Trauma is an onion, there are so many layers to it at various life points. You can be "healed" and still hit a pocket of emotions. Doesn't mean it's a regression, it's a new understanding of everything.
Absolutely it's been over 29yrs since a brain tumor and it still affects me as a adult as far as emotional aspect. "Healed" areas can still feel pain you learn to work around it
Happy lifeday Cole! I just wanted to thank you guys for all your videos. I’m a c6 quad and was injured 2.5 years ago. I found your videos shortly after getting discharged from the hospital and it really helped me see the possibilities of life after my injury
You’re very kind, thank you! It means a lot to hear we could be a resource for you following your injury. I hope things are getting easier for you now that you’re a couple years out from injury!
Last year my cousin lost his life saving a little girl from drowning. My family is so proud of what my cousin did. The girls family too. The girl is young. Around 10ish. She has big feelings and emotions About it. She and her family were at his memorial service. She released doves for him. I know her life will mean so much more and my cousin will forever be remembered
Thank you for sharing your cousin's heroic act. I wish he survived. Please know that you and your family have my sympathy for the loss of your heroic caring cousin.
Disability or not, I think that - as people age - there are mental significant shifts that take place where you eventually don’t recognize the persons you once were in your teens, twenties, thirties etc. I’ve had many of these moments lately and I’m only 47. It’s truly surreal.
Yes. I clearly remember being very annoyed with someone who said that I would think differently about the subject in question 'in a few years ' of course, they were right!
When i watch you two, i don't see Cole's disability first. What I see is two very attractive people who share love and respect for each other and such positivity for others. "Not disabled, just differently abled". Both of you are so strong and accomplished. You said it best, making the best version of yourself does not diminish tough emotions and hardships, but do not let them keep you from living and loving. We need more people like you two in the world today. A reminder of what really matters.
I was shot in the head 43.5 years ago and I do think of that accident on the anniversary day, but many times I forget about it. Nobody calls me or anything on the day, I personally would find it weird. I don’t want to get stuck rehashing that day over and over. I am permanently disabled. I do walk with a cane and have trouble with one of my hands. I take medicine because now I could have seizures, but the medicine has been fantastic and I am seizure free because I am diligent about taking it. Cole, I’m so sorry about your accident. I know mine wasn’t at all like yours, but I understand what it’s like to lose the ability your body once had. I was a girl who absolutely loved the Olympics and the gymnastics was my favorite. My friend and I were always doing cartwheels and handstands, bridges, etc. I used to go roller skating and ice skating. I’m not sad that I can’t do those things anymore, what good does it do me? I’m thankful that many things were in place that day that saved my life, including praying loved ones and churches! I cried out to God to help me and He did. Life is more difficult now for sure, I have learned to adapt and do things differently. I’m so happy for you to have your beautiful wife, Charisma, who obviously is crazy about you. I love that you work hard to strengthen yourself and how you do whatever you can to help out your lovely wife. I bet she appreciates it way more because she knows it’s a struggle to do it. Your great attitude and willingness is so important and I love how you two complete each other.
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story, which is so powerful! Totally understand your perspective, too, especially being as far out from your injury as you are. Thank you for your kindness and support, and I hope the medicine continues to help!
@@coleandcharisma I did go through some dark times of depression for sure around that time and several years after for different reasons. It is a big adjustment when you were once able bodied and enjoyed physical activity to such a change. My mom was a gardener and I will never forget the time that I was so frustrated and we were out in the vegetable garden and she let me take my frustration out on a row of peppers (I think it was peppers). Looking back on that, it brings a tear to my eyes. I’m a mom now and if my son were to go through what I did, I would certainly let him rip up anything in my garden if it helped him to feel better. I’m thankful to have had so much support from my mom like that. I lost her to cancer last year. The year before that, I lost my husband to COVID/pneumonia. If it weren’t for God helping me through everything, I don’t know how I would’ve done it. I am still very thankful for the blessings in my life. The people I’ve had in my life were all beautiful in their own ways. I know that God has a plan in mind for my son and I wouldn’t still be here if He didn’t also have a plan for me too.
My brother had a stroke in 2016. His entire right side is paralyzed. He has checked out. He tells people he can't do anything because he's a cripple. I explain to him all the things he can do. Then I refer him to your channel and show him all you can do . Thank you for all your inspiration.
That's so tough. Everyone has their own trauma journey. I hope your brother finds what he needs, and good on you for being a source of encouragement in his world 💪
I had a stroke in 2020, same as your brother I'm right side paralyzed, the first two and a half years I was very depressed and I had the same thoughts of being a useless cripple, then I got covid and the (second) near death experience was a wake up call for me, I realized I still wanted to live my life and make the most of it with this extra time, now I've made peace with my new body and I always try to find ways to adapt, I'm still a cripple but I'm not useless lol. Cole videos really helped me in my depression phase, and now they motivate me to be better and do more. I hope your brother can break free from that dark place, I understand how is like being there, what little advice I can offer is help your brother to find something they love and realistically can still do, then work on independence toward that. In my case I was a big gamer before my stroke, I thought I would never game again and that fueled my depression making me not want to even try, a vicious cycle, after a lot of failures now I can play any game I want using adaptive equipment and that really improved my mental state, so tell your brother he is not alone in his journey, there are people who understand and there is still a life ahead of us, I know is not an easy message to get through in his mental state, ultimately the change has to come from within him, and I hope he can find his inner strength to do it.
I love listening to you guys. My husband is a C4 C5 it has been 16 years. We were married 25 years when it happened. A tire flew of a transport and landed on his vehicle. We have been through so much together but we are thankful for each other and our boys and now grandchildren. Every day is a precious gift.
Cole, your observation that 'everything afterwards is icing (on the cake)' really struck a cord with me. Thanks for that. I walked into a hospital in January 2023 to have surgery to remove a cancerous mass in my tongue and in the process lost most of it. Then radiation therapy, which does as much harm as good for head and neck cases like mine. I am damn lucky to have recovered as much ability as I have now to talk understandably, and maintain my weight without a peg (feeding tube), even with dealing with a cancer reoccurance in a lymph node earlier this year, but I still struggle some days with 57 years of memories of pre-cancer 'me'. Your astute observation is another arrow in my quiver to shoot down my regret and combat the loss I feel some days. So, you and Charisma help across many threads of people's trauma journeys, and I am very grateful I ran across your channel, and your story, when I did, about a year ago. ❤ Thanks, you two!❤
It's amazing to watch how Charisma looks deep into your eyes when you are expressing yourself. She definitely is present and not just hearing you but actually listening to you. Both of you are such an inspiration to the world. We love you, dearly. Greetings from OKC!!!
Do we say "Happy Injurerversary"? I'm so happy it brought you to this life with Charisma & you sharing it with us as the outcome of a devastating injury. I can't imagine how many people's lives you've touched by showing how positive life can be even disAbled. It helps me spending time with you two.
It’s okay to mourn the Cole that could have been, but use this day to celebrate all you have accomplished. You are an inspiration to so many. The world is a better place because of you!
12:43 Everyone who has had a life changing injury goes through a period where they're like wow, I can't remember what life was like before... I can relate, though my injuries are nowhere near the level of Cole's. It changes the whole way you think about everything that you do. Thanks for sharing this video
I understand and think this is very relatable. My second chapter was initiated by huge fibroid tumors which resulted in a hysterectomy. I thought I would be a doting mother and family person. I handle it by not looking back, only forward. It helps me stay in a state of gratitude. Plus, the more we learn about others the more I realize life isn’t fair for most of us. Love you guys ❤
This one is really special… I could feel when Cole was about to cry there for a few minutes and I wanted to cry also. His strength and courage to keep sharing is so admirable bc he’ll never know how many he helps by doing so. Charisma is so supportive and eloquent and such a pure, kind soul. I just love you both- so much. ❤ Thank you for sharing
Cole, it’s great to see you thriving. I hope there are other people that can watch this in the beginning of their injury and realize it will be okay. It’s not being disabled it’s being differently abled.
Hey y’all! I’m a 28 year old C5 quadriplegic and I just celebrated my 10 year injurversary on July 26th! I recently messaged Cole on Instagram but my message got cut off by character limitations so I didn’t get to finish it. You two have been a great inspiration to me and I would love to get in contact and maybe jam some Rocket League sometime! I’ve been playing basically since it released. I’m not the best, but I’m not too shabby! Hope that’s not a weird thing to ask, I’m just very grateful to have found your content and figured I’d reach out however I can!
You both are so cute. We are all where we are meant to be. We all have been given an assignment in life. At least that's what I believe. I agree so much with how what you share can help others in the same or similar situation. With the way the world is now, it's nice to be a part of a supportive community.
Congratulations Cole on your D-day! Thank God and friend that saved you. Thank God for your parents and community. Most of all, thank God for your wonderful, gorgeous and extraordinary WIFE, Charisma, without whom you won't be doing wonderful things. I started with you and I can see how far you guys have gone and I'm so impressed and freaking proud of y'all like you're my younger siblings. We look forward to year 14 and I pray y'all have over and above your expectations. Can't wait for the road trip.
Charisma I love your hair style. You look lovely and I love how natural your makeup is applied. Cole so happy you are with us. I appreciate that you share so much of yourself. You both definitely make a difference and have a positive impact on the world. 🥰
You are generous to be so open with what you have gone through the last 13 years and to be so honest. You have given so much by sharing not just this anniversary but the whole process of loving and growing as an interabled, inter-racial couple. Both of you are remarkable human beings.
Cole, we're all so supportive of you. I've personally enjoyed watching you both explore life and grow together, so please keep sharing your lives with us. You're making a difference in the world, especially for similarly injured people and the people who love them. Sending love and blessings.
@MysTarey. You said exactly what I was thinking. I’m 63 and I am realizing with age my body no longer can do what it used to, which is sad to me. I’m not trying to compare my body to Cole’s disability or experience (or anyone’s) at all! Just saying there is a slight mourning process to getting older, losing abilities, and knowing that the majority of your life is now over. I don’t want to sound overly maudlin either! I am in decent health, and much more fit and active than a lot of women my age. And Cole and Charisma you two are some of the best communicators I have ever seen. At your age to be so open and honest is amazing! Love your content. Thank you!! ❤🙏🏼
It also opened you up to a different demographic of people, you probably would have never known. Happy injury anniversary Cole and the beautiful Charisma.
Lots of love to you guys, may you continue to grow from strength to strength. Its great that you are helping other disabled people by documenting your journey.
❤ Cole I was diagnosed with Type I diabetes at 12 years old I’m 69 now, 57 years with this disease. It’s a hidden chronic illness that’s way harder than most people know. I don’t remember not being diabetic. I understand your emotions about your injury. I let myself have my feelings but then go on and live my life. I’m glad you and Charisma have each other. Keep on keeping on. 😊
My diving accident was May 27, 1986 that's 38 years for those who are doing the math...lol I look back and yes it seems like forever ago, but in reality time has flown by and life has been good. I often say how the accident saved my life, I was a little on the wild side at 19 and everyone remembers the days of being "10 foot tall and bulletproof". By diving into that pool that day and becoming paralyzed slowed me down, well life came to a complete stop and it started over again in a new light. I really appreciate you both for showing others that just because of the accident, life goes on just a little different.
Cole, THANK YOU for being so transparent and so real about your injury and the new life that you have with Charisma- and the tremendous inspiration you are to so many people… I’m so grateful that we get to be a small part of your life now…. CHEERS 🥂
Happy Injurversary!!! I've been following you guys for a few years now and I'm so glad to see how far you've come in these last years. I get it. You two are amazing!!!
you guys are just amazing.Apparently its also my husband',s 13th anniversary since he injured his spinal cord on 31 July 2011. Its always encouraging watching you guys .
I was involved in an incident that has left me paralyzed for almost 4 yrs now, and I always think of what could have happened, like me not being here. I am so grateful that I can make more memories, and it does become hard at times to think about certain things. I used to bike everywhere, and I really miss it, but that is a part of my old life. I always love your guys attitude and approach to life, maybe one day I will meet my "Charisma".
That was so revealing and emotional. I admire Cole's ability to reflect and share the good, bad and ugly. I could see in his visage that he was internally reviewing his history. His face showed his emotion and his eyes generally avoided the camera. You are so loved by so many and we appreciate your willingness to share. ❤
Not gonna lie, this video got me a bit emotional, especially when I heard Cole say how lucky he is and how grateful he is for all he has. You guys make the world a better place. Thanks for all the work you do!
Charisma, Cole it is a blessing just to hear you guys talk about how God saved Cole life and brought ya'll together as husband and wife. May God continues to bless ya'll and Cole you are a blessing for so many people touching life of many and you will never know how much. God bless ❤
PTL! You were saved and have found purpose in living. You are a great source of inspiration! I have learnt so much about disabilities and spinal cord injuries from your channel. I have learnt how to see disable people as normal people. I am very happy that Cole survived. I look forward to continue to invite you into my home via your channel. May God continue to use you as a shining light for others to see love is an excellent way to crush boundaries.❤❤
I love these videos where he talks about his injury and how he is adjusting. I know for me how much we take for granted in just getting around. Sometimes I feel he is embarrassed about getting emotional. This is something that able bodied people can’t even begin to understand.
Hello you two, I’ve been following you guys for about 3 years now, and Cole I must say you are doing really good for a quadriplegic. I’m a nurse and I’ve taken care of quadriplegics that were paralyzed from the neck down, unable to move any part of their body, they could only blink their eyes. I always pray for your improvement, you have an awesome wife and the two of you together with God guidance, you’re gonna be just fine, much love ❤️
Cole at 32 I got diagnosed with a severe form of arthritis. I am now 64 and my life has been very different and in many ways maybe better because I had to slow down to enjoy life and living. I couldn’t walk, sleep, comb my hair or play volleyball ball again or run on the beach, but I learned to do other things that give my life value. I still have difficulty discussing losing my hearing & other body functions even with my great husband, but it takes time and it doesn’t always, usually doesn’t get easier. Believe me despite your injury you will face many more life changes and you will do just fine. Oh I am from Virginia Beach!
I love that you did this video because I can relate. Sometimes I feel so alone in how I feel but hearing you talk about what you go through really helps. You are amazing. I was involved in a motorcycle vs. semi accident in 2021 where I lost my husband and I suffered a TBI, stroke, aneurysm, and multiple fractured bones, including degloving of part of my body. Its been almost 3 years and its still hard to cope, but watching your videos helps me with a lot. With all that said you and Charisma are amazing
So deserved, Cole! You're a decent young man with such promises. I even thought of you both today on vacation in a real wealthy area on lake Michigan and i smiled so wide when i saw a wheelchair accessible beach ramp on the sand that went all the way down to the water. It was so cool. Stay awesome, Cole!!! 😊
Hi from St. Louis! My situation isn’t close to yours, but so much has changed for me since my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment that I’m starting to forget what life was like before the treatment-induced side effects (which I thought would be temporary, but six years out now (August 2018) they’re now permanent.
I’m still struggling to adapt to my new body image (giant scar) and the GERD (caused by radiation) and the bilateral shoulder damage (exacerbated by radiation). You give me inspiration to keep trying to adapt.
Thank you for sharing your guys journey. I may not be disabled, but I am over 2 years into my foot rehab journey. In April of 2022 I learned the hard way when taking on a new firefighting job that I had SUPER stiff, tense, weak feet, which in a sense has practically left me feeling as if I'm disabled.I haven't been able to work a job since, which is over 2 years now, as I can barely stand or walk. It's been a process but I am making progress, getting stronger, and getting to the other side thanks be to God 🙏
Hello, Cole. I felt that this video was very emotional, and first of all, I wanted to thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. I believe everyone in this community appreciates it and understands how difficult it can be, so you are very brave. I just want you to know that there's someone from Lima, Peru-yes, very far away-watching you and being inspired by your words. So no, you're not dreaming. You're inspiring. Seeing and hearing you makes me a better person. More patient. It allows me to be even better with myself and with others. So, allow yourself to feel your emotions, but don't forget about the beautiful impact you're making because we all know it's not easy.
I sweep it under the rug and then fight depression, and sometimes, most times lose the battle. I've never been to therapy, and I want to die sometimes. I'm happy you share, it has helped me try to be more independent..
Cole, your take on life has always been so motivating and inspiring. I'm proud you've come through so much growth. I use your story as examples I tell my kids or friends. Your story will be shared and spread. Thank you for sharing your life and journey with us.
Thank you for sharing. You really don't know how many people your experience and positivity helps others. May God continue to bless you both in your journey.
GOD bless you both!! This video touched my heart because of how u both spoke about Cole's injury Anniversary with sensitivity & authenticity! Wishing you both all the best!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hi Guys!! 13 years ❤” Injurnniversary” New life and experiences. God had other eye opening plans for you. Look at you now!! You’ve been an inspiration too many! Keep doing what you’re doing!! Look at the blessings!! The new bookcase looks amazing It looks really good It takes time decorating a house! Love you two to Life🥂
I’m from RVA and grew up swimming in the James River, Pony Pasture area specifically. I worked as a RN in the ER @ MCV when you had your injury. It’s so wonderful seeing you living such a full & happy life with such a darling wife. Love following your story. 💙
I’m so happy that you’re alive Cole And I’m so happy of how far you’ve gone too Before I had my accident on March 7, 2015 I was going to college coaching and working too But I got into a car accident a metal pole penetrated my right side of my head I was in a coma for a while but end up waking up to a whole new different way of life that I was going to live since then i’ve been bedridden and unable to control my left side of my body it’s been really hard for me I just don’t feel like my self I was able to take care of myself but now I’m dependent on everyone. I used to have friends that I hung out with but now I don’t have them anymore since my accent found out that they’re not wanting to hang out with me anymore. I end up not having any friends now. I miss the days of playing sports and playing video games as well. Since I am bedridden, I feel bad for my fiancé for already being together for 12 years. I am still not fully better and not able to live together due to my disability. But I keep on trying to stay positive even though when people say, I should be happy that I am at least alive, but at times I feel like I’m not living life if that makes sense. to be honest, I am very jealous of you Cole I just wish I was capable of doing what you can do but, I am so happy for you as well. You have succeeded a lot in life and you continue to succeed. You and Charisma are so amazing. Can’t wait for more videos to come.
Thank you for being so honest and transparent on this topic. I know there are people being helped if they saw and heard this segment. Again, thank you and live life.
Cole is alive and that's a miracle and it means so much to get that acknowledgement. I lost my mom last year and no body checks on me really especially when the day she passed. It's lonely and sad. I watch you and I feel good and related. ❤
Thinking about you today Cole. Thank you for sharing; you've grown into a wonderful person. Love the relationship you and Charisma have--loving, always positive, but never afraid of telling it like it is.❤😊
Happy anniversary 13 years,, u guys don't know how important ure work is, u touches lot of life's and u encouraging lot of us with ure content lots of love from South Africa❤❤
I'm an LPN and took care of a young man for 24 yrs. He broke his neck by diving in a lake. He was at a friend's house party and had been drinking. A priest happened to be fishing at the time and saved . He was 20 getting ready to return to college. He was a C2 and on a ventilator, paralysis from his neck down, with a little feeling in his face. You remind me so much of him. He was caring, thoughtful, and loving. He usually always had a way to make me laugh and realize what ever problems i thought i had wasn't so bad. I think of him often. I had to retire, but we stayed in touch with each other until he died. He was not only my patient, but we became good friends. I just happened to see one of your videos and knew I wanted to follow you and your beautiful wife. Sending blessings to both of you for many years together. God knows just who to put in your life. Enjoy each other and life.
I really relate to many of these thoughts & emotions as someone with a sickaversary (over 13yrs now), and now disabled. Each year truly does hit differently depending on where life & my own journey is at the time. Thank you for talking about what this day means to you. And making others aware of the emotional impact anniversaries like this can have on so many, and the value in acknowledging this day for them. It’s absolutely not talked about enough.
Hi Cole. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re doing great 👍🏼 I’m a C6 quadri and this year is going to be my 26 year since my injury at 16 years old at the beach. I have no evidence of it but I also think that when I hit my head it affected my memory. The first 2 to 3 years were the most difficult but once I entered college it started to get better because of the environment and having my mind occupied. So my advice to anyone who is going to a similar situation should try if possible to do something that entertains you. It probably will not erase completely what you’re going through but at least for me it will make every day a little better.
That is nice that you think about the other people who experienced your accident with you. You are both so blessed, there is nothing at all pathetic about the two of you or your lives. You are hope for anyone who has gone through the same thing.
Charism you are such a supportive and wonderful wife. Cole you are so blessed to have a wife like her. She is so positive! And you are so strong. You are blessing others that are going through. I’m sure you are giving them hope. May God continue to BLESS your beautiful union.
Happy Lifeday Cole! 🎉🎉Thanks for bringing me on the journey with y’all. My husband is disabled so watching your content gives me hope and inspiration 😺😎
I think this is true of anyone who's had something happen that became a clear "Before and After" I got my neurodivergence diagnosis just over 10 years ago, and I say that my life came together and collapsed in the exact same second. Sometimes I say I wish I could go back; not to before I knew, but before I thought about it every second. When I had my performance review at work a couple months ago (everyone at work knows), my manager literally said "You have that, but I don't think of it when I think about you; it doesn't define you." But to me, it always has. It just changed from a list of personality quirks, to something with a name.
I see a lovely couple. Cole, you inspire me. I've had 2 hip replacements n the same hip, back surgery that came open and was sewed up without any anesthesia and a broken ankle. The depression was there. I know God is with me and will take care of it. You are an inspiration. You also have a beautiful wife that loves you. Keep on being you. Blessings to you both 🙏🏽
I'm thinking about you on this day!!! So grateful you are still here and for all that you and Chrisma do! Thank you for being transparent!! Praying for you both!! 🙏 ❤
Cole- you’re a true inspiration. I think sharing your story is twofold: it’s helping you to heal and helping those who watch you to heal as well. I’m glad you’ve gotten to a good place mentally through therapy & the solid support system of family/friends. Your comment “find things that bring you joy and process the things that may be holding you back” is quite profound. I think it can be easy to feel stuck in whatever hardships you're dealing with, but once you work past all the pain, you can come out the other side with a new (maybe even better) perspective on life. Happiness is a lot easier to obtain once we give ourselves the permission. Much love from NJ to you both. 💙
Charisma, your comment- that we don’t feel alone…. THAT is part of the comfort you give too. This is isolating even when we have our family. Keep making vids. ❤❤
Charisma you always amaze me too. I see when Cole gets emotional, you let him be in the moment without trying to intervene. I think it’s important to feel those feelings. I have been watching you guys for a long time and I feel you are so supportive when you need to be! ❤
I can’t believe I’ve been following you for so many years! I remember your injur-versary every year and think, oh…today is Cole’s day! ❤ Happy 13 years! I absolutely sobbed during the 10 year video Charisma did for you with everyone. I look forward to celebrating year 14! 🎉
This coming Halloween will be my 5-year anniversary of getting diagnosed with MS. I’m… not sure how I feel about it, tbh. On the one hand, I’ve learned a lot about how to deal with my symptoms, which has enabled me to live life more fully, and I’m SUPER grateful for the treatment I’ve received that has kept it from progressing more than it has. On the other hand, I ABSOLUTELY grieve the body that I had before my diagnosis and the things that I can’t do, or can’t do as well. THANK YOU, Cole and Charisma for helping me to see how full and wonderful life can be even with a body that doesn’t always do everything I want it to. Y’all are amazing! ❤️
I've been disabled my whole life due to aa dr's error & so many times in my head I thought what "if" This was 1 of your best & most moving videos. Happy injurversary Cole
I came across your page during the pandemic. It has been such a blessing. You both have taught me so so much, opening up my world around disabled people. It makes me so much more aware. Thank you Cole and Charisma for sharing your story and your vulnerability.
My husband was born with cerebral palsy and needed surgery at two months old. He died during surgery and they revived him, discovering major heart issues. He was a regular rambunctious kid and got into a motorcycle accident that sent him through the windshield of a car in his early teens. His memory is for sure a challenge and sometimes has issues with emotional control. But he is HERE and we are grateful every day for it!
Charisma skin tone is just beautiful
As well as her hair
Love her hair
i literally stare at her in disbelief sometimes -cole
@@coleandcharisma she is stunning both inside and out. Ya'll are a fantastic team for sure❤️
Ah....❤@@coleandcharisma
Trauma is an onion, there are so many layers to it at various life points. You can be "healed" and still hit a pocket of emotions. Doesn't mean it's a regression, it's a new understanding of everything.
this.
Thank you. What a great post 😊
Beautifully put, thank you
an excellent observation and a well -spoken thought of encouragement
Absolutely it's been over 29yrs since a brain tumor and it still affects me as a adult as far as emotional aspect. "Healed" areas can still feel pain you learn to work around it
Happy lifeday Cole! I just wanted to thank you guys for all your videos. I’m a c6 quad and was injured 2.5 years ago. I found your videos shortly after getting discharged from the hospital and it really helped me see the possibilities of life after my injury
You’re very kind, thank you! It means a lot to hear we could be a resource for you following your injury. I hope things are getting easier for you now that you’re a couple years out from injury!
What’s 2.5 years
@@rollingwithmoore 2 1/2
@@rollingwithmoore 2 and a half years
@@Mymimemei I just wanted to be sure
Last year my cousin lost his life saving a little girl from drowning.
My family is so proud of what my cousin did. The girls family too.
The girl is young. Around 10ish. She has big feelings and emotions About it.
She and her family were at his memorial service. She released doves for him.
I know her life will mean so much more and my cousin will forever be remembered
Such a tragedy. Your cousin is a hero. Our hearts go out to all of you
Thank you for sharing your cousin's heroic act. I wish he survived. Please know that you and your family have my sympathy for the loss of your heroic caring cousin.
Disability or not, I think that - as people age - there are mental significant shifts that take place where you eventually don’t recognize the persons you once were in your teens, twenties, thirties etc. I’ve had many of these moments lately and I’m only 47. It’s truly surreal.
You're right!👍👍
THAT PART
Yes. I clearly remember being very annoyed with someone who said that I would think differently about the subject in question 'in a few years ' of course, they were right!
Great point! Time hits us all evenly
When i watch you two, i don't see Cole's disability first. What I see is two very attractive people who share love and respect for each other and such positivity for others. "Not disabled, just differently abled". Both of you are so strong and accomplished. You said it best, making the best version of yourself does not diminish tough emotions and hardships, but do not let them keep you from living and loving. We need more people like you two in the world today. A reminder of what really matters.
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Perfectly said!!!!!! Thank you!!!
Well said ❤
Cole, I’m so glad you’re still here!! What a Handsome, Brave, Unstoppable, Inspiring WARRIOR you are!! Love y’all two Beautiful Love Birds. 💜
Thank you!! 🤗☺
@@coleandcharisma, You’re welcome. 💜
Charisma’s hair is CUTE 🥰
I agree!
So cute.
Yes, so pretty!
😍🥰 -cole
Cole, I'm so happy that your friend saved your life, so you're still here.
You are loved!❤
you and me both! 😅🤣
I was shot in the head 43.5 years ago and I do think of that accident on the anniversary day, but many times I forget about it. Nobody calls me or anything on the day, I personally would find it weird. I don’t want to get stuck rehashing that day over and over. I am permanently disabled. I do walk with a cane and have trouble with one of my hands. I take medicine because now I could have seizures, but the medicine has been fantastic and I am seizure free because I am diligent about taking it. Cole, I’m so sorry about your accident. I know mine wasn’t at all like yours, but I understand what it’s like to lose the ability your body once had. I was a girl who absolutely loved the Olympics and the gymnastics was my favorite. My friend and I were always doing cartwheels and handstands, bridges, etc. I used to go roller skating and ice skating. I’m not sad that I can’t do those things anymore, what good does it do me? I’m thankful that many things were in place that day that saved my life, including praying loved ones and churches! I cried out to God to help me and He did. Life is more difficult now for sure, I have learned to adapt and do things differently. I’m so happy for you to have your beautiful wife, Charisma, who obviously is crazy about you. I love that you work hard to strengthen yourself and how you do whatever you can to help out your lovely wife. I bet she appreciates it way more because she knows it’s a struggle to do it. Your great attitude and willingness is so important and I love how you two complete each other.
🤗you are so blessed ,,and may the blessings continue.
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story, which is so powerful! Totally understand your perspective, too, especially being as far out from your injury as you are. Thank you for your kindness and support, and I hope the medicine continues to help!
@@coleandcharisma I did go through some dark times of depression for sure around that time and several years after for different reasons. It is a big adjustment when you were once able bodied and enjoyed physical activity to such a change. My mom was a gardener and I will never forget the time that I was so frustrated and we were out in the vegetable garden and she let me take my frustration out on a row of peppers (I think it was peppers). Looking back on that, it brings a tear to my eyes. I’m a mom now and if my son were to go through what I did, I would certainly let him rip up anything in my garden if it helped him to feel better. I’m thankful to have had so much support from my mom like that. I lost her to cancer last year. The year before that, I lost my husband to COVID/pneumonia. If it weren’t for God helping me through everything, I don’t know how I would’ve done it. I am still very thankful for the blessings in my life. The people I’ve had in my life were all beautiful in their own ways. I know that God has a plan in mind for my son and I wouldn’t still be here if He didn’t also have a plan for me too.
My brother had a stroke in 2016. His entire right side is paralyzed. He has checked out. He tells people he can't do anything because he's a cripple. I explain to him all the things he can do. Then I refer him to your channel and show him all you can do . Thank you for all your inspiration.
That's so tough. Everyone has their own trauma journey. I hope your brother finds what he needs, and good on you for being a source of encouragement in his world 💪
I had a stroke in 2020, same as your brother I'm right side paralyzed, the first two and a half years I was very depressed and I had the same thoughts of being a useless cripple, then I got covid and the (second) near death experience was a wake up call for me, I realized I still wanted to live my life and make the most of it with this extra time, now I've made peace with my new body and I always try to find ways to adapt, I'm still a cripple but I'm not useless lol.
Cole videos really helped me in my depression phase, and now they motivate me to be better and do more. I hope your brother can break free from that dark place, I understand how is like being there, what little advice I can offer is help your brother to find something they love and realistically can still do, then work on independence toward that. In my case I was a big gamer before my stroke, I thought I would never game again and that fueled my depression making me not want to even try, a vicious cycle, after a lot of failures now I can play any game I want using adaptive equipment and that really improved my mental state, so tell your brother he is not alone in his journey, there are people who understand and there is still a life ahead of us, I know is not an easy message to get through in his mental state, ultimately the change has to come from within him, and I hope he can find his inner strength to do it.
I love listening to you guys. My husband is a C4 C5 it has been 16 years. We were married 25 years when it happened. A tire flew of a transport and landed on his vehicle. We have been through so much together but we are thankful for each other and our boys and now grandchildren. Every day is a precious gift.
A precious gift, indeed. And it sounds like you have a beautiful family! 🥰
God Bless both of you. Such a tragedy hope that transport company helped you financially as it's just right for them to do this✝️✝️✝️
I love how honest Cole is about his situation.
Cole, your observation that 'everything afterwards is icing (on the cake)' really struck a cord with me. Thanks for that. I walked into a hospital in January 2023 to have surgery to remove a cancerous mass in my tongue and in the process lost most of it. Then radiation therapy, which does as much harm as good for head and neck cases like mine. I am damn lucky to have recovered as much ability as I have now to talk understandably, and maintain my weight without a peg (feeding tube), even with dealing with a cancer reoccurance in a lymph node earlier this year, but I still struggle some days with 57 years of memories of pre-cancer 'me'. Your astute observation is another arrow in my quiver to shoot down my regret and combat the loss I feel some days. So, you and Charisma help across many threads of people's trauma journeys, and I am very grateful I ran across your channel, and your story, when I did, about a year ago. ❤ Thanks, you two!❤
It's amazing to watch how Charisma looks deep into your eyes when you are expressing yourself. She definitely is present and not just hearing you but actually listening to you. Both of you are such an inspiration to the world. We love you, dearly. Greetings from OKC!!!
Charisma is so gorgeous
facts -cole
Your life was spared for a reason, Cole, and we are all thankful to God that it was. Continue to live life to the fullest with your beautiful wife 😊.
Do we say "Happy Injurerversary"? I'm so happy it brought you to this life with Charisma & you sharing it with us as the outcome of a devastating injury. I can't imagine how many people's lives you've touched by showing how positive life can be even disAbled. It helps me spending time with you two.
Absolutely! hahah thank you for your kindness and for choosing to spend time with us 🤗
Charisma is totally amazing ! Smart , beautiful,strong and supportive. Cole continue to count your blessings. All the best to you on 13 years.
i had to stop counting at infinity + 1
It’s okay to mourn the Cole that could have been, but use this day to celebrate all you have accomplished. You are an inspiration to so many. The world is a better place because of you!
12:43 Everyone who has had a life changing injury goes through a period where they're like wow, I can't remember what life was like before... I can relate, though my injuries are nowhere near the level of Cole's. It changes the whole way you think about everything that you do. Thanks for sharing this video
I understand and think this is very relatable. My second chapter was initiated by huge fibroid tumors which resulted in a hysterectomy. I thought I would be a doting mother and family person. I handle it by not looking back, only forward. It helps me stay in a state of gratitude. Plus, the more we learn about others the more I realize life isn’t fair for most of us. Love you guys ❤
This one is really special… I could feel when Cole was about to cry there for a few minutes and I wanted to cry also. His strength and courage to keep sharing is so admirable bc he’ll never know how many he helps by doing so. Charisma is so supportive and eloquent and such a pure, kind soul. I just love you both- so much. ❤ Thank you for sharing
Remember to pray, God still perform miracles🎉
Continue to appreciate your openness and courage. Both of you are an inspiration for everyone.
Cole, it’s great to see you thriving. I hope there are other people that can watch this in the beginning of their injury and realize it will be okay. It’s not being disabled it’s being differently abled.
Hey y’all! I’m a 28 year old C5 quadriplegic and I just celebrated my 10 year injurversary on July 26th! I recently messaged Cole on Instagram but my message got cut off by character limitations so I didn’t get to finish it. You two have been a great inspiration to me and I would love to get in contact and maybe jam some Rocket League sometime! I’ve been playing basically since it released. I’m not the best, but I’m not too shabby!
Hope that’s not a weird thing to ask, I’m just very grateful to have found your content and figured I’d reach out however I can!
You both are so cute. We are all where we are meant to be. We all have been given an assignment in life. At least that's what I believe. I agree so much with how what you share can help others in the same or similar situation. With the way the world is now, it's nice to be a part of a supportive community.
Love that! Gotta find your purpose in life, or let your purpose find you. Thank you for all your kindness 💙
Congratulations Cole on your D-day! Thank God and friend that saved you. Thank God for your parents and community. Most of all, thank God for your wonderful, gorgeous and extraordinary WIFE, Charisma, without whom you won't be doing wonderful things. I started with you and I can see how far you guys have gone and I'm so impressed and freaking proud of y'all like you're my younger siblings. We look forward to year 14 and I pray y'all have over and above your expectations. Can't wait for the road trip.
Aw that was so sweet! Thank you so much 💙 Big sister ☺️
Thanks Guys for Always Brightening My Day!!!
Charisma I love your hair style. You look lovely and I love how natural your makeup is applied. Cole so happy you are with us. I appreciate that you share so much of yourself. You both definitely make a difference and have a positive impact on the world. 🥰
I love this couple. They are not just inspiring, but they also share their real-life story, making a meaningful difference in people’s lives.
You are generous to be so open with what you have gone through the last 13 years and to be so honest. You have given so much by sharing not just this anniversary but the whole process of loving and growing as an interabled, inter-racial couple. Both of you are remarkable human beings.
Cole, we're all so supportive of you. I've personally enjoyed watching you both explore life and grow together, so please keep sharing your lives with us. You're making a difference in the world, especially for similarly injured people and the people who love them. Sending love and blessings.
@MysTarey. You said exactly what I was thinking. I’m 63 and I am realizing with age my body no longer can do what it used to, which is sad to me. I’m not trying to compare my body to Cole’s disability or experience (or anyone’s) at all! Just saying there is a slight mourning process to getting older, losing abilities, and knowing that the majority of your life is now over. I don’t want to sound overly maudlin either! I am in decent health, and much more fit and active than a lot of women my age. And Cole and Charisma you two are some of the best communicators I have ever seen. At your age to be so open and honest is amazing! Love your content. Thank you!! ❤🙏🏼
So glad you made it. You are such a blessing to others. God bless you Cole.
It also opened you up to a different demographic of people, you probably would have never known. Happy injury anniversary Cole and the beautiful Charisma.
Lots of love to you guys, may you continue to grow from strength to strength. Its great that you are helping other disabled people by documenting your journey.
Charisma is also a gem to share it with you. Just wanted to mention how important this is for the both of you! ❤
Couldn’t agree more! Such a huge part of every moment of everything 24/7/365 ❤
Beautiful 🩵
❤ Cole I was diagnosed with Type I diabetes at 12 years old I’m 69 now, 57 years with this disease. It’s a hidden chronic illness that’s way harder than most people know. I don’t remember not being diabetic. I understand your emotions about your injury. I let myself have my feelings but then go on and live my life. I’m glad you and Charisma have each other. Keep on keeping on. 😊
My diving accident was May 27, 1986 that's 38 years for those who are doing the math...lol I look back and yes it seems like forever ago, but in reality time has flown by and life has been good. I often say how the accident saved my life, I was a little on the wild side at 19 and everyone remembers the days of being "10 foot tall and bulletproof". By diving into that pool that day and becoming paralyzed slowed me down, well life came to a complete stop and it started over again in a new light. I really appreciate you both for showing others that just because of the accident, life goes on just a little different.
So happy that you both are doing well. My son also had a C5-C6 injury and having a "Charisma " in his life would have made such a difference. ❤
Cole, THANK YOU for being so transparent and so real about your injury and the new life that you have with Charisma- and the tremendous inspiration you are to so many people…
I’m so grateful that we get to be a small part of your life now…. CHEERS 🥂
Happy Injurversary!!! I've been following you guys for a few years now and I'm so glad to see how far you've come in these last years. I get it. You two are amazing!!!
Hey Ryan! Thanks so much for the support over the years. It means a lot! 🎉
you guys are just amazing.Apparently its also my husband',s 13th anniversary since he injured his spinal cord on 31 July 2011. Its always encouraging watching you guys .
I was involved in an incident that has left me paralyzed for almost 4 yrs now, and I always think of what could have happened, like me not being here. I am so grateful that I can make more memories, and it does become hard at times to think about certain things. I used to bike everywhere, and I really miss it, but that is a part of my old life. I always love your guys attitude and approach to life, maybe one day I will meet my "Charisma".
That was so revealing and emotional. I admire Cole's ability to reflect and share the good, bad and ugly. I could see in his visage that he was internally reviewing his history. His face showed his emotion and his eyes generally avoided the camera. You are so loved by so many and we appreciate your willingness to share. ❤
Not gonna lie, this video got me a bit emotional, especially when I heard Cole say how lucky he is and how grateful he is for all he has.
You guys make the world a better place. Thanks for all the work you do!
Charisma, Cole it is a blessing just to hear you guys talk about how God saved Cole life and brought ya'll together as husband and wife. May God continues to bless ya'll and Cole you are a blessing for so many people touching life of many and you will never know how much. God bless ❤
PTL! You were saved and have found purpose in living. You are a great source of inspiration! I have learnt so much about disabilities and spinal cord injuries from your channel. I have learnt how to see disable people as normal people. I am very happy that Cole survived. I look forward to continue to invite you into my home via your channel. May God continue to use you as a shining light for others to see love is an excellent way to crush boundaries.❤❤
Love you two, this grandma is proud of all you both have accomplished.
I love these videos where he talks about his injury and how he is adjusting. I know for me how much we take for granted in just getting around. Sometimes I feel he is embarrassed about getting emotional. This is something that able bodied people can’t even begin to understand.
Hello you two, I’ve been following you guys for about 3 years now, and Cole I must say you are doing really good for a quadriplegic. I’m a nurse and I’ve taken care of quadriplegics that were paralyzed from the neck down, unable to move any part of their body, they could only blink their eyes. I always pray for your improvement, you have an awesome wife and the two of you together with God guidance, you’re gonna be just fine, much love ❤️
Cole at 32 I got diagnosed with a severe form of arthritis. I am now 64 and my life has been very different and in many ways maybe better because I had to slow down to enjoy life and living. I couldn’t walk, sleep, comb my hair or play volleyball ball again or run on the beach, but I learned to do other things that give my life value. I still have difficulty discussing losing my hearing & other body functions even with my great husband, but it takes time and it doesn’t always, usually doesn’t get easier. Believe me despite your injury you will face many more life changes and you will do just fine. Oh I am from Virginia Beach!
I love that you did this video because I can relate. Sometimes I feel so alone in how I feel but hearing you talk about what you go through really helps. You are amazing. I was involved in a motorcycle vs. semi accident in 2021 where I lost my husband and I suffered a TBI, stroke, aneurysm, and multiple fractured bones, including degloving of part of my body. Its been almost 3 years and its still hard to cope, but watching your videos helps me with a lot. With all that said you and Charisma are amazing
Oh my goodness that is so traumatic. I am so sorry that happened to you. Wishing you healing and much comfort and support!
Thank you so much
So deserved, Cole! You're a decent young man with such promises. I even thought of you both today on vacation in a real wealthy area on lake Michigan and i smiled so wide when i saw a wheelchair accessible beach ramp on the sand that went all the way down to the water. It was so cool. Stay awesome, Cole!!! 😊
I love your TH-cam channel! It’s very authentic and refreshing ❤️❤️🇯🇲
Thank you! We appreciate you watching 🤗
Hi from St. Louis! My situation isn’t close to yours, but so much has changed for me since my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment that I’m starting to forget what life was like before the treatment-induced side effects (which I thought would be temporary, but six years out now (August 2018) they’re now permanent.
I’m still struggling to adapt to my new body image (giant scar) and the GERD (caused by radiation) and the bilateral shoulder damage (exacerbated by radiation). You give me inspiration to keep trying to adapt.
Andrea Peace Love And Blessings To You From A Breast Cancer Survivor Healing In Jesus Name 🙏💐
Cole, watching this made me sad because I saw the sadness in your face. 🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing your guys journey. I may not be disabled, but I am over 2 years into my foot rehab journey. In April of 2022 I learned the hard way when taking on a new firefighting job that I had SUPER stiff, tense, weak feet, which in a sense has practically left me feeling as if I'm disabled.I haven't been able to work a job since, which is over 2 years now, as I can barely stand or walk. It's been a process but I am making progress, getting stronger, and getting to the other side thanks be to God 🙏
Hello, Cole. I felt that this video was very emotional, and first of all, I wanted to thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. I believe everyone in this community appreciates it and understands how difficult it can be, so you are very brave. I just want you to know that there's someone from Lima, Peru-yes, very far away-watching you and being inspired by your words. So no, you're not dreaming. You're inspiring. Seeing and hearing you makes me a better person. More patient. It allows me to be even better with myself and with others. So, allow yourself to feel your emotions, but don't forget about the beautiful impact you're making because we all know it's not easy.
God bless you as you grow into who you are...and for all the people's lives you have touched just by being Cole and Charisma!!! ❤❤❤
I sweep it under the rug and then fight depression, and sometimes, most times lose the battle. I've never been to therapy, and I want to die sometimes. I'm happy you share, it has helped me try to be more independent..
Cole, your take on life has always been so motivating and inspiring. I'm proud you've come through so much growth. I use your story as examples I tell my kids or friends. Your story will be shared and spread. Thank you for sharing your life and journey with us.
Thank you for sharing. You really don't know how many people your experience and positivity helps others. May God continue to bless you both in your journey.
Thank you so much. We appreciate you being here 🤗😁
GOD bless you both!! This video touched my heart because of how u both spoke about Cole's injury Anniversary with sensitivity & authenticity! Wishing you both all the best!!🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hi Guys!!
13 years ❤” Injurnniversary” New life and experiences. God had other eye opening plans for you. Look at you now!! You’ve been an inspiration too many! Keep doing what you’re doing!! Look at the blessings!!
The new bookcase looks amazing It looks really good It takes time decorating a house!
Love you two to Life🥂
Thank you, Alicia! You’re very sweet. Cheers to life! 🥂
I’m from RVA and grew up swimming in the James River, Pony Pasture area specifically. I worked as a RN in the ER @ MCV when you had your injury. It’s so wonderful seeing you living such a full & happy life with such a darling wife. Love following your story. 💙
I’m so happy that you’re alive Cole And I’m so happy of how far you’ve gone too Before I had my accident on March 7, 2015 I was going to college coaching and working too But I got into a car accident a metal pole penetrated my right side of my head I was in a coma for a while but end up waking up to a whole new different way of life that I was going to live since then i’ve been bedridden and unable to control my left side of my body it’s been really hard for me I just don’t feel like my self I was able to take care of myself but now I’m dependent on everyone. I used to have friends that I hung out with but now I don’t have them anymore since my accent found out that they’re not wanting to hang out with me anymore. I end up not having any friends now. I miss the days of playing sports and playing video games as well. Since I am bedridden, I feel bad for my fiancé for already being together for 12 years. I am still not fully better and not able to live together due to my disability. But I keep on trying to stay positive even though when people say, I should be happy that I am at least alive, but at times I feel like I’m not living life if that makes sense. to be honest, I am very jealous of you Cole I just wish I was capable of doing what you can do but, I am so happy for you as well. You have succeeded a lot in life and you continue to succeed. You and Charisma are so amazing. Can’t wait for more videos to come.
Thank you for being so honest and transparent on this topic. I know there are people being helped if they saw and heard this segment. Again, thank you and live life.
This was very emotional for Cole, actually the whole journey has been. Thank God for a great support systems in Charisma.
Cole is alive and that's a miracle and it means so much to get that acknowledgement.
I lost my mom last year and no body checks on me really especially when the day she passed. It's lonely and sad.
I watch you and I feel good and related. ❤
Thinking about you today Cole. Thank you for sharing; you've grown into a wonderful person. Love the relationship you and Charisma have--loving, always positive, but never afraid of telling it like it is.❤😊
Happy anniversary 13 years,, u guys don't know how important ure work is, u touches lot of life's and u encouraging lot of us with ure content lots of love from South Africa❤❤
I'm an LPN and took care of a young man for 24 yrs. He broke his neck by diving in a lake. He was at a friend's house party and had been drinking. A priest happened to be fishing at the time and saved . He was 20 getting ready to return to college. He was a C2 and on a ventilator, paralysis from his neck down, with a little feeling in his face. You remind me so much of him. He was caring, thoughtful, and loving. He usually always had a way to make me laugh and realize what ever problems i thought i had wasn't so bad. I think of him often. I had to retire, but we stayed in touch with each other until he died. He was not only my patient, but we became good friends. I just happened to see one of your videos and knew I wanted to follow you and your beautiful wife. Sending blessings to both of you for many years together. God knows just who to put in your life. Enjoy each other and life.
Y'all are such a beautiful couple....and I love the hair Charisma!
I really relate to many of these thoughts & emotions as someone with a sickaversary (over 13yrs now), and now disabled. Each year truly does hit differently depending on where life & my own journey is at the time. Thank you for talking about what this day means to you. And making others aware of the emotional impact anniversaries like this can have on so many, and the value in acknowledging this day for them. It’s absolutely not talked about enough.
Hi Cole. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re doing great 👍🏼
I’m a C6 quadri and this year is going to be my 26 year since my injury at 16 years old at the beach. I have no evidence of it but I also think that when I hit my head it affected my memory. The first 2 to 3 years were the most difficult but once I entered college it started to get better because of the environment and having my mind occupied. So my advice to anyone who is going to a similar situation should try if possible to do something that entertains you. It probably will not erase completely what you’re going through but at least for me it will make every day a little better.
That is nice that you think about the other people who experienced your accident with you. You are both so blessed, there is nothing at all pathetic about the two of you or your lives. You are hope for anyone who has gone through the same thing.
Charism you are such a supportive and wonderful wife. Cole you are so blessed to have a wife like her. She is so positive! And you are so strong. You are blessing others that are going through. I’m sure you are giving them hope. May God continue to BLESS your beautiful union.
Happy Lifeday Cole! 🎉🎉Thanks for bringing me on the journey with y’all. My husband is disabled so watching your content gives me hope and inspiration 😺😎
Your life has turned out so well, Cole. You have accomplished so much in the last 13 years & have impacted so many, many lives. Happy Injurversary❣
I think this is true of anyone who's had something happen that became a clear "Before and After" I got my neurodivergence diagnosis just over 10 years ago, and I say that my life came together and collapsed in the exact same second. Sometimes I say I wish I could go back; not to before I knew, but before I thought about it every second. When I had my performance review at work a couple months ago (everyone at work knows), my manager literally said "You have that, but I don't think of it when I think about you; it doesn't define you." But to me, it always has. It just changed from a list of personality quirks, to something with a name.
It's good that you have now matured and can see life through a different lense. Bravo Cole! You and Charisma make a great team.❤🦋
I see a lovely couple. Cole, you inspire me. I've had 2 hip replacements n the same hip, back surgery that came open and was sewed up without any anesthesia and a broken ankle. The depression was there. I know God is with me and will take care of it. You are an inspiration. You also have a beautiful wife that loves you. Keep on being you. Blessings to you both 🙏🏽
I'm thinking about you on this day!!! So grateful you are still here and for all that you and Chrisma do! Thank you for being transparent!! Praying for you both!! 🙏 ❤
Cole- you’re a true inspiration. I think sharing your story is twofold: it’s helping you to heal and helping those who watch you to heal as well. I’m glad you’ve gotten to a good place mentally through therapy & the solid support system of family/friends. Your comment “find things that bring you joy and process the things that may be holding you back” is quite profound. I think it can be easy to feel stuck in whatever hardships you're dealing with, but once you work past all the pain, you can come out the other side with a new (maybe even better) perspective on life. Happiness is a lot easier to obtain once we give ourselves the permission. Much love from NJ to you both. 💙
Charisma, your comment- that we don’t feel alone…. THAT is part of the comfort you give too. This is isolating even when we have our family. Keep making vids.
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Charisma you always amaze me too. I see when Cole gets emotional, you let him be in the moment without trying to intervene. I think it’s important to feel those feelings. I have been watching you guys for a long time and I feel you are so supportive when you need to be! ❤
I can’t believe I’ve been following you for so many years! I remember your injur-versary every year and think, oh…today is Cole’s day! ❤
Happy 13 years! I absolutely sobbed during the 10 year video Charisma did for you with everyone. I look forward to celebrating year 14! 🎉
I love that Cole let's himself feel his feelings. May he continue to heal!
This coming Halloween will be my 5-year anniversary of getting diagnosed with MS. I’m… not sure how I feel about it, tbh. On the one hand, I’ve learned a lot about how to deal with my symptoms, which has enabled me to live life more fully, and I’m SUPER grateful for the treatment I’ve received that has kept it from progressing more than it has. On the other hand, I ABSOLUTELY grieve the body that I had before my diagnosis and the things that I can’t do, or can’t do as well.
THANK YOU, Cole and Charisma for helping me to see how full and wonderful life can be even with a body that doesn’t always do everything I want it to. Y’all are amazing! ❤️
I've been disabled my whole life due to aa dr's error & so many times in my head I thought what "if"
This was 1 of your best & most moving videos. Happy injurversary Cole
Cole and Charmisa, I absolutely love you guys and the love you have for each other could be sold to others. God Bless both of you
I have followed you for a couple of years now. And yes, you have grown so much. It’s lovely to follow that. Your love is amazing❤️
Love you guys from South Africa ❤❤
I came across your page during the pandemic. It has been such a blessing. You both have taught me so so much, opening up my world around disabled people. It makes me so much more aware.
Thank you Cole and Charisma for sharing your story and your vulnerability.
Awesome how God turns our tragedies into triumphs! He is AMAZING and so are you two ❤
Cole and Charisma- the best is yet to come! May God continue to bless your union and commitment to each other.
My husband was born with cerebral palsy and needed surgery at two months old. He died during surgery and they revived him, discovering major heart issues. He was a regular rambunctious kid and got into a motorcycle accident that sent him through the windshield of a car in his early teens. His memory is for sure a challenge and sometimes has issues with emotional control. But he is HERE and we are grateful every day for it!