Stop Trying To Improve Yourself & Instead Do SHADOW WORK
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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Stop Trying To Improve Yourself & Instead Do SHADOW WORK
Shadow work benefits and how to do shadow work! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the benefits of asking yourself shadow questions... Discover the best shadow work questions to ask yourself!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
Discover the root cause of low self esteem and how you can improve your self confidence today!
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Do you have any videos or anything about how adhd could effect any of this
@@samboe2009 I can imagine that being just with oneself can be even more difficult for someone with ADHD, but I'm sure there's a lot to gain there:)
@@rubenmeijerink4266 I have adhd and while it is made to be ever so quirky and funny I also know that object permanence is a real issue so I have begun to question if the fact that I have issues with object permanence and also childhood trauma if one makes the other worse
@@samboe2009 I'm not an expert but if object permanence can be summarized as "out of sight, out of mind" it definitely means out of conscious mind. I don't think it makes trauma worse but maybe (and I'm not sure) certain memories are harder to retrieve from your subconscious, but that is where they still are. But even if that is the case, you can still notice when you get triggered and work with those sensations. Best
@@rubenmeijerink4266 thanks my thoughts have been along the line of essentially ya know I honestly can’t remember 95% of my childhood it sounds crazy I know but truly I don’t remember more than like you tube shorts of learning skills etc etc and the thought came to me that you know when a traumatic experience occurs and you try to adapt and overcome you slowly process thoughts and feeling and the why at a time away from the incident in a safe space well honestly for me up until recently I am completely detached from a lot of those experiences so I can recall them however I can’t process them kinda like watching a movie from a pov
Imagine if all the schools in the world each day had an hour long class showing these types of videos to kids to make the world better. Let's focus our energy at the root of the worlds problems: Mental health and love ❤🙏🏼⭐
It would be more important than algebra.
@@scottgodkins2017the older I get the more I understand, that life teaches you alot more than school ever could
then the system would go bankrupt lmao
There actually is a program in my school that actually teaches similar things it was communication class
That would mean smarter people
this exercise about loving yourself started really working for me when I imagined that I am my own child that I really care about ( i don't have kids of my own)
I looked at myself in a mirror like I was looking at my own baby who has nobody but me in this entire world and I eventually saw myself as very special that I need to care for and nurture. I never doubt myself ever again.
Same!!! 🥰 I look in the mirror and see 3yr old me against the world 💪
When I think of my child self I think if an annoying little girl that was naive and aggravating and im glad she's dead. Idk
That is such a good way to view it. I have tried to think of myself as my younger version but that has just made me feel more sad for myself because I'm not that young and better version of me anymore.
@@Sipu97 I feel like that sometimes too. It takes work to get ourselves out of that mindset 🙏
@@ProductiveChi Thank you for your words ♥
What I always loved about Julien is his "Own it" "fuck them do it for you".
Sometimes you can even see it in his face.
That actually really helps me in my life.
I tend to forget that I came further than most people in this world, which is why I should completely neglect their opinion of me.
You may have went further than most people but then again, what is your merit of judgment on that?? People love to cherry pick where they exceed others and then completely ignore where they don’t. The fact that you state it in such an absolutes just shows you carry a level of arrogance. You don’t know what people have gone through and have overcome. Not everyone shows you everything. Most battles go unnoticed.
@@user-qe7bt9dz1l I noticed the same thing. It's got that "I'm so much better than everyone that I needn't care what they think" and less "everyone is on their own journey and for that reason I shouldn't compare myself to others or let others opinions bring me down." Not that I'm hating on the OP but word choice matters. Kinda conveyed the opposite idea of what was originally intended I assume.
Well, but then the only people you´re gonna listen to is yourself and the people of whom you think that they are further in life than yourself. I would say that is problematic; sure you don´t have to take every opinion of others seriously, but to straight reject them just because you "are further in life" sounds like something a narcissist would say.
@@xXTensaXxX it's not ALL of their opinions. It's the way that they view you. If you care too about others opinions OF YOU, then that is the issue. Outright rejecting the opinions of everyone does essentially just put you into an echo chamber. It's good to take what you find valuable from others opinions and leave the rest.
You clearly have not yet understood the premises of this type of work. You are still comparing yourself to others and now being even slightly narcissistic. It's still the exact same process.
The goal is, through shadow work, to integrate the parts of you, that are split from your core being that seem unacceptable by you. Once this has been completed, you will no longer feel a need to think about caring or not caring what people think. If you take that "f*ck' em, Idgaf what people think, I'm better than them anyway" -route, you're just overcompensating for the fact, that you do indeed care - immensely so. And you're not fooling anyone.
Society is built on the approved and unapproved. Through the shadow, the society has its hooks in you. You will be defined by the apparent standard of society as long as you have this split of approved/unapproved within yourself. And it is your unconscious parts that does it on behalf of the society you're living in.
She is beautiful in every way! We are all living behind a mask!
This one was intense. This is like honesty and transparency at an uncomfortable level. But it feels freeing if you say it out loud. With enough practice of saying vulnerable things in front if strangers, it might make you realize that you won’t get killed after showing your insecurities
Its kind of like your insecurities only affect your reality if they matter to you, and the truth is they only matter to you! Lol. Other peoples opinions do not matter but we use them to reinforce how we see ourselves, quick to prove them wrong when they believe in us, when if we could flip it on its head, we’d live in faith instead of fear.
What you think you're alone with in your 'messed upness', everybody is thinking the same thing for themselves. This brought much such an epiphany and unity I haven't felt in a long time. Holy crap dude. Thank you, and thank you to Lillian for being such a badass up there. I am MOVED
did you in the crowd
"Say I'm not broken and mean it" really got me. The feeling of *meaning* it felt different than any thought I've had recently.
Idk if she'll ever see this but thank you Lilian for choosing to be vulnerable and brave for yourself and for us. Your answers were incredibly helpful and I just wanted to express my appreciation for you opening up. I'm sending all of the best energy to you 🫂💙✨️
Excellent workshop!
Some questions that I noted for myself to journal about/do shadow work on, which may also be useful for others:
How do I feel about me?
Day to day, what is it like to be me?
Why is living up to my potential bad or scary?
Why do I secretly not want to succeed in my dreams?
Why do I secretly love staying in my comfort zone?
What is my actual deeper fear stopping me from doing what I want to do?
What is so scary about rejection?
When did I start rejecting myself?
How has the idea that things aren't going to work out for me then followed me in my life? - Where has it resurfaced?
What does my mind say, or my body say, if someone tells me that there's nothing wrong with me, nothing broken in me? - Does every part of me believe it? For the parts of me that don't believe it, what's their comeback?
What would I immediatly respond to the following questions? Would a part of me believe these questions are justified and that they reveal some truth about me?
- Why do my parents hate me and why is it entirely my fault?
- Why am I not good enough?
- What is missing in me?
- What do I hate most about me?
- Why is no one going to love me?
- Why am I a disappointment to myself?
- Why do I deserve to only play small?
- Why is playing big not for me?
- Why don't I deserve success?
- Why don't I deserve happiness?
Looking at myself in the mirror, saying, 'I love me as I am now.' Which parts of me do not believe that or resist the idea? - What do they say?
Do I believe that I am worthy of love? - Why or why not?
Why do I think that I am not good enough for others?
Why am I not good enough for myself?
Why do I feel like I do not belong?
Why do I hate myself, or parts of myself?
What if I chose to love myself as I am now?
Can I still have dreams and goals and ideas for developing myself both physically and mentally, and yet still love and accept myself exactly as I am now both physically and mentally? - If no, why and is this best for me? If yes, why and is this best for me? - Which of the two responses would help me be both happier now, more likely to achieve any dreams etc, and enjoy the journey? Why?
Am I seeking external approval? - In what ways?
How can I give myself internal approval, as I am now?
Am I seeking to control the people and the world around me?
Do I feel at home with myself and feel safe within? - If yes, why? - If no, what would it be like if I did feel this way? - How could I begin to feel that way?
In what ways am I being abusive to my inner child?
How can I become less abusive to myself and my inner child?
Would I accept the level of abuse my inner-voice gives me from a friend?
How can I put a stop to the abuse from my inner-voice?
How can I better care for and nurture my inner-child?
Are there any thoughts or actions that can change how I am right now physically or mentally?
Would I feel better if I resisted myself or embraced myself as I am now?
What is so bad about me as I am right here right now?
Am I doing things for myself or for the approval of others? - What things and why?
Am I setting living up to my potential as a requirement to love myself?
- If so, at what point will I give myself permission to love myself or be satisfied?
- What if I were to love myself as I am right now and then simply enjoy my journey?
Who decides if my body is perfect or not?
Who decides if my life is perfect or not?
Who decides if my achievements are enough or not?
Who decides if I am a success or not?
Who decides if I am a failure or not?
What exactly is perfect? - Is it one singular thing?
What exactly is success or failure? - Is it one singular thing?
In what ways am I being true to myself or not?
In what ways am I being authentic or not?
What is the one thing I would hope someone would tell me? - Could I simply tell this to myself right now (and believe it)?
Is it OK to be me? - Why or why not?
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Why do people write a novel in the comment section?
@@victoriagraham6470 because it's probably the only placed where they're allowed to vent AND not get interrupted. 😒
honestly, thank youu so much, these are the best jornaling prompts about shadow work i've ever seen. i physcially shivered i loved this.
honestly, thank youu so much, these are the best jornaling prompts about shadow work i've ever seen. i physcially shivered i loved this.
Even the way he is dressed proves a point. I love this. I have recently have done lots of shadow work and it is all worth it.
This is the realest thing I've ever seen on youtube. Wow. Huge respect for her bravery.
Just because 10 people told you that you aren't pretty enough doesn't mean there aren't 10 more people who think you are pretty but not just saying it.
Found out about this self help almost a year ago and it is changing my life, the funny thing is that I already knew what I NEEDED to do, but didn't have the courage to do it, also I thought that I was alone with this. The more I talk to people the more I see that most of people have something they are afraid of or hiding something just to not look different. Different or weird is awesome!
fuck ya good for you!, i just started a few months ago
i get motivated from videos like this, but then when real tests come, its like i was bluffing the whole time, and i fall back to Hiding.... man its hard, but im learning to learn, and I know change will come, just not over night, and Im getting better.
I realized the other day that there is nothing wrong with being weird, its who I am, its thoughts like this that are starting to help me let go of my insecurities.
The biggest part for me was the boundary I need to set within myself to make me respect me
Yes! Great takeaway! 🙏
that's really interesting
I'm curious to know about that. How do you set boundaries with yourself? 😢
@@waytoprogrammingyou notice your behavior that crosses the boundary and you stop yourself
@@waytoprogramming for me personally when I heard it I had the thought of like something simple stupid since I’m a mom my first thought was I don’t let my kids talk ugly rude or anything to me so why do I do it I know his shadow work videos have been helping me a lot
One of my favourite sayings, "The first trick the devil plays is to make you feel alone."
Im also introverted and made the same experience in high school. She is not alone. I have so much compassion for her. I would like to have a friend like her. 😊
Oh my god those shoes 🔥🔥🔥💯💯
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@@JulienHimselfAuthenticity is everything!
What are those!?!?
😂 they look funny
I literally thought they were his feet!! 😂
Watching this is so interesting bcz this lady is saying no one is gonna love her if she looks like that but I see a beautiful confident woman,being vulnerable like that in-front of people is already a big step…It’s so sad how we sometimes look at ourselves from a negative pov…love and light to anyone who’s battling with insecurities ❤❤❤
She is cute idk what she is talking about overweight? lol, people are the own worst critics i guess. Julien is amazing and can break people out of their own trance and i love these back and fourth interventions or whatever they are, reallly get you to think and see people beyond their social mask or persona and say some authenticity, god bless Julien you are changing peoples lives for the better
Because thats how she sees herself, regardless if its true or not.
@@nnaheim.Facts
Self love is the hardest thing to achieve as a human. There's been hundreds of years of programming us to believe we are "less" when we are an aspect of source
This is sooo true. Our thoughts are the MOST powerful things in our life. It can completely change reality.
I believe owning how you feel is always important but I also believe that when you wake up, saying affirmations to yourself in the mirror and then letting it go for the rest of the day has a tremendous impact on your abilities, and how well your day goes. If you JUST accept and then leave your mind at default without trying to upgrade your thinking, you may feel good around people but you won’t handle tasks as effectively and you’ll limit how good you can be at something. As someone who’s practiced both for many years, I can say that mixing the two produced the best results rather than JUST accepting!
"What's most personal, is most universal."
..WOW!! That hit me. Everything about this and the previous video I watched about "Social Anxiety" are incredible. I cried in both, and I really listened, it had a big impact on me. Thank you!
Edit: I also understood something more about the specific topics and about myself.
When I went to AA meetings, the people who made the greatest impact on me were those who shared the most personal details of their guilt and shame related to drinking.
Julian since got into college it feels like I am not being myself, tbh I don't vibe with other kids in my class and trying to be in there group but still feeling lonely. You won't believe a beautiful girl class from class is trying to approach me and messeged me later and she seems pretty cool and i resonate with her but when I talk in person my voice tremble and i have fear that other people in class will judge me and shame or make stories about me.
Missing my friends from school and kinda lost and also why there is so nervousness and my voice sounds weird during class when teacher ask something even though compare to other student i am far smarter and even I answer questions still there is some kind of weight on my chest I don't feel light and free like I used to be earlier.
I watched your video about letting go but tbh I still don't understand how exactly step by step practically I can find my true self using this methods.
I will grateful if you can provide simpler actionable approach towards my problem.
In gratitude ...
I came across this video a couple weeks _after_ I was walking into work, feeling the morning sun on my face, the air was clean and clear and the thought "I'm not broken." washed over and through me. It was as if I was electrified, not shocked, but vibrating; totally unprompted thought - just - "there"; in my head and ringing true to my core.
Ever since that day, more videos and teaching moments have come before me.
I am grateful for this particular video as it is reaffirming, of that day and those moments and I'm learning more.
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Lillian, you are very brave and Julian, great work. Lillian seems like such a nice person who has a lot of value in not following the crowd, that is a major quality and she is usually someone you can trust and live a happy life with for the rest of your life. I obviously don't know Lillian but just sharing my opinion.
Julien your videos have helped me so much by just watching 1 video that was 33 minutes. I've personally suffer with severe anxiety. Im 21 and for 9 years ive self isolated myself after some traumatic events back to back happened to me. I wont go into the insufferable details but at 21 ive been trying to get better with my anxiety and soon i may be getting a job. Still i combat my mind overthinking. Your videos help people like me learn to be better. You deserve way more credit for what you do. Thank you.
You're not alone. Except I'm nineteen and the truth was forced onto me suddenly.
I tried fitting in at college and I realise that that was sabotaging myself. I realised that I'm a lot more interesting than the people I was trying to fit in with.
@@elixerprince_art You're absolutely right on that too man. I hope you can find your peace
@@elixerprince_art I’m 19 too & in college!! I feel so better knowing we’re not alone in this
Hey I'm 41 and have terrible anxiety. Crippling even at times. Your not alone!
She was so open to being vulnerable!! The most open I have seen on his channel
omg she is so cute, I cant believe she thinks she's unlovable
People want hot and toxic, not cute and loving.
@@SpxcyMxyo stupid humankind ;(
This man is an emotional genius
I just found this channel a few weeks ago and this specific video hit home for me, especially at the end.
I used to be a person that would just push down all my emotions and experiences as if I am trying to "fit in" to not be judged by others. I would people please and just felt like I was losing who I am, constantly feel controlled by others. This lead to alot of behaviours I didn't understand; procrastination on work (in my case university) and overeating alot are the main examples.
The letting go aspect of my emotions and acceptance has opened my eyes to all that I was hiding through a fake mask.
I'm still new to alot of this meditation stuff, identifying which emotion I have, or which step on transformation I'm at because personally it just feels like alot of random emotions all at once; most of the time. However, I am starting to notice more when I'm triggered and doing more meditations when I feel triggered inside.
Thank you so much for this content Julien! You have changed my life in a big way, and I am so greatful for that!
I've been watching a lot of your vids from the perspective of someone that has always had a deep core of self love.
Even when I've self sabotaged, I haven't stuck with it when push comes to shove. Throughout my youth, I stood up to those around me in defense of my true, authentic self. Including my parents. It was often times lonely but I somehow knew it was going to be okay.
Between the ages of 7 and 9 I felt utter depression even though my life was sheltered. I felt disconnected from what I wanted to be and it felt out of reach for a long time. By the time I became a teenager, I was dying to express myself.
I rebelled hard against the world around me and found myself in the process but it went against the image of myself I had created for approval growing up. By my late teens, early 20s I was able to manipulate people around me with well crafted lies to preserve that image but it got very exhausting.
True happiness came at 24 when I chose to say enough: I am this imperfect person, take it or leave it. Now I can look back at pictures and memories of myself in every stage of life and feel real connection and pride at who I was then. I have moments of cringe, like anyone, but I did my best with what I knew at the time.
I am NOT perfect, I work on myself constantly and your content rings true because it stands on the shoulders of giants. It's hard. We are living breathing creatures and our subconscious is a raging torrent with ever shifting currents. Whenever there's a moment of realness, it's like being thrown an oar to help steer those waters.
Massive love and gratitude to you and all the people who put in the work to reconnect to themselves. It's never too late to have a happy childhood.
Her whole vibe changed by the end of the video AMAZING! did you see it? Her aura went from high anxiety, low self worth to being at peace with herself and even a tad bit confident. you can see it in her posture too! amazing. this makes me think perhaps why great actors are so important, (beyond the entertainment and financial value) they show us how to completely change our emotions and thoughts on command. If people can utilize that fake it to you make it method, it's like a shortcut to hack our system. I wonder what methods they use besides tapping into an event from their lives to bring up an emotion, if there's another technique they do to embody a character.
I tried to improve myself for years until a few years ago I realised I needed to do shadow work. So when I saw this, even before I started watching, I thought, 'bang on, this is 100%!!'
how do u do shadow work? cause i do these prompts and i cry, but I'm still kind of the same.
@@crystalsmith9038 shadow work is being brutally honest with urself, asking urself questions that u only kno the answers to. Everyone has inside work to do
What you resist persist, what you fear you attract, emotion is energy in motion
I so appreciate her comments on the diagnosis of social anxiety and how it confirmed her previous thoughts that there really is something wrong with her.
I work in the field of mental health and I have come to the conclusion that diagnoses are there for practitioners, not for the client. I feel they damage clients, in fact. Further, I feel practitioners should dump diagnoses because the same dynamic works as Julien described when taling about confirming your biases about self. If a psychiatrist decides someone meets the criteria foe bipolar disorder, they will (and do) miss the many signs of development / attachment traumas many people carry with them at all times and their, "manic," symptoms are simply someone doing ANYTHING to avoid it.
Its unimaginable that my life has changed in less than 7 days of discovering your videos. I lack the words now, but the transformation is unbelievable: out of the blues my anxiety, fear, doubt and lack of confidence are less. Thank you Julien.
"What's most personal, is most universal". Hallelujah........ as always Julien packs so much into a short sentence like this. This man is a godsend.
God bless and protect you Julien, it just brought me to tears how empathetic and gentle, yet smart and very powerful you speak with your clients 😢❤ we need more people like you on this planet 🙏
The idea that every inclination in a person is good, is a dangerous proposition. Some things should NOT be accepted.
Hey Julien! I've been watching your live demonstration and I can say it resonates most of what you say and i can relate to people who you try to help! Just want to say thank you! I've been repeating most of your vids to absorb this and hopefully apply it on my life! I hope you stop by in the Philippines would love to join your event! Thank you once again!
wow, just needed this today. WE all are messed up. We all fee insecurities. Thought I was the only one. Thank you so much!
Oh, yes everyone has its own journey. Tahnk yoyu for this real talk!! This is so releaving to me. Bless you!
To this girl, you're amazing and strong. Doing this work is hard, opening up in front of so many makes it even more so. It such an amazing journey. Celebrate when you notice the progress. Celebrate you.
Also, I LOVE that skirt.
Julien, I love your work. I've been mesmerized watching, however. I don't like to say no one is broken. I was watching another video and heard "you are NOT lacking" I'm currently meditating on that. I did feel broken and I sat with it but now, I realize and am repeating to myself "you lack nothing" and my God, has it helped.
I really admire the courage of this lady who's opening herself up in front of the camera and of so many people, you're great and I wish you the best!
I'm very appreciative to see women stepping up and genuinely asking for help.
Watching this from the outside clearly shows the power that our illusory beliefs can have over us and how much suffering we carry around. What a beautiful and courageous young woman
Agreed! And yes, MASSIVE respect to her! 🙏
Goddamn man when you said “your well being comes first”, I teared up a bit. That struck so close to home. So glad your videos popped up in my recommended.
Julien, you were the best coach from when I was into RSD back in 2013 & 2014, met you at Hot Seat in Philly, NYC & Toronto, saw you out in Toronto bar helping students. The real deal. Very personable, dedicated to your craft and really do a great job of explaining everything you practice. Bravo Julien. Glad to see you're pushing people to be brave and face their fears in a relatable and effective way.
You are doing such great work julian. Love ya man.
Saying to someone they are not broken is only going to work when they look for the company of those who think the same and there are not many people like that, that’s why you are making money, people are willing to pay to hear they are Ok. The reality is that we often feel broken when we seek the company of people who are completely different to us, where we don’t fit. Find the crowd where you fit in and you’ll never think you are broken. An alternative is to become similar to those whose company we are after either through training or styling which many people is trying to do and there is nothing wrong with it
Just subscribed to your channel. And I'm binge-watching every single video! Thank you for being a REAL HUMAN❤😊 Great work!!
I love that he looks like he just came straight from bed here. I absolutely mean that lovingly, because I think we have the most level, open to clear thinking, centered divine being-ness energy when we first wake up, before the day hits us and all the stuff we've carried from the day before seeps in. His chilled out, freshly woken up vibes are perfect for this sort of work.
probably the very best of this type of content i have ever seen. thank you so very muc. the whole world needs to hear this, especially just now. x
Julien , you've crafted a world where you aren't concerned about peoples opinions and judgement. However I just want to add that in my opinion you are fucking awesome. I love what you do and you are just amazing. Sending you lots of love man!
You are truly the first person to give me hope. I've never thought my life was going to amount to anything, but it has been inspiring watching your videos.
Oh, love you for Don't improve yourself from the assumption "I'm broken". EXACTLY. Nothing to fix, I'm strong and ideal and that's why I can improve! Improve my perfection:) because I am curious, not because I have to be better. AND perfection is seen Only from the peaceful, rested state. It's my strong belief.
what really struck a chord with me was the comment you made about creating our own reality. I'm the goal. I'm the reality.
Your videos are really helping me. Thank you, Julien.
This was a great video back into the swing of internal growth for me! It's been a few months since I've watched one of your videos, I've missed them!
Side note: your outfits make my heart happy! They're always fantastic 🤩
Lilian, I saw myself in you a hundred percent and beyond. It was comforting. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you very much. This is the most powerful video I can't even express how much help and relief it gave to me. Thank you Julien for your work that is really outstanding!
DOOM!! But on the real, i have gained some good insight from your videos and i literally just found your channel like an hour ago. I went through a lot as a kid being tossed back a forth between my parents because neither one wanted me or my siblings growing up and these interactions you have with others really speak to me. Keep doing what you do man
Thank you for this video, Julien. I feel like it was specifically for me. On the last video, I asked when I'm supposed to be authentic because I'm still mostly in negative states, and this video gave me the answer. I've been searching your videos for this specific answer, and I finally have it as clear as day. You said, and I'm paraphrasing, even if you're in a negative state, be that authentically. Thank you.
I just found your channel, and I really like it, I've watched like 4 videos in the last few hours.
I also sincerely love your wardrobe, very unique 😛
I'll be watching more
Thanks 😊
If almost everyone seems to be dealing with anxiety, and low self esteem, maybe it's not something we're 'diagnosed' with as an ailment, maybe it's just a phase of life or lack of complete awareness about ones greatness?
Well we aren't anxious as newborn kids.
These are scars that makes us stiff.
They veil our true nature more and more.
It's just very new that we humans have this much free time to think about the misery.
Humanity is used to being busy with surviving and working.
Now that we are close to fixing many life-threatening problems we get the time to actually look inside.
Back in the day this was only monks and religious leaders.
Now we all get to access that knowledge.
So in some sense it's a phase.
But lack of awareness isn't the reason.
The open wounds and scars are the reason.
Lack of awareness and hence suffering is the consequence.
We managed to get through worse conditions so we're also gonna have this solved :)
@@friedrichmacz That makes sense. But do all the philosophers in the past go through this?
@@Mm-abcsony they do, one of the reason they can talk smart is because they already experience trauma, wounds, the depth of life and some of them come with philosophy from that place, but some of them get stucked into it and never comeback. Because life was never only about the dark, the depth, and because its from that place its resonated with people who also from that dark place. So ye letting go and healing is the way. I recommend Rumi quotes on goodreads if you acctually want a philosopher that actually healing and letting go himself
"You are your greatest abuser" I needed to hear that 🙏 this work is not easy.
from this video i learned to
be kinder to myself. talk to myself as my child
it is okay to be me
it is okay to be not perfect
it is okay to have flaws that i am still enough even if i have imperfections. my imperfections doesn't define me. i am more than that
si be kinder to myself and it is okay to be not perfect
Amazing, Thanks for sharing!
Amazing stuff man!
This was INCREDIBLY powerful for me, thank you so much!🙏
So life changing!!!! Thank you Julien!!!!!!!🎉🎉🎉
THANKS! You are enough right here, right now! You don't need any requirements to love yourself!!! Everything You aspire, go for it from a place of love❤❤❤ Love y'all :))
Julien dropping some serious wisdom bombs! So glad you grow bigger. Wish you the best...
Respect for putting yourself out there Lilian!
It's True...Talking to a Married man and he was so about being happy married...when walking in the office he was sitting skin close to a norther woman I didn't care but when he seen me he quickly moved away from her like he did something wrong...the body language says it all.
Just found your videos recently, i think what you do is incredibly inspiring and you have a genuinely good heart, im going to be like you one day.
Preciate the free vids👍
the movie 'a beautiful mind' i thought gave a really helpful strategy for that abusive self talk. the guy is schizophrenic, and when he realizes the characters in his life that are 'not real', he kinda goes to each one and says 'i'm mot going to be able to listen to you and pay attention to you any more'..... it really was so powerful to me. i mean those are his friends and companions and he had to say goodbye. and then still see them around and not pay attention to them. these really hateful parts of myself are my companions. i mean they are. they were created within me for a purpose. and now i have to constantly decide whether or not i will allow them to interact with me. and when i can, i tell them i love them, but i cant interact with them..
amazing! it's so deep!❤
This was amazing. Lilian you are so brave and thank you for your vulnerability
Wow i subbed after 5 min! This was some powerful stuff! 🎉
This was a really good video. Thank you.
I've been listening to this on repeat all day.
Great work keep working respect for u Julien ❤ inner child ❤ yes be authenticity
A thought just popped up as i was watching a different video of yours and one of the guests you brought up said "this video will be one i won't be watching", because he obviously was embarrassed to be out on blast on youtube. I think thats a great opportunity to reinforce that they should watch it though, because they'll be able to see the whole interaction again from a different perspective and it would help solidify what you were telling him.
I almost cried when she said "No one will ever love you if you look like that" :(
Omg I know and she is such a sweet angel and soo freakin cute. Broke my heart.
It spoke to me sir! Thank you 🙏🏽
thank god that i watched 3 videos of you bro, because it's what got me to really start to follow your steps
Amazing to hear! Glad they were helpful! 🙏
Yes yes yessss YESSSSSSS! Min 7 she was diagnosed with social anxiety but she knows ots bull you have to fight! You can't give in! You have to fight!
this guys reversing the damage from social media ie insta
Thank you Julien!❤
Yes yes yes 🙌 Thank you for helping people see the truth !
Will you do the upcoming NY seminar in a similar format, such as calling people on stage? I'm in the UK but would happily fly over for the live experience. This content is extremely valuable, thank you so much!
How do you feel?
Annoyed that even after doing the inner work, there's still this voice that says "you're not enough."
What's so scary about rejection?
Not being enough.
But you're already there lol. You spend your life in a state of "I'm not enough," so how is that a fear? Really we're afraid of letting go of that very familiar story of "I'm not enough." We've built our lives around it and are incredibly invested in it. The human condition is wanting to improve while at the same time defining ourselves as not improved. Good luck.
Watched a lot of your videos, this is my favorite i think.
I think the over indulgence of self help material subconsciously communicates that you are not good enough because when you r trying to constantly improve yourself you confirm to yourself that "am not good enough thats why i need all this self help material"...Truth is self help is a business and the real help you need is to approve of yourself.. (You might not know that you are actually doing enough and you are pretty/handsome enough but you are)
Thank you julien
Incredible work man!!!!!!!!!!!May the universe belss you
Thank you, this was really good and I got two practical ideas. I’m setting my alarm to breathe throughout the day and say it’s OK.
I was just rejected multiple times by someone I was convinced was my soulmate. It made me feel unlovable at first but these videos help remind me that it was for the best. It says more about him than myself. Its probably protection from the divine.
100% blunt honesty: Lilian is very pretty, she is not overweight but looks a bit out of shape like she doesn't work out, and she has poor posture. This is stuff that can be fixed in a few months. In a year she could be a 9/10. This is not shallow, it is all part of health and well-being, and just shows how the mind can blind us. She is already very close to what she thinks she should be. So imagine what more she can be when she opens her eyes. I am rooting for you, Lilian.
Working out has been a game-changer for me, it is such a relief not just to get rid of stress but also to see how the body can just take control and that it knows what it's doing, it knows how to make itself stronger and fitter if you just put in the reps. I feel much more confident now that the mind is the same. We just have to put in the reps and show the mind what we need and it will follow without question.
I did notice that I had a huge reduction in my anxiety when I started working out and losing weight. I almost feel like fat holds anxiety and fear. It traps our negative emotions about ourselves.
Seriously, she is soo pretty to me.