You genuinely have no idea how it feels to have someone explain exactly what I’ve been going through. This video and some of your others have been so much help to me. Recovery is gonna be a step by step process but these give me the confidence and assurance that there’s hope and I’ll get better. Good luck to anyone else out there with the same issue, rooting for you. Thank you again for making this video.
Thank you for your videos, experiencing real event ocd, on a loop, 15 + years, watching your videos and content adds a silver lining around the dark clouds, and genuinely gives me hope. Thanks so much!
Found your videos today; so refreshing to hear your testimony. For years I've been stuck, unable to stop obsessing over a specific scenario...I feel like I've tried everything-most of the things you've mentioned: mindfulness, umpteen self help books, going way back to Brain Lock and Wilson Reid, where they tell you to ignore the content endlessly...However, I came to the conclusion that until I accept the worst case scenario as a possibility and can learn to handle the feelings that go with it; I'll never be free of this. However, the only trouble is I'm not sure how to go about it.
7:59 This form of ocd will always remind me of a particular memory, and the cycle of obsessing begins, even in the good moments the ocd tells me that I am not worthy. Unrelenting.
"We're so fixated on needing that relief and then feeling like we're just about to get the key for a lock that's gonna unlock us to eternal piece, but just as we reach for that key, we never get it, and we're actually chasing a key for a lock that doesn't even exist." As a locksmith with OCD, that resonated with me on a truly metaphysical level lol!
You always hit the nail on the head. You are my number 1 ocd guy for sure. Looks like god gave you great suffering so you could impart even greater wisdom.
Thank you so much for posting this video. Ive have had ocd forever just started experiencing real event ocd. All the other videos didn’t explain what i was going thru and i began to think it wasn’t ocd, however your explanation was damn near exactly what I am going thru this video alone gave me so much courage that i can overcome/accept my fears thanks a million times man With that being said I still am struggling to beat this every time i get a release on a trigger I feel like I have to avoid interaction with my loved ones( they are the only ones who trigger it for me mostly cause i care what they think) I honestly hate living like this where can i reach out man?!
Im glad that this is what im experiencing and that many people have and are recovering from it. Unfortunately in my case its unfixable at this point, i mean it has been fixed and amends have been made with the people in my past and they were never hurt by it anyway but what i did was unforgivable and nobody in this world would see it any other way. I've made peace with death and no longer having a future and I am planning to die soon, not just as a release from pain but as justice and punishment for my past mistakes. I just want to tell everybody suffering from this to not give up, its not hopeless, some mistakes are unfixable but the vast majority are and I hope you can all get over this. It is HELL I do have OCD and panic disorder but its pretty irrelevant to my situation, yeah it makes it worse but its valid and well it doesnt really matter anymore anyway, I'm looking forward to the day where I will finally for the first time in years be able to experience true freedom, as brief as it will be.
@@OCDRecovery it doesnt matter if I make peace with it anymore or not though, the problem isnt my mental health or the event but how everybody else would react to it, I know exactly what the world would think about me and im not going through life being despised by everyone forever or worrying that eventually everybody will find out. Both situations are as bad and things that cant be stopped or changed. I know that I made a mistake and that I have changed as a person, the guilt and shame is gone, the people I thought I hurt were never hurt by it or care and accepted my apology.
Omg 😳 I thought I was the only one. How do you manage? I’m going through real event ocd right now. I’m spiraling down fast to the point that I feel like I have to take a leave of absence from work. I don’t want to take a leave. 😔
Do you do therapy? You are literally the first person I have EVER heard express my *exact fears* and my exact experience with ERP, mindfulness, CBT, and more. I have tortured myself for 12 years and I am OVER it.
My friend… my memory just reminded of something that was done to me when I was 16 years old. Now this memory is latched on… I cannot stop thinking of it ALL DAY LONG. Its getting really hard to focus at work and it’s giving me panic attacks. I almost broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t want him to see me mentally spiraling down. Do you do one to one remote counseling? I would love to speak to someone who knows exactly what real event ocd is.
Yes! This particular fear was my own journey too! OCD latching to something in the past and not budging. 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info on our services.
Hi Rob I have anxiety not OCD however your videos really help and I’ve dived into REBT and read lots of books on the suggested reading list. Have you looked into the Havening technique? It’s very effective in calming the amygdala and therefore the nervous system. I find it amazing. As we know the more primitive nervous system wins over the higher parts of our brain. The Havening technique was developed by Dr Ronald Ruden. Paul McKenna has talked about it. It’s very easy to do and there are lots of demos available on TH-cam.
Without asking for reassurance, is there a possibility that ocd make my perspective on these past events way more exaggerated than it actually is? Because everytime I talked about it with someone they told me that it's not bad but my brain tells me the exact 360° opposite
Ikr it's annoying that no matter how much reassurance u seek the brain just doesn't believe or even if it believes for a second it forgets the next second ,I once read in a comments somewhere that "if you are actually able to talk about it to someone, it's not as bad as u feel shame or guilty about " . I'm not sure how much sense it makes but this sentence just seems to give some relief to my brain.
Can anyone else relate? As I am watching this video, I am having intrusive thoughts that this is not my situation and that my situation is real. It gets so bad that I even want to pause this video and not listen to it anymore.
we are chasing a key to a lock that doesnt exist man , thank you so much for this.love your video u bring me so much knowledge on this mental disorder,finnally i feel like someone understands me thank you♥♥
For me, I found even though Christianity that I saw around me and Christians made me want to vomit, I could still latch on to the idea of someone laying down their life for me, so that my wrongdoings could be forgiven, and because of that someone’s Resurrection, I could have new life. I don’t fit in well at churches, and still feel guilty about that.
But mine are so bad and some are recant i know im only 14 and my real events don't have me hurting anyone but i keep doing things on accident or unintended and it sounds so diffrent to everyone elses.God i just wish i had anyone to talk to who are professionals
I've tried so hard with ert and didn't work for me. Took a medical leave from work to be an out-patient. Looking back it seems like such a waste of time. Worth trying for people because it could help them. Just didn't work for me with real event
What about when actual other people have been actually harmed because of a real thing you did? What if there's no way to make things square or erase the harm? What does it mean to say you forgive yourself, when the people you harmed are still suffering from the results of your action?
Most of the population seems to believe everything theyre told is true. If one person does something wrong, everyone else jumps on top. Without researching and judging the situation themselves. If people took the time to stop being such sheep and scared of going against the grain they'd realise the things they're shunning people for are in fact natural and do not require the attention they give. Plenty other countries that live to themselves and their beliefs, no one country or person is right. Your opinion in reality is all that matters to things you've said or done. We're all falible, made to make mistakes, how we perceive others is what stops is from realising this. If everyone thought this way, the world would be a much much healthier, happier, positive and just place to experience and live in. It's a shame to say the very least.
What if it's something you still unconsciously do sometimes? Like I daydream maladaptivley and those daydreams I used too like are immoral and bad. I just wanna be a good person but I feel like I'm doomed to be evil forever.
me watching this because im seeing my gf tomorrow for the first time. i flirted with other people and it really wasnt with intentions (but sure ocd will doubt that). i really didnt mind it until rocd came and made me remember. i confessed to my girlfriend and she forgave me but i cant seem to move past the guilt. i feel like i need to be punished. there's also this one situation wherein i cant get certainty whether or not i flirted. the person deactivated their acc so i really cant reread out conversations. i also confessed this to my girlfriend and apologized. i want to be a better person and just move past this. please help me.
Yes, those are urges.. classic symptom of ocd... I advise you to watch Chrissie Hodges videos on it.. she explains it very well... Don't be scared... I was when it first happened.. you may even feel your hand slightly move or twitch... Still ocd... ERP can really help with this one... You need to show your brain that there is nothing to be scared of.. you're not gonna loose control... :) Good luck :)
You genuinely have no idea how it feels to have someone explain exactly what I’ve been going through. This video and some of your others have been so much help to me. Recovery is gonna be a step by step process but these give me the confidence and assurance that there’s hope and I’ll get better. Good luck to anyone else out there with the same issue, rooting for you. Thank you again for making this video.
Omg... This blows my mind. I was just telling myself, self acceptance is the only freaking way for my fears to release.
It’s a great thing to actually realise it!
"We're just chasing a key for a lock that does'nt even exist" ---- Description of the OCD experience by Robert Bray
Every time I recover from 1 memory a new one pops up…
Same! Oh my god. I thought I was the only one.
Same
Hell yeah
Same here.
That's why I don't care anymore.
Did you just say, "OCD scours the past ... looking for things"?! YES! That's what it is!
I swear!
Thank you for your videos, experiencing real event ocd, on a loop, 15 + years, watching your videos and content adds a silver lining around the dark clouds, and genuinely gives me hope. Thanks so much!
This is the best video I have ever seen on explaining OCD 😢thank you
U can simultaneously feel like u could have made a different choice in a situation and feel this way
Found your videos today; so refreshing to hear your testimony. For years I've been stuck, unable to stop obsessing over a specific scenario...I feel like I've tried everything-most of the things you've mentioned: mindfulness, umpteen self help books, going way back to Brain Lock and Wilson Reid, where they tell you to ignore the content endlessly...However, I came to the conclusion that until I accept the worst case scenario as a possibility and can learn to handle the feelings that go with it; I'll never be free of this. However, the only trouble is I'm not sure how to go about it.
We have a three part OCD recovery webinar coming up that will help you get started on the journey! 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com
7:59 This form of ocd will always remind me of a particular memory, and the cycle of obsessing begins, even in the good moments the ocd tells me that I am not worthy. Unrelenting.
This is completely correct. I have some situations that will always keep bothering me until i forgive myself and accept what it is.
"We're so fixated on needing that relief and then feeling like we're just about to get the key for a lock that's gonna unlock us to eternal piece, but just as we reach for that key, we never get it, and we're actually chasing a key for a lock that doesn't even exist."
As a locksmith with OCD, that resonated with me on a truly metaphysical level lol!
You always hit the nail on the head. You are my number 1 ocd guy for sure. Looks like god gave you great suffering so you could impart even greater wisdom.
What a relief to discover these videos
Thank you so much for posting this video. Ive have had ocd forever just started experiencing real event ocd. All the other videos didn’t explain what i was going thru and i began to think it wasn’t ocd, however your explanation was damn near exactly what I am going thru this video alone gave me so much courage that i can overcome/accept my fears thanks a million times man With that being said I still am struggling to beat this every time i get a release on a trigger I feel like I have to avoid interaction with my loved ones( they are the only ones who trigger it for me mostly cause i care what they think) I honestly hate living like this where can i reach out man?!
Glad you found helpful! 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info on our services.
Im glad that this is what im experiencing and that many people have and are recovering from it. Unfortunately in my case its unfixable at this point, i mean it has been fixed and amends have been made with the people in my past and they were never hurt by it anyway but what i did was unforgivable and nobody in this world would see it any other way. I've made peace with death and no longer having a future and I am planning to die soon, not just as a release from pain but as justice and punishment for my past mistakes. I just want to tell everybody suffering from this to not give up, its not hopeless, some mistakes are unfixable but the vast majority are and I hope you can all get over this. It is HELL I do have OCD and panic disorder but its pretty irrelevant to my situation, yeah it makes it worse but its valid and well it doesnt really matter anymore anyway, I'm looking forward to the day where I will finally for the first time in years be able to experience true freedom, as brief as it will be.
The event isn’t the problem, your perspective of it is. There is nothing you could have done you can’t make internal peace with.
@@OCDRecovery it doesnt matter if I make peace with it anymore or not though, the problem isnt my mental health or the event but how everybody else would react to it, I know exactly what the world would think about me and im not going through life being despised by everyone forever or worrying that eventually everybody will find out. Both situations are as bad and things that cant be stopped or changed. I know that I made a mistake and that I have changed as a person, the guilt and shame is gone, the people I thought I hurt were never hurt by it or care and accepted my apology.
@@akeelyaqub2538 watch our videos on fear of social rejection. We can help you with this too 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info
@@OCDRecovery I'll give it a watch, I doubt it would change my mind lol, but ill do it.
@@OCDRecovery also thanks, not only for replying at all but doing it so fast, most youtubers dont even read their comments let alone respond to them.
So true! Self acceptance is whats frees my soul from OCD. Thank you for helping!
How do you do self-acceptance?
Thank you so much for your work. Its literally gods work you are doing.
Thank you for your wise words
I obsess over past events and choice's it's hard to move on from them and it can be debilitating.
This is absolutely spot on !! I am sure this is going to help me so much . I cannot tell you how grateful I am for this !!!!!!thankyou
I have had this for a long time and some episodes have lasted 24/7 for 6 months
Omg 😳 I thought I was the only one. How do you manage? I’m going through real event ocd right now. I’m spiraling down fast to the point that I feel like I have to take a leave of absence from work.
I don’t want to take a leave. 😔
Thank you. You open my eyes and gave me a better perspective. Much love.
Thank so you much for this
Great video. Thank you!
Do you do therapy? You are literally the first person I have EVER heard express my *exact fears* and my exact experience with ERP, mindfulness, CBT, and more.
I have tortured myself for 12 years and I am OVER it.
My friend… my memory just reminded of something that was done to me when I was 16 years old. Now this memory is latched on… I cannot stop thinking of it ALL DAY LONG. Its getting really hard to focus at work and it’s giving me panic attacks.
I almost broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t want him to see me mentally spiraling down.
Do you do one to one remote counseling? I would love to speak to someone who knows exactly what real event ocd is.
Yes! This particular fear was my own journey too! OCD latching to something in the past and not budging. 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info on our services.
If he truly loves you, he’ll hold it down with you while you get help.
@@anaccount7923… OCD has been really bothering again lately. I came back to your comment, and it gave me peace. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hi Rob
I have anxiety not OCD however your videos really help and I’ve dived into REBT and read lots of books on the suggested reading list. Have you looked into the Havening technique? It’s very effective in calming the amygdala and therefore the nervous system. I find it amazing. As we know the more primitive nervous system wins over the higher parts of our brain. The Havening technique was developed by Dr Ronald Ruden. Paul McKenna has talked about it. It’s very easy to do and there are lots of demos available on TH-cam.
Thank you so much for this. Do you have any other real event or similar webinars coming up? I am really struggling at the moment
📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com he will send you info
Before i accept i rlly rlly rlly rlly feel like i NEED to know exactly what happened and EXACTLY what i did or didnt do
Without asking for reassurance, is there a possibility that ocd make my perspective on these past events way more exaggerated than it actually is? Because everytime I talked about it with someone they told me that it's not bad but my brain tells me the exact 360° opposite
Ikr it's annoying that no matter how much reassurance u seek the brain just doesn't believe or even if it believes for a second it forgets the next second ,I once read in a comments somewhere that "if you are actually able to talk about it to someone, it's not as bad as u feel shame or guilty about " . I'm not sure how much sense it makes but this sentence just seems to give some relief to my brain.
this is the first time i’ve ever felt hope. would i be able to contact you?
📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info on our services
Can anyone else relate? As I am watching this video, I am having intrusive thoughts that this is not my situation and that my situation is real. It gets so bad that I even want to pause this video and not listen to it anymore.
we are chasing a key to a lock that doesnt exist man , thank you so much for this.love your video u bring me so much knowledge on this mental disorder,finnally i feel like someone understands me thank you♥♥
For me, I found even though Christianity that I saw around me and Christians made me want to vomit, I could still latch on to the idea of someone laying down their life for me, so that my wrongdoings could be forgiven, and because of that someone’s Resurrection, I could have new life. I don’t fit in well at churches, and still feel guilty about that.
But mine are so bad and some are recant i know im only 14 and my real events don't have me hurting anyone but i keep doing things on accident or unintended and it sounds so diffrent to everyone elses.God i just wish i had anyone to talk to who are professionals
I've tried so hard with ert and didn't work for me. Took a medical leave from work to be an out-patient. Looking back it seems like such a waste of time. Worth trying for people because it could help them. Just didn't work for me with real event
What about when actual other people have been actually harmed because of a real thing you did? What if there's no way to make things square or erase the harm?
What does it mean to say you forgive yourself, when the people you harmed are still suffering from the results of your action?
Great video!
Can you make a video about ocd about cancel culture and being canceled? Thanks!
Most of the population seems to believe everything theyre told is true. If one person does something wrong, everyone else jumps on top. Without researching and judging the situation themselves. If people took the time to stop being such sheep and scared of going against the grain they'd realise the things they're shunning people for are in fact natural and do not require the attention they give. Plenty other countries that live to themselves and their beliefs, no one country or person is right. Your opinion in reality is all that matters to things you've said or done. We're all falible, made to make mistakes, how we perceive others is what stops is from realising this. If everyone thought this way, the world would be a much much healthier, happier, positive and just place to experience and live in. It's a shame to say the very least.
@@jaeden2806love this. Thank you
What if it's something you still unconsciously do sometimes? Like I daydream maladaptivley and those daydreams I used too like are immoral and bad. I just wanna be a good person but I feel like I'm doomed to be evil forever.
I used to get that lots! Acceptance gets under it here too plus uncertainty.
@@OCDRecovery So im not crazy?!
me watching this because im seeing my gf tomorrow for the first time. i flirted with other people and it really wasnt with intentions (but sure ocd will doubt that). i really didnt mind it until rocd came and made me remember. i confessed to my girlfriend and she forgave me but i cant seem to move past the guilt. i feel like i need to be punished. there's also this one situation wherein i cant get certainty whether or not i flirted. the person deactivated their acc so i really cant reread out conversations. i also confessed this to my girlfriend and apologized. i want to be a better person and just move past this. please help me.
Where are you? I want to visit, please.
Thank you so much for this video! You so perfectly described what I go thru.
It is my main OCD.
Is there any way to view this real event recovery webinar? Really need help with my real event OCD
📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info
I have breathing ocd... This fear gives me burning sensation... What should i do
Maybe try to jog? That probably sounds like a too simple solution
Based
Is it normal to not like touching people but when people get near me I have the urge to move towards them and touch them
Yes, those are urges.. classic symptom of ocd... I advise you to watch Chrissie Hodges videos on it.. she explains it very well... Don't be scared... I was when it first happened.. you may even feel your hand slightly move or twitch... Still ocd... ERP can really help with this one... You need to show your brain that there is nothing to be scared of.. you're not gonna loose control...
:) Good luck :)
@@simonamicunkova60 thanks
Thank you for sharing this, truly needed ❤️❤️ I hope you are well and that soon enough I am able to start my self acceptance recovery ❤️🩹