What do you think about pleasuring yourself for manifestation and nothing sexual
I don't do that as I want self pleasure to be something that's not "goal orientated" which sometimes I feel the whole "O in order to manifest" thing can get.. but to each their own!! I think it can be helped on a journey of changing your life and manifesting as a whole, but I don't look at it as a practice in that particular way!
Can you please ppst the villainess playlist link? I can’t find it in the description :/
Done!! Sorry about that!
Where can I get a link to your villain era playlist?
its in the description now 💗
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The thing with me is i don't look pretty neither am i smart or anything more like disappointment that's why no matter how much i try i can't bring to love myself
my channel can help!
I ordered their starter kit. Couldn’t use your code for that purchase though i had to use hello20 code. But thank you!!❤️❤️❤️
That’s odd I’ll have to check that out but I’m so EXCITED FOR YOUUU 😍❤️❤️❤️
I just checked and because the starter kit is already discounted my promo code can be used on anything else! So keep that with you if you end up loving the products and want more ;) 💗
does anyone have a solution for this?
I want to become a billionaire and a successful business owner which i am working on right now, but me personally i love self development and i dont want to be within the % of the average, so my parents have a completely different belief system than me, ( I'm not judging people with different beliefs) but i am constantly adsorbing there beliefs into my brain which is affecting my day to day life so much, beacuse i tell myself something that i believe in then i get told the opposite by my parents and its confusing my brain to were i want to go in life and show in life, its causing a lot of a resistant and overwhelmed (making me feel like my opinion isn't important) feeling to the point i am sitting there feeling myself adsorbing the info while also sitting there telling myself different. But as i have only turned 13 and is a whole 5 years away from being able to move i dont know what to do. and i have tried to talk to them, not to change them self but maybe not to throw there beliefs onto me 24/7 as i dont even feel like i can make my own opinion with anything< as im falling into the mindset of a people pleaser. and thats not serving me at all) any help?
I get bored with myself, why?
You are too beautiful Elicia
Awww thank you Omg 🥹
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me personally i started at like 8 years old💀😭 oopsie
I like your videos but this one felt like a commercial, I couldn’t finish watching it 😢😢
In this industry, it's important for creators to get paid for their work. I did my best to do a very aligned brand integration as this video was already planned with the self pleasure aspect in it. why not talk about a brand that has helped me with that ? I also put time stamps if it's "that hard" to watch through the ad portion. It's inventible that it will feel more commercial as I am speaking on a product but I would hope that my subscribers can understand that I put out valuable content regardless if they're interested in the product I'm speaking on. As I've also said, this was something I was going to speak on regardless and in this instance I felt that this brand is extremely aligned to the beliefs I hold around self pleasure!
thank you for being there for us bestie 🤍 love your content so much
awww love YOU so much 💗💗💗
I love that you made a video on this topic. Such a cool sponsor. Thanks for keeping it real on your channel! 🙌
thank you so much girl 🥰🥰
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