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I want to talk to you so bad, you are the first person I saw saying the Ideas I'm thinking about, I know there is a lot of writers talked about that but I didn't read much, I want to talk to someone about my problem, it's very deep and making me thinking a lot about taking my life a way
You are 10 out of 10. A self-reflective, kind, intelligent, sweet and strong woman with cute accent, truly beautiful both on the inside and outside. Removing filters and showing vulnerability is so attractive.
@@JulienHimselfIt reminds me of Maxwell Maltz's (a plastic surgeon) writing about this subject. Even when people get surgery they may still feel ugly because of their own self-image. Probably the reason she feels this way and struggles to see differently or articulate about it is because it's the only thing she knows (familiarization) and has been taught about her own beauty as a person.
Biggest lesson I learned is not everyone will love you no matter what you do or how you look. So be authentic, at least you are free and it's easier than having to pretend and fake who you are.
i've been on a binge of watching this on my journey to self improvement and slowly applying and processing this in my life thank you julien! hopefully you'll do a demo here in the philippines!
When my psychologist told me "you are good enough", I cried. But then I understood: i want someone not only to tell me "you are good enough", but to tell me "you are much better that good enough, you are the best"
I was there! Great event! Julien was very nice to us and stayed afterwards to take pictures! Thanks again Julien! Highly recommend everyone to go to one of these!
You are awesome dude! I've done a lot of shadow work over the last year and everything you are saying is exactly what I said to myself. It's nice to see others go through the brutal process that I endured. Thank you for what you do
Wow, she is AMAZING! she IS 10 out of 10! i wish she could see herself from others' loving eyes... she would love what she sees. thank you for that julien, love your way of thinking
Hey Julian, super powerful video once again! I would like to add something though about the loving ourselves part and the love/validation we crave from our parents. I totally agree that as a grown up adult on a logical level we don't depend (anymore) on the love of our parents to feel "worthy" or good enough. When we were kids though we did (we were depend and needed the love and care) The thing I believe is that our body has a hard time integrating it when it's not laser specific to the exact moment when this feeling occurred for the first time in our childhood (all our feelings have a deep root, and then it starts to build up from there) I think the gap that takes place between "understanding" it and really "releasing" the trapped energy of childhood can be prevented by really connecting specifically to the past event where we felt like that for the first time. By doing so we can free ourselves from this illusion that is keeping us trapped in the present as an adult (still feeling these past programs that don't serve us anymore). Hope it makes sense, I feel I only scratched the surface here, but that is ok. Thanks again for the amazing work, keep going it's so helpful!!
Beauty comes from within, the body is merely a shell. The contents are more important than the packaging. You are your own person, you're unique, one of a kind, and that's something to celebrate. Don't hide it, but own it. You are unique and don't let anyone take that away from you, not your friends, relatives or workmates. If others don't like you then you're mixing with the wrong people. Not a problem, there's a billion others out there. Be proud of your individuality, your uniqueness, and stand tall. It what makes you so special.
Interesting that she is one of the prettiest women out there and yet she struggles with body image... a good example of how our mind messes with us when the actual reality is totally different than what we perceive. I hope she watches this and realize how pretty she actually is and that she IS enough regardless! As a guy, I've also struggled with body dismorphia my whole life and this was quite insightful! Thanks Julien! love your videos
im about to follow a therapy like this in a couple of weeks... wasnt looking forward to it... to be fair did think many times about cancel it out and just let it go... but since yesterday i started watching ur video's and kinda watch them after each other... at first i was a little confuse about the way u do it the way u talk to them... but seeing it work over and over again... im kinda hyped up to go now and see how they can help me back on my feets... i know they are not u...and it probetly wont be all the same way u do it... but i hope its in some kind of way simular to it... because since i watch u i started to think about myself more... so thanks for that :) keep this going i know u will save/help a lot of people...
Great job dude, millennials have suffered way too much because of poor parenting to say the least. But we’re so fortunate therapy and psychology exist so we have a chance to see who we truly are, find love, both internal and external, and live a normal life. Something a lot of the parents who fucked up so badly raising us will never be able to do.
That’s an interesting shadow question because I feel I do have the approval of both of my parents. My childhood was rough but as an adult and with my dad being 2 years sober, I can say that both my parents are very accepting of me. I’m so lucky for that. They give me grace to find my way and they believe in me and support me. I don’t feel like I need either of their approval, I feel like I have it.
Thank u Julien. I love your videos. I'm on a self healing journey. I love your content and how u really go in and break it all down and get to the heart and core of everything. I feel like I buried so many things and it's painful to dive in with honesty and recognize, accept ,and let go. Thank u Julien. U are amazing and healing so many people . God bless u ❤
Julian, I'm now a proud grandfather, having just discovered you and having years of resentment towards family and parents, i'd love for you to show us how we can bring up our children and grandchildren without these constraint mechanisms, how do we do this sir. Thank you.
Hey,Julien, just wanted to say thank you man for all the awesome content! I've been watching you since rsd times together with max and you guys changed my life! Thank god you exist, love you (no homo) and don't stop making this awesome videos, dude ❤💜
really? no homo? maybe u could do some shadow work on that. Here some suggestions for things you could ask yourself..why is being homosexual something that you feel the need to distance yourself from? are u afraid people might think you are gay just because you express love for a male human being? what about homosexuality is so bad that u feel the urge to distance yourself from it? are u afraid that people might judge you, just like u judge gay people?
@@yordanangelov8085 explain the joke to me then, because I love a good gay joke. Maybe I am not getting the punchline. To me it seems like you are being homophobic by implication. Clearly you feel the need to distance yourself from being perceived as gay/therefore being gay is something negative. Which also makes you look really insecure about your sexuality and how others perceive you. Then you react to criticism with gaslighting, minimizing your actions and then blame-shifting and attacking my character that you know nothing about. Which again makes you look insecure and immature i might add. How about taking accountability for your words like a grownup instead? or i don't know, learning?
A lot of us have a part that hates ourselves also because we might have had a sad or boring childhood. That might be the reason to why many people are so sensitive. This society is depending on us not living this way so we keep being manipulated.
Hey Julien! I was at your event as well, I actually signed up for the coach program but has not fully paid, but I am working on a job to get there, I even signed up to be a card dealer in Latvia just to get some money haha no joke. But I had a great experience, it was a bit surrealistic to see you in person, but yeah thank you!
this was great, i started t getting emotional l because it was diggin into me. a bit unrelated to this video : im fascinated by juliens story on how shy he says he was, or socially awkward. thats me my whole life, and I dont really want to be like that... i jumped out of my bedroom window once because i didnt want to face all the guest that my parents had over for dinner, i got caught anyways and it was so embarrassing. im not too bad like that now, but I resist the hardest to be in social settings. I break a sweat sweat when people call me as I try and think of an excuse before answering the phone ( if i do answer ) so that I can escape what they want me to do, or not go to where they are inviting me to. I can visualize myself doing what Julien does, helping others, because i used to think i was the only one.
To be fair, parents having guests in the house where you are trapped doesn't count as a social setting (for the kid). You were just forced to interact. Because it's not a genuine social event, it has nothing to do with social anxiety or awkwardness if you didn't like going through that.
When I tell myself I'm good enough some part resists in me that says that I'm quirky, weird and defective and compromised etc. It is scary to tell myself that because if I could drop these labels, what remains? Do I have anything to latch on to when I just 'am', wouldn't that make me vulnerable?
Whatever good or bad identity you formed, it's still just a shell based on others' opinions that you are holding on to in order to make sense of where you fit into the world (and also sets your "limitations"!) Truthfully, you just are and that is authentic!! We just appear on this earth and in a second of time dissapear again. It's as if we are here to just observe and try to make sense of this reality for a bit but no one ever has it figured out. It's a process of trial and error and figuring out what you personally value and care about vs what you think isn't serving you as far as your identity goes. Not holding on too tightly to any labels. Being defective as an identity can make you feel sorry for yourself and play the role of a victim or martyr, but it doesn't serve you moving forward with goals. Labels of "weird or quirky" might help you make sense of past rejections, but it could also be your unique form of self expression and maybe it isn't really quirky, weird, good, or bad. Maybe it's just different from the people you are normally around. Really though, identities are very limiting and not very honest when you think about it.
There are always people we don't like you for your look, taste, demeanour or whatever, heck, your very existence may offend some people. Be fearless and be you. There are always people who genuinely appreciate you for who you are.
While sitting still without any distraction and asking shadow questions, I often get distracted by the chain of thoughts and have to repeatedly come back to the shadow questions. During guided releases, we focus on sensations and kinda shut off the mind, but how do we find a way around it during the introspection that precedes the release?
Hey, there are MANY subtleties (and traps) when it comes to shadow questions... Too many to explain over text. But I do cover all of this in my private mentoring: application.julienhimself.com/?l=u35etu295o
Hello guys. I used to be a happy kid but I was getting bullied by the other kids for being awkward as they were telling me. As the years went by I became more and more introverted. When I went to the Army (Mandatory in my country) it was the same the other guys were picking on me and I told our superiors but they sided with them instead. After I finished my Army services I chose to remain there and work. I was always criticised by my superiors, ridiculised in front of many, wronged,punished. Everybody makes mistakes I guess, but what if only your mistakes matter? I decided to quit after a major disagreement. I went on to seek a career in aviation. I got the highest mark of my class at the test but still I dont view it as an accomplishment and my confidence didnt increase at all. I applied for multiple airlines to hire me but to no avail. I also got rejected at an open day for a specific airline. They favoured some other guys from my group who weren't as invested as me. Recently, I've been ruminating. Where all those guys right about me? I'm I an idiot? I'm I always wrong?
Thank you Julien for giving us all the valuable examples of how to do this work. I wanted to ask you is this in any form comparable to for example taking psychedelics, because i keep hearing that shrooms also put you face to face with our deepest fears. Is this better, healthier and the best way? Thank you
Yes mushrooms can help you get in touch with your shadow. I would set an intention and have a journal next to you while you trip but often things pop up that you didn't even know you needed. Personally it helped me realize how judgemental and controlling I was of myself and of others (from my own trauma). It also helps breaks the chains of feeling stuck in a certain brain pattern and see things with a new set of eyes. You can do this work sober but I think psychedelics helps a lot if you sit with yourself
@@MissLida thanks for your reply, anxiety and depression are my issues, so i am investigating the possibility of healing with shrooms, have you ever heard about bad trip cousing more problems with bad thoughts and shadow stuff?
Julien when did you feel like you broke through the conditioning and made it to the other side? Was it a process or a moment. Do you still have to work on yourself or do you think you made it. It appears on here that you made it.
True change is subtle and sneaks up on you... Watch this video that goes deeper on this: th-cam.com/video/SRMVBRMhS8g/w-d-xo.html - And I personally still do release work myself, yes!
Ive said this same thing to my son but immediately told him that the am glad he’s here now and that I love him very much and couldn’t imagine my life without him in it, just because I didn’t want kids doesn’t mean I don’t want him but her father needs to tell her that not me
This is kinda oot, but I want to ask about success. My friend said that they're already happy as a default, they don't feel the need to be validated, to have value, purpose, nor meaning. They're already happy and satisfied as default. See the world as it is, and we as is, so they don't understand why someone want to be something or want to prove they're alive. What's your take on that?
I wish I had someone in my life who would ask me these kinds of questions, or someone who I can ask these questions to. 99% of the people out there take offense to these adversarial inquiries and it's honestly loathesome. Sometimes I do as well, and that's because I'm stuck in my persona.
@@mustafa.kamaly Don't be so harsh with yourself and lower the bar to what's good to say. You might be judged initially, but it will free your mental capacity to come up with better stuff, because the fear won't monopolize your brain. Or you can just stay a scared little boy, that's fine too.
@@MrFredericandre i can just say hi and how is it going or something like that. they are easy. But then i can't find a topic to speak. Not just for strangers. Mt family and my friends know i don't like speak too much. But when im with a stranger(for example my crush :D) i wanna speak but i just say good morning. As i say i can't find a way to open a topic to talk. I can't open a topic to talk about suddenly amd direct. I wait for right time but it never comes. So i can't speak. If you tell me" go and say xxx to this girl" i can go and say anything to anyone. But if i should go and just socialize, have a talk,it's tooo hard for me.
It’s hard because if your own parents don’t even love you how would I ever expect a stranger to love me . I why would I think I was lovable to anyone if the people that made you don’t even think you good enough? Just question?
Wow, this woman is so beautiful inside and outside. She looks amazing and still is so insecure about her appearance. So woman, if you read this comments: YOU LOOK GREAT!! Own it.
Fathers are stupid. Mine was, my grandfathers were and so am I. But we love often in a way that we can feel safe in. We didn't have Julien on TH-cam to help us with our anxiety 😊 You have to be your own parent once you leave the nest.
This is the first step… Becoming aware of what’s running you. Then next step is to process it, yes! Here’s my full method for that: www.julienhimself.com/8p
But would they be so nice if they weren’t insecure or is their niceness just a compensation of their insecurity?? Like the saying goes, if you wanna see someone for who they really are, give them power. I’m willing to bet most of those nice insecure people wouldn’t be nice at all if some magic genie just deleted their insecurities. They’re only nice BECAUSE they’re insecure.
@@JulienHimself trust me. The more Obama secure the kinder (not nice) i get.....when you are secure you won't feel attack and it is easier to be benevolent because yourbjudgement isnt cloud by fear
Related: If you avoid telling your kids when they are annoying, you are going to find yourself growing resentful of them. (See Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life" - "Do not let your kids do things that make you dislike them")
How can you love yourself if you are ugly and you get to see it not only in the mirror but also from outside behaviour towards you and you are alone forever because no1 loves you. :(
I have the same thing too someone in my family and my sister is not talking they told me not to talk to her but I told them I will continue to talk to her she’s my own sister
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You would be an amazing tripsitter and friend to have during the challenging parts of a psychedelic experience.
What I want to hear is " I wanna know the true/real you" what does this mean??
I want to talk to you so bad, you are the first person I saw saying the Ideas I'm thinking about, I know there is a lot of writers talked about that but I didn't read much, I want to talk to someone about my problem, it's very deep and making me thinking a lot about taking my life a way
She is a 10 out of 10!
and I did the right thing with my mother.
You are 10 out of 10. A self-reflective, kind, intelligent, sweet and strong woman with cute accent, truly beautiful both on the inside and outside. Removing filters and showing vulnerability is so attractive.
"I'm not pretty enough" I think everyone would agree that she's quite pretty. This goes to show that our minds shift reality so much.
Yes, this is sadly why a lot of people who get in shape or get plastic surgery STILL feel "ugly" inside...
@@JulienHimselfIt reminds me of Maxwell Maltz's (a plastic surgeon) writing about this subject. Even when people get surgery they may still feel ugly because of their own self-image. Probably the reason she feels this way and struggles to see differently or articulate about it is because it's the only thing she knows (familiarization) and has been taught about her own beauty as a person.
This proves no matter who you are where you come from. This is gonna happen to everyone when we've issued parents. I can completely relate to her.
@@loveself4948even happens with non issued parents. trauma happens to everyone, no one is safe
i nearlly teared up at the last seconds of the video, with all the people hyping her up its soooooo adorableeeeeee
Biggest lesson I learned is not everyone will love you no matter what you do or how you look. So be authentic, at least you are free and it's easier than having to pretend and fake who you are.
i've been on a binge of watching this on my journey to self improvement and slowly applying and processing this in my life thank you julien! hopefully you'll do a demo here in the philippines!
Glad you're getting so much value from my videos! 🙌
When my psychologist told me "you are good enough", I cried. But then I understood: i want someone not only to tell me "you are good enough", but to tell me "you are much better that good enough, you are the best"
Say it for yourself
You think you’re waiting on someone else outside of you to say it but in reality you just want to hear it from yourself
@@RekemIsrael-vx4pw no, I already think that way, I just want that others acknowledge that too.
@@ditystanutthen you’re what we call “an asshole” congrats
I was there! Great event! Julien was very nice to us and stayed afterwards to take pictures!
Thanks again Julien!
Highly recommend everyone to go to one of these!
Thank you for making it out in person!! Absolutely loved this event! 🙌
You are awesome dude! I've done a lot of shadow work over the last year and everything you are saying is exactly what I said to myself. It's nice to see others go through the brutal process that I endured. Thank you for what you do
Feelings are not facts, something I have learned lately. Because you feel it, doesnt make it so.
Wow, she is AMAZING! she IS 10 out of 10! i wish she could see herself from others' loving eyes... she would love what she sees. thank you for that julien, love your way of thinking
Hey Julian, super powerful video once again! I would like to add something though about the loving ourselves part and the love/validation we crave from our parents. I totally agree that as a grown up adult on a logical level we don't depend (anymore) on the love of our parents to feel "worthy" or good enough. When we were kids though we did (we were depend and needed the love and care) The thing I believe is that our body has a hard time integrating it when it's not laser specific to the exact moment when this feeling occurred for the first time in our childhood (all our feelings have a deep root, and then it starts to build up from there) I think the gap that takes place between "understanding" it and really "releasing" the trapped energy of childhood can be prevented by really connecting specifically to the past event where we felt like that for the first time. By doing so we can free ourselves from this illusion that is keeping us trapped in the present as an adult (still feeling these past programs that don't serve us anymore). Hope it makes sense, I feel I only scratched the surface here, but that is ok. Thanks again for the amazing work, keep going it's so helpful!!
My new response to "how are you?"
I'M TEN OUT OF TEN!❤❤❤
Beauty comes from within, the body is merely a shell. The contents are more important than the packaging.
You are your own person, you're unique, one of a kind, and that's something to celebrate. Don't hide it, but own it. You are unique and don't let anyone take that away from you, not your friends, relatives or workmates. If others don't like you then you're mixing with the wrong people. Not a problem, there's a billion others out there. Be proud of your individuality, your uniqueness, and stand tall. It what makes you so special.
Interesting that she is one of the prettiest women out there and yet she struggles with body image... a good example of how our mind messes with us when the actual reality is totally different than what we perceive. I hope she watches this and realize how pretty she actually is and that she IS enough regardless! As a guy, I've also struggled with body dismorphia my whole life and this was quite insightful! Thanks Julien! love your videos
This is interesting, while Julien stands there in a ripped shirt, ragged jeans embracing himself fully! 💛✊👏🙏 much love to her
Glad this was interesting! And yes, MASSIVE respect to her! 🙏
I was thinking this same exact thing. I loved watching this so much.
Shirt costs 500$ 😮
im about to follow a therapy like this in a couple of weeks...
wasnt looking forward to it... to be fair did think many times about cancel it out and just let it go...
but since yesterday i started watching ur video's and kinda watch them after each other...
at first i was a little confuse about the way u do it the way u talk to them... but seeing it work over and over again...
im kinda hyped up to go now and see how they can help me back on my feets...
i know they are not u...and it probetly wont be all the same way u do it...
but i hope its in some kind of way simular to it... because since i watch u i started to think about myself more... so thanks for that :)
keep this going i know u will save/help a lot of people...
Great Video, her struggle reminded me of a friend of mine. I need to share it with her. Thanks Julien for your meaningful work
You’re so welcome! Glad it was impactful! 🙏
I must say that was really good! I love the fact that you travel the world changing peoples lives!
Thank you! 🙏
Great job dude, millennials have suffered way too much because of poor parenting to say the least. But we’re so fortunate therapy and psychology exist so we have a chance to see who we truly are, find love, both internal and external, and live a normal life. Something a lot of the parents who fucked up so badly raising us will never be able to do.
That’s an interesting shadow question because I feel I do have the approval of both of my parents. My childhood was rough but as an adult and with my dad being 2 years sober, I can say that both my parents are very accepting of me. I’m so lucky for that. They give me grace to find my way and they believe in me and support me. I don’t feel like I need either of their approval, I feel like I have it.
Thank u Julien. I love your videos. I'm on a self healing journey. I love your content and how u really go in and break it all down and get to the heart and core of everything. I feel like I buried so many things and it's painful to dive in with honesty and recognize, accept ,and let go. Thank u Julien. U are amazing and healing so many people . God bless u ❤
Julian, I'm now a proud grandfather, having just discovered you and having years of resentment towards family and parents, i'd love for you to show us how we can bring up our children and grandchildren without these constraint mechanisms, how do we do this sir. Thank you.
Hi Julien, I’ve been binge watching your videos and your neutrality and authenticity is unparalleled. Thanks 🙏 I am integrating as we speak. Merci 😻
Hey,Julien, just wanted to say thank you man for all the awesome content! I've been watching you since rsd times together with max and you guys changed my life! Thank god you exist, love you (no homo) and don't stop making this awesome videos, dude ❤💜
really? no homo? maybe u could do some shadow work on that. Here some suggestions for things you could ask yourself..why is being homosexual something that you feel the need to distance yourself from? are u afraid people might think you are gay just because you express love for a male human being? what about homosexuality is so bad that u feel the urge to distance yourself from it? are u afraid that people might judge you, just like u judge gay people?
It's a joke, you need to work on your sense of humour
@@yordanangelov8085 explain the joke to me then, because I love a good gay joke. Maybe I am not getting the punchline. To me it seems like you are being homophobic by implication. Clearly you feel the need to distance yourself from being perceived as gay/therefore being gay is something negative. Which also makes you look really insecure about your sexuality and how others perceive you. Then you react to criticism with gaslighting, minimizing your actions and then blame-shifting and attacking my character that you know nothing about. Which again makes you look insecure and immature i might add. How about taking accountability for your words like a grownup instead? or i don't know, learning?
@@yordanangelov8085 bad joke
@@Graigshooterawesome suggestions 💯💯
Thanks Julien ! You 're inspiring me as coaching myself sure and the others. This lady is really awesome and the session trully ammazing !!!
Love u julien . U are helping me so much in my self discovering and self love journey. I am so thankful for discovering u and your videos.
Massive thanks for every word, for every hope you rise within us ❤❤
You are so welcome! 🙏
A lot of us have a part that hates ourselves also because we might have had a sad or boring childhood. That might be the reason to why many people are so sensitive. This society is depending on us not living this way so we keep being manipulated.
I took Julian's TMA class and loved it. I recommend it if you like this video.
Hey Julien! I was at your event as well, I actually signed up for the coach program but has not fully paid, but I am working on a job to get there, I even signed up to be a card dealer in Latvia just to get some money haha no joke. But I had a great experience, it was a bit surrealistic to see you in person, but yeah thank you!
She is so cute and has the cutest outfit!
I just want to say I appreciate u Julien you're so brilliant and God bless you
You are amazing Julien. My superhero, ever. ❤ You 've changed my life and I am never enough with your insights and tips.
Glad to hear my content has been so impactful for you! 🙏
She held back 5 gallons of tears
Best comment !
I'm about to turn 43. And think im only just beginning to realise "i am enough". These videos are definitely helping. Thank you.
This guy is so great
I admire the fact that he can wear what he wants without fear of judgement.
Extraordinary video Julien 😎
Love it ! Freeing one person at a time.
this was great, i started t getting emotional l because it was diggin into me.
a bit unrelated to this video : im fascinated by juliens story on how shy he says he was, or socially awkward.
thats me my whole life, and I dont really want to be like that... i jumped out of my bedroom window once because i didnt want to face all the guest that my parents had over for dinner, i got caught anyways and it was so embarrassing.
im not too bad like that now, but I resist the hardest to be in social settings. I break a sweat sweat when people call me as I try and think of an excuse before answering the phone ( if i do answer ) so that I can escape what they want me to do, or not go to where they are inviting me to.
I can visualize myself doing what Julien does, helping others, because i used to think i was the only one.
To be fair, parents having guests in the house where you are trapped doesn't count as a social setting (for the kid). You were just forced to interact. Because it's not a genuine social event, it has nothing to do with social anxiety or awkwardness if you didn't like going through that.
thankyou! this is very helpful for my journey❤
This is such a beautiful video 🤩🎉 Thank you terribly!
I dont know why but i feel so calm after watching his videos😮💨❤️
Glad they're so impactful for you! 🙏
When I tell myself I'm good enough some part resists in me that says that I'm quirky, weird and defective and compromised etc. It is scary to tell myself that because if I could drop these labels, what remains? Do I have anything to latch on to when I just 'am', wouldn't that make me vulnerable?
You are perfect as you are quirky, weird and defective. That isn't a bad thing.
Whatever good or bad identity you formed, it's still just a shell based on others' opinions that you are holding on to in order to make sense of where you fit into the world (and also sets your "limitations"!) Truthfully, you just are and that is authentic!! We just appear on this earth and in a second of time dissapear again. It's as if we are here to just observe and try to make sense of this reality for a bit but no one ever has it figured out. It's a process of trial and error and figuring out what you personally value and care about vs what you think isn't serving you as far as your identity goes. Not holding on too tightly to any labels. Being defective as an identity can make you feel sorry for yourself and play the role of a victim or martyr, but it doesn't serve you moving forward with goals. Labels of "weird or quirky" might help you make sense of past rejections, but it could also be your unique form of self expression and maybe it isn't really quirky, weird, good, or bad. Maybe it's just different from the people you are normally around. Really though, identities are very limiting and not very honest when you think about it.
God bless you Julien
Awesome job ❤
There are always people we don't like you for your look, taste, demeanour or whatever, heck, your very existence may offend some people. Be fearless and be you. There are always people who genuinely appreciate you for who you are.
Julien, have you ever wondered making an event here in porto city Portugal?!
ON THE INTERNET I NEVER CRIED BUT THIS VIDEO MADE ME CRY I DON'T KNOW WHY LOVE FROM INDIA
King Julian!
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While sitting still without any distraction and asking shadow questions, I often get distracted by the chain of thoughts and have to repeatedly come back to the shadow questions. During guided releases, we focus on sensations and kinda shut off the mind, but how do we find a way around it during the introspection that precedes the release?
Hey, there are MANY subtleties (and traps) when it comes to shadow questions... Too many to explain over text. But I do cover all of this in my private mentoring: application.julienhimself.com/?l=u35etu295o
I am so used to defining myself from my parent's perspective its crazy.
Hello guys.
I used to be a happy kid but I was getting bullied by the other kids for being awkward as they were telling me. As the years went by I became more and more introverted. When I went to the Army (Mandatory in my country) it was the same the other guys were picking on me and I told our superiors but they sided with them instead. After I finished my Army services I chose to remain there and work. I was always criticised by my superiors, ridiculised in front of many, wronged,punished. Everybody makes mistakes I guess, but what if only your mistakes matter? I decided to quit after a major disagreement. I went on to seek a career in aviation. I got the highest mark of my class at the test but still I dont view it as an accomplishment and my confidence didnt increase at all. I applied for multiple airlines to hire me but to no avail. I also got rejected at an open day for a specific airline. They favoured some other guys from my group who weren't as invested as me. Recently, I've been ruminating. Where all those guys right about me? I'm I an idiot? I'm I always wrong?
Find a therapist to talk this through.
There is nothing wrong with you! You have a calling on your life, you are set apart. May good people come into your life!
You are not an idiot , i whoud say all those guys were but not you intelligent people are often misunderstood and picked on
I sampled the "I LOVE IT" part!!!!
Thank you Julien for giving us all the valuable examples of how to do this work. I wanted to ask you is this in any form comparable to for example taking psychedelics, because i keep hearing that shrooms also put you face to face with our deepest fears. Is this better, healthier and the best way? Thank you
Yes mushrooms can help you get in touch with your shadow. I would set an intention and have a journal next to you while you trip but often things pop up that you didn't even know you needed. Personally it helped me realize how judgemental and controlling I was of myself and of others (from my own trauma). It also helps breaks the chains of feeling stuck in a certain brain pattern and see things with a new set of eyes. You can do this work sober but I think psychedelics helps a lot if you sit with yourself
@@MissLida thanks for your reply, anxiety and depression are my issues, so i am investigating the possibility of healing with shrooms, have you ever heard about bad trip cousing more problems with bad thoughts and shadow stuff?
Julien when did you feel like you broke through the conditioning and made it to the other side? Was it a process or a moment. Do you still have to work on yourself or do you think you made it. It appears on here that you made it.
True change is subtle and sneaks up on you... Watch this video that goes deeper on this: th-cam.com/video/SRMVBRMhS8g/w-d-xo.html - And I personally still do release work myself, yes!
Loved this vid. Showed it to my wife, she also dug it.
Ive said this same thing to my son but immediately told him that the am glad he’s here now and that I love him very much and couldn’t imagine my life without him in it, just because I didn’t want kids doesn’t mean I don’t want him but her father needs to tell her that not me
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This is kinda oot, but I want to ask about success. My friend said that they're already happy as a default, they don't feel the need to be validated, to have value, purpose, nor meaning. They're already happy and satisfied as default. See the world as it is, and we as is, so they don't understand why someone want to be something or want to prove they're alive. What's your take on that?
I wish I had someone in my life who would ask me these kinds of questions, or someone who I can ask these questions to. 99% of the people out there take offense to these adversarial inquiries and it's honestly loathesome. Sometimes I do as well, and that's because I'm stuck in my persona.
Will you be in La anytime soon?
I was exposed to "Shadow Work" not long ago, and it's life-changing. Awesome job, Julien! Big support from 🇮🇱
Julien will you ever come down to Australia mate ?
actually im not shy but i cant think of anything tı say. I am afraid to bore people. How do i get over it?
Learn how to LET GO of that fear... Here's my step-by-step letting go system for that: www.julienhimself.com/8p 👌
@@ConfidenceGold ok man u da best
@@ConfidenceGold ahhahaha no problem bro. I know but while im speaking with new people i can't make it
@@mustafa.kamaly Don't be so harsh with yourself and lower the bar to what's good to say. You might be judged initially, but it will free your mental capacity to come up with better stuff, because the fear won't monopolize your brain. Or you can just stay a scared little boy, that's fine too.
@@MrFredericandre i can just say hi and how is it going or something like that. they are easy. But then i can't find a topic to speak. Not just for strangers. Mt family and my friends know i don't like speak too much. But when im with a stranger(for example my crush :D) i wanna speak but i just say good morning. As i say i can't find a way to open a topic to talk.
I can't open a topic to talk about suddenly amd direct. I wait for right time but it never comes. So i can't speak.
If you tell me" go and say xxx to this girl" i can go and say anything to anyone. But if i should go and just socialize, have a talk,it's tooo hard for me.
You can be the BEST peach ever yet some will still prefer orange. You’re still the BEST peach ever.
This is so inspirational!
Glad to hear it! 🙌
It’s hard because if your own parents don’t even love you how would I ever expect a stranger to love me . I why would I think I was lovable to anyone if the people that made you don’t even think you good enough? Just question?
8:53 Did Julien just strum an invisible floating acoustic guitar?
To Be Everywhere Is To Be Nowhere
ITS JULIEN BLANC OOOOOOOOOOOOOO I always think of Owen saying this haha brilliant I wanna be in the tribe
7:04, i cant believe she said that, shes got very beautiful eyes..
I am trying to figure out what his tshirt says.
Wow, this woman is so beautiful inside and outside. She looks amazing and still is so insecure about her appearance.
So woman, if you read this comments: YOU LOOK GREAT!! Own it.
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Fathers are stupid. Mine was, my grandfathers were and so am I. But we love often in a way that we can feel safe in. We didn't have Julien on TH-cam to help us with our anxiety 😊
You have to be your own parent once you leave the nest.
Problem here is this is oriented towards changing the conscious outcome vs recognizing the subconscious emotional association thats at the root.
This is the first step… Becoming aware of what’s running you. Then next step is to process it, yes! Here’s my full method for that: www.julienhimself.com/8p
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Just because what’s beautiful is subjective doesn’t mean there isn’t an ideal look or weight. I don’t think “subjective” is the final answer.
There are multiple accidents ahead! “You are still on the best route”.
Was this in Sweden? :)
Copenhagen 👌
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@@JulienHimselfComing to Norway? 🎉
All the best people are insecure ; they’re so much nicer than arrogant bastards
People who are arrogant are insecure too... They just compensate for it with arrogance.
But would they be so nice if they weren’t insecure or is their niceness just a compensation of their insecurity?? Like the saying goes, if you wanna see someone for who they really are, give them power. I’m willing to bet most of those nice insecure people wouldn’t be nice at all if some magic genie just deleted their insecurities. They’re only nice BECAUSE they’re insecure.
@@JulienHimself trust me. The more Obama secure the kinder (not nice) i get.....when you are secure you won't feel attack and it is easier to be benevolent because yourbjudgement isnt cloud by fear
Related: If you avoid telling your kids when they are annoying, you are going to find yourself growing resentful of them.
(See Jordan Peterson's "12 Rules for Life" - "Do not let your kids do things that make you dislike them")
O man i like her
i really could use your help to teach me how to scream properly.
We are all 10/10 but usually we rate ourselves 7/10
Ké hermosos ojos de ella...
Enfants riches deprimes shirt . Are damn expensive. 😂 no joke lol
0:20 , i never said that, and he never did either, in 30 years.
What if my answer is neither mother nor father?
Wow, Tom Hardy got pretty good at this shadow stuff since getting infected with Venom.
How can you love yourself if you are ugly and you get to see it not only in the mirror but also from outside behaviour towards you and you are alone forever because no1 loves you. :(
The socratic method
How can this girl think she’s not pretty enough?
I have the same thing too someone in my family and my sister is not talking they told me not to talk to her but I told them I will continue to talk to her she’s my own sister
Why is the other lady on the stage just being ignored?
All comes down to parenting. Wow.
It plays a big role, yes... 👌
Pretty enough? My dear lady , if you're not pretty enough then I am the Bruce Wayne.
If your Bruce Wayne I’m God lol
@@RekemIsrael-vx4pw *you're 😉
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